Stop Drinking and Start Living: Recent Episodes
Mary Wagstaff
Program Registration Opens April 1st, 2022! I don't teach Women how to stay sober, I teach them to eliminate their DESIRE for alcohol. If you are fed up with not being able to trust yourself around alcohol? Sick of the hangxiety killing your confidence to commit to that next level goal? Changing your relationship to alcohol isn’t just about NOT drinking, it’s a journey of rediscovering WHO YOU ARE on the other side of alcohol. No matter what kind of relationship you want with alcohol, there is always room for more awareness, this is where we start. From the daily mental friction of deciding to drink or not to drink, only to break your own heart again, to the days lost from the effects of alcohol...If you have been hearing a call from your higher self, that it’s time for a change, but you are confused on the what and how, Expert Holistic Alcohol Coach, Mary Wagstaff, is here to walk you through the threshold of the next phase of your life where alcohol becomes irrelevant. She ended a 20 year relationship with alcohol without labels, counting days or ever making excuses and is helping her clients do the same. In this podcast we will explore her revolutionary approach to getting alcohol out of your way that breaks all the rules, life enhancing tools you can implement now, so YOU can stop drinking and start LIVING the life you were made for! This show is not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. Please talk to a health professional if your alcohol consumption is a risk to your mental/physical health or others. Taking your last sip isn't' the first step, saying YES to YOU is. Find out more about the Stop Drinking & Start Living Program www.marywagstaffcoach.com
What if you’re not behind at all, but just overcomplicating what already works? This episode reframes change, sobriety, and wellness by cutting through noise and returning to a simpler truth: you already have access to what you need.
You’ll hear how devotion, not more information or effort, becomes the foundation for sustainable change—and why inaction, listening, and internal connection often move you forward faster than constant doing. The episode also clarifies how real transformation happens across stages, not through sudden breakthroughs, and why you may be further along than you think.
Walk away with a clearer understanding of how to reduce overwhelm, trust your internal guidance, and approach behavior change in a way that is sustainable, grounded, and aligned with long-term well-being.
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Sobriety is your birthright. God didn't create you to alter yourself. The only alteration required is remembering who you are, both holy human and divine.
It's the right of passage most Women never received, and in fact, alcohol has limited the privilege in our lives of being able to know God deeply.
The reasons Women drink are the same reasons we stay separate from God: fear of receiving and the need to always prove our worth.
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In today’s episode of Wild Sobriety, I’m talking about what I believe is the most overlooked—and most crucial—piece of sustainable sobriety and feminine healing: radical self-compassion.
After years in the self-development and coaching world, I’ve noticed something that quietly keeps women stuck: the belief that healing means trying harder, being better, or fixing yourself alone. In this episode, I share why that approach actually deepens shame, fuels over-functioning, and keeps alcohol—or other coping patterns—alive beneath the surface.
We explore why sobriety isn’t about more discipline or self-control, but about learning how to meet your suffering without turning on yourself. This conversation goes deep into feminine nervous system healing, cyclical wisdom, and the moment everything changes when you stop trying to override your humanity.
In this episode, you’ll hear about:
- Why self-improvement can secretly become self-punishment
- The missing link between sobriety, feminine energy, and inner peace
- How shame keeps repeating patterns—even when you “know better”
- What actually allowed me to see myself beyond the identity of drinking
- Why compassion (not willpower) builds real emotional resilience
If you’ve ever thought “I should be past this by now” or wondered why sobriety feels harder the more you try to control it—this episode will shift something important.
🎧 A short companion meditation is available as a separate episode to support this work in the body.
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The start of a new year often comes with reflection, intention-setting, and pressure to get everything “right.” For many women, that pressure quietly shows up as overwhelm — and eventually as the urge to drink, numb, or escape. In this video, I explore how the way we approach priorities, especially at the beginning of a new year, can actually fuel stress drinking rather than support real change.
This isn’t a conversation about resolutions, discipline, or fixing yourself. It’s about clarity. When everything in your life becomes a priority — your health, your family, your work, your spirituality, your relationships — your nervous system never gets to rest. I share why choosing one true priority for this season can create calm, alignment, and a more sustainable path into sobriety and emotional freedom.
We close with a short, grounding meditation designed to help you slow down, soften your body, and reconnect with what you truly desire for this year. This practice is an invitation into peace and inner listening — so your choices around alcohol, energy, and attention can come from devotion rather than pressure.
If you’re entering the new year feeling tired of doing more and ready to live with more intention, this episode is here to support you.
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On today’s episode, I’m talking about the one thing that’s usually missing from Dry January—and why that’s exactly why so many alcohol breaks don’t last.
If you’re participating in Dry January (or are already sober), congratulations. But if you’ve ever noticed that you just replace alcohol with mocktails, workouts, scrolling, or another “healthy” distraction—and still feel restless, disconnected, or off—this episode is for you.
What most people call “willpower” is actually a longing to go inward.
In this conversation, I share why a fast without devotion is just another project to manage, and how true change happens when you stop checking out and start tuning in. I talk about prayer—not as religion—but as presence. As listening. As learning to ask: What is the most loving choice right now?
I also share what I’ve seen again and again with my private clients: when women add spiritual connection, self-honesty, and present-moment awareness to sobriety, alcohol naturally loses its grip. Sobriety stops feeling forced—and starts feeling like home.
If you’re tired of starting over every January…
If you don’t want to be in the same place this time next year…
If you know there’s more depth, peace, and truth available to you…
This episode will change how you think about Dry January—and what comes next.
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Questions? Please leave a comment below with any questions you have, and I'll create a video just for you!
Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.
The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.
👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.
Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!
A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.
Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
In this episode I sit down with Essence Turner, Self Love Coach, to talk about self-worth, healing, and finding your true purpose.
We dive into her personal journey from the underground of exotic dancing, drinking and instability to radical forgiveness, healing and serving others. Essences shares a relatable story of finding her way into her feminine expression, practical tips for self-love, and how to break through limiting beliefs.
If you’re ready to feel empowered and inspired, you won’t want to miss this conversation!
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Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.
The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.
👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.
Get the free mini-course: The Permission Protocol
A foundational experience designed to help your alcohol-free time become more than just time off. You’ll learn how to end the mental tug-of-war and return to peace, presence, and pleasure. Sobriety stops feeling like discipline and starts feeling like trust — trust in yourself, your body, and your inner knowing.
Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!
A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.
Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
What if nothing is actually going wrong?
In this episode, I’m unpacking a truth that has completely changed how I move through sobriety, business, money stress, emotions, and even embarrassment: the work is always working — either for you or on you.
We talk about getting out of your head, breaking the mental loops, and learning how to trust the process even when it doesn’t feel good yet. I share how sobriety taught me clear seeing — not just the absence of alcohol, but the ability to be with emotions instead of escaping them. Anxiety, embarrassment, boredom, fear, money stress… all of it.
We also dive into:
- Why alcohol (and other substances) create synthetic joy — and how feminine sobriety gives you the real thing
- Letting go of control, approval-seeking, and codependent patterns
- The power of saying “so what?” to emotions instead of making them a problem
- How embarrassment, discomfort, and emotional waves are actually building confidence and self-trust
- Moving from hustling and hunting to gathering, receiving, and trusting opportunity
- Why sobriety makes entrepreneurship, relationships, and self-expression easier — not harder
If you’re navigating sobriety, questioning your relationship with alcohol (or weed), craving more self-trust, or learning how to stay present with your emotions instead of numbing them — this episode is for you.
Nothing has gone wrong. You’re not behind.
The work is working.
Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.
The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.
👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.
Get the free mini-course: The Permission Protocol
A foundational experience designed to help your alcohol-free time become more than just time off. You’ll learn how to end the mental tug-of-war and return to peace, presence, and pleasure. Sobriety stops feeling like discipline and starts feeling like trust — trust in yourself, your body, and your inner knowing.
Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!
A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.
Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
Hey friends, today’s episode is extra special—I’m sitting down with Nicole, a former client and now a true inspiration, as she celebrates an incredible milestone: 1,000 days alcohol-free!
We get real about the ups and downs of her sobriety journey, the grit it took to keep going, and how life has changed in ways she never expected. Nicole opens up about the challenges, the small (and big) wins, and what it really means to make alcohol irrelevant in your life. I
f you’ve ever struggled with drinking, felt overwhelmed by life’s demands, or wondered if lasting change is possible, this conversation is for you. I’m so grateful Nicole was willing to share her story so honestly—I know you’ll walk away feeling encouraged and less alone. Let’s dive in!
Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.
The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.
👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.
Get the free mini-course: The Permission Protocol
A foundational experience designed to help your alcohol-free time become more than just time off. You’ll learn how to end the mental tug-of-war and return to peace, presence, and pleasure. Sobriety stops feeling like discipline and starts feeling like trust — trust in yourself, your body, and your inner knowing.
Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!
A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.
Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
Sobriety and feminine living meet the magic of the winter solstice in this episode. I’m diving into what the solstice really means for those of us longing to live through the lens of love, and how this dark, quiet time of year in the northern hemisphere is actually the perfect invitation to slow down, reflect, and reconnect with ourselves.
I’ll share how I use the solstice as a portal for deep inner exploration—tapping into the cycles of nature, the phases of the moon, and the wisdom of my own body. We’ll talk about why I stopped using alcohol as a shortcut to relaxation and creativity, and how embracing my feminine rhythms has brought more freedom and clarity than any drink ever could.
If you’re curious about living in sync with the seasons, finding your own rituals for rest and renewal, or just want to feel a little less alone as the days get shorter, this episode is for you. Let’s honor the solstice together and see what’s waiting to be birthed in the dark.
Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.
The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.
👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.
Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!
A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.
Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
We unpack the fifth blind spot that keeps women stuck with alcohol: the belief that seeking support means something is wrong, rather than a powerful up level. We show how to replace isolation and shame with evaluation, evidence, and celebration so alcohol becomes irrelevant.
• reframing sobriety
• moving from isolation
• replacing alcohol-as-reward
• strategy's that work to track your progress
• sharing from neutrality to dissolve stigma and build connection
• future-focused identity work to reclaim lost parts
• practical rituals for emotional regulation and calm
• community, support, and sustainable next steps
Learn how to say no to alcohol, deprivation free from your wild feminine.
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Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.
The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.
👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.
Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!
A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.
Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
I used to think if I just read one more book or listened to one more podcast, I’d finally “get it.” But all that information kept me busy instead of free. In this episode, I talk about the hidden blind spot of overconsumption—why filling your brain with recovery content isn’t the same as changing your relationship with alcohol.
I share how twenty years of drinking alongside a wellness practice taught me that awareness isn’t enough. Insight doesn’t rewire your brain—action does. I walk you through how beliefs create emotions, how rituals keep habits alive, and how to witness cravings in real time so the old story starts to lose its shine.
When we stop outsourcing our healing to the next expert or episode and start practicing curiosity in our own bodies, real freedom begins.
✨ Takeaways:
- Why “passive action” feels productive but keeps you looping
- How to plan ahead and act from compassion, not pressure
- What to do when the drinker identity starts to loosen
- Why support accelerates growth by exposing blind spots
- How to turn every slip into feedback through plan-implement-evaluate
- Learn how to say no to alcohol, deprivation free from your wild feminine self.
Get The Permission Protocol Free Mini Training-A 5 Part Journey That Changes Everything You Thought Was Possible About Quitting Drinking
Imagine having weekly breakthroughs — and celebrating them without alcohol.
The 90-Day Life Renewal Challenge is an invitation into your year of clarity, self-trust, and embodied change. This is about knowing you can handle life without numbing, avoiding, or hiding. You can be sacred and do it anyway.
👉 Schedule your Clarity Call for your first breakthrough — and trust that it’s only the beginning.
Join The 90 Day Life Renewal!
A Private Holistic Coaching Program to gracefully help you move through the resistance of change, stay accountable and honor the version of you that is done waiting. What if this year, you didn’t just set a goal…but created a living plan that actually fits your energy, your values, and your season of life? Apply & schedule your clarity call with Mary here.
Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
If you’ve been trying to quit drinking or step more fully into sobriety, this episode will change how you see your journey. I’m breaking down the three phases every woman goes through on the path to alcohol freedom: performance, resilience, and true transformation. Whether you’re sober-curious, trying to stop drinking, or rebuilding after a relapse, this conversation will help you understand exactly where you are and what you need next.
In this episode, I talk about the performance phase—where you’re reading the books, listening to the podcasts, getting that dopamine rush from new insights, but not actually seeing the change stick. Then I dive into the resilience phase, the part no one celebrates: the trying, slipping, getting back up, becoming almost numb to disappointment but still believing something better is possible. Finally, I break down what real transformation actually looks like: embodied change, intentional choice, and the moment where quitting alcohol becomes less about willpower and more about identity.
Takeaways:
– Why surface-level understanding gives you a dopamine hit but not real change
– How failure tolerance and resilience are actually signs you believe in alcohol freedom
– The difference between trying to quit drinking and transforming your relationship with alcohol
– What your attempts, slips, and restarts say about your readiness for growth
– How to shift from surviving to fully transforming your life and your self-concept
If you’re ready to move from “I know what to do” to “I’m finally living it,” this episode will show you the next step.
2026 is the year you stop making rules to break, and finally get to work. Join me in 90 Days To Alcohol-Free Freedom In 2026 - Get a once in a life time bonus when you sign up before 2026 Click HERE to Book Your Clarity Call Today!
Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
You can quit drinking and still feel like you’re battling yourself all day. In this episode, I talk about the blind spot most women miss — the power of self-talk — and how the words we use can either fuel cravings or dissolve them in seconds.
I share how I learned to stop fighting my mind and start speaking to myself with compassion instead. When stress stacks up, judgment adds pressure until the body wants relief. But the antidote isn’t more control — it’s safety. I walk through how to use calming thoughts and small, honest choices to rebuild self-trust and make peace with the part of you that just wants comfort.
✨ Takeaways:
• How self-talk fuels or frees your cravings
• Simple reframes that calm your nervous system fast
• Why compassion is more effective than control
• The truth about rebuilding self-trust, one choice at a time
• What happens when you stop forcing change and let growth unfold
Learn how to say no to alcohol, deprivation free.
2026 is the year you stop making rules to break, and finally get to work. Join me in 90 Days To Alcohol-Free Freedom In 2026 - Get a once in a life time bonus when you sign up before 2026 Click HERE to Book Your Clarity Call Today!
Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
In this episode, I get real about what failure tolerance looks like for women who keep trying to quit drinking or make big changes in their lives.
I share how repeated attempts—even when they feel disappointing—are actually proof of your resilience and belief that something bigger is possible.
You’ll hear why getting numb to failure is normal, how to recognize the lessons hidden in your attempts, and why resilience alone isn’t enough—transformation requires intentional action.
By the end, you’ll walk away with a fresh perspective on your past attempts and a clear path toward the change you really want.
2026 is the year you stop making rules to break, and finally get to work. Join me in 90 Days To Alcohol-Free Freedom In 2026 - Get a once in a life time bonus when you sign up before 2026 Click HERE to Book Your Clarity Call Today!
Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
The hardest part isn’t pouring the last drink — it’s learning how to live well without needing one. In this episode, I share why “just quit” often fails and how a commitment-first approach makes sobriety simpler, softer, and actually sustainable.
Instead of fighting cravings, I walk you through how to uncover what alcohol has really been doing for you — comfort, transition, connection — and how to meet those needs in ways that honor your values and your body. This is where the feminine path to freedom begins: rooted in embodiment, curiosity, and compassion rather than self-judgment.
We also talk about the difference between attachment and desire, how your stories around alcohol amplify craving, and how to build evidence of your strength with small daily actions. This isn’t about perfection; it’s about devotion — to the woman you’re becoming.
✨ Takeaways:
- Why “just quit” creates resistance instead of relief
- How to uncover the real need underneath each craving
- Simple rituals that help you transition, soothe, and reconnect
- What commitment looks like in a feminine, sustainable way
- How to shift from self-control to self-trust
- Learn how to say no to alcohol, deprivation free.
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Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
This bonus episode is a truth-telling moment — the conversation I wish someone had given me during the 20 years I wanted to quit drinking but didn’t know where to turn. If you’ve been stuck between two awful options — white-knuckle sobriety forever or resigning yourself to drinking because nothing else feels right — this is your sign that a third option exists.
I share the real mindset shifts I learned outside of AA, how I finally made alcohol irrelevant, and why most women stay stuck bargaining for years. We talk about the gap you avoid, the mental noise you've normalized, and why “just not drinking” never creates the freedom you want. This is the foundation of the Permission Protocol — the feminine, embodied path to shifting your relationship with alcohol on your own terms.
In this episode, I walk you through:
• the real reason quitting feels impossible (hint: you’re only trying to not drink)
• the third option between AA and white-knuckling
• how alcohol becomes the center of change — and how to shift the focus back to you
• why you keep bargaining, moderating, and negotiating with yourself
• the truth about the “gap” (and why being alone with yourself feels hard)
• how alcohol dulls your authentic expression + steals your presence
• the mindset I used to make alcohol irrelevant after 20 years
• why the Permission Protocol works when “trying harder” doesn’t
If this resonates, download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
2026 is the year you stop making rules to break, and finally get to work. Join me in 90 Days To Alcohol-Free Freedom In 2026 - Get a once in a life time bonus when you sign up before 2026 Click HERE to Book Your Clarity Call Today!
Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
What if quitting drinking isn’t actually the real problem?
In this episode of Wild Sobriety, I share how I stopped making alcohol the center of my life — and started focusing on what actually mattered: learning to handle real life without needing to escape it.
I talk about how changing my relationship with alcohol wasn’t about giving something up, but about raising the quality of my problems — from “how do I stop drinking?” to “how do I create a life that doesn’t need alcohol at all?”
It’s not about perfection. It’s about presence, power, and emotional maturity — the kind that makes you proud of who you’re becoming.
✨ Takeaways:
• The real reason trying to “quit drinking” keeps you stuck
• What I focus on now instead of “not drinking”
• How I learned to see alcohol as a symptom, not the source
• The truth about emotional avoidance and self-abandonment
• The simple question I ask myself that always brings me back to peace
Learn how to say no to alcohol, deprivation free with your wild feminine self.
2026 is the year you stop making rules to break, and finally get to work. Join me in 90 Days To Alcohol-Free Freedom In 2026 - Get a once in a life time bonus when you sign up before 2026 Click HERE to Book Your Clarity Call Today!
Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
If you’re waiting for sobriety to be easy, you’ll be waiting forever.
I say that not to discourage you — but because the moment you stop chasing the quick fix is the moment real freedom begins. There’s always a cost: either the short-term comfort that keeps you small, or the long-term peace that expands every part of your life.
In this episode, I’m breaking down the three brutal — but liberating — truths that changed everything for me and every woman I’ve coached
If you’ve ever thought:
- “I just wish this were easier.”
- “My partner still drinks — how can I do this alone?”
- “I’ve tried everything, what if I fail again?”
Then this episode is for you. I’ll show you why the “other side” of drinking isn’t unknown — it’s the most familiar place you’ve simply forgotten how to access.
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This is Part 1 of a 5 part series: The 5 Blindspots Secretly Sabotaging Your Sobriety. I share the three key reasons why distraction and replacement don’t lead to lasting change. Discover how to confront your beliefs, meet your real needs, and break free from the exhaustion of avoidance. Join me for a feminine-based approach to sustainable sobriety and start living your wildest, alcohol-free life!
• why avoidance keeps you attached to alcohol
• the belief ladder and confirmation bias
• planning mindset and body state for events
• case study of a date night that disproves a story
• the relaxation myth vs real nervous system shifts
• exhaustion from controlling environments
• replacing rumination with evaluation and skills
• focusing on thoughts, emotions, and actions you control
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If you're a woman over wondering "Am I an alcoholic?" - you're not alone. This is the question that keeps so many of us stuck in shame, confusion, and endless Google searches at 2am.
In this video, I'm sharing the truth about labels, the spectrum of alcohol use, and why the question itself might be keeping you from the freedom you're seeking.
🌹 IN TODAY'S VIDEO:
• Why the label "alcoholic" doesn't serve women
• The real question you should be asking instead
• How to know if alcohol is enhancing or diminishing your life
• The grey area drinking spectrum (and where you might be)
• Your next steps toward clarity without shame or rock bottom
This isn't about diagnosis or labels. It's about giving yourself permission to explore your relationship with alcohol - wherever you are on the journey.
You don't need to hit rock bottom to decide alcohol isn't working for you anymore. You can choose sobriety as personal evolution, not punishment.
Download The Permission Protocol — my free 5-part mini-course — and start practicing the skills that make alcohol irrelevant on your terms.
DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
Hey beautiful Warriors of Love, it’s Mary — and this week’s episode goes deep into something so many of us experience but rarely name out loud.
Have you ever noticed that even when you’re usually grounded, there are certain relationships or moments that throw you off balance — where you start overthinking, over-explaining, or trying to control what you can’t?
That’s what we’re talking about today.
I’m opening up about a recent personal experience that cracked my heart open in new ways — and how even through uncertainty, alcohol never once crossed my mind. I share how my sobriety and the Five Shifts I teach gave me the tools to meet that moment with softness, not shame.
You’ll hear how anxious attachment and drinking can feed off each other… and why the real path to peace isn’t about “fixing” anyone else, but coming back to your values, your boundaries, and your truth.
This episode is about resilience, emotional maturity, and learning to be with yourself — even when everything feels uncertain.
Takeaways:
- The surprising link between anxious attachment and drinking
- How over-explaining keeps you disconnected from your power
- Why saying “no” can be the most loving thing you do
- What it means to find safety in silence instead of distraction
- How to start trusting yourself again — no matter what’s happening around you
💬 I’d love to know what resonates most for you — leave a comment or message me on YouTube so we can keep this conversation going.
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👉 Wild Sobriety — Feminine Freedom Beyond Alcohol
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To all my Warriors of Love — this is for you.
After a break for integration and creation, I’m back with a brand-new title, a new direction, and a new way for us to connect. Wild Sobriety is expanding to YouTube — not as a performance, but as a deeper conversation. In this episode, I share why I made the shift, what “wild sobriety” truly means, and how I’m integrating everything I’ve learned through my own healing, partnership, and growth.
This is a love letter to everyone who’s been on the journey with me — those who’ve listened, drifted, returned, and kept the flame of curiosity alive.
In this episode:
- Why I’m taking Wild Sobriety to YouTube for real-time connection and community
- What “wild sobriety” means beyond not drinking — clear seeing, emotional maturity, and radical responsibility
- How silence became my greatest teacher during a season of uncertainty and healing
- The truth about transformation, patience, and trusting divine timing
- A personal update about love, addiction, and choosing dignity over over-explaining
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What happens when your sobriety collides with a loved one’s addiction? In this episode, I talk with addiction specialist Amber Hollingsworth about how to support someone struggling without enabling, the truth about boundaries, and how to protect your own wellbeing in the process.
What happens when I’m navigating my own sobriety while someone I love is still caught in addiction’s grip?
In this episode, I sit down with addiction specialist Amber Hollingsworth, founder of Put the Shovel Down, to talk about what it really looks like to support a loved one through addiction without losing yourself in the process.
Amber shares why the belief that “you can’t help until they want it” keeps families stuck, the powerful difference between boundaries and rules, and how anger and control can actually fuel addiction. With 20+ years of experience, she brings a compassionate, strength-based approach that focuses on what is working instead of only on the problems.
I also open up about my own experience discovering a partner’s hidden addiction—the betrayal, confusion, and self-doubt it created—and Amber breaks down the psychology behind denial and delusion so you can finally understand what’s really happening in your loved one’s mind.
✨ You’ll hear:
- How to support loved ones without enabling
- Why boundaries protect you (and why they’re not rules)
- The sneaky ways anger and control can actually backfire
- Why women in over-functioning roles often turn to substances as an escape valve
- How reclaiming your feminine energy shifts the entire dynamic
If you’ve ever felt responsible for carrying the weight of someone else’s addiction, this conversation will give you the clarity and tools to protect your own wellbeing.
✨ Don’t miss the free resource in the show notes: 60 Seconds to Calm — the same quick practice I use to ground myself in moments of overwhelm.
About Amber Hollingsworth
Amber Hollingsworth is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Master Addiction Counselor, and the founder of the popular YouTube channel Put the Shovel Down. With over 20 years of experience, she specializes in helping families understand addiction, create effective boundaries, and support recovery without falling into enabling patterns. Her strength-based, practical approach empowers families to stop feeling helpless and start creating meaningful change.
Connect with Amber:
- 🌐 Website: hopeforefamiliesrecoverycenter.com
- 📺 YouTube: Put the Shovel Down
- 📘 Free Resources: puttheshoveldown.com
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Calm isn’t just a mood—it’s the baseline your body must return to if you want to break free from the cycle of drinking. When you’re stuck in overwhelm—overthinking, overworking, and over-giving—your nervous system never resets. That constant stress is exactly what makes pouring a glass of wine at the end of the day feel so tempting.
Here’s the truth most sobriety methods miss: alcohol was never the problem. It was just your body’s quick fix for a frazzled nervous system. The deeper issue is self-abandonment—constantly outsourcing your energy, trying to hold everything together with willpower, and disconnecting from your feminine wisdom. That’s what fuels the decision fatigue, the mental load, and the endless responsibilities that make you want to check out.
The feminine way flips the script. Instead of piling on more rules, tools, and self-improvement hacks, what if you simply learned to generate calm from within? A few small shifts—like softening your breath, feeling the support of your back body, and asking, “How would my Calm Queen respond here?”—create the safety your brain has been chasing in a bottle.
✨ Key Takeaways from this episode:
- Calm is your true superpower—it dissolves the urge to numb.
- Alcohol is not the root problem—it’s a nervous system coping mechanism.
- The feminine way isn’t about doing more, it’s about feeling safe enough to do less.
- Simple daily practices can rewire your body to choose calm over craving.
When you feel safe in your own skin, you don’t need a drink to take the edge off—you have a the CALM codes with in you.
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Ever wonder why quitting alcohol feels like a full-on identity shift? It’s because sobriety isn’t just about abstaining—it’s about reclaiming the parts of you that got buried under performance, people-pleasing, and perfectionism.
In this episode, we explore why alcohol is often just a placeholder for authenticity, and how perimenopause marks a powerful rite of passage—not a crisis, but a coronation.
You’ll walk away with:
- A deeper understanding of why your nervous system craves authenticity over belonging
- How midlife and sobriety unlock your next level of leadership, pleasure, and personal power
- The sneaky ways achievement can become the “new numbing”
- What it actually means to access your feminine essence—without a drink in your hand
This is your sacred invitation to come home to yourself.
✨ Your next evolution of awakened empowerment starts now.
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What if nothing’s actually “wrong”—you’re just seeing it from an outdated perspective?
In this episode, you'll learn how to interrupt spirals of stress, resentment, or drinking urges without needing to fix anyone else or wait for the perfect conditions.
We’ll explore:
- The mindset shift that instantly diffuses urges to numb
- Why “it’s just a thought” can be the most liberating realization
- How to take radical responsibility without bypassing your emotions
- The Sacred Pause process that rewires your nervous system from reactivity to trust
This isn’t about giving up alcohol—it’s about giving up the need to abandon yourself.
🔗 Tap the show notes to grab your free urge guide or book a consultation to learn how the Sacred Pause Method can change your relationship with alcohol—and everything else.
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Freedom from alcohol isn't found in white-knuckling or temporary breaks — it emerges when you stay engaged with the process of transformation.
In this episode, I share a powerful moment from a recent family reunion where, for the first time, everyone had shifted their relationship with alcohol. What came from that wasn't awkwardness — it was deeper connection, true presence, and genuine joy without needing a single drop.
This is what happens when we stop performing and start participating in our own change.
You’ll hear:
- Why temporary breaks often reinforce the desire to drink
- The truth about alcohol and connection (it’s not what you think)
- How the Sacred Pause Method “front-loads” your healing — and shortens the timeline
- What one client said that changed everything for her: “This finally feels real. And sustainable.”
- How lifting the veil on your habits gives you a completely new perspective — one you can’t unsee
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Ever wonder why “just have one” never actually works?
In this no-fluff episode, we unpack the deeper truth behind that tiny phrase—and why your body already knows alcohol doesn’t feel good anymore. If you're tired of the start-stop cycle and craving a way of living that actually supports your goals, your energy, and your feminine power… this one’s for you.
Sobriety isn't just about saying no to alcohol—it’s about saying yes to yourself. To living fully expressed, in your truth, and from a place of deep connection and intuition. We’re flipping the script on outdated advice and taking back our authority.
Inside, we dive into:
- Why your body’s wisdom always wins over external opinions
- How sobriety becomes the path to so much more than not drinking
- What to do when others question your choice to quit
- The sneaky ways alcohol dulls your potential
- Why not knowing what's possible is more painful than failure
- The #1 rule: don’t take advice from people who don’t have the results you want
- How feminine leadership begins by trusting yourself—fully
✨ You don’t need to justify your sobriety. You just need to embody it.
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Ever wonder who you’d be without the wine?
In this personal and powerful episode, I reflect on how creating a sacred space for women—where we gather weekly over iced tea and flowers—revealed the essence of my own transformation. What started as a dream of women’s retreats manifested in a flower farm. And what I thought would be found through achievement, I discovered through simplicity, presence, and letting go of alcohol.
Midlife sobriety is more than just quitting drinking—it's a rite of passage we were never taught to honor. And when you pair it with the hormonal shifts of perimenopause and menopause, something magical happens: you reclaim your energy, your intuition, and your power.
We explore:
- What it really means to meet your future self
- Why letting go of outcomes opens the door to unexpected joy
- How sobriety teaches you to trust your desires more than your conditioning
- Using perimenopause as a sacred portal, not a problem to fix
- Replacing perfectionism with consistency and self-compassion
- Optimizing energy (not balance) as a woman in transition
- Tapping into your intuition as your ultimate guide
✨ The woman who confidently orders iced tea instead of wine?
She’s the wise one. The whole one. The next evolution of you.
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Five minutes a day is all it takes to begin transforming your relationship with alcohol—for good.
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Have you ever caught yourself pouring a glass of wine just because you were “bored”? Let’s talk about what’s really going on underneath that go-to excuse — and why it matters so much to your feminine wellbeing.
In this episode, we get real about how our culture conditions women to fear stillness and how alcohol has become a sneaky permission slip to rest. But what if you could grant yourself that permission — no wine required?
✨ This one’s for the woman who’s ready to reclaim her energy, her creativity, and her right to just be.
We’ll explore:
- Why “boredom” is often a mask for your body’s need to rest
- How productivity culture suppresses feminine creativity
- The real shift that happens when you drink — and why it’s not what you think
- How alcohol has become a socially acceptable way to pause
- What it feels like to build the muscle of receptivity instead of numbing
- The feminine magic waiting for you on the other side of the “antsy” feeling
Your feminine energy doesn’t thrive in constant doing — it thrives in presence, in play, in permission to follow your own rhythm.
🌹 Ready to experience rest and relief without deprivation?
Download your free Urge Guide at marywagstaffcoach.com
Your creative spirit is waiting. Let’s set her free.
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Women are wired to handle a lot. It’s our superpower—but it can also be our kryptonite. The mental load we carry—anticipating needs, managing tasks, and caring for everyone around us—can easily become overwhelming, especially during perimenopause and beyond.
Takeaways:
- The mental load is both a gift and a curse for high-achieving women
- Overwhelm often peaks during perimenopause, turning our superpower into burnout
- Setting clear boundaries and dividing tasks creates clarity and peace
- Letting go of control and practicing surrender is essential for mental health
- Alcohol often becomes a coping mechanism when we feel mentally overloaded
In this episode, I break down why women, especially during life transitions, get caught in the trap of doing everything. I share a powerful exercise to help you reclaim your mental space: drawing a line between what's truly yours to hold and what's not. Plus, I’ll show you how to protect your peace by honoring your non-negotiables—like my 10pm bedtime rule—while letting go of what isn’t serving you.
Ready to reclaim your energy, mental space, and freedom without alcohol? Tune in to find out how.
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Are you wondering why alcohol doesn't work for you the way it used to?
Your body might be signaling a profound transformation – perimenopause. As a holistic alcohol coach working with women for over five years, I’ve discovered that this transitional phase requires a sacred pause from alcohol to truly understand what’s happening within.
Perimenopause literally means "the time before the pausing of the month/moon" – it’s a threshold experience inviting you into an unbothered, unapologetic era of your life.
But here's the crucial insight: you cannot navigate this transition effectively while alcohol is in your system. It creates an imbalance on top of an already fluctuating hormonal landscape, making it impossible to gather accurate data about your changing body.
Key Takeaways:
- Perimenopause is a transformational phase that alcohol can distort.
- Alcohol disrupts hormonal balance, masking the signals your body is trying to send.
- Shifting your perspective from "problem" to "possibility" helps you navigate change with ease.
- The same tools that help you quit alcohol also support you through perimenopause: awareness, body literacy, and perspective shifts.
- Taking a sacred pause from alcohol allows you to reconnect with your true self in this new phase of life.
Ready to discover what your changing body is trying to tell you?
Grab my free urge guide in the show notes to find relief without a drink—no deprivation required. Your unbothered, unapologetic era awaits.
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✨ Are you avoiding life just to avoid alcohol? In this episode, I share why that strategy will never work—and how to start optimizing the energy you’re already spending so your efforts don’t go to waste.
We talk about how to:
- Stop avoiding people and places just because alcohol might be present
- Use discernment to practice your sacred yes and no
- Shift from controlling circumstances to mastering your mindset
- Build belief brick by brick until alcohol becomes irrelevant
🔗 And if you’re ready to create predictable, sustainable results, click here to book a 1:1 consult with Mary to identify exactly where you're holding yourself back—and build the bridge to change.
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Hey beautiful listener 💋
This week’s challenge? Throw a better party. Not for your friends—for your life. We’re not talking balloons and cake (unless you want that)—we’re talking energy. Mood. Vibe. Frequency.
Whether you’re waking up hungover or just heavy with life, this episode is a big warm hug and a nudge to try one thingthat shifts you back into alignment with the woman you want to be.
Take yourself on a coffee walk. Smile at strangers. Put on some music and dance in your kitchen. Seriously—sometimes it’s that simple. You’re not solving for alcohol. You’re solving for aliveness, regulation, and the space to hold your realemotions—yes, even the exciting ones.
✨ Here’s what we get into:
- Why your hangover isn’t really about alcohol
- What “throw a better party” means and how to do it today
- The nervous system's role in holding pleasure, excitement, and desire
- A personal DJ win that made me feel like I could explode with joy (and how I did it without a drink)
💌 Tell me how you throw a better party! Did you take the coffee walk? Did you try the happy juice? Did my DJ set make you cry tears of joy?! Email me at mary@marywagstaffcoach.com or drop into my DMs on Instagram @marywagstaffcoach. I live for your shares.
Let’s make this week a vibe. You’re not just here to get through it—you’re here to feel it all.
With so much love,
Mary
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You don’t have to quit drinking to start changing your relationship with alcohol. In this episode, I share why the process might already be working in your favor—even if it doesn’t look like it yet. I talk about what’s been helping me lately: from gut health and hormone shifts to the supplement that’s actually making a difference. Plus, the one mindset shift that changes everything: asking yourself what you’re really reaching for before the drink.
Takeaways:
- Why mindset is only half the story
- How physical support (like healing your gut and regulating hormones) can reduce cravings
- The supplement that helped stabilize my moods
- How to shift from black-and-white thinking to real progress
- The question that puts you back in control—without needing to be “perfect”
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Your craving for alcohol isn’t about the drink — it’s about what you think the drink will give you. Connection. Joy. Freedom.
Over time, your brain has fused alcohol with emotional relief, narrowing your perspective. You believe drinking is the only way to get what you want — but it's actually blocking you from it.
The key is knowing the difference between desire and attachment. Desire is the emotional state you long for. Attachment is insisting alcohol is the only way to get there. That grip keeps the cycle going — even when the drink stops delivering.
Breaking free isn't about willpower. It’s about nervous system regulation, aligned values, and radical self-honesty. Next time you’re triggered, ask: What am I really seeking? Why does it matter?
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If you’ve ever thought, “Is this as good as it gets?” or “I don’t want to keep doing this,” this episode is for you.
I invite you to consider a radical new idea: What if your rock bottom doesn’t have to be dramatic, destructive, or public? What if it’s just a quiet whisper—telling you that you’re meant for more? This episode explores the hidden beliefs and subconscious fears that keep us stuck in drinking patterns, even when our lives look “fine” from the outside. We unpack why alcohol feels so hard to let go of, the societal conditioning around what it means to have a "problem," and why making this shift is more about self-honoring than self-discipline.
Whether you're waking up foggy, skipping your morning intentions, or just feel out of alignment with the woman you know you could be—this episode is your loving nudge that it’s okay to want more. You don’t need to crash to rise.
What We Cover:
- The subconscious fear of what quitting might “mean” about you
- Why the label “alcoholic” keeps many women stuck in secrecy
- How cultural narratives and inner child wounds fuel the habit
- Why “not bad enough” is the biggest trap
- The biology of change—why alcohol affects us differently as we age
- How honoring the whisper is more powerful than waiting for a crash
- Why your desire for more is enough
- Real examples of women from all walks of life outgrowing alcohol
- What happens when we show up in integrity—with energy, clarity, and courage
- The transformational power of private coaching & sacred support
🌀 Free Private Coaching Consultation – Explore your own whisper in a confidential, zero-pressure call. Book now via the link in the show notes.
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One of the most surprising and empowering truths in the alcohol-free journey:
The best time to change your relationship with alcohol is when you’re already feeling good.
If that sounds counterintuitive, you’re not alone. Most of us only commit to change when we’ve hit a low—after a fight, a blackout, a painful moment of regret. But what if that’s why it hasn’t stuck?
Inside this episode:
- Why feeling good can be the most powerful time to quit drinking
- How your brain tricks you into thinking it’s “not that bad”
- Why waiting for a rock-bottom moment often backfires
- How to leverage joy, momentum, and natural alignment for lasting change
- What it means to build a life you don’t need to escape from
- Why “just feeling better” isn’t a reason to stop doing the work
- How I use dance, connection, and embodiment as part of my own alcohol-free lifestyle
You’ll also hear about my first-ever ecstatic dance DJ gig (dreams do come true!), and the kind of weekend that reminds me why I keep choosing this path, over and over again.
If you’re ready to stop outsourcing your joy and learn how to amplify your good feelings instead of dulling them, this episode is your invitation.
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I’m sharing about what it actually takes to make a lasting shift in your relationship with alcohol—and why “feeling good” can often be the very thing that triggers a return to old habits.
We explore:
- Why you break your promises to yourself (and how to rebuild trust)
- What really needs to change to create a new self-concept
- How intention, not willpower, changes everything
- What clients say made this time different—and how it can be different for you too
- The truth about emotional alignment and identity shifts
- Why accountability and presence are essential, especially when you feel good
This is about so much more than just “not drinking.” It’s about stepping into the woman you know you are. One who leads. One who listens to herself. One who lives from her values.
Ready to finally do this differently?
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It’s been six years since I took my last sip of alcohol—and not only do I not miss it, I truly don’t want it. In this soul-deep episode, I’m reflecting on what made lasting change possible for me (spoiler: it wasn’t willpower) and sharing the feminine path that helped me create a life so rich and connected, alcohol couldn’t compete.
Whether you’re just starting or somewhere in the middle, I want to show you how to stop drinking in a way that actually feels nourishing, powerful, and aligned with who you really are. If you’re ready to do it better—not harder—this one’s for you.
Key Takeaways:
- Honor the feminine journey—rooted in rhythm, intuition, and wholeness
- You don’t need to start over—awareness is always progress
- Real change happens when you build a life that’s better than the buzz
- There is no “one way”—but the feminine way is often the missing link
Are you ready to do what alcohol promises—but better? My private coaching experience, From Burnout to Bliss Out, is open for enrollment. Let this be the summer you stop drinking and start living, fully and freely. Schedule a private consultation now.
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There is no greater honor than reconnecting with a client years after we’ve worked together and seeing her thriving—more empowered, more present, and more alive than ever before.
In this episode, I sit down with Bonnie, a mother of four, a generational cycle-breaker, and a woman who has redefined what’s possible when you choose yourself. Two years after going through my holistic alcohol coaching container, she’s not only still sober—she’s living her truth out loud.
When Bonnie found me, she was navigating a painful divorce and the deep overwhelm of motherhood. She could have easily chosen to numb, to check out, to drink. But instead, she said yes to herself. She said yes to healing. And in doing so, she didn’t just learn how to stop drinking—she learned how to live fully.
Today, she’s her own career as a holistic alcohol coach, using the very same tools she practiced in our work together.
✨ In this episode, we talk about:
- How to stay rooted through big transitions
- What it means to embody your emotions instead of escape them
- The power of breaking generational cycles
- And how sobriety can be the portal to your most empowered self
Bonnie’s story is your story. If you’re going through a major life shift, know that grounding into your power—without checking out—is the most courageous gift you can give yourself and your family.
Ready to take the first step? Join me in my private coaching container and learn how to create little shifts that make a big impact. The first step is to schedule a private consultation so I can help you navigate your biggest sticking points. Click here!
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Let’s talk about something so many high-achieving women struggle with: relaxation resistance. That underlying belief that if you relax, everything will fall apart. That if you slow down, you're lazy. That your worth is tied to your productivity.
This week, we’re unraveling the deep-seated patterns that keep you stuck in fight-or-flight mode, constantly "doing" instead of simply "being." Because the truth is:
💡 You don’t fall apart when things get hard. You rise.
💡 The real challenge is learning to soften when life is good.
💡 Your worth is NOT measured by how much you get done.
In this episode, we’ll break down:
✨ Why you resist relaxation and what’s really behind it
✨ How busyness and stress addiction keep you disconnected from pleasure
✨ The power of intentionally softening & creating safety in rest
✨ How to shift from exhaustion to luxurious spaciousness—without guilt
✨ Why “I don’t have time” is a lie & how to own your choices
⚡ It's time to stop proving your worth through over-functioning and start living in your feminine power.
👂 Let’s keep the conversation going! What landed for you in this episode? How do you resist relaxation? Slip into my DMs on Instagram—I’d love to hear from you!
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This episode is a special one—I’m sharing an incredible conversation I had on The Truth About Mental Health podcast with host Andrea Clark. Andrea is a former family psychologist who’s pulling back the curtain on the limitations of the mental health industry and advocating for a more holistic, empowering approach to healing.
We had so many synchronicities in our conversation, from shifting away from the need to control everything to fully embracing our feminine energy. We also talked about the societal conditioning that keeps high-achieving women stuck in stress, overwhelm, and alcohol reliance—and how the feminine way offers a path to liberation, joy, and deep trust in life.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✨ Why stepping into the feminine is the key to sustainable well-being
✨ How alcohol mimics trauma and keeps the nervous system in survival mode
✨ The link between high-achieving women, stress, and dissociation
✨ How surrendering control and honoring your cycle leads to more success
✨ Why luxurious space and exquisite care are essential to true empowerment
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This week, we’re diving into Exquisite Care, the third principle of The Feminine Way. And no, I’m not just talking about bubble baths and spa days—this is about deep, soul-level nourishment that actually supports your body, your nervous system, and your expansion.
We’re still in the vibe of finding out instead of figuring it out, and sometimes, that means letting go of control, asking for support, and allowing yourself to truly receive. I share how exquisite care has shown up in my life, from checking in with my inner child to rethinking what relaxation really means. Plus, I walk through examples of how my clients have transformed by shifting from control and micromanagement into ease, joy, and presence.
Key Takeaways:
🌿 Exquisite care is about giving yourself what you actually need—not what you think you should need.
🌿 You’re already supporting your inner child in some way—how can you do it with more love and intention?
🌿 Control is a false sense of safety. Real safety comes from trust and resourcing yourself deeply.
🌿 There’s no rush—soften, listen, and see what happens when you stop forcing.
🌿 Pleasure is not an indulgence. It’s a way of life.
If this resonates with you, let’s take it deeper. Book a Sober Glow Up Activation Session, where we’ll work through a heart altar activation, rewrite your story, and create a new vision of what’s possible.
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Let’s start with this: you don’t need me. You don’t need another book, another podcast, another guru telling you what to do. You already have everything you need inside of you. The problem? We’ve been conditioned to search outside of ourselves instead of trusting what’s already there.
In today’s episode, we’re continuing our conversation about The Feminine Way by diving into Principle #2: Luxurious Space. We’re talking about releasing the urgency, softening into trust, and giving yourself permission to slow the hell down.
I’ll share how this shift has shown up in my life—from honoring my body’s rhythms to restructuring my mornings and even how Matthew and I changed our financial dynamic to create more flow. It all comes down to this: There’s no rush.Everything will get done, and when we stop forcing and start listening, life meets us where we are.
Key Takeaways:
🌿 There's no rush—stop gripping so tightly and let life unfold.
🌿 Your schedule should support you, not control you.
🌿 If you’re pushing through resistance, ask: What happens if I just pause?
🌿 You don’t have to figure it all out—just find out by taking the next step.
🌿 The feminine way is about trusting that the answers will come when you stop forcing them.
This week, I invite you to pause. To stop trying to figure things out and instead just be in the experience. What shifts when you stop rushing?
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Last week, we talked about silent sobriety—not as a way to hide, but as a practice of deepening your relationship with yourself. This week, we’re taking that a step further and exploring how to create safety from within—because the first principle of the feminine way is knowing that true safety isn’t something we find outside of ourselves.
We’ve been so conditioned to push, prove, and hustle that we’ve lost touch with the pleasure of receiving—whether it’s in our businesses, our relationships, or even in motherhood. But the feminine doesn’t operate on force; she flows, she softens, she trusts.
In this episode, I share how shifting the financial dynamic in my marriage completely changed the energy in our home, allowing both Matthew and me to step more fully into our natural strengths. I also talk about how I’ve been reworking my relationship with coffee (yes, again!) and why loosening the grip—whether on money, alcohol, or expectations—is where real expansion begins.
Key Takeaways:
🌿 You don’t have to “figure it out.” You can just find out.
🌿 Resistance is a sign of growth—on the other side of it is expansion.
🌿 True giving is free of expectation. If it’s not, it’s not really giving.
🌿 Creating safety in your life starts with assessing your actual resources and challenging scarcity thinking.
🌿 When you soften and trust, you allow more pleasure, ease, and abundance to come in.
I’d love to hear what’s resonating for you—where in your life do you need to create more safety and ease? Send me a DM on Instagram and let’s chat!
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Do you ever feel the pressure to announce your big life changes? In today’s episode, I’m diving into silent sobriety and silent activism—why sometimes the most powerful transformation happens when we keep it just for ourselves.
There’s so much talk about “recovering out loud,” and while that can be empowering, there’s also deep value in solitude and private commitment. When I quit drinking, I didn’t make a big deal about it. I was just making choices for me. And that shifted everything.
I also share a personal story about how Matthew proposed to me (spoiler: it was magical and completely unexpected) and how my deep connection to the Divine has shaped the way I experience life. Some things I just don’t feel the need to share—because they’re mine.
This episode will challenge you to look at your relationship with external validation and ask: What would change if you didn’t need anyone else’s approval?
Key Takeaways:
- Silence is powerful. Before seeking validation, take time to understand your why.
- Solitude and loneliness are not the same thing. How can you embrace time alone?
- Instead of figuring things out, try finding out—get curious and trust the process.
- Expect that there will be moments when old habits or thoughts resurface. It’s normal.
- Big life shifts don’t always need to be announced. Sometimes they’re more potent when they’re just yours.
If something in today’s episode spoke to you, I’d love to hear from you! Send me a DM on Instagram. And if you leave a review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it, and send it my way—I’ll send you a free gift to support your journey.
Want to go deeper? Book a Sober Glow Up Activation Session with me and rewrite your alcohol story. Find the link in the show notes or head over to marywagstaffcoach.com.
Thanks for being here. See you next week!
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Today, we’re diving into what it really means to surrender and trust your next evolution. Whether it's shifting your relationship with alcohol, your career, or any part of your life, the key isn’t figuring it out—it’s finding out by loosening your grip and stepping into curiosity.
I share personal updates on balancing my online work with the new life my family and I are building on our farm. I also reflect on how resistance shows up when we’re being called to something new and how sometimes, we need to let go of “the way things have always been” to allow something even better to emerge.
With the arrival of Lent, Venus retrograde, and the shift into spring, this is an invitation to pause, empty out, and make space for what’s truly calling you.
Key Takeaways:
🌿 Your next evolution is already calling—you just have to listen.
🌿 FOMO isn’t real when you’ve already experienced something. What if you stopped holding on so tightly?
🌿 Loosening your grip doesn’t mean failure. It means creating space for clarity and divine timing.
🌿 Personal transformation isn’t about “figuring it out” but rather allowing it to unfold.
🌿 This season is about deepening your devotion—to yourself, to what’s right in front of you, and to the unknown possibilities ahead.
Want to step into your own awakening? Try 40 days of releasing control—whether it’s alcohol, caffeine, social media, or the need to have all the answers. See what happens when you stop forcing and start receiving.
I’d love to hear what’s calling you right now! Send me a DM on Instagram or email me. And don’t forget—leave a review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it, and send it my way for a free gift to support your journey.
Let’s loosen our grip and step into the Feminine Way together.
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You get to decide what sobriety means for you.
Today’s episode is inspired by a listener question:
“How do we ensure we're not using not drinking alcohol as a form of punishment or deprivation?”
This question is huge, because how you think about alcohol—and about quitting it—determines your experience of sobriety. The feminine way to releasing alcohol isn’t about willpower or restriction; it’s about embodying a new way of being—one where not drinking becomes an act of self-honor, not self-denial.
- What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Why the belief that sobriety is punishment is just that—a belief
- How to shift your mindset so that quitting drinking feels like a gift, not a loss
- The role of safety in the feminine way of transformation
- How to explore and rewrite your beliefs about alcohol
- Why your body is already designed to generate real pleasure—without alcohol
This Is Not Deprivation—It’s Awakening
Sobriety is not about taking something away. It’s about waking up to the truth of who you are. It’s about stepping into an embodied experience of peace, power, and pleasure.
Listen and Apply
- What do you believe about alcohol?
- How does that belief shape your experience?
- What if quitting drinking was the most loving thing you could do for yourself?
This is your invitation to step back, create space, and start questioning everything you thought was true.
- 🎧 Tune in now, and if this episode resonates, send me a message with your own reflections and questions for coaching. Let’s keep this conversation going!
- Ready to quit drinking without feeling like you’re missing out? Book a free call here.
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We've all been there. Totally sick or disappointed from doing the thing you said you wouldn't do, DRINK.
This ONE simple thing will not only change how you feel after a night of drinking, but it will interrupt the cycle from happening again later, because you will be feeling better.
It's also a trick you can use when you don't show up with integrity in another area of life. Use it often, share it, change your life. And don't bring yesterday's disappointment into tomorrow.
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The question isn't will I drink or not. The question is will I FEEL ALIVE?
In this episode, I share my personal breakthrough and how we live in cycles of transformation. I give you the exact thought you need to dig deep and emerge brighter than ever.
What I Dive Into:
- My Breakthrough: How I discovered that true change wasn’t about quitting drinking—it was about reclaiming my inner light and feminine essence.
- Digging Deep: I reveal the intimate process of mining for your life force and transforming pain into power.
- Life & Motherhood: I open up about how motherhood and personal challenges ignited a powerful shift in my perspective.
- Living Fully: I share real, relatable stories and simple, heartfelt tools to help you embrace a life bursting with energy and authenticity.
If you’re ready to stop drinking and start living the feminine way, join me as I celebrate every layer of being a woman.
Don’t miss out on my free guide—“The Six Cheat Phrases to Calm the Urge to Drink and End the Inner Battle”—to help you transform your inner dialogue and reclaim your spark.
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“If I don’t stop disappearing from my higher self, I’ll never live the life I want.”
This is it—the final part of the most transformational story shared on this podcast. If you haven’t listened to Part 1 and Part 2, go back and commit to hearing the full journey.
This is the most valuable case study in not just quitting drinking, but in stepping into self-trust, personal power, and an entirely new way of living.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- The single most important decision that changed everything for Marianne
- Why the real problem wasn’t alcohol—but disappearing from herself
- How she stopped looking for an escape and started facing her emotions head-on
- The importance of safety in transformation (and how to create it for yourself)
- What it actually means to reclaim your power and embody self-trust
Why This Episode is Different
This isn’t about “willpower” or just stopping drinking. It’s about awakening to yourself. It’s about getting to the other side of emotional overwhelm, self-doubt, and feeling lost in your own life.
Marianne’s story is proof that when you commit to truly seeing yourself and stepping out of old patterns, you don’t just quit drinking—you transform into the woman you were always meant to be.
Listen and Apply
Where in your life are you disappearing from yourself?
What emotions are you afraid to face?
What if you stopped waiting and stepped fully into the life that’s meant for you?
Tune in now, and don’t miss Marianne’s final message to you—it’s exactly what you need to hear.
- If you’re ready to stop disappearing and start fully living, book a free call here:.
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This is not just about quitting drinking. It’s about claiming your sovereignty.
We are back with Part 2 of this powerful three-part series featuring my incredible client, Marianne, who shares her raw and transformational journey of stepping fully into her power.
This isn’t just another conversation about sobriety. This is about self-mastery, peace, and reclaiming your mind from the chaos of addiction.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- How alcohol blocks access to self-trust, intuition, and peace
- Why even years of self-help books weren’t enough until this shift happened
- The truth about alcohol’s role in emotional dysregulation and overwhelm
- How to break free from the exhausting mental preoccupation of “Should I drink or not?”
- The game-changing realization that helped Marianne finally feel SAFE with herself
Why This Episode is Different
Marianne’s story is a masterclass in what’s possible when you stop seeing alcohol as a solution and start seeing it as the thing keeping you from peace, clarity, and the life you want.
This is about women stepping into their power—not just by quitting drinking, but by reclaiming the ability to be present, at peace, and fully embodied in their lives.
Listen and Apply
This episode isn’t just for inspiration—it’s here for your transformation.
What’s keeping you from true peace?
Where are you looking for relief outside of yourself instead of within?
What happens when you trust yourself completely?
This is the feminine way. This is change in action.
Tune in now and prepare for the final episode next week, where we dive into the last piece of the puzzle—what finally made everything click.
If you're ready to release alcohol and step into your feminine power, book a free call here
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The Best Case Study You’ll Ever Hear: Reclaiming Your Power and Inner Peace
This is not like any other sobriety show.
In this episode, you’ll hear one of the most transformational case studies ever shared on the show.
I sit down with my incredible client, Marianne, a high-achieving woman who knew that if she wanted to live the life she truly desired, alcohol had to go. But what happened next was something she never expected.
She didn’t just become a non-drinker—she became a woman in total control of her emotions, her peace, and her power.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Why quitting drinking is just the beginning of true transformation
- How Marianne went from feeling emotionally on fire to becoming the calm, steady presence in her life and relationships
- The secret to stopping emotional reactivity and reclaiming inner peace
- How feminine leadership and personal responsibility impact relationships—without forcing change on others
- The key to staying committed when life throws its hardest challenges at you
Listen and Apply
This episode isn’t just for listening—it’s for learning. I invite you to commit to these three episodes featuring Marianne’s journey. Take something from each and apply it to your own life.
What if peace became your default?
What if emotional overwhelm was no longer your identity?
What if you had the tools to face life’s biggest challenges without needing to escape?
This is change in action. This is the feminine way.
Listen now, take notes, and start stepping into your sovereignty.
-If you’re ready to release alcohol and embrace the feminine way, let’s talk. Book a free call here.
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Every choice you make shapes your reality, yet most of us are stuck in cycles of indecision or overwhelm, which drains our energy and leaves us disconnected from our power. Decision fatigue impacts every area of your life—especially your relationship with alcohol.
Here’s why this matters: when you’re exhausted from constant decision-making or stuck overthinking, you’re more likely to default to old habits like drinking. But what if you could trust that every decision is working for you? Imagine what could shift if you didn’t waste energy worrying about making the “right” choice and instead embraced aligned action.
In this episode, I share:
- Why decision fatigue is the hidden reason you feel stuck and overwhelmed.
- How to reframe decision-making as an act of empowerment rather than fear.
- The connection between simplifying your decisions and breaking free from alcohol.
- A step-by-step process to reduce decision fatigue and trust yourself again.
This episode will help you reclaim your mental energy, simplify your life, and start making choices that align with the empowered, sovereign woman you’re becoming.
Thank you for being here! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review if this episode resonates.💕
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AND WE ARE BACK!
Welcome back, my beautiful listeners—it's Mary Wagstaff, and I am beyond thrilled to be here with you today. I can hardly contain my excitement as we relaunch Stop Drinking and Start Living - The Feminine Way. This is more than just a podcast; it’s a safe space for exploring sobriety, feminine empowerment, and reclaiming the authentic essence of being a woman. Together, we’re diving into a new version of the show, and I’m so honored you’re here for it.
In this episode:
- Rediscover the feminine way: We’re not just talking about sobriety; we’re embracing life through archetypal wisdom, intuition, and self-trust.
- Let’s explore together: This is a circle of sisters. Bring your curiosity, compassion, and openness to new perspectives.
- Write in to the show: Share your stories and questions using the 'Fan Mail' link in the show notes, or email me at Mary@MaryWagstaffCoach.com. I’ll answer submissions on upcoming episodes!
- Pause and reflect: This week, ask yourself, “What kind of woman do I want to be?” and honor your journey with approval and self-compassion.
- Next week’s topic: We’ll tackle decision fatigue—how it affects you and actionable steps to find clarity and ease.
Thank you for tuning in. Remember, there is no rush; the beautiful life you’re seeking is right in front of you. Take a deep breath, savor the moment, and join me every Wednesday for new episodes.
I love you and can’t wait to connect again next week! ❤️
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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
Welcome to Stop Drinking and Start Living - The Feminine Way
What kind of woman do you want to be? The answer to this question holds the key to releasing alcohol, breaking free from numbing cycles, and reclaiming your power, pleasure, and purpose.
In this trailer episode, I’m sharing the vision for this new season of the podcast: a space for transformation, connection, and rediscovering what it means to live as an empowered woman.
Here’s what you can expect from The Feminine Way:
- Weekly episodes exploring spirituality, archetypal wisdom, and embodied practices.
- Tools to help you effortlessly release alcohol and meet your own needs.
- Insights into how to create safety, spaciousness, and joy in your life.
- And an invitation to be part of the show—this is now a write-in podcast!
🎙 Stop Drinking and Start Living - The Feminine Way isn’t just about sobriety—it’s about redefining what’s possible for you, honoring your innate truth, and finding satisfaction in the life that’s right in front of you.
💌 Got a story or question? Use the ‘Send Me a Text’ link in the show notes. I’ll answer your submissions on the show because your voice matters here.
👉 Subscribe now to join the journey. New episodes drop every Wednesday.
✨ The life you desire is already within you. Now is the time to claim it. ✨
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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
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BIG ANNOUNCEMENT on today's episode.
There is no better way to strengthen your sense of self-trust than through Awakened Sobriety and alcohol freedom. In this episode, I emphasize the importance of trust, flexibility, and mindfulness in navigating life's challenges, discussing the value of simplicity in reducing multitasking and unintentional habits. Trust, safety, and intuition are crucial in creating the life of your dreams, allowing us to embrace uncertainty and cultivate a sustainable lifestyle that aligns with our values and desires.
Key Takeaways
- Trust and Flexibility: Emphasize trust and flexibility as vital tools for navigating life's challenges.
- Mindfulness and Simplicity: Highlight the importance of mindfulness and simplicity in reducing multitasking and unintentional habits.
- Intuition and Safety: Trusting your intuition and prioritizing safety are essential in creating the life you want.
- Observing Resources and Emotions: Encourages observing your resources and emotions to make positive changes.
- Personal Growth: Personal growth involves discernment, evolving rather than quitting, and taking responsibility for your journey.
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Changing your relationship to alcohol begins with more awareness. Lasting change is created with a new perspective.
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In this episode of Stop Drinking and Start Living, I'm excited to share my 100-day urge tracking protocol to help you gain awareness and control over alcohol cravings.
Through tracking circumstances, emotions, thoughts and sensations around urges, you can shift your perspective on alcohol and create more freedom and relaxation in their lives.
Key takeaways include:
- cultivating embodied awareness of one's nervous system responses
- moving towards new experiences rather than away from drinking
- practicing techniques like meditation to balance the nervous system and break habitual coping mechanisms.
- I encourage listeners to join my challenge and download my free resources to generate insight and move forward in their sobriety journey.
- Download the urge tracking guide and meditation from Mary's website.
- Track 100 days of circumstances, emotions, thoughts, sensations and actions around alcohol/urges from a neutral perspective.
- Consider doing the tracking with a friend/accountability partner.
- Sign up on Mary's website to access a fearless sobriety masterclass for additional support.
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Ready to reclaim your health and vitality? Susannah is back and we go even deeper into how to support your health holistically with insulin support and diet. Discover a holistic approach to wellness, alcohol freedom and transforming your lifestyle by stabilizing blood sugar levels.
Key Takeaways:
- Blood Sugar Balance: Understand how balanced blood sugar reduces cravings and supports healthier habits.
- Energized Living: Focus on feeling energized and mobile to lead a vibrant, joyful life.
- Medical Self-Advocacy: Learn the importance of self-advocacy in the medical field for better health outcomes.
- Diet Transition: Get practical strategies for transitioning to a healthier diet without feeling deprived.
- Hormonal Health & Breathwork: Explore cycle awareness and the benefits of breathwork for optimizing health.
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A 1:1 session to use any time this summer and a personalized welcome package sent to your door. Find alcohol freedom using my Proven Five Shifts Process. Follow the path of 100's of Women, Click HERE to join today!
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Join wellness coach Susannah LaPoint as we explore a revolutionary approach to vibrant health beyond alcohol, focusing on nutrition, insulin control, breathwork, fasting, and mindful living.
Key Takeaways:
- Achieve Vibrant Health: Discover Susannah's approach to Mastering your wellness through nutrition, breathwork, and fasting.
- Blood Sugar & Hormonal Balance: Understand the connections between blood sugar levels, ketogenic diets, and hormonal balance.
- Hormetic Stress Benefits: Learn how controlled stressors like fasting and exercise can enhance your health.
- Mindful Activities: Shifting the mindset around diet and exercise culture to support your metabolic health long term.
- Support your alcohol journey with diet : How low carb and keto can make it easier to quit drinking.
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As a celebration of this milestone, I created something special for you- A way to engage with the magic of the moon in a full moon ritual ceremony. This ritual kit is packed full of practice that will amplify your intentions at any phase but especially while the moon is high. The more you tune into her, the more you will know yourself.
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Quit drinking for the last time with the Stop Drinking and Start Living Course.
Take the podcast to the next level, study it and apply it to your life to get lasting results without deprivation or starting over again.
The only requirement is your desire for change and your willingness to believe something new.
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Today I share the profound transformations I observed on our Women's retreat and why it is so important to put yourself in new intentional environments, to make big change. I offer insight into how you can apply these to your life now and transform your relationship to self and to alcohol.
Key Takeaways:
-People are ready for more meaning and connection.
-Many women are missing real intimacy in their lives.
-Sobriety creates an opportunity for authentic relating.
-Manifestation is real.
-Co-creating from trust, detachment, pleasure and personal responsibility.
-Establishing safety creates more space for bravery.
-Nature supports us.
-We can't grow in isolation.
-Intentional containers create expedited results.
-Embodiment is non-negotiable.
-All sensations are neutral.
As a celebration of this milestone, I created something special for you- A way to engage with the magic of the moon in a full moon ritual ceremony. This ritual kit is packed full of practice that will amplify your intentions at any phase but especially while the moon is high. The more you tune into her, the more you will know yourself.
Get access HERE
Quit drinking for the last time with the Stop Drinking and Start Living Course.
Take the podcast to the next level, study it and apply it to your life to get lasting results without deprivation or starting over again.
The only requirement is your desire for change and your willingness to believe something new.
Click here to join for only $149!
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Today I share my personal journey and insights into the world of non-alcoholic beverages, and learn how to forge a path to intentional living that transcends the need for alcohol or pretending.
Take aways:
- The potential impact of drinks that mimic the taste of alcohol
- Understanding the pivotal role embodiment and conscious movement play in fostering comfort and trust in our bodies and how they help navigate the challenges of sobriety.
- Finding new rituals and rather than substitutes for traditional alcoholic drinks, we uncover the brain's powerful response to visualization and its influence on our habits and cravings.
- Redefine your sensory experiences with elixirs that celebrate our commitment to sobriety, differentiating them from mere mocktails.
- The significance of ceremonies, like cacao and tea rituals, is illuminated, providing a communal and intentional backdrop to our alcohol-free existence.
Share our own stories and insights, with the opportunity to engage directly through Buzzsprout's text feature or on social media, fostering a supportive community for those on this transformative journey.
If you are ready to start putting the pieces together and get a head start on your sober curious journey, click here to join, Awakened Sober Living.
The secret sauce is asking the right questions, answering them and then going deeper. If you are over the trap of moderation, stopping and starting, this is the space for you to get a new perspective and make space for something new.
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Have you ever considered the profound changes that take root when you put down the Have you ever considered the profound changes that occur when you put down the wine glass and join hands with a community of women on a journey of awakened, sensual living?
In today's episode, we explore part 2 of the transformative power of sisterhood and sobriety, weaving through tales of personal growth and connection from the Ignite Your Vision retreat. Celebrate the courage to live intentionally and the magic of sober interactions.
Key Takeaways:
- Sisterhood and Sobriety: Discover the power of a supportive community and the clarity that comes with sobriety.
- Transformational Stories: Hear personal journeys of women transitioning from indulgence to conscious clarity.
- Intentional Living: Learn about the intentional connections and daily rituals that infuse life with purpose.
- Emotional Healing: Explore how sobriety becomes an act of self-care and emotional healing.
- Awakened Life: Celebrate the joy and spiritual alignment found in living an awakened, sober life.
If you are ready to start putting the pieces together and get a head start on your sober curious journey, click here to join, Awakened Sober Living.
The secret sauce is asking the right questions, answering them and then going deeper. If you are over the trap of moderation, stopping and starting, this is the space for you to get a new perspective and make space for something new.
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What would it take to believe, as long as you were being yourself, you couldn't do it wrong and that you belonged? This was the transformative power of our Woman's Retreat in Mexico.
In today's episode, we weave tales of feminine healing and the power of women's retreat and sacred sisterhood. Our sanctuary of conversation opens its arms to the stories of strength and vulnerability, shared by the women, who have walked the path towards rekindling their inner light alongside us.
Step into our circle and light a candle for your own self-discovery, as we recount the emotional revelations and the deep sense of belonging that blossoms when women support and understand one another.
The heart of our discussion begins with a grounding meditation, heartfelt connections, and the mantra "solutions for situations only," as we navigate the waters of personal reclamation.
We explore the sacred space where saying yes to oneself fosters courage to face resistance, and the importance of collective integrity shines bright. Together, we affirm the journey of integrating profound experiences into our everyday lives, cherishing the small steps and daily rituals that cement our growth.
If you are ready to start putting the pieces together and get a head start on your sober curious journey, click here to join, Awakened Sober Living.
The secret sauce is asking the right questions, answering them and then going deeper. If you are over the trap of moderation, stopping and starting, this is the space for you to get a new perspective and make space for something new.
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If you have ever felt like you've tried everything when it comes to quitting drinking, this episode is for you.
My client Janet finally flipped the script in her mind when she discovered the holistic approach of the five shifts process. She had countless attempts at other programs that just didn't get to the root of the problem. She could only get so far without befriending her emotions and learning to work with her thoughts to make the neutral.
I am so honored to share Janets amazing story. Listen and take something away to apply to your life today!
Key Takeaways :
- What's reaquired for Personal Growth and Transformation and how to paving the way for a more fulfilling life.
- How to shift your mindset with emotional management
- Reduce the desire to drinking my practicing healthy boundaries
- Overcoming shame and guilt
- Utilizing support to create accountability, commitment and break free from limiting belief.
- Achieve an authentic sense of personal freedom and live your best life!
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The secret sauce is asking the right questions, answering them and then going deeper. If you are over the trap of moderation, stopping and starting, this is the space for you to get a new perspective and make space for something new.
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Today's epidote is crucial for your success in sobriety and beyond. It is the starting point you must establish for all new endeavors: establishing a sense safety and authenticity.
- Safety in the Known: Despite knowing alcohol isn't serving us, we often return to it because of the safety and familiarity it provides.
- Establishing New Safety: To move beyond alcohol, we must unpack our self-concept around it and create a sense of safety from a place of neutrality.
- The Need for Belonging: True belonging comes from being accepted for who we are, not from conforming to external expectations.
- Authentic Expression: The journey towards authenticity involves questioning the conformity we've agreed to and building evidence for our authentic selves.
- Empowerment Through Safety: Establishing safety within ourselves allows for empowerment and confidence, enabling us to navigate life's challenges without relying on alcohol.
Share your experiences and tag me on IG @marywagstaffcoaching responding to others about your drinking. Your feedback is invaluable and can help others on their journey. Together, let's create a world where all women can confidently say, "I've got this."
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The secret sauce is asking the right questions, answering them and then going deeper. If you are over the trap of moderation, stopping and starting, this is the space for you to get a new perspective and make space for something new.
If you have ever thought, " I don't want to make anyone feel bad because I'm not drinking." You are in the right place.
You don't want your drinking to impact other people in a negative way, so when you are asked about it, you freeze.
You don't know how to respond and end up defending, explaining yourself or pointing the blame at you.
This is not the way to establish confidence in your alcohol free journey.
How you respond to others as you go along your alcohol free journey, will dictate your success in a huge way.
In today's episode you will learn:
- The thoughts you have that aren't true about other people
- What you need to understand about yourself to be confident responding to others about your drinking.
- Exactly what to say and how to say it in a way that invites people in to a conversation rather than creates shame or defiensiveness.
- Where to focus your attention when you are in social settings that will reduce your fear and desire to drink.
- Why we go into freeze and need to defend or explain ourselves.
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How alive are you willing to feel, is really the question I am asking today? Can you show up even bigger for life than you thought possible? Sobriety does stop giving after you get it out of your way. It's a mindset of removing the veil of illusions that have kept you stick in fear.
In today's episode you will take away:
- the questions you need to keep asking to stay motivated
- how authenticity is now a means of survival
- how to rediscover your vibrancy
- sobriety as a gateway to a more mindful, conscious life
- alcohol as a starting point to a more confident empowered you
- AND MUCH MORE...
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Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
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Awakened sobriety! Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help, labels or missing out! Expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
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You might know what you don't want, but knowing what your deepest desires are and tapping into them, mind, body heart and soul, will create your inevitable success in sobriety. Today we dive into the depths of our desires, showing that sobriety empowers us to manifest a life beyond imagination. Let's uncover your truest yearnings, fostering a lifestyle of authenticity and fulfillment.
Key takeaways:
- Sobriety is a stepping stone to a life filled with vision and dreams.
- Mindfulness and somatic practices are invaluable in transcending cravings and anchoring in genuine aspirations.
- Embodying desires while releasing alcohol's grip requires courage and commitment.
- The journey to becoming Naturally Sober is within reach with the five-shift process.
- Embrace your desires and chart a course for a life of true pleasure and alignment.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Today we are having an eye-opening conversation about alcohols so-called benefits. We're breaking down the myth that alcohol affects us all differently, revealing the universal chemical impact it has on our bodies—whether it's wreaking havoc on our nervous systems, disrupting our gut biomes, or throwing our endocrine systems out of balance.
My five shifts process is set to challenge your current beliefs about drinking, peeling back the veil to expose the illusions of pleasure and connection that alcohol promises but doesn't deliver.
- Redefine self-concept in a world where alcohol loses its grip, transitioning from a central role to a mere afterthought in your life.
- Learn how to step away from damaging comparative narratives that hold us back, and embrace a path of self-love and compassion.
- Merge spiritual alignment and a feminine perspective to cultivate a sobriety that's not just a fleeting phase, but a lasting transformation.
- How to realign with your deepest sense of self
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Have you ever found yourself caught up in the enchanting haze of alcohol's promise, believing it holds the key to life's most thrilling chapters? Unpacking the cultural narrative that paints alcohol as the hero of our stories, the liberator of our inhibitions, and the spark in the romance of life. Explore how these potent tales influence our perceptions and entice us to chase an illusion of freedom that alcohol seems to offer.
Through the intricacies of pleasure, autonomy, and the societal pressures that shape our experiences—especially through the lens of women's voices.
We'll confront the authenticity of joy as it's often depicted, intertwined with alcohol, and challenge the notion that our past indulgences are somehow superior to the possibilities that await us. With a blend of coaching, mindfulness, and vibrant conversation, let's reimagine a life of romance and connection unclouded by expectations—a journey where each step is an authentic expression of self, crafted by our own hands and hearts.
Learn how every moment can be savored to its fullest without the need for a glass in hand. Join us!
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Self-acceptance is crucial if you've ever questioned your relationship with alcohol. This episode is a heartfelt invitation to peel back the layers of self-doubt and limiting beliefs, revealing the bright essence of who you truly are.
Learn how to rekindle trust in your instincts, and together, we'll confront the stories we've constructed about our worth, our habits, and our need for external validation.
In a world brimming with comparison, learn to embrace your unique narrative and uncover the joy of expressing your deepest, most authentic thoughts.
Dance and music serve as our companions in the journey of reconnecting to self.
We'll explore the synergy of sobriety and self-acceptance, finding refuge in the safety of our own skin.
I'll share techniques like breathwork and visualization to anchor your journey in gratitude for the vessel that carries you through life.
From the grounding energy of the root chakra to the gentle embrace of mindfulness, witness the power of presence in transforming everyday experiences into profound moments of clarity and belonging.
I want to celebrate the clarity that sobriety brings to our lives. These insights offer the next step to recognizing your fundamental human rights, to feeling rooted in your existence, and to expressing thanks for the many facets of your being.
Whether you're yearning to break free from old patterns or seeking spiritual alignment for a more fulfilling life, this episode holds space for your personal evolution.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Your truest self is buried beneath layers shaped by alcohol. I'll take you through my personal transformation and reveal how my five shifts process could be the key to unlocking your most authentic life. This isn't about abstaining for the sake of it; it's about questioning deeply held beliefs and reconstructing a life where alcohol loses its grip, allowing you to thrive in your natural sobriety. We're not just changing habits; we're changing mindsets and redefining what it means to truly live.
We look at the shape of a life aligned with our spirit. Sober curiosity is how you bridge the gap to your aspirations and where you are now.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Navigating sober sex and rediscovering sexual pleasure without alcohol is a whole new area for most people. Pleasure is a huge part of reclaiming your wholeness beyond alcohol. Explore the challenges and triumphs of sober intimacy, with personal stories and insights. Discover how sobriety can enhance sensuality, define boundaries, and indulge in spiritually aligned pleasure.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Challenge the notion that rebellion and self-governance are tied to alcohol consumption. As women navigating motherhood, care taking and challenging ourselves in new ways. Explore strategies for reclaiming personal power, including setting boundaries and embracing solitude. Learn about self-soothing techniques and letting go of limiting beliefs.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
In honor of four years of the podcast, I unveil a new online sanctuary for women who are sober, sober-curious, or in the midst of awakening, you're warmly welcomed to join a community where growth transcends traditional recovery paths!
This episode not only commemorates our devotional leadership movement for women in sobriety but also extends an invitation to explore my private coaching program designed for sustainable life changes.
There is a necessary sacred pauses that is required for fulfillment in our lives, and the liberating embrace of intuition over the clamor of fear-based narratives. Consider your own story and the milestones you've gathered along the way. It's a celebration of the power in showing up—for ourselves and each other—in pursuit of a life resonant with our deepest values.
For those ready to align more deeply with their spiritual journey, schedule a private discovery call with Mary.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Today I share with you a personal experience of spending three days in a Las Vegas night club dancing with strangers. It was an integrative journey that anchored my knowing in the ONLY SHORT CUT to sobriety. Today I share with you my take aways.
Takeaways:
- Sobriety is more than just abstaining from alcohol; it's a journey of self-discovery and authenticity.
- Why integration is so important.
- Embrace the edges of your comfort zones to go beyond resistance with success.
- How to create sustainable sobriety quicker and with greater ease.
- Why you are confused about alcohol.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Meet my client Jaclyn who is an example of what it truly means to go Beyond Alcohol.
You don’t want to miss this episode!
You will learn exactly what you need to do to end the confusion around alcohol and the exact steps to take to go beyond the moderation story.
- What it means to create a life that honors your humanity
- Explore critical life junctures, from divorce to pandemic, to rehab and plant medicine treatment, shaping Jaclyn's journey.
- Dive into the complex relationship between personal identity and alcohol, challenging societal norms.
- Jaclyn shares insights on navigating the journey with grace, focusing on internal wellness.
- Discover the 'five shifts' methodology, redefining the narrative beyond the 'alcoholic' label.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
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Whether you began this year with a resolution or you're seeking fresh inspiration to reignite your commitment, this episode will offer you the insights and encouragement to continue moving forward.
Have you ever wondered what it means to truly commit to your own transformation, especially when it comes to reshaping your relationship with alcohol? Today I share the power of intentional action and the magic of aligning with life's rhythms to foster sustainable personal growth.
Let's peel away the layers of superficial fixes like Dry January and instead, observe the significance of continuous self-discovery.
This episode questions the delicate balance of embracing life's natural ebb and flow while maintaining a steady course toward our goals. Using the tender act of self-compassion during those inevitable low-energy dips, and I share how implementing just one small daily practice can subtly yet significantly keep you on track with your intentions.
My private coaching program, which combines a feminine with holistic perspective, guides you towards a easeful and sustainable sobriety so you can make alcohol unimportant. Schedule a discovery call here.
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Join us on the final installment of our soul mission series, revealing the beauty of nurturing autonomy in your life. Highlighting the push and pull between societal expectations and our inner callings. For women especially, the struggle to claim personal space amid caregiving roles is profound; we tackle the associated guilt and the essential nature of carving out room for one's true self.
It's an exploration that promises to empower you with the insight to fill your cup first, so you’re better equipped to pour into others.
We also explore the cosmic energies at play, with astrology as our guide in healing and self-reclamation. Nura and I reflect on the personal and collective healing that blossoms from self-reliance, stepping into our power, and facing our shadows with the courage of an inner warrior.
This episode is a call to action, a summoning of the bravery to trust in ourselves and our unique paths.
We extend a heartfelt invitation to join us in contemplation and action, encouraging a life lived with intention, authenticity, and joy!
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Rekindling the inner flame.
We are celebrating Imbolc!
You’re invited to join our free Imbolc Circle this Sunday, February 4th.
Bring a friend, and your open heart.
We look forward to connecting with you in circle.
You can join free by signing up HERE!
Why simply quitting alcohol doesn't quite cut it—instead, we discuss the transformative power of connecting with your inner self and the universe's natural rhythms.
I recall my client Elizabeth's interview on the podcast, showcasing the profound impact of distinguishing our physical sensations from the mental stories we tell ourselves, a pivotal step on the path to sustainable sobriety.
We weave our inner journey with the threads of the winter solstice and the lunar cycle's ebb and flow. Discover how these cosmic events reflect our personal growth, offering moments for introspection and release, much like the phases of the moon guide us through life's mysteries.
Learn to harness the Wheel of the Year and find support in the goddess Brigid's Imbolc festival, as we share our experiences of nurturing visions and utilizing resources to realize our aspirations amidst the astrological dance of Aries' desire and Aquarius' call for collective progress.
Together with Nura Rachelle, we celebrate circle gatherings as sanctuaries of shared wisdom, where the fiery individuality of Aries meets Aquarius' collective spirit, creating a dynamic synergy that fuels our transformative quests. This episode promises to arm you with the insights needed to forge a path where alcohol is no longer the centerpiece, but a forgotten part of the past.
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In part two of our three part series on reclaiming your soul-mission, Nura Rachelle and I share about the profound connection between our inner truth and the transformative roles we play in the evolution of our collective consciousness. We share more today about how and why we loose connection with our soul mission and the necessity of intentionally curated spaces to reclaim and remember who we truly are.
Key takeaways:
- Embracing Individuality
- Beyond Societal Limitations
- Living Your Soul's Mission
- Cyclical Nature of Life's Journey
- Celebrating Unique Modes of Knowing
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Join my co-host Nura Rachelle and I, as we explore what all heart centered woman fear mission, their soul mission. In this special three-part series, discover the joy and fulfillment of living in alignment with your true purpose. What your soul mission is and why aligning with it as a priority is crucial in your holistic wellness.
Navigate the pitfalls of the hive mind, embrace personal growth, and learn to celebrate your unique identity beyond societal expectations. Nura shares her brilliant astrological insight in where in your chart to understand and validate your soul mission, as well as significant astrological transits that are calling supporting the collective awakening.
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We often wait for someone else to give us the green light to feel a certain way, to change, to be happy, to love something. In this process you may find your self defensive nd over expaplining, creating even more resitance to change.
How can you be successful in sobriety without anyone else "getting It".
Find out on today's show.
Here are five key takeaways:
- Sustainable Sobriety as a Birthright: Sobriety is not a trait acquired in reaction to alcohol but a natural state of being. The perspective that sobriety is innate within, like a birthright, becomes a game-changer.
- Why we defer our permission: Seeking the approval of others by needing them to fully understand, is an effort to try to understand ourselves more deeply.
- Permission to Feel: The theme of giving oneself permission to feel, wediscusses the impact of external validation and the need to understand and honor one's emotions without over-explaining or defending.
- Curating a Container for Self-Exploration: The importance of creating a container, a space for self-exploration, is highlighted. The Naturally Sober Woman Program and Ignite your Vision Retreat are presented as opportunities for an immersive experience.
- Moving from Defensiveness to Self-Authority: Recognizing and moving away from the need to defend oneself or seek external validation is crucial. The journey involves self-awareness, curiosity, and compassion, leading to self-authority and clarity.
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On today's podcast I reveal the powerful five-shifts process that redefines sustainable sobriety. If you want consistent and predictable results this episode is a deep dive into aligning your actions with your core values, transcending typical sobriety methods to effect true transformation.
We'll discuss the critical need for a concrete plan, the risks of alcohol influencing your life choices, and how to tap into the wisdom of your inner self. I'll also outline why merely changing your surroundings isn't the key to overcoming alcohol dependency, and why a holistic, step-by-step approach is necessary to dismantle the barriers alcohol creates, empowering you to realize your fullest potential.
This is an invitation to redefining your relationship with alcohol—and with yourself.
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Today I teach you the #1 secret to not just quitting drinking, but sustaining a life not dictated by alcohol or sobriety. If you want consistent, reliable results transforming alcohol this year, you don't want to miss this show. I reveal the strategic process that's been a game-changer in my own relationship with alcohol.
We talk about the importance of a structured plan and how to foster a mindset that remains calm and belief-driven amidst the storm of change.
You also still have a opportunity of joining the 40-day Alcohol Transformation Challenge that's designed to align your actions with your deepest values.
The Stop Drinking, Start Living program is a sanctuary of support that steers clear of the traps of moderation and deprivation. This program is revolutionizing the way we approach sobriety, providing you with the tools to make alcohol insignificant in your life. If you are seeking a blueprint for success, I invite you to join us as a lifetime member.
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Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
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In this two part series you will meet the woman who has had the most profound impact on my personal journey of awakening beyond alcohol. This episode means everything to me. Join me for a crucial conversation with my personal spiritual Mentor, Achintya Devi, founder of the Goddess Rising Mystery School and Global Sisterhood, as we traverse what it means to embrace the sacred Priestess Path.
In this 2 part series you will:
- understand what that missing something has been in your life.
- Step into the shoes of the ancient feminine, reclaiming her power, and transforming your life.
- Explore the potency of our emotions and the significance of our bodies in processing them?
- Understand the concept of 'cyclical authenticity' - a potent tool for attuning to natural rhythms and breaking away from societal norms.
- What it means to embrace the Priestess Path in this modern world and what role can you play in the current state of the world? How can you contribute to creating positive change?
- Deeply understand the importance sisterhood in uplifting and supporting each other.
Connect with Achintya and Goddess Rising Mystery School Here
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Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
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What was the catalyst that truly began my journey beyond alcohol?
In this two part series on the podcast, you will meet the woman who has had the most profound impact on my personal journey of awakening to the divine feminine within. This episode is truly a full circle moment for me and I couldn't be more honored to share it with you.
Join me for a crucial conversation with my personal spiritual Mentor, Achintya Devi, founder of the Goddess Rising Mystery School and Global Sisterhood, as we traverse what it means to embrace the sacred Priestess Path.
In this 2 part series you will:
- understand what that missing something has been in your life.
- Step into the shoes of the ancient feminine, reclaiming her power, and transforming your life.
- Explore the potency of our emotions and the significance of our bodies in processing them?
- Understand the concept of 'cyclical authenticity' - a potent tool for attuning to natural rhythms and breaking away from societal norms.
- What it means to embrace the Priestess Path in this modern world and what role can you play in the current state of the world? How can you contribute to creating positive change?
- Deeply understand the importance sisterhood in uplifting and supporting each other.
Connect with Achintya and Goddess Rising Mystery School Here
Make sure to tune in to part 2 next week!
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My client Elizabeth grew up in a family where alcohol felt like the sixth member. Today she shares her courageous journey beyond alcohol and the transformative power of self-love.
Your brain keeps telling you the transition is going to be so hard.
But "how" will I actually do it without always wanting alcohol?!?
Today is your day to get the inside scoop on the HOW first hand from a Woman who just did what she thought was impossible.
This podcast episode will truly change the way you think about what it takes to get alcohol out of your way forever without deprivation.
Elizabeth showed up for this work and our one on one time together with conviction and compassion. She truly EMBODIED the 5 shifts process of going beyond alcohol and it paid off big time.
- Elizabeth explores her struggles with alcohol and the quest for a deeper connection to life.
- How private coaching and the stop drinking start living course and private coaching played a crucial role in her journey beyond alcohol, providing valuable tools for self-validation and self-compassion.
- How to navigate life without relying on alcohol.
- Practical applications of how the coaching program tools created her biggest break throughs.
- Gain insights into the upcoming 40-day challenge and the transformative potential of embracing new beliefs for personal growth.
Thank you Elizabeth for being and example of what's possible through reclaiming your birthrate of Natural Sobriety! You are truly inspiring, it's been such an honor to witness your transformation.
The truth is, everything Elizabeth experienced is available to you. The best part...it only took her four months of weekly coaching to get there! (compared to the YEARS of drinking and heart ache. It's a drop in the bucket.) If you've been on the fence, this episode the inspiration you need.Claim your 1:1 spot here for 2024.
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Are you ready to have your own back? Because that's what this journey requires. We look into the topic of self-care, self-validation, and self-compassion, and how pivotal these elements are in going beyond alcohol. Together, we will explore practical ways to show up for yourself in times of struggle and reduce the dependency on alcohol as a lifeline. The key to success in this endeavor is learning to appreciate all parts of yourself and nurturing a positive self-image.
I unveil our exciting new venture, the 40-day alcohol transformation challenge, which is all about setting a life intention, embracing a new way of living, and getting live coaching in a supportive community of women. It is free to register!
The final phase of our discussion is all about commitment and intention. Join our 40-day challenge and experience a shift in your conditioned habits and lifestyle. This is a chance to deepen your connection with yourself and nature, and to set a life intention that is in harmony with your values.
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Today's show was a big moment for the show and me personally, as I had the high honor of having a sweet, heartfelt conversation with one of my role models and personal teacher, Elena Brower. Elena's insights on personal growth and creating a life that doesn't need alteration promise to leave you inspired and motivated.
She gives us an intimate look into her journey with zen Buddhism, her transformative hospice training experience, and her practices that have helped her release self criticism. As we traverse this path with Elena, you’ll find yourself inspired by her dedication to her service of impacting others lives and her personal practices.
Elena opens up about her personal struggles with addiction and the dramatic lifestyle changes she undertook to embrace a yogic lifestyle. Get ready to be inspired by her powerful testament to the transformative effects of mindfulness and yoga. She shares her journey of overcoming the need for external validation, her connection with essential oils, and how these elements have aided her to discover her most authentic self. Elena's courage and resilience promise to touch your life with potent insights.
In a world that's constantly vying for our attention, Elena teaches us the art of attention, and the role of intuition in decision-making. She helps us understand how to lead an artful life amidst overstimulation. Be prepared to hear about her latest offerings, her writing ventures, and her volunteer service work.
Please find Elena's transforming body of work and mentorship here.
Don't forget to check out the Stop Drinking, Start Living Portal of Empowerment to apply these concepts to your own life, today! Join here.
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What keeps us tolorating alcohol? We’re discussing the societal pressures and self-concept dynamics that keep us in the endless cycle of drinking.
You are wanting to reclaim a missing part of you. That missing part IS your sober self. The power of your feminine energies that will guide you on this transformative journey. We'll discuss how this energy can help you tap into your natural state of sobriety and embody the version of yourself you aspire to be. Our conversation reveals the reasons why we accept alcohol in our lives and how we can foster a healthier relationship with ourselves.
I'll share my personal 'aha' moment about changing my story about what alcohol means to me and how it shaped my journey back to sobriety.
As you charter this course to sobriety, remember to approach this journey with compassion and understanding. We'll explore how shifting your self-concept can be the key to unlocking a naturally sober self. Remember, seeking support and committing to a proven system can be game-changing. You'll learn about the unique features of my Stop Drinking and Start Living Portal Of Empowerment, a sanctuary for those seeking to a new approach to changing alcohol in their lives.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
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As the holiday season approaches, let's shatter some myths about quitting drinking and explore a new perspective on gratitude as a powerful self-care tool. We'll take a moment to appreciate the privileges we often take for granted - safety and health, and how they can foster a sense of gratitude. Together, we'll unlock the power of choice in crafting a future that aligns with our aspirations. Join me for a free on-demand training session that will help shift your perspective and inspire you to make new choices that lead to personal transformation and a fulfilling life. The path towards a better you begins here.
The core of self-awareness is practicing intentional presence that can turn resistance into opportunities for growth during life's transitions.
We'll get up close and personal on my Stop Drinking and Start Living Course, the Portal of Empowerment, a transformational journey designed to help you understand the root cause of your drinking and learn how to do what you think alcohol has been doing for you on your own.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
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Today, we uncover the truth about why people struggle to drink less and the underlying beliefs that drive our behaviors.
It's not just about sheer willpower; it's about understanding the intricate web of beliefs that lead us to reach for that drink.
We explore the concept that habits don't start with the behavior itself, but with the beliefs that shape our reactions.
Change starts with awareness and intentional shifts in our thought patterns.
Key Takeaways:
- Habits are rooted in beliefs: Habits don't begin with the behavior itself but are shaped by the belief systems we carry, both about alcohol and various aspects of our lives.
- Awareness is the first step: Shifting from unconscious to conscious awareness is essential. Understanding where you place your attention, especially in moments of emotional triggers, is crucial for change.
- Beliefs drive behavior: Our beliefs about alcohol and its role in our lives significantly influence our actions. Identifying and challenging these beliefs is essential to change our relationship with alcohol.
- Present moment awareness: By consciously anchoring ourselves in the present moment, we can interrupt the habitual thought patterns and reactions, paving the way for a new perspective.
- Shifting beliefs intentionally: Deliberately cultivating new beliefs that align with the life we want to lead is possible. By focusing on one thought at a time and coming into the present moment, we can create lasting change.
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We dive into the topic of redefining fun beyond alcohol. Exploring the innate desires and pleasures within us, especially as women. We discussed the various aspects of life where we naturally seek enjoyment and how alcohol has become intertwined with those experiences. Here are the key takeaways:
- Associations with Pleasure: We examined how alcohol has become associated with activities we inherently enjoy, like socializing, music concerts, or downtime at home. These associations often override the natural pleasure of the activity itself, leading to a dependency on alcohol for enjoyment.
- Unpleasant Activities and Alcohol: On the flip side, we discussed how alcohol can mask the unpleasantness of certain activities, like venting frustrations at happy hours or engaging in gossip. While these activities may give temporary relief, they don't create lasting satisfaction and can compound negative feelings.
- Examining Your Thoughts: We emphasized the importance of examining your thoughts and perspectives around activities. By understanding your true feelings and motivations, you can distinguish between activities you genuinely enjoy and those you've associated with alcohol, allowing for conscious choices.
- Personal Responsibility: Taking personal responsibility for your choices and redefining your expectations is crucial. This involves understanding that your preferences, boundaries, and definitions of fun might have changed over time. It's about owning your decisions and finding authentic ways to enjoy life.
- Embracing New Experiences: Lastly, the episode encouraged listeners to embrace new experiences and redefine what fun means to them. By trying out activities without the influence of alcohol and approaching situations with curiosity, you can uncover genuine enjoyment and live a more fulfilling life.
Remember, it's about rediscovering your authentic self, connecting with your senses, and finding joy in the present moment without the need for external substances. So, go out there, redefine fun, and embrace the magic within you!
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In this introspective podcast episode, I explore the deep layers of self-love, self-care, and self-awareness. Reflecting on my recent yoga experiences and encounters with insightful teachers, I explore the profound question from Poet Andrea Gibson: Is my attention on loving, or is it on who isn't loving me?
I discuss the societal pressures around beauty and aging, acknowledging the fine line between self-care practices and self-love. Drawing from personal experiences and lessons, I invite listeners to consider the transformative power of cultivating self-love as a foundation for all other aspects of life.
Key Takeaways:
- Attention on Love: Reflect on whether your focus is on love, solutions, and self-compassion, or on who isn't loving you or the problems, allowing for mindfulness in the present moment.
- Cultivating the Witness: Practice moving beyond thought, connecting with your essential self, the unflinching consciousness within you, fostering stability and self-awareness.
- Embracing Joy: Challenge the ability to experience natural joy without relying on external substances or circumstances, recognizing it as a profound aspect of self-discovery.
- Self-Care vs. Self-Love: Question the intention behind self-care practices, discerning if they stem from a place of self-love or societal pressures, emphasizing the importance of self-love as the foundation of well-being.
- Starting with Self-Love: Prioritize self-love as a prerequisite for happiness and contentment, understanding that external changes or practices might enhance but not replace the core of self-acceptance and love.
I mention the episode of Elena Brower's podcast with Andrea. Please take a listen here.
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Explore consistency through the lens of mindful living and intentional choices. In this episode, I invite you to dive into the transformative power of being consistent in our actions and decisions. As the seasons change, our senses awaken, allowing us to be fully present in the moment.
I share insights on the profound impact of mindfulness, sensory experiences, and creative activities in our lives. We explore the joy of embracing consistent habits, breaking free from the cycle of alcohol, and making decisions from our future selves.
- Personal consistency and prioritizing values.
- Prioritizing self-care and consistency for a more peaceful life.
- Podcasting and perfectionism.
- The benefits of consistency and self-care.
- Consistency and integrity in personal growth.
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Today's episode is a personal story on how I reclaimed my wholeness and my journey to find that elusive something that always felt out of reach.
Although each of our journeys are unique, it is always a quest of forgetting and remembering that brings us back home to the truth of who we are. Share with someone this may help today.
- Breaking free from alcohol and finding meaning.
- Feminism, spirituality, and personal growth.
- Addiction, self-discovery, and motherhood.
- Personal growth, self-awareness, and letting go of alcohol.
- Intuitive drinking and self-awareness.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
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In this final installment of our 3 part series Love and Alcohol, Dr. Chavonne and I explore the importance of setting boundaries and making conscious choices in relationships, especially when dealing with issues like alcohol consumption. We emphasizes the significance of personal responsibility and the freedom to choose what is best for oneself in a relationship. We discuss strategies for handling situations where someone may not support your choices or challenges them. The conversation highlights the role of communication, patience, and the iterative process in making important decisions within a relationship.
Key Takeaways:
- Boundaries as Personal Standards: Boundaries are about setting personal standards for behavior within a relationship, and they should reflect what feels right for you, not judgments or controls over your partner.
- Ownership of Your Choices: Recognize that staying in a relationship, even if it involves a behavior you find challenging (e.g., alcohol consumption), is a choice you make. Own your decision and acknowledge that it's independent of your partner's actions.
- Patience and Iteration: When addressing significant issues like changes in household dynamics, practice patience in your conversations. Have progressive and iterative discussions, allowing both partners to share their thoughts and concerns over time.
- Listening Sessions: Implement listening sessions where each partner takes turns sharing their thoughts without interruptions or debates. This structured approach can facilitate understanding and productive communication.
- Focus on Personal Growth: While addressing relationship dynamics, prioritize personal growth and well-being. Shift your attention to your own development and happiness independently of your partner's choices.
Remember that relationships involve ongoing growth and change, and open, patient, and loving communication is key to navigating these transformations together.
Please check out Dr. Chavonne and all of her amazing offerings including the episode Matthew and I recored for her podcast about our experience in her program, the Marriage Upgrade.
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Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
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In part 2 of 3, I continue the conversation with Dr. Chavonne as we discuss the importance of setting boundaries and making conscious choices in relationships affected by alcohol consumption. We emphasize that boundaries are a means to protect oneself and are not about controlling or judging the other person's behavior. We explore how to navigate situations where one partner's drinking habits cause discomfort and suggest ways to address these challenges without resorting to ultimatums.
Key Takeaways:
- Boundaries in relationships are about protecting yourself, not controlling the other person's behavior.
- Setting boundaries involves making choices that prioritize your emotional well-being.
- Ultimatums should be reframed as personal choices rather than threats.
- Examining your own needs and triggers before addressing your partner's behavior can lead to more productive conversations.
- It's essential to own your decision to stay in a relationship and focus on the reasons that matter most to you rather than trying to change your partner's behavior.
Please check out Dr. Chavonne and all of her amazing offerings including the episode Matthew and I recored for her podcast about our experience in her program, the Marriage Upgrade.
Dr. Chavonne Instagram and link to all of her offerings
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
In this first episode of a three part series, I welcome my personal marriage coach, the brilliant Dr. Chavonne to discuss navigating relationships and alcohol change. We explore the complexities of relationships and how they can impact personal growth, especially when dealing with alcohol-related changes. Dr. Chavonne shares insights on making changes within a partnership, managing a partner's reactions, setting boundaries, and emphasizes the importance of running your own race when it comes to personal transformation. This episode is a note taker and goes beyond just intimate relationships
Key Takeaways:
- Individual Journeys: Making changes related to alcohol should primarily be an individual journey, even within a partnership, as each person has their unique experiences and reasons for change.
- Managing Partner's Reactions: When one partner starts making changes, the other may rebel or react differently. Patience and acceptance are crucial during the adjustment period.
- Transitions and Boundaries: Recognize that transitions are part of personal growth. Setting boundaries and allowing an adjustment period can help maintain harmony in the relationship.
- Tolerating Negative Emotion: It's essential to build the capacity to tolerate negative emotions without relying on changing circumstances entirely for emotional well-being.
- Non-Attachment and Authenticity: When discussing changes with a partner, do so authentically but without attachment to their immediate understanding or acceptance, allowing them to process at their pace.
Don't miss the next two episodes where we dive even further into the dynamics of navigating love and alcohol. It's an opportunity to dive deeper into your relationship with yourself and your loved ones.
Please check out Dr. Chavonne and all of her amazing offerings including the episode Matthew and I recored for her podcast about our experience in her program, the Marriage Upgrade.
Dr. Chavonne Instagram and link to all of her offerings
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Unpacking the Weight of Expectations
Have you ever felt the weight of expectations when it comes to drinking? I know I have, and it's a trigger that many of us face. Whether it's about conforming to societal norms or appeasing others, the feeling of being expected to drink can be a significant challenge.
Breaking Down Expectations: A New Perspective
Examine the idea of expectations. Often, they stem from what's considered "normal." We explore the thought process behind expectations and how they can impact our behavior, both personally and in social settings.
Stepping into Empathy: Seeing from the Other's Perspective
Ever wondered how others perceive your choices around drinking? I invite you to put yourself in their shoes. Imagine a scenario where someone else's drinking choices differ from what's expected. How would you react? This exercise helps us better understand the dynamics of expectations and judgments.
Embracing Authenticity: Rewriting Your Story
True authenticity comes when we break free from the confines of expectations. We discuss how rewriting our stories empowers us to show up authentically, no matter the circumstance. It's about releasing the notion that others dictate how we should behave.
Manifestation and Energy: Shaping Our Interactions
Our energy and beliefs have a profound impact on our interactions with others. We explore how our thoughts and emotions influence how people perceive us and respond to us. It's a reminder that our energy plays a crucial role in shaping our experiences.
The Power of Choice: Choosing Our Reactions
Ultimately, we have the power to choose our reactions to others' expectations. By focusing on our energy, intentions, and grounded presence, we can navigate situations authentically. It's about freeing ourselves from the constraints of assumed expectations.
Embrace Vulnerability: Challenge for the Week
As we wrap up this episode, I offer you a challenge: for the upcoming week, pay close attention to situations where you sense expectations from others. Reflect on whether these expectations are truly from them or if they stem from your assumptions. Embrace your vulnerability and authentic self, and observe how your energy transforms the dynamics.
Thank you for joining me on this journey of authenticity and self-discovery. Remember, you're not alone in navigating these waters. Feel free to share your insights, questions, or experiences with me via email mary@marywagstaffcoach.com.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Transform your relationship with alcohol by focusing on yourself. Discover how to fulfill your needs without alcohol's help. Understand your body's signals, leverage your emotions, and expand your desires for real, lasting pleasure.
Join "The Naturally Sober Woman" self-study course, where you'll learn everything I teach my clients in a compact, affordable, lifetime access package.
Why one and done when it comes to drinking is the dream that leads to deprivation.
Unpacking the Why Behind the Dream
Why do we yearn for that solitary drink? What is it about that one drink that holds such allure? These questions are where we start our journey. It's not about judging ourselves; it's about understanding our motivations and the stories we tell ourselves.
Cue, Craving, Routine, Reward: The Cognitive Model
We explore the cognitive model of cue, craving, routine, and reward. We uncover the intricate dance between these elements when it comes to our relationship with alcohol. From the trigger of being out with friends to the release of dopamine in our brains, we unravel the psychology behind our cravings.
Why One is Never Enough: Unraveling the Chemical Response
Ever wondered why that elusive "one and done" remains out of reach? It's because of the profound chemical responses happening within us. We're demystifying the connection between rewards, dopamine, and our behavior. I invite you to free yourself from any self-judgment and realize that your brain simply associates alcohol with reward.
Natural Pleasures vs. Artificial Rewards
What about natural pleasures and authentic rewards? We explore the beauty of experiencing wonder, awe, and joy without relying on external substances. From sunsets to laughter with friends, we have countless opportunities to find sustainable, natural rewards that align with our values.
Redefining the Reward
How do you reshape your reward system? By shifting our focus from the routine of drinking to the genuine connections and experiences, we create a more profound and lasting sense of fulfillment. It's about pausing during cravings, re-routing our associations, and finding alignment with our values.
Exploring the Aftermath: The Myth of "One"
Ever noticed how that "one" drink never truly satisfies? We dissect the aftermath of that solitary drink, examining the physical and emotional changes within us. We learn that alcohol's effects often lead us feeling worse than before. It's a thought-provoking exploration that encourages us to question the dream of "just one."
Your Empowered Choice: Understanding Your Journey
Remember that you are on a unique journey. Your relationship with alcohol is yours to define and shape. By understanding the stories we tell ourselves and embracing our powerful intuition, we can make mindful choices aligned with our true desires.
You are beautifully powerful and intuitive, and I am here to support you every step of the way.
Love,
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Unexpected things happen in life, often. How does your naturally sober self show up? How can you decide ahead of time who you will be in light of challenging situations? Today we will explore the power of deciding ahead of time and how to handle the unexpected in a way that aligns with the version of the woman you are awakening to on the other side of alcohol.
- The Birthright of Sobriety: Your birthright is the path of living fully aligned with your true self. Understand that the conditioned behavior of drinking is merely a learned response. You're naturally designed for sobriety, and the addictive aspects of alcohol are just learned patterns. Alcohol's impact lies beyond its social implications and resides in its addictive chemistry.
- Boundaries Aligned with Values: Just as you set boundaries in relationships based on values, consider alcohol as something that can be outside of your personal boundaries. Recognize that regardless of how you rationalize or negotiate with it, alcohol remains an addictive chemical that stimulates pleasure responses in your body.
- Building Emotional Resilience: We explore the process of building emotional resilience, especially during unexpected and challenging moments. Instead of turning to alcohol to numb or escape, allow yourself to experience the full spectrum of emotions that arise. By tuning into your body and emotions, you create a foundation of strength and inner stability.
- The Power of Intent and Alignment: Decide ahead of time how you want to respond when the unexpected occurs. Align with your core values and self-concept to determine who you want to be in those moments. Embrace your sovereignty and create a conscious commitment to your emotional well-being, anchoring yourself in alignment.
- Embracing the Human Experience: Dive into the profound wisdom of fully embracing your human experience. Reject the distractions and noise of the external world by centering yourself in the present moment and your personal growth journey. Explore your emotions, learn from your reactions, and evolve as a beautifully intuitive individual.
As we navigate through various perspectives and life situations, remember that this podcast is a safe space for exploring different opinions. Open your mind to diverse viewpoints and contemplate how they resonate with your own journey. Always come back to the importance of feeling, understanding, and embracing your emotions, so you can show up fully present, aligned with your values, and resilient in the face of the unexpected.
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Today, we're diving into the power of befriending boredom.
Here's what you can expect from today's episode:
1. Retrospective Planning: Setting Ourselves Up for Success**
We'll kick things off by exploring the transformative concept of retrospective planning. This technique isn't just about looking back, it's about celebrating wins, identifying what didn't work, and creating a blueprint for future success. I'll share how this approach, which I often use with my clients, applies to all areas of life and helps us navigate challenges with grace.
2. Letting Go of Expectations**
Expectations can be both our allies and our adversaries. We'll chat about the radical power of releasing expectations, especially when dealing with situations involving others. By focusing on our own actions and responses, we can embrace a neutral perspective that opens the door to a more harmonious existence.
3. Embracing Boredom: A Feminine Approach to Planning**
Boredom – it's something most of us experience, yet rarely analyze. Today, we'll explore boredom from a fresh perspective, linking it to the feminine approach of planning life. Discover how boredom offers a unique opportunity for self-discovery, dreaming, and tapping into your own worth beyond productivity.
4. Alcohol, Boredom, and Rewiring Emotions**
We'll look at the intriguing connection between boredom and the desire for alcohol. I'll discuss how alcohol can temporarily mask boredom by altering our thought patterns and triggering pleasure responses. However, true transformation comes from rewiring our emotional responses to circumstances rather than relying on external substances.
5. Unlocking the Potential of Boredom**
The importance of questioning the thoughts that generate boredom. By reevaluating these thoughts and examining their validity, we can reframe our experience of boredom and recognize it as an opportunity for creativity, relaxation, and personal growth.
Join me on this enlightening journey as we explore the depths of boredom, expectations, and the power of introspection. Don't forget to share this episode with someone who could benefit from a new perspective on life's daily challenges. And if you're enjoying the podcast, I'd love to hear your thoughts – leave a review and let's keep the conversation going!
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Explore the art of embracing transitions and cultivating a deep connection with our inner voices. In today's episode, I want to dive into the power of honoring the shifts that life brings our way, whether they're big or small. Here's a sneak peek of what we'll be discussing:
- Shifting Perspectives: Let's start by acknowledging and appreciating the intention you've brought to this podcast – a dedication to reconnecting with the voice within that might have been forgotten or overlooked due to life's distractions.
- Unearthing the Forgotten: We'll explore the concept of unearthing the inner voice that might have been dulled by various life experiences, societal norms, and distractions. This journey is about paying attention, being curious, and rekindling that profound connection.
- Feminine Mysteries and Rites of Passage: Delve into the unexplored territories of the feminine experience and the unique gifts women possess, such as the ability to feel emotions deeply and experience their bodies cyclically. It's about embracing these aspects without judgment or suppression.
- Transitions and Change: We'll navigate the tricky terrain of transitions – whether it's changing locations, routines, or mindsets. Discover the beauty of allowing yourself to fully feel these transitions, even the uncomfortable ones, as part of your growth.
- Shifting into Sobriety and Self-Concept: I'll share personal insights into my journey of embracing sobriety and how it ties into the concept of self. Sobriety isn't just about removing alcohol; it's about embracing your humanness, becoming fully present, and reshaping your self-concept in the midst of life's changes.
Join me as we uncover the art of honoring transitions, embracing change with grace, and crafting a self-concept that resonates with your most authentic and empowered self. Remember, my dear listeners, every transition is an opportunity for growth, so let's step into that power together!
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Today we're diving into a fascinating belief that has permeated our modern world: deprivation. I firmly believe that this concept of deprivation doesn't truly exist. Join me as we explore definitions, challenge societal norms, and shift our perspective on alcohol, intuitive drinking, and liberation.
In this episode, we'll cover:
- The overuse of the term "deprivation" and its implications on our beliefs as humans.
- Definitions of deprivation and why alcohol doesn't fit into them.
- Examining intuitive drinking and how it doesn't align with true intuition.
- How societal norms have betrayed the sacred feminine, leading to the prevalence of drinking.
- Shifting away from beliefs that create deprivation and embracing those that lead to liberation.
- The importance of examining our beliefs and redefining our relationship with alcohol.
So if you've been curious about what it truly means to liberate yourself from the shackles of deprivation and align with your authentic self, this episode is for you. Share it with someone who can benefit from this journey of self-discovery and transformation. Let's awaken to a life beyond alcohol and embrace the freedom that comes with it.
Liberation is just around the corner, and I can't wait to embark on this empowering journey with you. Stay curious, stay open, and let's explore the endless possibilities together.
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Today we explore the profound relationship between addiction and the lack of connection. We'll uncover how addiction is all about seeking connection, both externally and internally, and how it stems from a disconnection with our true selves.
In this podcast, we'll challenge conventional beliefs about addiction, especially when it comes to alcohol. Let's break free from the stigma and explore the notion that addiction is a product of behavior and beliefs, not a permanent identity. Today you'll discover how connection and self-awareness can lead to lasting change and liberation from alcohol.
Here's a glimpse of what we'll explore in this episode:
- The deep connection between addiction and a lack of connection to oneself.
- The intersection of behavior and belief in understanding addiction.
- Exploring the idea of moderation and its ties to addiction.
- Dissecting the outdated notion of addiction as a permanent identity.
- The impact of beliefs on our experience with alcohol and how they can be shifted.
- Dismantling the social stigmas around alcohol and its addictive nature.
- How true connection with oneself can lead to a life beyond alcohol.
If you're seeking freedom from the narrative of alcohol and a deeper connection with yourself, this podcast is for you. Tune in and get ready to embrace your sober self and reconnect with the most natural part of you beyond the constructs of culture.
Get support to create a nurturing inner landscape for you to nourish and birth you gifts into the world with greater ease.
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The wait of alcohol lives in your head, natural sobriety lives in your body...it's your birth-rite. In this episode, I delve into the journey of natural sobriety and the profound impact of reconnecting with our bodies. I discuss how alcohol acts as a dissociative, pulling us away from our body's natural cues and sensations. By embracing natural sobriety, we can uncover the innate wisdom our bodies hold, guiding us towards what truly serves us. I share a personal experience of attuning to my dog's energy, grounding both of us, and experiencing a profound release of neuroses. Through this journey, I invite listeners to explore their body's wisdom, tap into their intuition, and make decisions aligned with their naturally sober selves.
Being in the body out of the head. (2:53)
How to overcome habits and learn behavior. (4:21)
Intentionally softening your heart. (6:38)
How to listen to your body’s messages. (9:08)
What does it feel like in your body? (14:18)
Create an identity for sensation.
Ask yourself what does it feel like in your body.
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The biggest difference between deprivation and liberation is creativity. Today, I delve into the profound connection between creativity and living an alcohol-free life. Sobriety has opened up a wellspring of creativity and cognitive abilities for me, allowing me to tap into a level of inspiration that was previously untapped.
By removing alcohol from our lives, we can awaken our brains and experience a constant flow of new ideas and content creation. Sobriety is not a guarantee for everyone, but it has been a transformative experience for me personally.
I explore the concept of the "alcohol brain" and how accepting the presence of an addictive neurotoxin is essential in our journey towards sobriety. Fostering a creative environment and embracing new perspectives can lead us to a naturally sober life filled with inspiration, personal growth, and meaningful experiences.
Sobriety opens up creativity. (2:08)
The intersection of belief and behavior. (4:03)
The importance of creativity in social media. (6:15)
Creativity comes in so many forms and forms. (8:49)
Creativity is a requirement for living a deprivation-free life. (10:37)
The process of going beyond alcohol. (12:41)
How to choose your naturally sober self. (19:44)
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In this episode we explore the thought you are telling yourself on repeat in some form or another, alcohol is a problem, I've got a problem, there's a problem! This ONE thought is compounding your desire to drink.
Today I pose the question, what if the only problem is you thinking there is one?
Oftentimes, the bigger problem lies in our own perception rather than in the alcohol itself.
Here are the key points discussed in the episode:
- Challenging the notion of alcohol as a problem.
- Polarized views and societal expectations: The episode highlights the black-and-white thinking prevalent in society, where individuals are categorized as either "normal" or "alcoholic" drinkers. This binary approach fails to account for the complexity of people's relationships with alcohol.
- Unseen struggles and hidden behaviors: many individuals who drink regularly may be addicted to alcohol and face personal challenges that are not immediately apparent to others.
- The power of self-perception: the impact of labeling alcohol consumption as a problem and suggests reframing it as a desire for a different outcome. Shifting the focus to seeking new results can be empowering and inspiring.
- The conditioning and association of alcohol: the conditioning of the brain and the association of alcohol with positive emotions, celebrations, and various experiences. This conditioning contributes to the difficulty of making changes in one's relationship with alcohol.
The episode also touches on topics such as the biological response to alcohol, the importance of good sleep for regulating the nervous system, and the transformative journey of going beyond alcohol. It encourages listeners to embrace the liminal space, where personal growth and self-discovery occur, and to recognize that emotions are temporary and cannot harm them.
Need to catch up of the podcast? Go back to Ep #215- #219 & Mary's FAVORITE Ep. #220.
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Today we dive deep into the world of emotions and their profound impact on our lives. Join me on this intimate journey of self-discovery as we explore the power of vulnerability, conscious relationships, and personal growth and how it relates to your experience with alcohol.
Let's embrace our emotions, liberate ourselves from external validation, and empower ourselves to live authentically.
In this episode, we'll cover:
- The transformative power of creating space for self-reflection and exploration.
- Understanding the importance of consciously identifying and communicating our needs and expectations in relationships.
- Liberating ourselves from seeking external validation and finding our worth from within.
- Embracing change and making choices aligned with our core values.
- Recognizing that we are deserving of love, support, and personal growth.
So, grab a cozy blanket, get comfortable, and let's embark on this beautiful journey of embracing our emotions and empowering ourselves to live our best lives. Remember, you are worthy of all the love and fulfillment life has to offer.
Need to catch up of the podcast? Go back to Ep #215- #219 & Mary's FAVORITE Ep. #220.
Introducing Beyond Alcohol 1:1 Coaching Mentorship: a solution that aligns with you personally. End the exhaustion & the feeling of being stuck. Imagine the relief of support when you need it, over coming urges & managing your thinking. No more wasted time and money, this program is designed for your inevitable success. Apply to Beyond Alcohol.
Ready to take this work deeper, stop drinking and reclaim your wholeness? Get the proven strategy, accountability and support you deserve....
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We explore manifesting alcohol freedom and creating relief on demand. Discover the transformative power of intuitive drinking, energetic clearing, and reality revealing.
Mary takes you on a journey to embrace your emotions and create space for emotional well-being. Gain clarity on the thoughts and emotions associated with drinking and uncover hidden truths about alcohol's impact on your life.
Learn practical techniques for energetic realignment and letting go of limiting beliefs. Find joy in being present and manifesting the change you seek.
Don't miss this empowering discussion that combines introspection, emotional processing, and practical tools to help you manifest alcohol freedom and relief on demand.
Episode Highlights:
- The power of intuitive drinking and emotional validation
- Energetic clearing and releasing limiting beliefs
- Unveiling the truth about alcohol's impact
- Techniques for realignment and letting go
- Finding joy and relief in the present moment
Note: This episode is part of a larger series on the "Five Shifts" for creating your best life. Check the show notes for access to the complete series.
Need to catch up of the podcast? Go back to Ep #215- #219 & Mary's FAVORITE Ep. #220.
Introducing Beyond Alcohol 1:1 Coaching Mentorship: a solution that aligns with you personally. End the exhaustion & the feeling of being stuck. Imagine the relief of support when you need it, over coming urges & managing your thinking. No more wasted time and money, this program is designed for your inevitable success. Apply to Beyond Alcohol.
Ready to take this work deeper, stop drinking and reclaim your wholeness? Get the proven strategy, accountability and support you deserve....
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Do you ever find yourself paralyzed by indecision, fearing the worst case scenario? Meg Gluckman, a coach for divorced moms, joins us to share her insights on how to move past these fears and take action in our lives. Discover why our brains tend to focus on worst case scenarios, and how getting specific about our fears can help us make the best decisions for ourselves.
In this empowering conversation, we dive into the importance of realizing that there is no "right" or "wrong" decision in most situations. Meg shares her process for helping clients identify and plan for their worst case scenarios, especially in the realms of divorce and co-parenting. We also discuss the layers of support available to us, from regulating our nervous system to utilizing our intuition and emotional intelligence.
Lastly, we explore the concept of 'playing the tape forward' and how it applies to decisions we make in our lives. Learn how this approach can help us think through the potential consequences of our decisions and envision a future that we want to create. Don't miss this enlightening episode with Meg Gluckman, as we discuss how to overcome worst case scenarios and move towards a more positive future.
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Introducing Beyond Alcohol 1:1 Coaching Mentorship: a solution that aligns with you personally. End the exhaustion & the feeling of being stuck. Imagine the relief of support when you need it, over coming urges & managing your thinking. No more wasted time and money, this program is designed for your inevitable success. Apply to Beyond Alcohol.
Ready to take this work deeper, stop drinking and reclaim your wholeness? Get the proven strategy, accountability and support you deserve....
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Summer is a the best time of the year for more fun and joy, but it can also be party central when it comes to drinking.
However, the summer months hold a wonderful opportunity for you to connect more with your intuition, your real preferences and the natural feel good chemicals that are boosted with more sun, community and an innate feeling of natural freedom.
Today on the show learn:
- 3 steps to uncovering the power of summer to make drinking less easy and carefree.
- why Summer is an opportunity to experience life without alcohol.
- The importance of embodied self-inquiry.
- learning to be alone
- Examining and re-exploring past decisions about people, places and circumstances.
- The Deconditioning process.
- What 1:1 coaching is really about
When you are ready to dive deeper into getting to refine your intuition, schedule a private call with Mary : HERE.
Introducing Beyond Alcohol 1:1 Coaching Mentorship: a solution that aligns with you personally. End the exhaustion, the feeling of being stuck. Imagine the relief of support when you need it, discovering your true self without alcohol in the way. No more wasted time and money. I can help you 100%. Reclaim your life. Together, we'll conquer the impossible, find freedom from the exhaustion of alcohol. Apply to Beyond Alcohol.
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The innovative and intuitive, Khadi Olywatoyin, founder of Sober Black Girls Club is back for another conversation about alcohol being the door way to finding yourself again, for the first time.
Khadi and I explore the topics of WHY turn to alcohol in the first place and how the process of becoming sober can truly be the best ways to learn all of the things your parents never taught you.
- Paying attention to what’s going on inside.
- Shifting from validation to a foundation of self and safety.
- Stress cycles as a first line of defense.
- Hormones and the moon phases
- Unpacking the american dream.
- The importance of self-improvement and community.
- Budgeting for the future of an adult.
- The importance of self-confidence and improvement
- The difference between dissociation and embodiment.
- Embracing how YOU connect to source
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Do you believe that being alcohol-free is the only way to quit drinking?
In today's episode on Stop Drinking and Start Living, we challenge that notion. 🎙️
We explore the idea that learning to drink less is a journey towards no longer desiring alcohol, and it is indeed a skill that can be acquired. 🚀
By simply abstaining from drinking, you may find yourself fixating on alcohol due to your unchanged perspective. Quitting drinking involves committing to a process of acquiring a new skill set that prioritizes self-care and self-empowerment.
Join me in today's show as we delve into the steps you can take to embark on this transformative journey:
- Being ready: The process of unlearning alcohol (2:45) ⏰
- Regulating your nervous system: One circumstance at a time (5:08) 🧘♂️
- Refining your intuition: A key aspect of the process (7:50) 🔍
- The impact on other areas of life: Why this work matters (9:32) 🌟
- "Getting ready" triggers and expediting results (12:15) ⚡
- Decision-making from your future self (14:40) 🤔
- No longer desiring alcohol: The positive impact on your life (16:22) ✨
- Adding value to your life: Strategies for personal growth (17:01) 🌱
- The three-step strategy: Your roadmap to drinking less (18:46) 🗺️
If you're seeking an easier way to reduce your alcohol consumption, moderation might not be the answer. Discover how to leverage the warmth of these days to support your transformation. ☀️
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
Ready to get ready? Schedule a free private call HERE with Mary and learn:
- The 3 steps to go from fear to being ready.
- What is required of you to become the Woman who no longer cares about being able to have “just one.”
- How you can be done with alcohol overwhelm, for good.
What if your addiction to alcohol was the best thing that ever happened to you? What if it was your soul telling you stop, look within and reevaluate life and everything you have ever been told/sold?
On today's show Liam Browne, the founder of Stone Cold Sober Events and Full Powered Cacao, share's how his beliefs about societies expectations were what lead to drug use and depression in the first place and how through conscious practices and spirituality, he was able to reclaim the utopian life that is a birth-rite for us all.
- Yoga teacher as a guide to self realization
- The distortion of sacred ceremonies. 6:31
- Filling the void through spiritual journeying 12:32
- Cacao & Cacao Ceremonies 24:46
- Conscious Connecting & sobriety through spiritual practices 38:07
Find Liam and all of his wonderful offerings:
Stone Cold Sober Festival June 17th -21st 2023!
Full Power Cacao 20% off your first order with code: fullpower2012
Liam Browne : Dealer To Healer
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
Ready to get ready? Schedule a free private call HERE with Mary and learn:
- The 3 steps to go from fear to being ready.
- What is required of you to become the Woman who no longer cares about being able to have “just one.”
- How you can be done with alcohol overwhelm, for good.
If believing is seeing that we can create any reality we want.
They say is true with alcohol.
Our perceptions of the world and what it means to drink less are going to have a direct impact on the emotions fueling drinking less.
If we think we are broken, it will be a struggle.
If we think drinking less is a form of empowerment and evolution, an act of feminism,
it will change how we show up for ourselves and creating change.
Getting there can be challenging if you don't have evidence from a first hand lived experience. You need something stronger than a mantra to get you there.
Using the values that you already hold true in many other areas of life, will be your bridge to the other side of believing
In today's episode, you will uncover:
- areas of your life where changing your beliefs changed your results
- how your beliefs about alcohol and quitting are shaping your experience
- why values are the foundation of your support to get from where you are to where you want to go.
- ways to apply your values when not drinking.
- how to find your values
- what it means to be in alignment to your values
- the impact it has on your life and relationship to self
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
Ready to get ready? Schedule a free private call HERE with Mary and learn:
- The 3 steps to go from fear to being ready.
- What is required of you to become the Woman who no longer cares about being able to have “just one.”
- How you can be done with alcohol overwhelm, for good.
Have you ever asked your self Fck what?
When you say screw it and throw in the towel to not drinking, what are you really saying?
In today's episode we dive deeper into the self betrayal that is Fck it, how to plan for it and what to do instead.
You can trust your self around alcohol and start become the person who does what they say they are going to do.
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
- Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call HERE to end the shame spiral today so you can wake up with RELIEF and not regret.
F*ck forever.
Life is happening now.
Focusing on FOREVER has your mind spinning in a future out of your control.
Without alcohol your first time out on the water this summer, your birthday and back yard bbq’s.
Forever creates a void in your mind.
An empty space where alcohol use to occupy.
You can’t even fathom it.
It doesn’t make sense.
Alcohol is a grain of sand in the scheme of life.
But with a mind FULL of to drink or not drink, alcohol feels like a boulder.
In the beginning, all you can focus on is what will be missing.
So start here instead:
You know what the morning will feel like if you don’t drink.
Take your mind to 12 hours from now. Not next year.
I wish I would have drank last night, (said no one ever).
Feel the freedom of waking up refreshed and order an iced tea.
Sit in the pride of doing something different.
Learn the 3 reasons why I don't let my clients use the word FOREVER in our coaching and what to do when your mind takes you to a future nostalgic moment.
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
- Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call HERE to end the shame spiral today so you can wake up with RELIEF and not regret.
Alcohol doesn't make you happy, but you are stuck there. WHY?!?
The most powerful parts of your experience as a Woman is your access to your intuition, your emotional intelligence and the wisdom of your body.
Alcohol suppresses all three.
You know deep down that it's not all there is.
That it's not the choice of deprivation or moderation...that to reinvent yourself beyond alcohol requires liberation.
To make alcohol unimportant is the point so you can be at the center of change and your life.
Today I share an amazing episode where I was interviewed by Gretchen Fox Palmer for her podcast Leading With Pleasure. Check out episode #4 : Pleasure vs. Patriarchy, show for some deeper inquiry into this topic of what feminine oppression looks like in our modern world.
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
- Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call HERE to end the shame spiral today so you can wake up with RELIEF and not regret.
The ME TOO movement I wasn’t expecting...🌹
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When I started sharing, I found most Women felt the same way about drinking as I did...ready for a big change.
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The more honest I was about my relationship to alcohol,
Women came out to the wood work.
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Now I say it louder for the women in the back, unapologetically. And because of it, my clients and I are creating a paradigm shift that is rippling out across the planet.
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Quitting alcohol is a leveling up, not a step back. 💃🏽
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Shift #5 moving from Isolation To Celebration is where we take your self concept next level.
No one is going to mess with you for accomplishing the biggest change in your life.
And if they do, send them to me.
I’m on a missing to deshame drinking and quitting.
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
- Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call HERE to end the shame spiral today so you can wake up with RELIEF and not regret.
You've tried to quit before, but always seem to fall back into old habits. One of the biggest mistakes women make when quitting drinking is just trying to forget about it and move on. This approach will actually strengthen the power alcohol has in your subconscious mind.
Instead, it's important to take your mind from quitting alcohol to committing to learning a new way. All of the thoughts about alcohol running the show need to be examined, and the only way out is through. You may have tried to avoid and look the other way, but this approach simply doesn't work.
In this episode, we discuss the importance of taking a position and focusing on a new self-concept. Quitting alcohol isn't something you can just check off a list – it's a journey of self-discovery.
We also dive into the benefits of seeking accountability and following a clear process, such as in the private coach container Beyond Alcohol. You'll learn how to identify those times when you are not making decisions from truth, how to recommit and come back to your life intention again and again.
The first step in any commitment is a decision, and your next step could be to book a Zoom call with our expert. Don't let alcohol control your life any longer – it's time to take control and start your journey to a better, healthier you.
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
- Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call HERE to end the shame spiral today so you can wake up with RELIEF and not regret.
You are sick of waking up with regret.
You want to feel good about yourself.
You want the day to feel like an adventure, not a dull half existence.
There is a spiral of shame and judgment for not being able to quit drinking, for drinking , for not being able to control it. The list goes on.
**So you start NEW things, add new routines, more actions and information to your already stressful mind.
How many unopened courses are in your inbox? (we've all been there)**
**But you take your overwhelmed mind with you and quit those too. Your resentful of your husband who can have one and leave it, so you eat cookies and that makes you feel like shit, so why not have a drink and say screw it.
The cycle begins again.**
Welcome shift #3 from shame and judgement me move to compassion.
Be kind to yourself no matter what. Offer yourself compassion for being human and crushing it everyday.
**You must learn to you meet the needs of emotions so you don’t have to rely on alcohol to do that for you.
Happy? drink. Sad? drink. Depressed, frustrated, aroused?...All emotions lead to drinking, but what it’s really doing is over riding those emotions, not supporting them.
It's invalidating and numbing them.**
You can start small. Use the words you would to someone you love. Start with something neutral. Humans have emotions. Emotions create sensations in the body. This is normal.
**I can help you uncover the exact place that will trip you up every time that you think you can't handle and show you just how powerful you truly are.
You need a plan and to know what words to say and then keep practicing.
Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call, end the shame spiral today and wake up tomorrow morning, regret free.**
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
- Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call HERE to end the shame spiral today so you can wake up with RELIEF and not regret.
Stop Worrying About Alcohol
You are ready to end the tireless confusion. Welcome to shift # 2 in the 5 shifts process.
We move from Conformity & Confusion to Curiosity.
You are worried about every area of change from drinking to quitting to the vacation that hasn't happened and the best way to that is through the lens of curiosity rather than conformity.
You haven't fully examined the narrative of alcohol. You have been taking alcohol is normal at face value.
Conformity happens when your to join another group / have someother label but it hasn’t worked because it's doesn't actually solve the problem.
Confusion is when you spin in regret and keep wondering why do I keep doing the same things I no longer want to be.
This keeps reinforcing the same thoughts that keeps you stuck.
Learn what to do when your mind gets confused and how to uncover your own truth and genius.
The only way out isn't by joining another group, it's by uncovering YOUR truth.
Even if you are overwhelmed by urges and think you have tried "everything" today's episode will help you find the solution to meet you where you are, no matter what you have tried in the past.
Apply for private coaching with Mary and schedule your free alignment session, today.
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
- Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call HERE to end the shame spiral today so you can wake up with RELIEF and not regret.
You want to feel confident walking down the wine isle.
You want alcohol to be unimportant. You don’t want to make it a big deal and have to explain it or talk about it.
YOU can't make it unimportant in your life until you make it unimportant to yourself.
So you’ve try avoiding it or accepting you fate.
**But it because the pink elephant and that's all you can think about.
Start by learning to see your thoughts and observe them, rather than fumbling around in the dark.
1:1 Coaching with Mary is the next best step to practice these tools, so they can become your new habit. Apply today!**
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
- Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call HERE to end the shame spiral today so you can wake up with RELIEF and not regret.
📣calling all conscious Women ready to evolve BEYOND alcohol and the need to seek alteration.
We look at a new relationship to alcohol as an empowered change that meets our growing needs as women on our journey of awakening.
Our authenticity in every moment is a gateway into rewilding and reconnecting with the divine feminine.
Alcohol is becoming less of a desired way to engage and connect to self and in community.
However, cultural narratives, habit and conditioning can make this a challenge to stay in alignment to your growing awareness of self and values.
This can leave you feeling shameful and confused about the next best step. Create a new frequency this spring break.
Looking to make the most of your spring break? In this 2-week workshop series, discover how to enjoy your downtime without relying on alcohol and learn mindfulness practices to rejuvenate your mind.
Spring break is the perfect time to unwind and create lasting memories with your loved ones. But too often, we rely on alcohol to help us relax and enjoy the moment. This can lead to regrets, missed opportunities, and a less-than-optimal vacation experience.
This workshop is designed to help you find true enjoyment in your spring break without resorting to alcohol. We'll start by exploring your beliefs around drinking, and then we'll dive into mindfulness practices that will help you stay present and focused throughout your vacation.
Whether you're planning a staycation or a trip to the beach, I will teach you the tools you need to make the most of your downtime. You'll learn how to go for a hike, catch up on your reading, and truly be present with your loved ones, all while feeling relaxed, rejuvenated, and ready for anything.
So if you're ready to throw a better spring break than you've ever had before, I invite you to join me on this exciting journey. Let's make this the best vacation yet!
Grab the replay if you can't join live.
Invite a sister friend.
This event is for Women +. Thank you! -
REGISTER HERE
Mar 14, 2023 11:00 AM
Mar 21, 2023 11:00 AM
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
- Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call HERE to end the shame spiral today so you can wake up with RELIEF and not regret.
Does life feel like it's happening to you? Your kids don’t listen. Your spouse remembers nothing. You keep having health concerns. The god damn weather.
Nothing how you would have planned it.
But here’s the thing...
**The reason you don’t have what you want isnt’ because life is happening to you.
Your expectations have over ridden your intentions.
You just like 7 billion people in the world want something to happen, FOR THEM.**
Try to change jobs, change all the external things, get all the medications and doctors, drink.
You look OUT THERE.
**You neglected the root cause of your disappointment and suffering and that is your attachment to our expectations and desires.
You need to take a step back and understand what your intention is that has nothing to do with anyone and completely within your control.**
The 5 Shifts process I use with my clients aligns o**ur intuition and intention with our values and what we truly want, not just to be right, but to be HAPPY.
When we know the difference between out expectations and intention, we can solve any problem.**
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
- Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call HERE to end the shame spiral today so you can wake up with RELIEF and not regret.
Today's show is an uncut, raw version of me sharing some intimate emotions of my personal life and the profound impact being a holistic alcohol coach has had on me and my clients. If you want a good cry, this is the place.
I read a deeply heartfelt share of the impact alcohol had on my client Laura, and the impact coaching and mindfulness has had on her life.
How she is the hero in her journey, and how she continues to keep showing up for the tough stuff, but with alcohol out of the way, she has the tools for resilience and perseverance .
There is something in Laura's story for everyone.
Thank you Laura for your bravery and heart felt expression and thank you to everyone who listened for holding space for this heartfelt share.
Today's Take aways:
- The next step to take after the podcast
- There’s alcohol and then there is life
- The power of allowing yourself to believe something new
- Our purpose is next-level
- Alcohol is full of shit
- What changes after alcohol
- This is why I do this work.
- The impact of the 5 Shifts free training.
There's alcohol, and then there's everything else. Literally. As my amazing client Laura shares in the most intimate and beautiful email to me.
"Back when I use to see out alcohol related functions rather than experiencing EVERYTHING life has to offer."
We aren't doing any of this alone. It as as much my journey as I am here for you, so you can pave the way for the next person. This is how we make a better world, together.
All my love,
Mary
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
- Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call HERE to end the shame spiral today so you can wake up with RELIEF and not regret.
The hidden costs of alcohol are often where many of your unmet needs live that make you want to drink more, keeping you stuck in a vicious problem/solution cycle.
The good news is, when you actually, start to uncover and meet your needs that appear as problems, the desire for alcohol goes away, AND, Mom's a happy camper. (we all know everyone wins!)
It's totally okay to take sometime on a Friday night for yourself to rest or go for a walk, rather than have a 'party of one", just so you can be home, only to postpone the guilt of not being with the family to the next day because you had a few too many.
These costs affect every area of your life. Because of the amazing humans we are, our ability to adapt creates a new norm and the impact has become normalized, unrecognized and therefore unexamined.
The fact that you WANT change and you FEEL the imbalance is a great thing! It's telling you: hold on sister, We are NOT done yet.
During the episode, we touch on:
- The impact of alcohol on our physical health and well-being, including the long-term effects it can have on our bodies.
- The way alcohol can affect our relationships with loved ones, as well as our ability to form new connections and build strong bonds.
- The hidden costs of alcohol, such as missed opportunities and unrealized potential, as well as the financial impact it can have.
- The importance of our relationship with ourselves, and how alcohol can hold us back from achieving our full potential and living our best lives.
By questioning the normalized impacts that alcohol has on your life, you can begin to uncover the areas where you aren't showing up like the creator of literal LIFE that you are.
Uncover the hidden costs of alcohol and expose the Woman of your dreams...
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
- Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call HERE to end the shame spiral today so you can wake up with RELIEF and not regret.
In today's podcast episode, #211, I discussed why confidence is a trigger for alcohol consumption and how it manifests in both short-term and long-term ways.
For example, a few days after a nasty hangover, you start to feel AMAZING in comparison. Your body has started to come back into balance. But rather than recognize this is because I'm NOT drinking. Your body and mind has associated natural pleasure with alcohol for so long, it thinks, I FEEL good, so it MUST be time for a drink
However, when we apply the 5 shifts process to this moment of confidence, it can lead to understanding more about your real needs are.
I also highlight the importance of being self-aware when it comes to the confidence trigger, and exploring the root cause of why one might feel confident in drinking again after an extended time away.
Through exploring this trigger, you can build new neural pathways and learn to meet their needs in a healthier and more fulfilling way.
- Understanding the confidence trigger is important in managing alcohol
- The confidence trigger can show up in short-term and long-term ways
- The moment of confidence is a moment of question and needs to be explored.
- People need to understand how they got to the place of confidence in the first place
- Understanding and exploring the origin of the confidence trigger holds the key to reprogramming the mind
- The addictive nature of alcohol needs to be acknowledged and the emotion needs to be allowed to surface in a safe and controlled environment
The present YOU, is ready for change.
It's simply the past version of you that needs to feel safe enough to let go.
Alcohol no longer fits the confident, proud version of yourself.
Using the 5 shifts process, you will align your perspectives with your values and achieve your desired outcomes.
Everything and more,
Mary
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
- Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call HERE to end the shame spiral today so you can wake up with RELIEF and not regret.
Today to celebrate the beginning of year four for the podcast and to share my thoughts on aligning with the future version of yourself that is free from alcohol.
As we celebrate this milestone, I want to take a moment to reflect on the journey so far and to thank you for being a part of this amazing community. I am proud of what we have accomplished and I am grateful for the lives that have been changed through this podcast.
My intention for being here is to help you get curious about what it would look like if you spent more time aligning with the future version of yourself that wants alcohol out of the way, that is ready for relief and freedom. I want to encourage you to listen to previous episodes and think about the wise and intuitive part of yourself that already knows what it feels like to be alcohol-free.
I know that there may be some resistance and fear when it comes to giving up alcohol, but I want to remind you that you are already free. The real part of you that is maturing and growing does not want alcohol anymore. However, there may be habits and thoughts that need to change in order for you to fully step into this new reality.
As I step into year four of the podcast, I want to encourage you to reassess your intention and realign with your values and who you are as you change. The question I want you to ask yourself about alcohol is how you can realign with your intention as you change and grow.
To celebrate with me, I would be grateful if you could take a moment to leave a five-star rating and a review on Apple Podcasts. This will help us reach even more people who need to hear this message and support the podcast to remain ad-free.
Thank you again for being a part of this journey and I look forward to continuing to support you on your journey to alcohol freedom.
If you want to drink less the easy way, moderation is NOT the way there.
You need to know how to take advantage of these warmer days to support you in your transformation.
Schedule a private consultation with Mary to learn how to drink less and end the moderation tactics for good.
Pick your best date and time HERE.
- Apply for 1:1 coaching with Mary and schedule your free call HERE to end the shame spiral today so you can wake up with RELIEF and not regret.
Did you know it's okay to laugh about your struggles and being drunk? Turns out it's a solution to your reaching your maximum potential.
In today's light hearted, value packed, podcast episode #209, there is a lot of laughing, so don't miss it.
I interview my amazing client, Monica to share her triumph to accessing maximum potential. Monica shares about how growing up in Spain and traveling the world as a dancer, alcohol was never even questioned as something you wouldn't do. It was everywhere, all the time.
As she shifted carriers to land in Germany with her husband and open her own Pilates studio, alcohol become more of a necessity that she felt controlled by. Most days were filled with low energy and anxiety about the beautiful life she had created.
She knew her attempts to do it alone hadn't worked and she needed support because she was exhausted from the daily cycle she was stuck in.
The moment Monica joined my private program, she felt instant relief: The day has finally come, was her thought.
Some of the topics Monica shares from her experience today:
- Opening your perspective and taking responsibility.
- It’s just your thoughts and your choice.
- The first month of feeling good.
- Stress created by alcohol.
- The importance of having a belief goal.
- The value of a coach’s support.
- Knowing who your drinking companions are.
- The first holiday she had alcohol-free.
- You can change your beliefs by changing your thoughts.
- The benefit of failure.
Plus so much more. Come to be inspired, stay to create change.
Monica, thank you for being such an graceful example of what's possible!
Enjoy the show!
Mary
Quitting drinking doesn't take more time, it takes new thinking.
You are focused on the wrong perspective: trying to change so alcohol can stick around, rather than changing so alcohol doesn’t matter.The faster you can get alcohol out of your MIND, the faster you can enjoy the beautiful life you have and the next goals you want to reach.Register Here for The Five Shifts
- Join Mary in her private coaching program and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
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In today's episode of the podcast, I will be discussing the concept of "awakening beyond alcohol" and how it's just the beginning of a journey towards self-discovery.
I will delve into the process of uncovering one's true self through the use of "craving trail" questions, as a tool to understand and reflect on one's habits, patterns, and triggers.
- I will be sharing examples with the "craving trail" and 5 shifts process and how it helped me gain insight into my relationship with alcohol.
- I will be discussing how the "craving trail" questions can be used as a tool to understand and reflect on one's habits, patterns, and triggers related to alcohol.
- I will be sharing tips on how to effectively use the "craving trail" method to gain insight into one's relationship with alcohol and to move forward in the journey of self-discovery.
- Additionally, I will touch on the concept of the feminine archetype, as it relates to the journey of self-discovery.
Using the "craving trail" and The 5 Shifts process, you will be able to gain insight into your habits, patterns, and triggers related to alcohol and take the first steps towards putting yourself first and seeing the limitless possibilities that come with self-discovery.
Please take a moment to subscribe, review and share this proufound work so we can make big lasting change together.
Mary
P.S: Quitting drinking doesn't take more time, or "being ready", it takes new thinking. Join me in my private coaching program and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
Client win of the week!" I am a much healthier stronger person because of your wisdom. I am so glad you put yourself out there and I found you. "
Quitting drinking doesn't take more time, it takes new thinking.
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- Join Mary in her private coaching program and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
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In this powerful podcast episode #207, I spotlight my awe inspiring client, Bonnie, as she comes full circle from being a listener of the show, to being an example of what's possible when you apply the tools in real time. As a mother of four, an entrepreneur, and a practitioner of yoga, her busy lifestyle led her to seek out support to help her manage her relationship with alcohol.
Bonnie shares that she first started drinking at the age of 14 as a way to numb the pain of big family transitions, grief and loss.
Sound that alcohol was always present in her adult life, and that it often consumed more of her mind than she wanted it to.
She shares that one of the biggest obstacles for her was asking for help, but that the disarming and supportive approach she gained from listening to the podcast, made her feel more open to trusting and letting go of her ego and pride.
Bonnie offers how the container provided by the coaching program helped her to let go and move forward quickly in her journey.
Bonnie shares:
- The practical side of making the program work for her.
- Tools for a life time she cultivated to get alcohol out of her way.
- How she easily "drops in" to her self, rather than checking out to achieve lasting relaxation.
- How she got to the place where alcohol is something that she no longer wants.
- How she moved through her habitual barriers for support.
- Shifting her self concept around alcohol and what's she's truly capable of.
Bonnie has been one of my greatest sources of inspiration for what is truly possible with the five shifts and just how deep it can take you. Thank you Bonnie for your presence, bravery and warn heart!
Quitting drinking doesn't take more time, it takes new thinking.
You are focused on the wrong perspective: trying to change so alcohol can stick around, rather than changing so alcohol doesn’t matter.The faster you can get alcohol out of your MIND, the faster you can enjoy the beautiful life you have and the next goals you want to reach.Register Here for The Five Shifts
- Join Mary in her private coaching program and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
- Register For the Free Training: Find Freedom To Alcohol In Five Shifts
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Quitting drinking is not about how much time you put into it - it's about adopting a new way of thinking and being willing to try something new.
In this podcast, we discuss the importance of new thinking and a willingness to try something new in the process of quitting drinking.
- Learn about the factors that can make quitting drinking easier
- Discover the importance of new thinking and a willingness to try something new in quitting drinking
- Explore the role of confidence, belief, and commitment in the process of quitting drinking
- Find out about the Fast Track To Freedom Program and how it can support you in quitting drinking
- Learn strategies and tools for quitting drinking and sticking with it
- Get motivated and inspired to make powerful changes in your relationship with alcohol
Quitting drinking doesn't take more time, it takes new thinking.
You are focused on the wrong perspective: trying to change so alcohol can stick around, rather than changing so alcohol doesn’t matter.The faster you can get alcohol out of your MIND, the faster you can enjoy the beautiful life you have and the next goals you want to reach.Register Here for The Five Shifts
- Join Mary in her private coaching program and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
- Register For the Free Training: Find Freedom To Alcohol In Five Shifts
- Make sure to tag, like, share and subscribe to the show!
- Follow Mary on Instagram HERE.
“You can’t solve a problem with the same mindset that created it.” -Albert Einstein
In this episode, we explore how mindfulness and intentional thinking can help us become more aware of our automatic thoughts and make more purposeful decisions about our relationship with alcohol. We'll discuss how to create a mindset that supports the vision of a life without drinking, and how to ultimately reach a point where not drinking is not even a thought. Tune in to learn more about how to fact check your mind and take control of your relationship with alcohol.
Quitting drinking doesn't take more time, it takes new thinking.
You are focused on the wrong perspective: trying to change so alcohol can stick around, rather than changing so alcohol doesn’t matter.The faster you can get alcohol out of your MIND, the faster you can enjoy the beautiful life you have and the next goals you want to reach.Register Here for The Five Shifts
- Join Mary in her private coaching program and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
- Register For the Free Training: Find Freedom To Alcohol In Five Shifts
- Make sure to tag, like, share and subscribe to the show!
- Follow Mary on Instagram HERE.
We dive DEEP today into reclaiming the "party girl" / rebel, as an exploration of the Wild Woman, innate in you. How do you break free, let loose, wile out, without alcohol?
Sacred Rebellion is regarding with high respect what YOU deem appropriate for yourself. Rebellion is against what someone else has deemed appropriate for you. Sacred Rebellion is not in a rebel without a cause way or a need to shame the other, but a reclamation of your own innate desires as an erotic women.
Alcohol until now has been your source of "rebellion", but you're still drinking what their selling.
Today's episode will answer the burning question "now what? is this all there is?"
The fear that you will loose your edge and your wild side.
What you think is your only access to being bold and free.
Why you have the desire to sometimes, check out and what that really means for your growth.
Sacred rebellion is the recognition that with alcohol you were never free or wild.
How alcohol as an act of rebellion has perpetuated the other stories that keep you in boxes in other areas of your life.
I also give you a ritual to remember to participate in for New Years Eve, or anytime your desire is calling you.
Quitting drinking doesn't take more time, it takes new thinking.
You are focused on the wrong perspective: trying to change so alcohol can stick around, rather than changing so alcohol doesn’t matter.The faster you can get alcohol out of your MIND, the faster you can enjoy the beautiful life you have and the next goals you want to reach.Register Here for The Five Shifts
- Join Mary in her private coaching program and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
- Register For the Free Training: Find Freedom To Alcohol In Five Shifts
- Make sure to tag, like, share and subscribe to the show!
- Follow Mary on Instagram HERE.
Being "hooked on consciousness", is one of the ways my guest, Molly Mandelberg and I flipped the switch in our beliefs about what it means life an alcohol free life.
In today's show you will discover the skill set you need that is necessary to get you from alcohol with a side of life, to be completely satisfied and in awe of life.
Learn she is able to show up life now in a way that feels not only in alignment with who she desires to be, but expending in ways that wouldn't have been possible with alcohol without missing burning man and traveling the world from her van.
From a neutral perspective acknowledging the past for it's fun and limitations, to the next phase of her personal evolution, as well as the evolution of human consciousness, come be inspired by what is possible for you too.
What does it feel like to be in the vibration of no longer wanting alcohol?
19:07
What has changed in her life since she stopped drinking?
22:41
It’s easy to create a romanticized version around alcohol.
29:44
Why do we think alcohol is so much fun?
32:22
What would you say to people who are going from lowering their inhibitions to being more bold? 37:57
Molly Mandelberg is uniquely qualified to help launch you from where you are now, to the next level of your business. From a long line of teachers, writers and preachers, Molly has an unusual combination of spiritual/visionary and high tech/practical/business savvy. She is an artist, a globe trotter, a writer, a speaker, a
facilitator and a leader. Checkout all of her amazing offerings:
WildHeartsRiseUp.com
Read Molly's Book
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Tactical Magic Podcast
Reveal the Game of Life Podcast
Money Machine Blueprint
Oracle Deck
Client Attraction Summit
Thought Leaders Expanding Their Reach FB Group
Quitting drinking doesn't take more time, it takes new thinking.
You are focused on the wrong perspective: trying to change so alcohol can stick around, rather than changing so alcohol doesn’t matter.The faster you can get alcohol out of your MIND, the faster you can enjoy the beautiful life you have and the next goals you want to reach.Register Here for The Five Shifts
- Join Mary in her private coaching program and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
- Register For the Free Training: Find Freedom To Alcohol In Five Shifts
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- Follow Mary on Instagram HERE.
I have determined there is ONE belief that fuels our entire mindset in the western world about alcohol.
It’s so powerful that is has you trying to solve all of your problems and create fun with alcohol.
It has you overriding your own intuition.
Shaming yourself for not figuring it out.
Negotiating rules with yourself to keep alcohol around for even, just one drink.
It has you making yourself sick.
Fighting with your partner.
Waking you up at 3 am.
Creating problems where there are none.
Putting thoughts in other peoples head about what they think about you.
Not doing your best at work.
Quitting on yourself, again and again.
Most importantly, it has you forgetting who you are, what matters most and what you are capable of.
This ONE belief is so powerful, that even AA put it into their big blue book.
They use it to help people quit drinking.
It is actually the belief that keeps so many who do stop drinking in deprivation.
In my experience, it’s the ONE belief that is the FARTHEST from the truth.
But this ONE belief is not a FACT, it’s a thought.
And you get to choose to believe it or not.
Listen to today’s podcast episode to find out what it is, what what thought you want to start believing instead.
- The ONE thought that has you and the western world sold on alcohol.
- What to do with your mind if you aren't drinking.
- Why constraining your attention is important.
- The impact of not drinking you are neglecting.
- How to create evidence from the end result.
- The crucial ingredient to change.
- How moderation keeps you in the same mindset that has you drinking.
- Why things don't seem fun without alcohol.
Quitting drinking doesn't take more time, it takes new thinking.
You are focused on the wrong perspective: trying to change so alcohol can stick around, rather than changing so alcohol doesn’t matter.The faster you can get alcohol out of your MIND, the faster you can enjoy the beautiful life you have and the next goals you want to reach.Register Here for The Five Shifts
- Join Mary in her private coaching program and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
- Register For the Free Training: Find Freedom To Alcohol In Five Shifts
- Make sure to tag, like, share and subscribe to the show!
- Follow Mary on Instagram HERE.
Although each one of my rock start clients has their own unique perspectives, they still have human brains.
They are doing some serious ass kicking over here and I want to make sure you know just how SIMPLE it is to get alcohol out of your way,
so you can start to believe, I can learn a new way too!
On today's episode I will share with you 6 secret codes to Deprive the urge and feed your future.
Quitting drinking has kind of been a mystery until now, because of our beliefs that it is a "normal" part of our experience as humans.
But that's not a fact, it's an opinion.
These codes are accessible to EVERYONE, regardless of your past.
You do have to show up and do something different.
But...I have cracked the code and it's so much more simple than you can imagine.
Just like everything else in our world that we are awakening too, it's just a part of human evolution.
Don't think too much about how or why.
Focus on the solution and the rest becomes unimportant.
Just know there is a way to live a healthier, happier life where alcohol isn't part of your experience.
Quitting drinking doesn't take more time, it takes new thinking.
You are focused on the wrong perspective: trying to change so alcohol can stick around, rather than changing so alcohol doesn’t matter.The faster you can get alcohol out of your MIND, the faster you can enjoy the beautiful life you have and the next goals you want to reach.Register Here for The Five Shifts
- Join Mary in her private coaching program and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
- Register For the Free Training: Find Freedom To Alcohol In Five Shifts
- Make sure to tag, like, share and subscribe to the show!
- Follow Mary on Instagram HERE.
Dr. Joe Dispenza says to create an emergent (new) consciousness, you have to keep your mind, body and heart on what you want to create long enough for it to become a new reality.
One of the main reasons you are starting and stopping again with alcohol is because your attention isn't focused on ONE solution.
My clients are getting results so quickly because week after week we focus on disproving the thoughts creating the desire to drink, amplify their meaningful why, and generate evidence that supports a new future with new emotional imprints.
My invitation to you is to charge the last month of the year with focusing your attention on your relationship to alcohol based on what was presented to you over the last three episodes.
You want to learn this process and develop these skills NOW.
Waiting to develop these skills means waiting to have certainty and control of your health and happiness.
You could have a new relationship to alcohol BY New Years!
Schedule a complimentary 1:1 call with Mary to get a new perspective on an old habit.
Pick your time and day HERE.
Join Mary in her private coaching mentorship and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
Register For the Free Training: Find Freedom To Alcohol In Five Shifts
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On part 1 we talked about the mind.
On part 2 we talked about the heart.
Today we talk about putting your new thoughts and sacred WHY into action using your human given senses.
- How to use your sense to expedite and create new neural pathways.
- Ritual is the gift of this time of year.
- Using your Future Self to show up as who you want to BE.
- How to feel confident and empower rather than left out.
- The exact SKILL set you need to develop to make this work stick.
- How to create certainty in your health and in your life.
- Common mistakes NOT to make that will make it easy to say no to a drink.
This weeks self inquiry work:
Do you want to fit in and be the same or stand out because you are claiming your self authority? Why?
How is it true that you have BELONGED before you needed to be accepted?
What do all human beings deserve as their birthright?
How can you see every one in that light?Special thanks to Robin Wall Kimmerer, Author of Braiding Sweetgrass, for Introducing me to the Thanksgiving Address and to the Haudenosaunee Confederacy for creating and sharing such a sacred ritual.
I hope you will take these lessons from the show, keep you mind open and share them.
You want to learn this process and develop these skills NOW.
Waiting to develop these skills means waiting to have certainty and control of your health and happiness.
You could have a new relationship to alcohol BY New Years!
Schedule a complimentary 1:1 call with Mary to get a new perspective on an old habit.
Pick your time and day HERE.
Join Mary in her private coaching mentorship and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
Register For the Free Training: Find Freedom To Alcohol In Five Shifts
Make sure to tag, like, share and subscribe to the show!
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Last episode we worked the mind, today we connect with the heart.
How shifting your focus to all of the magic and meaning of the holiday's will keep your inspiration high, your stress level low and the need for alcohol less.
This year create a "new tradition" rather than the old story of "I have too many things to do, the end of the year is so overwhelming for me. There’s so much pressure."
-Put an end to holiday people pleasing and obligation.
-Successfully manage stress and overwhelm.
**-How to overcome "family drama" without checking out.
-How to be guided by intention.**
The process of awakening is remembering that you left yourself a trail of breadcrumbs back to the truth of who you are and the meaning of life you wish to embrace.
Today's episode is crucial in your success making this holiday season one of true joy and meaning.
This the part they don't teach us in school...Because the answers are truly always within.
You want to learn this process and develop these skills NOW.
Waiting to develop these skills means waiting to have certainty and control of your health and happiness.
You could have a new relationship to alcohol BY New Years!
Schedule a complimentary 1:1 call with Mary to get a new perspective on an old habit.
Pick your time and day HERE.
Join Mary in her private coaching mentorship and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
Register For the Free Training: Find Freedom To Alcohol In Five Shifts
Make sure to tag, like, share and subscribe to the show!
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**Fill your cup with something new this year. Find true holiday cheer that will help you stay connected to what's really important in your life. Join me for this 3 part podcast training, to help you bring the magic and meaning back into the holiday's season without the consequences of alcohol.
I will help you overcome any obstacle the holiday's throw at you that make it feel impossible to say no to a drink. This year, let's throw a better party!
Let's do this!**
-How to overcome "family drama" without checking out.
-Move past "it won't be the same."
-Put an end to holiday people pleasing and obligation.
-Avoid the common mistakes that make is harder to say no.
-Why the holidays are actually the easiest time NOT to drink.
-How to feel confident and empowered rather than "left out".
-Successfully manage stress and overwhelm.
Register For The Free Training NOW: Click HERE
What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Join Mary in her private coaching mentorship and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
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In today's episode the wise and humble, MartinJon Garcia, of Recover Yourself Podcast, brings us "the middle way" of what it really means to "recover ones self" not away from alcohol, yet towards your authentic self.
To remove the conditioning of the countless believes we are under the influence of.
MartinJon and I share many of the same view on sobriety and recovery.
One is that sobriety isn't a personality trait, it's a beverage choice.
It's what you do with it that matters.
If you want a big shift in perspective on life today, come with an open mind and be ready to take some notes.
Also, get ready to relax, it's really not as serious as your mind has making you belive it is. It's all a choice you get to make.
Thank you MartinJon for your service to recovering yourself as you can be a guiding light to others who have lost their way.
Learn more about MartinJon and his work as a coach, mentor and on his podcast.
Website: https://www.martinjon.com
Monthly Subscription: https://www.subkit.com/martinjon
Recover Yourself Workshop: https://www.martinjon.com/workshop
Recover Yourself Podcast: (apple) https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1465440178
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MartinJonGarcia
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/martinjon/ and https://www.instagram.com/recoveryourself.life/
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Join Mary in her private coaching mentorship and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
Register For the Free Training: Find Freedom To Alcohol In Five Shifts
Make sure to tag, like, share and subscribe to the show!
Follow Mary on Instagram HERE.
Will you inevitable have to face resistance? Yes.
Will you have to feel hard things and expose the truth of alcohol. Yes.
BUT... When you practice being in your body. You will also get really good at FEELING and THINKING on purpose.
Today I will teach you how to place your attention on the result you want from abundance vs. lack so you can move beyond the fear of resistance and generate evidence that your life is already amazing.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Join Mary in her private coaching mentorship and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
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Why reciprocity matters in changing your relationship to alcohol.
I have a very special favor to ask you. Please take 5 minutes for me today and leave a review on apple podcasts. It's SOOO important to help make the world a better place. Then you will have a high vibing emotion to create your future from.
I left you a free mediation on my website too for your efforts. Thank you so much!
Step by Step:
1) get out your phone
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4) click on "stop drinking & Start living"
5) if you haven't subscribed yet, find the show and click the plus sign
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12) Feel wonderful about yourself and use that emotion to say NO to a drink.
13) keep being you.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Join Mary in her private coaching mentorship and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
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How much time do you spend while you are trying to not drink focusing on failing?
What if you had a bunch of wins, days that you didn't drink and you knew exactly WHY and you focused on what was working instead?
How would that be a game changer? Find out on today's show!
Don't forget to email me what you want to know more about for the next podcast!
mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
Thank you for being an amazing part of my circle.
I love you.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Join Mary in her private coaching mentorship and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
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How can our trauma be our biggest blessing?
Because it shapes us. It makes us who we are. It sets us down a path to learn all of our greatest life lessons.
And the deeper we go, the higher we rise, but only if we are ready to take personal responsibility for our present and future.
Are you a ready for some reality TV gossip? I wanted to share with you a little about my "hero's journey". Get the popcorn and enjoy.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Join Mary in her private coaching mentorship and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
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How often do you say some version of "I can't handle it"? But do?
What would someone who loves themselves do?
Where does the habit of alcohol having you lying about what you are cable of?
Alcohol will validate every negative statement you have about your self and reinforce it.
I can't handle it.
It's too hard.
I'm so overwhelmed.
It's too stressful.
I'm too tired.
I'm boring.
It's not enough.
Are these even true? Where do you have evidence to the contrary of these belifes?
Do you handle it?
How does it feel different to say, I do have this.
I've just did that.
Join me today to explore this topic more and how it's a sublet sabotage to your success.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Join Mary in her private coaching mentorship and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
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"It's got to grow or it's got to go", is just one of the power themes available on today's show. Do not miss this jam packed episode of astrological wisdom downloaded from the Astro Queen herself, Nura Rachelle and how it applies to your current transformation around alcohol.
Nura talks also about the impact of how changing her relationship with alcohol through the lens of the 5 shifts, moving from conformity to self authority, has impacted her life on all levels and allowed astrology to support her even more deeply.
Nura shares deep wised of how astrology informs our live and requires us to step out of the box.
This current timeline from October 22, 2022 to November 7th, 2022, and beyond, has some BIG energies available to support your deep dive into the confrontation of what's no longer working.
Nura Speaks To:
- The superior Venus conjunction with the sun as she rests in her "underworld" phase. This can be viewed as a time for returning, reconnecting to source energies of ultimate truth.
- The "eclipse portal" that bookends the Samhain holy day portal of the new and full moons starting October 25th-November 7th, 2022.
- What is ready during to be grives and cultivated during this time will be ecelorated.
- Releasing the collective energies of grief and tapping into collective support.
- Everyday rituals to engage in during this time to support the necessary move through resistance of purging so you make space for who you are becoming.
- And so many more emotional intelligence inquiries and understanding of who we are that we simply may not yet know because of what is yet to be revealed.
Please visit Nura Rachelle for a deeper exploration into your soul purpose and personal astrological transits and alignments. Sign up for her amazing weekly astro forecast.
https://nurarachelle.com
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Join Mary in her private coaching mentorship and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
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Do NOT miss today's episode! You have achieved a lot and logically you get that alcohol isn't working.
That's the problem. You have to go beyond the logic. Beyond reason to create what is not mirrored to you in everyday life.
To tap into your wisdom and intuition.
If you think you should be able to figure alcohol out on your own, this thought it's self is why.
Today and the show I tell you why and what you can do to go beyond your logical reasoning.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Join Mary in her private coaching mentorship and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
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Find out what the powers that be have in store for the Stop Drinking & Start Living Community, today, in a live oracle reading and how to use the elements as tools for manifestation.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Join Mary in her private coaching mentorship and start applying these shift in real time. Find out more and how to schedule a call HERE.
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There is a lot of talk about "work life balance". But what dose that really mean?
What if we could life the effort and surrender in everything we do. Work wouldn't have to become a chore, and surrender could be available to us in every moment.
Tune in to explore this concept.
Ease and flow. Effort and surrender. Focus and soften. Inhale and exhale.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
If you are ready to get unstuck and enter the door of a brighter future:
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When motivation, inspiration and willpower runout,
determination is what will get you through the hardest of hard times.
Set your sites on something bigger than yourself right now, and don't look back.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
If you are ready to get unstuck and enter the door of a brighter future:
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The main reason people don't create a new relationship to alcohol is because of resistance. Resistance to change. To a new way.
To an idea they thought they had about themselves.
To not being in control.
Being okay with resistance is the most important skill you can learn in life and with alcohol that will create the peace and joy you are desiring so you can focus on what matters most.
Learn why it's important to make peace with resistance and how to do it on today's episode.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
If you are ready to get unstuck and enter the door of a brighter future:
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There are three main reasons we quit something, much of the time before we even start.
Sometimes it's a simple as a lack of awareness, knowing that there are other options available to you.
Most of the time it's out of our basic need to stay safe and avoid the pain of the unknown.
If we can find the answer right in front of us, then we have no more excuses for why we can't change.
Explore why we quit and how to help yourself stick it out through the challenging times of change.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
If you are ready to get unstuck and enter the door of a brighter future:
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How do you shift from wanting to avoid the present moment to feeling safe exploring the inner landscape?
So much of coaching is moving from our habitual reactions to responding to life through neural observation.
In today's episode I share the practical steps to go from the habitual "escape" formula, to exploring from a place of grace and ease.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
If you are ready to get unstuck and enter the door of a brighter future:
...
What emotions don't you feel safe to feel?
Where have you been using alcohol in your life to create a sense of safety and security?
We judge our emotions and our unmet desires.
Alcohol reinforces the invalidation by dismissing the thought and creating an all too familiar vibration we do feel safe in.
Unfortunately, this comfort of familiarity is compounding our unmet needs and lack of self security.
Getting alcohol out of your way isn't just about not drinking, it's cultivating and inner resourcing the compassionate witness, so you can feel safe however you show up, where ever you go, no matter what you are doing. Start there by learning new skills and building yourself a safety net of self acceptance.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
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Amplifying the energy of the emotional state we would like to achieve before we arrive there is possible through the use of the mind, body and intuition.
Get your heart in alignment with the state you want to feel when alcohol is no longer in your way and take action from that place.
That it is possible for you to no longer want alcohol and feel amazing about letting it go as an example of next leveling your life and awakening to a new version of you.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Getting alcohol out of your way is the next step in your spiritual awakening, that is why you are here.
Our lives are a sacred ceremony. Alcohol belittles the magic of the present moment.
Ritual is an opportunity to invoke the elements and the senses in the present moment.
When we practice being in the present moment we live through the wisdom of the heart vs. the habitual patterns in the head.
Living life through heart coherence amplifies our desires.
It allows us to be brave amongst change because we have befriended our emotions as powerful allies rather than problems.
We are embodied with our emotional selves rather than altering or invalidating how we would naturally feel.
Ritual interrupts the habitual reactivity to life, and allows you to place your attention with your intention, with grace, purpose and reverence for yourself and the moment.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Why do I keep drinking when I say I'm not going to?
Why is it okay sometimes and not others?
Why do I feel so convicted in the morning only to cave at night?
Why can some people drink one and be okay?
All of this and more can be answered with my revolutionary 5 Shifts Process.
The best part, it's much more simple than you think.
Learn how on today's show.
I help you take the guess work out of the why:
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
We have been conditioned to believe that if we can taste, hold it and touch it, it has more value.
We have been taught to look to the TANGIBLE in our life to make us feel better and solve our problems, IE: alcohol.
We invest our time, money and energy in that which is ultimately out of our control and end up disappointed with it doesn't work out the way we think it should.
Looking to the intangible, or at least the subtle, is where all real change, power, happiness problems and solutions live.
Think about the intangible investments you have made vs. the tangible investments and really see which ones have created more lasting value in your life.
Cultivating a tangible relationship to yourself, is where the money is.
Coaching is making the impossible real.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
We make decisions all day every day.
Decisions equate to time.
Staying in indecision is taking your time away from things that matter most.
Focusing your attention on thoughts that create more fear, vs. deciding on the result you want is robbing you of your vital life force keeping alcohol in the head lines of your life.
In today's episode I share what to look for when you are making decisions so you don't get stuck where you are.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
In today's episode, learn how to escape parenthood without wine.
Wine time = escape from parenthood. But why? Why do we need to escape?
What are the expectations you are putting on yourself that requires the need to check out?
What are the expectations you are putting on yourself that says you can't check out so you hide in your head?
How would it benefit all beings everywhere if you allowed yourself to checkout of all labels?
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
We often wait to figure it out before we decide to commit.
The opposite is true when it comes to creating what has never been created before.
Commit and go all in. When you decide a head of time, you don't set yourself up for failure, you set yourself up to think for solutions outside of the box. Outside of your brains habitual BS.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
We resist " the things we can not change" about our relationship with alcohol, because we think it's US, when in fact, it's the alcohol.
Accepting the reality the alcohol is no longer suited for the life I want to live, is the first step in resisting change.
When you take a break from alcohol, you have to examine your why and what you have really been believing about alcohol.
If a break is only to "figure alcohol out" then it's never going to work.
If a break is to let go of your attachment to is so you can discover who you are, then you'll have plenty to focus on.
Enjoy the process of being you. Get excited about new experiences.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Self talk is where you HAVE to start. First, become aware of what you are saying to yourself in your head all day.
Learn the next 3 steps to cultivating the compassionate witness and use it to take your fear with you anyway.
Once you have your own back, fear is a bully who's bark is bigger than it's bite.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Success is a mussel you can build. It's not just for the select few who are born with a natural talent. Using tools for mindfulness and intentional mindset creation gives you a systematic approach to understanding what your brain is doing and how to override your habitual patterns.
Through this process, success becomes easier and quitting becomes harder. There are hurdles to over come. But once the success switch flips, you can't turn it off.
The reward is life changing.
On today's episode, learn how to switch the success flip and keep it turned on.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Dr. Andrew Huberman, of The Huberman Lab Podcast, is creating a huge contribution to society through his passion for research and neuroscience.
In his episode on Alcohol and Your Health, he goes through the current research on what alcohol is doing to your health, body and brain.
The results are in, nothing good.
Although the sciences over lap to help explain the entire human experience. What Huberman neglects, unintentionally, is the BIGGER impact of the behavioral and social science impact of alcohol, addiction and conditioning on the Human. Huberman's personal response alone, shows the listener how deeply accepted "alcohol as normal" is in our world.
I would love to know your take away. Email me: mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Let's examine who you really are. Is NOT drinking being an imposter or is drinking the imposter?
What do you have to convince yourself of more that FEELS the most aligned?
Where are you reaching for resources, inside or outside?
Today I share what to look for when you have thoughts that you are being an imposter and a tool of how to fake it until you make it without anyone knowing.
I am going ALL IN on a 30 day INSTAGRAM and Podcast Challenge for you, for all
women everywhere who were handed the inefficient tool of alcohol and told they were fine, then it turned into a crutch. As women continue to run this MF, the systems that got us here, won't take us forward. Follow me on IG and Tune into the podcast for the next 30 days and watch me go all in. Watch me overcommit and over deliver.
As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast.
Together we can change the world!
I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me.
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back.
It’s your time.
Alcohol has had its fair share.
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.
To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Join me for a sacred story time to inspire you and remind you of the innate gifts we are all born with.
The Twelve Gifts of Birth : by Charlene Costanzo
I am going ALL IN on a 30 day INSTAGRAM and Podcast Challenge for you, for all
women everywhere who were handed the inefficient tool of alcohol and told they were fine, then it turned into a crutch. As women continue to run this MF, the systems that got us here, won't take us forward. Follow me on IG and Tune into the podcast for the next 30 days and watch me go all in. Watch me overcommit and over deliver.
As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast.
Together we can change the world!
I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me.
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back.
It’s your time.
Alcohol has had its fair share.
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.
To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
If we accept our role as an integral part in the whole, we can honor and pay reverence to the space inbetween planting the seeds and the harvest. And the harvest and planting the seeds.
The rest, grief and letting go is a necessary part of the journey of awakening and finding who you are on the other side of alcohol. Without it , you keep trying to put dead plants in a vase, hoping they might come back to life, rather than using them as compost to support your growth.
It's time to go all in and commit wholeheartedly.
To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
I am going ALL IN on a 30 day INSTAGRAM and Podcast Challenge for you, for all women everywhere who were handed the inefficient tool of alcohol and told they were fine, then it turned into a crutch. As women continue to run this MF, the systems that got us here, won't take us forward. Follow me on IG and Tune into the podcast for the next 30 days and watch me go all in. Watch me overcommit and over deliver.
As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast.
Together we can change the world!
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Alcohol is thwarting your Goddess given magical compass. Your unmet desires, passions and KNOWING, is available to you through your natural cycles and rhythms.
Without aligned access to this, your emotions appear to be problems vs. powerful information to keep you a fully pleasured woman, from internal resourcing.
Don’t let any body tell you different.
Alcohol is a symptom of your unmet desires and invalidated feminine power.
I teach my clients how through the practice of Everyday Ritual.
I am going ALL IN on a 30 day INSTAGRAM and Podcast Challenge for you, for all women everywhere who were handed the inefficient tool of alcohol and told they were fine, then it turned into a crutch. As women continue to run this MF, the systems that got us here, won't take us forward. Follow me on IG and Tune into the podcast for the next 30 days and watch me go all in. Watch me overcommit and over deliver.As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast.
Together we can change the world!
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What Is The 5 Shifts Process?
The 5 shifts is a system of how we learn through Awareness, Education & Growth using mindset and mindfulness principals.
Reduce your desire & attachment for alcohol by unlearning alcohol, NOT by replace it with something new.
Hear me when I tell you, emotional freedom from alcohol IS possible for you.
Today I share how I started waking up to my potential, when I put myself in a new room.
On my way to the Goddess Yoga Arts Retreat, with a bottle of tequila in my bag...
Focusing on becoming the solution vs. fixing the problem is the real shift in perspective.
It can only happen when you "put yourself in the room."
When you show up to build evidence against the thought: that a life without alcohol will be a life of deprivation.
Giving yourself a chance to AWAKEN parts of you that you haven't yet met, only happens when you trigger it through a new circumstance.
New circumstances create the opportunity for new emotions, new thinking and ultimately new ways of being.
And challenge our conditioned belifes.
Not all "triggers" are bad.
Coaching, sister circles, intentional family adventures, yoga, moon rituals, prayer, are all how I create what I call, "spiritual triggers".
Our brains don't go that way unless prompted, naturally.
They stick to the negative bias. To the achievement. To the problem of "not enough".
So we have to intentionally place ourselves in new situations to invoke new ways of being, until they become the new norm.
I wanted to share about my journey of putting myself in the room to trigger the most sacred parts of me that were hiding behind alcohol in plain sight.
You don't need to do anything special to deserve everything you want.
You can just decide, I'm worth it.
Love,
Mary
I am going ALL IN on a 30 day INSTAGRAM and Podcast Challenge for you, for all women everywhere who were handed the inefficient tool of alcohol and told they were fine, then it turned into a crutch. As women continue to run this MF, the systems that got us here, won't take us forward. Follow me on IG and Tune into the podcast for the next 30 days and watch me go all in. Watch me overcommit and over deliver.To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast.
Together we can change the world!
I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me.
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back.
It’s your time.
Alcohol has had its fair share.
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.
To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
Today I share a little secret about why coaching works, that you can't get on your own.
Why it's a process and why accountability matters to make the most of your efforts.
What would happen if you went all in on YOU, like you have on alcohol?
What would happen if you OVER COMMITTED your self to the process of unlearning alcohol?
If you KNEW one day you would no longer WANT it, would you at least try?
I am going ALL IN on a 30 day INSTAGRAM and Podcast Challenge for you, for all women everywhere who were handed the inefficient tool of alcohol and told they were fine, then it turned into a crutch. As women continue to run this MF, the systems that got us here, won't take us forward. Follow me on IG and Tune into the podcast for the next 30 days and watch me go all in. Watch me overcommit and over deliver.To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast.
Together we can change the world!
I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me.
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back.
It’s your time.
Alcohol has had its fair share.
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.
I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me.
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back.
It’s your time.
Alcohol has had its fair share.
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.
To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
Alcohol has a way of helping you forget & remember your potential.
This is the struggle. The screw it and the I know there's more.
The question to ask is : which one has more benefit?
If we move towards unlocking our potential, it will carry us down a path away from alcohol, always.
Today I am going ALL IN on a 30 day INSTAGRAM and Podcast Challenge for you, for all women everywhere who were handed the inefficient tool of alcohol and told they were fine, then it turned into a crutch. As women continue to run this MF, the systems that got us here, won't take us forward. Follow me on IG and Tune into the podcast for the next 30 days and watch me go all in. Watch me overcommit and over deliver.To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast.
Together we can change the world!
I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me.
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back.
It’s your time.
Alcohol has had its fair share.
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.
To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
What is it actually like to go through the process of 1:1 coaching?
**The Client's Journey Of Awakening is the actual process of how we unlearn, learn and relearn.
But not in a 100% traditional way. Not through the process of institutionalized dogma, yet by growing cultivating your awareness and strengthening your trust in your intuition.
We use principals of cognitive behavior, feminine wisdom and self inquiry through mindfulness practices.**
**Awareness, Education & Growth are the the steps.
But first you have to decide to say yes from a place of love. Giving your future self a change. To your potential. To not letting alcohol get more of your attention.
You know what the truth is and you am ready to go beyond.
We aren’t figuring out how to keep alcohol around.
We are figuring out why it’s important in the first place and how to make it unimportant.**
Say YES to learning a new way.
My clients who have the biggest break thoughts the quickest are intrigued to learn about self inquiry. They showed up and did the work because they said they would. They take personal responsibility and have integrity.
They decide to get the most out of our time together. They are prepared. They take the plan we make, they implement it and they report back.
You can decide to say yes and be the best client for you, by showing up.
The first step is one call away.
I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me.
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back.
It’s your time.
Alcohol has had its fair share.
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.
To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast.
Together we can change the world!
I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me.
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back.
It’s your time.
Alcohol has had its fair share.
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.
To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
You are "good all week", then Friday comes and all bets are off.
Why can't you keep the same conviction or mindset you had all week and get you through the weekend.
In today's episode learn how to transition not just into the weekend gracefully and without needing alcohol, but make all of your transitions graceful.
Why getting good at transitions will make all areas of your life just as satisfying so you can stop working for the weekend.
I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me.
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back.
It’s your time.
Alcohol has had its fair share.
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.
To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me.
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back.
It’s your time.
Alcohol has had its fair share.
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.
To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
You never planned on getting where you are with alcohol.
Because it didn't help you get to where you are.
For this reason, you know it's not necessary for your future.
It appears to be such a huge, famiar part of your past, that the future with out it feels like a void.
Alcohol is not a destination.
It wasn't the big part of your journey you think it was.
It's a drug that over rides your experiences because of the unnatural response it has in the body AND how it inhibits your memory to such a huge extent.
Rather than seeing the past and future as black and white, look at the evidence, not just your conditioned memories.
Look to your future as possibility of a trajectory, not a void.
I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me.
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back.
It’s your time.
Alcohol has had its fair share.
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.
To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
I want to personally invite you to spend one hour with me.
Because you deserve to know what’s holding you back.
It’s your time.
Alcohol has had its fair share.
How you can get on the fast track to freedom from alcohol and stay there.
To schedule your complimentary call HERE. This hour is just for you.
Winning the lottery experience is emotional freedom from alcohol all day, everyday.
Life happens, but it the dramatic distinction between alcohol exhaustion and alcohol freedom, is a very easy place to get into, and it feels SO GOOD.
Eliminating your desire and attachment to alcohol is the solution to alcohol exhaustion,
but the real result is: freedom, liberation, vitality.
**Freedom from alcohol is a self concept, it’s a state of being, it’s an experience.
In today's episode, learn how you too, can have a winning the lottery experience:
These are the thoughts I think when I am in the experience of alcohol freedom:**
- There is nothing I need to resource outside of myself.
- My time is mine.
- I have less stress
- Alcohol doesn’t define how I get to show up in the world
- None of my experiences are limited.
- I am in control of myself care
- My capacity for what’s possible is expanded.
- I can drop into this place of bourany whenever I feel stressed
Emotional Freedom From Alcohol Is Waiting For You: Schedule a consultation HERE.
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Together we can change the world!
New Free Training: Discover the Five Myths of Quitting Drinking
We've all been there. Screw it, or some version of NOTHING'S working. How can you be proactive and preventing a downswing from having a bigger impact than it needs to and solve the problems you use alcohol for.
Cycles and rhythms are part of our nature as humans. We love being in the waxing phase of our lives, ( when live is happening FOR US.) But we don’t know how to work with the downswing. When life seems to be happening TO us, we become our own worst enemy and add to the pain.
EVERYTHING has a cycle. Including you. Your job is to get to know your waining phase inside and out.What do you do? What are your typical thoughts?
Figure these out when you are in your : “Life Is Fantastic, Nothing can stop me” phase.
In today's episode you will learn:
How to have your own back in every phase.
What causes a downswing.
How to be proactive to preventing a downswing from having a bigger impact than it needs to and solve the problems you use alcohol for.
-Recognizing what your waning phases looks like.
-committing to the belief now that it’s just an error in your thinking.
-what you will say to yourself.
-how will you recognize it.
-noticing how it compounds.
Start the process of stopping for the last time: Schedule a complimentary alignment session with me HERE.
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Together we can change the world!
New Free Training: Discover the Five Myths of Quitting Drinking
Committing to a process helps you solve problems at every level of growth.
Today I respond to four different circumstances from listeners on the show.
I apply the 5 shifts, the E.T.A process and Emotional Intimacy to showcase how we can use the same tools for various circumstances again and again.
What if committing to a process vs over consuming new information was how you guaranteed your results?
When we do the same thing again and again, we get better at it.
This is the power of coaching with one coach, with one method.
You know exactly what to do, what's working and how to fix what's not.
Schedule a complimentary alignment session with me HERE.
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Together we can change the world!
New Free Training: Discover the Five Myths of Quitting Drinking
"In order to grow, you must give up the struggle to remain the same, and learn to embrace change at all times." -Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul
In today's episode you will learn:
- Why resistance is the path to freedom.
- Why you avoid resistance.
- How to eliminate half of the pressure creating the resistance.
- Alcohol is both the method of protection and the something you are trying to protect.
- Why you haven't been successful at quitting drinking.
- How to get better at not WANTING alcohol
- Get access to the replay of my new training and discover the five myths of quitting drinking.
Schedule a complimentary alignment session with me HERE.
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Together we can change the world!
Did you know overwhelm isn't created by a set of circumstances?
In a world vying for your attention at every turn, overload is inevitable, but YOU can nip it in the bud before overload turns into: "Nothings Working!"
Today empower yourself to learn how to take control were you can: In your mind.
If your overwhelm often leads to drinking, this episode is for you.
GET YOUR COACHING QUESTIONS ANSWERED ON THE SHOW ON AUGUST 17TH!
Send your question into: mary@marywagstaffcoach.com Subject: Coaching For The Podcast
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Alcohol is a symptom of unprocessed / interrupted emotions. Always.
Good, bad, happy, sad.
We have to have a new conversation with the sensations created by energy flowing through our body, all day, everyday.
Today I teach you a technique to use in conjunction with the 5 Shifts process to come into a closer relationship to your inner energy rather than moving away from it.
How to be with your emotions, normalize them, and let go.
I also read an excerpt from Michale Singers book, " The Untethered Soul", that teaches us why we close down around emotions, intern we close the heart. We resist change and try to force our outer world to match our inner neurosis, rather than just change the way we interact with the world.
GET YOUR COACHING QUESTIONS ANSWERED ON THE SHOW ON AUGUST 17TH!
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We are bothering ourselves with our own thinking.
Mindfulness isn't a one and done situation. It is a muscle you build over time.
Seeing your thoughts as suggests for interpretation.
Which ones' are useful. Which one's you don't even believe that just bump up against some uncovered insecurities or scarcity mindset.
In today's episode I share with you a personal story of what I learned during a roofing project my family and I participated in. How the impact of mindfulness and The 5 Shifts has shaped my life. How changing my relationship to alcohol has given my the opportunity to explore every other objection my brain offers me that is not useful.
On today's show:
- Why you should always question your objections.
- How to appreciate why other people do it different than you.
- Why expectations are not useful.
- Generosity will never steer you wrong.
- How to get comfortable with the scary unknown.
Schedule a complimentary alignment call with Mary HERE.
One of the most destructive thoughts keeping you stuck in the rut of alcohol is the dreaded FOREVER.
Forever feels scary for most things, especially when you have felt so out of control. However, when you reduce your desire and attachment to alcohol, alcohol will ALWAYS be a choice, but you won't be making the daily decision to drink.
The truth is, it's not a useful thought when you are trying to create lasting change.
Making decisions around alcohol can be exhausting and it feels just as exhausting NOT drinking because you think you will still having all of those thoughts. Using my 5 shifts process to eliminate your desire for alcohol removes the need to SAY yes, or no all together.
Alcohol can exist in the world, and you can NOT want it. This is possible. Learn how on today's episode. Never say forever, ever again.
Ready to start applying the five shifts process to your life? Schedule a complimentary alignment call with Mary HERE.
As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast. Leave a five start review with your best take aways so others can be transformed by this paradigm shift. Together we can change the world.
You can't swing a dead cat without being triggered by something it seems these days.
The good news is, your emotional reactions, including your desire to drink are 100% in your control.
In a world where so much is out of our control, taking our emotional power back where we can, can lighted the blow, bring greater blacked, healing and more clarity to how to be of service in the world.
It also gives us the confidence to override the constant invalidation of alcohol that says, YOU CAN'T.
In today's episode:
- Learn what a trigger is.
- How to process the sensations of emotions as experiences
- Not all triggers are created equal
- What you need to support optimal cognitive functioning to thwart reactivity.
- The emotion is a sensation in the body, not a fact of your thinking.
- Discover where you don't feel safe so you can create a more secure environment.
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Learn the 3 steps to overcome any urge to drink:
Schedule a complimentary alignment call with MaryHERE.
"Do things you have never done before to have what you have never had." - Emily Smith.
This and so much more wisdom is waiting for you inside today's epode.
Join my guest, Emily Smith as she shares with us her journey to find wholeness on the other side of her past and conditioned beliefs, not only from alcohol but what it means to be happy in a career and beyond.
In today's Epidoe we explore:
- How to find your next steps in life when you feel confused.
- What holds you back from living your dream life.
- What is manifesting and how to use it.
- How addiction is a spiritual issue.
- What triggers a spiritual awakening.
- And so much more....
Find out all about Emily and her work here:
Website - Book a Free 20 Minute Clarity Session : Podcast : Instagram : Wholeness Within Book
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Coaching is a process of self development in all areas.
Schedule a complimentary alignment call with MaryHERE.
Have you ever asked yourself, what about alcohol is actually FUN?
Why altering WHO we are and not being fully present is the version of the best time you have ever had?
Why do we have inhibitions in the first place?
What if we changed the belief that created the inhibitions vs. just trying to drink less, would you solve the problem?
If fun is a choice based on your thinking, why are we so stuck on alcohol being the end all be all of fun. We think without alcohol the parties over, but what is that saying about you?
I KNOW you know how to have a good time wherever you are, you just need to practice..
In today's episode we will explore:
- Does lowering your inhibitions really make something more FUN?
- how generating evidence will help you understand your REAL preferences.
- The process of planning ahead of time can create a new experience for you outside of the only choice to drink or not to drink.
- What the impact is of the third option.
Coaching is a process of self development in all areas. Schedule a complimentary alignment call with MaryHERE.
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Love,
Mary
One of the reasons many people feel out of control with alcohol is they think drinking "just happens." Part of this is true.
Alcohol has become as habitual as brushing your teeth, not to mention the extra large influence the chemical of alcohol has on conditioning your behavior to want more.
However, drinking is always a choice. The question is WHY and how to take back control where there seems to be none.
In today's episode we discuss:
- Why alcohol just happens.
- Why sometimes are easier to say no than others.
- How to find the answer to why you are drinking.
- How to gain control where you feel like you have none.
- Mitigate when it "just happens" by solving problems as they show up.
- How to implement these strategies as a way of life vs. just a concept you have learned.
To dive into the third option, schedule a complimentary alignment session with me HERE.
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All my love,
Mary
If you have been feeling like there is more to life than drinking or not drinking, you are correct and you are in the right place.
On today's episode I go into a personal deep dive on what I really mean about awakening from alcohol and how you don't know what you are missing, until you find it.
If you are a seeker or just getting a glimpse of the path of an awakened life, I invite you into this intimate episode to explore with me my journey of awakening, and how getting alcohol out of the way has been the invitation for SO MUCH MORE than I even knew existed.
And guess what? I'm just getting started.
And so are you!
I am here to support you on your journey as my highest honor.
Today we explore:>What is awakening?
Representation is tricky.
The intersection of being under the influence of awakening from alcohol AND to your divinity.
Why it's important to get out of your comfort zone.
What is holistic alcohol coaching.
Why you are HERE.
Email me: mary@marywagstaffcoach.com to ask any inquiries for the show.
If you are ready to dive into a profound and magical life, and to explore what lies beyond the other side of alcohol, schedule a complimentary alignment session with me HERE.
As always, I am so grateful for your reviews on apple podcast. Leave a five start review with your best take aways so others can be transformed by this paradigm shift. Together we can change the world.
All my love,
Mary
Goals and Intentions both lead to taking an action in the present moment for a future result.
When you make drinking a tangible goal, based on numbers and rules, you aren’t getting to the root of the problem:your beliefs system for alcohol.
then
When the GOAL is to drink less, you use more will power because you are staying on the surface.
When the intention is to live a healthier life, for example, now we are getting closer to your WHY.
This is the ENERGY that will drive the change, indefinitely.
As long as your beliefs remain the same, so too will your attachment and desires.
Alcohol will always be around.
You don’t have to make any hard and fast rules, you want to lead with your heart and the WHY you want to drink less, and then go deeper.
For my health, but WHY?
I want to live a long life. Why?
So I can experience as much as possible. WHY?
Because there are so many amazing things to see and do with this human body.
Now we are REALLY getting somewhere!
Feel the difference from: I just want to have "one and done", to There are so many amazing things to see and do with this human body?
It has SUBSTNACE. It has EMOTION. EMOTIONS are why you do ANYTHING.
EMOTIONS are WHY it's hard for you to drink LESS.
So change your emotions and change your results.
Find out how to lead with your intangible goal, YOUR INTENTION, on today's podcast episode.
Doing it for the love,
Mary
Unlearn the habit of alcohol in 3 months with private 1:1 coaching in The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program
I will be there to guide you every step of the way.
Come September, you'll be so grateful for the bold action you took TODAY in gifting yourself a plan.
Schedule a complimentary call where together we can plan the next phase of your life, on purpose. HERE.
In today's podcast ep. #147, we explore how your Judgements and Conclusions are blocking the path to get alcohol out of your way.
Our judgments and conclusions about life are important to keep us safe, but if left unexamined, "safety", turns into a comfort zone we fear leaving.
When we are learning something new, especially outside of the mainstream, we have to empty our minds of what we have learned and what we think we know to be true about alcohol.
We have to dump it all out and the table and sift throught it.
Find some cute earrings and throw out the empty wrappers.
Our snap judgements and conclusions keep us stuck in fear based thoughts, not trying new things and not giving ourselves a chance to see how much more fulfilling life will be without alcohol.
Unexamined judgements and conclusions in other areas, also create uncomfortable emotions that may be a trigger for drinking if you dwell in them for too long.
We often seek to be RIGHT, VS, UNDERSTAND.
Even when we suffer for it.
When we are right, we are safe. It protects our interest (belifes) and our ego.
What would happen if you were able to empty your mind to see alcohol and life again, for the first time (but with wisdom)?
Seek to understand what you blame yourself for? The world for?
What you aren't willing to give up about alcohol and why?
Come explore the mind with me today and prime yourself for a new adventure.
Unlearn the habit of alcohol in 3 months with private 1:1 coaching in The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program
I will be there to guide you every step of the way.
Come September, you'll be so grateful for the bold action you took TODAY in gifting yourself a plan.
Schedule a complimentary call where together we can plan the next phase of your life, on purpose. HERE.
**Alcohol as a catalyst for connection only ever allows you to go as deep as your thoughts that you need alcohol to connect will allow you.
Is alcohol creating more connection or just inhibiting your thoughts that stop you from going deeper?
When we interrupt our limiting thoughts by dissociating vs. examining them, we never give ourselves a chance to move past them.
We condition our behavior and settle for the status quo.**
What ultimately creates a strong connection or relationship? Is it bypassing vulnerably and discomfort.
Do you even have to start there or can you feel ease with connection skills you already have?
Today we explore:
-What does create a relationship?
-What is the catalyst you want for your connections? Is drinking no longer it?
-How you can use evidence in other areas as a focal point for connection in social situations where alcohol is present.
-How would things be different if we used being human as the only catalyst for connection we needed?
Unlearn the habit of alcohol in 3 months with private 1:1 coaching in The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program
I will be there to guide you every step of the way.
Come September, you'll be so grateful for the bold action you took TODAY in gifting yourself a plan.
Schedule a complimentary call where together we can plan the next phase of your life, on purpose. HERE.
Growing your drinking discernment the ability to judge well. When it comes to alcohol, this is everything.
The voice of the habit and nostalgic memories, create feel good chemicals themselves. When you think of NOT doing that, feelings of deprivation compound.
So how do you stay in your TRUTH and grow new pathways for changing your relationship to alcohol and not feel like you are missing out?
How to use your intuition rather than ego to decide with ease and purpose and clarity.
Discerning between what you have chosen as a new intention for not drinking and what you have evidence for in the past.
You can be convicted in one moment to not drink and fall into illusions of alcohol romance the next.
Today you will learn:
-Importance of intentional thought creation.
-Three steps for discerment from intuition rather than ego.
-Understanding the catalyst of alcohol for pleasure and how to do it on your own.
-Why our brain overrides our initial intentions
-Skills for the most effective way to learn something new
Unlearn the habit of alcohol in 3 months with private 1:1 coaching in The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program
I will be there to guide you every step of the way.
Schedule a complimentary call where together we can plan the next phase of your life, on purpose. HERE.
Are on the fence about alcohol?
Waiting for the perfect solution that will make it easier, all the while, the habit is getting stronger?
The secret to changing your mind about alcohol is changing the thought that it's going to be hard.
This thought is WHY it is hard when you take a break.
Not because it really is.
There will be new emotions that are uncomfortable and unfamiliar, but you've done WAY harder.
It's the perception that it's BIGGER than a drink.
That it's BIGGER than you.
As soon as you stop making it about the alcohol, and make it about YOU.
Everything shifts.
You have everything you need to make a change, right now.
More time and more information is SLOWING you down.
It's keeping you stuck in INACTION.
Today you will learn:
-How you are making this change harder.
-What you can do to make changing your relationship to alcohol easier.
-How to inner resources the solution
-Skills you need to create the result
-Why taking your last sip isn't the first step
-Why "taking a break" is hindering you
It's building a new relationship to yourself that takes you out of your comfort zone, but pays off in the end.
The body just thinks it's hard because it's different.
Because it can't SEE it based on evidence from the past.
But you don't have to BELIVE something in your bones 100% to know it's possible.
What you do need to do is get in the vibration of the FREQUENCY of belies, trust and conviction.
See yourself there.
Be that person.
Align with the vibration and stay there,
Mary
P.S. Enroll Today! The Stop Drinking & Start Living Program has all of the skill building tools you need for for Inner Resourcing, solving the problem from the inside vs. looking to change the outer circumstance.
✨If you have questions about the program, reply to any email for support.
mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
Need some inspiration to make the journey away from alcohol feel more joyful, exciting and full of purpose and passion?
Then this episode is for you.
We are often more focused on what we think the downside of change will be.
Today's episode gives you every upside to living a life FULLY AWAKE.
And I'm not talking about better skin and more energy, I'm talking about your purpose BEYOND illusion, beyond the good and bad.
The right and wrong.
Beyond the need to even HEAL.
This is about being WITH life, as it is, no alteration required.
Take a deep breath, grab a cup of tea, and come on in!
Join me, and four of the Magical Mentors from the Stop Drinking and Start Living program.
Each one of them share a lesson to the members of their own magic they offer to the world inside of the Portal Of Empowerment.
I am beyond grateful for this episode for my own personal connection to these Women and because I get to be on the planet with them at the same time.
There presence here on this show and your listening is a frequency match.
This information needs to be in your sphere and in your ears.
Take the most useful bits to inspire you to see the MAGIC waiting for you on the other side of alcohol.
Find more about our Mentors Magic:Freedom Ciavarello: Plant Alchemist and Empowerment Coach (maker of our special program blends)
Laura Aszman : Beauty In Movement: Embodiment Facilitator and Hoop Dance Instructor
Marlo Nikkila : Living A Life Of Play and Surrender
Nura Rachelle : Cosmic Queen of the Stars, Astrologer and Teacher
PS: The Stop Drinking & Start Living Program is full of practical magic. The MAGIC of CONFRONTING YOUR STORY, and WRITING A NEW ONE and watch it come to life. But it only happens when you start NOW. Portal doors are open.
✨If you have questions about the program, reply to any email for support.
mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
When we are changing our relationship to anything, we face resistance.
When drinking is black and white, it's on and off.
Good or bad.
You can't see your way through all of the unhelpful thoughts your mind gives you about the future of NEVER drinking again, and why that is doom and gloom.
It creates black and white thinking, which has you going in one direction, to the past and moderation.
Either you'll be a drinker forever and you resign yourself to it or you're life will be empty.
When you use the process of the five shifts I teach in the Stop Drinking and Start Living Program, you create a rainbow of thinking.
You see, what do I want more of today?
Why would I NOT drink?
One circumstance at a time, you reduce your desire to drink.
You celebrate that moment and fuel your energy to ask again and again.
What do I want more of today?
Why am I drinking?
What is one thing I can do today with what I have?
PS: Ready to see your life in rainbows instead of black and whit? The Stop Drinking & Start Living Program is where we practice making decisions and thinking on purpose until one day you are no longer thinking about alcohol.
P.P.S Join our Free Monthly Community Circle, get your self on the list! First Monday of Every Month.
✨If you have questions about the program, reply to any email for support.
mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
From today's LIVE Q&A on instagram join me for a practice of DIRECT EXPERIENCE:
This overrides your habitual reaction network that seems like alcohol is an uncontrollable impulse.
-What is holistic alcohol coaching?
-Why ritual and ceremony are important in our modern world.
-How to keep the battery of the prefrontal cortex charged so you can make NEW decisions from the present moment, not based on the past.
PS: The Stop Drinking & Start Living Program is packed full of Direct Experience practices to help you build the muscle of mindfulness that you need to process your thoughts and emotions from a place that feels safe and secure.
✨If you have questions about the program, reply to any email for support.
mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
Jill truly believed she was obsessive compulsive and was just going to have to live with the overwhelming and exhausting thoughts about alcohol and the desire to drink, until she found a new approach, The Five Shifts process.
When she realized there was another solution to getting alcohol out of her way, that she didn't have to just stop drinking and hold on for dear life, she started believing there was a new choice and decided, I want to learn that too.
Join my amazing client Jill, in today's podcast, who is crushing it at eliminating her desire to drink and befriending her emotions.
She joined me in learning the tools I teach in the Stop Drinking and Start Living Program and never looked back.
In today's podcast, she shares with you the simple process, the result and the profound impact it has had on her life.
How she doesn't have to avoid ANYTHING, even wine tastings.
Learn to take your life to new heights like Jill when you get curious about learning a new way.
The tools Jill has learned are priceless for living the life not only that she desires, but deserves.
Thank you Jill! You are such and inspiration!!!
Riding high,
Mary
PS: Join Jill and many other women who are changing their relationship to alcohol by getting to know themselves and learning how to do for themselves what they thought only alcohol could in the Stop Drinking & Start Living Program.
✨If you have questions about the program, reply to any email for support.
mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
Every Wednesday on I am offering a a live Q & A and discussion on Instagram, based around the Five Shifts Process that we use in the Stop Drinking & Start Living Program.
I will be sharing it here on the show every Friday.
The compassionate witness is how start to have a new relationship to ourself and how we are seeing alcohol.
Often it is easier to be compassionate to a younger version of yourself than it is to your adult self.
Befriending your inner child who is having the emotions that need validation, is a way to start to befriend and developing a more intimate relationship with yourself.
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We convince ourselves that our objections are facts, when the truth is, there is ALWAYS a way to take the NEXT STEP toward what you want.
It doesn't mean you have to quit drinking today, but you can at least decide what you want your summer to look like.
Do you want it to be more of the same, or a summer of adventure?
The greatest adventure of this life, is getting to know yourself.
That is what I want for you.
The opportunity to step into this extraordinary LIFE, fully, with out objection.
Today we explore the objection of TIME.
If now isn't the right time. But when is? And how will you know when you get there?
What will be the perfect program and the perfect opportunity?
You get to decide right here and now, this is it.
No expectations, just one step in a new direction.
HERE IS THE LIST NEW THOUGHTS TO THINK:
WHICH ONE CREATES THE BEST EMOTION TO INSPIRE ACTION TOWARDS THE DIRECTION OF STARTING THE PROCESS OF GETTING ALCOHOL OUT OF YOUR WAY?
PICK THAT THOUGHT AND STICK WITH IT.
SAY IT EVERYDAY ALL DAY.
I’m ready now.
I want to go on an adventure.
Let’s see where this takes us.
The worst thing that can happen is I end up right where I am.
I’ve got nothing to loose.
What am I waiting for?
There’s never been a better time.
I’m a grown Woman, I do what I want when I want.
This is how I take care of myself.
**I’m excited to be a student of me and of life.
Coaching will give me the opportunity to be efficient at being human.
Using my body and mind to the full extent.**
I don’t make plans for alcohol.
Everything you need all in one place.
JOIN THE PROGRAM HERE
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It's hard to move forward when you are confused about why you are where you are.
Today I share the three main areas people stay stuck in confusion about alcohol around and how to solve for them.
The solution to alcohol is much simpler than you may have once thought.
Not only could you not SEE the path, you didn't even know there was one.
Now you know. If you are ready for a big shift in alcohol, come find out how to get started in the Stop Drinking and Start Living Program where you gain life time access to life altering tools, weekly coaching and UNLIMITED support.
Everything you need all in one place.
JOIN THE PROGRAM HERE
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Stop Drinking and Stop Living Program Portal Doors Are OPEN!! Awakening to the wisdom of innocence, is the connection you’ve been seeking.
Today I share a live post I recorded to welcome you into the program and to remind you that the connection you seek and are afraid you may be missing out on if you say good bye to alcohol, is actually what is waiting for you on the otherside.
🥳 Stop Drinking and Start Living program portal doors are officially open!
🌈 join today and receive your bonus through April 1, 2022 a private 1:1 healing session with Mary
✨Pre-Enrollment through April 1st, 2022. Everyone who registers for the Stop Drinking & Start Living Program will receive a bonus, 1:1 Private Quantum Healing Session with Mary. Together we will set and intention, create a sacred space for you to safely connect to your higher self and the divine parts of your essence, receive guidance you need to change your relationship to alcohol in a profound and expedited way through reparenting and unconditional love.
There will be a link to schedule your call in your inbox after you register. Portal access opens April 1st.
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The conflicting beliefs about alcohol are confusing and EXHAUSTING.
Something you once loved, is revealing its self as no longer useful.
The gap between being a drinker and no longer wanting to, is getting bigger and the conversation is getting louder.
The narrative says if. you can’t hang, you're broken.
So where do you turn?
How can something that is causing you pain be something you still want?
And the answer and solution you seek doesn’t appear to exist yet in the current narrative.
Until now.
I know the way out and it works.
It’s turning what feels like a BOULDER in your life, into a PEBBLE,
and it can happen quickly with the right tools and support.
It’s simply a shift in perspective.
To shift from conflict to clarity.
From pain to ease.
From shame to confidence.
It’s simple and it’s free.
In today's episode we explore WHY you can't seem to rest from this obsessive thinking and how to find peace through self authority, awareness and awakening.
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✨Pre-Enrollment through April 1st, 2022. Everyone who registers for the Stop Drinking & Start Living Program will receive a bonus, 1:1 Private Quantum Healing Session with Mary. Together we will set and intention, create a sacred space for you to safely connect to your higher self and the divine parts of your essence, receive guidance you need to change your relationship to alcohol in a profound and expedited way through reparenting and unconditional love.
There will be a link to schedule your call in your inbox after you register. Portal access opens April 1st.
✨3/30/22 at 11am PST I will be hosting a LIVE Q&A webinar for any and all questions about the program and for coaching on ANYTHING. Come get your questions answered and ask me anything.It's go time!No registration required. If you can't be there and want your question answered, hit reply to this now and I will answer it on the call. I will send out a replay after.
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You don’t need to be a previous version of yourself.
You don’t need to be highly motivate.
You don’t need to be excited about sobriety.
Getting good at not drinking is about how you TALK TO yourself, no matter what decisions you make.You don’t need a morning routine to quit drinking.
You don’t need to ADD anything to your day.
You don’t need to meditate more, exercise more, journal more.
These things create positive impact, but they aren’t necessary.
All you need to get alcohol out of your way, is to change the way you talk to yourself.JOIN THE PROGRAM HERE
PRE-ENROLLMENT IS OPEN FOR STOP DRINKING & START LIVING LIVE COACHING PROGRAM DON'T MISS OUT 🌟BONUS WEEK OFFERS🌟
✨Pre-Enrollment through April 1st, 2022. Everyone who registers for the Stop Drinking & Start Living Program will receive a bonus, 1:1 Private Quantum Healing Session with Mary. Together we will set and intention, create a sacred space for you to safely connect to your higher self and the divine parts of your essence, receive guidance you need to change your relationship to alcohol in a profound and expedited way through reparenting and unconditional love.
There will be a link to schedule your call in your inbox after you register. Portal access opens April 1st.
✨3/30/22 at 11am PST I will be hosting a LIVE Q&A webinar for any and all questions about the program and for coaching on ANYTHING. Come get your questions answered and ask me anything.It's go time!No registration required. If you can't be there and want your question answered, hit reply to this now and I will answer it on the call. I will send out a replay after.
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You know it's time, because you are here. Because after the curiosity and the new thinking , there is only ACTION.
You do NOT have to stop drinking to start the process, all you have to do is get in the program and get EXACTLY what you need.
JOIN THE PROGRAM HERE
PRE-ENROLLMENT IS OPEN FOR STOP DRINKING & START LIVING LIVE COACHING PROGRAM DON'T MISS OUT 🌟BONUS WEEK OFFERS🌟
✨Pre-Enrollment through April 1st, 2022. Everyone who registers for the Stop Drinking & Start Living Program will receive a bonus, 1:1 Private Quantum Healing Session with Mary. Together we will set and intention, create a sacred space for you to safely connect to your higher self and the divine parts of your essence, receive guidance you need to change your relationship to alcohol in a profound and expedited way through reparenting and unconditional love.
There will be a link to schedule your call in your inbox after you register. Portal access opens April 1st.
✨3/30/22 at 11am PST I will be hosting a LIVE Q&A webinar for any and all questions about the program and for coaching on ANYTHING. Come get your questions answered and ask me anything.It's go time!No registration required. If you can't be there and want your question answered, hit reply to this now and I will answer it on the call. I will send out a replay after.
MAKE SURE YOU ARE ON THE MAILING LIST. GET THE FREE TRINING BUTTON WILL ADD YOU TO THE LIST AND YOU WILL GET THE LINK
Get ready to be inspired! My fun and inspirational client, Amanda started her journey with a year of curiosity listening to the podcast.
Things started shifting for her when she realized there was in fact a new and maybe desirable way to drink less, forever.
Once she gave herself permission to dive into the coaching, it was the SPARK that ignited her passions for life.
The work she did around alcohol was really the door the spiritual deep dive she was longing for in all areas of her life, to align with her true values and bigger purpose.
She very intentionally, day by day, grew her emotional awareness that had been on the back burner, and hidden by alcohol.
She also realized a lot of the reasons she was drinking, weren't actually true for her anymore, she just needed to ask WHY?
Amanda intentionally made the work of unlearning alcohol a priority in her life and she expedited her results because of it.
The impact has opened up possibilities of for deeper connection in her relationships, new career, habits, interests, and more importantly, connection to self and this life.
Amanda's story is your story.
She too thought she would always want to drink, she identified with being a "drinker", and now, a short 6 moths later, it's the furthest thing from what she even thinks about or desires in her day to day.
Amanda, you are a rock star! Thank you for taking the leap to change the narrative and being a trail blazer in the next phase of human liberation through SELF AUTHORITY!
From today's podcast guest and program client, Amanda, speaking to what was "freed up" from the work we did together:
"I think it's two things really, first of all, alcohol was taking up a lot of space in my in my head and it's not that I was you know, constantly craving it by any means it was just I was always negotiating with myself or trying to set rules or thinking about when I was going to be drinking or not drinking or you know, just it took up way too much space and energy in my brain. And then the other shift has really been a flow of creativity that as I have gotten alcohol out of my life I just really feel very open and more spiritual and just I feel a lot of things flowing through me right now. So those have been really big shifts and just that I think really it started with that just clearing it out of my out of my head and not having it be so like present and taking up so much of my energy I think that really just opened up so much space for so many other things to flow through."
WE ARE ALMOST THERE!!! The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program:
Registration opens APRIL 1st!
Are you coming?
Mary
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The narrative of what you think it means to drink or not drink is one of the biggest things keeping you stuck in your relationship to alcohol.
What I want you to know, is it's all made up and you get to decide from your brain what BELIEFS you want to keep and which one's are no longer useful.
Today on the podcast, I talk about why I am starting the stop drinking and stop living program. (YAY!!!)
You are still evolving, is it important that you have access to new structures, beliefs and paradigms in our culture that are relevant and up to date with your needs.
Mental health, self development, coaching, spiritual connection and the desire to change one's relationship to alcohol are quickly becoming necessities to have access to for all people.
Not because the person has the "problem", but because alcohol is no longer useful and is taking up more thought time than it needs.
This program is designed to support internal Innovation so you can begin to recognize your WHOLENESS, vs the need to fill a hole with anything outside of yourself.
This is what ultimately reduces your desire to drink.
Find out how you can blaze the trail of the next phase of human evolution and show up unapologetically ready to rock being YOU more fully.
Let's GO!
Mary
"I rediscovered the core of who I am and what brings me life. I felt feelings that were so so big. I didn’t know my heart got that big. And definitely more than once the idea in my mind was - with alcohol this would not be possible!
Big love to you!! Thank you so much for all your support in getting me to this point. I had to open up and get curious. And that curiosity is blooming so damn big right now!!!!🌹🌹🌹🌹✨✨✨✨✨" -Client Message
Stay Tuned For The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program!
Registration opens APRIL 1st!
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If you have been on the fence at all about joining the program, you DO NOT want to miss today's episode on the podcast.
I interview my super fun and ambitious client, Laura Jelinek.
It's PACKED with wisdom and next steps for you and your journey.
Though the process of coaching Laura speaks to how she put alcohol in it's place and is keeping it there:
💖Turning resistance into curiosity through embracing the feminine, being part of life. That in our modern world we are simply not taught to FEEL, but it's the door way to EVOLUTION.
💖How new beliefs take time to create.
💖Why moderation takes up more time and energy than not drinking.
💖The freedom of clarity of mind and SPACE after alcohol.
💖What it mean to take it down to the STUDS of your beliefs around alcohol.
💖What is possible for her CARPE DIEM mentality now that alcohol is out of her way.
💖How the answers you seek are truly inside.
💖Where she is now continues to allow alcohol to be " such an easy trade from this vantage point".
YES!!!! This is possible for you too. Thank you Laura for your bravery and curiosity. We can't wait to see more of you magic in this world. xxoo, Mary
"I rediscovered the core of who I am and what brings me life. I felt feelings that were so so big. I didn’t know my heart got that big. And definitely more than once the idea in my mind was - with alcohol this would not be possible!
Big love to you!! Thank you so much for all your support in getting me to this point. I had to open up and get curious. And that curiosity is blooming so damn big right now!!!!🌹🌹🌹🌹✨✨✨✨✨" - Message Laura
Stay Tuned For The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program!
Registration opens APRIL 1st!
Registration for the Stop Drinking & Start Living Program Opens April 1st: Make Sure You Are On The Wait! Click HERE
Your attention span is your advantage to success.
Learning takes time to get you from where you are to where you want to go
vs. jumping around from one thing to the next because it "didn't work."
Anything will work if you work it and give it time, anything.
Circumstances don't create your outcome, your thoughts do.
Where are your thoughts?
They are on an "easier" way.
A way that's not the one in front of you.
Don't get sucked in.
Pick ONE distention and put your blinders on.
Don't stop until you get there.
Eliminating your desire for alcohol, getting it out of your way and being free of the burdens of alcohol is no different.
This episode is the first break down of how the Stop Drinking and Start Living Program will meet you ever step of the way on your learning journey.
In the Stop Drinking and Start Living Program you will gain all the Clarity, Confidence and Commitment you need to be successful.
I break down:
-Why you need to give yourself time.
-The actual steps of the process of learning.
-How the stop drinking and start living program overcomes all of your objections and fears.
-why you already have what it takes to be successful.
-how the tools and process you learn in the program can be applied to every other area of life.
-why the stop drinking & start living program is the last time you will ever start the process of stoping.
10 Steps For How To Eliminate Your Desire & Attachment To Alcohol
Ep. #120: Step 1: Sensation, the willingness to feel.
Bonus Episode: Embodiment Practice
Ep # 121 Step 2: Cultivating Non-Judgmental Emotional Awareness
Ep. #122 Step 3: Awareness of Desire Thinking
Ep. # 123: Step 4 Awareness of Attachment Thoughts
Ep. # 124: Step 5 Creating Your Belief Goal
Ep. # 125: Step 6 Processing Emotion
Ep. # 126: Step 7 Stop Bargaining & Start Accepting
Ep. # 127: Step 8 Generating Evidence In Your Favor
Ep. # 128: Step 9 Love & Abundance vs. Fear & Scarcity
Ep. #129: Step 10 Learning a new way
"I had a voice inside me telling me every day that it was time to stop drinking and see what lies ahead for me. During our time together I discovered many reasons why my drinking had escalated. With Mary’s help I learned to deal with my emotions and habits in a very healthy way. " -Courageous Client Testimonial
Stay Tuned For The Stop Drinking and Start Living Program!Registration opens APRIL 1st!
The first 50 members will receive 3 quantum healing 1:1 bonus sessions with Mary.
These are highly transformational opportunities, doing what years of therapy can accomplish in just hours.
Registration for the Stop Drinking & Start Living Program Opens April 1st: Make Sure You Are On The Wait! Click HERE
The energy of emotions fueling your decision has a bigger impact on the result than the decision itself. We make decisions for two reasons: to move towards pain or away from pleasure. This is why it is challenging to change your relationship to alcohol because it does both of those things at the same time.
What we water grows.
Where you place your attention, energy flows.
Today we grow awareness around the place in your mind where you are making decisions from. Love and abundance or fear and scarcity.
It's a powerful facet to awaken to that will have a huge impact on how your move through circumstances you would have drank in in the past. This is how you want to set yourself up for success to plan ahead of time so the mind you bring with you is one of POSSIBILITY vs. PRACTICALITY.
This is how you get new results.
10 Steps For How To Eliminate Your Desire & Attachment To Alcohol
Ep. #120: Step 1: Sensation, the willingness to feel.
Bonus Episode: Embodiment Practice
Ep # 121 Step 2: Cultivating Non-Judgmental Emotional Awareness
Ep. #122 Step 3: Awareness of Desire Thinking
Ep. # 123: Step 4 Awareness of Attachment Thoughts
Ep. # 124: Step 5 Creating Your Belief Goal
Ep. # 125: Step 6 Processing Emotion
Ep. # 126: Step 7 Stop Bargaining & Start Accepting
Ep. # 127: Step 8 Generating Evidence In Your Favor
Get the free training to find freedom from alcohol: Click HERE
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Remember what you love and you will remember who you are.
Make a list of all of the things little to big you have ever loved since you were a baby until now.
Look at how they make you feel and how many of them will have nothing to do with alcohol.
There's all the evidence you need that a life LOVED is a life you already KNOW, you just need to keep practicing.
Today we are talking all about generating evidence to the contrary of the beliefs that support alcohol, but not in your outer world, in your life. Evidence you already have because it's you are amazing and other things are more important to you than alcohol. The more evidence you have that you DON'T require alcohol, the less desire and attachment you will have.
1) Look at what you love and why?
2) What are your NON_negotiables around alcohol? Where won't you drink? Dig deep to find that core VALUE and apply that reason to the areas where it seems impossible.
3) Out of these "trigger" categories, find evidence where you use to drink and don't any more. Or how you solve the problem already without alcohol. Recognize your inner strength to know you can apply this to other areas.
Write it down and make a list.
4) Remind yourself often of how amazing you are!
Types Of Triggers:
Habitual: regular drinking that is second nature.
Coping : As a tool for "processing"/suppressing emotion.
Situational: "Special occasion" drinking.
Nastolgia: Fond memories you experience through the senses.
Nihilism/Self Sabotage: "Screw it." Not in alignment w/ higher self.
Trauma/Life Events: Something you haven't yet experienced.
Ep. #120: Step 1: Sensation, the willingness to feel.
Bonus Episode: Embodiment Practice
Ep # 121 Step 2: Cultivating Non-Judgmental Emotional Awareness
Ep. #122 Step 3: Awareness of Desire Thinking
Ep. # 123: Step 4 Awareness of Attachment Thoughts
Ep. # 124: Step 5 Creating Your Belief Goal
Ep. # 125: Step 6 Processing Emotion
Ep. # 126: Step 7 Stop Bargaining & Start Accepting
Get the free training to find freedom from alcohol: Click HERE
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When we try to change the way things are and create expectations that we can't control, we create more longing, desire and attachment for alcohol and stress around life.
Acceptance and loving what is, is a quick and easy way to start to eliminate your desire and attachment to alcohol.
Where are you NOW with alcohol and where do you want to go? Start here and accept that this is where you are.
Create some statements that are neutral:
It's okay.
We are here now.
What's the next step?
We know where we want to go, just one foot in front of the other.
This week, start to cultivate NEW THINKING from acceptance and stop wasting your time on trying to have what you can not control.
Ep. #120: Step 1: Sensation, the willingness to feel.
Bonus Episode: Embodiment Practice
Ep # 121 Step 2: Cultivating Non-Judgmental Emotional Awareness
Ep. #122 Step 3: Awareness of Desire Thinking
Ep. # 123: Step 4 Awareness of Attachment Thoughts
Ep. # 124: Step 5 Creating Your Belief Goal
Ep. # 125: Step 6 Processing Emotion
Ep. # 126: Step 7 Stop Bargaining & Start Accepting
Get the free training to find freedom from alcohol: Click HERE
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This is an intimate and vulnerable episode you don't want to miss. I take you through the interpersonal workings of my brain and body through a fear response, melancholy and the Exact, step by step, in real time, emotional process I used on a plane flying to Mexico.
This is the 6th step out of 10, and probably THE MOST CRUCIAL to practice and master.
Go slow and do what feels safe.
In the Stop Drinking and Start Living Program you will have access to multiple versions of this process to see what lands with you and your body.
I will also take you 1:1 through the process in real time.
Knowing something conceptually vs. true embodiment is a game changer.
Everyone comes to this practice with a different set of trauma's.
It is important to validate your body for protecting you and closing the gap between the ego and sources, little by little, until you feel safe enough to surrender.
Quantum healing is using your senses and imagination to really FEEL into the emotion and do a lot of deep integration and healing in a short amount of time.
Step by step process for processing an urge/emotion: (this happens in your head or out loud)
You can incorporate essential oils into this practice for even better results.
1) Become aware your mind is looping and the urge is growing because of it. Take note of the space around you and you in the space. Just become aware.
2) Take several deep breaths and say: Come in to the body. Just breath and make space. Use the exhale breath through the mouth through out, as needed to keep emptying heat and making space.
3) Locate the place of the urge in the body. Name it.
4) Discribe how it FEELS, the sensations.
5) Give it an identity with the senses. (what is the shape, color, texture, feel, smell, taste, sound?)
6) If this urge or emotion had a message for you, what would it say?
7) From the place of the compassionate witness, respond to that message.
8) keep responding to the YOU who is having the urge with words of love, kindness, compassion, understanding. (I see you, I hear you, I am not going anywhere, keep breathing.)
9) Bring in white golden light, or an element to dissolve the urge.
10) Use the inhale breath like a sponge to dissolve the urge. Use the exhale breath to dissipate and transmute the energy.
11) Keep spreading the golden white light or element of your choice ( go with what naturally comes to you) though out your entire body.
12) Let the light/element move past your skin and 6 feet in all directions until you are completely absorbed by this light.
13) Imagine the emotion of peace, freedom, unconditional love.
14) Bring in an image, see your self experiencing that vibration.
15) Keep breathing and rest here until it feels like it's time to come back to your environment.
Ep. #120: Step 1: Sensation, the willingness to feel.
Bonus Episode: Embodiment Practice
Ep # 121 Step 2: Cultivating Non-Judgmental Emotional Awareness
Ep. #122 Step 3: Awareness of Desire Thinking
Ep. # 123: Step 4 Awareness of Attachment Thoughts
Ep. # 124: Step 5 Creating Your Belief Goal
Get the free training to find freedom from alcohol: Click HERE
**Email: mary@marywagstaffcoach.com with questions for the show or to share your story.
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Setting a goal to stop drinking over night is like trying to loose 10 pounds by Tuesday morning, it won't work.
There are steps you must take to build your bridge to a life free of the desire and attachment to alcohol.
You need to have a new MINDSET, to cultivate the inner voice, or the goal won't be sustainable.
Don't miss this weeks episode where I teach Step #5: you why setting a goal when it comes to alcohol is crucial, and how to create one that generates motivation and inspiration on it's own.
Create your belief goal today!
What do you want to believe about alcohol?
Start with the result and work your way backwards.
Then measure it with evidence.
The habit of alcohol is a learned behavior, no matter WHY you are drinking or what your set of adverse experiences have, you weren't BORN attached to alcohol.
For this reason your desire and attachment can be UNLEARNED and even ELIMINATED.
YAY! When you have none to little desire and attachment, the problem of alcohol ceases to exist.
To kick off 2022 I am hosting a series: 10 Steps to How to ELIMINATE your desire and attachment to alcohol.
Ep. #120: Step 1: Sensation, the willingness to feel.
Bonus Episode: Embodiment Practice
Ep # 121 Step 2: Cultivating Non-Judgmental Emotional Awareness
Ep. #122 Step 3: Awareness of Desire Thinking
Ep. # 123: Step 4 Awareness of Attachment Thoughts
Get the free training to find freedom from alcohol: Click HERE
**Email: mary@marywagstaffcoach.com with questions for the show or to share your story.
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The habit and addiction to alcohol is a learned behavior, no matter WHY you are drinking or what your set of adverse experiences have, you weren't BORN attached to alcohol.
For this reason your desire and attachment can be UNLEARNED and even ELIMINATED.
YAY! When you have none to little desire and attachment, the problem of alcohol ceases to exist.
To kick off 2022 I am hosting a series: 10 Steps to How to ELIMINATE your desire and attachment to alcohol.
Ep. #120: Step 1: Sensation, the willingness to feel.
Bonus Episode: Embodiment Practice
Ep # 121 Step 2: Cultivating Non-Judgmental Emotional Awareness
Ep. #122 Step 3: Awareness of Desire Thinking
Today, Step 4 is all about cultivating the awareness of the thoughts that create ATTACHMENT to alcohol.
What we THINK alcohol is. What we have been conditioned to believe. How we identify with alcohol. The "idea" of alcohol. Why you can't imagine life without it.
This dives into some of the romance and nostalgia of alcohol.
When you start to see all of the ways you are ATTACHED to alcohol, you can understand why it feels scary to let it go.
Get curious about when you start thinking in "forever". Get curious when you start thinking "never again".
This week:
Identify the emotion of "attachment" when it arises.
Identify the thought or belief about alcohol, the story it has created.
Go deeper and FEEL the sensations of attachment in your body.
Then ask: "how could this be better?"
Above all else, STAY NEUTRAL. This is the exploratory, awareness generating phase of eliminating your desire and attachment to alcohol. Here is a list of EMOTIONS. Get curious knowing what yours are.
Listen to the BONUS Ep. after #120, for a full embodiment practice to start the process of cultivating awareness of sensation.
Get the free training to find freedom from alcohol: Click HERE
**Email: mary@marywagstaffcoach.com with questions for the show or to share your story.
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The habit and addiction to alcohol is a learned behavior, no matter WHY you are drinking or what your set of adverse experiences have, you weren't BORN attached to alcohol.
For this reason your desire and attachment can be UNLEARNED and even ELIMINATED.
YAY! When you have none to little desire and attachment, the problem of alcohol ceases to exist.
To kick off 2022 I am hosting a series: 10 Steps to How to ELIMINATE your desire and attachment to alcohol.
Ep. #120: Step 1: Sensation, the willingness to feel.
Bonus Episode: Embodiment Practice
Ep # 121 Step 2: Cultivating Non-Judgmental Emotional Awareness
Today Ep. #122 Step 3: Awareness of Desire Thinking
Awareness is always the first step to change. That is why I am hitting this hard at the beginning of this series. Breaking down all fo the components that are part of getting a drink in your hand. Sensation, Emotion, Thoughts.
You have to first bring what has been running the show from the shadows, into the light.
Your thoughts about drinking are not all the same. Some create a physical urge, DESIRE, craving. Some create a sadness, a longing, and attachment, or disgust.
Desire is what HAS to go if you want to live a deprivation free life. You didn't always have the desire to drink, there for you can unlearn it, just like with a relationship.
This wee's inquiry: Notice when you HAVE the desire to drink.
Why? What is the specific thought?
What does that feel like in your body?
What is the EMOTION you are trying to change?
How are you hoping to feel?
Why?
Above all else, STAY NEUTRAL. This is the exploratory, awareness generating phase of eliminating your desire and attachment to alcohol. Here is a list of EMOTIONS. Get curious knowing what yours are.
Listen to the BONUS Ep. after #120, for a full embodiment practice to start the process of cultivating awareness of sensation.
Get the free training to find freedom from alcohol: Click HERE
**Email: mary@marywagstaffcoach.com with questions for the show or to share your story.
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The habit and addiction to alcohol is a learned behavior, no matter WHY you are drinking or what your set of adverse experiences have, you weren't BORN attached to alcohol.
For this reason your desire and attachment can be UNLEARNED and even ELIMINATED.
YAY! When you have none to little desire and attachment, the problem of alcohol ceases to exist.
To kick off 2022 I am hosting a series: 10 Steps to How to ELIMINATE your desire and attachment to alcohol.
Ep. #120: Step 1: Sensation, the willingness to feel.
Bonus Episode: Embodiment Practice
Today on Ep # 121 Step 2: Cultivating Non-Judgmental Emotional Awarness
Sensations come from many circumstances, but the ones you are mostly avoiding come from Emotions.
The sensation are still the same, vibration in the body trigger by a response to an outside stimulus/circumstnace.
The reason they are fear and avoided is for two reasons: 1) they are unfamiliar and the body/mind strive to protect it's self and stay safe. 2) Your judgements ABOUT the emotion. That it's wrong/bad. You SHOULDN'T feel this way.
This week: Bcome aware of sensation.
Identify the specific emotion ( have fun with this.)
Notice your opinions/judgments about it.
Above all else, STAY NEUTRAL. This is the exploratory, awareness generating phase of eliminating your desire and attachment to alcohol. Here is a list of EMOTIONS. Get curious knowing what yours are.
Listen to the BONUS Ep. after #120, for a full embodiment practice to start the process of cultivating awareness of sensation.
Get the free training to find freedom from alcohol: Click HERE
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This is the companion episode to #120. Cultivating the witness and the willingness to FEEL sensations is how you begin to eliminate your desire and attachment to alcohol.
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The habit and addiction to alcohol is a learned behavior, no matter WHY you are drinking or what your set of adverse experiences have, you weren't BORN attached to alcohol.
For this reason your desire and attachment can be UNLEARNED and even ELIMINATED.
YAY! When you have none to little desire and attachment, the problem of alcohol ceases to exist.
Today kicks off 2022 and a 10 part series of how to ELIMINATE your desire and attachment to alcohol.
Step 1: Sensation, the willingness to feel. Making alcohol a neutral, irrelevant part of your life requires getting to know yourself in ways you never have. This means you must become the WITNESS to your own experience. Observing yourself free of judgment to check in and learn more about what you didn't know before.
Our bodies are full of vibrating energy that creates sensations in the body.
These sensations have a life span. They change and eventually go away. Nothing is permanent.
Life is change. This episode goes along with the next BONUS episode to take you through and embodiment practice of sensation for just the EXPERIENCE of it.
I also share a little secret in the works for spring 2022! Get on my mailing list and get the free training. Start your journey inward today! Click HERE
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I share an share an inspiring testimonial from my sweet client, friend and colleague, Nura Rachelle,
Here is her amazing intuitive astro guidance. She is a wonderful teacher, mentor and galactic alchemist.
The VAST majority of your daily thinking goes uncovered in the subconscious mind.
This means your response to life is mostly unconscious.
It has been learned and is now a habit.
Your unconscious beliefs about alcohol are running the show.
These uncovered thoughts are often what can hinder you from eliminating your desire to drink.
Your get out of jail free card isn't actually saving you, it's saving the habit from getting the boot and stopping new thoughts and habits from forming.
You have to be on to yourself.
To discern an URGE from an uncovered belief that you have been holding in your back pocket for just the right moment.
In today's episode I teach you how.
In today's episode I teach you how.
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There are a lot of approaches that you have taken to stop drinking. We all have the first hand experience of the negative impact of alcohol on our bodies. You have woken up time and time again thinking "not again", only to hit the store on the way home.
On today's episode I teach you why Alcohol is bad for me, doesn't work as a solution to inspire you to stop and what does instead.
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There is a gap between being a drinker and getting alcohol out of your way.
You know, because you have fallen in that gap, many times.
You have to build a bridge.
It's not always EASY, but it can be simple.
The Women who DO bridge the gap, have a few things in common...
Find out what they are and how you can be them too.
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For women of all ages, child baring or NOT, it is so important to understand the DEPTHS of the implication of alcohol on your hormones and reproductive health. (pre and post menopause.)
Especially if you have been trying to convince, HOLISTIC wellness, is crucial to success.
The Feminine Mysteries once deeply woven into daily life, are a crucial ingredient in our success and longevity in life and understanding our relationship to alcohol.
Everything you do that affects your body has an impact on the layers of you.
Sarah Clark founder of Fab Fertile Inc. is taking conception to a new level with a wrap around holistic, functional approach to her services. Her first hand experience and vast knowledge working with a team of experts is something we need more of in all areas of Women's health and public health for that matter.
Please check out Sarah's Work and her free FERTILITY CHALLENGE!
Our bodies and emotions respond to beliefs (thoughts) and real life experiences the same.
Are you making decisions from BELIEF or FIRST HAND EXPERIENCE?
We have so many uncovered beliefs about ourselves, the world and alcohol, it's important to ask:
Is this true for ME?
Is this based on FIRST HAND EXPERIENCE, or something I have interpreted from information outside of myself or influenced from the past?
This is such a game changer for living life on purpose.
Test your theories, uncover your truths.
The worst that can happen is a FEELING.
Dismantle your relationship to alcohol and ELIMINATE THE DESIRE TO DRINK.
Generate evidence to support what you WANT to be true:
That you don't need alcohol to be amazingly YOU!! WOOT!
This may cause resistance and discomfort, but it's the only way to grow and change.
Just because it's on the "news" or in a "health journal" doesn't mean it's true for you.
When you know the author of your life, you can trust the next chapter.
If your unexamined beliefs about alcohol are the authority, your future will be more of the same.
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Overwhelm and stress come from an unmanaged mind. The more you can see where you are leaking energy, the less need you will have to "unwind" in the evenings.
You can mitigate your desires for alcohol by spending time with your thoughts are pulling your attention away.
You only have so much bandwidth in a day, how do you want to spend it?
You can look at just the habit of alcohol, but you also have to understand the WHY you are drinking. When you learn to intentionally place your attention on that which you would like to cultivate, and find closure in the stories that repeat again and again, you will be more successful in every other area of your life.
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Are you dreading the holiday's or are you excited for some socializing and warm hugs?
Either way, the thoughts and emotions you bring to the table are going to determine the results of the evening.
Alcohol creates an internal party of one. A place you can escape, even when your body isn't going anywhere. Problem is, you check out and miss out.
This internal boundary/safe haven is something that you can create alcohol free, by planning ahead of time and managing your mind.
Today I take you step by step through the process to prepare from NOW until your first gathering or solo happening and be so PROUD of yourself walking into 2022.
Enjoy this holiday's AGAIN for the First Time.
Plan ahead of time to ensure your success with my Free Training: 5 shifts to find freedom from alcohol & the practice to help you find Relief from an urge.
Email me: mary@marywagstaffcoach.com with questions for the show!Also.. Ep. #60 From Last Year: 10 Reasons NOT to Drink this Holiday Season. Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me.
There's a reason you can't fathom a life without alcohol. When you try, it feels like a hole. The access to a part of you that will be missing forever.
It's been the only portal to the desires you have of being a free, erotic Woman.
Alcohol will never be what you want it to be or what it once was.
However, there are parts of the IDEA of alcohol that you do want.
The parts of the autonomous Woman you are, free, wild, independent, that you don't see mirrored anywhere else in society.
What are the desires that you THINK you only have access to through alcohol?
Alcohol feels empty because it is an illusion of fulfillment.
Fleeting and distorted.
A ration of normalized sexuality.
An insult on top of injury.
These desires are part of your erotic nature of being HUMAN that alcohol doesn't even hold a flame to.
The disappointment again and again of the fading illusions of grader are become more frequent and making it harder to say no, because you don't know where to go.
In today's episode I share with you what you are awakening to that you can't quite identify and where else you can start looking to awaken your wild self.
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When we leave the results of NOT DRINKING, up to chance, 99% of the time, it will win. The other 1% is you holding on for dear life.
In today's episode I talk about how the result of not drinking is 100% in your control.
When we give away our power to ANY presence outside our ourselves, our results will stay open-ended, up to chance. And we will live a life of uncertainty.
If you want reliable results, you need an unconditional commitment to yourself that no matter what happens or how inconvenienced you might be, it's worth knowing the power is in your hands.
When you commit to making yourself your #1 priority, alcohol starts to take a back seat, naturally.
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The only way to dismantle old thoughts is to prove them wrong through emotional embodiment. When it comes to alcohol the the ability to think on purpose gets over run by the powerful and avoided sensations of urges and the other emotions that trigger them.
Habitual alcohol consumption is a form of reinforced trauma.
The use of alcohol, as the great invalidator says again and again, THE WAY YOU ARE ISN'T OKAY.
You can change your thoughts on purpose all you want, but until you interrupt your ETA at the emotion by experiencing it, that thought will still have power over you.
Today I teach an embodied practice for how to process you emotions and make SPACE and access to new thinking. Days get dark, emotions get heavy, relief comes when you surrender to what wants to come through your body.
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Some times there isn't available SPACE in the body to bring in new emotions, before you clear the old ones out. That is why sometimes no matter how hard you try you have to change your mood, be grateful, think new thoughts, you have to accept moving through the uncomfortable emotions as a part of life and the road to more joy and freedom.
This heaviness is often feelings of loneliness, depression, or melancholy.
Know that EMOTIONAL EMBODIMENT is your key to freedom.
Today I give you a deep inside look into my own personal life, experience of depression and hopelessness and how changing my relationship to alcohol informed how I show up for my life and process my emotions.
You will learn:
Emotions have information.
When your ego is trying to take over.
How to feel on purpose.
Why alcohol can be a great problem to have.
How to feel hard emotions without taking it personal.
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Alcohol is the solution to the problem of drinking. Say what?!?
When you get to this place, your dopamine reserves are always dipping below your baseline, creating a deficit. This robs you from the pleasures of natural dopamine rewards from things like hugs, food, cooking, dancing, playing, community and exercise.
Places where you once found meaning.
Places where you found purpose and pleasure for pleasures sake.
It wasn't always a hike AND a micro brew.
No that you KNOW what's happening in your body, you can find out where you are stacking pleasure and do one thing at a time.
Focus.
Stop multitasking.
Stop eating AND watching TV.
Stop scrolling instagram while you are helping your kids with their home work.
Does a cozy evening need to be cozier with a hot toddy?
Why are you drinking? Exhausted by abundance but yet we can't just chill.
Being present with the pleasure of pursuing the things you enjoy is where you find your purpose.
In today's episode I discuss:
What does PURPOSE mean and how do you find yours?
How to use your purpose to stop over indulging.
Where your attention goes, dopamine flows. You only have so much. How are you using your most motivating neurotransmitter?
Why your life might seem dull and meaningless without alcohol.
How to change your relationship to alcohol and have a steady long lasting joy VS. short term pleasure that has no benefit.
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My wonderfully graceful client, Paula, learned that the only way to change, was to first admit what was wrong. Paula found herself and on the other side of the empty nest and was experiencing a transition in her purpose and identity. The emotions became easier to avoid with wine, until the wine became the real problem. Changes in life create new thoughts and new emotions, especially when those changes affect the core of who you are and how you relate to life. In essence , they trigger the fight or flight mode. The nervous system isn't regulating, hormones and chemicals are shifting and you are figuring out a new way to survive.
Wine seemed like the familiar quick fix and a little pick me up to process the day to day.
Until the desire for it starts to our weight the discomfort of the initial problems it was solving.
Paula's couragousness to come clean to herself about the fear of changing her relationship to alcohol, was the first step.
Loving herself, the second.
And staying committed to a new way, the third.
Hear her incredible journey and all of the stress she was able to relieve just from NOT drinking. And about the permission she was able to give herself to enjoy peace for a job well done.
Thank you, Paula, you are truly amazing. xxoo
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Awareness is always the first step to a new relationship to alcohol.
New knowledge and a new perspective is KEY to NEW results.
If you can't clearly see where you ARE, you can't clearly see a new possibility.
Learn how to grow your awareness in today's episode.
What don't you know?
What haven't you thought of?
What thoughts do you believe that aren't serving you?
What are your thoughts?
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You already have all of the tools you need for change. First you need to become aware of them, understand how they can be applied to alcohol and stay inspired enough to use them.
In today's episode I will highlight the five qualities that you already posses that will support your success in the process of chancing your relationship to alcohol.
The first thing you are doing right is listening to this show!
Stay curious and open minded.
Become the authority of your own life.
Offer yourself great compassion.
Honor your wisdom.
You've got the right stuff!
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In today's episode, I speak to my brave and witty client about her transition from feeling powerless and divorced from spirit through compulsive behavior, to discovering the power of choice and the freedom of deciding not to be broken.
Jessica shares her journey from a 12 step model of needing to prove she was 'good' to owning her authenticity and continued growth in 1 on 1 coaching. This courageous mother of two, shares her wisdom of transitioning away from the daily desire to check out, to welcoming in growth through chaos.
She also shares her perspective on what coaching with me is like and how it opened the door to a new way of life through the lens of possibility.
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Whenever you undertake a new project, have a baby, start a job hunt, learn a new skill, there is preparation and dedication required. There is adjusting your schedule, shifting your priorities, waking up earlier and doing the work until you have the result you want. Changing your relationship to alcohol via your relationship to yourself is no different. You have to set the stage and create a container that will support you, inspire you and guide you through the work and through the hardest of times and an opportunity to celebrate your successes! Investing in self discovery is the best investment of your life time, it is one where you are always in control of the results.
You can't change if you don't change how you are doing things and showing up for your life.
During this 5 part series, I will teach you the five biggest mistakes people make when trying to quit drinking alcohol, how to recognize it, what to do different and how have some fun!
Don't miss all 5, It's a game changer.
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How to stop caring what other people think about you drinking. (hint: they don't)
Your relationship to alcohol is no one else's business but your own.
The fourth mistake people make when trying to quit drinking is trying to read other peoples minds. When you are all in on a choice you have made, you care little about what other's think. Work on your own beliefs about alcohol first and then other people will follow suit, you also won't care if they do.
During this 5 part series, I will teach you the five biggest mistakes people make when trying to quit drinking alcohol, how to recognize it, what to do different and how have some fun!
Don't miss all 5, It's a game changer.
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Alcohol Is Queen and You're The Problem, so you think...
The third mistake people make when trying to quit drinking is not having your own back. Not trusting that the life you want is better than a life with alcohol. Thinking that if you could just change alcohol might be accessible. The truth is, when you change and grow a more intimate relationship to yourself, you no longer DESIRE alcohol.
During this 5 part series, I will teach you the five biggest mistakes people make when trying to quit drinking alcohol, how to recognize it, what to do different and how have some fun!
Don't miss all 5, It's a game changer.
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Got Strategy? The second mistake people make when trying to quit drinking is expecting different results with the same mindset. During this 5 part series, I will teach you the five biggest mistakes people make when trying to quit drinking alcohol, how to recognize it, what to do different and how have some fun!
Don't miss all 5, It's a game changer.
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Over the next five shows I will teach you the five biggest mistakes people make when trying to quit drinking, how to recognize it, what to do different and how have some fun!
Don't miss all 5, It's a game changer.
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Your relationship to alcohol begins and ends in understanding the relationship to yourself.
Your personal monthly cycle is the ESSENCE of who you are and your emotional understanding.
In today's episode I teach you the most important practice in understanding your relationship to alcohol, the practice of understanding your own personal cycles and rhythms.
How to simply start to notice when days feel "extra", and how the rush to change or cancel your emotions is creating a stronger habit to alcohol.
When we are unflinching (as much as possible) in our own personal truth, we have a better chance at navigating the ever changing circumstances of life.
This is crucial now more than ever.
You must be able to TRUST yourself.
This means knowing , understanding and honoring your emotions and how they create the desire to drink and create the beliefs that you SHOULD feel different than you do naturally.
Your personal hormones, emotional response to life, and beliefs, dictate your desire for alcohol.
Life starts and ends with you.
Every moment YOU choose.
No one can do that for you.
To know yourself intimately, is how you hold yourself accountable and have your own back.
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After a 44 year relationship with alcohol, my awe inspiring client, Laura was looking to mend a broken heart. She knew something had to give entering her 60th year, she thought "this can't be it." Refereeing to life and another disappointing relationship, when she stumbled on my podcast and learned how to "become the witness." She realized so many of her problems would never be solved if she didn't allow her self to FEEL and process the past and take control of the future.
Alcohol had to go.
To her surprise, the benefits of not drinking outweighed the comfort zone.
Alcohol dropped away with little effort and she was able to focus on the root of why she was drinking in the first place.
Laura's wisdom is BEYOND powerful.
Don't miss her amazing, heart felt story of over coming trauma and learning to love herself more because of it, quit drinking and THRIVE!
Laura shares:
-Why it's never too late.
-How living an alcohol free life has given her super powers at 60.
-How coaching helped her solidify and expidite the changes she needed to make.
-Why you growth is almost impossible with alcohol.
-How to overcome urges and process tough emotions.
-What to look forward to on the otherside of the bar stool.
-How to find WHOLENESS on your own.
-How to enjoy your own company and get overcome boards and loneliness.
-Find the worthiness beyond the shame.
-How Investing in herself through coaching proved her worth.
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There is SO much wisdom in this episode to inspire change to the next level.
Alcohol truly is a scared journey of the self, exheplified in this client spotlight.
Nura's story shows how alcohol doesn't have to be a part of everyday, or even monthly life to leave an imprint of habitual and limiting beliefs, unexamined emotions and unintentional self sabotage, but became a doorway to full alignment and personal power.
Nura guides through how deeper self inquiry and sifting through her alcohol story was the next step in showing up as the leader of her own life, claiming her personal sovereignty as whole and holy unto herself.
"Not all parts of me are in agreement. I should probably wait until all parts of me are in agreement until I make any choice."
"The intersection of trust and commitment, is self trust." -Nura Rachelle
In today's episode you will learn:
How you don't have to be a regular drinker to have habit forming behaviors around alcohol.
Beliefs are tied to your thoughts and emotions, not facts.
Why alcohol is an unproductive way to process emotions.
How making a decision based on INTENTION ahead of time is a game changer.
How alcohol is limiting your ACCESS to potential and more happiness.
How the safe container of coaching is affective and efficient.
How to feel GOOD about not taking responsibility for other peoples feeling.
How the "solution" of alcohol creates unnecessary problems and what you can do to solve them on your own.
Why TRUST is crucial in changing your relationship to alcohol.
Where to find the answers to life's biggest questions.
Coaching helps you see your blind spots in a container made specifically for transmutation.
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What are you celebrating today?
This is the door way to real joy and creating vibrations that support the sometimes scary exploration of alcohol.
Honoring Trauma as a crucial step in healing your relationship to alcohol.
In this 3 Part Series, we will explore what trauma is, how it is stored in the body, how you cope with trauma via stress/neurosis.
Why this is inhibiting your ability for natural joy/pleasure and is contributing to creating a stronger desire for alcohol.
What you can do from where you are and how to start letting joy in now through celebrating your accomplishments through pride!
These episodes are jam packed. Make sure to listen to all 3 from the beginning.
It is probably the most important content I have yet to create, so grab a pen and maybe listen a second time.
Trauma literally means wound.
In this way, the trauma isn’t the even, it’s the result of the event, the unprocessed emotion.
In my opinion everyone has some trauma.
Some emotional wounds have a bigger impact on life depending on other factors of coping and resilience.
Trauma doesn’t have to come from a war or abuse, it can come from feelings of isolation, fear and being misunderstood or invalidated as a child.
Something as simple as being blamed for something you didn’t do, again and again, can leave a trauma wound, if the emotion is never validated.
Today you will learn:
What ways trauma shows up you.
How it has protected you.
How alcohol creates compounding trauma.
Why you have a hard time relaxing without alcohol.
How stress is a coping mechanism.
Why receiving from other, feeling pride and a sense of accomplishment is uncomfortable.
The real reason you are listening to this show and alcohol is no longer working.
The safe, sacred and practical steps to take to honor your trauma and be an example of what’s possible for future generations.
Why you are unable to experience real joy and have to settle for synthetic joy and why it’s missing the mark.
1:1 holistic alcohol coaching takes you through a step by step process to honor trauma in a safe and effective way: schedule a complimentary alignment session to find out more: HERE.
Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me.
Honoring Trauma as a crucial step in healing your relationship to alcohol.
In this 3 Part Series, we will explore what trauma is, how it is stored in the body, how you cope with trauma via stress/neurosis.
Why this is inhibiting your ability for natural joy/pleasure and is contributing to creating a stronger desire for alcohol.
What you can do from where you are and how to start letting joy in now through celebrating your accomplishments through pride!
These episodes are jam packed. Make sure to listen to all 3 from the beginning.
It is probably the most important content I have yet to create, so grab a pen and maybe listen a second time.
Trauma literally means wound.
In this way, the trauma isn’t the even, it’s the result of the event, the unprocessed emotion.
In my opinion everyone has some trauma.
Some emotional wounds have a bigger impact on life depending on other factors of coping and resilience.
Trauma doesn’t have to come from a war or abuse, it can come from feelings of isolation, fear and being misunderstood or invalidated as a child.
Something as simple as being blamed for something you didn’t do, again and again, can leave a trauma wound, if the emotion is never validated.
Today you will learn:
What ways trauma shows up you.
How it has protected you.
How alcohol creates compounding trauma.
Why you have a hard time relaxing without alcohol.
How stress is a coping mechanism.
Why receiving from other, feeling pride and a sense of accomplishment is uncomfortable.
The real reason you are listening to this show and alcohol is no longer working.
The safe, sacred and practical steps to take to honor your trauma and be an example of what’s possible for future generations.
Why you are unable to experience real joy and have to settle for synthetic joy and why it’s missing the mark.
1:1 holistic alcohol coaching takes you through a step by step process to honor trauma in a safe and effective way: schedule a complimentary alignment session to find out more: HERE.
Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me.
Honoring Trauma as a crucial step in healing your relationship to alcohol.
In this 3 Part Series, we will explore what trauma is, how it is stored in the body, how you cope with trauma via stress/neurosis.
Why this is inhibiting your ability for natural joy/pleasure and is contributing to creating a stronger desire for alcohol.
What you can do from where you are and how to start letting joy in now through celebrating your accomplishments through pride!
These episodes are jam packed. Make sure to listen to all 3 from the beginning.
It is probably the most important content I have yet to create, so grab a pen and maybe listen a second time.
Trauma literally means wound.
In this way, the trauma isn’t the even, it’s the result of the event, the unprocessed emotion.
In my opinion everyone has some trauma.
Some emotional wounds have a bigger impact on life depending on other factors of coping and resilience.
Trauma doesn’t have to come from a war or abuse, it can come from feelings of isolation, fear and being misunderstood or invalidated as a child.
Something as simple as being blamed for something you didn’t do, again and again, can leave a trauma wound, if the emotion is never validated.
Today you will learn:
What ways trauma shows up you.
How it has protected you.
How alcohol creates compounding trauma.
Why you have a hard time relaxing without alcohol.
How stress is a coping mechanism.
Why receiving from other, feeling pride and a sense of accomplishment is uncomfortable.
The real reason you are listening to this show and alcohol is no longer working.
The safe, sacred and practical steps to take to honor your trauma and be an example of what’s possible for future generations.
Why you are unable to experience real joy and have to settle for synthetic joy and why it’s missing the mark.
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Our beautiful guest, Amanda Strojny, courageously shares her story of moving away from alcohol when she discovered her beliefs about alcohol and the truth of who she was and desired to become, were not in alignment. Removing the distortions of beliefs can sometimes feel chaotic which is why people avoid "reality". However this inner remodel is an opportunity to create more harmony in the end. True alignment. Our guest today shares her practices and stories of how she is and had realigned her inner and outer worlds.
Amanda shares her process on the otherside of alcohol:Ending a longterm engagement
Socializing with colleges
Dating
Growing her business
Finding her truth
Trusting her intuition
Embodying her spiritual and mindfulness practices in a way that supported her new way of seeing life without alcohol.
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Let's explore the word recovery and look at the limiting and fear based terms that are stigmatized when one takes a new approach to life and away from alcohol.
It's for this reason, not drinking FEELS so scary.
I found an amazing new way to define life on the other side of alcohol.
One, where you not only HEAL, but you Ascend!
If, that is, you want your life to look more like truth than fear.
You can be addicted to alcohol and no longer be.
You are not in recovery forever.
I explore a Hawaiian concept I just learned called; PōHALA.
This word BLEW MY MIND and really exhmplified what the others die of alcohol actually is, if you choose to examine your beliefs around alcohol.
If you dive into the heart of self inquiry what's possible when you RECLAIM what was once lost.
In today's episode I talk about my spiritual Mentor Achintya Devi at Goddess Rising Mystery School
And the teacher Ke'oni, I discovered Pohala from. His podcast, PōHALA, is amazing.
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A new friendliness towards life, leads to waiting a new relationship with alcohol, but unfortunately, the habit gets in the way.
You may realize that you are not interested in the dramas and judgements of life anymore.
You are identifying with life in a new way, but alcohol isn't changing with you and it's won't.
The struggles come when you belive, this time will be different.
When you think the act of drinking will change, you set your self up for disappointment.
You have to know this time I"M DIFFERENT, so I don't need to drink.
What’s really in the way of changing your relationship to alcohol, is admitting you are a different person.
That what you once lived you don't anymore.
You must give yourself permission to change your identity if you want to change your life.
The reason there is so much conflict is because you keep trying to create something new in your life, but the identity associated with alcohol keeps over riding that.
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In today's episode I go beyond the cognitive dissonance (inconsistent beliefs) of alcohol that keep your mind in the daily mental friction, to drink or not to drink.
Beyond the habit of alcohol, the learned behavior, lives a deep need for self acceptance.
If you turn it into a LOVE/LOVE relationship, it cancels it's self out.
You give yourself permission to be WHOLE.
To be authentically YOU.
To change your mind.
The resistance to change your mind about alcohol, is your resistance to accept that alcohol is not the solution.
You can not find happiness outside of your self, anywhere.
However, you can strive for wholeness, and that can create the sense of Fulfillment, and satisfaction.
I am my WHOLE true self.
This is a statement alcohol inhibits you from making and thus creating the love/hate relationship.
What can happen to your beliefs and desires around alcohol when you strive for WHOLENESS vs. HAPPINESS?
When you let the solution be beautiful?
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If you know alcohol is the one constant in the way of fully stepping into your power, but you aren't sure the next best step, this show is for you.
I talk to intuitive eating coach, Tara Whitney about her journey away from alcohol via the wisdom of the body.
This inspiring conversation Tara shares how she used the powerful and practical tool of choice through the lens of mindfulness.
Tara discovered the key to success wasn't about simply not drinking, but answering the INVITATION to dive deeper into the journey of self discovery and sacred embodiment.
I loved every minute of this conversation and I know you will too. Thank you, Tara!
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The relationships we have for a life time, can be the one's most challenging to navigate when it comes to alcohol.
They are also the one's that hold the greatest opportunity for self inquiry and personal growth.
Sometimes alcohol is a big part of connecting to the other.
Othertimes the other is "why" you drink.
Familial relationships are the hardest to navigate because although it's still a choice, they are the constant in our lives.
Today I share a story of my own emotional triggers involving a recent interaction with my own Mother and the steps I took to gain control of my own inner boundaries and to continue my healing journey of awakening to unconditional love for myself and for the other.
We can get new results not by changing the circumstance or even seeing the "bad circumstance" as positive, but by bringing the circumstance to neutral and becoming the compassionate witness, for yourself first, then the other will follow.
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People drink for a lot of reasons.
Most of them go unexamined.
When you say alcohol makes me more...fill in the blank, you are denying your true self.
How you are in this very moment.
You are saying I am not enough.
When you are stressed, the message is, I don't have your back.
You are not giving yourself an opportunity to be who you are.
To grow. To build inner resilience.
The process of changing your relationship with alcohol, is also the process of becoming yourself.
Accepting who you are in this moment and deciding what you would like to embody more of.
First you must have your own heart.
You must find a place to feel safe enough to explore the inner landscape of the emotional self.
No one will do it for you.
Find out why the specific language you use is so important when it comes to creating a new life for yourself, when alcohol is no longer at center stage.
Then alcohol becomes a neutral, irrelevant part of your day to day life.
You must offer yourself deep, motherly love and compassion to feel safe enough to explore the depths of being human.
Sometimes the Mother is Fierce, sometime she is soft, but she is always here for us, unconditionally.
You can be that for YOU.
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What packs the biggest punch in changing our relationship to alcohol is the language we use.
If we think:life will for sure be miserable without alcohol, it will.
If we think: alcohol's not a necessity of living, it creates a more NEUTRAL emotion.
Every action we take is driven be EMOTION.
That is why Big Alcohol is so good at marketing, they pull on our heart strings at every turn and we believe it.
If you think new thoughts, you get new results.
Of course it takes time, practice and the willingness to see things from a new perspective.
My clients are creating the Impossible one thought at a time.
Learn the 3 steps it takes to create the Impossible: **Freedom from alcohol without deprivation.
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In today's episode, we explore a scared journey of dismantling alcohol, as unique as one's own spirit.
My guest today, friend, health coach and client, Erin Vanderkooy, brilliantly exemplifies that there is no ONE PATH to finding freedom from alcohol when explored thought the lens of love, curiosity and mindfulness.
She speaks of her personal journey and the daily burden of what it means to be a "normal drinker", in light of challenges she was facing physically and mentally.
And the social implications of making the rules up as you go, in alignment with your LIVED experience, not a guide book.
She shares, practical tools she is applying to her continued exploration of alcohol from our 1:1 coaching.
What it takes to ask for help and how the process expedited her results.
What Permission to NOT be broken looks like.
Health implication, tips and signs to watch for in light of drinking from Erin's expert opinion as an expert health coach and herbalist.
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Although we are a culture obsessed with alcohol, an epidemic that has been normalized, the story that there is a "normal" way to drink and you will be shunned if you can't do it that way, is what needs to change.
Does anyone know what that is?
There is a trap of: if I don't drink I won't be normal.
Other people will wonder what's wrong with me.
I hear this from too many people.
There are now enough people who don't believe in : drinking is a normal story, so we can drop it.
Not to mention, peer pressure as an adult?
No thanks.
When you dismantle the beliefs around alcohol you have to go DEEPER.
You have to interrogate, with compassion, your own self and values.
WHO is everybody?
WHAT is normal?
WHEN is this happening and WHERE?
Are people really thinking this or is a just what you are creating in your head?
You're decision to drink or not drink will be interpreted differently by everyone.
Someone might think your a hero, someone might think your a buzzkill, but most people will be worried about themselves, not how much you are drinking.
Another persons enjoyment is NOT dependent on your actions.
It is dependent on THEIR thoughts and emotions about it.
Show up like the life of the party and no one can say a thing!
Show up like you and have your own back.
More power to you, Sister. It's time to throw a better party and take responsibility for your own health and livelyhood. Caring what other people think is no longer a necessary part of our survival.
When YOU do YOU, you will attract the same.
Be you, all the way.
If there is a collective STIGMA, it's well worn and out of date.
xxoo Mary
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The reason you think you can’t change your relationship to alcohol is the solution to success.
The perceived obstacle are ALWAYS the reason to say YES!
You have to be willing to be resourceful to get the result you want.
The human brain makes decisions based on the past.
Part of your brain feels good about the decision of drinking.
Not drinking creates Thoughts that create Emotional Discomfort.
When you are not use Feeling the sensations of emotions, making a decision to change and embrace feeling, signals danger to your brain.
Your job is to move to the other side to prove that objection false.
This is how to weaken the habit.
Today you will learn:
How to spot your objections that are getting in the way of creating lasting change.
How you move from impossible to possible.
Common objections for why people never start the process and how their objection is the reason they need to.
The difference between passive and massive action.
What thoughts to think NOW to take the ONE next step.
Common Objections To Say NO To Changing Your Relationship To Alcohol.
Remember, these are all SUBJECTIVE THOUGHTS, not FACTS.
+It’s not the right time.
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I’m too busy to do the work
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It’s too hard
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I’ll never have fun again!
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I’m afraid of what people will think. My relationships will change.
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Iv’e tried before and it didn’t work.
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It’s not a good time to invest. (time, money, energy)
+I don’t know If I want to say no forever.
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Problems are unexpected or undesirable results in the circumstances of your life, yet rather than move towards them, the typical response, is to run.
The mind thinks there is a threat and avoids the sensations of the emotion at all costs.
It looks to blame, avoid or run.
Anything but take a wider view of where your intention may have got lost in the pattern of reactivity and emotion.
Nothing has gone wrong. It is normal to see change as a problem and their for a threat to survival.
However, in our modern world, change is a good thing.
It indicates growth and opportunity.
If you are willing to feel a new emotion, it can become a portal for possibility.
In this episode you will learn:
- Why the power of pause is so important in solving “problems”.
- Understanding the facts that alcohol is a circumstance out of your control.
- Acceptance is the key to making space for possibility.
- Understand what’s beyond an emotion or urge.
- How fear doesn’t support lasting change.
- Why it’s hard to see beyond the collective story and how to tap into your who creative genius.
- Why Leading with your heartfelt intention will help you reinterpret any situation.
- How alcohol will ALWAYS be contradictory to your intentions thriving.
- Finally, that you can CHOOSE to believe anything you want about alcohol, even that you don’t like it.
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What you will take away from today's episode:
How to break the habit of binge drinking.
Why emotional intelligence is the key to a joyful and alcohol free life.
The best part about the worst day's of being alcohol free.
Having a big WHY and intention for life is crucial if you want to live on purpose.
Why drunk Mummying, is never the right choice.
Being authentically you is ALWAYS the only answer toward freedom.
Sobriety can be just as much of a story and limiting as alcohol.
Why you must find the right support that works for you.
*How drinking as a full time job can transform into a rewarding life of a sober Mom.
Thank you Victoria Vanstone!
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Why can some people can drink without problems?
Because they don't try to say no!
Most people have a made up story in their minds about how: she can just have one glass of wine and it's so easy.NO!!!
First, Why does this matter?
Second: I just want to be able to have a little glass of wine.
Why?
There’s nothing wrong with having a glass of wine, or having five.
It also doesn’t change or make your life better in anyway.
That's not REALLY what you or the habit wants.
Part of you doesn't want it to be true that alcohol is habit forming.
Sorry to break it to you, there is no way around it.
And second, the habit has no interest in a glass of wine once a week.
The habit of alcohol fractures your inner resilience.
What your perception is and what the reality is.
Frequency and Duration, Circumstance , Adversity and Internal resources CAN play a role in persons journey away from the habit.
But not always.
Your brain developed a pattern, a totally normal one that says:
When you experience this emotion, for better or worse, the answer is to drink.
You will learn:
*Why other people’s drinking is none of your business.
*Why that story is holding you back from living your best life.
*The impact other peoples actions are having in other areas of your life.
*The solution isn't simply, no alcohol, it's more of YOU.
*The role of emotional maturity.
How labels limit. Schedule a complimentary alignment session with Mary HERE***.
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What are we teaching our youth about emotions, alcohol and habit forming behaviours?
What do they really see when you're drinking?
How are they making decisions about drinking or not drinking?
What role alcohol will play in their future?
How they are learning at this wild time in history of isolation, how to process emotions and not take the easy way out?
How they have REAL lasting fun without drugs and alcohol and what advise they have for you, so you can too.
From the perspective of one Coffee drinking, skateboarding 16 year old, listen and find out!
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How To Say No, and love it.
**Planning ahead of time is the greatest honor you can give yourself.
But it's not just in the Action of what you will do or not. It's the Emotion and the Thought that create your success and drives your intention into fruition.**
When you think about doing something, you think about HOW YOU WILL FEEL based on past evidence.
Our brains jump into fight or flight mode before the actual event has even take place.
**We create a hypothetical situation that effects the body and creates emotions, even before it happens.
Think about the anticipation of a drink: it is even more satisfying than the drink itself.
OR that NOT drinking will be the worst thing ever.
These thoughts are so powerful you can FEEL IT now.
If these thoughts, before the event, are actually producing an emotion and sensations in the body,
why not think the thoughts that produce the emotion for SUCCESS?!?
This is how we do it during our 1:1 Coaching sessions.
The results: MIND BLOWING.
1st date Alcohol Free: Curious, charming, open.
1st Vacation Alcohol Free: Excited, adventurous clam.
1st Job Interview Alcohol Free: Confident, Neutral, Present....
Then we generate the THOUGHTS that create the EMOTIONS based on our underlying intention of why we are doing these things in the first place, it's never usually just to drink.
This list goes on...
Your brain is a POWER HOUSE!**
Yet, we create the worst case scenario.
Until you start practicing thinking on purpose, slowing down, growing your awareness,
your brain will go into default mode of NO drinking, meaning the worst thing ever.
Instead of dreading the evening, you can decide how to feel ahead of time, rather than HOW you think you will feel.
Game. Changer.
In todays episode learn:
How to say No to a drink without an excuse.
How to plan for social events without feeling deprived and have a great time.
Take control of your life by planning on purpose.
How to decide ahead of time how you will feel, instead of leaving it up to old thought patterns and circumstance.
Learn the difference between thoughts that are just the habit, and your own NEW future focused thoughts.
**If you are ready plan your life on purpose and have an amazing life without relying on alcohol:
Schedule a complimentary alignment session HERE**.
This is how we do it,
Mary
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When it comes to changing your relationship with alcohol, your Emotions and Thoughts directly impact the rate (the ETA) at which you achieve success.
The very specific Emotion and Thought is what’s going to drive the Action to eventually achieve the goal or result you want in life.
In today’s episode you will learn:
The exact process I teach my clients to maintain emotional and mental hygiene.
How our emotions and thoughts become habitual, just like drinking, how to identify and interrupt them.
Learn HOW to manage your mind, honor your emotions and create the formula to inspire Action, to achieve any goal, including, changing the habit of drinking.
Understand the thoughts getting you stuck are creating low vibrating emotions.
How inaction is also an action and a choice.
How to self coach yourself in any situation to get one step closer to no longer desiring alcohol.
How to spot and interrupt habitual thought patterning that is keeping you stuck and drinking.
*Learn how to create your dreams on purpose instead of reacting to the circumstances of life.
**I use the term ETA as a double meaning. It really represents your Emotions, Thoughts and Actions.
That combination will also determine your Estimated time of arrival to your destination. Habitual ETA’s that have become your routine are often negative and fear based. Intentional ETA’s are what you MUST generate in order to achieve NEW goals and get to NEW places in your life.
Example: After work (habitual thought pattern that you are unaware of)
Emotion: overwhelmed
Thought: Work is so stressful
Action: Drink
Result: Numb the emotion (leave the work stress until tomorrow)
Example: After work (new ETA generated on purpose)
Emotion: calm
Thought: I'm so glad I am home to relax
Action: go to bed early
Result: Feel refreshed ready to respond with grace to life
The other option is: Why is work so stressful? Why is that a problem? Is that true? Does drinking solve the REAL issues at work?
AND... there is also simply FEELING the emotion without changing it at all. Putting your legs up the wall and breathing the day away.
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WE DID IT!!! One Year Of Stop Drinking and Start Living Podcast! Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. I couldn't have done it without your support.
On today's episode I speak to all of the beliefs I had to learn, unlearn and my willingness to be wrong to create a successful business and consistent podcast with my heart at the center.
How my authenticity is really what has driven not only the success of the show, but what has made if fun, enjoyable and an act of true service to the world.
And how NONE of it would have been possible had I not been living an Alcohol Free Life.
I speak to the necessity of trusting your intuition. Staying true to who you are uniquely, and how everything you truly desire is available to you now and on the other side of the habit of alcohol.
It is a moment to reflect on my personal achievements and my humbled honor of being called to do this work. I hope today's show is an example of what's possible when you Stop Drinking and Start Living!
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If you don't know it: You are amazing and I LOVE YOU!
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“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”― RumiThe Hidden Costs Of Alcohol Are Deeper When You Frame The Question With Possibility Rather Than The Status Quo. There is the Screw it I need to relax, but at what cost? One innocent night, then 20 years later and you have never asked yourself, do I really want this? What exactly do I deserve? Have I ever tried to relax on my own?When I meet with my clients for the first time, I find out every area of their life alcohol is effecting. It’s been running the underground show for so long, that the status quo of low level vibrations has become the new norm. But what’s possible if alcohol wasn’t in your way?The answer for how is alcohol impacts, work, love, sex, get’s a different answer than:What’s possible if alcohol is no longer in your way? From this place, a world opens that alcohol can't touch. To get to the bottom of problems, you have to ask different questions. Alcohol is a problem because you keep trying to solve it with the same method: Fear, worry, regret and evidence from the past. On today's Podcast Episode (Ep. #74) you will take away:-How to use these hidden costs as tools for change, rather then sources of regret.-Understanding why you default to fear rather than possibility.-Why we choose self sabotage over risking failure.- The BIGGEST hidden of all and is what you need most to heal, evolve and awaken from alcohol, forever.
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Boredom and Loneliness: How to process emotional cravings. Nothing has gone wrong! These are the two biggest emotions people try to solve with alcohol. Why? We think they are wrong and bad. You make them mean something is wrong with you. Emotions are not problems to be solved, they are experiences to have. What are you making it mean about you and how is that compounding your judgement? What if is was day dreaming and alone time? Same thing, different perspective.
What you will take away from today's show
- How to stop disappointing yourself
- The underlying implications of loneliness and boredom
- why Your thoughts about boar dome and loneliness are what create the emotions that trigger the desire to drink
- How to combat boredom and loneliness (shift your desire for alcohol into something that creates lasting change.)
- Seeing beyond the veil of alcohol as a companion
- 3 step process to shift from resistance and avoiding of what is to allowing and compassion.
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Why does alcohol seem so important to you, even when it doesn’t add any real value or meaning to your life?
The experiences you are having are happening with or without alcohol, so what’s the deal?
From the day we are born, we experience trauma. We are set to become "socialized", told we need to be different than how we would naturally act. Some of this to protect our lives, some of it to preserve the power over model. Alcohol is a way to numb what already feels so disconnected. Who you ARE and who you think you are "suppose" to be. Alcohol will never be what you want it to be. It is a temporary illusion. The real solution lives inside of becoming more of you, without apology.
What you will take away from this episode:
-How to see alcohol as neutral and choose on purpose from the place of nonjudgmental awareness.
-Ways to add more meaning and value to your life.
-how to override the narrative of the habit, that alcohol is important.
-how to shift from the persecutive that life is happening to you, rather life is HAPPENING AS YOU.
-rise above the noise that alcohol is a problem that needs to be solved.
-how to process grieving the part of you that is attached to creating meaning out of alcohol.
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When you are examining your relationship to alcohol, it's important to stay open to what works for you, what resonates with you deeply. As my guest today, Tricia Lewis, of Recovery Happy Hour explains, as you grow from alcohol, the way you show up to your life and recovery will too. Don't get stuck in a box. Tricia shares with us her story of perfectionism and having to detox from alcohol when she could no longer get away with functioning at the rate she was going. She discovered that you could be addicted to alcohol and look normal on the outside. As she explored various modalities of recovery, the one thing she knew she needed and didn't want to loose, was community after being in the service industry for so many years. She created the amazing podcast, Recovery Happy Hour, to support those on the journey of recovery and share the diversity of stories and ways to seek support so all people can find a way to connect and know they are never alone on this road.
Thank you Tricia!
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In today's episode you hear me interview by Lyn and Erika Hicks of The Magical Holistic Healing Arts Podcast. We explore the natural discovery process of Womanhood and how to embrace our feminine essence as pleasure, purpose and privilege. The story of how I came to "answer the calling of the Goddess." From that point, alcohol was no longer a desirable option. The invitation of getting rid of alcohol isn't replacing it with another label, it's filling it with more of who you are that naturally wants to come through. It is a process of self discovery and deep, deep, commitment to the sprit of the self in your own unique and miraculous way. You are a gift and alcohol is dimming your light.
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Decisions, decisions. The better we get at making decisions, the better our lives become. We will always have a brain that wants to default to the negative until you practice observation. Ever thought in your brain, even if you BELIVE it with all your heart, creates a vibration, an emotion. When you tell yourself, I don't have the time, money, energy, even if you believe it, what EMOTION does it generate? One of fear and lack. If you try on a new thought to: I am in charge of my schedule so I can make whatever I want a priority, you can see how the vibe changes. What are your thoughts about WHY you haven't started the process of stopping> Chances are they are generating negative emotions, compounding the desire to drink and the story that to stop drinking is too hard. Ditch the story, let it stay where it is, and find some new better feeling or neutral thoughts. And remember, there are no WRONG decisions, there are only your thoughts about them. Take this as truth and you take your power back.
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How many times have you googled, "Am I am alcoholic"? or some version of that? As we start seeing the illusions of the old models of power over and limiting beliefs, fade into the back ground, the invitation in the aquarian age, is to stop asking permission. You decide how much is too much. Dismantling alcohol mean stepping into your power and standing in your truth. To stop needing the right thing to say to someone when they ask why you aren't drinking. To be able to love yourself, the other AND tell the truth. The aquarian age is about living 5D, where paradox is the way of life. It's way more fun. You don't need to break the rules, there are none. The are all illusions. It's not either or, it's both and. The truth is, alcohol is stripping you of your life light, your prana, your grace, the holy spirit within. Whether it's one drink a week or 20, there is an unnatural alteration. We aren't saying NO to alcohol. The future of joyful living is evolving past the need to alter ones natural state of being. FAST TRACK TO FREEDOM FROM ALCOHOL IN 40 DAYS! Get on the list, find out the detail and start the process HERE If you are ready for support NOW, with high level, 1:1 coaching. Schedule a complimentary alignment session HERE Thank you for heading to Apple Podcast To Drop a 5 Star Review and What You LOVE about the show! Your presence means so much to me.NYT Article Article: Vodka in your Coffee...
For this final episode of the year, I talk about the process of commitment. The traditional New Years Resolution, comes with no parameters other than to "resolve" to change, usually the action. Something we think we should do to be better or healthier. We can not be successful in having a new , healthier relationship to alcohol by simply NOT DRINKING. To resolve to something is to learn a new way, to commit to a new process. This takes time. You have never become an expert at anything over night. You most certainly didn't develop a drinking habit over night. You must be compassionate with yourself and offer yourself time to learn a new way, seek new awarenesses, educate yourself with new tools and practice them until they become THE new way. There is no quick fix, but there is an easier way to UNLEAERN the habit of drinking. The first step, resolve to commit, not just quit. It takes loving yourself more, and deep trust in the process of surrender.
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Founder of My Sober Girl Friends, Naomi Veak, shares her beautiful journey of self discover and the joys of sobriety on the other side of a long term addiction with Pot and Alcohol. She speaks to finding the path that works for you and questioning, why do we have the need to alter the beauty of this life. It takes a simple shift of slowing down and being with what is. Approaching life from a new and different pace, to find the natural wonders and joys from this gift of life.
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Your story around alcohol is just that, conditioned beliefs that create a judgment about what's possible. You don't need to replace them with Sober Living Is Better. You can simply allow the resistance to change and ask, can I simply let this go? Can I make space for what I KNOW deep down to be true? Then the process of shifting alcohol is allowing the resistance to feel, to change to be with how you naturally show up. One this auspicious day as time stands still, can you become quiet enough to hear the truth of your light shining through? It is enough.
You don't need to replace alcohol with sobriety, you replace it with more of you.
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The way you got into your relationship with alcohol, isn't the same way you get out. If you want to live a more joyful deprivation free life that is. When we live attached to our labels and stories of the past, we cling to the outer world to fill a void inside to create a sense of inner wholeness. In endless pursuit of finding wholeness that can only be experienced here and NOW, makes the desire for alcohol greater. You use alcohol to fill the un-fillable hole, but to also numb the discomfort of the endless search for wholeness. The solution is a simple shift in perspective and the willingness to detach from all that you have identified as. This is the process I teach my 1:1 coaching clients. How to shift into the NOW where you are whole and problems only exist if we think they do.
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The Power Of Now, Eckhart Tolle
The first step to changing your relationship to alcohol and making it easier to say no to a drink, is to understand why you say yes in the first place. Your thoughts are what make or break any habit. You must know what your "belief story" around alcohol is, to know what you want it to become. We don't walk around thinking all of our thoughts and beliefs are BS, but the truth is, they are our interpretation of the world and subjective. The human brain will continue to find evidence for what it knows, to it's detriment. The most important things is not to threaten the selfie system, this is what makes the conflict grow. Rather offer compassion and curiosity to all of you. There will always be something that no longer serves us, alcohol is a double whammy with such a strong reward, but we must make friends with our habits, they are hard one and our inner critic also isn't going anywhere. Get to know her, and get to cultivate a much more intimate relationship with yourself, underneath the urge to drink just might be a woman who needs some long overdue TLC.
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If you started 2020 with a resolution to change alcohol, and didn't quite get there, I have an amazing opportunity for you to FIND FREEDOM FROM ALCOHOL BEFORE 2021!
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If you have a love/hate relationship with alcohol you may feel like you have 2 options: 1) Resign to a life of drinking, anxiety and sluggishness.
2) Quit drinking and live in shame, boredom and deprivation forever.
I would like to invite you to consider the third option...
3) Find freedom from alcohol by dropping the judgment, getting curious, and deciding ahead of time all of your results in life.
Feel amazing and inspired about what's to come, because you know a new way to solve for alcohol getting in your way.
You CAN feel confident that you have a perfect plan for your drinking that you decided ahead of time and feel great about.
In this class, you will take away the exact process and tools I teach my clients:
-Overcome any urge/craving
-Identify the real problem of why drinking less seems so hard.
-Process all hard emotions rather than resist them.
-How to stay committed to the journey of dismantling alcohol in your life.
-Feeling confident, refreshed and excited with a Step by Step Process
- Enjoy the extraordinary experience of being YOU and Living Life
Join Holistic Alcohol Coach and Host of the Podcast Stop Drinking and Start Living, Mary Wagstaff, for an engaging action filled, class, like she has never taught before.
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This week we talk about the felt sense of remembrance. Different from the yearning of nostalgia, remembrance is the homecoming that reminds us of who we are truly outside of story. Alcohol covers this sentiment up from us. Remembrance is a subtle knowing of deep peace and being that only exists when we observe the mind from the place of unconditional love, rather than attach to thoughts based on fear.
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If you have a love/hate relationship with alcohol you may feel like you have 2 options: 1) Resign to a life of drinking, anxiety and sluggishness.
2) Quit drinking and live in shame, boredom and deprivation forever.
I would like to invite you to consider the third option...
3) Find freedom from alcohol by dropping the judgment, getting curious, and deciding ahead of time all of your results in life.
Feel amazing and inspired about what's to come, because you know a new way to solve for alcohol getting in your way.
You CAN feel confident that you have a perfect plan for your drinking that you decided ahead of time and feel great about.
In this class, you will take away the exact process and tools I teach my clients
Chasing the BUZZ of Nostalgia is one of the BIGGEST obstacle to accept and understand when you explore your reationship to alcohol or stop drinking. This concept is what keeps so many people in deprivation AFTER they stop drinking. It's like they are living under a spell of what alcohol NEVER WAS, but they can't snap out of it, why? Because they didn't have me as their coach! LOL. Seriously. The nostalgia of alcohol is actually an error in the human brain that makes NO sense. It goes to show you just how STRONG of a concentrated reward the alcohol is to make the brain completely ERASE all of the painful things about alcohol, and only remember the carols and laughter.
You are in for a wild ride.
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10. BEEN THERE, DONE THAT. ALCOHOL ISN’T GOING ANYWHERE, It will never be more amazing than it was the last time you drink. The alcohol doesn’t create the experience, YOU DO! Alcohol doesn’t evolve into something more sophisticated or more enlightened. You’ve done it all at this point.
9. BOOST YOUR IMMUNITY
8. KEEP YOUR INHIBITIONS IN CHECK
7. BE THE EMOTIONALLY STABLE ONE FOR OTHERS WHO MAY NEED SUPPORT
6. LEAD BY EXAMPLE (take the high road, step out of judgment into curiosity. You can love AND tell the truth) generate a list of questions that take the focus off of you.
5. SAVE YOUR ENERGY (future focus for that evening, the next day and into the week)
4. EXPLORE CURIOSITY (whats your experience with your food, the music, your body etc…?)
3. CREATE A NEW RITUAL: 2020 IS ALL ABOUT OUT WITH THE OLD
TRADITIONS ARE ONLY USEFUL IF THEY ARE SUPPORTIVE OF EVOLUTION.
WE DON’T JUST DO SOMETHING BECAUSE OUR GRANDPARENTS DID.
2. FIND THE REAL MEANING OF THIS SEASON (hint: it’s not about getting wasted and missing the whole thing, you might as well just take a nap!)
1.HONOR YOUR TRUTH: “Your intuition is guiding you towards your highest good for your highest good”. Laura AszmanSchedule a free alignment session with Mary HERE Hula Hoop Instructor Laura Aszman on Ep. #39
Today we talk about Alcohol as a rite of passage into adulthood. Alcohol as a rite of passage is completely void of the tools necessary to step into the future as independent & connected to our feminine power of emotional intelligence and embodied intuition.
We need to embrace and embody these aspects to become sovereign Women, claiming personal responsibility and moving through limitations with excitement to meet the challenge, rather than fear of failure. Honoring your life with the sacred journey of Dismantling Alcohol, and Sobriety, is the rites of passage you and only you can claim for your self to what this life and your growth mean and represent.
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Today's show is a live mini training about my 5 Simple Shifts to end the confusion around alcohol, drink less and reclaim your power. You can start applying these shifts NOW. I speak to what alcohol coaching is: A sacred container for you to explore who you are in relationship to alcohol. Different than ever before.
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Today we pose the question: What do you really want your relationship with alcohol to look like and why? It's good to start with a question to start to understand the process of what you want. I review the 5 shifts to getting alcohol out of your way that I teach my clients.
I also give you the recipe to my favorite holiday elixir also.
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Looking to the window of the future of "what if". Throughs the sense of fear or love, but never taking that leap of faith, keeps you in a feeling of stickiness. Postponement results in never being in a state of expansiveness of moving towards a brighter future on the other side of a deprivation free life. Alcohol holds an illusion of freedom, that as you know is slowing fading, in fact, it is the thing keeping you in deprivation of living life to the fullest.
I mention the Netflix series: The Queens Gambit. An amazing showcase on the dullness of life alcohol and drugs steal from you.
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Today we explore how to create change from a place of abundance. How to look at changing your relationship with alcohol as gaining more, rather than loosing. Gaining more of you, your inner light and your unique expression. The concept of lack and poverty is a construct created by systems that power over. Life it's self is innately abundant, and so are you!
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Everyone has their own definition of what spirit means to them in their lives, amongst the differences, the common factor is the innate state of perfection that Spirit is. Awakening to Sprit, is in the how, we lead our lives. That no matter how tough times are, we are grounded in the unflinching faith that living through spirit is a means of a more joyful life. The habit of drinking in essence, is stating, there is something about this life, this moment, yourself, that should be different than it is. Drinking is aiming to make that which is already perfect and whole, different. Which is where we actually create lack where there is already abundance and the illusion of their being error.
Schedule a call with Mary HERE to find more about her 1:1 coaching mentorship. It takes all of the guess work from out of the HOW, and meets you where you are at, and then go next level!
Today I interview, intuitive Eating Coach Tiffany Thoen. Not only does she have an inspiring journey of recovering from alcohol at a young age, but her take on,
"breaking free", of the stigmas and rules around quitting drinking, outside of the 12 step model, and living an alcohol free life, are right in line with the message of my work. We speak to the rising of the divine feminine in our culture through the evolution of emotional intelligence for all beings. It is the invitation to become more fully who we are, that makes the need for alcohol, less. Currently, she takes this same approach in to her Intuitive Eating Coaching practice, helping people find freedom and joy in their relationship to food.
Tiffany's Group Intuitive Eating Program Begins: November 18th 2020 Sign Up: HERE
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Do you ever stop to ask yourself, how will I know when I have arrived, that moment where I can be at peace and I have made it? What if THIS is the moment? How would you know? Alcohol has a way of keeping you ANYWHERE but the present moment, which is the only place where true peace can exist. Either we are nostalgic about the subjective past of the "good old days", or terrified of the future yet to be told. Every moment is the opportunity to experience the fruits of your labor, until you step into that place of the compassionate witness, you will never be honouring you, and your life as it is in this moment, alcohol will always win the illusion of better.
Today, you get the change to hear me interview on the Podcast The Evolutionary, by David Knox. My journey evolving past alcohol and my passion for helping Women find freedom on the other side of their desire.
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Remember, taking your last sip isn't your first step!
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Today we explore how your story about alcohol is not the based on TRUE facts. It is based on repetitive thinking and proving the same limiting thoughts true over and over again, through practice and evidence in the outer world. There is a good reason for these beliefs. In some ways they have served you and even protected you.
**How your current beliefs around alcohol are preventing you from finding a solution to the problem of alcohol getting in the way of living your best life.
Schedule a call to find out more about 1:1 Coaching Click HERE**
Learn how to stop drinking alcohol and honor your wisdom. An illusionist uses smoke and mirrors to make something appear different than it really is. It tricks your mind, alters your perceptions. But when the smoke clears, you can see, nothing has changed, you are left right where you stared. Or maybe in a worse place because now, you have to manage the consequences. Of not showing up the way you really want to in life. Learn how the elements of thought, emotion, action, body and spirit are out of balance, why it's so hard to SEE when you are in it, and how to get them back to where you can BREATH again.
Today the show turns 50! And we couldn't feel better. Good things happen with age. You learn from mistakes and improve your excellence. Start at 80-% good, to get going, this is the only way to learn.
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Learn how to stop drinking alcohol and honor your wisdom. Trigger warning: into's show we speak to childhood trauma and abuse. In today's show we hear from Relationship Specialist and Coach, Julia Phoenix of her heroines journey from childhood abuse and addiction to reclaiming her power through shadow and inner child work and understanding her limiting beliefs and patterns of what was possible in her intimate and personal relationships. We talk about the darker side of alcohol and how it take our agency of conscious choice away from us. She teaches us that sometimes addictive behaviors can actually be a survival mechanism and to offer compassion through your process of healing is the integral piece.
Find out more about how to work with Julia HERE
Thank you Julia!
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When was the last time you said yes for the first time? This is such a great question to ask yourself, for inspiration, for motivation, to remember your hearts desires. When we say YES to something NEW, we change the brain patterning and this is how WE change.
When you say NO to alcohol, you have two choices, sit in deprivation and shame, or say YES to something for the first time alcohol free. When you evaluate all of the things you normally do in a year with alcohol, you can get inspired by stepping into curiosity of what can I gain from this experience that is more in line with the Woman I am becoming?
Cross of the list the things you would NEVER do unless you were drinking and add a NEW FIRST YES!
Dive into your imagination creating the image of the Woman who effortlessly shows up never needing or wanting alcohol. All from a place of self love and respect for your growth.
When you are ready to apply this work to your life with support schedule a time to find out more about my 1:1 Coaching program HERE
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In today's episode I am going to teach you the 4 essential steps for how to move through a craving for alcohol with grace, compassion and growth.
We must bring what has been unconscious, conscious. The subconscious habits and thoughts into the light.
First, you must commit to taking drinking off the table for the week, without any big deal or drama, but ADDING this process to start to shift your mindset around the habit.
Find a thought that works for you to commit: For example:
"I can drink whenever I want, today I am choosing growth."
Brainstorm ahead of time your:
1: Normal Triggers (times, circumstances when you drink)
2: Reasons why (these are you desire thoughts) I like it. I need to relax. Don't censor these thoughts.
4 Steps To Interrupt A Craving: (in real time)
1: Become aware: What is the specific triggers. (time of day, person...)
2: Get curious: What is the thought/why are you desiring it?
3 Be compassionate: What is the emotion and the sensations in the body? (if strong emotion see ep #42 for how to process an overwhelming emotion)
THIS IS WHERE YOU STOP AND PAUSE (INTERRUPT!)
4: Growth through Grace: Breath, relax, feel, watch, allow.
Become the witness and watch the craving have a beginning, middle and end.
Inhale:This is a moment of frustration (insert your emotion)
Exhale: everyone experiences frustration.
Create some thoughts to get you inspire to stick to Interrupting a Craving Rather than resisting it.
"I can plan my life on purpose." I choose to be present for change and growth." "Life doesn't just happen to me, I decide."
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In today’s Episode I show you that taking your last sip, isn't the first step. I teach you the step by step process I used and teach my clients to FAIL FORWARD and make the most of your failed attempts at quitting drinking. You can walk away with more awareness of your mind, the habit and how to actually unlearn drinking rather than strengthening your desire with shame, regret and false beliefs.
The first step is the hardest, it’s saying yes to yourself. Once you commit to never giving up on yourself, there’s nothing you can’t do.
Schedule a time to talk with Mary about your experience HERE.
Email me any insights or Questions mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
1: Make the VOW:
From this Day forward: I want you to promise me, to VOW, you will never, ever again beat yourself up for drinking when you said you wouldn’t.
In fact, stop telling yourself, today I’m not drinking.
I...(beautiful listener of stop drinking and start living), solemnly vow, to get to the bottom of my drinking habit.
I am taking the conversation to drink or not to drink off the plate.
I am giving myself permission to drink without shame, BUT with the caveat that I will follow Mary’s formula if I do. I will fail forward, I will truly LEARN from my mistakes through observation and evaluation and with compassion, NOT shame.When you start this part, make sure to look at it like you are experiencing if for the first time, from a neutral curiosity. 2:Observe the circumstance: What are the very specific situations in which you desire a drink? (It's Monday and all my "work" is done.)3: What is the REASON? The ONE THOUGHT? For example, A beer sounds good. 4: What was the EMOTION you felt before the drink? 5: How did this emotion FEEL in my Body as SENSATIONS?6: Describe the first drink with your senses?7: How did your emotion change?8: How did your sensations change? What was the physical result of drinking?9:What happened while you were drinking? What did you do or not do?10: Evaluate how you felt after. What was your emotion and feelings in the body?11: Note how much you drank and what.12: What was the most useful observation?
Today we dive into the wisdom of the womb, the sacred medicine of the earth Herself and how to access the deep remembrance of who you are. Certified vaginal steam therapist and founder of Sacred Lotus Yoni Steam, Sabrina Vedete, teaches us how to heal our cycle with the wisdom of nature. We explore how to access your truth and divine essence that alcohol has been covering up through the practice of embodiment and self care rituals. By paying attention to our bodies wisdom we cultivate self trust, safety and become a vessel for the creative solutions we need to show up to life, our loved ones and ourselves, from a place of unconditional love, compassion, courage and REAL pleasure.
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**We live in cycles and rhythms, although we don’t pay attention to them or understand how to really utilize our own personal rhythms as the doorway to cultivating the self trust and personal empowerment we need to change our relationship to alcohol. It’s also how we understand the art of allowing change, rather than just quitting and trying to keep the rest of our life the same. It doesn’t work that way. There is a revealing to you, on a deeper level that needs to be understood when you change your relationship to alcohol. Not simply the act of drinking, that is why it doesn’t work. That is why it isn’t over night. You aren’t just resisting changing alcohol, you are resisting the implications of what that means. It is the Fall Equinox and it is a PERFECT time to reflect on the summer. What worked, what didn’t and what you would like to be different in a future full of infinite possibilities. Any one who schedules an alignment session with me from now until October 1st, a beautiful practice I offer my 1:1 clients for creating their intentions for the next season, to really step into next level possibility. There is also a wonderful guided emotional intimacy practice I will send. You can use this pause to shift into trying a sober october from the perspective of allowing change rather than quitting.
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Full of universal insight, Deana Barnes, talks of her parallel life of holistic arts and alcohol since she was 15 years old. How somewhere along the way, the belife that an altered state consciousness, created a hightned state of awareness. When in fact, it was the opposite. It created an eatram of inner elements always out of balance that eventually lead to an ultimatum. Deana talks how the only way out of suffering was through diving in to the shadow. "Understanding that the world is bigger than myself, my inner connectedness to the world around me always kept me at heightened awareness to give me another point of view." Was her tether to the TRUTH of who she is. That alcohol was just a mask and real life is embracing who is is body, mind and soul.
Check out Deana's Wonderful Beauty & Wellness HERE and IG @deanabarnesbeauty
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Today I speak to the new kind of courage that it takes to lead an alcohol free life. It's about this willingness to rewrite the fear based paradigm you were born into, and part the mists into a the existence that the way we approach life can be thought the lens of unconditional love, acknowledgement and appreciation for the human experiance.
In today's episode I discuss the ONE and ONLY reason that over rides every single excuse in the book for why you can't stop drinking. And so I don’t leave you hanging, the one and ONLY solution that works in every situation. Right now, you don't yet believe that a life without alcohol will be better than the suffering it is causing you. (this is happening in your subconscious) That some how, alcohol is STILL the solution. Until you DO this work, the work I offer to my clients, you will always be in deprivation, chasing a shadow of pleasure to fill a void that keeps getting bigger and bigger, and strengthens your attachment. The solution from the suffering alcohol is causing you, actually LIVES in the thing you are avoiding: your emotions. You want to FEEL better, but you don’t want to feel. All of the questions you have around drinking boil down to one answer. Your unwillingness to become aware of your emotions, validate and understand them. I teach my clients to find comfort and ease in the emotional intelligence of the self, from here, the place of dissociation created by alcohol, actually no longer feels safe. Get your emotional intimacy step by step guide when you sign up for my free, How To Stop Drinking Workshop. Also, when you schedule a complimentary alignment session with me HERE.
Certified Yoga Instructor and Nurse, Lindsay Graves, talks about owning the free spirit persona she knew she was, but wasn’t fully living into when alcohol started limiting her more than it was helping her be free. She realized when she had a craving first things in the morning & her personal relationships were suffering, that something wasn’t right. She put her tools of yoga and meditation to work and really decided to dive into the deep exploration of self inquiry. Now she is influencing her followers on IG to live a truly free spirited life, FREE of SPIRITS, alcohol free. Lindsey will be gracing the yoga class room and her coworker for years to come with her laid back vibe by guiding them thought the deep embodiment practice of yoga and meditation. Linsey thank you for gracing us with your presence! You are a shining light.
Check out Lindsey's Super fun IG @freeofspirits
In a world where dissociation and disembodiment from the self and the natural world are the epidemics of our time, the mental, physical and spiritual health of the people suffering. In a world where chaos and confusion are always a reaction away, the unaligned self seeks support in the instant and concentrated reward of false pleasures that perpetuate pain. Intuitive Alchemist Queen Freedom Ciavarello, brings plants to the people for the Ultimate Level of Quantum Healing and Realignment, through remembering WHO we are at the most basic and subtle, yet profound level. Beyond what is even perceptible to the human mind, but KNOWN deeply in it’s effects in the waking life, we bring you plant allyship.
Don't miss a chance to work with Freedom: HERE are here amazing offerings.
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She offers monthly New Moon Gathers Virtual, Online as well as an AMAZING meditation membership.
IG @freedomciavarello
You are in for a treat! We are taking the show NEXT LEVEL with what it means to live an EMPOWERED life, through EMBODIMENT. My guest today exemplifies the name of her business, Beauty In Movement. She is truly a beacon of radiance to all she meets. Through her holistic hair care and Hula Hoop Dance Classes, she is offering the world an opportunity to live as an expression of JOY. The Hula Hoop, and Laura, were one of the biggest catalysts in my journey of Alcohol Free Living, and I am forever grateful. It has changed how I see myself as a Woman, how I experience my body and how I process my emotions. Hoop dance with Laura is so much more than just a super fun activity, it is a truly spiritual and healing experience from beginning to end. It creates a sense of community and a door to come home again to yourself. Laura, I can't thank you enough from the bottom of my heart.
MUAH! xxoo
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Facebook: @beautyinmovement
Watch Laura IN MOVEMENT HERE (it's inspiring)
Don't miss Laura's upcoming online series starting September 14th! Sign up HERE!
Check Out a video of what to expect from online hoop dance and meet Laura!
Ignite the Feminine Workshop LIVE in Portland, OR August 23rd 10:30-12 pm
Meditation, Yoga, Hoop & YOU! With Laura & Mary Info HERE!
Watch my Hoop skills all thanks to Laura!
In today's raw and vulnerable interview the Sober Queen, Connie McMillan, talks of her miraculous story of literally choking on a drink after asking God to help her stop desiring alcohol. To her it was an unmistakable sign that her prayers had be answered and from that deep knowing, connection and listening, to her higher power she made the decision to take heed and never drink again. With a hand to God, she is living her life every step of the way by trusting the signs and messages she is receiving that have given her the inspiration and courage to step fully into her personal Queendom. From a life of hardship and struggles to inspiring Kings and Queens thought her own coaching and speaking, she is truly living a life of purpose, that keeps her moving forward in service, even through pain.
Queen Connie, thank you!!
Find out more about Connie McMillian On her website HERE
On her podcast Sober Sessions
On Facebook @sobrietyqueenconnieOn Instagram @sobriety_queen_connie
Check out her book: Alcohol Fiend To Sobriety Queen
"I was to walk through what I walked through for my learning of the journey of my sou.", says our amazing guest, Dr. Sue Walski, and I couldn't agree more. She shares with us her heroic journey growing up with an alcoholic Mother and confronting her own relationship with alcohol. With Divine guidance, inner resilience, and a strong sense of self, Sue came out on top and is now sharing her healing gifts with the world. Sue, thank your your vulnerability and sharing your wonderful story.
Please check out Sue's Holistic Animal Practice
and the Learning Room at Meadowbrook
How can the thing that causes you so much pain, also be the same thing you can't imagine living without?
Breaking promises to yourself on the daily? Your not happy with the relationship you have with alcohol, but you are always giving in to your desires and can't imagine life without it? End the drama by making a choice to UNDERSTAND WHY this is happening.
This is a 100% normal, you or your brain are not broken. It is simply that you haven't practiced how to process emotions. Every time you have had a specific emotion in the past, subconsciously, you have responded with a drink.
You may not consciously KNOW, this is how you are solving for an emotion, and it doesn't even have to be a negative one.
The act of drinking isn't the problem. It is getting comfortable with first being with an emotion and proving to yourself that a drink doesn't change your circumstances, it just masks the emotion.
As a reflection for self inquiry this week:
What would your life look like without alcohol?
What benefits to you gain from alcohol that you aren't capable of creating your own?
When you have the urge to drink, or it's time to decide: Ask yourself: What emotion am I experiencing right now? What are the sensations in my body that it is producing?
To change anything in your life: You have to start making decisions you feel good about, that is the only thing that makes it "the right time".
Schedule your complimentary alignment session HERE
“Being a Black woman in a patriarchal, racist society can be overwhelming. It is exhausting.” From her website: Khadi Olagoke, lawyer and founder of Sober Black Girls Club, shares with us her journey from head of the class in law school to finding her authenticity and the root of WHY she was coping with alcohol. The discrepancies of representation present in the sober community for Black People, is startling. She speaks to how she is supporting Black and Brown Women put down the bottle and know that a life of joy and REAL pleasure is possible, exactly as you are, but that you must be willing to take a look at the shadow. “I am the work…This is the work of Self”, says Khadi. This interview opens the awareness of why it’s not just the criminal justice system of oppression that needs to change, but EVERY institution in our country. How discrimination runs throughout receiving support for sobriety from education to treatment. Don’t miss this important and powerful episode about how racism and white supremacy adds another layer of adversity to the black community of seeing what’s possible for a full, authentic, healthy life on the other side of alcohol. Khadi, thank you so much!
Check out Khadi’s work and the how to support her mission:
Sober Black Girls Club
On Instagram
The 4 Agreements Book
This interview will change your life. So raw and beautiful, this interview exemplifies how we solve for problems of trauma, mental and emotional health. How alcohol much of the time makes rules for us that seem acceptable but in retrospect seem insane. Excited and full of inspiration, the thought that there is no place left to go with alcohol, "this shit's not allowed in my life". The truth of quitting alcohol from Self Reflection vs. Moderation. How the society views not drinking as the problem, when actually solving for the problems of life with alcohol is the problem. Thank you, thank you, Megan! xoxo
In this episode you will get to experience what a life coaching session with me is like. Of course all clients and circumstances are different, but the process is the same. We identify the thoughts and feelings that are connected and keeping you stuck. With consistent effort, I create consistent results. From there, we get curious and interrupt the thought and if it's appropriate at the time, create a new, believable one to live into. This particular client has been through the 5 shifts process, at times still comes up with alcohol triggers, but knows the truth about the best version of her life. A coach helps you identify thoughts you are unable to see. I work with embodiment tools to add in supporting practicing a present moment experience.
Shout out to my AMAZING Client! xoxo
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YOU DID IT!! 40 Days To Freedom From Alcohol. In the episode, I recap the journey and answer a couple listener's questions all coming back to the same real answer: observation and rewiring the brain from the place of an inspired future.
I hope you enjoyed this sacred journey and will consider continuing to implement this work into all areas of your life. Alcohol is a habit, until it's not, but it doesn't happen on it's own, it takes work. I don't look at it as something unfortunate, my alcohol journey changed my life for the better, in every single way.
I would not have the level of awareness I have without what I have gone through, this is true for all of my clients. Today we talk about the power of the present. The only way to shift of from the dreaded future, or negative thought loops is to interrupt the circuit again and again. You MUST practice a new way of thinking. This isn't a one size fits all as some coaches talk about. It happens in the mind and body at the same time. To neglacted then embodied experiance of our lives is to do a disservice to the ways in which change is possible.
This weeks self inquiry:
What are the benefits you are still seeing from alcohol?
How can you disprove them?
If you know it's a BS habit, what's stopping you from diving in?
What's the worst that can happen if you are confronted with yourself face to face?
In a year from now, how will you feel if you are still waking up with regret and fretting about alcohol?
What do you want your life to FEEL like?
Who are you and what do you stand for?
What area's have of your life do you have more awareness about?
Dance your way sober, yes, you can chant your way alcohol free. You can think your way sober too.. But ALL of these practices come from a place of neutral observation, witnessing the mind without judgement. Enjoy the show. So much love, Mary
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Integration is the final step of our sacred journey of the self. To Choosing Love Instead, we MUST see our selves as an integral part of the whole, not separate or less than. This IS a universal truth we often live outside of. But it is the truth that we need to LEAN into most.
Offering the fruits of your labor for the sake of love, to something bigger than just your pleasure alone. Claiming your inner divinity, choosing love instead, is how you embody and anchor your unflinching WHY, in all you do.
Albert Einstein said: There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
Choosing to live like life is a miracle is the only way to find lasting peace and inspiration we need to see our thoughts as constructs not of WHO WE ARE, but as part of the fleeting experience of being human.
Self Inquiries for this final week!! Don't forget to email your Q&A mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
What contributes to your calmness and balance?
What tools can you use to achieve this?
How long does it last?
**How can you recalibrate that feeling throughout the day?
What can reality draw you back to center?**
What is your definition of SELF (big S), separate from the ego?
What ways to you express this sense of self in your life and the world around you?
Where do you feel separate from all of life and creative consciousness?
How can you fill the gap?
What is your vision of the ultimate expression of integration of self?
What is your definition of divinity, god/goddess or creative consciousness?
How do you connect to that energy?
What archetype do you identify with most?
Where do you see yourself and divinity/creative consciousness as separate?
How can you be in service not just to humanity, but the divine expression of life?
**If every act was an act of love and service, how would that change how you show up?
How can you initiate your self, into the SELF of all of existence?
Write a declaration of your commitment to love, claiming your birth-rite as an equal participant of life. Claim your sovereignty and where you are DONE playing small. Declare that alcohol is no longer a part of who you are or what your purpose is in this life.**
Remember it’s not what you do, but how you do it.Resilience Yoga **Wednesday & Friday 7am PST on Zoom
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Week 4 in 40 Days To Freedom From Alcohol, we stand in the light of the Resolution. Being Seen and Grounding into our personal Truth.
This truth comes from your Unflinching WHY: Your resolve, your deep inspiration our hearts desire of what tethers you to do this work at all.
You can reflect back on the confronting the story with a new frame work, outside of fear, and into the light of your unflinching WHY, in Sanskrit it's called a Sankalpa or resolve: From Wikipedia: Sankalpa means an intention formed by the heart and mind -- a solemn vow, determination, or will. In practical terms a Sankalpa means a one-pointed resolve to focus both psychologically and philosophically on a specific goal. A sankalpa is a tool meant to refine the will, and to focus and harmonize mind and body.
This IS the ultimate resolution.
You can not keep up inspiration and momentum without some bigger force or reason behind you.
**Something you will unapologetically stand for.
Week 4 Self Inquiry:**
How can I take a stand in this journey.
What is Your Unflinching WHY?
Who are you without Alcohol? The biggest and best version?
What are you willing to be wrong about?
Where have you been playing the victim and how can you take personal responsibility?
What form of abundance are you calling into your life?
Who is SHE is everyway now that alcohol is no longer in yourway?
Who are your ally’s?
What are your tools and resources?
What are you celebrating about yourself?
Are you willing to acknowledge limitations as well as your gifts?
See yourself in the eyes of those who appreciate you.
"Your lack of commitment is an insult to those who believe in you." -Conor McGregor
How can you create the sacredness to meet yourself everyday in ritual?
I love this conversation so much! The talented and sweet, Sarah Sibley talks of emotional support through embodiment, unpacking Mental Health, the importance of experiencing a full cycle of emotion to heal, Holistic Maintenance of the Mind and special herbal remedies to sooth the mind, heart and soul. How quarantine, has been an opportunity to dive deeper into the exploration of her own healing journey, Sarah is a skilled certified Herbalist and Human Design Reader. Please enjoy this vulnerable and very relatable interview.
The Class By Taryn Toomey
We are half way through the 40 days to freedom from alcohol! Have you committed to your sacred self? This episode is PACKED full of examples and the EXACT process to get you out of thought loops, that ultimately end up in drinking, into allowing emotion and get you in control of your life instead of riding the trigger happy emotional roller caster of reactivity!
**Personal Responsibility in a nut shell, is your ticket to ultimate freedom. By staying 100% accountable for you thoughts, feelings and actions, you have to opportunity to explore the direct process that gets alcohol in your hand and body, or anyother result in your life. It is the building block of how you show up and claim your power, by CHOOSING thoughts on purpose! You can interrupt the process by choosing new thoughts or allowing emotions to happen.
Personal responsibility is non-negotiable if you want to make REAL Change in your drinking. It is the stage of emergence in our healing journey of the self. Now that you have brought light by confronting the story, you can give some energy to how you relate to the outer world and make a plan to lay actionable steps to get there.
The Personal Responsibility Cycle:
Life Happens (trigger)-thought-emotion-drink alcohol
This can be used for anything.
This weeks Self Inquiry:**
How do I feel right now?: EXPAND Your vocabulary
Why do I feel this way? What is the EXACT circumstance anyone would agree on it's objective? (ie it's raining out, NOT: my partner is mean)
( about what situation or circumstance, get VERY specific)
What was the thought that created this emotion? If you need to list as many as are present.
How do I show up when I feel this way/ what actions do I take?
What are the sensations of this emotion in my body?
If I allow them and stay in the place of observation will they change?
How do you WANT to feel?
I know at least one thought that will take me in that direction I want to go in...
What people, places and things bring me trues joy?
What brings satisfaction?
Fulfilment?
Pleasure?
Highlighting your gifts:
What are my talents & gifts?
Abilities, skills?
Interests?
What inspires me?
www.marywagstaffcoach.com to get on my mailing list for extra inquiries and for your alignment session.
Also, email me with any questions, feedback, inquiries for the 40 days to freedom.
This work will change how you show up for yourself, and the injustices on the rest of the world.
In Truth and Justice,
Mary
Here is a great resource to expand your awareness for undoing racism.
Dr Joe Dispenza
Brooke Castillo of the Life Coach School
Kia Miller Radiant Body Yoga
This engaging conversation with guest, Willo Sana, is such a wonderful companion to our invitation of Confronting The Story (ep.26). We talk about her spiritual awakening as the catalyst for changing her relationship with alcohol, which propelled her forward to creating the frame work for which to lead from. The pure science behind the pathways of the brain that create belief from a false pleasure and how can you find your deep center and your own knowing inside, answering a call to something bigger than yourself, to become a vessel for that divine creative force to come through. We also discus the importance of sisterhood and seeing the reflection of the other to fully see ourselves. Willo was such a wonderful guest to have on that truly exemplifies what it means to stop drinking and start living. To go beyond the story and use your growth to inspire that in others. Thank you Willo! xxoo
Willo Sana is a transformational business coach, master facilitator, and international keynote speaker who empowers visionary entrepreneurs to birth their big ideas into the world. For more than 18 years, she has shared her special mix of emotional and strategic support - cultivating clarity, courage, and compassion - through multiple e-courses and online trainings, immersive retreats, and large-scale events. She has worked with thousands of ambitious, purpose-driven individuals, helping them to thrive in all areas of life.
Her upcoming book, Double Down on Your Genius: Own Your Gifts, Align Your Actions, and Flourish in Your Calling, will be released in 2020.
Learn more about her at WilloLovesYou.com
HOORAY! YOU ARE DOING IT!
As we dive deeper into our 2nd week of our program from Self Sabotage to a Sacred Journey of the Self, the need for deep contemplation arises. This is the pivotal pillar of the healing journey. Through confrontation of the stories which shape our reality, we are able to start to see what is not actually true. We can name it and it begins to loose it's power over us. For our purposes it comes much of the time from subconscious shame around alcohol or what others will think about us, what it means about who we are if we admit alcohol is a problem in our lives. We create stories that are not based on first hand experiences. They are simply thoughts based on the past or false conditioned beliefs.
It limits us to find out. To even step into the space to experience the emotion we are so scared of. So much o the time, we find out, it was never as bad as we thought it would be. We need to be brave and courageous this week enough to find out! Step into this week of inquiry with more compassion and curiosity than ever before. Just like you are reading your life as a mystery novel. Let it invoke emotion, but let the suspense take you further. You are stronger than you think you are. Don't miss this step for deep transformation. It is the building blocks to prove to yourself, there is nothing you aren't willing to feel to seek the truth. Your willingness to be wrong is required. This quality, is the quality of successful, happy and greatly satisfied people. Be wrong about everything, especially alcohol!
This weeks self inquiries:
For this week write, everyday:
Why have I been unwilling to look at my relationship with alcohol?
What do I think this means about me?
What are my fears about the opinions of others?
What do I shame myself for?
What do I think is ugly or unpleasant about who I am?
What am I most scared to discover about myself?
**Do I know these to be true?
How?**
How does it make me feel?
Who would I be outside of this fear?
Are your fears from first hand experience?
Where do they come from?
What if leaving alcohol behind was the greatest gift you ever gave yourself, how would you feel?
Write a letter to yourself from the other side of alcohol in your ideal situation.
How you would think about yourself, others, and life in a world where your life was better with out alcohol?
Blow your own mind with possibilities!
IE: I can’t believe I spent all of those years thinking about alcohol, and that is was going to be worse. I am so glad I was wrong!
Go back to your life intention.
The statements of WHO YOU want to be in the world.
How does your life intention tell a different story than alcohol?
Offer yourself the opportunity to be curious:
WOW, I can’t believe I have been thinking that for so many years!
With love and light,
Mary
PS: Don't forget to send me your inquiries, comments, ahas, and questions~! mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
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Join me for a beautiful conversation with Artist and Mother, Keely Rademacher. We discuss the deep parallels between Sobriety and Parenting. How midst and compassion to change are LEARNED behaviors, and discovering choice is part of the journey of growing awareness. We discover that the masculine dominated culture is the opposite way to support TRUE, lasting transformation and that finding the Mother within, is how to meet yourself where you are with open arms and a relaxed breath. Keely gives some amazing, fun, creative tools to start the process of seeing just how much time we actually spend in a day not just consuming alcohol, but THINKING about it. Keely brings an inspired creativity you don't want to miss. Thank you so much for you wisdom Keely. xxoo
Find out more about Keely and her work IG @pinkcloudproject
And locally in Portland, OR Meetup.com - PDX Pink Cloud Project
Also...
If you haven't yet, join us for 40 Days To Freedom From Alcohol: From self sabotage to a journey of the self. It's going to be an amazing 6 weeks. Check out Wednesdays' Episode #24 for Week 1 details! Have an amazing day, Mary
YES!! 40 Days To FREEDOM!!
Today we explore recognition. It's time. Show up, commit. You have NOTHING TO LOSE.
You know what your life looks like with alcohol. It's not getting more fun, interesting or surprising you with new results. Why not take a closer look? You are here, you have already heard the call of your highest self, she is ready and waiting for you to answer. What if, the next 40 days of your life, just by committing, by taking indecision off the plate, changed your life for the better, forever?
It will. No matter what phase of drinking you are in, it's time to dive deeper.
Take time to listen to each week without interruption if possible.
This isn’t about taking a break to prove you can.
This is about shifting your perspective to see what lies beyond the bottle.
Stay open, get curious, try a new way!
This is the process of saying YES to you by reclaiming your TRUTH as Your Identity.
Saying YES first to vulnerability.
Saying YES to the willingness to be wrong or feel different about alcohol than you use to.
Saying YES to curiosity.
The weeks self inquiry: **( at home course study)
-Create your LIFE INTENTION (ep. #8)
You can't change if you if don't know WHY you are changing.
The 5 highest values and thoughts about them of your big WHY.
What does this life mean to you?
Why does it matter that you are looking at your relationship to alcohol?
How do you want to be in the world?
What do you represent?
How do you want to inspire others?
What does it mean to be a Woman in her Power?
Answer these questions everyday. Re-read them every morning.
-Everyday use the morning sensory check in.
Before the day takes you away, go through each of your 5 senses to begin to become familiar with the place of your center, where you are GROUNDED.
This is that place where you can feel into the center of the wheel of change.
The place where YOU are in control.
Not where you are clinging and grasping at the wheel of change being flung around.
-Make a declaration of commitment! Write it down, tell a friend!
For the next 40 Days, I am committing to examining my relationship with alcohol, everyday, no matter what. From a place of real observation and curiosity.
If you don't want to tell anyone, tell me! Email me that you are onboard and any questions you would like to be answered. (completely confidential of course).
Mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
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Live on the show! We dive deep going from self sabotage to a sacred journey of the self!
For 40 days I will take you through transformational journey to reclaim your power and rewrite your story around alcohol. If you believed that this was the 40 days that could change the rest of your life, it will!
ARE YOU READY.....
🌹To blow your mind?
🌹To claim your worth?
🌹To END Self Sabotage?
🌹To see that life has more to offer than your WILDEST DREAMS?
🌹To start FEELING BETTER more often?
🌹To live your life like the sacred journey it is?
OF COURSE YOU ARE!
🌹40 DAYS TO FREEDOM FROM ALCOHOL!!
5/27 FOR 6 WEEKS LIVE ON THE PODCAST: STOP DRINKING AND START LIVING.
🌹No sign up required. Just you, an open mind & heart, a note book, and the willingness to commit to YOU for 40 days. It doesn't matter what your current relationship is to alcohol. The work is to start to see your mind and get to know your heart.
Invite a friend and make it a socially distant date.
The entire program is on done live on the podcast at your convince. 5, one hour lessons with at home self study prompts.
🌹
You can find out more www.marywagstaffcoach.com
and access to the meditation portal.
🌹This work can be applied to ANYTHING that is no longer serving you.
🌹It's time to WAKE UP and SHOW UP!
All Q&A during the program will be answered on the show.
I can't WAIT!!!
email me with any questions: mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
xxooo
I surrendered myself to myself...
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Have you ever heard anything more inspiring?
Dina talks about how when a person blacks-out, it's like our highest self saying, see ya later, call me when my temple is ready!
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This episode you DON"T want to miss. By her own rules, through the process of Maturation, Dina shares with us her heroic journey of learning to trust herself again, finding freedom from the Mother within and claiming her self worth after a deep dive into the grief of letting go of a story that was never hers. How to choose self LOVE over FEAR in every moment. What type of person do you want to be? Who are you now? There in lies your purpose. Simply, to be more of who you are. Find more about Dina and her wonderful work: www.dinaschaefer.com & ArtByDinaSchaefer
Searching for God on the internet?
(PS...she's not on instagram)
...
In this episode I talk about my own personal spiritual deficit.
How I live a parallel life of yoga and drinking for 20 years.
How I was seeking meaning to life through the next new adventure, technique, or THING,
Only to find a dead end,
in an empty bottle of tequila.
The true guidance is never outside of you,
yet the inner voice that gets overshadowed by the oh so noisy world, including Social Media, booze and the stories of the conditioned mind.
The only way to hear that voice, and follow that guide to true freedom, is through a commitment to a life devoted to love.
I give details about my program 40 Days To Freedom From Alcohol, end self sabotage and begin a sacred journey within. The process will be live on the podcast starting 5/27 for 6 weeks, but you can get more information and your meditations, HERE.
Invite a friend and get excited!
I share the technique of left nostril breathing for 3 minutes to support easeful mind & sleep.
Goddess Photo:
@melissarobinphoto
In this episode I have a very touching and intimate conversation with the delightful, Tina Quinn. Tina speaks to deep loss and grace saving tragedy. How she is propelling herself forward with: "The belief that I can ______!" I love an open invitation to dive deeper into what's possible, now that alcohol is no longer holding you back. She learned that asking for support is about understanding that the ebb is part of the flow. This episode really relates on a deep level to the story about alcohol that was written for you before you were born and how with greater awareness, an amazing attitude and the willingness to Expand & Explore, that story can be rewritten on your terms. It was for Tina. You are amazing, Woman!
When you are trying to solve for the problem of alcohol, moderation solves for the symptom, the ACTION, which is the drinking.
As much as you want alcohol to be different than it is, moderating now, will never solve the ROOT CAUSE of your drinking which are your THOUGHTS and the conditioned pattern created in your mind, emotions and body around your beliefs of alcohol.
There is a voice inside calling you home.
She doesn't need to moderate.
She does what serves her most, and leaves the rest.
Get to know that voice, she's amazing.
Do the work in service of the highest version of SHE.
In this episode we talk of all things ritual that make room for the feminine to THRIVE. The wonderful Melissa Robin shares about spontaneous sobriety after a sweat lodge experience, cacao medicine, embodied healing and the masculine hustle. Don't miss this beautiful soul share her inspiring story and magic. I am so blessed to know of this sweet Goddess Si-STAR! Thank you so much, Melissa. xoxo
A sacred way to explore your divine feminine is through one of Melissa's life changing Goddess Sessions and her current offering of an online master class The Goddess Unveiled, info HERE. Check out her stunning work on IG: @melissarobinphoto and her website: www.Melissarobinphoto.com (photograph on Cover Art by Melissa Robin)
Special Mother's Day Intro Surprise! This episode is dedicated to my beautiful Mother, Shannon Thompson, for whom, none of this would be possible. My life and love have blessed, thank you. WIth Change Comes Resistance, the only way to move forward is to walk through it. A refusal to accept change, in this case your relationship to alcohol. The first step to facing resistance is to acknowledge that it's happening. Alcohol becomes a way of life, to move away from alcohol is to accept a new way to be in the world, as part of it's ever changing nature.
When we refuse to accept something, we stay in a state of denial, stasis, or constant moderation.
We have to know what we are resisting? Why?
How does it feel?
What about this change feels the most scary, unsettling?
Where can you let go?
**What can inspire you on the other side of change?
Honoring the need for change and it's inevitability can you see infinite possibility?
marywagstaffcoach.com**
In this episode we talk to the upbeat and inspiring, Meghan French, who is by far living her best life. Meghan shares how her sobriety has truly created a deep sense of inner knowing, trust and freedom, in a way she hadn't experienced. How moving through a break up, dating and quarantine have been exponentially more fun and manageable because of the work she has put in and the real form of self love, care and compassion she is now able to offer herself. How loss of old parts of your life might seem hard, but it is in that change that creates a new life full of inspiration and possibility. It was a wonderful uplifting conversation I know you will get so much out of. Meghan is a Real Estate agent in Portland, OR… You can find find her on IG @meghanfrenchrealestate Thank you Meghan!
The current theme in all of my work in some form, is creating self trust. As simple as it sounds, the concept runs deep and the implications of how it will not only change your relationship to alcohol, but shape your life are astounding. If the definition of Trust is a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something, in our case, the self. How will we ever tap into innate wisdom when alcohol completely overrides, every factor that defines trust? The paradigm has been: full speed ahead, or fake it until you make it, but that is all changing right before our eyes. The holistic approach to change, mind, body, soul, is the only way for a full lived life to occur. To really know thy self. The way to cultivate trust is through stopping, slowing down and tuning in. There are many ways to "start" a practice or for a new routine, changing your relationship to alcohol must be met with a mental interruption to the outer world and an invitation to ask yourself, what is really my opinion on the way things are going? What do I have control over? Do I really know what I even value in life? This episode will give you practice tools to help you on the journey of cultivating deeper self trust. Reach out for a strategy session when you are ready: Mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
In this episode we hear from the lovely and straight up, Kelsey Irish. We the talk about starting from the ground up and how ditching alcohol (and labels and rules) is the best tool to support major transition, that honesty is the only real requirement for change, creating a new level of focus and finding the ultimate freedom, one night friendships, living a life of intentions vs. being along with the ride, and how changing your relationship to alcohol is a natural part of honoring your growing awareness of self. Find more about Kelsey and her work on Pinterest and IG. Enjoy the show!
Your relationship with alcohol is a conditioned habit. A auto pilot response to a number of stimulus and cues in your world. Just like brushing your teeth or driving a car, drinking has become what you do without much thought. To change any part of our routine, or to create a new habit, we must slow down enough to watch the habit unfold in real time. I created this deeply relaxing guided check in, for you to take a moment to tune into YOU, before you choose a drink. By doing this, you will step into the place of the witness if you do decide to drink. This new frame of mind alone, starts the process of rewiring the brain. You may also decide: you know what, a drink isn't what I need right now, I'll have some water and go to bed early instead. When you CHOOSE something new, or even approach your drinking from a new, curious perspective, the mind starts to shift and awareness grows. Please make sure you are in a safe space to tune in.
In this episode we explore the Privilege Of Emotion. Our emotional body is our internal navigation device where we can choose to detach from circumstance or story and be with what is, free of judgement. It is from this place where we can harness the super power of observing the emotions and expand our awareness of the truth of reality. In both desired and undesired situations, alcohol creates and false sense of reality, taking away to privilege that we have to seek and know the truth as fully present, emotional beings. As women, we are able to understand our world in a very intricate spectrum of emotion that can be so powerful, IF we allow them to be. To move through the process of quitting alcohol you must experience emotions as a gift to take care of yourself in light of any circumstance. This sets you up for great success in all of life. www.marywagstaffcoach.com
In this candid conversation with Artis, educator and creator of thirsty4spirit.com, an amazing blog and instagram page where Erika offers spiritual guidance for practical applications to becoming the "Catalyst in Guiding your own evolution". She asks are you "ARE YOU THIRSTY 4 YOUR SPIRIT WITHIN?" Implying a spiritual deficit present for many people who struggle with alcohol. This is something I agree with entirely. We continue to fill a void and search for meaning outside of ourselves, when the answers to that which brings ultimate satisfaction live, within. Erika shares her story of being kicked out of collage twice and how she used that as a catalyst to strengthen her path of spirit. Check out Erika's work Thirsty 4 Spirit, her Podcast: The Magical Holistic Healing Arts and Instagram. Enjoy the show!
In this very special episode, I interview my beloved life partner, Matthew Graham, about next leveling his life by going all in on drinking, what happened to Dad, quitting drinking in an enabling relationship, how one thought will make or break your outcome and quality of life, and how living alcohol free in quarantine is the key to less fear and anxiety. To schedule a personal strategy session with Mary: email mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
This is the final phase of the moon meditations. These can be used any moon cycle, so if you are just discovering this, I invite you to go back to the new moon meditation and set your intention for that lunar cycle and see what opens up! For today, grab a candle and a journal. Take some time to reflect on the past month to see what has been useful and what is ready to be burned. What is the flickering light in the darkness that keeps calling you? Are you willing to get still and quiet to hear your truest self? This is where real lasting shifts can be created. Enjoy this self care time and creating new rituals for yourself. xxoo, Mary
Amber Stephens courageously shares her story of shame, trauma and perseverance. How she thought drinking alcohol was the key to her hardcore, badass self, only to end up right where she started every time. When she said ENOUGH and took her life into her own hands, digging deep into the divine feminine powers that live within, she was able to find, strengthen and now share, the power and privilege is it is to be Alcohol Free and live a life without excuses. If you, like many thing giving up alcohol is going to be a dull, boring existence, think again. Amber is a Public Speaking Mindset Coach and is helping women all over the world, make more money using their minds and unique self, by starting NOW. Find more about Amber: Website: amberjstephens.com
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In this episode we explore why quarantine time is an amazing opportunity for anyone who as been wanting to quit drinking. It's such a powerful time to show up to a brand new reality and expand your capacity for resilience from tapping into your own internal resources. The normal association triggers of your day to day may have changed greatly, and instead of creating new ones around alcohol, you can explore new ways to be of service to your life, mind, body and soul. We will explore four key areas that make your ability be move through adversity so much greater when you change your relationship to alcohol. #alcoholfree
There has never been a better time to explore the nature of reality. Letting the natural world support your deeper connection and understanding of who you are, and why it matters that you live into an abundant life, where love and light are the guiding forces leading the way. Let this full moon bring into view for you what IS innately true and what is acquired knowledge, find what best serves your life and the collective. Enjoy. Reach out with questions or for 1 one 1 support. mary@marywagstaffcoach.com
This episode is CRUCIAL to understanding your relationship with alcohol. How to mitigate and understand why uncertainty and stress in this current moment may be bringing up the desire to drink. To move past the power of the conditioned mind you MUST understand how it works and why, even after years of living Alcohol Free, you may STILL have urges or cravings. This is a tool to help greatly in the early stages of AF living, you may not yet be in full believe that life is actually better. (trust me, it is) When you can distinguish between old pathways and what's actually real, from the place of your conscious mind, the place of the witness, you can move through triggers with greater ease, power and confidence. Join in on the Live Virtual Women's Holistic Alcohol Support Group HERE
With some extra time on your hands, let me guide you through a practice of uncovering the nature of the self and of reality. Take a guided journey to an ancient land where the energy is full of possibility. When we are changing our relationship to alcohol, it's easy to take every thought we have as FACT and TRUTH, because we have been thinking that thought on auto pilot for so long. This practice allows you to create NEW thoughts on purpose based on your intention for how you want to be in the world. When we DECLARE a statement, we choose a thought, we can show up for and start to practice it over and over again, until it becomes our reality. Is it possible for you to create some intentional "me time" as your new normal? I'm here to help. Please share and ENJOY! xxoo, Mary
In this episode I teach you how to create your own personal manifesto for QUALITY CONTROL of your life. This is the exact language that comes from your HIGHEST and BEST self from which all GREAT decisions are made. In a time where the ground feels shaky in the world and you are changing your relationship to alcohol, having the VOICE of your highest self is the one certain thing you can count on. The more you practice it, the more it becomes second nature and guarentees your results. Make a cup of tea, grab your note book and together we will create YOUR LIFE INTENTION. The words form which to live by, AND STOP DRINKING BY.
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In this episode we explore what is certain, how to understand your emotions and be OKAY with what you are FEELING. Why a pandemic is the perfect time to stop drinking & MORE importantly REMEMBER your BIG WHY to NOT drink. Why Alcohol is Fuel to the fire of fear and anxiety and can actually make a current situation worse, not to mention lower your immunity. In this moment your personal responsibility to be in the best physical, mental and emotional health possible, for you, your family and community while there is so much out of our control, may just be the inspiration you need to make a commitment to changing your relationship to alcohol.
In light of the chaos happening in and around us, I decided to release a four part meditation series corresponding to each phase of the moon over the next month. This practice will be a tool to anchor you into what is CERTAIN, what is real, who you are and your deeper connection to the outer world and your inner elements as a part of the web of earth. Please take this opportunity to set an intention and find some quiet, alone time to dig deep into your power and remember who you are, truly.
Ep. #6 Living Today For Your Future Self Today’s Episode is our first interview with one of my clients and sweet friend, Kaylyn Dawley. We talk about why getting alcohol out of her way was the key to her living her dreams of becoming an entrepreneur, how she has used the same process to help support her struggle with depression & anxiety and lots of laughs about why alcohol just isn’t cool anymore, LOL, (and never really was). Kaylyn is the co-owner of Action Jackson Promotions, a company that specializes in helping real estate professionals connect with their ideal clients through fun & engaging video content. She has a unique relationship with alcohol and is happy to share her experiences in the hopes it helps others live fuller, more intentional lives. Find out more about Kaylyn’s Magic https://actionjacksonpromos.comhttps://www.etsy.com/shop/DawleyStyle IG @kaydawl
In this episode we will talk about the final shift to get alcohol out of your way: This includes the two main factors in the ability to overcome all adversity, in our case: alcohol. The first player is you; your internal resources. A reminder of how powerful you are once you can hear yourself think or just be. The next, is the supportive other. We are all born with internal resources, AKA, your intuition and perseverance. This is the ability to advocate for ourselves, and our unique truth, personal freedom and choice, above all else regardless of the collective conversation happening around us. However, with the shadow of alcohol and the ever increasing LOOK OVER HERE, world of social media, it is imperative that we find solace in the supportive of another and in a way that truly resonates with who we are uniquely. For many, groups on and offline are a place to move out of isolation, but not necessarily get that individualized support, recognition and validation that is needed during times of great transition. This is crucial for so many who wish to move on from the story of alcohol, rather than broadcast it as a bullet point on their lifelong resume. When we are more equipped to head out into the noisy world, with our feet grounded, our head held high and our hearts open and ready to love and be loved, we become unstoppable.
There is no better version of anyone you can be besides yourself. Learn how to throw a better party than Booze ever could. In this episode I talk about taking the Curious Observer next level and tapping into the power of CHOICE. This is where you become the INTENTIONAL CREATOR of your life. Deciding how you want to show up in the world ON PURPOSE. Asking what am I getting out of alcohol that I can't do for myself? It’s time to start practicing new thoughts about what is possible for you on the other side of alcohol. Your current thoughts are beliefs because you practiced them. You simply need to start practicing new ones, with the highest version of yourself as the MUSE, for those to become your new reality. Then you throw a party no one would dare to miss and it’s called, your life!
In this episode, I will talk about the 2nd shift in my 5 Shifts Process to changing your relationship to alcohol, how to set the judgement aside and tune into the witness. It’s impossible to see all of your beliefs from the same perspective in which they were created. Our judgement or interpretation of the outer circumstances of life is how we view our world. It is those same thoughts that create our feelings and how we show up in the world, our actions. In order to change your relationship to alcohol, you MUST shift into a state of neutrality where you can see your relationship with alcohol from the outside as the WITNESS looking in. To sign up for a consultation & get your on demand training of the 5 Shifts Process, visit: www.marywagstaffcoach.com
In this episode I will talk about the place inbetween DRINKING IS LIFE to A LIFE WITHOUT ALCOHOL. When you are deep in the throws of daily drinking, or alcohol being the "IT" thing for you, you can't imagine your life without it. Curiosity is the place where you can live that doesn't create further attachment nor impossibility. You have to bridge the gap between your current beliefs that nothing will ever be the same without booze and that alcohol is irrelevant to you. Curiosity is an amazing tool to have during all transitions. Especially the ones you know are in your best interest but where you are still attached to the past beliefs. This is a crucial step to stepping away from willpower and into true inspiration. To sign up for a consultation & get your on demand training of the 5 Shifts Process, visit: www.marywagstaffcoach.com.
In this episode I will talk about the 1st shift, of my revolutionary 5 Shifts approach to getting alcohol out of your way. Somewhere along the line, we have decided alcohol is different than changing other relationships, we want it to magically just all go away overnight, but it doesn't. Just like an ex-lover, your life has been wrapped around your relationship with alcohol and takes some unraveling. By knowing this, and the belief that you are moving towards freedom, will expedite the process de-conditioning the mind. BUT, you have to make a decision one way or the other to stop waiting and start NOW! To sign up for a consultation & get your on demand training of the 5 Shifts Process, visit: www.marywagstaffcoach.com
Congratulations for showing up with curiosity and possibility that there is a better life waiting for you on the other side of alcohol. During the journey of rewriting my relationship with alcohol, I dove deep into the uncovering the real truth about how the collective story about alcohol, is one more circumstance keeping people isolated and in pain. I discovered that taking your sip is far from the first step of the process of getting alcohol out of your way. We will explore why breaking all the rules is not only fun, but how you move towards the NEXT LEVEL life you are ready to live. With my 5 Shift revolutionary process and inspiration from female leaders from around the world, we are going to throw a party you won’t want to miss. Watch as together, we change the world. To sign up for a consultation & get your on demand training of the 5 Shifts Process, visit: www.marywagstaffcoach.com