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Unraveling Pink tackles gender based assumptions in the workplace through storytelling by women and men about their "pink bandana moments" and honest, constructive conversations to unravel incorrect gender assumptions.
Trigger warning: if you've recently lost a loved one, the first seven minutes might be challenging.
In this episode, Sam and Annie come back after a month to reflect on the episode that never was -- a recording fail, but also a raw, challenging conversation -- and share their fresh takes on what it's like to have open and honest conversations about gender. Sam also speaks directly to our male audience members. This concludes the man box season, the Fall season, the third year of Unraveling Pink, and takes us to episode 100. Enjoy!
In this episode, Annie talks with a long-time friend, Noah Lemas, about what increasing gender equality in the workplace feels like for a 50-ish white male, why he left the traditional workplace, and what the workplace lost when he left it. Enjoy!
In this week's episode, Sam and Annie try to untangle friendship - among men and among women - and dig deep into the past to understand why they see friendship as they do. In the process, Sam has an epiphany about the man box. This episode may take you down your own memory lane. Enjoy!
In this episode, Sam and I start to explore how the man box shows up in leadership, but this launching point took us to an exploration of authenticity. Also, a confession by Sam, a recommendation, and a challenge.
Enjoy!
In this episode, Sam and Annie explore the Patriarchy - what it really is (which may not be what you think), why it's so pervasive, and what we might be able to do to change it.
Resources in this episode:
Philippe Leonard Fradet, "7 Reasons Why Patriarchy Is Bad (and Feminism is Good) for Men" (https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/7-reasons-why-patriarchy-is-bad-and-feminism-is-good-for-men/)
Charlotte Higgins, "The age of patriarchy: how an unfashionable idea became a rallying cry for feminism today" (https://www.theguardian.com/news/2018/jun/22/the-age-of-patriarchy-how-an-unfashionable-idea-became-a-rallying-cry-for-feminism-today)
Drew Serres, "Why Patriarchy Persists (and How We Can Change It)" (https://organizingchange.org/patriarchy-persists-can-change/)
Shannon Ridgway, "Patriarchy and How It Shows Up for Everyone" (https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/05/patriarchy-and-how-it-shows-up-for-everyone/)
Miki Kashtan, Ph.D., "Why Patriarchy Is Not About Men" (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/acquired-spontaneity/201708/why-patriarchy-is-not-about-men)
Please note: This episode deals with gun violence.
In this episode, Sam and I explore the connection between the man box and gun violence and mass shootings. We hope this sparks some conversation about this difficult topic and, more importantly, that it encourages you to reach out to those in your life to check in with them.
Let us know your thoughts on this conversation by email to unravelingpink@gmail.com or message us on Twitter @unravelingpink.
Resources in this episode:
Intro audio clip (https://vimeo.com/237772858)
Mark Follman, "Armed and Misogynist: How Toxic Masculinity Fuels Mass Shootings" (https://www.motherjones.com/crime-justice/2019/06/domestic-violence-misogyny-incels-mass-shootings/)
Steve Hewitt, "El Paso: we need to examine the role masculinity plays in mass shootings" (https://theconversation.com/el-paso-we-need-to-examine-the-role-masculinity-plays-in-mass-shootings-121533)
Marina Fang, "California Gov. Gavin Newsom Says Gender Needs To Be Part Of Gun Violence Conversation" (https://www.huffpost.com/entry/gavin-newsom-gun-violence-gender-toxic-masculinity-domestic-violence_n_5d496721e4b0d291ed069141?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAMbjBDgzI98Pn95-PVbFE94RAcYwyXKZ9OxY-DMDtONDIjwidr1gRRT1vIM3wglSg0Qx9dfgB6dkDSKtZPOSmUnSeBMIy9dwO4hyQ3PwX0C7YbOpFmEHnwVUjsHlLFteFEX0Oi_uSvvrLpmwUJybqPwhsRwPhczj_xOubXYDBkRs)
Sam and I kick off the Fall 2019 season exploring what happened with the Forbe's America's 100 Most Innovative Leaders list, whether it truly reflects merit or, instead, historical privilege, and whether the "man box" had a role.
In this season, we'll continue exploring how we all contribute to and are affected by the man box, and where it shows up in current events.
Let us know what you think!
Resources in this episode:
Intro audio from MSNBC (https://www.msn.com/en-us/weather/topstories/forbes-faces-backlash-for-leaving-women-off-innovators-list/vi-AAH2BaW)
Abdu'l-Baha quote: “The world of humanity is possessed of two wings: the male and the female. So long as these two wings are not equivalent in strength, the bird will not fly."
America's Most Innovative Leaders List (https://www.forbes.com/lists/innovative-leaders/#1ed1949c26aa)
Forbe's Editor's Reflection (https://www.forbes.com/sites/randalllane/2019/09/08/opportunity-missed-reflecting-on-the-lack-of-women-on-our-most-innovative-leaders-list/#14ff7321c6b6)
Privilege walk (https://edge.psu.edu/workshops/mc/power/privilegewalk.shtml)
Recent books written by former Unraveling Pink guests:
Better Allies: Everyday Actions to Create Inclusive, Engaging Workplaces, by Karen Catlin (https://www.amazon.com/Better-Allies-Everyday-Inclusive-Workplaces/dp/1732723303/ref=asc_df_1732723303/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=266235278092&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=931641627450300950&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9031912&hvtargid=pla-614689803116&psc=1)
How to Be an Inclusive Leader: Your Role in Creating Cultures of Belonging Where Everyone Can Thrive, by Jennifer Brown (https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Inclusive-Leader-Belonging/dp/1523085177/ref=asc_df_1523085177/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=366446893595&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=18155657442622920792&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9031912&hvtargid=pla-804305575419&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=79033900511&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=366446893595&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=18155657442622920792&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9031912&hvtargid=pla-804305575419)
Piloting Your Life: Take the Controls and Be the Pilot in Your Own Life, by Terri Mead (https://www.amazon.com/Piloting-Your-Life-controls-pilot-ebook/dp/B07VJ6RBCP/ref=sr_1_1?crid=316UIQLZBM7XD&keywords=piloting+your+life&qid=1569102733&s=books&sprefix=piloting+your+life%2Caps%2C213&sr=1-1)
Elephants Before Unicorns: Emotionally Intelligent HR Strategies to Save Your Company, by Caroline Stokes (https://www.amazon.com/Elephants-Before-Unicorns-Emotionally-Intelligent/dp/1599186586)
In this final episode of the "man box" season, Sam and I reflect on the season - what it's been like to sit across from someone of another gender and talk about gender issues - and we issue a challenge to all of you to do the same. We offer some suggestions based on our experience - our successes and failures - and close with Sam's thoughts on what he's learned from this experience. Enjoy!
Unraveling Pink will return with a new season in the Fall.
Extending a bit from the man box, this episode looks at the impact of design on women - this time, with a designer in the conversation, as Sam comes back for another conversation. This week's challenge: observe the world around you and who it is - and is not - designed for.
Resources in this episode:
"Invisible Women: Exposing Data Bias in a World Designed for Men – a review." (http://theconversation.com/invisible-women-exposing-data-bias-in-a-world-designed-for-men-a-review-113693)
Aimee Cunningham, "‘Invisible Women’ spotlights a gaping and dangerous gender data gap." (https://www.sciencenews.org/article/invisible-women-book-dangerous-gender-data-gap-health-safety)
Matthew Schwartz, "NASA Scraps First All-Female Spacewalk For Want Of A Medium-Size Spacesuit." (https://www.npr.org/2019/03/26/706779637/nasa-scraps-first-all-female-spacewalk-for-want-of-a-medium-sized-spacesuit)
Cara Kelly, "NASA's spacesuit issue is all too familiar for working women." (https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/2019/03/28/nasa-anne-mcclain-christina-koch-all-female-spacewalk-scrapped-spacesuits-women-fashion-uniforms/3294159002/)
Ritu Prassad “Seven ways the world is not designed for women.” (https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-47725946)
In this episode, we explore whether the man box comes into play when women are attacked for scientific accomplishments. Sam joins the podcast again and we discover common threads among the topics we've tackled this season. We end with a challenge that everyone can take on.
Resources in this episode:
Katie Bouman talk at Stanford (https://talks.stanford.edu/katie-bouman-imaging-a-black-hole-with-the-event-horizon-telescope/)
Jason Duaine Hahn, People.com, “Male Scientist Claps Back at Trolls Who Tried to Discredit Female Colleague's Role in Black Hole Photo.” (https://people.com/human-interest/male-scientist-claps-back-trolls-discredit-katie-bouman/)
Cara Curtis, Science, "The Internet Idiots Are Already Trying to Discredit Katie Bouman's Historic Accomplishments." (https://thenextweb.com/science/2019/04/12/the-internets-idiots-are-already-trying-to-discredit-katie-boumans-historic-accomplishments/)
Rosalind C. Barnett and Caryl Rivers, Recode, “We’ve studied gender and STEM for 25 years. The science doesn’t support the Google memo.” (https://www.recode.net/2017/8/11/16127992/google-engineer-memo-research-science-women-biology-tech-james-damore)
Better Allies email (https://betterallies.com)
NY Times email - In Her Words (https://www.nytimes.com/series/in-her-words)
Fortune’s email The Broadsheet (http://fortune.com/newsletter/broadsheet/)
Well, that was awkward... How often does an interaction with someone trigger that response?
In this episode, Sam and I explore the concept of personal boundaries, with Joe Biden as a convenient jumping off point. We come at it from different perspectives and end up with different approaches, which shows just how unique and individual this question is for everyone. How do you approach the personal boundaries of those around you?
Resources in this episode:
Joe Biden video (https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=sJVZPHbXJVY)
Simon Worrall “You Need Your Personal Space—Here's the Science Why Your brain uses it to protect you.” January 20, 2018 (https://news.nationalgeographic.com/2018/01/personal-space-between-us-graziano-peripersonal-dyspraxia/)
Sara G. Miller, LiveScience, October 13, 2016 “Debate 2016: What Goes on in Your Brain When People Invade Your Personal Space?We lack control over our reactions when somebody gets too close” (https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/debate-2016-what-goes-on-in-your-brain-when-people-invade-your-personal-space/)
This episode explores gaslighting and its impact on both men and women. Sam comes back on the pod and we struggle to offer up some solutions to gaslighting. Have a better one? Email it to UnravelingPink@gmail.com or tweet it to @UnravelingPink.
Resources in this episode:
Gaslight movie excerpt (1944). (https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=BICqcEvzhVw)
Oxford English Dictionary. (https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/the-term-gaslighting-was-coined-by-a-great-movie-starring-ingrid-bergman-181242113.html)
"Situations in Which Men Gaslight Women." (https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2016/01/20-situations-in-which-men-gaslight-women/)
"4 Levels of Gaslighting." (https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/4-levels-gaslighting-unconscious-malicious-pgtn/)
Suzannah Weiss, Bustle, 2018 “7 Subtle Ways Women Are Gaslighted On A Daily Basis.” (https://www.bustle.com/p/7-subtle-ways-women-are-gaslighted-on-a-daily-basis-10079020)
Wanda Thibodeaux, Inc., “A Narcissist at Work can kill your Confidence.” (https://www.inc.com/wanda-thibodeaux/victim-of-gaslighting-youre-not-alone-these-8-tips-will-help-you-protect-your-c.html)
Janet Coburn, TheMighty.com “Men Can Be Victims of Gaslighting Too.” (https://themighty.com/2018/03/male-gaslighting/)
This week's episode explores objectification of women - why it happens, how it impacts women, and what we can do about it. This week, can you notice the subtle - or not so subtle - ways objectification happens around you?
Resources in this episode:
ABC News Hot Button Episode: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=BmtQZsoyNjE
A Call To Men "What Is the Man Box" (http://www.acalltomen.org/news/2017/7/21/what-is-the-man-box) Robin Tran, “4 Ways Men Are Taught to Objectify Women From Birth.” (https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/06/men-taught-to-objectify-women/)
Ed Yong, 2010, “How Objectification Silences Women: the Male Glance as a Psychological Muzzle” (http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/notrocketscience/2010/01/12/how-objectification-silences-women-the-male-glance-as-a-psychological-muzzle/)
Derrick Jensen, Huffington Post, “The Man Box and The Cult of Masculinity.” (https://www.huffingtonpost.com/vday/the-man-box-and-the-cult_b_2661244.html)
Blackburn Center, 5/2018, “Breaking Out of the Man Box." (http://www.blackburncenter.org/single-post/2018/05/02/Breaking-Out-of-the-Man-Box)
This week's episode dives into why well-meaning male allies might not speak up even when they know they should. The reason surprised me, and it might surprise you too. But what probably won't surprise you - given this season’s theme - is that it is tied to the "man box."
This episode's resources:
Terry Crews video (https://www.globalcitizen.org/en/content/celebrities-womens-rights-weinstein-harassment/)
Francesca Gino, Harvard Business Review, 5/2018, “Why It’s So Hard to Speak Up Against a Toxic Culture." (https://hbr.org/2018/05/why-its-so-hard-to-speak-up-against-a-toxic-culture)
David Smith and Brad Johnson, “Do You See What I See? The Importance of Men as Allies.” (http://behavioralscientist.org/see-see-importance-men-allies/)
Lisa Hickey, A Good Men Project, “Men Know: Why Men Need to Start Talking About Violence and Sexual Harassment.” (https://goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/men-know-men-need-start-talking-violence-sexual-harassment/)
Jim Walsh, “Silence is violence: A Call To Men conference encourages men to speak out against sexist behavior.” (https://www.minnpost.com/arts-culture/2017/09/silence-violence-call-men-conference-encourages-men-speak-out-against-sexist-be/)
Daniele Selby, "11 Famous Men Who Fought for Women's Rights This Year." (https://www.globalcitizen.org/en/content/celebrities-womens-rights-weinstein-harassment/)
This week's episode looks at the harm both men and women suffer from traditional definitions of masculinity - that is, the "man box" - and the ways both men and women would benefit from redefining masculinity. Times have changed, can our collective expectations of masculinity change as well? It's not clear that seismic change will happen any time soon, but younger generations are providing hope for incremental change, that eventually will provide men with access to a fuller version of masculinity.
Resources in this episode:
USA Today article by Alia Datagir, “Men pay a steep price when it comes to masculinity.”(https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/2017/03/31/masculinity-traditional-toxic-trump-mens-rights/99830694/)
Time article by Jack Myers, “Young Men Are Facing a Masculinity Crisis.” (http://time.com/4339209/masculinity-crisis/)
Emily Moon, 1/11/2019 article, “No, Psychologists Aren't 'Declaring War' on Traditional Masculinity." (https://psmag.com/news/no-psychologists-arent-declaring-war-on-traditional-masculinity)
Monica Hesse, 1/12/2019 Washington Post article, “How ‘traditional masculinity’ hurts the men who believe in it most” (https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/how-traditional-masculinity-hurts-the-men-who-believe-in-it-most/2019/01/12/22d2518a-14fd-11e9-90a8-136fa44b80ba_story.html?utm_term=.674daf761d5e)
Samantha Schmidt, Washington Post, "Meet the teenagers who started a feminist club at their all-boys school." (https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2019/03/06/meet-teenagers-who-started-feminist-club-their-all-boys-prep-school/?utm_term=.6f437b66f8a8#click=https://t.co/iVAFdjYUhB)
Video on Toxic Masculinity: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Gha3kEECqUk
This episode explores the intersection of the man box and mansplaining and includes a special guest to share the male perspective of why mansplaining happens, and what we might do to shut it down.
Resources in this episode: "Male Coworkers Were Asking This Woman Whether They Were ‘Mansplaining’, So She Created A Chart" (https://www.boredpanda.com/mansplaining-chart-explanation-kim-goodwin/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic)
Rebecca Solnit, 4/13/2008 LA Times, "Men who explain things." (http://articles.latimes.com/2008/apr/13/opinion/op-solnit13)
Elizabeth Aura McClintock, PhD, Psychology Today, "The Psychology of Mansplaining." (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/it-s-man-s-and-woman-s-world/201603/the-psychology-mansplaining)
Mark Greene, "A fear-based need to project competency is at the core of mansplaining. But you already knew that." (http://remakingmanhood.com/2017/11/17/181/)
Luke O’Neil, Mel Magazine, “The Snowflake Diaries: Mansplaining to Other Men." (https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/the-snowflake-diaries-mansplaining-to-other-men-2)
Jill Krasny, Inc., “Why Men Mansplain, Explained.” (https://www.inc.com/jill-krasny/why-men-mansplain-explained.html)
Washington Post, "Pelosi's calm stands out in Trump, Schumer oval office meeting" (https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/2018/12/11/while-trump-schumer-blustered-pelosi-illustrated-her-case-woman-table/)
Coming off the winter break and a lot of gender equality soul searching, this season will approach gender bias from a different direction -- exploring the "man box" and how it impacts us all. While many definitions and terms abound, the man box generally refers to the societal expectations we place on men -- to be "men" -- that can restrain their full expression of themselves and constrain their ability to speak up or act out against gender bias.
I hope you'll join me on this journey as I learn about the man box and share what I learn, for the benefit of men and women. I'm not sure where this will lead, but at a minimum, I hope to bring awareness to how the man box affects us all and perhaps offer some suggestions of how we might all release ourselves from its grip, to the benefit of us all.
I will share resources along the way, from those who are experts in this field. This week's resource is The Good Men Project. Check it out at https://goodmenproject.com, as well as Mark Greene's article, referred to in this episode, "The Man Box: The Link Between Emotional Suppression and Male Violence" (https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/megasahd-man-box-the-link-between-emotional-suppression-and-male-violence/)
In this last episode of the season, I explore the concept of gender gurus - people of another gender who can shed light and share their experiences on how they view issues affecting gender equality. The idea of gender gurus is new to me and came from an article by Leah Fessler about Josh Felser, founder and partner at Freestyle VC. I think it's genius, because we're all experts in our own experiences and if we share those experiences with someone else, we expand our collective knowledge base. I think this has the potential to move us towards gender equality faster and in a way that works for all of us.
Your winter challenge: find a gender guru and have regular conversations about your experiences or gender topics of interest. If you connect with a gender guru, let me know at @UnravelingPink!
I dedicate this episode to my dad, who has been my lifelong gender guru.
This special episode departs from our usual format to remind us of the privilege and responsibility of voting and shares the voices and perspectives of some awesome women about why voting is important to them. Please vote!
Resources in this episode: African-American Women's Suffrage Movement Heidi Williamson, 2013, "Women's Equality Day Celebrating the 19th Amendment's Impact on Reproductive Health and Rights" Eugene Scott, 2017, "The Democratic Party Owes Black Female Voters A Big Thank You" Plus, A message from the Hamilton cast urging us to vote!
What's required to come back from a #MeToo incident? Time alone is not enough. This episode explores what a path to redemption might look like -- it might include some atonement that shows humility and a desire to change. This episode also tackles some societal changes we might need to make to reduce the likelihood of #MeToo moments in the future. Listen in and see what you think, then let me know what changes you would suggest by emailing me at unravelingpink@gmail.com.
Resources in this episode: Shaunna Thomas, 7/29/2018, Popsugar.com, "Before His Comeback, Let's Talk Healing" Anna Silman, 5/1/2018, The Cut, "7 Actresses on Whether the Men of #MeToo Should Get a Path to Redemption"
Why are we so afraid to speak up when someone makes a sexist remark? Or when we witness discrimination or inappropriate touching? The reasons are a bit different for men and women and some may surprise you. These reasons are explored in this episode, along with some suggestions of how to overcome the bystander effect and use your voice to move us forward to gender equality. Listen in.
Resources in this Episode: Ally of the week: Kourosh Hemmat, "Halifax Taxi Driver Reportedly Kick Catcaller Out Of His Cab" Clementine Ford’s “Nothing maintains women's silence like the fear of 'making a scene'” Zoe Chance’s 10/2017 “Here’s Why We Don’t Speak Up Against Harassment” Michael Kimmel’s 1/2018 “Getting Men To Speak Up” David Smith's 2017 "Lots Of Men Are Gender Equality Allies In Private; Why Not In Public?" Lisa Hickey's 5/2018 “Men Know: Why Men Need to Start Talking About Violence and Sexual Harassment” Fugazi, “Suggestion” Amanda Hess, 2010 "Date Rape Anthem: Fugazi's 'Suggestion'"
This week's episode shines the spotlight on the representation of women on our big screens, little screens, conference daises, and bookshelves. It's worth taking some time to consider the messages we receive from all forms of entertainment and education and whether we are getting a balanced view of the world. If you come to the realization that your bookshelf needs more female authors on it, never fear, we have a list of some favorite female authors and books. Check them out! Tweet your favorites to @UnravelingPink and we'll add them to the list.
Resources in this episode: Molly Flatt, The Guardian, "Is The Future Female? Fixing Sci-Fi's Women Problem." Check out: Molly Flatt's "A Darker Wave," Kassandra Khaw’s "There are Wolves in These Woods," Madeline Ashby’s "The Cure For Jetlag," Liz Williams’ "In the God Fields." Jodi Picoult, "Small Great Things" Debby Irving, "Waking Up White" Karen Catlin, "Present! A Techie's Guide to Public Speaking" Ed Yong, 4/19/2018, "When Will the Gender Gap in Science Disappear?" Emma Pierson, 8/5/2014 "In Science, It Matters That Women Come Last" The Unraveling Pink's Brain Trust List of fav female authors and books: Arundhati Roy, "God of Small Things" Ntozage Shange, "for colored girls who have considered suicide/when the rainbow is enuf" Curtis Sittenfeld Doris Kearns Goodwin Loung Ung, "First They Killed My Father" Ayn Rand Kate Germano, "Fight Like A Girl" Julie Kratz, "ONE: How Male Allies Support Women for Gender Equality" Amy Waninger, "Network Beyond Bias: Making Diversity a Competitive Advantage for Your Career" Jennifer Brown, "Inclusion: Diversity, The New Workplace & the Will to Change" Iris Bohnet, "What Works: Gender Equality by Design" Another list of favorite female-authored business books : Shona Brown and Kathleen M. Eisenhardt, "Competing on the Edge: Strategy as Structured Chaos" Andrea Kates, "Find Your Next: Using the Business Genome Approach to Find your Company's Next Competitive Edge" Angeles Arrien, "The Four-Fold Way: Walking the Paths of Warrior, Teacher, Healer and Visionary" Rayona Sharpnack, "Trade Up: Five Steps for Redesigning Your Leadership and Your Life from the Inside Out" Gail Larsen, "Transformational Speaking: If You Want to Change the World, Tell a Better Story"
With the recent public discourse around "boys being boys" and the associated impact on women, I spent some time looking at how our world and communities are designed. What I found (which won't surprise most women) is that most aspects of the world we encounter are not designed with women in mind -- likely because they are often designed without the input of women. This episode dives a bit into how our communities, tech, and other aspects of our lives are designed, and sheds some light on how those designs impact women. It's clear that we could use some re-designing, and that includes some social redesigning to move away from the harmful societal expectation that "boys will be boys."
Resources in this episode: Jennie Hill, 10/22/2017 “Walking, dressing and being on a planet designed for men” 3/2/2004 Volvo: “Your Concept Car - by women for modern people” Kat Ely "The World is Designed for Men" (Medium article) Justin Davidson, 3/2018 "What Would A World Designed By Women Look Like?" Ankita Rao, 5/15/2017, “Sexism in the City” Alexander Starritt, 2016, "Women And Men Use Cities Very Differently" Ellie Dori, “Designed with Men in Mind” Soraya Chemaly, 3/16/2016 “The problem with a technology revolution designed primarily for men” Kate Brodok, 8/4/2017, "Why We Desperately Need Women To Design" Larry Hardesty, 2/11/2018 “Study finds gender and skin-type bias in commercial artificial-intelligence systems” Stance Grounded (@_SJPeace_) video
What could be more unique to each of us than our voices? Yet, many of us get criticized for how we sound. In the business world, it is often women whose voices are criticized, forcing women who want to be taken seriously to adjust their voices - those peculiarly unique to them - to be more masculine. This episode explores voices, criticism of voices, and some of the biology that impacts how we sound. Listen in...
Resources from this episode: "Former Chelsea player says women’s voices are too ‘high pitched’ for commentating" "What Should Women Sound Like?" Audio clip of Vicki Sparks commentating World Cup game
This episode explores emotion and the workplace, in particular, the value of emotion for leaders. My conclusion: we should encourage more emotion at work, and accept it equally regardless of the identity of the person expressing it. Do you agree? Let me know at unravelingpink@gmail.com.
Resources from this episode: Tina Young, 5 Feminine Traits Conscious Leaders Cultivate Daina Middleton, Grace Meets Grit Serena Williams video John McEnroe video David K. Williams, Forbes.com, 7/18/2013, "The Best Leaders Are Vulnerable" Kurt Bardella, USA Today, 9/9/2018, "Sexism Cost Serena William Tennis Title; Men Celebrated for Worse" David Gelles, NY Times, 8/19/2018, "Elon Musk Interview" Katie Heaney, The Cut, 6/7/2018 "The Single Easiest Way to Control Your Emotions at Work" Nell Scovel, Oprah.com, "For Any Woman Who's Been Told She's Too Emotional At Work" Amy Nelson, Forbes.com, 8/29/2018, "Elon Musk Cries About His Tears" Marina Koren, The Atlantic, 8/2018, "Elon Musk New York Times Interview" Victoria L Brescoll and Eric Luis Uhlmann, Harvard Kennedy School study (2008), "Can An Angry Woman Get Ahead"
Should you have women on your corporate board? Studies and a current bill winding its way through California’s legislative process say yes. This episode explores some of the complaints raised about putting women on a board and shares resources for where to find female board members (once you’re convinced it’s a good idea ... or required by law to do it) and where women interested in board service can get plugged in. Spoiler: all the good ones are NOT taken.
After a summer break for some podcasting introspection, Unraveling Pink is back, with new episodes being released this Fall to create conversations around gender equality at work. Listen in and share how your conversations go!
After almost a year and a half of Unraveling Pink, Annie reflects on the highlights and explores the format and content for the future. Have thoughts on format or guests? Share them on Twitter to @UnravelingPink, by email to UnravelingPink@gmail.com, or on our Contact page. Unraveling Pink will be on summer break until August or September. In the meantime, enjoy past episodes and challenges that will be posted on Twitter!
In this week's episode, Annie floats the hypothesis that perhaps more intimacy at work could be the antidote to our #MeToo culture. What do you think? Did your views change at all before and after listening to this episode? Share your thoughts at https://unravelingpink.com/contact/.
In this episode, Dan and Marion share stories about the single-gender conversations they are having about the #MeToo movement, how to be an ally to another gender when no one of that gender is in the room, how a more comprehensive look at gender equality requires looking at the assumptions we apply to men, and how we can start having more tough conversations. They model for us how to have these sometimes awkward conversations, highlight some of the challenges in this #MeToo culture, and ask us to get comfortable with a little awkwardness and initiate conversations that will help move us all to a more constructive place.
In this episode, we hear from former Navy Commanding Officer, David Smith, a sociologist who co-authored Athena Rising, a book by men to men about mentoring women.
Dave dives into some of the challenges men face today mentoring women in the #MeToo environment, and highlights the benefits -- to men -- that show why men should double-down on interacting with their female colleagues - not pull away.
In this episode, Jennifer Brown -- CEO and Founder, Jennifer Brown Consulting, and Author of Inclusion: Diversity, The New Workplace & The Will To Change -- shares her perspective on finding our diversity stories (hint: everyone has one), asks some tough questions about how you show up at work, and shares insights into how you can inspire others at work.
In today’s #WomenHelpingWomen story, we hear from Jacqueline Steenhuis who shares how a woman took a chance on her.
Today’s #WomenHelpingWomen story shows the power and responsibility that comes when someone believes in you.
In today’s #WomenHelpingWomen story, a gift of reflecting back how you appear to the world.
In today’s #WomenHelpingWomen, we hear a story of advocating publicly for someone else. Who have you advocated for today?
In today’s #WomenHelpingWomen story, Beth Pappy shares a story of an important work ally and issues a challenge we can all take on.
Allies can show up in many places, as we hear in Melanie Scroggins’ #WomenHelpingWomen story.
In today’s #WomenHelpingWomen story, Terri Mead shares her story of the women who have helped her on her path.
In today’s #WomenHelpingWomen story, Marion Groh Marquardt, of Web Croissants, shares a story of how women helped her in a way that resulted in her starting her business, and issues a very nuanced challenge to us.
Every day this month, Unraveling Pink will share a story of #WomenHelpingWomen to draw attention to the amazing power we have when we support each other. Men, don't tune out this month -- these stories are just as applicable to ways you can step up your ally-ship to women. Enjoy!
In this episode, Lon Allan shares thoughts on the importance of women in the Boardroom, social media's impact on changing minds, and strategies for mentoring women.
In this episode, Nanci Hibschman shares a decades-old #maleallymoment that had a huge impact on her and helped her tap into her courage. How can you be an ally today?
In this episode, we revisit Laura Marino's male ally moment story from our November #maleallymoment series, but add in a conversation with one of the male allies from her story - Larry Heck. An interesting theme emerges from their stories, together with great challenges to implement at work tomorrow!
In this episode, host Annie Rogaski explores some #MeToo threads arising lately, including fatigue, impact on mentoring, and emotion/anger.
In this bonus pod, Dan Malmer returns with some more ideas about equality and inclusion - and models some discussions we should embrace. Dan also challenges us to make space for having more of these discussions.
In this episode, Jenn Buechel shares her male ally moment story, and her ally shares some insights into how to be a better ally to women. Jenn sets a real life example for the challenge she issues. The next time you meet someone, hopefully you'll put Jenn's challenge into practice!
This week's guest, Caroline Stokes, shares two fantastic male ally moment stories and encourages us to do something at work that will probably be fairly uncomfortable for a lot of people. So, try it out, and let us know how it goes!
In this episode, you'll hear a fantastic male ally moment story from Stephanie Lampkin, founder of Blendoor, as well as hear the reaction of her ally, or co-conspirator, Dan Malmer (recorded in the Belmont library, with a lot of excited high schoolers in the background ... if you listen closely, you might even hear a ukulele!).
Closing out the first year of Unraveling Pink, it seemed appropriate to highlight our favorite successes in reducing gender bias in 2017. Despite many frustrations in gender bias aired in 2017, there were too many successes to count. These are just ten of them. Join Unraveling Pink in 2018 to build on these successes and leverage our current momentum to bring gender equality even closer within reach.
Happy holidays! Unraveling Pink will return January 8th to pick up where we left off, to continue tackling gender bias at work. Together, we can unnravel the pink bandana!
Unraveling Pink welcomes Mona Sabet, Managing Director of Tribal Ventures, as we delve into the nuance of how to handle allies who are also bad actors and we explore whether redemption works for #MeToo moments.
Coming off the daily November episode posting, Unraveling Pink moves to a weekly format, shares some learnings from the November experiment and where Unraveling Pink plans to go from here.
Demetra Liggins shares her male ally moment to close out a month of daily #mailallymoments.
Emilee Pierce shares a fantastic #maleallymoment and challenges us to get into conversation.
Male ally moments come from many different places. Karen Gordon shares a great story of one of her unexpected #maleallymoments
Kim Le tells a story of how the moment she thought she would be fired turned into a #malelallymoment.
In today's #maleallymoment, Jennifer Chaloemtiarana encourages us to take a look at some reverse assumptions.
Unraveling Pink is half-way through the #napodpomo challenge! 15 episodes and counting...
Jessica Shor shares her #maleallymoment and challenges us to ask an important question.
In today's #maleallymoment, Leedjia Svec shares several stories of subtle but effective ways men have been her allies.
Daina Middleton shares her male ally moment and why it's so important to state your intentions to others.
In this #maleallymoment, we hear about how men can join conversations about gender as allies.
Male allies can help women if many ways, sometimes in ways we're not aware of at the time.
So, did you know that November is National Podcast Post Month? The challenge is for podcasters to post 30 podcast episodes in 30 days. If you know me, you know I like a challenge. So, I can't resist.
I want to use this time to ensure women’s voices are heard. So, Unraveling Pink will move from a every two week-ish schedule to a daily (fingers crossed!) for the month of November. Join me on this journey by sharing your stories (message me on Twitter @UnravelingPink or send me a message on our Contact page) or by engaging in our male ally challenges. Together, we can unravel the pink bandana!
In this episode, I sat down with Jory Des Jardins, an advisor to female founders and startups. An entrepreneur herself, Jory co-founded BlogHer, that grew into the largest conference and community for women content creators in the world and was eventually acquired by SheKnows Media. Jory shares insights about founding and funding from her own entrepreneurial experience and from advising others on their journeys. She closes with a challenge for us that applies to each of us and can be implemented at work tomorrow. Join us!
My guest this episode is Brian Colucci, Chief Business Development and Marketing Officer at Kilpatrick Townsend. Brian and I continue an ongoing conversation that we started off-mic about the culture of busyness that has become so normalized in Silicon Valley and in law firms, and we explore what happens when this culture bumps up against life - caring for kids, parents, etc.
While we are far from solving this problem, shining some light on it will hopefully create a conversation around how we can get back to a culture that better emphasizes our humanity.
In this episode, Chris Lee, Director of Business Development at Neustar, has a lot of questions and insights into topics like feminism, whether things are truly equal, how we might adjust to a less "bro-culture" workplace, and steps men can take to ally with women on the gender equality front. Chris has a vested interest in this -- his 2 year old daughter -- whom he is preparing to have broad experiences, not based on gender. Will you join him?
In this episode, Unraveling Pink was on location at the Podcast Movement 2017 conference in Anaheim. Thanks to Shure and TalkShoe, we were able to record during the convention, complete with the buzz of the conference excitement in the background.
This episode's guest, Emerald Archer, Director, Center for the Advancement of Women, at Mount Saint Mary's University in L.A., shares with us interesting insights about how gender assumptions play out in the military.
Ever wondered how you would do in a shooting test in the Marines? Or, how your performance would change if you were told before you took the test that you wouldn't be good at it? Or how you would be typecast as a woman in the military? Emerald shares her insights into those questions and more based on her research with the Marines and Air Force.
Get an outsider's peek into some of the challenges women face just to be able to serve in the military.
Twitter, LinkedIn, the Chronicle, other media - social and print - throughout Silicon Valley and beyond, abound with frustrations about diversity in the workplace these days. The conversation is important because we have a lot of work to do to get to workplaces that are truly equal, that are welcoming -- workplaces where one does not have to suffer through explicit or implicit questions about her ability or right to be there. These are conversations we try to enable on Unraveling Pink: non-judgmental, open conversations about what we think but may not typically express, about the gender-based assumptions that impact our productivity or satisfaction at work, and what we can do about them.
Silicon Valley is currently in the "Red Zone." But there is hope. There is a "release valve" that offers help to employers and employees. Resources that enable employers to create the kind of diverse environment that Google is struggling to develop in the very public eye right now. Resources that employees can anonymously seek out to get help when they feel harassed or discriminated against -- or just need a sanity check when suffering through yet another micro-aggression in a workplace that doesn't reflect their identity.
In this episode of Unraveling Pink, Janine Yancey, CEO and founder of Emtrain, shares how Emtrain serves as this very necessary release valve, and how we can move our organizations from the Red Zone, through Orange, and even Yellow, into the coveted Green Zone.
Appreciation is a great thing. We should actively look for ways to appreciate the unique talents of those in our lives and workplaces. But appreciation can go awry when it's based on bias ... and this #PinkBandanaMoment tells such a story.
May it also bring you hope that our gender inclusion challenges are lessening -- and keep you out of the pit of despair!
This is the conversation we didn't want to have, guest Erin Rand and I. This is the conversation many women / femmes in senior and executive positions don't want to have. Yet, Erin was game to have it -- and share her view into the thoughts and conversations women in positions to make a difference have about gender diversity and bias.
And, as we learned from Jon Hicks in Episode 6, conflict is good. So, we also jumped into a disagreement about whether there in fact in a causal link between diversity and more successful, profitable companies.
To close us out, Erin issued our toughest challenge yet. One that has the ability to shift our society as a whole to a better place -- something we desperately need right now -- if we're willing to accept the challenge.
Listen in, enjoy and let us know what you think about this episode!
This episode shines some light on something that happens too often in meetings - often when there is only one woman in the room: an idea she voiced is given credit to someone else in the room, usually a man. This has happened so much, it has a name - "bropropriation."
In this episode, Annie shares her bropropriation #PinkBandanaMoment and offers some ideas for how to stop this from happening in your meetings and what to do if it happens to you.
In this episode, Jon Hicks, Counsel, Employment Law at Netflix, explains why embracing conflict may reduce gender friction in the workplace - and increase your pay at the same time. He also shares some great stories about strong women in his life and work, and some of the secrets of their success in remaining confident around a table of men. His challenge is not to be missed. No spoiler (except to say that it was appropriate for Valentine's Day, when this was recorded) - listen in and then join his challenge!
In this episode, we hear from our first male guest, Chris Rogaski, who shares his views on what it's like to be male at a women's conference, how they leave attendees with a different vibe than other conferences, and how men can help. Chris shares management tactics that translate to managing both men and women and he shares some insights into communicating with those you manage. He also shares a #pinkbandanamoment that can happen in calibration sessions and how to call unconscious bias out in a constructive way.
In this special episode of Unraveling Pink, you'll hear the energy and voices of those at the Women's March in San Jose, California, on January 21, 2017. Unraveling gender bias remains a theme, but this episode was intent on capturing the spirit and energy of the Women's March. Enjoy!
In this episode of Unraveling Pink, Daina Middleton, author of "Grace Meets Grit," explores the intersection of male and female traits in leadership and decision-making. Daina shares her #pinkbandanamoment in a very masculine profession and invites listeners to take a quiz (go to www.unravelingpink.com for the link) to see where they fall on the grace - grit spectrum.
In this excerpt from Episode 2 of Unraveling Pink, guest Joanna Bloor takes host Annie Rogaski through an impromptu coaching session on how to position your value for the future - through a vision of what you can offer. This will give you an inside look into the tip of the iceberg in working with Joanna, and positioning yourself with an eye towards the future, not past accomplishments.
In this episode of Unraveling Pink, guest Joanna Bloor shares her "blue bandana moment," trying to connect with a male client on his terms, much as men sometimes struggle to connect with women on their terms. Joanna shows how empathy and understanding by both genders are critical to reducing gender-based assumptions.
In the first episode of Unraveling Pink - a podcast exploring gender-based assumptions through "pink bandana moments," host Annie Rogaski shares her pink bandana moment that led to the creation of this podcast. This podcast will unravel gender assumptions through storytelling and honest, constructive conversations about gender.