The Confidence Catalyst: Recent Episodes
Hannah Coles
I'm Hannah Coles, LDS Life Coach and I help women overcome their insecurities, worries, and doubts and teach them how to create AMAZING, lasting, genuine confidence!
What kind of communicator are you? Do you engage in debating with your partner or are you open to dialogue? In this episode, I discuss the importance of knowing what kind of communication is at play and how it helps or hinders your ability to create LOVE AT HOME. Join me!
When we think in terms of percentages we end up creating a mindset of score keeping and tallying. When we think, "I'm spent. I'm only operating at 60% capacity, and my spouse needs to pick up the slack and give the other 40%," we inadvertently create a checklist and a quick way to disappointment. This is not to say that your spouse won't pick up the slack - it's the idea that you think they "should." These "shoulds" are wreaking havoc on your relationship and a sure fire way to create resentment at home rather than LOVE AT HOME. Marriage is NOT 50/50. Tune in to this episode to hear part two and learn a healthier approach to your marriage.
It might sound nice that marriage should be 50/50, where each partner gives an equal amount, but in reality, it becomes quite problematic. The idea of "equal" means that one or both parties are doing a bit of score keeping and tallying who is doing what or doing more and noticing the other isn't "keeping up". This kind of mindset is a recipe for RESENTMENT. In this episode, I introduce the resentment cycle and how it's so poisonous in our relationships, what to do instead, and how you can create more LOVE AT HOME. Join me, Hannah Coles, LDS Life Coach, and let's dive in!
There is some misguided marriage advice about needing your spouse to fill all your needs. You've probably heard some like, write out a list of what you need from your spouse and give it to them. And on one hand, the list isn't a bad idea - it can be helpful and productive understanding and being aware of what your needs actually are but it's problematic asking your spouse to fill them. On one hand, it puts you in a risky position - while you're waiting for them to fill your needs, you're stuck. You can't feel how you want to untiil they show up differently... and cue anxiety - because, what if they don't? In this episode, I share what to do and what to drop to create LOVE AT HOME. Tune in!
Marriage is a unique relationship. The quality of your marriage impacts everything and everyone around you. It is the biggest source of so much joy and happiness in life and can also be the source of so much loneliness, pain, and sorrow. I want to help you create genuine LOVE at HOME by working on the core relationship first - your marriage. So whether you come solo or with your spouse, you will walk away from today's episode with tools to help you create a deeper, more connected, loving relationship.
We are so quick to filter everything though the "ME" category and by so doing we create a lot of angst, anxiety, stress, and fear in our lives. We also miss out on being able to see or understand what might really be going on. In this episode, I share ways to recognize that we're diving into the "ME" category and how to gently shift to the "NOT ABOUT ME" category. This is such a relevant topic that will be a huge benefit in your life and in your relationships. When you're ready, tune in with LDS Life Coach, Hannah Coles.
We live in an age where information, opinions, and preferences are thrown at us all day long. Your phone sends alerts, your watch vibrates with messages, and social media is concentrated with thoughts, images, quotes, offers, videos, and messages - and while they might be good and you might love them - how much of them are you actually retaining? How can we show up confident and able to trust in ourselves if we can't remember the pivotal tools in the moment we need them? In this episode, I share a TWO FOLD practice that will help you develop your capacity to remember! Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
Sometimes we experience a feeling of being tired that just won't go away. No amount of rest, vacationing, or typical self-care tactics can cure because it's more complicated to address. In this episode, I walk you through reasons to where this kind of "tired" comes from and offer you real solutions to alleviating that struggle. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles.
We all want more of the "right" people in our lives. We want good friends and co-workers who uplift rather than deplete and drain us. In this episode, I address the HOW of learning to attract emotionally healthy and available people in your life. We will explore why we may unintentionally attract emotionally unhealthy individuals and how to shift our focus to notice and gravitate towards those who align with our values. Join me, Hannah Coles, LDS Life Coach as I share the importance of self-awareness, compassion, and setting boundaries in fostering meaningful connections.
Are you tired of attracting the wrong people in your life, no matter how much you try to change your circumstances? You're not alone. In this episode, I help you dive deeper into the reasons behind this and offer insights on how to break the cycle. From recognizing awareness to knowing your own worth to setting healthy boundaries, I help you uncover the steps to stop attracting the wrong people and to start paving the path toward welcoming healthier connections. Join me, Certified Life Coach, Hannah Coles as I help you navigate this complex topic and empower you to create the fulfilling connections you deserve.
In this episode, I dive into the transformative practice of writing letters to yourself in the form of LEAP YEAR LETTERS. I discuss key elements to include in your letter, for your personal reflections on your current life to envisioning your hopes and dreams for the future. Join me and discover the power of self-compassion, gratitude, and resilience as you craft a roadmap for your future self. Create a new tradition for each leap year that has a set date to connect and reconnect with yourself every four years. This practice yields so many beautiful benefits that will help you live a confident life. When you're ready, dive in! But don't forget to grab a pen and some paper!
There's a difference betweeen our self-image, what we think of ourselves versus our public-image, what we think others think of us. Too often we are guided by others and the fear of what they might think of us instead of being intrinsically motivated. In this episode, we'll explore how our internal values shape our self-image and contrast it with the external pressures of public opinion. We'll talk about the various "roles" you carry as a part of your identity and question if these roles are productive for you or hinder your ability to feel confident.
Ever struggle with negative thinking? In this episode, I share how to approach your negative thoughts so that you can leave them behind and move onto more productive thinking patterns. I share why negative thinking puts unnecessary stress on your relationships and how to cultivate connection instead by sharing the four N's of Navigating Negative Thinking.
Just like our physical bodies need constant exercise, our belief muscle needs to undergo some exercise to build a healthy and productive belief system. In today's episode, I share an important practice to start that will help your self-belief grow by leaps and bounds!
When was the last time you felt really proud of yourself? What were you doing? What did it feel like? What was it that you had to overcome to get to that place? Growing up there are ample opportunities to be proud; school plays, sports, music performances, talent shows, graduations (grade school, middle school, high school, college, etc) but now as adults...what now? feeling proud isn't just a "nice" feeling - it's a necessary NEED and one that will help you progress and connect in bold ways. Come check out the podcast to hear more with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
Congratulations, You've leveled up! You're changing - you're becoming more aware, more confident, more authentically you. You've seen some amazing changes in yourself - this is what happens 100% of the time when you dive into coaching. But then there's something that also happens just about 100% of the time that we don't often talk about - when you change, you'll be met with some resistance. The moment you start to change in these really amazing ways there will be or are people in your life that won't like those changes. What do you do when you're growing and upleveling and others don't like the new you?
Confidence is synonymous with faith. It is faith that moves mountains. It is confidence that provides the peace, certainty, and trust to be able to move forward and try new things. I'm excited to share just the tiniest snippets from Dr. Givens and his book, The Doors of Faith and share ideas, concepts, and tools to help you live a life of quiet confidence. Tune in!
The starting point of all confidence is in radical truth-telling. Lies, half-truths, and dishonesty stem from insecurities and fears and you might be dabbling in this area more than you realize. But the good news is that you have options, you can learn how to be a radical truth-teller, and best of all you can create a life of security, certainty, and quiet confidence. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
There are dangers of pretending to be fine when we're not, pretending that things don't bother us when they really do, pretending to be happy instead of being human with a full range of emotions, pretending to enjoy things when we don't, pretending to agree with things when we really don't. This pretending is hurting you more than you realize and there is a way out. Come listen and learn how to stop pretending!
There are rules that are productive for you and there are "rules" that aren't. Some help us to create more confidence and security in ourselves and others that actually hinder your growth and self-image. But what if there are NO RULES? What if you are following "rules" (aka expectations) from others that stifles your confidence not knowing there are other options? Tune in this week with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles to learn more how to operate from what you VALUE instead of fear.
If you are not feeling as confident or secure as you'd like it's most likely because you are falling prey to these insecurity-inducing habits. In this episode, I shine a light on four subtle (yet striking) ways that MAKE you insecure. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
We all experience ugly thoughts. You know the kind, it's when you're starting a new project and that inner dialogue chimes in to tell you all the reasons why it won't work for you or why you're not cut out for that. It happens when you look in the mirror or see a picture of you and whoa, lots of thoughts come out of the woodwork, thoughts that you'd never say to anyone else. It's the thoughts we worry others are thinking about us. They're just really ugly and for most of us, we're really bad at leaning into them instead of kicking them to the curb. In this podcast I teach you how to stop indulging in ugly thinking once and for all!
How do you know when to end a friendship? Why is it so hard to walk away or find closure in this area? This week I'm wrapping up the three-part series on friendships and teaching you how to know when to say goodbye to a friendship. Join Hannah Coles LDS Life Coach
This episode is all about MAINTENANCE. One of the hardest aspects of friendships is maintaining them. We start to see or notice things that we don't like, we hold them to these unspoken expectations, they might say things or show up in ways that are confusing and oftentimes that's when we start to distance ourselves until the firnedship just fizzles out and then we wonder, what happened? Join me today as I walk you through some tools to keep your friends and to make them even stronger!
It's no secret, friends can be amazing and those special connections can help us to experience rich, full, and joyful lives. But navigating the waters of friendship can be difficult and trigger a lot of insecurities, frustrations, and fear as well. I've created a 3 part series to help you feel confident in this world of friends! Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
Somewhere along the line we picked up the belief that some people are "better" than others, they're more likable, more valuable, more educated, more...And with this we have the tendency to elevate them and put them on a pedestal. But if they're up there, where are you? What does that say about you? And more importantly, what does that do to your confidence? Find out in this episode with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
Somewhere along the line we picked up the belief that some people are "better" than others, they're more likable, more valuable, more educated, more popular - all the things, and with this, we have the tendency to elevate them and put them on a pedestal. But if they're up there, where are you? What does that say about you? And more importantly, what does that do to your confidence? Find out in this week's episode with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
We often blame others for how we feel. We think that others "made" us feel a certain way. They said words and now I'm hurt. But this thought track is disempowering and will keep you from being able to feel confident. Today, I share a small portion of the book, How Emotions are Made by Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett where you learn that others don't "make" us feel anythign at all rather you are the creator and architect of your emotional world!
It's January and goals are the hot topic right now as well as excuses so I wanted to create a short podcast episode to help you clear out some thought drama and weed out some negative beliefs that are hindering more than helping. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
When we're triggered by something we have this terrible habit of narrowing in and focusing on it, which we doesn't feel good. Feelings are important because how you feel drives you into action - it affects what you DO next. So when you're honed in Ono the things that don't feel good it directly impacts how you show up and what you create. In today's episode, I teach you not to ignore the triggers but to learn how to focus on what feels good so that you can show up confident and able.
There are moments when we just feel stuck. We might feel stuck in a story about ourselves or others, stuck in a feeling, stuck in a pattern of behavior, or a family relationship, and it's painful because there's no growth or moving forward in stuckness. But there is a glorious, most freeing truth: It doesn't have to be this way. Today, I share an easy, straightforward path to release you from your own bondage of stuckness and to be able to move back into the power of growth! Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
There are times in our lives when we have things we want or need to do but we just don't feel motivated to actually start. Oftentimes we procrastinate, give up, or distract ourselves with lesser things which makes the getting started even harder to do. So how do you get started when you're nott motivated to? Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles and I'll help you out.
Want to learn how to create a better morning for yourself or learn how to feel more in control over your day? In this episode, I share a psychological phenomenon known as priming. This one tool is a game-changer for your life. It will help you uplevel your life in every way and area. Tune in!
The way we talk to ourselves is incredibly important and yet so many of our thoughts are subtle and often sabotage us in our desire to create the kind of life we want to have. Just as much as you are what you EAT, you are what you SPEAK. In this episode, I share tools to help you notice and pinpoint that subtle, sneaky, sabotaging self-talk so you can feel more secure and confident.
We've become addicted to fault finding and playing the self-blame game and it's hurting us more than we know. For something that seems small or inconsequential because we think we're only hurting ourselves, it's actually one of the most toxic forms of emotional abuse and it's got to stop. This practice expounds on our perceived weaknesses and over time it becomes our identity. learn how to stop playing into this form of abuse and start living more confidently in this episode with LDS life Coach Hannah Coles
Richard Rohr once said, "Transformation is often more about unlearning than learning." How do you unbelieve? How do you stop believing things that aren't serving you? Even master Yoda admonished, "You must unlearn what you have learned". All throughout our lives, we pick up a lot of thoughts, beliefs, and biases that might be doing more harm than good. In today's episode, I teach you the importance of unlearning so that you can learn what is going to be the most helpful and productive for you. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
Sometimes we think we "should" heal faster. We give ourselves a time frame or what we think is "acceptable" towards our emotional healing and we get frustrated and even angry at times when we haven't "moved on" yet or progressed "enough". But what does that really mean? And what is that kind of pressure doing to your ability to progress? More importantly, how is that affecting your confidence? Tune in this week to hear the episode!
I love questions. Questions invite personal revelation. Questions provide opportunities to grow, to learn, and to increase our capacity for confidence. Every tenth episode I bring you a favorite book, teacher, influencer, and in this milestone episode, I'm bringing you 10! Make sure to grab a pen and paper because these questions have the potential to change your life when answered thoughtfully and honestly. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
Far too often we tend to settle with just "okay" things, an "okay" job, an "okay" house, an "okay" relationship...not because we don't know what we really want but because we don't actually believe we deserve it. If deep down you're still running with the, "I don't deserve it" track it's not going to be possible for you to have it, and it's not that it's not possible, it's that you don't allow it to be possible for you. Tune in this week with LDS life Coach Hannah Coles
There are a great many things we just don't know, and to adjust and move forward, your amazing brain "fills in the blanks" with thoughts that it thinks might be helpful or useful but is oftentimes NOT. Join me this week as I help you navigate those waters with four helpful and productive fillers that will keep you CONFIDENT and moving forward!
You know how uncomfortable it feels when someone has already made false assumptions about you. Even before you open your mouth they have formed an opinion and it feels awful because they're not really "seeing" you and yet we do this with people almost daily. This practice is hurting your ability to connect and feel confident! This week I offer you a KEY strategy to stop assuming and instead invite connection. Make sure you tune in! You're going to want this one!
One of the best things we can offer ourselves is the ability to enjoy being in your own company. We live in a world full of distractions that can make it difficult to really know and understand yourself so much so that it can feel uncomfortable and enlarge your insecurities. A key principle of living a life of quiet confidence is being able to love, savor, and really enjoy being in your own company. Tune in this week as I walk you through the process of learning how to enjoy your own company.
We all want to know that we matter. We need to know that who we are or what we're doing means something to someone out there. We need to know that we're making a difference in the world and that we'll leave a legacy behind that says that we did more than just exist. We lived, we influenced, and we inspired countless others on earth. In today's episode, I share just how much you are indeed a person of impact and just how far your reach extends. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
Let's talk about "venting" for a moment. What is venting? Are you talking out loud in order to help you process? or are you prolonging the unproductive experience? Processing has a productive purpose and can help you progress. Prolonging is recreating pain for you and unfortunately, there's no foreseeable end in sight. Come listen to the podcast today to learn how to process rather than prolong.
We try so hard sometimes to be something that you believe someone else wants you to be. We say yes to family dinners when you don't really want to go. We agree to do things we don't really want to do. We show up as a version of ourselves that is inauthentic and as a result, it creates a lot of unhappiness and negative emotions for us. The problem with all of thihs is that no matter how hard you try to be who you thhink they want you to be "they" still can't see it. They can and will only see what they want to see, who they perceive you to be. So if they can't see who you're trying to be anyway, why no be the version of you that you want to be?
We spend a lot of time thinking about what others are thinking of us and we shape our lives in ways that we think others would approve of. We're so consumed with what we think they think of us that we lose sight of what you think of you and how you want to spend your mortal sojourn. You have one life. One gift of mortality. What do you want to do with it? What do you want to make of it? How do you want to spend your time? how do you want to feel about your life? Tune in to the full episode with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
There are some things that can't be sugar-coated or faked when it comes to REAL confidence. Oftentimes the hardest person to be honest with is YOURSELF. In this episode, I share 5 cold-hard truths that genuinely confident people know, value, and live wholeheartedly by. There is a huge difference between pretending to be confident and false bravado vs authentic, quiet confidence. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
One of the biggest areas we get "stuck' in our lives is believing that we can't be happy or feel confident until x happens. What if you could change your focus instead of on the goal, to learning to enjoy the process? What if you could learn to find joy in the journey? You can. It's more than possible! Join me as I share just a small inkling of the amazingness I've learned from Thomas Sterner.
There's something quite tragic about looking back on your life and wishing you had done something more, something different. Maybe you wish you had talked to that person, written that book, taken that trip, learned that language, healed that relationship, cherished those moments. Regrets are a high price to pay for a moment of insecurity, doubt, pride, or negativity. In this episode, I share how to start learning to live a rich life NOW!
For many years people believed that earth was the center of the universe and it wasn't until many years later that astronomers discovered that we aren't the center and in fact,t the sun is. So many of us operate from somewhat of a geocentric mental model where we measure humanity off of our own personal perspective. But doing this creates more mental drama for ourselves and disconnects us from others. So if WE are not the reference point, who or what is? And how does this affect my confidence? Come find out in today's episode!
We sometimes have this all-or-nothing mentality when it comes to our beliefs. We think that we have to either believe it or drop it and it's no wonder why we think that when we're bombarded with messages like, "Just let it go!" or "don't believe THAT!" and that's only IF we realize what we're thinking in the first place! I want to help you out and offer you a more productive way to reframe your thoughts to work for you instead of against you. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
Every week I ask my 1-1 clients this same question because we change daily and not just daily but minute to minute! We just don't allow ourselves to notice it and we WANT to notice and be aware of the things changing in our lives. Because if they're not changing the way we want them to we can catch it before it becomes a pattern and a habit. I encourage you to adopt this powerful question and notice how your eyes open to the continual growth and abundance on your journey.
At the root of ALL fears, worries, and insecurities lie THIS belief: I'm not enough. It chisels away at our souls, where we feel discouraged, ashamed, and alone. In this podcast, I want to take about this one specific limiting belief, why it's showing up for you, and more importantly, how you can move forward knowing that you are more than enough. Come join LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
We've all got them! You're probably running with them and not even aware of it most of the time. These limiting beliefs are just that...limiting. Not to mention they feel awful! In this episode, I offer you 4 questions that will not only bring awareness to these beliefs but to give you the power to squash them where they stand.
When everything started to close, we were able, possibly for the first time ever, to set aside the pressure of other people's opinions. But now, as things open back up and we reenter society, it's a good opportunity to ask ourselves if we WANT that added weight and pressure of "their' opinions or if we want to keep what's good enough for us. Join LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles on The Confidence Catalyst Podcast
We all just want to be happy and sometimes it's confusing and frustrating because we have everything we think we need; a roof over our head, food to eat, a body that functions. So why aren't we content with that? Why do we still yearn and ache for more? We want a life of rich fulfillment and joy. This week I teach you four things you need in your life to be able to THRIVE! Join me!
Have you ever found yourself trying to convince others that you're enough? That you're a good enough person, friend, parent? Oftentimes we don't even realize what we're doing but as we try to convince others what we're really doing is really trying to convince ourselves. This is a tell-tale sign of insecurity and lack of confidence. Join me this week as I help you learn to believe in yourself so that you don't need to convince anyone because you're already confident in yourself!
We live in a culture that is obsessed with our looks and where we place a high priority on our appearance and what we think others think of us. The diet and beauty industry is a multi-billion dollar entity that thrives on you having a strained relationship with your mortal shell. This week I share lessons learned from Lexie and Lindsay Kite Ph.D.'s and their book, More Than A Body. This is a must-read book for you to make progress towards learning that you are MORE than a body to be seen.
There's a sneaky habit that we've all fallen prey to more often than not. It's so subtle and easily justifiable and even masks itself as "self-care" but it's anything but caring. I'm talking about the idea of "little quits". Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles to hear more about how to stop these quits from tearing away at your foundation.
We want to be the curators of our minds rather than just collecting anything and everything. A big part of my job is to assist in eliminating what is not serving you. We expend so much time and energy on things we DON'T want and it interferes with being able to create what you DO want. It also feels uncertain, insecure, and uneasy - not the best recipe for confidence. Tune in this week to hear 5 things that are NOT worth your mental energy.
You know that friend or family member in your life that is constantly saying, "no"?
Want to go to lunch? No
Want to come over? No
Want to hang out? No
After a while of hearing NO, you tend to just stop asking, right? The relationship suffers, connection cut off, and pretty soon, there's a complete disconnect. No one likes hearing, NO. But what about the relationship you have with yourself? How often do you say NO to you on a daily basis?
In today's episode, I teach you the importance of saying YES to you. Yes, to connection, and YES, to confidence. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles.
You know those times when you're having a rough day, and you feel downhearted, and then there's this nagging voice that tells you, "You shouldn't be sad! You should be grateful!"? And then all of the sudden you're cured??? Yeah...me neither because that NEVER happens. We hear that little voice, and it puts us even deeper in pain only now we've added shame to the mix. In this episode, I share why telling yourself to be grateful isn't a cure-all and why it hurts more than it helps. I also share what does help! Tune in!
It used to be that you only hadd your small circle to compare yourself to. Fast forrward to now in our digital age where we see people and homes from all over; what they're wearing, eating, doing, how they spend their time and money, what they're listening to, watching, reading and we compare ourselves to this endless stream of information and feeling miserable. While we can't stop the media we CAN learn a healthier mindset!
I've been on a minimalist journey this year - not so much in my physical space, but I'm talking more so in my mental space. We "collect" a lot of thoughts, biases, and beliefs that at one point seemed to make sense (to your brain at least), but now it's just creating a lot of mental clutter, fear, and adding to our insecurities. In this week's episode, I teach the importance of adopting a mental minimalist's stance and share 6 thoughts, you must say goodbye to in order to create a more confident life!
You know them when you see them, those people that just radiate light and confidence, and you wonder what their "secret" is. You might think, "how can they be so certain of themselves while I'm struggling just to feel a glimmer of that?" You don't have to wonder anymore. On the podcast, I'm sharing the top 10 ground rules that confident people live by and that you'll want to start incorporating into your life too. Tune in!
It can feel easy to feel confident when life is smooth, and everything seems to be going right but what about the times when life isn't easy, and things aren't going the way we think they should? Everyone has had times in their lives when it seems like their confidence takes a hit, and it's a tough road to try and build that back up. In today's episode, I'll walk you through the doubt and out of the darkness so you can feel the warmth of true confidence again.
In each of our lives there are times when we've wanted something so bad that the wanting felt heavy, sore, and almost unbearable. It can be difficult to talk about and when you do it's even more difficult because most people don't (can't) understand. This leaves you feeling alone, misunderstood, and acutely discouraged. In this episode I walk you through the pain and guide you to the other side of peace, certainty, and above all, confidence.
As a society, we tend to focus most of our efforts on finding the ANSWERS, the solutions, the tips and tricks to figure things out so we can move on but what if instead of looking for the "how," we stopped to ask ourselves some beautiful questions? Berger says, "one of the most important things questioning does is to enable people to think and act in the face of uncertainty." Learning to ask the right questions leads to a life of confidence amidst ever-changing outside circumstances. Tune in!
Sometimes we can feel like we're at the mercy of our circumstances. We don't know what the day will bring (especially in 2020), and so we wake up each day hoping that things will go smoothly, but the second we hit a stumbling block or obstacle, we crumble. It can take quite a bit of mental energy to pull yourself out of these negative emotions and even feels like it takes over your entire day. But there is something you can do ahead of time that will help. There are decisions you can make ahead of time to keep you moving forward, keep progressing and keep creating the life you want to be living. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles to learn how to pre-decide your day!
We are constantly colliding with others. We are born into families and surrounded by people. We go to school with others, work with others, marry, have kids, and even with all our years of practice we still struggle to see people and ourselves as we really are. In this episode, I offer you a way out and a way up so you can leave the doubts, discouragement, and insecurities behind.
Have you ever found yourself asking, "at what point do I...?" Like, at what point is enough enough? at what point do I leave? at what point do I realize it's just not going to happen and I need to give up? I hear this from clients often and when I do it's when they're at their edge and feeling exasperated, discouraged, and frustrated. They NEED something to change, but they're not sure they're ready for THAT change and every single time I tell them each the same thing. It's something that helps them get to clarity, certainty, and confidence. Want to know what I tell them? Tune in!
So many women second-guess themselves consistently and it takes a toll on your ability to trusts yourself and to feel confident. In this episode, I teach you why you're second-guessing yourself, how it's a form of insecurity and fear, how to have your own back when decision making, and most importantly how to stop the cycle of second-guessing yourself. Join me!
We've all heard it before, FAITH can move mountains. But do you BELIEVE it? I used to think I understood what faith was sand often times I'd THINK I was acting on faith but what I realized was I wasn't acting on faith but rather, hope. HOPE is a beautiful principle but often it's not strong enough to see you through the hard times. What you're really needing and seeking is CERTAINTY - you want to KNOW that things are going to be okay, that YOU are going to be okay- Join me this week and I talk about Confidence and Faith
This week I'm bringing to light something that is easily the top, number one confidence blocker for most people. It's sneaky and it's very limiting. Thankfully there's something you can do about it! Join me as I uncover this stumbling block and teach you how to create certainty and confidence again!
Ever find yourself spinning out about a conversation you had and you just can't stop thinking about it? or in attempts to make sense of it you just keep the thoughts circling around and around? This is classic overthinking and it's such a drain on your energy and your well-being! Know what IS productive? problem-solving. Join me this week as I walk you through how to problem-solve instead of overthinking.
I'm betting there are things in your past that you regret. There's probably even things that when you think about them you feel the urge to cringe. Most of us are carrying the heavy weight of our past with us and we bring it into our future, into our relationships, into our homes, and our jobs and it's not helping us. It's hurting us. It's time to let those things go. It's hard to create a confident present and future while you're trying to run away or hide from your past.
Rejection is something that everyone faces and it really hurts. Sometimes it can seem like it rocks our very foundation leaving us hurt, lonely, and vulnerable. It can seem incredibly difficult to rise up again after rejection and more of a hurdle to get to a space where you feel really confident but in this episode, I teach you how to do just that. Join me and learn how to cultivate confidence after rejection
Each tenth episode I bring you one of my teachers, books, influencers that have helped me on my journey and in becoming. This week I bring you the book, Essentialism by Greg Mckeown. The teachings he provides goes hand in hand with confidence and learning to create a life without regrets, a life of certainty, and most especially living a confident life. Join me as I share some of my favorite takeaways from the book, Essentialism
This episode is all about one SIMPLE, yet POWERFUL tool that takes you from confusion, worry, and doubt and into certainty, confidence, and assurance. It's a small adjustment but it packs a huge punch! Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles this week!
What do you do when someone compliments you? Does it make you uncomfortable? Do you deflect it? Do you downplay it? Compliments can teach us a lot about ourselves and give us insight into what we really think about ourselves. Tune in this week to find out what to do with a compliment!
The way you see yourself matters. In fact, knowing who you are is essential and pivotal to being able to overcome life's challenges and trials. If you're struggling with a personal challenge right now, this episode is for you! Understanding this key truth is the secret to seeing your life's path clearly and most importantly, confidently! Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
Confidence is something that everyone wants but it can seem hard to attain. It can seem elusive and confusing in what it exactly is. In these episodes, I take the mystery out of confidence and I'll be giving you real tools to be able to create genuine, rock-solid confidence no matter what the circumstances are or what's going on around you. Join LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles and start your journey to a more confident, joyful life!
We feel confident when we're certain that we know we're going to be okay. Confidence IS certainty. The opposite is fear, doubt, insecurity, and uncertainty. Make sure to tune into the podcast where I walk you through step by step how to create confidence and certainty no matter what's going on around you!
Confidence is something that everyone wants but few people know what it really is or even HOW to get it. In this series of episodes, I'm taking the mystery out of confidence and giving you real tools to be able to create genuine self-confidence no matter what the circumstances are.
Confidence is something that everyone wants but few people know what it really is or even how to get it. In these next several episodes I'll be taking the mystery out of confidence and giving you real tools to be able to create genuine, rock-solid confidence no matter what the circumstances are or what's going on around you. Join LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles and start your journey to a more confident, joyful life!
Confidence is something that everyone wants but few people know what it REALLY is or even how to get it. In these next five episodes, I'll be taking the mystery out of confidence and giving you real tools to be able to create genuine, rock-solid confidence no matter what the circumstances are or what's going on around you.
Expectations can feel like solid ground and something to look forward to but when things don't go according to plan we lose that footing, our confidence, and our emotional well-being. So how can you create confidence in moving forward? How can you plan for the future without false security? Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles to find out how!
I'm sure you're all familiar with Organizational guru, Marie Kondo and this week I'm bringing you a few lessons I've learned from her not in cleaning and organizing your living space but in clearing out the clutter in your mental space so it can be a place where you're able to spark joy!
Tune in to hear these amazing concepts for clearing out your emotional clutter with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
Everyone feels stuck at different times in their lives. Life can feel like you're walking through a maze only to find one dead end after another. These moments can leave us feeling insecure, discouraged, and limited. Confidence comes from certainty. It comes from knowing you're going to be alright and not stuck. Join me as I teach you how to keep moving forward and how to take that next step even when it feels like there isn't a next step to take.
There is a tendency to want to blame the circumstances for how we feel.
"I'm offended because of what that person said to me"
"I'm angry because that person is judging me"
"I'm worried because there's a pandemic"
"I'm frustrated because I'm stuck in my house"
We think it's the "circumstances" fault and when we think this we're stuck and our confidence takes a huge dive. The truth iss that there are circumstances but those circumstances are neutral. They aren't good or bad until you interpret them as good or bad. This is empowering! This is a skill you can practice and master, seeing the circumstances AS NEUTRAL. Then you have power over how you want to see them! The more you do this, the more confident you'll feel!
Moral Superiority show up in our thoughts. It's a slight judgment that could look something like, "Well at least I'm not as bad as THAT guy". (cue raised eyebrows and an audible hmph). As human beings we are wired for connection. This is difficult when while social distancing. But what is guaranteed to make it even harder is adding moral superiority to the mix. Join my today as I talk about the consequences of feeling morally superior and how it's more damaging to your confidence than you realize.
Quite a bit has happened this last week. Each day you open the news and there's something else to take into account. This can be difficult to navigate through. Our brains don't like change. It wants predictability. It wants routine and what's known. So how can you feel confident when things are constantly changing?
Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles and I'll teach you three things to help you ease into change, no matter what that change is and to be able to create CONFIDENCE amidst turbulent times.
There are countless songs, movies, books, and stories that talk about romantic relationships and breakups. These give us a heads up that sometimes romantic relationships end and while it's not fun, you're going to be okay. But there's another kind of break up that we're not prepared for and it can be devastating, confusing, and painful.
Friendships have the allure that they can and should last forever. The term BFF even declares the expected longevity of that relationship which is why we find ourselves mentally unprepared when a friendship ends.
Join me as I talk about friendships, finding closure, and how to show up confident amidst endings.
This subtle thing is hindering your confidence and you don't even realize it. Here's the thing, everyone does it. It's not really THAT big of a deal. It's not hurting anything or so we think but I assure you this one daily habit is a CONFIDENCE KILLER. Tune in to find out what you're doing and how to tweak it.
So many of us live in a space of having to. I HAVE to pay my bills. I HAVE to go to... I HAVE to clean my house. I HAVE to go to work. What do you think happens to your confidence levels when you operate from a HAVING to kind of stance?
It's incredibly disempowering, limiting, and creates resistance instead of freedom and confidence. Besides thinking about things you HAVe to do, what about the things you think you HAVE to think and believe? There is a magic that happens when we give ourselves permission to choose what we want to keep, what we want to believe, how we want to feel, and ultimately who we want to become. Tune in this week to learn how to adopt a wanting to mentality and learn to drop all the "have to's".
Personality tests are fun and claim to reveal who you REALLY are after answering their short questionnaire. What if everything we thought we knew about personality wasn't exactly accurate? We say things like, "I'm just not that kind of person" or "I could never..." and we have to be careful of these labels because once we label other people or ourselves our brain will use that filter so that's all we'll see. What if our brain is wrong? What if that's not who we really are after all? Tune in this week to hear all about who you REALLY are and what personality REALLY is.
There are times in our lives when things just aren't going the way we hoped. You might be struggling and thinking you're a failure. Discouragement isn't a fun place and it's also a confidence killer. Tune in this week as I walk you through four things to do when discouragement hits.
Learning how to be present dramatically reduces or eliminates our suffering and anxiety and instead creates joy, confidence, and fulfillment. Tune into the episode as I teach you why it's so crucial to learn how to become more present in our lives and as I introduce you to one of my most impactful teachers, Eckhart Tolle. This episode will change you! Ready?
As we grow up we subconsciously "collect" many beliefs about ourselves. These beliefs have a way of working themselves into our future and not in a helpful way. In this episode, I teach you how to stop using the past to create your future and how to be future-focused. Tune in!
So many of us use the past as a way to beat ourselves up and keep us from moving forward. We think about past experiences and use that as evidence as to why things won't work out for us. In this episode, I teach you what the past really is and how to take back your confidence no matter what your past looks like. Then don't forget to tune back in next week as we talk about creating confidence in your FUTURE!
So many of us struggle with Perfectionism and the fear that we're not enough, that we don't do enough, that others will see our not-enoughness and judge us. It's a very unsettling place to operate from and creates quite a bit of insecurity and unrest. In this episode, I teach you a different approach that you can take that will create love, peace, and a way to enjoy the process of becoming instead of shaming ourselves for not "being" yet. You don't want to miss this one! Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow once said, "The best thing one can do when it's raining is let it rain"
When people hear "acceptance" they might think this means to give in or just having to "deal with it" so they resist causing themselves even more pain and suffering. Acceptance isn't about agreeing with or endorsing what happened. It's allowing you to let go of the thoughts that deprive you of peace and happiness. When we hold tight to our thoughts and our story about "what should have been" we limit ourselves. Learning how to accept what is, is our ticket to freedom and joy.
When you hear the term, "boundaries" it's generally thought of as something you're expecting other people to do. We think about what we want other people to do or to stop doing but this is misguided. When we place expectations on other's we're having to be at the mercy of others and hoping they'll respect and honor our needs. This can wreak havoc in your relationship because we can't control other people and we can't predict what they'll do or not do. In today's episode, I teach you what boundaries really are and how you can create unbreakable boundaries. Boundaries you can feel secure in. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles to hear more.
There's a lot of advice out there that will tell you to RUN from "toxic people". There's a belief that they are poisonous and you'd better get away before they infect you and bring you down. But what happens when you run away only to find yourself face to face with yet another toxic person? do you just keep running your whole life? There's another way, a better way and today I'm going to teach you all about it. Tune in with LDS Life Coach Hannah Coles to learn all about toxic people and what you can do about them.
Everyone experiences feeling annoyed from time to time but it may actually be something more prominent in your life than you realize. All those seemingly little annoyances are actually creating more challenges for you and blocking your ability to create the life you really want. Tune in today to find out what you can do when you're feeling annoyed.
There are a great many of us that operate from a place of blame. No matter what happened or what's going on, for sure, not our fault, right? We blame our parents for not having the childhood we think we needed, we blame our physiology for not giving us the body or shape we wanted, we blame our bosses, our family, that slow car in front of us for our misfortune. This line of thinking is operating from something called, Emotional Childhood dn it is a huge roadblock to creating confidence in your life. It blocks your ability to achieve your goals and to accomplish what you want in life. Tune in today and learn how to say goodbye to emotional childhood and be able to move forward.
In today's episode, I bring you select Q&A's that listeners have submitted. There were several about friendship so I decided to dedicate the entire episode to that topic. This will be so helpful to all of us as we'll have many friendships all throughout our lives. So tune in and enjoy!
Every now and then you find something that changes you. This is more than just a, "well, that was nice" kind of thing. I'm talking CHANGE. This book changed me and it will change you too. In this episode, I share just two gems that I learned from this holocaust survivor and psychiatrist, Viktor Frankl. Tune in!
For most of us judging ourselves and others seems to be what we default to. We judge constantly and we don't realize we're doing it because it just sounds like a comment or a fact. Judging is a limiting practice and it's keeping you stuck. In this episode I teach you why judging yourself and others is harmful and what you can do to live a richer more fulfilling life!
We are harder on ourselves than anybody else could ever be. For a lot of us, our go-to action is to "beat ourselves up". We say some of the most hurtful, ugly, and painful things that we would never utter or think about another human being yet we think it about ourselves. When I was in elementary school we'd have anti-bullying weeks where we learned to be on the lookout to help others that were being bullied. But what happens when the bully is inside? Who is there to notice? Who is there to save you from this unseen but ever-present bully? It's time we had an anti-self bullying week. It's time we learned to save ourselves and stop this self-defeating, self-loathing practice.
Self-care is a term that's thrown around pretty loosely. Depending on what article you read or who you talk to the advice can be on opposite ends of the spectrum. It's confusing and leaves you floundering for help when you need it most. Are you ready to learn what REAL self-care is?
We're conditioned to believe that we should be happy all the time, that negative emotions are bad and positive ones are good. So we chase after happy feelings and we resist all the contrast. But we forget that it's because of this contrast that the good is even possible. In this episode, I teach you why we resist negative emotions, why we want and need the negatives as well as the positive, and how to allow them into your life.
So many of us aren't happy. We may smile, sure, put on a good show, but inside? Things aren't so fabulous. We think this is just reality and the "real life" but what if your reality was just made up? Your reality is made up of your thoughts. Everything is make believe, knowing this, do you still want to create your current reality?
So many of us seek validation from others and outside sources. After all seeking approval is a pretty common human trait. At a very deep level, we all have a need to be seen, to be heard, recognized, understood, valued, and loved. We need to know if we're going to be okay, if who we are and what we're doing is okay. But problems arise when we hire out those needs to others. In this episode learn how to have your won back, get what you want, and be able to fill your own emotional bucket.
So much of what we struggle with doesn't have to be a struggle at all. We create problems that don't really need to be problems in the first place. What would change for you if you were able to pick and choose what your problems would be? Do you think you'd choose so many problems? Or if you had the choice, would you say, "no thanks" to most (if not all) of them? On the podcast teach you how to do just this! Tune in!
Do you struggle with saying no? Are you prone to people pleasing and saying yes more times than you can count? Do you want to learn how to say no confidently and guilt free? In this episode I walk you through three tips to help you say no, be able to get what you really, really want and actually strengthen your relationships. Tune in!
Comparing is a very human and normal behavior and one that can't really be eradicated completely but there is a way to avoid the comparison trap. Comparing doesn't haven't to automatically mean BAD or WRONG but it can quickly elevate to that if you're not careful. Tune in to learn four steps to help you use comparison FOR you instead of against you.
This week I share one of my favorite authors, teachers, and mindset Guru, Carol Dweck. I talk about one of her most powerful and famous concepts and how it applies to YOU. Learning this will help you understand why you're not taking action, why you're blaming, and most importantly it'll tell you a lot about your confidence. Carol is amazing and I can't wait to share these major gems with you! Tune in!
We all have ideas of how the world should run, how people in it should act and behave, and we have rules for how we should feel, what we should do, how we should look, and even what we should think or not think. We are really good at shoulding. We should ourselves and others a lot and it's hurting you more than you realize. Tune in to hear why it's a problem, why we should, and what you can do instead.
We've all been there. We think one little irrational thought and concern quickly erupts into a giant mountain of a problem and then we worry, stress, and create panic within us. This is catastrophizing, my friends, and it isn't pretty. Learn why this habit of thinking IS harmful to you and how you can stop feeling like you're falling apart or spiraling down the rabbit hole of the unknown.
Blaming others is easy but it never solves the problem. No one wins at playing the blame game, so why do we still do it? Come learn how to kick the blaming habit for good and find out what the ultimate power move is instead.
We all need help from time to time. There's no reason it needs to be scary, weird, or complicated. In today's episode I expose our most common reasons why we fear asking for help and the way to ditch the fear and opt for confidence instead. As we all need a little help, you're not going to want to miss this one.
Creativity is one of THE most useful feelings we can generate for ourselves. But there's a lot of us out there that feel that creativity just isn't for them. There's a huge misconception of what creativity actually IS and who has it and who doesn't. In today's episode I uncover what the creative process ACTUALLY is, why everyone is creative, and why the world needs your unique contribution. Tune in! This is GOOD!
No one likes failing. It seems like such an ugly word. People avoid putting themselves in positions where failure might be an option. If there's a chance they could fail, No thank you. But what if failure didn't have to mean BAD? What if failure was actually something to embrace and lean into? What if failure was the ONLY way to success? Tune in today as LDS life Coach Hannah Coles talks about what fear of failure and offers three new inspiring beliefs for you to try on and adopt into your belief system to help you move forward and ditch the fear of failure!
When it comes to marriage there are a lot of areas where doubt, fear, and insecurities can sneak in and damage your relationship. In today's podcast I talk about 3 confidence killers in your marriage, how they're showing up and what you can do instead to create CONFIDENCE in this special, sacred relationship.
Let's face it, no one is getting through life unscathed. We love, we care, we are passionate about things and because there's opposition in all things we're going to hurt, be sad, feel disappointment...pain, right? But what if I told you that the majority of the pain you're feeling is OPTIONAL? In this episode I teach you about two kinds of pain and how to feel LESS of it in your life.
Michelangelo was once asked how he had created the magnificent statue of an angel, he is reported to have simply said, “I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.” Each of us is similar to that slab of marble. We feel STUCK and trapped inside our circumstances and unsure how to set ourselves free and how to move forward. Today I offer you THE most important tool that gives you the ability to set yourself free, to get un-stuck no matter what the circumstances are. This is an episode you will NOT want to miss. Are you ready to free yourself and create the life you've always dreamed of? This is for you then!
How many times have you been swept up in worry about what other people think of you? We fret, fear, and show up really weird when we're trying to figure out what they think of us. This is exhausting and pointless. So how can you be authentically you without fear of what others are thinking about you? Tune in today to find out!
For many women it's difficult to look at themselves in the mirror and LIKE what they see. Think of how many pictures you've deleted because you couldn't stand to see that reflection of you? It's time to change this. It's time to make peace and friends with the girl in the mirror. Listen in today where I talk about WHY we struggle and how we can learn to love that girl looking back at you.
A little backstory about me. I get asked often why a catalyst? What IS a catalyst? And what does that mean to me? In this episode I talk about my journey from being insecure, doubtful, stuck to feeling free, confident, and a believer of what is possible! Tune in. It's good.