Khalia Deborah: Recent Episodes
Khalia Deborah
Khalia Deborah is a Certified Solution-Focused Life & Transformational Coach who holds a B.S. in Business with a concentration in Accounting & Finance. She is the owner of Khalia Deborah Coaching and the Founder of The Dreams To Founder Non-Profit Organization. She has helped hundreds of people navigate through the challenges in this crazy thing called life and unpack the gaps of where they currently are versus where they want to be in life and take action! Along with life coaching, Khalia helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and professionals grow in various ways! She works with clients to strategize and develop successful action plans to take their business or business idea to the next level! Her goal in life is to position people for POWER & OPPORTUNITIES!
If you feel like the life you used to love suddenly doesn’t fit anymore, you’re not broken — you’re becoming. This episode is for every woman standing in the “in-between” space — where the old version of you is fading, the new one hasn’t fully emerged, and everything feels quiet, weird, and uncomfortable.
Khalia Deborah Stokes pulls back the curtain on her own transition season — the breaking, the stripping away, the redefining — and shares why this space isn’t punishment, it’s preparation. You’ll walk away with a new perspective, practical tools for protecting your becoming, and the reminder that the version of you God is building is worth the wait.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- How to reframe the “in-between” season so you stop calling it lost and start calling it transition.
- Why breaking isn’t about destroying you — it’s about making your foundation strong enough to hold your calling.
- How to release shame without dishonoring the version of yourself that got you here.
- The daily anchors and relationships you need to protect your growth.
- Why blooming isn’t the goal — becoming is.
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Legacy is more than the money and material items you leave behind. It’s more than money, businesses, or property passed down—it is also the everyday moments that shape who we are and who comes after us.
In this episode, Khalia shares how she’s changed her mind about legacy—not as a transaction, but as transformation. From morning routines to private prayers, from forgiveness to consistency, she explores how our lives write a legacy far more powerful than anything on paper.
Tune in to reimagine what legacy really means, and ask yourself: What kind of breadcrumbs are you leaving behind for the next generation?
We hear about imposter syndrome all the time—like it’s just a confidence issue or a personal flaw. But what if it’s not just you doubting you? What if it’s the world around you, the systems you move through, and the silent expectations you’ve internalized?
In this episode, I’m unpacking my personal journey with imposter syndrome—and why I’ve changed my mind about what really causes it. From navigating family pressure to breaking generational patterns to showing up in rooms where I wasn’t expected to belong, this is a conversation about identity, survival, and healing the gap between who we are and who we’ve been told to be.
Because imposter syndrome isn’t just something we make up. It’s something we’ve been taught. And it’s time to reimagine it and start unlearning it.
Ever catch yourself mid-roast... but the target is you? You call it “being real,” “staying sharp,” or “pushing for better”—but what if that inner critic is actually holding you back?
In this episode of I’ve Changed My Mind, host Khalia Deborah Stokes unpacks the toxic self-talk we’ve normalized, and shares how she learned to challenge the chatterbox in her head. The one that said she wasn’t enough, didn’t belong, and needed to be “better” to be worthy.
This isn’t about blind positivity. It’s about recognizing the difference between helpful growth and harmful self-sabotage—and choosing to speak life, not limitation, over yourself.
Because that mental roast session might feel familiar… But it’s not home.
Changing your mind about asking for help—and why it’s the bravest thing you can do.
For years, I believed real strength meant doing life alone. I wore hyper-independence like a badge of honor — until it started to break me. In this episode of I’ve Changed My Mind, I share the story behind how I became self-sufficient in the most self-sabotaging way and why asking for help isn’t a weakness... it’s a lifeline.
We’ll explore:
- How childhood experiences shape our belief about strength
- The hidden cost of “I got it” culture
- Why not asking for help is a subtle form of self-sabotage
- And how redefining strength has helped me heal
If you’ve ever struggled to ask for help, felt the weight of being the “strong one,” or wondered why you’re so tired even when you’re “doing everything right” — this episode is for you.
🎧 Tune in, share with a friend, and let this be your permission to lean.
"From shadows of shame to the light of love, I’m reclaiming every piece of me that was lost—because I deserve to embrace the beautiful life I was always meant to live."
In this episode, I'll be discussing how I changed my mind regarding the importance of revisiting my past in order to move forward and healing the younger me.
"When I felt the most successful in my life, I felt the need to step back and take my worth back from my success."
In this episode, I will discuss how I have decided to do less during a time in my life when people might have expected me to push harder.
Your mindset toward your life has so much to do with how your life turns out and the decisions you end up making.
Success In Your Life, I believe starts in your mind.
Join me in a conversation with two amazing women as we create a safe space to chat about the blessings of being a wife, and mother, and chasing our dreams. Welcome, Kristy & Shanika to the Khalia Deborah Podcast!
Connect more with today's guest & Khalia Deborah:
Khalia Deborah, Business Consultant & Certified Life Coach www.khaliadeborah.com @khaliadeborah_
Kristy Lynn Purnell, Networking Strategist and Change Management Professional @kplovinglife
Shanika Knight, Certified Christian Life Coach https://www.skgnetwork.com @the_grace_coach
In this episode we will be discussing 1.) Transforming Your Money Mindset: Is your energy, time, and life worth the hustle? 2.) RAISE YOUR PRICES: It is not that you are overspending, but you may be under-earning. 3.)Let's Get Personal: It is about more than just the bottom line. How your money mindset impacts your life? I had the pleasure of having this amazing conversation with Aimee LaLiberte, the owner of My Virtual CFO. She is helping business owners attract and build wealth!
Find out more about Aimee:
Website: https://myvirtualcfo.co
Instagram: @myvirtualcfo
I want you all to Meet Yolanda Haynes. The Owner of Refuel For Purpose!
Enjoy this wrap-up conversation that I had with my client Yolanda Haynes! I had the chance to coach Yolanda this year and watch her confidently step into the next level of her business and life!
Learn about what it is like to work with me from Yolanda's perspective and learn about what Yolanda does through her Executive Wellness Coaching firm!
Join Yolanda's December Holiday Wellness Workshop by clicking the link below:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/refuel-for-purpose-holiday-wellness-workshop-series-tickets-213073016127
Follow Yolanda and keep up with what is going on with Refuel For Purpose:
https://refuelforpurpose.com
https://www.instagram.com/refuelforpurpose/
After years of journaling, hard conversations, loss of people, loss of myself, rediscovering God, heartache, depression, mommy guilt and RESTORATION...I am beyond excited and honestly a bit overwhelmed with many emotions, to announce that my memoir is now available on my website for pre-ordering! This inspirational story is sure to leave you with a different perspective on how the pain and struggles in life are all a part of a bigger plan and how restoration is available to us all. PREORDER YOUR COPY TODAY and enjoy FREE SHIPPING for a limited time! All preorders will be shipped on June 30, 2021! Order today at www.khaliadeborah.com/cheerstothefall
What do you want is one of the most powerful questions I have asked myself as a business owner.
By identifying specifically what I want for myself right now in my journey, I was able to create an action plan that was more tailored and designed to get me closer to what I truly wanted in life and business.
There are things that we want in life and we want them bad!! However, stop being perpetually on edge about getting there. There are lessons, blessing and moments you are missing out on that you will need for the next level!
By understanding the stage that I am in currently in my life, I am better able to deal with and understand the discomforts that may come along with it.
Different stages of your life will require you to move differently. Be attentive and self aware.
Motherhood was not all about birthing my two amazing little boys. Motherhood opened the door in which I realized my purpose and no I do not mean the purpose to be a mother. My journey into motherhood was not planned but turned out to be the greatest thing that ever happened for me. In this episode I share some lessons that anybody can take and apply to different situations along their journey!
Take authority over your perspective and vision. It has a transformative power!
Visit our website dreamstofounder.org to learn more about our mission and to get involved!
At Dreams To Founder, we have a monthly gathering for our Christian Founder. We are breaking the mold of what it looks like to connect with God, inviting him to various areas in our lives and learning what he has called us to do to evoke change in this world.
We have all been created uniquely but what God has called us to do with our unique gifts, skills and talents is very similar! So we will discuss what that is and how we can start living out God's purpose for our lives NOW! We will also discuss how to warfare against the attacks and fear in our lives We will learn to navigate through this life through God's word TOGETHER!
This message will come from Genesis 1:27-28 and Mark 12:28-34
The IRS can be a cringe worthy, overwhelming topic for entrepreneurs and business owners. IRS and taxes does not have to be something you try to avoid or be afraid of. So today we will get advice and tips from an IRS employee to help share knowledge to help you gain more confidence in your taxes as an entrepreneur or small business owner.
Follow us on social media @dreamstofounder and visit us online via www.dreamstofounder.org
Have you ever taken the time to think about what generation your target audience is in? Well, if you have not YOU SHOULD! The generation that your target audience falls in will help you bette market to your audience.
On this episode I will explain the importance of understanding generational marketing and how to market to different generations.
Get out your pen and paper and get ready to better market to your audience!
Success in life does not just come about because you scored a great job or built an amazing business. Success in life means so much more than just a dollar value. Gaining the success in life that surpasses the material things in life requires that you pay attention to and take inventory of various parts of your life.
On today's episode we will discuss 4 areas to pay attention to:
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Mental Health
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Financial Wisdom
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Creativity and Innovation/Entrepreneurship
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Professional Development
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Be careful to not rush your process and position yourself before God positions you. Rushing to position yourself to a higher level can cause you to ruin the opportunities ahead. Your delay could be because you are in a time of preparation for what God has ahead of you! Prepare and get ready and stay ready!!!
One thing that I have learned and learning more and more everyday is that I am responsible for my time, my gifts and talents and what I do with my life while I am on this Earth...and I am not just talking making a name for yourself or acquiring a bunch of money and stuff.
You have been giving your life and gifts and talents to turn around and positively impact and help others flourish. Along the way God will take care of your needs and desires, but you have to choose and take responsibility for what you do while you are here!
Episode Takeaways:
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Your life is bigger than you.
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You were created to create things that will help others flourish.
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You are 100% responsible for what you do with your time, gifts and talents and life while you are here on this earth.
Need help figuring how you can use your life to help others? Meet me at The Dreams To Founder Conference this September at the University of Pennsylvania and let's make it happen!
Use the code "FOUNDERS" at checkout to receive 10% off your ticket!
Register here: events.dreamstofounder.org
Before we can experience the amazing accomplishment of working full time for ourselves, we have to realize how important a 9-5 really is.
There are so many people that want to "fire their boss" and "be the boss", but are not quite ready to BE THE BOSS. If you want to be a trend and something that does not last for generations to come, then you may be ok going with the flow of this world. However, if you are serious about the life you want and the impact you are called to make in this world...YOU NEED YOUR 9-5!!
There are things you can only learn working for someone else in the field. Stop complaining and start seeing the value. The quicker you see the value and blessing in your 9-5, the quicker you may get to that accomplishment.
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Asking to simply pick someone's brain can be insulting to the business they run, especially when they have services that could help you with the areas you are stuck.
Instead of resorting to picking someone's brain there are other approaches you can take to get advice, gems and connect more with someone you want to learn from and even be a mentee too.
Lastly, if you all want to connect with some innovators and professionals all in one place to get advice, tips and gems to help you on your journey, secure your seat to the Dreams To Founder Conference. The Conference will be happening on September 21, 2019 @ The University of Pennsylvania! A digitally interactive keynote, innovative panel, networking hub and a private rooftop reception, you will have various opportunities to gain answers, new leads and develop your plan of attack to accomplishing powerful life goals! I hope to see you there. Secure you seats by heading to:
Events.dreamstofounder.org
There are some things in life that we crave that have the potential to tear down our lives. On the other hand there are things that we crave that can add value to our life. However, if you are human like me you probably crave some unhealthy things in life including people, materialistic things and so much more.
Today we are going to chat about life cravings and getting our lives in check!
We are learning about Financial conversations, showing up for ourselves financially and learning what we can do NOW with what we have to start living a better financial life!
We get to hear from the Founder of Money Honey Co, Khadija Bingham. Through Money Honey, Khadija shares her personal money experiences with the goal of normalizing conversations around money. She currently resides in New York where she works as an Associate in an accounting function for a Wall Street firm.
Follow Money Honey on IG @moneyhoneyco or email at info@moneyhoneyco.com!
What if you already had a seat at the table and you have just been on mute or allowing someone to over talk you and over work you?
What if you have been trying to sit at other tables when you were called to create a table?
Having a seat at the table is more than just having influence and the power to decision make. Having a seat at the table represents an opportunity to make a difference!
Want to attend the Dreams To Founder Conference in Philadelphia at University of Penn September 2019? Click the link to learn more about the conference and secure your spot!
events.dreamstofounder.org
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In honor of Mother's Day, I gave my mother the space to share her story with you all. She not only shares her story, but provides so much wisdom from her journey that we all can utilize! From luxury cars to sleeping in the car to God leveling life up!
Join Reshaun Carlton every Thursday for a life changing women's Bible study at CDC Building 6150 Cedar Ave Phila Pa!
On this episode, we have the pleasure of sitting with Christian Life Coach, Shanika Knight. She is the founder of The G Network and a Certified Christian Life Coach. Shanika will help us to understand the importance of having grace with ourselves and the process of getting to living a genuine lifestyle.
Follow Shanika on social media and visit her website to get connected:
IG: @thegnetwork
FB: Shanika Knight
Website: www.skgnetwork.com
I believe that the bridge between your dreams and making them a reality is EXECUTION, not excuses or influencer plugs. IT IS YOUR OWN EXECUTION...YOUR OWN WORK!
Bridge that gap, become an executer...become a founder!
J. Cole's new video to his song "Middle Child" has so many powerful messages for the person who feels like the middle child in their life and/or business. Just because you do not move as loudly as the rest of the world does not mean you are not great. When the noise fades you'll still remain. I'd rather be the bridge that evokes change than the noise that fades away eventually.
CLICK HERE for Alana Yzola's decryption of J. Cole's video "Middle Child"
Music Credit: J.Cole "Middle Child"
Lil Wayne for the most part does not listen to anyone else's music but his own. In my opinion we could benefit from doing this every once in awhile. Unplug, step away from the world's opinion and tune in to the creativity and innovation you possess and watch what happens!
Music Credit: Lil Wayne, "Mr. Carter"
There is something so powerful that happens when women come together!
Ebony Wortham + Courtney Childs are the beautiful women behind the amazing Our House Culture Center right here in Philadelphia! Join in on our conversation as we talk about what happens when women come together and their opinions on some thoughts of women coming together! You will also get to hear what they do with Our House and the impact they are making.
You can find out more about Our House @ www.iloveourhouse.org or on IG @iloveourhouse !
This is Part 3 of the Scaling Your Business Series.
When you are in your growth season, growing in profit is a major goal. However, there are some things that need to be done other than just making sales.
On this episode, we will be talking about:
- Effective Lead Flows and what a lead flow is.
- 6 critical things you can do, from my perspective, to aide in having an effective and profitable sales lead flow in place.
- How technology can help you to secure the bag!
Feel free to email me at kdeb@khaliadeborah.com, leave a review and connect with me on social media @kdeb_coaching!
This is Part 2 of Our Scaling Your Business 3 Part Series. Finding money to actually step into your growing season is a very important part of growing. Growth comes with a price tag!
We all want to GROW and step into that overflow season. However, chasing growth (or scaling your business) prematurely can cause your business to crumble!
Here are some things to have in place before stepping into the growing season of your business!
It is so easy to be afraid and doubtful when it comes to taking risks on stepping out into our purpose and truly being the person that God created us to be. However, in the long run, it is so worth it!
Steve Epting joins us on today's episode to share his journey of taking one of the biggest risks of his life and how that led to the amazing opportunity of singing background for Beyonce + Jay Z at Coachella + all around the world on the OTR II tour!
Take a Risk on your purpose + the person God created you to be, your purpose is worth and you are worth it!
On this segment of Exchanging Stories, we are chatting with Abu Fofanah, also known as, The Man Behind The Brand! With experience working with Fortune 500 companies and having clients featured in Essence, Cosmopolitan and so much more, Abu shares his journey as a founder, how his upbringing has had a major impact on where he is today and some of the BIGGEST misconceptions about being an entrepreneur vs startup vs a big business!
Abu is teaching everyday entrepreneurs the step-by-step on how to build profitability! From refugee to entrepreneur, from Sierra Leone to Southwest Philadelphia, his journey teaches that who you are as a person impacts your business. Take the time to invest in YOU + get right within!
Whether it is your personal bank statement or your business financial statements, your financials tell a story. What does your financials reveal about your life and/or business?
Just as the color black will never go out of style, neither will the impact of positive mental health! Mental Health is for sure the New Black!
We sit down and chat with Rob Lawless, also known as, Rob 10K Friends. As he tells us his story about his journey to meeting 10,000 people 1 on 1 for 1 hour each, we learn the importance and life-changing effects of exchanging stories & learning from the lives of others.
Sharing our stories can shape our lives and our perception of others. Sharing our stories can even open doors for amazing collaborative opportunities. Open your mind and learn about the people in your community!
Connect with Rob and set up a time to meet and chat with him for an hour and help him reach his goal of meeting 10,000!
Rob Lawless
IG: @robs10kfriends
Focus & Clarity are two powerful tools that can literally change the trajectory of your life!
We are talking about BOUNDARIES!!
Not all limitations in life are meant to hold you back. Some are actually designed to take you to greater heights!
Having loose boundaries or none at all can wreck your WHOLE life. While having the right boundaries can have you living the life you imagined for yourself!
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We may go through life on a driven mission of how we can make our lives better. Going to school, getting a degree, getting a nice paying job so we can have a nice comfortable life, building a business etc. However, we were not just created to make our lives great but our life and even the businesses we build have a greater purpose beyond our personal gain. During this interview, Shamika Janise, entrepreneur, and author tells us her journey in realizing that one of the most painful parts of her journey was intended for something greater!
Bigger and more beautiful may not always mean greater levels. It is so important to slow down and be present in the stage that you are in. No matter how small your platform currently is, where you are now is preparing you for something greater! Don't miss out on a defining moment blindsided by the bigger picture. Be present and be grateful.
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Slow Down & be present and grateful
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Reflect on where you are daily
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Don't despise the small beginnings
Zechariah 4:10. Do not despise small beginnings. The Lord rejoices to see the work begin...
We all have those things in life that have the potential to stop us in our tracks from starting up that business, executing on that idea or simply living in the authenticity of who we really are! Reflecting on myself, I have found 5 things that were holding me back and could possibly be holding you back too!
I hope you are encouraged to become aware of your potential barriers and create strategies to knock them out of the way when they pop up in your life!