Yoke and Abundance Wise Women Podcast: Recent Episodes
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Welcome to the Wise Women Podcast, designed to inspire by introducing you to creative women living abundantly. In this weekly podcast, we cover topics from entrepreneurship, to creativity, leadership, mindfulness, goal-crushing and everything in between. Most importantly we always share seeds of wisdom and thoughts on living abundantly in hopes that you'll recognize the wisdom within yourself.
In today’s episode, Alisha speaks with Ashley Paggi on art, business, and bringing your work into the world. They also discuss all the opportunities for artists to share and show up for their art in public ways.
Connect with Ashley:
Website: https://ashcascade.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ash_cascade_design/
Download Ashley’s free Art Mindset guide: https://ashcascade.com/art-mindset
Ashley Paggi of Ash Cascade Design is an artist whose bohemian/retro style evokes a polished yet gritty sense of place. Ash draws infinitely upon the adventures she takes with her husband and their two fierce little girls in the Pacific Northwest.
Ash’s designs translate beautifully across many industries with her most passionate being outdoor gear, clothing, stationery, dinnerware, wallpaper, gift wrap, home goods and fabric. She is a designer with Cotton + Steel Fabrics. Her fabric collections are sold internationally in boutique brick and mortar fabric shops as well as online in countless shops. Ashley is also a mentor and online teacher to other artists because she believes in the power of community over competition above all else.
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In today’s episode, Alisha speaks with author Allison Kendall on what it was like to write a book about her grief. They also talk about Allison’s experience publishing her first book.
Connect with Allison:
Website: https://www.allisonkendallauthor.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkendallauthor/
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In today’s episode, Alisha shares how she got started with her coaching business and what’s coming next.
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In today’s episode, Alisha shares her reflections on how good can come from bad.
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In today’s episode, Alisha reads one of her favorite children’s book, La Corona and the Tine Frog by Russell Hoban and Nicola Bayley.
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In today’s episode, Alisha is having a conversation with Deb Stellato about grief, love, and synchronicity and how you can think courageously to overcome your challenges. Deb also shares how you can develop new ways of approaching grief and love.
Check out more from Deb Here: https://www.thethinkgoodcompany.com/
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Check out more from Kelli Here: https://kellimoore.co/
on Instagram Here: https://www.instagram.com/kellitmoore/
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In today’s episode, Alisha shares a panel discussion with the authors who are publishing under her imprint, Yoke and Abundance Press. With Anessa Fike as moderator, Allison, Rahim, and Amy share with us the process of writing their books and pursuing publication.
Learn More About Allison Kendall: https://www.instagram.com/allisonkendallauthor/
Learn More About Ramin Gillett: https://ramingillett.com/
Learn More About Amy Banocy: https://www.instagram.com/amybanocy/
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In today’s episode, Alisha is having a conversation with Kelli Moore about learning how to get curious and advocate for herself. Kelli and Alisha also talk about their experiences with plant medicine and how healing it can be.
Check out more from Kelli Here: https://kellimoore.co/
on Instagram Here: https://www.instagram.com/kellitmoore/
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In today’s episode, Alisha lets us in on her book launch soiree speech all about setting aside toxic, limiting beliefs and choosing yourself.
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In today’s episode, Alisha is spending time talking to us about what's on her mind lately and book launch party planning.
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In today’s episode, Alisha is having a conversation with business coach and author, John Saunders on the benefits of immersing yourself in something to find your unique value proposition, including writing books as a leveraging tool for marketing, speaking engagements, and workshops.
Check out more from John Here: https://www.johncsaunders.com/
on Instagram Here: https://www.instagram.com/jcs_optimizer/
Join the Party by registering for the June 30th (in person) book launch soiree here: https://www.yokeandabundance.com/one-time-mentorship-session/wise-women-panel-international-womens-day-jypmb
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In today’s episode, Alisha is having a conversation with marketing MavenAmanda McKinney about letting go of comparison, releasing the shoulds, and finding the balance between intuition and research in marketing.
Check out more from Amanda Here: https://www.amandamckinney.com/
on Instagram Here: https://www.instagram.com/theamandamckinney/
Join the Party by registering for the June 30th (in person) book launch soiree here: https://www.yokeandabundance.com/one-time-mentorship-session/wise-women-panel-international-womens-day-jypmb
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In today’s episode, Alisha has a conversation with artist Krista Coons about creativity, ritual, the uncomfortable place of being a beginner and so much more!
Check out more from Krista Here: https://www.kristacoons.com/
on Instagram Here: https://www.instagram.com/hername_ismud/
Join the Party by registering for the June 30th (in person) book launch soiree here: https://www.yokeandabundance.com/one-time-mentorship-session/wise-women-panel-international-womens-day-jypmb
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In today’s episode, Alisha talks with Mark Graban about his podcast my favorite mistake, how learning should be happening in all directions, as well as practicing lean.
Check out more from Mark Here: http://markgraban.com/
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In today’s episode, Alisha talks with Cynthia Owyoung about her recently published book All Are Welcome.
Check out more from Cynthia Here: https://www.cynthiaowyoung.com/
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In today’s episode, Alisha talks with Liz Kohler Brown about having a creative crisis, teaching online, tiny house living, and so much more!
Download Liz’s Creative Goals Workbook Here: https://www.lizkohlerbrown.com/free-creative-goals-workbook/
Check out more from Liz Here: https://www.lizkohlerbrown.com/
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In today’s episode, Alisha is talking with Azalea Yow Edwards owner of Emerge Skin and Soul about her journey of courage, faith, sharing her voice, and being led by spirit.
Check out more from Azalea here: https://emergeskinandsoul.com/
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In today’s episode, Alisha is talking with Jeanetta Gonzales about cultivating a creative life and a creative career. We cover Jeanetta’s journey as well as how creativity helps us heal and process grief.
Check out more from Jeanetta here: jeanettagonzales.com
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In today’s episode, Alisha is talking with Dr. Aaron LeBauer about entrepreneurship and chasing dreams.
Check out more from Aaron Here: https://aaronlebauer.com/?fbclid=IwAR1A1YyfajGlP23yzE6n9dPYtMdndGDXNGDNLyOmgL6obvalUJ-vVpAPeHI
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In today’s episode, Alisha is talking with Lorca Smetana about resilience and compassion.
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In today’s episode, Alisha is talking with Layla Khoury-Hanold about how food connects us, memoir writing, and what her energy aligning clarity session with Alisha was like.
Check out more of Layla’s work here: https://www.wordswithlayla.com/
Curious about the Energy Aligning Clarity Session Layla had with me? Check it out here: https://www.yokeandabundance.com/one-time-mentorship-session/energy-aligning-clarity-experince
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In today’s episode, Alisha is talking with Rachel McKee about her card deck Messages From Her, Rachel’s Creative Process, and what it was like to bring such a massive project to life!
Grab Rachel’s Deck on Kickstarter Here: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/rachaelmckee/messages-from-her
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In today’s episode, Alisha is talking with Katie Joy Duke about her upcoming book Still Breathing: My Journey with Love, Loss, and Reinvention.
Check-Out Katie’s Website: https://www.katiejoyduke.com/
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Have you ever lost yourself on the road to achievement? In this episode Alisha is talking to Kelly Brock about building a whole human business, and what it takes to meet the moment of courage.
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In this episode, Alisha shares how the last 11th months weren’t really about writing a book. They were about healing.
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Do you get nervous about investing in yourself or following your spiritual inklings? Today on the podcast Alisha is talking to author, and coach Kate Darnell about making investments in ourselves, following our spiritual inklings or collaboration and stepping into the fullness of ourselves.
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Ever wonder if you’re holding yourself back? Today on the podcast Alisha is talking about why New Year New You is Bullshit and giving you a book review of the book The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. She’s covering the 4 hidden barriers that are holding you back and what to do about it.
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Have you ever heard of language justice? Tune in to today’s podcast to hear Alisha’s conversation with author Kyra Ann Dawkins. We are talking about language justice, her book The We and The They and what it’s like to be an author.
Check out more of Kyra Ann’s Work Here
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In this episode, Alisha is sharing where she is in the pre-sale campaign for her debut book Little Failures, and how much left to raise in the next 7 days, and why overnight success is always a myth!
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In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Signe Myers Hovem about her new book “The Space In Between: An empath’s field guide.”
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In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Rebecca Garner about her up coming book “Why Won’t My Boobs Grow… and other annoyances”, and what it’s like to be a first time author.
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In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Kaira Jewel Lingo about her recently published book “We were made for these times”.
Buy Kaira’s Book “We were made for these times”
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In this episode, Alisha is reading you her all time favorite children’s book “Miss Rumphius” by Barbara Cooney.
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In this episode, Alisha is sharing an update on her upcoming birthday and what it’s like being an entrepreneur with seasonal affective disorder.
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n this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Liz Summers about Leadership, Entrepreneurship, and participating in RAW
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In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Agnes Bilik Host of the Raw and Real Podcast. They cover entrepreneurship, failure, and podcasting.
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Episode 146 Notes: In this episode, Alisha is sharing a one on one episode about what she’s learning on the book writing journey and why it’s important to you! She is covering 3 things she's learned writing the first draft of her first book and why it's important to celebrate.
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Episode 145 Notes: In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Tracy Martin about her recently published book “As Good as Gold” a 12-Step to Self-Love, Honor & Respect.
Learn More About Tracy Here: https://www.soulsetinmotion.com/
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She's currently offering a special for my community on her #1 Media Marketing Course, the Media Visibility Accelerator. A 6 module course for purpose-driven entrepreneurs who want to scale their businesses to $25k+ per month and scale their message into a global movement.
Episode 144 Notes: In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Bella Mahaya Carter about her recently released book “Where do you hang your hammock: finding peace of mind while you write, publish, and promote your book”.
Learn More About Bella’s Work Here: https://www.bellamahayacarter.com/
Our Sponsor: Abbey Gibb and The MVA! Calling all purpose-driven female entrepreneurs with stories to share with this world. Meet my friend Abbey Gibb, who also happens to be an Emmy award-winning journalist turned business and media mentor.
She’s helped women like you build million-dollar businesses around your personal story, become best-selling authors, and land TED talks in months.
She's currently offering a special for my community on her #1 Media Marketing Course, the Media Visibility Accelerator. A 6 module course for purpose-driven entrepreneurs who want to scale their businesses to $25k+ per month and scale their message into a global movement.
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Episode 143 Notes: In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Jane Houng about creativity, turning pain into hope for others, and the non-profit she started in her daughter’s name Becky’s Bathhouse.
Learn More About Becky’s Bathhouse: https://beckysbathhouse.org/
Our Sponsor: Abbey Gibb and The MVA! Calling all purpose-driven female entrepreneurs with stories to share with this world. Meet my friend Abbey Gibb, who also happens to be an Emmy award-winning journalist turned business and media mentor.
She’s helped women like you build million-dollar businesses around your personal story, become best-selling authors, and land TED talks in months.
She's currently offering a special for my community on her #1 Media Marketing Course, the Media Visibility Accelerator. A 6 module course for purpose-driven entrepreneurs who want to scale their businesses to $25k+ per month and scale their message into a global movement.
This is the program your soul craves and your bank account deserves. CTA: MVAPricing options: Pay in full discount of $1497 ($5,000) or 6 monthly payments of $497
Episode 142 Notes: In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Dr. Eric Koester Founder of the Book Creator Program. Dr. Koester is an Entrepreneur, professor, and Author and in this episode, we talk about the importance of having meaningful projects and becoming indistractable.
Apply to enroll in The Book Creators Program here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeTVWZ4UUdPQWyx3Wpje43wC1nvAleZTKV9S3e6iUtc2Pabeg/viewform
Our Sponsor: Abbey Gibb and The MVA! Calling all purpose-driven female entrepreneurs with stories to share with this world. Meet my friend Abbey Gibb, who also happens to be an Emmy award-winning journalist turned business and media mentor.
She’s helped women like you build million-dollar businesses around your personal story, become best-selling authors, and land TED talks in months.
She's currently offering a special for my community on her #1 Media Marketing Course, the Media Visibility Accelerator. A 6 module course for purpose-driven entrepreneurs who want to scale their businesses to $25k+ per month and scale their message into a global movement.
This is the program your soul craves and your bank account deserves. CTA: MVAPricing options: Pay in full discount of $1497 ($5,000) or 6 monthly payments of $497
Episode 141 Notes: In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with author Heather Demetrios about her recently released book “Code Name Badass”, how we too often connect our self-worth to our work, and how a mindfulness practice can help.
Check out more of Heather’s Work Here: https://heatherdemetrios.com/
Our Sponsor: Abbey Gibb and The MVA! Calling all purpose-driven female entrepreneurs with stories to share with this world. Meet my friend Abbey Gibb, who also happens to be an Emmy award-winning journalist turned business and media mentor.
She’s helped women like you build million-dollar businesses around your personal story, become best-selling authors, and land TED talks in months.
She's currently offering a special for my community on her #1 Media Marketing Course, the Media Visibility Accelerator. A 6 module course for purpose-driven entrepreneurs who want to scale their businesses to $25k+ per month and scale their message into a global movement.
This is the program your soul craves and your bank account deserves. CTA: MVAPricing options: Pay in full discount of $1497 ($5,000) or 6 monthly payments of $497
Episode 140 Notes: In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Bevelyn Afor Ukah about internalized perfectionism, her relationship to art, and building a tiny house.
Check out more of Bevelyn’s work here https://www.afioak.com/
Our Sponsor: Abbey Gibb and The MVA! Calling all purpose-driven female entrepreneurs with stories to share with this world. Meet my friend Abbey Gibb, who also happens to be an Emmy award-winning journalist turned business and media mentor.
She’s helped women like you build million-dollar businesses around your personal story, become best-selling authors, and land TED talks in months.
She's currently offering a special for my community on her #1 Media Marketing Course, the Media Visibility Accelerator. A 6 module course for purpose-driven entrepreneurs who want to scale their businesses to $25k+ per month and scale their message into a global movement.
This is the program your soul craves and your bank account deserves. CTA: MVAPricing options: Pay in full discount of $1497 ($5,000) or 6 monthly payments of $497
Check out more of Bevelyn’s work here https://www.afioak.com/
Episode 139 Notes: In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Dr. Judy Rabinor about her book “The Girl in The Red Boots: Making Peace with our mothers” and ultimately making peace with ourselves.
Join the book club with guest author Judy Rabinor on Tuesday, August 17th at 7:00pm ET Register for this free event here: https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZ0oceuurTstEtQ1_C5O2oiD7Nn-hVGBBazj
Our Sponsor: Abbey Gibb and The MVA! Calling all purpose-driven female entrepreneurs with stories to share with this world. Meet my friend Abbey Gibb, who also happens to be an Emmy award-winning journalist turned business and media mentor.
She’s helped women like you build million-dollar businesses around your personal story, become best-selling authors, and land TED talks in months.
She's currently offering a special for my community on her #1 Media Marketing Course, the Media Visibility Accelerator. A 6 module course for purpose-driven entrepreneurs who want to scale their businesses to $25k+ per month and scale their message into a global movement.
This is the program your soul craves and your bank account deserves. CTA: MVAPricing options: Pay in full discount of $1497 ($5,000) or 6 monthly payments of $497
Episode 138 Notes: In this episode, Alisha is sharing a solo episode about her epiphany on how she has been dedicated to not feeling good. If you’re addicted to not feeling good too Alisha has some tips on what to do to change that.
Our Sponsor: Abbey Gibb and The MVA! Calling all purpose-driven female entrepreneurs with stories to share with this world. Meet my friend Abbey Gibb, who also happens to be an Emmy award-winning journalist turned business and media mentor.
She’s helped women like you build million-dollar businesses around your personal story, become best-selling authors, and land TED talks in months.
She's currently offering a special for my community on her #1 Media Marketing Course, the Media Visibility Accelerator. A 6 module course for purpose-driven entrepreneurs who want to scale their businesses to $25k+ per month and scale their message into a global movement.
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Episode 137 Notes: In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Christina Glickman master community builder and Author of Xtra, The Art of Being.
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137 Show NOTES:
Christina Glickman
A mother of 4, making sure my humans are alive safe, and healthy
An author, community creator, Tedx, Beauty Counter
We are many things, there are many ands and I get to try a lot of them on.
The biggest joy is watching someone uncover who they are and watching them uncover it.
It’s vulnerable to put yourself out there.
There is no shortcut, we show up we do the work, we fail and we keep going.
The more we can share our stories the better.
Extra, the art of being.
Show up and do a little bit more
Whatever I’m doing, put full heart and soul into it. The idea that how you present yourself in the world is so much of who you are.
Oprah meets Gucci
Extra is about showing up in the world and give a little more
Extra is doing one thing today that is hanging over me so that I can get it done. Like scheduling the mammograms that I don’t want to do. What can I do to get my space feeling better?
The grind and hustle is one I don’t want to prescribe to.
How do I honor my relationship with myself more?
Sometime extra is exploring doing the class I’m interested in.
I don’t want to turn around in 10 years and be exactly where I am.
Feel a mindset of getting the best out of life that I can get.
What give you joy? That’s your success metrics
Extra is not being the loudest in the room.
When you are able to show up as yourself that is part of how you serve.
If we don’t allow ourselves to shine brightly we don’t give others the permission to shine brightly.
When we step into our full power, it give others permission but it allows us to serve others.
Sharing your own journey so that you can see the messy complicated steps.
If you know me you know my intention
It takes a lot of practice to show up as yourself.
If we are putting ourselves out there in the world, we could be perfect and we are still going to encounter people seeing us as they are not as we are.
We have to assume good intentions for others.
I’ve decided to stay in my lane
I’m never going to hand you three steps to greatness because it’s how you want to show up in the world.
If we look to the past, women are the backbone of our society and they are the same collective group that will save us.
The process of TEDx is who you get to become in the process.
Why is confidence important? If you don’t feel worthy enough to show up in the world as yourself you’ll never get to achieve anything.
We come into this world with a full cup.
We are given identities and badges that shape who we are and the world that chips away at it.
There is no shame in the lack of confidence that we have, but once we become clear as to why we aren’t confident in our own skin, then we can work on it.
Ultimately in relationships and parenting if you’re not confident enough you can’t show up confidently in the world as you are.
It’s about showing up confidently. It is the catalyst to so much.
Christina was doing her book for her.
Evolve and repeat
Your story matters
Strong loving women who want a container to be held.
Life is so hard. It only occurred to me 6-9 months ago that I wasn’t supposed to do this alone.
We need each other, a coach, a mentor a group. Find your whatever!
A place to dip in and out. We all move through things.
Go for it, figure it out. There is space for everybody.
There is no original ideas
If it’s painful you’re doing it right. You need the nudge and the help.
Anyone who doesn’t think it’s that hard for anyone might be wrong
If we don’t feel the pain in the process, we don’t get to see the bloom.
I hold a container of love @ChristinaGlickman
I’m worthy of abundance in relationship, in parenting, finances, my job.
I’m worthy of it just because I’m here.
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Episode 136 Notes: In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Katie Marshall on creating as we speak, how perfection doesn’t attract us the way we think it does, and how the end goal is always doing something that will be helpful to others.
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136 Show NOTES:
Katie Marshall
Learn More about Katie HERE consulting.com
There’s been a lot of life between podcasts
Have to have coaches
If you’re helping without getting helped you’re pouring out too much
I hired Katie to help me nail down my 5 words.
Katie helped me take an idea and hone into what I was trying to say.
Katie is a word alchemist
It’s important to hire coaches
Katie’s first company was creative machine consulting
Abra Cadabra translated is “we create as we speak”
Katie’s rebrand is Communication X
Katie works with people in online presentations, facilitating online and interview coaching
Katie was helping them with their interviews
Katie was helping women interview.
Failure is the captain of the team of presentations
It’s not really interesting to me if you can do a presentation perfectly.
Perfection doesn’t attract us the way we think it does.
If we let failure come in who cares, hold it lightly.
If let myself mess up everything is going to work out.
The end goal is how can I do something that will be helpful to others.
Katie’s tea ceremony with failure.
Awareness is the first step. Acceptance is the first step
Imagine yourself completely failing
Meet failure like a friend
A lot of the things that make us bad speakers is just our fight or flight system.
The fear of public presentation is the fear of losing everything that’s important to me.
Can I use something from the stories you share.
Your public speaking fear peaks in the first 90 seconds
All the stuff that makes us bad isn’t real it’s just your body trying to help you.
Nancy Duart
Your public speaking isn’t about you, it’s about “how can you be helpful”
Everything comes back to transending the ego
In public speaking, you have to meet all of the parts of yourself.
You have to meet yourself at your most anxious, mentally emotionally.
Sometimes you hit a wrong note and you don’t even know.
A question that a lot of us could ask: Who am I performing for?
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Episode 135: In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Artist, Creative, and Author Kara Elizabeth Lewis, talking about empathy, throwing perfect out the window and letting light replace the darkness.
Episode 135 Notes: A conversation with Wedding and Branding Photographer Lindley Battle
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135 Show NOTES:
Kara Lewis:
A creative powerhouse
Entrepreneur
Artist
Teacher
Author
Creating in studio
Creating personal work and personal work
Book: Assentation
This book was a happy accident
As a teacher was starting to feel really heavy about what was happening in the classroom. Was watching disconnection and out-of-control bullying. Not understanding facial expressions, body language, and communication.
Schools would have conversations about being kind and helping neighbors but didn’t see it happening between students.
Kara came across a study that said that children today are 30% less empathetic than we were 20 years ago.
Another study said that parents today think that responsibility and hard work are more important than empathy.
If parents aren’t making it a priority in the home and schools aren’t making it a priority in the school, then the art room is a beautiful place to teach it.
Art is about grace and a place to let go of perfection and offer ourselves grace. How beautiful would it be if a bit of a moral compass could be woven into the curriculum? So it becomes more about the process than the product.
Kara started testing teaching breathing and mindfulness at the beginning of classes. Then making the class about kindness, compassion, peace. The children started asking her, begging her for me.
Sees self as a messenger pointing to the light so that everyone can find it.
Trusting that there is a plan.
Then Kara re-wrote the curriculum for adults.
Light is what nourishes and restores
When you don’t create every day it can be overwhelming to begin to try to create
Throw perfect out the window. We are not interested in perfection.
Creation should happen in layers. Continue to layer and refine, layer and refine. Walk away and come back with fresh eyes.
The more that you talk about your pain, the lighter you’ll feel. The more I pushed it out of my body the lighter I felt. Light was replacing the heaviness. The darkness.
Light is information and darkness is the lack of.
Light is the information that becomes love and it comes back to us.
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Episode 134: In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with sought-after wedding and brand photographer Lindley Battle about the importance of authenticity, and connecting to your WHY in business.
Episode 134 Notes: A conversation with Wedding and Branding Photographer Lindley Battle
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NOTES:
Sought after photographer up and down the east coast
Our businesses have grown alongside each other
Growing businesses and what’s helped us get to where we are in our businesses
People who want to be in business will sit down and expect others to be as invested in them as they are.
Pursues aggressive growth in business.
Marketing: Understanding what I have to bring to the table and need to market it correctly
Marketing to a bride who wouldn’t micro-manage.
The 2020 pivot
Took 2020 to refine everything.
Having to step back and think about what you’re doing and why you’re doing it.
Purpose was so refined and so emphasized.
I get the eye roll when I say we have to start with the “Why” You have to tell me what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. You have to dig into the why and be connected to it and if you don’t your customer doesn’t know.
Being an entrepreneur is tough. If you aren’t connected to what you’re doing and why you’re doing it there’s no point.
If money were no object I’d still be doing what I was doing on steroids
The queen of authenticity in knowing what you’re gonna do and what you’re not gonna do.
Selective about clients because you want someone who is as excited about their photos and visions for the photos as the photographer is.
You get to get excited about what you do in brand photos.
Find the beating heart of your business and photograph that.
Intentionally elevated authenticity
Wish that I had known to slow down a little and push more intentionally. Don’t do what other people are doing, stay in your own lane and listen to your intuition and you’ll end up on top.
We are all trucking along
Whatever you’re doing has to be connected to your personal and professional Why
Don’t be afraid to take risks and do things unconventionally
You will only succeed by being really true to you.
Being really unapologetic
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Episode 133: In this episode, Alisha is sharing her conversation with Rebekah Modrak and Jamie Vander Broek on their book Radical Humility: Essays on Ordinary Acts.
Episode 133 Notes: Radical Humility
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NOTES:
Radical Humility: https://www.scuppernongbooks.com/book/9781948742962
After visiting rural Iowa Rebekah was struck by how people were not leading with how important they are.
There was a culture of humility she didn’t have in her work.
Jamie was learning what it meant to work with art professionals and was a brand-new parent. When Jamie signed up her daughter for daycare the daycare wanted to know what her daughter's (a 3 months old) preferences were.
Jamie was concerned with a culture that was socializing people to care so much about individual preferences and didn’t teach from an early age about community.
Humility can help you be a better friend.
We can shift our mindset to be a better friend and centers others
You before me.
It’s so important to decenter yourself and become aware of other people’s pull
Attributes that help to center others would be: being raised in an environment where we feel loved.
There are times there are things we are powerless to change and that’s important in developing a sense of humility. When you realize that there are things that are bigger then, you can accept and move on instead of fighting the problem the whole way.
Humility is Servant leadership
Libraries are about sharing
In the Library you, any you have as much right to that institution as any other human. There is no transaction necessary.
Guides for humility.
Humility and humiliation, not all communities are perceived the same, so humility looks different in different communities
You go in and out of a state of humility.
Think about humility, but don’t make it the next juice cleanse.
Seek to take up the space that we are owed as humans. Some of us need to take up more space and some of us need to take up less space.
There are times when we need to let someone else take up the spotlight.
It’s ok to be ordinary and strive for ordinary. We are one of many.
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Episode 132: In this episode, Alisha is taking you down her journey on the topic of Failure as a Sacred Rite. Hear how many TEDx Conferences Alisha has applied to this far, find out what Alisha has learned so far from interviewing 18 of 50 people on the topic of failure and what she hopes you’ll take away from all of this.
Episode 132 Notes: Failure is a Sacred Rite
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Episode 132 Transcript:
Last month at the very beginning of April, I was talking with my RAW group (the morning group where we all log onto zoom, pull an oracle card, I give a writing prompt we all go on mute for a little while and then come back to talk through what came up for each of us, this is a powerful impactful community that walks with women through there own personal journeys and believe me this group is so special, you don’t want to miss it. There will be a link to it in today’s show notes) on this particular day someone said something along the lines of Failure, it’s not really failure if you learned something and I said hold up that’s wrong. I don’t agree with that. Failure is failure and it’s not bad or good. I think it’s imperative that we own our failures. Well this triggered a lot of feels and discission for everyone. We ended up talking about it almost all week.
This topic seemed to spark something in everyone. Everyone in RAW had an opinion about failure.
I encountered this once before, when I closed the yoga studio I wrote a blog post that I had failed to meet my original goal when I opened the yoga studio and I considered that failure. No one wanted to let me call it a failure.
But Webster Defines failure as not meeting an intended goal. That’s it, neither positive nor negative. Failure is neutral.
What I found in talking about failure with RAW is that many people associate failing with being a failure. That is an easy rabbit hole to allow yourself to fall down, but the truth is that failure is an integral step in the learning and growth process.
The same week that we were talking about RAW I had a workshop with Abbey Gibb (who also happens to be the sponsor of today’s show) on how to lad a TEDx Talk, abbey talk with us about how we have to be able to tell our story in five words. I knew instantly that my topic had to be around failure because everyone has a feeling and opinion about the topic.
I landed on my five words which are “Failure is a Sacred Rite”. And I’ll say more about that in a little while.
I’m on this journey of trying to land a TEDx talk and have a goal of applying to at least 20 TEDx conferences and I’ve now applied to 15 conferences and have already been told by one of them that i was not picked.
During this time a friend of mine also told me that she was applying for a book writing program that helps first time authors not only complete their book in 1 year but also get their book published.
I had an interview with the program creator, got in and he told me to start reading books, listening to podcasts, and talking to people about failure. I challenged myself to interview 50 people on failure for the book. As of last week, I had interviewed 18 people on the topic of failure. Today I wanted to share with you about what I’ve been learning.
I want to write this book on failure and I want to give this talk around failure because Chances unless you’re not human, you’ve had experience with failure of some kind. If I asked a room full of people if they have ever failed, every hand would have to go up. Everyone has experienced a failure of some sort because it's an integral part of growth and learning. But here’s the thing, Fear of failure keeps us from going after our dreams, Fear of failure keeps us from starting that business we’ve been dreaming of, or asking out the person we’ve been crushing on. I’m doing this research, trying for this TEDx talk and writing this book because I want all of us to learn how to move through fear of failure to take risks to get back on the horse when we fall off, to repeatedly go after the things we want until we either don’t want them anymore or until we get them. Failure does lead us to growth, success, and learning. When we view failure as a sacred rite three things happen First we learn to expect failure and plan for it. Second, we learn what to do to process and distill failure into powerful learning and truth when it happens. And third, we learn how to talk to and help others when they encounter failure.
So here is what I’ve been learning so far…
failure is really a spectrum. On one end we have things like learning to walk or ride a bike, or killing the plant we’ve been trying to keep alive
in the middle, we have bigger failures that can be things like …
not being able to get the score we needed on the LSAT to get into LAW school
Not getting into the master’s program we wanted
Not getting the job we worked really hard for
Failing the test or tests
Auditioning for the part we really wanted and not getting it.
Asking someone out and being turned down
The business we opened failing
Getting rejected by publishers
Almost failing out of college or failing out of college.
These more middle spectrum failures like a marriage failing, a relationship failing, getting fired from a job, sometimes they can be foundational failures in that they help us learn more about ourselves, they help us see what we are made of and capable of. These failures are often foundational in that they can change the trajectory of our lives. They often help us uncover our true selves and the core of our beings.
Now on the very far end of the spectrum, we have what I consider catastrophic failures. These catastrophic failures in my opinion are the ones where there is death, loss of life. I’ll share more on them later.
For this episode, I want to focus on the middle spectrum failures, the ones that sting the ones that might have stopped us in our tracks a bit. But first I laid to lay some ground rules for how we talk about failures…
Listen I know first hand how badly it can sting to fail, I’m 38 and never married you can imagine the number of failed relationships I have under my belt, My first business did nothing but lose money for 5 years, I applied for 3 management positions while I worked at the insurance company I spent a decade at and was never what they wanted. I’ve even been fired from a job I cared about. Heck, I’ve now been turned away from at least 6 TEDx conferences over the past 5 years. I know a lot about failure, but what I also know is that even what it might feel like it, we, you and me, humans we can’t be failures. Failure is an event it’s not a person. And when we honor failure as a rite that everyone experiences we can help separate failure from feeling like a failure. When we are willing to own our failures and when appropriate we share them publicly we can help each other embrace failure for what it is, a natural part of the learning process. Neutral, neither good nor bad. Failure is only harmful when we connect it to our selfworth. Failure is not a part of your true self.
Like I’ve mentioned earlier I’ve now interviewed 18 people and I’m ending up talking about it with everyone! And whether you are 8 or 108 I guarantee you have an opinion about failure.
Early on I was interviewing Abigail Dowd who was on the podcast a little while and she said something I thought that was very interesting. She said that all of the things that outwardly looked like successes were really failures because she wasn’t listening to her own intuition. She said when she quit the art schools she had built from the ground up, when she stepped down from city council and ran away to Italy, outwardly it looked like she was failing, but inwardly she was succeeding because it was the first time she had listened to her own inner voice, her true self.
Abigail and I also talked about how when she was processing her failures she felt like she “had to go retrieve the parts of herself that she had left behind and kill off the parts of herself that weren’t hers”.
All of us have a process of working through a failure whether we know it consciously or not.
I’m learning through all of these interviews that those who are able to distill the most learning, and growth from failure are those that do a few things and maybe not in this order but these are what need to happen.
First: you feel the feelings, you allow yourself to wallow and grieve whatever took place
Second: Own what happened and your part in it. Maybe this means even apologizing to someone, including yourself. You may need to forgive yourself.
Third: Process, really think through what happened, why it happened and what we could do in the future to have a different outcome. Some people even like to do a SWOT analysis on what happened.
Fourth: Surround yourself with community and specifically the right community that you can talk to about what happened who will help you own, and process what happened in a healthy and supportive way. Because community helps dissolve the place where you feel like a failure. The right community is alchemy they help you transmute the failure into learning.
Fith: We have to get back on the horse and take recovering actions. We have to essentially try, try again.
Failure is the stripping away of the unnecessary to get to the core to get to the heart of who we are, what we love, what we want and are willing to work for. I think repeated failures help us align with our values and figure out what we most want and desire. Failure is feedback. Internalizing failure will keep us out of action. If you can take your ego out of the failure process it really helps us turn failure into fuel.
I want to leave you with a question tonight. What haven’t you tried because you are afraid of failing? Or where have you tried failed once or twice and given up? Do you still want that thing? Can you get back up on the horse?
Because what I know to be true is something my friend Vicotria brownlee said in her failure interview, she said “Successful people have a common experience of failure” Where are you willing to fail? Where are you willing to try, because if we aren’t willing to try, we will probably have to deal of the pain of regret. If you go practice failure and have an experience you want to tell me about shoot me an email.
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Episode 131: In this episode, Alisha is talking with research psychologist, and certified sex educator Joli Hamilton about jealously, monogamy, and relationships .
Episode 131 Notes:
Mother with kids 13-21, They keep her busy
Homeschooling mom before it was the thing everyone had to do.
Researches monogamy and non-monogamous relationships to Actively create the love relationships we want.
Most people didn’t grow up in conscious households.
Actively create the love relationships we want.
Learning how to learn from the ground up. You don’t magically wake up and know how to love.
Project Relationship book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08KVMV8WT
Loving is straightforward, but love is not. I could use the entrepreneur skills, being to take risks, being willing to innovate.
When are difficult conversations becoming impossible conversations
Instructions for impossible Conversations: Get clear on what you want and then craft the first two sentences of the conversation. Set aside 30-90 minutes
Usually, there is a moment when folks have to have a reckoning with themselves. We often think that someone else has to change what they are doing for me to feel a certain way.
Where is the boundary?
Sort out what’s on your side and what’s on my side.
Research in Jealously
Interest in jealously came from sorting out own feelings.
Jealously is archetypal it is part of the human experience
Jealously is fear of interruption of the love bond.
Jealously brings up sadness, grief and fear.
We treat jealously that it’s proof that we’re loved.
Jealously and envy are slightly different
Jealously is a wonderful indicator of what we care about
You have to figure out how to get your needs met
Put your selfcare plan into action
Nourish yourself by reminding yourself that jealously serves a purpose.
Jealously has an opposite emotion. It’s called compersion: To feel joy for another person’s joy.
Open relationships: A broad term that encompasses consensual non-monogamy when people decide with full clarity to have multiple loving partners and that doesn’t necessarily mean sex.
Consensual non-monogamy is far more about communication, coordination, sharing calendars.
Be clear on your reasons and your definitions
Some people find working with jealously as a part of the spiritual practice
Individuation accelerator: individuation is the process you go through as you change and develop, How I make meaning is how I make soul. Relationships are the individuation accelerator.
Your relationship can be the container that you are actively doing your individuation work.
Relationships cause pain, but that’s not a bad thing. It’s what is. When we imagine that relationships should always be neat we invite disappointment.
How do we know where we begin and end if we don’t have relationships with others.
How do I make meaning out of my trauma?
Have the conversations that weren’t had at the beginning.
Abundance was walking with them where ever their journey led.
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Episode 130: In this episode, Alisha is talking with world-class ultra runner Hillary Allen about her recovery from a 150 foot fall off a mountain ridge, her memoir and recovery story Out and Back and how she rediscovered who she was after the fall.
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Episode 130 Notes:
View challenges as opportunities
Documented recovery story in a way that allowed her to grow and heal
From the accident, I’m a new person, I learned so much because I took the uncomfortable feelings and roll around in them.
Everyone has struggles, everyone has hardships
The most unifying experience that everyone has in common, is struggle, everyone has something.
Empathy is impossible because we can’t experience what someone else is experiencing but we all have empathy.
Fell 150 feet off of a cliff broke 14 bones
Any time you didn’t know the right way forward
Human struggle can take so many different forms, I wanted to take this book as an example of human resilience
Dependency and nakedness
Vulnerability of asking for help, completely dependent
“I’m an independent person, and Sports and running was a way for me to express my independence”
Emotional rawness when you have to ask for help
Nakedness and having to have someone else help you on the shower is one type of vulnerability, but then you have to keep asking for help and you are completely dependent. Previously Hillary associated asking for help as weakness and this shook her because she had to re-evaluate this.
This accident stripped Hillary of who she thought she was
The question of who am I?
I told myself that I needed to be honest with my recovery, first, be honest with myself and then honesty with my community.
That honesty looked like writing.
The more honest I was with myself, the more honest I could be with others.
Integrity, you’re doing this no matter who is watching
Your community grows when you ask for help
Maybe I was giving a gift too in asking for help
Not being able to accept help was coming from me.
I love the sunrise, but I can’t get there without the darkness. What’s light for me might be darkness for someone else.
Just because something is familiar doesn’t mean it’s not dangerous.
Risk, there is inate risk that is there
I have the power to walk away, the mountains will be there tomorrow.
How do you know if you have a gut knowing, a true fear, or an irrational fear?
Learning to quiet the irrational fears
Mindset work.
Believe that your best athletic days are ahead of you. Or believe that your best days are ahead of you.
This is far more than a story of recovery, it’s a call to action.
I spent so much time as an athlete being critical of my body.
Being honest about my struggles of an eating disorder in college and running helping me heal my eating disorder and then being confronted with this.
There is a way to acknowledged the ugly feelings and then challenge them, the idea that we have to fit a certain mold to fit the mold of what others have defined as beautiful.
Being strong and healthy and having nourished herself is why Hillary made it through the accident.
It’s a time that will always define me and leave its mark, and challenge me
View Challenges as an invitation to think beyond the boundaries that we hold for ourselves.
I was stronger than I thought I was, and strength isn’t what I thought it was.
Strength in vulnerability.
Photo Credit for Hillary’s Headshot Blair Speed
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Episode 129: In this episode, Alisha is talking with Christie Soper and Tina Firesheets about their upcoming Project PAVE NC.
Notes on Episode 129 with Tina Fire Sheets and Christie Soper
Pan Asian Voices and Experiences in NC: PAVE NC
Tina Firesheets has moved to Pace Communications
Christie Soper closed down Suncierge, took a Soulbatical, and regrouped, and is back with a new project.
Christie was soul searching in Hawaii.
There was violence happening around Asian Americans in the US because of covid.
Christie and Tina Share a similar background of growing up Asian American in the south.
Wanted to embark on this project because it felt like an important time to share these stories.
Tina had always tried to intentionally make herself visible because she knew that their were not a lot of people like her and felt like it was important to be visible.
The first month of May is Asian American pacific Islander month.
Christie and Tina wanted to counter balance the violence and hate coming at the Asian American Community.
Christie and Tina wanted to share the real stories of Asian Americans living their lives day to day through their own lens.
Asian Community is more than restaurants, and nail salons
A breadth of voices
So much connection is happening as people are meeting each other.
Seeing so much intersection bringing lots of fascinating people together
Interviews launch May 1st
You can Find the interviews starting May 1st at the website https://pavenc.org (The website won’t go live until May 1st so stay tuned)
@PaveNC You can Reach Tina and Christie here.
outreach@pavenc.org
There are other aspects of this project that Tina and Christie are envisioning like a database of Asian American-owned businesses, and to identify organizations that offer support services to the Asian American Community, these things will be coming eventually.
Volunteers are welcome too.
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Episode 128: In this episode, Alisha is talking with best-selling author Christopher McDougall about his book “Running with Sherman”, the effects of intense exercise on our mental health, and how other people matter.
Notes on Episode 128 with Christopher McDougall
Chris McDougall author of “Born to Run” and “Running with Sherman”
Got an idea of getting a donkey
Rescued this Donkey from a hoarder named Sherman
The hoarder didn’t want to let the donkey go.
Tell the story from your beginning
You’ll learn a little about the Amish and Mennonite communities by reading Running with Sherman
Admit that you can run to run purely for fun
Running and mental health
Learning to ask for favors
Adapting to what comes your way
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Episode 127: In this episode, Alisha is talking with best-selling author and co-founder of Omega Institute Elizabeth Lesser about how wisdom comes from within us, feminism, softening the ego, and learning to be enough on our own.
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Notes: Elizabeth Has written 4 books and is Co-Founder of the Omega Institute
You can Purchase her latest book “Cassandra Speaks: When Women Are the Storytellers, the Human Story Changes” Here
You can support Omega Institute here: https://www.eomega.org/givetoday/step-one
Elizabeth has a Great Bullshit Detector
Just because someone is a great teacher doesn’t mean they were a model citizen
When you take the teacher off the pedestal, you start expecting yourself to because the teacher.
Study with people who don’t need you to follow them and want you to follow yourself and the part of yourself that’s a good leader.
Kumare: Check out the Kumare Movie we were talking about here: https://kumaremovie.com/
All Wisdom is made up
You can live from any story you want, it’s always a choice
Many of our stories come from men
Take the story of Adam and Eve for example. Eve is the only person in the bible who went through the hero’s journey and was punished for it. All she did was get curious and hope for wisdom
We all have to die to become wise, that is the hero’s journey. We have to individuate for wisdom.
Feminism is important as long as there is work to do.
A lot of men are so evolved compared to where we’ve been.
Softening the ego is so important
In meditation, there is a softening into the emptiness
The old stories have hurt men as much as women
What stories are our scares about?
Was still carrying an idea that without him, I was not a valid human being. I needed to let go of that idea that we are Eve. I had to finally be enough on my own.
ADD, Authenticity Deficit Disorder: There is a game of just hiding out from each other and we don’t present our true humanness to each other.
Sometimes we veil ourselves because we don’t want to show others how strong we are.
We don’t have to throw appropriateness out the window when we are dealing with perennial mysteries.
How liberal are we if we can’t listen to each other?
We can disagree vehemently with each other, but we have to listen to each other
Diversity of opinion and politics will never go away, and we need each other and diversity of opinion to bounce ideas off of.
It’s very important for us to humanize the person with a different opinion
Men speak much more then men statistically speaking.
There is a commonly held belief that women speak so much more then men and men are the strong and silent type.
Women have been told through the ages, don’t talk a lot, don’t take up too much space.
A life of abundance is a life of love.
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Episode 126: In this episode, Alisha is talking to Rina Sukhadia who’s sharing what we hope will be the beginning of a Yoke and Abundance mini-series. Rina is sharing about her life before and after a personal tragedy, and we are talking about dancing, soul fasting, and the journey of a meaningful life.
Details:
Watch Rina Perform a special dance for her brother’s wedding hereRina plans to “always live by the most true part of me which is to leave people better than I found them if at all possible, do the right thing when no one is looking, never say one thing I do not mean”.
We can’t unhear, and we can’t unsee
Family is from India, Lived a little bit of a lot of places, has lived from Toronto, Ohio, Indiana, and NC
Common Ground is Dance.
Brought up with traditional Indian Values
Begged to take Classical Indian Dance
After College began counseling with kids in the court system
Became a property manager and got to blow up balloons and make cookies
Soul Fasting
You know you need soulfasting when you are blowing up balloons and baking cookies and you know that you need to prepare for deeper things.
Rina decided that she wanted to perform a special dance at her brother’s wedding in CA
Rina knew that the only way she was going to be able to perform this special dance for her brother’s wedding is if she soul fasted
Rina had requested to learn this one dance for many many years.
Soul Fasting: Giving up something you know you want, know you love and it’s going to be really hard but it’s going to put your mind into a discipline.
Soulfasting is preparation for a big spiritual event or gratitude for something you already have or could invite in.
Soulfasting is about preparation, deep gratitude and getting ready to be present for what’s coming and calling the new thing into you that’s not there yet.
When you Soulfast, beautiful things happen in your life.
Rina believes she’s been so lucky in life.
Rina and I met because her sister came to a wise woman panel.
Rina’s Dance for her brother’s Wedding: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LmQXzIpmeHE
June 30th of 2019, super sunny, the last day that Rina remembers walking
The night before the accident Rina said “I think something bad is gonna happen to me”.
Rina was run into while she was merging onto the highway.
Her truck kept flipping
When the truck stopped flipping she experienced the most piercing silence, she went to try to kick out the door on the truck and realized she couldn’t move her legs.
Dale is the ultimate passion on Rina’s Face when she performed the dance for her brother’s wedding.
Rina’s parents didn’t really know she was with Dale. Dale was very important to Rina and her parents didn’t really think she should be with Dale.
Dale went from being a complete stranger to the apple of her parent’s eye.
Her whole family was there together with Dale at the hospital
There are things you can’t unsee, or unforge
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Episode 125: In this episode, Alisha is going solo and talking about the importance of breaking the pot when you’re root bound, how making a leap can be like stepping into technicolor after you’ve been living your whole life in black and white, and knowing what seeds you’re planting in your garden.
Details:It’sSpring in NC: I love getting my hands in the soil
I have a jade plant that is about 24 years old and it’s not doing well
My jade plant is losing a ton of leaves.
My jade plant Helen has mealybugs and is dying because she wasn’t in the right environment.
If I want my Jade plant to make it then I need to break the pot she is in.
I worked in corporate America for a decade and I knew then I had outgrown that pot.
If I wanted to save Helen I had to break the pot.
When in corporate America It was like I was in black and white, and when I left my life turned into technicolor.
This weekend my boyfriend and I broke the pot the jade plant is in. Then we pulled the pieces of the pot away.
The Jade plant is totally root bound
We removed as much of the old soil as we could and put as much new soil in as I can.
The new soil, the new pot is fresh soil a new home
I received a call from a former manager and he asked me if I would ever consider working on his desk again.
Once you break the pot you can’t go back
When I work with clients one on one and in a group capacity, for the clients that do the work, they are stepping into technicolor. They are breaking the pot and there’s no going back.
If you stay in the pot there’s no chance that you’ll survive
What pot are you in right now that’s too small?
What change could you make that would make it like stepping from black and white into technicolor.
I thought really hard about what it is that I’m doing here at Yoke and Abundance. I won’t feel complete in this work here at Yoke and Abundance until I know that all of the women I work with at Yoke and Abundance are wise. Until everyone believes that their divine feminine qualities matter and make for good leadership
I won’t be done with this work until women believe that it’s safe to extend your hand to another woman and believe like Robert Ingersoll says “We rise by lifting others”
I won’t be done until you believe that your dreams are worth going after unapologetically.
Playing small doesn’t serve you and it doesn’t serve anyone else either
Those are the seeds that I’m planting in my garden here at Yoke and Abundance
My Garden is full of dreams and the divine feminine.
We are gonna need a bigger pot.
It is so scary to break that damn pot.
What seeds are you planting, what’s important to you?
What seeds do you
You need to be planting?
What pot do you need to break to get after it?
You can join RAW, The Gathering, You can do one-on-one coaching or group coaching.
Think about how beautiful your life can be if you break the pot and go get after it.
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Learn More about Debra at her Website: https://debrasilvermanastrology.com/
Debra Silverman Tell me a Story Workshop: http://debrasilvermanastrology.com/story
Has a company with 50 women, based on astrology and the elements
Debra turns people onto how to have fun even when they’re miserable
Astrologer and psychotherapist
Trained and making money at astrology by the time she was 20
Had an instinctual knowing that she was supposed to be a therapist
Carl Jung was an astrologist and every session he did he had a chart in front of him
Developed a program called Tell Me a Story
Debra acted out all of the signs
Astrologers have to really get to know each sign and not have a preference
The missing element is Debra’s book and it’s all about turning on the observer
We are all quirky
Debra says her goal is to help people get naked with their clothes on
Don’t turn your inner observer on when you are making love
The inner observer is like a muscle you have to practice using
EGO: Evading God’s Oneness
Is crisis the only way for us to learn? What’s the quickest way for us to learn? Crisis
The fastest way to wake up is when we’re in pain
Made a prayer to life many years ago, please just give me the nudge, don’t scream, no frying pans and I’ll listen
Some people wake up with physical pain (Scorpio)
Some people wake up with heartbreak
Some people wake up from financial crisis
Fire wakes up through drama
Everyone needs to know their destiny
Nothing is wrong. We knew that 2020 would be rough, the planet went loopy
There is nothing wrong. We had to stay home
Live a life of gratitude
Be honorable to the elements
We only have so many breaths, we’re done with this movie soon.
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Show Notes:
Episode 123Where The Wise Women series started
Where the name Yoke and Abundance came from
Our feelings are never wrong or bad
When we see something in someone else that rubs us the wrong way people are a mirror
Blowing out someone else’s candle doesn’t make yours brighter
Be a candle that lights a thousand others
Huge Community of Women in RAW
Karen relating to shutting down a business. Went on retreat and worked through feeling by drawing with a drawing teacher
Sharon Larson Watercolor Artist, lives on a farm 110 acres
Anessa owns her own business and is a Leo.
All of the women on this panel Love what they do and are passionate about their work in the world.
What international women’s day means to these women
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By Way of Sorry by Robyn Gigl Pre-Order the book here
Crime thriller
A book that also teaches about the trans community
The main Character Erin is very human
Full Time Lawyer practicing for 40 years
Always wanted to write a novel
Still legally married to wife
By Way of Sorrow is not the first novel Robyn finished
Process: Come home from work, jog, eat dinner and sit down at the computer to write
Loved writing
Gloria Steinem says that the people with the power don’t have an adjective.
The angst of never being totally viewed the way that you view yourself.
Language matters for all of us.
Gender confirmation process
Nothing that happens in the book has ever happened to Robyn
By way of sorrow is set in 2006.
Get to the humanity of all people
By Way of Sorrow was a two-book deal
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Azra Mehdi: A mother, an attorney, jewelry designer. Two kids
Still practicing law but mostly focused on jewelry business. AU exchange fine gold jewelry
Americans have so much freedom when they decide to get an education.
Never wanted to be a dr. that was my parent’s dream
Lawyers were never looked upon favorably in India
In India, you can’t have a passion to do something and just do it.
Mother only had a 3rd grade education
Was encouraged by husband to explore jewelry
I had a desire and passion inside of me that I decided to do something about it.
I did it, I explored my passion.
Designs are timeless
What I’m making is every day’s big thing
Jewelry is timeless and will be passed down
Career as lawyer prepared her to start her own business a lot.
We have a fear that we are doing isn’t good enough
We and society create walls for us. I built a wall for myself and I held me back.
Process of creating: Meditate and an idea will come to me in my minds eye
You should just wear your jewelry and it shouldn’t be something that gets in the way.
Empowered women don’t need help to put their jewelry on.
You have to be able to put things on and then forget about them, or it gets in the way of you becoming the amazing you that you’re destined to be.
Not a bench jewelry, primarily a designer
Education gave me the courage to try some of these things
A giving component to the company
10% of every sale goes to girls education
Learn that you should live your life and you should try it.
Even if I’m naturally gifted at something I can still work on it and I should.
Learn more about the AU Xchange here: https://auxchange.com/
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Coach and Consultant for women in leadership
Helping women define success on their own terms and re-imagine their work, life and impact.
Stepped away from career for daughter
Created a sabbatical style career break
Needed to take time away from work to support daughter but also be in restoration to renew and figure out what to do next.
The more other people saw I was stepping away it created an interest.
Personal innovation strategy: I’m going to change what I’m doing and I’m going to take some time off to do it.
Walking away from career was so scary, but I didn’t have a lot of emotion as I was doing it because I was doing it for the right reasons.
Who am I outside of work? What were the aspects of my work that I wanted to do all the time, but were limited?
Personal innovation strategy had intentions for the rest of the year and learning I wanted to acquire.
The intersection between leadership, life and work.
Leadership and work are part of our life.
Faith and entrepreneurship
Thinking about what I have control of “my locus of control” and doing that, and knowing that there is something bigger happening here. The rest will work itself out in my favor.
Control what you can control. Faith without work. There is always a little bit of work in there. You have to put a little bit of skin in the game.
Just start with where you are, what you have and what you know. Let it build from there.
Leaders hold people able
Supporting leaders to know that they are whole and complete they have everything in themselves they need to be successful
You don’t have to save people. You don’t have to help people. They don’t need saving because they are capable of untangling, they just need someone to walk alongside of them.
Coherence
Alignment is one aspect, awakening is another
Our lives are not just work.
There needs to be coherence between our relationships, our lives and our bodies. We need all of it to be our best selves and be fulfilled.
Uncoupling of external and internal expectations.
You’re not lost, you’re out of alignment with what you want to do with your life, because you’ve been following other people’s path for you.
Activating my own agency
Our lives are not just work. There needs to be coherence
There’s no one way to do it.
Stay open to the possibilities
Contact info:
· Website: www.strategyandgrace.com
· Instagram: strategyandgrace
· Twitter: kennedyjacque
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I am a creativity coach
I believe in mining ourselves, excavation of the self through creativity.
We must call on our creativity to get us through transitions
I preach Core Values and creativity is a core value of mine.
I believe your core values are your compass that will take you home each and every single time, your true north
Creativity is my core value.
When I say creativity I don’t necessarily mean art.
Creativity is how we express ourselves, it is creating something out of nothing
Creativity is many many things
I’m devotional about creativity because creativity is an act of love, an act of pray, it’s how I express myself and how I express my love of myself and my love of others
Creativity needs coxing and wooing
You need to let your creativity know that you are willing to dance and play with it.
March Sacred Maker’s Happy Hour March
When you make space for your creativity you are literally and figuratively showing your creativity that you’ve made space for it.
It never feels like it’s a good time to create
When we give ourselves space and time to create we are affirming for ourselves that we are whole and worthy as we are.
Deliberately made creativity a priority
I make my core values what I built my life for.
Embracing creativity means embracing process
It’s often for me to come up with the idea of what to create
A process of realizing it is going to be difficult but I am going to do it
Don’t give up in the middle
You can’t judge a piece when you’re in the middle of it.
Keep focused on the process, what is the next best step that you can take.
Our creativity is a gift. It’s how we got here
There is no such thing as a perfect life
You have to let your creative self know that you are serious. You are going to devote yourself to process not outcome.
I invest in beautiful notebooks
Your creative tools are important
Creativity can be hard work until you get into the habit of doing it.
Carve out space in your home for your creative
RAW: https://www.yokeandabundance.com/reawakingCultivating Creativity: https://www.yokeandabundance.com/cultivating-creativity
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Today’s Guest: Miranda Mitchell Human Design Specialist
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Keeping self and others aligned energetically and vibrationally
Started doing the messy work.
Learned to tune into intuition, if something was drawing me in, I’d check it out.
There is a lot in the chart
First session is what the type and the strategy
Then goes into the centers: That is where the conditioning about our beliefs is.
Then practice
A peer generator: Has peer and life force and work energy. We have the energy to do work. We are the busy bees. We build the foundation.
Projectors and manifests and reflectors have to wait for energy to align before they move forward.
My strategy is wait to respond. You get an idea and inspiration, Then ask god or the universe “what is this possible for me, who can I work with?” just ask the question and wait for things in your external world to show up.
Your authority is your inner knowing. Mine is sacral. A burst of energy tells you they know it’s for you.
A lot about trusting. Learning to trust in right timing
What if sitting still will give you the right timing? It’s all about trust
With any generator, projector or manifestor, every night sit back and ask yourself “What was I able to respond to today?”
Projectors are waiting to be invited
A reflector needs to wait their whole moon cycle
A manifestor is what
When you project that energy pushes people away.
My character is a 4/6 a stabilizer adept. Laying the way for the community and connection
Once you learn your strategy and how to put yourself out there you’re nolonger tired.
Anything that’s open is a gift
The world is full of limitless potential and will nourish you according to your beliefs
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Show Notes:
Sonya Renee Taylor: The Body is not an apology
Think in Metaphor
Radical honesty, radical empathy, and radical vulnerability
Words are spells, we are casting reality when we talk
Energy is contagious, we are constantly transferring energy all the time
When we are inside of our own self-loathing it re-affirms that self-loathing is a way to move through the world.
Everything is giving permission or taking permission away.
We cannot build externally that which has not been built internally
The work of radical self-love is the work of recognizing where the system is moving inside of the relationship with myself and where the system is moving inside of everyone else.
The way to undo the system is to stop participating in it.
What are my thoughts? What are the things that I don’t let myself consciously think about?
There is a message in absence
Am I willing to learn a new language?
Am I willing to learn a new language when I know that language is hurting someone?
Recognize in your anger that we are both individuals and products of a system. We are both and.
Hold Humans inside of compassion, curiosity and accountability.
Hold systems to task
Hate requires too much of my own personal energy. I reserve my hate for systems
I’m not interested in tearing down humans. I’m interested in tearing down systems that those humans are in.
Love and care require intimacy
Inside of our own relationships with our own bodies we must get deeply intimate.
There is no way to love and care for things unless you are willing to get intimate with
Animals are never self-loathing
Transition from this form, you can’t loss someone because energy is neither created nor destroyed
Mother is greatest love and greatest heartbreak
Death is birth in reverse
Grief never leaves
How beautiful the transitioned relationship can be.
Our ancestors are key to how we move through these systems of oppression: Epigenetics.
If we pass on trauma we pass on resilience
Our relationship with our ancestors is essential for our healing
We must look behind to go forward.
Abundance is my birthright, scarcity is imaginary and made up.
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Interview with Amy Gordon and Sky Bradshaw
Money is energy, so it will be coming your way.
Art is an important thing
Amy and Sky Birthed an oracle deck
The Art of Energy is a healing oracle deck
Oracle is used on a more individual basis and help us on our healing path journey
Tarot has a lot more components to it.
A chakra is a wheel
Bringing action to this oracle deck.
Amy doesn’t paint what she sees, she paints what she feels which is a lot.
Abstract painting is open space. Creating space, which is awareness so we can medicate and understand our systems
Each Chakra has a color that represents energy
Abstract is like art therapy
When Amy paints it all comes through as pieces of an experience that wasn’t even mine, it just belongs to universal energy.
The grove is a deeper energetic style of healing
Humans are the only self-sabotaging creatures on the planet.
We have three bodies, physical, emotional, and energetic bodies
Whenever we teach we learn more in-depth
Sky is writing the soul-users guide
Wanted to work with ethical people in town
The deck is a community web
I’ll do this for you so that you can shine
I can only go as far as you’ve gone.
https://www.artofenergyoracle.com/
When the one is healed the sum is healed
Energy, understand it expand it with Sky and Amy
Understanding Energy Workshop happening again in February:https://www.tarotbysky.com/
A life of abundance has to be with being whole
Focus on being abundant at the thing that feeds your soul
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Buddhist Student and meditation teacher
Metta Meditation
Metta often translated into loving kindness
Sharon Salzburg week long loving kindness retreat
Lives In New York City
Using the practice to not fall into boredom
The importance of making community
Trained to be a psychoanalyst
Steady Calm and brave, 25 practices for a crisis
“A note on thoughts and prayers”
Part of Wisdom Is understanding that we are all connected.
Not wanting to talk about the suffering
The common Suffering, that is the catalyst for evening beginning to investigate meditation.
I don’t want to pay attention to how bad my feelings are.
No Practice in which we can transcend our humanness.
Suffering and joy are intertwined.
When you can recognize your suffering and not push it way…
Gladden the mind: Remember all of the good deeds you’ve done and remember those that have done good deeds for you.
There is nothing wrong with me or you, we just need to put our attention in other places too.
Suffering is human, but the negative self-talk can be universal.
Mindfulness can help us quiet the negative self-talk. It doesn’t go away completely but it softens.
It is great wisdom to wish yourself well and to offer it to others
Equalizing self and others.
In order to truly wish you well, I have to wish others well too.
Mindfulness and grief
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Lacey Grim Interview
The four C’s
Published a book
Love and connection is the most important thing
Fear is the opposite of love.
If you’re feeling fear, there’s no place for love.
Out of fear we do things that are loveless.
On social media platforms, we don’t have the weight of the person in front of us.
It’s less important to know where we land and more important to know that we love one another.
Connection and love is the most important thing.
The chord of connection being severed more and more.
It’s impossible to feel successful when connection is severed.
You can have connection without harmony
You can’t make music that’s powerful without the whole
We must allow there to be room to be uncomfortable with one another.
Didn’t let 2020 keep me from writing the book.
We all belong
Looking to media to find what you believe is slippery
Believing in neighbors, believing in love is the most important thing we can do.
Be responsible for what you’re putting out there.
There is a fire burning and I love you anyways
We have an innate desire to create.
We crave creation and we crave creation
Art and creativity are not necessarily the same thing.
Recognize an emotion, feel it and move on anyways
Mom Guilt
Is guilt an opportunity for gratitude?
Show Notes: What I did in December and why
I ran Marcothon, running every day in the month of December a minimum of 3.1 miles or 25 minutes whichever comes first. A personal challenge completely for yourself
If you are already running consistently it’s not necessarily a difficult physical challenge. But it gets you outside every day in December, it gets you doing physical activity in December
Marcothon is one of my mental health-enhancing in the month of December.
Personal Leadership Lesson Learned in Marcothon
1) Consistent baby steps done daily add up to a lot over time: How you spend your time defines who you are.
2) There is no substitute for doing the work: You can’t outsource it. No one else can do the work for you.
3) You can accomplish more than you think: It takes time and experience to get to the bigger goals. You only get the experience by time and doing the work.
4) A strong body makes us perform better in all aspects of our lives. The better I take care of my body the better I do in all aspects of my life. We can’t discount the mind-body connection.
5) Minimum Goals! The smaller the goal the faster to get out and do the work. Make the hurdle small. Set the bar really low because then on the days you don’t want to do it you are still able to keep the promise to yourself.
6) Accountability matters: I posted in a Facebook group after every run and post it to the group. When you are supporting and cheering others on that matters. Encouraging others ends up being an encouragement to yourself. Be accountable to something greater than yourself.
7) Have a strong WHY! My why wasn’t just about running. It was more about getting myself outside in December moving my body every day and getting outside every day in the darkest month of the year. My WHY pushed me forward when it was hard to get outside
8) Commitment, Perseverance: When you make a commitment to yourself and then go back on that commitment you degrade your confidence in yourself. You break trust in yourself. When you keep commitments to yourself you build confidence in yourself back up. You begin to learn that you can follow through on what you’ve told yourself you will do. Resistance always come up when it’s important
9) Habit is the most powerful force in your life. Commitment, perseverance only takes you so far. Habit is what drives us. I don’t make New Years Resolutions, but I’m into creating healthy habits and habits that support my goals.
10) The Body is capable of more than we give it credit for. What limitations have you told yourself you have? Challenge the notion of what you think is possible.
11) Building The Most important hardest things into your calendar first. The longer you put off the hard things the harder they become. Eat the Frog First. Get the hardest thing done first thing in the morning.
12) See it through in your mind first: Commitment. When I made the commitment, see it through in your head first. Then take the action steps to get you there.
Don’t’ be attached to the outcome. Don’t make a resolution, make a plan, get a coach. Break down the big dreams into small achievable baby steps.
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Leadership coach for women change makers. Focusing on impact you want to make and dive deeper and what does that look like for your business.
Working way through pandemic like everyone else.
Lives in the Asheville area
Carl Sandberg house in Hendersonville
Wandering path, trained as a scientist. Initially went to into academic research
Was planning for entrepreneurship writing business plans on the weekend.
Planning and research
Bringing all of the aspects of yourself together into your work
Women go into entrepreneurship so that we can bring in all of our core values and bring our whole selves to our work.
Came to a point where She needed a creative boost: Exhibited photography and African drumming, then decided to take time off.
As an entrepreneur we are often scared to take time off.
Your own growth and your own business growth are as important as what you are contributing.
Impact has three elements, income, collective care (how you are contributing to other people’s lives) and legacy.
Collective Care, How Ursula defines it. “We are all connected. We are all connected to each other. With that understanding our own wellbeing is tied up with everyone else’s wellbeing”
There is an expansive view of the world that we are all connected and that when we contribute we are all connected and business is a wonderful way to do that.
No one has impact alone: It’s a communal experience.
Community Matters
In community my ideas are amplified, what one person is thinking is normally on everyone’s minds
If we are going to enact a positive outcome we need one another
Companies that focus on impact do substantially better when there is an impact focus.
Impact focus amplifies your income. You can’t afford to ignore the impact.
Using travel as a catalyst for what’s next
The deep connection and sense of community you can develop in the travel experience.
Becoming a citizen of the world
You can make deep connections in a short period of time.
Creating space for the right clients. If you turn down a project something better will come in to take it’s place.
Becoming a citizen of the world. It’s a very small world
The Leadership role is one that’s important for women to take and embrace.
Power is just the ability to enact change
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Sharon Larson: Watercolor artist: Learn more Here: https://www.slarsonwatercolors.com/
Lives in Iowa on a hobby farm
Stay at home mom who found art
Loves teaching watercolor
No matter how long they’ve been painting I never feel good enough
I just become accustom to feeling a little uneasy or a little unsure and just keep going anyway.
Fear that I’m going to lose my talent.
We let the magic unfold
With watercolor you can’t control how the paper absorbs the water or where the color is going to go.
There is something to be said for being a little ignorant
“The beginners mind has the best insights” because we are so curious about what we are doing and we have low expectations.
The Paper knows what it wants to be
Give up the agenda and the plan
Everyone has their shit, but your shit has a purpose
A beautiful picture has lots of contrast
If you fill up all the white space in your life it’s a muddled mess
When you realize it’s ok to let go and let whatever happen happens
Choosing process over outcome
What we put out into the world might evoke feeling
Art is subjective
Our job is only to create because we have to
If you can create something out of nothing that’s creative
How to tap into creativity when we’re not felling creative? “do it, do it, do it, do it”
Do something because it’s crazy how one act leads to another.
Nothing is stupid
If you have the idea do it
If you can let it out
Painting for Sharon is the equivalent of human touch.
If you take creativity out of life, what’s the point?
Even RAW is part of an artist’s job
Not just a vision board but a vision wall
You don’t have to be a story to be amazing
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Kim Howie and Nancy Werteen
The Wisdom Coalition
Nancy Werteen: News reporter
Kim Howe: Health Coach
Positive Psychology: PERMA
Positive psychology shows us how much we have agency over
Finding more joy in life
The power of a pivot, stopping hard and changing your mindset
The Power of a pause, taking a moment to reflect and turn inward during intended pauses but also the unintended pauses
What do the unintended pauses not take from us, but give us?
The Best possible self: When you can envision the best possible self it’s like make a vision board
What would your best self do in this situation
When this is all over am I going to look back at yourself and be proud of yourself?
How can I become a person that I want to be quarantined with? Who Do I want to be for my friends, my family, my husband, my kinds
Flourishing, how can we not just survive, but thrive?
Asking a question that has a positive outcome
The collective unconscious
Are you living in alignment with your values?
Are your actions moving you towards or away from your values
Filling in the missing peace and filling in the Whole
The peace is right inside of us and we have to uncover it
The understanding of common humanity
Joy is separate from happiness
Happiness is based on external circumstances but joy is on the inside
We have to feel it to heal it.
Understanding yourself and who you are to fuel the joy of who you are
It’s Unfolding Perfectly
Joy and Abundance go together
What you look for in life is what you see
Abundance is giving love
Pour on the people you love
The giving is more powerful than the receiving that
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Abigail Dowd
A singer song writer.
Started an art school
Started a nonprofit
Studied City Planning at Chapel Hill
Moved to Florence Italy with nothing but a guitar.
No one knew Abigail was leaving.
In Italy stared re-learning all of the songs she used to play in high school.
Lived in Italy in a plantation house for 3 months.
Wasn’t where I wanted to be but I had to meet the universe half way
Anything you put your mind to, you can do.
So, go crush the GRE
Met my husband on a plane.
My dad passed away when I was 12 years old, and my dad is buried in Maine, and I went back to Maine to heal.
Always loved to travel.
Post Studio depression
How do I create music with other people
Guides are always there to teach us
Get grounded enough to try things
Routine and discipline are your freedom
When you create magic things start happening
How do you live a life of abundance: With a lot of grace on my knees
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24 active duty years in the United States Navy
In second career freelance ghost-writing editing and writing
We’re asking you, but we don’t need you.
Impacting lives on a daily basis through counseling in the military.
Causality assistance program
The Navy allowed me to have many experiences in a short period of time
Came in wanting to be a fighter pilot
Director of a counseling center during 9/11 for the military
Moving from career in the military to writing
Inspired by Harriet the Spy, wanted to be Harriet the Spy
Was a speech writer for an admiral and a dean at the writing academy
People with gifts often don’t realize that those are gifts because they come so easy to them.
Writing as a second career
Like memoir, stories of encouragement, stories of overcoming and triumph
There are a lot of tears when I’m ghost writing because I want to get into what were you thinking then?
What is it like to step into someone else’s story?
Our connectedness as humanity, I can see a piece of myself from each of them.
Able to sit in that moment with them.
Not have sympathy but have empathy for the triumph
I see the golden thread that weaves all of us together.
Sit in silence
Our worlds are noisy, you have to sit in silence
If we all listen to our own inner voice, the voice speaking within us, guiding us, speaking in us…
Just listen
When you create a space for presence you allow the magic to come in.
Foundational principles on how to approach your craft
It starts with listening and being silent and waiting for your self to speak to you.
When you’re called mommy: http://www.jhwritingplus.com/dr-sophie-foster-books
Doing Foster Care
Everyone has a book inside of them and they need to share!
You don’t have enough time to make all the mistakes yourself and you need to share.
Writing and reading can take you to all different worlds
Do you know that to be true?
“Offense is a wasted emotion”
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Solo Episode with Alisha
Didn’t publish a podcast last week because there was too much noise in the world with the election results looming
Been doing this work for 3.5 years
Thought about what I would say to the person that I was that was dreaming of doing this work that I’ve been doing now.
I would tell her the 2016 woman that I was, I’d tell her “You have no idea how hard the road ahead is going to be, but stay true to your intuition above all else”
The journey into entrepreneurship, nobody has it figured out. No one has a road map into the work you want to be doing.
Are you taking time to ground, to listen to yourself, to tap into your intuition?
Are you taking time to pause and think through what you want and why you want it?
The word coaching is problematic for me. I’m really a transitions coach
Helping clients change mindset
I’m not sitting on the sidelines clapping, (I might do some of that) but I’m asking hard questions
I love crafting an experience for women
I would tell the me of 2016, it’s a new type of work and business, there is no model for it and those of us that are doing it are making it up as we go. I was asking for advice from men who didn’t know what I was doing.
I want the me of 2016 to know that I shouldn’t have been looking outside of myself for answers
Shout out to Aaron LeBeaur of LeBeauer physical therapy. He understood the model that I was trying to create.
I would not take advice from others that weren’t trying to create what I was trying to create
Take Vitamin D!
Get your Dr. Appointments in and do what they say.
One of my talents is to keep working even when you’re not inspired. Keep going, your work matters
One of my assets and strongest talents is to keep working even when I’m not inspired. Keep foraging forward
You have to be hungry for your business and side hustle. You can make it, but it will not be easy, it will not be a cake walk, you do have to be dedicated and disciplined.
If it were easy everyone would be doing it.
It is not going to be easy
The work that I’m doing now, I LOVE IT! I love creating community and facilitating community. I love the courses I’ve been putting together. I love doing this work. I am doing what I’m supposed to be doing, but there are so many days I don’t want to work and I am not inspired but I keep going anyway.
There are no shortcuts to getting what you want
Sometime you just have to do the work.
Anything worth doing is on the other side of hard work.
Resistance is a signal that you’re doing something worth doing. Resistance only comes around things that matter.
Resistance doesn’t mean don’t do it, consistency matters.
I’m only still here in my business because I’m willing to feel defeated and down and keep working and keep moving forward.
It’s not easy.
If it’s important keep putting in the work, consistency matters.
One of my favorite pieces of the work I do is one on one coaching with women.
One on one coaching is the place where I see the most light bulbs going off. It’s the work that I see the most powerful lasting effect on the clients I’m working with. But one on one is not where the majority of clients come from even though I have strong testimonials from women I’ve worked with.
One of my super powers is knowing how to ask the right questions that can spark something for a client.
When I started my business, many people pointed out to me that the research shows women are significantly less likely than men to invest in coaching.
Just because the road is hard doesn’t mean that we aren’t supposed to be doing it.
If someone has a propensity towards growth, why wouldn’t they want to take the opportunities.
Coaching is a huge financial investment, it’s expensive because you’re paying for coaches’ trainings.
You’ll value the coaching more if you have skin in the game. It makes sure you treat the crucible of time with your coach as unique so that will be treated differently.
You’re afraid you’re going to make this big financial investment, and nothing will change.
You’re afraid it’s not the right time. That’s a myth, it never feels like the right time.
No one else is going to create space in our lives, if we want something we have to go for it.
We have to deliberately carve out the space and the time to do this work. Intentionally create space to make it happen.
Anything worth doing has resistance. We have resistance to growth.
We fear that we’re going to have to put in some work and change.
If you choose to stay a caterpillar you are in the process of dying, you are not in the process of growing.
We have to go through the mush to grow.
In coaching there is always a place with a client where it feels horrible.
Are you going to choose to tackle the hard thing?
It’s not always clear what the outcome in coaching will be
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Eff this meditation
Gritty raw and real
The lie of meditation
We can be experienced at meditation, but we’re not good at it
Meditation is really gritty and about the messiness of everyday life
We can Change our Gray matter in our brain
Polyvagal theory
No one has to know that you are doing a breathing practice
Raised strict Mormon
Institutionalized for 3 years
Important to speak the truth
Never had a chance to develop a relationship with a higher power
Had a desire to develop my own spirituality and spiritual path
Study Shambala for a long time, 10 years
Don’t make anyone your guru
Don’t put anyone on a pedestal
Ram Das walks the walk
If someone hasn’t been where I want to go, then I don’t want to take their directions
Book by Ram Das: Polishing the mirror
Normalize the going inward more
Testing in the laboratory of your own life
Self care and collective care
Loving kindness practice
We are complete, we are just not finished
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Sommer is a Mother
Yoga practitioner, student for life and teacher for the last 24 years
Founded a thousand petals yoga
Interested in community and How do we maintain community
Loves gardening
Dedicated a large part of life to aryvedic studies
Loves Italy
How do we thrive right now and not lose hope
When we let our hearts break open and let the feelings flow and be with what’s coming up and not get over run by it, I feel a force of strength and it makes me feel excited to participate in these times.
We are buoyed by the things that connect us.
Feeling safe in the body, feeling able to be with the body in all of those experiences in the sphere of the body. Polyvagal nervous system theory.
We have survived all of times because of community.
We as humans co-regulate one another
We are all in some form of collective trauma right now.
Alleviate some local suffering
Enhanced understanding of the need for the black lives matters movement
We can make some kind of impact
The selfless part
We can do good in the world
Are we doing something because we are seeking comfort?
There has always been global suffering, it’s going to get closer and closer
What does it mean to alleviate someone else’s suffering?
Random act of kindness, then investigate we did and why we did it
Humanitarians evolution is dependent on this.
Are we in right relationship with self? Are we in right relationship with others, with community?
Are we taking care to serve others?
Are we being thoughtful about how our actions impact others? It matters in a way that it hasn’t mattered before.
A moral ground of study
How willing are we to think about the wellbeing of others?
Seeing is empowerment, how do we take it and grow from it?
The thing about this time is that it’s bringing to light what needs to be healed.
Every time you get sick is an opportunity to get better.
We are sick as a nation and global community, those collective illnesses are all coming to the surface.
There is a wound or boil that’s been lanced.
The real healing is to let it come up and clean out.
Careful to not put a pretty bow around things right now.
Covid has been a homeopathic dose
That denial has been similar to the pandemic
Trust the divine unfolding
This can put us in check to save our planet.
We see people organizing on the streets and we need to do that for the planet.
What is happening right now is an opportunity to invite healing, but each and every one of acting on that purest impulse to alleviate suffering in others.
We know that there are so many needs and it’s hard to think that one person could make an impact. We are in a collective freeze.
We need to work with the voice that says “I can’t make an impact”, or “I don’t know where to start”.
Reaching out to others saying I don’t want to create something from scratch but I want to be a bridge. We can always do something.
We can all strengthen our muscles in our personal relationships
Answering the call of the steps, or of being in service to each other. Little things strengthen us.
If that little voice comes that says “I don’t have any impact” we don’t listen.
Question to listeners: Small ways we are trying to be of service to each other. Remember what the small things are.
There is a lot that we can do: Support small local businesses right now. Vote, have a voting plan ready. Think about the individuals in your life and the elderly.
Try to get to know a neighbor you don’t know yet.
Spreading a little bit of happiness to others can have huge ripple effects
We should always have hope and optimism
I believe in people and our capacity.
Never underestimate that you are needed and valued.
We are co-creating
Creating time that’s unscheduled. Living a gratitude daily naming practice
Abundance is just the nature of life.
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Small Town Upbringing
I am my ancestors and my culture
Being Queer Shaped who she is
Made clear decisions about my life and being here
Wanting to live a deeper awareness of who I am
Building a life around my life, my work and my morals
Always trying to find the big answers to life’s questions
Tourism has perpetuated gentrification
Started ADE project: Move intergenerational anti-racism work forward
The understanding that we are all creative and using it to move beyond white supremacy and oppression
Reclaiming own artist and building relationships with other artists and creatives in own community
Having difficult conversations about what equity and inclusion really is
Wanted to be an architect
Connection between artist and organizer
Artist doesn’t always look like putting something on a canvas
We are all artists
Making room for creativity is making room for an event, community events, film screenings
Making space for people is a creative act
Had to learn how to create a website
Had to learn a lot of things with a lot of grit
Taught self how to use wordpress
Opportunity is birthed out of necessity
What is there for me to pay attention to here?
Mom found Journal when she was little
The things that we take the most to heal from are from someone shutting down our creativity
One of the most healing things that we can do is make room for creativity
Working with the Eco Institute
Always Sought wisdom from different places like nature
Thinking about how we can build sacred space together?
In order to surrender to our highest self we have to surrender to the joy.
Our creativity is what connects us to our divinity
Coming up against the illusion of perfection is the anti-creativity
When I engage in creativity I’m challenging social norms
Having resilience to not give up when I get frustrated.
You can’t compartmentalize creativity
Creativity is faith
Let go of perfectionism by embracing the process
People haven’t been given options to access their creativity
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Talking about Money
Lots of stories that women tell themselves about money is preventing them from making money.
There is lots of power with owning your money story.
We often divorce the idea of being prosperous from being a spiritual person.
Money is really uncomfortable
We are trying to get closer to the root of our heart
Fear of money is masking the desire underneath it.
Began Seeing a disparity between women in business talking about money and men in business talking about money.
Put a date on the calendar to talk about money
Starting to make money, but don’t know what to do with it.
85% of all financial planners are men over 58 years old
Started a money community this year and even showed them the behind the scenes of my bank account.
Money and wealth building is a process that will last you for the rest of your life.
It’s less about the money because money is neutral.
The feelings around money are the things that prevent us from keeping the long-term outlook.
If you want to take any sort of risk you’re gonna lose a little bit but you’re betting on yourself to win.
As you build wealth, you lose sometimes
If you stay your entire life without experiencing a loss you stay far away from who you could be.
How do we get more comfortable talking about money
Conversation and relationship building around money takes time
Money: A love story by Kate Northrup
Sometimes starting with the emotional places of money is a good place to start.
Commit to having one Money Conversation a week.
Lauren doesn’t have a budget, but she has a spending plan
What is your savings goals for the year?
The best thing you can do when starting a business is to know how much you need to make to pay yourself a salary and cover your expenses
We can use money to connect with our higher selves
Money touches everything
The more we can dig into our discomfort around money the more comfortable we can get talking about it. The goals is to become less reactive around money
Talk about money like you talk about picking out an outfit. Money is neutral it’s just the story we tell ourselves around it.
Financial Abundance
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Just past the equinox
Struggling with the colder and darker days
Cautiously moving into the fall, doubling down on my tools.
Time for me to move into my work outs more seriously
Kicked it into high gear since covid started as far as work goes
Holding space in RAW
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Squeezing blood from a rock in my creative life
If you’re not in the seat doing it, you won’t be there when inspiration comes
We make it look easy and fun, but under that is diligent doing, hard work
My brain could really use a break.
I haven’t taken a week off this year
Creativity is going to be a major tool for me as we move into the darker days of fall.
Presences
When we are present with ourselves there is nothing but the truth
We put off our creative projects because we are afraid of what we will uncover
If we dive into our creativity with presence we meet our lives
The beauty lives in our true selves
It has been a long road since covid started and my job has been to hold space for others, but I need some space and I need to tend to my own feelings, my own relationships.
How is my journey with grief? How has grief influenced my path?
In some ways I feel closer to my dad now because I talk to him every day, I write to him almost every day, I ask him for help and for guidance.
Is divinity Real?
So much of my life is focused on on work. I’m giving myself my running time back to myself.
Sometimes the grief is so fresh
The grief sits with us
It’s so strange that one minute someone is living and then they’re not. No room for goodbye. In my grief journey I’m wondering where it will lead. The cycles of grief are not linear, but they are present for me all the time.
Grief comes up on dates and it’s weird talking about it.
Dating in the time of covid.
Dreading my birthday
I used to be so proud that my birthday was so close to my dad’s. I don’t think there can ever be joy around my birthday again because it’s such a highlight of who’s not there.
I want to be an actress.
Goosebumps books by R.L Stein are what got me into reading
I was bullied
My little sensitive self
I have to resist the urge to other myself.
I have to not buy into making myself “other”
That’s why I created a space where everyone else feels like they belong
Everyone shows love in a different way
Grade school and junior high school was tough but I had to go through that to do what I do know and create the space I’ve created now.
Seeking to understand
How was I supported to follow the beat of my own drum?
Following my own beat and be supported. My mom would tell me to get a thicker skin
My parents did a great job of supporting me doing theater.
In College I was a dance minor to get exercise in through a means I would enjoy
I was encouraged to go after what I wanted, but also to grow a thicker skin.
We need to be able to take the armor off.
Not everyone deserves to see our vulnerable selves
Everything I produce for others is something I need to produce for myself too.
My grief journey is a part of the process. It has made me dig deeper into the process.
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101 Episode Notes:
Writing as a Path to Awakening
Tedx Talk
Writer and master mindfulness meditation teacher
Began in photography
Almost failed out of art school
Teacher Bill Berkson Professor and Poet
Jack Spicer quote “unbind the dreamers, poet by like god”
Post modern experimental poetry
Poetry Heretical and divine
Spirit Rock Meditation Center
Silence spaciousness, focusing on the heart
Poetry in relationship to spiritual growth
Art making, Mindfulness, a kernel of possibility.
Creativity was always something out there and had to get over that and figure out that creativity isn’t something external
Creativity means presence
When we’re present we realize that creativity is happening
If we’re going to fast and not paying attention we miss it
Cultivated mindfulness is a practice of getting present and the more we can express freely and openly
The cool thing about mindfulness is that it opens us up to be an observer.
When we’re present we get deeper access to our senses. The best artists are the best observers
Meditation is so important to becoming a great observer
Take Creativity very seriously
Paying attention and looking closely
The command pay attention takes on a whole new meaning
Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine
Honor the cycles
The Importance of the free write or free dance or free painting, where we can get out of our own way.
Free writing to dive in together. Outpacing the critical mind that can happen.
Integrate the process and leverage the tools
Top three writing tips: Begin with silence, start their with emptiness and spaciousness and jump in. Make Commitments to yourself.
Creativity and writing is devotional. If you can get into that, devoted to creativity it devoted to self, is devoted to community is devoted to life. Practice as many days as you can. Consistency wins, every time! Even if it’s just 5 minutes.
Even when you free write from just 5 minutes you can end up with an entire page.
Set word count goals or time goals
Allow yourself to create crap or garbage
Allow yourself to make a mess.
It’s really fun to make a mess
Sharing the Virtual stage with Cheryl Strayed
Showing up in love and curiosity, cultivating curiosity
We live in an abundance Universe
When we come back to presence I can show up in my heart and when I can show up in my heart and in love with the world e my fears don’t feel so pertinent and pressing
The field of creativity is abundance
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Loved
Episode 44 If you’re not confident people will question your confidence
Loved Episode 94 Bertrhude Albert
Special Behinds the scene moment
Able to make people feel like their story is worth listening to.
Born into expectations
Getting to see the connections that people that are making with each other
RAW
Community is based on honor and respect and upholding each other
You cry, I’ll cry, we can all cry
Everybody is wanting safety
Communicative stamina
No is just not yet
There’s no roadmap for this business model
My work is asking women where they want to be and challenging them to change it if it’s not.
Be the Youiest you, you can be
We’ve been trying to do it the masculine way for a really long time. There are better solutions that can be brought to the table and sometimes we need to build a different box
What does feminine leadership look like?
The underdogs of all time are rushing the door
Feminine leadership is honoring everyone’s truth
We are mirrors of each other
We are all connected
Good Leadership is looking out for each other
Putting creativity first, giving people freedom to do the work.
Freedom is the opposite of control
A creative time out
Building Play in
Dance breaks between zoom
How can I speak less and ask better questions so that I can I can hear their truths
The divine feminine rising
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From Cuba
An actress puppeteer
Degree in accounting
Took off with the circus
Traveled with crocodile ladies, and hoola hoop ladies
Wanted to be an actress and entertainer
Started own business as an entertainer for birthday parties
Puppets were made for her.
She was told she needed to make her own puppets
Different techniques for puppets
Big puppet project
Reusing things, using disposable items to make puppets
Spent a lot of time living on a sailboat
Learning the vocabulary of sailing
Motion sickness and living on a boat
Swimming with Whales
Speaks 3 languages
We don’t create alone
We are all connected
There is a collective we that keeps that energy flowing
When we put it out there we are calling more people to our pac
Joy has to be shared
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Mom of three
Lives outside of the DC area
Huge passion for helping women realize their dreams and enjoy the journey in how they get there.
If you’re talking about what you did for me yesterday, you haven’t done anything for me today.
Shine the light for women on a different path
We are more emotional creatures
Enjoying the juggle
Passionate about sales being relationships
What is the relationship that you form outside of the business relationship
People as humans need community that will lift us up and elevate us
Bring the work I’m doing outside of my company to my team
Take Care of yourself before you take care of business
Find out what makes your team members tick
Waking up with awareness of all of the thoughts of the monkey mind
A lot of bumps in the road
It’s not how I define success, it’s how I live
We’ve all had to learn
Had lots of moments where I wasn’t sure if I can get back up.
You either find success or a lesson
E+R=O Event plus response equals outcome
Feel your feelings and react from a place of understanding.
Embrace the zig zag
Staying the Course
There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think of quitting. But if you quit you never reap the benefits of the work.
Just because you want to quit doesn’t mean you should
What’s in alignment with you?
Listen to yourself, Give yourself Grace and Love yourself
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Join the Book club discussion with special guests Lan Cao and Harlan Van Cao
Fiction allows you to go deeper
Memoir “Family In Six Tones” order it here
Not Lan’s First Book
Lan’s writing has been heart based.
A story of resilience
Did not write from a perspective of trying to respond to each other
Neither of their ideas to write the memoir. The publishing House asked them to do the memoir after the story core interview https://storycorps.org/stories/a-mother-on-surviving-the-tet-offensive-and-escaping-from-vietnam/
Mother’s experience has affected the daughter and they were able to talk about it through the memoir.
Subtle parts of feminism
Never had to worry because she did it for me
Writing a memoir with your mother
When you feel like an insider or outsider within your own group
Questioning assimilation
Caught in a maelstrom of identity
Hard to pick up the 6 tones of Vietnamese
The most traumatic thing was losing my dad
The personal is political: Fat is a feminist issue
The relationship that refugees have to this country.
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Hanging out in Beaufort, NC
Pod of people in Covid
Other people matter
Living a rich and balanced life in the time of covid
Single in the times of covid seems easier
The Covid Rollercoaster
In covid we might not be taking regular showers or remembering to brush our teeth
Your feelings are not wrong or bad, how you reach and respond to those feelings is what matters
Covid has been an opportunity to have the good and the bad in our life amplified
Are you living the richest, most fulfilling life, and balanced life in covid? How do we get to that rich, fulfilling and balanced life in covid?
Right now there is a possibility that we have a gift to see what we like and don’t like about our life.
Do an inventory of where you are in your life.
This is a collective time of trauma, a life changing event that is changing our values
Taking tiny baby steps of putting one foot in front of the other, the next right choice to put me into alignment with my core values
Create a life in alignment in with your core values
Think about what you are grateful for in this time.
If we want to thive in this time, it’s imperative that we are living a life in alignment with our core values.
Be gentle with yourself
Baby steps will take you to where you want to go.
You are capable of making changes
Assess where you are, look at your core values, are you in alignment with your core values?
Re-Awakening Wisdom
My Life is wildly out of balance right now.
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If you are not living in alignment with your true self and your values now putting it off doesn’t make it easier to address it later. It only gets harder.
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Anatomy Bites
Yoga practitioner
Yoga therapist
PT
Interest in yoga started back at Guilford College
Teaches now at the Asheville Yoga Center
Took a yoga teacher training at the AYC just to deep her own practice.
Teaching a new workshop at the AYC on hyper mobility
Libby was always the example of more than normal mobility
Had two babies in the last 6 years, and got really sick
Has a genetic connective tissue disorder: Ehlers Mobile Syndrome hypermobile type (EDS)
Anatomy bites
When we understand the anatomy, it helps us let go of the things that aren’t important
Without the foundations and learning the variation of normal. There is a wide range of motion in the human form
Challenge to yoga teachers is to examine the things you typically say about a pose and making sure there is a good reason for it.
The body is one of our path ways of entry into the human experience.
Can we shift our focus away from getting something right and performance to inquiry to find out about ourselves
Yoga wants us to figure out who we really are so that we leave yoga practice being a better person
Get really clear on who am I, where do I end and someone else begins and how do I feel about this thing?Yoga can help us feel the quality of sensations that go along with feelings
All of my thoughts and feelings are physical sensations in my body
Are those actions in alignment with who I am?
The handstand could be a practice to go inward.
Being asked to approach our practice from an internal place.
An invitation to go and explore your own self
We have to have a dialog with our own experience
What’s the goal of your practice?
What purpose is your practice serving?
Guided more by our own values and our own heart
I want to lead people to their own heart
If we really go into the anatomy and understand the human body and how it moves we can trust in the resiliency of the of the body. We can get away from fragility and get into resiliency. The body will change. Coming out of a faster momentum-oriented practice. We have to move into our discomfort at a pace that is tolerable for our nervous system and it often takes longer than we think.
A different kind of paying attention. When we can move the paying attention to much more subtle layers it can get uncomfortable pretty quick.
Moment is easy, learning to control movement through a range is much more difficult.
Let the practice show you yourself.
All of our thoughts and our feelings are a physical practice. That is somatic, and yoga is a way to embody our feelings
When people come to PT for complicated chronic stuff. it’s never just structural, it can be fear response, habitual response, Social identities that play out in the body
The body is a reflection of how we’ve lived our entire life
We aren’t just taking care of bones and muscles we are taking care of a nervous system.
When we as yoga teachers read bodies, we are observing their entire life.
When we observe someone’s body we need to make sure we look with a loving gaze.
As a practitioner you get to go to yoga in this body.
Treat the yoga practice as a celebration of this body and all of the amazing things that we can do.
We are just here to have an experience on a mat and it’s through having this experience that change does happen, but it won’t happen if we force it.
Wants yoga to be a celebration of your own life.
What is my purpose and how do I want my life to be going?
Taking Lots of risks, just trusting, based on evidence, that I can take a step in the direction that I love, not waiting for the way to appear.
Book: We make the road by walking. Myles Horton
Making the road by walking.
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A daughter of Haiti
Immigrated her for education
After graduating wanting to give life to her country
Works full time for a non-profit that she co-founded for P4H Global
Improving the quality of education in Haiti
One vision: We will see Haiti rise when we see the education system reformed.
Starting a non-profit is not for the faint of heart
Failure is an important part of success and leadership that we don’t talk about and embrace enough
Through failure we see the beginnings of success.
Great leaders aren’t afraid to say I completely screwed that up.
Show your work of waking up
The failure shows that you want to walk with me
UnicycleA beautiful thick black girl on a unicycle
Didn’t realize how much I would fall, how much I would fail and how much it would hurt learning to ride a unicycle
Lessons
1) We’ve got to let go of the wall, if you keep holding onto them they will cripple us
2) You will fail, falling and falling is part of the success, but you must fall forward. If you fall backwards you loss control you might break a bone. Falling forward is controlling your failures. It’s reflecting on them and learning something from them.
3) Goals: Goals give meaning to everything you do! The thing pushing us forward is our goal. Even though you fail but you reach the goal. When you reach the goal, you can celebrate the failures because they got you to the goal. You’ll probably fail at the goals but they can change
4) Scares that proof that you’re stronger than what came at you. The scares tell a story and they say they are stronger than what came at us. The scare shows that I’m resilient, that I survived and that I’m strong.
5) Nobody can find your center of balance for you. Nothing compares to me sitting on the bike and finding my own center of balance. You have to make decisions that sit with you in your own heart. Nobody can talk you in or out of things it’s you’re journey, your life. Your failures are your own.
You need people in your corner, but you can’t rely on other people’s approval.
I want my life to contribute to the rising of my nation.
Often times we’re encouraged not to do things outside the box. Because people are afraid of failure. We are taught that we should run away from failure and pain.
Pain is a signal to stay away, Failure means stay away
But we overload and see pain and failure and try to stay away and go to maximum comfort. But we can’t reach self-actualization if we don’t try and fail.
It’s not the falling or the failing that causes that much pain, it’s the aversion and resistance of failing that causes a lot of pain.
You have to go through it, you have to keep going and keep trying.
When you keep going, what pushed you on? An internal knowing that I was doing the work I was put on this earth to do. There was a missing piece in my life. I had to learn to lean into faith.
Leadership, empowerment, failing, we don’t achieve what we want to achieve because we don’t go through it. You have to feel it, embrace it, learn from it, be better because of it.
When you know you’re operating in the fullness of your gifts
Bertrhude turned 30 this month. She decided she wanted to learn 12 things this year. Juggling, unicycling, photography. Learning to drive stick shift
Visiting 30 countries by 30. Visiting 100 countries.
You don’t learn from experiences, you learn from reflecting on experiences.
When you’re talking with teaching adults, you can’t do that without recognizing that they have a wealth of experience that you need.
Even if there trauma with failure, recognizing the distinct role that failing and failing has in our success.
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Interview in the tree house at Timberlake Earth Sancuary
Michelle: Was working at DuPont. Living a life she felt primed for as far as American Dream Trajectory. Working 40 hours a week with a salary income and feeling disconnected from spirit and essence. She was in a process of moving away from her true self. That life felt exhausting to Michelle. She stumbled across a program that was a nature immersion. She was asking questions like “What do I really want out of life”, “What do I want to creative now?” She is from MI. It was a shift towards following her heart’s path and it was scary to step into that unknown territory. She was drawn to a life that felt more like self. It was scary to follow heart. A path that no one around her was affirming. Diving into inner self work. Looking at own inherited wounds. Life was affirming my choice to leave.
Jess: Was living in Canadian. In Toronto. Jess is Canadian. Really involved in the fitness industry. Was doing bikini competitions. Father was a body builder. Interested in pushing my boundaries. Won first competion and second competition and it was that moment of feeling an emptiness inside. City life had her constantly reaching for something bigger and better outside of herself. Distracting myself from myself, asked the question, why am I so afraid of myself. Went traveling. Went leaving in search of true self. Knew what I didn’t want but knew there was something else and I was dedicated to uncovering that. Spent 4-6 months in Thailand managing a mango farm.
Riding earth immersion and the eco institute
The start of me beginning to discover my true self.
Discovering the person that I am. The passions that I have.
The program re-awakened my relationship to self. Reminding us that we need to slow down, listen.
In the program discovered for the first time my own creative potential. The program had so much space to explore.
Space to share your interior process. The program birthed a new kind of relationship
Soul attraction, spiritual attraction.
In meeting Michelle jess was confronted with the question, who am I?
Was feeling the depth of my heart with Michelle and all of these other people. Jess was grappling with who she thoughts she was and letting some parts of her die so that she could say yes to what was there. Jess had to grieve her entire life before Michelle.
Jess had to affirm herself and she could no longer look to other people to affirm her identity.
Felt like whole life was leading her to this moment. The one I was going to choose was the soul calling. Being with Michelle meant confronting the shame around sexuality that I had. Was scary to claim the relationship.
In the path on moving to true self you can’t be affirmed by outside forces.
Had to confront myself. The first moments of illumination drive you.
Constantly meeting our own thresholds. Each initiation is different for each person.
On my journey there is a deep wound of rejection. Experience of receiving disapprovals was normal.
I had to Confronting on some level my own internalized disapproval. Fear of what others will think.
Being able to validate our own worth.
When you are met with disapproval and rejection and you revisit the depths of yourself and learn to reparent yourself.
Relationships are the doorway to transform. Any relationship is a doorway to looking at yourself in a different way. What is uncomfortable in me is meant to be explored.
All of our relationships can be opportunities for our own growth, for healing our wounds.
Most of my reparenting has come from earth
Discoherence
Relationships are the primary context for existence
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We met in Salulita Mexico
Been in my heart to have Sara on the podcast for a long time.
Husband from puerto vallarta Mexico
Raising two boys in Madison, WI
Engaged in community activism
Does work around dismantling own racism
Discmantelling my own shit
Transitioning out of Realistate portion of the business into
When Sarah’s kids started seeing their own skin color.
Was raised to not see color and how problematic that was for you.
Once you see what you have been raised not to see, you can’t unsee it and you then have to be willing to do something about it.
Wasn’t raised to see my privilege
A racial Justice Lens is one Sara wants to have.
September 14th of 2013 when Sarah committed to the work she is doing.
Didn’t see my own whiteness
No model on how to live in equity in the United States
Seeing Self as a racial being
Outspoken about process
Showing your work
Committed to learning and own personal journey.
Racial Justice summit
Investing in changing mindset
Allowed myself to get uncomfortable
White savoir complex.
Performative alleyship is a lack of discernment
Be aware of performative alleyship.
Helping vs. mutual aid based
Discernment of when to speak up and when not to speak up
Tone policing
Individual, institutional, and structural. It’s problematic to center ourselves.
White women as a group can be oppressive because our whiteness benefits us, if we don’t acknowledge it, then it’s a part of the problem. The systems wants us to not see it
The system isn’t broken it’s working exactly how it was set up to be.
Acknowledging that my whiteness is the problem
White intellectualization
Taught to think and not feel
Challenging yourself and your whiteness
Courageous conversations
Engaging in challening conversations:
100 challenging questions for white people.
Love life every day, have an abundance evidence list
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Getting back from a week of being at the beach
Difficult transition home from the beach
Got to go deep sea fishing
Missing my dad when I went deep sea fishing
Doing anti-racist work leading me to new questions like what is the 4th of July actually celebrating and do I want to celebrate the way I’ve celebrated in the past
What to do when all of the days look the same because of covid
Baking lots of bread
Making Pizza Dough Crust
3 day fermentation process on my sourdough bread
The state of my singledom
Dated someone for 3 months
I realized I don’t want another person around
The messaging my whole life has been that I need to find my mate
The Message I got was that I needed a partner to be happy, that if I didn’t have a partner than I couldn’t be happy.
I love my home, my city, my community, my work.
My life is a dream come true on any level imaginable, and having another person around wasn’t making it better.
I am so happy being a single woman. I am so empowered being Alisha and being single. I feel empowered to say that I want a man in bed from time to time but I don’t want a relationship.
I’ll take lovers from here on out, and maybe I’d be open to a soulmate, but I don’t need a mate.
If you’re single and you think you need a partner I’m asking you to consider if that thought is really true?
Being freed from the need to have a partner
Excited about Yoke and Abundance and what’s happening in that community. The Gathering just opened. Sharing the offerings of The Gathering it feels good. The community space of the Gathering is fostering community, dialog, and introspection.
I’m so grateful to do the work I do.
How do I want to celebrated leading up the 100th episode? How do I give back to all of you listeners.
Not a day goes by that I’m not thankful to get to do this work.
My Coaching is about helping you live in alignment with your own core values
This time is a possibility for change
Putting down the part of my identity that was struggle
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Christa Forest Interview Notes
Taking the leap to do something that’s truly important
Specializes in expressive female portraits
Second career
Art coming from protest
Walking town
How is making and creating helping us through this time?
People are looking for an outlet
In art or yoga you can spend that time on where you are and time just blurs
People yearn for that.
It brings out so much community and feelings, whether you want to deal with them or not.
You can dive into your sketch book and let it out or not. More people are looking for that lately.
The act of creating and step fully into who we are is a profound experience
Allowing what’s going on inside to go out.
What is the difference for creating just for yourself compared to painting for someone else.
I don’t compare when I paint for myself. I compare when I paint for a show.
Goal is to finish a sketch book. I collect them, and don’t finish them.
Goal this year is to fill one up and then share one.
Dealing with rejection; how do you move it out of your mind and body when you feel it in your mind and body
Your art comes from within
It’s tough to compete with some amazing artists
What’s the best that could happen
Keep putting in that work and eventually you’ll be able to jump in and take that risk.
Started as a landscape painter
We live life based on experiences not what we have.
Live my life based on, is it gonna make us happy.
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Author of Winter of the Wolf
YA novel
Listening to nature speak to you when you’re really little
You have to keep following what your intuition and your heart tells you
The knowing
Using a book coach
High schoolers grapple with really big things
Telling people that I was writing a book was a big step
Getting an office
Doing morning pages
Willingness to tell people “this is what I’m doing”
Working on Animal Communication
When you put voices into the animal’s head, and the more you tune into your beliefs
Grief cracks you wide open
The Jewish Book of Why
Little Red Ridding Hood Lied
Zitty and Alisha Conversation.
Being in a constant state of not feeling like you fit in
Hyper vigilance increasing cortisol levels
We are misaligned from what divine law is
Multilayered, multigenerational story
We are all getting the call to be brave
We are being called to make a decision about who we are choosing to serve
Question everything
Read, learn
Willful ignorance will not sustain us. We can never go back.
We all have to be brave.
Breath is going to be really important.
Humility, willing to consider what others are saying about us.
Normalize being open to hearing what others are saying about us.
Consider if what others are telling us is right
Now is your superhero moment
Anyone for humanity, healing and truth this is your moment
Leaders who were overlooked over and over and over again because they didn’t look the part.
Multilingual
We can never go back to what it was before
It’s political, spiritual, economical
Economics is a huge part of it
Black folks have built our own economy
We all have a calling in our life
There is power in lineage
Black lives matter
Doing all the right things is a myth
Ask questions that open the door for you to be wrong
Education is so important
If your heart is sincere about learning, know there is a lot to learn about there
Malia Makaila
Movement by Malia
Partime fitness coach and model
Professional dancer
Background in hosting with the Philadelphia 76ers
Physical body awareness
Have to learn body awareness
Dance helped me in my everyday life
It made me a more confident person
There is self-awareness but there is also body awareness
Everybody should learn how to use their body
“Your body works hard for you, so you should work hard for your body”
Your body is your biggest tool
Don’t be the first person to do something, but be a fast follower
Who wants to come along with me?
Being an entrepreneur is knowing what you’re selling and who’s buying it.
People need to trust you.
Everyone you’re working with is trusting you.
“Your workout today is not going to be how your work out was yesterday and it’s not going to be what it is tomorrow”
Accept where your body is in that moment.
Building community
As a coach you need to know who you’re working out with
Think about why you work out and why you’re moving.
Keep your innocence, keep your happiness and keep going for everything you want
Stay positive and keep those around you that are important to you
Pure happiness.
Set small goals that reach up to bigger goals
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Shelley Paxton: Soulbbatical:
A corporate rebel guide to
Spent 26 years in the corporate world
The most iconic brand I’ll ever serve is myself.
What is the impact that you want to rebel for?
Not a conventional sabbatical
Not about leaving your job, about finding yourself
A way of being in the real world
Living and leading from a place of authenticity and courage
Chief Soul Officer
I had a responsibility to get to know my soul
I don’t ask for permission
I give myself permission to show up as my most powerful self in the world
Chief soul officer is giving yourself permission slips to
Slow down to speed up
Busyness is an addiction
The world is on soulbbatical, it’s being asked to slow down and reflect
Authenticity is the truest form of rebellion
What would change in your life right now if you were being 100% true to you?
How do we want to consciously show up?
I feel like a lighthouse
I feel so on purpose
Needing to rebuild your relationship with yourself
Taking the next right step
Follow the breadcrumbs of your passions
You’re not gonna have control over this
Times for rally and recovery.
Choose creative over consumption
Our core or center is where we protect and project.
Rebel for who you are!
Trust and surrender
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Embracing My Witchy Ways
Solo Catch up Episode with Alisha
How did I embrace my witchy woo woo side
Raised Catholic
Loved to follow rules
Loved the idea of being a good girl
Never specifically told witches were bad
Witches weren’t something I believed in
Had to read the catechism my senior year in honors religion.
I felt like the catechism was telling us to believe in magical thinking, but also the perspective that magic is wrong.
Was atheist for awhile
Was brought back into spirituality through my yoga practice.
Yoga is not just asana, it’s a lifestyle, a path. It’s about Living life in a present way
Stephanie Keach is one of the most incredible yoga teachers I’ve ever experienced.
In Savasana in a class of 60 people felt the feeling that we are all one, all one breathing body. We are all connected deeply
In embracing the inner witch, I recognize that we are all one, we are all energy.
Reading every self-help book I can get my hands on
Someone I respected told me to try a tarot reading with Sky Bradshaw. Did a past life reading with her.
There are things that happen that we just can’t explain
All of the rituals from Catholicism have been stolen from the pagans.
Had a past life reading, One life I lived with nuns. In another life I was a witch and I held gatherings. I was found out and put to death in that lifetimes for being a witch.
After that lifetime my soul said never again
But In this lifetime I’m being called and asked to make the word witch neutral.
I’m being asked to transmute the word witch with love. Making it neutral.
Got a permission slip to own who I am
A woman who uses oracles cards, honors the seasons, honor the moon cycles, using oils to heal.
If you think you’re a witch, you probably are
The Witch Wound: Deeply engrained knowledge that women are put to death for our intuition, having inner knowing, honoring cycles and being put to death for that.
Being a witch to me is about being in harmony with the earth and it’s cycles.
Our emotions and feelings have been disregarded for so long.
Being at witch means I flex my intuition muscle
The bad connotation of witches is more about silencing the voice of women and often times silencing the voice of women in order to protect powerful men.
Being a witch is about honoring the shadow side as well as the light.
Tools of being at witch: Morning pages, learning how to flex your intuition muscle.
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Drum Carrier
Drum Maker
We end up where we need to be
White Star woman
The drum calls you
Tools are teachers"
The drum has a very specific voice and what it is hear to teach us
Asking the teacher for permission
There is an appropriate way to approach someone who carries wisdom that we want. Honor and respect someone who has the wisdom that you want.
Don’t just assume that the wisdom is for you, but you approach the tools and honored teachers, you bow show your respect and recognize that you’re there to receive. You have to ask for the relationship
We are often asked some questions back.
Who are you and what is it that you want from the tool or teacher?
Being guided down a path of resonance
Drums are made out of raw hide
Birthing drums on the full moon when the veil is very thin
When you get a drum from Audrey you are getting a part of Audrey’s energy infused into her drums
It’s not about people being dependent on me. It’s about facilitation
The drum is the ultimate facilitator to receive guidance, visions, access to our ancestors
It has everything to do with where the person is on their sacred path
The drum meets us exactly where we are and where we’re ready
The drum is recalibrating our nervous system so that we can access what’s possible.
If we are listening to ourselves the drum is going to meet us where we are and take us exactly where we need to be.
Some of us are being blessed with space and time. Time to integrate and time to listen to what we’re being called to.
Creativity really flows when we have that space
There’s that call of “wake up” and people are hearing that and feeling that and they are starting to listen and navigate
It’s a remembering
Trust yourself
Our tendency to be so logical and linear is good in balance but we have an opportunity right now to be receptive to our intuition, and our creativity and give it more value in our lives. Give it more space and priority because of how it brings vitality.
If there is a change that needs to be made, make it.
We need everyone listening to their inner voice and being a steward of it!
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American Sign Language Inc.
Coda
Didn’t verbally speak until she was 4.5
In two different world
American Sign language was Tabitha’s first language
American Sign language is the second most spoken language
Sign language should be taught in schools even just the basics
Deaf children are being mainstreamed
Sign language is my passion and calling and what I’m called to do.
Communication is a critical piece in everything
Advocating and raising awareness
Don’t yell when you meet a deaf person
Don’t tap on a deaf person’s shoulder
Being conscious and inclusive
We are all the same
Bridging the two worlds
Imagine if you can’t hear, you’re depending on others
A simple touch goes a long way
Hands that Speak provides interpreting services and education as well as facilitate communication
Always have an interpreter
Sometimes the deaf community feels left out because they are overlooked
We are all different but the same
Invite the deaf population and have an interpreter, it’s a pivotal piece to bringing the two worlds together.
Imagine if you couldn’t hear, you’re depending on others. You only know what you know.
Why not learn the basics of sign? That means the world to a deaf person.
Anyone with a disability, there is a barrier, so just the basics (who knowing sign) goes a long way.
In a place where I just get up and go and do!
Whether you like to, whether you’re scared or not you just do it
If it was put in my mind to do it I was given all of the tools to do it.
Goal to learn at least 2 new things every day
The more seeds you sew the more you put yourself out there it comes back and when it comes back it comes back 10 fold.
Every no that you get prepares you for the yes that’s going to put you on your path
Don’t take no for an answer, there is always a way
Some days are hard, sad or confusing, just keep going no matter what, don’t stop
Keep learning, keep growing
Have a firm foundation, we can’t do anything alone
Try not to stay stuck in the trials
Give yourself time to feel the feelings and then move on! Use it as fuel
There is a learning curve when you’re in a deaf household
You can be anything you put your mind to
We all have a story to tell
You can do it no matter what goes on
CODA children have a heart to care for others
Where can you open your doors for the deaf population
Learn the basic signs of sign language
Have patience
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Moving Beyond Trauma: The Road Map to Healing from Your past and living with ease and vitality.
You can only take your clients as far as you’re willing to go yourself.
Trauma is energy that get’s trapped in the body.
Trauma isn’t something that happens too much too soon without being able to defend yourself, not necessarily about an event, it’s the energy that get’s locked in the body
You can’t build a safe container for another person if you’re not honest and vulnerable with that person
Healing is a journey and a healing lifestyle
Creating a healing lifestyle is what will regulate your lifestyle.
Every emotion has a sensation
The experience of anxiety is somewhere in your body
Anxiety gets worse because we don’t want to be with that experience
Help a person learn to move through the anxiety so they know they can move through it.
Creating a roadmap to understand how your own nervous system is working
Building a sensory tool box
Trusting your inner voice
Autonomy
The Trauma vortex
Stop asking why; what to do when talk therapy isn’t working
Let’s see what’s happening now.
If you can get out of the why and into the what you’ll have sensory experiences that you can work through
Stop talking about it and feel it
As I’ve healed my story has become less relevant
The slower you go, the faster the progress
Healing is not a one and done
Breath work
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Answering the question “How are you doing” truthfully
Raven Group: Helping leaders and their organizations transform, executive coaching and consulting Coaching people through big change, big transformation, big transition
Process of stepping into your true self
A stirring, a restlessness
Sitting with the feeling of restlessness
Thinking about every part of my life
Having to let go of something when I’m at the top of my career without knowing what’s next
Begin the process of unraveling yourself
Turned strategy development on myself
Just as important to know what you don’t want as it is to know what you do want
The ability to take some time off and clear my head and clear my heart
Work was an extension of who I truly was.
Two types of people: 1st, the job is the job and that’s all it is. 2nd Those who the work is who we are.
Work was as much spiritual development as it was emotional development
The business is like a baby, I feel like I birthed it. It is me and I am it.
It’s hard to be in relationship that doesn’t embody those principals
A quickening, more of a sense of urgency and focused on becoming and knowing what’s true for me and what’s meant for me in this world.
We owe it to ourselves to get on with it. The gifts we’re meant to share.
Needing your work to align with who you are
Feeling a sense of urgency to know what is true for you and not waste another moment.
The knowing that, that is not where you were supposed to be
The longer I stayed where I knew I wasn’t supposed to be the more I disliked myself.
It takes so much courage
It’s one thing to know it, to know your truth and it’s another thing entirely to live it.
To actually go: “I can’t stay here any longer, I’m leaving”.
There is always endings. It can be a good ending or a tragic ending. It can take a lot of courage. And endings can be tragic
William bridges model of change and transition: The neutral zone
No floaties
Let go “in love” of a marriage that wasn’t serving you.
Come out to myself that I’m gay.
I can no longer be who I truly am, because I am hurting them, and me.
It’s one thing to know your truth, and another to live it.
When your truth has you leaving something like that, it’s huge and I came to the point where it’s sad, but I can nolonger be in this and not live my truth.
If you’re really tuned into it. There becomes a time when the can’t becomes, there’s no way that I can’t live my true self.
When it comes from a place of love of myself and my family.
Getting out of my own way
A coach to look up to
A reminder that at some point we all feel this way
Allowing yourself to be vulnerable is the most attractive thing
“What if we found out at the end of our lives we found out there was nothing to overcome, nothing to get any better at?”
Always on this question of learning and getting better. This world is built on the platform that we’re imperfect and we need to be fixed, trained and developed, but what if we are perfect just as the way we are?
I can focus on being who I am.
Learn how to take the armor off and honor it.
I was living my truth but I was not living all of who of I am. So about half of me was awake or living.
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Creativity
When we’re little 1st and 2nd great 95% of us believe we’re creative, by 5th grade only 5% of us think we’re creative
Invitation to find that part of yourself again.
Your creativity and spirituality it makes you feel connected.
Creativity allows us to move energy
It’s ok to feel the feelings but how do we move it?
Intentional creativity
Not just creating to create? What is your intention? Feel the rage? Move a feeling?
Not just about creativity, it’s co-creativity. You’re co-creating with spirit
If you’re creative and empathic you’re feeling not just your feelings but everyone’s
Creatives empaths, we have medicine. We can help shift the energy.
To stay grounded and rooted
How do I want to be in this time and space?
What impact do I want to make?
Be mindful of where you go for your news
Strong boundaries
Plug into spirit
Plug into the spirit of faith, freedom, love and connection
Choose how I’m interacting with people
What do people need to hear right now
Moving your body is awesome. It moves the energy
We are being invited into doing things differently
We are being asked to step across a different threshold
There are old ways of thinking that we’re being invited to let go of
Cosmically being asked to take a retreat and break together
A delicious invitation to dive into what you’re wanting
All the things you’ve put off, there’s time now
There is space right now to allow you to do that
Spirit walks
Surrender Trust Receive
The biggest piece to resistance is to have a team
You’re gonna hit resistance
Support is the biggest way to push you through.
Sometimes we need the kick in the butt
Un-censor yourself, go wild, be free
Who am I meant my wisdom onto
The limitations are not outside
We’re the ones saying “I gotta work… or I can’t spend time with my partner, we’re doing it to ourselves”
Dial into your why. Not the surface why, but the deeper why.
Look at the cost. What is the real cost if you don’t do it?
What is the deeper cost if you don’t do your creative practice or you don’t write your book
Notice the real cost
Take Care of myself
Abundance is a mindset, recognizing what’s already around us
Start with you! Whatever’s gonna make you feel good
Acknowledge the abundance that’s already here.
Be in a space of delighting with what’s already there.
Be open to receive
Surrender, trust, receive
Be ready to receive
Be in a space of Wide-Open receptivity
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A Trial Attorney
Can we win life’s battles without losing ourselves?
The root of the world elegance is (to choose)
We step into this moment with the option and the choice to do something more true to who you are.
Thinking about yourself as a warrior
We all have our battles internal or external
Winning means to receive something positive because you earned it
Being a warrior can be as simple as asking
Winning doesn’t mean someone has to lose
Armoring up helps us step into our role
Wearing a uniform
Let your armor be your choice
We all have trials in life
Turning adversaries into advocates
Decide if you move to create friction or do you move to create fire?
You always want to move forward
Look for progress over fire
Collect your yeses
Women have a difficult time asking
Women don’t ask
We’re better at asking for other people or other things
If you can’t ask for yourself imagine something else that you’re asking for.
Ask for your idea. Think of your idea as a living breathing thing.
You won’t get what you want until you ask
If you collect your yesses it will build confidence
Ask for what you want until you get it. It might not come in the form that you thought it would, but you will get what you need in one form or another.
“Tell me what you want me to know”
Leave your pain here and go out and do your wonderful things
Building up creditability with reader.
In advocating for ourselves we’re looking for someone else to do it. We’re looking for permission or validation. You have gifts.
Charisma’s Root is “Divine gift”.
You have your charisma and that is all the permission and validation that you need
No one can ask the way you ask, no one can validate the way you do.
Live a life of abundance by choice
Being able to see things for a number of different perspectives.
Where is the abundance?
Choose to see the abundance. It’s a conscious choice.
When you look at things from an abundance mindset, that is what you get.
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Works with women in financial services, technology and stem. Helps them get promoted
Background in Women’s Studies and Psychology
Take Advantage of opportunities that our women and Grandmother’s didn’t have
PHD from Cambridge
Women’s right to control family size
Confidence isn’t what’s holding women back
We blame women’s confidence for not getting ahead
Confidence is about self-awareness
Take other people’s feed back
Working on Competence is much more important
We expect more humility from women than men
The con job, getting ahead in a world obsessed with confidence
Confidence is more about self-awareness
Servant leadership
Authenticity
The safe-employer is a myth
Have the humility to get feedback
The Lean-Start up model
Summer of humility
Get back to your core competency
Be the bridge
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We can be so blind to ourselves
New book “Why Bother? Discover the desire for what’s next”
The book I’ve been trying to write my whole career
Came into the world asking why aren’t we more alive?
We have signature themes and they hold some energy for us that we need to keep exploring
How can we be more alive? How can we let more life in?
Finding a spring to refill water
Desire is the spring we need to clean out and let it flow
I don’t want anyone to see me in the gray area so I rush to show that I learned from my failure
What do you want to bother about?
We are holding onto things that are done, hanging onto old images of ourselves, but we need to let go
Why are you giving up on good and rich and wonderful and your present self
Ease in! If you get quiet, realize that you matter, get some self compassion and some grit.
Get up on your skies the settle
Must have time to just be, it’s so obvious and so difficult for people to do.
When we can hang out and hold the tension of it, so much can get clear and grow roots we can gain faith in ourselves
Desire
Find ways to trust desire, back up your fears of desire and let desire enliven us.
The question of Why both is so normal!
Why bother is a way to keep us safe from having our hearts broken
Holding the ache and the humbleness
Life doesn’t give up on us
We have a strong negativity biases, so we need to flip it around a little bit and see that there is a lot of energy there.
Drop the self-cruelty
Gently say “What’s good here now?”
Energy comes from remembering that nothing is fixed.
Keep putting your attention on not trying to solve anything but on what is feeling good right now, what is beckoning me right now
Wonder opens the door to desire
Where can we get more curious in our own lives that would wake up that desire?
Where have you compared yourself to others or been envious?
Let wonder stir
Get your bother on
Get energy of becoming by doing
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Changing your money Mindset
Learning about the law of attraction from Oprah
What are the practicle things that you can do to activate the law of attraction
Strengthening the belief that what you want is possible for you
Thinking about what it would feel like to have what you want
Get clear on what you want and what you’re asking for
There’s always more money
Money is a renewable resource
Get Rich Lucky Bitch
In the six steps: Write down all of the money coming into us, have gratitude, do the work of cleaning out our negative money mindset, write down our goals, write down our upgrade list.
This is thirsty work
Being so compassionate with ourselves and our fight or flight down
This work is really about calming our nervous system
This course is about loving and healing yourself
We are so bad at receiving
Learning how to receive
We need to start to learn to receive
Next accepting even small things is a way of pushing away abundance
We all have to continue to be students of this work
Your mindset work is like having a shower and you have to do it every day
Listening to positive podcasts
Being vigilant about the messages that are coming in
Be specific about what you want and how much it will cost
Have a money community that is committed to doing money mindset work.
Buying into the idea that you don’t get something for nothing
You can’t prove your worth by working hard
Examine your relationship with working hard
We often sabotage ourselves because we don’t feel like we earned our money
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In The Company of Women
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Pauline Clamps Suzanne Hines
Incapable of internalizing success
Only caulking success up to luck
Completely able to internalize failures
Imposter Complex is a not a syndrome because it’s not pathology.
This is an instrument of evolution
The Complex is a part of our need to belong.
Everything about the complex is relational.
Keeps us out of action, doubting our capacity, and alone and isolated.
There are thousands of layers to the complex
Most people who experience the imposter complex have mastery, integrity and excellence
The imposter complex shows up at the precipice of our expansion.
We might be having a shared space but we’re not having a shared experience
Podcast: Ready Enough
12 lies of the imposter complex
6 behavioral traits of the imposter complex
Everything you have done, created survived and lived through has prepared you for this moment, so ready enough
Desiree Adaway :Liberatory consciousness
All Roads lead to the imposter complex
12 Lies of the imposter complex:
Self-doubt is proof of your inadequacy
Successful people don’t experience this
You are either all or nothing
You have nothing useful valid or original to say
You must not tell anyone about this
You must tell everyone about this
You’re not ready yet
You’ll never be able to pull that off again
It’s just a matter of time before this all crumbles beneth you
You can’t trust the praise of others
Fake it till you make it
Asking for help is for suckers
Root into the truth of your capacity
Working with world changing leaders who don’t want to be held back by the imposter complex
Impeccable Impact
Show up for who you’re meant to be
6 behavioral traits of the imposter complex
People pleasing
Leaky boundaries
Diminishment
Comparison
Perfectionism
Procrastination
If you’re about to do something don’t just slip it into the water
How dare you hoard your good stuff
If you slip it into the water you’re guaranteed get slipped it into the water results and then that confirms the negative bias.
Understand what’s in the way of you taking action?
Cultivate circles of belonging
You’re impeccable impact is where we want to go
Rooted in integrity, presence and taking right action
Show up authentically, be obedient to our vision and to ourselves.
When we give ourselves the same reverence that we would give others that’s when we are truly unstoppable.
We are willing to fail when we are rooted in tenacity and resilience
When we know which behavioral trait is our natural set point we know where the work is.
Imposter Complex Quiz
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In The Company of Women
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Public health and non-profit space…
Lively Community Foundation
It’s not about getting the outside perfectly right. It’s about getting the inside right
Listening to your intuition
Listening to the “Still small voice within”
Surrender
You have to keep leaping over and over and over before you even know if the net has appeared.
Trusting the now moment.
The Law of attraction
The Teachings of Abraham Hicks
Our value doesn’t come from Action
It’s our responsibility to hook up with the energy that has created the world
Align with that vibration
Opportunity to choose yourself
Who am I?
How do I want to spend my time?
What does Abundance mean?
When we help others we are helping ourselves
The Lively Community Foundation
Emotional well-being brigade
The transformation beyond trauma
Everyone has some form of trauma
You define yourself due to that traumatic experiences
Traumatic Experiences wire deeper than positive events.
The suffering that can come from the trauma doesn’t have to be permanent
Emotional well-being brigade gives grants to those taking RTT and offer RTT to those that need it.
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You can find Nishi on Instagram at @sagebynishi
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Entrepreneur
Lives in Greensboro NC
Owner of The Shoe Bus https://www.theshoebus.com/our-story
Owner of Bovega https://www.theshoebus.com/bovega
Travel itch Wanderlust: looking into alternative living
Dreams of living in a VW Camper Van
Sell and do anything a running store does via the bus
Sought out Greensboro: sought out a city with a growing population. Looking for porch sitters
Background as a collegiate runner
No stronger purpose I feel than when I’m with a group of runners
Working with people who are out of college.
Love of motivational speakers
Action Impact
Enjoy when people are upfront with their Feelings
Slow Down
Working on impacting Greensboro in a big way
Working with your spouse
Starting a business with your spouse
Planning makes jumping off the cliff more fun
“Jake is my weight and I am his wings: We come together and become something that is really stable.”
Take Your blinders off
Your passion and your drive is perfect
It’s ok for business partners to disagree and then come back together and figure it out.
Miscarriage and it’s feeling of trauma
Failure can mean a lot of different things
Not good at accepting death for what it is.
Choosing not to have medical intervention for miscarriage
Ready to get back to trying to make a baby
Bringing a child into the world
Your instincts are never wrong
Choosing Greensboro
Slow Down
The person she is on the inside is really awesome.
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Betsy Bertram was originally on way back on Episode 8, “You Are a Miracle”
Making Mandalas
The Year of the travel
The cosmic meeting of Betsy and Alisha Wielfaert
Three Sisters swamp
Cypress trees have a root system that connect for miles that keep the species strong
Life is so beautiful
Death teaches you how much you don’t know
It’s an invitation to invite in curiosity at the unfolding of life
Platonic life partnership: PLP
Healing loss by helping each other
The loss of the idea and of the dream and the future that you’d imagined
”Life is full of loss, and full of coming to terms with that loss and finding a way to reconnect to a state of grace and loving life and not letting the suffering be a dimming of your spirit but rather as fuel that feeds your inner flame of who you are and radiates stronger because of the struggle.”
Zooming in on the positive
We don’t know how much time we get here.
If we spend out time worried about how much time we have here, we miss what matters.
Transition to appreciation mindset.
Exhausting to revisit the most painful moments of your life on a camera.
Creating something people can connect to and reconnect to a sense of wonder and awe.
Turning grief into art.
Things worth doing take a lot longer than you’d planned on investing.
Not letting the slower pace of unfolding deter you from doing something.
It’s less about how much we accomplish and more about the depth at which we are able to have a relationship with ourselves so that we can have a deeper connection with others and a deeper connect with the natural world. In touch with emotions
Coaching creates space for everything that is. And we don’t often to do that for
Life needs more space.
When you’re grieving you need more space to adjust to a new reality.
You can do one of two things with grief, you can process it or you can put it in a box. But you don’t’ get rid of the box.
Disease: The absence of ease
Our time here is limited and fleeting: It can be terrifying or it can be the motivation to live with
Choosing to see the world not through a dusty lens
If we can master our thoughts and re-attune our internal dialog to more positive patterns, we can change our lives.
I want the watching of Captain Scott B. and the ingredients of a magical life to be a healing process in it’s self.
No matter how alone you feel you in your pain and your suffering you are not alone.
Love Transends all.
It’s not about just getting through life. It’s about truly building a life you love and expressing yourself through whatever creative informs inspires you.
My biggest hope is that this film inspires you create the life you want to live and live with deep connection. Connection is the antidote to the suffering. It’s our connection that gives us our strength. Leaning into the discomfort, and leaning knowing that you’re leaning into so much support.
Tools I’ve gained on this journey for facing loss.
When we can be like the trees and hold onto each other and knowing that we are loved and nurtured.
It’s less about survival of the fittest and more about survival of the nurtured.
Obsession with doing and controlling
Collage of moments: Little views into that last year…
Ingredients of living a meaningful life. Yet the recipe is still forming.
The depth of sadness
What would our dads tell us make a magical life. Planting apple trees, farming or gardening, and doing something every day to help others.
Forgive everything.
In the grieving process. A big part of it is forgiveness
Forgive in order to reconnect to love!
Eat more bread and butter
No Matter what loss you’ve experienced in your life, you take a moment to give yourself love and soften into whatever feelings that arise for you knowing that we’ve been there, we’re all going to be there
We don’t get over it.
The loss doesn’t get smaller, but our lives get big again.
Life keeps happening and it starts to expand again
Where your attention goes your energy goes.
Opening to the fullness of life.
The journey of the self through grief is one of reconfiguration and stepping into the unknown, and being stripped of identity.
Loss of a part of our identity.
Loss of knowing who I was in the world.
Grief is the greatest teacher.
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What’s going on in my life
Direction of Yoke and Abundance
Intuition cultivating tips
Position at non-profit eliminated
Asking questions in morning pages. Asking the path to be come cleared
Seeing quick answers to the questions I’ve been asking
A Clearing of the path
First Dream about my dad since he passed away
Saw two foxes the morning of the dream with my dad
Reminder that I’m my own wise teacher
Keep the faith
Believe in magic
Promised myself that I would not move forward in fear
Would not hustle into anything
Move forward in alignment
Book “Get Rich Lucky Bitch”
Wrote down all of the negative money situations in my life
Listening to my intuition
My intuition is a muscle that I can flex, exercise and make stronger by…
1) Morning pages
2) Meditation
3) Take Inspired action: Aligned action is critical to get you to where you want to go
4) Work out: Exercise: Moving my body. Health is a core value. Moving my body helps keeps the energy flowing.
Trick myself into doing exercise by making it something I have to do.
Intentionally moving my body
Group coaching and individual coaching
We are craving safe space to be fully ourselves
Don’t like others to see that I might be weak or that I’ve done something wrong
I try to bypass the pain and jump directly to the lesson
Safe spaces to share what’s really going on with us
In The Company of Women is a really safe space to share how you really are doing
Loneliness is more detrimental to your health than smoking a pack of cigarettes a day
What do you want to hear about?
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Audrey Sheldon: Inner Guide WorkshopsStarted The Yoga Studio Free Spirits.
Teaching for about 15 years.
Abundance.
Staying dedicated to the way my heart leads me to show up to people.
In service to a message.
I carry a sacred diamond message of remembering who we are and that we have an ability to connect to ourselves that is beyond the programing and stories we’ve been told and told ourselves.
Always reminding people that what they see in my is a reflection of some thing within themselves.
There are tools to share the message.
Yoga is the butter delivery vehicle.
In a receptive space crafting a message that is delivered by source.
Everyone has made a psychic intention of what they want to get out of their experience.
When I dedicate myself to listening and following what I’m supposed to share, I surrender and trust.
My job is to be obedient.
Tools to support people in their self-exploration.
Drumming.
Episode of Yoke and Abundance that includes drumming my Audrey Sheldon
The Project of me.
Attending to myself and learning what that means.
Expanding and connecting to what shows up.
My main project is to attend to myself because it’s this time that’s preparing me for the true expansion that’s coming.
Enjoy this sweet time of taking care of myself.
Being able to facilitate what is being asked of me.
In total surrender.
Co-Facilitating with Jamie Forbes Yoga teacher training that is happening in March.
What does it mean to be a Shaman?
Shamanism is a technology that gives us access to a leave of connectedness.
Learning how to navigate the process of crossing the vail.
What we discover when we cross the vail.
Giving us access to transmute pain into power.
How to see spirit within all of creation and all things.
Learning my relationship to spirit.
Everything in me is drawing me into myself.
Seek, discover, allow.
I am in service to the longing.
Trust Yourself.
Follow the yellow brick road and things will be highlighted to you.
Develop the necessary qualities in yourself.
Develop courage, learn how to communicate with it.
When something highlights, move towards it.
If it lights me up and feels good. I move to that direction.
The more we can become comfortable with the journey of the unknown the more the path will rise up to meet us.
Release of attachment.
Nothing is as it seems.
I always have to be willing to sacrifice everything for what I know to be true. Sacrifice the things that are most precious.
If we stay true to ourselves, you can’t be wrong.
Every being carries something unique and precious and our relationship to that unique and precious thing, anything that comes from that relationship to that thing is valuable, and important and teaching us how to bring it forward. Teaching us how to embody it and care for it.
Now is the time that we are being asked to bring forward our gifts, talents and abilities without holding back. Letting go of old stories about fear, lack and abundance.
We all have a message if we can get quiet enough to hear it and brave enough to walk our message.
Unleash the less polished me.
Be very gentle with the people in our lives.
Nobody sees the failures, mis-steps and the pain that has made us who we’ve become.
Authentic vulnerability is one of the keys to transmutation. Transmuting pain into power.
Unconditionally love myself without shying away from the truth.
Give people permission to look at the.
Share without shame: Am I actually going to tell the real story?
Encourage myself and every single person who’s listening to keep looking within.
Be careful not to get caught up with what we see happening all around us.
The yellow brick road that we’re being called to is constantly unfolding.
Support each other, be kind to each other.
Live a life of abundance by feeling like I’m deeply cared for and deeply held.
Every single person and the classes that I teach is because people show up to support me.
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Writer and Author
Flash Fiction: Bringing words and stories together in as few words as possible
Your Journey is Your Journey and it’s not going to look the same as everyone else’s
Wanting to get your yoga certification
Yoga gave me the chance to focus on something besides writing and words
By taking your mind of writing you can be open to writing more
Not writing is a huge part of the writing process
Beginning minds have the best insights
You can do yoga even if you don’t do yoga
Creativity doesn’t apply just to making art
Kick Starter
Creative journey just now becoming a lot more clear
Do all of the things
Finish things
Watch less TV
Give your attention to what you’re passionate about
Take advantage of the opportunities that are put in front of you
Focus on the stuff you want to do
Discipline and focus are really really hard so start working on them because they take a long time to develop and maintain
Your passion doesn’t have to be your job.
3 to thrive: Everyone has three big things in their lives they need to thrive. Writing, connection and confidence.
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Morning Pages: What they are, why they are important and how they will help you.
All of the big life decisions I’ve had made
A commitment to yourself
Morning pages don’t have to make sense to anyone
A process of getting what’s in head out and down.
Morning pages is about engaging with a process that helps me get into my own creative flow.
You don’t go back and read them
Making a daily commitment to yourself
Giving my creativity space, showing up for creativity each day.
Morning pages help my creativity understand that they are safe
Morning pages are a space to get clear on what’s important to you.
Making the space for the process to happen
You don’t show them to anyone else, you don’t share them with others.
You are making a commitment to yourself to engage with the process.
Make the commitment to yourself, to carve out time for yourself each day.
Sometimes you feel like you have nothing to say
Start by asking yourself simple questions
What do I want and why do I want it?
What in my life would like to change and why?
Realizing you don’t have to censor yourself.
If you think your creativity is important than you need to gift yourself morning pages
Make the commitment to get to know yourself on a deeper level
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Being a private person
Starting out as an artist
Moving into the non-profit sector
Non-Profits are passion driven
Helping organizations that are undertaking their own planning.
Began doing workshops for non-profit strategic planning
Core Pivot
Nonprofits are social impact businesses
Move nonprofits to a sustainable middle ground
Creativity is my default
No separation between art and life
Feeling the need to create something that wasn’t there beforehand.
Listen to what’s true.
Everything is Figureoutable or where there’s a will there’s a way
Listen to your clues and feed back and trust yourself along the way
Dare to trust yourself.
Random Weaving
Art’s base reuse space
Bricolage
A person who creates from what is available to them.
No separation between art and life
The reed is strongest when it intersects with other lives
Our intersections with one another is where we are strongest
Deep Core Level essence
Deep Spiritual Work
The gift of having challenges is that your heart is opened
Your life is not going to be what you think it will.
Stay open to the potential
Everything surrounding us is here because of someone else
Trust: Trust in myself, trust in the universe, trust I will always have exactly what I need even with I don’t think so.
Learn More about Anne Willson at her Website Anne Willson Art.
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The last month of the year is full of joy, stress, spending, trying to hit a year end sales goal
Find one intention for the last month of the year.
Cut expectations back
Set one intention for the remainder of the year.
Then do three things
First: Does your calendar align with your intention for the end of the year
Second: Block off one night a week to spend time with yourself
Third: Give yourself grace
Think about your intention for December
Let us know what your intention for the last month of the year.
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Sharing tools for the end of the year
Take time to do a personal annual review over the course of my year.
What went well, what accomplished, what didn’t go so well and what I would change in the year to come.
Reflections on the last year
Having a paper planner is very important.
Gather your paper planner and your cell phone
When one event clouds a whole year, being able to look back over the entirety of the year is important.
Operate from a place of positivity and optimism.
Do this also on a monthly basis
Yearly and monthly assessments of what went well and what didn’t
Understand what’s behind you’re dreams and desires. What’s the want behind the want?
If it’s not in your calendar it’s not getting done.
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Nekeshia Wall, Dance teacher and dance artist
Owner of Matriarch dance company
Often our creative pursuits become intertwined with our work lives
November 14th-17th at Roberts theater
Darling Betty
Compare and despair
Grappling with social justice issues through art
Important that you use your voice
Meaning of life is to love
Creativity is an expression of love so we must use our voice and platform to confort social justice issues
Dance is my soul manifesting whatever is on the inside of me and my body just follows
Dance is connectivity
Dance is a way of releasing into the world what is on the inside.
Writers block doesn’t exisit, you just need to do something else.
Cutting dead things so you can allow other things to grow.
If it was doing more to me than for me, then it had to go
Making a habit of saying no
You only have one life
Life is not happening to us
We are responsible for how we react
Go with your passion
Find something that makes your heart sing and grab ahold of it.
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Join us in our Yoke and Abundance Facebook Group ->New City VenturesAn advocate for place@greensborogal on InstagramMusic podcast @Gatecitylive (on Instagram) highlighting local talent regionally and statewidePodcasting is a great avenue for musicExpansion of the podcast. Podcast started as a hobbyBalance between things that pay the bills and this new venture. Started the podcast without a visionPress play studiosUnearthing the creative talent we have hereHighlighting artist’s searching for the pathPodcasting is the wild wild west an emerging media. No better way than doing it yourselfYou just jump in, fail fast if I need to fail and keep movingIf you want to start a podcast, think of a new niche Deciding to ride motorcycles in Alaska Thinking about doing something really hard in life. What would you want to do that’s really hard that scared the daylights outta youLifelong learners who are willing to take risksLearning how to ride motorcycles, got them, rode them for a yearOn a motorcycle you have to be completely presentUnderstanding your limitationsIf you do the hardest thing you can think of you don’t have excusses for anything else because it sets a new bench mark. People who are creative don’t accept the normal standards of thingsCreativity is using what you’ve got in your own skill set and solving a problemInner wise woman is someone who wants to learn new thingsSpeaking truth to powerCalm Down It’s All goodFollow your passion, work hard, preserverWe’re not fully in charge of what happens to usYou are not driving the ship
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Mom of 4
Lives on a farm in Guilford county
School House Oils: What to use, when to use it.
School house for classes
Community based place for events
Natural wellness and oils classes
We are all craving deep community and connections
Diving in before I really know what I’m doing and figuring out as I go.
Trust the process
The Four C’s: Committed, Capable, Creative, and Confident.
Learn skills
The failures are not the end result. The process is the end result.
The process is selfcare
Do less on internet and more in person
Focus on the things you know to be true.
Imposter complex
Magic now miracles
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Spilling the beans on the big project I’ve been working on
Flu Bomb: Hot water, lemon juice, minced garlic, apple cider vinegar, and honey
Reclaiming Creativity Summit: www.reclaimingcreativitysummit.com
Reclaiming Creativity: How to use the power of creative tools to unlock your inner wise woman and create the life you want
Interviews will be available for 48 after the are released.
This summit is for you if you feel blocked, if you don’t feel like an artist, if you want to better harness your creativity, if you’re a creativentrepreneur
I’ve put my normal wise women interviews on the blog and podcast because I’ve been putting so much time and effort into the creativity summit coming up.
Women On the summit Kimberly Wilson, Tanya Geisler, Melanie Rivers, Sudie Rukasin and more…
Giving Reiki and readings to many women at the party I was at Friday night.
Episode: Speaking the language of Energy
Sky Bradshaw’s Energy in Action Course
Learning that I’m much more intuitive than I’ve ever given myself credit for.
Readings and Energy Work that I’m doing
Become Reiki 1 and 2 certified
Pulled myself cards
I pulled cards for myself: The Dragon card and the wounded healer
If you are a healer that you have healed yourself before you heal others.
Growing through this year
What are you currently doing in your life that is not something you thought you’d be doing?
Where ever you are in your journey is exactly where you’re meant to be.
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Folk Rock singer
Classically trained soprano
Knowing instinctively as a teenager that I had to work for myself.
People look at some creatives and think their life must be great
The hustle is still hard.
Five years in it’s not like I’ve reached some sort of pinnacle
If you aren’t working for it, nobody else is working on it for you
One song I wrote while I was brushing my teeth
Creativity is like a muscle, the more you use it the more freely it flows.
If you’re writing a little bit each day it gets easier
Learning a whole new instrument
You will regret the things you didn’t try more than the things that you did
Tell your fear to be quiet and flex your bravery
If you believe that you’re more confident that you are, you will be.
Don’t think about the worst thing that could happen
Focus on the best thing that can happen.
Your bike goes where your eyes go
You’re going towards where you’re focused.
Ask, Believe, Receive
The more you put it out there and believe in yourself the more in comes into fruition
Keep your eyes focused on your own ball.
Live in the moment, I love spending time outside
Everyone should consider doing the thing that they are scared to do especially if it’s been pressing on them
Instagram @Emmaleemusic
Song: Monroe Mama
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In Ohio for the weekend
Looking for the FOX
https://www.yokeandabundance.com/yoke-and-abundance/2019/5/17/the-fox-a-wise-teacher
Filing for Bankruptcy
Officially worth nothing from a financial perspective
Not letting your finances affect who you are on the inside
What’s in your bank account or not in your bank account doesn’t get to define you
What would I tell one of my clients if they were in the situation I’m in
What is success? What is failure?
Successful Wise Women Panel
Knowing your work has a powerful impact on the people I work with, connects others, highlights a diverse perspective of women
Outwardly the business looking like it’s doing well, but it’s still in the start-up and cashflow is difficult.
Mono tasking while on a 10 hour drive
The Movie the Greatest Showman
Anyone who’s ever made fun of or tried to do something hard can relate to the song “This is me” from the greatest showman.
Outwardly things look great, but business and entrepreneurship is tough.
Entrepreneurship is up and down and back and forth.
Don’t dwell in what isn’t going well or things that you can’t change. I have not yet defined success for myself yet.
One of the most important things I can do for myself is get clear for me what success means, and how I am measuring it.
Want to make a significant impact in my community
The hope of entrepreneurship is that you’ll work back to be able to provide for yourself but also be able to give back.
What’s my definition of failure?
Success comes from failing, failing, failing.
You can only become a success by embracing failure.
What are the important benchmarks that you’re hitting that are powerful that are making a difference?
What is your definition of success? What is success to you?
What are your stepping stones to success?
Action Items: Define failure for you. Define success for you. Watch the Greatest Showman, Listen to the song this is me
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Elma Hairston: Dynamic Images LLC
A heart for serving
I like to leave things better than when I found them
Rebecca Aydelette
Passion is soul tending
Helping women connect with things that help them tend their soul
Enable women to slow down and take a deep look at their hearts and their souls
Emily Morris: Shoe Bus, Bovega
Keshia Wall: Assistant professor of dance at Elon University Founder of matriarch dance co.
Goal in life
When you cut dead things other things bloom
Relax, keep being you
Never let someone stand in the way of your dreams
Don’t let anyone stand in the way of your power
It is your responsibility to not allow anyone to take away the dreams that you had
Abby Wombach’s book Wolfpack
Knowing that I can connect with someone with my heart
Determined to not be in competition with others.
Do what you know you’re supposed to be doing.
Empower women
Be in service to people
Love and Grace
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Women Should have side gigs
Delegating for success: For entrepreneurs who aren’t ready to hire yet.
Entrepreneurs need virtual assistants
Practicing What you Preach
Mega purse sale
Women’s Resource Center
Empower women to improve and enrich their lives
Success tool kit
Every woman should have a tool kit
“Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can” + to take your next step forwad -Arthur Ash
Being Scared to come on the podcast but doing it anyway…
Becoming a certified scuba diver
Doing what scares you
Fear and entrepreneurship, fear of what have I done? Fear of not doing? Fear of success
The 20 year rule: If it’s gonna matter in 20 years then it’s worth worrying about. If not gonna matter 20 years from now don’t worry about it.
“Honey don’t worry about that, just think, this time next year you’ll have a whole other set of problems to think about it.”
Season of doing
Taking a weekend away once a quarter to recharge your creative life
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Stand-up comedian, Stay at home mom, Wife, writer, smiley,
Sadness inspires her comedy
A lot of people lean into their darkness in a creative way.
Co-creator of shifting lens
It doesn’t matter, I’m just a light inside
Grappling with tough issues through comedy
Race isn’t real
Being a sexual person is part of the cool shit of life
“Rocking my mustache today”
Facial hair has always been so taboo
“When my baby was born I wanted them to have an idea of naturalness.”
Eye’s up here comedy
Don’t give up on the stage
Don’t take everything so personally
The sign is: What makes your heart beat? What makes your heart jump?
I am naturally the center of attention
Don’t take anything personal
How do you like to be loved?
Pulling the rug out from under you and inviting you to sit down because we’re all the same.
Believing that what my heart tells me is right
I’m good for the economy
Scuppernong books shout out
My Time is coming because I’m taking the time to answer my calling
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Bloom Inclusion
Diversity Equity and Inclusion
Design thinking
Let’s bring everyone together
When people get together in different areas do they clash or do they ideate?
What’s a sustainable solution for an individual?
Giving an option out or an opt in.
Just because a leader wants you to do something doesn’t mean you have to. You have the agency to say yes or no.
Innovation stations
Creativity Cultivator
Thinking differently to live a life of abundance.
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We met in Yoga Teacher training
Writing a book and completely deleting it
National Novel Writing Month
The power of fear
The power of Accountability
Learning how to write and who I am as a writer
Write and write and write and eventually your voice will become your own
Reading your own work out loud to someone else.
Having a cheerleader saying this is worth doing, this is relatable.
Take no with a grain of salt
Published 3 book with a publisher and then going solo on publishing
Wanting creative control
The book is about her but not about her.
Being in the control of the ending was helpful and healing
Every book has one piece I’m emotionally attached to and given a happy ending
Using writing to work out the process of grief
Jess’s books always have a happy ending
Sit down and write
Turn the faucet on
You can’t edit what you didn’t write
Nobody writes a good first draft
Yes, it’s been done before but not by you!
Creativity is not following the rules.
Don’t care what others think of you.
Read what you want, do what you want, don’t listen to people unless they are your cheerleaders.
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Spiritualist: Soul based, core energy based uplifting enlightenment work
Divination
Speak to spirits
Speak the language of energy
We are soul residing in a body
Soul is the energy that is us.
Soul maintenance
Textile art: Sacred Flagging
Spiritual therapist
Spiritual Coaching
Think about the way you are being in the world
We’re always growing and learning
If you’re not asking questions you’re probably in the ground
The one intensifies the sum
Teaching by Walking together
We are all energy
The Grove
Sally Ann Glassman
If it’s God who sends you on your mission it is he who pays your way
Feel first, act second
What do you want to foster in the little humans around you
What happens with beings who get to make their own soul choices
Book: Energy Medicine: The science of acupuncture, Traditional Chinese Medicine, and other healing methods by Jill Blakeway
Learning from suffering is much more difficult if you’re addicted to the action of suffering.
You can’t have change without change
Don’t Be afraid of the fear
Do not anger at the Donkey for not being a horse
You’re gonna be ok.
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Sewing
Love of fabrics
Working in the apparel industry in textile and fabric design
The Apparel industry is not project runway
Radical Sabbatical
Make a list of the things you do for yourself
Reconnecting with people
Are you moving through life in an unconscious way?
Do you want to lead a conscious life?
What did you want to do when you were in college?
Me Made May
Italy and solo travel, It’s not all pasta and cocktails
Getting out of your routine and out of your comfort zone
Are you in a place where you haven’t done anything to push yourself in a long time?
Traveling: You’re alone with your thoughts a lot. You’re forced to examine things you don’t want to look at.
Get a good Therapist
Being so closed up in a shell and so comfortable in a routine.
We put so much pressure on ourselves to not be wrong
When we’re wrong it’s a growth opportunity
Mantra: I’m not going through something, I’m growing through.
Break out of your routine
Deliberate daily creativity
It’s so important to do something creative that you can get lost in every day, something you’re not tied to the outcome.
Creativity is everything.
Creativity, you’re giving yourself permission to try
What can I try?
What can I just go for?
Everyone’s creative you just haven’t found the way to express it.
Give Yourself permission to immerse yourself in creative play
Get out something from inside you, but don’t be attached to the outcome
What’s the worst thing that happens if you try?
Change your scenery
Experience new cultures
Getting to hear other people’s stories
We have so much more in common than the things that divide us
making New Connections through travel
Pitching a tent in your own city can feel like an experience of travel
Make a switch to get you out of your routine
Don’t be afraid to turn out off your phone
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Salon Crie
Textured curly hair salon
Doing hair since she was 13th
Always wanted to do hair
When seasons in your life are changing you get uncomfortable
Wrote a book: “It’s About Time”
Peace, Freedom Authenticity
Three things guide my authenticity
Peace: Calm in the midst of turmoil
Disconnect when needed
Shut off to get to where you can think and see
Freedom is the ability to make decisions and get them done.
Don’t compare your journey with others.
Your journey is your journey
Authenticity is at my core
Establish your values
You’re your own CEO, you get to set up and decide what that looks like
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Thank you to everyone who’s made this podcast possible!
Thank you to everyone who’s funded this podcast
Thank you to all of the listeners, the wise women who let me interview them, my Producer Ira and everyone who’s sponsored this podcast.
The Story of Where the Yoke and Abundance Wise Women Series came from
Every single one of us has deep wisdom to share.
I hope that everyone who listens to this podcast that you recognize that same wisdom within yourself.
Diversity of women on the podcast is very important
Importance of core values on the podcast. Some of those core values of the yoke and Abundance podcast include creativity, abundance, diversity, connection.
What we’ve tried over the last year
Listener questions: I’m a positive Psychology Practitioner
Positive Psychology is helping people move north of neutral
Other people matter
Helping us flourish, thrive, and grow
Finding identity, purpose and meaning
Hone your inner wisdom
My Core Values: Health, Creativity, mindfulness, Sovereignty, and growth
Why do I coach?
The most logical decision you can make is to listen to your intuition.
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TeachingHorse
Founders of TeachingHorse Beth Hyjek and June Gunter
Leadership development for 33 years
Good Things happen when you take risks
When we see people show up… that’s the power the transformation
Embodied experiences
Making the life of the leader sustainable
You have to earn the right to be a leader
Use your attention to make decisions
Make clear decisions
Set clear direction
Set a pace that reflects reality
Be honest with yourself about what you know and what you don’t
A lot of the choices you make are with instinct, not conscious choices.
Return to freedom www.returntofreedom.com
Horses will reflect to you who you are and how you lead, then you have choices. You get to choose who you are and how you want to lead.
Congruence is compelling. When you’re honest with us about who you are and
Your intention we will chose to be with you.
We are living a story, we’re coming to it every day
The stories we love are the ones we don’t know the ending to
Be okay with not knowing what’s going to happen next
Season of surrender
It’s not touch that equals connection it’s intentional presence
You don’t surrender to things you don’t want. You surrender to things you do want.
What are you letting go of.
The only way to receive something is to have an open hand.
The power of story is undeniable
Whenever you’re learning something you will learn the limits to it.
You find the path by walking
I had a definition of success that needed to evolve
The problem is when our story stops becoming fluid
Horses make decisions based on reality not on rules
They always find where they are needed
It’s scary to be out front
Shake it off, you be you
Trust, and let go of expectations
How do we keep each other safe? How do we help each other thrive and how do you play a role in the health, harmony of the herd?
When you are making a choice to lead, ok I need to learn what the people I’m leading need and I need to share what works for me based on my strengths and gifts.
Part of your role as a leader is redefining what you’re willing to do and what you’re not.
Clarity: Here’s what we need. Here’s what I can bring today.
Love your herd, be a leader
Kindness, curiosity, play, discovery, presence
Find your own way
We know nothing about what young people’s lives will look like 20 years from now
Don’t give people answers to problems they don’t have
Not knowing is so much for interesting than being attached to an answer that might be wrong
Walk on you own path and try to stay awake
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Writer: I have writing in my heart
Words have been a foundational part of me
Content creator
Publishing has changed
So much more is put on the writer
Author your life
Feeling like a failure
What would make the character happy
You can change how you process, perceive and tell ourselves about what’s happened to us.
We have creative control over what’s happened to us.
Creativity has the power to change everything.
You have the power to take creative license and apply it to your life.
Write in the 3rd person about yourself to give yourself cognitive distance.
Access point to getting to know ourselves better
Vulnerability
Nobody’s criticizing us as much as we’re criticizing us.
We all need our Sam to help us throw our ring in mount doom
I would never go running without my running buddy
Get a friend, get a mentor get an ally
Deliberate in cultivating abundance.
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Who are you?
YAY! Brand
I am enough
I already have everything I need
Big Brother Big Sisters
Not knowing what you want to do with your life
I’m already the person I was meant to become.
Doing something where you know that you’re on the right path
It’s my turn
As a woman it’s our turn
As women we’ve been taught to be nice and good girls
Oh Well
I’m gonna be me
Sick of being scared of who I am
What just shows up for you in this moment
Inspired action
There’s people watching
Are you walking the walk?
Emotional Work to do
Self love issues to deal with
Be you and tell the truth.
Room to dance is abundance
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Light filled Power House women
Christina Brown and Rebecca Aydelette
Intentionality
Speaking from truth and authenticity
Retreats show us where change needs to happen in my life
Going on a retreat is such a gift
Little retreats we create for ourselves as well as big retreats
Pivotal moments on retreats
Confirmations that we’re on the right path.
Being able to step away and breath.
Being in community with folks that are also there.
Moments of listening to life’s call.
The time to come home to myself
Kimberly Wilson
The details
Sharing space with gratitude
The spirit of Tulum
You are enough
Magic unexpected moments on retreat
Lifetime relationships
Coming to a retreat as you are (which is vulnerable thing to do). Truting that if there is something pulling you, then there is something there for you.
Lean into the tug.
Let love in
What do we want to let into our lives?
Wanting to bring more women together
The synergy of a group coming together.
It’s never the right time to go on retreat, but you have to decide that you’re worth it.
I can follow through on my dream
I can try something new that I’m totally not sure about.
The retreat is the ripple effect. It’s a way to effect change
You leave with a tool box
Soul Collage™
“I am one who…?”
“What gifts do you have for me…?”
“What do you require of me…?”
“Do you have any other guidance or wisdom for me today…?”
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Put your teeth out
Belief that you have to be comfortable in the skin that you’re in
Developing self-confidence
March to your drums and change this world
Motivational speaker and part time host at 1618
NCCJ: National Conference for Community and Justice
Out in the south: Young African American Femal out in the south
How you’re able to take full ownership of the things you do. Be vulnerable, expose it, find who can help me through it, keep my commitments, be open-minded, empower others.
Take negative experiences and turn them into positives
If you lack confidence, people will question your competence
I get what I give
Smiling is to gain opportunities.
Loving the fact of being able to show you that I’m not what you think of me.
Dig deep inside yourself to find the place of authenticity.
People are always going to understand you, but sometimes you’re gonna misrepresent yourself.
You’re a mean listener and you need to turn into a happy listener. Get out of your own way.
When behaviors change communication changes
Being a people pleasure is so hard.
Take a moment to digest the bias
A FEEL style leadership
Ask the questions: “Would I like someone to handle me this way?”
FEEL
F: Fair. Is it fair
E: Expectations: are they clear, do they know it, do they see it, do they get it.
E: example. Lead by example, be the example
L: Loyalty: It creates loyalty.
Make people feel important
Right: When people feel respected, indispensable
Ownership: Learn to own the things, own it, learn from it.
Coming to terms with who I am and how I was going to identify.
Everybody at some point has been on the wrong side of history.
Don’t hold a grudge, that’s shortening my life.
I’ve been able to overcome that hurdle
Meeting my expectations, not giving my power away
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Harmonize with Nature and feminine nature to access new levels of creativity, resiliency and flow
Joined the military at 17
We as humans can actually live in alignment in nature.
Where we were led us to where we are now
Gut health and soil health and the connection between the two.
Environmental health
No need to empower women because we already are power
Fall in love with the uncertainty
Fall in love with the not knowing at the same time the knowing.
Centering the masculine and feminine
Injured masculine energy
Suppression of the feminine energy
Deep knowing
Trusting uncertainty
Fall in love with curiosity
You’re always masculine and always feminine
The sacred and divine masculine is important too.
Masculine, stability Strength, focus
Arguing is a sign of injured masculine energy
Surrendering doing energy and learning how to just be
Deliberate surrender to what is.
Being able to receive is a big essence of the feminine energy
We’re always learning
Gap of community
Choosing how you experience something
Making a conscious choice to be in the world
How our monthly cycle effects our business
Tracking your cycle on your business calendar
Honoring your cycle
You are a women and have a fascinating body
Changing the langue that “It’s just my period”
There’s nowhere to get.
Life is working for you even in the hardest of times.
Never doubt the knowing within yourself that you’re here to do.
The society we see is not necessarily the society to be
Never lose connection to nature
Bring ceremony into the day.
Celebrate life through daily ceremony
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Podcaster
Herelationship
Give women a place to express their creative passions
A women’s relationships with self, god and other and how she creatively expresses that.
Helping women to understand that it’s ok to not know your next step right away. What is important is for you to feel comfortable enough in yourself to try.
Awareness, knowing faith is a good thing to have and something that we should celebrate in each other.
Faith not just meaning a spiritual or religious meaning, faith is believing in something you can’t see.
Helping people understand the value of relationships and what they mean to us.
You might not know they how, but you know they why
Faith led women entrepreneurs.
Asking women what they need.
Importance of a 30-60-90 day plan
Resistance to goal setting
Testing your market before you launch
By when date
SMART goals
Baby steps
Accountability partners
Face your fears head on.
Step out
Be open and not limit yourself to one way of thinking
Don’t let your fears and insecurities to get in the way of your own success.
Don’t let outside voices affect the vision.
Abundance is expressing faith creativity and doing things I’ve never done.
Taking small steps and crossing things off my list.
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Strong work Ethic
Snailmail love
Journey of understanding self
Dady’s Girl
The wisdom of making your kids do a sport
Gifts that come with Grief
Seeing a strength and power in my mom
Unconditional Kindness
Being a centrian.
What if you were to drop dead sooner than you anticipated?
Going into entrepreneurship eyes wide open
Bankruptcy
Transparency in my truth
The truth that I am living is that I’m up against challenges.
Going after what is right for you
Knowing when there is nothing that you can do in a certain moment and surrounding into self-care.
Choose how you want to be in the world
Failure is learning forward
Failure is the foundation for greatness
Failure is setting the foundation for learning forward
Failure is growth
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Born and Raised in NC
Multiple careers, Banking, sales, Johnston and Johnston, Community service
Make sure that I leave a place better than I found it
Do all I can to have humanity experience all they can
We are not endeavored upon all of our potential because we are afraid.
There is so much potential out there to be and to have and to do
I can, I will, and I did
Image consulting, customer service training
Book writer
Grooming women and girls
Preparing women to be CEO’s of company
What motivates people to follow
Propel a career to higher heights
Been in business for myself my whole life
Working in the community affords an individual the skills to network
Learn how to leverage and include people who will be beneficial
Have to start with a plan of action
Plan objective strategy
Frustrating getting capital funding
Book: The color of money
We need creative financing for small businesses that are just starting.
As women we don’t talk about capital financing enough
If you’re going into business you have to set your direction, look at your competition and make a plan
Be in the moment, You can’t be somewhere else
We must have a strong value system and execute those values in everything you do.
Your values must come out in your persona
“Presence in Motion is key”
Understand your impact when you walk through a door
Everything you do is strategically engendered
Impeccable image so when people see you they know what to expect
Trust is the confidence that builds and ignites
Walk the walk and talk the talk and show it in your persona head to toe
Subconscious competence
“Engineering a positive response”
Investment shopping, building your wardrobe
Who does she think she is? To quote Oprah “I am so full of myself I am running over and I have enough to give to everyone I meet”
“Some people feel empowered by disempowering others” and if someone is feeling down “lift them”
Sometimes you have to love people from afar
I will not give up until I reach the goal
Am I standing in my way or moving to the next level? Who am I allowing to stand in my way or create barriers?
Be your own person. Don’t follow the crowd
Anger is one letter from danger
Abundance is giving back to the community.
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Regret is a horrible feeling.
Co-Leading a retreat in Tulum Mexico with Christina Brown and Rebecca Aydelette
Retreating is about being present, connected and fully alive.
The power of being on retreat for transformation
Yoga instructor
Studio Owner
Fur mom
Rise and Flow open for 4 months
Non-traditional in it’s simplest form to all bodies and all levels
Intention of serving the community in all it’s needs
Wanting a studio that’s a place of safety
Safety is a place where we allow others to be themselves
Allowing a space with room to be yourself
Getting off social media
Connection and networking are helpful
Mission of Rise and Flow: peace, balance, community
Give rise to mindfulness in every aspect of one’s life
Finding networking events that align with Rise and Flow.
creating space to fail
Whatever your dream is right now, write it down and make it happen.
If there is something you’re holding in your heart make it happen.
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Potter, Mother, Soul collage facilitator, aroma therapist, Reiki master
Fueling your creative life
Shedding fear of putting yourself out there
Shedding habitually playing small
Multi-passionate entrepreneur
Soul collage facilitator, a way of tapping into intuition
We have all the answers but our heads get in the way of our intuition
Spending a lot of time being quiet
Creatively Bankrupt
Journaling/ Art Journaling
Taking our aging and using it as inner transformation
I’ve done everything for everyone else and I’m gonna start doing what I want to do.
It’s not good when you’re doing all the things for everyone else at the expense of yourself
You have to take care of yourself so you can take care of others.
You have to give up good for great
You have to be choosey and it frees up space
When the student is ready the teacher will come
Sargent Mom
Step out in faith
Learning to be comfortable with the discomfort
Many paths to the same destination
I’m not everyone’s cup of tea and it’s ok
Creativity is listening to your heart and forging ahead, making what’s in your heart, it’s playing
Creativity is getting away from what people expect
Be who you are and not worrying about everyone liking you or everyone even understanding
Need more play
Take a little time and play
Getting to a place where I can just be
It’s a burden to try to be everything to every body
Creating and providing a space for women to get to know themselves again
The question “who are you?” is a hard question
Who do you want to show up as, and are you? If not what do you want to do differently?
Living a life of abundance by giving myself space
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People’s Perk
Business owner
Artist
Paintings resonate with people
It’s not that it’s easy, it’s work and effort. It feels right
Nothing worth having comes easily, but there is a flow to things the more you’re in your authentic self.
Don’t have a life I feel the need to escape from
The more I invest the return is even greater
People will heal you if you allow them
When we open ourselves up and are vulnerable and people respond
Creating an experience for people
A lost customer is worse than lost money
You have to recognize who you are and what you value
It’s important to have a truth-teller
Swallow the bitter medicine to get to where you want to go.
Life is bitter-sweet, there is a whole-ism
Drinks are about balance, resist the urge to put to much sweet stuff in.
Life is an experience
If you ask for support people will help you
People are rooting for me
Building a community
People can bring themselves to the painting and make it there own.
My paintings are about something
Creativity is a bringing forth of what’s authentically in you.
Everyone has a creative spirit and it has to be nurtured.
Creativity brings life to everything you do. It is life and everyone has an ability to express it in some way. It has to be something that’s nurtured.
Penland
I have everything I need and there’s no scarcity of love or resources. It’s about finding your way and acknowledging the gifts that everyone gives you.
Essentially we are all spiritual energy.
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Unexpected passing away of my dad
Death is a universal experience
At some point we will all experience the death of someone we love
Francophile
The burning of Notre Dame
Thinking through feelings in a 9 hour solo car ride
Can’t wrap my head around that my dad is gone
We only actually get so much life
Getting to help people every day
Joyfully serving others
Living an entire life that’s an act of service to others
Snail mail is my love language
I asked my dad to be my pen pal
Live your life in such a way that the people in your life know you love them
Tell your parents or your loved ones that you love them. Call them regularly. Say it often. Hug them every chance you get.
Death is the ultimate teacher
Receiving humbling seeds of love and support
Reaping the benefits of the seeds that my dad planted
We couldn’t be sad in the outpouring of love
Live my life in such a way that I’m sowing seeds of love and support
Aspiring to do as much good as I can in service in the way that is unique to who I am.
The death of my dad is teaching me how you act when people loss loved ones
Part of a horrible club that no-one wants to be a part of.
There is always something to learn from darkness
Sow love where ever I can
Develop my patience wherever I can
Others are fighting hard battles that I know nothing about
Do as much good in the world as I can
Tomorrow truly isn’t promised
Life is so very short and precious
If we were to die tomorrow what would we want to be known for? What would we want to have accomplished
Death is the ultimate teacher
Start before you’re ready
How can you be in joyful service to others while taking care of yourself?
What seeds do you want to plant in this life?
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Anessa Fike, Owner of Fike and Co.
Mom, Wife, busy over achiever
Empowering Women Businesses
Empowered Women empower Women
Fike and Co. Talent Acquisition and people culture in companies, HR team
The ability to think 12 steps ahead of everyone else.
What makes a company culture great?
What makes your company different?
Know your company’s core values
Make sure your employees know the company’s core values and everyone buys in
When there is joy it’s apparent
Make sure that people feel heard and recognized
For every positive recognition an employee get’s they will give you an extra 10 hours of production
A company culture is a living breathing thing
Feedback should be a regular part of your culture. A routine that people don’t even think about.
Be a culture of recognition
Part of your job is to make recognition a part of your routine.
Schedule recognition
Can we recognize ourselves
Bringing your whole self to work
Psychological safety
If you’re sending the same resume out to many different employers you’re doing it wrong
Take the skill you’ve learned from other industries and put it on your resume as if you were already in the industry.
Make your resume speak to that company
It’s a candidate market but it’s still going to take time to find the right job.
Make sure you’re aligned and that you’re asking good questions too
Informational Interviews are important
When people know their stuff it comes through.
Think about what companies need and be that person for them.
Keep being yourself and don’t dull your sparkles for other people.
Don’t apologize for who you are.
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Notes:
Anessa Fike, Owner of Fike and Co.
Mom, Wife, busy over achiever
Empowering Women Businesses
Empowered Women empower Women
Fike and Co. Talent Acquisition and people culture in companies, HR team
The ability to think 12 steps ahead of everyone else.
What makes a company culture great?
What makes your company different?
Know your company’s core values
Make sure your employees know the company’s core values and everyone buys in
When there is joy it’s apparent
Make sure that people feel heard and recognized
For every positive recognition an employee get’s they will give you an extra 10 hours of production
A company culture is a living breathing thing
Feedback should be a regular part of your culture. A routine that people don’t even think about.
Be a culture of recognition
Part of your job is to make recognition a part of your routine.
Schedule recognition
Can we recognize ourselves
Bringing your whole self to work
Psychological safety
If you’re sending the same resume out to many different employers you’re doing it wrong
Take the skill you’ve learned from other industries and put it on your resume as if you were already in the industry.
Make your resume speak to that company
It’s a candidate market but it’s still going to take time to find the right job.
Make sure you’re aligned and that you’re asking good questions too
Informational Interviews are important
When people know their stuff it comes through.
Think about what companies need and be that person for them.
Keep being yourself and don’t dull your sparkles for other people.
Don’t apologize for who you are.
In this episode, Alisha gives you a little update on lessons learned in March. It’s just Alisha and the microphone. Give Us your feedback and send up your questions for Alisha's Next Solo Episode.
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Getting outside my comfort zone with a solo episode
I’m getting real
Lessons learned in march
“there’s no force more powerful than a woman determined to rise” -Unknown
Ask for what I want and not be attached to the outcome.
Standing up to be who I am is not going to be ok for everyone
Being who I am and putting myself out there means that I’m going to push people away.
We might want to play with everyone, but we aren’t meant to play with everyone.
The more I grow, the bigger the impact I’m having, the more people I’m going to run up against that don’t like Alisha’s
The more you stand for something the more people are going to push against you. It’s a good thing though because it means I’m doing something.
Share your questions: Coaching questions, Entrepreneurship Questions, Mentoring Questions. Bring on the questions!
In this episode, Alisha interviews Jen Goff on knowing your core values, not caring what others think and the importance of letting passion drive your goals.
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Jen Goff: Wife, Mom, Runner, Running Coach, Friend, Marathon Winner
Knowing your core values
Noting giving a shit what other people think
It’s hard for everyone
Anxiety
“You can only do what you can do, and you can’t worry about what anyone else things of you”
When you need help, ask!
Learning how to ask for help
We want to be asked for help
You feel good to be able to help other.
In asking for help you’re giving someone else a gift.
Streakers: Group Training program for running in Greensboro
What does running do for people? It’s a privilege to be a runner. Helps give you balance, helps you be more disciplined with your time.
Consistency is key for the newbie in Running
Running is a healthy addiction
Qualifying for a the Olympic Trails in the marathon
Putting a big goal out there.
You are lucky to have a goal that you’re so passionate about.
No point in setting a goal toward something big, unless it’s what’s in your heart.
Have the person you can be real with on your personal board of directors
Have a little more fun!
Wanting a College do-over
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Journaling Questions from Today’s Episode:
1st: What’s Your Story?
2nd: What stories have you been told about yourself that you’ve believed and have hindered your success? What story about yourself can you drop?
3rd: Who are you outside of work, outside of achievement?
Here are some of the topics we touch on in this episode.
Notes:
Really connecting with people’s stories
What stories were you told that hindered your ability to show up and succeed
Deftable: Clever agile skilled
PHD in leadership studies
Frozen:
Achievement oriented (Journaling Question: Who are you outside of work and achievement?)
The Four Agreements: Don’t take anything personally (Journaling Question: What are you taking personally and how can you reframe it or let it go?)
Story time and Wine
Listening and hearing other people’s stories. Listening and getting safely curious about other people’s stories
Being grateful for the people who have disrupted my own beliefs
Take it one person and one interaction at a time.
Be humanity and introduce it into spaces where it isn’t
Not unusual as an entrepreneur or start up to be financially unstable.
Alone is ok!
In this episode, your invited to join us in listening to the International Women’s Day Panel sponsored by Lululemon Greensboro called “The other 364 days”.
You’ll hear from 4 unique voices: Katie Marshal, Zitty Nxumalo, Stephany McMillan, and Cleo Faucette about what International Women’s Day means to you.
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Notes:
Lululemon is all about personal responsibility and we are taking action to achieve the things we want.
78% of lululemon globally is run by women
A panel of women who sweat in different ways
Mindfulness
Zitty
Rise and Flow Yoga
Katie Marshal martial artist
Running
“The Other 364 Days-
International Women’s Day is a day to celebrate the work that happens the other 364 days a year.
Like, the work of giving everyone a voice and really listening. And…
The work that takes place when you lace up and hit the pavement.
The work that takes place when you're learning something new and challenging what you know.
Or when you’re on your mat, attempting a pose for the 1st(or 100th) time.
The work that takes place when you courageously move your body in a way that brings you joy.
The work that takes place when you look someone in the eyes and really see them.
It’s this work that shapes our community, from big to tiny revolutions day after day after day, that moves the needle closer to equality.”
International women’s day means listening, speaking out, not being afraid to tell my story.
Invite a women with you! Community is what international women’s day means.
What are we dominating?
Equality starts with me. Kindness towards ourselves and others and our unique differences that bring us together.
Better for balance means there is enough for both.
Having a balance to know you can’t pour from an empty cup.
Emerging from the pain
It just sucks and then feels like freedom and then comes around again.
When I come in with my ego that’s when I get humbled the hardest.
Swallow the bitter herb gracefully
Loneliness says “this is all there is”.
Stuck is just as valuable as unstuck.
Book “The greatest sales man in the world”
“Girl, did you know you locked the cage? Open the door!”
Detach from social media
In this episode, Alisha interviews Andra West LeBauer on self-care, Mindfulness and learning to express boundaries.
Check out the website for this show to access the mediation Andra made for us to go along with this show.
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Mindful life coach
Boundaries coach
Helping women have deep meaningful relationships around deep meaningful relationships and self care.
Self-care beyond the bubble Bath: Put an hour of time on your calendar that’s not scheduled. Take a nap
Self-care is understanding what your needs are and doing practices that help you get in touch with what your needs are.
The pace of life is breakneck.
You have to be mindful to not work and take time to do nothing
I get to choose myself first
The unplug box: Take your deceives, put them in the box and set them aside. Choose not to check messages and facebook.
Prioritize being a present person for the people in your life.
If we don’t advocate for space and presence with our loved ones it will pull us in.
A lot of us don’t know what our boundaries are.
You can express boundaries in a loving and compassionate way.
The Universe puts the work in front of us
How do we express what we know out into the world.
What’s in the way, is the way.
Empaths don’t always say what they need to say.
In expressing options there are a couple options 1st: You do nothing 2nd: Passive aggressive boundary 3rd: reactive boundary 4th: Proactive boundary when we are able to say ahead of time, this is important to me, or this is coming up for me.
When you have a person you don’t have a loving friendship with that you don’t like or get along with, what do you do if they are pushing your buttons? The person becomes the path. An opportunity to practice.
You can let other people see you exactly as you are, and those that are meant to be a part of your path will stay.
You can’t live your life hoping to please everyone and hoping that everyone is going to like you.
Let people say what they need to say even if it’s wrong.
Let people be who they are, and be who you are
Remember to start over every morning.
Don’t be somewhere else when your life is happening.
In this episode, the tables are turned and Katie Marshall interview’s Alisha on learning to flex your intuition muscle, how it’s not where you end up it’s the process that gets you there that matters, and how it gets way messier before it gets better.
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Tables have turned
Introvert and wallflower.
Leadership, life and creativity coach
Working with people who want to learn and grow and develop
Creativity is the common thread that brings everything together.
Introspection work: mining yourself
Morning Pages are the #1 way to figure yourself out: Write your way through it.
The soul is constantly seeking to define and explain itself.
Many of us became a coach because we tried and tried and tried and failed over and over to become good at it.
It’s not where you end up, it’s what’s your process to get there.
The introduction to internal work is to start writing
It gets way messier before it gets better. You have to be willing to get dirty. Fail hard, fail fast. Keep doing it over and over if your committed to growth and self-discovery.
Persistence: You go for something, you feel like your journey is over. How do you get out of that? Not just persistence
Exercise get your endorphins going. It can feel like the least important.
You can’t pour from an empty cup.
Exercise: put your big girl panties on and just do it.
Do the things to get your heart-rate up. Release the chemicals to keep going.
The idea of yourself as your home and needing to take care of yourself.
The way your house looks is a representation of how you’re feeling
Find your own rhythm: find what works for you
Growth mindset
What shoulds that you could let go of to become your best self.
Release the guilt for taking a nap at 2pm in the afternoon
There is an intuition muscle that we need to flex, an internal knowing we need to pay attention to.
The idea of having an intuition muscle How do you wake that muscle up: Start by paying attention. Start by paying attention and remember what you didn’t like. Remember what didn’t work for you. Acknowledge what you’re actually feeling
The lively Show
You can’t flex your intuition muscle
Fear is a signal that there is something for us to lean into and learn from.
What are your core values?
The creative work of aligning
Why does creativity fail?
Fear of looking stupid. Fear of looking like I don’t know what I’m talking about.
Creativity is not done in a vacuum
You can’t logic yourself out of this.
You can’t logic yourself into being happy
Forcing = bad Flowing = good
In life logic is often the wrong answer
You just have to figure out ways to make it work
You don’t know what you’re doing, but do it anyway.
No one knows what they’re doing when they start a business
You don’t know how to write a book until you write a book
It’s ok to not know and do it anyway
Stand in your power
You must be hopeful and optimistic
Sometimes optimism is “We will try again tomorrow”
Real optimism is that we’re going to keep going
Real life optimism
What seat is your intuition in?
Intuition is the driver
The more cool stuff you do, the more cool stuff you have to say no to.
Failure is like a burpee
Each failure is another lesson, and then it becomes my responsibility to share that lesson.
The better job I do of collaborating and making space for other voices the more successful I can be.
She had just as many bad days as you did, to get where she is, so if she can do it, it means you can do it to.
Hope PTSD
It’s not going to turn out the way you think it will, but keep going anyway.
Don’t lose the wonder of your 18 year old self.
Rumi tells us to “Cultivate the witness of our own experience”.
There is so much value in doing the things you don’t like doing.
Sherpa mentality
Once you learn something it becomes your responsibility to share it.
If you love it, you care about, it becomes your responsibility to share it.
I’m just a little sensitive today
Be brave enough to say hey, I’m a little sensitive today.
Pause before you respond
None of us have any idea what we’re doing. The joke is that none of us know what we’re doing
In this episode, Alisha Interviews Jodee Ruppel
Alisha talks to Jodee about giving back to your community, leadership and embracing your quirks.
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5x5 consulting
Future Fund of Greensboro
Non-Profit meets shark-tank
Young philanthropist
Your dollar is a vote
Give back to your community that gives you so much
It all comes back full circle.
The midwestern mindset
Imposter syndrome
SheWolf Collaborative
It’s ok to want to make money
No one in business wants to be a lone wolf.
FFA Blue Jackets
FFA is the largest leadership organization in the country
Don’t burn bridges
Embrace your quirks
Embrace who you are, own it, love it, run with it.
Be who you are
Get comfortable with who you are
Be authentic
The quirky things that make you who you are, let them be.
Be where you can bring your best self forward
Seeing the value in everything and everyone.
In this episode, Alisha Interviews Jordan Lacenski founder of SheWolf Collaborative.
Alisha talks to Jordan about entrepreneurship, calling it like it is, and the power of the pack
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Never thought I’d be an entrepreneur.
Brand Boss Creative: Branding Firm
The Power of Girl’s Poker Night
What does a brand look like that celebrates women owned businesses?
Seeing one’s most true self-Balancing the ego
Being real
I can conquer big things
It’s hard not to take things personally
Always needing to balance our ego.
Naming the reality of things doesn’t mean you’re not positive.
Danielle Laporte says “Name it so you can tame it”
Unless you’re willing to address what’s wrong you can’t tame it. Willing to be real. Willing to take off the mask to be who you are.
Shewolf: A membership community
Having go-to gals that you can talk to. Having your personal board of directors. Community that will celebrate success with you, but willing to be real with you.
How do you know the people you need on your board.
Having a community of women in business who have gone through what you’ve already gone through.
Entrepreneurship is an island.
The more you niche the better off you are.
We’re hungry to learn how to succeed.
In this episode, Alisha Interviews Leah McNaughton Lederman
Alisha talks to Leah about writing, editing, and motherhood
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Old Friends
What do you have to say? Do you keep a journal? Go back and see what rises to the top
You are a writer
“I’m not looking for fame, but I do seek an audience”
Tangible Outcome
Writing is one word at a time. There’s nothing more detail-oriented than that.
Motherhood
Overwhelming to step into writing goals.
Nostalgia for the future
Writing is like “going into a room without the lights on”.
Highschool is where you become who you’re going to be
The reality of being a mom
I want to clear off my plate and stop editing to work on my own project.
Random Beatles trivia
Having to set with grief and joy at the same time
Joy and grief, joy and stress exist together
Learning to treat yourself and your kids differently
Using facebook to build your community.
Somethings aren’t ready to be written
Being a creative person and a parent at the same time
How can we meet in the middle.
The Things we did and said in high school reverberate through our entire lives.
There is no such thing as time wasted staring at a baby.
Look at your children, look at your life.
I live my life to the fullest, by making sure I do the dishes
In this episode, Alisha has a roundtable discussion around setting and achieving goals with Victoria Brownlee, Jada Monica Drew, and Sarah Keel.
Alisha talks real talk with Jada, Sarah, and Victoria about how we set goals and how we get after them and make them happen.
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Antoine de Saint-Exupéry said “Goal without a plan is just a wish”.
We’ve brought together 3 people who have achieved goals Jada Monica drew, Victoria Brownlee and Sarah Keel.
“2012 Harris Poll surveyed 3,036 adults who identified “weight loss” as a top resolution for the new year. In fact health and money accounted for two-thirds of all resolutions.” “45% of Americans make resolutions but only 8% of those people are successful in achieving their resolutions, but the really interesting thing is that those who explicitly make new years resolutions are 10 times more likely to attain their goals than people who don’t explicitly make resolutions.”
So where is the disconnect? To Quote my positive psychology handbook it’s “Most People fail to make positive change because the goal they set is shoddy. … and they make a people problem out of a process problem.”
Core Values are a key to deciding what’s important to us in setting goals
I want to take images that inspire people
Continue the things that make me happy and delete the things that don’t
Align your goals with value and vision
Are these goals taking me closer to my life’s dream
Vision Boarding techniques
What is the core desired feeling
Recording your “I am Statements”
State your goals in the positive
Avoiding something takes more mental and physical energy than approaching it
Aligning expectations
In a meta-analysis done my Roese and Summerville in 2005 it found “Our biggest regrets are not for the things we have done but the things we haven’t done”.
Releasing the outcome, but enjoying the process.
Failure
Mistakes are proof that you’re trying
As long as we’re evolving. Take with it what you can learn.
Constantly evolving
Have an accountability Partner
Write down your specific goals
Give yourself a by when date
Write down why you want the goal and the reason behind the reason
What are the action steps your taking to achieve the goal
How will you measure progress and celebrate wins
How will I use primers?
What are your pitfalls? What will keep you from achieving your goals?
Who will help keep you accountable?
Write a contract to yourself, sign it, date it and put it where you can keep it and see it.
In this episode, Alisha Interviews Denise White
Alisha talks to Denise about learning to feel comfortable in your own skin, finding what’s right for you, and knowing you’re good enough.
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Alopecia
Depression
Not feeling comfortable in our own skin.
We aren’t boxed into what’s on our head
Empowered
See what I’m doing for me
Feel what’s right for you
Everything might be wonderful but you don’t have to do it all now.
Thinking of the year like a breath, an expansion and contraction
Pull back and contract when you need to, expand when you can.
No longer feel guilty about my no’s
Breath
You don’t have to own anything for the world. Own it for yourself.
Work from the inside out.
Comfort in one’s own skin
There is always something that someone is going to judge about you, but you don’t have to receive that judgement.
I’m good enough. Life is going to give you ups and downs, you’re going to gain and loose a lot of people, but you’re good enough.
No matter what happens I can still stand tall for myself.
In this episode, Alisha Interviews Camilia Zuleikha Majette
Alisha talks to Camilia about the power of volunteering, giving back, making soap, building a business and having faith in yourself.
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Founder and Owner of Nailah’s Shea, L.L.C
Soap making
Activism and mentorship
Serving on board: Faith Action International House
Fair Trade
Working with two Shelters: YWCA and Women’s Center of Wake County
Health and wellness benefits of using natural products in your life
The power of volunteering
Making soap in the kitchen
Locally sourced ingredients
Locally printed and packaged marketing
Have a goal: don’t let self-doubt deter you from being the queen that you are.
Have a plan and prioritize it.
Have faith! Have faith in yourself and a higher power.
Live a life of abundance by giving back
Shit happens
Alisha talks to Jen Oleniczak Brown about the importance of building your own brand, and shifting from competition to collaboration.
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Creator of the Engaging Educator
Lots of judging around how we woman
Uncomfortable to be a brand
Understanding that together your better
Don’t worry about the competition
What makes you different?
If you really want it, you’ll find a way to get it
We do make things happen
We are a hard-working bunch
Currency comes in all forms
No one’s a stranger
Shifting out of competition into collaboration
Walking a tight-rope to portray success
A person includes a shadow side
Stay the course.
Unhumble yourself
Applaud those doing well
Shine theory
Rising tide
The people who get the most upset with your boundaries are the ones who have none.
No one knows what they’re doing
Alisha talks to Luck Davidson about the importance of being a localist and supporting Local Independent businesses.
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Localist
You can’t have it all
Balancing act between wanting to be a mother and doing work
Putting work on the back-Burner
Triad Local First
Your dollar is a vote
Downtown book stores Scuppernog
Sonder Floatation tanks and Well café
Ann and Ann
HQ Greensboro
I’d rather be in a place where there are a lot of problems to solve
Always want to have issues that are challenging me and my community.
Develop a business plan
Find help with marketing
Take advantage of the resources available
Triad Local First
Nausbaum Center
WIBON (Women Independent Business Owners Network)
Be an independent thinker
Being encouraged to fail
Recognize each failure as an experience to get you to the next place.
Growth mindset
Nothing says abundance like a farmers market
Alisha talks to Jada about where her entrepreneur mindset came from and how she is more than enough.
You Can visit Jada’s Website here: Social Designs
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Always give back, always help people, and always get your listen.
Catalyze people’s growth
Finding ways to pull out what people don’t want to pull out of themselves because of fear.
Social Designs
Design thinking, a way of teaching and facilitating. It helps people go through empathy, design, create, and testing what you create.
Being the person to bring harmony within the group
Building down time in the calendar
Not having a creative process. Not a linear process
Bloom inclusion
Inclusion isn’t about meeting a number, it’s about building the capacity for everyone to thrive.
Growing up around entrepreneurs
Lover’s Lane Greeting card company
Young Entrepreneur
Finding creativity in building workshops
Teaching in a way that brings people to information in a way that they have agency and practice.
Connection, coaching, psychology
Jada Monica Drew Book “More than enough”
Being more than enough as a woman.
Empower, motivate and teach about the intersectionality of women.
I am more than enough
Take more risks. Do more things with people you wouldn’t normally
Always becoming
Learning a new language
Growth Mindset
In this episode, Alisha Interviews Maia Dery
Alisha talks to Maia Dery about Ocean Centered Wisdom, being on a quest to live better questions, and the power of getting to suck at something.
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Leaving a 17 year career.
Helping people create a more inspired vision for their lives
Coach, retreat facilitator,
Ocean Centered Wisdom Practices
Guide and facilitator
Learning to surf at 40
Waves to Wisdom
A culture that discourages creative practices
We live in a culture that has a productivity fetish
Producing all the time without the ability to experience
Hesitant with the animal spirit cards
The idea of Spirit and interaction with animals tends towards the sacred
I have never been on a quest for answers, but I’ve been a quest for better questions.
Long and complicated emotional relationship with spirituality
Word geek.
Part of a whole, inextricably connected.
Getting to suck at something.
Humbling to be a beginner
Nothing like a wave coming at you to shut your inner critic up
You’re gonna fail more than you succeed and any creative process can be defined that way
The practice of working to achieve what you’re seeking in that moment and committing wholly to that practice is the matter of it.
Creativity happens anywhere we are
The Question is not “how do we define creativity”, it’s how do we recognize it.
Artificial barriers and healthy boundaries
Barriers are a tool
Poetry and physics has everything to do with us!
Two universal solvents are love and water and if you bring those to any barrier you can dissolve it.
Surfing is a way to achieve a state of flow.
Book called: Stealing Fire
Surfing is a profoundly connected activity
There are consequences for poor decision making in Surfing.
Letters to a young poet: It’s time for you to live the questions
One of the results of busyness is that we’ve got flabby muscles when it comes to being still in ourselves.
These experiences where you have to get out of yourself they allow you to have creative prompt that when you respond, if you don’t think too hard, are profound beautiful and guiding.
Teaching people how to fail fast and hard, over and over again.
Unless you’re willing to fail in whatever ugly way you can think of you’re not going to succeed.
If you’re not willing to fail, you might miss out on the joy.
Failure doesn’t have to be terrifying
The playful joy of creativity
An obligation as a species to survive
IIn this episode, Alisha Interviews Christina Cromwell
Alisha talks to Christina Cromwell about building community in business, goal setting and believing you can do anything you put your mind to.
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One of the owners of pure barre Greensboro
Owns two Studios in Greensboro
Was 21 when they opened the first studio
Sometimes young and ballsy is a blessing in disguise.
Multi-passionate entrepreneur.
Come up with an idea and go for it. Don’t think too much about it or you’ll screw yourself over
Pop-up barre classes
Exchange of energy between clients and employees
The power of community is so strong
How do you build community?
Opening a second studio was really scary
Fear of failure, not succeeding or failing is really scary
Goal-Setting
In Goal-Setting start by looking at your greatest achievement from the week before.
You’re living life, you did something awesome
Taking time to rest
Acknowledge something you learned
Try to read everyday
What can you help me with for the next week.
What would you like to focus on each week.
Set goals for the week and reflect on the goals from the previous week.
Have a goal process
The unknown is scary
Just because you get to where you want to be doesn’t mean you can’t do something else.
If you have an idea, you can do it! You can do anything you put your mind to
In this episode, Alisha Interviews Dawn Chaney
Alisha talks to Dawn Chaney about believing she can do anything, having a money mindset, and making yourself #1 in your life and so much more.
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Notes:
Raised to believe she could do anything
Mom told me I could do anything so why couldn’t I?
Money Mindset
Save money
Always spend less than you’re saving
Know how to make money
Be creative, but be intellectual.
Have a high level of profit
Know how to get new clients, keep clients and serve clients
Women couldn’t own property on their own in NC before 1970
Wonderful challenges
The biggest barrier you’ll ever face will be your biggest opportunity for success
“Men can’t do this, what makes you think you can”?
The day will come when you come to me.
Feel very confident, but you have to work at making it happen
The core of our city is downtown
Legislation change
It was such a challenge I looked forward to it.
“Who’s number 1 in your life? If you’re not number 1 and you don’t care of number one you won’t be here to take care of your loved ones. You can’t trade yourself in. You can’t get a new body”
If you’re good at what you do they’ll all know it
You won’t have to tell people what you’re doing. When you’re successful they’ll know it.
You made the right choice going to an all-female college.
Women can control the world.
When you bring groups together that are sharing the same goals you give each other the goal of achievement.
You have to increase the volume in able to grow
From the day you’re born to the day you leave it’s all about giving back.
If you haven’t given back you haven’t had a good journey
If you have, give.
It’s all about helping someone else be successful
In this episode, Alisha Interviews Katie Marshall
Alisha talks to Katie Marshall about authenticity in entrepreneurship, slowing down and understanding that when there are valley’s there will also be peaks.
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The creative Machine
Communication
Flow of Communication
Slow Down
Slow the Bleep down!
Tools to rest
Rest Guilt
You are your business, if you are sick and you are down you can’t serve your business.
How do you follow the call of your heart.
No matter how far you go, you are always coming back home
Sometimes you have to not be brave to be brave later.
When you feel unqualified to step up and say that’s not right
You get the call to start the business, a project, or stand with someone who needs you. Take the first step even when you can’t see the rest of the steps.
Authenticity in business. Painting a picture of valley’s and peaks.
Hard stuff and amazing stuff comes at the same time
Trying to stay positive as an entrepreneur
Peaks and valley’s of entrepreneurship
Your work is not your worth and no one can give that to you, that’s only a gift that you can give yourself.
A recipe for a rough day. A playbook for a bad day
The award at the grammy’s for the best new artist is really for the person who’s been grinding the past 20 years.
Communication is an action, something that you do and you have to ask for it and be persistent
Separate yourself out from your business, and it will help when you get the no’s
Thanking your past self because she really did her best.
Not doing something because you thought you weren’t allowed
How do we embrace what we ask for? Present moment awareness. Be the observer of your own experience
In this episode, Alisha Interviews Danielle Forest
Alisha talks to Danielle Forrest about being a multi-passionate entrepreneur and how to honor yourself and your feelings as an entrepreneur
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Notes:
Multi-passionate entrepreneur
Focusing on the parts of work that you really like
Project manager and strategy
Take ten steps back and look at this from 30 thousand feet
Story Brand outline
How to deal with the uncertainty of entrepreneurship
Book: Getting out of your mind and into your life
Abundance mindset with money, work and time
Lack of time is a myth
Stepping back from a project
How to interrupt the what if pattern
Starting a business is hard
Let joy be front in center in your life
How to bring more joy into your life
Being present with people
“Chill out Girlfriend”
When people say “Why don’t you just get a job?”
“To thine own self be true”
Being in the flow
Have to move my body
There’s more there’s enough
What you focus on grows
Always have the willingness dial up
Honor your feelings
Meet yourself where you’re at
Thank the thought good back or indifference
In this episode, Alisha Interviews Christie Soper of Sunceirge.
Alisha talks to Christie Soper about trusting your instincts, honoring creativity, and embracing our vulnerability.
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Women in Tech
Empowering women
How as an entrepreneur do you know it’s the right time to hire your first employee?
When you’re overwhelmed with the details you’re not able to monetize.
There are always creative ways to get help in your business.
Growing relationship in a strategic way
Never regret following your instincts
When you feel the least wise that’s when you have the most room to grow
Core value alignment
Core values come back to identity, meaning and purpose
Why would we walk around with a broken arm and not fix it?
Don’t rush into decisions
Live a life of passion and connect it to purpose
Drop the word success from your vocabulary
Work hard play hard
If we feel like we’re settling, the creativity stagnates
I honor my creativity by listening to when I’m not creative
Lean into vulnerability
Embrace vulnerability- not confidence
In this episode, Alisha Interviews Whitney Brooks.
Alisha talks to Whitney Brooks about being intentional, Wellness, Wellbeing and Mindful Leadership.
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Notes:
The Beauty of age
How do you come back to your purpose?
Be more intentional from the outset
Exercise in the morning. Being active
Set your intention for the day.
Make sure it aligns with your overall purpose.
Building own integrative Health coaching practice: Grace Wit and Wonder
Helping build healthy habits.
Wellness and wellbeing
We think of other folks wellbeing but not our own
Mindful leadership
Building up to a moment without noticing it
Women should have a strong and visible voice
Be a younger female voice on city council
Bring a new voice into leadership
Step into your own power
Getting over the fear of putting myself out there
Believing that I am a great editor and writer
Being a great listener and empathetic
Don’t try to solve problems for people, but helping them figure out how to solve their own problems.
Coaching helps create space for what needs to come in and then how to bring it in.
Everything is a practice: Life is a practice
Every good therapist and every good councilor has a counselor or therapist.
In this episode, Alisha Interviews Shermikia Lemon.
Alisha talks to Shermikia Lemon about keeping a positive mindset, about just figuring it out and taking the first step into imperfection.
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Notes:
Figuring it out
It doesn’t have to be perfect
Don’t wait for perfection
Take the first step into imperfection
Be careful with your thoughts
Walk in thinking I’m going to do my very best
Our brains have a negativity bias, The antidote is having a positive mindset.
In Buddhism Suffering is defined as wanting things to be different from how they are.
Not being wounded healers
Knowing your boundries
Connection
Connect with your audience
Simon Seniek Quote “People don’t sell what you’re selling, they buy why you’re selling it”
Start with the end in mind
Know your purpose and why
The importance of journaling
Life is beautiful with the good and the bad.
There are going to be ups and downs
Mistakes are going to be made
Be careful with your thoughts
What part did I play if something is off
Don’t take things so personally
People are going through things that they never talk about
It’s not about you.
Know that people are going through things
People are going through things that having nothing to do with you
Alisha talks to Christina Brown about honoring herself as an artist and owning the title of artist and what it means to just go be creative, have fun, and play.
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Notes:
It feels vulnerable to tell your own story
Animal Spirit Cards came from Christina Brown’s Shop
Asks for Wisdom on the journey
Seeing yourself as an empath
Late Blooming path
Learning to embrace being a mistake maker
It’s not about being perfect
Life so far in three stages
Journey home to self
Shedding the protective layer: Coming into the whole
It’s powerful to step into yourself without walls up
Stepping into a spiritual practice
Sacred Ceremony
Not handling Grief well using alcohol to hide
Healthy handleing of Grief going to mediation, journaling holding the hands of your friends.
A practice of stillness
Lighting incense at the time beginning of writing time
Owning the title of artist
Beginning to value myself
Why do we hide what’s awesome
Own who you are and what you’re doing
If you light your own candle it becomes a torch for others
Folk art School Penland
Honor yourself as an artist
Allow yourself to be in process
Just play and have fun with it
Being an entrepreneur and Artist at the same time
Space and time and quiet to just make
Be more intentional with time and Listen to my body
Give space for what I need and let things go
Bringing Women together in Sacred Circle
Scared and doing it anyway and it’s getting easier
The most beautiful things we create come from saying I don’t know how to do this but I’m doing it.
Beginners mind has wisdom that is powerful
Sometimes layers of confidence cloud the knowing
New moon and Full moon meetings
When you are being alive, together, sharing and being vulnerable that is sacred
Take Time for stillness
Have fun, don’t worry so much, and cultivate deep friendships
Quote: “beloved, Beloved, be loved. Be love, be in the moment. You can just be”.
Trying to be in Flow and just listen
Alisha talks to Tina Firesheets about what it’s like growing up Asian in Western North Carolina and about starting a new career in your 40’s.
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Growing up Korean in Western NC to Japanese and Anglo parents
Realizing your parent’s difficulties
Ignoring your otherness and journalism
Teachers looking out.
The love of journalism, telling other people’s stories
Getting to see what the rest of the world doesn’t have access to through journalism
Talking to people who love what they do.
Most of us go to places that are comfortable to us
Normally the only other Asian person in the room
The diversity of Greensboro
Be curious about other communities
Pay attention to what’s going on around you
What it’s like to go from something you’ve been doing for 20 years to starting over in a new career.
Starting over in a new year in your late 40’s
Going from a dream job to starting over in your career from feeling confident to not knowing what to do.
Growing up with Trauma
Hiding who you were
Don’t be afraid to show who you are and what you’re struggling with
Going for a walk and paying attention to cultivate creativity, or cutting flowers
A day dreamer
As a journalist, going from reporting to creating your own work is hard
Least favorite yoga pose is Savasana
It’s normal for you to have a hard time in Savasana
Be appreciative of what you have
In this episode, Alisha Interviews Betsy Bertram of Townsend Bertram and Company.
Betsy talks to Alisha about how we are all terminal, knowing that you should expect Miracles and that you are a Miracle. She also Reminds us to be Authentic and how to do that. Betsy talks about how difficult it can be to go against the grain but to trust yourself.
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Here are some of the topics we touch on in this episode.
Notes:
Townsend Bertram and Company is an Adventure Outfitter that views themselves as an entity of the community not just retail.
Building a values-based business
The most exciting part of embarking on carrying on a legacy business.
Fresh perspective with partnerships
The gift of being aware of how short your time on earth is creates an immediacy to life
A heightened sense of awareness
Life is fleeting even when you don’t know what your end date is
We’re all terminal
Father’s death shifted her thinking to value time over money, relationships over things
”We think we have forever and we push off the bigger asks of the universe, and I feel the sense of immediacy to do the things I’m meant to do while I’m on this planet”.
Going to a treatment center for grief and disordered eating
What changed her mind from not wanting to talk about going to a treatment center to wanting to share about the experience
Went into the treatment center feeling shame and grief and realized that if I didn’t tell my story I was perpetuating the paradigm.
Helping women open up about how we perceive ourselves.
If I can share my story and it can help one person that’s enough for me.
You’re a miracle. Every single person in a miracle.
Saying no so that I can say yes to the things that are important.
No is a complete sentence it is permission to say yes to what is really important
Paper planners are powerful
Are the things on the calendar what’s really important.
When you rush there is no space for Joy
One of the hardest things in life is to go against the grain
Trust Yourself
Be an authentic human being
Authenticity brings success, recognition and the relationships we want to have
What we embody we attract
Be Authentic. What does it mean to be authentic? When my words thoughts and actions are in alignment. In alignment with each other. When what I’m thinking, saying and doing are in a continuous thread.
Act from inner wisdom instead of outer pressure.
An example of what it means to live and die with Grace and Humility.
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Where lively meals was born
Jasmine’s Favorite food
Making chocolate mouse with Avacodes
Tabling a project that you’ve been working on. Letting yourself down
When you know what you want to do but don’t have the time to do it?
When you can’t see the forest for the trees can you still connect to a higher purpose?
Defining purpose to the pull to something higher
Knowing you’re on the right path
Tomorrow isn’t promised, but sometimes you need to take a step back
Resting is important
Self-care is health care
It’s a marathon not a sprint
Breakfast bowls
Breakfast is good any time
Thinking of your business in life stages
How do you know when it’s time to quit to do the thing.
Juggling working full time, building your business, going to school, working on your blog
Don’t compare your journey to anyone else’s
Trust the journey and don’t rush it, your journey won’t look like anyone else’s
Pray a lot, Pray about it
“Be fearless in the pursue of what sets your soul on fire”
Immerse yourself in as many things as possible to figure out your passion
Uses core values
What keeps you creating when you don’t feel like it
A day or two away from social media
Digital detox
Look within yourself
Look for what you’re thankful for and you’ll discover that you’re wiser than you think you are
You can’t be bad at yoga
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Walking the liminal space of life: Intuition and magic
Walking the line between corporate America and Hippie
The journey from corporate America into entrepreneurship
Creating your own structure
The messiness of entrepreneurship
Corporate America does prepare you for how hard it is in Entrepreneurship
Community in Entrepreneurship
Building a community
Bringing people together
Knitting a tapestry of community
Getting support from your community
Your strengths and weaknesses become amplified as an entrepreneur
You can’t stick your head in the sand as an entrepreneur
Entrepreneurship is real life happening in real time
Yogic philosophy is who I am and how I live my life
Do no harm, meditate
Your Yoke is your responsibility. What’s your Yoke? What’s your responsibility, what yoke do you choose?
What do you do with Jealousy, Frustration, anger
Do all women feel a sense of competition with one another?
Women and self-worth
You are worthy and all of the striving you are doing is never going to prove anything to anyone
You are worthy of whatever you want
Robert Ingersoll said “We rise by lifting others” and by sharing your truth you lift others
Balancing Masculine and feminine energy
Alisha Define’s Creativity as the expression of everything she does
Everyone is a creative being
Curating our lives
The way we express our lives is creativity
When you’re passionate about something creativity is born
The F Word… Failure. If you can’t own the fact that you failed you can’t learn
Being true to what happens is important
The shame of failure is better than the shame of regret
Fear, failure, and failing forward…
"Go after what you want eyes wide open, failure is a part of the process"
Set yourself up for success and failure because it’s part of the process
Fear setting is just as important as goal setting
Fear is a way of getting our attention. Fear is a signal that there is a lesson
Getting quiet and leaving room for the magic
Inspired by exercise. Really inspired by women succeeding.
Alisha's love of Children's books especially. The book Mrs. Rumphis by Barbara Cooney
Travel the world, it’s important to self-development and growth
Cultivating creativity seaside retreat
We get to choose the life we want to be living
We can choose to sit up and meditate at the end of the night
Introverts
Holding your boundaries
Friend-Raising not networking
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Trusting your intuition in a new way
Taking a sabbatical from work
Year of self-discovery and joy
Leaning into the joy is what allowed her to feel intuitive.
Choosing joy on a daily basis. Even in work tasks. Choosing to find joy in the everyday.
Joy in big or little things.
Joy and stress.
Healthy stress
Stress facilitates growth
Danielle Laport and desire map
Create your life instead of letting it be something that happens to you
Tools, establishing core values.
What it’s like working for a large predominately female company
Why are you doing what you’re doing every day?
Having a stellar day planner
Taking time for reflection
Importance of surrounding yourself with a community of those wanting to do this work.
Living a life on purpose. Living a life by design. Being in alignment with who you are and what you’re doing.
Candor and courage
Not afraid to have difficult conversations. Willingness to have them
The struggle with self-confidence
There is value in what you see and what you experience
My purpose is to empower others and the seat of that comes from my ability to empower myself. Self-confidence has been a struggle
Own who you are “You can do anything”
The drive to be a good girl
Fear of looking like a failure
Divorce and public failure can be freeing
“Show up shine and let it go” -Danielle LaporteFeeling value through esthetic beauty
We give back to the world through creativity
Yoga has taught presence. Just be quiet
Spend time in silence because that’s when the inner being speaks.
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NCCJ: Fighting bigotry and bias and racism.
Getting curious about other peoples stories
Informational interviews
Knowing when to let other people lead
Helping others feel like they are a part of something greater
Your wealth comes from your health
Spread love everywhere you go
Feedback is crucial
Surround yourself with people who lift you higher
Stop comparing yourself to others.
Remember to spread love and be the best version of yourself. You can't change everything but you can see love.
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Put yourself out there.
Be intentional and deliberate
WIIFM: What’s in it for me?
Reminder to look for her your ideal client is?
Risk Taker
Once you do one thing you’re fearful of it gets easier to do something else you’re fearful of but don’t let the fear stop?
Feel the fear and do it anyway: What’s the worst that can happen? Some will, some won’t, next.
Everyone is in sales
Have a sense of urgency
Continue to seek that which is the ultimate call in your life.
Success happens when preparation meets the opportunity
Determine what your god given talents are. Talent vs. skill
If you’re not feeling wise, is it because you’re not in alignment with who you are?
Stand in your power by living your values
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In today’s episode Alisha Wielfaert talks with Lindley Battle about believing in yourself, your style and your work even if you get a D and almost fail out of photography class.
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In today’s episode Alisha Wielfaert talks with Victoria Brownlee about her job as a transformational coach working with teachers, how to have tough conversations with good friends, and the power of mindfulness.
Victoria references a book called “Thanks for the feed back” by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen