Widow Cast: Widows Empowering Widows - How to Self Coach Through Grief: Recent Episodes
Joann Filomena, Life Coach School Certified Life Coach, Widow Coach, and Weight Loss Coach
For widows, by a widow who found her way through the first year of grief. Joann The Life Coach sharing from the heart hoping it helps other widows find their way to reinvent their life and find joy.
Welcome widows to episode 156. A new year has always been a fresh start to me - but not after the death of my husband. That New Year, I was still in shock and did not expect to see that year coming in without Jim. Yes, the new year can become one of those milestones that tug at the heart, just like their birthday, wedding anniversary, and day of their passing. But you CAN learn how to turn this new year into a new start again. You can check out my website: https://joannthelifecoach.com My subscription membership for widows: https://widowcoachingcenter.com or email me at: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com
Today, I'm sharing all that I've learned over the years of widowhood about becoming widowed and those first months. We have also opened the doors to our subscription membership program today (Dec 2020) - so go check it out! Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com Subscription Program: https://widowcoachingcenter.com
First off - The Widow Coaching Center subscription membership program is open until 9 p.m. EST on Sept. 24, 2020. So if you've been waiting to take that leap, go check it out at https://widowcoachingcenter.com Today's episode is a fantastic opportunity to Jamie's story first hand as she went through widowhood and started on that long journey back to self. What Jamie shares is so very valuable. Jamie went from the trauma to building a new life.
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This week I had two excellent examples of the struggle we have at times as widows when we are making a decision or even wanting something more in our life, but feel a little guilty about that. Have you ever thought about doing something or buying something and it felt a bit extravagant, so you shyed away from it? Today I'm sharing a couple of stories that you just might identify with . . . . . . how it is when we are wanting permission. Find me at https://joannthelifecoach.com Email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com
This episode was inspired by a member in Widows Empowering Widows on Facebook who had both a wedding anniversary coming up, quickly followed by the first anniversary of her husband's death. She had been keeping herself very busy since he passed. But now feels like she cannot keep herself busy enough to distract herself from the pain of these upcoming dates. What happens when busy works for a while, but then you can't be busy enough? Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com
Widows, don't run away! "Get on your death bed" will make total sense if you join me in listening to this episode. It is the practice that I think everyone should apply to constantly stay motivated in their life. It is what some very very successful people practice to keep focused on what's important. More about widow coaching: https://joannthelifecoach.com Subscription membership: https://widowcoachingcenter.com Email me: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com
Have you ever encountered another widow who was left "better off" than you were? How did you feel about that? What do you think when you read another widow who is thriving in life after her loss? Are you envious? A little jealous? I saw this come up in my free Facebook Group: Widows Empowering Widows. Today I want to share how jealously can actually rob you of what you desire! It holds you back. Want to know how to process that feeling and come out the other side? Listen in! Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com
How anticipation, good or bad, can affect your physiology and well being. If you are widowed, be sure to check out my books on Amazon and find me on Facebook.
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Today's Widow Cast podcast was recorded live while broadcasting on video to my free Facebook group: Widows Empowering Widows. In our group, conversations had come up around the feeling that the relationship with their spouse who had passed on was gone and no more. On the contrary, relationships are all about how we think about the other person. Because those relationships are part of who we are, they can live on even as we move through the grief process. Find out how on today's episode. You can reach out to me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Check out the subscription membership at https://widowcoachingcenter.com
What are you thinking as a widow? About you? About your loss? About your life? About your money? About all your external relationships? Our thoughts often are all over the place. Sometimes our brain is telling us thoughts that make us feel awful or fearful. I think many thoughts are "thought errors." You are not at the mercy of every thought your brain fires at you! Learn more in this podcast about what "thought errors" are how to deal with them. email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Widows - Do you see too many social media posts that are like a kick in your soul? They are depressing - make your sadness heavier. It is one of the reasons I took on opening a Facebook Group page called Widows Empowering Widows - I wanted to share a message that was UPLIFTING. You CAN begin to turn that sadness into a life that brings you joy. I want to share with you quotes from the writings of Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. email me at Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Ever wonder how on earth to not feel so sad? One of the widows in the Widow Coaching Center membership posed this question. Listen in to hear more about feeling so sad. email: Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
When your spouse passed away, did you wonder, "How long will the money last until I run out?" Did you struggle with money issues even as you were consumed with grief? For most of us, we think we are going to become a bag lady. I speak very openly from a place of complete authenticity to share how I felt and the fact that you CAN be okay. There are ways you can build your own support. email: Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com Widow Coaching Center: https://widowcoachingcenter.com
Lately, I've been asked this question a lot: "Do you still have good days and bad days?" The answer is yes, of course. But it is not as black and white as that answer may seem. So listen in to how I feel after nearly 5 years, with some self examination and a lot of coaching! email: Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://Joannthelifecoach.com
Are you widowed and beginning to feel anxious about the upcoming holidays? I'm beginning to see posts about this in our Facebook Group, Widows Empowering Widows, so wanted to share a few thoughts about this. Listen in for how to face the holidays, some great ideas and suggestions, but even more importantly - how it is that you are upping the ante on your anxiety. email: Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com Membership: https://widowdoachingcenter.com
Are you finding it difficult to finish tasks or get anything accomplished since your spouse died? It is possible to commit to doing something and follow through on it. Here is a short boost to help you tackle that ONE thing this month! Email me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Subscription membership: https://widowcoachingcenter.com
Have you ever read about "self-care" and think you need to scheduled the beauty spa? Or maybe it felt like you have to be completely selfish about your time - taking care of you at the expense of everyone else around you. A fellow professional life coach shared a post that beautifully defined what self-care means to her. It is with Corinne Crabtree's permission that I am sharing her post with you. You might be very surprised at what self-care can be. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Subscription membership: https://widowcoachingcenter.com
Have you ever wanted to just go out to a new restaurant, but the thought of going there alone as "party of 1" is daunting? How do you tackle doing things alone? This subject came up more than ever after I sold my house in New York, drove to Texas and bought a new place here. I was constantly being asked, "How did you move and drive across country alone?" Today I help you understand why this feels scary and how to overcome that fear. Email me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Check out the membership! Subscription membership: https://widowcoachingcenter.com
How do you change how you see yourself? There is an entire before and after process to being able to see yourself differently. But first, you need to decide how it is you WANT to see yourself! Today I share the process of being able to shift into a new view of YOU.
Step into new shoes of new you
Take a chance on YOU
New habit stacks
Letting go of old you
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So many widows have told me their biggest need right now is to feel financially secure. Your spouses passes on, any income they were contributing to the household stops, but your bills don't. Let me see if I can help demystify all the fear and drama around money. As a widow who has worked long and hard on my own money beliefs and found my way to being able to stand on my own two feet financially, I want to share with you what can hold you back from doing the same. Email me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Check out the subscription membership at https://widowcoachingcenter.com
Widows - Is your attitude sad, depressed, angry? Today I share how my attitude almost got the better of me - yes, even after all these years of being a life coach! Here's the difference your attitude can make and the fundamental steps to being able to shift your attitude into something that feels amazing. Reach out to me at Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com If you are interested in becoming a certified widow coach, the next class begins soon! Reach out to me! Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com
When widows are told, "Hey, you just need to move on," we find it very offensive. It feels like we are being pushed to let go of our marriage, our spouse, and all those memories. But asking widows what they need, many have told me they need to know how to move forward. There's a distinctinction. It is not leaving behind our grief and our spouse. It is finding the ability to being to live our life again. I share with you why that key "moving forward" is so hard for us, and how you can begin to take steps out of that stuck rut. Reach out to me at Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Check out the subscription community at https://widowcoachingcenter.com
When I asked widows what the #1 thing was they want to change in their life, it was overwhelmingly "Confidence." It happens to us and frankly, really took me by surprise that this was part of my grief. Widows often feel scared to get out and do things, or just feel totally lost. This episode covers how to rebuild that lost confidence. You'll learn how to begin taking action again in your life. I can be reached at Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com To check out the online subscription membership community, go to https://widowcoachingcenter.com
In the beginning, as widows, we may find comfort in thinking we can do what our spouse would want for us. They would not want us to live a sad, lonely life. But there came a time that I realized what I really needed was to do exactly what I wanted for my life. I wanted to be striving for living an extraordinary life! I realized that for all of us, it can be daunting to even figure out what we are passionate about and what we do want. So I searched through articles for ideas and insights, and then added my special sauce to it all to help you figure out what it is that YOU WANT. You can reach me in email at Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Get on the wait list for subscription membership online at https://widowcoachingcenter.com My website: https://joannthelifecoach.com
Do you think moving somewhere else would make you happier? Maybe it will, but maybe it won't . The truth is this: You need to be able to be happy right where you are before you can happier elsewhere. Whaaatttt? It is true! Today I share my long journey to selling my house and moving. A big part of that journey was finding all the emotions I wanted to feel right where I was. Learn more about exploring your emotional life at https://widowcoachingcenter.com
Does this sound like you? “I used to LOVE cooking for him.” “I don't have a passion for it anymore...and I'm not sure when I ever will again..” “It’s not fun cooking or baking for yourself." Now, more than ever, it is so important to feed yourself well and look after yourself. So let's get empowered about feeding ourselves! Special thanks to the widows who follow me on Facebook in "Widows Empowering Widows" for bringing up this topic and contributing to the ideas shared on this episode. You can reach me at Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Check out our subscription membership at: https://widowcoachingcenter.com
Did you know that everything we do, how we act and show up in the world, and even everything we avoid doing is because of how we are feeling emotionally? Our emotions drive our actions and our life. When you know and understand this, you can even begin to choose the emotions you want to create the life you are wanting. You can choose a result you want in your life and then find the emotion that supports it. Learn more on the podcast. https://joannthelifecoach.com Email me at Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com
Probably the most devastating - or what my clients would describe as the most devastating thing about being widowed is loneliness. I know a lot of you take loneliness very seriously, you think it's a very big problem. It really does not have to be, so that's what we're going to talk about today. You can reach me at Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Check out the subscription membership at https://widowcoachingcenter.com
Why are your beliefs so very important to explore? Because your current set of beliefs are playing thoughts in your mind that absolutely manifest the exact life you are living. I teach the coaching model and the truth is, whether you actually know and understand the model or not, you have models playing out in your life constantly. The only difference is they are playing by default instead of you being consciously aware of those models and choosing what you want to belief and create in your world. Listen to learn more about how your beliefs play out in your feelings and your actions to create the life you are living. website: https://joannthelifecoach.com email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Encore presentation - As a widow do you wonder how to make your life better now that you are on your own? As you have been moving through this journey of grief, have you felt like something has to change - somehow this has to get better? On today's episode, I share with you how to make your life better. If you are interested in learning to life coach, go to http://widowcoaches.com or even better, I can be reached at joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Sometimes I listen to the "Bob and Sheri Show" on radio and find them delightful. Today I share their "Cone of Safety" and what that means in terms of helping another widow. Yes, DO reach out, widow to widow. Today I will tell you the best way to help her. email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Membership site: https://widowcoachingcenter.com
Widows - have you been finding BIG questions coming up in your mind? The kind of questions we rare ask in the normal hustle bustle of life. But nothing is "normal" anymore for us. After Jim suddenly died and as the weeks began to pass, I started asking the BIG questions.
Who am I now?
What is the meaning of all this?
Why did Jim die when he did?
Why am I still here and he’s not?
What am I doing here?
What’s my purpose?
What’s the MEANING of all this?
Is there really a God with a design and a master plan?
The answers did not come all at once. But slowly I was able to start unraveling the answers. It started with toilet paper and a box of jigsaw puzzles. No kidding.
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Here’s the thing. No one is coming to save you. Not your friends. Not your family. Not even your kids. There comes a time in the process of the exquisite grief that follows losing your life partner when you have to stand up and start putting one foot in front of the other. You have to save yourself. SAVE YOURSELF. Listen today to see where you begin, and how important this is! Subscription membership to get started: https://widowcoachingcenter.com Email me: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Widows are experiencing traumatic loss, but that does not necessarily mean you are in psychosis and need help to not be in misery. But it does mean that we could use some help in boosting our happiness levels. There are many ways for normal population who are not in need of a psychologist to boost their happiness levels. This afternoon I share a couple of intriguing examples you can apply in your own life and increase your levels of happiness! Email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Subscription site: https://widowcoachingcenter.com
Newly widowed and feeling like you've gone insane? No, you're not insane - you're in a state of shock. Listen in today as I share with you some of my own experiences in the early days after becoming widowed and one very important fact . . . . . . you get a pass. A widow pass. I promise. Reach out to me at Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Subscription site: https://widowcoachingcenter.com
Deepak Chopra said, "The way you think, the way you behave, the way you eat, can influence your life by 30 to 50 years." He is close to the truth, but the absolute truth is that the way you think, the way you behave and the way you eat can influence how you FEEL about life right NOW. Those extra years are just a bonus. As a widow, we need what can help us rebuild who we are and our life. Email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Subscription site: https://widowcoachingcenter.com
As a widow, are you suddenly faced with financial issues and overwhelming fears about your security? What is the one thing that will factor into whether you're going to be okay financially without your spouse or not? It is your beliefs about money and what it is to be widowed. There are underlying beliefs that you probably picked up as a kid and then never questioned that can absolutely hold you back in terms of money. Here's how to discovered what your beliefs are and just how some very basic and common money beliefs will limit your ability to support yourself. Want to learn more on your journey through grief? Go check out https://widowcoachingcenter.com email me at Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Grief and the fear of letting go can paralyze you. When do you go through their things - HOW do you let go? It feels like betrayal somehow. It feels like we are letting go of THEM. Listen today as Joann shares how to let of things without letting go of our loved ones. Membership site: https://widowcoachingcenter.com Email: Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com
Widows tell me, "I don't even know who I am now!" It was one of the most surprising things to me after my husband suddenly died. I felt like I had always been a strong personality, quite independent and strong willed. But after that sudden loss, it was like I was a new baby wandering in the wilderness. Not only do we lose our beloved life partner, we also lose our sense of self. You are not alone and it does not have to become a permanent condition. Membership Website: https://widowcoachingcenter.com Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
The very word "widow" brings so much emotion for each of us. Do you recall the first time you had to check a box next to "widowed?" I've noticed what other widows are saying about what the word widow means to them. Let's explore how widows and even society at large defines what it means to be a widow, and then let's talk about how we can redefine that word and make it our own. Let's reinvent that word even as we begin to reinvent ourselves and our lives after loss. Widow Coaching Center: https://widowcoachingcenter.com Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Are you ignoring the pain of loss, pushing it down, telling yourself “I’m okay, I got this?” This is a definite trend in widowhood. We think we can just tie on our red cape and push forward. But all that bottled up emotional pain is going to push right back in ways you cannot even imagine. Continuing on even in the best of circumstances is not necessarily the same as thriving on life. Start by learning the difference in how you look at what you are feeling. Reach out in email to Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
I teach the thought model to all my clients and especially in detail to my widow coaching students. This is the most powerful tool I've ever learned to create the life I want. My students tell me over and over again how life changing these concepts are to learn. In this episode I share five tips for self coaching that correspond to the coaching model. It is a way to share these concepts in a new light. I hope you learn at least one new thing from this podcast today! Go deeper with this kind of work by joining the membership at https://widowcoachingcenter.com If you are considering widow coaching as a direction for your life, go learn more at https://widowcoaches.com As always, you can reach out to me in email at Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Let's talk about stuck in the in-between, what that means and how to move out of the in-between into your next chapter as a widow. I think the in-between feels like being in the "upside down" like the kids on Stranger Things. On this episode I outline a couple of steps in self-coaching and what that means for writing the next chapter of your life. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com Membership: https://widowcoachingcenter.com
As a widow, we are confronted with mind-boggling lists about what to do, what not to do, and what we need. Death certificates, bank accounts, bills, insurance papers. You are in shock, you are in a fog, or even if it has been years, these lists just make your stomach sick or makes you want to hide under covers. But what about the lists that will really help you get through the fog. The lists that can help you begin to rebuild the pieces of your life. That's what I want to talk about today. Reach out to me at Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Check out https://widowcoachingcenter.com
WIDOWS AND MONEY DRAMA. Many widows are suffering from the beliefs we were raised with about money; but they don't even feel like beliefs - it just feels like "not enough." Today's episode explains how money can be easier, without all the drama. Money for nothing and the drama is free . . . . Check out the membership site: https://widowcoachingcenter.com It's INcredible!!! Email me at Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com .
Widows, when people ask, "How are you?" do you tighten up? How about when another widow posts, "Welcome to the club no one wants to belong to" or that "no one chooses?" We all have triggers. Our grief as a widow is going to take us there. I totally get it because I get triggered too. Let's take a closer look at what is going on within us and how we can identify what makes us feel like that. Would you like to know how to absolutely feel better about it without choking the next person who says it? Join me as I explain how we can choose how we want to feel. It can be life changing, grief changing, even leading you to your best life. Check out https://widowcoachingcenter.com You can email me at Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Find me on Facebook in our group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WIDOWEDbookclub/
As widows, we all experience different levels of fear. Fear of being alone, fear of doing things on our own, fear of having enough, fear of not being "okay." When do you feel fearful? Have there been things you might like to do, but the fear keeps you inside a bubble of comfort? Today, I want to talk to you about how you can feel fear - even SHOULD feel fear; and still go after the life you want to create. Check out the new membership at https://widowcoachingcenter.com email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com .
Widows experience the deep discomfort of grief, but there is another kind of emotional discomfort that you should welcome into your life - the discomfort of experiencing personal growth. We can allow and yes, even welcome a little emotional discomfort when we know the pay off is going to be exhilarating. Jump in to listen and learn more! Email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com Get on my list at http://widowcoaches.com
Life coaching is such a new industry, but I think it is one of the most critically important new industries to arise in our culture. Because it is still a new industry, there are many questions around it. I looked it up in general - why should someone work with a coach (I know why I think so, but I wanted to see what is the word on the street). There was an excellent article listing ten reasons to work with a life coach. This article was not directed specifically to widows, but astonishingly every single one of the ten points listed apply to widows. Not one of the reasons you should hire a life coach. Not a couple of the reasons. ALL the reasons. Listen in and see if you agree. I feel working with a life coach for a new perspective on your life is critical for everyone in our world. email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com Membership site: https://widowcoachingcenter.com .
Put your brain to work FOR you!! You can take your thinking and brainstorming to the next level, just by asking your brain great questions. Let's head into the new year deciding what it is we want more of in our life for next year and putting our brain to work on 10 great ideas to make those things a reality in your life. Email me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com Membership Site: https://widowcoachingcenter.com
What does B- work have to do with being widowed? This may not mean at all what you think it might! Sometimes B- work is exactly what you need to be doing. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Membership Site: https://widowcoachingcenter.com
As a widow do you wonder how to make your life better now that you are on your own? As you have been moving through this journey of grief, have you felt like something has to change - somehow this has to get better? On today's episode, I share with you how to make your life better. If you are interested in learning to life coach, go to http://widowcoaches.com I can be reached at joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Widows are judged by society, judged by family, judged by friends, judged by themselves, and even judged by other widows. Sometimes it seems a competition among widows for who is the saddest or who has the most heart-breaking story to tell. Let's raise each other up! Time to change the discourse! You can reach me at Joann@joannthelifecoach.com or https://Joannthelifecoach.com
Are you dreading the holidays without your spouse? As widows, the holidays can be a very difficult and depressing time of year. Do you wonder how you will get through the holidays with this sadness? Remember that Thanksgiving is a day. Christmas is a day. Hanukkah extends for 8 days, but for most it is most celebrated on the first day. We tend to experience the most dread and sadness in anticipation of what those days are going to be like, rather than the actual day. In this episode, let's explore what really works to handle the holiday period better. website: https://Joannthelifecoach.com email: Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com
Newer listeners may not know much about this podcaster! So this episode is my way to let you know that I have walked the walk. A little of my own history and how I finally felt that I would be okay in this new season of life. So join me on this episode and learn how this entire movement of certifying widows as widow life coaches came about. email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: https://joannthelifecoach.com
As widows, the inability to fall asleep and/or stay asleep is a real and serious issue. Sleep is critical to our health, both our physical health and our mental health. Yet it may be a serious challenge after losing your spouse. In today's episode, Joann talks about the thoughts that can keep you from being able to sleep, as well as practical applications that can help you finally get to sleep. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Topic of Complicated Grief as requested by YOU! Is complicated grief a diagnosis and what does it mean? I would love to do more shows "by request." Reach out in email to Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com and let me know what you would love to have addressed on the podcast. Visit my website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
If your thoughts create the results in your life, does that mean your thoughts can create someone's else's result? Today I explain why this is not possible - or even desirable! I'm also sharing with you how it is that we can become stuck in an uncomfortable comfort zone. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Are you a new widow, recently widowed, or just still struggling? This episode is a step back to speak directly to those new widows who have just found Widow Cast. This podcast has been a reflection of my own 3-1/2 year journey, so I have carried you all forward with me through the episodes. But on this episode, I want to discuss some of the questions I'm asked by new widows and answer them for you.
What are all the thoughts and beliefs that we've picked up throughout our life about money? Can these old, old beliefs and "sayings" influence your ability to support yourself now? Listen in and find out as Joann shares all the insights triggered by a "Wealthy vs Not Wealthy" meme she saw posted on Facebook. Reach out in email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
When you are feeling lonely, it is because something has triggered a memory of that feeling, not because you are in fact, isolated and alone. Being alone is indeed a fact, but feeling lonely is not a given! I share today a few thoughts on being alone. Reach out to me in email at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Visit my website at http://joannthelifecoach.com
Yes, Broken Heart Syndrome is a real medical issue. I'm sharing with you my experience of it and what I've learned. Today you will also hear about a lot of value I'm going to be sending your way over the next few months! Starting on Aug. 13, 2018 - I am doing a free 12-day rewrite your story challenge on Facebook. Go join in the 12-days of great sharing here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WidowCoachingCenter/ Website: http://JoannTheLifeCoach.com Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Another special interview episode, this time with Tina Murphy of Widows Wallet. Tina took The Widow Coaches Class and became a certified widow coach with a special zone of genius around all things financial. I'm thrilled to share her with you today. If you want to reach out to Tina for coaching, you will find her on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/widowswallet/ You can message her there. If you are interested in becoming a certified widow coach and want to know more about the class, reach out to me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com
There is power in negative emotions and learning how to actually allow them. Today I am sharing how the contrast between feeling negative emotions and positive emotions is what gives our life richness. Learn how to allow and yes, feel your negative emotions so that you can also feel the greatest extent of your successes and happiness in life. Reach out to me at http://joannthelifecoach.com
Over time you become so used to something being there, you no longer see it. A box in the corner of the room, a scuff at the bottom of the door. We do the same with the thoughts we are thinking. What is wrong with not being aware of what we are telling ourselves? Every sentence in our mind produces an emotional response - it is where our feelings come from. If we are blind to what we are thinking, we are living our lives by default instead of how we would like to be living. Listen in as I explain this phenomenon, how to undo it, and the amazing effect that can have on your life. email me at: joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Robyn McCoy is one of the widows who undertook the journey of Widow Coaches Class to learn life coaching skills and become a certified widow coach. How this transformed her and what she is now doing as a widow coach is remarkable. She graciously joined me to talk about her journey and share that inspiration with all of you. To learn more about Robyn, visit http://thewespeak.com If you want to find out more about Widow Coaches Class, please visit http://widowcoaches.com As always, you can reach out to me directly at joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Sharing my incredible experience of coaches mastermind in Dallas and my own journey to this point, along with talking about "buffering." Buffering is why we overeat, overdrink, overshop, or anything that we do to "check out" on our life because we are avoiding facing our own emotions. Reach out to me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com If you want to be kept in the loop on the progress of the online membership site, Widow Coaching Center, go here to sign up for notification of the launch: http://widowcoachingcenter.com
Learn to make effective, powerful decisions. Have you found it difficult to make decisions, even simple decisions, since becoming widowed? Welcome to decision fatigue. Yes, that is a thing and it is real. On this episode, we are going to explore exactly what is going on with your inability to make decisions and how to overcome that. Reach out in email: joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
How do you move forward, learn to feel better and create a new life? Determination. Sometimes a bit of a chip on the shoulder is not a bad thing! On this episode, I get really transparent and vulnerable about exactly how I felt when I decided to walk out of the corporate world after Jim's death and become a life coach. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com Learn more about becoming a widow coach at http://widowcoaches.com
What is the BEST emotion to feel? Love, of course. But often we have others in our lives that we are not feeling particularly loving towards. Instead, we are choosing to feel anger, resentment, disappointment or even hate. Who gets punished by all that? Bet you can already guess. Listen to this episode to find out how you can feel better. email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Find out what is emotional childhood vs emotional adulthood. I'm your host, Joann Filomena. When in your life are you blaming things outside of yourself and how does changing that change your life? Join me on this week's look at Class #11. Check out my website at http://joannthelifecoach.com More information on widow coaching at http://widowcoaches.com
This week we explore boundaries and boundary issues. I am your host, Joann Filomena. Be sure you've listened to episode 84 on manuals so you can identify the difference between a boundary and a manual thing. Boundaries are a way of becoming more authentic in your life and actually closer to others. Check out my website at http://joannthelifecoach.com More information on widow coaching at http://widowcoaches.com
Did you know you are walking through life with assorted manuals in your mind? One for how your mother should be, one for how husbands act, one for how your friends should act, etc. These expectations you have for others can make you feel frustrated, hurt, even angry. Listen to this episode on The Manual and start feeling better immediately! email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
As a widow, we all go through that period of fog and mourning. But eventually, we start to look around us again – we begin assessing the scraps of what is left of our life and our future. But how? How do you do that? Today I share some of lesson 8 in the Widow Coaches Class, which is all about being able to set a goal and begin focusing your life again. email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Holding space for another widow is the greatest gift you can give. Learn exactly what this means in this glimpse of what we learn in widow coach certification. If you are interested in the class, check out coaching at http://joannthelifecoach.com/coaching/
Quick announcement for opening the doors on the next class session! If you have been considering becoming a certified widow coach, please reach out to me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Get on my mailing list at http://joannthelifecoach.com/coaching
Are you mostly focused on the past, the present or the future? Where your thoughts are focusing can hugely affect how you feel about your life. Continuing with the widow coaches class series to share bits of what is learned in certification as a widow coach we are looking at future focus versus past focus. Find out how to begin to shift your focus to get the most potential in living. http://joannthelifecoach.com
Welcome to an introduction to class 5 that I teach in Widow Coach Certification training. Class 5 is all about coaching questions. In this episode, I want to share with you the art of asking yourself a better question and why you would want to do this. Tune in to learn about how your amazing, beautiful brain can work for you. Do you think you might want to become a coach? Check out my site at http://joannthelifecoach.com or go directly to http://widowcoaches.com
Welcome to an introduction to class 4 that I teach in Widow Coach Certification training. We tackle feelings, how we react to our feelings and how we can process our feelings. You truly can feel better. I can teach you how! Reach out to me in email at joann@joannthelifecoach.com or follow me on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/joannthelifecoach/ My website is: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Six basic human needs is a tool I learned from Tony Robbins. When I applied this for myself after becoming widowed, it was such a game changer. I teach this to every widow coach that I certify. Join me to hear about class #3 that I teach in Widow Coaches Class. Do you think you might want to become a coach? Check out my site at http://joannthelifecoach.com or reach out to me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com
When you become widowed, your entire life is up in the air. It is like widowhood has erased all your future plans. Grief envelopes you and it takes some time before you can start to focus on the world around you again. But when you are ready, how do you figure out where you are headed? How do you get one foot in front of the other again? Reverse engineering. What is it and how can it apply to your life - Join me on this one. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Continuing the series of 12 lessons that are taught in Widow Coaches Class, today's podcast lesson is about belief systems, what they are, how to recognize your own belief systems, and how to begin to shift your beliefs and the results in your life. How do you move forward in your life when you are working through this grief? Today's podcast puts you right on that path. Host, Joann Filomena, can be reached at joann@joannthelifecoach.com email. Visit the website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Becoming a certified life coach changed my life and I want to share that with all of you. The next 12 episodes of Widow Cast will be about just that. The lessons shared in The Widow Coaches Class. It is work that can help you work through this and find you again. This is help for widows. This episode covers the coaching thought model and how to separate out story from fact. It is where you start to break down what you are telling yourself in your mind. Email contact: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com More information about this at: http://widowcoaches.com
Have you told yourself your life is over? You'll never be happy again? Today learn about confirmation bias and what that has to do with it. Confirmation bias is an amazing thing to think about. It can cloud our vision, but if we make it work for us, it can give us vision. Reach out to me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com or visit my site: http://Joannthelifecoach.com
Today I wanted to share why I do what I do as a life coach and widow coach. This podcast was based on the live video broadcast on my YouTube channel: Joann The Life Coach TV. If you want to check out the video of this podcast, click on this link and remember to subscribe! Joann The Life Coach TV If you want to know more about widow coach certification, go to http://widowcoaches.com
Welcome to something a little different for this episode about how to process all the emotions you are experiencing when you lose your spouse. This podcast was broadcast live as video on YouTube on my new channel there: Joann The Life Coach TV. If you want to check out the video of this podcast, click on this link and remember to subscribe! Joann The Life Coach TV If you want to know more about widow coach certification, go to http://widowcoaches.com
Find your passion and what you are truly good at, and begin doing THAT as your life path. I share how life coaching had been a focus of my entire life and what I studied from a young age. It is in my very DNA. Coach others based on what you have experienced and what you are passionate about. Is it too late in life to build your own business and career? No way - not in the age of social media. Tune in and learn more. email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Find out more about widow coach certification at http://widowcoaches.com
Fear. We all experience this after we lose our spouse. Fear over many things. Fear of being alone. Fear of what is happening with our finances. Fear of facing work. Fear of what our kids are going through. Can you get past the fear without being paralyzed and stuck in it? You bet you can. email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Widow Coach Certification information: http://widowcoaches.com
Holidays. I’m seeing posts on widow sites about how tragic the holidays feel. Posts about the pain. How it’s extra tough to pretend to be okay. How hurtful the happiness of others is. Wow. Is this what we should focus on for ourselves? How does it serve a widow to read about how painful and lonely it can be during the holidays when you are missing your spouse? Not me. I’m going to challenge you. It might be equally uncomfortable, but with an actual positive result. Because that is what I’m all about. Getting you RESULTS in your life. Helping you find your strength. Let's head into 2018 together. email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com
When the universe conspires to point you in a specific direction or set you down in the right place at the right time, it can be so amazing. Stories of the universe conspiring on my behalf and where we might be headed in 2018. email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Find out more about widow coach certification at: http://WidowCoaches.com
It is not the events in our lives that shape us - it is what we believe about those events. It is what we make it mean in our life. How do we find our way out of the excruciating emotional pain of loss to move ahead in our life? The coaching thought model that I teach sets the path. Join me as I begin to take you all deeper into coaching tools and self coaching. email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Find out more about Widow Coach Certification at http://widowcoaches.com
"I need the strength to make it through it, and to make something of myself" was the sentence that jumped out to me on the prayer request that had been forward to me. It is what you need. The strength to make it through - and then a way to make something of yourself. A way to make the emotional journey MEAN something. A way to contribute - a way to do work in the world that actually feels fulfilling. That is what widow coaching is all about. email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Find out more about Widow Coaches Certification Class at http://widowcoaches.com
I shared a free online workshop last week on one of the many tools I teach in my widow coaches certification course. I had emailed out the introduction chapter of my next book, The Widow Coach, and received back so many wonderful responses that I wanted to share a tool with everyone. On this episode, I am teaching this for my listeners that did not catch the free workshop. It is all about how to understand what the true facts are in your life compared to the story your tell yourself about them. I share how you can look at any incident making you feel bad to better understand how your thinking creates how you feel. This is just one of the many tools and concepts I teach, but it is an important one. If you are interested in the Widow Coaches Class, go to http://widowcoaches.com You can also email me at Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com
Most widows have experienced that moment with something right out of the blue catches you off guard, reminding you of your loss. A sweet reminder does not have to overwhelm us with depression and sadness. It all depends on where your head is at when it catches you. Listen in to discover how you can move past the pain into sweet remembrance. Email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Learn more about Widow Coaches Class at http://widowcoaches.com
The lesson that gets sent straight home to our hearts over and over. Why do we still not get it? When we lose our spouse, we immediately realize how previous every moment with them was. Perhaps we wish things had been a little different. Maybe that we worked less or were less preoccupied with ouir own “busy-ness” of life. We wish there had been more “down time” to spend kicked back with our husband or wife. It’s really an old story, isn’t it? Are you a widow who feels deeply that there is no time to lose? Email feedback about this podcast to Joann@joannthelifecoach.com You can find out more about Widow Coaches Class at http://bit.ly/WidowCoaches
Hitting the "pause button" on grief because you throw yourself into work or put all your energy into making sure your kids are okay will eventually catch up. You can pause grief, but that is not healing. The grief eventually turns up again. So how to feel better, right now. I share one of the first things I teach in Widow Coaches Class. It is being able to separate out story from fact, and how to take a look at your own story and see if it is serving you. If it's not, then it's time to start seeing a different story emerge so you can feel better immediately. Why you want to invest in YOURSELF and bet on YOURSELF moving forward. Join me on today's podcast. Email feedback about this podcast to Joann@joannthelifecoach.com You can find out more about Widow Coaches Class at http://bit.ly/WidowCoaches
After becoming widowed, is it possible to love your life again? It might seem impossible - you feel like you'll never wake up with excitement and want to jump right out of bed. I want to share with you exactly how this happened for me. It is how I found meaning in my life again and began to love my life and love my work. Listen in as I share my story. You can reach out to me in email at joann@joannthelifecoach.com If you are interested in Widow Coaching Class, go to http://bit.ly/widowcoaches
We talk about feelings a lot in widow coaches certification training. Most widows come to me because they want to know how to escape their feelings - the pain is overwhelming. Instead they learn how to really feel their feelings so they can process them and release them. It is important to not separate from your feelings but to honor them. If you are interested in learning how to life coach widows, please reach out at this link http://bit.ly/WidowCoaches Email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com
I got a beautiful letter from one of my Widow Cast podcast listeners who has found comfort and hope in my podcast since his husband passed away just a few months ago. It totally came to my attention how completely under served widows of same-sex marriages and partnerships are. All widows feel isolated, but how much more isolated the LGBT widow must feel? So I reached out. How could I not share this platform for every widow on the planet. Graciously, Rebecca Kendrick sat down with me to share her story of losing her wife. If you are interested in learning how to life coach widows, please reach out https://joannthelifecoach.leadpages.co/widow-coaches/ Email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com
It was my pleasure to give a free hour long class online this past Thursday. It was about how to find yourself again after your spouse is gone - how do you decide what it is you actually want and how do you create that? You are going to be so surprised by the process - it is completely reverse of what we normally think we have to do. AND it's fun. So join me on this podcast and become the woman you were meant to become. If you want to get on my email list so that you know the next time I offer a live one-hour class online, you can go download the freebie from my book at http://JoannBooks.com or you can sign up for my Q&A call for Widow Life Coach Training Class. You can learn more about it and ask any questions you have. Just go to http://WidowCoaches.com If you want to drop me a line, my email is Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com
Faith. It is an emotion. It is a feeling. It is a thought. For some, acting with faith means to act in accordance to their belief of god. That means, they are acting according to what they believe; and what we believe is always what we are thinking in our mind. What if you are not devoutly religious? Can you still act with faith? Of course, you do it every day. You act in alignment with your beliefs, which are formed by your thinking. Today's podcast teaches how you can put faith into play in your life to get the results you seek. Email Joann: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com Widowed: http://bit.ly/Widowed
When widowhood is still new and you are in a fog, not wanting to think or do anything, how do you begin to take those first steps forward? Listen in on those first few steps and how to look into your own future after becoming widowed. Email Joann: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com Widowed: http://bit.ly/Widowed
Last week I spoke about new love being a possiblity. Of course, the relationship you had with your spouse is not something that could ever be duplicated. But apparently the heart can open and grow. This week I bring you a special interview with Barbara Kenyon who coaches divorcees, widows, and widowers who are ready to find someone special in their life again. You can reach Barbara Kenyon at barbara@kenyoncoaching.com Email Joann: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com Widowed: http://bit.ly/Widowed
You think you’ll never love again or even think about being with another person in such a close relationship again. I surely have felt that way over the last couple of years. I couldn’t even imagine at my time in life making all the compromises to share space with another person. I only wanted to find my best self and learn to stand on my own two feet. I was always fiercely independent and individualistic anyway. We both were. I bet you also know how completely unique your relationship was with your spouse. Of course it is not something that could ever be duplicated. But apparently the heart can open and grow. Email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Widowed: http://bit.ly/Widowed
WE know all too well that our emotions are all over the place and cannot be “neatly” categorized. I’ve talked about how all these emotions can actually “muddy up” your feeling of grief. We think that all those emotions are grief – but no. So then, how do you process all those emotions? You can find Widowed on Amazon at http://joannfilomena.com Email Joann: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com This podcast is brought to you by Joann The Life Coach Podcast Productions.
Don't be afraid to look at your life as it is right now - that is the starting point for deciding what new beliefs you might want to have about yourself and about your life. When we hide from ourself by staying in a stuck place, it is a form of checking out on your life. Widows and widowers even have a high rate of suicidal thoughts - the ultimate checking out on life. Today I share how powerful it is to muster the courage to look at exactly where you are and what you need. This podcast is brought to you by Joann The Life Coach Podcast Productions that also includes Weight Coach podcast and This is US podcast. Joann Filomena is widowed, a professional certified life coach and author of the bestselling book, Widowed. Email: Joann@JoannTheLIfeCoach.com
Did you marry when you were older and maybe he had grown kids from a prevrious marriage? Or is it just your in laws that you now feel a little "estranged" from? So often we think of those step-kids and grandkids as "his kids" and "his family" instead of our own family. So we lose touch and lose any possible support from them. It is our thinking that has gotten in our way of continuing those relationships - and just at a time when we need that bond more than ever. Today's podcast talks about this and about how to reach out again. Email me at joann@joannthelife.coach.com with feedback or if you want to find out more about the Widow Coaches Class. You can find WIDOWED on Amazon at http://bit.ly/Widowed
Do you feel guilt that you didn’t do enough for your spouse? Guilt perhaps for a medical decision you made for them. Guilt for backing THEIR decision. Guilt for not immediately thinking of them when you wake in the morning. Guilt for feeling the first twinge of happiness or pleasure after they’ve pasted. The guilt that assails us when we think something like, “well at least I don't have to do wash twice a week anymore” or “How nice that the kitchen stays clean.” Guilt over selling their car, releasing their things, changing decor - as if they will still walk through the door any minute. This is more common than you think - and one of the most painful emotions widows struggle with. Check out this week's episode including a lot of updates! email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Download my book for free: http://joannthelifecoach.com/widowed/
If you are a new widow, this episode might not be something you are ready to hear yet. If you listen, do keep your mind open to this possibility in your future. For those of you who, like me, have been widowed more than a year; this might resonate. December 29th marked the end of two years as a widow for me, and as this date approached, there was a shift in my heart. I want to share this with you. The stories I share here might sound like little things, but listen on. They run much deeper. There is finally acceptance. Reach out to me for a free phone call at http://talktojoann.com Email me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com My book "WIDOWED" is available on Amazon.com.
We are at that time of year that can be so very painful to experience after your spouse has died: Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah - Kwanzaa - your holidays celebrations. But being alone doesn’t have to equal lonely. Some tips for your holiday, as well as permission to spend it exactly as you wish. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com/widowed/
Widow weight gain - a return to emotional eating. Emotions and feelings? This is the basis for issues with overeating. As a widow, especially if you've already struggled with weight issues, you may find that the scale has headed upwards again. No only am I a widow and professional life coach, I'm a certified professional weight loss coach. Find out more! You can email Joann at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Want to jump on the phone with me? Go schedule a time we can talk at http://talktojoann.com
Just the thought of being widowed equals “destitute widow” in our mind. In times of yore, the word widowed and destitute were almost synonymous. Falling prey to financial drama will indeed hold you back. Find the mindset to turn financial fears around! Read WIDOWED http://bit.ly/Widowed Get on a call with me: http://talktojoann.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Happy Thanksgiving from Joann of Widow Cast and the book, WIDOWED. This special episode is recorded live about 3,500 miles away from my broadcasting studio - coming to you unedited. For Thanksgiving, I wanted to reach out to all of my listeners to share a story of how finding gratitude not only for what you have had and what you have right now in this present, but also for where you need to be can support and help create that future for you. It is my wish that you find a lot to feel thankful for today and that you find JOY in your day today. Reach out in email to Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com
Are you ignoring the pain of loss, pushing it down, telling yourself “I’m okay, I got this?” This is a definite trend in the sisterhood. We think we can just tie on our red cape and push forward. But all that bottled up emotional pain is going to push right back in ways you cannot even imagine. Continuing on even in the best of circumstances is not necessarily the same as thriving on life. Start by learning the difference in how you look at what you are feeling. Reach out in email to Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Jump on a call with me: http://talktojoann.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
We’ve talked about not comparing divorce to becoming widowed as these are two very different circumstances - not the same thing at all. But what happens when after divorce, your ex passes away? Is it rehashing the old feelings? Why are you so devastated all over again upon their death? Join me as I break down this phenomenon. Email feedback: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://Joannthelifecoach.com Jump on a call with me: http://talktojoann.com
Don't miss out on life. Why does one widow stay stuck for years and lose even a decade plus of living, and another widow uses the pain and fear to push forward? One widow is not smarter, better, more emotionally stable than the other. One widow does not have more supportive friends, more financial income, more social contacts than another. Both widows are deep in grief. So what happens? Where is the click? Find out in this episode. Reach out at http://talktojoann.com to jump on a call to find out about life coaching specifically for widows. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Not only do we experience that huge shock of stress with the loss of our spouse, there are a tremendous number of secondary losses. Be aware that these compound and can even affect your health. Today's episode discusses a famous stress units scale and helps you assess where you are in your life currently, along with the various compounding stresses we face as widows. You can schedule a discovery call with me at http://talktojoann.com Download the free worksheet with the Holmes Stress Scale at http://joannbooks.com Email me: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
There were key insights and experiences in my first year as a widow that helped me strike out and rebuild a life for me. This is why I wrote WIDOWED - to share that journey and some of what I discovered along the way that helped me. Today I share a little taste of WIDOWED with you. Email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Get WIDOWED for free at http://joannthelifecoach.com/widowed Schedule a discovery call with me at http://talktojoann.com
Today my book, WIDOWED, is live on Amazon.com in Kindle Format and I'm offering it for FREE for the next 3 days. Details in this brief announcement. Event registration: http://lifefromtheauthorcastle.com Book web page: http://joannthelifecoach.com/widowed/
Have you had someone say to you, "I'm not widowed, but I'm divorced and . . . ." There is never any good to come from comparing. Death and Divorce are not the same things, so why are we comparing them? In this episode, I also share about writing and the launch of my book, WIDOWED. Oct 13th, you can check Amazon for Joann Filomena, Widowed, to find a free download! Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/widowcast/ Email Joann at: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Have you received signs that you are certain are from your spouse? Sometimes all it takes is an awareness. Sometimes, it is completely unmistakable! Today I share more stories based on faith that those who have deceased are indeed still with us. I also talk about my upcoming book release for WIDOWED and how you can get a free download of the Kindle version on the day of launch. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Schedule a free session at: http://talktojoann.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
It is not the events in our lives that shape us - it is what we believe about those events. It is what we make it mean in our life. How do we find our way out of the excruciating emotional pain of loss to move ahead in our life? The coaching thought model that I teach sets the path. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Schedule a free discovery session: http://talktojoann.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
A “widow moment” is when something small triggers an avalanche of emotion - like all that sadness has piled up while you were still in shock over the death of your spouse. So as the fog and layers of protection your brain has provided you starts to ease off and let in a little more pain in each moment; you still have this huge stockpile of grief - just waiting. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Schedule a free discovery call at: http://talktojoann.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Have you been in the grip of that knot in your stomach over finances since you became widowed? No matter how the numbers in our bank account add up or don’t add up, our thoughts are going to remain the same. That knot of fear remains because it is not directed by the numbers at all. I'm sharing my inner bag lady with you today and telling you how to begin to release that horrible fear of finding yourself in the gutter. email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Website: http://Joannthelifecoach.com Reach out for a free session at http://talktojoann.com
The widow is a changed person and goes through a long period of inner anger, bitterness, confusion - if you meet a widow as a new friend, realize the person you are connecting with is not exactly herself at the moment. In addition to the initial state of shock that widows experience, there is a continued very high stress level and many obstacles coming from all directions. Get a better understanding of where you are at in your journey. Email me: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Scheduled a free phone session at http://talktojoann.com
Is widowhood pushing you to challenge the status quo of what a widow is supposed to be and what a widow is supposed to do? I believe that the death so close to us is the most magnificent catalyst for personal growth. “if you live each day as if it were your last, someday you will most certainly be right.” Steve Jobs said every day of his adult life, he looked in the mirror every morning and asked himself if that day were going to be the last day of his life, would he want to do what he was about to do that day. If the answer was no too many days in a row, he knew something had to change. email: Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
When we are widowed, our mental state changes immediately - no big surprise there. And as it should. We’ve been gut punched - the rug pulled out from under us - in a state of shock and a deep state of grief. All very understandable and OKAY. However, if we remain stuck in that emotional state for weeks and months on end, it takes a toll on our life. Find out what I learned from Tony Robbins about "State" and how to shift your emotional state. Email Joann Filomena: Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
There is a turmoil of emotions that emerge when you lose your spouse. Today I riff on this along with the "Widow moments" I've experienced. As you move through your journey as a widow or widower, it is my hope that sharing my own experiences and being very open about the emotions we move through help you process your own emotions and experiences. Reach out to me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
When your spouse passed away, did your life suddenly become filled with uncertainty? We need a sense of certainty in our day and meaning in our life. You do not want to be a "manager" of your life, trying to manage the uncertainty. You want to be a creator in your life - and create a life with certainty. Today I tell you about an experience that was able to shake my sense of certainty, showing me that I still have work to do on creating certainty for myself. I share this with you and tell you how to get more certainty in your life. I also did that last drawing for a $100 Amazon gift certificate and talk about a new online course I've developed. You can still get a free mini session with me at http://talktojoann.com Register for the new online course at http://joannfilomena.com Email: Joann@joannthlifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Have you been told by other widows that the second year is harder than the first. Today I talk about that second year, as well as a few bits from the first year. Find out how to get a little motivation to get outside, walk, and meet others! If you are interested in life coaching for widows, start with a free session with me on a 30-minute phone session. Click here to schedule a free mini session: http://talktojoann.com Email me at: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
The widow journey is one of self examination and self discovery - it is unavoidable as part of the process of our grief and part of the process of learning to face life again, this time solo. How many times a week - how many times a day are you finding yourself at the edge of the cliff wondering if you can muster the courage to take the next step? Sharing our journey with each other makes it so much easier. Reach out in email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Schedule a free call with me: http://talktojoann.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
You are newly widowed. At first there is no time to think much past the next few days, even if you could through the fog of grief. There is notifying others, arranging the funeral, maybe additional special services to be held. Sympathy cards are flowing into your mailbox. Others are right there for you. But after a few weeks, it all starts to settle in. The funeral and services are over. The sympathy cards start to dwindle. You sit down in a chair and wonder, “what’s next - who am I now?” Click HERE for a free session with Joann. Email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
What is perfect about your life now? Nothing? Not true. Something is perfect. This is where you begin - ask yourself what is perfect. Your thoughts direct your entire life. Your thoughts create your feelings. I can show you how to use this knowledge to your advantage to create the journey of your choosing. Click here to leave comments and a review on iTunes for Widow Cast. Go schedule a free mini session at http://talktojoann.com Email Joann at Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Even discovering a boring email from another female that you didn't even know existed prior to your spouse's death can bring on suspicion and jealousy that run rampant and HURT. Maybe there was a situation that caused you to feel jealous before your spouse passed, and that lingering doubt remains and eats away at you. Today hear about two stories of jealousy and the thoughts that created the emotion. How do you get away from that ugly feeling? Click here to leave comments and a review on iTunes for Widow Cast. Go schedule a free mini session at http://talktojoann.com You can email Joann at Joann@Joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Becoming a widow is NOT a pathology, and it just pushes my buttons when I see it treated as a life sentence. I hear it all the time - grief discussed as if it were a cancer. Something to shut down - quick - take a pill. You are not broken, you are not a disease, you are a widow. You are experiencing grief. I'm having a "tell it like it is" moment. You can reach out to me for a free session by clicking here: Schedule a Free Mini Session or email comments to me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Please do leave me a review in iTunes! Review Widow Cast
Perhaps you feel you would like to find your way out of the widow fog - the stuck place, but have no idea how to "Dare to Begin." I can help you through that so you do not reflect back on your life 5 years down the road and feel you wasted so many good years stuck in your life after the loss of your spouse. Widows know only too well how precious every day is, so do not waste another day, another week - do not waste years feeling stuck and frozen in time. Dare to Begin. You can schedule that free mini session with me at http://talktojoann.com or email me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com
The most asked question by widows is how to survive this? In this episode I talk about what my own research has turned up on this and the things I feel have contributed to my being able to survive widowhood. Email Joann at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Schedule a free mini session at http://talktojoann.com
Have you felt like as a widow you are supposed to be "over it" at some point? Have you been asked, "Why aren't you over it now?" We've all been there with that. I share how my life has moved forward, even though "over it" is not a destination. I am also on a mission and share this with you. My mission is 100 free transformations in 60 days. Schedule a free mini session and a chance to win a free $100 Amazon gift card at http://talktojoann.com You can email me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com I love to hear from you!
Sarah Joyce Michel is a remarkable women. Widowed in her early 50s, she shares with us a story of delayed grief, post-traumatic stress reaction and incredible post-traumatic growth. Today she joins me to be interviewed on Widow Cast. You can reach out to me in email at joann@joannthelifecoach.com or visit my website at http://joannthelifecoach.com As a life coach and having been widowed myself, I coach other widows. If you are interested, you can schedule a free mini session with me at http://joannthelifecoach.com/work-with-me/
Have you experienced post-traumatic stress as a widow? Suddenly crying for no reason? How about this - post-traumatic GROWTH? The amazing discovery of talking to and coaching widows is PTSD in widows and the amazing phenomena of post-traumatic growth. You can email me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Check out my website at http://joannthelifecoach.com Free life coaching mini session is available at http://joannthelifecoach.com/work-with-me/
How does life look after that first year as a widow, the second, the third and the fourth? Ann Bacciaglia will have been widowed 5 years this August, and she shares her story with us exactly how it unfolded over the years of her journey. How do you begin to redefine yourself? Joann The Life Coach Free Mini Session: http://joannthelifecoach.com/work-with-me/ Email Joann at Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Special edition - Interview with Joanne Royer, PhD of Change Agent & Associates who became widowed at a very young age to share her story and insights gained over the years. Joanne Royer's website is http://www.joanneroyerphd.com You can find Joann Filomena at http://joannthelifecoach.com and reach out to me in email at joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Milestones dates on your calendar after the death of your spouse like Christmas, Fourth of July, anniversaries, birthdays; these can be very difficult spent alone. Even small milestones can bring back that flood of memories and loss. As a widow, you do move forward in life and learn how to pass through these significant calendar dates. Reach out to me at Joann@joannthelifecoach.com or visit my website at http://joannthelifecoach.com
Is there a gift in even in becoming widowed? Can living your life and being happy again coexist with grief? Many widows have found just that. I share how this happened for me. I am Joann Filomena, certified life coach and weight coach. Email me at joann@joannthelifecoach.com or visit my website at http://joannthelifecoach.com
Did your spouse have specific wishes to be cremated or other funeral arrangements? How does a widow handle those requests, especially if she really wants something to be done differently? This and paranormal phenomena that can take place after death. I share my own experiences with both of these things. Email me and let me know what your experiences have been - at Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Widows often find great gaps in their support structure of daily life. As a life coach, I've helped others look at their priorities and needs so they can start building a plan for their life. Widows especially need this. After the initial shock of losing your spouse, you begin to move out of the fog of those early days and weeks and wonder “what’s next?” Today I share with you one of the tools you can use to begin discovering what you want and need in your life. email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com
Are you finding yourself again, but feeling a little guilty about it? In this episode, I talk about this and more as I ramble through my millionaire meditation and gratitude, emotional flu and taking care of yourself, leaks and symbols, and my first great adventure out on my own. I hope these stories resonate and help you gain insight into yourself.
What do you wish you knew? What would other widows tell you? This is a recap of what other widows have told me they wish they knew when they first became widowed. Amazingly it was not how to file appropriate papers or phoning financial institutions. You might be surprised to hear these insights. Joann Filomena is Joann The Life Coach, widowed at the end of 2014 and sharing experiences and insights from the heart after that first year as a widow. Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com Contact Joann: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Have you felt that you should clear out closets right away, or are you unable to even open the closet door yet? This and "the widow dream" discussed in this episode. Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com Contact Joann: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Only another widow can know exactly what you are experiencing. There is no better support than connecting with another widow. Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com Contact Joann: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Joann relates her birthday experience as a widow. What happens when others don't know what you need, and the difference it makes when you find the courage to ask for what you need. Find Joann at http://joannthelifecoach.com or contact Joann at Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Joann talks about all the emotions that can flood in upon being widowed and how to experience pure grief without guilt. Send feedback to Joann@joannthelifecoach.com or visit http://joannthelifecoach.com
Do you wonder if other widows talk out loud to their deceased spouse? Ever wonder if they actually can hear you? There can be signs and symbols all around you that might miss or write off as imagination. This is my shared experience. Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com Contact Joann: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
That entire first year without your partner is stretching out before you. It was in the first days of being widowed that I realized I wanted to make the most of every single day, like it were my last. Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com Contact Joann: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
You are moving through the tasks ahead of you all alone, as a widow. You think you're doing fine with this and you ARE doing fine with this. But then it hits - that "widow moment" when something small sets off the well of pain and frustration. Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com Contact Joann: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
How others can react to you after becoming widowed and why. As a widow, do not let this add to your grief. Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com Contact Joann: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
My backstory on becoming a widow and beginning to move through grief. Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com Contact Joann: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com
Brief intro for Widow Cast by Joann Filomena, certified life coach, who is sharing her own journey as a widow in hopes that other widows moving through grief can find some inspiration and healing here. Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com Contact Joann: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com