Courage Within You with Silvia Turon: Recent Episodes

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The Courage Within You podcast is a place for empowering and inspiring every bad-ass woman on the planet. Every week, tune into real and raw talks on how to live your most authentic life, without apologies and on your own terms. We'll talk about inspiration, motivation, vulnerability, struggle, mastering adversity and much more. New episode every Friday.

Hello, my brave soul. The time has come when I decided to say goodbye to podcasting for a while and focus on my writing instead.

First, let me start by saying that I am beyond grateful for you, my dear listener who found my podcast helpful while always coming back for more.

Although the journey of podcasting has been deeply rewarding for me, I decided to direct my attention to something I love the most - writing.

Therefore, every Tuesday, I will publish blog posts with tools, tips, techniques, affirmations, quotes, and a little bit of storytelling to support you on your path of deep inner healing and growth. Also, stay on the lookout for some beautiful and healing meditations.

Another reason why I decided to take a break from podcasting is a realization I recently had.

The truth is that, for a while, I let the doubt get the best of me.

Although I wanted to write my second book, I thought to myself:

Who am I to write a book?

No one will want to read it.

Or my all-time favorite:

“I am not ready.”

It took a couple of months of solitude and looking within. I decided to confront my negative beliefs and break free from these self-imposed limitations.

I am beyond excited to embark on this journey for the second time and pour my heart and soul into my second book, and I can’t wait for you to read it.

Thank you again for being a part of this beautiful and fulfilling journey, and as I always say at the end of my podcast, I will talk to you soon.

Stay brave.

A while ago, I watched an interview with Jay Shetty where he talked about detachment as stated in the Bhagavad Gita, a 700-verse Hindu scripture. He says that, “detachment is not that you own nothing. Detachment is that nothing owns you.” I find this one of the most accurate and simply understood definitions of detachment.

Also, it is worth noticing things and people we are attached to and then asking ourselves:” What does this person, thing, or achievement represent for me?”

It wasn't long ago when I was attached to men who came into my life to validate how lovable I was. Or using the attachment to my work and to-do list to justify my worth. If I worked my butt off, I was worthy. If I took a break, I felt guilty for not doing, and worse, being enough.

We often hear about detachment as an act of letting go. However, this episode isn’t about letting go but rather understanding duality, attachment to our preferences, things, and people that drive our emotions, and how to use the art of detachment to create and maintain emotional balance.

Here is a glance at this episode…

[02:05] Different types of detachment and how they show up in your life.

[03:47] Why do we attach to other people, results in our work and business, or how many things we get done on our to-do list and use it to justify our worth?

[07:50] Understanding the role of duality when it comes to attachment and how reframing from duality supports self-regulation.

[11:06] Seeing things for what they are, detaching from our preferences and opinions while creating more emotional balance.

[13:15] Sharing a part of chapter 4 from the Bhagavad Gita that talks about detaching from the results of our actions, eliminating suffering, and becoming free.

Healing and walking a spiritual path doesn’t mean you don’t face challenges or that this path is linear. Therefore, having spiritual tools in place is important to keep evoking the love within while shedding off anything that doesn’t serve you.

Love is your ultimate superpower. It gives you the courage to take the brave step, softens your heart, and shows you what you are worth.

I always looked at growth from two different angles.

You either grow by life itself when things you don’t ask for or don’t expect come into your life and challenge you to grow. The second is intentional growth. It means that you take into your own hands what needs to be addressed without waiting for life events to do it for you.

In both cases, you need spiritual tools to support, regulate, and empower you.

In today’s episode, I teach you two powerful spiritual tools to regulate your nervous system, improve heart coherence, and bring more love and kindness into your space while releasing stuck emotions and energy that don’t serve you.

Here is a glance at this episode…

[00:38] What was my past idea of a “good life”, how did my perception change, and why do I deeply value balance and my mind being in a state of equilibrium.

[03:02] Recognizing how these spiritual tools help activate the parasympathetic nervous system responsible for relaxation and basic understanding of the autonomic nervous system.

[04:56] Using spiritual tools to regulate your thoughts and emotions and how they contribute to emotional restoration and healing.

[06:08] What is heart rate variability, and how does heart coherence support better mood and improve the immune system?

[09:30] How these simple spiritual tools bring forth heartfelt emotions, help you feel relaxed and calm, support heart coherence, and release negative energy.

When I found myself having Monday blues last week, this was the mindfulness tool I used to snap out of it while reminding myself of the true nature of my mind.

There aren’t Monday blues, bad or good days, or happy Sundays (as people call it in America).

The quality of our days, regardless of what day it is or what is happening around us depends on how aware we are and how well we manage our thoughts and emotions.

This simple mindfulness tool is your internal resource available at all times and in any situation. Because paying attention to reality, to what is - is an art of self-regulation that’s not talked about.

Often, we get stuck in our imagination. We either ruminate on our past or indulge in the vision of the future that doesn’t exist. Often, these visions aren’t compelling, inspiring, or uplifting.

In this episode, I will teach you a simple mindfulness tool to help you train your mind for the present while embracing the truth - this moment is all you ever have.

When you learn to differentiate between what is here and now and what is only your imagination or inner critic acting up, you’ll become the master in regulating your thoughts and emotions.

Here is a glance at this episode…

[00:45] How I found myself in my head having Monday blues while observing my critic in full force.

[03:14] How to use your awareness and attention as a mindfulness tool to regulate your thoughts and emotions.

[06:07] An exercise I do with my clients to show them how to change their emotional state.

[08:25] How to effectively use this mindfulness tool regardless of where you are or what is happening around you.

[10:21] How to handle your mind if it rebels against the new ways of thinking and feeling while effectively applying this mindfulness tool to your life.

Although healing childhood trauma is a challenging path to walk, it is also a path of deep fulfillment and self-love.

When we become brave enough to look at our past and address earlier childhood experiences holding us back, we choose our destiny instead of settling for it.

I’ve been healing my childhood trauma for a few years now. And although I have made significant progress, I still find myself emotionally relapsing while feeling paralyzed by fear and unease.

It is one of the reasons why I decided to record this episode and shine more light on what healing childhood trauma has been for me, how it shows up in my life and the lives of my clients, and what are the tools available to us to support us on this path.

If you ever doubt whether healing your childhood trauma is possible, know that there are support systems, modalities, tools, and techniques that are available to you to make this process a healing experience.

In this episode, I will share my journey while healing childhood trauma, why it is impacting us today, and what we can do to cope with it in a powerful and effective way.

Here is a glance at this episode…

[01:49] The importance of honoring your emotions and why we need to pay attention to subtler negative experiences from our childhood which are easily overlooked.

[03:55] Healing my childhood trauma and handling emotional relapse.

[12:25] How memory without emotional charge becomes the wisdom that leads us forward.

[15:55] The importance of seeking help when healing childhood trauma and the available options.

[18:47] How yoga and meditation affected my process of healing childhood trauma and a personal practice I exercise daily.

[25:48] Using the inner child’s work as a powerful modality while healing childhood trauma.

Disclaimer: This podcast episode is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, psychotherapist, psychologist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Please do not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition. If you feel you need professional help, seek it.

You can rewire your brain, change how you think and perceive life, and become in love with it by consciously choosing how you want to think.

The moment you are born, your conscious mind isn’t formed yet, while the subconscious mind is fully open. Therefore, whatever you hear, see, experience, and perceive from that point gets stored in your subconscious.

That’s where your mood, attitude, and personality form and then, often unconsciously, direct your life to this point.

However, many things you learn and adapt to aren’t serving you. Therefore, to change the way you think and feel, you must learn to rewire your brain.

What do I mean by rewiring?

When you think a thought, something called a “neuropathway” is formed in your brain. The more you repeat this thought or behavior, the more this neuropathway strengthens.

But what if you are repeating negative or self-defeating thoughts and behaviors?

We can refer to this as an unconscious process of thinking.

The good news is that we can make it a conscious one. Instead of letting your thoughts run on autopilot, you can rewire your brain by consciously choosing what you want to think.

As Carl Jung said, “Until you make unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate.”

Life isn’t based on fate or some prewritten destiny that’s out of your hands. By consciously choosing who you want to be, and how you want to live and then actively working towards that goal - you can craft your destiny.

After listening to this episode, you will have a clear understanding of what shaped you into the person you are today and why you may find it hard to change. You will also learn how to rewire your brain with a simple, yet effective 3-step process.

Here is a glance at this episode…

[01:30] A science-based understanding that explains how we create habitual ways of thinking and feeling. Understanding how you wire and then rewire your brain.

[04:42] How to consciously create new neuropathways and rewire your brain through a simple 3-step process.

[05:25] What is required of you to successfully apply this 3-step formula, and how to handle your mind when it rebels against your new way of thinking.

[09:42] How to use forgiveness and compassion as a support when working on your mindset and changing the habitual ways of thinking and feeling.

[16:05] How to use questions to rewire your brain and change negative thinking patterns by reframing them.

Since we tell ourselves affirmations all day, why not make them into positive affirmations that allow us to become who we want to be and attract things we want?

There are two types of affirmations: conscious and unconscious.

Unconscious affirmations are thoughts and beliefs that run on autopilot. Since we reinforce these statements in our minds many times, they become automatic. Often those are thoughts we don’t want to have but aren’t aware we have them.

Conscious affirmations are positive affirmations we choose. Think of them as thoughts you choose to think that produce emotions you want to feel.

In this episode, I will lead you through the process of creating positive affirmations, carefully selecting the right ones for you, and beginning to practice them.

However, there is one more component that solidifies this process, and that’s visualization. When we say or think our affirmations and then visualize and feel that statement, we enter the realm of a possibility that goes beyond the logical mind.

Positive affirmations serve as a tool to change your subconscious thoughts and beliefs, while visualization brings up the emotional state that feels as if you are already that person or have that thing that you think about and visualize.

Here is a glance at this episode…

[00:52] Difference between conscious and unconscious affirmations and how we shaped who we are through positive affirmations

[05:28] How to create new beliefs about yourself and the world around you by creating new thinking patterns through conscious affirmations.

[08:20] How to create positive affirmations and a few things to keep in mind to make this process as powerful as you can.

]14:04] Using visualization as a way to empower your affirmations. And how it changes your emotional and energetical state to a higher frequency.

Healing your inner child is about accessing the wounds or suppressed emotions while recognizing what parts of you need to be healed.

It’s also about identifying different parts or versions of your little self and then healing them individually. You may have a version of your inner child that’s angry, one that feels unworthy, untrusting, or insecure.

Attuning to each of them, giving them attention, validating their feelings, and loving them through it all is where deep healing happens.

As children, we adapt different coping mechanisms. Since our brain is still developing when we form these behavioral patterns, they aren’t often the most beneficial.

This is when, as adults, we begin observing patterns that we have but want to change.

Healing your inner child is about reparenting and reconnecting with disowned parts of yourself while learning and applying ways of thinking, feeling, and acting that support your well-being. In this episode, I will teach you how to identify different parts of your inner child that need healing.

I will give you 4 questions that represent 4 steps to take when using inner child work as a way to heal.

At the end of the episode, we will take a few minutes to do a simple guided meditation practice to heal your inner child. Once you listen to the episode, you can get the full version of this meditation here.

Here is a glance at this episode…

[02:04] Why is inner child work so empowering, and how does it help you to heal your past

[04:57] How to recognize different versions of your inner child and understand the experiences that shaped her

[07:54] The importance of healing the inner child through self-compassion and recognizing coping mechanisms you develop due to past experiences

[09:04] 4 questions to ask your inner child

[13:18] A simple, short guided meditation practice for reconnecting and healing the inner child

Are you stuck on your healing path? Do you feel you’ve tried almost everything, but nothing quite works? Today, I am sharing my 3 most powerful spiritual practices that I used and continue using every day to heal and keep myself in balance.

Daily spiritual practices are essential for anyone on a healing path. When we have a practice in place and stay committed to it, what we are saying is “I love me to take care of me.”

Developing spiritual practices that work and coming back to them daily became a ritual that I can't go without. It is like taking a shower or brushing my teeth.

There is something that is called neuroplasticity. Neuroplasticity is “the ability of the nervous system to change its activity in response to intrinsic or extrinsic stimuli by reorganizing its structure, functions, or connections.”

In simpler words, by exercising different spiritual practices, you are “molding” your brain into becoming a person who takes care of her mental and emotional health. For example, if you used to binge-watch a show every day but now you do your spiritual practices instead, you are training your mind to develop healthier habits and perceive yourself as a healthier person.

In this episode, I talk about 3 spiritual practices I use daily to manage my mind, regulate my emotions, and break limiting thinking patterns. These spiritual practices keep me in balance and support me on my path to healing and personal growth.

Here is a glance at this episode…

[00:40] How my spiritual practices became a roadmap to my healing and helped me in breaking the generational narrative.

[01:38] Addressing what is spirituality and why it has nothing to do with religion and what it actually means to be spiritual.

[05:07] How silence and solitude embraced my healing and allowed me to know myself on a deeper level.

[09:58] Understanding the deeper aspects of yoga as a spiritual practice, and how it skyrocketed my healing and became a way of life.

[14:33] What responsibility and the power of choice have to do with spirituality, and why practicing both is more spiritual than you may think.

What if instead of focusing on what you want to accomplish externally, you look within and focus on who you need to become and how you can reinvent yourself to reach the healing, growth, and goals you desire?

The external world can fall apart, but how you manage your internal system and the magnitude of your is something no one can take away from you.

Inner resilience and self-belief rooted in self-trust are all you need when embarking on a committed spiritual path while transforming the subconscious and subtle patterns that keep you stuck.

If you focus on your present reality, how wounded you are, or how many things you need to “fix” about yourself, it’s natural to feel discouraged by the amount of work you need to undergo.

Therefore, I want you to look at the other side of the spectrum. I want you to look at the possibility you represent and explore ways to reinvent yourself.

This meditation is designed to look deep inside yourself, identify patterns you want to change, and then use your imagination to create a picture of who you want to become. Not who you think you can be or should be but who you WANT to be. It is your tool to reinvent yourself from the ground up.

How can you use this meditation:

Commit to doing the meditation at least once a day, preferably twice in the morning and at night.
Write down the habits, patterns, or traits you want to change ( this is optional).
Write down a clear picture of who you want to become and what it looks like to reinvent yourself. Include as many details as you’d like, and then use this vision in your meditation (this is also optional).

Why is this meditation powerful?

This guided meditation to reinvent yourself and reach your full potential is meant to pull you out of survival mode and into the seat of the possibility of who you can become. It helps you to identify subconscious patterns you may not be aware of and directs your attention toward inner healing.

Beyond the tools and techniques we use to better self-regulate, there are 4 mindset shifts that create change on a level of perception. And as Wayne Dyer said, "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."

So often, women come to me and say, “I tried everything, but I feel stuck.”

Often, it is one of these mindset shifts that they haven’t yet established. Although tools and exercises are essential for building a diverse self-care toolkit and raising awareness, when we choose to expand our perception, growth is inevitable.

During this episode, I am taking the fluff out of the conversation. I encourage you to look at what is, not what you wish it would be. I invite you to let go of the stories and ruminations that keep you stuck and instead build a strong foundation for your growth.

Some of these mindset shifts may be already established in your life, and some may be missing. However, one thing I know for sure: If you take each of these mindset shifts to your heart and fully exercise them for the next 30 days, you will certainly see changes in your life, no questions about it.

Here is a glance at this episode…

[01:45] What spirituality is and what is not, the misconception about being a bigger person, and why it’s time to be real with yourself

[03:20] Two most common excuses that keep you stuck and how commitment to your spiritual growth fuels change in your life

[09:05] How to be aware of compulsive thoughts that sabotage your progress and how to become more conscious and less reactive throughout the day

[12:20] Understanding the power you hold to change your life and eliminating the negative story you are holding onto

[13:50] Embracing the idea of a single-minded goal and asking yourself one powerful question

There is a quote from Swami Vivekananda that empowers me every time I read it. He says, “Tell your body that it is strong. Tell your mind that it is strong and have unbounded faith and hope in yourself.” That, to me, represents a deep sense of self-belief.

Regardless of the circumstances we are brought up in, every single person can change their life and write their destiny by building a strong self-belief.

Every belief you currently have (whether you consider it good or bad) is an accumulation of information and things you received throughout your life. However, if these beliefs stop you from creating the life you want, it’s time to break them.

I’ve met so many people (and was one of them) who believed that I couldn’t change my life and redesign my belief system. What a giant piece of a lie.

Although building a strong self-belief and breaking through the psychological limits we create may seem challenging, I want you to consider this: growth is not comfortable (but we love it). Stagnation or limiting beliefs aren’t comfortable either (and we don’t like it). Taking this perception into account, deciding to work on your belief system is a no-brainer.

When you build a strong self-belief, you invite clarity, confidence, and awareness into your life.

Even believing you can’t build a strong self-belief is a limiting belief. And this is where many of us need to start and address the (often) hidden or subconscious limits we impose on ourselves.

In today’s episode, I will talk about the types of beliefs we have and the 2 most common limiting beliefs. Also, I share 4 steps on how to build a strong self-belief.

Here is a glance at this episode:

[01:50] Beliefs that create possibilities vs. beliefs that create boundaries and walls

[03:45] two common beliefs many of us have that prevent us from healing and growing beyond our current circumstances and what to do about it

[08:15] How awareness of your subtler thoughts helps with strengthening your self-belief and how to break some of the limiting beliefs

[10:50] 4-step process on how to build a strong self-belief and overcome limiting beliefs that keep you stuck

Healing with grace means honoring the stage of your growth while nurturing a sense of respect and meeting yourself where you are.

Think about it - the number one reason you turn to emotional healing and spiritual growth is to experience more joy, happiness, and ease in your life.

But how often do you end up entangled in this process: judging yourself for the slightest mistakes, striving for perfectionism, or feeling guilty because you aren’t meeting some unrealistic expectations?

The most common barrier I see with my clients is that instead of love, support, or encouragement, they keep themselves in old patterns of judgment and guilt. Unconsciously following these patterns can also make healing toxic.

To prevent this from happening while positively supporting your growth, you must become conscious of these unconscious patterns and bring a sense of support and grace into the process.

In today’s episode, I will talk about two main events that inspired me to record this podcast, how to honor your path without judgment and embrace healing with grace.

Here is a glance at the episode:

[01:02] What inspired me to record this podcast episode and how healing with grace changes and supports the process

[05:58] The most common barriers we face when it comes to healing and what stops us from moving through it with grace

[10:15] The idea of “where we should be” and the impact of comparison to someone else’s journey

[12:55] The best support you can offer to yourself when walking your healing path and how to stay from judgment and unrealistic expectations

[14:55] A simple heart-opening technique to embrace loving emotions while healing with grace

When I say “feeling empowered’ - what comes to your mind?

Living a life with no fear? Overcoming self-doubt? Setting boundaries? Not letting the opinions of others affect you? Or maybe something else?

What if you can live your life in this place?

One of the most inspiring things I understood about empowerment is that it comes from within and builds an immense level of self-respect. We feel empowered when we overcome our fears, heal a wound that has been there for a while, take a step while our legs are shaking, or set boundaries that were long overdue.

Although none of it means comfort, it means life. We get consumed or tricked into believing that comfort is what we should strive for.

But think about it, what is comfort? A dull place of self-protection.

When you choose to step out of your bubble (which you are capable of, BTW) - feeling empowered is inevitable. Once you get the boost of self-assurance and trust that you can conquer your fears, limits, and even your wounds, you’ll begin to understand the power that’s been your physical body and mind.

Today’s podcast episode is exactly about what feeling empowered while trusting yourself means and, mostly, how to get there.

Here is a glance at this episode:

[01:40] Living from a place of empowerment while trusting your inner guidance. A personal story of fear, stress, and anxiety that prompted me to question how I live my life and what thoughts predominate in my mind.

[05:58] What it means to trust yourself and how to practice looking within. The importance of being selective about the information that enters your mind.

[09:02] Handling self-doubt while feeling empowered through self-trust. How to identify the reason you feel dissatisfied with your life.

[14:56] Teaching you 2 exercises to practice this week to create a possibility in your life and overcome fears while feeling empowered.

Can you eliminate all your negative thoughts for the rest of your life?

Maybe not, but you can certainly manage them effectively.

When you try to resent your negative thoughts, they often persist and become louder.

Therefore the trick isn’t stopping your thoughts in track or exercising fake positivity (trust me, I tried, and it doesn’t work), but rather, not identifying with everything you think.

Let’s say there is a limiting belief you adopted in your childhood which you label as negative. Since this pattern of negative thoughts has been reestablished over many years, it’s natural for your mind to keep bringing the same recycled thoughts back.

Since your mind is literally like a muscle, you want to learn to train it as such.

In today’s episode, I will talk about how identification with our negative thoughts keeps us stuck in limiting thinking patterns. I will also teach you about the power of the pause, how to become an observer of what you are thinking without being sucked into it and share a mindfulness exercise to help with mind identification.

Last but not least, we will also look at the most obvious power we all have - the power of choice.

Here is a glance at this episode:

[02:10] Managing our internal system, looking at stress and anxiety in today’s world and why we shouldn’t accept it as the only way of life.
[04:24] What it means to identify with our thoughts, how to work through them, and an example of mind identification
[06:44] Practicing the power of PAUSE, being conscious instead of compulsive
[09:37] Detaching from what you think or what your thoughts mean by using this simple, yet powerful mindfulness exercise
[12:32] Choosing growth over comfort, summing up what it means to detach from negative thoughts and become in charge of how you think and feel.

In this episode, we’ll dive into what it means to find the courage within you by confronting your fears and embracing living boundlessly.

We both know that fear is real, no doubts about it. However, I refuse to sit here and accept that this is how “things are.” Are you with me?

We were programmed to believe that living with anxiety is “normal” or that living with stress is “just’ a part of daily living. Both are a product of our fears about what may go wrong, whether we have what it takes, what people think of us, and so many other reasons.

Fear keeps us paralyzed. And the highest price we pay is that deep down, we know we are downplaying ourselves. We know we have that courage within us to live boundlessly. I’ll bet my life on it that you feel it too.

It is my deepest hope this podcast episode will allow you to see things differently while understanding that the worst-case scenario of what can go wrong when you decide to pursue your life’s deepest desire is nothing compared to what you are losing if you don’t.

Forget the “next time” thinking. There have been so many next time - I encourage you to make this one your last. I encourage you to find the courage within and start designing the life you dreamed of and so well deserve.

In today’s podcast episode, we will cover

The fear of uncertainty and how our mind perceives it.
The story and what it means to let go.
The most important question to ask yourself when finding the courage within.
What can you do to prime your mind for change and overcome your fears.
A 3-step process on how to handle it while finding the courage within.

Here is a glance at this episode:

[01:28] How fear stops us from making change and what it means to live courageously

[03:14] Fear of uncertainty and how your mind perceives it

[05:29] Committing to your healing and growth by asking yourself this profound question.

[11:05] Breaking down the concept of fear - what are you afraid of and how to face it

[12:50] Understanding what it means to choose your discomfort and how it activates the courage within to face your fears

[16:05] A few tools you can use to manage your mind and the impact of fear and a simple 3-step process to use daily

What if I tell you there is a simple way to retrain your mind while going about your day as usual? And what if I tell you that you can use my 3-step process to accomplish just that?

If I ask you, “Who are you?” Would you be able to answer that? (spoiler alert: If you are not sure, that’s okay. Neither am I. But that’s beside the point).

You may not know who you are, at least not just yet, but we both can agree you are NOT your mind - you HAVE a mind.

Even better, we can think about your mind as a tool. You can sharpen it, change it, redesign it, retrain it, transform it, mold it, and so much more.

In this podcast episode, I will share a 3-step process to retrain your mind from judgment, negative thoughts and beliefs, or even unhealthy habits. What if you can retrain your mind from being a madman to an obedient servant?

I will take you from awareness to forgiveness to a new way of thinking. And a pretty cool thing about this is that you can practice this anywhere and anytime in the comfort of your mind.

After you listen to this episode, I recommend you check out this mindfulness exercise, try my forgiveness meditation, and read my recent blog post on how to create powerful affirmations. You’ll understand how these additional tools support you on your way to retraining your mind from negative thought patterns to feeling more empowered, inspired, and grateful.

Here is a glance at this episode:

[01:56] How can you use this 3-step process to retrain your mind, and how it is changing the lives of my clients and my own.

[03:20] The example of one of my clients using the 3-step process,

[05:12] The one unhealthy but subtle pattern many of us have when it comes to self-awareness and how to overcome it.

[08:50] Understanding your mind and its behavior when changing unhealthy thought patterns, habits, and beliefs.

[13:20] Implementing forgiveness into this process and how lack of it often keeps us stuck

[15:04] How to replace your old patterns of thinking with new ones and some examples to help you get started

Self-validation allows us to acknowledge, feel and process our emotions, while self-responsibility is where we step out of victimhood and into our power.

When you begin to look at any area of your life that is asking for healing, acknowledging what you feel is the first step. So often, we carry our pains silently because, as adults, aware only of our logical brain, we ridicule what our emotions try to tell us.

Self-validation or validating our emotions means honoring what is there, without judgment, ridicule, or a need to change the truth within. Once we allow ourselves to be fully expressive in our authentic, raw, and unapologetic selves, we create an outlet for stuck traumas and energies to find the way out.

I also believe there is a sense of power in our self-expression. The energy we use to hide, pretend, or deny transmutes into letting go and feeling it through.

Therefore, self-validation and recognition of our emotions is the first step toward healing the wounds. In today’s podcast episode, I will also lead you through 4 steps to apply this process to your life.

Once we embrace what we feel and express it in a way we choose, we can acknowledge what part of us is playing a victim in a situation.

Although this (often) hard look in a mirror is intimidating and confronting, it is the only way to take charge of our thoughts and emotions and become in control of ourselves. Responsibility means response which we are always able to choose.

How do I want to respond to the behavior of my parents? How do I respond to my old thoughts that keep me stuck? How do I respond to the limiting beliefs that hold me back?

As you can see, there is a reason why validation comes before responsibility. However, choosing how we want to think and feel ultimately seals the deal and allows us to heal fully.

Here is a glance at this episode…

[01:16] How self-validation affects our healing and what happens when we acknowledge and feel our emotions.

[01:56] What is the most common barrier within our healing, and how does lack of emotional validation affect our progress

[04:11] A 4-step process to acknowledge, recognize, validate, and feel our emotions.

[06:42] An affirmation I use during this 4-step process and how it allows me to open up while withstanding the discomfort of feeling deep emotions.

[10:29] How understanding the depth of our wounds allows us to understand more about what happened to us and use compassion instead of judgment

[14:10] Moving on the other side of the spectrum, stepping out of the victimhood, and recognizing where the power is.

Tune into this guided meditation to ease anxiety while embracing a safe space within you.

Here is the thing, my friend. At what point in our lives have we accepted that living with this fearful feeling lingering in the back of our mind is normal?

Whether it is because of the negative information we mindlessly consume or the dysregulated nervous system, is this the only way to "do life?"

Learning to self-regulate while managing your thoughts and emotions is a useful skill to acquire during your healing process and something we all can learn and practice.

You and I know that keeping our anxiety at bay while maintaining inner calm isn’t always easy.

Whether this results from past experiences, unhealed childhood wounds, or overthinking mind, dysregulated nervous system requires some time to heal and get organized.

Therefore the question is: "How can you regulate your thoughts and emotions and rewire your brain from trauma to healing?"

There are many ways to do that, and meditation is one of them.

In honor of mental health awareness month, I designed a 15-minute guided meditation to ease anxiety while providing you with a sense of protection and nurturing.

When you approach your healing from the place of inner grounding, you are more prone to open your heart and embrace emotions that give you support, courage, and desire to heal. Also, you are learning how to create a safe space within you that you can access anytime.

Enjoy!

Namaste.

In today’s episode, I will be sharing five powerful coaching questions that transformed not only my life but also the lives of my clients, and I hope they will do the same for you.

We all have what I call blind spots. These are things others may see, but we are blind to them. It often happens when we are in the arena, dealing with the rawness of life while trying to figure out and handle things in the best way possible.

The power of coaching questions is to uncover these blind spots, give us more options, and offer solutions or bring us back to what matters the most when we get off track.

Each of these coaching questions serves a specific purpose to allow you to think bigger and with more potential.

For the first four questions, I suggest you make some time and write your answers down. Often, when we put things on paper, we gain more clarity and make whatever we write more real.

The last question is truly one of my favorites! I encourage you to ask yourself this question as often as you want. It is a fun and playful way to uplift your spirit and embrace the fact that you should always be your biggest fan.

Enjoy the episode!

Here’s a glance at this episode

[02:25] How to use your innate intelligence and potential to answer these five coaching questions and why you have answers already within you

[04:30] Focusing on becoming the person you want to be and one thing no one can take away from you

[07:20] The most transformation question I asked myself when I was in India and how it can change your life on a fundamental level

[15:15] Taking a look at the role of stress in your life and what to ask yourself when you feel stressed, worried, or anxious

[17:40] The importance of regulating your emotional state and using this simple coaching question to find the right way for you.

[20:25] My favorite coaching question I encourage you to ask yourself every day to uplift and empower your spirit and emotional state

How can we cultivate heartfelt emotions and use them to heal ourselves and build more resilience?

When we live in a state of fear, our hearts are closed, and our nervous system spends most of the time in a fight or flight mode. We feel less energy, and although we wake up every morning and do the things we have to, it may feel as if we are not living.

When we begin opening our hearts to life and embracing heartfelt emotions like joy, compassion, forgiveness, gratitude, or even deep sadness, we will experience more aliveness and resilience.

Think of it this way: where is gratitude fear can’t exist. If we are healing from the place of love and compassion, we are more courageous to look at our past and address it in a healthier and more productive way.

On the contrary, when we live in fear, we live in a state of judgment and negativity. Healing from this place may often become impossible.

In today’s podcast episode, I will lead you through a series of simple exercises you can use to cultivate those heartfelt emotions and begin learning how to open your heart to life. Please make no mistake. When I say “open your heart,” I don’t mean to go and love the world. Rather, focus on feeling and becoming love. Everything else will work better for that place.

[01:40] How is fear preventing us from opening our hearts, and why do we develop this protective mechanism early in childhood?

Here is a glance at this episode...

[02:41] The importance of heartfelt emotions during our healing and the profound difference it made in my recovery.

[04:44] What opening your heart means, how it looks, and why it is not what you might think.

[08:20] A powerful story of a warrior that illustrates what it means to live with an open heart.

[12:05] A few simple exercises to open your heart and embrace heartfelt emotions and the power of intentions.

About three years ago, I was a member of a coaching group with Jay Shetty, and we were covering a forgiveness month. One of the things he did with us was a mindfulness exercise on self-forgiveness.

I remember closing my eyes and saying, “I forgive myself.” The moment I spoke these words out loud, I started crying and couldn’t participate anymore. Therefore, I had to finish the session on replay.

This experience was a profound moment of realizing how much guilt and self-judgment we hold and how little forgiveness we allow ourselves to receive.

Have you ever thought about your inner voice and what it says when you make a mistake?

Do you beat yourself down for every mistake you make but barely recognize the thing you do well?

In my last article, I talked about forgiveness and how crucial it is to practice it regularly. I gave you a few ideas on how you can implement forgiveness into your daily routine and begin letting go of guilt and judgment.

You know I am big on creating your self-care toolkit. Your toolkit is a collection of tools and techniques you use to regulate your emotional state, improve your mind management and support your healing process. Therefore, I decided to create a simple tool for you to practice self-forgiveness and bring more acceptance, understanding, and compassion into your life.

I recorded short, 10-minute guided forgiveness meditation you can add to your self-care toolkit to soothe yourself when in a judgment attack or to heal deep-rooted guilt that you have not yet addressed.

I hope this simple meditation will empower your healing and serve you well.

During my yoga studies in India, I learned techniques for better mind management to regulate my emotional state with more calm and consideration. Today, I want to share a mindfulness exercise to help you do the same.

Although I don’t want to go too philosophical on you here, I believe our mind often runs on old “software” - a program full of limiting beliefs or habits we acquired. Therefore if we identify with what we think, it becomes quite difficult to heal ourselves, especially when thoughts we think are negative or disempowering.

I recorded a 10-minute simple mindfulness exercise focused on two parts of your mind. First is understanding that you aren’t your thoughts. The second is developing a better relationship with your mind.

I designed this simple mindfulness exercise to add to your self-care toolbox and use as a technique for better mind management. Remember that everything in your life derives from the way you think. Therefore, a healthy mind is a foundation for deep inner healing and transformative growth.

During my yoga studies in India, I learned techniques for better mind management to regulate my emotional state with more calm and consideration. Today, I want to share a mindfulness exercise to help you do the same.

Although I don’t want to go too philosophical on you here, I believe our mind often runs on old “software” - a program full of limiting beliefs or habits we acquired. Therefore if we identify with what we think, it becomes quite difficult to heal ourselves, especially when thoughts we think are negative or disempowering.

I recorded a 10-minute simple mindfulness exercise focused on two parts of your mind. First is understanding that you aren’t your thoughts. The second is developing a better relationship with your mind.

I designed this simple mindfulness exercise to add to your self-care toolbox and use as a technique for better mind management. Remember that everything in your life derives from the way you think. Therefore, a healthy mind is a foundation for deep inner healing and transformative growth.

If you want to change your life, whether to heal your past or transform your current situation, do it by training yourself to manage your thoughts effectively.

Since your thoughts create your feelings and your feelings drive your actions, your life is a result of what you think all day long. Therefore, to make sustainable changes and live life on your terms, you must go back and address the source - your MIND.

To take the overwhelm out of the picture by trying everything while seeing minimal results, you can commit to one daily practice: manage your thoughts through mind awareness while consciously and deliberately choosing what you want to think.

Although this may sound overly simplistic, I found that going back to the basics and addressing the root of what creates our reality is a powerful practice where you learn how to manage your thoughts and stop letting your mind run wild.

[04:04] How to use a simple method of mind awareness while choosing what we want to think.

[09:06] Going back to the basics about mind management and how a simple adjustment in your awareness creates significant changes in your outer and inner world.

[11:58] The importance of staying away from judgment while accepting and befriending your mind.

[13:25] How to approach your thoughts with curiosity while paying attention to your emotional state.

[14:10] Why there isn’t a “secret” to happiness and how the only “secret" lies in the power of your mind and how well you manage your thoughts.

[15:52] The importance of disidentifying with your mind while understanding that you aren’t your thoughts.

[17:40] How to live your life by choice, not by default, and overcome the fear of taking risks and living fully.

We don’t heal through judgment while inflicting more guilt on ourselves for the choices we make. We do it by understanding what happened to us and taking responsibility for our healing by consciously changing our self-sabotaging habits.

For most of us, the results of our survival mechanism won’t make lots of sense to our adult logical selves. Self-betrayal or self-sabotage is, in fact, the protective mechanism our brain developed to ensure our survival.

Pondering the question, “what happened to me” instead of “what’s wrong with me” leads to more understanding and self-compassion. This is especially useful when you end up triggered, act in unhealthy ways, or do something your logical self doesn’t approve of.

You can use your conscious awareness to change your life and make different choices while caring for yourself better. The crucial part of your healing process lies in learning how to heal with love.

In today’s episode, we’ll cover:

[02:08] How to overcome and deal with the emotional charge and triggers we feel when reflecting and acknowledging our past.

[04:07] How to understand our past and what happened to us through the eyes of understanding and self-compassion.

[07:10] How to use our conscious awareness to question how we act today while maintaining the level of understanding and empathy, and how this leads to faster growth.

[11:50] The importance of seeking appropriate help by defining what you want to address and heal. How getting a therapist to address my sexual trauma supported my recovery and gave me tools and techniques to lean on.

[16:02] A simple tool I use to support my growth and develop a more loving relationship with myself.

Is there such a thing as knowing too much?

Can we miss out on profound moments of healing and growth because we try to crack the complex code of our mental and emotional recovery while overlooking the simplicity of this process?

In today’s episode, I will take you back to the basics of what it means to transform your life and heal your past one thought at a time.

Although disciplining your mind may not be easy at first, cultivating this practice can lead to less anxiety, a healthier and more trusting perception of the world, and evoke more love and kindness while finding lessons even in the most difficult experiences.

Since our thoughts create our emotional state, learning to become aware of what we think, and let unproductive and negative thoughts pass without judgment is the single most important practice of your healing and growth.

[01:43] Why knowing “too much” can stop us from growth and create barriers in our healing process

[06:44] Disciplining your mind while becoming aware of what predominating thoughts you think regularly.

[09:20] How our thoughts either inspire more healing or keep us stuck in a loop and how to overcome this

[11:30] A simple exercise to observe your thinking and perception and its impact on your growth

[16:10] Committing to a conscious practice of choosing empowering thoughts

How do you make yourself feel good when facing challenging times, and do you even allow yourself to feel good in the first place?

Today’s podcast episode was inspired by my past 2 weeks when I felt like I was on an emotional rollercoaster while struggling to find any inner balance or peace.

I realized how my spiritual practice allowed me to get through these weeks with more calm and ease and reminded me how important it is to have habits, tools, and techniques in place when facing those difficult days.

In fact, I realized how many of us don’t even allow ourselves to feel better because we either think we don’t have time, we don’t deserve it, or we were in our survival mode for so long, we don’t even know what feeling good looks like, let alone feels like.

Most of your life depends on how you feel. Since your actions are driven by your emotions, how can you cultivate a mindset of self-care and self-nurturing when challenges arise?

In today’s episode, I will share the importance of allowing ourselves to feel good ( I know, crazy, but “not allowing yourself to feel good is a thing many of us live with). I will also go over the details of my spiritual practice and what I regularly practice to maintain more inner peace and calmness in my life.

[00:45] how my emotional state inspired me to record this podcast episode when I realized (again) that cultivating good feelings makes a huge difference when it comes to my decisions, actions, and overall results.

[01:50] The role of our mindset when it comes to maintaining a positive emotional state, why many of us struggle to allow ourselves to feel good and how to change that.

[07:47] Defining your self-love language, using love in action, and how to define and apply your self-love language into your life.

[12:30] The power of spiritual practice - how I am using my spiritual practice to heal and care for myself. Examples of what you can incorporate into your spiritual practice to learn habits, tools, and techniques to feel good.

A couple of weeks ago, I published my first self-love meditation to heal your inner child. Since many of you enjoyed it, I decided to create a little bit longer meditation for self-soothing and bringing more joy and inner peace into your life. This is a great meditation if you need a little more care and a little more nurturing.

“It’s not through healing that you will love yourself. It’s through loving yourself that you will heal.”

Finding comfort in meditation

Although there are many different meditation styles and mindfulness exercises, I picked one that feels comforting and soothing. Some days, we may see the light shining a little brighter, while other days, it’s challenging to get out of bed.

The beauty of meditation is that you can “come as you are” without judgment or expectations and express where you are, whether mentally and emotionally, most purely and authentically.

Soothing meditation for more Joy and Inner Peace

The goal of today’s meditation is to soothe yourself with love and compassion and give yourself a little extra care.

Whether it'll be through breathing or a simple visualization, keep feelings of love and care in your awareness throughout the entire meditation session.

This meditation is intended to get you centered, grounded, and peaceful, so you can spend this time nurturing your spirit and soul.

At the beginning of meditation, I will ask you to set an intention. I invite you to recognize that by sitting down and caring for your mind and soul, you practice and live in a state of self-love. Especially for those of you who are here to heal and learn how to love yourself, this is an excellent way to practice it. By keeping this intention in your mind, you will make this meditation even more powerful.

The beauty of meditation is its repetition of simple steps or techniques that eventually change your mindset, help you self-regulate, and bring calm into your life. By repeatedly focusing on loving and caring for yourself, you will strengthen these mental muscles and, eventually, transform them into a new way of life.

You come into this world as a super cute, adorable, perfect, playful, lovable, and carefree baby. Your soul is pure and your heart wide open.

But then… Life happens. Suddenly you find yourself in your adulthood, considering whether you should get a therapist, move to California, go to one of the anonymous meetings or lie to yourself and pretend that everything is fine.

Since you are here, I assume you want to change your life and how you feel. If that is the case, I encourage you, with all my heart, to start working and nurturing a relationship with your inner child.

Inner child’s work often brings up the feelings that heal us the most; feelings of love, compassion, and empathy. It also allows us to reconnect with disowned parts of ourselves, process stored emotions from the past, exercise self-compassion, and forgive ourselves for any self-betrayal or self-harm we caused to ourselves.

Nurturing a relationship with your inner child is a powerful practice of healing and loving yourself. Therefore, if you are on your healing journey or ready to start, I encourage you to include the inner child’s work in your practice.

Last week, I shared a 10-minute guided self-love meditation for healing your inner child. I invite you to try it out and give it a listen.

In today’s episode, I will talk about three ways how I have been nurturing and healing a relationship with my inner child.

[01:27] Why and how meditation changed my life and the way I heal.

[01:58] Why is the inner child’s work an important part of the healing process, and how do you learn it and implement it into your life? 3 ways how to nurture a relationship with your inner child.

[06:16] Compassion as the first way to nurture a relationship with your inner child. Challenges I faced when I started with the inner child’s work and how I handled them. A simple visualization tool for more compassion.

[11:09] Asking for forgiveness from your inner child and recognizing any self-betrayal or self-sabotage.

[15:01] Hugging your inner child as the third way to nurture a relationship with her, and the loving words I tell my inner child when I visualize hugging her.

I am thrilled to share the 10-minute meditation on self-love and connecting with your inner child.

Healing Through Meditation

During the years of my healing, I tried many tools and techniques to learn how to heal my past while developing a more loving relationship with myself. I am honored to be able to share these tools with you and help you on your healing journey.

I’ve tried many ways to heal my soul through yoga, meditation, traditional talk therapy, plant medicine, spiritual retreats, and personal development programs. My healing practice allowed me to face my trauma, become aware of my triggers and self-sabotaging behaviors, and learn the art of self-love in my everyday life.

However, one of the most effective tools I have practiced so far is meditation. Today, I want to lead you through simple meditation practice to deepen the relationship with your inner child while embracing self-compassion and self-love.

Self-Love meditation to Heal Your Inner Child

The goal of the meditation is to bring you back in touch with your inner child and use self-love and self-compassion to approach this sacred relationship.

If you don’t meditate or aren’t familiar with inner child work, don’t worry. Find a comfortable place without distractions, grab your phone and your head set, and simply tune in. Meditation isn’t about perfection but the benefits you reap by embracing this practice.

Before you start the meditation, I encourage you to set intentions by focusing on your heart and the love you carry within. You will use it once interacting with your inner child during the meditation.

By setting this intention, you are priming your soul, mind, and body for loving and compassionate feelings - something your inner child needs the most.

You can do this meditation by sitting or lying down, totally your choice.

I believe you will find this meditation loving and, at the same time, empowering. Namaste, my beautiful soul.

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I am sure you tried many ways, read tons of books, and listened to podcasts and videos on how to love yourself, how to see your worth, and how, at the same time, to heal yourself. Or, perhaps, you stumbled here by accident (or by choice) and want to learn how to overcome the never-ending spiral of self-sabotage, people-pleasing, and self-punishment.

No matter where you are on your journey, one of the most loving and caring things you can do for yourself is to have the courage to look within.

I know, I know. You are thinking, “Well, Silvia, it all sounds great, but this is easier said than done.” And you are right.

However, we both can agree that it is possible. Therefore, with the right tools (which I provide you with), you can significantly transform your life and adopt a mindset that the “sky's the limit” (the sky doesn’t have a limit BTW).

When I talk about the power of healing, I want you to focus on the future the healed version of you will be able to build and create. Most of our life and the results we are getting are tied to how we think, who we believe we are, and what we know, in our heart, we can accomplish.

Unhealed versions of ourselves are often fearful, feel unworthy, or not good enough. It’s hard to build the life of your dreams with this mindset, don’t you think?

Not to worry, my beautiful soul. In today’s podcast episode, I will teach you a powerful tool to calm your anxiety and get into a state of love and compassion while becoming peaceful and centered.

[00:50] Why I took a 1-year break from podcasting, what I have been up to and how it transformed my healing and overall state of mind.

[04:30] 10-minute meditation to calm your anxiety, and embrace love and compassion while working with your inner child.

[14:50] How to start laying the foundation for your healing through self-awareness. The role of self-forgiveness in the process and why it is an important component of self-awareness.

[20:04] Building your self-care toolkit by learning tools and techniques to help you self-regulate, be mindful of your triggers, and calm down when you most need it.

[22:12] The concept of self-love, how to practice loving yourself, and why self-love is the deepest form of self-expression.

Previously, I mentioned to you that I created a free self-coaching worksheet as a way to teach you how to develop this life-altering skill, and I am also providing you with nine questions to coach yourself. Click HERE to get the worksheet.

In today's episode, I want to talk more on this topic since coaching has exponentially transformed my life, and I have seen many people who created significant changes by utilizing this skill.

Learning how to coach yourself leads to inner exploration, self-awareness, and transformation. In today's episode, I will teach you how I coach myself.

First, I will start with some prep steps. I will talk about how to incorporate self-coaching into your routine and make it a habit.

I will share with you one simple trick that allows me to go deeper and become more intuned with things I am working on and why having an open mind is the key to successful self-coaching.

Last but not least, I will share the most powerful part of self-coaching, and that's asking yourself mind-triggering questions.

Self-coaching is a skill based on your resourcefulness and inner wisdom. It allows you to figure things out, grow more, heal better and trust yourself that no matter what is happening in your life, you are capable to handle it, achieve it or resolve it.

One of the most common patterns I observed during my growth and the growth of my friends and my clients is that once we start healing and growing, we are overly harsh on ourselves.

We believe we shouldn't be feeling the way we feel, we shouldn't be acting in old ways, and we should be better than we are.

As I always say, growth is an imperfect process, and occasional emotional relapse or stagnation is part of it.

We work on ourselves because we want to be better and because we want to upgrade the quality of our lives to feel happier and more content with who we are.

Therefore we have to learn to forgive ourselves for our mistakes, shortcomings, or toxic traits we are working on.

The most important thing to understand is that you are working hard on yourself while uncovering traits and patterns that demand your courage to face them.

Self-judgment may be one of those traits. For your growth and healing to be truly effective, you must include self-forgiveness as a part of your healing process.

In today's episode, I will talk about the importance of forgiveness during your healing process. I will share with you three habits I regularly exercise when I find myself feeling guilty and shameful.

One of the most common struggles people share with me is the fear of healing or growing.

At first, it may sound counterintuitive since we all want to be happy, positive, and peaceful since that's what growing and healing provide.

However, if we bottled up too much for too long, looking at the truth of who we are or the truth of our situation terrifies us.

Although the fear of healing and growth is natural, we can't let it stop us from the transformation we need to go through. In the end, it's the only way to significantly change your life.

In today's episode, I will talk about the fear of growth and why not every pain we feel is the same.

The pain of being stuck in life turns into suffering since we keep replaying it. But the discomfort of growth and healing turns into change, transformation, and more peace.

I will provide you with three simple tools to manage your emotional state and your fears when it comes to growth.

These simple practices will teach you how to exercise your emotional intelligence, stop reacting to things and people around you and find the courage to heal yourself.

Perfectionism is a desire not to be seen for who we are but to hide and pretend that we are someone we are not.

Perfectionism is based on fear. Often, we strive for it since we don't want to fail or be seen who we are - with our failures, shortcomings, weaknesses AKA imperfections.

The most common fear is the fear of failure. But there is also fear of rejection, unworthiness or not being good enough for others because of our flaws.

Perfectionism doesn't let us take a risk because we fear failure, it numbs us because we push away negative (imperfect) emotions or make us control anything and everything to be, feel and look perfect.

Perfectionism is a deep issue for me since I've seen how it significantly impacted my life and the lives of others. In today's episode, I will share with you six tips on how to recognize, address, and heal the illusionary, "perfect" part of you.

Self-talk (challenge your inner critic
Define your self-worth
Embrace the messiness
Consider the fact that you may be codependent
Adopt a growth mindset
Forgive yourself

For many of us, it's uncomfortable to admit that we are "playing around," not doing the work we know we have to do while being stuck at the same place in life.

Once we admit that we are the ones standing in our way, what's left? There isn't anyone to blame or point fingers at, and we are challenged to take responsibility.

So if you feel that you are struggling right now, that the same situations keep repeating, the same people keep showing up, the same drama keeps happening, and the same chaos is taking place in your life, it's time to ask yourself, "Am I walking my talk or am I talking my talk?"

In today's episode, I will share with you a 4-step process I personally use when I notice that I am not getting the results I want in my life to determine my part in it.

Step #1 is to pick one thing that's not going well in your life and give it your undivided attention.

Step #2 is, to be honest with yourself about where you are and what you have done so far to change this situation.

Step #3 is to become aware of your thoughts, emotions, and actions while facing the problem you are dealing with and observe them on a regular, daily basis.

Step #4 is to come up with a new course of action you will take the next time you are dealing with it.

Remember that the only person who can change your life is you, and that's your superpower.

When we choose to lie to ourselves and stay in denial, it's because we don't want to see the truth about ourselves or others.

These lies give us instant gratification, take away responsibility, allow blame while at the same time, we are betraying ourselves.

We do that because the truth seems to be too much to handle. But without being 100% honest with yourself, you can't grow.

Growth is confronting, uncomfortable, self-responsibility-driven, and at times intimidating.

But growth is also liberating, empowering, and exciting. We all get stuck in denial sometimes and choose to ignore the truth. The question is, "what are we so afraid to face?"

If you are investing your time into listening to this episode or educating yourself in terms of personal development and emotional healing, I want you to consider something, "Are you walking your talk or talking your talk because you fear the truth?"

In today's episode, I will share with you three reasons why we lie to ourselves.

I will also talk about two simple things you can start doing today to practice self-honesty and live your life in the present moment instead of denying the reality.

There is so much wisdom, teaching, and opportunities in pain or hardships we are going through.

But since we are such emotional beings often driven by what we feel, we overlook the lesson and look for the nearest exit or instant gratification instead.

Then we wonder why some of the lessons keep repeating themselves over and over.

In todays' episode, I will share with you a 4-step process on how to find the opportunity in hardships, recognize them and use them to support your growth and emotional healing.

Step #1 is to "pause" before you react to your old ways and patterns.

Step #2 is to observe your triggers, feelings, and actions and evaluate them before acting on them.

Step #3 is to recognize the opportunity for growth, and what is this situation trying to tell you?

Step #4 is to commit to working on yourself from the inside out and quit fixing your life on the surfaced level.

Hello, my beautiful soul.

When we blame, we give our power to someone or something else, and our emotional and mental state depends on external circumstances. But when we choose to take responsibility for our life, it's like saying, "I am in charge, and I am taking my power back."

There are two types of self-responsibility. One is what I call "artificial responsibility and then there is what I call "true responsibility." I will explain the difference between both.

Last but not least, I will share the 4-step process on how to put this powerful skill into practice.

Step #1 is to become aware of your emotions and be honest about how you truly feel.

Step #2 is to take ownership of your thoughts, emotions, and actions.

Step #3 is to set intentions and consciously decide that you will look for the lesson and growth in any given situation, no matter how hard or challenging it is.

Step #4 is to ask, "What do I tolerate?" and then directing your focus on your boundaries, standards, level of your worth, as well as self-love instead of blaming others for how they treat you.

People who experience traumas, fight the feeling of abandonment, struggle to see their worth or their value will often settle for less without recognizing it.

You may find yourself in toxic relationships, constantly wrapped up in the drama, tolerating things you don't feel comfortable with, or taking abuse while never questioning it since it feels like home.

But when someone who has healed or have grown up in a loving home point it out for you, you begin to realize that not everything you are allowing is actually okay.

In today's podcast episode, I'll share with you how to start recognizing the things you tolerate, stop making excuses for people's behavior, and set healthy boundaries with yourself and others.

There are three steps you can start taking today to learn how to stand up for yourself "AKA" honor your boundaries.

Step #1 The word "I" isn't selfish. Although I believe that we all are on this Earth to serve someone or something, we can do it the best while exercising our boundaries without fear.
Saying "I don't feel comfortable with it' or "I don't feel okay with it" is a good enough reason not to do or tolerate what's uncomfortable.

Step #2 You want to use some of your most powerful internal resources, and that's taking responsibility for your life. Being responsible gives you the power and heals you at the same time.

Step #3 Set your boundaries by asking yourself two important questions: "How comfortable am I with it?" and "Is this what I want?"

Once you know the answer to these questions, it's your responsibility to communicate it to others and hold them responsible if they cross them.
Standing up for yourself means creating boundaries with people and hold them accountable to them.

In the previous episode, I talked about what emotional armor is and the reasons many of us carry this guard to protect ourselves from hurt, pain, or disappointment.

But as we already learned, emotional armor is a product of our fear - fear to get hurt or fear to feel pain.

We develop this coping mechanism since we haven't healed certain parts of ourselves, haven't overcome our traumas, or haven't felt through emotions we need to heal.

Since the last week, we talked about the definition and reasons for our emotional guard. In today's episode, I will teach you five steps on how to let this emotional armor go, put it down, and protect yourself by developing emotional and mental resilience rather than guarding yourself.

Step #1 is to acknowledge you are guarded. I know this sounds simplistic to many of us but sometimes admitting that we have this guard that doesn't allow us to receive and enjoy everything we want is the most confronting part of the transformation.

Step #2 is to reflect on how was this armor protecting you. Realizing that your guard is nothing but the illusion of safety creates profound insights and understanding that armoring up won't protect you in the first place.

Step #3 is to develop a new coping mechanism by allowing yourself to feel your emotions.

Step #4 is to confront your fear of pain or hurt. Get into a habit of asking yourself, "What is the worst that can happen if I open up?"

Step #5 is to confront your pain and understand that unless you decide to heal and feel the pain that has been stored inside of you for months or even years, you won't allow yourself to feel good emotions either.

Think of the armor as a door. Once you close it, once you put it up, nothing can go out in terms of healing, but nothing can go in in terms of love, joy, and happiness.

In today's episode, I want to talk to all of my tough cookies, who are carrying this illusionary shield, or as I call it, the "emotional guard" for protection.

We guard up because we got hurt. Since we don't want to feel this way again, we armor up, hoping it will protect us from experiencing this pain again.

Do you know what I found out, my friend? This guard is nothing but an illusion, and it's based on fear. It took me a long time to understand that guarding myself is a waste of my time and effort.

We armor up because of three main reasons.

We are afraid to get hurt
We don't want to be seen, so we choose perfection over authenticity
We don't know how to cope with pain, so we reach for this toxic coping mechanism to keep our emotions under control.

Since our emotional armor is a product of our fear of hurt, it doesn't allow us to heal because we are not feeling our emotions.

We are in fear to feel. And if we are in fear to feel, we can't process our emotions and move through them.

Today, I want you to reconsider the armor you are carrying around. Be honest and ask yourself, "Has this been working for me? Has this been helping me to deal with my traumas and heal my toxic traits?" OR "Has this been keeping me in fear and preventing me from opening up?"

Well, hello there, my beautiful soul.

In today's episode, I will teach you how to build emotional resilience but before I dive deeper, let me give you a simple definition of what it means.

Emotional resilience is the ability to adapt to stressful situations and cope with life's ups and downs. Resilience does not eliminate stress or erases life's difficulties but allows you to tackle or accept problems and live through adversity.

Resilience is also about accepting what is, letting go of resistance to what's happening, and then dealing with it as it is not as we wish it would be. From my personal experience, more resistance creates more suffering.

Yes or yes?

Now, let's move to an exciting part of this episode, and that's how to build emotional resilience in three simple ways. What I want to share with you today is what's been working for me and how I understand and practice this powerful skill.

Way #1 is to remind yourself to surrender. How much suffering do we bring on ourselves just by wishing for things to be better or for people to act differently?

You will find power and control when you choose to look in the mirror, not outside of it.

Way #2 is to learn to sit in discomfort. I teach you to bet on yourself. To bet on your inner strength and your resources you have within. Sitting in discomfort is one of those resources.

Way #3 is to ask yourself one simple question: "Who do I want to be or how do I want to act in the time of adversity?"

Any transformation or growth requires one essential skill, and that's self-awareness.

Self-awareness is the willingness to see and acknowledge who you are, with all your imperfections, toxic traits, wounds, strengths, and weaknesses.

Being aware is about being responsible for your life, thoughts, emotions, and actions. To me, my friend, that's power.

Many of us fear acknowledging the truth about who we are. We are afraid that we won't like it, or we feel worse about ourselves.

But the truth is that the first step towards change is to know what you want and need to change.

In today's episode, I will teach you how to learn, develop and practice the skill of self-awareness with five simple steps.

First, you learn how to exercise your willingness to be honest with yourself, your strengths as well as your weaknesses and things you need to heal.

Second, you will observe your behavior regularly and learn to recognize your patterns.

As a third step, you will ask yourself open-minded and powerful questions to become more aware.

The next step is going to be about gathering constructive feedback from people who love and support you.

And last but not least, you will acknowledge your strengths, things you are good at, and all the benefits you bring to the table.

One of the most common questions or concerns people share with me is how to properly deal with what we call the "hard stuff."

Since our desire to feel good, to feel happy and excited about life is strong, our desire to stop feeling sad, depressed, or betrayed is even greater.

But when we push those uncomfortable emotions away and try to drink away, binge away, or work away from our pain, what we are doing is pushing this pain even deeper into our subconscious.

The goal of healing and developing emotional resilience isn't to push away or push deeper, but to push up to maximize your growth. You can only heal what you can feel.

There are four most common reasons why we choose to opt-out of our emotions. Those are denial, fear, the uncertainty of where to start, and our ego.

When we give ourselves permission to feel, the ego doesn't drive us, we break through denial, and the fear we had about the discomfort and pain turns into relief and healing.

In today's episode, I share with you the benefits of embracing painful emotions. At the end of the episode, we will put this theory into practice where I lea\d you through a simple exercise.

For many of us, the idea of "How do I love myself?" is a million-dollar question. I will answer it in today's episode since there has been a lot I learned in these past months.

Look at self-love as a skill you want to learn and develop. Like any skill, it takes a little bit of time and practice to get it "right" or become more familiar with it.

For me, self-love requires three things - awareness, strength, and action.

You become aware of your triggers and what makes you question or hustle for your worth.

Then, you have to have the strength to make choices and decisions that aren't always easy but necessary for your well-being. And then you have to put it into practice since love is a verb, not only a feeling.

The best time to test the level of self-love and self-respect comes when you are in the arena, in real-life situations.

In the second part of this episode, I will share with you three steps on how to develop more love and respect towards yourself.

As I mentioned earlier, the first step is to recognize your triggers and understand your behavior.

The second step is to commit to this journey. Consider it your very first serious "attempt" to love and respect yourself.

And last but not least, get into a habit of making what I call "hard choices", respect your boundaries and standards and understand the definition of "choosing yourself."

Have you ever left a relationship, a job, or a situation and couldn't understand why you stayed in it for so long even though it wasn't good for you?

You may be asked yourself "Why did I tolerate it?"

As human beings, we are flexible. We adapt, we blend in, we change and we adjust to whatever situation we are in if we are in it long enough.

And whatever seemed once unacceptable, becomes insignificant because we get used to it.

The question is "Do we tolerate certain things because they move us forward and help us grow or because we are selling ourselves short and hustle for connection and approval?"

In today's podcast episode, I will lead you through four steps on how to recognize this pattern of behavior and what to do about it.

The first step is to define whether this is a reoccurring pattern, meaning you keep tolerating the same things over and over while not being comfortable with them.

The second step is to define why you tolerate something and whether it is coming from a place of healthy sacrifice or lack of self-respect.

The third step is to ask yourself these questions:
"Do I want to keep tolerating this?"
"Is this helping me grow or understand something?"
"Is it moving me forward or keeping me stuck and brings me down?"

Although these questions are confronting, they often bring up the truth we need to see.

The last step is to set a standard and define your boundaries and commit to respecting them.

How often do you find yourself in constant doubt when it comes to your decisions? You are going back and forth between multiple options, then consult your problems with numerous people, gather seven different opinions while feeling even more confused and unsure than at the beginning.

So often, people come to me and ask me; "What should I do? What is the best thing I can do?"

And I always tell them that they already know the answer.

The problem isn't in not knowing what you need or want to do but in unsettling self-doubt whether the decision you are about to make will be the "right" one.

Since I've been contemplating the question of self-trust for a while now, in today's podcast episode I am going to lead you through a step-by-step proven formula that I've been using to trust myself more and support my decision-making.

Here are the six steps:

Step #1 Is expert advice necessary?

Step #2 The importance of shutting down the noise

Step#3 The impact of your environment on your decision-making

Step#4 Why taking responsibility bread confidence

Step#5 Mind VS. heart decisions

Step#6 Set a deadline

Developing a support system for yourself is one of the fundamental ways on how to work towards transformation and overcome personal challenges.

When we talk about the support system, we often refer to our family or friends, our therapist, coach, or a mentor.

Although the support of your environment is essential for effective growth, what can you do, personally, to support yourself?

Your support system is a set of rules, tools, or personal commitments and boundaries you develop with yourself. Being aware of what you need the most when facing a challenge or overcoming a toxic trait is an act of self-love that breeds respect.

In today's podcast episode, I will share with you four parts of my support system I developed for a better and healthier lifestyle.

The first part of my support system is scheduling time for reflecting, observing as well as crying. It is the time when I vent when I allow myself to feel vulnerable and observe my triggers and unconscious behaviors in the past weeks.

The second part of my support system is shutting down the noise and developing more trust in myself.

The next part of my self-support to sit with my emotions without trying to change them or make them better.

The last part of my support system is to distance myself from a situation that highly upsets me to think about it, process it, and circle back to talk about it.

Many of us worry a lot. We worry about our families, friends, our future, our jobs.

But think about this: "How many things we worry about never actually happen?"

Since we all know the true answer to this question, it's imperative to learn the skill of emotional management by being aware of our thoughts and working with them.

Handling challenges isn't about surviving them but also about managing the amount of stress we feel in the process.

In today's podcast episode, I will teach you how to better manage your mind and how to train yourself to focus more on possibilities than obstacles.

We will practice two fundamental questions to effectively manage your mind and handle unexpected, difficult, or unwanted situations.

The first question we practice is "What is the worse that can happen if...(fill in the blank).

The second question we practice is "What is the absolute best that can happen if...(fill in the blank).

Except for these two questions, I will teach you how to break down difficult situations in your life and find the lesson in them. I will also show you how to manage the relationship between your thinking and feeling brain.

No matter how much personal development you do, addressing new things in your life will always challenge you.

Changing yourself, your old patterns, your behavior, your toxic traits or your limiting beliefs takes courage and true dedication to your growth.

In today's episode, I want to share with you what are the two most common challenges we face when it comes to changing our lives.

Although you may think that addressing difficult things about yourself is a challenge, the real challenge is pretending our perfection and creating an illusion that we are without flaws.

The second challenge is to take responsibility for your behavior.

The difference between people who break generational curses, healed their traumas, or resolve their pains and those who don't isn't only about the intensity of their experience but how they choose to respond to it.

Since many of my friends and clients express their desire to be empowered, I will share with you two types of empowerment we can experience. One is based on our emotions only and doesn't last, while the other is based on healing and provides lasting results.

In the second part of this episode, I will share with you three steps on how to find the courage to change yourself and your life and how to achieve true inner empowerment in the process.

Well, hello my beautiful soul.

Let me ask you a question: "In your day to day life, do you choose more love or more pain?"

We can argue that often, we don't choose pain or at least think we don't. So let me explain.

Last week, I put a quote on my Instagram that says: "Self-Forgiveness is loving yourself more than the pain you feel."

But do we choose self-forgiveness as a way of choosing love, or do we get stuck in self-blame and self-shaming and never feeling good enough?

Since many of us tackle these situations regularly and our relationship with guilt and shame is a never-ending healing process of self-love and growth, we'll take a look at how we can exercise more love than pain in our lives.

First, we will talk about two different types of pain. One pain is also known as a growing pain. That's when our experiences turn into lessons.

The other pain is suffering. It often occurs when we get stuck in victim mentality, self-blame, or simply refuse to take responsibility for what's happening in our lives.

To understand the love and pain relationship, it's imperative to know the difference.

We will also cover how fear impacts our overall healing, why so many of us get stuck in this very first stage of transformation and how to overcome it.

Lastly, I will teach you three simple steps to start choosing love over pain more often and share some very effective, yet easy daily practice you can start doing today.

Well, hello there!

Since it's about to go down in a few days and my very first course "The Ultimate Self-Forgiveness" is launching on February 14th, in today's podcast episode, I want to talk to you about the four stages of self-forgiveness.

Also, I want you to think of the stage you are currently in.

Since people often ask me what it means to manifest your dream life through healing, here is how I began to understand it.

When we heal and learn the art of self-forgiveness, we practice self-love and begin clearing any negative energy. The more we love ourselves and feel in control of our inner world, the more we enjoy every moment, encourage joy and attract abundance.

The amount of self-judgment and self-criticism we exercise regularly is too much to carry. Even though we think that it's people's judgment that affects us the most, it's often our inner voice that has the most power.

In today's episode, I am going to walk you through 4 stages of the ultimate self-forgiveness.

The first stage is denial. If you haven't listened to the previous episode #115 Breaking Through Denial, I recommend to go ahead and give it a listen.

The two most common reasons why we stay in denial are fear and our ego.

The second stage is anger. Once we acknowledge what we need to forgive ourselves for, we may feel angry. Either for things we have done or what we have allowed.

The third stage is forgiveness. When we are fully aware of what we need to forgive ourselves for, and we felt anger for some time, it's time to let go.

And the fourth stage is healing. It is where we measure the progress of our healing journey by answering one simple question: "What is the emotional charge I feel when I say "I forgive myself for...[fill in the blank].**

And last but not least, I will give you a simple challenge at the end of the episode.

The number one reason why we live or choose to stay in denial is FEAR. Although fear in this instance can have many forms, in the end, it's all about the willingness to face the truth.

The truth about the situation we are in, the truth about ourselves, the truth about our healing or unresolved pain from the past.

You know, my friend, the thing with denial is that no matter how hard we try to look away and not face the hard stuff, deep down we know we are lying to ourselves or refusing to look at things that need healing.

I recorded this podcast episode for everyone who feels stuck and is ready for more healing and personal transformation.

We can only grow and change if we are aware of what needs our attention. Therefore, we have to be willing to step out of denial to experience transformation most authentically.

In today's episode, I will share two ways we can use to break through denial. One is driven by our pain and the other happens when we consciously choose to change.

I will teach you three simple steps on how to break through denial by consciously choosing to change while healing in the process.

First, we will look at areas of your life you aren't satisfied with.

Second, we will define the story around the situation you are denying and what has been difficult for you to face.

Last but not least, I will encourage you to ask yourself the two most powerful questions. They will help you to step out of denial and experience lasting transformation.

I was talking with my good friend, and we were brainstorming what has been the biggest game-changer when it comes to embracing self-love.

We both agreed it has been the shadow work as well as addressing and accepting things we don't like about ourselves.

Shadow work isn't about changing things you don't like but about accepting them as they are - that's the challenge.

Here are some questions I want you to consider:

Is there anyone in this world who is perfect and doesn't make mistakes or have flaws? (I think we both know the answer to this question).
How can you love yourself fully if you choose to ONLY accept things about yourself you like?
And probably the most important question of today's episode is:
What are the benefits of your unwanted traits and how they helped you in the past?

In today's episode, I will share with you some of the benefits of shadow work. Probably the biggest is a lack of desire to be validated.

In the second part of the episode, I will lead you through three steps on how to practice shadow work.

First, you will make a list of your unwanted traits (no worries, I tell you what to look for).

Then you will pick one trait to start with. In the beginning, one is more than enough, my friend.

You will find the benefits of this trait and how it has positively shaped your life. Last but not least, I will share with you one of the best ways how to work towards acceptance and healing of your unwanted or denied traits.

"How can we love ourselves and others without condition, prejudice, judgment, expectations, and criticism?"

It is one of the biggest questions that I have been thinking about lately.

Often our love is based on conditions, not only towards others but also towards ourselves. We think, "If you do X, Y, Z, then I will love you and approve of you."

But what if the person we expect something from doesn't do what we want? Do they deserve to be loved less?

My client and I decided to take on an accountability game. We have to tell at least one person that we love them each day. I will go into details in today's episode and share with you our results, but frankly, it has been challenging and super fun for both of us.

I know that some of you may be thinking, "Does it mean that I have to tolerate things I don't like? Does it mean I have to let people do whatever and still love them despite that?"

Yes and no. Unconditional love doesn't mean we lower our standards or remove our boundaries. Unconditional love means we love someone no matter what, even when it has to be from a distance to honor ourselves and our healthy well-being.

In today's episode, I will tell you the details about the accountability game with my client and how it is improving our interpersonal relationships. I'll also talk about what unconditional love is but mostly, how to apply it towards loving yourself first.

At the end of the episode, I will share with you a simple tip on how to become more mindful of loving others and set the right intentions every morning before you approach the day.

In today's episode, we will talk about experiencing discomfort on purpose. That is a certain level of pain we consciously choose to go through in order to grow faster, understand more, and level up our spiritual journey.

Discomfort in and of itself often isn't something we desire or feel excited about unless there is a bigger goal associated with it.

So if your goal is to experience discomfort on purpose for the sake of higher-good or reaching your most important goals, you can still prepare for it and enjoy it more than you thought possible.

There are two things you want to focus on. The first is the awareness of the process as well as answering the most important question: "Do you love the process as much you love the reward?"

The second is the drive behind your actions. How to learn to "suck it up", embrace discomfort, and make your WHY bigger than your excuses.

We will look at the pain and pleasure factor and how they impact your motivation to do things, and why being motivated by pleasure provides you with more sustainable results than pain.

At the end of this podcast episode, I will give you a challenge.

Although the end goal is your primary goal, your secondary goal should be to seek resilience in the process and understand that no matter the outcome, the time of discomfort provides the opportunity for tremendous growth and mental evolution.

Since I want us to start this new year strong, today we are going to address the subtle inner voice inside of you.

Does this voice support you and empower you or is it shaming you and keeps you small?

I see so many people posting on social media about 2021 being a year without toxic relationships and non-supportive family and friends. But my question to you is; "What if we are the ones who are toxic and non-supportive of ourselves?"

This is not a judgmental statement - this is an awareness moment for all of us.

As much as we want to create healthy surroundings and live in a positive environment, we need to start with ourselves to make sure that we aren't standing in our way or sabotage our success.

In today's episode, I will teach you four steps on how to spot this voice and work with it effectively.

As a first step, we will learn how to listen to this voice. Although this may sound obvious, some of our thoughts are so habitual we don't even know they are there.

As a second step, we will learn how to check with ourselves through the day to make sure that we are aware of what we are thinking and feeling. Remember that your emotions drive actions.

I will share with you a fundamental question I use daily. It will help you to observe yourself and become aware of your inner dialogue anytime throughout the day.

As a third step, we will find the distinction between your inner dialogue and your belief system since how you talk to yourself is often rooted in what you believe yourself to be or what you think you are capable of.

And last but not least, I encourage you to move towards self-forgiveness. Especially when you become aware of how shaming or guilt-tripping your talk is (I certainly did), you want to approach it with love, compassion, and understanding.

Today, I will share with you three principles I decided to keep real with myself in the new year and invite you to apply some of them (or all of them) to your life too.

Before we dive into the topic, I want you to join me (during this podcast episode) to deeply reflect on one single thing you feel utterly grateful for when it comes to 2020.

We all can agree that 2020 got a pretty bad reputation. How about we take all the lessons and benefits and focus on those instead?

Therefore, we are going to play this gratitude game together. I will share with you what I feel thankful for the most this year and how this seemingly negative event transformed my life in a positive direction.

Here are 3 principles we will work on:

Principle #1 Keeping it real with your fear: This is where we address the true nature of our fears, how valid they are, and how they stop us from doing what we want.

We will distinguish between rational and irrational fears and use the exercise to manage the fear that has been preventing you from taking action and achieving your goals.

Principle #2 Keeping it real with your commitments: In this part of the podcast, we will take a close look at some of your commitments as well as your new year's resolutions and identify how stable and effective they are.

When it comes to commitments, you want to prepare for the time when momentum subsides, your inspiration isn't at its peak, and when discouragement and overwhelm take place.

I will teach you how to strengthen your commitment level and prepare for those "lazy" days, so your new year's resolutions become a reality and not another forgotten goal.

Principle #3 Keeping it real with your healing (I couldn't leave this one out)

The crucial thing I will be sharing with you is the importance of shadow work, what shadow work means and how to develop healthy relationships with parts of our personality we don't approve of.

Since our focus is often on what we need to become or what habits we need to develop in order to achieve our goals, in today's podcast episode we are going to talk about everything we need to unbecome to find the path back to ourselves and slay 2021 like a true manifesting boss.

In today's podcast episode, there are two most important questions I want you to think about:

"Why aren't we all those things we want to be?"

"Why have we become many things we don't want to be and how to unbecome these things?"

Since answers to these questions are often rooted in your belief system, we will take a close look at who you believe you are and how it is preventing you from reaching your full potential.

First, we will talk about awareness and how to find out exactly what keeps you stuck and what you need to unbecome in the first place.

Second, we will take a close look at the origin of your belief system, where was it shaped, and how it impacts your confidence and overall mindset today.

Since 2021 is right around the corner and 2020 has been a different year for many of us (to say the least), I want you to enter the new year with a fresh mindset, powerful knowledge, and useful tools in hand.

Well, hello my friend.

If you tell me a year ago that healing can increase chances to achieve my goals and become more in love with myself, I wouldn't probably listen to you.

But since 2020 created a breakthrough in my growth and made me understand the impact of my limiting beliefs and pains, I can see how we all can use it to our advantage.

When we talk GOALS, we often think of setting up the goals, creating a time frame, looking for resources like money, or creating relationships and connections.

All these are important aspects of successfully achieving your goals but what I found even more important is the quality of your belief system, the size of your self-doubt, the noise of your inner voice.

Since all these affect our confidence and determination, I am going to share with you a few benefits healing provides when it comes to goal-getting.

I will talk to you about how healing create self-respect, how it allows you to deal with doubt and fear but mostly stop them from stopping you and how it creates awareness about the subtle inner voice we often can't hear but listen to.

I decided to do personal research to find out what are the most common reasons we shy away from healing, Honestly, I wasn't all that surprised.

As a recovering tough cookie and someone who was terrified by facing my feelings, I get how difficult or confusing it is to face some of our pains or things from the past.

But... I also know how liberating and peaceful it is to address them and how it affects our success and happiness level.

There are two most common reasons we decided to put our healing journey on pause and get distracted by life. The first is that we don't know where to start or how healing even looks like.

The second is the fear of facing the truth. I will address both in this podcast episode.

Since knowing is only 20% of your success, I will share with you some of my best tips on where to start (make sure you get my simple healing technique) or how to work with addressing your fears.

Since you may wonder "what is this healing even good for and why should I put myself through it" I will talk to you about some of the consequences of non-healing and why the only price we pay comes from ignoring the truth and living in denial.

Last but not least, I will share with you why practicing healing is closely associated with understanding self-love and how it leads to this million-dollar question you might have been asking yourself "HOW DO I LOVE MYSELF?

Since the environment we grew up in affects our beliefs and perceptions on a huge scale, it may limit us and create stories that aren't empowering.

And what seemed as an innocent memory, turns into a strong belief and self-definition of who we are and what we are capable of.

However, once we reach the point of adulthood, the power is given to us.

We can decide, we can change, we can manifest, we can create, we can stop and start pretty much anything we want.

That's some freaking good news, don't you think?

Although we adopted beliefs that are deeply ingrained within us, we can't stop there.

We tell ourselves way too many lies that limit us from reaching our full potential and doing the "impossible."

In today's podcast episode, I am going to address why they are nothing but limiting beliefs and also how to stop selling yourself short but go after what you want instead.

Here they are:

"I am not doing well in my personal growth and healing AKA "what's wrong with me"
(my all-time favorite) "I can't do this"
"I am broken" (especially once we start healing and digging deep)
"I got this" ( for all us out there who struggle to ask for help)

Today's podcast episode is going to be quite personal. It isn't a topic I am eager to talk about but a subject we should address.

Since the beginning of this year, I've met quite a few women who shared with me their personal stories I could relate to. Although it surprised me at first, it also made me aware that many women were molested or have a similar experience.

Since talking about the hard stuff isn't taboo on my platform, I find it important to address this issue. It's common for us to stay quiet since we feel shame or guilt for not doing or saying anything.

And what is the most nurturing place for shame, my friend?

Silence! So we might as well talk about it in order to break it.

Before I move to a few points I will cover in today's episode, feel free to email me at contact@couragewithinyou.com for any reasons regarding this episode.

Here is what I cover:

what this experience represented for me and what scared me the most
why we choose to live in denial and how it impacts our self-esteem, relationships, and overall mental health
how to step out from denial, stop beating ourselves down, and face what happened even when it's difficult
how to begin healing by cultivating self-forgiveness and breaking shame by speaking up
the main goal of this episode and two things I am hoping you will get from it in order to heal

When I started my journey of healing and feeling, I had no idea what to expect.

At first, I thought it is all about journaling and sage until I became serious and started discovering the spectacular benefits of addressing my life's situation.

However, emotional healing is a dynamic process. Since you are dealing with many emotions and past experiences, it's natural to find it challenging, overwhelming, or even discouraging.

I am becoming more aware that what people need when it comes to healing are not only tools and techniques but also awareness of how this process looks like and what to expect.

With this understanding in mind, I will be sharing with you some of the less popular, but equally important facts about emotional healing and how they define your success.

Tune in and learn:

the impact of emotional healing on your personal and professional life
how emotional healing align you with what you want and how to get the best out of it
how to make your journey through healing smooth and more enjoyable
four things about healing that will set you up for success and prepare you even for the most challenging moments

Some of your habits you've adopted or behaviors you've learned came from the times of struggle and survival. They allowed you to build mental resilience and value the results you've been able to accomplish.

I bet you can agree with me on this one - Yes or Yes?

However, this type of growth becomes ineffective when we link our identity to pains and the past that prevents us from moving forward and growing more.

You may identify yourself with your past and your traumas and began to believe that this is WHO YOU ARE. These beliefs live within you until you decide to face them and heal them.

Let's just put it this way, my friend - A new version of life will require a new version of YOU.

In this podcast episode, I am going to teach you how to detach from what WAS, heal old wounds, and create life from a place of joy and inspiration rather than survival and struggle.

Tune in and learn:

WHY we believe that our pains and past are who we are
the process of detachment with four easy steps
why some of your best beliefs such as "I am a caring person" OR "I am a strong woman" may come from a place of trauma, how to recognize them and redefine them in order to empower you
recognizing the fear of the unknown, embracing the grief as a way to let go of the old YOU

Hello, my friend.

One of the reasons why I consider mental and physical health so crucial for manifesting your dreams is because it all comes down to the quality of emotions that predominate your life.

From what I observed, many of us struggle to maintain a positive state of mind. We are drowning in guilt and shame, constantly beating ourselves down, striving for perfection or we feel resentment and wish things would be better.

We identify ourselves with our behaviors and believe that this is WHO WE ARE.

I may not know you personally but here is what I DO know: you aren't your behavior. You are this amazing, loving energy that can attract pretty much ANYTHING.

YES! You heard me right.

The problem is that as long as we are wrapped up in our identity, our struggles, or our ego, we stop embracing the most important emotion and that is JOY.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to show you what impact has mind and body on your manifestation process and how to start creating from the place of love and therefore mastering the manifestation process.

Tune in and learn:

how your emotional state defines what you attract and how visualization itself is not enough
the impact of your belief system on your emotions and the overall manifestation
becoming an observer of your mind and learning to detach from your ego
two questions I learned from the book "The Power of NOW" and how they can change your life
the impact of sending LOVE to your physical body and how to practice it

Let's do a fun exercise together. Imagine your ideal future and see everything that you have ever dreamed of. See it as something you already have, an energy that is present in your life right now. For an even deeper experience, close your eyes while doing this.

Now, tell me, how did it feel?

If you tuned in, quite fantastic.

I asked you to do it since I know that you have dreams. I know that you want more from life - I am right there with you, my friend.

But as many of us already know, effective manifestation and attraction can only happen if we are aligned with the result and feel the joy in the process.

We can't heal what we can't feel. Any unresolved pains or traumas won't go anywhere until you choose to address them.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to share with you a fundamental first step towards healing and how to open up to all those extraordinary experiences that await you.

Tune in and learn:
- the impact of healing on your manifestation process
- #1 thing I have observed people struggle with when it comes to healing
- how to break from denial, embrace the truth and heal ourselves while attracting all the things we desire
- the power of WILLINGNESS to change
- how to learn to become an observer of your mind

Well my friend, we need to be honest with each other. Many of us don't allow ourselves to feel. Not because we don't want to open up and share, but because we are afraid of transparency and judgment.

I've had clients told me that they want to feel empowered, but they weren't sure how to embody this feeling.

I always smile when I hear this because this has been a struggle I've fought for many years until I understand this: Power and mental strength come from emotional healing, vulnerability and willingness to be imperfectly perfect.

The good news is that you have the platform (this podcast), myself, and other women in this community who go through the same or similar struggles, and this screams one thing, my friend: IF YOU STRUGGLE WITH VULNERABILITY AND TRUE HEALING, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

I recorded this episode with hope that you allow yourself to open up, be see and use some of my tips (or all of them) to begin your journey towards true healing and emotional strength.

Here is what I'll share with you:

the most common reason we fear vulnerability
finding the balance between emotional vulnerability and mental toughness
misconceptions about mental strength that prevent us from feeling authentic emotions
suppressed emotions and how to release them
4 steps how to allow yourself to be vulnerable and heal in the process

Today, my friend, we are going to address one of the most common struggles we all face: the busyness syndrome.

I already know you are feelin' me so let me ask you a question: "How big is your to-do list? How many things are on your plate daily that you need to do or create or figure out? AND...what if I tell you that the need to be always BUSY is a response to trauma and self-worth?"

Since I am currently in the process of recovery from what I believed was an insane work ethic AKA obsessed workaholism (tool for numbing), I want to share with you something quiet important when it comes to all those things we think we HAVE to do.

Yep...sounds scary, but stick with me here, I promise it's worth it.

In today's podcast episode, I will talk about:

how doing nothing helped me with addressing some of my deepest traumas, the fact that I haven't spoken to my father in 11 years, and an insane amount of limiting beliefs I carried around
why being busy is an armor we use for emotional numbness
two things we need to keep in mind when it comes to slowing down and addressing old pains
why what scares us the most is what we need to face and heal
8...or 10-second rule I learned from Brene Brown that transformed the way I handle uncomfortable emotions like shame, pain, and guilt

In today's podcast episode, I want to talk to every strong woman who is doing her best she can but still finds herself feeling inadequate and not strong enough.

Since no one has all the answers and we all need a break, it's safe to say that taking the "I have my shit together" mask off is the surest way to fulfillment and true authenticity.

Many of us have developed a belief that we have to be strong at all times. Many of us believe that that's what strong women do which can't be further from the truth.

Our own expectations to be and act perfect, to constantly care for others and rarely take a break creates way too much pressure that is becoming difficult to handle.

Since I have my share of struggles in this area, I know that being a perfectly strong woman isn't as empowering as it sounds. Constantly suppressing my emotions and pretending that I am the toughest cookie in the room cost me burn-out and a mental breakdown.

If you are finding yourself in my words, then this podcast episode is for you.

Tune in and learn:

how I developed a belief that I have to be always strong and negative side effects of this belief
the fear of hurt and our urge to build walls and armor up
why protecting yourself from hurt means protecting yourself from love
the most powerful way on how to deal with negative emotions, embrace vulnerability and understanding of true empowerment

One of the biggest topics that have flooded the internet in the personal development industry is self-love. There are so many feelings about what it is, how it shows up in our lives and whether we believe that we deserve it?

Do you know why we hear about this concept so much? Because it's missing in our society. So many of us desperately search for a partner, someone who can love us. We crave it while forgetting in the process that the most important relationship we have is with ourselves.

We justify bad behavior by saying that we "love" them while ignoring the hard fact that we haven't given the time, attention and love to ourselves.

In today's podcast episode, I won't only teach you how to love yourself, I will tell you the truth. The truth about why we tend to have low standards. The truth about loving others, and what, in fact, love truly means and how it shows up.

Tune in and learn:

the types of self-love no one talks about
the concept of unconditional love I learned from Brooke Castillo
why we can only truly love others when we learn to love ourselves
the most important relationship of your life and what it means to love people from the distance

Each of us is motivated by either pain or pleasure. We use them interchangeably but one of them often predominates.

For most of my life, I thought that it doesn't matter which one of those motivates me more as long as I am motivated and driven.

As I discovered later on, there is a difference in whether we are motivated by pain or pleasure. It shows in our emotional state, as well as a willingness to go beyond limits.

To understand what motivates you in life, ask yourself: "Am I being motivated by running away from something that causes pain or am I being motivated by running towards something that brings pleasure?"

In today's podcast episode, I am going to teach you how to use both effectively.

Tune in and learn:

how understanding your pains leads to healing
how to use the pain to your advantage
the Maslow Hierarchy of Needs and its effect on your motivation
why being motivated by pleasure should be your primary source of motivation

Emotions are a driving force of our actions. We act based on how we feel, not how we think.

Learning how to manage our emotional state is crucial for healthy personal relationships as well as a career or a business.

How many times have we acted based on our emotions, and later felt like we overreacted or took an argument to a higher level?

It happened to all of us - no judgment here, my friend.

The good news is that we can reduce and eliminate these situations by learning and practicing emotional intelligence.

In today's podcast episode, you will learn:

what is emotional intelligence and how you can use it in your advantage
why we often quit on our goals because we focus on what we feel like doing instead of doing what we need to do
a crucial part of any self-improvement process and how to withdraw from judgment for the best growth and results
four ways on how to develop emotional intelligence and learn to take emotions out of the equation when needed

One of the main mistakes we make when we set a goal is that we don't get clear on what it will carry.

We can't expect to make significant changes in life while our lifestyle remains the same. Something eventually needs to give in.

The question is: Is it your goal or your free and fun time?

Some of us are satisfied with their 9-5, free weekends, some hobbies and family time. There is nothing wrong with that since happiness in life has many forms.

However, if you are one of those folks who want to do big things in life, if you are tired of seeing your parents financially struggle, if you want to give your kids things and experiences you have never had yourself, if you want to lose 150 pounds, your sacrifice needs to be as radical and your envision goals.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to talk to you about what sacrifice really means, what it involves and why you want to focus on a bigger picture instead of a short-term pleasure.

Tune in and learn:

big goals require a big sacrifice
the importance of mental preparation once we set the goal
how to "toughen up" when it comes to your biggest goals
four ways how to handle sacrifice, refuse to give up and scale high

Before you tune into today's podcast episode, I want you to ask yourself this question" How committed am I to myself, my dreams and my most important goals?"

We have commitments like our family, spouse or partner, our career, and our job. As important as all of these are, it's crucial to recognize what deserves our priority and when.

Today, I want to call all of my people pleasers and those who have developed habits that make them say YES to the wrong thing and NO to the right thing.

Tune in and learn:

why lack of commitment to yourself reflects on your confidence
the importance of aiming for long-term success instead of short-term pleasure when it comes to your commitments
learning to say NO without feeling guilty and saying YES to yourself instead
3 simple steps on how to develop an unbreakable commitment to yourself

It's been over a year since I left my marriage and had an opportunity to heal and reflect. At first, I labeled my marriage as "failed." I couldn't be further from the truth.

This experience taught me so much about myself and my inner power. It created some of the most significant breakthroughs in my life and helped me to evolve very fast. It reminded me that rapid growth is priceless.

Many of us see past relationships as some dark shadow, a mistake, or a failure. How about we focus on what we learned, how we changed and were able to heal in the process?

It is one of my most personal podcast episodes, and I hope it will help you to heal and understand that the most important relationship you have is the one with yourself.

Tune in and learn:

why I decided to share with your my most personable experience and how it positively impacted my life
the importance of seeing our past relationships as an opportunity for growth instead of a mistake or a failure
how to withdraw from judgment when learning and understanding emotional challenges in life
five most profound lessons my marriage taught me and how it can change your life

At an early age, we often adopt limiting beliefs and patterns without ever questioning if they are valid and if they are contributing to our growth or sabotaging it.

These beliefs become our way of life since they're the only thing we know.

Because many of us weren't led or taught how to develop a strong self-belief, we do what we think we can do not what we are actually capable of doing.

The challenge is that we are seeking proof to support these beliefs even when they are hurting us.

I've observed in my life as well as the life of my clients how these limiting thoughts and beliefs can sabotage our success. This podcast episode is for everyone who is fighting their inner battle and work towards breaking their mental limits once and for all.

Tune in and learn:

the main source of limiting thinking and why we often don't recognize it
what is confirmation bias and how it affects our ability to break through limiting beliefs
why do we choose to sabotage our goals by holding on to limits we created for ourselves
4 practical steps on how to break through limiting beliefs and use our potential in a full capacity

Inner power is a state of mind. It's about fully tapping into your potential and believing that you have what it takes to figure things out and handle anything that comes your way.

The problem is that only a few of us use it since we either believe we don't possess such a skill or that the external world easily takes it away from us.

Fortunately, this is far from the truth.

Developing inner power is about building a strong mindset where you learn how to see things from a different perspective and use personal resources to improve and grow in life.

Since I believe that inner power is one of the most important tools you can utilize for your happiness and fulfillment, I am going to share with you how you can discover it and access it anytime you need to.

Tune in and learn:

2 basic laws of inner power
the mistake we make when it comes to facing challenges that prevent us from accessing our power
how to break the belief that you don't have control over your life
5 practical and effective ways how to tap into your inner power

The reason why we often settle for things or people is that we are afraid that the next thing, job, business, or a person will be worse than what we have right now.

Instead of risking and taking a chance, we want a safe bet. But the seemingly safe option if often the one which stops us from growth but keeps us stuck.

In my private Facebook group "Women's Inner Power Circle", one of my members asked me "How do I keep evolving? How do I prevent myself from settling and stay aligned with my goals?"

This is the problem many of us face when we buy into our fears and embrace familiarity. Real growth and evolution happen outside of your comfort zone and when you challenge yourself on purpose.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to talk about how to skyrocket your personal growth and break from things that keep you stuck.

Tune in and learn:

1 reason why we settle and stop growing
what it means to challenge yourself on purpose and consciously evolve
what impact have genetic factors on our relationships and why we keep them even when we aren't happy
2 ways on how to evolve, break from the fear of the unknown and stop settling for things which aren't fulfilling you

Last week, we talked about the desperation which comes from the desire to control outside circumstances. Today, we will focus on the desperation associated with people and their presence in our lives.

When we love and care about someone, it's natural to fear to lose them since they matter to us. But what about people who don't care about us and don't respect us? Why do we put them on some sort of pedestal?

We begin to lower our standards and ignore our boundaries because we are afraid that people won't live up to them but leave. Instead of resolving our own issues, traumas and pains, we expect others to validate us and give us the love we crave.

That's when we find ourselves tolerating poor behaviors and begin to keep people around for desperate reasons.

I've been in this place for a very long time and I know how exhausting and hurtful it may be. That's why I decided to dedicate this podcast episode to every woman who is ready to find her worth and love herself entirely.

Tune in and learn:

what are the most common reasons we feel desperate in relationships
how to eliminate desperation through reflection and self-awareness
why we need to stop assigning big part of our identity to other people
3 things you can do to stop feeling desperate in your relationships and maintain your standards and boundaries

One of the most common reasons we feel desperate is our desire to control external circumstances.

We wish things could be easier or we feel entitled to a better life. If things don't go as planned, we get desperate and scared.

Desperation itself isn't an emotion that is beneficial to our growth unless we learn to let go and focus on building ourselves from the inside.

When we feel desperate, we act differently. We make decisions out of fear and we are in a rush. Our brain is paralyzed by a lack of control of the outside events and hopelessness takes place.

There are two types of desperation we experience: one comes from the desire to control and the other is linked to our relationships when we are scared to lose people.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to address the first type of desperation. Here is what you'll learn:

the main reason I find myself desperate and how I deal with it
what happens with your brain when you feel desperate and how it affects your decision-making process
what is the most important principle when it comes to overcoming desperation and feel empowered
3 things you can do right now to get rid of the feeling of desperation

One of the most powerful feelings you can have is stillness. When you are in the midst of chaos but still manage to feel still - that's power.

And this power comes from taking care of yourself and having spiritual hygiene in place. Think of this mental state as a happy medium - you aren't too calm and you aren't too excited. You are somewhere in the middle where you feel solid on the inside and focused.

The real meaning of self-care and many spiritual practices is in developing mindsets and attitudes which make you feel whole and in peace.

When I talk about self-care, I don't want you to see it as something external. I am not talking about Instagram posts with hashtag self-care while getting your nails done in a local salon.

I am talking about self-forgiveness, reflecting how far you have come and giving yourself permission to exhale through meditation and mindfulness.

There is a stigma going around which presents this idea of women to always care about everything and everyone around them. If a woman decides to take time for herself, say NO or simply embrace her imperfections, she is putting herself in a risk of a serious judgment from others.

Since I absolutely love challenging the status quo, I decided to dedicate this podcast episode to every woman who never feels like she does enough no matter what she does.

Tune in and learn:

importance of spiritual hygiene and self-care on your overall success and happiness
why stillness is the most powerful emotion and how to access it
embracing imperfections as an act of self-care and happiness
4 step process on how to create more stillness and self-appreciation

One of the most profound ways on how to embrace self-love and create deep relationships with others is by setting clear and healthy boundaries.

What often prevents us from setting boundaries is the fear of losing people. We are afraid that if we set higher standards or communicate what we aren't willing to tolerate, people will walk away.

The truth is that those who aren't willing to respect things you aren't comfortable with shouldn't be on your priority list in the first place.

It all comes down to one thing: "What you allow, will continue." So the question shouldn't be "What can I do to keep them in my life" BUT "What can I do to respect myself more?"

Recently, I was faced with a challenge where I had to choose my boundaries over the presence of a person who mattered to me. It inspired me to share it with you in today's podcast episode.

Tune in and learn:

why respecting your boundaries is a revolutionary act of self-love
how setting healthy boundaries helps you to create deep and meaningful relationships for life
how sabotaging your boundaries lowers your self-respect and create a toxic environment
how boundaries contribute to your happiness in terms of social connections
3 ways how to create healthy boundaries with yourself and others

Living on auto-pilot means doing things or perform activities which you are so accustomed to and used to, you don't even think about them.

Let's take driving, taking a shower or brushing your teeth. Those are activities that you want to perform with ease in order to avoid feeling overwhelmed. That's when your auto-pilot mode comes handy.

The problem is that we do things on auto-pilot in so many areas of our lives, we don't even think about the majority of them. It's important to question our beliefs, our actions or behaviors.

We can only grow and expand if we are willing to stretch, get uncomfortable and challenge ourselves on a regular basis.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to share with you how to start living with more purpose and excitement.

Tune in and learn:

the role of our brain in this process
benefits and disadvantages of living on auto-pilot and how to differentiate them
finding a balance between habits and actions which are effortless while challenging ourselves and living more purposefully
4 practical ways how to stop living on auto-pilot and feel more excited and alive

During challenging times, when we aren't in our best or feel overly stressed out, we tend to lose focus and postpone our goals.

As much I understand that stress and uncertainty may impact your mindset and performance, this is the time to double down on your goals, your focus and your personal growth.

You aren't born to "chill." You are here to challenge yourself and grow. The world didn't stop - things only slow down. It is a matter of a time when the seemingly bad situation will pass and we all are going to move forward and continue living.

Use this time as an opportunity to strengthen your mindset and get centered.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to focus on your discipline and goal success.

Tune in and learn:

why it's time to stop chillin' and start doing
how to organize your time effectively and stay focused
the power of seeing the "bigger picture"
5 ways how to maintain your focus and stick with your goals during the pandemic

Uncertainty itself doesn't cause as much stress as the desire to control. The inability to control situations or people is what brings us suffering since it leaves us to feel hopeless and desperate.

The only aspect in any given situation you can manage is you, your thoughts and therefore your emotions. That should be your focus at all times.

Uncertainty will always be present in your life whether you start a new business, move to a different country, change career or deal with people in general.

Instead of wishing for more security, you want to develop a mindset that is trained to deal with unpredictability.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to talk to you about some of the best ways how to deal with uncertainty and lower your stress level.

Tune in and learn:

why our perception of uncertainty creates suffering but not uncertainty itself
scientifically proven ways how our brain responds to uncertainty and how we can manage it
the role of the rational brain and the limbic system in the times of uncertainty
5 ways how to deal with uncertainty effectively

Many of us try to change things by altering our external world instead of doing the inner work first.

The quality of your life stands on your mindset. Instead of controlling things that are out of your control, learn how to manage your thoughts and feelings which you have full control over.

No matter where you came from or how many limiting beliefs you've adopted over the years, you can always change the way how you see the world through practice, tools and exercises that are designed to help you along the way.

Because of everything that is happening in the world right now, I decided to focus on the issue of positive thought management.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to teach you a simple concept that will help you in shifting your mindset once and for all.

Tune in and learn:

the story about alcoholic father and his 2 sons
how to focus your energy on what's happening inside of you and use it to your advantage
useful tip on how to recognize even your deepest thoughts in order to change them
3 effective ways on how to upgrade the quality of your thoughts and achieve a successful mindset shift

There are two ways to deal with challenges, daily demands or things that frustrate us and bother us: we either escape or we elevate.

Frankly, there isn't anything wrong with occasional escaping by grabbing a cocktail with your bestie or crushing on the couch and watching a funny movie.

But if you escape more than you elevate, if you numb your emotions and lack of fulfillment by overeating, substance abuse or binge-watching Netflix, the only healthy escape is elevation.

Elevation and escape both stand on habits. Do you go for a run when you feel frustrated or do you grab a cupcake?

Do you pour yourself another glass of Chardonnay after a stressful day or do you sit down and meditate for 10 minutes?

Your growth and mindset elevation stand on simple habits you do regularly. If you want to stop escaping, you need to find new habits that elevate you.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to share with you how to stop numbing your emotions through escaping and how to use elevation to build the life you don't need to escape from.

Tune in and learn:

what is an escape and what is an elevation
what type of escape is acceptable
the importance of identifying your "escape" habits
how to develop new habits which will support your healing and help you elevate in your growth

There is a difference between being physically alone and feeling lonely.

While time alone allows us to reflect and relax, loneliness makes us feel like we don't belong and there isn't anyone who understands us.

Our feeling of loneliness comes down to one important thing: the quality of our relationships. Strong connections bring people together since they create a deep sense of belonging.

However, fighting loneliness isn't only about others. It also stands on the quality of our inner world, what we haven't healed and what we are bringing to the table in the first place.

The question is: "Are you coming into any relationship with the mindset of giving and contributing or are you desperately looking for someone who can complete you?"

In today's podcast episode, I am going deep on the issue of loneliness and how you can heal it effectively.

Tune in and learn:

the difference between being alone and feeling lonely and how to embrace "ME" time
what loneliness physically causes to your body based on the scientific research (it will blow your mind)
disconnection as a major reason for people to feel lonely
why you need to focus on the quality of your relationships instead of the quantity
your role in this healing process
6 ways how to fight and heal loneliness

You develop self-respect through actions and behaviors which support your values and match your blueprint.

In other words, if you are behaving in a way that is aligned with your standards, you will naturally respect yourself.

We often look at other people and ask for or demand respect. If we don't get it, we blame them. We feel like they should respect us when in fact, respect starts with you and with what you decide to tolerate.

Respect shows in what you eat, how you take care of your body, how you educate yourself, whether you are sticking with your goals or slacking and how committed and disciplined you are.

Once self-respect is built, it reflects on every relationship in your life. Tolerating anything less than the level of your standards will become naturally unacceptable.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to talk to you about what self-respect is, how to develop it, raise it and maintain it.

Tune in and learn:

what it means to respect yourself
the importance of your worth when building self-respect
how self-respect shows in your every day life and how it reflects in a relationship to others
how to test yourself and see what is the level of your self-respect
4 ways on how to develop and maintain healthy respect towards yourself

One of my good friends once said: "If we didn't have all the lows in life, the highs wouldn't seem so high."

The main problem with hitting rock bottom is our expectation that we shouldn't be in this situation at the first place. This idea of pain-free life creates suffering which doesn't allow us to see the benefits and lessons.

Pain isn't optional but suffering is.

Can you imagine that you look at your biggest pains and feel grateful? How this approach can empower your mindset and change your perception of life?

Life is a balance of both, pain and happiness. Since pain is intense and it doesn't feel good, we run away from it instead of acknowledging it and learning from it. At the end of the day, it's all about perspective and understanding.

That's why I decided to get real with you about what rock bottom represents and why some of your biggest strength comes from some of your lowest points in life.

Tune in and learn:

why it's necessary to appreciate your pains
how to eliminate the expectation of what your life should be and embrace what is
the difference between pain and suffering
4 steps on how to handle rock bottom and recover faster

If someone asks me what is the most powerful skill we can develop, I will say it's self-reflection. Being able to reflect on your shortcomings and change them is power.

One of the most common topics on the internet these days is how to deal with toxic people. But what if we tolerate toxicity and drama in our lives because we are toxic?

I know, that's some hard look in the mirror moment, isn't it?

For almost 28 years of my life, I believed that everyone around me was toxic until there came a moment when I had to ask myself: "Why do I tolerate all this toxicity and negativity in my life?" As you can guess, I wasn't the victim.

I grew up in a household with lots of drama, arguments and abuse. I adopted many toxic tendencies because of it. Only when I decided to take responsibility for my behavior, I was able to cope with and eliminate drama and negativity from my life.

I want you to listen to today's podcast episode with love and compassion and I want you to understand that being able to face your own toxicity is a huge act of self-love.

Tune in and learn:

some of the biggest reasons behind your toxic behavior and how you adapt to them
the distinction between being a toxic person and having toxic tendencies
1 rule I live by when it comes to self-reflection and self-awareness which makes the entire process powerful
the importance of healing your pains and trauma while eliminating toxic traits
3 steps on how to deal with toxic traits

Many negative emotions that bring discomfort are a result of our expectations that life should be always good, we should be always happy and positive.

Often, it's not discomfort itself that causes pain but also our perception of what discomfort represents for us.

If we see discomfort as a burden, we will suffer. If we see it as a currency, we can learn to manage practically anything from losing weight, building a business, improving our financial situation and the list goes on.

Some of the biggest breakthroughs and growth happens when we embrace what's uncomfortable at the moment and take it as a lesson instead of a struggle.

In today's podcast episode I am going to share with you how to leverage uncomfortable situations.

Tune in and learn:

how to change your perspective on discomfort and use it into your advantage
why tolerating discomfort is one of your most valuable skills
how to program your mind for long-term fulfillment instead of short-term pleasure
3 simple steps on how to develop discomfort tolerance and master anything

One of the well-respected coaches once said: "When you change the way how you see the world, your world changes."

The main focus of every coaching session I have with my clients is to help them see what they can't see, to make them understand that their potential truly has no limits and to show them how to build the most powerful mindset.

One of the very effective ways to do that is to ask them questions that pick their brains and make them think on a totally different level than they are used to.

Powerful questions give you powerful answers. They make you question your beliefs or perception of reality and open your mind to more possibilities and options.

It's common to think on one level and never move beyond that since we aren't challenged to think differently.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to challenge the way you think and feel by asking you 5 simple yet profound questions.

Tune in and learn:

the power of asking the right questions
benefits of self-coaching and how to challenge yourself powerfully
my personal examples of self-coaching and how asking myself the right questions changed my life
5 questions that will make you feel uncomfortable and empowered at the same time

The most common reason people give up on their dreams and goals is that they love the reward but not the process.

Many of us have this "how-to" mentality. We think that what we need is the structure or a step-by-step process on how to achieve what we want.

But that's not all. Every person's growth is different. Every process is unique and often challenging at times.

If you want to succeed, if you want to be truly happy and fulfilled, you have to love the process as much as you love the end result because everything is in the process.

In today's podcast episode, I am talking about the importance of the process and how to enjoy growing pains along the way.

Tune in and learn:

the most important question you have to ask yourself when setting up a goal
why you need to become the person who can own your goals before you achieve them
expectations of the process in your personal as well as professional life
5-step guide on how to stick with your goals and avoid the possibility of giving up

Perfectionism is an unattainable goal. You can't touch it or feel it or reach it.

When the desire for improvement turns into an obsession to be and act perfect, constant feeling of not being "good enough" creeps in because what you are striving for doesn't exist.

Any growth, whether personal or professional will be one of the most imperfect things you will experience because growth itself is messy.

You try and fail, you make mistakes and try again. That's how you build a business, that's how you manifest your passion, that's how you heal and grow.

I, myself, fall into this expectation of "perfect" many times and I know you have too. We all do because we care. That's why this podcast episode is what you need to kick your perfect self in the butt and embrace the process as it is.

Tune in and learn:

why do we struggle with perfectionism and where it comes from
why the desire for being perfect lowers your productivity
how perfectionism negatively affects your life and how to change it
how to beat perfectionism and embrace your faults and mistakes instead

Anytime you work towards a worthwhile goal or something big and exciting, you have to understand that you won't always feel motivated.

Big goals bring challenges and obstacles and these situations won't always feel pleasant. You'll feel discouraged, frustrated or tired. Motivation won't be there but your willpower will. Use that instead.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to break down the myths about motivation and why your success stands on habits and consistency.

Tune in and learn:

how you sabotage your goals through motivation
how to get out of the motivation trap
motivation as one of the most overrated emotions
the power of habits, consistency and dedication
how to use your willpower instead and make motivation your bonus driving force

There are two types of pain we can experience. One comes from growth, the other comes from regret.

The problem is that many of us are looking for constant happiness and instant gratification. We want to feel good all the time without realizing that real growth and fulfillment comes from overcoming challenges and feeling uncomfortable.

Here is the truth that many people don't want to accept: you are going to be in some pain eventually. It is your choice which one you decide to own.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to talk about how your pain can become your best friend if you know how to use it effectively.

Tune in and learn:

the difference between 2 types of pain and how they are affecting your life
how to achieve your goals through discomfort
how to train your mind to tolerate and understand pain which is beneficial for your growth
6 effective ways how to use growing pains for improving your life and emotional resilience

Self-awareness is one of the most effective skills which leads to positive changes, transformation and breakthroughs.

Utilizing this skill will help you in seeing your strengths and weaknesses and allow you to elevate and improve as a person if you are willing to be fully honest with yourself.

Although many of us aren't using self-awareness or don't understand its importance, it is a skills which has a tremendous impact on your overall growth if you learn how to use it properly.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to share with you how to cultivate this unique skill and make it an important part of your self-care.

Tune in and learn;

what is the #1 fear we have when it comes to self-awareness
one of the biggest benefits of being self-aware of who you are which lead to powerful transformation
the mistake we make while practicing the self-awareness skill and how to avoid it
why developing your self-awareness need to be judgment-free

The concept of self-love is more complexed than what we often see on social media or read from some motivational quote.

Loving yourself doesn't mean getting your nails done or visiting a hair salon every other week or taking a lavish vacation in some exotic place.

Self-love is much deeper because regardless of what you have or where you are, your inner world ultimately defines the quality of your life. Self-love fulfills you while everything else is a bonus.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to share with you the true meaning of self-love and how deep it actually goes.

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how to develop a deep sense of self-love
what it means to love yourself and why so many of us misunderstood this concept
how facing your shortcomings is one of the most loving things you can do for you
5 Ways how to take your self-loving journey to the next level

The best way how to start the new year strong is to prepare for it before it starts.

You want to wake up on the 1st of January and have a clear set of goals and intentions on what you are going to accomplish, how you are going to grow and evolve.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to share with you practical steps on how to prepare for 2020 (pen and paper required).

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how to keep the momentum going by focusing on your successes instead of being overly hard on yourself
how to set proper expectations for the new year
the power of recognizing and replacing old habits
effective ways and real examples on how to step into 2020 with excitement and practical steps in place

The new year is right around the corner which means that it's time to start preparing for 2020 and reflect on 2019.

It's important to understand every single lesson this year has brought to you and how you can use it to your advantage.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to share with you some of the best lessons I've learned in 2019 and how they contributed to my life and overall growth.

Tune in and learn:

how to handle life's unexpected circumstances like a pro
why the relationship with yourself is the most important relationship of your life
how to find the balance between your emotions and logic
why taking full responsibility for your life will set you free and puts you in a position of power
how to build meaningful relationships while being straightforward about your standards

The best way to heal your past is to understand that your past mistakes, challenges or pains don't define you, they are only a part of your story.

Sometimes your past pains are so familiar, you can't imagine living without them. They comfort you because you are used to feeling them. Therefore, they become a huge part of your identity that causes you to feel stuck and paralyzed.

In today's podcast episode, I am diving deep into your past, how it impacts your present and what is the best way to understand it.

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the difference between surviving and thriving
real reasons why your past is keeping you stuck (some of them will blow your mind)
why facing your own bullshit and taking responsibility for your life is the first step to move forward
5 effective steps on how to let go of your past successfully

The more you expect your life to be perfect and problem-free, the more you are putting yourself in the state of suffering.

It's important to recognize that as happiness and joy serve a purpose, so do pain and challenges.

Some of your biggest breakthroughs and growth happens through adversity if you understand its place in your life.

You can build your successes on your failures, happiness on sadness and strengths on your weaknesses.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to share with you what growing through adversity means and how it can positively change your life.

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how to understand life as it is and not as it should be
how to take advantage of seemingly negative situations
an important disclosure I want you to understand in regards to your pain
how I created the best things in my life through the most difficult times
5 ways how to grow through adversity

In words of Brene Brown "We are wired for connection."

However, this becomes a problem when seeking love turns into an obsession to fulfill you and heal you.

If you are going into any relationship with the mindset of "what can you give me to make me feel better, loved, wanted"...you are going there for the wrong reason.

It's important to recognize that the moment you hustle for love or connection, you are selling yourself short because of some unhealed event or trauma.

For the majority of my life, I hustled for love and attention until I realized that I am the one who needs to give it to myself first.

Since I know the struggle of wanting to be loved, I've recognized this need in many women I've met along the way. That's why today's podcast episode is going to be just about that.

Tune in and learn:

the benefits of being a giver, not a taker
the most powerful thing I learned from my coach about self-love
the best way to fight the desperation and neediness when it comes to others
4 ways how to stop craving love and feel loved instead

What prevents you from taking a risk is often the set of limiting beliefs you have about yourself or your life.

It's common to grow up with a weak belief system.

However, this doesn't mean that your life is over or that you should give up on things that are scary but matter to you at the same time.

You can change your limiting beliefs at any given moment by transforming your mindset and creating a belief system that supports your deepest goals and dreams.

Here is what you'll learn in today's podcast episode:

the breaking point in my life when I decided to stop doubting myself and start believing in myself instead
what helped me to break from my limiting beliefs and do things I never thought I could do
the power of positive expectations
the magic behind questioning everything
5 practical ways how to exercise your belief system

You protect your emotions by healing, not by numbing or ignoring things that hurt you.

The main purpose of dealing with pain is not to let one person or one event dictate how you approach future opportunities and relationships.

Many of us don't focus on healing because it feels uncomfortable. We armor up, pretend that everything is fine and push the pain away, when in fact, it never disappears.

Since this podcast episode is all about healing your pains and overcoming hurt, here is what you'll learn:

how to change the perspective on pain and accept it as a part of life
the purpose of healing
the best way to protect your heart from getting hurt
5 ways how to deal with hurt effectively

Facing negative and toxic people is almost impossible to avoid.

But what if you have some toxic traits which you've been overlooking?

Or what if you are tolerating toxic people in your life because you feel unworthy or unloved?

Many articles, blogs or podcasts will talk about how to spot a toxic person or what are some signs of toxicity. What I've learned and observed in the past 5 years is that working on my toxic traits and taking care of my soul was the ultimate tool to fight this issue.

If you struggle with toxic people, tune into today's podcast episode and learn:

the power of responsibility and self-awareness while dealing with toxic people
how I discovered that my toxic traits were the reason I build toxic relationships and how I changed it
2 most important questions to ask yourself while staying in a toxic relationship
the importance of taking ownership for your behavior
5 ways how to deal with toxicity and negativity in your relationships

Many women internalize the belief that "they aren't enough."

No matter what they do, how caring and "perfect" they are, they often feel inadequate and behind.

When you lack worthiness, it impacts your entire life from your career, business, relationships and a relationship with yourself.

Although there are several reasons why people struggle with this invisible mental disease, there are many ways and practices which you can adapt to change the perception of your worth.

Here is what we are going to cover in today's podcast episode:

how your past environment affects the way you see your worth
why you are enough whether you believe it or not
the dangerous part of seeking outside validation and how to overcome it
3 powerful practices which will help you to change the perception of your worth and feel good enough without seeking proof

Life isn't about what you experience but how you understand what you experience.

You can speed up your personal growth through self-awareness and understanding that growing pains are a part of the process.

Having a powerful story can be inspiring and impactful but what's even more important is what you do with your story. Once you accept your past and take responsibility for your feelings, you will elevate your growth exponentially.

Tune in and learn:

how self-awareness affects the speed of your personal growth
how to become aligned with your story and your past
4 ways how to elevate your persona growth

You get in life what you believe you can have not what your current reality tells you you can have.

Many of us wait for our circumstances to change in order to dream big and want more when in fact, it's the other way around.

The moment you open your mind to more possibilities and more "what ifs" questions, you will find the resources you need to get what you want.

Circumstances never stop you from moving forward and succeeding. It's your mind and your limiting belief system.

Narrow-mindedness is an enemy of your dreams which should never be an excuse as to why you won't move forward and change the way how you see the world.

In today's podcast episode I am going to talk to you about creating a mindset of possibilities where no lack of anything will ever stop you from getting what you want.

Tune in and learn:

how narrow-mindedness controls your success
story about 4-minute mile
why your current reality has nothing to do with your future
how to change limiting beliefs system
4 effective things which will help you to exercise possibility mindset

Every day you are deciding whether you pull back and let fear controls you or show up and face things that aren't comfortable.

You win by showing up. And showing up is often messy, vulnerable and uncertain. It challenges you but embraces your growth on so many levels.

You stay alive by doing things and trying things that are pushing you out of your comfort zone - that's how you win in life.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to share with you why it's important to show up for yourself and how it benefits your growth and confidence.

Tune in and learn:

the moment I realized why showing up is crucial for my growth
why life isn't about winning but being in the arena
benefits of showing up
how not to worry about criticism or judgment of people who are standing on the sidelines
5 ways how to show up for life

What do you predominantly focus on every day?

Do you see more of your problems or your blessings?

The quality of your life isn't defined by what you think you have or don't have but by what you focus on.

Life is simple - what you focus on, grows, whether negative or positive.

Negative focus is nothing else but a habitual way of thinking which you can change at any point in your life and I am going to teach you how.

Tune in and learn:

how tiny adjustments in your thought process completely transforms your life
the quickest way how to become aware of what you focus on
benefits of positive focus
4 ways how to change the habit of negative focus and manage your thoughts effectively
7-day positive focus challenge

It's okay to want different things in life without feeling guilty about it.

However, many people believe or are programmed to think that there is only one way to live - get a degree, find a job, get married, have kids.

People will tell you that you dream too big because their dreams are too small. They may call you crazy, irrational, selfish, too driven or too ambitious.

At the end of the day, it is nothing but opinion. Don't let people's inability to support you stay in the way of chasing what you desire the most.

Since people's negativity and lack of support may be challenging to handle, I recorded a podcast episode which will teach you how to handle naysayers and people who can't see your vision.

Tune in and learn:

why the "norm" means nothing when it comes happiness
types of naysayers you will deal with
how to stay emotionally detached from people's discouragement and lack of support (even when it's tough)
4 steps on how to deal with naysayers and stay focused on the future YOU want to create

There are two sides to guilt.

One is the moral compass it provides for bettering and improving yourself.

The other is something that calls "chronic" guilt where a person dwells on their past mistakes and actions and can't get rid of the feeling. This one is self-destructive and it may lead to unhappiness and psychological struggle.

You can use guilt to grow and evolve. Other than that there isn't a point of living in guilt.

The truth is - you are doing the best you can in a given moment.

Since the constant feeling of guilt is pretty common among all of us, I decided to record this podcast episode to show you and to teach you how to use guilt effectively and forgive yourself for any mistakes or actions.

Tune in and learn:

benefits of guilt
the positive side of guilt
why seeing yourself as a "bad" person won't help you in being a "better" person
guilt as a moral compass
how constant guilt affects your self-worth
how to overcome guilt in 5 steps

Having a clear understanding of who you are and what you want will allow you to better navigate your life.

You can only change or improve things when you are aware of them.

Knowing and understanding yourself is about being aware of your strengths and weaknesses.

In this process of self-awareness, the best approach comes from the place of love and compassion but never judgment.

Tune in and learn:

benefits of self-awareness
why knowing yourself on a deeper level improves the quality of your relationships
how self-acceptance changed my life and stopped me from getting offended
5 ways how to better know and understand yourself

Your life is a cycle where your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings drive your actions and your actions produce results.

Therefore the quality of your thoughts is hugely affected by your inner work and self-awareness.

Today, I am going to share with you how to transform and evolve your life through deep inner work.

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the power of deep inner work
how your inner peace and stillness affect your attitude and emotions
embracing mental fitness as a fundamental part of your personal growth
building emotional resilience through inner peace
5 ways how to evolve your inner self

Letting go is one of the most powerful skills you can develop.

It's your choice whether you want to ruminate on your past and people's actions or surrender and let go.

Since it isn't always the easiest part of your personal growth, I am going to share with you some useful facts and effective ways on how to learn to let go and feel in control of your emotions.

Tune in and learn:

how the inability to let go of your past impacts your identity and how to change it
how to manage your mind and your heart when they are speaking two different languages
why letting go is all about empowering yourself and owning your feelings
6 ways how to learn to let go

Instead of trying to change people and their behavior, it's important to focus your energy on what you can control and that's yourself.

Remember that your power always comes from within.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to share with you some essential steps on how to handle people's actions and behaviors and why quitting the blame game is the best decision you can make.

Tune in and learn:

why working on your inner growth is the first step when it comes to handling people's negative behavior
an unhealthy pattern of blaming others we learn throughout life and how to eliminate it
why being offended is often a choice
how to control your environment and people in it
4 crucial things to keep in mind when you deal with people's negative actions and behaviors

Have you ever thought to yourself: "When I reach this goal, when I meet this person or when I make the X amount of money, then I am going to be happy. "

But once you reached this thing you wholeheartedly believed was going to bring you all the happiness in the world, the feeling wasn't quite there.

You felt more empty then fulfilled.

I get it because I've been there a million times until I understood something.

Happiness isn't in the next destination, goal or a person. Happiness is a state of mind. It is a lifestyle, not a goal. And it always comes from within.

In today's podcast episode, I am going to share with you how and why I wake up every single day happier than ever before, no matter what's happening in my life.

Tune in and learn:

how to get out of the never-ending game of chasing happiness
how to embrace happiness in the present moment, regardless of what you have
how focusing on your future or your past stops you from feeling happy and how to change it
6 powerful ways how to hack happiness and live in the constant state of gratitude

The goal isn't a life without problems.

The goal should be to learn how to cope with difficulties better and see them as stepping stones instead of roadblocks.

Your actions are driven by your emotions so becoming emotionally resilient is one of the most important skills you want to develop.

Tune in and learn:

what is emotional resilience
why you need to get rid of the idea of how life "should" be and accept what is
how developing my emotional resilience changed and improved my life
6 practical ways how to develop emotional resilience

Confession time: I didn't want to admit that I am a feminist.

I thought that being a feminist means being an angry woman who hates men and refuses to wear lipstick.

Then I looked in the mirror while wearing my new "mesmerizing magenta" matte lip gloss, being surrounded by men who I dearly respect while still feeling like a hard-core feminist.

There is a stigma around this word and unfortunately, it's thrown around like confetti and therefore losing its real meaning.

That's why I decided to dedicate this podcast episode to women's empowerment because I love all of you brave girls so much.

Tune in and learn:

the true meaning of feminism and what it truly stands for
how do you recognize gender discrimination and why it's a "real" thing
why I decided to become and eventually admit that I am a feminist
5 golden rules to live by as a woman and never feel bad about it

For the majority of my life, I believed that how I was born is how I am going to die.

I believed that the destiny of my life is predetermined by my background and my financial status and there is nothing I can do about it.

As ridiculous as this sounds right now, this was my belief system until I learned that I am the one to run the show and not the other way around.

Your mind is either your best friend or your worst enemy.

The best part? It is always your choice.

If you want to know how to develop a strong mindset, tune in and learn:

what made the biggest shift in my life and how I changed my thinking
why your mind is the most powerful tool you own
why your mind is protecting you only from short-term pain and how to change it
8 ways how to cultivate a strong mindset and become in control

Your comfort zone is your broke zone.

It breaks you in your finances, relationships, your education and your personal growth.

The problem is that many of us are programmed to think of discomfort negatively when in fact, often being uncomfortable is what helps you to get to the next level in life.

That's why I decided to record this podcast episode where I am going to show you all the benefits and advantages of discomfort and how it can skyrocket your growth.

Tune in and learn:

how to be comfortable by being uncomfortable
how to change a negative outlook on discomfort
the importance of perception on discomfort
the #1 thing you want to train to find comfort in discomfort
5 steps how to effectively deal with discomfort and get the best out it

Your standards define the quality of your life.

The moment you decide to raise them, you'll stop settling for things or people who don't serve you and become more committed to your goals.

Standards are really about what you tolerate and what you are willing to accept.

Because raising my standards helped me in being more committed and self-loving, I decided to put together this podcast episode where I am going to share with you everything I've learned along the way.

Tune in and learn:

the impact of your belief system on your standards
how to make your standards non-negotiable
the #1 thing you need to get clarity on before raising your standards
how do you raise your standards in 4 easy steps
specifics examples of raising your standards in main areas of your life

Making changes feels scary since you're not sure what the outcome will be.

The question many people ask themselves is "What if this new thing or situation will be worse than what I have right now?"

The fear of change is really the fear of loss.

But changes rarely bring any negatives into your life. You either win or you learn. It's always a win-win situation.

The more you invite change into your life, you'll be able to change and adapt quickly. Change is inevitable. You'll either change by choice or by force. It's your call.

In today's podcast episode, I'll be sharing with you some of the best ways how to embrace change.

Tune in and learn:

how to overcome the fear of change
why embracing change is necessary for your personal growth and fulfillment
how the concept of familiar vs. unfamiliar helps with making changes
why avoiding changes impacts your goals and overall success in life
5 ways how to make changes effectively while feeling motivated at the same time

Are you looking for the surest way to happiness?

Ignore social rules and labels.

Don't waste your time proving and explaining and fitting in.

For some people, you'll never be good enough no matter what you do.

And for others, you'll be everything, no matter what you do or who you are.

I believe that this podcast episode is long overdue. If you struggle with criticism and judgment and fear people with closed minds, go ahead and give it a listen.

Here is what you'll learn:
- why being who you are NOT is a waste of time
- the golden rule when it comes to social norms
- what happened when I decided to step out from my shadow and embrace true me
- benefits of living outside the norm
- the best way to break from the norm and live on your terms

1 thing which emerges from conversations with women is that they are scared to take a step forward. They are unsure whether their plan will work out. They fear failure.

Although these feelings are normal, they should never be an excuse to stop and give up.

That's why I always encourage them to take a step back and reflect.

It's important that you use your past successes and accomplishments as a reassurance that you have what it takes to get things you want.

You have the same potential to reach your next goal as you reached your previous one.

Tune into today's podcast episode and learn:

why is important to reflect regularly and how reflection boots up your confidence
an important thing to understand when it comes to your fears and doubts
benefits of reflection
simple step-by-step guide on how to reflect and get the most out this practice

The #1 benefit of being alone is that you get to know YOU which allows you to build a healthy relationship with yourself.

Spending time alone gives you more space to focus on your personal growth and go deep into who you are and what you truly want.

If you struggle with being alone, feel terrified by this idea or simply want to be more independent, today's podcast episode will show you some proven ways on how to feel comfortable with yourself and your thoughts.

Tune in and learn:

aloneness as a tool to level-up your personal growth
why learning to be alone positively impacts the quality of your relationships and your surroundings
benefits of being alone
6 ways how to practice being alone

Do you know what is the difference between people who win over their challenges and people who get consumed by them?

One thing. It's perspective.

The way how you see your story and how you handle challenges will define your entire life to its end.

That's why today's podcast episode is going to be about handling challenges in a way which serves you and teaches you the best lessons.

Tune in and learn:

the most disempowering question you never want to ask yourself while facing a challenge
2 ways how you can build your perspective around challenges
how to become in control of the situation when you are feeling helpless and desperate
6 effective ways how to handle challenges like a pro