what a time: getting you across campus (and beyond) one pep talk at a time: Recent Episodes
Maggie DiPasquale
Entering adulthood is notoriously challenging, but it’s trickier today more than ever. In each episode, Maggie shares a big sister pep talk to help you make sense of life’s changes and challenges, manage anxiety, and move forward in areas that feel stuck. She’s a graduate of Boston College and has her Master’s in Clinical Psychology and Education from Columbia University. Maggie is the author of From Stressed Out to Zenned Out and her work has been featured on Boston’s 103.3 Amp Radio, Teen Vogue, and Yoga Journal. As a wellness coach, consultant, and resource, she has worked with students and organizations across the country and has empowered hundreds of girls to lead happy, healthy lives. www.maggiedipasquale.com
With all the joy that the holidays bring, they can also come with lots of imbalance for students. As a teen mentor, I want to share themes that I see regularly this time of year, so parents can know how to support their kids. I cover tips for going back to school in Jan, navigating college kids back home & what to look out for with mental health challenges, handling hype holidays like feeling pressure to have NYE plans, and working with middle school kids to move through any big feelings before heading back to school!
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Although I'm not big on New Year's resolutions, I do tend to encourage a little reflection at the end of December. Something I've noticed a lot is that a bridge year can get overlooked for all its accomplishments because they typically involve discomfort! In this pep talk, we chat what a bridge year is, how to know if you're in one, and why you should celebrate it!
After many years of mentoring, I'm sharing what I think is the mentorship sweet spot!
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mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
Did you have moments over Thanksgiving break where you felt like your family operated fully without you? Maybe like the didn't need you or that you didn't fit in? You are not alone! In this pep talk, I chat through what the root of feeling like you don't fit in with your family really is and how you can shift out of it!
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Friendship (especially shifts in them) is a huge topic that comes up in my private practice and in this pep talk, we're chatting about going from being friends with someone to being acquaintances because it can be uncomfortable. Listen for my mentor tip around this and trust me when I say you're not alone!
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I always give my students the opportunity to text me in between sessions so they can fill me in on what's going on or get any kind of support if they need it, but I noticed that there was sometimes hesitancy in reaching out. In today's pep talk, I'm sharing a reframe for asking for help that's been really helpful/ make reaching out easier!
podcast mentioned:
how to know whose advice to take
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www.maggiedipasquale.com
Today I'm sharing what I call: The Father of the Bride effect and how it will change your perspective on your teen's behavior. I always share this during my parent talks or parent sessions because it has a huge opportunity for an AHA! moment and to also bring relief to you as a parent. This episode is for you if you feel you're being met with resistance and not being listened to by your teen!
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Been recently ditched? If you said, yes, I'm not surprised. September is a HUGE month for friendship shifts. In this episode, I share why back to school getting left out is common, why it's really big for college freshman, and what you can do about it.
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Have you ever asked a bunch of people what you should do about something then ended up confused OR maybe people just give you unsolicited advice which ends up making you feel unclear. If any of these sound familiar, then this episode is for you. Today, I share a tool for what I use to gage if I should take someone's advice or not. It's helped me out so much and I hope it works for you as well!
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You get the call from your daughter at college that she's upset and you immediately want to swoop in and come up with 10 solutions for whatever issue she's brought up. It's amazing to have ideas for support, but your student might actually need something different. In this pep talk, we chat about the shift from doer to supporter parenting, walk you through a real life example of how this plays out, and why you new role as advisor is so incredibly important.
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If you have a college student leaving for school soon and have been hearing yourself say, "This is our last week (or weekend) as a family," I'm issuing a gentle PSA: the last week as a family is a crazy time! It's okay to just let it be a chaotic, messy, full weekend. Let's deescalate this together and take the pressure off of ourselves
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Do you worry? I do! If you're someone who tends to fear fantasize, this tool is for you. My mentor Erin taught me this and I've been using it with my students ever since. Hope this serves you as much as it's served me.
connect with Erin Rosenblatt
Erin Resilience Healing
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A few weeks ago, I went to the Mayernik Kitchen, a modern day apothecary, in North NJ and left asking herbalist Shannon to be on the podcast! She's so kind and knowledgeable, I wanted her to share her insight on common wellness ailments I hear from my mentees. We talk about what the best plants and herbs are for helping with sleep, anxiety, pms, mood and more. She goes over how to figure out what plant medicine is right for you, what flower essences are, and gives us the details on her morning & evening routines. I also share my favorite herbs and how I use them and we even chat how to clear the energy in a new dorm or apartment. Thank you Shannon for sharing yourself with us!!
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Mayernik Kitchen
Shannon's IG handle
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maggiedipasquqale.com
Do you need to give yourself permission? If you're a people pleaser, this episode could be really helpful for you. In this pep talk, I share my personal relationship with permission right now, walk you through an exercise I'm doing with my students, and chat about what giving our permission really opens up.
mentioned episodes
how to love your body with Meagan Fitzgerald
people pleaser podcast episode
Erin Resilience Healing
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We spend a lot of time figuring out what we need for our dorm rooms and our classes, but we totally overlook the mind, body, soul part of the transition and what items support that! In this pep talk, I share my top four items you need if you're going away to college to help with emotional health.
mentor links:
mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
In today's parent pep talk, we chat a question I get a lot: what should I look out for in terms of warning signs around my college student's mental health. This can be a tricky place because college naturally shifts a lot for students and transition can be dysregulating no matter what. I share my biggest tip around knowing when something is wrong and lend support because this topic is hard!
mentor links:
mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
When body image kept coming up in my private practice this spring, I knew I wanted to bring in an expert and there's no better person than life coach and fitness instructor Meagan Fitzgerald. Let me tell you, Meagan is fun, she keeps things real, and there's no BS as we cover all things body. We chat what our body stories are, shifting out of body struggle, and what Meagan calls the 5 pound swing. She explains what food and body drama are, accepting body change, and the connection between a mom's relationship to her body the impact it has on her daughter. Today's episode will give you many mindset tools to relate to your body more positively. We loved having Meagan on!
Connect with Meagan:
The SET
Resting Bliss Face
IG
TikTok
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Got summer goals? I do. In today's pep talk, I share my 10 minute habit hack that you can apply to any area of your life so that you ACTUALLY see progress.
mentor links:
mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
Got a soon-to-be college freshman? This is THE pep talk for you. I'm sharing what I think every student should do for solid mental wellness support before going away to school. We chat foundational wellness in terms of nervous system regulation, the parent transition to college, and why mentorship becomes even more important the summer before freshman year.
mentor links:
mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
I've had a lot of parent chats in the last couple of weeks and I don't know if it's the end of the school year or college kids coming home from school, but communication has been wonky! In today's pep talk, I'm sharing communication tips including what question to avoid, reframing for more peaceful conversations, and how to reinforce confidence in your kid's ability to make decisions for themselves.
mentor links:
mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
The transition from college back to living at home for the summer is HUGE for both parents and students. If you're finding it bumpy that's totally normal. In this pep talk, we chat about parent/student summer expectations, what I feel parents should keep in mind, and a tip for bringing up tough topics with your young adult child.
mentor links:
mentor membership
my favorite parenting quotes
www.maggiedipasquale.com
parenting coaching
I know that everyone is tired of talking about the pandemic, but I feel like we're only now starting to process what went down… and it was TRAUMATIC. In this pep talk, I explain my "the pandemic made you more of who you already were" theory, the grades I felt had their social emotional health impacted the most, and an exercise for parents to consider when thinking about the wellbeing of your teens.
mentor links:
mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
Do you know what your trauma response is? That sounds heavy, but what I'm really asking is: do you know when you're dysregulated? aka what brings us in and out of emotional wellbeing. In this pep talk, we chat how understanding the nervous system supports mental wellness for college students, the mind/body connection, where drugs and alcohol fit in, and what I'm seeing on college campuses in terms of what's dysregulating students.
mentor links:
mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
Prior the pandemic college campuses had a mental health crisis and in this mini parent pep-talk, I'm chatting one reason college has always been an interesting time for mental health and what self-care for students really means.
mentor links:
mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
Did you know that the 'time is running out' feeling might just be an anxiety response? Typically when you're wrestling with the idea of time you're feeling OOC (the mentor way to saying: Out of Control). In today's pep talk we talk about being out of control, how to move through the feeling of being OOC, and tips for staying present when you feel like time is moving too fast.
mentioned pep talk:
grounding meditation
mentor links:
mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
Have you ever assumed the worst about something or someone and then been proven absolutely wrong? I have and so have my friends and students that's why this is a pep talk today. We are chatting about what assuming the worst is really about, how it totally sucks when someone does this to us, a technique to help all of this, and why text messages are a breeding ground for misunderstanding.
mentioned pep talk:
are you angry or resentful?
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
Something new I've seen over the last few years is the freshman year hunt for the roommate. Instead of getting assigned randomly, students are connecting and finding roommates online, which although has definitive positives, it's also causing stress. In today's pep talk, I'm sharing some tips for handling a roommate search no matter if you're a freshman or post grad!
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
I LOVE an origin story. I deeply appreciate hearing about how someone got to where they're at. I'm always searching for podcasts featuring someone's backstory and in today's pep talk, I share my own mini mentor story. I also give you some homework (not the hard kind) to help you think about your own origin story. Enjoy!
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
Are you mad or are you actually RESENTFUL? This is a question, I've asked my students lately. Resentment is not a word typically brought up by mentees, but it's definitely present! In today's pep talk, we chat about what resentment really is (mind blown), Brene Brown's definition of the emotion, and a trick to knowing when you're resentful and how to move through it.
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
Stack stress is a term I’ve made up to describe what happens when you have a lot going on at once, put caring yourself allll the way at the bottom of your list, then one tiiiiny thing tips everything over. Sound familiar? I bet it does for many! If you’ve ever cried over feeling overwhelmed this is the episode for you. In today’s pep talk, I share 3 things you can do when you feel the pressure of stack stress.
mentioned links:
an easy exercise for shifting stress
all the stress
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
Many of my students have high expectations and end up being super hard on themselves. I recently asked a mentee, "Do you feel like you deserve rest?" and she said, "Only if I've earned it." That resonated big time. In this pep talk, I share the two areas I feel like we need to give ourselves breaks in, thoughts around what brings you energy and what takes it away, and a journal exercise to help you figure out what you need break from.
connect with Maggie:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
online membership
Is there something wrong me? Is this normal? What is going on here? If you're a human on the planet, I bet these have crossed your mind at one point or another and I know it can feel like a scary place to be. In today's pep talk, I answer if I think there's something wrong with you, what I feel coping mechanisms are, and how being sensitive in a harsh world can show up in our lives.
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www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
online membership
My private practice has been the most heavy I ever seen it and with what's going on in the world right now, I wanted to share a technique I've been using in my 1:1 sessions. It takes only 12 minutes and can really transform negative energy. Sending everyone extra love right now.
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www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership
During the pandemic, I noticed that in the absence of transitions (like a commute or grabbing lunch or going to a workout class) how important they are to our mental wellbeing. In today's pep talk, I'm chatting why having a transition from one activity to the next is necessary and how to more mindfully incorporate them into your day.
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www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership
Feel like your teens aren't taking your advice? I got you. In today's pep talk, I share the unlock when it comes to getting your teenagers to heed your guidance, why pulling back from parents is an important part adolescent development, and what you can do to help your kids hear you.
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www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership
Want more from your relationships? This topic comes up in my private practice a lot. What I hear is that students are not cultivating the kind of romantic relationships they really want. Why is this? In this episode we talk about hooking up, what's at the core when we get intimate with someone, and how to shift to make your relationships more fulfilling.
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www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership
Do you find it hard to make decisions? Stay in or go out? What to eat for dinner? What to major in? What sorority to join? Maybe you’re making a big decision like what college to go to. Inspired by life coach Martha Beck, I share a tip to help guide you during any decision big or small. This is an especially important listen for any of the people pleasers out there!
connect with Maggie:
people pleasing pep talk
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership
Last week I felt so blue and if you're from the Northeast, then you know that the winter's can be tough on our mood. I wanted to share the two big things you can do help shift yourself out of feeling down and how to get the right support.
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www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership
Every labor day weekend I get the same call from parents of college freshmen and what they share inspired my favorite mantra for parents: support not solve! In this pep talk, we chat examples of how to implement the mantra, what I feel the role of a parent is, and how all of this relates to doer versus supporter parenting.
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www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership
Feel anxious about Mondays? Get a pit in your stomach about the week ahead? Sunday Scaries are a real thing. Today I'm sharing what I do on Sundays to help make Mondays easier (while also including one thing that I absolutely do not do).
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www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership
Feeling unmotivated lately? This has been a YES for my students so I wanted to talk about it here. Motivation is a super layered topic. In this episode we cover the reasons we can feel unmotivated, why your "why" matters, and practical steps to shift a motivation rut.
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www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership
Thinking about making a big change in your life? Transferring schools? Leaving your job? Changing your relationship status? Those decisions can feel huge and usually start as a whisper almost as if what's in your heart starts to float to your head. In this pep talk, I share what the main thing is to consider when you're making a big move and the number one thing to keep in mind when you're in fear of change.
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www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership
What kind of mom or dad do you want to be? Parent Coach, Mary Van Geffen joins us to share her amazing Thanksgiving Exercise to help you get clear on the kind of family culture you want to create. We also chat about how the exercise uncovers the north star for family decisions, the importance of sharing the results with your teens, and the impact on parents personally as well.
connect with Maggie:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership for college freshmen
connect with Mary:
Http://cyclical-parenting.teachable.com/p/the-compassionate-response-meditation-workshop
Https://maryvangeffen.teachable.com/p/calm-in-chaos
If your hope for your children is to be whole hearted, confident adults this is the pep talk for you. One of the biggest topics I chat with parents about is the transition from doer parenting to supporter parenting. In this episode we chat about the difference between doer and supporter parenting is, why in adolescence we need to shift to supporter, and I share examples of how I sometimes see this play out as a mentor.
mentor links:
mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
I need to be "good" today because I was "bad" yesterday. Ever say that to yourself in terms of eating? In this pep talk, I chat about the impact of labeling things as good/bad, what restriction really ends up doing, and a mentor reframe for letting go of labels.
mentor links:
mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
Sometimes I feel it's easier for students to chat with me, a mentor, versus their parents because of how I receive their stories. The key to having someone open up to you is that they feel safe and unfortunately at times we inadvertently do the opposite to the people we love. In this pep talk, I chat what it means to not match people's energy, how to get someone to open up to you, and what emotional safety can look like in connection.
mentor links:
mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
Do you live in a safe house... like an emotionally safe one? This pep talk is all about creating an emotionally safe household and why it's a big part of helping our kids regulate their nervous systems. It all starts with trust. In this episode we cover a Brene Brown approved definition of what trust is and why it's important in safety.
mentor links:
mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
"Why didn't they tell me that before?" If that question has crossed your mind, this is a pep talk for you. Inspired by (and shared with permission) a student who had a friend lie by omission, I explain why people lie especially by withholding, share a quote from psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy that really illuminates lying motivation, and give a suggestion around what to do if you've been lied to.
mentor links:
mentor membership
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
Parent coach, Mary Van Geffen joins us to explain the distinction between being in charge versus in control and why it's so important when it comes to parenting teens. In this pep talk we chat over-responsibility in parenting, redefining success, and what your teens really need from you. Mary even gives us an example of how this plays out in her own home so you can directly implement in your own life.
connect with Mary
compassionate response meditation workshop
calm in chaos
connect with Maggie
mentor membership
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
Your child comes home from middle/high school upset. Your kid calls you overwhelmed at college. If you're a parent, there's a good chance you've been in these situations at some point and it's painful! You know it's something your kids have to figure out on their own, but you also want to swoop in... then they seem to move on and you're still in all the stress. In this pep talk, I'm sharing what it really means when we get stuck in our kids' stuff, what you can do to help yourself and your kids, and what a regulation ritual looks like.
mentor membership
connect with Maggie:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
Can past events be pulled into the present? Sometimes it's from undealt with feelings. In this episode, I share what the difference between "little t" trauma and "big T" trauma is, how the past shows up in the present, and where unfelt feelings pop up!
mentor membership
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www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
Do you have a big goal, but aren't sure where to start? Feeling stuck in a particular area of life and don't know how to move forward? I've got your back. In this pep talk, I'm sharing a tangible way to accomplish goals that's not as hard as you think!
mentioned links
online membership for college freshmen
habit tracker
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www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
Ever been grumpy or feeling blah and wish you could snap yourself right out of it? Well, today's pep talk is a super easy way to shift your mood. We also go into my favorite Ted Lasso quotes: "believing in rom-communism is about believing that everything is going to work out in the end." And with that, I hope you enjoy this episode!
connect with Maggie:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership for college freshmen
We are joined for today’s pep talk by international parenting coach Mary Van Geffen! After finding herself overwhelmed by her Titanium-Willed Child, Mary became a Simplicity Parenting Counselor® and Professional Co-Active Coach® to help overwhelmed moms with strong-willed or spicy children. Mary has been an epic follow on Instagram and her parent tip-a-day is always packed with so much value. I asked her to be our guest to talk about parenting teens. We chat about the difference between being in charge versus control, how to foster an energy of cooperation that will help your teens hear you, what the real work of parenting is, a script you can use for setting tech boundaries with you kids, and an exercise to get you clear about the kind of family culture you want to create.
connect with Mary:
Http://cyclical-parenting.teachable.com/p/the-compassionate-response-meditation-workshop
Https://maryvangeffen.teachable.com/p/calm-in-chaos
connect with Maggie:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership for college freshmen
It is nearly impossible to see other people's social media and not compare, but it takes on a whole new meaning for college freshmen. In this pep talk, we chat how social media has transformed the college adjustment period and the pressure around enjoying college especially at the beginning.
mentor links: www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership for college freshmen
"Everyone has friends already." "I don't have anyone to hang with." There's an expectation that you get to campus and immediately click, connect, and have a group of friends. For most students, that doesn't happen! In this pep talk, we chat the real timeline of college friendships, stress around picking sophomore year roommates, and why any part college is a great time to meet people (not just freshman year).
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership for college freshmen
"This isn't what I thought it would be. I'm not sure I like college." These are common freshman thoughts! We hear over and over again that college is the. best. time. ever. but for most, it doesn't feel that way right off the bat. Belonging takes time! In this pep talk, we cover the expectations we have surrounding college, what the real reality of being at school is, and how to stay optimistic if you're not loving it yet. Spoiler alert: you're not alone!
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
online membership for college freshmen
Your college student calls you upset saying they're unhappy. You don’t know what to do and now you have a pit in your stomach. Parenting a college kid is a different ball game. In this pep talk, I share how to help your student when they say they don't like school and the shift in parenting that occurs when your goal is to raise an independent, whole hearted young adult.
mentioned links:
3 Reasons Your College Freshman Calls You Upset …and How to Respond to Raise Confident and Capable Young Adults
more mentoring:
parenting coaching
Making friends can be confusing and although I feel really lucky with my friendships now, it wasn’t always the case! In this episode, I share my own friendship story and the tools to create fulfilling relationships.
more mentoring:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring & parenting coaching
online membership
We know what it takes to create physical wellness for ourselves, but what about the mental? If you're someone who runs anxious, stressed, or can find themselves blue, having a solid wellness foundation can be really helpful. In this pep talk, I share two things to do to create a foundation of mental wellness that can help you navigate the ups and downs of life.
mentioned links:
inner practices
pep talk with peri zarrella
pep talk with megan mcdowell
more mentoring:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
online membership
Do you procrastinate? If you feel stressed around all you have to do or are someone who tends to put things off, I've got a mentor tip for you. It's to create what I call an "ick list," and it's exactly what it sounds like. Find out how to make one, what to do with it, and how it can relieve stress like magic.
more mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentorship
mentor membership
Have you ever hung out with people, had a great time, only to wake up with anxiety about what you said or did? If you're someone that replays every stupid thing you did in your head, this episode is for you. I share my major tips for curing an emotional hangover and how to cut yourself slack for being human. All you need is a little mentor support!
more mentoring:
re-entry anxiety is real
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
mentor membership
A lesser known side effect of the holidays is that it can really bring up stuff you've outgrown. It's something I've seen with my students for years. Whether it's coming home from school or the extra downtime winter break brings, the space between what was and what is and what's next can become more apparent. It's been very healing to normalize outgrowing friendships, things you used to like, and even old versions of yourself. In this pep talk, we normalize outgrowing friendships, chat about the uncomfortable time in-between letting go of the old and bringing in the new, and the shame outgrowing can sometimes conjure up.
for more mentoring:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
If you've been on the receiving end of a ghost and feel confused or frustrated, I got you. In this pep talk, I chat about what ghosting really is about, what most of us do when it happens, how being ghosted is actually a good thing, plus a tip to know if you someone is really into you.
mentor membership
connect with Maggie:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parent coaching
Do you have a personal board of advisors? Just like a business has a board of directors to consult on the growth and well-being of a company, a mentor is part of creating an inner circle for your own personal success. In this episode, I chat about why everyone needs a personal cheerleader, why it shouldn't just be your parents and friends, and how mentorship is specifically important if you in high school and college.
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
Re-entry side effects as we come back into the world after the pandemic are a real thing! Would you run 5 miles without any training and expect not to be sore? No! So why are we expecting ourselves not to be impacted after a global event? If you're someone that's been feeling low energy, overthinking after social interactions, and just feeling like it's a little hard to leave your comfort zone, this is the post (ish) pandemic episode for you!
mentioned links:
has covid made us awkward?
how to cure an emotional hangover
mentor links
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
I wanted to record an end of the school year wrap up so today I'm sharing two themes that popped up in my private practice this year more than before. We chat tiktok mental health accounts and what to keep in mind when watching. I also share my thoughts about college students on dating apps.
mentioned links:
mentor minute with megan mcdowell
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
College is a massive life change and in today's episode I share one thing you can do before you ever get to campus to make the transition easier.
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
Transferring schools is a big decision and not something to take lightly! This pep talk shares what you need to know when you consider leaving the school you're at, how making a change is never the end of the world, and why understanding where you're coming from is a huge part of the process.
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
Feeling lonely is a completely human experience, but it can be so difficult! This topic has been floating through my private practice lately so I wanted to share with you here. Today we chat about the difference between being alone and lonely, what you're really looking for when you're lonely, and the ways we miss subtle bids for connection.
mentioned links:
ritualizing your routine: ideas for inner practices
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
There's obvious change that happens in life where you know it's coming like starting or graduating college, but then there’s not-so-obvious big changes like letting go of an old thought pattern or deciding you want something and figuring out how to go after it. We pay a lot of attention to the big changes, but I've found that most change comes from the sum of many subtle shifts. Today's pep talk is not about managing change, but more about when the change you want to see in your life isn't really happening, if you feel stuck, or what to think about when you want something to change.
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
“I’m not good enough.” “I’m not smart enough.” “I can’t do that.” Have you ever said any of those to yourself? The stories we tell ourselves (about ourselves) are incredibly important and believe it or not for many people, a life long story you create about yourself can start during high school. In today’s pep talk, I share some common high school stories that pop up during the college process, how they affect your present, and how to change your story if you don’t love the one you’re telling yourself.
more mentoring:
confidence versus competence
mentor links:
http://maggiedipasquale.com/
1:1 sessions
A year ago I took a walk with my sister and vented about a friend I felt was unkind to me. I went on and on, when she looked at me and said something that changed my mind about the situation. Have you ever had someone be mean to you? Yeah, we've all been there. In today's pep talk, I share what it really means when someone is unkind to you and how this perspective can help you feel better.
mentor links
maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
Ever try to relax and then tell yourself all the things you should be doing instead? I should be studying. I should be doing my laundry. I should be out with friends. This definitely ruins relaxing and I’ve seen it spike during the pandemic when we don’t have clear boundaries between all of our activities. Today’s pep talk, I share a quick tip for get out of the “shoulds” when it comes to downtime.
more mentoring:
stack stress support
productivity pep talk
blursday remedy
ritualizing your routine
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
Stack stress is a term I’ve made up to describe what happens when you have a lot going on at once, put caring yourself allll the way at the bottom of your list, then one tiiiiny thing tips everything over. Sound familiar? I bet it does for many! If you’ve ever cried over feeling overwhelmed this is the episode for you. In today’s pep talk, I share 3 things you can do when you feel the pressure of stack stress.
mentioned links:
an easy exercise for shifting stress
all the stress
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
parenting coaching
Are you waiting to hear back from a college? Hoping to get off a waitlist? Is the unknown stressing you out? College decisions can come with a lot of feelings! Check out this bonus episode for a pep talk on a college acceptance anxiety!
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
“I can’t get motivated.” “I’m not being productive.” Have you felt that lately? There are so many reasons for burnout right now, but one hypothesis I have for a lack of drive is how we view our value. We’re used to measuring success based on productivity, but in a virtual school/work world it looks a lot different and it’s thrown us off. In this pep talk, I chat productivity, the effect of assigning output to our worth, and a mentor shift to help with motivation.
more mentoring:
if every day feels the same
how to take a break
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 sessions
Each day feel the same to you? Everything starting to blur into one? This pandemic problem has come up a lot with my students (and something I feel as well). In today’s pep talk, I share a clip from a chat I gave at the College Women’s Club of Westfield. The blursday blues are real. We are on our devices and Zoom more with less human interaction. What a time! Check out this episode to learn a specific tip to help navigate the burnout of every day feeling exactly the same.
more mentoring:
how to take an effective break
ritualizing your routines
mentor links:
1:1 mentoring
maggiedipasquale.com
Today's pep talk is a clip from my ‘ask me anything’ episode chatting about friendship breakups. It can be really confusing and upsetting when a friendship ends which is why I want to share some comforting mentor insights. It's advice I have found to be true when going through friendships changes. Sending anyone going through a friendship breakup lots of love!
more mentoring:
a pep talk to normalize the outgrowing of things
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
Today's pep talk is a clip from my ‘ask me anything’ episode! Someone submitted: if you could only give one piece of advice to college students what would it be? What I share is something I remind my students of often and even feel it’s most important for upperclassmen to keep in mind! It can be easy to forget the bigger picture when you’re going through your day-to-day and that’s why this little mind shift can have a big impact.
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
Ever have someone ask you how you’re doing and respond, “I’m good. How are you?” without giving it an ounce of thought? When we share what’s really going on with our friends and give space for them to share as well, it creates a deeper connection, which many of us old souls really look for. Today I’m sharing three questions to ask instead of, “how are you?” I love these because they’re clear to the person you're asking (including yourself) that you really care. They’re creative so they make you think and they’re quick! If you’re looking to build a deeper relationship with your friends and yourself, this is a great place to start.
mentioned links:
ritualizing your routine: inner practices for mental wellness
are you an old soul?
the antidote for overwhelm
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
A side effect of the pandemic I didn't expect was how hard it is to not have designated transition times. We used to have built in commutes, walks to class, in-person after school activities and meetings. It takes extra work now to signify the end of one thing and the start of another making a lot of life a blur right now.
During the Q&A portion of a talk I gave recently, a student asked: "How can I take a break?" The question struck me as incredibly important now that our lives are so digital. It reminded me of the tattoo story because what we connect to on our "off time" has become vital now that the pull of our devices is stronger than ever.
In today's pep talk, I share why breaks are important today more than ever, the mindful mentor way to think about taking a pause, and three basic break tips!
mentioned links
- ritualizing your routine
mentor links
- www.maggiedipasquale.com
- 1:1 mentoring
Do you do something every day to honor your inner self?I, for sure, did not in high school and college, but now I rely heavily on them for my overall wellness. After having a hard time sleeping over the summer, I recommitted even more by ritualizing my routine. According to business coach, Erica Keswin: rituals take an everyday habit and turn it magical by giving it meaning. Let me tell you, it's next level. If you want to feel grounded rituals are for you. In this pep talk, we chat about inner practices, how you can transform a routine into a ritual, and tons of mentor tips and tricks to help the healthy habits stick.
mentioned links
Dr. Habib Sadeghi's Purge Emotional Writing
other ideas for inner practices: Maggie's Magic
mentor links
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
What’s the easier question to answer: “What are you good at?” or “What are you bad at?” My guess is the latter. Knowing what you’re good at feels like it should be obvious, but it’s really not! In today’s pep talk, I share why it can be hard to see your good stuff, why it’s important to know your strengths, and a mentor trick for identifying what your gifts are!
mentioned links:
strength identifier worksheet
more mentoring:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
1:1 mentoring
online membership
I've seen a confidence theme lately and it always starts with the same two words: I can't.
I can't apply to that college.
I can't ask that person to hang out.
I can’t apply to that job.
I can’t try out for that group.
Telling ourselves we can’t do something feels protective. No need to take a chance or get rejected, but it's really just holding you back. In today's pep talk, I share a confidence reframe because 99.9999% of the time what’s being described as a competence issue (I’m not good enough. I can’t do it.) is really just a confidence issue.
Mentor Links
www.maggiedipasquale.com
Do you get the winter blues? Have an epic long winter break? Dreading a Covid Winter? I hear you! In today’s pep talk, I share 3 tips to help you navigate liminal space: the time between what was and what’s next. If there’s one thing I know as a mentor, it’s that in-between times can be confusing, uncomfortable, even boring. These tips will help you find comfort and confidence in the unknown.
mentioned links:
- How to Create an Inner Practice Mentor Freebie
- I mentioned my mentor Megan McDowell in the episode. You can listen to her pep talk with me here.
- The journal exercise I do daily: purge emotional writing
mentor links
- for 1:1 sessions with Maggie
- online courses
- website
Feel mentally scattered, disorganized or overwhelmed? My mind felt cluttered until I started doing a monthly goal setting ritual and the secret here is that it also doubles as a productivity hack. When we acknowledge endings and have practices around them, we’re able to move forward with clarity and efficiency. Plus, I’ve done half of the work for you by creating a downloadable worksheet that you can fill out. Originally Published on November 1, 2020
goal setting worksheet
maggiedipasquale.com
Have you ever felt pressure on a holiday like New Year’s Eve or 4th of July to have fun plans? It’s so easy to look at social media, see what people are up to, and compare it to what you’ve got going on. In today’s pep talk, I’m sharing what totally changed my perspective on Holiday FOMO. This is always one of my most popular pep talks because it is so universally felt!
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Want to plan out 2021, but don’t dig resolutions and still feel like you're processing 2020? Same, same, so I’m sharing an exercise to help you work backwards. Imagine you’re looking back on your life from December 31, 2021. What do you see for yourself? Today's pep talk is part creative visualization and part clarity exercise. In order to call in the things we want into our lives, we have to get clear about what it is we're actually looking for and this exercise will help you do exactly that.
new year clarity exercise worksheet download
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Today's pep talk is my first ever "ask me anything" episode! I collected questions from my students, instagram, and FAQ to answer live. We chat all different topics from mentoring, anxiety, friendships, parents, and more. This was one of my most favorite episodes to record!
0:36 - what made you get into this kind of work
- intro episode
1:43 - do you talk to mentors?
- mentor minute with megan mcdowell
- essence energy with peri zarrella
2:59 - what's the difference between mentoring and therapy?
3:45 - if I could only give one piece of advice to college students what would it be?
4:17 - how can I help my anxiety?
- journal exercise
4:54 - how to deal with parents over the winter break
- coming home from college
5:45 - how to handle a friend break up?
- pep to normalize the outgrowing of things
6:56 - what advice do you have for a recent grad looking for a job in this climate?
8:11 - what college did you go to?
8:18 - what do you do in your free time?
8:51 - how long have you been mentoring for?
mentor links
www.maggiedipasquale.com
Over the summer, I started having sleep issues. I'd fall asleep fine, but wake up in the middle of the night worried. Forget about being able to go back to bed. I knew I needed to do some waking hours work to process feelings and that's how I found Dr. Sedeghi's technique.
Even though there's a break for the Thanksgiving holiday coming up, it's still stress season with finals and end of the year projects looming on top of an already wacky year. In today's pep talk, I share a practice to help you move out of worry and overwhelm and into calm and clarity. Bonus: it only takes 12 minutes.
Mentioned
The Clarity Cleanse by Dr. Habib Sedeghi
grounding meditation
acceptance meditation
more mentoring, please!
all the stress podcast episode
1:1 mentorship and more
Do you make yourself very available? Do what everyone else wants to do? Feel bad for saying no? Take responsibility for how other people feel? Are an over-giver? If you said yes to any of these things, you are a people pleaser. It's so easy when you're a sensitive person to try to fulfill the needs of other people in order to have them be happy and like you, but did you know people pleasers are secret control freaks? In today's pep talk, we chat about what people pleasing actually is, a realization that blew my mind, how to overcome over-giving, and how to attract the right relationships.
episode links:
fitting in for old souls
mentor links:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
Any overthinkers out there? This is the pep-talk for you. When there's a lot going on in your mind and the world, grounding is an exercise that centers you for peace and calm. Ever walk into a room to grab something and can't remember what you went in for? Do you lose your keys? Shampoo your hair twice? These are signs of being ungrounded. Sometimes it’s also a response to anxiety. I gave a big talk once that meant a lot to me. I got up to the podium and totally started to panic. I couldn't feel my legs. I felt very untethered; a big sign of being ungrounded. Today’s pep talk is a grounding meditation to center your mind and body and root you into the present moment. This is an important part of my wellness practice.
meditation starts at 1:33
mentor links:
maggiedipasquale.com
Has covid made us socially awkward? The answer is yes. In today’s pep talk, I chat about what social atrophy is, if you can be out of practice hanging out with people, and what you can do about it. When I hear something a few times from my students and friends, I know there’s a theme brewing and that’s exactly what inspired this topic.
more mentoring:
how to cure an emotional hangover
fitting in for old souls
maggiedipasquale.com
Sometimes anxiety can feel like a mystery and the more I study it, the more I see that it's often a perfect storm of many factors. As a sensitive person, I've found myself in anxiety until I started addressing it through a mind, body perspective. It's also how I work in 1:1 sessions with success as well. In today's pep talk, I share 10 things you can do when you feel anxiety starting to creep in. This is my tried and true mind body list. We chat about the difference between stress and anxiety, why anxiety can actually feel productive, and the 10 things you can do when you feel it coming on.
print out of the 10 tips
meditation for feeling your feels:
acceptance meditation
links for building a supportive community
fitting in for old souls
finding your tribe
mentor minute with Megan McDowell
mentor links:
maggiedipasquale.com
Ever been called an old soul?
For me, an old soul is someone who is wise and deep. They’re people who are self-reflective, introspective, and thoughtful about themselves and the world. I find that a lot of old souls can be very empathetic or pick up on the feelings of others, but I'm just going to come out and say it: I think old souls can sometimes have a harder time fitting in. Check out this episode for feeling out if you're an old soul, why it might be harder at first to find your people, and how to make authentic friendships.
mentioned links:
finding your tribe
untamed glennon doyle
more mentoring:
maggiedipasquale.com
instagram.com/maggiedipasquale
Have you ever come home from hanging out with someone or going out on a date and immediately jumped right into your own head?
“Do they like me?”
“Are they going to ask me out for a second date?”
“What do they think of me?”
“Am I going to ever hear from them again?”
"Did I say too much?"
This is one of my favorite topics to mentor on because I’ve had such a profound shift by re-framing dating in the way I’m sharing today.
mentioned links:
maggie's magic: how to oracles to access your intuition
tosha silver outrageous openness
taylor swift invisible strings
essence energy with peri zarrella
peri zarrella website
following along for more mentoring
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Any of these sound familiar? Stop being so hard on yourself. Let it go. Try to stop thinking about it. You're such a perfectionist. I know that this is a very relatable topic because I hold space for lots of young women who put a lot of pressure on themselves (which I do to myself too!). Today I'm sharing two tips you can do when you're beating yourself up to help you get out of the loop and feel more at peace with yourself.
mentioned links:
if you're someone who feels big feelings this podcast episode is for you:
mentor minute with Megan McDowell
more mentoring:
when expectations don't meet reality
follow along for more mentorship:
- maggiedipasquale.com
transcript from the episode
If you want to feel happier, shift your confidence, have better friendships, attract a romantic partner, and improve your body, I have one life tweak you can make that can lead to big shifts. It's all about the small steps on the pep talk podcast today!
Every Sunday I get a little ding on my phone that tells me how much screen time I've had that week and every time I see it I'm pretty horrified... and yet I consistently do nothing about it... until a few weeks ago.
When you're aware of the life happening right in front of you, right in the present moment, right in your present body, you're able to be open for what's meant for you, for what you want, and for what you're calling in.
links mentioned:
- screen time app limit
- the social dilemma
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- maggiedipasquale.com
"What should I do?" I hear this question all the time as a mentor. Confusion can be uncomfortable (not to mention lonely). It's sometimes hard to make sense of life's changes and challenges! In my pep talk today, I share my magic tricks. They're simple ways to use tarot cards, animals, and even spotify as an oracle for life guidance. When you connect to your inner-self, you're able to trust in the unfolding of your life, recognize your path, and move forward in areas that feel stuck.
Jealously has been a sneaky side effect of the pandemic. It's easy to think that someone has it better than you when there are all different levels of school and work opening for fall. Jealously can actually be used in a really positive way if you know what to do with it. Today's pep-talk, I share how a moment of jealously helped me and how you can use it to get what you want in your life.
This bonus meditation comes at the request of a listener. Frustrated? Annoyed? Feel like every day is groundhogs day? Cool. Me too. I'm sharing the meditation I use to help me accept what's happening, move through frustration, and make room for the things I really do want in my life. I use this meditation daily!
The pandemic has turned college admissions upside down. Without SAT/ACT scores, extracurriculars, and with semesters of pass/fail grades, the traditional admissions rubric no longer works. This is a huge opportunity as more weight shifts towards a student's character making essays, interviews, and recommendations essential. In this episode, I share my #1 tip to stand out in college essays and cover letters. Knowing who you are, why you want to be a student at a specific school, and how to articulate it, is now crucial. This is a pandemic shift I am actually excited about!
I know there's so much unknown right now (like what will Fall 2020 look like?) and how uncomfortable uncertainty can be especially for college students and recent grads who are already undergoing major transitions. You don't just have to wait and worry until things get figured out. I actually feel there's a lot of opportunity if you have the right support! In this pep-talk I share the tips that have helped me navigate this time of uncertainty!
Welcome to the podcast Megan McDowell, MSW, LPC, Founder & Chief Visionary Officer of Heartworks, and my mentor! This is a feelings centered episode. If you're someone who worries or has ever been called sensitive... this is for YOU. We talk about moving through hard feelings, why joy can feel like a scary emotion, what happened when a healer wished me 1,000 broken hearts, and much more! Megan is so special to me and I'm grateful to share this conversation.
I'm excited to announce I started a new series interviewing my mentors. These are the people I go to when I need guidance and I thought it could be fun to bring them on here to talk about some of the things I chat about in my sessions. Today's episode is with my friend, intuitive counselor, Peri Zarrella. We talk about essence energy (don’t worry, we explain it), listening to your intuition, and what aligned decisions feel like. I also ask her a ton of questions about trusting yourself. Peri has an epic way of holding space and giving language to things that can be hard define! She also gives me a little essence energy reading too! I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did!
Get in touch with Peri!
https://www.perinormal.org
https://www.instagram.com/perinormal/
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Even though online classes have been reported by my students to be the WORST, they have served the purpose of giving you something to get out of bed for... so what do you do when school ends? I got you. Check out this episode for help on the quarantine routine.
Do you dissect everything when you start talking to someone you’re interested in? Do the beginning stages of getting to know someone feel confusing? With so many ways to communicate (FaceTime, dating apps, Snapchat etc), there’s a lot going on. A question I hear consistently is: how can I tell if someone likes me? In this pep talk, I share the question you really should be asking yourself (2:34), how to feel empowered in dating (3:28), and how I know when someone is into me (5:23).
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www.maggiedipasquale.com
What a wild time to be on planet earth! I keep bouncing from peace to freaked. How about you? There's no right way to feel and in this episode I share mentorship around navigating this unprecedented time. Want more mentoring? Check out my online corona mentorship here: https://maggiedipasquale.com/subscription-plan/
anyone ever tell you about the awkward part of transition, where you've found some stable ground, but just still aren't on the other side of it? well in this episode we talk about it! we also chat happiness, why feeling blah may be a symptom of not having a community, and managing your own expectations of your own growth!
in stress season? today we're talking about five components of managing stress (and why they are actually the first things you throw out the window). I also share the difference between stress and anxiety, how worry can feel productive, and why you need to add things in; not take them out, when you get stressed!
I know I talk a ton about being a college freshman, BUT I mentor lots of girls in their early 20's! In this episode we cover the Three Big Questions you need to answer, how your 20's are a different kind of hard than your teens, and if you're asking yourself, "What the heck am I doing?!" you're on the right track!
College gets the reputation of being tons of fun all the time, but the reality is that it's a series of ups and downs. Today's episode is about self-care in the form of FUN. Levity is the antidote for overwhelm and I'm going to show you how to use it.
mentor link:
www.maggiedipasquale.com
we know we should meditate because it's supposed to be good for us, but how do we actually do it and stick with it? today's episode I share my low bar meditation practice including the songs I use, which is a big part of my whole experience. it's one of my most favorite ways to self-care. if you're someone who needs to stress less, just wants to feel more connected, or loves savasana this is a good episode for you. www.maggiedipasquale.com
Did you know social media is designed to be addicting? Whether you love it or hate it; it's a part of our lives and can have real life impact on mood and confidence. In this episode, I chat about the story you're creating about yourself online, the inauthenticity of the interwebs, and more!
Afraid to go after the things that you want? I get it. Today's episode is all about putting yourself out there. We talk about how not putting yourself out there gets you the result you're afraid of anyway, how to make new friends (including ideas for a hang), and networking vulnerability with the college to corporate crowd.
if you're sitting at college thinking, "this is the best and worst thing ever... " you are right on track. This episode covers the million opposing feelings of being on a college campus, social media and mental wellness, and relating to your parents differently (like figuring what you actually want to share or not). Enjoy the episode!
Anyone have the back-to-school scaries? In this episode, I talk about how anxiety and excitement are two sides of the same coin. We dig deep into how transition is like updating your phone... and what it means to set school year resolutions.
There are a lot of different topics when it comes to dating/relationships so this is an overview of relationships in general! I chat about the vulnerability it takes to be in relationships, share my own vulnerability stories (even though it's hard!), how authenticity plays in, and, of course, the Boston College dating assignment.
Today's pep-talk is on the myth of the freshman 15. My friend Erin says, "If you want to know about a person and how they treat themselves, pay attention to how they feed themselves." There are so many changes that happen in college including how you eat. What if we thought about food relating to self-love? This episode is centered around how we nourish ourselves!