How to Be the Parent Your Child Needs You to Be: Recent Episodes
Jim White
With each episode we explore the issues, challenges and concerns you have as a parent of a teenager.
10 Things you need to stop doing as a parent … And what you should do instead.
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Steps to repair any damage caused by yelling at your child.
- Give yourself grace. We have all been there.
- Raise awareness around the types of events or circumstances that cause you to yell.
- When you start to feel the frustration or anger starting to build, create a pause.
During the pause ask these three questions:
- How can I bring compassion and forgiveness to this situation? Or What do I need to forgive
- What am I grateful for?
- How can I make a difference?
The action that “makes a difference” becomes the replacement for yelling at your child.
Your family enrichment coach,
Jim White
10 Things you need to stop doing as a parent … and what you can do instead. www.familyenrichmentacademy.com
As a parent do you wish your child was more confident? One of the best ways to build confidence in your son or daughter is for them to experience some success. Look for opportunities to let them manage themselves and solve problems. Take on the role of empowerment coach. Parenting from this perspective is a gift to your child, pre teen or teenager.
A change in perspective … changes everything,
Jim White
Family enrichment coach
Inspired by an eleven year old boys handshake, I had to share the story and the message. Never underestimate the power of seeing the greatness in your children, setting high expectations and sharing your belief in them.
Your family enrichment coach,
Jim White
FREE RESOURCE: 10 Questions you should never ask your teenager.
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Last week a great video popped up on my YouTube Feed. It was a video of a little league baseball game. The batter was a six year old girl. In the video, she takes a swing and barely gets the ball off the tee. As she was running to first base she did the unexpected. A beautiful cartwheel. Then without breaking stride she continued on to first base. You can’t watch this without smiling.
This week I am inviting you to follow the lead of this playful six year old girl. Doing the unexpected is a great way to build connection within your family and bring some joy into your relationships. Here are a few ideas to get you thinking.
- Like the little girl … do a cartwheel (Or maybe just a graceful twirl if a cartwheel is a stretch physically) as you walk down an isle at the grocery store.
- Surprise your spouse with breakfast in bed on a Tuesday … just because.
- Just after you have said goodnight to your kids, go back into their rooms and say “Let’s not go to bed yet … let's go get ice cream!
- Write a note to your child (While you are at it write one for your spouse as well) and put it on the mirror in the bathroom or leave it on their pillow.
- Challenge your son to a cannonball contest the next time you are at the pool.
- Have breakfast for dinner.
Get creative. Break old patterns. Stretch your comfort zone.
Remember - A change in perspective … changes everything.
Here is your challenge. At least once over the next week do something unexpected for your spouse and your children.
Your Family Enrichment Coach,
Jim White
FREE RESOURCE: 10 Questions you should never ask your teenager. https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/ In today’s interview Becky Fife, a mother of 7 and cofounder of I Believe In Me, shares her insights around the issues middle school girls face and how we can best support them. During our conversation Becky shares the four Cs as well as their garden analogy. These two strategies provide a great framework for parents with tweens. The mission of I Believe in Me is to provide real tools and habits that strengthen confidence in tween girls! We do this through garden imagery of working, growing and sharing! When girls understand who they are and what they have to offer - they not only become stronger - they strengthen everyone around them! We believe this is the foundation of a happy middle school life. Strong Minds. Strong hearts. Strong Girls. https://www.bloomfully.com/ibelieveinme https://www.bloomfully.com/
Does your teenager ever get anxious before a big test?
Or how about the week or two leading up to the start of a new school year … are they a little on edge? Are they not their usual selves? This was certainly the case for my youngest daughter.
What about the morning of a big presentation in one of their classes? Do they refuse to eat breakfast and complain about an upset stomach?
How about social situations? Does your teenager get really uncomfortable or avoid them?
Truth be told we all experience anxiety at some level. For me back when I was in school one of my biggest fears was being called on in class or a group discussion. I should qualify this. I was good with being called on to answer a question with a specific answer. For example: What is the capital of Indiana ? It was the questions that required me to share my thoughts or opinion that freaked me out. Questions like. What did you think the author was trying to say in this poem? I would feel exposed or vulnerable in these moments.
But now I stand up in front of people and share my ideas and thoughts all of the time. Now I am not going to lie. There are still some nerves before I start a talk. But over the years I have learned strategies for overcoming this fear and more importantly I have developed a new mindset that prevents the anxiety from ever starting in the first place.
This is the stuff I wish someone would have shared with me when I was a teenager.
This is part 1 of a 7 part series - How to help your teenager get beyond their anxiety.
Over the next 7 posts we will start by exploring the different types of anxiety and what causes them. Next, we'll talk about strategies that can help you and your teenager get past anxiety in the moment… when you are feeling it. Then we will wrap up this series with some strategies for preventing anxiety so that you and your teenager can be their absolute best.
Your family enrichment coach,
Jim White
Download the 10 questions you shouldn’t be asking your teenager and the 10 questions you should be asking.
https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/questions
In this episode, you will learn a new strategy for have the important talks on drugs, alcohol and sex. .
A change in perspective… changes everything.
Jim White
Family Enrichment Coach
Download the 10 questions you shouldn’t be asking your teenager and the 10 questions you should be asking.
https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/questions
Late at night your teenager is more likely to open up and talk to you. Try this creative way to take advantage of this fact.
A change in perspective… changes everything.
Jim White
Family Enrichment Coach
Download the 10 questions you shouldn’t be asking your teenager and the 10 questions you should be asking.
https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/questions
Week 3 of our 6 week challenge
Invite your teenager to join you in the challenge and be your accountability partner.
A change in perspective… changes everything.
Jim White
Family Enrichment Coach
Download the 10 questions you shouldn’t be asking your teenager and the 10 questions you should be asking.
https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/questions
Make the shift from control to empower.
4 steps for co-creating a plan for social media with your teenager.
A change in perspective… changes everything.
Jim White
Family Enrichment Coach
Parenting a teenager - Exploring Gratitude
Download the 10 questions you shouldn’t be asking your teenager and the 10 questions you should be asking.
https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/questions
Thanksgiving is a time for gratitude. In this episode I share a creative idea for engaging your teenager on this topic.
A change in perspective… changes everything.
Jim White
Family Enrichment Coach
Download the 10 questions you shouldn’t be asking your teenager and the 10 questions you should be asking.
https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/questions
Week 2 of our 6 week challenge
Make the shift from…
- Complaining
- Blaming
- Justifying
To …
- Forgiveness
- Compassion
- Gratitude
A change in perspective… changes everything.
Jim White
Family Enrichment Coach
Download the 10 questions you shouldn’t be asking your teenager and the 10 questions you should be asking.
https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/questions
Three keys to helping your teenager build confidence.
- Return to safety
- Return to hope
- Return to purpose
Learn more in this episode.
A change in perspective… changes everything.
Jim White
Family Enrichment Coach
Parenting a teenager - 6 Week Challenge
Download the 10 questions you shouldn’t be asking your teenager and the 10 questions you should be asking.
https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/questions
Are you and your teenager up for a 6 week mindset challenge?
We are kicking off the challenge with this episode.
A change in perspective… changes everything.
Jim White Family Enrichment Coach
Download the 10 questions you shouldn’t be asking your teenager and the 10 questions you should be asking.
https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/questions
What are you probably doing that doesn’t help your teenager and what should you be doing instead? Learn the answer in this episode.
A change in perspective… changes everything.
Jim White Family Enrichment Coach
In this episode you will learn about Jim White's journey as a husband and father to six children as well as the connection to a Hero's Two Journeys. Visit https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/ to learn more about our FEA Hero community.