Marriage Unfiltered: Recent Episodes
Jeff and Lisa Carter Bryan and Alissa Field
We are tired of fake people, fake marriages, fake lives. Together, the Fields and the Carters aim to be authentic as we talk about marriage and how it can be hard and the challenges that come with that. We hope to make you a part of our community in walking together toward more authentic and unfiltered lives and marriages. While the hosts of this show serve in the marriage ministry at Stonegate Fellowship in Midland, TX, this Show is not affiliated with Stonegate Fellowship in Midland TX or its marriage ministry.
When you are called to obedience, you will be challenged to be obedient in the most difficult times. God is using that time to cultivate fruit in you, if you notice this, be still and obey. We all need good friends to call us out when they see us struggling to obey. We are grateful to the Fields for walking with us and reminding us what it means to obey. You will be encouraged, challenged, and inspired.
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Type 1 goes to 7 in health and 4 in stress
Type 2 goes to 4 in health and 8 in stress
Type 3 goes to 6 in health and 9 in stress
Type 4 goes to 1 in health and 2 in stress
Type 5 goes to 8 in health and 7 in stress
Type 6 goes to 9 in health and 3 in stress
Type 7 goes to 5 in health and 1 in stress
Type 8 goes to 2 in health and 5 in stress
Type 9 goes to 3 in health and 6 in stress
We can all look to ways God is calling us to be more Christlike by understanding ourselves better and seeking to understand our mates better.
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Further resources:
www.yourenneagramcoach.com
Sleeping at last songs about the enneagram
Enneacast
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This week, Lisa and Jeff go rogue again and hit the road! We traveled all the way to Fort Collins Colorado to interview Lisa's Sister and her husband. Eric and Cassy Reeves are a type 1 and 9 respectively. We would like to say sparks fly in this episode, but it is hard for a type 9 to allow sparks to fly...especially if it involves conflict. We had such a beautiful and insightful conversation with this awesome couple! You will want to listen and share it.
Type 1. Reformer/perfectionist
Type 2. Peacemaker
You can hear more from Eric and occasionally Cassy on their Church's podcast linked below.
The Afterword a Podcast by The Town Church in Fort Collins, Colorado https://open.spotify.com/show/6ExO48oI9XMyh4jSKsQFCK?si=9e2975f02fbd47a1
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Tom and Susan Knittle will just bless you with their insight on marriage after 36 years. Empty nesters, parents of 4 sons, and a couple restored, the Knittles are a 3 and 8. This is a powerful combination and we know you will be challenged and encouraged by this conversation.
Enneagram 3: Successful achiever/ Performer
Enneagram 8: Challenger
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Type 4 is the Romantic Individualist
Type 5 is the Investigative Thinker
This week we bring back a guest couple from our talk about adoption November of 2023, Eric and Holli Kounce. We know you will be challenged and encouraged by this insightful conversation.
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We will dig deeper into numbers 6, 7, and 8 since those numbers are represented by Bryan, Lisa and Jeff. Can you relate to anything we say about a number?
We advise all who use the enneagram to use it as a tool to view through the lens of the Gospel. You can find arguments from all angles, so just pray about what God would ask of you when it comes to using any tool, symbol, teaching, book, etc.
- Loyal Guardian or loyalist (Phobic or counter phobic)
- Entertaining Optimist
- Protective Challenger
- Peaceful Mediator
Resources found at
www.myenneagramcoach.com
www.Enneagramandmarriage.com
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Should Christians use the Enneagram?
Do your own research please! We advise all who use the enneagram to use it as a tool to view through the lens of the Gospel. You can find arguments from all angles, so just pray about what God would ask of you when it comes to using any tool, symbol, teaching, book, etc.
- Moral Perfectionist/Reformer
- Supportive Adviser/Helper
- Successful Achiever
- Romantic Individualist
- Investigative Thinker
Resources found at
www.myenneagramcoach.com
www.Enneagramandmarriage.com
What the Bible says about our unique personalities
- Psalm 139:14 - Embracing Your Uniqueness
"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."
We are wonderfully crafted by God’s hands, each with a unique design and purpose. This verse reminds us to celebrate our individuality and recognize the intricate care God has taken in creating us. Every detail about us is intentional and purposeful. Be encouraged that you are a masterpiece in God's eyes, perfectly made for His plans. [Embrace your uniqueness]with gratitude and confidence. - 1 Corinthians 12:4-6 - Using Your God-Given Gifts
"There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them. There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord. There are different kinds of working, but in all of them and in everyone it is the same God at work.”
God has given each of us unique gifts and talents. These differences are not just by chance but by God’s design to fulfill various roles in His kingdom. When we use our gifts, we reflect God’s creativity and wisdom. Take heart knowing your unique abilities are valuable and essential to God’s work. Use them to serve others and glorify Him. - Jeremiah 1:5 - Your Unique Calling and Purpose
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations."
God has known us and set us apart for His purposes even before we were born. Our uniqueness is part of His divine plan and He has specific roles for us to play in His story. Feel encouraged that you are uniquely chosen and known by God for a special purpose. Trust in His plan for your life. - Ephesians 2:10 - Uniquely Made for Good Works
"For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."
As God’s handiwork, we are designed with intentionality and purpose to do good works. This verse highlights that our creation was not random but purposeful, with good works prepared for us to accomplish. Rejoice in knowing you are created with a divine purpose to fulfill. Step confidently into the good works God has planned for you. - 1 Peter 4:10 - Serving Others with Your Unique Abilities
"Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms."
We are called to use our unique gifts to serve others, being faithful stewards of God’s grace. Our individuality allows us to reach and impact people in ways others cannot. Be encouraged that your unique gifts can [make a difference in the lives of others]. Serve with joy and faithfulness. - Romans 12:6 - Diversity in Gifts
"We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith;"
Each of us is graced with different gifts that reflect God’s creative spirit. This diversity in gifts ensures that all aspects of God’s work are covered. Embrace your unique gifts and use them [confidently] in faith. Your individuality is a crucial part of God’s plan. - Exodus 9:16 - The Significance of Your Unique Purpose
"But I have raised you up for this very purpose, that I might show you my power and that my name might be proclaimed in all the earth."
God raises us up for specific purposes to display His power and proclaim His name. Our unique journeys and experiences are part of how God shows His greatness. Find comfort in knowing your life has a powerful purpose in God’s plan. You are part of something much bigger than yourself. - Matthew 10:30 - God’s Attention to Detail
"And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered."
God knows every detail about us, even the number of hairs on our head. This level of care and attention shows just how precious we are to Him. Rest assured that God cares deeply about every aspect of your life. You are intimately known and loved by Him. - Isaiah 64:8 - Uniquely Shaped by God
"Yet you, Lord, are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand."
As clay in the Potter’s hands, we are carefully and lovingly shaped by God. Each of us is molded uniquely, reflecting [God’s creativity] and purpose. Trust that you are being molded into a unique and beautiful creation by God’s hands. Embrace the process, knowing the outcome is wonderfully made. - Galatians 6:4 - Find Joy in Your Individual Path
"Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else,"
We are encouraged to focus on our own actions and not compare ourselves to others. Our individual paths are unique, and comparison only distracts us from our own journey. Take pride in your individuality and the unique path God has for you. [Celebrate your progress without comparison]. - John 10:3 - Known by Name
"The gatekeeper opens the gate for him, and the sheep listen to his voice. He calls his own sheep by name and leads them out."
God knows us by name and leads us personally. This personal relationship is a testament to our unique value to Him. Feel special knowing that Jesus knows you intimately and calls you by name. [Follow His lead]with confidence. - 1 Samuel 16:7 - Heart Over Appearance
"But the Lord said to Samuel, 'Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.'"
God values our hearts over outward appearances. This verse encourages us to [focus on our inner character], knowing that’s what matters most to God. Be encouraged that God sees and values your heart above all else. Cultivate a heart that honors Him. - Proverbs 5:15 - Embracing Your Own Path
"Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well."
We are called to focus on our own blessings and resources. This verse reminds us to appreciate and nurture what God has uniquely given us. Find joy in the unique blessings and resources God has given you. Cherish and develop your own path. - Luke 12:7 - Valued Beyond Measure
"Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don't be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows."
God values us greatly, knowing even the smallest details about us. This assurance of our worth helps us overcome fear and anxiety. Take courage in knowing you are incredibly valued by God. Your worth is beyond measure in His eyes. - Romans 8:29 - God’s Unique Plan
"For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters."
We are predestined to be conformed to the image of Christ. This transformation is unique for each of us, reflecting God’s design. Be inspired by God’s unique plan to [shape you into the image of His Son]. Embrace the journey of transformation. - 2 Timothy 1:7 - Living Fearlessly
"For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind."_
God equips us with a spirit of power, love and a sound mind. Our unique spirit is a gift from Him to overcome fear and live boldly. Embrace the unique strength and courage God has given you. Live fearlessly and love deeply. - Psalm 119:73 - Purposeful Formation
"Your hands made me and formed me; give me understanding to learn your commands."_
God’s hands have formed us with purpose and intention. We are encouraged to seek understanding and live according to His commands. Seek understanding and embrace the unique way God has made you. Live purposefully in His design. - Jeremiah 29:11 - God’s Unique Plan for Your Future
"For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."_
God’s plans for us are unique and filled with hope. This promise assures us that God’s intentions are for our well-being and future. Take comfort in knowing that [God’s unique plans] for you are for your good and future. Trust in His hopeful plans. - Genesis 1:27 - Your Individuality Reflects God’s Image
"So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them."
We are uniquely created in the image of God. This fundamental truth affirms our inherent value and dignity. Rejoice in your unique reflection of God’s image. Celebrate your divine design. - Philippians 2:13 - God’s Unique Work in You
"For it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose."
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Enneagram The Greek word Ennea means 9 and Gram means points. The picture we often see drawn out is a 9 pointed star as a visual way for us to see each type and their tendencies.
References and resources: Relate Better Enneacast Podcast, Enneagram and Marriage Podcast with Christa Hardin, MA, Becoming Us by Your Enneagram Coach Beth McCord.
Gut Triad: 8 - 9 - 1
Heart: 2 - 3 - 4
Head: 5 - 6 - 7
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John 15
The Vine and the Branches“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. Every branch in me that does not produce fruit he removes, and he prunes every branch that produces fruit so that it will produce more fruit.
What does it mean to you do "Abide"?
What obedience is God calling you to right now?
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The Israelites wandered in the desert because they never could FULLY obey.
God tells us that He will be with us no matter what, but he also tells us to obey His Commands. What happens when we are not fully obedient to the things God commands of us? How does obedience to God apply to marriage?
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We get in trouble when our expectations are:
Unknown-We may not be aware of the expectations we have, but we all have them. Even if we feel we do not, we have expectations about others having expectations.
Unreasonable-Sometimes we feel we would like things a certain way, but just because that is what we expect doesn't mean, it is reasonable.
Unexpressed-How can our spouse possibly know our expectations if we do not voice them.
This week, the Fields and the Carters are both arguing and it all revolves about our expectations, communication about expectations and the lies we believe about our spouse when we do not voice our expectations and our spouse falls short.
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"Faith over Fear" can be one of those sayings that tends to get watered down by people with good intentions. What the Bible says about fear and how to defeat it is more than faith. We spend some time detangling Valentines and judging those of you who claim to hate it. But then we get down to a conversation about fear.
We hope to challenge you to be vulnerable first with God about what your fears are, then with your spouse. How we handle our mate's fears can greatly impact our intimacy with each other.
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Thank you Amber for giving us the idea for this episode. The four of us sit down to discuss ways that we have had to purge in our lives because we did not recognize the need to keep pruning.
John 15:1 - “I am the true vine, and My Father is the vinedresser. Every branch in Me that does not bear fruit, He takes away; and every branch that bears fruit, He prunes it so that it may bear more fruit."
Philippians 3:12 - 114 "Not that I have already obtained it or have already become perfect, but I press on so that I may lay hold of that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus. 13 Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus."
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This week we talked about a lot of things, as usual. But here are the sources for some of the specific things we mentioned.
"The Bible Recap" with Tara-Leigh Cobble. Go to this link to learn more. The Bible Recap
"The Power to Change" by Craig Groeschel. Go to this link to learn more. The Power to Change
Learn more about the movie "The Forge" The Forge Movie
The Quote from CS Lewis.
From a letter to an American woman, 31.7.62
I have a notion that, apart from actual pain, men and women are quite diversely afflicted by illness. To a woman one of the great evils about it is that she can't do things. To a man (or anyway a man like me) the great consolation is the reflection "well, anyway, no-one can now demand that I should do anything." I have often had the fancy that one stage in purgatory might be a great big kitchen in which things are always going wrong - milk boiling over, crockery getting smashed, toast burning, animals stealing. The women have to learn to sit still and mind their own business: the men have to learn to jump up and do something about it. When both sexes have mastered this exercise, they go on to the next.
A clarification written 03.09.62
[this] is simply my lifelong experience - that men are more likely to hand over to others what they ought to do themselves, and women more likely to do themselves what others wish they would leave alone. Hence both sexes must be told "mind your own business" but in two different senses.
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Where are you discontent? What is the remedy to discontentment? Join us as we talk about finding contentment in your marriage and in your life this Holiday season. We will also talk about where Christmas Romance movies are accurate and inaccurate when it comes to real life love stories. We can be reached at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.comOr on Instagram at Marriage_Infiltered_PodcastWe hope to hear from you! Marriage Unfiltered is an independent podcast hosted by The Carters andthe Fields. This podcast is not affiliated with Stonegate Fellowship inMidland, TX
Book: Swipe Right by Levi Lusko
Giving 50/50 adapted from Brene Brown
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More about the miracle at Dunkirk:
https://canonjjohn.com/2017/07/17/national-day-of-prayer-during-dunkirk-1940/
More about Mental Load/Invisible Labor:
https://susanhyatt.co/the-invisible-workload-of-women/
https://therapybrands.com/blog/the-shift-that-never-ends-the-mental-load-of-invisible-work/
https://www.spacestherapyla.com/blog/the-invisible-mental-load-the-unseen-weight-held-by-women
More about communicating Expectations:
Video from the ReEngage Curriculum by Watermark
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When our priorities are out of order, we can see the results in all areas of our life. When we do not communicate priorities with our spouse, we can find ourselves at whits end in our marriage.
This week, we talk about the ways our priorities get out of alignment and how that affects us.
Scripture used this week:
Matthew 6:33
Ephesians 5:25
Proverbs 22:6
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Pride: Puts self first Humility: Puts Spouse first
Phil. 2:3-4 "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Ecclesiastes 2:4-11
The Emptiness of Possessions4 I increased my achievements. I built houses and planted vineyards for myself. 5 I made gardensand parks for myself and planted every kind of fruit tree in them. 6 I constructed reservoirs for myself from which to irrigate a grove of flourishing trees. 7 I acquired male and female servants and had slaves who were born in my house. I also owned livestock—large herds and flocks—more than all who were before me in Jerusalem. 8 I also amassed silver and gold for myself, and the treasure of kings and provinces. I gathered male and female singers for myself, and many concubines, the delights of men. 9 So I became great and surpassed all who were before me in Jerusalem; my wisdom also remained with me. 10 All that my eyes desired, I did not deny them. I did not refuse myself any pleasure, for I took pleasure in all my struggles. This was my reward for all my struggles. 11 When I considered all that I had accomplished and what I had labored to achieve, I found everything to be futile and a pursuit of the wind. There was nothing to be gained under the sun.
Romans 12:3
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Are we tearing our spouse down? What does it look like to champion them? It is really hard to take a turn and choose to speak life into our spouse, but once you gain the courage, you will see God's blessing on your marriage.Marriage Unfiltered is an independent podcast hosted by The Carters andthe Fields. This podcast is not affiliated with Stonegate Fellowship inMidland, TX
We hit it hard with this one. At the cost of offending others, we are to love. What does that look like. How does it affect our marriage when we love those who others deem unlovable? We dive in deep from the very beginning of season 4. SEASON 4?!?!?! How can that be?
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We have taken a little hayatis this summer, but we drop in to share something on our hearts and catch up a little. Can you even ever really change your spouse? What if we said you are focusing on the wrong person? We hope this episode will challenge you to focus on Jesus and trust him with your spouse.
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This episode reveals a lot about the things we are all learning about and how God is growing us. There are lots of things that come along as a distraction or even wrench in the works. Kids, In-laws or midlife crisis. As we enter our mid to late 40's what are we turning to to make us feel like our lives mean something? I know we are all over the map on this one, but we have all grown so much over our years of pressing into our calling and it is cool to hear in this episode.
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Shame is a nasty manipulator. Shame can destroy us, ruin our marriage and break apart our home. What a powerful episode this week! Share it with your friends! Share it on social media! Reach out to us if you would like to further the discussion about preventing and healing from shame.
Jump out of that shame cycle through Christ's forgiveness and live a truly free life!
EMDR= Eye Movement Desensitization and Reproccessing
1 Peter 1:5-8
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The Fields and the Carters are never short on real life examples of what resolving conflict looks like. This week, we will share some powerful tools for communicating effectively and resolving conflict in a healthy way. Take lots of notes and share with your friends.
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Do you talk about expectations? What are the ways expectations lead to arguments?
Expectations that go unmet
Expectations that are not voiced
Expectations That are unreasonable
It is amazing what a difference it makes just to have a conversation about expectations.
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Let's wrap up our talk about sex! We talk this week talking about how we fight for intimacy in our marriage. What is okay in marital sex?Marriage Unfiltered is an independent podcast hosted by The Carters andthe Fields. This podcast is not affiliated with Stonegate Fellowship inMidland, TX
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We will dig into a couple questions from a romantic ice breaker card deck. Where did we learn about sex? What expectations for sex did we have going into marriage? As always, we get real and share what we have learned in this area.
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We will kick this episode off with some of what we do best…real! We planned on recording about sex and one of our couples came to the mics with a real-life conflict that needed a referee. Once we talked through that, we kicked off this month with some talk about sex and its design.
We hope you’ll join us for four straight weeks of intimacy in marriage. What the Church says, what society says, what the Bible says, what gets in the way and what makes it great. As always, we’re not experts…just sharing what we’ve learned along the way.
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We decided to spring board off of a comment Blake made on the last episode. What in your marriage are you viewing as something that is failing to make you happy, when really, it is designed to make you more holy?
This discussion went way into the weeds as the Fields and the Carters work through some miscommunication, understanding each other's love languages and how we still get it wrong. BUT...we are learning and these things are causing us to grow.
We hope you listen and see what really conversation and working through conflict and misunderstanding looks like.
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Even when setting our expectations low, we can still get caught off guard by the unexpected. This conversation will cover the ups and downs and what Blake and Lexy have walked through and what they have learned. You will be blown away by the wisdom from this young couple!
Colossians 1 Paul's conversation about the enemy attacking when the cause is great.
Podcast about Miscarriage "The Joyful Mourning Podcast"
Miscarriage Support Group Anthus Midland
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Trying to make changes can be hard. The struggle to be your best you and have a better marriage can be real. The Carters and Fields sit down and just discuss our struggles with changing and improving. We also discuss how we react when things go awry.
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This episode may or may not have anything helpful in it. We just sit down as friends and share our struggles and hurts. We talk about some very vulnerable things including marital sex. Take this as your warning.
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Our story is messy, but it doesn't keep us from being used or receiving the blessing God has for us.
Where do you turn when you feel unloved? What do you do when you feel you aren't getting what you deserve?
We talk about Jacob and all the crazy ways he tried to manipulate his way into what he wanted. God Still Used Him!
Gen 25-35
Podcasts we reference:
Elevation with Steven Furtick "The Blessing of Letting Go"
Disrupted Faith Podcast "Jacob was Kinda Trash"
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James 1:27
According to the US Adoption Statistics:
391,000 Children are in foster care. 114,000 foster care children are eligible for adoption.
115,343 Children are adopted each year
1 out of 25 families with children have adopted
115,343 children are adopted each year
- 58% of children spend 2-5 years in the foster care system
- 11% spend over 5 years
8 yrs is the average age of a child waiting in foster
REFERENCES
Administration for Children and Famlies, The Adoption Hatory Project, Department of Health S
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Judges 6-7
Do you trust God when He calls you to something that seems impossible? The Fields and the Carters chose to fight a battle for their marriages when it seemed impossible. What can we learn from the story of Gideon? When a battle is won, only God can receive the glory. He will make it known that it is only Him who can receive the credit.
What do you need to lay down in obedience?
What is God calling you to? Do you believe it is really God?
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WOW! Have we got a powerful interview for you! October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. We decided to sit down with D and Jen Johnson to hear their story about walking through the diagnosis of Breast Cancer. You don't want to miss this one! We learned so much more than just what their journey looked like. We learned about how to walk with someone you know who has been diagnosed. We learned about what to do and say and what not to do or say. Share this episode with everyone you know, married or not. We all need to know how to walk with someone who is hurting.Marriage Unfiltered is an independent podcast hosted by The Carters andthe Fields. This podcast is not affiliated with Stonegate Fellowship inMidland, TX
What exactly does it look like to hear from God? When we remove distractions and pay attention we can hear what God is telling us and what He is asking us to. When we respond in obedience, we cannot limit the ways God wants to use us and bless us.
We will finish this discussion with powerful stories about encounters with God. We talk about the spiritual realm and what that looks like.
As always, we recognize our lack of theological training. We just read God's word and do our best to apply it to our marriages. Most importantly, we are open to hearing from God and what He is calling us to.
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Prov. 16:3, Prov. 16:9
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This week, we talk about mercy, obedience and second chances. We get on such a role about obedience and hearing from God, we decided to make this a two-part episode.
Remember, we do not claim to be theologians. These are candid conversations about what we believe we have heard from God through His Scriptures.
We will hear Bryan and Alissa's story of redemption in their marriage and how Mercy and Obedience played a part.
We will briefly breeze through the book of Jonah and reference a few other verses that talk about obedience and God's pursuit of His people.
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John Marc Kohl "Desert Places" is the song we reference...it is amazing!
Thank you to Jen Johnson, Samantha Saville and Kenedi Carter for joining us in a powerful discussion about masculinity and leadership. We will also follow up with Brody Field with a few more questions from the ladies.
What does masculinity look like to you? What did you expect in a spiritual leader? Where did you get your views on these things? We will all share our view and how expectations have gotten in the way.
We hope you will share this episode with anyone who wants to learn a little more about what Spiritual leadership is.
If you missed the Men's perspective on this topic, go back and listen to S2. ep 26
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Thank you to D Johnson, Bradley Saville and Brody Field for sharing on this week's episode.
Dr. John Gottman did a lot of research to determine some of the ways we can damage our relationships by making withdrawals. The four of us talk about how subtle it can be to make a withdrawal and what it takes to make up for a withdrawal. We also talk about examples in our own marriages of what affect these withdrawals can have. Check out Dr. Gottman's research and tools on his website. https://www.gottman.com
Top 10 most common emotional needs:
Admiration
___Affection
___Domestic Support
___Family Commitment
___Financial Support
___Honesty and Openness
___Intimate Conversation
___Physical Attentiveness
___Physical Intimacy
___Recreational Companionship
You can go to this link to complete an assessment. EMOTIONAL NEEDS ASSESSMENT WARNING: Do not use the assessment as a weapon. Use it to have honest communication about your needs.
John Gottman Love Bank Video
Parenting looks different in each home. We know that everyone has different challenges thrown their way when it comes to raising kids. On this episode, we just share what we have learned. Some things we learned the hard way, but that is the best way to learn.
Resources mentioned:
Growing Kids God's Way
Parenting With Love and Logic
Scripture:
Deuteronomy 21:18-21 (this one really no longer applies, but it makes a great threat :) )
Deuteronomy 6:6-7
Ephesians 6:4
Col 3:13
Psalm 133:1
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What impact do Anxiety and Depression have on a marriage? We hope you will enjoy our interview with the Saville's this week.
Scripture: Lamentations 3:19-25
Books:
Try Softerby Aundi Kobler
Healing Anxiety and Depression by Daniel G. Amen, M.D.
Podcasts:
"Therapy and Theology"
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Books we reference
"New Morning Mercies" Paul David Tripp
"Take back your Life" Levi Lusko
"The Circle Maker" Mark Batterson
"Jesus Calling" Sarah Young
"The One Year Chronological Bible reading plan"
In this week's episode, we talk about our recent experience with fasting, cold plunges, and supporting those who are doing those dumb things.
We need to care for ourselves completely. This means first our spirit, our walk with the Lord. Then mental and physical health must come alongside so we can honor God with our mind and our body as well.
Verses:
About training for Godliness: 1 Timothy 4:8
About Fixing our Minds on what is Good: Philippians 4:8
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In case the Carters and The Fields didn't get vulnerable enough last week, we dig deeper into the fears we are experiencing. This week we bring a lot of Truth and Scripture into the discussion about what God has done Historically through people in their fear and what He can do in you when you are afraid. Are you living life in a way that you can risk everything because you fully trust God?
Scripture from this episode. 1 Samuel 17
Psalms 37:23-24
Proverbs 6:9
Other resources we mention:
The Pour Over a simple, true news source with some Biblical encouragement for how to handle the news. Click the title to see
Facing Giants by Malcom Gladwell
Made For This the Jenny Allen Podcast about Fear and Risk
We faced some trials and struggles over the break, but we also got attacked by some fear and worry. The Fields and The Carters will open up about what has come flying at us in terms of fear, trials, loss, and victory. Through it all, we share what God is teaching us in these times.
Scriptures share in this episode: Psalms 37:23-24, Proverbs 6:9
We are going to do some research and will come back in our next episode to share more about fear and living boldly and courageously.
The fourth week of Advent focuses on "Love". The ultimate display of Love is celebrated this time of year. We discuss the importance of God showing His love for us by sending His Son. 1 John 4:9, John 3:16, Ephesians 1:4-6, Galatians 4:5-7, Zephaniah 3:14-17
Lest we keep it too serious, we get a little nuts with some Christmas Music and Holiday Movie Scenes. You will soon want to forget Jeff and Lisa's attempt at reenacting their favorite Holiday scene from a movie.
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Where do you look to find peace? What ultimately brings joy? He hope this episode helps point you to a peaceful Christmas full of the Joy of Christ.
This week, we will begin a discussion about Advent. Weeks 1&2 will be about Faith and Hope. How are these two different? How are they the same? The Fields and the Carters will discuss what Hope and Faith have meant in their marriages. We also throw in some fun discussion about Christmas traditions, games, and plans. Join us next week when we wrap up this discussion.
Scripture From This episode:
Hebrews 6
Hebrews 11:1
Romans 15:13
If you want to hear us talk about expectations from the first season, go back to season 1 ep. 4
Have you shared expectations and been disappointed? Have you failed to share expectations and just hoped your spouse would know? Whew...then we're not alone. And neither are you.
We are here to prove there is no "arriving". We are not experts, we are just sharing our own struggles and the tools we use to work through the struggles. We hope we can help you in some small way. We would love to hear from you.
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When you put your issues out there, you need to prepare for attacks from the enemy. Lisa shares a little about what has gone down since she shared her heart about healing and dealing with family. Bryan admits to some similar reactions when he goes to his family's house. We hope this episode shows you that you are not alone when it comes to pressure with your family. We may share some challenges when it comes to handling these pressures. We hope to hear from you about your family at the holidays and what you may have learned from this episode. Share with us some wins from this season.
We also talk a little about Thanksgiving. We have some cooking discussions, but again, we are not claiming to be professionals.
PS. Lisa was right...the brand is Instant Pot
When we don't agree about something, we can quickly invalidate the other's feelings. Each of us discuss an event from the past week where we could have ended up in a very hurtful blowup. When we see our mate's feelings for what they are, we can choose to fight for their heart. We also dive into what family and holidays can do to add pressure to our relationship. We need to choose each other despite what our extended family pressures us to do. Give us grace as we try to figure out moving into new phases of life and how to deal with parents, family, in-laws and boundaries.
The book we reference is called "Good Boundaries and Goodbyes" by Lysa Terkeurst We hope to dive into this topic deeper soon.
Join us soon as we look into boundaries and talk about those in the future.
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Where to even begin on this one...
We hope you will go back and listen to any episodes you missed. Share any questions and feedback you have from any of the episodes. Ask Bryan for more tips about beard growth. Get Jeff to talk politics. All this and more at your fingertips...just ask. Hit us up at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.com or Instagram @Marriage_Unfiltered_podcast
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This week we interview Zac and Kelley Hall. You don't want to miss their story. We share parenting woes, marriage struggles, loss, victory and healing. Join us as we talk about what it looks like to voice non-negotiables. What IF the threat is challenged. Some special bonus mommy tips from Kelley included. #momtrick
We would love to hear your questions and topic suggestions.
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Does "fake it till you make it" really work? What a debate we had on this one. What does that mean and can it change you? What it does "apple stapling" mean? You can't just replace the rotten apples and expect a healthy tree. All this and more as we challenge each other and especially Jeff.
"Apple Stapling" comes from "Marriage" a book by Paul David Tripp
This concept is actually found in scripture. Luke 6:43-45
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This felt a little like a venting session about how difficult parenting can be, but turns out we have a lot to learn from the challenges our kids face too. We have to experience the refining process to really learn and change. If our motives are to just make some surface change or behavior modification, lasting change doesn't really occur.
What happens when we just try to do things on our own or our way? Sometimes God allows us to face a challenge to get us to slow down and rely on Him.
"Worshiping the Creation over the Creator" - New Morning Mercies - Paul Tripp
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We are clearly not theologians. Listen in as we debate what Jesus did and didn't do out of anger, what type of anger is okay and when is anger a sin. We also debate how some types of worship can make us uncomfortable and the negatives about social media. Please let us know if you have comments about this debate. Instagram at marriage_unfiltered_podcast. email at marriage unfiltered@yahoo.com
Scriptures referenced:
"If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that."Luke 6:32-33, "
In your anger do not sin." Ephesians. 4:26
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Episodes we revisit
S1 Ep.1 Who we are and Why Unfiltered
S1 Ep. 9&10 Unfiltered Love Languages & Unfiltered Digger Deep Into Love Languages
S1 Ep. 12 Unfiltered Love and Respect
S1 Ep. 14 Unfiltered Forgiveness
S1 Ep. 24 Unfiltered Selfless Love
S1 Ep. 25 Unfiltered Accountablity
S1 Ep. 27 Unfiltered Battle
Scripture Ref. The Sower and The Soil Matthew 13:1-9
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Eric and Teresa Villanueva have been married 22 years, but they almost called it 3 years ago. Their story of hope and restoration is one that will inspire any marriage that feels like there is no hope.
Eric joined us before on the "bro-cast" aka "Unfiltered Warrior" episode 22
Books mentioned on this episode: "Wild at Heart" by John Eldredge, "Captivating" by Stasi and John Eldredge, "The Power of a Praying Wife" and "Power of a Praying Husband" by Stormie OMartian
The verse Alissa was trying to think of is Hebrews 11:6 “It is impossible to please God without faith. Anyone who wants to come to him must believe that God exists and that he rewards those who sincerely seek him. . . ”
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Why do we turn to control? Listen this week as Lisa and Alissa break down where the desire to turn to control comes from. Then where they have learned to go when they are being controlled by the lie of control.
"Fallen Eve" is taken from the book "Captivating" by Stasi Elderedge
"The Cost of Control" by Sharon Hodde Miller
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In our last episode, you hear all about the impact of broken trust in the Carter Marriage. This week, the Fields open up about knowing the real truth and how that helped them survive broken trust in their relationship.
Here are some scriptures that you can look up on the topic of Truth and Trust:
The Belt of Truth as a part of the Armor of God: Ephesians 6:13-20
Trusting God: Proverbs 3:5, Philippians 4:6-7, Romans 8:28, Luke 6:10, Psalms 27:14, 56:3-4, 118:8, Matthew 6:33-34, Hebrews 11:1, Isaiah 12:2, 26:4, 40:10, 40:31, Exodus 14:14, Hebrews 13:6
Being Honest: Proverbs 6:17, 12:17-22, 21:6, Luke 6:31, Psalms 15:2, 52:3, Ephesians 4:25, 1 John 3:18
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Notes were basically thrown out the window for this one, but you will still want to pay close attention to what a powerful conversation this one is. Join us next week for part 2.
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Thank you to Paul Tripp Ministries for this list of what Love is according to what Christ asks of us. We hope you will be challenged and inspired.
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Love is being willing to have your life complicated by the needs and struggles of your husband or wife without impatience or anger.
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Love is actively fighting the temptation to be critical and judgmental toward your spouse, while looking for ways to encourage and praise.
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Love is the daily commitment to resist the needless moments of conflict that come from pointing out and responding to minor offenses.
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Love is being lovingly honest and humbly approachable in times of misunderstanding, and being more committed to unity and love than you are to winning, accusing, or being right.
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Love is a daily commitment to admit your sin, weakness, and failure and to resist the temptation to offer an excuse or shift the blame.
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Love means being willing, when confronted by your spouse, to examine your heart rather than rising to your defense or shifting the focus.
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Love is a daily commitment to grow in love so that the love you offer to your husband or wife is increasingly selfless, mature, and patient.
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Love is being unwilling to do what is wrong when you have been wronged but to look for concrete and specific ways to overcome evil with good.
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Love is being a good student of your spouse, looking for his physical, emotional, and spiritual needs so that in some way you can remove the burden, support him as he carries it, or encourage him along the way.
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Love means being willing to invest the time necessary to discuss, examine, and understand the problems that you face as a couple, staying on task until the problem is removed or you have agreed upon a strategy of response.
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Love is always being willing to ask for forgiveness and always being committed to grant forgiveness when it is requested.
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Love is recognizing the high value of trust in a marriage and being faithful to your promises and true to your word.
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Love is speaking kindly and gently, even in moments of disagreement, refusing to attack your spouse’s character or assault his or her intelligence.
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Love is being unwilling to flatter, lie, manipulate, or deceive in any way in order to co-opt your spouse into giving you what you want or doing something your way. (continued on next page)
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Love is being unwilling to ask your spouse to be the source of your identity, meaning and purpose, or inner sense of well-being, while refusing to be the source of his or hers.
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Love is the willingness to have less free time, less sleep, and a busier schedule in order to be faithful to what God has called you to be and to do as a husband or a wife.
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Love is a commitment to say no to selfish instincts and to do everything that is within your ability to promote real unity, functional understanding, and active love in your marriage.
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Love is staying faithful to your commitment to treat your spouse with appreciation, respect, and grace, even in moments when he or she doesn’t seem to deserve it or is unwilling to reciprocate.
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Love is the willingness to make regular and costly sacrifices for the sake of your marriage without asking anything in return or using your sacrifices to place your spouse in your debt.
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Love is being unwilling to make any personal decision or choice that would harm your marriage, hurt your husband or wife, or weaken the bond of trust between you.
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Love is refusing to be self-focused or demanding but instead looking for specific ways to serve, support, and encourage, even when you are busy or tired.
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Love is daily admitting to yourself, your spouse, and God that you are not able to love this way without God’s protecting, providing, forgiving, rescuing, and delivering grace.
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We reconfigured our mic setup, so bare with us as we try to have a conversation without hitting the mounts. We talk about what we have been up to this summer and what we are planning for the fall.
Kenedi's Cakes can be seen on instagram at kks_bakery_
Other names we drop and products, shows or places we mention:
Kalahari Resort
Tour de France
Hiit4fit
HotWorx
Orange Theory
Orange Leaf
Survivor
Amazing Race
Big Brother
Netflix
The Chosen
Peeky Blinders
Virgin River
Dream Home Makeover
Fear Factor
Jacobe Kendrick
Patrick Payton
Ariel Learm
Go to our Instagram page for all the hashtags and lots of photos.
We don't really have resources for this episodes. Much of it, we just pulled it out of nowhere...big surprise. LOL!
We are taking the summer off. (we are not sure what that means), but take this time to re-listen to some you missed or some of your favorites.
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God has equipped us to battle against the evil in this world. He has given us an armor, which includes the sword of the Spirit. This is God's Word. We used our "sword" this week by using all of the following scriptures:
Ezekiel 28:12-19, Revelations 12:7-12, Revelations 12:4, 1 Peter 5:8, Daniel 10, Job, Ephesians 6:10-13, James 1:5, Matthew 6:5, James 1:2
Here is a prayer you can use to start each day putting on the Armor of God:
PRAYING THE ARMOR OF GOD: Ephesians 6: 13-18 Thank you, Father, for this armor you have given me. I pray for the desire to stand against the darkness and fight today.
BELT OF TRUTH: The belt of truth is the base that all other pieces connect to and are strengthened by. This belt is my integrity, my foundation, my center of gravity and my guide that holds my faith and everything else. Because I choose to live in His truth, no matter what the enemy throws at me, I can stand firm in Christ. Today I fight the lies against my body, my character and my desires.
BREASTPLATE OF RIGHTEOUSNESS: Now that I have my belt of truth buc kled firmly around my waist, in humility, I attach the breastplate of righteousness. This means that I choose to have righteous thoughts, words, and actions. This protects my heart against the enemy’s arrows of temptation. I choose today to believe your truth instead of my feelings. My heart determines the course of my life, so please protect it today. (Prov 4:23)
SHOES OF THE GOSPEL OF PEACE: I step into the shoes of the gospel of peace. I realize this peace is found through you alone, so I thank you and walk boldly today, knowing you are with me. I choose to be vulnerable and share the great works you have done in my life everywhere I go. Even when things are tough, I can have a peace that surpasses all understanding. (Phil 4:7)
HELMET OF SALVATION: I am secure by the covering of salvation. This is a free, precious gift from you! I am sealed and deemed holy by the blood of Jesus. So today, I put on my helmet of salvation and I reject the lies that wage war against my min d. I will fix my thoughts on what is true, honorable, right, pure, lovely and admirable. In Jesus’ name, I silence all voices speaking to me except the voice of Jesus. Please protect my mind f rom the things that have no place being there. (Phil 4:8)
SHIELD OF FAITH: I am powerless without you, Lord, but I can do everything through you. By your spirit, I lift up my shield of faith. With you, I am capable of extinguishing all the flaming arrows of evil. Your word says you will equip me to do your will so I’m going to step out in faith and obey. Today I fight against th e constant assault of hurt, betrayal, abandonment and discouragement. (Hebrews 13:21)
SWORD OF THE SPIRIT: I protect myself with the other pieces, but with the sword of the spirit, God’s word, I fight. The Word of God is my off ense, and it is sharper than any two-edged sword. It penetrates soul and spirit. By the power of my Father, I am able! I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Today I choose to believe The Word over the world. I trust in you, Lord; I say, YOU are my God. (Phil 4:13) (Psalm 31:14) God is my commander in chief who has provided me with His heavenly weapons of war. So, I stand armed and ready, knowing the battle is not against flesh and blood but against the rulers and powers and authorities in this dark world, and the spiritual forces in the heavenly realms. (Eph 6:12) Father, your word says, “Do not be dismayed or discouraged, for the battle is notmine, but Yours!” (2 Chronicles 20:15) Every day, I will suit up an d put on the armor ofGod, and then let YOU fight for me.
All the wrong songs: We looked and found the actual songs we were trying to sing.
Money..."its a gas" Money by Pink Floyd played on Dave Ramsey
Sunny by Bonnie M
Blinded by the light..."Revved up like a deuce" Blinded by the light by Manfred Mann's Earth Band
Resources:
John Eldredge Podcast
Paul David Tripp Get out of Debt
Statistics from Renolon.com
Scripture:
Ephesians 4:28, Luke 14:25, Malachi 3:10, Matthew 6:26-34, Matthew 25:23
Additional resources we didn't get to:
The Money Couple
Dave Ramsey
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The Good Girls Guide to Great Sex by Sheila Wray Gregoire
The Good Guys Guide to Great Sex by Keith Ronald Gregoire and Sheila Wray Gregoire
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This week, we will get really raw about the little decisions that make our marriage rich and worth fighting for. We will also talk about the decisions that slowly deteriorate and eat away at our marriage.
Books:
Marriage by Paul David Tripp
Love Like That by Les Perrott
Love and War by John and Stasi Eldredge.
What Did You Expect by Paul David Tripp
What decisions can you be in charge of today?
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We will dig into why Divorce is so painful. We will also talk about the way it has been talked about and handled among Christ followers. Can you get a divorce and still go to Heaven? Can you be remarried and still be used to further God's Kingdom. We take a stab at using scripture to answer these questions.
We also talk about when you SHOULD at least separate. And, when you have no control over your spouse's decision to break the covenant of your marriage and divorce is presented to you.
What is the difference between Covenant and Contract? Why does this matter?
What does it look like to have open doors of escape in your marriage and how do you close those doors?
5 reasons the Enemy wants your marriage to fail: buildyourmarriage.org
Welcome Eric Villanueva. Eric joins the guys as they get vulnerable about how they have hidden and "posed". They talk real about their struggles and how they learned to fight to become a warrior and still have to fight today.
Ref. Scriptures:
Ephesians 6:13-17 (Putting on the Armor of God)
2 Kings 6:16 (God reveals the army)
2 Corinthians 4:4 (unbelievers will be blinded)
Book:
Wild at Heart - John Eldredge
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This week we address some questions from a listener. We suggest some resources such as Love and War, Wild at Heart, and Epic all written by John Eldredge and Stasi Eldredge.
Also, listen to Lisa guest appear on Enneagram and Marriage Podcast. She shares about Love language here
Listen to her interview about Forgiveness here
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Jeff and Lisa Carter share about where their marriage nearly fell apart and what kept it together. Let's talk about what it looks like to fight through the really hard things and the rewards when you can see you have made it through.
There are times in our lives when we are tempted to shy away from relationships for various reasons. In episode 18, we challenge you to press in. The Holy Spirit is prompting you for a reason, but the enemy wants to keep you from authentic relationship for a reason. Open your eyes to those opportunities, be bold and make that phone call or shoot a text to the person or couple you feel you would like to make a connection with. This can lead to amazing things...just ask the Carters and the Fields.
If you think your secret use of pornography isn't hurting anyone as long as nobody knows, you are dead wrong! If you want to talk to someone about healing and walking out of the abuse or addiction to pornography, contact us at marriageunfiltered@yahoo.com. Or message us on Instagram at Marriage Unfiltered Podcast
We did some research...well, Alissa did because Lisa was getting grossed out. Here is what she found relating to the optic nerve and make genitals. There is no nerve directly from eyes to penis. The thalamus is a subdivision of the brain that relays sensory impulses to other parts of the body. So, the thalamus receives input from the retina, which is relayed to the brain via the optic nerve.
You can view the addiction cycle here. Addiction Cycle
How did you learn about sex?
How do you talk to your children about sex?
What gets in the way of sex?
What does the Bible say about sex?
How does the church handle the topic of sex?
We have tried to avoid this topic, but we finally go there. We get real about sex, purity culture, sex drive, pornography, kids and everything that gets in the way of satisfying sex life in marriage. Give us some grace in this one, but also learn from what we have done wrong.
A Chicken's Guide to Talking Turkey with Your Kids About Sex
Take some note everyone. Learn about romancing your spouse, but more than that, learn about removing the pressure for your spouse to romance you!
Matthew 18:21-22
Then Peter approached him and asked, “Lord, how many times must I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? As many as seven times?” “I tell you, not as many as seven,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven.”
"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.
Lewis B. Smedes
Forgiveness is:
Giving up the right to get even
Acceptance
Forbearing
Forgiveness is not:
Letting someone off the hook.
Restoration of trust…trust is re-earned and re-built over time.
Automatic reconciliation.
Forgetting the offense.
A feeling…we can’t wait till we feel like it.
A response to an apology. We forgive because we have been forgiven. You may never get an apology.
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Bible Verses about bitterness
Ephesians 4:31
Hebrews 12:14-15
Verses about Fruits of the Spirit and Fruits of the flesh
Galatians 5:19-23
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Love and Respect Book by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
Acronym for loving and respecting your spouse:
Acronym for making your wife feel loved: "Couple"
C. Closeness
•hold her hand
•hug her
•be affectionate without sexual intentions
O. Openness
•share your feelings
•tell her about your day and challenges
•talk without harshness, guardedness or
grunting
U. Understanding
•listen to her (know when to give advice and
when to not solve)
•repeat back what she said so she knows
you're listening to her
•express appreciation for her contribution and
roles
P. Peacemaking
•admit when you are wrong and apologize
•keep the relationship up to date, resolve the
unresolved, don't say "forget it"
•pray together after a hurtful time
L. Loyalty
•don't look at other women
•speak only positive things about her in front
of others
•do not bring up the "D" word (divorce)
E. Esteem
•verbally support and honor her in front of the
children
•praise her for what she does for you
•value her opinion
Acronym for Respecting your Husband: "Chairs"
Acronym for making your husband feel respect:
C. Conquest
•thank him for working every day for the
family
•cheer his success
•ask him about his dreams
H. Hierarchy
•show him how you appreciate how he cares
for you
•tell him you are touched by his willingness to
die for you
•praise his commitment to provide
A. Authority
•tell him he's strong
•praise his good deeds
•honor his authority in front of the kids
I. Insight
•thank him for his advice and knowledge
•let him fix things and applaud his solutions
•tell him upfront when you need "an ear" to
listen and not a solution
R. Relationship
•tell him you like him
•do recreational activities with him, or cheer
for him as he does them
•encourage alone time for him
S. Sexuality
•initiate periodically
•respond more often
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We have a lot of notes in case you missed anything.
Who Satan was: Ezekiel 28:12-15
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Spoken word video: New Name - Hannah Wong of Hosanna Poetry Watch Here
Scripture references with truth about who we are:
Ephesians 1:3
1 Thes. 5:23
Eph. 1:4-7
1 Peter 2:9
Ps. 91:4
Phil. 4:19
Is. 43:1-4
Matt. 18:10
John 15:15
Eph. 2:10
2 Cor. 5:17
1 Thes. 1:4
1 Cor. 6:19
Acts 1:8
Gal. 3:26
Rom. 5:8
John 8:36
Praying the Armor of God
Ephesians 6: 13-18
Thank you, Father, for this armor you have given me. I pray for the desire to stand against
the darkness and fight today.
Belt of Truth
The belt of truth is the base that all other pieces connect to and are strengthened by. This
belt is my integrity, my foundation, my center of gravity and my guide that holds my faith
and everything else. Because I choose to live in His truth, no matter what the enemy
throws at me, I can stand firm in Christ. Today I fight the lies against my body, my
character and my desires.
Breastplate of Righteousness
Now that I have my belt of truth buckled firmly around my waist, in humility, I attach the
breastplate of righteousness. This means that I choose to have righteous thoughts, words,
and actions. This protects my heart against the enemy’s arrows of temptation. I choose
today to believe your truth instead of my feelings. My heart determines the course of my
life, so please protect it today. (Prov 4:23)
Shoes of the Gospel of Peace
I step into the shoes of the gospel of peace. I realize this peace is found through you alone,
so I thank you and walk boldly today, knowing you are with me. I choose to be
vulnerable and share the great works you have done in my life everywhere I go. Even
when things are tough, I can have a peace that surpasses all understanding. (Phil 4:7)
Helmet of Salvation
I am secure by the covering of salvation. This is a free, precious gift from you! I am sealed
and deemed holy by the blood of Jesus. So today, I put on my helmet of salvation and I
reject the lies that wage war against my mind. I will fix my thoughts on what is true,
honorable, right, pure, lovely and admirable. In Jesus’ name, I silence all voices speaking
to me except the voice of Jesus. Please protect my mind from the things that have no
place being there. (Phil 4:8)
Shield of Faith
I am powerless without you, Lord, but I can do everything through you. By your spirit, I
lift up my shield of faith. With you, I am capable of extinguishing all the flaming arrows of
evil. Your word says you will equip me to do your will so I’m going to step out in faith and
obey. Today I fight against the constant assault of hurt, betrayal, abandonment and
discouragement. (Hebrews 13:21)
Sword of the Spirit
I protect myself with the other pieces, but with the sword of the spirit, God’s word, I fight.
The Word of God is my offense, and it is sharper than any two-edged sword. It penetrates
soul and spirit. By the power of my Father, I am able! I can do all things through Christ
who strengthens me. Today I choose to believe The Word over the world. I trust in you,
Lord; I say, YOU are my God. (Phil 4:13) (Psalm 31:14)
God is my commander in chief who has provided me with His heavenly weapons of war.
So, I stand armed and ready, knowing the battle is not against flesh and blood but
against the rulers and powers and authorities in this dark world, and the spiritual forces in
the heavenly realms. (Eph 6:12)
Father, your word says, “Do not be dismayed or discouraged, for the battle is not yours,
but God’s!” (2 Chronicles 20:15) Every day, I will suit up and put on the armor of God, and
then let YOU fight for me.
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5 Love Languages Test
5 Love Languages Book
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5 Love Languages Test
5 Love Languages Book
Lisa Discusses 5 Love Languages and the Enneagram on the Enneagram and Marriage Podcast
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What are you looking forward to in 2022?
How can you step into the new year with hope and excitement for what is to come?
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"I am the vine and you are the branches" John 15:1-8
"I am the Light of the World." John 8:12
"You are the Light" Ephesians 5:8
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Origins of the Grass is Greener
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He also has a Chanukah Song
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