Excellent Rider: Recent Episodes
Mélanie Boucarut
Certified life coach Mélanie Boucarut helps you get things done, find ease and motivation again and get unstuck when it feels like you’ve lost your mojo.
This podcast is for you if you: can’t bring yourself to do what you want to do are stuck in negative feelings or thought loops know that you are not fulfilling your potential.
The Excellent Rider podcast will teach you how to skillfully make the best of any situation, however tough, complex, adverse or apparently hopeless, and obtain great results anyway.
You’ll learn how to get back your motivation, your purpose, your clarity, your efficiency and that sense of ease and focus you used to have before you lost your mojo.
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A last episode to say a big THANK YOU for listening to the Excellent Rider podcast, and for all the messages and support I received from you throughout the past year. It’s meant the world to me!
Don’t you wish you had more money? Well, it all starts with assessing and improving your money mindset, and addressing the glass walls in your mind created by your limiting thoughts about money.
In today’s episode, we talk about:
- How limiting beliefs work
- Why your money mindset spills over to the rest of your life
- The unexpected thoughts of lottery winners, and why that matters. A lot.
- The money attitudes that keep you poor
- The 2-prong method to clean up your money mindset
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Permissiveness is this treacherous feeling that maskerades as confidence. It’s when you feel certain that you’ll reach your goal, but… in the future. No action needed today.
In today’s episode, we talk about:
- The difference between pivoting and giving up
- 4 reactions to not meeting your goal
- The difference between permissiveness and confidence
- How to tackle permissiveness
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What if your unpleasant feelings in relationships were caused by the half-conscious expectations you have on other people? Let’s explore this possibility today with a powerful tool from The Life Coach School’s arsenal.
In today’s episode, we talk about:
- The Manual that we all have in our head
- 3 questions to identify your manuals
- 6 application examples
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You know that your feelings are created by your thoughts; yet it’s difficult to implement in practice.
This is why today we’re looking in details at emotional responsibility so you can reclaim control of the way you feel in any situation.
We’re looking at:
- why you think the way you think
- what happens to the other person when you feel upset about their behavior
- why validation is like Belgian chocolate
- 4 amazing consequences of emotional responsibility
- The 3 questions to instantly improve any difficult relationship
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Oh yes, and also, the Make Over launches this Friday Apr 01, 2022!
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“I should” is an expression that creates a lot of damage in our life. In today’s episode, we unpack what should actually stands for and what to replace it for to create powerful incentive for action.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The 2 hidden purposes of “shoulds”
- What your brain hears when you say “I should”
- The 3 steps that will blow “should” out of your vocabulary for good
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The way you describe your situation has a major impact on the range of responses available to you. Today we look at how you involuntarily trigger yourself into powerlessness when you use “false” feelings.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What “false” feelings are
- What insidiously happens when you use hem
- What empowering words to use instead
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Victim mentality is sneaky. You can be a strong, capable, independent person, never identify with being a victim, and still be in victim mentality. Victim mentality makes you give away all of your power. If you ever feel frustrated, resentful, bitter, righteous, powerless or afraid: there’s a good possibility that you’re in victim mentality.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
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The 6 behaviors that say you’re in victim mentality
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How to reclaim your power
- And many practical examples.
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I don’t know about you, but I like to keep my options open. Committing to a particular activity on the weekend for example has always felt like a burden on my free time. Until I noticed how not putting any constraint on myself actually resulted in the biggest limitations.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- 3 problems that the absence of constraints create for your life
- Why constraints create freedom
- How to unleash your creativity
- How to use constraints to create your best life
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Winning the lottery, being diagnosed with cancer, learning amazing tools at 20 or at 40… Is it really possible to feel good in all of these circumstances?
Let’s have a look at what I mean by “circumstances are neutral” and by finding a better thought to think in each situation.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why neutral doesn’t mean equal
- Why thinking better thoughts isn’t the same as being right or wrong
- How losing your horse is sometimes the best outcome
- And many practical examples.
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This decision that you keep on revisiting… Don’t you wish you had made a better one?
On today’s episode, we investigate what makes a bad decision; and the secret trick to never taking a bad decision again.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The decision I most regretted in my life
- The one mistake we all make when looking at decisions
- What criteria to use to evaluate a good vs bad decision
- 4 steps to taking decisions you’ll never regret
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Have you ever wished that you had a mentor to show you the ropes, up-level your thinking, have your back and curate great opportunities for your career? And have you ever met that person? Pwa pwa pwa pwaaaaaaaa…
Well, have I good news for you: I have the perfect system for you to identify the best mentor you could possibly dream of. He or she has a lot of experience in exactly your area, and is extremely invested in your success. You can thank me later.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How to recognize that person based on their daily life
- How to crack the code of their successful mindset
- How to enlist their help in tackling your difficulties
- How to get them to be available to you whenever you need them
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You've made some progress towards you goal, when suddenly you hit a patch where nothing seems to work. This is where most people give up. Knowing how to get across that zone is the key difference between successful people and those who give up on their dreams.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why you lose your motivation
- Build the magic list that will keep you going
- 3 steps to succeed when it’s tempting to give up
- A practical example of the tools in action
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Maybe you’ve heard of people who overthink everything, and you don’t relate at all. In that case, there’s a high chance that you do the active equivalent: doing tons of stuff, but none in the direction of that one task you should actually be doing.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The similarity between overthinking and overdoing
- The archaic brain mechanism at play in both cases
- What it costs you
- How to notice it at play in your life
- The secret to getting quick results
- And finally, one pro tip that might very well change your life.
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A key skill to change your mindset is to be good at brainstorming new ways to see your situation. Most people get brainstorming wrong, way wrong. Listen to hear my tips on how to efficiently brainstorm and solve your, or your company’s, challenges.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The one mistake that makes you miss all your greatest ideas
- The 3 steps to efficient brainstorming
- How to structure ideation to actually cover new ground
- organize group brainstorming that actually innovates
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Failure is really uncomfortable for most of us. Yet, it’s easy to understand that being open for the possibility of failing is the best way to test stuff and figure out what works. In today’s episode, I teach you how to embrace failure in a way that even me can manage it
You’ve set a goal for 2022, and you have a rough idea of what you need to do to reach it. That’ll be good enough to implement, you think.
Famous last words... In this series of 5 episodes, I show you how to work on your goal in a way that makes it so much more likely that you reach it.
Today, we’re looking at how to create an action plan that actually helps :
- The three ways we sabotage our goal right from the get go
- Why your plan can lead you to failure, or to success
- How to transform your obstacles into the best strategy
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You might hesitate to set a goal for 2022? After all, you have the bad habit of giving up, procrastinating or sabotaging your goals. Not on my watch! In this series of 5 episodes, I’m going to show you how to set goals in a way that HELPS you reach it. Today, we’re looking at what goal to pick when nothing seems enticing enough.
- A useful cognitive bias you can make work in your favor
- The hidden benefit of setting a measurable goal
- What to do when no goal is compelling enough to take action
- 2 ways you’ll always know what to do
- My pro tips on effective brainstorming
- The powerful question that’ll nail down the goal
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You’re probably not like me. You’ve NEVER scrolled through LinkedIn and made all the titles and career progressions mean that your career is not advanced enough. You’ve certainly never thought “at my age, I should already be VP of this / started my company”.
But in the unlikely even you’ve ever compared yourself and felt disappointed, you will enjoy this episode.
What you will discover:
- The cycle of comparison and its surprising purpose
- Insights gained from comparisoin (when you know how to look)
- What to do when you catch yourself comparing
- How to know you’ve exited your comfort zone
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“Every cloud has its silver lining.” Sounds so positive, so empowering, doesn’t it? Makes you want to swallow your tears, adjust your shirt and walk with confidence towards the future? Or, actually, it doesn’t. Trying to absolutely look at what’s good and ok in a tough situation is the best way to get stuck in unwanted feelings; today’s episode explains why.
- What silver lining looks like in practice
- The thought error at the base of silver linings
- Why thinking positive thoughts actually reinforces the negative
- The fail-safe way out of unpleasant feelings
- Practical examples
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Have you ever agonized over a decision? You find merits or problems to all options, you can’t find convincing input for either side, you second-guess yourself, you worry that you might regret your decision. It’s not pleasant to be in doubt; here’s what you can do about it.
- Why indecision feels like being in the fog
- 3 assumptions that put us there in the first place
- How to know if you have the right information
- Trust your way out of the fog
- Indecision shows you your path to self-confidence
- How to create clarity and decide, right now
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I’ll start tomorrow! I will do exactly like this, I’ll do all the steps, I’ll stick to it perfectly this time, and it will feel great. If you tend to make grandiose plans to feel better when you’re not happy with yourself, you’re a perfectionist. Don’t worry, there’s a way out.
- Why perfectionism is not about having high standards
- What perfectionism really is
- The nasty mechanism at play
- What happens when reality “interferes”
- The 3 thought errors we make from perfectionism
- How to actually meet high standards consistently
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Ever been in that situation when everyone tells you you’re doing great but you’re certain that any minute now, you’re going to get found out? You're plagued with self-doubt, you second-guess everything you do? That’s imposter’s syndrome, baby. And I’ve got the cure.
- Imposter’s syndrome in action
- Why thinking of past successes doesn’t really work
- Why was imposter’s great for survival rate
- The only way to put imposter’s to bed for good
- What to do in the meantime
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Don’t you wish you could stop procrastinating? Do the things you’ve decided to do, when you’ve decided to do them – and not “inspired” by the panic of the last minute? Then this episode is for you.
What you will discover
- What procrastination really is
- What we all do to stop procrastinating; why it backfires
- The real root cause of procrastination
- The most powerful tool you’ll ever need against procrastination
- The hidden benefit of procrastination
- 4 most common cases of procrastination and how to tackle them
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You’re stressed. You’re overworked. And you just snapped at someone you actually like. How to put an end to this unwanted behavior that creates a lot of shame?
What you will discover
- The mechanism that makes a nice person like you become an irritable terror
- Why anger feels like a sudden explosion that’s impossible to control
- How to address the root cause and keep your cool in the worst of storms
- The seldom mentioned role that anger plays and why it’s important to know it
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Let’s look at time from a different angle than what you’re used to, and show you how to create time where it currently goes to waste.
What you will discover
- The force that creates or wastes time for everyone
- The real reason you’re overwhelmed by your to do list
- What we discover when we take a closer look at stress
- Why prioritizing, delegating, and saying no won’t solve the situation
- How to replace stress with focus and efficiency
- The real question you should ask yourself about time
- The one and only trade-off outstanding time management actually requires
- One skill to rule them all
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