Healing Is Sexy: Recent Episodes
BLR - Healing Is Sexy
Remember, healing is a process and a journey. It's a choice we make each and every day. You got this and I'm rooting for you!
"The life you want is on the other side of your healing."
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Would you ask these all 3 of these questions on the first date? SOCIAL CONTACT INFO IG: https://www.instagram.com/healingissexy/ TIKTOK: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdhVTmcY/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/healingislife/ Private FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/856135225122515/?ref=share Website: www.healingissexylife.com Blog: https://dearblackpeople.blog Email: melwilliams@healingissexylife.com
Here are 2 tips on dating approach 🤎 Let me know what other videos you’d like to talk about.
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Living your best life doesn't mean everything is perfect. It will never all be perfect. But you do need to wake up nearly every day EXCITED about living life because you are doing what you love to do!
A Word On Colorism & Fatherhood
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SOCIAL CONTACT INFO
IG: https://www.instagram.com/healingissexy/
TIKTOK: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdhVTmcY/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/healingislife/
Private FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/856135225122515/?ref=share
Website: www.healingissexylife.com
Blog: https://dearblackpeople.blog
Email: melwilliams@healingissexylife.com
SOCIAL CONTACT INFO
IG: https://www.instagram.com/healingissexy/
TIKTOK: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdhVTmcY/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/healingislife/
Private FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/856135225122515/?ref=share
Website: www.healingissexylife.com
Blog: https://dearblackpeople.blog
Email: melwilliams@healingissexylife.com
Continuation from the Blog: "Have Women Normalized Feeling Unsafe in General & Relationships and what we need to do about it.
What qualifies you, me, or anyone as dating material? SOCIAL CONTACT INFO
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Sometimes you’re required to become independent in a variety of life situations. But that doesn't mean you have to continue to operate or suffer from the traumatizing experiences that made you self-reliant.
Here I share some of my experiences.
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In this episode BLR with H.I.S. "The Big Lie" let's break down what it really means to be an independent woman and experience interdependence. Especially for Black relationships.
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Hey guys I’m consolidating down to my top 3 platforms. Make sure to connect with me there for more updates, content, and exciting news! YOUTUBE: Healing Is Sexy. FB: Black Love Recovery for Black Singles and Couples. IG: @healingissexylife. Hope to connect!
Food for thought: Can Black people really say we are traditional or what “traditional” relationships? Traditionally, I believe our references are different than how we are describing it today. Yes, men and women had roles even way back then, but I feel there were still differences from how we define things today. Follow my IGs: https://www.instagram.com/healingissexylife/
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Let’s talk briefly about the history of wigs and also a misconception of someone who may express desiring love. Don’t forget to enter for your chance to win some awesome prizes on the website! Follow my IG: https://www.instagram.com/healingissexylife/
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In this episode I share insight on the upcoming “Marry You First” books I’ve been working on for Men and Women as well as how you can enter to win several cool prizes! Be sure to visit my website at www.healingissexylife.com and subscribe to the newsletter mailing to stay in the know. Join the Healing Is Sexy (H.I.S.) Wait List: http://www.healingissexylife.com/#/
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You guys! I have found another winner! This book is an excellent resource to add to your self-healing inventory. You will learn more about 3/4 attachment styles and better understand how and why you and the people you care about behave the way you/they do. Highly recommended! Join the Healing Is Sexy (H.I.S.) Wait List: http://www.healingissexylife.com/#/
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I feel like there’s a distinction between good manhood and being a good leader and that shouldn’t be the case. A man who is a good man is generally going to be making strides to be a good leader in his circles of influence. A man who leads doesn’t point blame or shuts down and avoids situations. We NEED more men to be GOOD LEADERS. We need more men to correlate manhood with being good leaders and leading by example. Join the Healing Is Sexy (H.I.S.) Wait List: http://www.healingissexylife.com/#/
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Yesterday I caught a Live where several of the viewers were trashing the character of one on the interviewees. It’s sad so many people had that type of energy to focus on someone who was living her truth. Let people live their truth! And also, let’s stop normalizing our trauma! Remember, healing is a process and a journey. It's a choice we make each and every day. You got this and I'm rooting for you!
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Bible said he who finds a wife. Not he who makes a woman his wife. It means you as a woman already are. You aren’t supposed to be waiting for a man to make you into a wife. You’re that already. Becoming a wife is different to everyone and every man’s needs. Take a listen. Join the Healing Is Sexy (H.I.S.) Wait List: http://www.healingissexylife.com/#/
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If you’re hurt and broken you won’t know HOW TO KEEP a good thing even if you’re fortunate to find it. You’re normal of hurt and brokenness and complacency isn’t grounds for growth so all you reciprocate into your relationships are hurt and brokenness.
A healthy person isn’t going to stay or be able to even grow with you in that. YOU have to be willing to fix you and do the work for YOU to be able to be fertile soil to be planted into and have something productive grow: a healthy relationship.
If we really knew what healthy relationships looked like mind games wouldn’t work. Ppl who use ghosting are using abandonment issues to trigger attachments. People who use berating or arguing or destroying behaviors are using toxic issues or styles to condition the other person to normalize that abuse.
Ladies I’ve done a few videos on this before but we’ve got to get out of the mind frame of forecasting the future and wanting to be found and married sooo bad that we are willing to waste time with the wrong person. He’s not going to be different or change if he’s shown you such. Fellas, same thing. Join the Healing Is Sexy (H.I.S.) Wait List: http://www.healingissexylife.com/#/
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Stop paying for placeholders in your love life! Takers are opportunists. It means they don’t know how to appreciate you going above and beyond, they don’t know how to reciprocate it, they don’t know and they don’t care. You can walk on eggshells to keep them happy and they will still find a way to find something wrong and make it your fault and throw everything you’ve ever invested in them out the window and say you were the one wasting their time! Stop settling for less. Remember, healing is a process and a journey. It's a choice we make each and every day. You got this and I'm rooting for you! P.S. Fellas this does actually apply to you as well!!! I think I said it didn’t but I was wrong. It sure does!
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Hey guys 👋🏾. Just wanted to share some updates and talk with you guys on starting your own healing journey 🤎 Be sure to connect on my other platforms! Remember, healing is a process and a journey. It's a choice we make each and every day. You got this and I'm rooting for you!
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The Ask Black Love Panel answers questions about a spouse changing their mind about having kids after an agreement, how a couple should address baby mama drama, and when one should share any intense trauma in a relationship with their partner.
Submit your questions to the panel for a chance to have them answered by visiting this link to learn more about each couple: https://www.blackloverecovery.com/ask-black-love.html#/ LEARN THE COUPLES!
On this episode we have The Fowlers: The Fowler family resides in Southern California where they enjoy hiking, traveling, trying new restaurants, and creating new memories with family and friends. Glenn and Cherie have recently started a podcast called “Through the Fire” where they share their love story and discuss some of the unspoken challenges in marriage, that are often left unspoken and unresolved. You can follow them on IG at: @fowlerfamilyvoyage and @throughthefire2010.
The Mulendas: We are Danny and Briana Mulenda. We reside in Dallas, TX, and enjoy traveling, trying new restaurants, and making memories with each other. We both work in the IT industry and Danny owns a web-developed business called Mulenda Tech. You can follow us on IG Couples page: @dbmulenda Danny: @danny.thebest01 Briana: @briana.leah_
The Ask Black Love Panel answers questions concerning a wife's concerns of love and attractiveness with her husband after pregnancy, a couple's discussion on finances, and a husband's frustration with his wife's drive for personal growth.
Submit your questions to the panel for a chance to have them answered by visiting this link to learn more about each couple: https://www.blackloverecovery.com/ask-black-love.html#/
LEARN THE COUPLES!
On this episode we have:
The Gothies: Chris and Tori Gothie from Charlotte, NC! We enjoy traveling, trying new foods, and spending time together doing any and everything spontaneous. We are currently working on starting a YouTube channel called The Gothie Way. We will be reviewing new and up and coming restaurants in the charlotte area. Our IG is @goodteats.
The Howards: Greetings, We are Nicole and Kam Howard. We are an example of love after divorce-this is the second marriage for both of us...Together we have 4 adult children. We live in Maryland, where we love spending time with each other and our family, watching movies, traveling and we like to volunteer giving back to the community by helping those who are less fortunate. Kam is a school Administrator and Nicole is a Legal Project Specialist. We also work our Respect My Royalty LLC business together by traveling for speaking engagements, creating the Queen Up! Podcast which is currently on YouTube and iHeart Radio. We also have an interactive relationship page on Facebook called Caramel & Chocolate. Follow us on: IG: @ladynicole.1 and @Brooklyn_Kam06
Our society conditions us to always have expectations in our dating interactions, but I want to present (and show) that having expectations are really the death of you experiencing happy and fulfilling relationships.
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The Ask Black Love Panel answers questions about resentment, defining boundaries when it comes to flirting, and dating outside your normal type.
Submit your questions to the panel for a chance to have them answered by visiting this link to learn more about each couple: https://www.blackloverecovery.com/ask-black-love.html#/
LEARN THE COUPLES! On this episode we have
The Fowlers: The Fowler family resides in Southern California where they enjoy hiking, traveling, trying new restaurants, and creating new memories with family and friends. Glenn and Cherie have recently started a podcast called “Through the Fire” where they share their love story and discuss some of the unspoken challenges in marriage, that are often left unspoken and unresolved. You can follow them on IG at: @fowlerfamilyvoyage and @throughthefire2010.
The Mulendas: We are Danny and Briana Mulenda. We reside in Dallas, TX, and enjoy traveling, trying new restaurants, and making memories with each other. We both work in the IT industry and Danny owns a web-developed business called Mulenda Tech. You can follow us on IG Couples page: @dbmulenda Danny: @danny.thebest01 Briana: @briana.leah_
The Muganzo Murphys: The Muganzo Murphy family resides in Sacramento, California where they enjoy their fitness activities and traveling adventures. They love spending family time with their teenage daughter and are in full swing with their community organizing efforts and social justice platforms. You can follow them on Instagram at @muganzoentertainment and on Twitter at @jazzie_murphy.
In this video we dive into skill sets needed to experience more success and happiness in relationships, regardless of age. Found something insightful? Take a screenshot and tag me in your stories on IG @2LoveABlackWoman for a shoutout! I love hearing how something I've said helped you!
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The Ask Black Love Panel answers:
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If while dating things go south in the relationship, should women wait for the man to get back at her? Or is it okay for her to reach out or would that be seen as chasing?
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What's something about Black marriages we don't see or hear often enough that more married couples and even singles should be aware of?
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During a heated moment my husband told me his mother would always come before me. Am I wrong to feel some type of way and consider leaving?
Submit your questions to the panel for a chance to have them answered by visiting this link to learn more about each couple: https://www.blackloverecovery.com/ask-black-love.html#/
LEARN THE COUPLES! On this episode we have
The Gothies: Chris and Tori Gothie from Charlotte, NC! We enjoy traveling, trying new foods, and spending time together doing any and everything spontaneous. We are currently working on starting a YouTube channel called The Gothie Way. We will be reviewing new and up and coming restaurants in the charlotte area.
The Howards: Greetings, We are Nicole and Kam Howard. We are an example of love after divorce-this is the second marriage for both of us...Together we have 4 adult children. We live in Maryland, where we love spending time with each other and our family, watching movies, traveling and we like to volunteer giving back to the community by helping those who are less fortunate. Kam is a school Administrator and Nicole is a Legal Project Specialist. We also work our Respect My Royalty LLC business together by traveling for speaking engagements, creating the Queen Up! Podcast which is currently on YouTube and iHeart Radio. We also have an interactive relationship page on Facebook called Caramel & Chocolate. Follow us on: IG: @ladynicole.1 and @Brooklyn_Kam06
Leading with your wallet is not the way to go in today's dating society with modern women. That's the old way of doing things. Modern women are looking for more meaningful connections and are capable of showing themselves a good time and maybe even treating men worthy of her time too.
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It's easy and even the narrative to point out the angry or strong Black woman with underlying trauma, but the Black traumas our communities have experienced isn't limited to just Black women. We don't hear or talk enough of the constant struggles of Black men and how this impacts their daily lives and relationships with Black women. At the end of the day more of us, both Black men and women need to tap into more resources, do the work on self, and learn to have better interactions with one another.
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In this video we dive into distinguishing between the traditional and modern man and woman in the current dating world. Found something insightful? Take a screenshot and tag me in your stories on IG @2LoveABlackWoman for a shoutout! I love hearing how something I've said helped you!
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Hey guys, this video is to break down how to get to the root of cause when dealing with a woman's emotions. Take leveling up your EQ seriously if you want to be in a serious long-term relationship someday.
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There are TWO (2) essential skills every woman must learn in order to better understand men and ultimately win his heart. Let's discuss. Found something insightful?
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In this video we dive into the historical root cause of division in our communities.
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Today we see countless video advocating for women to be more feminine and more submissive (whatever that means as it's subjective to each person's interpretation). As always, I'd like to offer a different perspective. There are too many untold stories of happy, successful relationships (even celebrities) of women who aren't so feminine, and are in fact pretty masculine. Can you name a few power couples? Ladies, don't fall for the hype. Be true to who you are as long as it's healthy. Tune in. Found something insightful? Take a screenshot and tag me in your stories on IG @2LoveABlackWoman for a shoutout! I love hearing how something I've said helped you!
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There is ONE unique gift men can use to attract beautiful women, but it will take a certain level of practice and confidence to become fluent. Here are a few tips to help you improve your interactions with women. Found something insightful? Take a screenshot and tag me in your stories on IG @2LoveABlackWoman for a shoutout! I love hearing how something I've said helped you!
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In 2021 we have to evolve and adapt. The dating world and our society has changed SO much in so little time and it's not slowing down or ever going back to the old ways... so men and women have to adapt and get out of our comfort zones in order to be a part of shaping a new norm in which we find happiness together. Found something insightful? Take a screenshot and tag me in your stories on IG @2LoveABlackWoman for a shoutout! I love hearing how something I've said helped you!
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Most men make this common mistake often. Here's what not to do and better alternatives to experiencing better connections with women. Found something insightful? Take a screenshot and tag me in your stories on IG @2LoveABlackWoman for a shoutout! I love hearing how something I've said helped you!
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This video is about why I created BLR. The process of healing is never easy. It involves facing undesirable truths about ourselves and holding ourselves accountable to making progress. This channel isn't all rose petals and glitter. There are some hard conversations we need to have... Found something insightful? Take a screenshot and tag me in your stories on IG @2LoveABlackWoman for a shoutout!
I love hearing how something I've said helped you!
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The Ask Black Love Panel answers:
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what's the best way to handle when your significant other says something hurtful to you in anger?
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how do you deal with finding out something troubling about your spouse once you get married? For example, an insecurity or trauma they have that they may have downplayed in the beginning?
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what's the difference between girlfriend and wife responsibilities? what's the difference between boyfriend and husband responsibilities?
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On this episode we have
The Gothies: Chris and Tori Gothie from Charlotte, NC! We enjoy traveling, trying new foods, and spending time together doing any and everything spontaneous. We are currently working on starting a YouTube channel called The Gothie Way. We will be reviewing new and up and coming restaurants in the charlotte area.
The Howards: Greetings, We are Nicole and Kam Howard. We are an example of love after divorce-this is the second marriage for both of us...Together we have 4 adult children. We live in Maryland, where we love spending time with each other and our family, watching movies, traveling and we like to volunteer giving back to the community by helping those who are less fortunate. Kam is a school Administrator and Nicole is a Legal Project Specialist. We also work our Respect My Royalty LLC business together by traveling for speaking engagements, creating the Queen Up! Podcast which is currently on YouTube and iHeart Radio. We also have an interactive relationship page on Facebook called Caramel & Chocolate. Follow us on: IG: @ladynicole.1 and @Brooklyn_Kam06
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The Ask Black Love Panel answers:
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how long should a woman wait for a man to propose?
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how exactly do you tell your man you have an issue and you need him to step up?
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do you think more people should embrace the idea of when you love someone you're going to be exposed to the worst in them and probably of hating them?
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On this episode we have The Fowlers: The Fowler family resides in Southern California where they enjoy hiking, traveling, trying new restaurants, and creating new memories with family and friends. Glenn and Cherie have recently started a podcast called “Through the Fire” where they share their love story and discuss some of the unspoken challenges in marriage, that are often left unspoken and unresolved. You can follow them on IG at: @fowlerfamilyvoyage and @throughthefire2010.
The Mulendas: We are Danny and Briana Mulenda. We reside in Dallas, TX, and enjoy traveling, trying new restaurants, and making memories with each other. We both work in the IT industry and Danny owns a web-developed business called Mulenda Tech. You can follow us on IG Couples page: @dbmulenda Danny: @danny.thebest01 Briana: @briana.leah_
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Black Mind is a series created to provide more Black men a platform to share their perspectives. We need to hear more from them and to better understand them.
In this sit down, Charles answers: If there was a sort of guide/manual to help Black men learn and grow into the best version of themselves what do you believe that would look like? How do you feel about the idea that more men should feel comfortable in more of their feminine energy (being vulnerable, feeling/talking/expressing emotions vs. holding it all in, using emotional intelligence, etc)? AND MORE!
Tune in for some insightful discussion!
You can check out Charle's blog here: https://quietthunder.blog/category/blackmenmatter/
Detroit Boyz Rock is an initiative of The Association for Youth Empowerment (AYE), dedicated to creating a world where young black men and boys are empowered to create and define for themselves what being a man is. They are clear that their own life has meaning and a purpose and, accordingly understand that they have a role that is necessary and vital in their community, in their family, in their schools and are responsible for maintaining, developing and expanding that role. The community needs them here, available and safe and cannot grow or prosper without them.
Please donate to support to amazing work being done to invest into our young Black men by visiting this link below. http://ayedetroit.org/programs/detroitboyzrock/
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Black Mind is a series created to provide more Black men a platform to share their perspectives. We need to hear more from them and to better understand them.
In this sit down, Charles answers: Would you say more Black men are living and operating from a survival mode/mentality than not? And how so/why is that the case? Can you take us into the mind of Black men, from your perspective? Is the thought of survival and provision a constant, daily concern? What do you feel is needed to improve Black men’s odds in life? In America? In Relationships?
Tune in for some insightful discussion!
Register FREE to join us for part 3 this upcoming Monday: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/black-mi...
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Detroit Boyz Rock is an initiative of The Association for Youth Empowerment (AYE), dedicated to creating a world where young black men and boys are empowered to create and define for themselves what being a man is. They are clear that their own life has meaning and a purpose and, accordingly understand that they have a role that is necessary and vital in their community, in their family, in their schools and are responsible for maintaining, developing and expanding that role. The community needs them here, available and safe and cannot grow or prosper without them. Please donate to support to amazing work being done to invest into our young Black men by visiting this link below. http://ayedetroit.org/programs/detroi...
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Black Mind is a series created to provide more Black men a platform to share their perspectives. We need to hear more from them and to better understand them.
In this sit down, Charles shares with us: What do Black men need Black women to understand about Black men? What are the biggest struggles Black men face in life in general, and in relationships #BlackLove)? And, what are some of the unique challenges Black men experience dating Black women?
Tune in for some insightful discussion!
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Business owners, parents, lovers, Sheldon & Gabrielle share:
4:39 The Four Year Chase. Meeting in college & finally reaching Yes. The timing may not always be right but that doesn’t mean it’s the wrong person. Scarcity increased demand
9:55 Being young & in love. Growing through love’s phases as a young couple. The Food Bribe: Food makes everything better!
12:14 Big life decisions. Leaving a tight knit family and moving in with husband to be (her mom called it).
17:30 The best of being married is...
22:22 Overcoming struggles as a couple. Man’s perspective on why men get married. “Love became our language.” Make it right first (When you make her mad make her glad to recover)
29:06 Conversations before marriage. It’s work, but it’s what you make it. Seasons of a relationship.
32:09 The realities of Black Love & how the next generation can change it. #blacklovematters
Being equipped for your marriage, preparing your child for how to treat a future love interest & for the future, not giving too much of yourself to your spouse (have balance), marrying a BOSS woman, regrets, budgeting.
AND SO MUCH MORE!
Catch the Cannon’s full love story here: https://stopdatingblog.com/2021/03/12/the-cannons-love-story/
Robert (@tre_city) and Qiana (@_visualque) have known each other since 9th grade (almost 15 years) and they share:
1:07 The shoe story.
3:40 Calling it quits twice. MAN’s perspective: Being ready for a serious relationship at a young age. How a man KNOWS he’s ready.
8:43 Becoming best friends while married.
9:39 Overcoming communication & emotional barriers as a young couple.
14:35 Advice before getting married! Getting married won’t fix it. “I don’t know why Black ppl are afraid of counseling” The importance of having a safe space to process and express emotions, it’s not it slim pickings! More people just need to be serious, avoiding situationships.
AND SO MUCH MORE!
Read the full story here: https://stopdatingblog.com/2021/03/08/the-abrams-love-story/
Justin & Jacoree Gaines share:
3:54 reuniting after a 2 year breakup. Awkward at first, but addressing a lot left unsaid. An old head providing their confirmation in the parking lot out of nowhere.
10:35 A man’s perspective on mustering up the strength to express painful past experiences and emotions.
13:36 A woman reaching out first and not waiting for her man to fall in her lap (or be taken by someone else). It doesn’t matter who makes the connection first, what matters is both ppl putting in the work.
15:46 They say the wedding day is for show... I disagree. It’s not just for the bride. Planning their wedding together.
21:53 Right person, wrong time. Fear of commitment? Once a cheater always a cheater “That’s not true.” Just don’t do it.
24:47 Best part of being married and how having a child changed that after both spouses have lost both parents. Being a couple once your kids go to sleep.
30:00 The importance of having two parent households
33:12 Working a side hustle while engaged and how it made for being better together.
37:39 Being head strong and learning to see things from your spouses point of view. Learning to be patient and how to effectively communicate.
Working on yourself, not being responsible for your spouses happiness, we don’t use the D word “Divorce”.
AND SO MUCH MORE!
Read/watch the full interview here: https://stopdatingblog.com/2021/02/28/the-gaines-love-story/
The purpose of this event is to have a space where Sheisart’s audience and others can talk about black love and its importance, unpacking the many layers of black love and what impacts our relationships with one another. There are many historical ties to the way black folks love each other today. In this conversation we want to talk about where people may be going wrong and where people may be going right and why, when it comes onto black love. This is because black love is needed, not just today on Valentine’s Day (date of this recording) but everyday day for the kids, for society, and for all.
DISCLAIMER: This is not a bash against black people dating outside of their race, but rather a focus on black love and how it can be improved for the future.
Jazzie & Melissa share so many gems:
1:16 How they met & connected after, from work friends to a fun night out at Karaoke
6:12 Deciding on values early in your relationship and being true to self. A word on compromise.
10:06 A word on Conflict and working through them.
*13:37 Step by step strategy to ensure success in your marriage. Address your shit ‼️
16:58 the best part of being married. Being vulnerable and overcoming one’s fears of divorce or their love not being reciprocated. Also, empowering your partner/spouse to walk in their truth
21:50 when both people are used to always being right and learning how to grow as a couple from two independent people. Learning how to experience conflict without giving up too soon and accepting you are wrong.
25:04 Leveling up with your spouse on finances. Having this hard talk.
Imposter syndrome, being Black, Queer, & Happily Married, putting appropriate considerations behind what you share: mentality, physically, emotionally, etc, appreciating singlehood, your grandma hates your grandpa (stop mimicking your grandparents), there is no perfect couple, unspoken expectations for your kids when you may come from struggle, as a Queer person you choose who your family is and forget gender roles
AND SO MUCH MORE
Read Published Article here: https://stopdatingblog.com/2021/02/23/the-muganzo-murphys-love-story/
Together since 16 🖤🤎, Gamoane & Deeona share:
4:16 Starting the @sincesixteenpodcast to have more honest conversations about marriage and love. You are not alone.
5:51 From middle school crushes to a mutual friend hookup one high school night this is the story of how they reconnected. A Classic R&B Love story.
17:00 Change in plans when Deeona gets accepted to an out of state college and leaves Gamone. The got from spending every day together to she’s gone in 2 weeks. Their long distance relationship starts falling apart when being faithful gets tested.
25:55 Conversations you should have when considering long distance relationships and how to handle cheating in a relationship.
30:49 Being diagnosed with Leukemia at 21 and dealing with this during not being together in their relationship after having a child. Gamone steps in and takes on the responsibilities of the man anyway sharing he knew “Whoever she was talking to didn’t have the same investment I had with her, we had a child together.”
38:11 Feeling numb dealing with life hardships and only getting more bad news. “I loved her but I didn’t like her.” Gamone on learning to become a caretaker and dealing with the side dudes.
51:59 Is there such a thing as being too honest with your spouse? Having the hard conversations on the regular and better understanding the man’s perspective.
58:00 Dealing with communication issues “I just shut down because I wasn’t being heard”. And answering “Are breakups necessary?”
77:01 Don’t compare marriages. Not even to your own family. And be with someone who WANTS to be happy because you aren’t responsible for their happiness.
78:46 How slavery/our history impacts Black Love today. There are a lot of secrets and even comparisons on what it means to be able to do for your family.
AND SO MUCH MORE!
Catch the full interview on the website here: https://www.blackloverecovery.com/single-black-ladies/the-allens-love-story
Together from 13-30 (they met in middle school), Isaiah & Brittany Ellis share from their #Blacklove experiences:
2:16 “We were in class one day (middle school) and he told me, you know we going to get married one day...” And reuniting in high school.
3:16 Dealing with the fears of fatherhood (man’s perspective).
7:40 Letting down your walls (woman’s perspective). Some days it’s 50/50, 100/100, 60/40. Put pride aside and be vulnerable.
11:14 How to REALLY know your spouse loves you and they ain’t going nowhere and dealing with too much masculine energy in the beginning (woman’s perspective)
16:00 It’s different when you move in/live together.
19:25 Society doesn’t like to see #BlackLove. It’s deeper than just a Black man and Black woman being together.
20:35 Black culture on preparing for marriage. Black men don’t necessarily have the same opportunities to even consider having a family.
Loving the way your husband smells, the impacts of growing up in a custody battle during your childhood, men don’t be afraid to ask for what you need (prayer), don’t wait around and waste your time, and so much more!
Full Love Story/Youtube: https://www.blackloverecovery.com/single-black-ladies/the-ellis-love-story
Myer & Tiffany (LOVED THIS COUPLE) came READY TO SHARE:
1:07 Meeting online. When the woman makes the first move, and he tries not to mess up (awww). Being super direct (intentional) on the first date (no surprises) and winning a man’s respect. Be upfront with what you’re looking for sooner vs. later.
7:50 Dealing with the naysayers. Online dating? ❌ Number of kids? ❌ Other stereotypes and keeping people out of your business.
11:05 Changing perspective on online dating. It’s like an advertisement but here’s what people should really be looking for beyond the visual.
13:36 Working things out in your marriage and not seeking outside opinion.
15:29 Men transitioning from me to we. Getting remarried to someone who has never been married before. Learning patience and remaining loving even while upset.
17:41 The difference between a red flag and a test of your union. Dealing with your SO past relationships/ex. Some times it’s all in your head. Red flags of an abusive relationship.
21:54 The perks of being married and knowing when you’ve found The One (who supports your chocolate habits even if they don’t like it!)
26:07 A word on being forgiving in your marriage. And for men a word on empathy. Also a different way to handle issues in your marriage to avoid arguments. Kudos to the spouse who listens because you are ALWAYS learning in a marriage no matter how long you’ve been together even after 50 years.
29:29 First year of marriage was HORRIBLE. “I almost lost her.” The breaking point. The Myers get REAL real. Love the transparency. From praying for it all to go away to praying for your spouse.
39:57 The importance of being self aware in your marriage.
41:50 We are in our marriage bliss moment now, 3 years into marriage. It’s not always going to go the way you think.
42:42 Sex can get in the way. Do this first. Also the importance of disagreeing but still respecting each other.
49:38 Impacts of slavery on love and dating today. We still need to recover. Put more value on marriage. You don’t need a $10K wedding.
72:38 Seeing the value in your partner. If you don’t know the value of your partner your marriage is doomed to fail.
AND SO MUCH MORE. There’s a lot to learn from this couple so make sure you tune in!
Website: www.blackloverecovery.com
IG: @2loveablackwoman
Read the FULL Story Here: https://www.blackloverecovery.com/single-black-ladies/the-browns-love-story
Jacquez & Danielle share:
00:53 Meeting your future spouse after being stood up (on Valentine’s Day) and how a woman’s energy can attract positive results even after a disappointing situation. Then it gets awkward.
7:00 The best part of being married and having a support network. The essence of a Black man and chivalry not being dead. A beautiful written tribute from a wife to her husband 🖤
10:49 Destined to be together, starting a family young, and figuring out all of the firsts together. And the struggles of growing together. Strategies to make it last.
13:55 Struggles of starting a relationship young and growing through changes. What you love about your spouse can change as you go through different phases. Managing work, a newborn, and a relationship.
19:18 Advice for men who struggle with explaining/communication to their spouse. Adjusting to meet her needs. Advice or alpha women on trusting a man to lead and being submissive. Find your balance in love. There is no replacing a man.
26:48 A marriage is an empty box. Your marriage becomes what you put into the box. Figure out self traumas BEFORE pursuing marriage. Don’t unpeeled your trauma layers during a marriage. Self therapy comes before marriage therapy.
33:53 Black marriage is unique. Being married to a Black man comes with unique challenges for his safety. Finding love with a Black woman. Black love is resilient 🖤 Black love is not accurately portrayed on a large scale.
Fights becoming building blocks, don’t rush the process, be realistic with your expectations, a marriage is like driving a car on the highway. You don’t need to merge into each other’s lanes. Just be heading in the same direction.
AND SO MUCH MORE!
Danny & Briana’s Love story adds a new cultural layer to the meaning of #blacklove! They share:
1:24 Meeting during a temporary job assignment/location, making eye contact and advice for women on making the first move to approach a man.
6:43 Transitioning to a long distance relationship and making it work. Danny and Bri were VERY intentional about making long distance work. Learn what they did and how it actually helped them bond more.
8:45 Meeting Danny’s family and understanding a different culture and overcoming language barriers.
15:35 Marriage doesn’t mean your life is over. You both still have your own space and can have fun with your spouse.
17:25 Sharing from different cultures. African and Black culture are two completely different things. Their page @dbmulenda is all about bridging the gap between two cultures for other singles.
23:36 Adjusting to sharing the same space 24/7. And learning more about each other’s cultures. How marriage is different in African culture (two weddings)
31:53 Hard conversations you should have and being intentional about learning your future spouse’s culture. There should be a college for marriage!
35:37 Distinguishing the unique challenges the African and Black cultures experience. A word on cancel culture.
Serving your spouse once you’re done enjoying your singleness, choosing the right spouse, get out of your comfort zone and manifesting.
AND SO MUCH MORE!
You can read the full article here: https://www.blackloverecovery.com/single-black-ladies/the-mulendas-love-story
Website: www.blackloverecovery.com
IG: @2loveablackwoman
Podcast: https://anchor.fm/black-love-recovery/episodes/The-Mulendas-Love-Story-eofqps
Brian & Yuri Share:
6:00 Transitioning from me to we. Men’s perspective from my way or the high way. Being mindful of your spouse’s contributions and not taking it for granted. Teamwork mindset.
8:35 Communication and emotions. Writing helps with processing emotions and getting it out.
12:10 Marriage is not a bad thing. See if it’s for you yourself and don’t do it because you’re being pressured. It’s not just about your partner. You have to be ready to do the work too.
15:02 Things for men to consider before marriage. Talking about death.
18:28 Love only goes so far. It’s important to want to make your commitment work and not just want each other. Handling heated conversations.
21:47 Man’s perspective on reaching a place to effectively communicate with your spouse vs bottling it all in and having walls/being isolated. Addressing the happy wife happy life mentality.
28:27 Black love is unique. Combating the self hate propaganda and other factors beyond our control and how it impacts our relationships and love for each other.
31:30 The intentional breaking of a black man.
40:36 A successful marriage requires YOU to make changes! Breakdown on what that really means.
AND SO MUCH MORE!
Website: www.blackloverecovery.com
IG: @2loveablackwoman
Full Article: https://www.blackloverecovery.com/single-black-ladies/the-scotts-full-love-story
Ahmad & Toya share:
10:10 When a man tells you he’s not ready. Respecting it even if you are disappointed. Honesty really is the best policy over ghosting and the lies, especially on the man’s part even if she hates you for it. It lays the foundation.
15:00 Men tend to be retrospective in nature on these matters. Don’t mess up her good thing if you’re not ready.
17:40 The relationship-job analogy. People can follow the work protocols of 2 week notices to maintain a good relationship. The same mentality should be in effect with relationships. Be willing to have honest conversation and give fair notice vs. allowing drama to damage the relationship.
18:27 Reconnecting on chance after 1 year.
22:50 Friendship is the best part of being married. Fighting for vs. against each other when things go south. Your best friend is the person you marry. Breaking out of the “yes” men circle (family and loved ones) and taking an honest look at self, going beyond the surface of dates and vacations. Growing in marriage. It can make you a better person.
24:00 Transitioning your mindset to serving your spouse. Almost divorcing. It takes both spouses working on self for marriage to work. Battling the culture you grew up in. 28:50 Don’t floss. Be the same person you presented yourself to be while pursuing each other and be prepared to grow from there. Don’t have your spouse wondering who they married.
30:47 Men talk on communication and flossing. Most women want authenticity and to feel needed. Get rid of the representative. Authority impresses the (right) woman who sees a partnership. Women are willing to get their hands dirty and put in the work too. Men need to stop letting pride get in the way of a woman helping. End toxic masculinity that’s killing to love between men and women. A woman is a HELPMATE. There’s nothing wrong with help because no one accomplishes anything by themselves.
34:55 Importance of being intentional about rebuilding marriage. Intentional Bible study and family conferences to check in with each other. Intentional questions. Building friendship back up. Making things align in your marriage and modeling your marriage for success goes beyond checking couple stuff off your couple to-do list.
59:54 Her submission is a treasure, a gift and no man is entitled to any gift. What environment are you setting up for her to feel safe and trusting of your leadership.
When a man finds his good thing that becomes his world. Be the man who creates the environment for his wife to rest. The adoption analogy to marriage. Pre-marital sex (don’t do it!). Defining submission in marriage (it’s an US mentality and you can’t force it). Men needing to find more role models and community support on marriage because we need our Black Kings to learn how to create and work towards a successful marriage. Chemistry dies and being intentional even when you don’t feel like it is necessary. Being ready to commit and taking out the (actual) trash.
AND SO MUCH MORE!
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.Glenn & Cherie share:
4:39 Creating a safe space in marriage for both to grow. Married, young and overcoming through major life changes together. Choosing to be committed and not having any examples to model after.
7:40 Keep people out of your intimate things/marriage. It could backfire.
9:44 How we knew we were meant to be together/ right for each other.
12:00 Marriage struggles. Infidelity and infertility. Couples therapy. Man’s perspective on learning to communicate and being the peace. Being intentional and becoming the example they didn’t have.
14:36 Have a plan B for when things don’t go according to plan.
16:34 Letting ego and pride go. Sacrifice and compromise. Balancing responsibilities. What tone do you want to set for your marriage? When one spouse manages something better.
19:00 You don’t have to win at everything. Don’t always need a comeback. Picking your battles. Power in the tongue and what you say or don’t say. Learning to take how your wife feels seriously from man’s perspective.
20:40 Setting the tone for marriage from both man's and woman's perspective.
23:30 The man’s perspective on how to become a better communicator, growing up in a society that tells men don’t be weak. Men have feelings and it doesn't make him less of a man. Learning to speak her love language. Don’t be so defensive with your wife. Older generation men not talking about feelings.
27:57 Turning marriage experiences into a ministry. Counseling is ok. Pray and counseling is ok. Having the fairytale wedding mentality then realizing it’s not. Needed conversations on challenges others may need help in having. Silent killers in marriage. Getting closer through struggles. Setting the example for even older couples when been together longer. Breaking generational curses.
32:00 Helping others through tough conversations such as infidelity. It doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. Creating more platforms on working through harder problems and topics people go through everyday but have no safe space to address.
35:09 On getting married young. Get a good sense of self. Experience happiness in marriage but it's not your partners job to make you happy. Do therapy. It’s okay to make mistakes and you’re not a “failure”. Make your marriage a safe space.
37:18 Getting married is easy. Staying married is the hard part. The ring doesn’t change who you are as a person or your ethics or love for each other. You should already be that man or woman you need to be for your spouse. Do not go into marriage expecting yourself or your spouse to change.
AND SO MUCH MORE!
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Kam & Nicole share:
11:40 The almost proposal 13:28 Healing from the pain of past marriages as individuals and while dating. Also realizing your worth & the waiting process 17:08 Combating men's "microwave" mentality from a man's perspective. A man goes after what he wants.
18:25 How friendships make courtship more beautiful and helps it last. Laying the right foundation for when you're not always intimate with each other (don't get in your feelings). The importance of liking your partner.
24:50 How to love after traumatic experiences. The healing process and reopening to love again. Church hurt.
30:20 Dealing with hurt from people who realize they misjudged you as a Christian.
33:00 Getting caught up & living a facade. If it's not right staying will only make it worse. Good men suffer from toxic women too.
39:00 When your new husband reveals he's lied to you shortly after your wedding. Being faithful even in sickness. Letting go & forgiveness.
46:00 Advice for men. Dealing with a materialistic partner.
52:00 Men need to learn how to heal. Not dealing with your past hurt will cause you to miss your blessing.
AND SO MUCH MORE!
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Maurice & Shaniqua share:
4:37 If a man really likes you how you can tell. Understanding his approach.
7:40 Working on martial issues while dealing with pregnancy, how pregnancy can change a relationship, and how men should deal with their spouses season of pregnancy.
12:00 The importance of working through things people often don't talk about in marriage.
38:15 Important discussions for couples dating 10 years younger/older.
42:25 Breaking generational curses across two generations
50:20 What it means to own your marriage and have growth while avoiding complacency
53:40 Women's independence conditioning and learning how to ask for help.
AND SO MUCH MORE!
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Mike & Bryttany share:
- Transitioning from a single mentality (freedom, alone time, and independence) to a family mindset (from the man's perspective)
- The importance of self-love (from a woman's perspective) and being in a place to even have the capacity to give
- Women may not say it aloud but we desire and respect a man who knows how to speak up and wear the pants in the relationship (keeping it respectful of course)
- Distinguishing between dating the real vs. the representative and when the real comes out after the dating phase.
- Letting go of your wants in dating and instead focusing on what you need in a partner
- Parenting
- Waiting until marriage to move in together
AND SO MUCH MORE! Tune in and learn more about what it takes to achieve and sustain a happy, successful Black union.
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Chris & Tori share wisdom from their first year of marriage. Some of this conversation includes: learning how to communicate vs. expecting your spouse to “just know” what’s wrong, how to approach having no real examples of what happy or successful marriages look like, understanding your spouse’s perspective, being intentional with dating and leaving any relationship that doesn’t serve you, AND SO MUCH MORE!
A lot of Black men share how they would rather Black women stop wearing all the fake hair, eyelashes and makeup without understanding the root issue of where it all may be coming from. Tune into this episode where I share my own personal journey and how both Black men and women can come to terms with reality and learn to better love one another once we understand our history more. To cultivating Black Love
I came across a post that brought into question making the very important distinction between learning from the past vs. recreating it in order to avoid history repeating itself in ones love life. Take a listen and share your thoughts with me!