Breaking Up with our Bullsh!t: Recent Episodes
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Got stories about yourself, others, the world, the future, or anything else that causes you stress, grief, or hopelessness? Well, the good news is that we ALL have those stories. The even better news, though, is that we can all learn how to break up with those stories and perspectives that no longer serve us. That is what this podcast, Breaking Up With our Bullsh!t, is all about. Integration expert Tawny Sanabria and historian and author JDK Wyneken help you move on and discover the strengths inside you.
Episode 103: "I'm Right, You're Wrong" Tawny and JDK take on one of the most powerful - and disconnecting - BS stories out there, one that often will emerge over the smallest of issues but explode into something that damages ourselves and our relationships significantly. Why do we insist on being right so often? What is under that in each of us? What are better strategies and mindsets to develop in ourselves and in our relationships? See what you think and feel about what Tawny and JDK lay out as answers....
Episode 101: “Again, No One is a Mind Reader” Tawny and JDK revisit one of the most common - and destructive - BS stories we can tell ourselves: “My partner should just know what I need / want / am thinking.” Nothing good comes from believing and acting on this story. So why do we do it? How can we move away from that and have the partnerships we want? The answers are pretty clear - we just have to admit them and act on them with intention….
Episode 100: "For the 100th Time - It's All About Presence!" For their landmark one-hundredth episode (!), Tawny and JDK reflect on the power of Presence in our lives - how to get connected with it, what can come up for us when we are in it, and how it can help us move beyond our BS stories and move into a life of more ease, connection, resilience, and meaning. It's what Breaking Up With Our BS is all about - from one to a hundred!
Episode 99: "Not All 'Signs' Are Created Equal" What happens - and what doesn't - when we look for external "signs" about what we should do next in our lives? Tawny and JDK explore the ways in which we can end up short-changing our own agency in life when we seek external signs, rather than getting in tune with our own grounded selves. The differences between these states of being can be profound!
Episode 98: “You Can Take Your Breath With You“ With both of them about to take trips, Tawjy and JDK discuss how we can bear respond to - and prepare for - changes in environments so we can continue to stay present in the body and keep ourselves flowing when things are out of the ordinary.
Episode 97: “JDK Apparently Doesn’t Like Turbulence” JDK relates a recent experience he had in a meeting that did not go as he expected. What happened and why? How can we better approach situations where conflict or disagreement may occur? How can we better show up as facilitators in such situations. Take a listen and see what you think of their ideas!
Episode 96: "Knowing Ourselves in the Workplace" Our workplaces are where we spend significant amounts of time in our lives, and the many types of personalities and perspectives and backgrounds can make the workplace an environment that can be both motivating and challenging. How can we better show up for ourselves at work, and for our co-workers and superiors? How can we better work through the challenges that come up when people's emotional responses clash? Get some answers to these and more workplace questions from Tawny and JDK this week - along with more than a few laughs about Life At Work.
Episode 95: "Should I Stay Or Should I Go?" It's the question every person in a romantic partnership doesn't want to ask OR answer. When it's so easy to look for external signs to tell us when to make the decision to end a relationship - from our friends, media personalities, and even our partners themselves - it can be tough for us to see the best starting point: ourselves. Tawny and JDK hit on this fact, and so much more, in this conversation, so be sure to listen in and share it with your partners and friends.
Episode 94: "Why Do We Withhold Happy?" Tawny and JDK explore all the messages we get - and give ourselves - about our drive to find Happiness - even though it is something quite difficult to actually define! Are there better ways to frame the things we are seeking? How does our internal alignment with our individual values help us meet the external elements we encounter in life? How do we know when we are "happy?" So many questions - and you'll hear some compelling answers!
Episode 93: "Are We Really Putting Out Fires?" When lots of external things come at us all at once, we can feel out of control and that we have to "put out fires" everywhere in order to be okay. This week, Tawny and JDK wonder aloud if we are setting ourselves up for unnecessary stress by how we label the challenges that happen unexpectedly. What if they weren't "fires" but, instead, were just something that happens as a regular part of life? How does our labeling of things work - and work against us instead of for us?
Episode 92: “Slow Down, Learn Fast” If “an untrained brain will go negative,” then how can we “train” or brain to better handle our emotional states and reduce our BS stories? The key is, paradoxically, to get into the body first - to slow down in order to learn fast.
Episode 91: “A Ruling On Manipulation” Tawny and JDK take a close look at our common understanding and beliefs about what is and isn’t manipulation. What they discover and uncover suggests that we all do it, and it comes from the very human place wanting to get our needs met, but without vulnerability and transparency in ourselves and with others. Admitting this opens up an entirely new series of possibilities for us.
Episode 90: No Need to Second Guess What is really happening in us when we second guess our decisions? When we make choices that don't work out as we'd hoped or expected? In this week's episode, Tawny and JDK posit a different way of understanding ourselves in relation to our choices; how well do they reflect our own values versus someone else's? How well do we welcome struggle into our lives as a normal part of life? To what degree do we fool ourselves into thinking we can control when and where struggle comes? How well do we move with it? Connecting with these questions, by itself, opens up new possibilities for us that don't require us second guessing our pasts.
Episode 89: "I'm Bored" is a BS Story! Tawny and JDK discuss how boredom isn't a real feeling; instead, it is more a state of avoidance of whatever is really happening inside us, underneath the BS stories that keep us disconnected from the creativity and curiosity we each can tap into for our own benefit. From a space grounded in our bodies, we can better see beyond the simple "boredom" label and really see what is happening inside us, which will give us a better sense of where and how we are in any given moment. And nothing about that sensibility is boring!
Episode 67: “Tawny’s Laziest Day in Decades”Fresh off a timely holiday, Tawny and JDK delve into what each of then experienced during their respective “down times,” including the surprising arrival of a rare Lazy Day for Tawny and a Grinch-like morning for JDK. What did they make of them? The answers might surprise you….
Episode 66: “The Crazy Train On Route 66”Ever get so lost in your BS stories that you can’t remember when they started or how long they’ve been in control of you? Tawny and JDK talk about the ways in which we can learn to not board that “crazy train” in the first place!
Episode 65: “Don’t Check Your Busy List - Chuck It!”Tawny and JDK explore the BS-Story Breeding Ground that is the dreaded “Busy List” of all the things we feel we “must” or “should” get done all the time. How can we better frame pie responsibilities and daily work / life routines? How and why do we make these more difficult than they need to be? Get some ideas to apply right away by taking a listen!
Episode 64: “Not This Holiday BS Again?!?!?”With the holiday season upon us, Tawny and JD K talk about all the different types of BS stories that can inundate us during the holidays. How can we better navigate the difficulties that seem to come through the messaging of media and both external and internal pressures for things to be “perfect“?
Episode 63: “Grief, Gratitude, and Beef Stew”Tawny returns from her hiatus to talk about how grief and gratitude are inseparable from one another, and in fact reinforce all the beauty and meaning we can find in life even if it’s toughest moments.
Episode 62: “The Only Cure For Grief is to Grieve”
In a first-ever “solo” episode of the show, JDK shares about the time of grief that Tawny and her family are currently experiencing, and how grief - as painful as it is - does not have to be a problem for us to avoid, run away from, medicate, or downplay. Instead, it can be something we allow to flow as it will while we stay connected with ourselves. We can, indeed, choose to grow through it by sitting with it moment by moment - and we can be okay at the same time.
Episode 61: “The Missing Mustard Moment”
If Tawny didn’t know to connect with her own body’s nervous system, lunch today might have been a disaster when her favorite mustard went missing. Instead of making up huge stories about it or choosing to throw a fit in front of her dog, she chose to laugh and shrug it off from a place of Presence and perspective. This applies to all sizes of problems, mustard-based or otherwise!
Episode 60: “Throwing Your Poop Off the Bridge”
When we get caught up learning a lot of new information about something, it’s easy to get stuck in our heads, listening to our own BS stories. What we need to do is build a bridge from our brains to our bodies - this will help us see what is real and what is complete crap. And, knowing the difference is easier than you might think!
Episode 59: “Staying In the Lovely Lane”
Ever get stuck in indecision about “making the ‘right’ choice” or “doing the right thing?” What if there were far simpler ways to look at the decisions we face? What if we didn’t have to worry so much about our choices? What possibilities would open up? If those questions sound interesting to you, this is the episode you’ve been waiting for!
Episode 58: “Focusing On Choosing Our Focus”
Tawny and JDK explore the obstacles we can encounter when trying to focus on various things. How do we “get focused” or “stay focused?” What BS stories get in the way? Why do we do often believe that every thought we have that produces emotion be indulged in, explored, or processed. How can we choose which thoughts and feelings to do that with? Take a listen and see what comes up in the conversation!
Episode 57: “Your Discomfort Is All the Proof You Need”
How do we know if something really “works“ or not? Tawny and JDK get asked this a lot when it comes to getting into the body and experiencing Presence. So, they figured, why not discuss that in this episode? So here you go! Hint: the key is in getting comfortable with discomfort…..
Episode 56: “You Can Step Our of the Penalty Box Whenever You Choose”
Tawny and JDK discuss all the ways in which we can often punish ourselves through the use of, or because of, the BS stories we tell ourselves in times of difficulty. Whether it’s around a personal relationship, or a life challenge, or a desired goal, there are far easier ways to navigate our emotions than punishing ourselves needlessly. Take a listen to learn more about how to do this yourself!
Episode 55: “‘When I Have the Time’ Is a B.S. Story”
This week, Tawny and JD K explore the myths we build around how time works for us – time to get things done, yes, but mainly how we do or do not allocate self-care time for ourselves. We often don’t recognize all the choices we have and how we frame, spend, and share our time. We often make it more difficult that needs to be, I don’t often see how and where we can make choices that benefit us without them being a detriment to others.
Episode 54: “What Kind of Plant Are You?”
With their respective “birthday seasons“ in full swing, Tawny and JDK discuss all the BS stories we can make up about birthdays, passage of time, how we “should“ look at those things, and why they are often sources of unnecessary stress. Why do we do that? More importantly, how can we stop doing that? As you might expect, Tawny and JDK have some ideas!
Episode 53: “Weeding Through the B.S.”
Breaking up with our BS isn’t a one-time thing. In fact, it’s a lot like weeding the garden; it takes regular effort in order for all the desired growth to happen successfully. The key to doing this is slowing down into the body, which then provides the pause and patience we need to calm down and better discern the choices we DO have in this moment.
Episode 52: “Your Sports Team is a Load of B.S.”
Tawny and JDK discuss the importance of recognizing when we are needlessly adding stress to our system when confronting both difficult and exciting circumstances. Whether it’s moving through grief or stressing over the performance of our favorite sports teams, adding in BS Stress does nothing good for us, and pulls us away from whatever is really happening in our lives right now.
Episode 51: “Let There Be Values”
In response to listener requests, Tawny and JDK circle back to the topic of Values; what are they, and why are they so vital to navigating our way to a less stressful life? How do we determine what are our most important ones? And what does it really mean to “live” by them? Listening to this episode is a fantastic place to start for answers!
Episode 50: “Your Wholeness Knows Things”
Tawny and JDK discuss the challenges many people encounter with getting into the body as opposed to operating from only a headspace. Why and how is integrating the mind and the body - with the body actually leading the way - so crucial to our overall health and well-being? Get into your body and experience the answer!
Episode 49: Non-Negotiable Options
Luxuriating in the the sunshine of summer, Tawny and JDK explore how our external environment affects us and how we can develop non-negotiable internal practices to help us balance out those externals and give us more meaning and enjoyment - and peace - in our lives.
Episode 48: Our 1th Birthday!
Tawny and JDK celebrate and reflect on the first year of the BUWOBS podcast, taking a look at what they’ve learned about themselves and each other along the way. And as always, they discover new insights and more connection points despite their very different ways of being and living. Bet you can relate with at least one of them!
Episode 47: “The World’s Okayness Starts With You”
With so much of consequence seemingly going on in the world, Tawny and JDK explore the ways in which we can be OK in ourselves - by connecting with our bodies first - and thus better respond to the challenges the world presents us. By reducing our own suffering we can take better steps to help improve the world around us - all without having to fight or flee from those with whom we disagree.
Episode 46: “Tawny’s 14-Month Old Grandson Drops a Truth Bomb”
Tawny returns to the studio this week to discuss the arrival of her new grandson, inherent body wisdom of her older grandson, and what we can learn from them both about all the gifts we have inside of us to guide ourselves to healthier and happier lives.
Episode 45: “Waitingly Patient”
Waiting on the birth of her second grandchild, Tawny calls in to the studio to talk with JDK about the challenges of staying patient and waiting when we are not in control of timing, outcomes, situations, etc. The key to this is getting underneath the stories by connecting with the body and each other through our “heart space.”
Episode 44: “A Ruling On ‘Judgy’”
This week, Tawny and JDK tackle the challenges involved when we fall into judgment of ourselves and others by believing various BS stories. Often rooted in perfectionism, the power of Judgy can make our lives far more stressful and full of struggle than they need to be. Listen in to find out how to better break up with Judgy!
Episode 43: “Leave ‘Settle’ On The Side Of The Road”
Tawny and JDK discuss the common fear many of us have about “settling” for things in life; what does it actually mean? Why do we use their term so often? What would it be like for us if we discarded the entire idea of settling? Some of the answers may surprise you - or at least how those answers feel in the body might!
Episode 42: “A Gaslighting Reality Check”
HubbyDave returns for an encore appearance, with the topic this week how “gaslighting” as a term has become so widely used outside its legitimate contexts that it can obscure our abilities to take good looks at ourselves and our own responsibilities in life. The result of this is often more disconnect within ourselves and others, but there are ways to put aside those stories that aren’t actual gaslighting and help ourselves with….ourselves.
Episode 41: “Introducing HubbyDave”
Tawny and JDK welcome Tawny’s husband Dave to the show to share insights and questions that have come up for him while listening to the show. His questions are ones that come up regularly with listeners, so there is lots of good stuff for people to relate to and connect with here. Plus, get a peek at how practicing Presence really helps in building and sustaining close relationships!
Episode 40: “Don’t Waste Your Energy On Time”
Tawny and JDK take a close look at the differences between what we call “time management“ as opposed to the much more constructive “energy management.“ The former tends to stress us out and feed our BS stories, while the latter connects us much more to reality, to a sense of personal ease and flow, and to healthier practices and outlooks. Take up the challenge that Tawny gives us in this episode and see what happens!
Episode 39: “Denial Is Really A Blocked River”
Tawny and JDK dig through the effects denial has on all of us in every area of our lives - our bodies, our emotional states, our relationships and more. And yet, when we learn to listen to and replenish our bodies, it helps us better see and accept reality and let go of the BS stories that so often we use to trap ourselves unknowingly.
Episode 38: “Asteroids and Icebergs”
Tawny and JDK have a wide ranging discussion about the uses, limitations, and dangers involved in putting simple labels on people in their complex experiences. What do we miss out on in each other, and in ourselves, when we use such labels? How can we learn to spot them before we use them? Or move past them if we are using them? Take a listen for some ideas on how and where to start addressing those important questions!
Episode 37: “Mr. Rogers Was No Saint”
Tawny and JDK discuss lessons learned from the recent Mr. Rogers biopic, focusing on how his success with connection was based upon his deliberate practice of it within himself and with others. The lessons learned tell us a lot about what we each have in common as humans alongside our unique individual lives and experiences.
Episode 36: “Presence is Kinda Sorta Like Baseball Maybe…..Sometimes.”
Tawny and JDK tackle the ways in which we misunderstand Struggle, and the crucial role patience plays in Presence work - it can literally make us stronger in our choices, clearer in our awareness of reality, and more at ease with the reality in us and outside of us.
Episode 35: “Ding-Dong-Ducking”
Tawny and JDK have a lively discussion about Courage - what it is, how it operates in Presence work, and what changes it can bring about in us when we “answer the door” when discomfort rings and we let them in
Episode 34: “Know Your Values And The Rest Will Follow”
Tawny and JDK do some deep digging into what it means to really know - and act upon - our internal values, and why doing so is the key to unlocking who we really are, reducing our stress, and improving the quality of our moment-to-moment lives.
Episode 33: “My Freeze Feels Like Your Flight”
Shooting from the hip this week, Tawny and JDK point out that it’s our BS stories that create chronic stress in our bodies - stories of how to be successful, happy, etc. These can then keep us in a constant state of fight, flight, or freeze. But when we question those stories and see reality instead, we can free ourselves more and more from those responses. And then , guess what? We feel better because all our parts are working together like they’re designed to do!
Episode 32: “This Stimulating Conversation Is SOOOOOO Boring….”
It often seems like everything around us is intended to amp us up, to activate our senses, to push us to be Doings rather than Beings. Slowing down and getting into our bodies, by contrast, can feel boring. Why do we go for stimulation so easily? What if we found a new way of comfort and value through softening and listening to our bodies first? Take a listen to find out what happens when we do!
Episode 31: “The Power of Not Knowing”
Tawny and JDK examine how we tend to react to uncertainty in our lives, whether it comes from inside ourselves, within our relationships, or from the outside world. Why do we tend to see uncertainty as a bad thing? Does it even need to be good or bad? What would change for us if it was just accepted as Real? A whole lot of GOOD change would happen, as it turns out……
Episode 30: “The Matrix Isn’t Real, And That’s A Good Thing”
This week, Tawny and JDK explore all the systems that we connect with throughout our lives — ourselves, our relationships, school, work, teams, etc. When we recognize these systems exist, and that they constantly change, we can then experience a deeper sense of peace and connection with the people and values that truly matter to us.
Episode 29: “If You Don’t Mind, It Don’t Matter”
Tawny and JDK zero in on the word “conflict“ in this episode, wondering if many of the situations we label as such really need to be problems at all. And if they aren’t conflicts, what possibilities does that open for us in our relationships with ourselves and others? With a little help from baseball legend Satchel Paige, we can all find a place to start.
Episode 28: “Don’t Make Love About War”
Tawny and JD K talk this week about how expectations in relationships can often lead to the outbreak of war, not unlike how wars have broken out throughout history. Sound like too big of a leap? It’s not, nor is it so difficult to reframe our relationship communication around agreements instead….
Episode 27: “Not-So-Great Expectations”
Tawny and JDK dive into a lovely discussion about the dangers of setting expectations for all the wrong reasons. How well do we use the “maps” available in our safety system to find better avenues to a more fulfilling life? How is getting comfortable with discomfort the key to this? Take a listen and you’ll see you’re more ready for that than you might believe.
Episode 26: “Your Relationships Are F%@&ed - Or Not.”
Once we are able to activate our safety system, we can start experiencing our relationships from a much more real, positive, and healthy place. Join Tawny and JDK as they dig into how connecting with ourselves can then destroy the BS stories we often make up in our relationships. This allows us to discern each other better and grow as individuals and in connection, whether those relationships continue on long term, or end, or anything in between.
Episode 25: “Viva Ventral Vagal”
In this episode, Tawny and JDK explore how breaking up with our BS stories starts with connecting to our autonomic nervous system - the “safety system” of our bodies. Connecting with this system can save us from burnout and disconnection with ourselves and others, and allows us to see that so much of life can be simpler than we often make it.
Episode 24: “Put the Search For Purpose Down, And Slowly Walk Away!”
With a good deal of energy and curiosity, Tawny in JDK take a look at the idea of “finding our purpose“ and how this pursuit may not be the best idea for us if we want to live from a place of presence and with true meaning. Not to worry – there is plenty to live for, and it starts with us!
Episode 23: “Being Present For the Future”
In this episode, Tawny in JDK address listeners questions about how we can be present in our daily lives and still make plans for the future. How do we do so without making up BS stories that undercut our best laid plans? I guess what? The answers to that are pretty simple!
Episode 22: “Notice What the Hell You’re Noticing”
Ever wonder why Tawny ends every show by asking you to “Notice” your BS stories? What does noticing mean and look like? And what do we “do” when we notice them? Well, wonder no more, because that’s what Tawny and JDK discuss and clarify in this episode! The good news is that it’s not nearly so complicated as we often make it!
Episode 21: “The Grand(parent) Adventure Land”
Troy returns for another week with Tawny and JDK, this time to talk about the joys and challenges of being a grandparent. Amidst all the fun, there are a number of BS stories that can often crop up for even the most attentive and connected grandparents. Fortunately, just noticing the stories is the first key step to take in breaking up with them!
Episode 20: “The Island of Lonely Dads”
Tawny and JDK welcome Troy as a guest this week, to talk about his experience as a father. Unlike mothers who often seek out each other for advice, support, and help, dads don’t often do the same with other dads. Why is that? Take a listen to hear Troy‘s perspective, along with some ideas of how to end those BS stories and bridge the communication and connection gaps between dads.
Stacy returns to the show to continue talking with Tawny and JDK about the BS stories she’s battling as a parent of four grown kids, as well as a few ideas on how to better address common parental desires like being validated and be appreciated. Take a listen and hear a few “a-ha!” moments that just might resonate with you!
Tawny and JDK welcome Stacy to the show, a mother of four and recent “Empty Nester.” Together they discuss Stacy’s experience in that big transition, the BS stories that affected her parenting (and still do), and a particular “pity party” she threw for herself over a recent holiday with her kids. It’s powerful stuff!
Episode 17: “The Great Family Mac N’ Cheese Taste Test”
Taryn returns again to talk with Tawny and JDK, this time about different ways we can connect with ourselves as parents alongside connecting with the teenagers in our lives. How can dedicated family time help? How can we work with our partners more effectively from a place of Presence as we co-parent?
Episode 16: “The Perfect Parent is From Outer Space”
Tawny and JDK welcome Taryn to the show, a mom in a blended family of four teenagers, for a conversation about navigating the often turbulent waters of adolescence. These produce many BS stories for parents, especially around “needing to be perfect” in every moment with our teens. Take a listen to hear what all came up with that!
Emily returns to continue the conversation about the challenges involved in raising a toddler when the BS stories seem to be coming from every direction. Take a listen as Tawny, JDK, and Emily discuss how Presence - not parenting information overload - is the key to the parent / child relationship developing positively!
This week Tawny and JDK welcome their first ever guest! Emily, a mother of a toddler, brings in some of the BS stories she’s told herself as a mom, and the conversation ends up hitting on much more than that! Take a listen to find out how softening is something both parent AND child can do to their mutual benefit!
Episode 13: “The Parent(ing) Trap”
Few human endeavors can fuel more BS stories than the challenges involved in being a parent. Join Tawny and JDK as they contemplate and examine the various ways in which coming from a place of Presence can reframe our parenting skills for the better.
Episode 12: “Dust Off Your Box of Chocolates”
Tawny and JDK explore the frights and perils of the catastrophes we often make up in our minds, or try relentlessly to predict, when we face difficult circumstances. How do we separate fact from fiction and stay in the Now when we fear what might be coming next? Take a listen to get some simple tips on where to start!
Episode 11: “Certainly Uncertain”
Why do so many of us always want to know what is going to happen next? This week, Tawny and JD K ask themselves that question, explore possible answers, and bring things back to the solution of getting present in our bodies and reconnecting with reality, ourselves, and others. And, all of that is not nearly as far away as we often tell ourselves.
Episode 10: “Captain Transparency to the Rescue!” In this episode, Tawny and JDK do a deep dive into the false connections we often make between trust in ourselves and controlling outcomes. In the process, they also discover why transparency might just be a far better word - and goal - than “authenticity.”
Episode 11: “Certainly Uncertain”
Why do so many of us always want to know what is going to happen next? This week, Tawny and JD K ask themselves that question, explore possible answers, and bring things back to the solution of getting present in our bodies and reconnecting with reality, ourselves, and others. And, all of that is not nearly as far away as we often tell ourselves.
Episode 9: "Trusting Me, Trusting You (ahaaaaaa...!)"
Tawny and JDK continue their reflections and lessons learned about trust, with a focus this week on how trust in anything or anyone MUST begin with learning how to trust ourselves. In this sense, trust depends on connection with ourselves before we can connect and trust another person. Take a listen and find out how to start making that shift!
Episode 8: "Dragging Our Trust Around"
In this episode, Tawny and JDK unpack the surprisingly difficult-to-define-or-really-articulate notion of "trust," with a focus on how we often look to others to determine it for us. In a conversation with some surprising twists and a-ha moments, it became clearer that looking solely to others for trust is to give over enormous power to others over our daily lives. Take a listen and be ready to explore your own ideas about trust in new ways!
Episode 7: “Don’t Take My Tacos!” In this episode, Tawny and JDK unpack the BS stories we tell to ourselves around the foods we eat and what they mean fir our overall health. When we get present with ourselves, we can see and accept the reality that our bodies change, and this doesn’t have to be a limitation or deprivation for us in how we enjoy our lives.
Episode 6: “ Soften Up, Buddy”
Tawny and JDK discuss the power of the word “soften” to get us into the so-called “safety zones” of our bodies in times of stress and when our BS stories hijack us. What we find in thar safety zone is that we get more out of ourselves, our lives, and our relationships in a softened state than we do from just living in our heads.
Episode 5: “Our Fantasmical Expanding Belly Balloons”
Tawny and JDK discuss what it means to “create space” in ourselves and with others, and how Presence Work leads us to experience life with more lightness, freedom, and peaceful inner strength. And, we can all get there faster than we might think.
Episode 4: "Dancing With the Shoulds"
Tawny and JDK delve into more about the "shoulds," in particular how we can "should" all over others and not just ourselves. This puts our most cherished relationships at unnecessary risk and disconnects us from reality and from ourselves. As each relationship has it's own dance - its own practices, rhythms, movements, and challenges - it is imperative that we learn how to break up with the "shoulds" and learn how to be a better dancer, knowing that we will never be perfect at it. And, this isn't as difficult as it can often seem.
Tawny and JDK introduce the practice of Getting Present by taking on the powerful Bullsh!t stories that come up when we are “SHOULDING” all over ourselves - “I should be happy” or “I should have done more by now” or …..you fill in the blank. There are real ways we can break up with these stories, and it’s through our biology and practice - not magic or overthinking. Give it a try!
Episode Two: “Do You Have the ‘Right’ Stuff?”
In this episode, we hear Tawny’s backstory on how she became a Presence-based coach and counselor, then she and JDK take on the twin-headed monster of perfectionism and “doing the right thing.” Both are huge producers of Bullsh!t….and we can break up with them both.
Episode 1: “It Doesn’t Have To Be A Problem”
In this debut episode, Tawny and JDK lay out what they mean by “Bullsh!t,” why it harms us more than just about anything else in our lives, and how are bodies our already hardwired to help us do this. They also pull back the curtain on how they met and on the book project accompanying this show!