Normal Lies: Recent Episodes
Linda Heeler
WARNING: This podcast challenges beliefs you thought were true about you and your world. Join Professional Certified Coach, Linda Heeler, as she uncovers the “normal lies” that have become “normalized” in our lives for years. As a coach, Linda works with people to uncover and shift the disempowering stories (lies) that the voice in their head says are true about them. After realizing the lies that we were born into and the systemic racism that has taken place in our country for hundreds of years, Linda’s eyes were opened to the harm that’s occurring simply because we have been living so many lies. And, it’s not just the lies about race but also regarding sexism, ableism, ageism, etc. Each week, Linda and her guests talk about how "normal lies" came to be as they explore topics that range from relationships, parenting, your health, racism, sexism, career, trauma and more. Listen as Linda and her guests have hard, and sometimes messy conversations as we discover these lies and their impact on all of us. They discuss actions to begin breaking through the lies so we can ultimately live a happier, more fulfilling life. Over the last 10 years, Linda Heeler has helped dozens of people transform their lives through her work as a coach. She now brings her expertise and curiosity to this podcast to spread the word that the path to getting rid of our fear and anxiety is by questioning that voice in your head and understanding that there is nothing wrong with you.
Episode 88. “… imagine something comes so easily for me and I expect the person sitting next to me to be able to do what I do, their strengths are different than mine. They have other gifts that they bring to the table. So when we have those expectations, there can be some clashes and misunderstandings and it's important for us to become familiar with the language of strengths and what to look for and how to appreciate people.”
Nermine Zakhary is a practitioner of strengths, helping others strategically apply them to accelerate their performance, energy, relationships, and results!
As a Certified People Acuity Coach™, Nermine coaches individuals and small groups. She also facilitates workshops to teach strengths strategies to clients so they can define their optimal zones -- and thrive there.
This positive approach allows people to own who they are and empowers them to purposefully make their unique and impactful contributions to our world.
Nermine shares:
- “I realized in that moment that I had spent the bulk of my adult life trying to live up to someone else's expectations and never feeling like I was meeting them. Or I was always comparing myself to other people and, well, “why can't I be like so and so?" or “why can't I do what she does?” and never feeling good enough. And for the first time, it was okay to just be me.”
- “Sometimes if we're waiting for someone to notice what our gifts are or the environment to give us an opportunity to contribute, when we're in this waiting place, we don't use them at all because no one has invited us to this space with them.”
- “We're quick to notice our deficits, we're quick to notice the areas we need to work on to be better, and not appreciate and enjoy what we do have and what we bring and know the value that we bring to situations and relationships.”
- “We tend to be in a deficit thinking society. When we’ve accomplished something, we celebrate it for all of 30 seconds. And then we're quick to see, “what did I do wrong?” “Where can I do better?” Well, no, wait a second. this is a big accomplishment. We need to slow down and celebrate and take in what is it that worked well? What did we do to make this a successful project? How can we do more of that?”
Contact Nermine for more information and to set up a discovery call at Nermine@Strengths-Edge.com.
Linda also makes an announcement about the future of this podcast.
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Episode 87. “… I’ve been broke pretty much my entire adult life. but I've always had an abundance of food and that makes me feel rich.”
Jamie Truppi has a passion for connecting the mind-body-spirit with healing foods and plants from the earth.
Jamie’s life centers around food, people, nature, wellbeing, traveling, and cultivating meaningful experiences in this short, crazy life.
As a functional nutritionist with a master’s degree in science and nutrition and board certified as a Certified Nutrition Specialist, Jamie guides her clients to go from gut-brain-stress dis-ease to healing.
More from Jamie:
- “… food is just one extension of the bigger picture of my values, but it is one that comes up constantly because, for example, when we choose a home to live in… we don't have to make it again for a while… When we choose to buy a car, we do that once and we don't have to think about it again for quite a few years, hopefully. However with food, we're making these choices five, six, seven, eight times a day… We are constantly making food choices and it can be really distressing for people who don't know what to choose.”
- “I remember fearing when I was a vegan, I was like, “what if I decide I want meat someday, and here I am calling myself a vegan, and then everyone's gonna call me a hypocrite. I'm gonna go down that road of judgment and criticism. So there's a lot of psychological distress around eating regardless of what the diet is.”
- “We just have to remember that it doesn't actually matter what other people think. What matters is what's right for us.”
- “… all of a sudden you start to expand your palate because you're like, “I wonder what that tastes like?” and this is food curiosity… and then we go back to psychological like, “oh gosh, I can't remove meat! I could never remove dairy. I don't know how I would function!” People have done harder things, and if we get playful and think of it as an experiment through the lens of childlike eyes, it's “I wonder how would I feel without dairy for a week?”
For more information about Jamie and to purchase her book, Clean Food, Messy Life: A food lover’s conscious journey back to self, visit: JamieTruppiNutrition.com.
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Episode 86. This episode is a compilation of Linda’s most recent guest's answers to her finale questions:
- What’s the best piece of advice you received when you were younger?
- A lie you wish you discovered sooner?
- What’s the thing that makes you, you?
- What is one change you’d like to see in the world & one action, even a baby step, that we can take right now so we can move toward that change?
Hear from:
Luz Flores Lee, from episode 75, How to Navigate Change and Thrive
Jill Nagle, from episode 76, Exposing Myths of White Supremacy
Prithvi Madhukar, from episode 77, How our Passion can Lead to Burnout
Melissa Davis, from episode 79, From Competition to Collaboration
Keltie Maguire, from episode 80, Question Your Choices and Discover Possibilities
Erin Halligan-Avery, from episode 81, Caring & Empathy: A New Path to Leadership & Success in Business
Avadhi Dhruv, from episode 82, Uncover Your Inner Guru
Click the links above to listen to their full episodes, find out how to contact them and follow them on social media .
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Episode 85. “Collecting business cards isn’t networking. I tell people, getting someone's card or adding someone on LinkedIn and saying they're in your network, that's like swiping right on a dating app and saying, this person is now your significant other.”
From tracking criminals and terrorists on the dark web to creating marketplaces and new authentication systems, Mark Herschberg has spent his career launching and developing new ventures at startups and Fortune 500s and in academia, with over a dozen patents to his name.
Mark helped start the Undergraduate Practice Opportunities Program, dubbed MIT’s “career success accelerator,” is the author of The Career Toolkit: Essential Skills for Success That No One Taught You as well as the creator of the Brain Bump app.
This conversation runs the gamut, from networking to ethics to leadership:
- “… every time I meet someone, I think “Nice to meet you. What can I do to help?” Now, I'm not gonna show up and move your couch, but maybe there's other ways I can help you. And that is relationship building. You don't keep score with your friends, you don't keep score with your network.”
- “Leadership is about stepping up and getting people to follow you, but the good news is you can practice and develop these skills long before you have that title…”
- “I always get the sense ‘ethics,’ it’s the redheaded stepchild. Ethics is, “Well, after we have everything else, our profitability, our leadership and everything else. . . if we have time… we'll get to ethics…”
For more information about Mark and to purchase his book, The Career Toolkit: Essential Skills for Success That No One Taught You, visit: https://www.thecareertoolkitbook.com/
To learn more about his Brain Bump app, go to: https://brainbumpapp.com/
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Episode 84. “I don't drink anymore. I haven't had a drink in almost three years, so why do I have to tell the world I'm an alcoholic? I'm a non-drinker, I'm not an alcoholic. I did have an issue with alcohol. I was drinking problematically. They call it Alcohol Use Disorder, but I addressed the problem and I fixed it. I don't drink anymore so how can I continue to call myself powerless over alcohol and addicted to alcohol and I have alcoholism as a disease if I don't drink?”
Jennifer Salzman once considered herself a 'normal' drinker. But as her marriage ended in 2012, she increasingly used alcohol to cope. She tried many times to cut down but consistently ended up drinking more than she wanted to. After struggling with her own unhealthy relationship with alcohol for eight years, Jennifer knew she must make a change, but didn’t like the idea of AA and having to label herself an alcoholic.
Jennifer shares the story of her search for an alternative to AA, and how she found freedom from alcohol through the same science based, compassion led model she now uses in her one-on-one coaching and group coaching programs.
In this episode, Jennifer talks about her work as a certified Alcohol Freedom Life Coach, helping her clients make alcohol small and irrelevant in their lives so they can create a life they don’t want to escape from.
You can reach Jennifer at AMightyRebel.com.
Jennifer mentions the University of Washington and the University of Florida joint scientific study of the alcohol-free lifestyle and, unfortunately, registration is closed. However, Jennifer would love to speak with you so be sure to reach out to her.
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Episode 83. “… those lies early on really informed a whole lifetime of shielding myself that really was unnecessary because we have unlimited capabilities that are never tapped if we just give every individual the opportunity to attempt them and strive, and see what they are capable of and take the limitations away from them.”
Judy Schwingel’s story includes seizures due to epilepsy as a child and later in grade school, a diagnosis of dyslexia and a visual perception disorder.
Judy experienced many societal biases, stigmas, and negative medical opinions that believed she was incapable of learning or overcoming her disabilities.
These experiences, challenges, and the heroes in her life instilled in her a strong will to overcome and do anything she chooses. “If I can Imagine it, it can be done”, became Judy’s mantra in life.
After many years working as a nurse, Judy felt drawn and Spiritually called to return to what she knows as her true God-given talents as a spiritual, nurturing, healing soul.
As a Faith-based Master Transformational Life Coach, Judy focuses on working with people in life-changing transitions struggling with what direction to take. She helps them light their divine Spirit's Power, and cultivate confidence, toward finding life's purpose, so they can set a new course in life.
For more information about Judy and to contact her, visit: https://www.heartnsoulhlc.com
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Episode 82. "... it's each individual person's duty in their life to fulfill on their purpose, and follow the path of their dharma and this is where the societal conditioning and all of those lies that we are set up with this notion of competition and all of this it totally takes us far away from what we're really supposed to be focusing on, our own true purpose, the path of dharma in life. And so this self discovery is the way that we discover and start living in alignment with our purpose and mission in life. Follow that path of dharma, which is the way to have abundance and fulfillment and freedom, true freedom in this life.”
Avadhi Dhruv is a spiritual business coach and an international bestselling author who helps heart-centered entrepreneurs reclaim the power in their businesses so they can create financial abundance and inner fulfillment, while making a positive impact in the world.
After having a successful corporate career in engineering and management, Avadhi still felt the urge to explore her higher purpose in life. In 2014, she decided to embark on an entrepreneurial journey to connect with her inner genius and uncover the best way in which she was meant to serve the world.
Avadhi founded the brand, Avadhi.guru™, with the intention of bringing a holistic approach to business.
Her clients have included budding entrepreneurs to leaders of multi‐million dollar international businesses who have successfully made transformational changes in their businesses and lives.
Avadhi believes that every human has entrepreneurial potential, and every entrepreneur has an Inner Genius that deserves to be expressed so that business owners can have an abundant and fulfilling life.
A taste of Avadhi’s genius:
- “… I realized that actually there's one thing there is no competition for, and that is being yourself, being your true self, the true authentic self. Because there's only one of you in the world, not only right now, but if you look at the entire history of the world and the future, there will never be another person with the unique experiences, background, skills, talents, everything that you are.”
- “A heart-centered entrepreneur, quite literally, is centered and connected with their heart and soul and passion and purpose in life. And their passion and purpose in life is what propels them to make a positive difference or a progressive impact in the world.”
- “We are all facing this problem of burnout and this book really goes into a lot of examples and actionable guidance to help people overcome that burnout and really connect with their true purpose so they can live a meaningful and rewarding life. At the end of this life feel like, “Yes, I lived it, I lived my life and I loved it fully.”
- “I even have a whole post on social media that says it's not your job to make other people's dreams come true. It is your responsibility to make your life and your dreams come true because those dreams and desires were planted in your heart for a reason.”
For more information about Avadhi, visit: Avadhi.guru
For more information about Avadhi's book, visit: https://www.avadhi.guru/book.html
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Episode 81. “… people appreciate my leadership style, which is one of caring and empathy and really trying to relate with people but still have standards and expectations. But, because I couldn't see myself in a lot of the people that were in these positions, I sort of assumed that that meant that I can't be me and … I didn't know how to reconcile that.”
Dr. Erin Halligan-Avery never set out to be an entrepreneur.
In fact, she was quite content working in Higher Education, Student Affairs in roles helping students who were struggling and even developed the ConcernCenter system - which has now become her full time business - while working in one of these positions.
Slowly, methodically, and with the unending support of friends, colleagues and family, Erin and her team grew ConcernCenter into a business that now helps over 3.5 million people find the support they need, when they need it.
Erin is discerning, compassionate, unscripted and fun. She is someone who knows that a successful business can be built solely on a foundation of care and compassion for others and is looking to change the world, one ConcernCenter search at a time.
Erin talks to Linda about how she created her authentic style of leading and how we can begin to live more authentically too:
- “I would watch those who had positions that I thought I was aspiring to be in, and how they would act and I would think, okay, this is how you're supposed to behave or what is going to be required of you if you're going to be in this type of role. You have to be incredibly diplomatic sometimes, diplomatic at the expense of authenticity. And I thought, “Am I able to do that?” And it was very clear to me that I don't do that really well.”
- “Announcing who I am or where I am before I get there, for me is a sign of respect that I care enough about this group of people that I'm letting you in on where I am right now so that we can do meaningful work together. And I fully embrace and love when people are able to do the same.”
- “I love when people come as who they are, but we need to also acknowledge that coming as who you are, is either going to be for people ornot for people. There’s a meme that goes around that it’s like “You're not everybody's cup of tea.” And I agree with that. I, myself am not everybody's cup of tea. And that's okay.”
- “I do think that some people would be like, “Okay, I can be myself when I'm with my best friends, but I can't be myself when I'm talking to my child's teacher.” And the reality is, you can be whomever you really are at the end of the day with both of those people, but your best friends and your child's teacher are gonna have two very different reactions to whomever you're giving to them. And you just have to understand that you can unapologetically be yourself, but know that there are consequences potentially, or repercussions, or just reactions that people may have, that they are also allowed to have, to who you are and who you're giving to the world.”
Learn about ConcernCenter at: ConcernCenter.com
To contact Erin: Erin@ConcernCenter.com
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Episode 80. “… one of the great joys of my life is to really question how I'm living and the choices I'm making. Whether things need to be a certain way, whether I want them to be a certain way and, it's not just related to “do I want kids or not.”
Keltie Maguire is a Clarity Coach who helps business owners and professionals get clear on what they want so they can feel confident knowing their life is the one they choose.
When Linda saw a post written by Keltie about something rarely talked about, people/couples choosing to be child-free, she knew she had to have her as a guest.
This is a conversation about choices:
- “It's this question of: do I need to have a single job or career over my lifetime? ...we know that shifted and changed a lot over the past two, three generations, but there's still, for a lot of people, this idea, I can't make a change, I call it holding yourself hostage to past choices or to your past self. Because past you decided something, you feel like you have to continue making that same choice or living by that same choice.”
- "I think really just encouraging people to be intentional and if you feel dissatisfied, or even if it's just this small niggling that maybe there's something else for you in life, maybe there's more possibility to be explored."
- “… asking the question, What do I want? And then further to that, why do I want this? it's something that we so rarely take the time to ask ourselves, and it's a big one that I help my clients answer. What do I want? And it's one that, when I pose that to people, (they're) are like, "What do you mean what do I want? I've never even thought about that before.”
You can reach Keltie through her website: KeltieMaguire.com.
Follow Keltie on Instagram, Facebook or Linked In
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Episode 79. “… entrepreneurship can feel really lonely. And the reason that it feels really lonely is because I believe we isolate ourselves based on this competitive, usually adopted, mindset or collective behavior that we have around entrepreneurship. And the reality is that we are part of this amazing, brilliant ecosystem of entrepreneurs, and small businesses and not for profits, in a community. And together we create value for each other and we create value for the community. And the stronger we're connected into that ecosystem, the better we do.”
Melissa Davis
Melissa Davis is a startup clarity coach & founder of Humanity inc. Her mission is to connect entrepreneurs, leaders, & changemakers, to each other and to the resources they need to create more impact in the world. She believes that when we come together on the shared value of collaboration instead of competition, it has a rapid & compounding effect not just individually, but for the whole community.
In her conversation with Linda, she shares:
- “… when we can kind of let down that idea of "I have competitors" and "it's my job to do this alone" because I'm an entrepreneur because I chose to take this path where I have to figure all this out on my own. ... I want entrepreneurs to know, if you have the vision, you have the capacity, and that doesn't mean you have to do it alone.”
- “Having the capacity doesn't mean that you have to have the capacity to do all the little things, you don’t and you won't, and you shouldn't. What it means is that if you have the vision as an entrepreneur, to contribute, to make this impact, to do this thing you see it solving a problem.”
- “… if we can have the broader understanding of what our role is in this bigger ecosystem, then we're better able to perform in it. We're better able to connect with the people around us really effectively and to solve the problem because that's really the goal of entrepreneurship is to solve a problem or an anticipated problem.”
- “… if I can plug in as an entrepreneur and I can see the opportunities to plug into the ecosystem, that means to partner and work with other entrepreneurs and small businesses and not for profits to see the opportunities for my puzzle piece to fit in there, to be guided on designing my business around the idea that I'm a puzzle piece instead of the whole puzzle, then I'll see one, that I'm more successful, and two, I'll just simply be naturally incentivized to do that because, I believe that we'll see more success, less failure rates as entrepreneurs and, happier entrepreneurs if we can do that.”
You can reach out to Melissa through her website HumanityInc.world or connect with Melissa on Linked In.
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Episode 78. This is a compilation of Linda’s most recent guest's answers to her finale questions:
- What’s the best piece of advice you received when you were younger?
- A lie you wish you discovered sooner?
- What’s the thing that makes you, you?
- What is one change you’d like to see in the world & one action, even a baby step, that we can take right now so we can move toward that change?
In order of appearance, you’ll hear from:
Dr. Rehnuma Karim (Episode 66)
Mark Dulaney (Episode 67)
Dr. Carla Fowler (Episode 69 & Episode 70)
Valerie Dimino (Episode 71)
Jonathan Goehring (Episode 72)
Tanya Cole-Lesnick (Episode 73)
Jackie Goddard (Episode 74)
If you haven’t already, go to Normal-Lies.com to listen to their full episodes and find out how to contact them and follow them on social media .
What about you? How would you respond?
Linda also shares a review from one of her listeners.
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Episode 77. Prithvi Madhukar is known as The Marketing Nomad. Prit is the CEO of The Marketing Nomad LLC, a global Marketing Consultancy Firm in Delaware that, as of this year, has helped sixty-plus clients from eight different countries. Her podcast, The Marketing Nomad, is ranked in the top 100 in Marketing in India, and in the Top 10% Globally.
Prit empowers business owners to confidently implement long-term marketing strategies to grow the business they love. She is a digital entrepreneur and business owner with a passion for marketing and a zest for life.
In this conversation, Prit shares how she found her passion and why she urges all of us to find and follow our passion.
- “…in that moment I made a small promise to myself that I would never, ever take my passion for marketing for granted, and I would make sure that I see it through, whatever it is. I'm going to make sure that I allow the passion to let me see my life and see where it can take me…”
- “…your passion is not something that you find. It's not something that you wake up one day and it magically appears at your doorstep. I don't believe that. I believe that your passion is something that has been cultivated over years and years and years, and it's so powerful that sometimes you may not even recognize it as passion.”
- “…one thing about passion is it comes as quickly as it goes because it very quickly leads to burnout. We are so used to doing what we love, that we don't even recognize when the burnout seeps in. And your passion is, I would personally say this (as) I've not seen any studies out there, but I think that your passion is directly proportional to the burnout that you will face. Because you just get so deep into it, you don't realize it, and then the crash is absolutely devastating. So it's important for you to learn how to sustain that passion long term…”
To contact Prit, find her podcast, get a copy of her book and learn more about her work, go to TheMarketingNomad.co.
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Episode 76. “… white supremacy mythology is so deeply embedded in the US culture… meaning images and stories on television and other places, and it's slippery and it's insidious and it's persistent.”
Jill Nagle is an author, coach, facilitator, and founder of Evolutionary Workplace. Her aim is to help reduce harm to Black and Brown people, as well as support white people in liberating themselves from the effects of white supremacy’s toxic mythology.
Change is hard and when faced with it, it’s human nature to ask, what’s in it for me? Many white people are likely asking that question and are afraid that dismantling racism is going to cost them something.
That’s exactly what Linda and Jill discuss:
- What is “white supremacy mythology?”
- How does blame, shame and guilt keep this mythology in place and, its effects on ALL people?
- Understand the first step in helping to combat racism. Hint: It’s all about us.
Jill also tells a story about her Aunt Phyllis's antiracism work and how it influenced her to carry on her legacy.
Jill recently found representation for her book, Skin in the Game: How White People Benefit from Dismantling White Supremacy.
To contact Jill and learn more about her work, go to EvolutionaryWorkplace.com.
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Episode 75. “… if you're in a place where you know you need to make changes, if you're suffering, it's okay. The way to get through all of this, the way to get to what you actually want, is love and acceptance for all of you.”
Luz Flores Lee coaches and trains individuals and teams around the one consistent challenge for all, change. Instead of ignoring the changes within and around us, Luz believes we must face it head-on and create adaptable systems that will grow with us so, she guides teams through a creative and healing process with love, compassion, and fun. As a result, they create sustainable improvements in our constantly changing world.
Linda and Luz not only talk about change and how she incorporates her love of dancing into her coaching, but Linda explains why Luz is an important and pivotal person in her journey to becoming a coach.
- “Nothing is forever. We know this, but our brains don't always tell us that. We think, Oh my gosh, if I do this, I have to commit forever. I'm a professor and I have lots of students and I have my kids, and they're like, Oh, but should I commit to this? I'm like, Commit to it, now. Decide if that's something you want to try. Everything we're doing is trying . There is no linear path. You do not have to check boxes and do this thing forever, but if it's something you think resonates, do it. Try it. Do it for a day, a week, month, years, whatever works for you in service of the vision and the goals that you have.”
- “I'm not as angry and reactive when someone makes a mistake or does something that's not healthy, I don't jump on them anymore because I'm not jumping on myself anymore. And my whole world opened up, my relationships opened up my, connections with people. My connections with myself are in a completely different place now.”
- “My entire worth was always attached to productivity. There's always attached to what you can do for others and how others felt around you. Versus how I felt like my needs never existed and I'm learning now to actually even consider them.”
- “I'm used to giving from me. Instead, I keep my cup full, I give away from the overflow. And how much more powerful is that if I'm not giving you, what is taking away from me. I am giving you from abundance.”
To contact Luz or learn more about her coaching services go to LovingAllofYou.com
To register for her workshop, go to Thriving in Change on Eventbrite.
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/thriving-in-change-tickets-396194246657
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Episode 74. “…hopefully people will realize that there's nothing wrong with a bit of showing off and it's not showing off. It's just being confident…”
Jackie Goddard has spent 30 years working in the arts. She’s been a High Street fashion designer and worked in the costume department of the Royal Shakespeare Company, She’s been an actor, producer and director for the London and Edinburgh fringe and has spent the last 20 years working with adults and children, teaching them how to act and use their voice effectively.
With Jackie’s company, Power To Speak, she uses her acting experience and training to coach business leaders, solopreneurs and professional speakers to use their voice and their story to show up confidently for their audience, customers and clients.
Jackie shares her experience helping others gain confidence and success by becoming who they are through owning their story:
- “…this feeling that actually if you are showing up as yourself, then you are being seen as a show off or being arrogant. And actually what that does is that keeps people very small because they're frightened of showing up as themselves. And so we hide, we hide behind the character we think we should be. So we play rather than actually being…”
- “… that is really important what you have there, that knowledge you have, that that message you want to share is really important. As your audience, you are telling me this and I'm listening. As an audience, I can tell you that this is worth sharing.”
- “Doesn't matter how successful you are. I mean I've worked with CFOs of some very big companies and even they have a certain amount of imposter syndrome. So I don't think anybody escapes that. There's always that little voice in our heads.”
You can reach Jackie through her website, PowerToSpeak.co.uk or connect with Jackie on LinkedIn.
Find Power To Speak on YouTube or Apple Podcast.
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Episode 73. “… to me, the secret to a life that is satisfying and has peace and happiness in it, is learning how to connect to yourself.”
Tanya Cole-Lesnick has been a psychotherapist (licensed clinical social worker) and coach since 1995. She received her master’s degree in social work from New York University after group therapy changed her life.
Tanya helps clients access and honor their truth, change habits that don’t serve them, and heal faulty narratives so that they begin living in alignment inside and out. Her work revolves around a combination of intimate therapeutic groups and individual sessions, as the sharing of inner worlds and being human together in a safe space—collectively and individually—is an incredibly powerful combination that leads to lasting transformation.
In this episode, Tanya shares:
- “… connecting to other people on their inner journeys and having the support from the therapist helped me connect to myself, discover who I was. I went into that experience feeling very flawed, and I think through the process I realized, “Oh, I'm not flawed. I'm just human.”
- “… at the core, is the figuring out what your truth is, what that means. It's a complicated question, but as people start to identify that and connect to that part of themselves, I just see lives unfolding where people feel more peaceful, more joyful, and have more meaning in their lives when they're able to do that.”
- “… One of the things that I've had to unlearn is people pleasing tendencies, and I think that came out of this feeling of I have to be a certain way in order to be loved, in order to not be abandoned. And, there was a period of time when I felt like, okay, I've gotta show up a certain way. Which first of all, is exhausting. And second of all, led to other things like, I wasn't honoring myself. I wasn't checking in with myself first. I might have been saying “yes” to other people before deciding whether it was something I wanted to say yes to. "
You can learn more about Tanya and, schedule a a complimentary Discovery session at GroupWithTanya.com or TanyaCole-Lesnick.com.
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Episode 72. “Things are not the way they used to be. And a lot of times when people who will criticize the younger generation will say that we are soft, that we don't work hard. They're thinking of what hard work was like for them when they were our age.”
Jon Goehring is a voiceover artist and audio producer specializing in creating radio commercials and imaging, narrating audiobooks, and bringing brands to life through sound.
Jon is a Rochester native and holds a Masters Degree in Media Management from The Newhouse School of Public Communications at Syracuse University.
He’s also 23 years old, newly married and a proud member of Gen Z.
Jon and Linda explore the myths and stereotypes of the generations, specifically Baby Boomers, Millennials and Gen Z.
Some wisdom from Jon:
“… (Baby Boomers) are thinking of manual labor, which certainly is still important and very relevant and even in our society today, but they're thinking of factories and the types of work that they did back then. And certainly there is that work available today. But at the same time, so much of our work has been automated.”
“Innovation is what really provides value in our market. And that's what a lot of us Gen Zers have is that innovation. And then, that courage to relentlessly push that innovation until we do make something better.”
“The whole phrase of “If you find something you love, you won't work a day in your life.” I think the concept behind that has driven us to realize that there's gotta be something more. And maybe we don't have to be miserable at work.”
“… cumulative innovation to me is like passing on a basketball court. Okay, I don't have a shot here, but I'll pass to an open teammate. It's more of learn from what isn't going right, or is just a little bit off. Perfect that so that you can shoot and score this time. And I think that's why we've been so afraid in the past of failure and we still are in some cases."
You can learn more about Jon at JonathanGoehring.com
Connect with Jon on Linked In
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Episode 71. This episode deals with the subject of child sexual abuse, listener discretion is advised.Valerie Dimino joins Linda to talk about her experience coauthoring the memoir, The Man Behind the Curtain, her debut book.
From the back of the book:
"Jessica Renee was 11 years old when her stepfather began routinely raping and sexually assaulting her. Only when she was 15 and her boyfriend asked the right questions did the truth come to light—a terrible truth that her mother chose not to believe. Backed by a church community that believed a woman's duty was to support her husband above all else, Jessica's mother and countless other family and friends turned against her, labeling her a sinner even as her rapist was convicted.
Throughout the long road to that conviction, Jessica often felt she didn't have a voice, as she was continually questioned, criticized, and cast aside. She is ready to make her voice heard now and provide a guiding light for those who are still searching for hope."
Valerie Dimino holds her bachelor’s and master’s degrees in creative writing and has 14 years of professional writing, editing, and marketing experience in the fields of higher education, performing arts, and medical informatics.
This story, even though difficult, must be brought out into the open. As a child, Jessica’s life was stolen from her without her permission.
In this conversation, Valerie and Linda discuss how she walked alongside Jessica, using words to bring a light to an impossible story that will leave you angry, frustrated, uncomfortable as well as riveted and hopeful.
Listeners need to know about the invaluable support that Jessica received from an organization called 'Bikers Against Child Abuse.' Their support was so key to helping Jessica that we wanted to be sure they were highlighted. You can learn more about this amazing organization at bacaworld.org.
Follow Valerie on Linked In, Twitter and Instagram.
If you know or suspect a child is being abused, you can contact:
Childhelp®
Phone: 800.4.A.CHILD (800.422.4453)
People They Help: Child abuse victims, parents, concerned individuals
In cases of child sexual abuse, contact:
Darkness to Light
Phone: 866.FOR.LIGHT (866.367.5444)
People They Help: Children and adults needing local information or resources about sexual abuse
In cases of Rape/Incest, contact:
Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN)
Phone: 800.656.HOPE (800.656.4673)
People They Help: Rape and incest victims, media, policymakers, concerned individuals
From Child Welfare Information Gateway
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Episode 70. “I think that our sense of happiness and how we feel about things, is both something we can influence through our perspectives, but I also think it is related to, “Are we spending time on things that most matter to us?” and, “Are we clear on what does most matter to us?”
In episode 69, Linda spoke with Dr. Carla Fowler, an MD PhD and elite executive coach. For the last decade, Carla has been a secret weapon for scores of CEOs, entrepreneurs, and other senior leaders. Her unique approach combines the latest research from performance science with timeless best practices to help top performers level up and achieve their goals.
In this episode, Dr. Fowler and Linda continue their conversation with how our feelings impact our goals. They also talk about Linda’s struggle with creating a future vision which leads into a conversation about being with the uncertainty that often shows up as we pursue our goals. Plus, Dr. Fowler discusses the question, should we play to our strengths or try and strengthen our weaknesses? And, how having a growth mindset plays into it.
Dr. Fowler has graciously gifted listeners with a free download, The 8 Biggest Mistakes People Make When Choosing a Coach (and how to avoid them!).
Be sure to connect with Dr. Fowler: Linked In and Twitter
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Episode 69. “I think goals are a useful tool, but like any tool you have to decide where is the appropriate place to deploy them and and how are they serving you?”
Dr. Carla Fowler is an MD PhD and elite executive coach. For the last decade, Carla has been a secret weapon for scores of CEOs, entrepreneurs, and other senior leaders. Her unique approach combines the latest research from performance science with timeless best practices to help top performers level up and achieve their goals.
In part one of their conversation, Dr. Fowler shares:
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“I often like to look at a goal rather than saying, "Oh, this is a mark I must meet, or I'm going to feel bad about myself.” To say, this is a challenge I'm setting out for myself. I am going to try to meet it, but the point of the exercise is what am I learning trying to get there?”
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“… performance discounting is where you look at all the stuff you accomplished yesterday or maybe over the past year and you're like, “Yeah, that was fine. That was great. But I haven't done anything yet today.What about next year?” You basically have taken all that effort and the things that felt like big accomplishments, and WERE big accomplishments, and you just discount the heck outta them.”
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“ … one of the fundamental principles of performance that I work with people on is this idea of brutal focus because I believe that, the gains and results they're gonna produce in the future are more likely going to come from simplifying and from making more potent what they choose to do versus saying “I gotta work harder and I gotta put more stuff on my plate.”
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“This idea that we can just go from goal to goal to goal and always have a hundred percent surety about what the next goal should be, I think is kind of a fallacy.”
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“When we can run some experiments and actually say, "How does this (goal) make me feel? Is this goal bringing out better effort from me? Is it keeping me focused and on track more? Has it made it clear what are the small steps I need to do every day consistently to keep moving in the direction that I want?” Those things can be really powerful about goals.”
Dr. Fowler has graciously gifted listeners with a free download, The 8 Biggest Mistakes People Make When Choosing a Coach (and how to avoid them!).
Be sure to connect with Dr. Fowler on Linked In and Twitter
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Episode 68. Linda, once again, brings a compilation of her most recent guest's answers to her finale questions:
- What’s The best piece of advice you received when you were younger?
- A lie you wish you discovered sooner?
- What’s the thing that makes you, you?
- What is one change you’d like to see in the world & one action, even a baby step, that we can take right now so we can move toward that change?
The guests responses are brilliant, insightful and quite often humorous.
In order of appearance, you’ll hear from:
Bill Gilliland (Episode 57)
Michelle DeNio (Episode 60)
Dani Hamlet & Kristi Mitchell (Episode 61)
Beverly Price (Episode 62)
Sarah O’Brien Hammond (Episode 63)
Gary Miles (Episode 64)
If you haven’t already, go to Normal-Lies.com to listen to their full episodes and find out how to contact them and follow them on social media .
What about you? How would you respond?
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Episode 67. “We will stop someone from being foolish with their money. We'll stop someone from being foolish with their marriage. But we'll just let people eat their way into an early grave and not think anything of it.”
Mark Dulaney sucked at business, marketing and making money, and relationships (all kinds of them).
So he spent 30 years studying the world's most successful people, learning everything they did to be successful. The problem was, he could never get himself to apply what he learned, except with his health and fitness.
As a result of his decades of struggle, he finally realized his gift was in helping others take better care of their bodies and their health.
Today, he helps people become "Healthier, Fitter and Sexier!”
Some of the insight Mark shares in his conversation with Linda:
- “If you don't like the way you look in the mirror, I believe you make some of the worst relationship decisions you will ever make in your life. You'll settle for men you don't deserve. You'll settle for women you don't deserve.”
-“Everyone in life, either lives based on what they want today and pay for it tomorrow, or, they pay for it today and they enjoy life tomorrow.”
-“Healthcare is not healthcare, it’s sick care. Healthy people, people who eat healthy are of little value to the powers that be in healthcare.”
- “If you have a dessert after dinner every night, or have to have something sweet, it can just get to be a habit. I would love it if I could, through this conversation, get everyone to think, “Is this my normal or, is this good for me?”
Check out Mark's website to see the video Linda spoke about: MarkDulaney.com
Connect with Mark on Facebook and on Linked In.
Find Mark’s book, The 5 Reasons Personal Development Has Failed You on Amazon.
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Episode 66. “Sometime the things that we thought are good for us may not be good in the long term. Those are the moments when those things are happening (and) you will feel catastrophic loss and all those kind of things. Then later on if you look back, you say, “Oh, that wasn't good for me and it's a blessing that I came out of it, better and wiser.”
Dr. Rehnuma Karim grew up in Bangladesh and majored in Economics but decided to change her track when she came to pursue her Ph.D in the field of Environment and Leisure Studies at Penn State.
She was a full time faculty at SUNY Brockport but after 2015, she became an adjunct faculty and started her own non-profit, Heroes for All, both in NY and in Bangladesh.
She is also co-host of the Limitless Leadership Lounge Podcast and is working on a book with Coach Jim Johnson.
Dr. Karim shares her heroes journey with Linda:
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“I’m watching this movie, Batman, when Batman was saying “What do I do? I cannot rise. Why do we fall?" And then Alfred says, “We fall because the universe wants to see how you rise again.” It just resonated.
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“I think faith really helped me so I knew that no matter what, everything happens for a reason and I will be coming out of it. So usually faith, family, and friends. And when you have a meaning to what you are doing, that is what can lift you up.”
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“There were neighbors who would come to my mom and complain. It looks odd, a girl hanging around and playing in the streets. But my mom and dad, they were very progressive, especially my dad. He said that it's her life. I don't see her as a girl or a boy. She's a human and she can do whatever she loves to do.”
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“My dissertation was on acid attack victims, victims who were thrown acid at their face and how they even coped after such a tragedy. When I was doing the interview, I found out those girls are filled with life and some of them were saying that they knew more about life after the tragedy happened. And if it didn't happen, they wouldn't know that they had the power to make a difference.”
To find her podcast, Limitless Leadership Lounge.
To contact Rehnuma and/or learn more about her non-profit, go to HeroesForAll.org.
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Episode 65. "This podcast is about the “normal lies" that we have been born into that have become so “normalized.” I think is one of them is that whole “American work ethic.” Yes, we, we want to work, but it's also important to take time off. It's also important to take care of ourselves and if we're working all the time, it's hard to connect with our families."
When this podcast airs, Linda will be on vacation with her family so she decided to run a replay or at least a partial replay of one of her favorite episodes.
This is part of her interview with Amanda Harrington, who is a wife, and at the time that this first aired, a mom to a two and a half year old son, who also led a product strategy team as a senior product manager at an international tech company.
Amanda is now the proud mom of a four year old and has risen to the position of Director of Product marketing at that same tech company.
Amanda was Linda's first guest and she is also her daughter.
Linda & Amanda discuss the joys and struggles of motherhood, mom-shaming and being a working mother in this day and age. There are a few twists and turns in this episode as an unexpected guest shows up and Linda is confronted with the good and the not so good of her own motherhood experience.
Shame and vulnerability researcher, Dr. Brené Brown coined the term, vulnerability hangover. It refers to the time after we take an emotional risk and we are uncertain of the outcome. That is exactly how Linda felt after this interview.
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Episode 64. “My happiness is being true to myself and being a better person today than I was last year. The only person I should really compare myself to is me. Am I growing? Am I learning? Am I responding better?”
Gary Miles is a four decade member of the legal profession, who has learned there is a solution to every problem. He loves helping folks solve their problems.
Gary is dedicated to helping lawyers, entrepreneurs and professionals achieve the success of their dreams.
He is passionate about showing people how to free themselves from the prisons that entrap them, whether that is financial, emotional, or physical.
Gary is also a loving husband, father of five and grandfather, and he believes that we all are entitled to the very best life possible.
In his conversation with Linda, Gary shares some of his journey and lots of the wisdom he has gleaned from his experiences over the years:
“When I reflected on my childhood, I realized that I'd gotten these messages, that I wasn't good enough that I wasn't liked, and my people pleasing behaviors made me sort of depressed, frustrated because I couldn't please everybody. I realized I had to choose a different way of living life, where what I focused on was being true to myself. And people who liked me for who I was, that was great, and that other people's opinions of me really don't matter.”
“I worked a lot with lawyers in recovery. Lawyers who are having wellness issues. And the biggest impediment is, sometimes it's hard for us to humble ourselves and say, “I'm struggling, I could use some support.”
“The real me was different than what I portrayed to you and how you interpreted me, what you thought of me was different than what I portrayed to you. And to me, really, fulfillment comes from when they're one and the same. The me who I really am is who I show to you, and that's how you see me.”
To learn more about Gary and to find his podcast, The Free Lawyer, go to his website, GaryMiles.net
Email Gary@GaryMiles.net and connect with Gary on Linked In.
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Episode 63. “My hope is really for people to reclaim or to claim and know that they have the power to design a life that truly serves them first and foremost.” Sarah O’Brien Hammond
Sarah O’Brien Hammond is Chief Community Officer and Founder of The Network of Women. Driven by her own life’s journey, her mission is to bring together growth-minded women through diverse and unique experiences focused on helping them live their best, most fulfilled life.
She is also one of New York City’s most successful recruiters and career coaches and a proud mother of two daughters and a fur baby, a wife, and fitness enthusiast.
What started as a side hustle, quickly became her life’s work and purpose. Her mission is to bring together growth-minded women through diverse and unique experiences focused on helping them live their best, most fulfilled life and hopes that the members of the network find greater clarity, fulfillment and happiness and create the positive shifts in life they desire.
In this conversation, Sarah shares:
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“Whatever you want in life, you have to first have a connection to self and know what it is you even want.”
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“I call it a midlife awakening which is really a woman's version of a midlife crisis. I think that's a bit too dramatic, a crisis. Mine wasn't a crisis, but it was more of an awakening of “what do I want in this life?”
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“Ditching the hustle and grind, which I think is also a myth that we have to work hard and grind it out. And every day is just a churn and burn. And I did that for 20 years and society pays you handsomely for working like that, but it's at a really big sacrifice and expense.”
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“Gluttony, gluttony, gluttony, that’s a very strong societal message. Forget about happiness, just have a lot.”
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“…mindfulness is everything, it creates awareness. It lessens that loud voice, lowers that loud voice in your head, whether it's limiting beliefs, inner critic, anxiety, it just turns the volume down. It allows you to power through really difficult situations. It lets you have hard conversations. It grounds you, it allows you to have awareness, which is key to everything.”
Learn more about the NoWNYC and, find her podcast Below the Surface at the NoW, at https://www.thenownyc.com
Email Sarah at sarah@thenownyc.com.
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Episode 62. “…one of the pieces of advice that I would give to any woman (is) to believe in yourself, no matter what, no matter what anybody says, no matter what your childhood was like, no matter what kind of experience you have. Find that something down deep inside…”
Beverly Price is the Host and founder of Her-Self-Expression Podcast and, a transformational coach who provides knowledge, support, and insight to help women on their journey to self-empowerment, so they can take on the world.
With an MBA and a background as a leader in the financial services industry, Beverly comes from a background of making herself small in order to make others feel safe. When she finally embraced her ability to own her power and make a statement, she went from self-loathing to self-love.
More Beverly wisdom:
- “I say to the people that say, “well, I don't wanna dress for somebody else. I don't feel like I have to wear makeup or put on an outfit.” And my comment to that was don't do it for them, do it for yourself.”
- “…it’s so important to try and learn from whatever went wrong so that you don't repeat the patterns like I did.”
- “…think of somebody putting themselves down and kind of wallowing in that. My theme song back then was, “I'm not much, but I'm all I ever think about.”
Visit Beverly’s website HerSelfExpression.com for more information, to contact her and to listen to her podcast.
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Episode 61. “What role does social media play in your business? A lot of times, I don't think people can even answer that question. And so, if you're not clear on that, how are you gonna know if you're getting what you want out of doing social media? And how are you going to know what you should be posting?” ~Kristi Mitchell
If you have ever struggled with using social media for your business, you are going to love this conversation about mindset, marketing strategy and managing content with Linda, Dani Hamlet, a Social Media and Content Manager, and Marketing Strategist, Kristi Mitchell.
From Dani- “I call it ‘trend paralysis.’ You see all these trends, you might like some of them, and some don't feel like you and you just kind of feel like, “That’s it, I just can't compete with this!”
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“You don't need to chase after the trends because it is ever changing. But the one thing that isn't changing is you. Your business is changing too, but your brand, that stays the same. You just gotta stick with your awesomeness…”
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“You don't have to sit there and try to be something, you are not. It's actually a really giving thing to post on social media.”
From Kristi- “We don't want you to feel like you have to. We want you to feel like you GET the opportunity. We want you to be excited about the content you're creating. It is supposed to be fun. It's not supposed to feel like a chore.”
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“If you're not excited about the message that you're bringing to social media to share with people, if you're not infusing the passion that you have for your business and the clients that you serve in the content that you're creating, it's gonna show...”
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“Creating content is always about solving problems for your clients. It's about being a problem solver and a thought leader.”
From Linda- " We all have that voice in our head, that Judge who likes to compare us and our circumstances with everybody else. And so it's a downward spiral conversation and we can end up in a hole somewhere. So I really think we have to be aware of those lies that are just in our head.”
-“You have a voice, you have a message. You have something that the world needs. And so stop making it about yourself. And you both have said this, “make this about the people that you can reach and the impact that you can have on them.” Take a stand, use your voice.”
-“We have to understand, why are we doing (social media)? It's not enough to say, “it's for my business, I need to get clients and I need to make money.” To me, that’s not enough. We’ve gotta figure out exactly, “Why?"
Connect with Kristi Mitchell, Dani Hamlet and Linda Heeler on Linked In so you will be among the first to know when their upcoming program on social media marketing, management and mindset is taking place Fall of 2022.
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Episode 60. "I've never really feared failure. I've always felt like there's a million ways to make money in this world. You can figure it out, right? "
You are going to love Linda's conversation with Michelle DeNio.
Michelle is the founder of the Accelerated Business Alliance and Your Business GPS. She is an expert Business Strategist and Coach who helps online service providers navigate their most efficient, profitable, and sustainable ROUTE to Fully Booked.
Michelle is a referral partner who tells you what you need to hear and always has your back. This conversation is like having coffee with a brilliant friend.
Some of Michelle's wisdom:
- " … a big lie that a lot of people say (is) if you don't go all in on your business, you're not serious. And I believe the complete opposite. I don't think people should go all in because there's too much pressure on it. There's too much stress that comes with it, just too much riding on it."
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"...people view it as fear of failure, but the reality is I think it's a fear of success, "what happens when this does work?" " What happens when people start to notice me?" People will say that they're afraid to put themselves out there but the reality is that you're afraid it's gonna work most of the time."
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"It's just so much easier to fail because people expect failure. People don't expect you to succeed, especially all the naysayers in the world, they expect you to fail. So it's easy to say, "I failed," "it didn't work," but it's a lot harder to say, "Look at what happened. No, I didn't fail. I'm here. I'm doing it." And so we tend to self-sabotage, and hold ourselves back."
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"Instead of trying to come up with all the things that you have to do, start with one. Something small, something that is attainable and get comfortable with it. And then, add on something more, when you get comfortable there, add on something more."
Michelle's podcast: Strategy In Small Doses
Michelle's website: Michelle DeNio Consulting
Connect with Michelle on Linked In
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Episode 59. At the end of each guest’s episode, I ask them to complete these sentences:
The best piece of advice when I received when I was younger is…
One lie I wish I discovered sooner is…
The thing that makes you, you is…
What is one change you’d like to see in the world? What is one action, even a baby step, that we can take right now so we can move toward that change?
Today’s episode is a compilation of the answers from my most recent guests to these questions. The guests responses are brilliant, insightful and quite often humorous.
In order of appearance, you will hear from Theresia Intag, Vaida Cesnultye, Nyeshia Gibson, Megan Mills, Golden Madume, Elle Rosselli, and Mitchell Fink.
If you haven’t already, go to Normal-Lies.com to listen to their full episodes and find out how to contact them and follow them on social media .
What about you? How would you respond?
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Episode 58. "How many times have you heard, "never give up." It sounds great, just keep working hard, don’t give up and your dreams will come true. It makes my head want to explode because I think to live by "never give up" is stupid and destructive."
Yes, you heard her right, Linda can't stand it when she hears the advice to never give up. In this episode, Linda recounts an experience where she wouldn't give up and the toll it took on her physically, mentally and emotionally.
Linda talks about:
- the work situation that just about killed her
- what it's taken for her to heal from the trauma of the situation
- the impact "gaslighting" had on her as a child
- what you can do to discern whether it's time to give up
Here's the Psychology Today article that Linda references on Gaslighting.
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Episode 57. “…everybody's talking about the great resignation. I think it's just the great reshuffling.”
Bill Gilliland is an award winning business coach, best selling author, presenter, and a 5X business owner and entrepreneur.
Bill found his true purpose in coaching other business owners to success and has worked with 100's of business owners to achieve EPIC results, while also helping them achieve their personal goals.
Bill is currently one on the top ActionCOACH business coaches in the world and is on a mission to provide world-class, life-changing business coaching and education to 10,000 entrepreneurs.
Bill loves to teach entrepreneurs how to live out their purpose and he shares some of his insight with Linda.
- “People sometimes think that their accountants should be their coach. They want to be your accountant. They want to do your numbers. They want to be your tax person. They can give you great advice and you should have a great accountant, but most of them don't want to be a coach for you or your business.”
- “If somebody’s generally happy and they make a lot of money, they’re probably still going to be happy. If they're miserable and they make a lot of money, they're still going to be miserable.”
- “If you think that money's going to make you happy that isn't going to work. You need to get yourself worked out first and then you can enjoy the money.
- “If you don't get help, then you don't have any freedom. You end up working a hundred hours a weeks and missing soccer games and those kinds of things. Define success for yourself.”
Bill's podcast is Epic Entrepreneur. Check out Bill’s website BillGilliland.ActionCoach.com. Connect with Bill on Instagram, Facebook and Linked In, email him at williamgilliland@actioncoach.com.
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Episode 56. “It’s our culture that cannot be denied. Whether it's music, whether it's motion pictures, whether it's television, the creativity in America is unbelievable.”
Mitchell Fink returns for part two of his conversation with Linda. In this episode, Mitchell not only shares more of his experiences as a celebrity reporter, but how fame and celebrity has changed over the years.
Mitchell also talks about the impact American culture had had on the rest of the world and his insight into the September 11th attack, the subsequent clean up and its devastating effects.
Mitchell Fink is a New York Times Bestselling author, an internationally recognized journalist, a columnist at the New York Daily News, People magazine, and the Los Angeles Herald Examiner, as well as an on-air correspondent at CNN, FOX, CBS, and "Access Hollywood."
Mitchell is also the New York Times Bestselling author of NEVER FORGET: AN ORAL HISTORY OF SEPTEMBER 11, 2001.
His other published books include THE LAST DAYS OF DEAD CELEBRITIES, which chronicles the last days and weeks in the lives of fifteen very famous people, including John Lennon, John Belushi, Orson Welles, Lucille Ball, and Tupac Shakur. And, CHANGE OF HEART, the racially charged love story about a black man who was transplanted with the heart of a white woman.
Tune in to see Mitchell hosting the upcoming show, Celebrity POV. On the show, hewill shine a spotlight on issues and current events across politics, business, entertainment, sports, and the burgeoning cryptosphere. Online audiences can ask questions and interact directly with guests during the approximately one-hour live, unfiltered broadcasts.
The twice-monthly show, streaming alternating Wednesdays at 7 PM ET will debut summer of 2022. Celebrity POV will appear on the Fireside multimedia platform founded by Falon Fatemi and Mark Cuban, and will also stream live on TruthDAO's YouTube channel.
Be sure to connect with Mitchell on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn to get the latest updates on when this show will debut.
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Episode 55. “Nobody ever took a course in a college or a high school that teaches you how to be famous. So everyone who becomes famous is learning it in real time.”
Mitchell Fink is an internationally recognized journalist and a columnist at the New York Daily News, People magazine, and the Los Angeles Herald Examiner, as well as an on-air correspondent at CNN, FOX, CBS, and "Access Hollywood."
Mitchell is also the New York Times Bestselling author of NEVER FORGET: AN ORAL HISTORY OF SEPTEMBER 11, 2001.
His other published books include THE LAST DAYS OF DEAD CELEBRITIES, which chronicles the last days and weeks in the lives of fifteen very famous people, including John Lennon, John Belushi, Orson Welles, Lucille Ball, and Tupac Shakur. And, CHANGE OF HEART, the racially charged love story about a black man who was transplanted with the heart of a white woman.
Mitchell discusses with Linda what he has learned about celebrity and fame through his years as a journalist and columnist.
Mitchell talks about:
- his experience around the tragic death of singer, Whitney Houston
- how news outlets handle celebrity obituaries. A hint? They aren’t always dead before they’re written.
- the advice he gave Julia Roberts when dealing with journalists and the paparazzi
- how he got Barbara Streisand, Meryl Streep, Sharon Stone and other celebrities to speak with him
- the one lie most celebrities struggle with (you probably do too).
Linda also shares the announcement that Mitchell will be hosting the upcoming show, Celebrity POV. On the show, hewill shine a spotlight on issues and current events across politics, business, entertainment, sports, and the burgeoning cryptosphere. Online audiences can ask questions and interact directly with guests during the approximately one-hour live, unfiltered broadcasts.
The twice-monthly show, streaming alternating Wednesdays at 7 PM ET, will debut summer of 2022. Celebrity POV will appear on the Fireside multimedia platform founded by Falon Fatemi and Mark Cuban, and will also stream live on TruthDAO's YouTube channel.
Be sure to connect with Mitchell on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn to get the latest updates on when this show will debut.
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Episode 54. Juneteenth celebrates the day that the last of the slaves in this country were freed. It is truly a day for all of us to celebrate!
In honor of the upcoming Juneteenth celebration, Normal Lies is replaying episode 16, The White and the Black of it, with Michelle Wescott.
Michelle and Linda discuss topics from Linda's perspective as a white woman and Michelle's perspective as a black woman.
Michelle and Linda discuss:
- how they each relate to the term "melting pot" as a description of our country.
- terms like Hispanic, Latino, Latinx, how to know what the right term is to use and the simple practice that Michelle uncovered that we can all begin using right now!
- and, Linda offers important information EVERY US citizen should know about the Juneteenth holiday.
For more information about Juneteenth, go to BlackPast.org. When you do, please leave a donation.
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Episode 53. “This isn't going to look perfect. This is going to be messy, but as long as it gets done and keeps moving in a forward direction, it doesn't matter how many steps you take. It's part of being a parent and starting a business, embracing the mess.”
After spending a decade as a dental hygienist, Elle made the leap to being her own boss by becoming a copywriter. She now helps busy coaches, consultants, and course creators increase conversions with authentic copy that’s true to their unique brand voice.
Elle shares the struggles and “lies” when it comes to being a business owner AND mom to 2 little boys.
- “(as a business owner)…you’re the only one calling those shots. so you're both the CEO and the employee. And I don't know about you, but I can be a bit of a jerk as a CEO to myself as the employee.”
- "The perfectionism, it holds you back. “…done is better than perfect” because at least then you're moving forward. Otherwise you're stuck in the same space, stuck in that perfectionism hole.”
- “We’re so busy, saying like, "we've got it all together,” that we don't actually stop and wonder if we really do. And then take that time to give ourselves a little bit of grace and space to say, “Maybe I'm not okay.”
Check out Elle’s website, ClearCopyWorks.com.
You can reach Elle at elle@clearcopyworks.com and here on Linked In.
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Episode 52.
Meet Golden Madume, a teacher, coach and speaker.
Born in Nigeria, Golden moved to the United States as a teenager in 2007 and began his journey of education and self-discovery.
Golden is a Gallup-certified strengths coach and has a background in Life and Career Coaching. His passion is to support people in knowing who they are deeply through their strengths so they may find inner peace, confidence and take the next best step in their life.
Golden’s passion is evident throughout his conversation with Linda:
- “Your voice matters. It might not matter to every single person in the world, but your voice matters to someone who needs it and who will be impacted by it.”
- “Why did I even expect that I was supposed to have superpowers by the age of 55? There's no timeline, there's no expectation. I believe everyone blossoms and blooms in their own time. And we all go through the challenges that we need to and the lessons that we need to absorb at the time that they're presented for us.”
- “Whether it's knowledge and wisdom, whether it's strength, whether it's realization, whether it's our voice. We realize that, “Wow, I had it in me all along.” I just had to pay this little price of experience to get to that point.”
Linda also shares a review from one of her steadfast supporters.
You can reach Golden at GoldenMadume@gmail.com and here on Instagram.
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Episode 51. “…everyone’s really excited about a new baby, and so is the mom, don't get me wrong. But ask mom if she's okay too. It's possible, she’s really not.”
A few months ago, Megan Mills introduced Linda to the term, “postpartum anxiety.” Most people are aware of postpartum depression but postpartum anxiety is not as widely known.
Megan shares candidly about her struggle with postpartum anxiety after the traumatic birth experience she had with her son.
To help other mothers, Megan currently volunteers on the Board of Directors for Saving AJ. She joins Nyeshia Gibson (Episode 50) in supporting mothers who struggle with mental health issues due to postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety.
Megan shares:
“I think it's just a little reminder to be kind to people, you don't know what's going on with them.”
“For people that feel like they need to hide it, you don’t. Share it. Because ever since I started sharing this, I've found so many people that have similar stories.”
“…there’s women out there that really need help and they don't know where to get it. And maybe they don't have the ability to lean on a husband or lean on a best friend or, or maybe their family doesn't believe that anxiety and depression are a thing. ‘Oh, it's just in your head. Everything's fine. You're just having the baby blues,’ which makes me crazy. We need to support them.”
Megan is the owner of the Flanagan Mills Agency. She has worked in the insurance industry for 15 years in various capacities.
Megan and her husband, Brady have two children a daughter, Ada, and a son, Jackson.
You can reach Megan at Megan@TheMillsAgency.com and her website is TheMillsAgency.com.
If you’re suffering from postpartum anxiety or postpartum depression, there is support available.
If you live in the Rochester, NY area, you can call the Saving AJ hotline at 866-222-6250. To learn more about Saving AJ’s services go to SavingAJ.agency.
Outside of Rochester, there is a hotline sponsored by a non-profit called Parents Helping Parents. You can call their 24 hour Parental Stress Hotline at 800-632-8188.
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Episode 50. Nyeshia Gibson is 31 years old, a single mother of three and the CEO of Saving AJ, Inc.
Nyeshia spends her days working with single moms, victims of domestic violence, victims of rape, victim of circumstances, postpartum moms and mothers incarcerated. She provides free childcare for moms so they can focus on getting the help they need.
This is Nyeshia’s passion because she understands what it feels like to battle depression, she knows what it feels like to lose yourself while searching for fulfillment from others.
In Nyeshia’s words,
“Because of where God has brought me from, I understand now where he is taking me. I remember going to counseling and feeling like I couldn't open up in fear of losing my children. I remember never being able to talk to anyone about it because of fear of what others may think. I am here to tell you that no matter what your short comings in life are or were, you can help others by just sharing your story. You never know where telling your story may take you. You never know how telling your story can help others. You can turn your story and experiences into your testimony. With God all things are possible. Never give up, Never lose hope. The harder your journey, the bigger your testimony!”
To contact Nyeshia or for more information, go to SavingAJ.agency or, call the Saving AJ hotline at 866 -222- 6250.
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Episode 49. "You can never be productive if you’re exhausted."
Vaida Cesnulyte is a numbers girl from Lithuania who has her Bachelor's and Masters's degrees in Applied Mathematics. She then moved to Finland to get her Ph.D. in Applied Physics in the field of Climate Change.
While Vaida loved understanding the climate and physical processes behind it and enjoyed presenting her research at various conferences, while collaborating with other scientists, she realized that the world of academia was not her future.
So after 4.5 years, she walked away. For the next 4 years Vaida worked at jobs from Marketing Analyst to following her love of cars and worked at a small, private car import firm. While there, she started to put systems and tools in place to optimize and automate it better.
That was when Vaida realized she had the skills, knowledge, and desire to help people not only be more productive and organize their time better but also help them set and achieve their goals.
In January 2021, Vaida started her consulting business helping established business owners grow their 6 figure businesses to multiple 6 & 7 figures all while working fewer hours.
Vaida focuses on up-leveling their productivity skillset and becoming better at setting goals, organizing, prioritizing, managing emails and the calendar, eliminating distractions, and changing the mindset around effective work.
Vaida is a firm believer that people are meant to do more in life than just work and this is the focus of her conversation with Linda.
In addition to discussing toxic productivity and its effect on us, they cover blending work and life, and what Vaida advises clients do to reach their goals.
Vaida’s insight:
“When you buy a book, you also buy the time to read that book…”
“Achieving goals is a habit. Not achieving goals is also a habit.”
“Other people are masters at filling our calendars.”
“The most important lesson is to focus on the things we can control: our thoughts, our values, our actions…”
Connect with Vaida on Linked In.
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Episode 48.
The best piece of advice when I received when I was younger is...
One lie I wish I discovered sooner is...
The thing that makes you, you is...
What is one change you’d like to see in the world? What is one action, even a baby step, that we can take right now so we can move toward that change?
At the end of each guest’s episode, Linda asks them to complete these four sentences.
Listeners often say that they are inspired by the brilliance and insight in their responses. Today’s episode is a compilation of the answers from Linda's most recent guests.
In order of appearance, you hear from Emily Carpenter (episode 38), Jillian Jones, (episode 39) Eliza Van Cort (episode 40), Kevyn Rustici (episode 41), Tracy Chamberlain Higginbotham (episode 42), Mike Palanski (episode 44) and Sara Troy (episode 46).
If you haven’t already, be sure to enjoy their full episodes.
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Episode 47.
“I had this really challenging client, very dysfunctional company. I was really struggling about what to do with them, because I felt like we just were doing the job well, but I felt like we weren't being super successful because it just wasn't a good match our services. I was worried about getting rid of them because I would lose money. And my husband said but maybe you would make more room for more positive clients. And I was like, well, that's a concept!
…just because you're good at managing difficult clients or difficult personalities doesn’t mean that you're required to…”
Theresia Intag is president and founder of Intag Consulting, an innovative "fractional recruiting" firm geared towards small to medium sized companies.
As a mom of 2 young adults, Theresia designed her business to support workers who need flexible, part time schedules so they can juggle life's demands while working.
In 2001, Theresia's father became terminally ill with cancer and, at the same time, she was a first time mom with a 1 year old, AND working in sales.
This experience led Theresia to understand how demanding life can get, and that we do not address this reality in our society or jobs.
Theresia and Linda discuss:
-why we need more flexibility at work
-the damage that the idea that we have to be Super human has caused
-how comparing and competing with the images on social media impacts our mental health
-what we can do to reduce anxiety, burn out and stress.
Theresia’s website is IntagConsulting.com and you can reach her at theresia@IntagConsulting.com
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Episode 46. For 10 plus years, Sara Troy and her hosts at Self Discovery Media have lived within the philosophy of authenticity. With thoughtful guidance from extraordinary people from all across the world, they have come together to share those stories that make a difference in the lives of others. She now has 3000 shows in 18 different genres. My guess is that if you have a topic, Sara has a podcast that covers it.
Some of Linda’s favorite "Sara quotes:"
“…I’ve really learned when people are willing to take that journey of their own self discovery, they discover how courageous they are, how strong they are, how resilient they are. They discover skills and abilities that they never thought they had, and they also discover a conviction and a passion for something they want to do. In giving back, they step into that meaningful purpose…”
“Inspiration begets the invitation.”
“Everything has a momentum, but it's a question of, do you want the rollercoaster speed or do you want the Ferris wheel?”
“Society says, you've got to do this. You've got to be this. You got to be that to be happy, to be important for anyone to pay attention to. You have got to have this amount of followers, this amount of this, this amount of that, that is outside in living. That is living in a facade, in an illusion, in delusion.”
“…life is a box of chocolates and everybody likes a different chocolate. So you can't be every chocolate, just be one chocolate bar that flavors yourself. Be true to who you are. That is what you are meant to be.”
You can reach Sara and find links to her library of podcasts at SelfDiscoveryMedia.com.
Listen to Sara's interview with Linda on Self Discovery Media.
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Episode 45. Ashley Fico is back with some exciting news!
The Innoquests App is launching on April 16th, 2022!
We first heard from Ashley in episode 25 when she told us that she and her brother, Kyle, were in the process of creating Innoquests, “an interactive adventure experienced in a real-world location.”
In this update, Ashley shares,
- how “Sunday Funday” with her brother turned into an entrepreneurial adventure
- a social media lie she’s uncovered as a result of creating Innoquests
- the monumental task they had to overcome to get Innoquests to launch day
- what the future has in store for Innoquests (yes, even before it’s launched!)
For more information and to contact Ashley, go to Innoquests.com.
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Episode 44. "If you're not willing to do the hard work of looking inside, you shouldn't be out in front of people. You shouldn't be beside them, you shouldn't be behind them. You shouldn't be leading them in any way." Mike Palanski
Mike Palanski has always been fascinated with leadership. As a Professor of Management at the Saunders College of Business at Rochester Institute of Technology in Rochester, NY, Mike has coached hundreds of leaders in RIT’s Executive MBA program and worked with students and professionals in Ireland, Croatia, Hungary, and China. Mike teaches courses in leadership, business ethics, and cross-cultural management.
Following in the footsteps of his entrepreneurial parents, in 2020 he founded his leadership development practice, Mpower2Lead, because he was tired of seeing really great people spend a ton of money on crappy, pseudo-science leader development programs, and he knew he could do better.
Mike's forthcoming book is The Me1st Method: A Leader's Guide to Finding, Facing, and Embracing Your Next Big Challenge.
Linda and Mike discuss:
-the definition(s) of leadership
-the surprising thing you need to focus on to develop your own leadership
-what Mike learned from a Parisian hotel employee
-how not everyone experiences the same NFL
Get a copy of his book at ME1STMethod.com and connect with Mike through Linked In.
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Episode 43. In honor of Women’s History Month, Linda brought back the 20 women who were guests over the last year to share their wisdom on:
- work/career
- religion
- health & wellbeing
- addiction
- trauma & resilience
- racism and more.
In this episode you will hear from (in order of appearance):
Amanda Harrington (episode 3), Hannah Morgan (episode 4), Lindsay White (episode 26), Eliza VanCort (episode 40), Kathy Castania, (episodes 5 & 6) Michelle Wescott (episodes 7, 11, 12, 16, 20, 35 & 36), Ileana Ferreras, (episode 8), Lisa Caprelli (episode 22), Rita Perez (episode 28), Heather Lee (episode 34), Stephanie Sauvé (episodes 19 & 23), Jennifer Cave (episode 13), Dellenna Harper (episode 33), Kristi Mitchell (episode 18), Emily Carpenter (episode 38), Jillian Jones (episode 39), Laurel Nelson (episode 32), Ashley Fico (episode 25), Tamara MacDuff (episode 31), and Tracy Chamberlain Higginbotham (episode 42).
Listen to their full episodes and find their contact information at Normal-Lies.com.
Be sure to reach out and thank the women who have had an impact on your life.
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Episode 42. Undaunted: not intimidated or discouraged by difficulty, danger, or disappointment.
Tracy Chamberlain Higginbotham’s picture should be next to the dictionary entry of undaunted.
Tracy is the Founder and President of Women TIES, LLC, a company specializing in promoting, publicizing and uniting women entrepreneurs and their companies online and in person in order to cultivate strong economic relationships to advance their companies and eradicate pay inequality.
In 2011, Tracy created a division of Women TIES called the “Women’s Athletic Network” which promotes athletic events for women entrepreneurs to participate in, train for or support as spectators. In 2017, she also created a “Women’s Rights Equality Division” to unite women who are interested in being more involved with equality issues for women.
This is only a small portion of what Tracy Higginbotham has accomplished.
Listen as Tracy shares:
- the lies of beauty and aging and what that has to do with your camera roll.
- how sports have helped her cope with alopecia, a condition that caused her to lose her hair.
- what's led her to be a champion for women’s pay equality and rights.
- why Tracy doesn’t allow men at her Women Ties events.
- the challenge she’s taking on to inspire other women to get in the game
Go to Women Ties to contact Tracy and learn more.
Learn more about the Woman’s Athletic Network and how you can join Tracy in her quest to try every sport.
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Episode 41. HR stands for Human Relations, but what is it really? What is HR supposed to be doing for employees? For companies?
Kevyn Rustici works as a Strategic Human Capital Consultant helping HR teams, business leaders and all stakeholders achieve their own definitions of success.
From his experience working in the world of technology, at ADP and Toshiba, Kevyn is always looking for the most efficient and effective way to do the administrative work, to free up time to be strategic when it comes to a business’s people.
Kevyn is passionate about putting people before profits because that yields better outcomes for the business and the community.
That is evident throughout our conversation.
Kevyn relates:
- how shining shoes influenced his passion for HR
- what HR is, should be, and why we should care
- why resumés are obsolete
- how HR is pivotal to a companies strategic initiative
- that in order to create true diversity, equity & inclusion, companies need to be transparent
- how Netflix, Amazon and Target serve as models for how Kevyn relates to HR
Kevyn’s passion for HR is palpable.
Kevyn hosts two podcasts, Timeout for Leaders with Tyler White and, his #HRevolution podcast focuses of the future of HR.
Connect with Kevyn on Linked In.
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Episode 40. How can women claim their space, stand tall, and let their voice be heard? You can start by listening to today’s episode with Eliza VanCort, and purchase her powerful book, A Woman's Guide to Claiming Space!
Eliza helps women collaboratively claim space and find safety with their physicality and voice. She is passionate about women claiming space intersectionally, moving the white feminist movement to women of color as well. Listen to how childhood gaslighting impacts our ability to trust ourselves as adults, and all the ways we need to question the system.
- Learn how Eliza’s book has been in the making since she was four years old, and how the questions she was asked in the bathroom needed to be shared in public
- The ways Eliza interrupts the system that oppresses others and how to stop participating in your OWN oppression.
- Reclaim your “compass,” even if you experienced gaslighting as a child
- Surprise: Anger is one of the most powerful tools we have as women
- Always be in tune with your own perspective!
Acclaimed Speaker Eliza VanCort is a renowned empowerment advocate and best-selling author of the book A Woman’s Guide to Claiming Space.
In her powerful talk, Claim Your Space: Power Tools For Women Rising, Eliza revisits painful episodes from her past to reveal how she overcame the childhood trauma of kidnapping and a life-altering accident as an adult, to evolve into the confident, unapologetic superhero she is today.
Using her academic expertise coupled with her training in voice and body work as an acting instructor, Eliza shares how to effectively claim space using practical tools and techniques. Her transformative method of engaging her guests has been described as “invaluable” and “thrilling,” by previous audiences, making her sought-after presentation a must-see for organizations nationwide.
Interested in having Eliza speak at your event? Go to ElizaVanCort.com.
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Bonus episode 39: Happy Valentine's Day! It may be “The Day of Love” but for some, it is another day in their divorce journey.
Studies show that divorce spikes between January and March, and we are smack dab in the middle of it.
The truth is, people need a support team to carry them through the divorce. It is common to reach out to an attorney. Some may think of a mental health therapist, but we also need a Jillian - a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst.
Jillian Jones lives and breathes divorce and knows the process inside and out. She helps her clients navigate the financial side of things and gives her clients the confidence they need to make wise decisions.
Jillian explains…
- why people should have a CDFA to help navigate the finances in divorce
- the difference between CDFA and other financial professionals
- lies about divorce when it comes to the court’s handling of the finances
- why prenups are smart!
- what it looks like to set up a support team during a divorce
Get the facts from professionals, do not rely on family and friends for legal and financial advice when it comes to divorce!
Jillian Jones is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® and the Founder of Supportive Divorce Solutions, Inc., an independent consulting firm serving clients nationwide. Her background as a Financial Planner, Wealth Manager, and Insurance Agent, provides her clients with the skills and insight needed in a CDFA®. She ensures that each of her clients have the knowledge and support that is needed to make informed decisions about their divorce. By advocating for her client’s financial futures, clients feel confident in the choices they are making today and understand how those choices impact their future.
Through her specialized training, Jillian assists her clients with creating budgets, consulting on pensions, investments, retirement accounts, insurance, real estate and more. She can design your divorce settlement and propose creative solutions for child support and spousal support.
If you want a safe and secure financial future do not hesitate - schedule your 30-minute complimentary consultation today!
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Episode 38: BONUS
Lose weight. Eat healthier. Workout.
Have you made a resolution to do any of these this year?
According to a 2019 survey by YouGovAmerica (https://bit.ly/32PhDHo), 48% of the people who made New Year’s resolutions wanted to lose weight, 59% wanted to exercise more and 54 % resolved to eat healthier.
Emily Carpenter joins Linda to discuss her journey to health and the lies about weight loss and body image she’s encountered along the way.
Emily discusses:
- the importance of being honest with yourself in order to make lasting change
- what she’s discovered about weight loss, body image
- what she needs to stay on the road to health and well being
- and how she came to trust herself around food
Emily is offering listeners her 21 day Food Reset for free! Simply go to SavvyNomNom.com and use the coupon code FOODLIES.
Emily Carpenter is a website designer, entrepreneur, natural health blogger, and healthy body/weight loss coach joins She’ll make you feel good about your website AND your body again! She's also a certified aromatherapist, herbalist, homeopath, and Reiki master. Emily loves to teach what she learns and does so through blogging, podcasting, and regular TV appearances.
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BONUS: Episode 37. As a thank you to you, Linda has compiled answers to the finale questions from her last six guests to create this bonus episode, "Wisdom in the Finale, Part 3.”
Listen to the brilliance of Tamara MacDuff, Laurel Nelson, Rock Castor, Dellenna Harper and Heather & Ben Lee as they share their responses to…
"The most important thing I learned or best piece of advice I received when I was younger is…"
"One lie that I wish I discovered sooner is…"
"The thing that makes you authentically you is…"
"If you had a magic wand that would make everyone in the world believe one thing, it would be…"
She ends the episode with the wisdom and brilliance of recurring guest, Michelle Wescott.
Do you have a question you’d like Linda to add to her finale? Email it to Linda@Normal-Lies.com.
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Episode 36. How to Win Friends and Influence People is a book that was written in 1936. It is touted by many as the original self-help book.
Michelle Wescott joins Linda once again as they discuss the principles of this landmark book and ask the questions, is this style of leadership relevant today? Or is it more harmful than helpful?
They also discuss what it’s going to take to make true change happen (you’re probably not going to like their answer).
Linda shares a review and makes an announcement about the future of this podcast.
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Episode 35. Michelle Wescott is back, offering her perspective as a black woman as Linda offers her perspective as a white woman.
Michelle shares a story of an incident that led her wife to question whether they should move out of the city to the suburbs. That sparks a conversation about how Michelle views living in the city versus the suburbs. Linda and Michelle then explore why her wife’s (and Linda’s) perspective is different than hers.
Michelle also talks about the impact of feeling like she didn’t belong because she was the only or one of the few people of color in school and in her neighborhood.
They then take on the topic of personal development specifically in regards to coaching.
If you haven’t had a chance to listen to the previous episodes in which Michelle’s been featured check out episodes 7, 11, 12,16 and 20.
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Episode 34. What do you get when you cross two theater majors with an automotive repair shop? A whole lot of entertaining auto information!
Linda’s guests, Ben and Heather Lee, are not only married but they are co-owners of Schoen Auto in East Rochester, NY. Ben and Heather both come from theater backgrounds, which is likely one of the reasons they host their podcast, Gear Related, a Peak Under the Hood of the Automotive Repair Industry.
During this discussion, Ben and Heather uncover lies surrounding the automotive repair business, give some great tips when it comes to dealing with your auto repair shop, and, the conversation takes some unexpected twists and turns.
While Heather gets to stretch her automotive repair shop marketing and business wings a bit, her main day job is working as a Family Nurse Practitioner. She is also an author of picture books, plays, short stories, and novels.
Ben is an ASE certified master technician with over 20 years of experience. Ben has serviced and repaired automotive vehicles from every major manufacturer. In addition to his passion for working on cars, he also has BFA in theater, with an emphasis in acting and playwriting.
Check out SchoenAuto.com for more information. You can reach Ben at Ben.Lee@SchoenAuto.com and Heather at Heather.Lee@SchoenAuto.com.
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Episode 33. Dellenna Harper is currently a Licensed Master Social Worker whose passion is advocating for and working with formerly incarcerated women who struggle with mental health, substance abuse, and trauma.
This passion was conceived from her own personal issues struggling with addiction, incarceration, and everything else that comes with that lifestyle.
Dellenna's book, God’s Teardrop, My journey of healing from addiction and prostitution, is a no holds-barred account of her struggle. In this conversation with Linda, you hear her wisdom as someone who fought her way back from the edge of addiction.
You can reach Dellenna at DellennaHarper@yahoo.com.
*Details and the link to register for the book discussion on October 25th, 2021 is below:
God's Teardrop: My Journey of Healing from Addiction and Prostitution Book Discussion
"Join us online as Dellenna Harper, with co-author Jane Sutter Brandt, presents her new book God’s Teardrop: My journey of healing from addiction and prostitution. God’s Teardrop is Dellenna’s story of heaven’s response to a world filled with racism, sexism, bullies, oppression, shame, guilt, and addiction.
Dellenna takes the reader through the darkness of addiction and prostitution, to the challenges of recovery and the incredible resilience of the human spirit. People struggling with addiction, people in recovery, families affected by addiction will all find hope by following Dellenna's transformation.
Dellenna will share how she was assisted in her journey of recovery by the YWCA of Rochester and Monroe County and the Jennifer House, a prison ministry program in Rochester that she eventually led as director."
Registration is required to receive the link for this Zoom Presentation.
Register at https://calendar.libraryweb.org/event/8071381
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Episode 32. Do you believe that you HAVE to go to college in order to be successful? Linda's guests, Rock Castor and Laurel Nelson, questioned that belief especially because they both benefited from "gap years" of their own.
Laurel and Rock are the founders and co-facilitators of Lagom Landing, a residential gap-year program in the "Little Finger Lakes" of Western NY.
Lagom Landing is a life-changing alternative to college, military or immediate employment for 18-23 year olds. The program offers nine months of self-discovery for a small, diverse cohort of men and women interested in learning the sacred gift of working with their hands and exploring self, community, nature, digital boundaries, and creativity.
Laurel & Rock encourage students to discover their passions and gifts while gaining foundational life skills that will benefit them no matter what direction they pursue as adults.
For more information, go to LagomLanding.com or email, lagomlanding@gmail.com. You can find Lagom Landing on Instagram, Facebook and YouTube.
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Episode 31. "Stand on your mess, not in it," is the message Tamara MacDuff endorses since losing her daughter, Emily, to an overdose 3 years ago.
Tamara shares Emily's story and their family's journey through grief to offer healing and hope to anyone who is struggling from, or touched by, addiction.
Tamara’s courage, vulnerability and radical honesty make for a real, raw and compelling conversation. Which is what we need to have more of in order to create change and save lives.
Tamara MacDuff is the fearless leader at Now Digital Marketing and also has an Associate’s degree in Mortuary Science and a Master’s in Organizational Management.
Tamara grew up as a funeral home kid so she had to be very quiet during calling hours. She recalls having whisper fights with her brother and that 2-4pm and 7-9pm were the longest two hours of her life!
Tamara continues her father's legacy of giving back to the community by working with SCORE, Rochester Professional Consultants Network, her ROC Voices radio show, Coffee Connection and more.
You can reach Tamara at tamara@nowdigitalmarketing.us or on Facebook or Linked In.
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Episode 30. At the end of each episode, Linda asks her guests to complete 4 sentences:
"The most important thing I learned or best piece of advice I received when I was younger is…"
"One lie that I wish I discovered sooner is…"
"The thing that makes you authentically you is…"
"If you had a magic wand that would make everyone in the world believe one thing, it would be..."
Because of the brilliance and insight revealed in her guests responses, Linda compiled answers from her first 7 guests (plus herself) and created Episode 17, Wisdom in the Finale.
It was a hit so Linda decided she would do it again. In this episode you hear from Kristi Mitchell, Rev. Dr. Stephanie Sauvé, David Battaglia, Lisa Caprelli, Ashley Fico, Lindsay White, Coach Jim Johnson, Rita Perez and Andrew Biernat. If you’ve missed any of these guests full episodes, go to Normal-Lies.com to catch up as this is just a snippet of the insight they offer.
Linda also shares this month's featured review. If you'd like to be considered, go to her website, Normal-Lies.com and click on the review tab to leave a review there or find a link to Apple podcast. On the homepage, you will find a brief video tutorial showing how to leave a review. Who knows, she may choose your review next month!
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Episode 29. Dr. Darren Morton says, "If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you." Linda is challenged when it comes to talking about certain topics, politics is one. In this conversation, Linda invites Andrew Biernat to help her meet the challenge and cover the topic of politics.
What is born of their conversation is a journey where they let the conversational winds take them from a lesson on the brain to the dangers of “othering" as they come home to the power of listening and empathy.
As owner of Finger Lakes Business Coaching, Andrew Biernat is an expert in habit building, human behavior, and creating systems that match your lifestyle desires. Your business is an extension of you. If you want your business to get better, you'll need to get better. Andrew is not only here to help, he believes that entrepreneurs and business owners are the lifeblood of the community. He also believes that the Finger Lakes region is the best community on earth and is dedicated to ensuring local businesses thrive.
You can reach Andrew through his website, FLXBusinessCoaching.com or, Andrew@FLXBusinessCoaching.com. Check out the latest Build Your Business Better podcast.
Episode 28. What's the difference between a travel agent and a travel advisor? Is it safe to go on a cruise now?
Rita M. Perez, founder of RitaVentures, runs a travel agency that specializes in cruise ship retreats. She answers these questions plus the question, how DO travel advisors make their money?
You can listen to Rita on the Cruise Retreat Podcast or on The Strategic Travel Entrepreneur Podcast. Her website is RitaVentires.net and you can reach her at Rita@RitaVentures.net.
To learn more about her upcoming Rhine River Cruise taking place in July 2023, go to her Facebook group, Cruise with Rita.
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Episode 27. Coach Jim Johnson spent over 28 years inspiring and leading one of the toughest audiences, our youth. His experience developing winning high-school basketball teams, including 428 career victories, sets the stage for the unique credibility and power of Coach Jim Johnson’s message.
Many people talk about leadership, but it’s rare to find someone who has, quite literally, lead thousands.
In a moment later celebrated all over the world, Coach Johnson weighed risk with the potential for great opportunity for an autistic student-manager, Jason McElwain (JMac) catapulting him, the team, and JMac down a path of inspiration and hope. That one victory continues to reverberate into countless lives as audience after audience is touched by a wave of courage and tenacity, and witnesses what true leadership can accomplish.
In this episode, Coach Johnson discusses with Linda, teamwork, leadership, and what it takes to make dreams come true.
Learn more about Coach Johnson and how to have him speak at your next event at CoachJimJohnson.com. Listen to Coach Johnson's podcast Limitless Leadership Lounge which also features his co-hosts, Dr. Rehnuma Karim and Jonathan Goehring.
Go to Tiebreaker.com for the full story about Coach Johnson and Jason McElwain that Linda shared in this episode.
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Episode 26. How do you feel about the term work/life balance? If you're like Linda, you are not a fan. Lindsay White offers a different perspective she calls work & life blend. Join the conversation and see if this resonates with you like it did with Linda.
Lindsay White, of High Voltage Leadership, is a sought-after leadership coach and people strategist. Lindsay is passionate about guiding female entrepreneurs in creating the work & life blend they long for, and a leadership brand that is authentic and grounded in their own values and purpose.
Lindsay utilizes her 15 years in strategic talent management to guide these incredible leaders in creating culture and developing the people strategy that is often missing from their business plans.
As an entrepreneur, working Mom, and first-time Grandmother, Lindsay knows
that the blend between work and life can be difficult to create. That’s why she loves to coach and guide female business owners as they navigate their personal leadership journey.
Connect with Lindsay at her website High Voltage Leadership or on Linked In, Lindsay White, or on Facebook, High Voltage Leadership.
Listen to Lindsay's podcast Female Founder Friday.
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Episode 25. Ashley Fico's quest to break down stereotypes and lies in the world of academia led her to create the hashtag, #academicrebel. Ashley’s journey toward living life authentically gave her the freedom to write, which has created new connections. This is a full conversation that includes people-pleasing, setting intentions and how connecting with her creativity has led Ashley to a wonderful new possibility.
Ashley has a background in both academia and entrepreneurship. She works as an Assistant Professor in the Department of Public Health & Health Education at SUNY Brockport. Along with her brother, she is Co-Founder of InnoQuests LLC. They have created the InnoQuests mobile app, which transforms the process of touring a city into an immersive story-based experience analogous to an escape room.
Connect with Ashley Fico, Ph.D on LinkedIn, email her at AshleyFico@Innoquests.com. Follow Innoquests on Facebook.
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Episode 24. We are all born into this society, however, we aren't born into a society that is equal for all. According to Dr. Tema Okun, we are born into a white supremacy culture. In this episode, Linda shares the work and words of Dr. Tema Okun from her website whitesupremacyculture.info.
What is the history of white supremacy culture? What is its impact on ALL people? What is intersectionality? These questions are answered along with Dr. Okun's thoughts about "source" or "divine" or whatever you choose to call your higher power.
Dr. Okun has spent over 30 years working with and for organizations, schools, and community-based institutions as a trainer, facilitator, teacher, and mentor focused on issues of racial justice and equity. For 12 years she worked with the late and beloved Kenneth Jones at ChangeWork and then for another decade with Michelle Johnson and many brilliant colleagues at DismantlingRacismWorks. Dr. Okun currently co-leads the Teaching for Equity Fellows Program at Duke University, which works with faculty seeking to develop stronger skills both teaching about race and racism and across lines of race, class, and gender. She is the author of the award-winning The Emperor Has No Clothes: Teaching About Race and Racism to People Who Don’t Want to Know (2010, IAP) and the widely used article White Supremacy Culture.
Episode 23. Linda welcomes back Rev. Dr. Stephanie Sauvé, her guest from Episode 19, Turning our Fear into Faith. The two continue their conversation as Linda shares her questions and struggles with faith, religion and Christianity.
Learn why Rev. Dr. Sauvé says the opposite of faith is not doubt but certainty and how science and faith are not mutually exclusive. Stephanie also offers guidance when Linda talks about being put off by people pushing their religious views and discuss the topic of God’s judgment and punishment from a kinder, more forgiving perspective.
Episode 22. Lisa Caprelli is a speaker, songwriter and an award-winning author of the book series, Unicorn Jazz.™ Lisa is the producer and director of Unicorn Jazz Presents The Thing I Do, which is a show on Amazon TV, where kids send in their own video content, music, talent and more and has been described as a modern day "Sesame Street meets Mickey Mouse Club.’' Lisa has been featured in FORBES magazine, ABC News, CBS news, USA today, and more.
Lisa’s story is inspiring. She is passionate about what she does which comes through in this conversation with Linda. Lisa is also a perfect example of breaking down the lies, personal and societal lies, when it comes to following our dreams.
Lisa grew up with humble beginnings in El Paso, Texas and is proud of her Latin roots and has 26 years experience in branding, public relations, radio & podcasting but she has made writing her life. Lisa went on a 2 1/2 year journey researching & interviewing 13 notable entrepreneurs on what makes for a meaningful, happy and prosperous life. Compiling their wisdom she created, Skip a Step: Imparting Wisdom For Young Entrepreneur Minds.
Episode 21. Linda talks with David Battaglia, host of the Perception is Reality podcast.
David lives in Texas and spends much of his time trying to help people combat common misconceptions. He is often perplexed as to why people take things at face value.
David hosted his podcast for two years and describes it as “an unscripted, unedited, sincere conversation discussing and comparing each other’s version of reality.”
Linda was a guest on David’s podcast in 2019. She credits her experience as a major influence in creating Normal Lies. You can listen to the episode where Linda was a guest here, Can people who push our buttons teach us anything?
In this episode, David talks about how being introverted led him to do his podcast. Linda and David also discuss confirmation bias and social media, and how listening and curiosity can change our perception, uncover lies and ultimately change our world.
You can contact David at PIRPodcast@Gmail.com.
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Episode 20. Continued conversations with Michelle Wescott offering her perspective as a black woman and Linda's perspective as a white woman. Linda begins by asking Michelle a question regarding fashion which then turns into a discussion about marketing tactics. That leads to a conversation about whether it’s appropriate for white people to use certain terms like tribe. The episode ends with Michelle and Linda's take on the news and social media and how they choose to be consumers of it, or not.
Linda also reads a review on air.
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Episode 19. Do you ever shy away from the topic of faith or religion for fear of creating conflict? Are you afraid of asking questions because you don't want to be seen as someone who questions the authority of the church or its clergy? What is true when it comes to religion/Christianity/faith?
Linda expresses her struggles with these questions to her guest and friend, Rev. Dr. Stephanie Sauvé. Learn why Dr. Sauvé not only encourages us to ask questions about our faith traditions but how questioning can deepen our faith. Listen as Linda's fear is transformed into excitement, joy and hope. Yours can too!
Linda's guest, Rev. Dr. Stephanie L. Sauvé, has been a clergy person in the Presbyterian Church U.S.A. for over 35 years. She received a M. Div from Yale Divinity School and her D. Min from Colgate Rochester Divinity School.
Dr. Sauvé recently retired from Colgate Rochester Crozer Divinity School where she served as the Vice President of Academic Life & Dean of the Faculty, Director of Supervised Ministry, Director of Life Long Learning and an Associate Professor of Practical Theology. She is a certified Spiritual Director, a trained Conflict Mediator/Transformer, leads retreats and works with faith communities in conflict.
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Episode 18. Kristi Mitchell has begun uncovering the cause of her annoying symptoms, even when conventional medicine could not. Together, Kristi and Linda talk about the importance of listening to our bodies and our instincts.
Linda also talks about how dieting to lose weight made her sick and continues to threaten her heart health as she shares her path to healing.
Kristi Mitchell is a wife, mom and solopreneur running her own marketing consulting business and is passionate about healthy living and has been learning about reducing toxins through personal care products and home cleaning products. (You can learn more on Kristi's healthy living website or contact her at kristi@kristimitchell.com)
This podcast is not intended as medical advice. Please do not stop taking your medication or change your diet or habits without consulting your doctor first.
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Episode 17. At the end of each guest's episode, Linda asks them to complete 4 sentences. Listeners have responded to the brilliance and insight of the guests so this episode is a compilation of all of their answers.
You will hear from Amanda Harrington, Hannah Morgan, Kathy Castania, Michelle Wescott, Ileana Ferreras, Jennifer Cave, Ben Albert, as well as Linda.
Linda also shares one of her listeners reviews and the "extraordinary" impact it had on her.
If you have a question or a topic you'd like addressed on an upcoming podcast, go to Normal-Lies.com and click the contact page to send Linda a message. Or, click on the blue microphone icon at the bottom right of the page to leave a voicemail right there on the website.
Remember to leave a review by going to Normal-Lies.com . On the homepage, you will find a brief video tutorial showing how to leave a review. Every month, Linda chooses one review to read on air. Who knows, she may choose yours!
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Episode 16. Michelle Wescott, once again, joins Linda to discuss topics from Linda's perspective as a white woman and Michelle's perspective as a black woman. Listen as Michelle and Linda discuss how they relate to the term "melting pot" as a description of our country. Linda brings up terms like Hispanic, Latino, Latinx, and how frustrating it is to know what is the right term to use. Listen as Michelle breaks it down amidst their conversation to reveal a simple practice make life easier for everyone that we can all begin, right now! In honor of the upcoming Juneteenth holiday, Linda offers important information EVERY US citizen should know about the holiday.
For more information about Juneteenth, go to BlackPast.org. Don't forget to leave a donation!
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Episode 15. In celebration of this milestone, this is the replay of the Normal Lies Podcast Party that took place on Facebook live on March 10, 2021. Linda's friend and colleague, Ileana Ferreras, joins her to discuss how and why she decided to do a podcast, how the name "Normal Lies" came to be and the story behind the podcast cover art.
To watch the full video of the launch party, click here: Normal Lies Podcast Launch Party video
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Episode 14. My conversation with Ben Albert brought about AHA moments for both of us when it comes to a topic that most of us would rather not talk about, vulnerability. Ben also talks about a lie he's come to realize as a result of starting his business and shares how gratitude sets the course for his business and his life.
Ben Albert started podcasting in 2016 when he launched Rochester Groovecast Podcast where highlights the local music scene (and also gets him into places for free). Over 100 episodes later, he has built the show into a top-ranked podcast. In 2020, Ben launched Rochester Business Connections, a podcast that highlights the Rochester business community. Over 50 episodes later, the podcast has been Ben’s best networking source while building his business, Balbert Marketing.
Contact Ben and let know that you heard him on this podcast. Ben Albert- Linked In
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Episode 13. Jennifer Cave is a wife, mom to an adorable little boy and an entrepreneur. She is also a recovering addict.
What are the lies Jennifer is recovering from and why does she feel compelled to share her story of addiction now? Listen to what Jennifer learned from her addiction and the lessons of her recovery that help her live a happier life now.
There is help for those who are ready to take that leap toward recovery. It's not easy but there is support from organizations like Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous. To find a meeting near you, go to AA.org or NA.org.
If you have a food addiction, you can go to foodaddictictsanonymous.org. or a gambling addiction- gamblersanonymous.org.
You can also contact the Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Alliance’s National Helpline. It is a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders. 1-800-622-HELP (4357)
If you have a family member who is addicted to alcohol or drugs, there is support for you too. Go to al-anon.org or to nar-anon.org for more information.
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Episode 12. This is part 2 of my conversation with my friend, Michelle Wescott, an instructional design director at Cornell University. We talk about how society’s values have influenced the conversation around black lives matter and saying all lives matter. Michelle discusses why needing and wanting validation from her perspective as a black woman is different than mine. You will also learn an incredible piece of Michelle’s family history.
I discuss how it's possible to live in a white supremacist culture without being a white supremacist. I share my discovery of a characteristic of white supremacy culture that has a deleterious effect on all people, no matter your race.
The article referenced on the characteristics of white supremacy culture can be seen here: Characteristics of White Supremacy Culture, by Tema Okun.
Learn more about SURJ, Showing Up For Racial Justice, the national organization.
Learn more about the Rochester, NY chapter SURJROC.
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Episode 11- Michelle Wescott and I have an open and frank conversation from my perspective as a white woman and Michelle’s perspective as a black woman. You may remember Michelle from Episode 7 where she talked about her coaching experience.
In this episode, we discuss how we intentionally transitioned from coach & client to friends. We discuss how our friendship does not make sense in our current state of the world because of our many differences. But somehow it works.
We also talk about the difference between the conversations about race in my household growing up compared to Michelle's experience as a child and, how that has impacted how she raises her daughter. Listen in as I, a white woman and Michelle, a black woman, navigate topics such as talking to children about race, racism Michelle experienced as child that she feels to this day and our take on being “colorblind” when it comes to race.
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Episode 10- “There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.” ~Jill Churchill
How do you feel about Mother's Day? Is it filled with joy and gratitude? Or do the happy mother-laden commercials whip up your resentment and anger?
Mother's Day is not a happy day for everyone. Linda talks about celebrating those women in our lives who have loved and nurtured us and also how to survive Mother's Day when we aren't really looking forward to it.
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Episode 9- What do tree stumps (and butterflies) have to do with changing your life?
Linda explains how a couple of stumps offered insight in how to not only make changes but make change last. She also tells us why good intentions aren't good enough anymore, and that the voice in your head probably doesn’t know the difference between being selfish and selfless.
Linda also discusses her uncomfortable moments during a previous episode and shares some listener feedback.
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Episode 8- Ileana Ferreras is a trauma-sensitive coach who is also NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) certified and an ICF credentialed Professional Certified Coach.
Ileana talks about how her experience of suffering 5 losses in 50 months led her on a personal journey of healing. Instead of letting her grief and trauma define her, Ileana did (and continues to do) the personal work necessary to heal. She guides us through this important conversation of trauma with ease and provides practical advice on healing trauma in our own lives.
While trauma is not a topic we think of as fun and light, it is one we need to address. We are currently exposed to the likelihood of trauma associated with Covid & the pandemic as well as racism/racial violence and mass shootings occurring here in the US. That's in addition to any personal trauma we may be experiencing. There is hope for healing from trauma but first we need to talk about it.
Episode 7- Michelle Wescott thought that “driving and striving” to get more degrees was what kept her from living under a bridge, until she started coaching. Michelle talks about why she chose to coach with Linda and the impact coaching had on her. Michelle provides an honest assessment of what it took to transform her life with the support of Linda as her coach. Linda also talks about the difference between, coaching, therapy and consulting, offers tips on choosing the right coach and how to know whether coaching is right for you, right now.
This conversation picks up where we left off in episode 5. Kathy explains why we shouldn't use the term, "tribe" unless we're a native American, that meritocracy is a lie and what has the power to end racism. Get ready to open your heart and your mind to what's being said and be willing to doubt your current beliefs about racism.
Get ready to have your current beliefs about race and racism challenged. In part one of this two part conversation, Linda's guest is Kathy Castania. In this episode, Kathy shares how some policies meant to help people of color, like affirmative action, actually caused more harm than good. She also explains why white people have a hard time understanding the extent of racism and why it is a white problem. Linda also recounts the moment when her eyes were opened to the depth of racism in our country. This is not a feel good conversation and I hope you have the courage to listen. I invite you to open your heart and your mind to what's being said and be willing to doubt your current beliefs about racism. Kathy Castania is a diversity consultant who retired from Cornell University after 23 years as a Senior Extension Associate with the Cornell Migrant Program. Kathy has facilitated racism and diversity workshops at both the National and State levels and served as the Multicultural Education Coordinator for the NYS Migrant Education Program for 12 years. Kathy is one of the founding members of SURJ ROC (Showing Up for Racial Justice) and is co-chair of the Education Committee.
In this episode, Hannah Morgan, job search strategist and founder of CareerSherpa.net, shares how the old truths about job search and careers are no longer valid in the current work climate. Hannah not only relates helpful tips and creative strategies when it comes to the current job search arena, she also provides valuable insight into the future of jobs and careers in our country.
Hannah Morgan provides ambitious professionals with help and hope as they look for new opportunities and maneuver through today’s unfamiliar job search process. She founded CareerSherpa.net to combine her career expertise with her love of writing, speaking and social media. She is a nationally recognized author and speaker on job search strategies, was previously a LinkedIn Top Voice in Job Search and Careers and is a regular contributor to US News & World Report. She has been quoted by media outlets, including Kiplinger, Forbes, USA Today, Money Magazine, Huffington Post as well as many other publications. She is also author of The Infographic Resume and co-author of Social Networking for Business Success.
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Linda's special guest is Amanda Harrington, a wife, a mom to a two and a half year old son, who somehow finds time to lead a product strategy team as a senior product manager at an international tech company.
Linda & Amanda discuss the joys and struggles of motherhood, mom-shaming and being a working mother in this day and age. There are a few twists and turns in this episode as an unexpected guest shows up and Linda is confronted with the good and the not so good of her own motherhood experience.
Shame and vulnerability researcher, Dr. Brené Brown coined the term, vulnerability hangover. It refers to the time after we take an emotional risk and we are uncertain of the outcome. That is exactly how Linda felt after this interview.
Have you ever felt like you just don't fit in, like there's something wrong with you? That's exactly how Linda Heeler felt not only as a child but the majority of her life. Even though she had it all, a loving husband, two healthy kids, a house, and a good job, something was missing. In this episode, Linda relates the story of her struggle with paralyzing anxiety, fear, guilt, perfectionism, people-pleasing, how it developed, and her journey to “fix” herself. Also, listen how Linda’s search to heal herself, not only led to her happiness, but also her purpose.
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In this episode, you will come away understanding exactly what "normal lies" are and the harm they cause us. We also delve into 10 principles that have consistently come up in my work over the years. From, #1- It’s all about you to #10- Find your people, these principles provide a framework that help you uncover and begin to break up your “normal lies.” They also offer action steps so you begin making positive changes in your life, immediately.
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This is a brief overview of the Normal Lies podcast with host, Professional Certified Coach, Linda Heeler.