Real Talk w. Kane Adams: Recent Episodes
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A seasonal podcast show featuring Kane Adams, discussing practical therapeutic skills we can implement in our daily lives from a theological perspective.
James deBeer, a reverend who oversees 3 United Churches of Canada explains his life of 'ethical non-monogamy' as he 'plays with other men and couples.'
We discuss why homosexual polyamory is not only unbiblical, but completely inappropriate to be present within church leadership. We also discuss the dangers of reducing your identity down to nothing but sexual desire.
bible #church #theology #doctrine #relationships #churchleadership
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Angela Belcamino, the popular 'bold lib' on X taunts Republicans by boasting of a child-free, stress-free life at age 42. But is she really as happy as her video suggests? The comment section has its doubts.
We discuss the importance of growing up and taking responsibility.
politics #democrats #republicans #liberal #conservative #woke #motivation
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Tia Mowry, one-half of the twins from the hit 90s TV show 'Sister Sister' gives some interesting thoughts on how she knew her marriage had ended. When she focused on her happiness and self-love, she knew at that moment that her marriage was over, which makes sense, because the minute you choose to prioritise yourself over your spouse, the marriage will dissipate.
We discuss the end of marriage and how to avoid it.
marriage #relationships #divorce #christian #christianfaith #bible
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In this final episode of the Big 5 Personality Series, we're looking at personality in context. How do we put everything we've learned throughout the series into practice?
We'll be looking at three key subjects where personality is observed and put into practice: intimate relationships, parenting and career.
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(01:38) Personality and intimate relationships
(10:39) Personality distribution and expanding your range
(16:44) Personality and parenting
(24:40) Personality and career
(33:28) Final comment
Big 5 Personality Test: https://understandmyself.com/
Today, we're looking at the final trait of the Big 5 Personality Scale - Openness To Experience. Openness To Experience measures how receptive someone is to new experiences, ideas and different ways of thinking. Some key facets of the trait include intellectual curiosity, artistic interests, appreciation for aesthetics and creativity.
Openness to experience is broken down into two sub-traits: intellect and openness.
We're answering three questions: What is openness to experience? What are the advantages/disadvantages of high openness to experience? And what are the advantages/disadvantages of low openness to experience?
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(01:52) What is openness to experience?
(03:26) Common behaviours of high openness to experience
(07:49) Advantages of high openness to experience
(17:27) Disadvantages of high openness to experience
(24:09) Common behaviours of low openness to experience
(24:55) Differences between high and low openness to experience
(29:19) Advantages of low openness to experience
(31:32) Disadvantages of low openness to experience
Big 5 Personality Test: https://understandmyself.com/
Jordan Peterson - Agreeableness: https://youtu.be/D7Kn5p7TP_Y?si=WtCVTXVQ79iPhDKm
Today, we're looking at the fourth trait of the Big 5 Personality Scale - Neuroticism. Neuroticism is rooted in sensitivity to negative emotion and the detection of threat.
People who are high in neuroticism are more likely to experience negative emotion such as depression, anxiety, anger, frustration and stress than their low counterparts.
Neuroticism is broken down into two sub-traits: withdrawal and volatility.
We're answering three questions: What is neuroticism? What are the advantages/disadvantages of high neuroticism? And what are the advantages/disadvantages of low neuroticism?
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(02:44) What is neuroticism?
(06:47) Common behaviours of high neuroticism
(07:45) Advantages of high neuroticism
(11:13) Disadvantages of high neuroticism
(12:39) How do you overcome anxiety?
(26:54) How do you overcome depression?
(33:16) Common behaviours of low neuroticism
(34:08) Advantages of low neuroticism
(35:51) Disadvantages of low neuroticism
Big 5 Personality Test: https://understandmyself.com/
Jordan Peterson - Neuroticism: https://youtu.be/ewU7Vb9ToXg?si=5RqPIbJYcI5iGeVQ
Today, we're looking at the third trait of the Big 5 Personality Scale - Extraversion. Extraversion is rooted in sensitivity to positive emotion. This includes the value of social interaction.
Extraversion is broken down into two sub-traits: enthusiasm and assertiveness.
In part 2 of this episode, we're focusing on low extraversion, also known as introversion.
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(03:20) Common behaviours of low extraversion
(05:30) Advantages of low extraversion
(19:55) Disadvantages of low extraversion
Big 5 Personality Test: https://understandmyself.com/
Jordan Peterson - Extraversion: https://youtu.be/dYTAv7eQ-vg?si=5CRuj33Tb3U5xjy1
Today, we're looking at the third trait of the Big 5 Personality Scale - Extraversion. Extraversion is rooted in sensitivity to positive emotion. This includes the value of social interaction.
Extraversion is broken down into two sub-traits: enthusiasm and assertiveness.
We're answering two questions: What is extraversion? And what are the advantages/disadvantages of high extraversion?
Because extraversion is a vast topic, the episode has been broken down into two parts.
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(02:08) What is extraversion?
(08:32) Common behaviours of high extraversion
(09:11) Advantages of high extraversion
(18:19) Disadvantages of high extraversion
Big 5 Personality Test: https://understandmyself.com/
Jordan Peterson - Extraversion: https://youtu.be/dYTAv7eQ-vg?si=5CRuj33Tb3U5xjy1
Today, we're looking at the second trait of the Big 5 Personality Scale - Conscientiousness. Conscientiousness is associated with work ethic and order and is rooted in the natural tendency to bear responsibility.
Conscientiousness is broken down into two sub-traits: industriousness and orderliness.
We're answering three questions: What is conscientiousness? What are the advantages/disadvantages of high conscientiousness? And what are the advantages/disadvantages of low conscientiousness?
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(02:08) What is conscientiousness?
(04:25) Common behaviours of high conscientiousness
(05:18) Advantages of high conscientiousness
(08:20) Outline explanation of disgust
(17:00) Disadvantages of high conscientiousness
(27:20) Common behaviours of low conscientiousness
(28:28) Disadvantages of low conscientiousness
(30:09) Advantages of low conscientiousness
Big 5 Personality Test: https://understandmyself.com/
Jordan Peterson - Conscientiousness: https://youtu.be/MBWyBdUYPgk?si=wns0YVDp-1qNGRDc
Today, we're looking at the first trait of the Big 5 Personality Scale - Agreeableness. Agreeableness is the tendency to weigh others' interests against your own. It can be understood in terms of negotiation - someone high in agreeableness will negotiate on behalf of the interests of the other, whereas someone low in agreeableness will negotiate on behalf of their own interests.
Agreeableness is broken down into two sub-traits: compassion and politeness.
We're answering three questions: What is agreeableness? What are the advantages/disadvantages of high agreeableness? And what are the advantages/disadvantages of low agreeableness?
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(04:20) What is agreeableness?
(05:44) Common behaviours of high agreeableness
(06:23) Advantages of high agreeableness
(10:50) Disadvantages of high agreeableness
(22:00) Common behaviours of low agreeableness
(22:55) Advantages of low agreeableness
(26:48) Disadvantages of low agreeableness
Big 5 Personality Test: https://understandmyself.com/
Jordan Peterson - Agreeableness: https://youtu.be/G1eHJ9DdoEA?si=QTH8eqOh_cfh1_aA
Welcome back to Real Talk! This season, we're looking at the Big 5 Personality Model.
Today, we're discussing personality at an introductory level. What is personality? Why do we need to know about it? How does it fit in with our lives? We'll be discussing all of this in today's episode.
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(05:12) What is a personality? Part 1
(14:12) What is a personality? Part 2
(17:40) Why is it important to learn about personalities?
(23:18) Psychometric testing
(26:00) The Big Five Personality Model
Related links:
Big 5 Personality Test: https://understandmyself.com/
Jordan Peterson - Introduction to Traits/Psychometrics/The Big Five: https://youtu.be/pCceO_D4AlY?si=iSz9COGb-K-dPZoo
We're back! On Monday January 8th, we're starting an 8-week series all about personality. We'll be focusing on the Five Factor Personality Model (also known as the 'Big 5') which covers five categories of personality: Agreeableness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Neuroticism and Openness to Experience.
We'll see you there!
How do you know if you're operating in shame, and how do you break free from it? Today we're finishing our 2-part series on guilt and shame. People often use the words 'guilt' and 'shame' synonymously, but the two characteristics are very different from each other. Guilt is a warning sign that we've transgressed a moral law, it's a good thing, whereas shame takes that warning sign and connects what we've done to our identity, which is unbelievably detrimental to us and the perception we have of ourselves. Join the conversation!
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(04:06) Shame through disconnection
(10:13) Shame through dissatisfaction
(15:25) Shame through disqualification
(19:58) How do we break free from shame? Therapeutical perspective
(24:26) How do we break free from shame? Theological perspective
What is the difference between guilt and shame? Is there a difference? Today we're beginning our 2-part series on guilt and shame. People often use the words 'guilt' and 'shame' synonymously, but the two characteristics are very different from each other. Guilt is a warning sign that we've transgressed a moral law, it's a good thing, whereas shame takes that warning sign and connects what we've done to our identity, which is unbelievably detrimental to us and the perception we have of ourselves. Join the conversation!
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(05:34) What is guilt?
(16:20) What is shame?
(22:36) Some thoughts on trauma
Today we're discussing the power of gratitude. Often, people think of gratitude as merely a fleeting feeling we experience when we think of something good, but gratitude is much more than that. Gratitude is a choice that we make despite the circumstances we're facing - we choose to be grateful. When we choose to be grateful, not only are we humbled, but often we're reminded of our humanity - that all of us are imperfect, all of us are hopelessly lost, yet wonderfully found in Christ. An interesting quote to think about regarding gratitude: "when we know how bad it can get, the good times taste sweet, but when we don't know how bad it can get, even the good times can taste bitter."
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(05:35) Step 1: Choose to be grateful
(08:46) Step 2: Detach yourself from comparison
(13:36) Step 3: Remember your childhood passions
(17:56) Step 4: Remember your suffering
(25:24) Step 5: Remember the giver
Today we're discussing the difference between 'niceness' and 'kindness.' Is there a difference? There most certainly is. Niceness tends to focus on keeping external peace by catering to people's feelings - the goal is to not ruffle any feathers, but keep everyone in a state of 'happiness'. Kindness, on the other hand, focuses on internal peace - to achieve internal peace (ultimately leading to external peace as a by-product), we must tell people the truth, despite their feelings, in order to guide them towards ultimate goodness. Niceness is easy in the short run, but highly detrimental in the long run, whereas kindness may be painful in the short run, but life-giving in the long run. I think we know which characteristic of the two we ought to pursue ;)
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro(01:10) Kane's story to bring context(03:38) Nice people are peacekeepers / kind people are peacemakers(13:21) Nice people hide the truth / kind people expose the truth
(19:55) Nice people lack boundaries / kind people are secure in their boundaries
Today we're continuing our 4-part series on self-awareness. Throughout the series, we look at 4 main topics in relation to self-awareness: Internal self-awareness, external self-awareness, self-consciousness and practicing self-awareness.
Today, we're discussing practicing self-awareness namely through feedback. How do we practice self-awareness? Firstly, you can't practice self-awareness unless you understand that you need it. Once we understand that we need it, there are three virtues we must attain as we begin our journey of self-awareness: humility, vulnerability and honesty. Then, we discuss practicing self-awareness through feedback. How do we receive feedback in a way that is constructive? How do we deal with honest criticism? Who should we approach for feedback?
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(02:03) The first step when practicing self-awareness
(03:34) Virtue 1: Humility
(05:45) Virtue 2: Vulnerability
(12:50) Virtue 3: Honesty
(16:31) Practicing self-awareness through feedback
(21:25) Tips for giving feedback to others
(26:09) Tips for who to approach for feedback
Today we're continuing our 4-part series on self-awareness. Throughout the series, we look at 4 main topics in relation to self-awareness: Internal self-awareness, external self-awareness, self-consciousness and practicing self-awareness.
Today, we're discussing self-consciousness. To be self-conscious is to be uncomfortable and nervous because you are worried about how other people will see you. This is starkly different from self-awareness; self-consciousness is not your friend. We discuss the differences between self-awareness and self-consciousness and how to ensure we are living our lives with self-awareness at the wheel.
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(02:12) What is self-consciousness?
(05:15) Kane's personal self-consciousness
(08:46) How do you find what you're self-conscious about?
(12:12) Differences between self-consciousness and self-awareness
(23:04) The problem with self-consciousness
Today we're continuing our 4-part series on self-awareness. Throughout the series, we look at 4 main topics in relation to self-awareness: Internal self-awareness, external self-awareness, self-consciousness and practicing self-awareness.
Today, we're discussing external self-awareness. External self-awareness is about asking yourself the question "what is it like being on the receiving end of me?" External self-awareness is the ability to understand yourself from the perspective of somebody else - how do people really see you?
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(01:40) What is external self-awareness?
(03:22) Discovering blind spots
(14:00) Blind spots in relation to the tension of relationships
(20:46) Working out whether it's an internal problem with them or an external conflict with you
(23:03) Tips when practicing external self-awareness
Today we're starting our 4-part series on self-awareness. Throughout the series, we look at 4 main topics in relation to self-awareness: Internal self-awareness, external self-awareness, self-consciousness and practicing self-awareness. Today, we're discussing internal self-awareness. Internal self-awareness is to be aware of your thoughts, habits and behaviours, as well as recognising the underlying beliefs that these thoughts, habits and behaviours come from inside your life.
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro(03:59) What is self-awareness?(09:43) Internal self-awareness
Today we're discussing how to face your deepest fears. Everybody experiences fear in some form, whether it's a fear of flying, a fear of relationships, a fear of failure, or even a fear of success. How do we overcome our fears? We talk about three ways to overcome our fears: recognise your fear, realise that you will need to face your fear, and then face it!
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro(06:56) Recognise your fear(11:05) Realise that you'll need to face your fear at some point(17:26) Face your fear
Today we're discussing how to navigate through the pressure and anxiety we may experience when dreaming up an audacious goal or vision. How do we work through the pressure of having to 'be' something? How do we work through the pressure of having to achieve an audacious goal to 'prove' something? We discuss three keys to overcoming the pressure and anxiety that are connected to our dreams: Disconnect your dreams from your identity, get realistic about what you want to achieve in life, and reduce your ambition.
Timecodes:
(00:00) Intro
(03:18) Disconnect your dreams from your identity
(09:15) Get realistic about what you want to achieve in life
(12:50) Reduce your ambition
The official trailer to a brand new seasonal podcast show "Real Talk w. Kane Adams" featuring Kane Adams. On this show, Kane Adams discusses practical therapeutic skills we can implement in our daily lives from a theological perspective.