F*CK Trauma Podcast: Recent Episodes
Candice Tamara
The F*CK Trauma podcast is hosted by Candice Tamara, a Trauma & Mindset Coach. This podcast aims to help you overcome your past, so that you can have healthy, loving & secure relationships with yourself & others. It will be packed with helpful tips, mindset shifts, interviews, vulnerable shares & so much more!
In this episode I am joined by my incredible client Frida who recently finished my Anxious to Secure In Love program. Frida is kindly sharing her story of overcoming anxious attachment style as she knows it is so helpful for others to hear.
This is an incredible conversation with a diverse range of topics which makes it very clear just how much anxious attachment impacts our lives!
Topics covered:
- Anxious & Avoidant dynamic
- Hyper-independance
- Caretaking in relationships
- Setting Boundaries
- Dealing with emotions & triggers
- Communicating needs & boundaries
- Dealing with family guilt
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In this episode, I am sharing how to set boundaries that actually get you what you want, without sending long texts about your feelings.
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In this episode, I am sharing my perspective on communicating boundaries in dating as an anxious attachment style to ensure you don't self-sabotage relationships.
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In this episode, I am breaking down 3 things I do everyday to keep my mind from overthinking.
These are easy things that you could incorporate in your daily routine to overcome thinking too.
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In this episode I am sharing the NO BULLSH*T ANSWER to what to do when the pull back. This is the exact answer I give to clients. FREE MASTERCLASS: Stop Sabotaging Relationships With AnxietyWork with me live...SECURE MASTERMIND: Enrolling nowConnect on IG
In this episode, I am sharing about my recent break from social media where I learnt I was out of alignment and burnt out. I am sharing it with you as you may be experiencing the same thing but it’s hard to know when you have an anxious attachment style and are disconnected from yourself.
This episode will help you to know if you may be burnt out too from people pleasing in all areas of your life and what needs to change.
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This episode is different to other episodes, I felt compelled to share a message from my heart to yours as a fellow anxious attachment style.
I strongly feel this is the message that someone needs to hear, it could be you. My hope is that it makes someone feel just that little bit more seen, heard & understood.
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In this episode, I am sharing ways to communicate better with an avoidant attachment style to avoid triggering each other & being in conflict!
These are the exact things I wish I knew when I was anxiously attached & in a relationship with an avoidant attachment style, as it would have made a big difference to the overall state of our relationship.
I am sharing them with you, in the hope that you adopt them & have more harmonious relationships.
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In this episode, I am breaking down 3 core differences between Anxious & Secure attachment. This episode was prompted by a comment on my content asking, would a secure attachment not feel hurt & abandoned if someone left them? this episode answers this & more!
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On this episode, I am joined by Andie Colleen who is a mindset coach specialising in overcoming self-sabotage.
In this episode we talk in depth about the ways that trauma can be causing you to self-sabotage your relationships, business, career & more and how to overcome this.
It's a very interesting conversation which I know you will love.
If you're ready to work on doing the inner work on your wounds & stop self-sabotaging then my signature group program Anxious to Secure in Love is enrolling now.
In this episode, I am joined by my client Maya, who participated in my Anxious to Secure in Love program 1 year ago.
In this episode she is sharing her experience of going from anxiously dating unavailable partners to becoming secure & finding a secure relationship. We talk about boundaries, overachieving, what secure looks like and dealing with anxious attachment whilst in a long distance relationship.
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In this episode, I am diving into the popular topic of the Anxious & Avoidant trap, two insecure attachment styles that are highly attracted to each other but struggle to meet each others needs.
This creates a painful push pull dynamic that makes getting their happy ever after a tricky road, full of triggers and lessons. Can they make it?
In this episode I will dive into 5 mistakes that the anxious attachment style makes in these relationships & what to do instead, as well as answer the popular question, can anxious & avoidant work together?If you're ready to work on your anxious attachment style so that you are less triggered and feel secure in your relationships, the Secure Mastermind has been designed to give you all the tools, teachings and support to move to a secure attachment style.
In this episode, I am sharing 3 key things I wish I knew when I was anxiously attached. I wish I had someone like me providing this invaluable direction & knowledge in my healing journey to secure attachment so I am sharing it with you now.
Let me know if you relate to any! I love hearing your feedback!
You can also watch this episode on my Youtube channel @candicetamara_
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In this episode, I am giving you the low down on some of the most common root causes I see for Anxious attachment with my clients. I love talking about this topic as connecting the dots is my zone of genius & when you connect the dots from your patterns now to your childhood, it all makes sense & you can begin to break the pattern. Awareness of the root causes are KEY to overcoming your anxious attachment style.
Let me know if you relate to any! I love hearing your feedback!
You can also watch this episode on my Youtube channel @candicetamara_
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In this episode, I am sharing about something I learnt recently that changed my life & healed another layer of my anxious attachment style/trauma. It filled a void inside of me that I had never been able to fill & had been causing me to sabotage all my past relationships.
I believe this is the key missing piece to overcoming anxious attachment style, so much so... I have added in whole modules of it in my Secure Mastermind programs & when working with clients. This gets even more insane results & I am sharing it with you!
You can also watch this episode on my Youtube channel @candicetamara_
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As anxious attachment style most of us will have the belief that we are not prioritised which causes us to sabotage our relationships & feel more anxiety in our relationships as we prioritise them, over us. In this episode, I am talking about that belief, how it shows up in your relationships, how it has impacted me personally & 3 ways to change this belief for yourself so that you start feeling like a priority.
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In this episode, I am joined by my client Jess who shares her story of overcoming hyper-independence. When Jess came to me she was the poster child of overachieving and working hard for others approval, she quickly learnt that this was a trauma response from childhood as a result of her parents divorce and was part of her anxious attachment style
In this episode, we unpack the root cause of it & talk through her journey to overcoming it, finding wholeness in self, controlling her anxious attachment style & learning to act from a place of security in relationships.
Topics discussed:
- Working hard in relationships
- Overachieving for others approval
- Attaching her self-worth to her weight
- Learning to self-soothe her inner child
- Learning to detach
- Speaking up for her needs
- and so much more...
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In this episode I’m speaking with my client Zaina who completed my Anxious to Secure in Love program not long ago.
When Zaina came to me, in her words… she was the poster child for situationships. Always attracting partners that didn’t want to commit. When starting the program, she was anxiously attached & working hard for breadcrumbs in a SITUATIONSHIP. As the program went on & she felt more secure, she found the courage to walk away with confidence. This episode documents the whole journey & I know you will resonate with it! Not only that but she is a vibe so it’s a fun listen!
Topics we cover: * Overgiving to people that aren’t giving more or committing * Learning to set boundaries with situationships & stop making excuses for breadcrumbs * The fear of speaking up & overcoming it * The fear of rejection & how it’s making you reject yourself * The Anxiety you feel in situationships * Walking away securely to find peace * The art of building self-trust & putting you first
The exact program Zaina went through to feel secure is available in my Secure Mastermind which is enrolling right now!
In this episode I am joined by my client Keane who just completed my Anxious to Secure in Love program & is now in my Secure Mastermind, when he came to work with me 3months ago, he had just broken up with someone with Narcissistic traits. In this episode we talk about what it can look like to be in a relationship with someone with Narcissistic traits as an anxiously attached person, who is prone to attracting people with narcissistic traits & what you can do to avoid attracting people with narcissistic traits going forward.
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In this episode I am talking about the GOODMORNING message that is always a popular subject in my content so I wanted to expand on the subject some more as I know there's questions around it. To be clear, I'm not against the 'goodmorning' message it's lovely to have BUT I am against getting attached to the message & the meaning we put to it, which leaves us riddled with anxiety & overthinking thoughts when we don't get it.
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Join me as I share with you very vulnerably my road from anxious attachment to secure attachment. How my childhood trauma created the patterns that would play out in my relationships & what I did to overcome this. I have no doubt you will be able to resonate with some of my story and I have shared this in a way that hopefully you will be able to see your own patterns showing up in your relationships & learn from it.
I just want to reiterate, this is shared with love, there is no blame for anyone that was a part of my journey, everyone has their own traumas, hence why I do the work that I do to help people overcome them so that they don't pass them on to others. I am extremely grateful for you taking the time to listen.
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In this episode I am joined by my guest & client Archana, who has an incredible story of anxiously attaching to emotionally unavailable partners & how she broke this cycle to date emotionally available, healthy partners.. that could actually meet her needs & wants to! We also talk a lot about the pressures put on women to be married with kids by a certain age, how that fear is impacting your dating decisions & the mindset shifts that need to happen to reframe this. If you are dating, or thinking to, you NEED to hear this episode!
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In this episode, I am joined my past client Ritchie, in this very honest chat, Ritchie shares his story on how he built self-worth after having no self-worth at all from being raised by a parent with Narcissistic traits that made him feel never good enough. Ritchie shares how his low self-worth impacted his sense of self, his relationships and his business & how very different things are now that he has self-worth. It's a really interesting conversation with lots of different topics that I am sure will resonate with you.
In this episode, I am joined by Katie Rose, Spiritual Healer, survivor of chronic illness M.E & an incredible, past client of mine. Katie & I talk about overcoming people pleasing in her relationships & her business. How Katie's childhood trauma was showing up in her body & sabotaging her relationships and how she learnt to express her emotions & needs in a healthy way in her relationship with her husband, who has an avoidant attachment style. It's a very honest conversation which I am sure you will relate to.
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To learn more about how to navigate a relationship as an anxious attachment style with an avoidant attachment style in a healthier, less anxious way or how to avoid getting into this dynamic if you are single & dating so that you can attract a secure partner, join the ANXIOUS + AVOIDANT MASTERCLASS here
This episode is a mini-training with examples & journal prompts for you to take forward on the subject of giving with expectations. I guarantee this training will change your perspective on the way you're giving in your relationships & shine a light on how this can be improved so that you have healthier and balanced relationships with less anxiety.
This mini-training comes straight from my brand new Secure in Love Membership which includes; monthly mini-trainings on different topics, a monthly Q&A session to ask Candice for my guidance, a supportive group chat of likeminded people & Candice PLUS.. exclusive access & discounts to events with me.. all for a super low cost monthly price so that it's accessible for everyone to get the guidance you need to navigate your dating and relationships from a secure place.
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In this episode, I am joined by Keri Hope Richmond, a childhood trauma survivor, who was born into foster care & adopted into a family at a young age. In this episode she tells her story of childhood trauma, how anxious attachment shows up in her relationships & how she is working to heal her abandonment wound to find peace within herself. Keri is an incredible inspiration who is using her story to create change in the world with her non-profit organisation Unbelievably Resilient and she is also a lobbyist for legal changes in the foster system.
Connect with Keri on IG @kerihoperichmond
On this episode, I am joined by my guest Becky, who has just completed my Anxious to Secure group programme. When I first met Becky just over 10weeks ago, she was anxiously attached to someone that was giving her breadcrumbs.. and was working hard for them & making excuses for them. After just a few weeks in the programme, she had the confidence to walk away but over the course of the programme, she was tested with other breadcrumbers & lovebombers. In this episode she shares her experience with dating as an anxious attachment, building her self-worth, walking away from breadcrumbs & where she is now... spoiler alert.. demanding the whole F*CKING Loaf!
On this episode I am joined by my guest Emily, who has just completed my Anxious to Secure group programme. When she started the programme just 10 weeks ago, she had just freshly broken up with her fiancee, in this frank episode she talks about the different stages of the breakup as an anxious attachment style & how she found peace & security in herself over the 10 weeks, she also shares her tips on what helped her the most to get here.
This episode is all about how to set boundaries as an anxious attachment style. The episode talks about why we find it so hard to set boundaries & say no and why it's so important that we must learn how to set boundaries in order to improve our anxiety in our relationships.
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This episode documents my incredible guest Emma Orlando's journey from Anxious to Secure in her relationships.
Emma is my 1:1 client & a business woman that came to work with me as she was having challenges with her anxious attachment style in all her relationships.
When Emma came to me she was attracting emotionally unavailable partners & working hard to please them. Together we worked on building her relationship with herself & whilst working together, she started dating & went into a relationship, and then walked away from it because it wasn't serving her. Something that is extremely hard to do when you have an abandonment wound but this just shows her incredible growth & healing of her attachment style.
The conversation is very open, & discusses her entire journey of managing her anxiety in dating & in her relationship AND she explains exactly how she found that safety within herself.