The mess called Relationships: Recent Episodes
EvieRan
The purpose of this podcast is to try and bring some sense to the beautiful mess called Relationships. And to remind you that whatever you’re struggling with: you are not alone! The first thing we learn in Psychology is that it all depends. It is impossible to explain human behavior in a binary code and there is no easy ‘skip to the good part‘ when you put two irrational creatures together. Yet, we do have control over our minds; yes we can change our behavior by changing our daily habits; and hearing relatable stories decreases our anxiety about the unknown. Relationships matter. They are one of the main factors in our pursuit of happiness. And this is why the effort in trying to understand them and improve them is worth it. - ER
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This episode is dedicated to the unique, and painful, experience of dating a narcissist. Being and breaking up with a narcissist is going to be one of your worst dating experiences but it could also teach you a lot about self-esteem; self-worth; jealousy; insecurities; and overall appreciating all those other people before and after the narc. In the episode, I talk about why you are doomed to fail no matter your good intentions; why the most important thing is to forgive yourself for staying in this relationship for so long; and I also have a few words for those who might start to recognize themselves as being somewhat narcissistic.
This episode is about how we as a society create narcissists and why understanding our own responsibility is important. We cannot change or heal narcissists so if we want to stop dealing with them, we will need to stop creating them. On an interpersonal level, understanding that narcissists are not happy individuals might help you hate them less. This could then make it easier for you to break the toxic bond with them and move on with your life. Hopefully, this episode makes you think and gives you some useful new perspectives!
In this episode, I talk together with my friend Kevin about quality sex (from both men's and women's perspectives, and hopefully we show that there aren't many gender differences in this). We also go over why sex is important especially if you want your relationship to last. And we discussed some of the main misconceptions and stereotypes that men and women experience. Hopefully, you find this episode interesting but it also encourages you to communicate with your partner what you need as well as be able to listen to what they need. Intimacy is important! Intimacy creates connection, so take good care of it! ^^ Website: https://psychology-on-demand.com/
Red flags are quite popular now and if you listen to everything on the internet AND to your own past, the one thing that you will surely build is trust issues. Everything looks like a red flag at this point and the general encouragement seems to be "give up on relationships". Well, great but we are social creatures and such an approach is not necessarily the most helpful one. This episode begins with 2 common so-called red flags that do not need to be a deal-breaker if you are more mindful about them. This is followed by 2 red flags that are bad 99% of the time and you could just save yourself the disappointment and move on instead of hoping that this is the 1% time when things will be different. Finally, a brief overview of why the current trend to overthink and re-calculate all the possible outcomes just puts you in a dark paranoid place that does not bring you any joy. Spreading awareness is an interesting activity. Hopefully, it reaches people and more and more of us become more mindful and aware of our and others' behaviors. If so, we might all end up living in a better world one day.
This episode's topic is cheating and which unfortunately is a familiar topic to most people. We focus on forgiving; on how to forgive; how the pain of cheating is related to our ego; and why is it so important to let go of the blaming behavior and to forgive instead. Hopefully, by the end of this episode, you will have a different perspective that will help you overcome the pain of being cheated on.
In this episode, we talk about the 5 main reasons why we stay around and keep trying to re-connect with somebody who rejects us. Let’s clarify something about rejection hurts –it definitely hurts! Research is pretty clear on that part – getting rejected is the same as the experience of physical pain so it is not something that you can easily ignore. But the same as physical pain – you can actually distract yourself from it, but if it continues, it becomes chronic. So the very first reason why we stay in such situations is that we have normalized it.
This episode is on how you can self-sabotage ANY relationship! That's, right, a free list of ways that will work! I decided to frame the episode this way because people are notorious for not following pieces of advice, and if you tell somebody "don't do that, it won't end well", they oftentimes need to go and try it anyway. I get that, on a neurological level, it makes sense that we need to learn through experience. But another thing that actually works better is the so-called “reality check” moment. So if you are already in a relationship and you recognize yourself in one of the following scenarios, well, be sure - if you keep it consistent, your relationship probably won't last much. And then it’s up to you what to do with this information :)
There are two main reasons for anger and understanding this could help you decide whether you should stay and work on this relationship or not. Easier said than done but if you pay attention to a few key signs in your partner's behavior, you could do the math. We also include a tip for the angry person, although, when anger has become a habit, it takes a strong will to change.
Love-bombing is abusive behavior, hands down. It is used by narcissists or highly insecure people who want to be liked very much. Infatuation is overly excited behavior, which is somewhat normal at the beginning of a relationship. Making the difference can spare you the heartbreak later on. Yes, certain behavior could be called very easily a ‘red flag’ and discourage you from pursuing further the relationship. However, such quick judging will most likely just leave you single for a long time, because most people are quite not so healthy anymore ^^ In this episode, we try to make the difference clear so that you can make a better judgment about a new relationship on time!
There is a difference between social jealousy and romantic jealousy. Social jealousy can be very informative and, in this sense, – positive - because it tells you the difference between what you have and what you want to have. Romantic jealousy could also have a positive effect – it can be a sign of your values. However, most of the time allowing our jealous thoughts to become jealous behavior ends up ruining the relationship. In this episode, we briefly go through how jealousy becomes a relationship killer and also give you an idea of how you could avoid that.
The Intro gives you why's and how's about this channel. The content is focused on providing knowledge and experience on relationships from a psychological point of view. It also talks a lot about habits. Healthy relationships make us happy and behind anything good or bad, that we do in our life, stands a habit. My goal is to deliver useful content as otherwise, I feel that everything I know is rather useless. Sharing is caring but it's also what gives me purpose. Enjoy!