The Elephant in the Room: Recent Episodes
Christin & Michelle
We will talk about the Spiritual Awakening process specifically focusing on the self and how we can heal our past traumas and create a new reality for ourselves. We will address uncomfortable topics the will require vulnerability and truth from ourselves as the hosts in hopes of creating a safe space for our listeners to get vulnerable with themselves as well.
This week's episode we unpacked a lot. We spoke about our experiences with dealing with narcissists and what it looks like having a narcissistic parents and/or partner. Guys, remember, if you feel that you may be dealing with a narcissist, our podcast is one resource. It can be very hard removing yourself from a narcissists entrapment, so please, seek out help if you feel this is you!
Ok this week we discuss a few different topics which makes for a great episode! We talk about how women feel they are running out of time once they hit a certain age to have babies, get married, etc.
This week we talk about what we are calling in for August. And best believe we are calling in allllll the abundance!
We are back after a couple weeks off, and we are talking about a topic that has been a real eye opener into who we are and how we can heal. This week's episode is about the masculine and feminine energies and whether we are operating from a wounded or divine perspective. Here's some notes to reflect back on when figuring out whether your energies need healing.
Wounded Feminine
- Low self-worth
- Afraid to speak your truth
- Compromises your integrity and values
- Easily attached
- Manipulative
- Stuck in victimhood = waiting to be saved
- Growing in your emotions
- Needy
- Insecure
- Co-dependant
- Overly-emotional
Wounded Masculine
- Extremely critical
- Emotionally unavailable
- Controlling
- Constant inner and outer conflict == reactive
- Selfish, needing to be right
- Avoidant
- Aggressive - especially sexually
- Afraid of failure
- Too competitive
- Unstable
- Abusive
Divine Feminine
- Intuitive
- Grounded
- Receptive
- Reflective
- Strong
- Boundaries
- Empathetic
- Supportive
- Vulnerable
- Authentic
- Trusting
- Creating
Divine Masculine
- Deeply present
- Doesn’t judge
- Supportive
- Disciplined
- Focused
- Logical
- Confident
- Boundaries
- Protective
- Accountability
- Integrity
- Honest
- Stability
Welcome back after a week off for the holiday!Today we will be talking about MANIFESTATION!!
Here are the 6 steps to actually manifesting the life you want:
-Have clear intent (know exactly what you want)
-Take action (start take steps towards your desires)
-Visualize EVERYTHING!! From how you want to feel and how you want to live
-Keep your thoughts positive and actually believe you are deserving of your desires
-Open your heart chakra and live in abundance RIGHT NOW!
The rest will fall into place! Trust!
After Dark is back & this week we talk all about our experience with cannabis and breaking the stigma behind it.
You may in survival mode if:
- Lack of focus: Things might seem foggy or hard to concentrate. You might have trouble finishing one activity in a focused manner or in the way you “usually” can.
- Changes in memory: You may have a hard time remembering situations or things that happen throughout the day. If a partner asks how your day was, you may honestly not really know.
- Fatigue: You may feel more tired, in body and mind.
- Emotionally reactive: If you find yourself being more upset about things that you wouldn’t normally react to, this can be a sign of a survival brain. Perhaps you’re snippier or grumpier or cry more easily.
- Forgetting to care for basic needs: Having trouble brushing your teeth? Exercising? Washing your face? Changing your sheets? These can all be signs.
- More impulsive: You might spend excessively, eat more, or engage in activities you might not normally.
This week we discuss people pleasing! It was really interesting to break down the reality of our people pleasing and just how hard it is to stop! Even with all the healing we have done so far, we still find ourselves having to break away from being a people pleaser.
Signs you are a people pleaser:
- You have a difficult time saying "no."
- You are preoccupied with what other people might think.
- You feel guilty when you do tell people "no."
- You fear that turning people down will make them think you are mean or selfish.
- You agree to things you don’t like or do things you don’t want to do.
- You struggle with feelings of low-self esteem.
- You want people to like you and feel that doing things for them will earn their approval.
- You’re always telling people you’re sorry.
- You take the blame even when something isn’t your fault.
- You never have any free time because you are always doing things for other people.
- You neglect your own needs in order to do things for others.
- You pretend to agree with people even though you feel differently.
ARE YOU BEING LOVE BOMBED OR LOVED? This week we deep dive into love bombing. What is love bombing? Why do people love bomb? And sooo much more. We are here to help you navigate through love bombing through our own personal experiences.
Examples of Love Bombing:
- Excessive compliments
- Spending too much time together too soon
- Constant gifts
- Texting, emailing, calling many times a day
- Asking you to spend time with them rather than friends
- Mirroring all of your interests
- Excessive interest in your background, life, interests
- Wanting to take things to the next level quickly
If you feel you are dealing with love bombing or are in a relationship with a narcissist, please please reach out for help from a professional! We love helping you all on your healing journey. But, we are only giving our personal experiences and research. We are not licensed professionals. If you need help seeking out help, we are here for you!
This week we talk about how hard it can be outgrowing friendships, the guilt, etc., but the necessity in order to continue with your personal and spiritual growth!
Signs you are outgrowing friendships:
- Your friendship is rooted in the past
- You don't have much in common anymore
- You revert back to a younger version of yourself when you are around them
- You don't want to engage in old/bad habits
- You feel exhausted around them vs energized
- The friendship has become one-sided
This week we discuss what it feels like to be lost in your identity, figuring out who you really are, and getting that identity back! We also read our first two listener letters!
This week we talk about how we break our own heart by staying in situations that we know are not right for us. How the lack of self love and self validation leads us down the path to heartbreak! It's something we have gone through time and time again. But, with having a foundation of self-love and self-worth, we can now look back and see our own faults.
As a reminder, we are starting listener letters next week! If you would like to have your letter read on next weeks podcast, please send your letter to theelephantintheroompc@gmail.com
We're back!! We are so excited to be back for Season 3! On today's episode we get into the Inner Child. What it is, how to heal your inner child, and so much more. Inner Child work has been such an impactful part of our healing journey and we hope that this episode will help you piece together some things as well. As always, we are speaking from our own personal experiences. This podcast does not replace seeking out help from a professional.
This season we are adding a new segment to each episode - Listener Letters. This segment is dedicated to a couple of listeners questions and/or any advice they may be seeking out from us! If you would like to write in, send your letter to theelephantintheroompc@gmail.com
Show Notes:
How to start the healing your inner child:
- Going back to the moment you felt abandoned or rejected etc.
- Recreating the memory through adult perspective
- Seeing your parents as people and understanding their CHT
- Speaking your truth
- Forgiving yourself and parents (when you're ready)
- Rewriting your story now that you have an understanding of yourself
This is our final episode of season 2! We cannot believe that we are at the end of this season. This week we discuss a lot of different things but get into some of our toxic coping mechanisms.
Have you found yourself having to forgive someone for something that you really don't want to forgive them for? Or maybe you have said you forgive them but are still holding on to resentment. Trust us, we have been there! This week we talk about forgiving, why it's so hard to forgive, and why it's so important to forgive.
TRIGGER WARNING: THIS EPISODE TALKS ABOUT SEXUAL ABUSE AND OUR PERSONAL EXPERIENCES WITH IT.
Have you ever felt that you had to fake confidence to mask some sort of underlying insecurity? We have! This week we discuss what it means to have true confidence and our evolution from fake confidence, to true confidence!
Do you ever find yourself spending all of your time either worrying about the past and what has already happened or worrying about what hasn't even happened yet? This is where presence comes in. When we are present, and truly immersing ourselves in the present moment, we can experience life on a different level. Not just that, it also gives us more meaning with our friends, family, significant others, jobs, etc.
This episode was like a mini therapy session for us. Is there something that you know deep down it is time to let go of? Maybe it's an ex, a job, or possibly even a friend. This week we discuss letting it gooo!
Welcome back to Episode 4! Today, we decided to be a bit more conversational in our approach, so in the beginning we say we are going to focus on self love, but it ends up being more focused on how we are changing our mindsets from a lack and poverty mindset to an abundant millionaire mindset.
We finally understand the law of attraction, which is why we have changed our whole approach and mindset around our businesses from getting hyper aware of our limited and fear based beliefs around money and why we didn't feel deserving of it.
In this episode we dive deep on how we've shifted and what our new goals are!
On this episode we identify 8 Stages of a Spiritual Awakening. Maybe you feel you are going through a spiritual awakening, or perhaps you have just woken up and you're not sure what's going on. Let us help guide you through your journey!
8 Stages of a Spiritual Awakening
1. Waking up
2. Truth seeking
3. Dark night of the ego
4. Letting go of your persona
5. Curiosity
6. Rebirth
7. Soul growth
8. The new you
For our second bonus episode during black history month we are talking about mental health in the black community. Breaking the stigma when it comes to getting therapy, healing generational and ancestral traumas & more!!
Breaking up really is hard to do! On this episode we navigate our way through breakups and how to heal from them.
On this weeks bonus episode we discuss our experiences with finding our identities within the black community and as black women.
Welcome back! We are so excited to be back at it with Season 2!!! This week we discuss all things identity. Letting go of our old identity, defining our identity, etc.
Wow, season finale! Episode 10 is here. In this episode we are talking about mindset and perspective when it comes to all of the experiences we have in life. We are so excited to head into the new year with you guys. Stay up to date with all the great things going on our social media!
This week we deep dive into projection. We all do it unconsciously but it doesn't always have to be this way! We are going to look into:
What is projection?
How to tell if someone is projecting?
Why do we project?
How can we tell if we are projecting?
How do I know if I am projecting?
How do we stop projecting?
Sometimes our relationships with family, friends, romantic partners, or even coworkers can take a huge toll on us. But, if we sit and reflect on the why, it usually boils down to the fact that we do not have healthy boundaries with these people. Boundaries can be hard to set, you may lose people in the process of setting them, but creating boundaries means you are respecting yourself! This week we are going to look at why boundaries are hard to set, what setting boundaries looked like for us, and the types of boundaries we created with others.
This weeks episode is all about breakups and how much we hate them.
Heartache is the worst pain we’ve ever felt but when your expand your consciousness and focus more on the lesson instead of your triggers of abandonment and rejection you will learn a lot about yourself and how YOU contributed to the break up.
Self reflection and healing is a step we usually skip after ending a relationship however they are both crucial in order to find a healthy lasting one.
You will keep being sent the same toxic partner in a different body if you fail to look inward and change.
We can’t wait to share all the details of our breakups and how we are better equipped to break up in love rather than ego!
Do you ever find yourself not going after what the little voice in your head is telling you to go after? Do you ever find yourself purposely creating arguments in your relationships because things seem too good to be true? Well, you aren't alone! This week we will deep dive into self sabotage not only in our romantic relationships but with our careers as well!
This week we are talking about not taking other peoples behaviors towards you personally. People can only meet you at the level of consciousness that they have met themselves. Meaning, not everyone may be as evolved as you, and that is totally ok. We are all on our own perfect timelines in our own journeys.
This week we discuss red flags, but not the red flags you're thinking of. We are going over OUR OWN red flags and whether or not we are really ready to date.
6 Red Flags to look for in yourself when going into a new relationship:
- Going into a new relationship extremely guarded and feeling very mistrusting of your partner.
- Going into a new relationship while keeping someone else on the back burner (you are not emotionally available).
- Going into a new relationship trying to appear perfect (fear of being vulnerable).
- Going into a new relationship with a deep fear of commitment.
- Going into a new relationship overly committing yourself.
- Going into a new relationship with the mindset that you have to give up your friends and hobbies.
We are breaking the stigma and going inward! It is ok to ask for help, that is actually the first step towards healing. We know that is can be scary but that uncomfortable feeling you feel is going to be a game changer. You got this, you are not alone, we love you!
Welcome Back! On this weeks episode we will be exploring the 4 attachment styles. Learning and understand which attachment style you mirror will not only help you understand yourself more, but help you navigate through your relationships. We will be taking a close look at our own attachment style, the Anxious Attachment.
The 4 Attachment Styles are:
- Anxious
- Avoidant
- Disorganized
- Secure
Follow our instagram for more information on these attachment styles https://www.instagram.com/theelephantintheroompc/
Welcome back! On this weeks episode we are deep diving into our OWN toxic behaviors in relationships. It is time to stop pointing the fingers and starts holding yourself accountable. Don't worry, you aren't alone! We all have toxic behaviors that once we are aware of, we can address and no longer repeat the same old patterns.
Show Notes:
Just in case you need to refer back, here are the 6 steps we went over in detail that helped us!
- Self awareness - Wakeup!
- Vulnerability - Allow yourself to feel
- Accountability - No more being the victim
- Acceptance - Loving yourself where you are
- Triggers - They are your gifts
- Integrate - What have you learned & how are you applying it?