The Ultimately Healing Podcast Show: Recent Episodes
Dawn Croydon-Fowler
Support for individuals experiencing issues with their Toxic Families. This could be difficulties with your Parents, siblings, or adult children. I will be providing Weekly Podcasts on information on how these toxic relationships could have affected you, and how you can recover as well as tools and strategies. Helping you not only to survive but to Heal and Live your life
I will provide seven reasons why you struggle setting boundaries with your toxic parents.
This is beneficial as it would help you to learn to be more compassionate with yourself and not beat yourself up for how your parents are affecting your life.
You could also use this information to share with the people in your life if they can’t understand why you struggle
Today I will be explaining what Attachment Theory and Styles are and how that relates to why you could find Romantic Relationships challenging.
To understand what your Inner Critic is. How it could have affected your life, where it comes from and Some strategies you can do to manage it.
You may have heard the term “fight or flight” to describe what people do in response to frightening situations. For example, you as face-to-face with a lion. Are you the kind of person who takes a weapon and starts to try and fight back? Or will you runaway?
While these terms begin to describe our normal reactions to scary situations, there’s more to it than that. Even if in today’s society, the scary situations we find ourselves are more likely to be emotional trauma than a lion.
In today’s podcast, I will introduce the most well-known responses to trauma which are the fight, flight, or freeze responses. Flight includes running or fleeing the situation, fight is to become aggressive, and freeze is to literally become incapable of moving or making a choice. However, there is a fourth response, called the fawn response which involves immediately moving to try to please a person to avoid any conflict.
f you want to spend time with your family or particular family members this Christmas or you have no choice. Somehow you know that the time with them this holiday season will not be great!.
You might struggle with their behaviour
Their attitude towards you
How they treat you or others
Whatever the reason, you find the time totally stressful and maybe almost unbearable. You could be dreading it right now.
This podcast will provide strategies on what things you can start to do now leading up to in and what things will help while you are there.
I tried to include things that won't cost anything and are easy to implement.
....BTW, my microphone stand wasn't working properly so I had to hold my microphone, hence the crashing and banging you might hear. So sorry about that. This will be sorted out for my next podcast.
Feel free to share with others
Here are those resources I mentioned:
The Three Gate Keepers
Breathing Techniques
The Feeling Wheel
Today I will be explaining what Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is and how it differs from the well-known Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
This podcast will introduce basic information on how your brain impacts your emotional health, some of your behaviours and habits.
Knowing this will help you understand why willpower just doesn’t work and how our brains influence our reactions. These reactions are also natural and biological for us as humans but our life experiences change our brains and this affects us further.
I try in this podcast to make a very complex subject accessible and straightforward.
I will be giving you, 12 Tips on how to start your healing process
Starting out can be overwhelming which may put us off even trying. Today I answer some questions you may struggle with and provide some strategies on how you could make the path to healing a bit smoother.
Key takeaways
- Introduction to the Podcast, what it’s about
- Why should your healing journey take so long
- Treat the cause, not just the symptoms
- Just attending therapy sessions, isn’t enough
- Discipline and Routine is important
- Accept that change is difficult
- Find what works for you
- Try not to feel overwhelmed
- Be careful with your energy
- Try not to compare yourself to others
- It’s all a learning process
- Do things despite your fears
I will be explaining what makes a childhood traumatic. Many times we struggle to accept some of the things we have been through saying that it wasn’t that bad and people have gone through much worse. But it is really important to try and put yourself back in the position of a young child and how you would have felt. How they would have coped.
Key Takeaways
Two definitions of trauma from the DSM-V and the ACEs Study (1:10)
The Reality of Trauma for a Child (2:30)
Rothchild (2000) definition of Trauma – my preferred one (4:25)
Less obvious types of Childhood Traumas (7:10)
8 Reasons why trauma can be more difficult to cope with (9:24)
Should I blame my parents? (19:49)
What can you do if you think you experienced Childhood Trauma (21:56)
Summary 23:16
Resources:
Connect with me on Instagram: @fresh_springs_therapy
My website: www.ultimatelyhealing.com
Work with me: Therapist near me | online & Sutton coldfield nr Birmingham
Fresh Springs Therapy Service
Articles Mentioned
ACES Study (https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces/index.html)
Different Roles in a Dysfunctional & Toxic Family (https://ultimatelyhealing.com/roles-in-a-dysfunctional-family)
The 3 A’s – the Reach Approach
Key Takeaways:
- I will define what Narcissism is
- What causes it
- Some of the signs of Narcissism giving examples of how Narcissists can affect their families
- How it affects your behaviour and attitudes
- If a Narcissist can change
Today I will be talking about what Co-dependency is. That is is a natural inborn survival instinct but because of many childhood experiences, we appear to be stuck with the behaviours.
Key Takeaways
What Codependency means
Pete Walker & Codependency
Examples of Codependency
Typical signs of codependency
The positive side of being codependent
How Codependency can affect you
Why does someone become codependent
What can you start to do about it?
Resources:
Connect with me on Instagram: @fresh_springs_therapy
My website: http://www.ultimatelyhealing.com
Work with me: http://www.freshspringstherapy.co.uk
In today’s episode of the podcast I talk about different roles within a dysfunctional family, why we have them and what effect it could have on your life.
KEY TAKEAWAYS COVERED IN THE PODCAST
- Why do we have roles
- What are the different roles in a dysfunctional family
- The differences between the roles in a healthy family and a dysfunctional family
- What do the different family roles mean - Scapegoat, caretaker, Hero (Golden Child), Mascot, Lost Child
- The different family roles are explained giving examples in the form of a story
Today I will be providing you with 9 signs of a toxic family
- None of these are black and white and with most things they are usually on a spectrum
- The issues mentioned don't need to be from the child's parents but could be anyone closely connected i.e. a sibling or grandparent.
- Issues mentioned include addiction, untreated mental health issues, Co-dependency, narcissism, Authoritarian parenting style, Passive parenting style, child abuse, domestic abuse, parentification
- I will explain what these issues are and how they could affect the family
In today’s episode of the podcast, your life could have been affected by having a dysfunctional toxic family.
- How, if you had a dysfunctional family, it could have affected your life
- Why families are important and why you need them
- Why you don't need to be the perfect parent to have a healthy family
- How having a dysfunctional family could have affected you
- A quiz from Charles Whitfield's Book "Healing the Child Within" that questions how your childhood would have affected you
This podcast will provide:
- Introduction to who I am and a brief biography
- What to expect from me and what I hope to provide for you
- What information would be provided here
- What the aims of this channel are