The Healing Power of Trauma : Recent Episodes
Brenda
In this episode, we explore the concept of "Love Deficit Disorder" and its impact on our relationships, particularly our tendency to become attached to narcissistic partners. We explore how early childhood experiences can contribute to this pattern. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of Love Deficit Disorder and learn practical ways to navigate and heal from narcissistic relationships.
If you or someone you know is experiencing narcissistic abuse or any form of abuse, it is important to seek help and support. Reach out to local helplines, counseling services, or organizations specializing in domestic violence or abuse. Remember, you are not alone and there are resources available to assist you.
Please note that the information provided in this episode is for educational purposes and should not replace professional advice.
In this thought-provoking episode, I delve into the deeply concerning issue of reactionary abuse head-on. Join me as I shed light on the dynamics that lead to reactionary abuse and the consequences it has on victims exhibiting this pattern of behavior as they struggle to survive abusive or narcissistic relationships.
Through personal anecdotes, I provide valuable insights into the long-term effects the shame from reactionary abuse had on my psychological, emotional and physical health. I examine the power dynamics involved and the ways in which abusers manipulate and control their victims through guilt, gaslighting and emotional coercion.
In the later part of the episode, I shift our focus to the healing and recovery process. I share my personal journey of survival, resilience, and finding empowerment and a sense of self-worth through vulnerability, compassion and curiosity.
If you or someone you know is experiencing narcissistic abuse or any form of abuse, it is important to seek help and support. Reach out to local helplines, counseling services, or organizations specializing in domestic violence or abuse. Remember, you are not alone and there are resources available to assist you.
Please note that the information provided in this episode is for educational purposes and should not replace professional advice.
Why do we stay in relationships with narcissistic partners for so long? Is it love? Is it a trauma bond? Is it childhood trauma? Lets explore some of the reasons why victims of narcissistic abuse stay with their abuser for so long.
Cognitive dissonance keeps a lot of us stuck in toxic relationships. And I am not just talking about romantic relationships either. I am talking about friendships, professional relationships, familial relationships , etc. It creates confusion and makes the victim doubt their intuition while giving more and more power to the abuser to carry their manipulative tactics and slowly destroy their targets mental and physical health.
Correction* Somewhere I mentioned "four letter poem", I meant four page poem.
Gaslighting is one the most dangerous and damaging forms of psychological abuse. Join me in a candid conversion on gaslighting and how to recover.
I know it’s painful to be the collateral damage to someones else’s pathology...but I want you to remember something, their behavior is a projection of who they are and its not a reflection of you. They avoid you and refuse to give you closure because they know they hurt you. They knew exactly what they were doing and how they were hurting you and they did not care. Instead, they made a decision, yes, a conscious and deliberate choice to gaslight you, invalidate you, to make you feel shame. They made you carry their shame and their pain on your shoulders because they couldn’t dare look at it, much less acknowledge it. Every move they made was calculated. They couldn’t love you because they can’t love themselves and they couldn’t see you because they refuse to look in the mirror and see themselves.
You need to realize this in order to heal from their abuse. You were victimized and healing from that trauma bond is essential to your recovery.
Hello everyone, my name is Brenda Zavala and I am a survivor of Narcissistic abuse and a Trauma Informed Coach in training specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery. Welcome to our podcast, The Healing Power of Trauma, where I will be sharing my story and how the most traumatic and painful period of my life delivered me to the most empowered, self-aware and healed version of myself.