Finally Enough with Anna Wickham: Recent Episodes
Anna Wickham
Finally Enough is dedicated to cultivating a new way of living-- going from busyness, achievement, stress, resentment, and exhaustion to stillness, rest, purpose, and peace. We focus on healing from childhood trauma, codependency, perfectionism, and more while cultivating a life rooted in purpose, healing, self care, and joy. Here, soak up the beautiful truth that you don't have to strive to become enough. Instead, we'll practice recognizing that we already are.
You asked, I answered! I heard from listeners regarding the challenges you have with setting boundaries. In this episode, we'll talk about:
- The 2 biggest things I see that cause misunderstandings about how to set boundaries
- What to do when people don't listen to your boundary
- What to do if you feel anxious or guilty when considering setting a boundary
- The difference between boundaries and simply something that we want
- The difference between boundaries and walls
I hope you find this episode valuable! Follow on TikTok and Instagram at @annaewickham, and don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on your favorite podcast platform and select notifications to be the first to be notified of new episodes.
If you struggle to understand why bad things happen to us, if you have a hard time understanding why there is so much suffering in the world, or if you struggle to believe in a loving god because of all the pain and fear around us, this episode is for you.
Today I offer an alternative perspective to "everything happens for a reason" or "God works in mysterious ways" -- explanations that never really helped me much when I struggled with many of these concepts myself.
... Until one day I received a god-ordained message that helped me see things in a way that I had never considered before. I explain that alternative perspective in this week's episode.
The YouTube video that I came across that changed my perspective, and which I unpack in the episode, is here: https://youtu.be/Ym4Rpd72tq8?si=Bh9cO3NLLWVrYIK-
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If you ever feel like you're spinning too many plates but if you stop, everything will fall apart, this episode is for you.
At first, feeling like you have control of everything feels powerful and exhilarating-- until you're moving faster and faster and suddenly, it feels like it's spinning out of control. Does this ever happen to you?
I'm very familiar with this feeling. Through my experience, I've learned what I have to do to finally stop spinning all the plates and find peace instead. In this episode, I'll share this technique.
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Anna Wickham and Jana Wilson talk about childhood trauma, finding healing, the ongoing journey of healing, setting boundaries, and forgiveness of caregivers who perpetrated trauma. Jana Wilson shares about her recently released prescriptive memoir, "Wise Little One," detailing how she healed from childhood trauma. Buy it on Amazon here: https://amzn.to/3Fg68y5In this interview, you'll learn: - Where to get started with childhood trauma healing today- The thing that sustains us when we feel totally alone in the world (spoiler: we are never alone!)- What if your trauma wasn't "that bad"?- Do we really need to forgive our trauma perpetrators and caregivers? And if so, how?
Jana Wilson is an emotional healing educator, meditation teacher, retreat leader,hypnotherapist, HeartMath Facilitator, and founderof the Emotional HealingSystem. For the past two decades she has taught thousands internationally in group and private retreats. Jana trained with best selling author and physician, Deepak Chopra MD and NY Times best-selling author, Debbie Ford. She lives off grid in the foothills of the Sangre de Christo mountain range in Santa Fe, NM, with her husband and business partner, Dr. Lance Wilson. When she is not guiding clients to heal, she enjoys hiking, yoga and watching documentaries.
Find her at https://www.janawilson.com.
Watch my new free training here: https://annawickham.com/training
Learn more about my coaching program, Reparenting You, here: https://www.annawickham.com/reparenting-you
In my coaching program, Reparenting You, I teach 5 steps you can use when you are triggered and need to find grounding, inner safety, peace, and regulation.
But how do they work in real life, messy situations?
In this episode, I go through a real life trigger that happened to me several years ago and how the 5 steps would intervene to turn a shame spiral downward into a healing spiral upward.
I just launched a brand new FREE training called "How to Feel Safe in Your Body Again" where I talk more about how to use these steps to find inner peace and ground, especially when you're triggered and it's especially challenging.
Watch the training instantly for free here: https://annawickham.com/training
Learn more about my coaching program, Reparenting You, here: https://www.annawickham.com/reparenting-you
Do you find yourself resentful doing things that you started out doing joyfully? Do you begin a project with passion, only to easily get burnt out and ready to move on to a different project... and the same thing happen again? Do you ever feel like your offerings go unappreciated by your family, friends, bosses, or coworkers?
If so, this episode is for you. Today we talk about what's really going on when we become resentful of things we are doing, whether for a goal, for others, or even for ourselves. You'll learn:
Why this happens, and what's really going on to make this so frustrating and difficult to spot in ourselves How you're making a "secret deal" that even you don't know about-- and how to become aware of it in the future How this is actually a learned behavior, and what you can do to stop it in its tracks
Want to get 15 minutes of free coaching? Book your market research interview + 15-minute coaching session here: https://www.annawickham.com/interview Learn more about my 1-on-1 coaching program, Reparenting You: https://www.annawickham.com/reparenting-you
Today on the podcast, I talk more about a spiritual perspective on moving through challenging, painful times in our lives. Bookmark this podcast episode to revisit when you are going through a period of suffering.
We'll talk about:
- Why controlling, focusing on our issue, and resisting reality doesn't work-- and what to do instead
- How to have peace now instead of waiting until your specific problem is solved before we can experience peace
- A new perspective for viewing our problems that gives us freedom and peace even in the midst of storms
- How to find safety and stability regardless of what is going on in our lives
Book your market research interview here (available for a limited time): https://www.annawickham.com/interview
Learn more about my coaching program, Reparenting You: https://www.annawickham.com/reparenting-you
We all know those times. Those times when nothing is working out. When you thought you saw the plan at one point, but now the whole thing is so far gone, that you just know you've been forgotten. You start to lose faith: "There was never any plan. I'm all on my own."
If you've lost hope and faith, today's episode is for you. You'll be reminded that you are never left alone, even when it seems like it. You'll be encouraged and inspired to keep moving forward. You'll have your mind open to the possibilities that exist outside of the path you had in mind and recognize that the plan is happening-- it's just that you may not see the plan yet. Finally, you'll learn mantras you can start using immediately to reconnect you with The Universe during this time of uncertainty, fear, and challenge to bring you back to optimism, trust, faith, and hope.
Discussed in this episode:
Gabby Bernstein "You Are The Guru" Audiobook - https://amzn.to/3PFLuxO
Reparenting You Coaching Program - https://www.annawickham.com/reparenting-you
Get 15 minutes of FREE coaching with me by signing up for a market research interview: https://www.annawickham.com/interview
Are childhood trauma and spirituality connected? YES! These seemingly unrelated areas are intrinsically connected to one another.
In today's episode, discover:
Why childhood trauma creates the believe that you are not safe in the world, and how to find and experience safety in your body now How childhood trauma negatively impacts your ability to connect with god, even if you have strong religious faith or a religious background How to experience less anxiety, worry, fear, and hypervigilance and learn to let go, surrender, and trust in the Universe Why self love or unconditional self love feels impossible to experience when you have experienced childhood trauma, and what to do about it How to go from experiencing god as punishing, critical, and judgmental to accepting, patient, and unconditionally loving.
If you're interested in learning more about my trauma healing program, Reparenting You, you can find out more here: https://www.annawickham.com/reparenting-you
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Do you feel cynical, angry, and have been told you have a hard "outer shell"? Are you critical of yourself and others and have difficulty trusting others and letting them in? Do you struggle with vulnerability and intimacy? Are you destructive, explosive, or self destructive? If so, your inner teenager may be running your life.
In this episode we'll discuss the lesser known (but VERY common) phenomenon of the inner teenager: how to spot signs your inner teenager is in the driver's seat of your life, why this happened, and what you can do about it. After this episode, you will come to understand the tools you need in order to have more trust and better relationships with others, be less hard on others and yourself, and even be less volatile and self destructive.
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Learn more about my coaching program, Reparenting You: https://www.annawickham.com/reparenting-you
If you are on the trauma healing journey and struggle with codependency (and most trauma sufferers do in at least some capacity), this episode is for you. I'm sharing my story of codependency recovery so that you know that you are not alone. It's the good, the bad, and the ugly-- and I hope it reminds you that there is ALWAYS hope and the ability to pursue a new path, even if you (like me in the story!) do not know where to start.
In today's episode, we'll discuss:
- What signs made me realize at 15 years old that my experience in my romantic relationship was not healthy
- How codependency nearly ended my marriage before it began
- How attempting to change our codependency symptoms without doing true healing from the root cause of codependency will not work, and what it looks like when we try this approach
- How codependents often know that their behavior in relationships is not reasonable, but why we are not able to change it despite seeing this
- What codependency at work looks like
- The miraculous way that I figured out I was codependent
- The rock bottom experience that finally allowed me to begin true recovery -- and what my recovery journey has looked like so far
- How it feels now to be "in recovery" (not "recovered" but "in recovery!")
My recent podcast episode about codependency: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7aHPi0lCW6wHX7yh2pw1Ij?si=d6e4d26ee5794e65
My favorite books on codependency healing: https://www.amazon.com/shop/annaewickham/list/3AJBIZ9BKHCMK?ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ofs_mixed_d
My trauma healing coaching program to help you enter recovery from codependency: https://www.annawickham.com/reparenting-you
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Tried everything and still not sleeping well? I believe a huge number of people who experience difficulty getting to sleep or staying asleep are really having a stress response -- fight, flight, freeze, fawn -- rather than simply not being able to sleep. I believe many people experience anxiety and panic that keeps them from getting sleep rather than simply insomnia (and they may not even realize it), and this is why conventional medical advice (such as sleep hygiene) and even sleep medication may not be helping you the way you'd like.
In this episode you'll learn:
- The difference between insomnia and anxiety while sleeping
- Why we often experience anxiety when we are trying to sleep
- How being awakened with a concern can be an invitation to heal
- The formulaic statement living in our heads that is keeping us from sleeping (usually without us realizing it), and what to do about it
- How to handle difficulty sleeping due to stressful job and lifestyle
- Simple habits you can implement today to start getting better sleep
I have not read in any books the things that I talk about today regarding anxiety that causes insomnia, but one book that was very helpful for improving sleep hygiene and getting off of sleep medication is this book: Say Goodnight to Insomnia: https://amzn.to/3LBfw2b
Want free coaching? I'm currently doing market research interviews in exchange for 15 minutes of free coaching. To learn more and book your call, head to https://www.annawickham.com/interview
We come to a point in our adult life where we realize that all the things we were told would bring us happiness and fulfillment have just led us to a dead end. Today I want to dive deep into a totally different way to approach life, one that transcends what we see with our eyes: the spiritual way. The spiritual approach to life sees beyond face value to what is happening under the surface in us and in others. It explains why we've been feeling so empty, and why nothing in this world will really satisfy.
Today we'll talk about:
- The difference between fear and love in the practical ways we show up in everyday life
- What the ego is and how it keeps us from our highest potential
- How you can get started on the spiritual journey if you've found yourself at this existential fork in the road
My coaching program, Reparenting You: https://www.annawickham.com/reparenting-you
Article I mentioned in the Wall Street Journal: https://www.wsj.com/articles/happiest-people-america-poll-ef7c854c
Do you feel like a chameleon, able to adapt to any situation and show up as whatever others need? Do you feel like you don't know who you are or what you want? Do you experience anxiety when you show up as your authentic self? Do some people in your life reject or criticize you when you show up authentically?
If so, this episode is for you. In today's episode, you'll learn:
- Why you struggle to connect with your authentic self
- Why this is a problem in adult life
- What you can do starting today to reconnect with your authentic self and start showing up authentically
- What to do if people reject or criticize you for showing up authentically
- And more!
Discussed in today's episode:
- My brand new coaching program, "Reparenting You": https://www.annawickham.com/reparenting-you
- Hulu docuseries called "Mormon No More": https://www.hulu.com/series/mormon-no-more-61c6289d-1038-45a4-a982-6fad782a00f1
Be sure to follow me on TikTok and Instagram at @annaewickham for more like this.
Have you ever wondered if you are codependent? If you've done any research on it, it might be confusing to answer that question due to the complex nature of codependency, plus the fact that it is often misunderstood -- even by many therapists!
In this episode, you'll learn:
- What codependency is
- Signs and symptoms of codependency
- How to heal codependency
- Why it is often misunderstood, and why there are many misconceptions about codependency
- Codependency's connection with addiction and childhood trauma
- And more
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"You should be grateful for what you have! Don't you know that some people don't even have food to eat?!" So many of us have a troubled relationship with gratitude without even realizing it. Gratitude is often misunderstood and used as a tool of shame, guilt, and toxic positivity rather the the life-transforming practice that it truly is.
In this episode, we will explain what toxic gratitude is, how it comes to be, and how we can re-learn gratitude as it's truly meant to be, a way to bring us closer to feelings of safety, support, and love.
In this episode:
- Check out Ruthie Lindsey's website: http://www.ruthielindsey.com and the podcast interview that introduced me to her: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3q2mflDBf2xcLQbrZwTak1
- Song "Gratitude" by Jason Mraz, a great example of how to practice gratitude: https://open.spotify.com/track/0ovCdJZ9BUs16x84hmXmV3?si=9b43aec30ac34123
- If you're ready to unlearn the conditioning that we've been taught, and to stop shaming yourself and hiding your true feelings from yourself and others, check out my coaching program, Free to Be: https://www.annawickham.com/free-to-be
This is my never-before-told story of leaving the Evangelical church, becoming an atheist for 6 years, and then finding a spirituality of my own understanding. I share this story not because I feel I've arrived at the "right" belief, but to share the hope that peace and happiness are within reach, in the unique way meant for you.
In this episode, I'll share:
- The reasons I left the Evangelical church, and what allowed me to overcome my fear of leaving
- Why the next 6 years after deconversion were a time of hopelessness, depression, and despair
- The miracle that led me to find hope, joy, and peace again-- and led me to a spirituality that I now both practice and teach
From this episode:
- Here is the very YouTube video that I used when I couldn't sleep when I was struggling with insomnia and anxiety. I found relief through this guided meditation, which gave me hope that peace was available to me despite leaving my faith: https://youtu.be/weIwrDTU2kw
- The movie that my Higher Power used to help change my life: https://youtu.be/j9Hjrs6WQ8M
- If you're looking for support on your healing and spiritual journey from someone who has been there, you may be a fit for my coaching program, Free to Be. Learn more or enroll now at www.annawickham.com/free-to-be
No matter where you are on your spiritual journey, I hope this story inspires you to restore the connection to your intuition and yourself, where you will always find the answer.
Feelings and triggers, large and small, that emerge in our daily lives are a chance for us to heal and deepen our relationship with ourselves. But how do we do that, instead of beating ourselves up, using distraction or numbing to avoid our feelings, or projecting our feelings onto others?
In today's dynamic episode, you'll learn exactly how to do just that.
We'll talk about:
- How to heal a trigger in real time, step by step
- The difference between feelings and triggers -- and the simple question to ask yourself to identify the difference
- Why the difference matters
- How to feel our feelings no matter what is coming up, even if we don't know why we are feeling the way we feel
- The role of the support of others-- is it ok to get support from others to process our feelings?
- Examples of healthy and unhealthy ways others play a role in our feeling and healing.
- And more.
When we approach our feelings with loving compassion rather than self judgement or avoidance, we not only experience the love that we have been seeking in everyone and everything else, we heal the world just a little bit more.
Books we talked about:
The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer: https://amzn.to/3Q5UCdf
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel A. Van der Kolk: https://amzn.to/3Iz8f3a
If you want to learn more specific techniques for feeling feelings and triggers, check out my signature coaching program, Free to Be. You can learn more or enroll now here: https://www.annawickham.com/free-to-be
Finding pleasurable, enjoyable activities can be difficult for those who are in recovery from trauma and addiction. In this episode, we will unpack exactly why that is, and how you can get started finding the things in life that light you up and make you feel good.
Things covered in this episode:
- How addiction is merely a symptom of underlying trauma, and addictions outside of alcohol or drug abuse that we often don't think of as addictions
- Why it is difficult for those who have experienced trauma to find enjoyment in everyday healthy activities
- Why money and time are NOT the biggest prohibiting factors in this, and what is instead
- How to get started with healthy, enjoyable activities and hobbies if you are in recovery from trauma, addiction, or codependency
- Some examples of accessible and cost-effective healthy activities you can do when you give up an addiction or compulsion to help you find yourself, find enjoyment, and heal
If this resonates with you, you may be a fit for my signature coaching program, "Free to Be," which helps those who struggle with busy addiction, overwhelm, and burnout learn a new way of living that brings peace, fulfillment, and joy. Learn more at AnnaWickham.com/free-to-be
From this episode:
- Discover Your Light Podcast with Pawan Nair & Muskan Sharma: https://open.spotify.com/show/5GewEod6yRREQWNLaCZYQk
- Living Untethered by Michael A. Singer: https://amzn.to/3UviNm6
- Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert: https://amzn.to/3h6qTno
- My signature coaching program, Free to Be. Learn more or enroll here: https://www.annawickham.com/free-to-be
- The hymn "It Is Well With My Soul" -- fact checking what I shared in the episode. The hymnist, Horatio Spafford, experienced the death of his 4-year-old son in the Great Chicago Fire of 1871. The fire also ruined him financially. Shortly afterwards, his 4 daughters died in a shipwreck. His wife survived. Spafford traveled by ship to meet his grieving wife, and wrote the lyrics to "It Is Well With My Soul" as his ship passed the area where his daughters died.
