How To Make Friends: Recent Episodes
Zayne
A podcast for anyone who wants to make friends, up-level their current friendships, or listen and learn about all things friendship related. As a certified Friendship Coach, It is my honour to show up every week and provide you with the latest research on friendship, personal insight, and easy "how to" tips and tricks to living a life of connection and fun.
If you've ever heard, or thought of this idea of it being hard to make new friends as an adult, and believed it, this episode is for you.
In this episode, we break down 3 reasons why it's easier to make friends as an adult including:
- The value of having limited time and energy
- What matters most in adult friendships
- The benefits of being able to invest in friendships specifically.
Hope you enjoy it!
Be sure to grab my FREE "How to make Friends from Meetup Events" Guide where I breakdown exactly how to go from a meetup event on calendar to friends.
Grab that here
If you want to take this work deeper, feel free to book your FREE 1 hour Friendship Discovery call with me where we can talk about where your central challenge is in friendships, why you have it, some direction on how to move forward, and then discuss what working together would be like.
Book in here
Ever felt like or heard this idea of "(Insert your city) is just a lonely city"?.
In this episode, I share why I don't think lonely cities exist and why telling ourselves our city is lonely is actually what makes in lonely.
I teach your how to cognitively reframe the "lonely city" mentality so that you can actually meet some new people and make new friends.
I go over some of the research on loneliness so that we can look at both sides.
And most importantly, I share why you're worth putting in the effort to make new friends regardless of what anyone says about how lonely or non-lonely your city is.
Be sure to grab my FREE "How to make Friends from Meetup Events" Guide where I breakdown exactly how to go from a meetup event on calendar to friends.
Grab that here
If you want to take this work deeper, feel free to book your FREE 1 hour Friendship Discovery call with me where we can talk about where your central challenge is in friendships, why you have it, some direction on how to move forward, and then discuss what working together would be like.
Book in here
Finding that you want new friends but don't feel motivated to actually go out and meet new people? If so, this episode's for you. We talk about.
- We we don't feel motivated to make new friends
- How to overcome that lack of motivation
- Some strategies to stay consistent
Don't forget to leave a review and rating if you enjoyed this episode!
Be sure to grab my FREE "How to make Friends from Meetup Events" Guide where I breakdown exactly how to go from meetup event on calendar to friends.
Grab that here
If you want to take this work deeper, feel free to book your FREE 1 hour Friendship Discovery call with me where we can talk about where your central challenge is in friendships, why you have it, some direction on how to move forward, and then discuss what working together would be like.
Book in here
We're talking all about how to become the person who knows how to and is willing to make friends before you've actually made the friends.
It's a tried and true tool in self-development. Becoming the person who's accomplished the goal, before you've accomplished the goal.
In this breakdown, we're talking all things:
đ«¶đŒ What a friend-maker identity means
đ«¶đŒ Why we don't use this language in friendships and self-development spaces
đ«¶đŒ What actions a friend-maker takes
đ«¶đŒ How to consistently keep the identity of a friend-maker
Enjoy!
Be sure to grab my FREE "How to make Friends from Meetup Events" Guide where I breakdown exactly how to go from meetup event on calendar to friends.
Grab that here
If you want to take this work deeper, feel free to book your FREE 1 hour Friendship Discovery call with me where we can talk about where your central challenge is in friendships, why you have it, some direction on how to move forward, and then discuss what working together would be like.
Book in here
Website: zaynekhancoaching.com
This podcast is now archived which means no new episodes will be published.
I now help teens help themselves overcome challenges like
- Procrastination
- Challenges with school and grades
- Friendships
- Social Anxiety
- ADD/ADHD
- Family challenges
- Making future decisions
- Career anxiety
- Time Management
- Feelings around Clubs and Extra Curriculars
If your teen is struggling with any of these things, or other non-clinical mental health related challenges, I can help them. Reach out here:
https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/zaynekhanconsults
In this episode, we take a deep dive into something all of us experience when we're making new friends - self criticism. We go over the 5 step framework for overcoming and managing self criticism so that it doesn't stop us from making the friends we know we deserve.
Study Referenced: Effect of compassion-focused therapy on self-criticism and self-soothing: A meta-analysis.
This podcast is now archived which means no new episodes will be published.
I now help teens help themselves overcome challenges like
- Procrastination
- Challenges with school and grades
- Friendships
- Social Anxiety
- ADD/ADHD
- Family challenges
- Making future decisions
- Career anxiety
- Time Management
- Feelings around Clubs and Extra Curriculars
If your teen is struggling with any of these things, or other non-clinical mental health related challenges, I can help them. Reach out here:
https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/zaynekhanconsults
In this episode I take you through how I managed social anxiety at a party with strangers, and how you can to.
We go over
· What you can do before the party itself to get your anxiety low enough to manage
· How to deal with the anxiety in real time during the party
· How to not fall for your brainâs âpost-anxiety cringeâ download.
Thanks for listening!
This podcast is now archived which means no new episodes will be published.
I now help teens help themselves overcome challenges like
- Procrastination
- Challenges with school and grades
- Friendships
- Social Anxiety
- ADD/ADHD
- Family challenges
- Making future decisions
- Career anxiety
- Time Management
- Feelings around Clubs and Extra Curriculars
If your teen is struggling with any of these things, or other non-clinical mental health related challenges, I can help them. Reach out here:
https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/zaynekhanconsults
Join me and fellow friendship coach and expert Sarah, where we take a deep dive into the funnest topics like:
· Making and maintaining friends as an expat, and how to overcome some the specific challenges expats face when making new friends.
· The undeniable power of mindset when making and maintaining friendships.
· Friendships goals and why theyâre so foreign to so many of us.
· How to keep scarcity and lack away when making new friends.
Work with Sara:
Link Tree
This podcast is now archived which means no new episodes will be published.
I now help teens help themselves overcome challenges like
- Procrastination
- Challenges with school and grades
- Friendships
- Social Anxiety
- ADD/ADHD
- Family challenges
- Making future decisions
- Career anxiety
- Time Management
- Feelings around Clubs and Extra Curriculars
If your teen is struggling with any of these things, or other non-clinical mental health related challenges, I can help them. Reach out here:
https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/zaynekhanconsults
The obstacles are lies your survival brain tells you to keep you:
- Moving towards pleasure
- Keeping pain at a minimum
- Conserving energy
These are the 3 things your survival brain wants you to do. Thankfully you also have a prefrontal cortex and higher brain that's read this far in the podcast description - the part of you that WANTS more friends.
In this episode, we go over 3 brain lies where if those lies are believed, will stop you from making friends.
This podcast is now archived which means no new episodes will be published.
I now help teens help themselves overcome challenges like
- Procrastination
- Challenges with school and grades
- Friendships
- Social Anxiety
- ADD/ADHD
- Family challenges
- Making future decisions
- Career anxiety
- Time Management
- Feelings around Clubs and Extra Curriculars
If your teen is struggling with any of these things, or other non-clinical mental health related challenges, I can help them. Reach out here:
https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/zaynekhanconsults
Have you ever set a goal? Maybe a financial goal? A goal for your business? But what about a goal for your friendships?
Most of us haven't and today I'm going to explore with you exactly why that is, how you can make a friendship goals that work for you, and what you can do to actually achieve those goals.
Making friends doesn't have to be complicated and tricky. Let's break it down and get intentional.
I'm also hosting a Friendship Assessment and Roadmap Masterclass where we take an hour deep dive to find out exactly what worked, what didn't work in your 2023 friendships, and what you're going to do differently in 2024, by developing a friendship roadmap.
Details here
This podcast is now archived which means no new episodes will be published.
I now help teens help themselves overcome challenges like
- Procrastination
- Challenges with school and grades
- Friendships
- Social Anxiety
- ADD/ADHD
- Family challenges
- Making future decisions
- Career anxiety
- Time Management
- Feelings around Clubs and Extra Curriculars
If your teen is struggling with any of these things, or other non-clinical mental health related challenges, I can help them. Reach out here:
https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/zaynekhanconsults
You know those friends who you're kind of lukewarm with? They're there, you might have a few laughs, but then they also say some things that don't sit right with you. On the other side, have you ever wondered some of the non-conscious impacts those amazing friends who celebrate you consistently are having on you?
Either way, this episode is for you. We dive deep into the way your friendships are affecting the quality of your thinking, your subsequent feelings, your actions and the quality of your life and future.
This podcast is now archived which means no new episodes will be published.
I now help teens help themselves overcome challenges like
- Procrastination
- Challenges with school and grades
- Friendships
- Social Anxiety
- ADD/ADHD
- Family challenges
- Making future decisions
- Career anxiety
- Time Management
- Feelings around Clubs and Extra Curriculars
If your teen is struggling with any of these things, or other non-clinical mental health related challenges, I can help them. Reach out here:
https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/zaynekhanconsults
In this episode we go over a question from a listener all about the challenge in thinking that your friends like you more than you like them. We're going to go over what to do when that thought-feeling combination comes up, what it means to be liked and if you like that definition, and how making friends and maintaining friendships can be challenged by painful thinking around this.
This podcast is now archived which means no new episodes will be published.
I now help teens help themselves overcome challenges like
- Procrastination
- Challenges with school and grades
- Friendships
- Social Anxiety
- ADD/ADHD
- Family challenges
- Making future decisions
- Career anxiety
- Time Management
- Feelings around Clubs and Extra Curriculars
If your teen is struggling with any of these things, or other non-clinical mental health related challenges, I can help them. Reach out here:
https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/zaynekhanconsults
This one's a little different! Not as much conceptual stuff here, but I share my story going from being asocial, socially isolated, closed off, to being so connected, fulfilled and friendly to the point where I can help others create meaningful friendships.
This podcast is now archived which means no new episodes will be published.
I now help teens help themselves overcome challenges like
- Procrastination
- Challenges with school and grades
- Friendships
- Social Anxiety
- ADD/ADHD
- Family challenges
- Making future decisions
- Career anxiety
- Time Management
- Feelings around Clubs and Extra Curriculars
If your teen is struggling with any of these things, or other non-clinical mental health related challenges, I can help them. Reach out here:
https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/zaynekhanconsults
In this episode, we dive deep into the somewhat vague and nebulous term called "open communication", and how it applies to friendships. We go over what it means to openly communicate with friends, how it can help you to up-level your friendships, what happens when you don't have it, and practical mindset tools and real skills on how to actually use it.
I know for me, open communication has saved and helped my friendships thrive in a way I could never have imagined before using it. It's not an easy skill for many of us to develop, but your friendships are worth the effort it takes đ
Resources mentioned:
- Nonviolent Communication: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/71730.Nonviolent_Communication?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=Prf00wZuMo&rank=1
- Vinh Giang, world renowned communication and public speaking expert: https://www.youtube.com/@askvinh
This podcast is now archived which means no new episodes will be published.
I now help teens help themselves overcome challenges like
- Procrastination
- Challenges with school and grades
- Friendships
- Social Anxiety
- ADD/ADHD
- Family challenges
- Making future decisions
- Career anxiety
- Time Management
- Feelings around Clubs and Extra Curriculars
If your teen is struggling with any of these things, or other non-clinical mental health related challenges, I can help them. Reach out here:
https://api.leadconnectorhq.com/widget/bookings/zaynekhanconsults
This episode's for anyone who feels like they're doing the things to make new friends like managing the social anxiety, signing up for the meetups, going to the community events, but consistently find that the people they're meeting just aren't friendship material.
We go over the top 3 reasons why you're not making friends in these contexts and how what to do about it.
My FREE training on Making 1 new friend in 3 steps: Training
Book a Discovery Call to see if we're a good fit for a dedicated coaching container.
Thank you!
If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com
This episode is for all of the people out there who love the idea and mindset tools behind making new friends, but think that they're not ready. In this episode I go over:
- Why you may think your not ready
- What to do when you think you're not ready
- How to use that "not ready" feeling to become friendship primed
FREE Make 1 New Friend in 3 Steps Video and Visual Guide here
Join my meetup group for FREE where we do monthly interactive webinars here
Join my Facebook Community of Friends here where I post tips, tricks, ideas, quotes, prompts and more here
Email me with any questions, concerns or podcast topics at : zayne@zaynekhancoaching.com
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Have you ever wondered if you really needed a coach to help you with your friendships?
The short answer is no. You don't need anything to live the exact life you want except for that big, beautiful, foldy brain of yours.Â
The long answer is no, AND
- A friendship coach can help you overcome social anxiety.
- Being in a coaching container with the right coach means that you're always held to highest possible level of capability, belief and regard.
- Accountability.
- Active practice towards up-leveling your friendship life.
- Faster more directed results.
I didn't need to develop any of these skills right when I did. But I'm so glad I pursued a coaching program to help me because it's why I'm here doing everything in my power to help you.
Up-level your friendships, today, with a FREE discovery call where you diagnose what the main challenge in your friendships is, + direction on how to change it and then we'll talk about working together. Book in here
If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com
Going from meeting a stranger and having a nice interaction with them, to actually becoming friends with them can seem tricky and even a bit defeating based on how you're thinking about it.
In this episode, I share three questions you can ask yourself to make it easier for you to actually form those friendships.
My FREE training on how to make 1 new friend in 3 steps.Â
My email in case you want to reach out or request a podcast topic: zayne@zaynekhancoaching.com
If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com
We have standards for almost everything in our lives, but when it comes to our friends our standards can get muddied up based on:
- Past experiences
- Past programming
- Settling
- "I'd rather this than be alone" energy.
In this episode I share exactly why it's harmful to have a standard that's based off past experiences or scarcity versus a genuine desire to have amazing, compatible friends. I also talk about how to actually implement that standard in your daily life. Enjoy!Â
My FREE: "Make 1 New Friend in 3 Steps Training": https://zaynekhancoaching.ck.page/3235fe67f3
If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com
In this episode I share exactly how I made the next two friends in my own coaching program test drive, 3 Friends in 3 Months. I talk about all of the ups, the downs and exactly why I know you can do this too if it feels aligned for you.Â
Get your FREE 3 Steps to Make 1 New Friend training here: https://zaynekhancoaching.ck.page/3235fe67f3
Book a Free Discovery Call where we can talk about your challenges in friendship and potentially working together: https://zaynekhancoaching.as.me/schedule.php
You got this!Â
If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com
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In this episode I share my experience going through my own program, Make 3 Friends in 3 Months. I talk about the doubts, the fear, the excitement, and the experience of actually going to a fan expo convention and meeting a new friend. I address some things about the experience that I thought would be relevant for you like:
- Anxiety around going to events alone and the fear of judgment that comes up
- How to get value from going to an event like this even if you don't meet the friend
- How to have healthy and compassion-driven expectations for yourself when you're making friends.
If you want to take this work deeper and go through my program, Make 3 Friends in 3 Months you can book in directly here:Â
https://ZayneKhanCoaching.as.me/?appointmentType=40193369
If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com
Instagram and Tik Tok: friendshipcoachzayne
Our brains are wired to give us terrible questions to ask ourselves. We find ourselves asking ourselves: "Why can't I make new friends, why does no one want to be my friend, What's wrong with me?". These questions seem reasonable and logical to ask, but the answer always leaves us feeling bad doing nothing. Our survival brain loves this. In this episode, I'm going to teach you exactly how to overcome our brain's natural desire to offer terrible questions, and then give you my three steps process to ask yourself some better questions that'll actually have you out there making new friends.Â
Want to see if you're good fit for my brand new "3 Friends in 3 Months" program? Book your FREE discovery call here: https://zaynekhancoaching.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=40193369
If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com
Instagram and Tik Tok: friendshipcoachzayne
Meetup Groups:
MBTI and Friendship: https://www.meetup.com/mbti-and-friendship-group-surrey/
Journaling and Friendship: https://www.meetup.com/journaling-friendship-surrey-chapter/
Discovery Call To See if We're a Good Fit: https://ZayneKhanCoaching.as.me/
Website: zaynekhancoaching.com
email: zaynekhanlifecoach@gmail.com
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3 months. 3 new friends. An unrecognizably transformed version of you.
3 months to learn all the BEST mindset up-levels, to develop unwavering self-confidence and to integrate all the actionable tools youâll need to make at least three friends.
Making friends doesnât have to be so scary it feels impossible.
Making friends doesnât have to be something only reserved for âcertainâ people.
Making friends doesnât have to be a struggle.
Iâm taking on 3 highly motivated and committed clients to go through my brand-new âMake 3 Friends in 3 Monthsâ program.
Youâll be equipped with:
âLearning about the unique gifts you have to share with any and all future friends,
The skill of never comparing your friendships to anyone elseâs, especially on social media.
How to move through uncomfortable feelings when it comes to meeting new people.
and more.
And donât get me wrong, this isnât a college 101 course.
Three of the 12 weeks are dedicated to applying the up-levels in your real life so that we can actually put the new found skills to good use.
We are going to devise a game plan where we get you out into the world to make new friends in a way thatâs mildly uncomfortable, but still safe for your nervous system.
If youâre ready to step into the version of yourself with unwavering confidence and the ability to make as many, meaningful friendships as you want, reply to this email OR book in for a FREE discovery call to see if we're a good fit to work together.
Donât let fear hold you back from living the life of joy and connection you know you deserve. Your future friends are waiting for you.
If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com
Instagram and Tik Tok: friendshipcoachzayne
Meetup Groups:
MBTI and Friendship: https://www.meetup.com/mbti-and-friendship-group-surrey/
Journaling and Friendship: https://www.meetup.com/journaling-friendship-surrey-chapter/
In this episode I share one of the best tools I know of to make more friends. Do you ever wish you had a mentor, guide, coach, or cheerleader (besides me of course) to help you make more friends, or navigate your current friendships? What if that person is you?Â
By creating and cultivating a relationship with your future self, you'll learn that you can always call on someone for wisdom. Someone who understands you. Someone who's been exactly where you are now. And someone who wants nothing more than for you to succeed.Â
Future-self access is something that's completely changed my life, and I want that for you too. Let's go!Â
If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com
Instagram and Tik Tok: friendshipcoachzayne
Meetup Groups:
MBTI and Friendship: https://www.meetup.com/mbti-and-friendship-group-surrey/
Journaling and Friendship: https://www.meetup.com/journaling-friendship-surrey-chapter/
If you've ever wondered why you aren't making friends, look at your belief. How much do you believe in your possibility to make new or up-level current friendships? In this instalment, we look at the value of belief when it comes to friendship, why the past isn't relevant for current belief, and how to up-level your friendship possibility quotient.Â
If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com
Instagram and Tik Tok: friendshipcoachzayne
Meetup Groups:
MBTI and Friendship: https://www.meetup.com/mbti-and-friendship-group-surrey/
Journaling and Friendship: https://www.meetup.com/journaling-friendship-surrey-chapter/
Have you ever wondered what a Life Coaching Conference was like? I took what I learned there and applied it to the topic of Friendships! Learn more about possibility drops, the miserable maybe, result audits and more in this episode!
If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com
Instagram and Tik Tok: friendshipcoachzayne
Meetup Groups:
MBTI and Friendship: https://www.meetup.com/mbti-and-friendship-group-surrey/
Journaling and Friendship: https://www.meetup.com/journaling-friendship-surrey-chapter/
What if you're not actually an introvert? In this short but sweet episode, I share my thoughts on why some us mislabel ourselves as introverts and an actionable tip on how to know if that's you.
If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com
Instagram and Tik Tok: friendshipcoachzayne
Meetup Groups:
MBTI and Friendship: https://www.meetup.com/mbti-and-friendship-group-surrey/
Journaling and Friendship: https://www.meetup.com/journaling-friendship-surrey-chapter/
In this episode we discuss how you can up-level the beautiful, warm vibration of gratitude as it relates to your friendships. It doesn't matter where you are currently in your friendship life, you can always carve out some room for gratitude, and in this episode I'm going to teach you how.Â
If you want to learn more: zaynekhancoaching.com
get your FREE "5 Ways to Make Friends for Introverts" Mini-Class here
Book your FREE Friend Finding Strategy call where we take a look at your current challenge with friendship and then give you at least a roadmap moving forward here
Instagram and Tik Tok: friendshipcoachzayne
In this episode, I explore how to identify what's important to you in friendship. I consider features from past, present and future friendships, + actionable steps on how to implement these insights. But the best part about this topic is you get to always decide what's important to you!
If you want to learn more here's my website
get your FREE "5 Ways to Make Friends for Introverts" Mini-Class here
Book your FREE Friend Finding Strategy call where we take a look at your current challenge with friendship and then give you at least a roadmap moving forward here
Join me on the podcast this week to earn why knowing who you are is one of the most foundational steps when it comes to making more friends. I'm sharing three actionable steps on how to implement this in your daily life so that you can up-level your friendships.
Book your FREE 45 minute friend finding strategy call where we take a deep dive into a current friendship challenge you're wanting to overcome: https://calendly.com/khanzayne/45min
For more information and to access your FREE "How to Make Friends for Introverts" training, be sure to check out my website: zaynekhancoaching.com
You got this!