Life and Love In the Q Podcast: Recent Episodes
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Welcome to life and love in the Q a podcast for the LGBTQIA2Q+ community, those who support them, and those who just want to learn more.
This is the final segment of the self-care tools that Jill and Dr. Treisha have found to be helpful to them-- and this self-care tool from Dr. Treisha may surprise you. It's definitely not new, but it's gotten a bad rap for decades. Lately, however, it seems like people are rediscovering the many benefits of this potential path to healing.
Note that you should always consult your medical care team prior to engaging in any type of care. We're not it. We're just two people sharing our experience and what worked for us. Okay? Great.
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In this episode, Jill and Dr. Treisha continue their discussion of self-care with a deeper dive into two of the somato-emotional tools they've used to help them take care of their physical, mental, and emotional health. This episode also dives into a very frank discussion about not feeling good even when we do all of the things to help us feel good. It's an honest talk about why real life can just give us more than we're prepared to handle-- even with all of the self-care tools at our disposal.
And THIS conversation continued on long enough that we broke it into another episode for next week where Dr. Treisha discusses one self-care tool that you may be shocked to find out she is a fan of!
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Ahhh... self-care. That thing which every person is told to make time for-- what also being wildly unclear about what self-care actually is and what types of self-care are beneficial. In the first episode of this two-part series, we talk about the specific tools that have worked for us, from the free to the bigger investments of time and money. We also discuss what types of things are NOT actually self-care and what things may be self-care to some but maladaptive to others.
Have a type of self-care that works for you? Share with us at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com and maybe we'll include your answer in a future episode!
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Allyship is important for marginalized groups, especially nowadays. Allies almost always take a risk by supporting those who need it, at no real benefit to themselves.
But is there a such thing as an unsafe ally? And why would someone hold themselves out as an ally if they're not genuinely supporting those they claim to support?
In this episode, Jill and Treisha talk about unsafe allyship and what things people say and do that can make them feel like unsafe allies. If this episode brings up any questions or feelings in you, please reach out to us at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com. We'd love to know what you think!
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Our world is rapidly evolving when it comes to our conversations around the concepts of gender, sex, and identity. Understandably, it can be challenging to understand what some terminology means. In this episode, Jill and Dr. Treisha dive into two terms that they've received multiple questions on lately-- gender dysphoria and identity distress. Through talking about it, they each had their own lightbulb moments on the terms and how they show up in our lives.
Have something LGBTQIA+ related that you'd like more clarity on? Email LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com
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What the heck is triangulation? In this episode, Jill and Dr. Treisha talk about the many ways triangulation appears in our conflicts or identity discrepancies, and why it has the power to really mess things up. As with so many things in life, awareness of when triangulation is present is an important first step.
You'll hear in today's episode that Jill is continuing to wrap her brain around the concept. If you are too, reach out to us via email with your questions at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com or contact us directly on social media.
Way back in the day in Episode 18, we discussed some ways to handle when life hands you hard choices. This is a bonus episode we recorded from that as our conversation continued.
- Treisha discusses why she taught her yoga students to fail at poses.
- Jill discusses why people come out and what the heck took her so long to get there.
- Why there isn't more knowledge explaining the coming out process now?
- How do you know if you're LGBTQ?
- The hierarchy of wisdom that makes us question our life choices.
- Who is voicing your narrative?
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We often think of trauma as a certain event that happens and has a profound impact on our well-being. But what about when you're stuck in a constant conflict with no resolution in sight? Uncertainty trauma happens during the shifts in our life and can result in additional shame and masking. It's also where microaggressions show up quite often!
Treisha shares some examples of uncertainty trauma related to the church and what that means for families and provides tools and ideas for breaking out of the uncertainty loop.
Listen in and let us know what you think!
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Nearly everyone understands the basics of privilege-- those qualities or life experiences that give one person an extra advantage over another. But it is easy to miss the mark on what your privileges are if you haven't met someone without that advantage.
Microaggressions are those small actions and words that cause minor harm over an extended period of time. Jill calls it "death by a thousand paper cuts" because the damage adds up over time. Can you think of any you've felt in your own life?
Privilege means moving through a world that is tailored to your being and ability. Treisha shares the beauty of yoga and why it helps meet people where they're at and Jill brings in her experience as a former homeschooler where kids could be taught according to their strengths.
We'd love to know if you had any lightbulb moments from this episode. If so, email us at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com. Thank you for your support!
Connect With Us: For questions, comments, and more email: LifeAndLoveIntheQ@gmail.com
Schedule a counseling session with Dr. Treisha at https://calendly.com/treishapeterson/60min
Schedule a support session with Jillian Abby at https://calendly.com/jillianabby/lgbtqiasupport
More from Treisha Peterson, PhD: https://linktr.ee/treishapeterson
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Happy Pride Month, Q Crew! We thought for this week we'd dig one of the most popular episodes from our early days and share it with you again... since our listenership has grown quite a bit and you may have missed this one.
Pride is a celebration of the LGBTQIA+ identity and the allies who support them. It's a civil rights movement to honor the achievements of the past and recognize areas where more work still needs to be done (strong side-eye to Florida, Texas, and Tennessee).
Pride is also a time to hear others' stories. In this episode, Jill discusses why coming out is so much more complicated than people realize. Treisha shares her own experience when her child came out and what that was like as a parent.
We hope you'll give it a listen (or relisten) and share the episode with those who need to hear it. Thank you for your support!
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Jill spent the weekend soaking in the energy of all things Hay House at their I CAN DO IT conference in Tampa. She shares with Treisha the three surprising takeaways from the event that really shifted her perspective and helped her return to herself.
Did one or more resonate with you? Email us and let us know!
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In this episode, we talk about the compliment that never feels great. Theline that easily rolls off our tongues but never lands gracefully with the recipient...
"I don't know how she does it!
There is so much to say about the pressures we put on ourselves and others. But why read the show notes when you can just listen to this episode about perfectionism and the human experience? If you like it, please show some star love to our podcast and rate us or leave a review!
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This discussion is in follow-up to our episode from May 2 (Why Give 100% When You Can Give 70%) and Treisha's insights from her trip to Bali.
- Do you ever find yourself busying yourself into chaos?
- Does having more on your plate almost feel like a status symbol?
- Has the fight-or-flight feeling become your new normal?
This episode focuses on the importance of not always growing, transitioning, or moving. It's permission to step back from the chaos and let the dust settle so that you can view your life with fresh eyes.
And we've got a new challenge for you to try in your life!
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Is it just us? Are we the odd ones out here?
Jill and Treisha recently realized that they have something in common-- neither of them look forward to Mother's Day. It's a complicated day for a lot of people, whether that be their status as a mother, their relationship with the mothers in their lives, or the absence of maternal figures or children in their lives.
This episode is the conversation we didn't know if we were allowed to have. But we said it. And here it is.
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Clearly, we're working on recovery from perfectionism over here. On Treisha's recent trip to Bali she learned the power and pleasure that can be derived from living life in a 70/30 balance. Learn what exactly the 70/30 is and how you can incorporate it into your daily life for greater peace, ease, and alignment.
Because nobody can (or should) be giving 100% all the damn time!
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It's LAUNCH DAY for Jillian Abby's memoir, Perfectly Queer. Hear about how the book came to be and the motivation behind telling her story. This episode is for anyone who is about to start or is in the messy middle of coming out (or anything other challenging life change) and why taking the leap was absolutely 1000% worth it. Treisha also shares her new approach to making life lighter.
If you haven't gotten your copy of Perfectly Queer yet, you can buy it here in paperback, ebook, and audiobook.
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Labels were a big part of Jillian Abby's memoir, Perfectly Queer. In this episode, she and Treisha Peterson, P.h.D. discuss labels from all angles-- the good, the confusing, and why gatekeeping should not even be a part of the labeling equation. Jill discusses why "Queer" was intentionally included in her book title and how she hopes to take the charge out of the word. Treisha discussed a Starbucks interaction that taught her more about labeling others and how to have a productive conversation to help others.
Preorder your copy of Perfectly Queer here and see why Good Morning America included it on their 15 Spring Reads list: 15 delightful books perfect for spring reading - Good Morning America .
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This is Part 3 of a month-long series diving into Jill's new book from Hay House Publishing, Perfectly Queer.This episode is about trauma and whether or not the experience of "coming out LGBTQ" is a traumatic experience. Treisha shares her definition of trauma and the tools we can use to move through challenging events in our lives.
You can preorder Perfectly Queer in the US, UK, and Canada at most major retailers (and most indie bookshops can order it for you if they don't have it in stock). Find order links at QueerAbby.com/book and submit your email to download a free unpublished chapter.
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This is Part 2 of our monthly chat about Jill's memoir Perfectly Queer. In this episode we continue the discussion of compulsory heterosexuality and how that showed up in a moment between high-school-age Jill and her mom. Jill also discusses how she climbed to the top of "Supposed To" mountain (a theme Treisha and many others can relate to in their own life).
Have questions? Reach out to us at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com. You can order your copy of Perfectly Queer here.
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Schedule a counseling session with Dr. Treisha at https://calendly.com/treishapeterson/60min
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This is Part 1 of a month-long series diving into Jill's new book from Hay House Publishing, Perfectly Queer. This episode dives into:
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Who exactly this book is for (hint: it's not JUST for the LGBTQ+).
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Why Jill wanted "Queer" as part of the title.
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What is Compulsory Heterosexuality, how did it impact Jill's awareness of her identity, and how is it showing up in Florida and elsewhere today.
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How Jill started to realize that what she was "supposed to" do wasn't aligned with who she was and what she dreamed of in her life.
You can preorder Perfectly Queer in the US, UK, and Canada at most major retailers (and most indie bookshops can order it for you if they don't have it in stock). Find order links at QueerAbby.com/book and submit your email to download a free unpublished chapter.
Connect With Us:For questions, comments, and more email: LifeAndLoveIntheQ@gmail.com
Join our Patreon for as low as $5/month: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=87183097
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More from Treisha Peterson, PhD: https://linktr.ee/treishapeterson
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Dating is exciting, thrilling, terrifying, and also really darn hard. It's one of those things that definitely doesn't get easier with age. In this episode we discuss:
1) How Treisha lasted for six hours.
2) Why Jill was a giant red flag... and why that wasn't necessarily a problem.
3) How pop psychology is making dating more difficult.
4) Ways to improve your connections on dating apps.
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TW: Suicide, Depression
This was supposed to be a bonus episode for our Patreon subscribers. It was supposed to be just a light conversation about how exercise helped us to get through periods of stress. It ended up being a lot bigger and more important discussion into depression, suicide, mental health, and self-care... and we just need to share it all here.
There are tears and difficult reveals, but we're grateful to have these conversations with you and hope you'll reach out to share your thoughts. And if you feel you may be struggling, call 988 in the US for the Suicide and Crisis hotline.
HindsightIsABitch
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More from Treisha Peterson, PhD: https://linktr.ee/treishapeterson
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Have you experienced anxiety? Always or more recently? Has your anxiety changed over time? Jillian Abby and Dr. Treisha Peterson discuss the role anxiety has played in their own lives and actionable steps we can take to help ourselves and others in anxious situations. This episode includes:
- Jill's recent and unexpected panic attack
- The Uncertainty Model of Identity- when we don't know what comes next
- What made Treisha want to jump out of a moving vehicle
- How to help someone (including kids) in an anxious state
- Where the self-help community is missing the mark in treating anxiety
- Options when you can't DIY your mental health
- A whole lot of waffle talk and one F-bomb (earmuffs kids)
Please reach out to us at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com. Thanks for listening, sharing, rating, and reviewing. It's fuel for our podcasting souls!
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More from Treisha Peterson, PhD: https://linktr.ee/treishapeterson
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In this final episode, Dr. Treisha talks about the sacred void, that messy middle place where we feel lost, confused, and uncertain. It has meaning and it has value, but it is an individual journey that we cannot navigate for anyone else.
Listen today for:
- The danger of "you are" stories
- The beauty of "I am" stories
- Drafting safety responses
- How to reclaim your own authority as author of your own story
- How understanding the LGBTQ journey is a gift to your young children
We know you'll have thoughts on this episode and may have follow-up questions. Please reach out to us at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com.
Thanks for listening, sharing, rating, and reviewing. It's fuel for our podcasting souls!
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The people have spoken... they want more of the God Pod! This is Part 3 of Dr. Treisha’s journey with religion.
We know you'll have thoughts on this episode and may have follow-up questions. Please reach out to us at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com.
Thanks for listening, sharing, rating, and reviewing. It's fuel for our podcasting souls!
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You asked and we answered!
This is Part 2 of Dr. Treisha’s journey with religion and her relationship with God. In this episode, we talk about what it means to lose our sense of belonging when we fall out of our religious or community belief systems. From yoga bar tricks to high school swimmers and headstands, this is the story of holding a sacred void place where judgment is suspended and we learn to listen without opinion, advice, or reprimand.
We know you'll have thoughts on this episode and may have follow-up questions. Please reach out to us at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com.
Thanks for listening, sharing, rating, and reviewing. It's fuel for our podcasting souls!
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You asked and we answered!
This is the first of a four-part series. In this episode, Treisha shares the story of her religious background and the different stories that impacted her relationship with God and her religious community. From Minnesota snow storms to the War in Heaven, Treisha talks about her experience with navigating God, Gay, and being in the Church! Though this is Treisha’s personal story, we know that never, ever, are we alone in our stories.
We know you'll have thoughts on this episode and may have follow-up questions. Please reach out to us at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com.
Thanks for listening, sharing, rating, and reviewing. It's fuel for our podcasting souls!
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Oooh parents! This may be a hot-button episode for you where we talk about telling our children the truth, little white lies, and withholding information. We also talk about Santa Claus (maybe a bit too much)!
In this episode, we explore how much information to share with your children during major life events like getting a divorce, moving, losing a job, or coming out as queer. We share our perspective on how much information most children can handle and the potential repercussions of keeping them in the dark (or letting them know too much).
We know you'll have thoughts on this episode and may have follow-up questions. Please reach out to us at LifeAndLoveInTheQ@gmail.com.
Thanks for listening, sharing, rating, and reviewing. It's fuel for our podcasting souls!
Connect With Us:Join our Patreon for as low as $5/month: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=87183097
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More from Treisha Peterson, PhD: https://linktr.ee/treishapeterson
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There’s this idea we have that something ending or leaving something behind is bad. It’s not desirable. Quitting is not an option. But what if letting go is the most loving thing we can do? In this episode Jillian and Dr. Treisha discuss:
- What happened when Jillian reached the top of “Supported To” Mountain
- Consciously ending a relationship
- The short-term pain versus long-term benefits of letting go
- Dr. Treisha’s definition of trauma
- Statistics that divorce is not the most destructive thing, but something else clearly is
- Why letting go isn't necessarily letting go completely or letting go forever
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We all have hard choices in our lives that we can either avoid or face head-on. In this episode, Dr. Treisha and Jill discuss the when and why behind making hard choices including:
- If choosing yourself is a selfish act
- Why making a choice isn’t a failure
- Identifying resistance and resentment with your choices
- Why you should plan for the worst-case scenario
WANT MORE? Join our Patreon now for an additional bonus episode to the discussion where:
- Treisha discusses why she taught her yoga students to fail at poses.
- Jill discusses why people come out and what the heck took her so long to get there.
- Why there isn't more knowledge explaining the coming out process now?
- How do you know if you're LGBTQ?
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Can journaling cause harm? Can everyone benefit from it? And how much journaling is enough? Join Treisha Peterson, PhD, and Jillian Abby as they explore why journaling is all the rage and how even good things can go wrong.
Whether you love journaling or don't consider yourself "the journaling type," this episode contains life-enriching knowledge for you.
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Are you a New Year’s resolution maker? Do you come up with your “word of the year''? Do you set an intention in January? And do you find that you abandon these ideas by February? In this episode Dr. Treisha and Jillian Abby discuss:
- If New Year's resolutions are worth it (and if we’re allowed to call them by other names)
- Why the majority of New Year’s resolution-makers quit by February
- A new way to approach January
- A better time to create New Year’s resolutions
- An important practice to add to your “word of the year”
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Okay, maybe it's not a LONG way, but launching 15 episodes into the pod-osphere this year did feel like quite an accomplishment. Dr. Treisha and Jillian Abby recap their favorite episodes, A-Ha moments, and where they'd like the conversation to continue in this year-end wrap-up!
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Confused by the episode title? You won't be once you listen. This episode approaches feelings of grief from a different perspective... particularly when we are grieving the loss of dreams or a life that we hoped for. For anyone who has come out later in life, this episode is for you. For any parents who dreamed of a life for their child that won't come to fruition, this episode is for you. For anyone whose life took an unexpected left turn and you're heading into the unknown, this episode is for you. It's about coming to terms with never reaching the destinations we were heading towards.
Nobody said parenting was easy, but sometimes being shamed (or feeling shame) as a parent can make the role a heck of a lot harder. Today Dr. Treisha (mother of 6) and Jillian Abby (mother of 2) share their stories of feeling "mom shame" and offer one short but powerful phrase to reframe the situation.
Tis the season to be grateful, right? Turns out there is more to gratitude than just giving thanks for things. Dr. Treisha and Jillian Abby dive into how taking time out for gratitude actually benefits us. Plus, they share why some of the talk around "positive mindset" and "manifesting" is really missing the mark.
Nearly every person goes through some version of a "messy middle" at some point in their life. Dr. Treisha and Jillian Abby share about their own messy stages and provide actionable tips on how to get through the tough stuff. Because life is not always black and white, here then there-- there's a whole spectrum of color in between where you get to learn what you're really made of!
You've heard the importance of being a "safe space" for others, particularly in the LGBTQ+ and other marginalized communities. But what if you just can't? What if listening to another person "dump" their story just feels like the last energetic straw? Dr. Treisha and Jillian discuss what you can say and do to protect your boundaries and the most common mistake people make when it comes to "holding space" for a person in crisis.
We all know how a major identity shift (like coming out at 38) can affect a person's life. But what about the people nearest to them? Do they need support too? This episode discusses the science of "proximal others" and why the person in the shift and those around them can't typically rely on each other for support.
Holidays can be rough for so many people, particularly those who have gone through a major life shift (ex. coming out, divorce, job change, birth, death of a loved one, illness, etc). Dr. Treisha and Jill share their perspectives on how we can reframe our Happy Holidays into something more real to the human experience.
We ALL have a story to tell. We all have life experiences that need processing through sharing and finding connection. Sometimes we silence our own stories-- hiding them from being told out of fear, shame, or judgment. And sometimes others silence our stories for us-- denying who we are or what we've gone through. This podcast serves as your reminder that your story deserves to be told, but not everyone deserves to hear it.
This is a conversation about internalized homophobia (or heterosexism). It's the internal biases we carry that shape the way we view ourselves and others. This conversation did not go in the direction Jillian Abby and Treisha Peterson, PhD, originally expected. It's a new perspective on an often-misunderstood topic.
October is LGBTQ History Month, which leads to the most common question Jillian Abby hears, "Why is that even a thing?!" This episode is NOT a history lesson. It's a discovery of why knowing LGBTQ+ history is an important part of growing tolerance, love, and acceptance. And for the LGBTQ+ community, knowing history can be a source of growing pride and self-love.
Jillian Abby shares her experience of coming out as a lesbian that stretched nearly a decade. Treisha Peterson, Ph.D. shares her own coming out experience as the parent of a queer child, where her primary community was her religious community. Very different experiences; neither of them was easy.
Dr. Treisha explains the concept of the Identity Discovery Gap and the impact it has on our physical and mental health. Jillian Abby shares how her Grand Canyon-sized identity gap led to self-destructive behavior (and how she closed the gap and recovered).
In this episode, Treisha Peterson, P.h.D. and Jillian Abby explore what it means to be an LGBTQ+ adversary and why we shouldn't always count them out. Also, learn how to earn the title of LGBTQ+ Advocate. (Spoiler alert: There's no gatekeeper of that title)
Frustrated that not everyone is an LGBTQ+ ally (particularly those closest to you)? Nervous about becoming an LGBTQ+ ally and what it may do to your own identity? Jillian Abby & Dr. Treisha explore why sometimes allyship isn't always what we expect it to be and how we can all show up better!