Swank Life: Recent Episodes
Jake Swank
Robbie Kramer comes back to join Jake and talk about finding girls all over the world. The two tour Eastern Europe, talk about US cities that used to be good for parties, and some that still are.
Key Takeaways:
[1:31] A review of The American Playboy
[5:08] When Robbie started embracing minimalism and traveling
[9:32] How the entitlement era has impacted dating
[13:45] US cities are no longer the place to party. Robbie gives his list of favorite cities
[17:53] Women in Russia dress a lot different than women in US
[22:11] Why San Diego isn't the place to go out and find a woman
Website:
www.InnerConfidence.com
This 10th episode of Swank Life is set to deliver the most heartwarming episode ever as Jake interviews the author of A Dog’s Purpose, Bruce Cameron. Bruce captured the hearts of over 2300 Amazon reviewers, as well as topping the New York Times best-seller list, with his series of stories about man’s best friend.
Key Takeaways:
[3:57] A Dog’s Purpose and A Dog’s Journey resonated with people because it included true love and true friends.
[6:46] Dogs are really good at reading our emotions.
[8:46] The Dogs of Christmas is a dramatic mirror of our current hermit type lives.
[12:49] Dog’s make the best out of everything so take advantage of it!
Website:
www.ADogsPurpose.com
The dating world has changed over the past few years, and it's not all for the best. Gone are the days of finding women at the bar, you have to branch out to festivals, and warehouse parties, and a whole host of other places.
Jason talks with Robbie Kramer, founder of Inner Confidence, about where the pickup scene is these days, when the hottest festivals are, and the effects of modern day feminism.
Key Takeaways:
[2:44] Where Robbie's life used to be headed and his decision to change his path
[6:11] The simple (but not easy) way of facing your fears
[11:02] Places to go to improve your social circle
[17:38] Radical feminism is causing dating in the US to become a harder and harder thing
[21:49] How women have been hurt by modern day feminism
[26:30] Places to go if you want to be able to act like the "true gentleman" (and they're not in the US)
Website:
www.InnerConfidence.com
Dating around the world isn't the same as dating in America. There are vast differences in dating cultures both around the world, and around the US. Kyle Trouble has made it his mission to travel abroad, figure out dating in all areas, then share them with the world.
Learn where women are loosest, or where you can find girls who are looking for a traditional man, and where you need to protect your drink so you don't get robbed blind.
Key Takeaways:
[1:05] Kyle's specialty in the role of dating and relationships
[6:03] What's different about dating overseas
[9:16] If the dating scene is bad for men, does that mean it's good for women?
[13:13] Women testing men to filter them
[15:28] How to act like the high value man
[20:15] What a first date abroad looks like, and if it varies country to country
[24:03] The further East you go in the world the more traditional it gets
Website:
www.ThisIsTrouble.com
@KyleTrouble
www.UkraineLiving.com
www.EasternEuropeanTravel.com
It's time to get down to the bare bones of relationship advice with Dr Michael Bennett, author of the book F*ck Love. Dr Bennett discusses how to screen potential significant others for warnings signs, saying that screening for negatives is a better weeding out method than looking for positives. He also dispels some relationship myths and gives tips on how to improve your own mental readiness for relationships.
Key Takeaways:
[1:57] The importance of screening potential mates
[5:31] Some of the perks of having a lasting relationship
[7:39] The potential downsides of some personality traits
[11:14] Whether there's a such thing as healthy jealousy, and how to resolve it
[14:15] Whether it's actually important to never go to bed angry
Website:
www.fxckfeelings.com
Doug Giles talks about the downfall of masculinity, what put men in the state they're currently in, how to get out of it, and what role feminism has in it all.
Doug frequently talks to college, business, community, church, advocacy and men’s groups, both foreign and domestic. His main emphasis is on topics including issues of Christianity and culture, masculinity vs. metrosexuality, big game hunting and fishing, raising righteous kids in a rank culture, the Second Amendment, personal empowerment, politics, and social change.
Key Takeaways:
[1:45] What happened to the strong male leads we used to see on the big screen
[6:41] Being a provider/protector/hunter hero in a world that tells you you're not
[10:44] The constitution of the pussification of the United States
[15:39] Is feminism a bad word now?
[19:58] The backlash of the public against Hollywood elites
Website:
www.clashdaily.com
Pussification: The Effeminization of the American Male
Mark Manson is a blogger, author and entrepreneur. He specializes in writing personal development advice that doesn't suck. His website MarkManson.net is read by over 2 million people each month. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries. He's also the author of Models: Attract Women Through Honesty.
Key Takeaways:
[1:25] The beginning of the men's dating/relationship niche
[2:50] The only legitimate dating advice there is
[6:45] The differing dating frustrations for men and women
[8:45] The attribute that trumps everything else in person to person interactions
[12:00] What separates Models from other relationship books
Websites Mentioned:
www.markmanson.net
Andrea Tantaros worked as a spokesperson for Massachusetts Governor William Weld, then-Congressman Pat Toomey and former National Republican Congressional Committee Chairman Thomas Reynolds. She started Andrea Tantaros Media, which provided crisis management and media strategy consulting to Fortune 500 companies and political campaigns.
Tantaros joined Fox News Channel in April 2010 as a political contributor. In 2011, she was named one of the co-hosts of The Five. After only several months airing, The Five consistently beat its competitors on MSNBC and CNN combined and, by 2013, it was the second-most-watched program in all of cable news. Her popularity led to her being named one of the hosts of Outnumbered in 2014.
Andrea is now author of the book Tied Up in Knots: How Getting What We Wanted Made Women Miserable, and joins the show to talk about the book and the state of affairs between men and women today.
Key Takeaways:
[1:16] If feminism backfired
[4:09] How an increase in women's responsibilities and work life have been somewhat offset by health issues
[5:39] The hook up culture and the death of romance
[7:32] Andrea believes there are liberals out there who are calling for a return to tradition
[11:18] How the idea of a "sisterhood" among all women is a sham
[14:01] If "50 Shades of Gray" set feminism back any
[18:26] Some feministic beliefs have hurt men who want to help and protect women
Websites Mentioned:
Tied Up in Knots: How Getting What We Wanted Made Women Miserable
Jack Myers, founder of MediaVillage.com and author of Hooked Up: A New Generation’s Surprising Take on Sex, Politics and Saving the World, and several other books, is a recognized cultural visionary, award-winning documentary film producer, and advisor to hundreds of leading corporations on media and technology trends. His prescient insights and counsel make him one of the foremost global experts on the impact of technological advances on culture, society, business, advertising, marketing, and human connections. He has been honored with a George Foster Peabody Award and Academy and Emmy Award nominations for Best Documentary Feature.
Jack joined the show to talk about his new book, The Future of Men: Masculinity in the Twenty-First Century.
Key Takeaways:
[2:08] What it means to say women are becoming dominant
[3:38] Women's struggle to find men who are their educational equals and ridding the stigma of stay-at-home dads
[6:05] The crisis of a lack of support for men who want to help their partner in non-financial ways
[8:29] The messages society is sending to each sex right now
[12:58] If the shift in society of men's role is impacting men chemically
[16:05] Dissecting the pay gap between men and women, and if there actually is one
[20:46] What is dominance?
[23:16] How the way men have been raised in society so far makes it necessary for women to be their "GPS"
[25:47] How the college loan problem is affecting men more than women
Websites Mentioned:
www.JackMyers.com
Mr. Locario has been featured on Vh1, FUSE, The Dish Network, TLC, ABC Family, The Tyra Banks Show and Anderson Cooper.
He has also written for FlaglerHill.com, Singles Warehouse.co.uk, DatingAdvice.com and the Fort Green New York Times Blog. What separates Mr. Locario from other relationship gurus is his no nonsense realistic approach to the dating game and the game of life. The idea is to give men and women the knowledge, truth, and confidence to understand what they want. Thus, helping create the best options for themselves in Love and in Life.
Mr. Locario’s dating advice is accessible through online videos, blogs, and his website (www.mrlocario.com). He is also available for individual support and counseling. In addition to his relationship analysis work, Mr. Locario is a rap artist and actor. In 1996, he founded the entertainment company ITAKKS Inc.. For the last 14+ years, he has and still performs under the name of “Trends” in New York, California, Florida, and New Mexico. He was also featured on TV stations such as ABC Family Network, MTV, and VH1– and Magazines such as Rolling Stone, Blender, Source, and Vibe.
Key Takeaways
[4:27] How you can approach a Facebook friend for a date and have it go well
[6:26] Translating the alpha male life into social media presence
[10:32] Best places to meet women in offline situations
[14:19] How to open conversations with women
[16:12] The biggest misconception in the dating game, and how you can capitalize on it
Websites Mentioned:
www.mrlocario.com
www.badboymembership.com
Nicole Welch, host of the Real Time: Real Men Podcast. Nicole is a Communications “Facilitator” and helps you change quickly how you think and speak in your pitching and presentations for your business. Nicole is dedicated to people that are interested in having powerful, influential and sustainable relationships in their business and personal life by tapping into their true identity.
Key Takeaways:
[4:58] If masculinity issues are limited to specific generations
[10:55] Feminism's role in the decline of manhood
[15:01] How immaturity is holding us all back
[20:32] Action items to better our situation
Websites Mentioned:
www.rapwithnic.com
www.realtime-realmen.com
Kevin Ring, Director of Strategic Initiatives for Families Against Mandatory Minimums, former lobbyist and associate to Jack Abramoff, joins the show to talk about our prison system today and the impact it has on all of us.
Key Takeaways:
[2:18] Hear about the kind of money a lobbyist can make
[10:53] The amount of money he spent as a lobbyist that got him sent to prison on bribery charges.
[14:33] The United States incarceration rate and the government’s ability to find a crime you committed
[21:51] How much money Kevin had to spend, while cooperating with the government, to defend himself in court
[26:47] The dangers of privatized prisons
[32:10] What people can do to change the system
Website Mentioned:
www.famm.org
Ken Solin is a dating expert for Huffington Post, AARP, About.com, Maria Shriver and author of "Act Like a Man" and "The Boomer Guide to Finding True Love Online".
Key Takeaways:
[4:56] When you need to start being emotionally honest in a relationship
[10:17] Dissecting the "opposites attract" theory
[13:23] How to make your online dating profile unique
[17:10] Why he's a fan of boomer women
Websites Mentioned:
www.kensolin.com
Find out all about Bachelor Pad Economics with Aaron Clarey.
Key Takeaways:
[3:38] The importance of knowing cars
[9:10] The value of different forms of education
[14:19] The media and feminism
[21:20] Going after the B girl
Websites Mentioned:
captaincapitalism.blogspot.com
Dr. Kathryn Foster is a psychologist and author of What Women Want....Really!: The man's concise, precision guide for figuring women out.
Key Takeaways:
[5:57] How evolution influences what we want in relationships
[11:57] How evolution impacted how we interpret language and how we can work on it and improve relationships
[17:04] Why women need to maintain women friends
[22:06] The parental relationship's impact on our relationships
Websites Mentioned:
www.kathrynfosterphd.com
Deborah Downey, certified dating and life coach, author of "What Are You Worried About?" joins the show to talk about her 7 step system for finding true love.
Key Takeaways:
[5:22] The two basic fears in relationships
[9:39] What daily personal affirmation she recommends
[15:04] Preparing the "outer package" for success
Website Mentioned:
www.coachdeborahdowney.com
Time to talk about the Ashley Madison scandal, the evolutionary reasons behind men and women's sexual behaviors, human's closet genetic species, why man wasn't designed to be monogamous and more with Dave Pounder, author of Obscene Thoughts, retired adult film producer, director, and performer. He is president of Dave Pounder Productions and was executive vice president at Daydream Entertainment Group from 2003-2008.
Key Takeaways:
[6:48] How sexual conflict is created
[12:21] How the Ashley Madison situation shows us evolutionary tendencies
[21:11] There's nothing wrong with partner variety
[27:15] Discusses his newest porn documentary
[33:44] How sexual tolerance is correlated to the secularness of society
[40:41] The "war on sex"
Websites Mentioned:
www.obscenethoughts.com
www.riskybusinessthemovie.com
www.pornographyexpert.com
Dana Michel is the founder of Marriage Material, a dating website specifically for people looking for their significant other. What's different about Dana's website is that it's for people looking to settle down with a special someone and it is not catered to people who are looking for short-term flings. Dana explains what her website is about and how it works on today's show.
Key Takeaways:
[2:10] People on dating websites tend to be looking for a one night stand. Marriage Material is different.
[3:30] What does Marriage Material do differently?
[4:15] What is an amateur matchmaker and how does it work?
[7:10] How do matchmakers make money?
[12:15] In this day and age where people Google your name, clean up your social media a little bit.
[14:40] Have a clear idea of what you're looking for.
[15:50] What are some tips to writing a good profile?
[17:50] Dana choose cities with long working hours to help people find love.
Mentioned In This Episode:
http://www.marriagematerial.co/
Dr. Melvin Konner is the author of Women After All: Sex, Evolution, and the End of Male Supremacy. Melvin joins the show to talk about the importance of women and how they've always played an important roll throughout history. In our society, we're seeing more women take on higher leadership rolls, more men being stay-at-home parents, and much more on today's Swank Life episode.
Key Takeaways:
3:40 – Why does genetic variety make us more immune to germs?
7:00 – Men are dependent on women for their own connection to the future and that's why men fight over women.
10:50 – Women had a voice in hunter and gather societies.
18:10 – Men are usually the instigators and leaders to illegal crimes more so than women.
23:05 – It's extremely hard to be a good mom.
27;30 – Women are generally healthier than men and can make up for lost time outside of the work force.
Mentioned In This Episode:
The Myth of Male Power by Warren Farrell.
http://www.melvinkonner.com
Dr. Susan Campbell talks about her latest book that she co-authored with John Grey titled Five-Minute Relationship Repair on today's Swank Life. Susan has written nine books on the subject of relationship conflict and resolution. She has also counseled thousands of couples to help better their lives and their communication with their significant other. On the show, Susan talks about some of the things you can do to live a happier life, communicate better with your partner, and repair some of the negative emotions you experienced as a child.
Key Takeaways:
1:15 – If relationship conflicts are not repaired quickly, your nervous system stays agitated.
4:00 – What needs to happen quickly when you've been triggered is to have a pause in the conversation.
7:05 – Susan believes childhood conditioning plays more of a role than male/female gender.
12:10 – Is it true opposites attract?
16:45 – In the book, Susan teaches how you can use your triggers for deeper healer in yourself and in your relationship.
19:45 – Do single parents affect a child's conditioning?
21:30 – Go to FiveMinuteRelationshipReapir.com to download the free worksheets as well as buy the book!
Mentioned In This Episode:
http://fiveminuterelationshiprepair.com/
http://www.susancampbell.com/
In this quick Swank Life episode by guest host Brendan Rose, he explains the three major ways you can get physical with a women faster. Have you been on five, six, seven dates without getting physical? Then this podcast episode is for you. Brendan breaks down how you can break the barrier and grab the attention of a woman.
Key Takeaways:
2:30 – Adding more layers to yourself will often add more anxiety. So, hack away the inessential instead.
3:30 – Life is simple, we just make it complicated.
5:10 – Number one, develop a plan of where to go and when. Brendan explains what this means.
7:05 – Number two, create liminal space. What is liminal space?
10:40 – Number three, affection first. Brendan explains how to do this in a swanky way.
13:40 – A quick recap of what we learned today.
Mentioned In This Episode:
http://swanklife.com/
On this episode of The Swank Life, Jake talks to Dr. Jack Schafer about his book The Like Switch, his time as a behavioral analyst, and how to win people over.
Key Takeaways:
[00:01:45] background
[00:02:19] profiler vs behavioral analyst
[00:04:13] The Golden Rule of Friendship
[00:09:57] friendship formula
[00:13:00] Eyebrow flash
[00:18:46] Digital World
[00:22:28] keep it fresh
[00:22:17] Sustaining, keep it fresh
Mentioned in This Episode:
http://www.amazon.com/Like-Switch-Influencing-Attracting-Winning/dp/1476754489/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8
Brendan Rose talks about his three month romp in Costa Rica, that turned into a three year journey filled with travel and life lessons. He also teaches the simplicity of connecting with women.
Key Takeaways:
00:30 Brendan Rose talks about the shift that changed everything.
06:51 Brendan Rose explains how to get a phone number in a cool way.
13:05 How do you actually approach a woman?
16:29 My ten tenants.
24:49 An incredibly effective insight on making connections with Facebook.
Mentioned in this episode:
The Art of Happiness by The Dali Lama, http://www.amazon.com/The-Art-Of-Happiness-Handbook/dp/0743506308
https://www.couchsurfing.com/
The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida http://www.amazon.com/The-Way-Superior-Man-Challenges/dp/159179257
Carrot App, http://www.meetcarrot.com/
Troy Pummill joins Jake to discuss his online dating website, Magical Matches, and the steps his site guides you through to find your soul mate.
Key Takeaways:
01:06 Troy discusses online dating and his different approach
2:27 Troy's shares his memories of his first date with his wife
3:45 How Magical Matches works
5:16 Troy discusses what makes a good match
7:08 Jake and Troy discuss online dating competitors
8:24 Troy explains the mechanics of Magical Matches
11:24 Troy talks about how profiles need to be deeper, heart & soul
12:20 The purpose of a date
15:46 Troy discusses what happens if things go wrong in the relationship
19:55 Jake and Troy talk about twins
Mentioned in this Episode:
The Mirror Effect: More Than Soul Mates; 6 Steps to Finding Your Magical Match Using Online Dating, http://www.amazon.com/Troy-Pummill/e/B00DX7JOZY
http://magicalmatches.com/
Psychotherapist and columnist Ken Page talks with Jake Swank about dating patterns people make and better ways for making a lasting loving relationship.
Key Takeaways
01:49 – Making fatal mistakes when thinking dating is a numbers game.
06:29 – Building a good and real profile that gets people interested.
10:02 – Attraction of deprivation: how everybody has a pattern in finding people that can almost love and accept us.
12:21 – Attraction of inspiration: meeting people that inspire you and make you feel connected.
13:35 – Wave of distancing: feeling that you no longer connect with someone that could be the love of your life.
14:59 – Dating buddy: having one can really help you grow in finding that person you want to be and making it with for the rest of your life.
Mentioned in this episode
Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy by Ken Page
http://www.deeperdating.com/index.htmll
Lori Cheek founder of Cheek'd. Talks with Jake Swank about her dating app which connects the online and real world of dating together.
Key Takeaways
01:35 – The ideal of Cheek'd came from a date and grew from there.
03:19 – Cheek'd uses beacon technology to connect people to each other and notifies them if they cross each other enough times.
04:35 – If you get a notification about someone near you, you can look up their dating profile to know more about them.
05:50 – Users of Cheek'd have to agree to communicate with each other in order to chat.
06:49 – People have to be within 30 foot radius to connect with others.
07:46 – The Cheek'd website can show you where connections are happening and also where on the map you might have miss someone.
13:30 – for app go to Cheek'dor the iTunes store and for more info go to Cheek'd Twitter or Loricheeknyc
Mentioned in this episode
Look Up You Might Miss Something TEDx talk by Lori Cheek
Cheek'd
iTunes store
Cheek'd Twitter
Loricheeknyc
Peter Andrew Sacco talks with Jake Swank about his book Why Women Want What They Can't Have & Men Want What They Had After It's Gone! And the key things about relationships that people should know.
Key Takeaways
02:28 – Women want people who will listen to what they're saying and not just hear what they're saying. And whatever you are putting out, is going to attracting the same type of person you might not want.
04:00 – Men and Women, more so with women, both have pressure from society to be in a relationship, cause that's the only way to be attractive, acceptable, and happy in life, and they go on thinking like this in every relationship they have.
05:58 – Funny thing with people is, if you explain to them that your focus is on a career then they don't think there's anything wrong with you not being in a relationship.
08:05 – You've got to be happy with yourself and love yourself to succeed in a relationship.
10:06 – Women know what they feel a lot faster than men, and if men wait too long to show that they are serious then women will often move on.
12:50 – Treat you partner as your best friend, cause that not only shows you trust them, but also you appreciate them.
14:37 – People often don't go with their gut, and over-think how they should be in relationship based on failed relationships.
15:54 – Website is petersacco.com/ where you might find free eBooks one of which, is Technological Rage an online dating book. For closing thought is honest with yourself and others who are in your life.
Mentioned in this episode
Why Women Want What They Can't Have & Men Want What They Had After It's Gone! By Peter Andrew Sacco
Today's episode has Jake Swank talking with April Davis, founder of Cupid's Cronies about good social networking sites and what Cupid's Cronies does for their clientele in matchmaking and in their dating coaches.
Key Takeaways
01:35 – Quality women tend to be attacted to confidence men, who knows: who he is, where he's going and what he has to offer.
02:60 – It's best if you put your best foot forward along with displaying yourself in an open and friendly way, especially with a smile to women.
03:57 – Observing the situation is the best way to break the ice with women.
05:05 – Quality women are offten involved in nonprofit or volunteering organizations, which are also great ways to meet quality people.
06:13 – meetup.com is a great site for social networking because in whatever hobbies you may like, they will have groups for those hobbies and meet-up events.
08:30 – Facebook is pretty popular for dating which probaly is because people feel that it is realer and safer than going on a actual matchmaker website.
09:29 – People need to be careful about what they put on their social profiles not only for potential dates, but also for potential employers.
11:48 – Cupid's Cronies goal is to help clients find their matches and help others to navigate dating as their life coaches.
16:00 – The network part of Cupid's Cronies is free to anybody, and the database contians singles that can get setup if Cupid's Cronies thinks they make a good fit.
18:08 – cupidscronies.com for anyone interested in sighing up in our free network and for any good match for them, we'll meet with them and set them up.
Mentioned in this episode
cupidscronies.com
nul.iamempowered.com
meetup.com
mapfornonprofits.org
www.facebook.com
www.match.com
unitedway.org
habitat.org
Jill Gonzalez joins the show today. To talk about WalletHub and where singles might find the best cities to live with Jake Swank.
Key Takeaways
01:12 – WalletHub is finance social network site for consumers to see reviews on personal, and financial companies. Along with data studies to help consumers be aware of their spending.
03:01 – A popular study this year was Most & Least Recession-Recovered Cities. Arizona also was a good place for retirement.
07:23 – WalletHub has not made a best place for singles yet, but there are studies that can point us in the right area.
09:42 – The problem with statistics is that the experience can be completely different in other places, but they are a good way to start the journey.
11:42 – Dating can become an expensive hobby, so it might be good to see where the best highest medium starting salary is.
12:40 – Cost of living has definitely rise up in places like DC where equity traders are making money on real estate.
16:37 – Good cities for entrepreneurs to start a business.
19:35 – For more interesting studies and to see where your city might be listed in. Go to http://wallethub.com/edu/
Mentioned in this episode
Safest States to Live In
Best & Worst Cities for Families
Best and Worst Places to Retire
Most & Least Recession-Recovered Cities
Most and Least Politically Engaged States
Best and Worst Foodie Cities for Your Wallet
Best Cities to Start a Business
Best & Worst Cities to Start a Career
Today’s Swank Life show deals with the question so many men ask: How can I be the ultimate man? And it gives the answers that so many women are hoping listeners will take note of. Jake Swank talks to the author of The Ultimate Man’s Survival Guide, Frank Miniter. Frank gives a step-by-step summary of some of the main categories featured in his book, as well as throwing in a few tips on how to achieve the goal of being the Ultimate Man.
Key Takeaways
01.26 – The Ultimate Man has to be a balance of all of the different archetypes.
03.00 – Being the Provider isn’t just about getting a paycheck; it’s about understanding things like where your own food comes from.
04.09 – There’s also a very physical side to being the Ultimate Man – how can you deal with a crisis if you don’t know how far you can push yourself?
05.47 – The old-school idea of a gentleman is often under attack by certain feminist values, which just seems at odds.
08.18 – Women are looking for signs that you’ve put real intentions and real emotions into your actions.
10.08 – Hemingway sums up the idea that a real man needs to be able to disengage himself from what might happen and deal with what is happening. He is the calm during the storm.
13.18 – To find out more about how to be the Ultimate Man, head to www.FrankMiniter.com
13.42 – Despite what society thinks, honor codes are still so important, and living your own codes will make you that stand-up guy you want to be.
Mentioned in this episode
The Ultimate Man’s Survival Guide by Frank Miniter
Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand
The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand
Sara Shikhman wanted to go out with a guy and have a near-case guarantee she was going to have fun with him. As a hard working woman, it can be hard to find a good man that knows how to show a woman a good time and not worry about the sexual undertones. She saw that this service was deeply lacking in the market and created RentAGent.me, a website where you can rent a man for a work event, an indoor cooking class, and more. She explains on the Swank Life show what are some of the requirements you need to have in order to meet her company's high demands.
Key Takeaways:
2:20 – Sara talks about her Rent A Gent company
3:10 – In order to qualify for Rent A Gent, the man would have to be really good looking, at least have a bachelor degree in education, and have at least one talent.
6:15 – Out of the 1,500 or more men that have applied, Sara's company has only accepted 30.
9:45 – Ladies sometimes ask the men to do things and to pretend to be people they're not comfortable with.
11:00 – Rent A Gent has several different categories a man can fall under.
Mentioned In This Episode:
http://swanklife.com/
http://rentagent.me/
In today’s episode of Swank Life, Jake Swank and guest Marni Kinrys provide the ultimate guide for men wanting more success in finding women. Marni is the founder of The Wing Girl Method, a process designed to give tips and real-life insights into what women think and how this can be used to reinvent the modern man’s dating techniques.
Takeaways
04.55 – Our reactions to relationships are always changing – nowadays online dating is normal and often, successful, whereas it used to be a sign of desperation.
05.39 – Men: If you want something, you have to be very clear and direct with your intentions.
09.00 – Ask for what you really want. If you ask if she wants coffee, she’ll think you only mean coffee.
12.40 – It’s sexy for a man to look like he has a life going on, rather than appearing over-eager.
16.55 – Age goes some way to dictating communication methods, but these are by no means set in stone.
22.00 – There are three reasons a woman might tell you she has a boyfriend, and you have to respect and understand why she’s said it to you.
24.40 – The friend-zone: If you’re going to act like a friend, all you’re going to get is a friendship.
25.27 – Being ‘nice’ is good, but in the beginning she’s looking to see that you’re driven and exciting, not what a good boyfriend you think you’d make.
28.56 – Find out more about Marni Kinrys’s ideas at www.WingGirlMethod.com and check out her Ask Women Podcast on iTunes.
Jake Swank talks to Isabel Behncke a primatologist at the Oxford University. She's been on TED talks and today on the show she shares some very important scientific tips as to what a women loves in a man and how you can improve your lifestyle to attract women.
Key Takeaways:
4:10 – Despite what most people think, good guys do not finish last. Women want the good guy in a long term relationship.
7:45 – Females are a limited resources to males, because they have a reproductive cycle of about 9 months.
10:00 – In the short term, women are most likely to trust a man if they show vulnerable traits.
12:00 – What attracts women? Use your brain, humor, generosity, and have a good social network.
Mentioned In This Episode:
http://swanklife.com/
http://senrg.psy.ox.ac.uk/people/i_behncke.html
Dr. Catherine Salmon is Associate professor of psychology at the University of Redlands and author of, "Warrior Lovers: Erotic fiction, evolution, and female sexuality." She joins the show to discuss how romance novels represent and portray female sexual preferences.
Dr. Salmon then explains the difference between how men and women express their sexuality and how guys can draw the line between treating a girl like a princess and being a doormat.
Dr. Salmon then finishes with her tips on how guys can develop social currency and status.
Catherine Salmon is an associate professor of psychology at the University of Redlands. Her research interests cover everything from birth order and family dynamics to eating disorders, reproductive suppression, and sexuality. She holds a PhD in psychology and a BSc in biology from McMaster University. Salmon has been featured on Oxygen and the Science Channel, and co-authored (with Don Symons) Warrior Lovers: erotic fiction, evolution, and female sexuality. In addition, she has co-edited a variety of books, including the recent Oxford Handbook of Evolutionary Family Psychology and writes a blog on birth order for Psychology Today, called Ape Girl. Born in Canada, she lives in southern California and is involved in animal rescue and rehabilitation.
Jake and Steve discuss online dating, and the challanges people have with it. Steve's business caters to people who don't have time to spend seaching for the perfect someone.
Charles A. Johnson is a Huffington Post Dating Contributor, Certified Life Coach, and the Author of "How to Find the Right One and Make it Last!" He joins the show to discuss how guys can "tech-up" their dating skills.
Johnson believes the mobile phone is the new weapon to finding "The One." He shares some do’s and don’ts every guy should know about online dating.
Johnson also discusses bad habits guys need to rid themselves of.
Find out more about Charles A. Johnson at www.askcharlesjohnson.com.
After more than 20 years in the military and 16 in a corporate environment, Charles Johnson found another calling in life. In both the Air Force as well the many companies he founded or worked in, Charles managed and mentored diverse teams across Europe, Asia and North America. But he wasn’t your typical corporate manager.
Charles always focused more on the whole person and how to help those who worked with and around him find balance and achieve both personal and professional success. He found that he was helping people not only get well-deserved promotions or the financial recognition for their work, but he also helped them identify and realize what makes them happy.
Helping others create a life and a lifestyle where their happiness is a priority and life balance is the primary goal became Charles’ new life work. He became a certified life coach and author and founded AskDearlove Inc., a company dedicated to helping single people find and select the right life and marriage partners and make it last.
Surrounded by three sisters and eight female cousins, Charles had a significant female influence growing up. With the knowledge he gleaned from that experience, he spent the last 25 years coaching and mentoring hundreds of single professionals and up-and-coming, career-minded men and women -- including his own four daughters. He found himself providing guidance to help these otherwise successful individuals improve their personal confidence by updating their image, polishing their social skills and providing insight into the art of establishing and maintaining relationships.
Charles has connected and helped hundreds of couples find marriage or committed partners and coaches them on how to make relationships last. He has been married for more than 32 years and three of his four daughters are now married.
Charles has found happiness and balance in his own life as well, pursuing his passions as an avid traveler, photography enthusiast, art collector and a supporter of various charitable causes. He enjoys basketball, football and tennis. His greatest passion is writing about hope and how people can achieve their dreams and still have a balanced and complete life.
Samara O'Shea is a professional blogger for the Huffington Post, former blogger at Powell's Books and TalkingMakeup.com, and founder of Letter Lover - a professional letter writing firm. She's also the author of, "Loves Me…Not: How to Survive (and Thrive!) in the Face of Unrequited Love."
O'Shea starts the show by discussing some qualities that make guys "a dick." She explains how a guy can recognize and move on from unrequited love and how they can start loving themselves when someone they love doesn’t love them back.
O'Shea then discusses the difference between love and addiction and the positives to being single.
O'Shea also wrote the book, "For the Love of Letters: A 21st-Century Guide to the Art of Letter Writing." She tells us more about letter writing and how she previously ran an online letter-writing service at LetterLover.net.
The conversation then shifts to the modern publishing process, like books and blogs. O'Shea shares tips on how people can get blogging gigs, and then tops off the interview with a juicy story on how she got fired from "O: The Oprah Magazine."
Find out more about Samara O'Shea at www.letterlover.net.
George Moufarrej is the author of, "Sexual Euphoria: A Complete Guide For Men and Women." He joins the show to discuss how guys can effectively communicate with women without committing social faux pas.
Moufarrej goes in-depth on what is necessary for a successful relationship. He explains whether online dating is rushing people into relationships and if it gives people a false sense of intimacy.
On this episode of Swank Life, Jake Swank does a 180 on the topic of dating techniques for men and is joined by dating coach for women, Jenn Burton for a discussion of how women can improve their dating and relationship experiences. Listen at: www.SwankLife.com. Jenn shares her own experiences and talks about some of the common mistakes that women make when they meet men, such as appearing needy or putting up walls. She encourages women to change their view ...
Communication is a tough subject, with distinct neurological differences in the wiring of men and women’s brains. Men communicate data, while women communicate to connect. Jake Swank is joined by dating and relationship expert, Adam Gilad, for an explanation of effective communication in online dating. For details, listen at: www.SwankLife.com. Some of the tips Adam gives for effective profiles are: Men need to learn the language of sensuality in order to create a romantic atmosphere for a woman; humor, sweetness, ...
As Bobby Rio expresses, times have changed in the dating scene – the reality is that getting a girl’s phone number and making a simple phone call to initiate a date just doesn’t apply. Girls are always on their phone texting and your text messages need to stand out and get her attention. Jake Swank and returning guest, Bobby Rio, talk about the new process of texting your way to a date. Listen at: www.SwankLife.com. Bobby shares the three important ...
Sinns of Attraction founder, Jon Sinn, joins Jake Swank to discuss social dynamics and Jon’s system, “The Seduction Roadmap.” Jon’s system takes a scientific approach to helping men get women. Jon says throw out the flowchart because every woman is different. “Every pick-up is a unique and dynamic experience,” Jon stresses. He also says a guy needs to understand what he wants, too, and what type of approach he’s most comfortable with when connecting with a woman, i.e. direct or ...
On this episode of Swank Life, Jake Swank interviews author and creator of Love Types: Discover Your Romantic Style and Find Your Soul Mate, Dr. Alexander Avila. Finding the “right” person can be difficult at best. For details of the show, please visit: www.swanklife.com . Dating is often like a masquerade ball, where each partner conceals his or her true self behind a mask of best behavior for a while. Eventually the masks slip. In 1921, Carl Jung laid out ...
Join Jake Swank as he interviews Wing Girl Kim, author of Alphadog, Get the Bitch You Want. Wing Girl Kim (Kiai Kim) gives a woman’s perspective on dating, going beyond the typical dating advice and pickup tactics to explore leadership principles in dating, i.e. the Alphadog image. For more details, listen at: www.SwankLife.com. She talks about why she chose the dog to teach dating advice and principles, as well as describing the pack mentality in humans, whether in business, family, ...
Historically, the term “mail-order bride” referred to women from well-developed ares who listed themselves in catalogs and were selected by men in overseas colonies or frontier lands for marriage. Today, mail-order brides work with international marriage agencies, where they list their profile online and men view these profiles and often post their own profiles, similar to online dating sites. Jake Swank interviews “A Foreign Affair” co-owner, John Adams about how this service-oriented business works. Listen at: www.SwankLife.com. John debunks the ...
Join Jake Swank and RK Hendrick, Esq. as they discuss Hendrick’s controversial book, How to Avoid “Getting Screwed” When Getting Laid. Visit: http://swanklife.com/category/audio-podcast/. Hendrick’s many years of experience in family/divorce law has made him an expert on harmful legal practices and predatory social practices against men in today’s society. In this episode, Hendrick shares with Jake how the scales of justice have shifted substantially against men, whether it concerns protecting their personal fortune or gaining equal footing in a custody ...
Dating is a science, but not rocket science. Approaching beautiful women can be intimidating, whether in a bar, club, mall, or coffee shop, and many men don’t understand the psychology of women. Join Jake Swank and Nick Savoy, CEO of Love Systems and author of Magic Bullets, as they discuss insights and techniques on approaching and becoming successful with women in the dating scene. “To succeed with a woman, your best chances are to make an emotional connection, to make ...
Join Jake Swank on this episode of Swank Life as he and Joergen Rasmussen, author of Provocative Hypnosis, and one-on-one coach and family therapist in the UK, discuss many common thinking patterns and behaviors in relationships that often lead to unhappiness and frustration. Joergen talks about one key element in making positive changes, whether you’re looking for a relationship or currently in one: personal response-ability. Many people's focus is "If I could change him/her, I would be happy." Joergen explains ...
Jake Swank talks with Bobby Rio, Chief Editor of TSBMag.com, as well as creator of Amplify the Attraction and Make Small Talk Sexy, both innovative relationship educational resources for guys. Visit: http://swanklife.com/category/audio-podcast/. Why does he do it? In Bobby Rio's own words:
"They say when you find something you love- Go with it! I love learning, perfecting, teaching, talking about, analyzing, and mastering the art of seducing beautiful women. I've packed seven years of life consuming passion into this website. ...
Jake Swank talks with Frank Kermit BA. MA., Relationship Expert and Best Selling Author. Frank teaches men and women about their Emotional Needs, how to address each other's Emotional Needs, towards ongoing loving relationships. His teachings and philosophies are about relationship building, maintenance, and living in both traditional and alternative lifestyles. Visit: http://swanklife.com/category/audio-podcast/.
Frank Kermit is an author of many books and audio programs. He also produces and hosts an internet radio show, runs online relationship advice forums, publishes Frank ...
Jake Swank talks with Ross Jeffries, the founder, creator and Master Teacher of the worldwide seduction community. Featured as the mentor to Neil Strauss in the best selling book, "The Game", RJ has taught, coached, and mentored thousands of men around the world, since 1991, guiding them to the success with women they truly desire and deserve. More at: http://swanklife.com/category/audio-podcast/. His system, "Speed Seduction®" will show you how to succeed with the women you really want, predictably and reliably, without ...