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I’m your host Elizabeth Goddard Author of Finding Lily and The A to Z of Emotional Abuse.
I am here to remind you that Love should be UNCONDITIONAL Divorcing Emotionally LIFE CHANGING and that you have a DUTY OF CARE for yourself it it should be your MANTRA!
Each week I will discuss some of the terms you may hear along this journey and I will help you INNER-STAND and process what is happening INSIDE YOU!
I will help you DISCOVER THE BEST TOOLS | PUT IN PLACE THE BEST RITUALS as you start to take back the control over your own life and learn the tools to heal on a deeper level becoming THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.
I posted a short video a week or so ago on TikTok and wasn't expecting the response I got. This week I want to talk about why it landed the way it did — the loneliness of spending years editing yourself, minimising yourself, softening the truth of who you are, just to feel safe. I talk about why we protect abusive relationships the same way abusers isolate us within them, why finally being "seen" can feel so powerful that we hold on through the chaos, and what happens when we come out the other side, awake, but surrounded by people who don't speak the same language anymore. I share my own experience of that moment in Greece when I finally saw the pattern across every relationship I'd ever had — and what I've learned since about the difference between loneliness and simply being uncomfortable in your own boundaries. Because maybe the person you've been waiting for to finally understand you... is yourself.
"Who do you think you are?"
For many of us, those words weren't asked with curiosity.
They were used to make us question ourselves. To keep us small. To remind us of the place we were expected to stay in.
But what if we asked the same question for a completely different reason?
In this episode, I explore what happens when the labels we've been given become the identity we believe. From childhood conditioning and inherited beliefs to trauma, relationships and survival, we slowly adapt until we can no longer tell the difference between who we are and who we've learnt we need to be.
Inside this episode we explore:
• Why we're not born believing we're "not enough"
• How childhood, family and relationships shape our identity
• Why understanding someone's past doesn't excuse the choices they make today
• The subconscious programming that takes place in our early years
• How we close the doors on parts of ourselves to feel accepted and safe
• Why healing isn't about becoming someone new, but remembering who you've always been
The Five Pillars explored what happened to us.
The Labels explored what we came to believe.
This episode asks perhaps the most important question of all...
If none of those labels, roles or survival strategies are who you truly are... then who are you?
A follow-up to the Five Pillars series.
Before we believed we weren't enough, before we believed love had to be earned, before we became the strong one, the people pleaser, or the scapegoat — someone handed us those beliefs.
This week I explore how labels quietly become part of our identity, why we aren't born believing we're "not enough," and the connection between childhood, survival, and emotional wounding.
I discuss how these beliefs are passed down through families and generations, why the same patterns keep repeating in different relationships, and what it means to reconnect with who you were before the labels ever landed. Healing isn't about becoming someone new — it's about uncovering the person who's been there all along.
Catch up on the full Five Pillars series in the feed if you're just joining us.
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The final episode in the five pillars series.
This week I cover financial abuse — often the most overlooked pillar, yet one of the fastest ways an abuser controls a partner and stops them from leaving.
I break down how financial abuse fits within coercive control (UK law since 2015), the tactics abusers use — withholding money, running up debt in your name, controlling access to bank accounts, using gifts as transactions, sabotaging your credit — and why this control often continues long after separation, especially where child maintenance is involved.
I also share my own experience of financial control in my past relationship, and how healing from it connects back to the emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical pillars covered earlier in the series.
This completes the five pillars series — catch up on spirituality, emotional, physical, and mental if you missed them.
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Week 4 of the five pillars series.
This episode is about the mental impact of emotional abuse — how chronic manipulation and unpredictability physically change the brain.
I break down what happens to the amygdala, hippocampus, and prefrontal cortex under sustained psychological stress, why survivors experience brain fog, memory gaps, and chronic self-doubt, and how the three core wounds — abandonment, betrayal, and shame — get triggered and often trace back to childhood.
Drawing on research from Yale, Stanford, and NYU on cortisol and hippocampal damage, this episode explains why "I can't trust my own mind" is a neurological reality, not a personal failing — and why recovery is possible.
Missed weeks 1–3? Catch up on the spiritual, emotional, and physical pillars in the feed.
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Over the last few weeks I've been exploring the Five Pillars of Abuse and how emotional abuse, coercive control and manipulation affect every area of our lives.
This week we're exploring the Physical Pillar.
Trauma doesn't just live in your memories.
It lives in your body.
The nightmares.
The hypervigilance.
The exhaustion.
The adrenal fatigue.
The feeling that you're never truly safe.
In this episode I explore:
• Why emotional abuse affects the body as much as the mind
• Complex PTSD and the stress loop
• Why your nervous system stays on high alert
• The physical signs of trauma after emotional abuse
• Loneliness, grief and surviving after the relationship ends
• Reclaiming the parts of yourself that feel missing
• Why healing is about returning to the blueprint of who you were always meant to be
Healing isn't about forcing your body to "move on."
It's about helping your body discover that it's finally safe.
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As always, I'm sending you loads and loads of love.
Until next time.
Over the last few episodes I've been exploring the Five Pillars of Abuse.
The different areas of our lives that are targeted, weakened and often systematically dismantled through emotional abuse, coercive control and manipulation.
This week we're exploring the Emotional Pillar.
Emotional abuse rarely begins with obvious cruelty. It often starts with attention, connection and the feeling that you've finally met someone who truly understands you.
But beneath the surface something else may be happening.
In this episode I explore:
• The Emotional Pillar and why it matters
• The cycle of idealisation, devaluation and discard
• How trauma bonds are formed
• Why emotional abuse is often so difficult to recognise
• The creation of the perfect persona
• How boundaries are gradually moved
• Why survivors often blame themselves
• What rebuilding looks like when the pillar has been damaged
One of the most difficult parts of healing is recognising that what felt like safety was often part of the trap.
Healing begins when we stop trying to understand who they were and start remembering who we are.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
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As always, I'm sending you loads and loads of love.
Over the last few months, I've been sharing the Path of Sovereign Integration and the journey back to yourself after emotional abuse, trauma and survival.
This week we're exploring the first of the Five Pillars of Healing: the Spiritual Pillar.
When people hear the word spiritual, they often think of religion or faith. But for me, this pillar is about something much deeper.
It's about your moral compass.
Your beliefs.
Your values.
Your intuition.
Your ability to trust what you know to be true.
One of the most damaging aspects of emotional abuse, coercive control and manipulation is that it slowly disconnects you from yourself. You begin to question your instincts, your judgement and even your reality.
In this episode I explore:
- How emotional abuse disrupts your inner compass
- Why intuition becomes difficult to trust
- The connection between boundaries and sovereignty
- The subtle ways manipulation changes how we see ourselves
- Why reclaiming your truth is an essential part of healing
- The first pillar of The Path of Sovereign Integration
Healing isn't simply about recovering from what happened.
It's about reconnecting with who you are beneath the conditioning, survival patterns and emotional wounds.
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As always, I'm sending you loads and loads of love.
Until next time.
Over the last few months, we’ve walked through the Path of Sovereign Integration.
We’ve explored grounding, recognising patterns, rebuilding intuition, healing emotional wounds, calming the nervous system, and learning to trust ourselves again.
This episode is an opportunity to let some of that work settle into the body.
This guided meditation focuses on the three core wounds I believe sit beneath so much emotional pain:
- abandonment
- shame
- betrayal
These wounds shape how we think, react, attach, protect, and survive.
And healing them is not about becoming someone else.
It’s about returning to yourself.
So find somewhere comfortable where you won’t be disturbed, take a deep breath, and allow yourself the space to soften, listen, and reconnect.
As always, I’m sending you loads and loads of love. Until next time.
In this episode, we bring together the journey of The Path of Sovereign Integration and step into what happens next.
Not the healing.
Not the awareness.
But the part where you actually begin to live it.
Over the last few weeks, we’ve explored grounding, recognising patterns, rebuilding intuition, and unpicking the beliefs that were never yours. We’ve looked at how emotional abuse and coercive control impact every part of your life — emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually and financially.
And now something shifts.
You’re no longer trying to go back to who you were.
You’re not trying to fix everything.
You’re learning to move forward — as someone new.
In this episode, I explore:
- Why healing doesn’t mean returning to your old self
- How trauma and conditioning can stay in the body long after the relationship ends
- What it really takes to feel safe again — in your body and your environment
- The difference between reacting and responding
- Why looking back can be a powerful part of healing
- How reclaiming lost parts of yourself creates real integration
This is the stage where you stop abandoning yourself in small, unseen ways.
Where you begin to hold your boundaries.
Trust your responses.
And step into your own life — fully.
Healing isn’t about becoming who you were before.
It’s about discovering who you were always meant to be.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re moving forward… but something still pulls you back — this episode will help you understand why.
In this episode of The Mindfuckery Podcast, we move into the next stage of the Path of Sovereign Integration — where everything you’ve been working on begins to feel natural.
This is the point where you’re no longer trying to change.
You’re responding differently.
You’re thinking differently.
And something inside you is starting to feel… quieter.
But it can also feel unfamiliar.
You might notice moments where you slip back into old reactions.
Times where you question yourself.
Or feel unsure whether you can trust what you’re sensing.
This isn’t failure.
This is the nervous system recalibrating.
In this episode, I explore:
- Why you can still feel triggered even after doing the work
- How conditioning keeps you reacting without realising
- What it actually means to trust your body again
- The shift from reacting… to listening
- How your intuition becomes your internal compass
This is the stage where the noise starts to settle.
Where your nervous system no longer needs to shout…
because you’re finally listening.
And where healing becomes something you live — not something you keep trying to fix.
If you’ve been wondering whether you can really trust yourself again…
this episode will show you what that actually feels like.
In this episode we continue The Path of Sovereign Integration and move into a stage that so many people misunderstand.
You’ve done the work.
You’ve had the insights.
You’ve started to feel different.
And then… something happens.
It feels like you’ve made progress — and then like you’ve taken five steps backwards.
This is the stage where healing begins to settle… or slip.
In this episode, I explore what’s really happening when change doesn’t seem to hold, and why this doesn’t mean your healing isn’t working.
We look at:
- Why progress can feel inconsistent
- What’s happening in the nervous system when you “snap back”
- The role of small, steady steps in creating real change
- Why understanding alone isn’t enough
- How integration turns healing into something you can actually live
Healing doesn’t happen all at once.
It happens through repetition, through safety, and through allowing your body to catch up with what your mind already understands.
This is the stage where transformation becomes real.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re moving forward and then right back where you started — this episode will help you understand why.
As always, I’m sending you loads and loads of love. Until next time.
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In this episode, we continue The Path of Sovereign Integration and move into a stage where something shifts in a very real and visible way.
You’re no longer trying to change.
You just aren’t the same.
After grounding, recognising patterns, questioning what you were told, rebuilding intuition and clearing the emotional weight… your healing begins to show up in how you live.
This is Empowered Emergence.
It’s the stage where you start taking steps that feel safe for your body, rather than pushing yourself back into survival. Where your voice changes. Your boundaries change. Your choices change.
In this episode we explore:
- What it feels like when your identity starts to shift
- Why you may notice people moving in and out of your life
- The difference between forced change and natural emergence
- How the nervous system responds to stepping into something new
- What it means to reconnect with your blueprint — the life you were born to live
This isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about removing what was layered on top of you,
so you can begin living from who you’ve always been.
As you step into this stage, things may feel unfamiliar. You may take a step forward and then back again. That’s part of the process. The key is learning to move in a way that feels safe, steady and true to you.
This is where empowerment begins to show itself — not as force, but as grounded change.
As always, I’m sending you loads and loads of love. Until next time.
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In this episode of The Mindfuckery Podcast, we continue The Path of Sovereign Integration and arrive at a stage many people don’t expect.
We’ve talked about grounding, recognising survival patterns, questioning what you were told to believe, rebuilding intuition, clearing emotional wounds, and ending the loops that keep repeating.
But what happens when those patterns stop running your life?
Something shifts.
You may feel different.
You may feel lost.
You may feel like your old life no longer fits — but you’re not yet sure who you are becoming.
This is the moment where the blueprint begins to reappear.
In this episode we explore:
- Why healing can make you feel like you don’t belong in your old life anymore
- How family patterns and generational beliefs shape identity
- What happens when survival is no longer in charge
- Why feeling uncertain can actually mean you are on the right path
- How the life you were meant to live begins to emerge underneath the wounds
This stage is not about becoming someone new.
It’s about clearing what was never truly yours,
so you can return to who you were meant to be.
As always, this work looks at the deeper emotional wounds of abandonment, shame and betrayal, and how these patterns pass through families until someone decides the cycle stops with them.
If something in you has been feeling the pull to change,
to step out of survival,
or to live differently than the generations before you…
this episode will speak to you.
— Elizabeth
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In this episode of The Mindfuckery Podcast, we move into the next stage of The Path of Sovereign Integration — completion.
Many of the struggles we experience in relationships, family dynamics and life patterns aren’t random. Trauma can forge unspoken contracts — roles we take on, burdens we carry and responsibilities that were never truly ours. These patterns often begin in childhood and quietly repeat throughout our lives.
In this episode I explore how those contracts are formed and why the same personalities, dynamics and emotional patterns can appear again and again — sometimes in different relationships, friendships or work environments.
We look at:
- How trauma creates unconscious roles and emotional contracts
- Why the same patterns and relationship dynamics repeat
- The impact of childhood survival strategies
- The “rescuer” wound and the desire to save others
- How inherited beliefs and family roles shape adult behaviour
- What it means to complete those contracts and reclaim sovereignty
Healing isn’t about endlessly analysing the past.
It’s about recognising the patterns, locating the root wound and releasing what was never yours to carry.
When those contracts complete, the loops end — and life begins to reorganise in a very different way.
Take a moment as you listen and notice what resonates in your body.
As always, I’m sending you loads and loads of love. Until next time.
Sometimes when healing begins to take hold, something unexpected happens. Emotions begin to rise again. Old memories surface. You might feel tired, unsettled, or wonder if you’ve somehow gone backwards.
You haven’t.
This is often the point where the nervous system finally feels safe enough to begin releasing what it has been holding — the emotional wounds of abandonment, shame and betrayal stored in the body.
In this episode I talk about a stage in The Path of Sovereign Integration that I call The Purification Gate. It’s the moment when deeper healing begins and the body starts letting go of patterns that once helped you survive.
Inside this episode we explore:
- Why emotional waves don’t mean your healing has failed
- The difference between spiralling and genuine release
- What changes when you begin healing the root wounds
- Why recovery becomes faster when the nervous system settles
Healing isn’t about endlessly revisiting the past.
It’s about reaching the root so the body no longer has to carry what it was never meant to hold.
If something in this episode resonates with you and you’re ready to explore where you are on your own journey, you’ll find a link in the show notes to book a Soul Alignment Call.
As always, I’m sending you loads and loads of love. Until next time.
There was a time when you trusted your body.
Before you were told you were too sensitive.
Before you were told you were overthinking.
Before you learned that listening to yourself might cost you connection.
In this episode, I’m speaking into The Code of Inner-standing — the stage in The Path of Sovereign Integration where intuition returns.
This is not about analysing the past.
It’s about recognising how your inner knowing was muted — and how to bring it back online.
I share a personal story of when I felt the misalignment in my body long before I had proof.
The split between knowing and wanting stability.
The moment I realised my intuition wasn’t wrong — it had just been overridden.
Inner-standing is not loud.
It is not reactive.
It is not suspicion.
It is the quiet authority of the body.
We explore:
• How intuition gets turned down
• The link between gaslighting and self-doubt
• How abandonment, shame and betrayal sit underneath the override
• Why reclaiming your intuition requires courage
• And how to begin trusting yourself again — slowly, deliberately, sovereignly
This episode is not for the woman still asking, “Is this abuse?”
It is for the woman who already knows —
and is ready to stop organising her life around survival.
Because once you trust your body again,
you stop outsourcing certainty.
And that is where sovereignty begins.
If something in you recognises this — not intellectually, but somatically —
there’s a link in the show notes to book a Soul Alignment Call.
No pressure.
No fixing.
Just a conversation about what your system is ready for next.
So much of what we believe about ourselves was never consciously chosen.
It was learned early.
Repeated often.
And absorbed in moments where safety, belonging, or love felt uncertain.
In this episode of The Mindfuckery Podcast, I guide you through Stage Three of the Freedom Beyond Trauma – Soul Journey: The Portal of Untruths.
This is the place of radical honesty — not the kind that attacks or exposes, but the kind that allows truth to be felt in the body.
Here, I speak into the beliefs that have quietly shaped your life:
beliefs born from abandonment, shame, or betrayal.
Beliefs that didn’t come from who you are — but from what you were told, labelled, or led to believe.
I share a pivotal moment from my own healing journey, when I questioned something I was being accused of and realised it didn’t feel true — energetically or emotionally. That moment became a turning point, not through force or fixing, but through discernment.
In this episode, I explore:
- how untrue beliefs form before we have choice
- why they feel so real in the body
- how to sense when something isn’t true — even if it’s been repeated for years
- what begins to return when a belief is gently challenged
On the other side of this portal, something shifts.
Clarity returns.
Choice becomes possible.
And sovereignty begins to come back online.
You don’t need to dismantle anything today.
Awareness is enough.
✨ Next Step
If something in this episode resonates and you’d like support exploring the beliefs shaping your life, there’s a link in the show notes to book a free Soul Alignment Call.
No pressure. No fixing. Just a conversation to sense where your system is and what it’s ready for next.
So many women have done the therapy.
The workshops.
The practices.
And yet still feel as though they are living slightly outside themselves — watching life rather than fully inhabiting it.
In this episode of The Mindfuckery Podcast, Elizabeth speaks to the root of embodiment — the first condition for healing to truly land.
This isn’t about learning another technique or doing more work.
It’s about understanding why trauma pulls us out of the body — and why that wasn’t failure, but survival.
Especially in childhood, where leaving wasn’t an option, the nervous system learned to adapt by bracing, disconnecting, or staying alert. Those patterns don’t disappear just because we understand them.
In this episode, Elizabeth explores:
- why healing can’t integrate when the body doesn’t feel safe
- how embodiment is a felt state of belonging, not something you force
- why rumination, spirals, and burnout are signs of intelligence, not weakness
- how grounding allows the body to respond rather than react
As embodiment begins to return, the shifts are often subtle — but profound.
Reactions soften into responses.
Boundaries become clearer.
Life no longer has to be survived moment by moment.
If something in you recognises this — not intellectually, but somatically — trust that.
✨ Begin Here
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✨ Next Support
👉 Book a Soul Alignment Call – a calm, attuned conversation to sense what your system needs next.
You’re not broken.
You’re not late.
Your system has been waiting for the right time — and the right conditions.
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You may have done years of healing.
Therapy. Books. Courses. Practices.
And yet something still loops.
The same emotional patterns.
The same pain in different forms.
A quiet sense that healing hasn’t fully landed — not in the body, not in the nervous system, not in your lived experience.
In this episode of The Mindfuckery Podcast, Elizabeth introduces Freedom Beyond Trauma – Soul Journey: an 11-element path to wholeness rooted in embodiment, emotional sovereignty, and deep remembrance.
This work goes beneath coping and insight to meet the original wounds of abandonment, shame, and betrayal — not to relive them, but to create the conditions where the body no longer needs to stay in survival.
Trauma doesn’t heal in steps.
It heals through safety, pacing, and recognition.
In this gateway episode, Elizabeth gently outlines the 11 elements of the journey — from grounding and embodiment, through nervous system repair and ancestral clearing, to integration and embodied freedom — allowing your body to sense what’s relevant, without force or fixing.
If a quiet voice inside you has been whispering “enough” —
enough carrying, enough looping, enough self-blame —
this episode is the doorway.
✨ Begin Here
👉 Download the Start Here / Next Stop Roadmaps – gentle guides to help you orient yourself on the journey.
✨ Next Support
👉 Book a Soul Alignment Call – a calm, attuned conversation to sense what your system needs next.
You are not broken.
You are not late.
Your body has been waiting for the right time — and the right conditions.
Most women who grew up in emotional neglect, chaos, addiction or narcissistic parents learned to freeze — not because they were weak, but because it was the only survival strategy available.
In today’s episode, I talk about what freeze actually is, why your body chose it, how it follows you into adulthood, and how to begin thawing safely, gently and slowly.
Freeze isn’t your flaw.
It’s your history.
And thawing is possible, one safe moment at a time.
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You’ve read the books. Done the therapy. Taken the courses.
But somehow… it still loops — the same triggers, the same pain, just in different costumes.
In this episode of The Mindfuckery Podcast, I’m taking you beyond the language of trauma into the soul work — the point where healing becomes transformation.
We’ll explore how emotionally abusive and karmic relationships act as mirrors, reflecting the original wound that still needs your attention.
This is the journey from survival to sovereignty — not just healing for yourself, but for your ancestors and those yet to come.
If your whole being whispers “enough” — enough looping, enough rescuing, enough bypassing — this episode is your invitation to walk the Freedom Beyond Trauma – Soul Journey and finally begin living from your light.
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You’ve done the therapy. Read the books. Taken the courses. But somehow… it still loops. The triggers, the shame spirals, the old pain. Why?
In this episode of The Mindfuckery Podcast, I’m getting real about why recovery isn’t linear — and why simply “doing the work” isn’t enough. We’ll explore the deeper distortions trauma leaves behind, how survival mode keeps you stuck, and what it actually takes to move beyond survival into real freedom.
If your whole being is whispering “enough” — enough carrying, enough looping, enough bypassing — then this episode is for you.
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- 📖 My books: Finding Lily | The A to Z of Emotional Abuse | Divorce Matters
- 🌐 Visit me at Inner Healing Sanctuary
- 📲 Instagram → @emotionaldivorcewarrior
- 🌿 Meditations: Grounding | Breathing
- 🔗 All links → linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
This week I am talking about the journey of recovery. It isn't linear, there are lots of lows and a few highs, until you manage to balance the pain - but you can go deeper and healing the wounds will help you claim back your power or be even more powerful than you were before, how does that sound?
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This week I am talking about the journey of recovery. It isn't linear, there are lots of lows and a few highs, until you manage to balance the pain - but you can go deeper and healing the wounds will help you claim back your power or be even more powerful than you were before, how does that sound?
https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
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What would be the best gift you could be given right now? This week I ask this question and there are a few journal prompts to help you find your purpose.
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Three things I wish I had known when the relationship broke down and how they kept me trapped - What THREE things do you wish you had known?
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This week I discuss the difference between healing wounds and working with the inner-child. And I explain some creative ways of building a life with passion for 2025 using #misogi #kevinsrule #winninghabits
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In this week's episode, I talk and breathe with you - lets create some space and peace in our lives.
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In this week's episode, I discuss the healing journey and ask if you are going to take the red pill or the blue pill?
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walkingoneggshells #vegusnerve #vagusnervereset
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In this week's episode, I discuss what Walking on Eggshells does to your body and I talk you through a quick Vegus Nerve Reset
Not sure what the Vegus Nerve is? That OK I briefly explain that as well.
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
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In this week's episode, I discuss the difference between taking the blame and taking responsibility and show you where the power is
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
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In this week's episode, we're taking a look at how the wounds or Shame and Guilt and how healing them will help you keep strong boundaries.
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
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In this week's episode, we're taking a look at how grieving the part of yourself that have gone will help your healing journey.
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
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In this week's episode, we're taking a look at how you can stop the energy vampires and thieves of time and setting strong boundaries.
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
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In this week's episode, we're diving into the power of taking a step back and how it can be used to empower you! Also look at grief and what we have to grieve.
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
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In this week's episode, we're diving into the powerful topic of responsibility - should forgive the abuser if they can't take responsibility?
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
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In this week's episode, we're diving into the powerful topic of how abuse impacts both your body and mind, and how you can start reclaiming your life.
We’ll explore how emotional and psychological abuse can manifest physically, and the toll it takes on your mental health, from flashbacks to constant hyper vigilance.
I’ll also be sharing the importance of boundaries and how they can help you regain control.
Most importantly, we’ll talk about simple, practical techniques like mindful breathing and grounding exercises that can anchor you in the present, ease anxiety, and ultimately help you protect your sanity as you heal.
thefray #howtosavealife #thefrayhowtosavealife
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
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Today’s episode, where we’re diving into the intense, volcanic anger that can bubble up after narcissistic abuse. We’ll be exploring why these emotions feel so overwhelming, how manipulation tactics like gaslighting and triangulation leave us questioning our reality, and most importantly, how to start processing that anger in a healthy way. Whether it’s rage that seems to come out of nowhere or self-doubt that keeps replaying in your mind, this episode is all about understanding and healing those deep emotional wounds. Grab a notebook, as we’ll be sharing practical tips to help you reprogram, reparent, and break the toxic cycles once and for all.
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
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TO HELP YOU process what is happening if you are experiencing overwhelming unfamiliar emotions that feel like they possess you SO YOU be able to recognise what is happening to you and start to take back some control over your life whilst you learn the tools to heal on a deeper level.
If you are going through a difficult time at the moment and trying to clarity journalling is an amazing tool. You can use it to review your day, get clarity after waking in the morning or at any point that fits in with your routine.
And I have included 6 prompts to help you get started
Warrior Goddess Archetype Meditation
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juliacameron #artistsway #journallingprompts
This week I talk about Why we repeat painful Patterns.
It isn't linear, there are lots of lows and a few highs, until you manage to balance the pain - but you can go deeper and healing the wounds will help you claim back your power or be even more powerful than you were before, how does that sound?
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This week I am talking about Learning to Trust again and the journey of recovery.
It isn't linear, there are lots of lows and a few highs, until you manage to balance the pain - but you can go deeper and healing the wounds will help you claim back your power or be even more powerful than you were before, how does that sound?
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The 3 Things you need to do Divorcing a Narcissist | Divorce Matters
You probably won't come out of the divorce unscathed but you can protect yourself better and negotiate like a QUEEN
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This week I am talking about Cognitive Dissonance, C-PTSD and Conditional Love, read from my book the A to Z of Emotional Abuse but you can go deeper and healing the wounds will help you claim back your power or be even more powerful than you were before, how does that sound?
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
This week I am talking about the journey of recovery. It isn't linear, there are lots of lows and a few highs, until you manage to balance the pain - but you can go deeper and healing the wounds will help you claim back your power or be even more powerful than you were before, how does that sound?
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What do CIRCULAR CONVERSATIONS CLOSURE, CLUSTER B PERSONALITY DISORDER, CODEPENDENCY, COERCIVE CONTROL have in common? The A to Z of Emotional abuse
I bet you guess the answer straight away!
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CIRCULAR CONVERSATIONS #CLOSURE #CLUSTER B PERSONALITY DISORDER #CODEPENDENCY #COERCIVE CONTROL
This week is about money.
- Money and self-esteem
- Claiming back you power
- Money is a vibration
- The real cost
- Money is used to control you
- Questions to ask yourself
- Money story
- Becoming self-sufficient
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This week is about BAITING BELITTLING BLAME SHIFTING and BOUNDARIES as I read out a section from my book the A to Z of Emotional abuse and talk about the effects it has on you and your body.
This week you will need a rock and a pen.
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It's Mindfuckery
I first came across the term "mindfuckery" on YouTube, at the very beginning of my journey. I stumbled upon a channel where a woman was processing her relationship and its fallout.
In one video, she simply said, "It's mindfuckery." That word resonated with me and stopped me in my tracks. I naively thought I could hold my ex accountable—that I could get closure and he would realise what he had done.
MINDFUCKERY • Definition noun. Vulgar Slang. The term used to describe mental confusion inflicted deliberately by another person. 1. The action of someone behaving in a way, or performing an action, with the intent of seriously disturbing another person(s).
It's a covert manipulation that distorts your perception, making you question your sanity and memory.
Long-term contact with a toxic or emotionally abusive person causes significant damage to the brain. Your body, sensing danger, shuts down your brain to protect it and you.
Your #INTUITION told you something was wrong, or you didn’t believe the story they were telling you. They lied to you, and you ended up QUESTIONING yourself while they minimised your feelings.
When the words don’t match the action: “But he says he loves me, why would he do that?” It is #CRAZY-MAKING.
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
This week is about ADRENAL FATIGUE • ALIENATION • AVOIDANCE as I read out a section from my book the A to Z of Emotional abuse and talk about the effects it has on your mind, your body and your soul.
You might be wondering what is happening to your body and mind.
This week I explain:
- What adrenal fatigue is
- Why you are awake when everyone else sleeping and why you sleep through the alarm
- Why you may be experiencing Alienation
- How avoidance is a manipulation tool
- Why you won't get closure
- And explain why a relatively healthy ex gives you closure - and why you aren't getting it.
Celtic Salt - this isn't an affiliate link - please do your own research as I am not a nutritionist but I have found this beneficial - https://www.amazon.co.uk/s?k=Le+Paludier+de+Guerande&i=grocery&search-type=ss&ref=bl_dp_s_web_0
Episode 72 Adrenal Fatigue and wounds of Abandonment, Shame and Betrayal https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-scm3p-1488d1e
What is the difference between PTSD and C-PTSD? Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder | https://youtu.be/l6_trbm7r1g
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This week is about children!
You might be asking if your children are narcissists as they are displaying similar behaviours to your ex
- Why children may be displaying this behaviour
- I explain why and give you a few ideas how to over come this.
- Narcissistic Flees
- Duty of care for children
- Creating a parenting plan that works for everyone
Divorce Settlement Checklist | Divorcing the Narcissist - https://youtu.be/NPlYLNIYw4w
Links to both books mentioned are below
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
This week is about Abandonment, Abuse and Abusive Cycles as I read out a section from my book the A to Z of Emotional abuse and talk about the effects it has on you and your body.
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
This week I have created a 3 in 1 podcast - as healing from these relationships is one of the most rewarding things you can do and I talk about grounding, breathing and protection that is what I have created.
I have also saved it so that if your device allows you can forward to the one you want without searching too hard. Press FF
- 02:30 Grounding
- 07:00 Breathing
- 17:00 Guided Meditation
Meditations Playlist - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLUK74EPoswA-f-Ory262luguBYPSgRDsy
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Healing from these relationships is one of the most rewarding things you can do!
In March I was an expert speaker at an online summit - my subject was
WoundTalking© - a transformative journey of self-discovery and healing.
Prior to the talk I was interviewed by Debbie Debonaire about
- Why I do what I do
- My Healing Journey
- Divorcing Emotionally
- Inner Child and reparenting
- Ikea and the shortcut to the market place
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Healing from these relationships is one of the most rewarding things you can do!
Trauma responses of Fight, Flight, Fawn and Freeze
- Not recognising yourself
- Feeling numb
- Not able to respond to anyone or anything
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BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Healing from these relationships is one of the most rewarding things you can do!
No one will ever get the pain and confusion you are left with when the fairytale romance is over - that is what they see - they don't see the chaos that went on behind closed doors!
- The pain ingrained by the cycle of abuse
- Why they can walk away and nothing
- Narcissists are parasites, using one host to get to the next
ROI - Know your value the narcissist does - https://youtu.be/GBo7LIcInk0
dirtyjohn #johnmehan #netflix
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BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
This week I am sharing a podcast I was on with John Kenny the relationship guy, following our 2nd interview Divorce, The Narcissist and Healing from Emotional abuser - listen here John invited me back for him to experience a healing session - this is the result - I am sharing to help you inner stand and process you really can heal from this abuse and you can heal deep wounds and the BIGGEST AND I don't use a process that will re- trigger you!
2 Divorce, The Narcissist and Healing from emotional abuser - https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-p3pez-153c4ef
1 Divorce and the Narcissist | The Relationship Guy Podcast https://youtu.be/DPi03NJxx6c
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Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Are you stuck and unable to more on? Wondering what they are up to? Waiting for them to reach out and say they are sorry?
Try this.
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BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
This week I was shown by a horse the power of grounding. I attending a healing sanctuary where they use horses to guide you to delve deeper and clear more, I was drawn automatically to this process and with the help of Wendy and Bill and Athena I was able to step more into my feminine power and clear away some the masculine energy I had use to protect me.
One moment in particular showed me the power of grounding and staying in our bodies.
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BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Confusion coming out of an emotionally abusive relationships -Word Salad | Triangulation | Gaslighting | Mindfuckery and other tactics
In this episode, I discuss the Confusion coming out of an emotionally abusive relationships - Word Salad | Triangulation | Gaslighting | Mindfuckery and other tactics.
What is happening in your body and what happens to your mind when you are threatened?
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
In this episode, I discuss the trauma bond.
I remember it like it was yesterday, there are so many things I can’t remember but this memory is so clear.
I was sitting on the arm of my sofa holding a coffee; the October sun streaming through the large window, and then it happened; I made this huge statement “I don’t ever want anyone to go through what I have been through”.
BOOM
And there it was...
The words were out of my mouth and they couldn’t be unsaid or unheard.
A thousand horses could not drag them back.
The Seed was planted!
At this point I had no idea what I was going to go through, it was just terribly painful; and I had no idea that I was in fact at the start of my journey, not the end as I thought...
I still believed this was all my fault.
It wasn’t until months later I realised I actually didn’t want to stop people going through their own personal journey and I didn’t want them having their own cathartic Dark Night of the Soul, because this is where the magic is... This is where the healing happens.
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BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
In this episode, I discuss grief and the layers we need to grieve.
Also How our minds have been trained to search for information to confirm you are wrong and the abuser is right.
You can get the Workbook and MP3 for Grieving the Past Present and Future Here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/shop
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BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
in this episode I celebrate the 2nd anniversary of the podcast, talking about the raw emotions you experience.
I talk about the grief of the loss of the person I was and learning to love the new version.
Coercion including financial and sexual control.
Sexual Coercion and how the Narcissist Manipulates you - https://youtu.be/soxzsU-CQp8
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BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
As The MindFuckery Podcast comes to the end of year two I talk about the mind body and soul connection and how it was affected by the abuse.
And remind you that you were and still are the most powerful piece on the chess board. The abuse may have moved on, creating a new persona - what is keeping you trapped? For me it was three statements, perhaps you recognise them
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
In this episode, I discuss what happening in the body and how our minds have been trained to search for information to confirm you are wrong and the abuser is right.
The difference between responding and reacting and why the abuser really wants you to react.
And I talk you through a dry brushing exercise to clear energetic connections.
This link for my play list for meditations - with breathing exercises and grounding techniques, chakra balancing and many others:
https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLUK74EPoswA-f-Ory262luguBYPSgRDsy&si=Jt1c1477amv1pB0x
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
In this episode, I explain how the pain can help you with your healing journey.
And how looking back is healthy!
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The Identity Wound is a course I will be running from 25th March through to the 15th of May -
REWRITE YOUR STORY AND LIVE THE LIFE YOU WERE BORN TO LIVE. Chiron's alignment with Mercury presents you the opportunity to delve into your wounds, identify self-sabotaging patterns, and reframe your inner-standing of yourself. Rewrite your story and live the life you were born to live.This is an opportunity to shift your karma and reshape your destiny. Presented with a unique chance to explore the deeply ingrained patterns inherited from your family, we can gain insight into how they have influenced your sense of individuality and purpose. I am Elizabeth, Founder of the INNER HEALING SANCTUARY, The Original Wound© WoundTalking© and QuantumGlow Healing©I have been a Woundologist for over 20 years working with past life wounds, clearing ancestral trauma and working with this life wounding.
I am also the author of Finding Lily, The A to Z of Emotional Abuse and Divorce Matters. BECOMING THE AUTHENTIC SELF | The Identity Wound Given this unique opportunity to explore the deeply ingrained patterns inherited from our family, you can gain insight into how they have influenced your sense of individuality and purpose.
Following the journey with Chiron and Mercury, we will delve into the concept of the identity wound.
Regardless of your confidence and achievements, you carry within you a deeply ingrained identity wound, stemming from past experiences of rejection and abandonment. Words and actions can trigger your core wounds of abandonment, shame, and betrayal. These experiences often lead you to question your existence, asking: "Do I have the right to be here? Does my existence truly matter? Who am I?" By engaging in this process, you aim to shift your karma and reshape your destiny. • Listen to it what your body tells you. Working with your intuition, you will allow your own truth to emerge.
• Allow Chiron to guide you to use different techniques and connect to your authentic self.
• Listen to your soul, it been waiting for you to free yourself from these limitations. Let's see what's inside
• The Story Of Your Identity Wound - We use this time for reflection, leaning into our bodies and to inner-stand the emotions, patterns and stories.
• Examine your wounds - Identifying with the wounds and the statements.
• Breaking the cycle - Inner-standing who you are and reconnecting with all your missing parts.
• Rewrite your Story - Taking this opportunity to change your karma, and rewrite your destiny
• Becoming the authentic self - Stepping back integrate and celebrate your authentic selves. SUPPORT TO HELP YOU COMPLETE THE JOURNEY:FACEBOOK GROUP Where we support each other on the Journey.Each day there will be a live or recorded meditation or download added to the group. Access to the vault where you can access the resources to support you.FAQ:
- How much will this cost? The total cost is £30 for the total course along with your time and commitment.
- It sounds wonderful but is this really for me? You are the only person who can decide this, listen to your body and ask if it aligns with your souls purpose at this time.
- How does this work? I am holding space in a private Facebook group and over the course of this journey I will be guide you.
- How long do the results? This is a journey and it is important to remember that not all the wounds and limitations are yours.Connect with Elizabeth - https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddardJoin here - https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/.../the-identity...Do you want a copy of my FREE Self-Care is vital workbook? https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Get your copy of Finding Lily here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/finding-lily
Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
In this episode, I discuss what happening in the body and how our minds have been trained to search for information to confirm you are wrong and the abuser is right.
I explain how listening to your body you inner stand if your wounds are reacting and give you ideas to respond rather than react.
https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/
The Identity Wound is a course I will be running from 25th March through to the 15th of May -
REWRITE YOUR STORY AND LIVE THE LIFE YOU WERE BORN TO LIVE.
Chiron's alignment with Mercury presents you the opportunity to delve into your wounds, identify self-sabotaging patterns, and reframe your inner-standing of yourself.
Rewrite your story and live the life you were born to live.
This is an opportunity to shift your karma and reshape your destiny.
Presented with a unique chance to explore the deeply ingrained patterns inherited from your family, we can gain insight into how they have influenced your sense of individuality and purpose.
I am Elizabeth, Founder of the INNER HEALING SANCTUARY, The Original Wound© WoundTalking© and QuantumGlow Healing©
I have been a Woundologist for over 20 years working with past life wounds, clearing ancestral trauma and working with this life wounding.
I am also the author of Finding Lily, The A to Z of Emotional Abuse and Divorce Matters.
BECOMING THE AUTHENTIC SELF | The Identity Wound
Given this unique opportunity to explore the deeply ingrained patterns inherited from our family, you can gain insight into how they have influenced your sense of individuality and purpose.
Following the journey with Chiron and Mercury, we will delve into the concept of the identity wound.
Regardless of your confidence and achievements, you carry within you a deeply ingrained identity wound, stemming from past experiences of rejection and abandonment.
Words and actions can trigger your core wounds of abandonment, shame, and betrayal. These experiences often lead you to question your existence, asking: "Do I have the right to be here? Does my existence truly matter? Who am I?" By engaging in this process, you aim to shift your karma and reshape your destiny.
• Listen to it what your body tells you. Working with your intuition, you will allow your own truth to emerge.
• Allow Chiron to guide you to use different techniques and connect to your authentic self.
• Listen to your soul, it been waiting for you to free yourself from these limitations.
Let's see what's inside
• The Story Of Your Identity Wound - We use this time for reflection, leaning into our bodies and to inner-stand the emotions, patterns and stories.
• Examine your wounds - Identifying with the wounds and the statements.
• Breaking the cycle - Inner-standing who you are and reconnecting with all your missing parts.
• Rewrite your Story - Taking this opportunity to change your karma, and rewrite your destiny
• Becoming the authentic self - Stepping back integrate and celebrate your authentic selves.
SUPPORT TO HELP YOU COMPLETE THE JOURNEY:
FACEBOOK GROUP Where we support each other on the Journey.
Each day there will be a live or recorded meditation or download added to the group.
Access to the vault where you can access the resources to support you.
FAQ:
-
How much will this cost? The total cost is £30 for the total course along with your time and commitment.
-
It sounds wonderful but is this really for me? You are the only person who can decide this, listen to your body and ask if it aligns with your souls purpose at this time.
-
How does this work? I am holding space in a private Facebook group and over the course of this journey I will be guide you.
-
How long do the results? This is a journey and it is important to remember that not all the wounds and limitations are yours.
Connect with Elizabeth - https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Join here - https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/.../the-identity...
dirtyjohn #netflix
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Get your copy of The A to Z of Emotional abuse here:https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Get your copy of Divorce Matters here: https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
In this episode, I ask have you been dancing with the devil?
I also spoke about the patterns that run through our lives and explain how to work with a timeline to combat rumination and reprogram you mind that has been tricked to believe this is all your fault.
I also spoke about vibrations, which is what we experience and pick up energetically in these relationships
If you would like to join me for the Honest Conversations workshop in April - email me info@innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk and I will get the information over to you
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
In this episode, I discuss manipulation and how we can tune in to it in our bodies.
I mentioned my YouTube video Know your value, the narcissist does!
https://youtu.be/GBo7LIcInk0
And I spoke about vibrations, which is what we experience and pick up energetically in these relationships
mindfuckerypodcast is now the 5th out of the top 20 of must listen to podcasts for emotional abuse.
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
In this episode, I discuss what happening in the body and to our brains and what it is like to be trapped there.
Following on from last weeks podcast I explain how listening to our bodies and how they can react when trapped in emotionally abusive relationships .
As well as how you can use these feelings to help recover from the trauma.
I mention Dr Emoto's work with words and water and here you can see a video - https://youtu.be/5cyQVu_8EFc?si=ihMrzm4E0K45dkLe
And I spoke about vibrations, which is what we experience and pick up energetically in these relationships
Energy frequency and vibration - water - https://www.facebook.com/reel/388453376846311
Salt vibration experiment - https://youtu.be/wvJAgrUBF4w?si=2DCEhFpiQsePK6vq
dremoto #waterexperiment
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
In this episode, I discuss living in #SurvivalMode and what it is like to be trapped there. I explain what could be the cause us to get trapped in emotionally abusive relationships . I also discuss why someone wouldn’t help you get out and would want to keep you trapped there .
I mention Ross Rosenburg’s book ‘The Human Magnet Syndrome’ and George K Simon’s book ‘In Sheep’s Clothing.
Reference: S2 EP 20 Adrenal Fatigue and wounds of Abandonment, Shame and Betrayal https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-scm3p-1488d1e
STOP the Rumination NOW! Divorcing he Narcissist https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
HEALING FROM EMOTIONAL ABUSE • GROUNDING MEDITATION • Get out of your head https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
Know your value, the narcissist does! https://youtu.be/GBo7LIcInk0
rossrosenburg #georgeksimon #carolinemyss #woundology
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
I read a post with a quote from Matt Kahn this week which didn't resonate for me.
"Why are people not nice to you? Because they're treating you the way they treat themselves and the way they've been treated by others, and they are showing you how much love lacks in their lives. Which means, they're crying out for love. And they don't know they're crying out for love and they're projecting onto you what you haven't done to keep them happy. So don't give them what they want, give them what they need: Love."
But what if the person crying out for love isn't able to accept it?
For me, anyone trapped in or wanting the abuser back—whether consciously or unconsciously—this would indicate to them, they are doing the right thing by staying and giving love. Or trapped not able to move on.
mattkhan #carolinemyss #woundology
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Being in your body is so very important when you are recovering. The gaslighting that took place convinced you that what you thought was true was a lie and what was a lie was the truth. This is your very own Alice through the looking glass moment. The phrase1 ‘Through the Looking Glass’ can be viewed as a metaphor for any time the world suddenly appears unfamiliar, almost as if things were turned upside down. – similar to looking out from inside the mirror to find a world both recognizable and yet turned inside-out.
Grounding and breathing are very quick ways of stopping the thoughts in their tracks before you lose days and weeks to rumination.
Coming out of these relationships you have more questions than answers and easily slip into rumination which is the process of continuously thinking about the same thoughts, which tend to be sad or dark. Rumination can be dangerous to your mental health, it prolongs your ability to think and process emotions.
By grounding into your body you stay out of your head which helps you process what has happened and what is happening to you. Breathing and counting also help you be in your body whilst balancing the stress hormones and calming down your nervous system.
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Contrary to what you are seeing life isn't sweet, they aren't living their best lives - they are living the same life with a different person.
That person, their new supply is able to offer them something you weren't. But his is another game - more acting involved.
If they aren't hooked yet they will be won't be experiencing the behind the scenes experience but it will come, unless they break free before that happens.
Healing is possible for you - grieving the past present and future is a good place to start!
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BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
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Welcome to episode 41.
RELATIONSHIP CLOSURE INVOLVES HONEST, HEALTHY, NON-JUDGMENTAL COMMUNICATION THAT HELPS WITH LETTING GO.
Being denied CLOSURE when you're breaking up is unhealthy; it's damaging, destructive and controlling.
I am seeing a lot of people questioning if the abuser has changed as they are seeing a different person - does a leopard change its spots?
The podcast - what's wrong with me can be heard here - https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-jy6ti-14dcbb2
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
This the first podcast on 2024 (officially).
This podcast is about moving forward, energy and how to take what we want and turn it or transform it into a shiny new future.
Referencing back to Episode 37 and the Faraday Cage I spoke about the ultimate goal which is living an #authentic life. What does that mean for you?
And also referencing Episode 38 for the QuantumGlow healing you can get a personalised one here - https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/quantumglowc
And download my workbook THAT'S FOR ME here https://thedivorcesanctuary.etsy.com/uk/listing/1632676297/manifestation-journal-thats-for-me
What is it you can feel and how do you want to feel? Let's see if we can make it a reality for you!
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Due to flu this week I am sharing an interview with John Kenny in November.
These are his show notes:
John interviews Elizabeth Goddard, founder of the Divorce Sanctuary and author of the book "Divorce Matters." Elizabeth shares her expertise in dealing with divorces involving manipulative and emotionally abusive partners.
She discusses the importance of emotionally divorcing from a narcissistic ex-spouse and offers practical advice on navigating the divorce process, including financial considerations and negotiating assets.
Elizabeth also introduces the concept of "woundology," a healing approach that addresses past life wounds and ancestral trauma.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Elizabeth Goddard's book, "Divorce Matters," is a comprehensive workbook and healing guide for individuals going through a divorce with manipulative and emotionally abusive partners.
Emotional divorcing is an important aspect of separating from a narcissistic or manipulative partner, as it involves managing your own emotions and reactions to their behaviour.
Woundology is a concept that Elizabeth specialises in, which involves healing past life wounds, clearing ancestral trauma, and addressing current life wounds that may be affecting relationships.
The book "Divorce Matters" covers practical aspects of divorce, such as finances and asset splitting, while also addressing the emotional side of the process and providing tools for healing and moving forward.
Elizabeth's work with wounds and trauma can be beneficial for individuals who have experienced emotional abuse or have unresolved wounds that are impacting their relationships. Her website, Divorce Sanctuary, provides more information on her services and how to work with her.
BEST MOMENTS
"It's a workbook healing book. It's an encompassed everything to help people who are divorcing through or divorcing manipulative people, people that are going to manipulate the process, hide things."
"Financial control is huge. So, and it happens and this is something that continues after the divorce as well. There is an element that they will control the day it gets paid."
"It's about letting them think they've won. I had a bonus when I was working quite a few years ago and I bought this huge TV and surround sound TV and DVD player. And it was my ex-husband like he was in heaven."
"It's about healing some of those wounds, not just those, but other stuff as well. There might be money stuff that comes down, there might have been abuse stuff or trauma that comes back down through this ancestral line."
"I was able to contact that part of me that wanted that attention that needed that attention that was in pain. And I was able to talk to her, calm her down. And it just changed everything."
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
This week is slightly different I am offering a distance healing - the instructions are in the podcast and are for wounds of:
- Abandonment
- Betrayal
- Humiliation
- Injustice
- Shame
- Neglect
- Powerlessness
I tuned in collectively for anyone who wishes to heal - for those that don't I will be back next week with another podcast.
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Last week I said I would talk further about creating a safe environment and creating safety within a relationship and like everything this is an inside job.
This week I share the feeling of inner-standing and listening with your body.
This is such a power tool that will help you with creating boundaries and listening to other peoples energy.
Once you have built up the trust in what you are feeling you can use this to protect yourself and find out what is safe for you.
schumannresonance
BesselvanderKolk
Faraday cage
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
I asked my group members this week what they NEEDED at the moment and gave them a list of 10 Empowered, Validated, Connected, Understood, Resilient, Hopeful, Confident, Loved or Free - the one with the most votes is Safe - A sense of safety and security in their environment and relationships so this week I thought I would share some ideas to create a safe environment - this allows you body to heal, to relax for a moment or two.
I have spoken over the last few weeks about writing out the story and now powerful this is towards your recovery and helping you out of rumination.
Grounding - https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
Breathing - https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Following a series of YouTube videos I posted the terms on instagram and wrote this article for Thrive Global article - GLOSSARY TERMS A-Z of Emotional Abuse Terminology used relating to narcissism, sociopathy and psychopathy - https://community.thriveglobal.com/a-z-of-emotional-abuse/
This resulted in a message from the publishers asking if this was my next book - and I thought what a great idea and starting writing The A to Z of Emotional Abuse - Dictionary of narcissistic terms - https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
EP 20 Adrenal Fatigue and wounds of Abandonment, Shame and Betrayal - https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-scm3p-1488d1e
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Have you heard of The Castle by John Welwood? In this episode I talk about this and how we lose out identity through the abuse. I first heard of it when I was listening to Debbie Ford's The Dark Side of the Light Chasers.
How do we lose our identity?
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I also read The Hopi Creation Story which I used first in Finding Lily and again in The A to Z of Emotional abuse.
johnwelwood #thecastleanalogy #Debbieford #darksideofthelightchasers
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Do labels help you and your recovery? Is your EX a NARCISSIST? Does it really matter? The goal is to DIVORCE EMOTIONALLY from the abuse so you feel nothing towards them but that doesn't happen over night. There could be many layers to recovery before you get to that point. One way to help with your recovery is to write out the story. By doing this you can see the patterns and the story becomes your own encyclopaedia or dictionary and will help you see the patterns of the relationship. Keeping you out of rumination and helping you break the trauma bond. #RossRosenberg #Humanmagnetsyndrome
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
In this episode of the show I'm sharing with you What Coercive Control, Sexual and Financial Coercive Control is, and how you prove coercive.
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WATCH Sexual Coercion and how the Narcissist Manipulates you https://youtu.be/soxzsU-CQp8
GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
How do you prove controlling and coercive behaviour https://corkerbinning.com/what-should-i-do-if-i-am-accused-of-controlling-or-coercive-behaviour/
Episode 20 Adrenal Fatigue and wounds of Abandonment, Shame and Betrayal https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-scm3p-1488d1e
financialcoercivecontrol #adrenalfatigue #sexualcoercivecontrol
In this episode of the show I'm sharing with you HOW emotional abuse can cause loss of identity, what emotional abuse does to your mind body and soul.
I'm sharing with you FOUR things you can do now to help your recovery
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WATCH Sexual Coercion and how the Narcissist Manipulates you https://youtu.be/soxzsU-CQp8
GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
drdanielamen #canemotionalabusecauselossofidentity #emotionalabusevsphysicalabuse
This week is a Wednesday edition - these are rare and for good reason, yesterday was the book launch for Divorce Matters. I am a bit emotional about this, it has been a long journey to get this out and despite road closures and horrific traffic chaos I was joined by an amazing group of people.
This week I share with the why I wrote this book and how it started out and what drives me to share this with you.
I was listening to a podcast from 2021 a few days ago hosted by #CarolineStrawson who interview #SamVaknin and as he explained his role in all the terms she said there should be a dictionary for narcissistic abuse - I found myself shouting out -
here is I wrote it it's the A to Z of Emotional Abuse. https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/the-a-to-z-of-emotional-abuse
Divorce Matters - https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/services/divorce-matters
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Have you come out of your relationship not knowing who you are or even recognising yourself, what you like and what you don't like. Actually scrap that, this can go on for a long time after the relationship is over.
You are not alone I promise - grab a cup of tea and sit back and let me share with you some insight and ideas to help create an environment for healing.
Download FREE Journal Prompts! https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resourcesGrounding meditation - https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8Breathing - https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Self-care - https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/free-resources
Grieving the Past Present Future https://www.innerhealingsanctuary.co.uk/shop
Adrenal Fatigue - S2 Episode 20 https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-scm3p-1488d1e
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Do you have a wound of what is wrong with me?
That what I discuss and also how journalling can help you with your healing.
Balancing the polarity of pain and numbness
This is the link to a free workbook 34 Journalling Prompts Journaling for Healing
This is the link to the podcast of Journalling for healing https://www.podbean.com/ep/pb-u9u6n-12b8440
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
What is the difference between a physical and emotional wound?
You would't leave a broken bone to heal by itself but we are taught to ignore the emotional wounds.
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Is it a bird? Is it a plane? NO it's a FLYING MONKEY
A flying what now?
What is a FLYING MONKEY?
OR should that be WHO?
They are one of the emotional abuser entourage, one of their inner circle - they may cause you pain, they may be around to limit damage control
What they aren't are your friends and they will be reporting back…
If you would like more information on joining me to learn how to talk to your wounds let me know HERE
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flyingmonkey #itsamindfuck
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Have you been wondering if you are the Narcissist?
Lets look at why you could be asking this question and if there is anything deeper that could be keeping you trapped
If you would like more information on joining me to learn how to talk to your wounds let me know HERE
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WoundTalking© workshop
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
Can the Narcissist and the Empath have a healthy relationship?
Can an abusive relationship be turned round and can the narcissist heal?
empath #narcissist #covertnarcissist
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
I saw a re-post on Facebook the other day of Tucker Reynolds', and it said my therapist told me Children are resilient and I asked why do all adults need therapy then? And she just looked into the middle distance for a bit +seemed to reassess quite a lot of things.
Today I take about that and the original wound and urge you to talk to your inner child
Inner Healing Sanctuary #woundtalking #theoriginalwound #woundologist
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GROUNDING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
BREATHING MEDITATION https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Elizabeth https://linktr.ee/elizabethgoddard
This week I have taken to Chapters from my book Divorce Matters.
Honest conversations and Let's Talk Talk are from the healing section, it has been something I also did with Finding Lily and The A to Z of Emotional Abuse.
Honest conversations are one of the key ingredients to healing from abuse - which is possible
Divorce Matters - https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/divorcematters
Helping others heal from the wounds of abuse inspires me to share more - you can heal from and the pain is very real!
if you would like to join me to learn how to talk to your wounds send me an email elizabethagoddard@gmail.com
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Wounds of Shame and Honest Conversations that can help you heal from Emotional Abuse
If you can't be honest with yourself who can you be honest with?
You may experience so many emotions one huge one for me was that of shame - shame at what had happened, how it happened and how I had allowed it to happen.
Having an honest conversation with myself saved me!
Journaling, Grounding and Breathing were also key to my recovery.
Free Journaling prompts here https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/journalingforhealing
Grounding Meditation https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
Breathe Meditation https://youtu.be/AJrA7BGAiwI
honestconversations #jounalingprompts #healingthewoundofshame
I remember so well the affects of adrenal fatigue I experienced and I was listening to this video over the weekend https://youtu.be/nhSo8N5-Ars on healing that body - It made me realise I took me longer than I thought to get my muscle strength back!
I also wanted to speak about the pain and the three core wounds that can be a cause to it!
woundtalking #adrenalfatigue #abandomentshamebetrayal #drmariomartinez
A dilemma that creates more confusion
Is it better to stay for the children or would it be better to leave?
childhoodwounds #woundologist #spirituallifecoaching
https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/a-zofemotionalabuse
Why is it so easy for the abuser to move on and create a new life but you are left facing a very different existence?
Some responded to a post on my workbook Grieving the Past, Present and Future asking me how do they turn into a Demi God when with you they are a lazy slouch who offered you nothing? I thought it was such a great question I would also attempt to answer it here.
https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/grieving-past-present-future
Oh and the biggest lie you will ever hear isn't told by the emotional abuser…
The story of Lilith, Adams first wife had me wondering if she was the subject of the very first Smear Campaign.
What do you think?
if you would like top join the journey we are sharing of personal growth is this the link to the group https://www.facebook.com/groups/961029175115941/
Venusretrograde #liith #persephone
Let's talk about different healing processes and which ones will help with your healing.
And FYI Top down isn't driving a convertible car with the roof down...
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DOWNLOADABLE WORKBOOK | The Essential Criteria for Creating the Perfect Healing Plan
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Fetured in Feedspots top 20 podcasts for emotional abuse
https://blog.feedspot.com/emotional_abuse_podcasts/
topdownbottomupprocess
multidimentionaltrauma
feedspottop20emotionalabusepodcasts
Are you a shell of your former self?
This is how I described myself before I was able to recover from emotional abuse.
And when I wrote The A to Z of Emotional Abuse I asked 'what if part of you fell in love with yourself?'
In Debbie Ford's book The Dark Side of the Light Chasers she quotes John Welwoods she used John Welwood's analogy The Castle. He described us as castles: full of rooms and corridors, basements and attics; each room representing a part of us that contains a unique gift. Debbie says and one day you wake up as a two bed semi.
John Welwood said “We can only find the key to our uniqueness by opening all the rooms in our castle.”.
debbieford #johnwelwood #thecastle #thedarksideofthelightchasers
Sorting through the wounds of emotional abuse can be confusing
From the Mindfuckery to the Financial Abuse
The grief
and then the wounds of #abandonment #betrayal #shame
asking so many questions
somaticexperiencing #edmr
This is week I discuss how trauma is multidimensional and what the emotional abuser has in common with a parasite
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DOWNLOADABLE WORKBOOK | The Essential Criteria for Creating the Perfect Healing Plan
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Fetured in Feedspots top 20 podcasts for emotional abuse https://blog.feedspot.com/emotional_abuse_podcasts/
whatsthedifferencebetweenanarcissistandaparasite #multidimentionaltrauaa #feedspottop20emotionalabusepodcasts
Narcissistic Abuse is full and total abuse. The aim is to kill you mentally and deprive you of autonomy, independence and take over your mind, where you mistake their thoughts as your own. #samvaknin
The MINDFUCKERY Podcast has been selected by #Feedspot panelist as one of the Top 20 Emotional Abuse Podcasts on the web. https://blog.feedspot.com/emotional_abuse_podcasts/
- Thrive global https://community.thriveglobal.com/a-z-of-emotional-abuse/
- Soul plan https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/soul-plan-reading
- Healing programs https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/theoriginalwound
- How do you heal after the Narcissist has totally destroyed your life? https://youtu.be/JwjUPPIYdew
thriveglobal #soulplanreading
Words are very powerful they have the power to destroy and to build us up.
I heard a very powerful statement in the tv series #thisisus and I felt compelled to talk about the time that can be lost waiting or believing this is your fault or healing from toxic and abusive relationships.
The MindFuckery Podcast has been featured as one of the top 20 podcasts on emotional abuse https://blog.feedspot.com/emotional_abuse_podcasts/
Scapegoat Narcissistic Mother and her Daughter
The narcissistic or emotionally abusive mother needs to be involved in every area of their children's life.
Her daughter is an extension of herself she doesn’t allow her to develop her own personality or express her own individuality
The NARCISSIST steal years of your life it is crucial to Divorce from them Emotionally https://youtu.be/_Xc5WcLhXnk
narcissisticmother #scapegoat #ancestralhealing
Inner-stand how your pain is a guide and how you can heal from the Mindfuckery.
Feedspot Top 20 Emotional Abuse Podcasts
MINDFUCKERY is the collision of COGNITIVE DISSONANCE and GASLIGHTING. And from the name I am sure you can INNER-STAND this isn’t something pleasant to experience.
WoundTalking© is crucial in that process
This week #Feedspot added the MINDFUCKERY PODCAST to their Top 20 Emotional Abuse Podcasts.
Emotional healing is life-changing and as a woundologist I study wounds and help others talk and heal them.
Emotional abuse is the total destruction of a life
It is the breakdown.
Like a death of self.
It will take you through the different stages of grief
You were attacked, persecuted and killed emotionally.
If you are not careful when the abuser moved on to what they haven’t destroyed you might end up finishing the job for them. Demolished and distraught you then destroy yourself.
They sit back with their popcorn and watch with amusement.
Your life is with rubble but not enough to create a foundation.
Once you get over the initial stage of grief you can learn new techniques.
This total destruction isn’t a bad thing as once you start to work your way out you can start to create the life you were born to live.
You can be your own parent
You can be your own best friend
You can be your own healer
You can be your own therapist
Who wound is it anyway?
The Scapegoated Child and they total destruction caused by the Narcissist
After posting How do you heal after the Narcissist has totally destroyed your life? on Saturday the video was reposted by Prof. Sam Vaknin and a few days before that I edited my video The Scapegoated Child and the Emotionally Abusive Mother from YouTube and posted in on TIKTOK and within a few days when I recorded the podcast it had had 22.2K views - as I type it is now at 24k.
So for this week I wanted to combine the two and talk about the interconnectedness of the two. And also finish with a subject I have wanted to discuss for a long time What Happens when the narcissistic parent dies?
How Do You Recover from NARCISSISTIC Abuse? https://youtu.be/n9aob8tGX1c
NPD #woundtalking #samvaknin
How do you rebuild your life after abuse and the real reason for the cycle of abuse.
Taking responsibility for the role you played is going to reset you and kick you out of the rumination
https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/it-stops-here-workshop
I posted a YouTube video on Saturday titled can the Narcissist change? for this podcast I talk about the wounds that would ask this question and how to see a word in a sentence as a #redflag
YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/c/TheEmotionalAbuseSanctuary
Have you been asking Can the Narcissist Change?
The Rise and Thrive Tribe
Financial abuse is an aspect of ‘coercive control’ – a pattern of controlling, threatening and degrading behaviour that restricts a victims’ freedom.
It’s important to understand that financial abuse seldom happens in isolation: in most cases the abuser uses other behaviours to reinforce the financial control.
Financial abuse involves the misuse of money limiting the control of their partner.
Are you wondering if you have experienced financial coercive control? https://youtu.be/4nnMLx6GMi0
What is Coercive Financial Control? What is Financial Abuse? https://youtu.be/v-jxthAAOBc
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financialcoercivecontrol #financailabuse #selfesteem
So many emotions going on at the moment I have seen a lot of people reaching out who are in pain
So I share with you some inner-standing and processing of these emotions.
The role of #oxytocin and how you can create this yourself when you are craving the abuser or the relationship.
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This week I talk about loneliness and about who you are, who you really are and asked the questions; is this because of the relationship that you don't know who you are, or have you ever known who you really are?
Also look at various reasons for this deep loneliness.
You can book a Soul Plan Reading here: https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/soul-plan-reading
soulplanreading #loneliness #woundtalking #honestconversations
Last week was the first year of the MINDFUCKERY PODCAST and I mentioned WOUND TALKING, and I mentioned moon walking but it wasn’t the tune that was barely audible trying to break through it was JIVE TALKIN' by the BEE GEE'S and I looked up the lyrics:
It's just your jive talkin'
You're telling me lies, yeah
Jive talkin'
You wear a disguise
Jive talkin'
So misunderstood, yeah
Jive talkin'
You really no good
WOUND TALKING© is something I will be talking about and showing you on my 3 day challenge and it is something I do with 1:1 clients - if you are serious about healing these, these woulds are made for talking…
And they really are!
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Today I am celebrating the first anniversary! It's been an exciting year, and I'm thrilled to have you here to celebrate with me.
I launched this podcast a year ago, and we had no idea what to expect. I wanted it to be a place where I could help you through the sticky gloop that comes after the relationship is over - wounds have been my thing for a long time - I feel other peoples wounds and I wanted to share as much as I could and will continue to do that. These relationships are CONDITIONAL and I had discovered through my own journey that there was more needed than just breaking the trauma bond DIVORCING EMOTIONALLY was key to the healing but also Healing the original wound and it is this one element that helps you change everything. The original wound is where it starts and where it ends.
I wanted to share the INNER-STAND that we all have access to and show you various tools that will help you process the emotions that are happening inside you. Its like having a pile of wool and you are trying to untangle the colours, if you pull at one strand you might be lucky and comes out or it tightens further around another strand and you have a harder job.
I was so excited to share my tools, inner standing ideas and insights with you, but we weren't sure how many people would even listen.
I also speak about my challenge this month where we are going go do some WOUND TALKING© (not jive talking or moon walking)
- Create a safe space for your healing
- Understand your needs and lay the foundations
- Remove overwhelm to create the life you deserve.
REGISTER HERE ⬇️
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Over the last couple of weeks I started to share a little bit of my story and the recovery route I took - this week I talk about the codependency, coercive control and cognitive dissonance.
Next week is the birthday editionl.
It had been listening to Mario Martinez recently and he was saying unless you are at the point you had comes to terms with the breakdown of the relationship you shouldn’t leave otherwise it will turn you crazy…
So I wanted to share a bit of my story about my crazy experience.
npd #cognitivedissonance #mindfuck #mindfuckery
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Last week I started to share a little bit of my story and the recovery route I took - I am sharing more over the next few weeks leading up to the birthday edition on the 4th April.
It had been listening to Mario Martinez recently and he was saying unless you are at the point you had comes to terms with the breakdown of the relationship you shouldn’t leave otherwise it will turn you crazy…
So I wanted to share a bit of my story about my crazy experience.
I said at the end of last week I would talk about the nightmares and trauma after the relationship was over.
Today I talk about the nightmares and bad dreams and what I did to heal from them.
npd #nightmaresfromabuse #nightmares
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In this episode I want to share a little bit of my story and the recovery route I took and I will share more over the next few weeks leading up to the birthday edition in April.
I share a bit of my story about the mindfuckery I experienced and I am still wondering if I was crazier in the relationship or out of it
Knowledge is Power • The Questions • Narcissistic AbuseKnowledge is Power • Why No Closure? • Narcissistic AbuseKnowledge is Power • Why does it hurt so much? • Narcissistic AbuseKnowledge is Power • What is the narcissist doing? • what happens when the narcissist leaves?Knowledge is Power • Why have they gone no contact? • Narcissistic Abuse
In this one I talk about the rollercoaster of emotions and the importance of grieving the past, the present, and the future. Why divorcing emotionally is so important and will help you get the closure you need.
And ask if the abuse is a parasite…
Grieving the Past Present and Future
The A to Z of Emotional Abuse
divorcematters
When relationships breakdown down, healthy people are able to acknowledged what isn’t working and they are also able to split assets in a healthy non-judgemental way. This isn’t going to happening if you are separating or divorcing from an emotionally abusive person. And there are a few reasons for this
Ask yourself if you had a young child with you who was cranky or needed attention what would you to for them or with them?
⬆️ and this one question can change your life
I don’t believe it is healthy not to take responsibly for the role you played in the relationship, and I will hopefully explain why - if you are left feeling that is BS, please message me personally. This isn’t about me wanting to trigger anyone.
The YouTube video I recorded over the weekend was about the empath, the codependant and narcissist, I was going to expand a little more on the podcast - is an empath created or are they born that way?
I believe both. Some will have a nurturing environment that will support them. Others won’t have a support system, they become the support system. These empaths fine tune their skills, when the atmosphere change even a degree, they notice it. These empaths know if they will need to leap into action or if they will need to be running for safety.
A child living in this environment learns to put others needs above their own - they learn to become a sponge for every person who walks into their life - they are the shock absorbers of life.
How you can use the chaos to change your life.
You experienced the chaos in the relationship but it is heightened when it is over.
Unlike physical abuse The damage caused puts you into a state of confusion, you had no idea that the ABUSE was taking place; like Chinese water torture, it happened very, very slowly and it turned you insane!
But you can use this chaos once you have got hold of it and calmed it down for something more powerful.
thedivorcesanctuary.com
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Break the cycle and heal with wounds
Instead of looking for Reflags do this instead
I have been where you are right now, it was my version of what you are going through but every level I have experienced because this time I wanted to experience everything.
There is no need to wonder if your boundaries are being squashed or to reach out to others questioning if something is a RED FLAG when you use this technique
boundaries #redflags #nonnegotiable #divorcematters
An eye fo an eye
I think it is a natural response when you experience being hurt of duped by someone that you hope they experience something similar or treated in a similar way, particularly when you have been hurt by them and are in pain.
Is it a natural response when you experience being hurt of duped by someone that you hope they experience something similar or treated in a similar way?
Use the pain to guide your healing and lets get this party started!
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Grief is such an important part of your healing journey | https://checkout.stripe.com/c/pay/cs_live_a1xWZqFMy49c5sAEWDtpTpnXpHrNiVJrQCcHiScqjELgwIqUfUHX9gbXPy#fidkdWxOYHwnPyd1blppbHNgWjA0TE1oNG1GcjJiYjRzbHFGQHdGYXR0dDVwU09gcUtuT2wzcTZgSlNmZGNgXUxSXEp%2FXWxXVktVbnZNTjJtM39qTDFwNDN1SW5%2FMn9yNlBvdFVSSjwwMlRWNTVmXTddN3RdTicpJ3VpbGtuQH11anZgYUxhJz8nMnZMNTVoYlFCY1xhPVNsY19kJ3gl
You might think yeah I am so far away from that at the moment or wonder what is bliss…
I remember going through so many emotions - a rollercoaster of them over a few hours would be a great description and then as I started to recover over days and then weeks…
Following your bliss is about discovering what make you happy. If you think of yourself of train tracks and you come to a junction, perhaps the lever has been stuck, you have been here before, can you imaging those long levers that put a train on a different line?
Your bliss has been waiting for you, its your birth right. When you follow your bliss, you are enjoying life within you, all the time. Good things are happening to you and around you!
- when you can finally say I'm free https://youtu.be/mR7Y8CMCDug
- why you need to emotionally divorce them first https://youtu.be/rafR5HMiiC0
findingyourbliss #Soulpurpose #findingyourwhy
Not all emotional abusers are particularly clever but what they all know is how to manipulate people to get what they want so they made it their job a very early stage in the relationship to understand you and they knew exactly what you were worth but at the end of the relationship they devalued and discarded you and you felt empty lonely and worthless
at the beginning of the relationship the emotional abuser did some calculations and they worked out your ROI
Return on Investment (ROI) is a performance measure used to evaluate the efficiency of an investment or compare the efficiency of a number of different investments. ROI tries to directly measure the amount of return on a particular investment, relative to the investment's cost.
Episode 29 The Queens Gambit
https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-ebynx-12f8003
Episode 40 BOX BREATHING ON STEROIDS https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-536fk-135cd67
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IT STOPS HERE IT STOPS NOW | https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/it-stops-here-workshop
The Essential Criteria for Creating the Perfect Healing Plan #dirtyjohn #netflixdirtyjohn
B is for BOUNDARIES • The definition of a BOUNDARY is a line which marks an area; a dividing line. We understand the BOUNDARY that surrounds a property to mark an area.
Personal BOUNDARIES are the same, they are the limits we create to keep us safe and the way we will allow other people to behave towards us.
The EMOTIONAL ABUSER understands your BOUNDARIES during the IDEALISATION stage and they very slowly broke them down. They started by pushing against them to see how far they could go and what they could get away with.
You may have told them you weren’t happy about their behaviour and they apologised but continued.
You may have caught them cheating and they were so sorry. But during this stage they are IDEALISING you and getting you addicted to the hormones that keep you trapped in the relationship. It is done so subtly you don’t realise this is what they are doing. No means no: it doesn’t mean maybe.
Set boundaries and make sure you stick to them.
Check-in with yourself and ask how you feel and if this is really what you want…
The A to Z of Emotional Abuse - get your copy here. https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/a-zofemotionalabuse
Whats your ROI? Know your worth, the narcissist does | https://youtu.be/GBo7LIcInk0
WELCOME TO EPISODE 39 AND WELCOME TO 2023 in this episode I want to share with you a technique to balance the stress.
How have you been over the last few weeks?
This time of year you can be forced into situations where you are with people you really don’t want to be with.
I have been doing a bit of binge watching of Greys Anatomy, I have see some episodes over the years but mainly because my daughters both watched it and I would be around. So I thought I would start at the beginning and Merediths relationship with her mother is something I wanted to discuss ALSO over the 3 years I have done a bit of #biohacking manifestation and I did some work with someone I met on that course and during the session she flipped box breathing on hits head for me so I will be sharing that as well!
What is the difference between a overt, covert or vulnerable narcissist? Everything you need to know
The Scapegoated Child and the Emotionally Abusive Mother
Have you ever wondered why NARCISSISTIC MOTHERS Treat Their Daughters differently?
greysanatomy #boxbreathing #narcissiticabuse
I am not going to lie, I have had better years, I have also had worse.
For me personally I never felt like 2022 got going, but on the other hand it did.
I finally got off this island, not just once, but a few times, something I didn't think would happen. Initially I made it via a ferry over the most expensive piece to water to a very wet and windy Isle of White. I can't tell you how happy that made me.
here are the links I was talking about
Do resolutions work? https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/single-post/2013/04/03/resolutions-do-they-work
Chakra Meditation https://youtu.be/phw1HrIuKp0
Guided Meditation https://youtu.be/ixxhz790Ifc
The misconception of healing from Narcissistic abuse https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-mindfuckery-podcast/id1617984105?i=1000590765279
and in 2023 I will share with you the name of my new book
Sending you loads of love until next year ♥️
Misconception
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noun
a view or opinion that is incorrect because based on faulty thinking or understanding.
Let me be clear moving on is hard.
Emotional abuse is horrific.
WHEN YOU GET TRIGGERED, IT IS A MESSAGE FROM YOUR BODY. ONLY YOU WILL KNOW THE ANSWER.
They eroded every boundary you set.
Recovering from this takes dedication and a will.
It is a misconception that burning photos or deleting their number is all you need to do to move on.
It is a misconception that just moving on is all you need to do to get over them.
It is a misconception that telling the abuser who they are is all you need to do to get closure.
YOU MIGHT HAVE REALISED YOU ARE NOT GOING TO GET AN APOLOGY.
YOU MIGHT HAVE REALISED YOU ARE NOT GOING TO GET CLOSURE.
YOU MIGHT HAVE REALISED THE PAIN ISN’T JUST GOING TO GO AWAY.
I see comments in mine and other groups which say move on, which is not helpful. By ignoring glossing over the pain, you are just putting a bandaid over a wound. These wounds run deep into your soul.
You don’t just move on from these relationships. Comments like "close the door in their face" or "burn their stuff", will not help you heal on the level you need to.
NOT EVERYONE HAS THIS OPPORTUNITY.
AND FOR THE ONES THAT DO GET IT, THERE WILL ONLY BE A FEW BRAVE ENOUGH TO TAKE IT.
Your body is talking to you, please listen.
Your body knows where the wound is, and it wants you to know on a conscious level which is why it nudges you. Your body wants to heal on a deeper level.
After everything you have been through, you deserve peace!
Divorcing Emotionally means they can no longer hurt you.
Also I show you how to embrace your inner queen and use her power
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Narcissists, emotional abusers and other personality disordered individuals seem to love ruining any event that you hold precious.
Stop and think for a moment, look back over the various events, birthdays weddings Christmas Easter even holidays are never drama free.
You may be entering the season to be jolly feeling anything but!
It might be you have the left over trauma from the relationship, being gaslit and those feelings that would rise around this time of year are just waiting for the trigger…
There could be a lot of triggers
Breathing - https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8
Grounding - https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
Was it the Grinch who stole Christmas? What emotions are coming up for you around this time? I remember it well, I felt so alone and after a series of hoovers I managed to go no contact which helped me so much until I got a message from someone saying have you seen this…
This time of year can bring up so many emotions so in this podcast I have also included some was of staying grounded and what is really going on with the upgraded new version of your ex!
Grounding - https://youtu.be/xb90Cxfqeh8
Breathing - https://youtu.be/AJrA7BGAiwI
mindfuckery #grinch #NPD
I did a podcast a few weeks ago that I titled the queens gambit
I woke up the other day with todays title so I quickly made note before I fully woke up and wondered what that was - I have special moments before I full awake - I get some much insight into things
A few weeks ago I was talking about how powerful we are and how the
The emotional abuser does’t see people they see objects
You’re the queen what’s your next move?
The Queen's Gambit is a move designed to secure control of the center of the board.
Episode 29 The Queens Gambit
The Essential Criteria for Creating the Perfect Healing Plan
Welcome to episode 33
"Let's start at the very beginning" said Maria
"A very good place to start
When you read, you begin with A-B-C
When you sing, you begin with Do-Re-Mi…"
Changing your energy and using a trigger like a Caterpillar and create a metamorphosis in your life
Are you Spiritually Bypassing your healing? https://youtu.be/SZ_LyiPPxdg
narcissistictriggers #emotionalabusetriggers
Inner-standing the importance of trauma is getting a bigger and bigger message, it is the basis of a lot of what we experience and also allow into our lives.
I started working in the area of healing past life trauma in 2002 and over the last 12 years I have moved into the this life and more recently how the trauma we experience in childhood imparts our lives.
Last weekend I watched a few videos with #gabormate and his new book #themythofnormal and I had to question some of my decisions, inner-standing the trauma that an abuser has experienced verses my boundaries and this week I talk about the difference between a trauma bond and childhood trauma and the questions I had to go through to check in with my decisions.
What's the meaning of the phrase 'Revenge is a dish best served cold'?
The proverbial phrase 'revenge is a dish best served cold' expresses the notion that vengeance is more satisfying when exacted some time after the harm that instigated it.I have been seeing a lot of questions again about Karma and using tactics on the abuser they used on you and getting back at them.
Some common examples of coercive behaviour are:
- Isolating you from friends and family or making you feel guilty for spending time with them
- Depriving you of basic needs, such as food,
- Monitoring your time
- Monitoring you via online communication tools or spyware
- Taking control over aspects of your everyday life, such as where you can go, who you can see, what you can wear and when you can sleep
- Depriving you access to support services, such as medical services
- Repeatedly putting you down, such as saying you’re worthless
- Humiliating, degrading or dehumanising you
- Controlling your finances
- Making threats or intimidating you
COERCIVE CONTROL is described as an act, or a pattern of assault carried out through forms of threats, humiliation and intimidation.
Being a Narcissist isn’t against the law but Coercive Control is! https://youtu.be/SkyjCJ-6hUI
It stops here | it stops now | https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/it-stops-here-workshop
The emotional abuser does’t see people they see objects.
I was on a Reiki 1 course I was invited along to help on the course and during the weekend we were about to do a practice session on each other and the Reiki master said this to me 'if only you could see yourself in the way other people see you'.
She then went on to say 'if only you can yourself as your children seen you'.
There are moments this statement comes flying back into your conscious thoughts.
Resources
Chess.com
• know your worth the abuser does https://youtu.be/GBo7LIcInk0
• 7 Levels of Supply | Understanding your role in the Supply Chain https://youtu.be/G5neFPBhtz0
One of the most important things you can do is grieve the relationship, the past where the abuser created their persona and where you together created the fake future. The present for the life you should be living, this pain wasn't something you agreed to and the future.
I also talk about the wounds of abandonment, shame, and betrayal and your childhood wounds, something that is really hard to acknowledge.
sending you loads of love
downloadable course - grieve the past present and future https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/grieving-past-present-future
fakefuture #grief #grievingpastpresentfuture
Have you ever heard statements like "I don’t know how you couldn’t see that as abuse" Or "Shouldn’t you be over this by now?"
Or perhaps you may have even frustrated people who thought they were trying to help you but were actually triggering you and spiralling you into rumination
I have recorded a few videos on the scapegoat and this moment in time is a perfect moment to go inside and track down the wounds from our childhood, the ones that might pop up every so often
They are the wounds that stopped you from realising this was abuse and they are the ones that keep you trapped in rumination believing this was all your fault.
HEALING THE SCAPEGOAT | https://youtu.be/76MWcOdrvno
Scapegoat • Golden Child • Invisible Child | Roles allocated by Emotionally Unhealthy Parents. | https://youtu.be/K0mWdy5_BiM
Scapegoating and Siblings | Scapegoating as a learnt behaviour | https://youtu.be/CdjXxD32OfU
The Scapegoated Child and the Emotionally Abusive Mother | https://youtu.be/A6O4Vz6tngM
Six months ago I launched the Mindfuckery podcast and although this usually goes out on a Tuesday today and the launch both happened on a Wednesday.
I talk about why it is crucial to create a safe space and the power of synchronicity is this episode.
selfcare
synchronicity
Should you give the narcissist another chance?
You were either discarded or you made a decision that this is all too much and you want to end the relationship and then the abuser decides they want to change - this relationship is important to them for it to end now or they now realise what you had together, they can’t function without you or They may declare you were the one that got away
they so they want another chance - what do you do?
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When something ends and one person isn’t expecting it that can take them out of their comfort zone to say the least - but when that person has been in an abusive relationship it isn’t just getting to the same place your partner is in, they are poles apart.
As you start to realise that perhaps they really aren’t coming back it might trigger a wound of injustice (like other wounds) this one creates and emotional reaction within you.
The Wound of #Injustice is likely to originate from a #motherwound if you are female and a #fatherwound if you are male, if you have followed any of my work you will hear me talk about the original wounds.
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It Stops Here It Stops Now Course
What is wrong with me? I'm not a stupid person
Coming out of this type of relationship raises more questions than you get answers for. You will get no closure so you hare just left hanging, trying to inner stand what you did wrong, trying to understand what happened, trying to make sense of the feeling overwhelm, trying to balance your emotions and trying to get them back.
It's Mindfuckery!
And I will share with you a statement that changed my journey there and then!
YouTube Video - is it really over?
Learn the tools to heal from this | IT STOPS HERE IT STOPS NOW
TO HELP YOU process what is happening if you are experiencing overwhelming unfamiliar emotions that feel like they possess you SO YOU be able to recognise what is happening to you and start to take back some control over your life whilst you learn the tools to heal on a deeper level.
If you are going through a difficult time at the moment and trying to clarity journalling is an amazing tool. You can use it to review your day, get clarity after waking in the morning or at any point that fits in with your routine.
And I have included 6 prompts to help you get started
Warrior Goddess Archetype Meditation
Welcome to episode 21 this is a hard one for me, and I am late recording and posting it, this is not just about the original wound it is about a woman who lost her life due to domestic violence. I received a message last week from one of my group members who shared a link telling me it was in the news where they live, Carissa Odegaard was another group member and had lost her life and the trauma had happened in front of her children in this episode I want to talk about trauma and the strength Carissa shared.
UK | Women's Aid
USA | Domestic Shelters
AFRICA | National Shelter Movement
ASIA | Asians Womens Shelter
Learn how to have honest conversations with yourself | Course it stops here it stops now. Incorporate Grounding into you healing and incorporate breathing exercises | Beat Rumination www.thedivorcesanctuary.com
This week in my Facebook Group THE DIVORCE SANCTUARY I up a post up FINISH THIS SENTENCE - I find it hard to… people are still posting on it but I went through some of the statements and offered some strategies to help over come them.
FINISH THIS SENTENCE - I find it hard to…
Keep going everyday
Communicate with my children
Stop the internal conversations Course it stops here Grounding Beat Rumination thedivorcesanctuary.com
Frankie Goes to Hollywood sang about the power of Love but I don’t know of anyone who has sung about words but they are the way we communicate. And they can conjure up different emotions within in us. There are words of hate of words of encouragement, words of anger...
Words are very powerful and they can have your questioning yourself. With the wrong intonation in the wrong place can change the meaning of something.
For example shifting the intonation from one word to another it changes the meaning.
And you might have found yourself saying I didn’t mean that or hearing the abuser say I didn’t mean that.
The A to Z of Emotional Abuse
Dr Emoto's water experiment
Kate Pearson this is us
I have been grieving this week and some of the emotions came up in waves reminding me of the grief I went through at the end of a toxic relationship.
When you come out of an emotionally abusive or toxic relationship there are so many things going on in your body and your mind.
Just like a drug addict or someone trying to give up an addiction you have cravings, only your craving is a person.
You are trapped and you had no idea the abuse was going on.
The links mentioned are
The A to Z of Emotional Abuse
Grieve the Past the present and the future
It Stops Here, It Stops Now
Thrive Global Article
to find out ways of working with me you can visit my website thedivorcesanctuary.com
It can be such a confusing time coming out of these relationships and you question everything and you can't trust yourself, we have 3 core wounds and one of those is betrayal. I have been listening to #CarolineMyss and #MarioMartinez again recently with different ears and I talk you through 3 ways of kick starting your healing today at the end of the podcast.
You can order my course Grieving the Past Present and Future here
You can order my course It Stops here It Stops now! here
You can order my book The A to Z of Emotional abuse here .
Sending you loads of love
It can be such a confusing time coming out of these relationships and you question everything and you can't trust yourself so in this episode I want to help you inner stand the abuse with some of the tools the abuser uses to bind you up in their invisible chains.
You can order my book The A to Z of Emotional abuse here or you can use this link to the article on Thrive Global to play Emotional bingo.
If you would like to learn how to have honest conversations with yourself the link to my course is here.
Sending you loads of love
The biggest disease on the planet is loneliness…
We are meant to live in tribes - we may need to step out and be alone, but that isn’t the same as feeling lonely
Have you ever been surrounded by people but felt lonely?
Having or finding your LIFE PURPOSE is KEY!
thedivorcesanctuary #mindfuckery
https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/it-stops-here-workshop
Soul Plan Reading https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com/soul-plan-reading
Welcome to Episode 14 in this episode I want to go back to basics.
This is coming up again in the my group The Divorce Sanctuary FB the question is should you give the emotional abuser another chance when they declare that they have realised they have made a mistake or they have realised how important you are to them - this is hoovering.
And I also give you a technique to help you if you are in this position wondering if you would should stay or have them back.
It stops here | It stops now workshop is here
And you can watch my YouTube video should you give the narcissist another chance here
Sending you loads of love until next time!
Welcome to episode 13 in this one I want to talk about the rollercoaster of emotions
Emotional Abuse is unique and it is not like the ending of any relationship, a bit like a verruca it penetrates on so many different levels unless you get the whole of the virus it lays their dormant waiting to be triggered again.
If you have experienced emotional abuse then this will not be what you have or are experiencing.
You dance round a circle with them
IDEALISATION | DEVALUATION | DISCARD
The damage caused puts you in to a state of confusion, you had no idea abuse was taking place; like Chinese water torture, it happened very very slowly and it turned you insane!
This is about Power and Control
Grounding, breathing, and honest conversations are key, and you too can learn the route to accelerate your healing and create a new life ♥️]
Sending you loads of love
Welcome to episode 12 in this episode I want to about the original wound and why it is so important to inner-stand what happens there is the foundation for our future.
I am here TO REMIND YOU THAT LOVE SHOULD BE UNCONDITIONAL and DIVORCING EMOTIONALLY IS life changing
EACH WEEK I WILL discuss SOME OF THE TERMS YOU MAY HEAR ALONG THIS JOURNEY AND I WILL HELP YOU INNER-STAND AND process what is happening INSIDE YOU!
I WILL HELP YOU FIND THE BEST TOOLS AS YOU start to take back THE control over your own life AND learn the tools to heal on a deeper level BECOMing THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF.
And in the words of Whitney "I believe the children are our future Teach them well and let them lead the way"
References:
Yale University - It causes so much damage Emotional Abuse and Brain Structural Damage
Dr Helen Fisher and her team at Rutgers University
Workshop - It stops here It stops now
In this episode I want to discuss reactions and why the emotional abuse loves to play with your emotions
This is coming up again in the my group The Divorce Sanctuary on FB so I thought I would talk about it this week.
They love pushing your buttons and they do or say things to get a reaction.
During the idealisation stage they listened to you - they validated you - they heard you in a way no one had ever done before they know your wounds - they know exactly where you wounds are.
They want you to respond this way - in fact they NEED you to react in this way - they are then able to say - this is what I had to put up with - look at this crazy person…
LEARN MY STOP DROP ROLL TECHNIQUE, I have ALSO used this in another video 7 Things you can do to Outsmart a Narcissist.
Healing the Original Wound is the ideal scenario but you can learn the tools to help you recover from this abuse.
Welcome to episode 10 in this episode I want to ask the question
Does GREY ROCK really work?
Grey Rock is a tool that can help you manage the contact you have with an emotionally abusive person, but does it really work?
No contact is the best way to manage a relationship with an emotionally abusive person, drop kick them out of your life and shut the door. But it isn’t alway as simple as that or easy to do.
Perhaps they are a family member or you work with this person and feel no contact is not an option either.
You might be in the process of divorcing them or you might have children together and they use them as an excuse to be in contact with you. Or you use the children to still play a part in their lives.
And as always I give your ideas for making this work and for your own healing.
You can find out more about the work I do at thedivorcesanctuary.com
Sending you loads of love
Welcome to episode 9 in this one I want to talk about emotional abuse what is it and the tools the abuser’s uses to tie you up in their invisible chains
Unless you are a survivor of EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have no idea what it is like to have conversations in your head with a person you are no longer in contact with
Emotional Abuse is insidious which is proceeding in a gradual, subtle way, but with very harmful effects.
Unlike physical abuse The damage caused puts you into a state of confusion, you had no idea that the ABUSE was taking place; like Chinese water torture, it happened very, very slowly and it turns you insane!
In this episode I share a little bit of my story and talk about how and why I wrote my second book The A to Z of Emotional Abuse and I have taken just a few terms you might hear and described them.
Terms
MINDFUCKERY | CYCLE OF ABUSE | CIRCULAR CONVERSATIONS
ALIENATION | COERCIVE CONTROL | BAIT | BELITTLING
BLAME SHIFTING | FAKE TEARS | FUTURE FAKING | GASLIGHTING
JEALOUSY | MANUFACTURED EMOTIONS | MIRRORING
NARCISSISTIC RAGE | OBJECTIFICATION | PATHOLOGICAL LYING
PROJECTING | SHAMING | SILENT TREATMENT | SMEAR CAMPAIGN
TRIANGULATION | VICTIM | WORD SALAD | WALKING ON EGGSHELLS
Other resources I mention:
Grieving the Past Present & Future It Stops Here, It Stops NOW!
Examples of coercive behaviour: Isolating you, depriving you of basic needs, monitoring your time, taking control over aspects of your everyday life, humiliating, degrading or dehumanising you, controlling your finances, making threats or intimidating you
STOP the Rumination!
Find out more
That gut feeling you have that you should or shouldn’t do something, say something, or believe someone, is so important and yet you may have a tendency to over-ride that ‘feeling’ and analyse the facts being presented to you.
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Emotional Abuse is unique and it is not like the ending of any relationship, a bit like a verruca it penetrates on so many different levels unless you get the whole of the virus it lays their dormant waiting to be triggered again.
The way you respond or react is your responsibility
They want you to respond, they NEED you to react so they can say look at this crazy person…
The favourite tool of the emotional abuser triangulation.
I think gaslighting is their favourite tool and I am going to say triangulation is maybe their 2nd favourite one.
The cycle of abuse is a vessel and the abuser moves you from idealisation to devaluation back to idealisation to devaluation to discard to idealisation and they get you addicted to hormones which have you chasing them and their attention to get a hit of attention.
And this is why I want you to ask WHO is running my life?
ENMESHMENT is a dysfunctional state where two or more people have poor boundaries that can occur between a parent and child, whole families, or adult couples.
They put on a MASK and played the character they had so carefully extracted from you. They very slowly broke down your boundaries, pushing against them to see how far they could go and what they could get away with. And very slowly they had eroded your boundaries, and you became dependent on them. Your identity was eroded.
For my #1 podcast, I am talk about the term Mindfuckery to help you process what is happening to you.
MAKE SURE YOU STAY TO THE END AS I WILL SHARE WITH YOU 2 things you can start using now this minute to start taking back control
Grounding Meditation: https://youtu.be/fpg3hHssSrc Box Breathing: https://youtu.be/-8B-jWjHEt8 https://www.thedivorcesanctuary.com