Unpacking Mormonism: Recent Episodes
Sarah Westbrook
Unpacking is in the title of the show and it applies to all of us; being self-aware requires us to be critical of unhelpful patterns, but we also have to give credit and forgive ourselves as well. Understanding why you did what you did, is extraordinarily helpful.
Sarah an ex-Mo and licensed counselor on a journey to unpack Mormonism and other religious trauma is joined by her husband Mason, a former bishop and active member of the Mormon church.
Sarah and Mason have been married for 23 years and have 7 children together. Sarah is an author, podcast personality and counsels in her private practice. Mason is a retired Army officer and registered nurse anesthetist.
We hope our show will demonstrate how to communicate with respect on difficult topics that we don't always agree about; but still take time to have a chuckle about our personal foibles and peeves. This is of supreme importance as we learn about ourselves.
Using the lessons in our podcasts, you will learn how to become your authentic self and that you can still be in a good place, even with changes to make in your life.
We love hearing from you, drop us a line and let us know how your heart and head are doing. daisygirlcommunications@gmail.com
Not like that you dirty birdy. Get on the mental health fitness path with us and maybe we can get our brains under some control, you dig?
"If Sarah is feeling rage or anger, what that normally looks like for me is that in my forehead, I get really tight or my face will get really hot. My jaw gets clenched. I tend to like grind my teeth when I'm angry. or frustrated or definitely when I'm raging I don't feel like I can swallow as much so my mouth will fill up with a lot of spit my chest will be pounding like I can hear and feel my heart my biceps my arms my hands they all start to shake I tend to or want to hit punch throw things when I'm in a rage. My stomach gets really hot and tight, like I can feel automatic indigestion. It's like my body becomes hyper aware of that. My knees and legs actually feel kind of weak, which might seem off. You know, a lot of people are like, oh, I get a surge of energy all through my body so that I can run in whatnot I don't get that in my legs I tend to get really weak and in my upper body I get that energy which is probably like throwing hitting punching uh I am a fighter when I get angry so I utilize my words the most I notice that my back will get stiff and sore but my bum so here we've got our bum and our groin we do have a lot of nerve endings there..."
From Georgetown University: Neuroscience, also known as Neural Science, is the study of how the nervous system develops, its structure, and what it does. Not only is neuroscience concerned with the normal functioning of the nervous system, but also what happens to the nervous system when people have neurological, psychiatric and neurodevelopmental disorders.
From the Braive YouTube channel https://youtu.be/jEHwB1PG_-Q?si=kTaBP94za40rSwAc
What is faith? What are facts? How are faith and facts intertwined, and how do they differ? How does this connect to blind faith or faith without evidence? This week’s episode of Unpacking Mormonism tackles these compelling questions, proving that this topic is as relevant as ever. With Mason at the helm alongside family friend Ian, prepare for an engaging and uplifting experience!
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Hello, and welcome to Unpacking with Sarah. I'm your host, Sarah Westbrook, a licensed professional counselor in multiple states, here to talk about what we're going to be doing with our new show. So grab a coffee and sit down with us. Our goal is to, excuse me, broadcast live every Thursday morning at nine o'clock central. And as you can see from behind me, we are broadcasting from my farm. This is my actual front yard of the farm, the Daisy Girl Wellness and Rehabilitation Farm, which we can talk about at another time. I also wanted to wish everybody a happy Fourth of July.
So this is if you're watching this later, it is July Fourth of twenty twenty four. It is Independence Day here in the United States. That's my Independence Day. Cowgirl hat. I'm going to be out riding here after we're done recording. I am deeply, deeply grateful for the sacrifices of the men and women who made it so that we could live a very privileged life here in the United States. I have had the opportunity to travel to multiple areas across the world, and we truly are a blessed country. we truly do have many privileges that people in other parts of the world do not. So thank you to our men and women in arms, those and those who support those families, both from the distant past and today. Very, very, very grateful for your sacrifice. So what is unpacking with Sarah all about? So as I said before, professional counselor.
And the things that I see for a lot of my clients is they'll come out, they're making great strides, they're making progress, but one hour dedicated a week to driving to counseling, sitting through counseling, driving back to work or home. So it ends up being a two hour ordeal both ways. And the cost, the going cost right now for if you're a cash pay client or counseling is anywhere from about a hundred to a hundred and eighty dollars an hour session. There are so many of us who just can't afford that. I mean, I'll be honest, me paying cash outright for counseling would make my access very limited and I'm crazy busy.
So even the time commitment can be very, very difficult. I'm here to bridge that gap. I the other thing I notice in counseling is that oftentimes and other podcasts is we get a lot of theory. We get a lot of really great ideas, but we miss the application piece. We don't necessarily know automatically how to turn those ideas into action. into something that is usable, something that we can apply in our day-to-day lives. And so, again, we're here to bridge that gap. I want to, again, dedicate today's introduction to freedom, but I want to dedicate it to the freedom from maladaptive thought and behavioral patterns.
We all have them. myself included. And I want us to be able to learn skills, understand the theory, and then apply them in such a way that we can release these patterns that are no longer serving us well. Those things that, you know, we have really great intentions. We've got, you know, they're genuine. We want self-improvement. And our outcomes just aren't meeting the goals or the hopes that we had desired. And so I'm here to help you do that and to give you this podcast, this, you know, weekly wisdom that will help you go from the, I understand all of this content I'm hearing and put it into practice in your daily lives. I have worksheets that are coming. We're going to have the how-tos.
We're going to break it all down very simply, the same way I would for my clients in session. So you're going to be able to access a lot of these resources. at low or no cost to you. The things that I'm teaching you here for educational purposes, only if you are working with a personal care provider, I want you to be able to take the things that you learn here, the worksheets that you're gaining from here that we will make downloadable for you to your counseling sessions or to your group sessions or your life coaching or wherever it is to your personal care providers. and apply this or add it to what they are doing. If you find that it is meaningful to you, well, then let's use it. I am a buffet. You do not have to eat everything on the menu.
Take what works for you, leave what doesn't. I am super excited to start this project. We will, and hopefully, fingers crossed, about eighteen months to two years, release the workbook that this podcast is helping us create. So you will be able to buy that anywhere books are sold. And that is the goal, that we start these podcasts, we get our audience's feedback, and then we put all of the skills that really resonate best with you, with the audience, into a book that you can share with your friends and family, things that you can do at home.
So please join me on our mission to self-improvement through learning, growing and becoming who you really want to be, your true authentic self. Thanks so much for joining me today. Enjoy that morning coffee and fireworks later this evening. We'll see you next week. Bye-bye.
From IMDB: "Reality show about swingers who happen to be Mormon wives."
Please do check out our YouTube channel for all of our content, starring the coolest couple in the podcast game today.
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLwxhOGfI9QWo40uHBgS8nw
"Any organization or human who TELLS you to be something that you are NOT is demonstarting they cannot be trusted. Pay attention and GET CURIOUS about that."
-Sarah (and Mason) Westbrook
From lynsmithgregory.com
"What is the cost of autonomy and freedom? How is family loyalty and identity defined? How do we heal from past trauma and move past it, especially if we want to stay connected to our family? I share what I’ve learned about family estrangement and my family’s journey to healing and wholeness."
Blog- Heratic survivor: from Mormon to me
https://lynsmithgregory.com/blog/
No man Knows my history by Fawn Brodie.
https://www.amazon.com/No-Man-Knows-My-History/dp/0679730540/ref=sr_1_1?crid=XU95H46SYUQW&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.aOS47w6eAYEu9MGrdfV5hQLnxWuEH-TY1XBxOOqeEnFFYPluwuHTSDRBfdzKHWwIXq3C1SGzVawyfj_fvVDy7CpPeu0_b10e92IQ2_9MUmE_wrGC2MqGOi_3U04L7Q9zSFX3mWgmvkaCJPzzR_LSmdabN1GKoYnuhVkRMRPiDh7ICGyCD5Zra00xDd5H4zjgS5eDEA3QAZuyJQ-hCWmN6z8TAcClv9xYkZHwdoE-jYA.HceWmw8MhXKVO2LIFqe2eWrim5JyYT6wJhIbE4OYArg&dib_tag=se&keywords=no+man+knows+my+history&qid=1722777953&sprefix=no+man+knows+my+history%2Caps%2C134&sr=8-1
Come as you are by Emily Nagowski.
https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1982165316/ref=sr_1_1?crid=178HBT8Y8HGOJ&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.MUU7P500f-I-uEetnuNKfL8ICFqDLSWstOMNKoQLq0sGn7-PTk73ysgLeE5O4155wbau1Aun_Ai01BOlrVDaKI9RBh3pk03NxrFasgzEjA7_I3ynZ-bcBUZ7WSZWVlPMmAHDIMyidIi-JenmtRheIGMyDlt0CpGplgVsaAIXT7Dzc0emrP7Ukgt3tOegJmOQOfbG5C_Lpwsc-251lydswg7UocTlsg9aSTeJQvjys1U.5b0kPwwLs9-V-ndtAQD-cjx4saYLGJ5Lg4qN19h7TBA&dib_tag=se&keywords=come+as+you+are+by+emily+nagoski%2C+ph.d&qid=1722778017&sprefix=come+as+you+%2Caps%2C133&sr=8-1
Come together by Emily Nagowski
https://www.amazon.com/Come-Together-Science-Creating-Connections/dp/0593500822/ref=sr_1_1?crid=A9EHML96VEEK&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.sZ3DEDRnUISgyeIJHrrVrv_4MfUldINnt7vHwCx1KAla8yjOJ5DQ3jIHyqEOP9qFAtcdTlXX7Y5b6FbEVMD3OwKq0TW4WLFIA3DIhDNVaV4.lidtXuSdmjj7ejdaN6Bu4xVA-eRVA47teO07Y69SjyQ&dib_tag=se&keywords=come+together+by+emily+nagoski%2C+ph.d&qid=1722778081&sprefix=come+together+by+emily+nagoski%2C+ph.d%2Caps%2C160&sr=8-1
Unpacking Mormonism and other religious trauma. Episode #3- school thy feelings.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4nl42H0jotvAyfry4RHajy
Unpacking Mormonism and other religious trauma. Episode #2- Your brain is not your enemy.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4nl42H0jotvAyfry4RHajy
You were born with privilege. If that makes you feel a certain way, guess what? It's time to get to the unpacking. Is privilege your fault? No, but as with everything in life, there comes responsibility. We didn't ask for it, but here we are, together on this wild, living, organic spaceship hurtling through space at unfathomable rates of speed. So let's get to work; start with clicking the play button, and the rest is up to you. The best place to enjoy our sweet, high-demand religion jams and Sarah's weekly mental health fitness livestream is on YouTube. You can watch or just listen; the world is your oyster.
Mormonism Live #188 The Fake Mormon Race Apology w/ Jon Streeter
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9_jC0Wkx3vI
Brene Brown Unlocking Us Podcast: With Harriet Lerner. https://brenebrown.com/podcast/harriet-lerner-and-brene-im-sorry-how-to-apologize-why-it-matters-part-1-of-2/
Brene Brown Unlocking Us Podcast: With Ibram Kendi. https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-with-ibram-x-kendi-on-how-to-be-an-antiracist/
Brene Brown Unlocking Us Podcast: With Emmanuel Acho. https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-with-emmanuel-acho-on-uncomfortable-conversations-with-a-black-man/
Doctrine and Covenants 58: 43; Official Declaration 1 and 2
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/58?lang=eng
Isaiah 1:18
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/ot/isa/1?lang=eng
Here we are; it's Monday morning, and we are unpacking more lies and deceit perpetrated by the villains in our story. As we approach our third anniversary, we here at the Daisy Girl Labs are so proud of our work in illuminating how we have been taken advantage of for reasons that were not entirely true or, at a minimum, not forthright. We are humbled and honored that you have chosen to take this journey with us, no matter how deeply you believe or don't believe in a system of faith. We are all trying to be our best selves; every day is new day on that journey. A new day and a new way.
Take advantage of our live videos and Sarah's insightful content on managing our emotions. Her psycho-education-focused approach provides valuable tools for personal growth and well-being.
Join us in learning, evolving, and cultivating the best versions of ourselves.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o87NV4QtGAM
D&C Section 132 (section heading); Official Declaration #1
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/132?lang=eng
Elder Ballard and Elder Oaks- https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/church/news/apostles-answer-questions-about-standards-doubts-during-ysa-face-to-face?lang=eng
Joseph Smith- What a thing it is for a man to be accused of committing adultery. https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/search?facet=all⟨=eng&page=1&query=what+a+thing+it+is+for+a+man+to+be+accused+of+committing+adultery%2C+JOseph+smith
Mormonism Live Episode 035: Will the real apostle please stand up!
https://mormonismlive.org/2021/08/mormonism-live-035-will-the-real-apostle-please-stand-up/
Mormonism Live Episode 040: Symphony of LGBT misdirection and Mr Holland Dopus
https://mormonismlive.org/2021/09/mormonism-live-040-symphony-of-lgbt-mis-direction-mr-holland-dopus/
Mormonism Live Episode 069: Gaslighting from Mormon leadership
https://mormonismlive.org/2022/03/mormonism-live-069-gaslighting-from-mormon-leadership/
Open your mouth only if what you are going to say is more beautiful than the silence.
Witness the lively discussion and interaction in this episode's live stream via our YouTube link. Delve into the engaging discourse of a couple who consistently highlights the significance of mental health and fitness. Join us in the journey of learning, evolving, and cultivating the best versions of ourselves.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o87NV4QtGAM
A Facebook post about a dress code generated loads of interaction from listeners and a producer, and there was a whole lot of discussion on who gets to make rules and why. It was another day in the life of a couple of apostates trying to make the world a better place, one episode at a time. Our YouTube link for this episode, where you can watch the live stream, is for those who like something visual. See for yourself the sexy man that Sarah is always bragging about. Email us if you want to join his fan club - The Mason Mafia.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L0d1-6NpAj4
Sarah and Mason discuss six significant changes in their lives after leaving the Mormon church.
We're eager to hear from you, our valued listeners. Are you currently a member of the church? Or are you contemplating your position? Perhaps you're committed to staying, or you've already made the decision to leave? Share your thoughts with us.
We're excited to hear from you and learn about your experiences!
daisygirlcommunications@gmail.com
Cults to Conciousness podcast- Ex-Muslim Opens Up About Sex and Islam in Saudi Arabia
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WYjQeAvHRUY
Unpacking Mormonism and Other religious trauma. Episode 3: School they feelings.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4nl42H0jotvAyfry4RHajy
https://brenebrown.com/resources/brene-brown-on-power-and-leadership/
Sarah asks the obvious question: if all these fellas can heal with their hands, wouldn't there be a litany of people with spectacular health in the areas that are deep with LDS members?
Mason and Sarah also delve into the use of the term 'Mormon' in their conversations. They discuss how it relates to their personal experiences and the recent changes in its usage by a certain individual.
We hope this final episode of the priesthood blessings finds you well. We are at a point close to the next evolution of the Daisy Girl journey. As we mentioned last week, we are just getting started together.
Keep your feet on the ground, but always reach for the stars.
DaisyGirlCommunications@gmail.com
Philosophy, which is the love of wisdom, is at the core of our work at Daisy Girl labs. We are dedicated to unraveling the fundamental truths about ourselves and our relationship with the world. Informed by our experiences in the Mormon community, we are confident in our ability to offer valuable insights. This is only the beginning, and we are poised to embark on an exciting journey of discovery.
As one chapter closes, another begins, so remember to keep your feet on the ground while reaching for the stars.
From the show: "Do you love your loved ones enough to go to hell with them?"
From the song: "Bow your head, don't be bold You'll survive by doing what you're told Said love is earned and we can't choose But the more you grow, you know the truth…"
Sarah's book: https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Bonded-Navigating-Attachments-Complex/dp/B0CBD6G2W4
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Embrace this episode with positivity and gratitude. Let's focus on our mental health and shake off any worries or negative thoughts. Together, we can make every day a powerful reminder that we are alive and capable of achieving greatness.
Https://www.Fullerconsideration.com/patriarchalblessingrevelator
Genesis 49
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/ot/gen/49?lang=eng
Netflix: Life after death with Tyler Henry
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tyler_Henry
South park: Season 7, episode 12
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/All_About_Mormons
Sarah and Mason have been crushing it lately, despite all the snow, accidents, and foot boot drama. They're back for the final episode of our temple series, and let me tell you, it's a doozy! You gotta hit that play button, grab a drink (whatever floats your boat), and settle in for the ride. We're bringing the heat with this fresh, straight-outta-the-oven audio casserole. And hey, if you've got any questions, guest ideas, or killer casserole recipes, don't be shy - hit us up at the email address below.
DaisyGirlCommunications@gmail.com
We bring you a heartfelt story of the difficulty one has with not having their cherished loved ones allowed to be at their wedding ceremony because of cult-like reasons and a touching tale of two freshly married people taking all of 60 minutes from saying their vows to...crossing the threshold...ahem. What were the reasons? Dear listener, click that play button and see behind the veil! Tell us about your marriage ceremony. Was it in a Mormon temple? Another religion? City hall? A group wedding in a stadium? Tell us, and let's unpack it.
DaisyGirlCommunications@gmail.com
What do Mark Harmon and Lisa Kudrow have to do with Mason and Sarah? Really, nothing at all, but they have played characters with names that do. Is it a stretch to make this comparison to pique your curiosity? Yes, it is, but we have to get you to click that play button so we can talk about these things; it is crucial to your mental health and agency.
We want to hear from you! Reach out to DaisyGirlCommunications@Gmail.com and ask us questions; share your experiences with your religion, Mormon or otherwise.
The Temple Sealing...not ceiling.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zgf5KRvu4Ig
The Stephen Hassan Bite model. Freedom of Mind Resource Center.
https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/
Please, let's give a special thank you to the Westbrook kiddos for joining Sarah and Mason for today's topic.
What if you were taught that a person's entire salvation (as in going to heaven or hell), a person you had never met and is now, in fact, dead, was dependent on you being baptized for them? You read that right, friend. Do you even have a choice if that were the case? I mean...we are talking hell here. The worst place ever...it's gonna be rough.
From Wikipedia -
Baptism for the dead, vicarious baptism or proxy baptism today commonly refers to the religious practice of baptizing a person on behalf of one who is dead—a living person receiving the rite on behalf of a deceased person.
Baptism for the dead is best known as a doctrine of the Latter Day Saint movement, which has practiced it since 1840. It is currently practiced by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS Church), where it is performed only in dedicated temples, as well as in several other current factions of the movement. Those who practice this rite view baptism as an essential requirement to enter the Kingdom of God, and therefore practice baptism for the dead to offer it by proxy to those who died without the opportunity to receive it. The LDS Church teaches that those who have died may choose to accept or reject the baptisms done on their behalf.
Baptism for the dead is mentioned in (1 Corinthians 15:29) as proof of a physical resurrection, though the exact meaning of the phrase is an open question among scholars. The plainest reading of the Greek text suggests vicarious baptisms performed by the living on behalf of the deceased, but some scholars dispute whether Paul approved of the practice or whether the verse truly refers to an actual physical practice among early Christians.[1] Early heresiologists Epiphanius of Salamis (Panarion 28) and Chrysostom (Homilies 40) attributed the practice respectively to the Cerinthians and to the Marcionites, whom they identified as heretical "Gnostic" groups, while Ambrosiaster and Tertullian affirmed that the practice was legitimate and found among the New Testament Christians (though Tertullian later recanted his original beliefs in his later life as he became associated with Montanism).[2] The practice was forbidden by the Councils of Carthage in the last decade of the fourth century AD, and is therefore not practiced in modern mainstream Christianity, whether Nestorian, Oriental Orthodox, Eastern Orthodox, Roman Catholic, or any traditional Protestant churches.
Guess what, we've got temple secrets, yes we do. We've got temple secrets...how about you? We are joined by the dynamic duo of Julia Sanders and American Marvel of Analyzing Mormonism, so you know it's gonna be a party. Click that link and hear about the changes that have occurred with the anointing and the preparation, and wonder how we even got here. Fun fact, the fella who played satan in the old temple entrance video was in the classic 80's movie "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun."
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-monogamy by Jessica Fern.
https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/52569124
We have to ask, how is the head and how is the heart?
DaisyGirlCommunications@gmail.com and let us know.
Welcome to our growing family of...well people who are tired of bullshit I suppose. Happy 2024, let's get started with a discussion on what goes on inside the temple...and Sarah reveals the "new name" she was given in her endowment ceremony.
Start your 2024 off right by getting your butt down to our private Facebook group and sharing what you are working on this year.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Firstly, and most importantly, we send immense love and respect to Maven and Gene of Latter-Daily Digest for jamming with us to the slow jazz sound of our apostate beat.
It's been a while. Tell us how you are doing? How is the head? How is the heart? What's your favorite or least favorite classic TV crossover episode?
DaisyGirlCommunications@gmail.com
The Temple experience. Not just a sweet band name but a very sensitive, mysterious, and protected ceremony. This episode is about the preparation for the temple, the lack of proper preparation...or some might even say consent.
Hey, y'all. We do this for you because we love you and ask for a lot in return, that being your time and attention. Could we ask for a little more? Please leave us a good or bad review and give us feedback on the Daisy Girl Communications Facebook page. It is not set to private, and anyone can post there. Come on, hit us with your best shot.
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Sarah shares an update on our new show launching in a few weeks as well as the new release schedule for Unpacking Mormonism.
Tell us what topics you want to see covered in the new series? What should we unpack first? Email us at DaisyGirlCommunications@gmail.com
On this last day of Chrismas we bring the season to a close, with a montage of sexy Mason intros. And to all, a good night! See you at the Daisy Girl Facebook page tomorrow for a special end-of-year post to stir up your New Year's discussions.
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100083025745982
On the fourth day of Christmas, what can we say by now? A potpurri of fun clips and more squirells then we should allow. A reminder that you can purchase Sarah's first book anywhere books are sold, including Amazon and Audible.
https://www.audible.com/pd/Trauma-Bonded-Audiobook/B0CJRZ1YWS?action_code=ASSGB149080119000H&share_location=pdp
On the third day of Christmas, dear listener, we give to thee—the first viral clip in our show's histor-y. 10K plays in 24 hours across 17 countries and five continents. At one point in that week, the most listened-to podcast in Tonga.
On the second day of Christmas, dear listener, we give to thee. An opening quip about boobs and a few that were awkward and fun-ny.
On the first day of Christmas, dear listener, we give to thee. Six original episode stingers delivered with glee.
*Stingers are the name for the itsy bit of fun bonus audio at the end of many of our episodes, most times after the last note of theme music.
We welcome Kayla and Jordan back to the show as we continue through our temple series. In this episode, we talk about temple admittance. Chastity, tithing, moral cleanliness, and, of course, you must not support anything contrary to the church.
The Mormon church requires a lot, but according to them, they need you to obey because they want to save your soul from hell and allow you to chill and hang with your family in the afterlife. Unless you are a woman, and then you have to have babies endlessly.
Do you believe in hell? Do you think the afterlife sounds good? Do you want to have babies endlessly as you repopulate your new ethereal plane?
We were hoping you could come sound off at the private FB group because we want to hear from you and understand your point of view.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
We are so glad you are here. Sit down and listen. This is the second episode of our temple series, and we are going to talk about brainwashing and child indoctrination. We are just scratching the surface of these topics today; there is so much more to come. We would love for you to share your personal experiences with the temple traditions in our private Facebook group.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
I love to see the temple. Janice Kapp Perry.
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/music/library/childrens-songbook/i-love-to-see-the-temple?lang=eng
When I am baptized. Nita Milner.
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/music/library/childrens-songbook/when-i-am-baptized?lang=eng
A virtuous woman. Proverbs 31
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/liahona/2002/05/living-as-women-of-virtue?lang=eng
Oxford Dictionary- Virtue.
https://www.oed.com/dictionary/virtue_n
Doctrine and Covenants 18:42, 20:71, 137:10
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/18?lang=eng
Dear listener. The temple series has just started, and we have hit an interesting topic as the listens are high right out of the box. Was this new information to you? Old information? We were hoping you could share these thoughts or any others you might have on the private Facebook group. Bonus points if you answer Sarah's question in the show...which requires you to click that play button.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Are they just coincidences? Or is there more to it? Share with us what you think down at the Facebook ranch. It's not a party until you get there.
Our private Facebook group (no secret handshake required)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Sarah's book
https://www.audible.com/pd/Trauma-Bonded-Audiobook/B0CJRZ1YWS
Method Infinite: Freemasonry and the Mormon Restoration.
https://gregkofford.com/products/method-infinite
Mormonism Live #96: Mormonism and Masonry
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VKBtX2KXok4
Mormonism Live #117 Changes to the Temple
https://mormonismlive.org/2023/03/mormonism-live-117-changes-to-the-temple-the-ethics-of-ensign-peak-advisors/
https://religionnews.com/2023/02/10/more-jesus-less-touching-14-changes-to-the-mormon-temple-endowment-ceremony/
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/history/topics/masonry?lang=eng#title4
https://www.britannica.com/topic/Freemasonry
Mormon Stories: Mormonism and Masonry.
https://www.mormonstories.org/?s=masonry
Abducted in Plain Sight.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abducted_in_Plain_Sight
Dropping this Monday, the first part of our temple series - Masonry and Mormonism.
Today, we reference episode #96 of Mormonism Live.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VKBtX2KXok4&list=PLq34QmiHsNjfs8Nw_mFgMGv_3hrFYNs9f&index=98
https://www.amazon.com/Method-Infinite-Freemasonry-Mormon-Restoration/dp/1589587537
Part 2 of our conversation with Professor Barry Richins, a former professor of both Sarah and Mason. Barry shares his experiences with his mental health and suicidal ideation. We are honored and humbled that the Professor would be vulnerable with us in this space; this is the second of a two-part episode.
My Tithing Tire.
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/liahona/2005/06/latter-day-saint-voices/my-tithing-tire?lang=eng#title1
God: The Most Unplesant Character in All Fiction
https://www.amazon.com/God-Most-Unpleasant-Character-Fiction/dp/1454918322
Matthew 10:39
https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Matthew-10-39/
Brene Brown; The Power of Vulnerability.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00D1Z9RFU?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_1WWC7VQFXDN1X61ZZZDJ
We have here a religion started by a habitual liar and sexual deviant, where everyone thinks the same and, dresses the same, questions the same.
What do you think? Drop us a line and share your stories, opinions, hopes for tomorrow.
daisygirlcommunications@gmail.com
Welcome to the show, Professor Barry Richins, a former professor of both Sarah and Mason. Barry shares his experiences with trying to reconcile his mental health with the requirements of participation and belief. We are honored and humbled that the Professor would be vulnerable with us in this space, and we are excited that this episode will be one of two that features Professor Richins.
My Tithing Tire.
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/liahona/2005/06/latter-day-saint-voices/my-tithing-tire?lang=eng#title1
God: The Most Unplesant Character in All Fiction
https://www.amazon.com/God-Most-Unpleasant-Character-Fiction/dp/1454918322
Matthew 10:39
https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Matthew-10-39/
Brene Brown; The Power of Vulnerability.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00D1Z9RFU?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_1WWC7VQFXDN1X61ZZZDJ
Welcome our very special guest Professor Barry Richins. In this clip we are honored and humbled to hear his story about a breakdown he suffered while on a mission in Mexico.
In the United States you can dial or text 988 for suicide and crisis support.
If you need help locating mental health resources in your location, email us at:
daisygirlcommunications@gmail.com
It's time to armor up. Get your emotional checklist ready, we are heading down the holiday highway, and Sarah is going to help you navigate conversations that might range from truly abusive to general assholery.
One thing we should all do, which might sound extreme, is always have an escape plan, no matter the gravity of your situation.
If you or someone you know is suffering from domestic abuse. 1-800-799-7233
Domestic Violence Support
https://www.thehotline.org/ (Comes with instructions on how to wipe the website from your history)
In the United States a suicide and crisis hotline is available by dialing 988.
As we hurtle towards the holiday seasons, like a barrel full of metaphors rushing headlong into a relevant meme invoking family meals and awkward holiday scenes...Sarah presents reminders for how to leave space for complex communications that click all the boxes on how to get our amygdalas fired up.
Trauma Bonded is avilable on Audible. Get it friends.
https://www.audible.com/pd/Trauma-Bonded-Audiobook/B0CJRZ1YWS
As we approach the holidays, we sometimes need reminders to leave space for ourselves to have human reactions to situations, people, scenes, and communication loops with friends, frenemies, relatives...relenemies? Yes, and maybe some people who we think treat us like enemies. "Dear Sarah and Mason. I recently had a heated exchange with a colleague I work with. They had some valid issues, entirely fair, but the tone and volume were hostile and mocking at times, and with no space to allow me to respond. When prompted to respond, I would be interrupted and mocked or told I was wrong..." Get Trauma Bonded on Audible. https://www.audible.com/pd/Trauma-Bonded-Audiobook/B0CJRZ1YWS
Our excellent guest, Kayla, shares how learning the truth about how the Mormon church dealt with tithing, sexual assaults, and gender issues led her to leaving. Do you feel that Mormonism is a safe place for women to be heard, understood, or to influence change? Trauma Bonded is available in all book-selling places, and you can even get it on Audible.
https://www.audible.com/pd/Trauma-Bonded-Audiobook/B0CJRZ1YWS
What do you know of the Heavenly Mother? Have you ever spoken with her? Felt her presence?
The power of days by Celeste Mergens.
https://a.co/d/2kbQKYo
From Church of Jesus Christ.org:
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-topics-essays/mother-in-heaven?lang=eng
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints teaches that all human beings, male and female, are beloved spirit children of heavenly parents, a Heavenly Father, and a Heavenly Mother. This understanding is rooted in scriptural and prophetic teachings about the nature of God, our relationship to Deity, and the godly potential of men and women. The doctrine of a Heavenly Mother is a cherished and distinctive belief among Latter-day Saints. While there is no record of a formal revelation to Joseph Smith on this doctrine, some early Latter-day Saint women recalled that he personally taught them about a Mother in Heaven.
Mason was today years old when he heard songs from the Book of Mormon for the first time. Get that amygdala out of the way, check your fear and mistrust at the door, click the play button, and let's be better together.
https://www.audible.com/pd/Trauma-Bonded-Audiobook/B0CJRZ1YWS
No matter your favorite flavor of conspiracy theory, they all tap into parts of your brain that can be very unhealthy if not accompanied by reasoning, compassion, empathy, understanding, and professional help. A great question to start with when...unpacking a narrative: ask yourself, who is the scapegoat. Click that play button, dear listener.
https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2023/06/why-people-believe-conspiracy-theories
https://www.apa.org/news/apa/2020/conspiracy-theories
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conspiracy_theory
@sorryitsjustin, Justin Collette
@Isabella.esler, Isabella Esler
Do you know someone with a fragile ego? Do you have a fragile ego? Do you have anxiety? Do you feel the need to be right? Guess what? You might be an average human. What we do with this information is vital to being our best selves.
Dear listener, regardless if you have a run-of-the-mill ego or fear you might be on the narcissism scale, we can all do the following things: listen to this show, get professional help, or check in with a trusted friend. We are all in this together.
Dear listener, have you ever had a spiritual experience you could not explain? Please share with us. Allowing space in your brain for an understanding that you do not and cannot understand everything is critical to avoiding conspiratorial thinking.
Share your story with us down on the Facebook group or drop us a line at DaisyGirlCommunications@gmail.com
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
What do you do when your producer has an odd idea for a show, and your co-host has a scheduling issue? You make lemonade! It's a delicious audio "program-ade," if you will. See, in this example, the lemons are the scheduling issues and the producer's weird idea...and I lost you. Click the link and enjoy this episode with special guest producer Alex and our beloved and charismatic host, Sarah. By the way...Trauma Bonded is also available on Audible now, so go get it, dear listener.
https://www.audible.com/pd/Trauma-Bonded-Audiobook/B0CJRZ1YWS
What's up?! Mason ponders if he would have enjoyed Beetlejuice before he left the Mormon church, and we learn that he can't start the show without his beloved Rubik's cube. Forward this clip to your friends, tell us how you felt about Beetlejuice or this show clip, or perhaps you want to tell us how your head and heart are? Trauma Bonded is available on Amazon and Audible. Go get it, dear listeners.
https://a.co/d/0zySOvl
If we can postpone our hurt from having a mistake pointed out, we can tune into the person expressing how we have wounded them. Dear listener, do you have three minutes to make your life better? And likely someone else's life, too. Forward this clip across your social channels for us and get a dialog going with the intent to keep us all from causing each other more harm.
Dr. Emily Bashah is an author and licensed psychologist with a private practice in Scottsdale, Arizona. Dr. Bashah was awarded the Society for the Psychological Study of Social Issues Policy Fellowship and served within the American Psychological Association’s Public Interest Government Relations Office in Washington, D.C.
Book: Addictive Ideologies: Finding Meaning and Agency when Politics Fail You Optimistic American Podcast:
https://www.optamerican.com
Relevant Podcasts: Parenting Types: How both attachment and anti-fragility are important to your child's success Triple the chance of your child becoming a successful adult and avoiding dangerous influences How to exercise your civic responsibility without becoming an extremist Worksheets: Helping People Addicted to an Extreme Ideology What Causes Violence and Extremism in Children, and What Parents Can Do to Help Raising Children With Agency Cognitive Blindspots
Sarah demonstrates how to have difficult conversations around feelings, perceptions, and parental responsibilities, along with her book, career, and podcast duties. Shout out to all the parents and caregivers who spread their energy into multiple passions driven by the underlying human spirit. We are all in this together, dear listeners. We implore you this Friday to forward this clip to a person who might have hurt you or a person whom you might have hurt. Use it to start a dialogue; life is too short to hold a grudge forever.
Who doesn't love an awkward silence? Please tell us how you are doing and what you think of our truth-telling episodes. We have a conspiracy theories series on the horizon and will also look at addictive ideologies.
Sarah goes for the show record on eff bombs. Mason gets mega-squirreled while reflecting on what has changed in his perspective as it pertains to the conference talk "Beware of Pride," and your buddy Alex, the producer, gets to try out his crickets sound effects for the first time, stay past the credits to hear them in action. We couldn't and probably wouldn't do this without you. Who would listen to it? This support means everything, honestly, but we MUST ask more of you. We NEED you to forward this episode to your social feeds, do it NOW! We summon the powers of love, compassion, and social media-powered virality...NOW!
Every Monday, we drop a new episode on you, and we deliver snippets of wisdom every Wednesday and Friday. Why? We are just trying to make the world a better place for all of us. ALL of us.
Sarah's first book is available here, but a heads-up: it's harder to get a copy of it than get a Tickle me Elmo back in '96.
https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Bonded-Navigating-Attachments-Complex-ebook/dp/B0C9K6XNHS
Keep up with all Daisy Girl news here.
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Dear listener, the trigger warning from episode #208 should have also included that, in general, it is a really difficult listen. From the perspective of hearing what a myopic ego run amok sounds like, from a clearly misguided desire to manipulate spirituality to maintain power structures like patriarchy, shame, and frankly shitty gender and sex ideas. Yes, Jodi said mobile phones will turn you gay and are more dangerous than a gun.
Full episode here.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4N2ifYMV7YjPRV6O9ZkWJw
Trigger warning, we play clips from Jodi and Ruby that discuss rape, social media turning people gay, how mobile phones are more dangerous than guns and how you should hate your therapist...or something.
Shout out to Julia and America from Analyzing Mormonism for lining up the content for today's show.
https://analyzingmormonism.podbean.com/
When a partner communicates experiences or needs, do you find yourself reacting, perhaps lecturing or correcting rather than validating their emotions with empathy? It is time to consult an expert, and it is likely, even overdue, to heal some wounds. If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to reach out. DaisyGirlCommunications@Gmail.com
We are all a product of the environment we were (and continue to be) raised in; that is to say, we are symptomatic of our surroundings. Is it nature or nurture? The answer is simple...yes.
We challenge you to come to our Facebook group because we are running out of verbs to use to invite you.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
And of course, your support means the world to us, listening and sharing this podcast is lovely but may we ask you to take it one step further, cross that line, score a sportsball goal and purchase Sarah's first book.
https://a.co/d/3OtuAYt
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle
https://www.amazon.com/Burnout-Secret-Unlocking-Stress-Cycle/dp/198481706X
Genesis 16
https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Genesis%2016&version=NIV
Doctrine and Covenants 121:34–46
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/doctrine-and-covenants-and-church-history-seminary-teacher-manual-2014/section-6/lesson-128-doctrine-and-covenants-121-34-46?lang=eng
58:26-27
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/26?lang=eng
Some might call it a blatant attempt at clicks, plays, and shares. We call it a clear and conspicuous call to make better choices. Happy Friday, we made it. Now tell us how you feel about Monday's upcoming topic, "Men are NOT toxic."
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Dear listener, step inside our aural house; there is plenty of room for all of you. Now let's meet Sarah's fellow band geek, Shelly, and listen to three great friends (and Mason in the background) discuss the differences in how the Mormon community and our country handled teenage pregnancy and matters of sexuality in the past and present. Bonus, loads of talk about making out with microphones. Getting a copy of Trauma Bonded these days is like trying to buy a Furbie back in 1998.
https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Bonded-Navigating-Attachments-Complex-ebook/dp/B0C9K6XNHS
Welcome to our show, Sarah's BFF - "Zoe." This episode is a dive into how Zoe felt about her portrayal in the book and how accurate Sarah was in her accounts of the events that Sarah wrote about in Trauma Bonded and yes there are spoilers from the book.
What's Trauma Bonded? I am so glad you asked. Sraah's first book is out, and you can order it from Amazon; the demand is outpacing the supply at this point, which is both exciting and slightly frustrating, like life or a line at a new roller coaster.
https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Bonded-Navigating-Attachments-Complex-ebook/dp/B0C9K6XNHS
Dear listener, we would LOVE it if you joined our Facebook group.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Or you can check us out on TikTok.
https://www.tiktok.com/@dgcsarahwestbrook/video/7275051553411566891
Or you can catch us on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLwxhOGfI9QWo40uHBgS8nw
Or if old-school media is your thing, pick up a copy of Sarah's book.
https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Bonded-Navigating-Attachments-Complex-ebook/dp/B0C9K6XNHS
Dear listener. On Monday, we pause our truth-telling series and take an episode to talk to one of the most critical people in Sarah's life, someone featured in Trauma Bonded. You know how we do; this is a taste of that show to whet the aural appetite for information and mental health education.
Today, dear listener, our big ask is to review our show. Be honest, be authentic, and be polite. Bonus points if you follow us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube or TikTok.
https://www.tiktok.com/@dgcsarahwestbrook/video/7275051553411566891
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLwxhOGfI9QWo40uHBgS8nw
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Dear listener. Was John Smith honest about the divine inspiration that brought him to polygamy? And why does it matter? And how does this apply to our emotional well-being and even our perception of freedom? Click that play button after enjoying a dollop of suspense as you wonder how we tackle today's topics, but you know how we do: lots of love, tears, and a few F-bombs.
Fanny Alger timeline-
https://hemlockknots.com/joseph-smiths-wives/fanny-alger/
Average age of marriage-
https://www.theclassroom.com/age-marriage-us-1800s-23174.html
Nauvoo Expositor: The First and Last Issue.
https://a.co/d/6ORAIsg
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints Gospel Topics Essays.
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-topics-essays/plural-marriage-in-kirtland-and-nauvoo?lang=eng
The year of polygamy. Podcast episode #1.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Shz82CEdb3sZtHERPPbvN?si=mLXmc0HHRrKxVBIU70uzRg
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5cjRCkjcvEPaKKoGIk9f2t?si=l7LoJFFNQlS_wddjsmswHQ
Trigger warning. Discussions of whether Joseph Smith might have been a pedophile or a sexual predator are contained, and further discussions on the differences between the two classifications.
Despite this trigger warning, this episode is filled with a vast amount of information, discussions of overlapping missions, and loads of laughter with two guests who are intelligent, fun, and filled with data. Refrain from letting their bright dispositions distract you from enjoying their sharp wit and delightful rapport with each other, as well as Sarah and Mason. Here comes Julia and America, and they are bringing the heat.
https://www.analyzingmormonism.com/
https://www.edinapublishers.com/
@analyzingmormonism
Mormon Stories #1586, The Mormon Plan of Salvation.
Real Love in Marriage: The Truth About Finding Genuine Happiness Now and Forever by Greg Baer.
https://www.amazon.com/Real-Love-in-Marriage-audiobook/dp/B01D27M1BS/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=real+love+in+marriage+greg+baer&qid=1691954330&sprefix=real+love%2Caps%2C122&sr=8-1
Tabernacles of Clay by Taylor Petrey.
https://www.amazon.com/Tabernacles-Clay-Sexuality-Gender-Mormonism/dp/1469656221/ref=sr_1_1?crid=36GQ291H0ZEBX&keywords=tabernacles+of+clay&qid=1691961122&s=audible&sprefix=tabernacles+of+clay%2Caudible%2C110&sr=1-1-catcorr
That they May be one by Tom Christofferson.
https://www.amazon.com/That-We-My-One-Perspective/dp/1629723916/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=tom+christofferson+that+we+may+be+one&qid=1691956487&s=audible&sprefix=tom+christo%2Caudible%2C114&sr=1-1-catcorr
Recovering Agency by Luna Lindsey Corbden.
https://www.amazon.com/Recovering-Agency-Luna-Lindsey-audiobook/dp/B01M9JSIRU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3TF4WZFLCD00I&keywords=recovering+agency&qid=1685207345&sprefix=recovering+acency%2Caps%2C103&sr=8-1
A very short story about the day that Mason proposed to Sarah. Full episode drops on Monday.
While your here, Sarah's first book Trauma Bonded is now available, get your copy.
https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Bonded-Navigating-Attachments-Complex-ebook/dp/B0C9K6XNHS
The Sept 6 Excommunications - Learn about them, know about them, pass on their stories.
Lynne Kanavel Whitesides, Avraham Gileadi, Paul Toscano, Maxine Hanks, Lavina Fielding Anderson and D. Michael Quinn
Trauma Bonded: A true story of navigating relationships built in Complex PTSD by Sarah Westbrook.
https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Bonded-Navigating-Attachments-Complex-ebook/dp/B0C9K6XNHS/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1NQLVNLXT76FY&keywords=trauma+bonded&qid=1692559508&sprefix=trauma+bonded%2Caps%2C125&sr=8-1
A people’s History of the United States by Howard Zinn.
https://www.amazon.com/Peoples-History-United-States-Present/dp/B0030MR076/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3C9SXBJPH41VH&keywords=a+peoples+history+of+the+united+states+howard+zinn&qid=1692559623&sprefix=a+peopl%2Caps%2C144&sr=8-1
https://wasmormon.org/mormon-excommunications-the-september-six-and-more/
Unpacking Mormonism and other religious trauma. Episode 24
https://open.spotify.com/episode/34BhFvqKSApYliy5cl1h2m
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/September_Six
https://www.lds-mormon.com/sepsix-shtml/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKAOj7uqqo4
https://wheatandtares.org/2023/01/16/30-years-later-sept-six-hofmann/
http://archives.lib.byu.edu/repositories/14/resources/2032
Here we are, dear listener. Can you believe it? 23K downloads, 50-ish episodes, two mini-series, a family Facebook drama or two, and we continue to learn so much. This a reminder that Sarah's book comes out Wednesday, September 6, and because you are just the most wonderful listener ever, we are dropping a special bonus with a B episode on September 6 in honor of September 6. Whoa! Now, at this point, dear listener, you must give us honest and brutal feedback on how we are doing on our mission. Your participation makes this engine hum.
DaisyGirlCommunications@gmail.com
https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Bonded-Navigating-Attachments-Complex/dp/B0CBD6G2W4
Here we are, dear listeners. The Friday before Season 2. We posted the Flash Forward for this episode on August 11th for full disclosure, so this is a remix. Here for your listening pleasure, a future clip from Season 2, debuting this Monday, September 4th, paired beautifully like a fine wine with the very first Flash Forward clip we ever posted, in which Mason and Sarah, perhaps presciently discuss what happens when one leaves the church quietly versus loudly and now I bet Mason is wondering where his cookies or hot chocolate steins are.
We know that you know that September 4th is the world premiere of Season 2 of UM, but did you remember that we will also be dropping a special BONUS with a B episode on September 6th to celebrate the official release of Sarah's first book and to commemorate The September Six? Did ya? Huh? Well, now you know.
Dear listener, a lot of care and attention goes into these descriptions. I'm trying to give you just enough to make you push that play button, or perhaps sufficient enough to make a note in your brain to listen later, and then sometimes as I sit at the keyboard, mouth agape, because there are clips like today's that are difficult to communicate. Two words, $#!* mural.
One week from today! The new season launches, and then on September 6th, an additional bonus FULL episode about the September Six.
Let's talk turkey; we would love for you to show us some support. You can give us a like, review, share our show, or come down to the Facebook group and let us know how we are doing so far. You can purchase Sarah's true story here to show us immense support.
https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Bonded-Navigating-Attachments-Complex/dp/B0CBD6G2W4
She can't stop; she won't stop. Sarah, low-key, drops the intel on us that a new book is bubbling up inside her and other colossal news, no biggie. We give you another sneak peek at a new segment in Season 2, where we feature clips of past episodes to reflect and review, and Mason looks forward to something different in Season 2: some Sarah sass. Say that three times fast.
Also dear listener, remember that you were supposed to be telling us how we did.
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Did we mention the new season starts on September 4th? Here is a blatant attempt to get you fired up and curious.
Oh yes and send us your Trauma Bonded proof of purchase and get cool Daisy Girl merch that shows you are down with the new sound in town.
https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Bonded-Navigating-Attachments-Complex-ebook/dp/B0C9K6XNHS
Now is the time, dear listener, to sound off on how we are doing so far. This episode has our digits so let's talk about it. Lay it on us and give us the no-filtered truth on how we are doing with our mission.
New season starts on September 4th and an additional bonus full episode drops on September 6th.
Sarah's book canbe purchased here.
https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Bonded-Navigating-Attachments-Complex-ebook/dp/B0C9K6XNHS
Season 2 is cresting on the horizon. In this clip, Sarah tells us that sometimes, when engaging with people, we need to take breaks. One misunderstood benefit of technology is that it allows us to disconnect as much as we use it to connect us continuously. Also, Mason gets a gold star.
Click that play button, dear listener; we are so glad you are here.
Sarah's book.
https://a.co/d/3Hk3Uy1
To be upfront, we discuss a series of past episodes where we unpacked the family Facebook drama. She has not returned to the Unpacking pantheon of characters at this time.
Were you itching for more Sarah and Unpacking Mormonism? The Season 2 premiere on September 4th cannot come fast enough, but until then, you should order Sarah's book. If you ordered it already, order two more. One for a friend and another for a friend you have yet to meet.
Link to purchase here. https://a.co/d/6LFtH1b
Daisy Girl Communications newsletter here; keep up with book signings and media appearances.
https://www.daisygirlcommunications.com/newsletter
Today's music provided by Cooper Circle
https://soundcloud.com/fat-kneel
and Jon Worthy Music
https://prosearch.tribeofnoise.com/artists/show/60962
Heads up, this is one of those good news, bad news type deals. The bad is that Season 2 of the podcast begins on September 4th. Moose out front should have told you. Now the good news. Sarah's book is available for pre-sale ordering; the link is below. You can get your Sarah fix there until the new season or...wait for it...the BEST news is we have a clip of the Season 2 premiere right here, right now. That is right, dear listener, we would never leave you wanting; we aren't those kinds of podcasters, tell us who hurt you, and we will make it all better.
Sarah's book is available here. Get the hardback, send us proof of purchase and get sweet merchandise and a HUGE thank you.
https://a.co/d/fKXQmL6
Today's music provided by Cooper Circle
https://soundcloud.com/fat-kneel
and Jon Worth Music
https://prosearch.tribeofnoise.com/artists/show/60962
Season One is behind us, and now we are onto Season Two; I hope everyone enjoyed their summer break, let's get back to work. Sarah and Mason review the purposes and goals of the first episode, and Mason takes a deep dive into how he introduced himself in the first episode with his relationship with the church.
Sarah's book Trauma Bonded.
https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/trauma-bonded-sarah-westbrook/1143712371
In a cult, your identity becomes enmeshed; you lose yourself because you focus on fitting in. You are spending so much time and effort to ensure you don't fail, dear listener. Is it worth it? Only you can answer, but we want to ensure you see how this penetrates your life. We are coming in hot as we end Season One. Let us know how listening to the show has integrated with your life. Could you share with us, dear listener? How is your head? How is your heart?
Do you want to join Sarah's growing book army? Start here.
https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/trauma-bonded-sarah-westbrook/1143712371
Because of you, dear listener, we surpassed our goal of 22K downloads for our first season. Thank you, we are humbled and honored that you spend valuable time with us as we learn and grow together. Here is our season one finale and the final episode of our cult series. Let's talk about perpetual inadequacy.
Steven Hassan: The BITE model.
https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/
Recovering Agency by Luna Lindsey Corbden. Pg 157, 285.
https://www.amazon.com/Recovering-Agency-Luna-Lindsey-audiobook/dp/B01M9JSIRU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3TF4WZFLCD00I&keywords=recovering+agency&qid=1685207345&sprefix=recovering+acency%2Caps%2C103&sr=8-1
To life: A celebration of Jewish being and thinking by Rabbi Harold Kushner.
https://www2.sluh.org/msciuto/sluhtheo/ToLife.html
What does perpetual inadequacy do to our mental well-being over many years? Not exclusive to religion, but this is the cult series, and you know how we do.
We need a big push to close out Season One with our goal of 22K downloads. Can you help us by sharing, liking, and reviewing our podcast? We made it this far with you, but we need more.
Sarah's book Trauma Bonded avilable on Amazon here: https://a.co/d/1JivFvs
and at Barnes and Noble here: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/trauma-bonded-sarah-westbrook/1143712371
Real accountability only comes with a real understanding. The best way to not hurt someone again is by understanding how it affected the person you harmed...within the boundaries set by those you have injured.
Dear listener, we are building an enormous amount of momentum around Sarah's book - Trauma Bonded, and we would love for you to help us continue to push it to the top of as many best-seller lists as possible. Send us your proof of purchase and we will send you some fun Daisy Girl Communications merchandise.
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Our emotions are highly influenced by our perception of how the world works. Our perception is developed based on our experiences, environment, and the things we take in and process on a regular basis. Now, how are you using it? And how is it being used on you? So dear listener, you can see, why it is essential you click that play button and let us lay some science on you.
Sarah's book is available here.
https://a.co/d/1uUJ0w9
Steven Hassan: The BITE model.
https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/
Recovering Agency by Luna Lindsey Corbden. Pg 166, 183, 255.
https://www.amazon.com/Recovering-Agency-Luna-Lindsey-audiobook/dp/B01M9JSIRU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3TF4WZFLCD00I&keywords=recovering+agency&qid=1685207345&sprefix=recovering+acency%2Caps%2C103&sr=8-1
https://www.cbhs.com.au/mind-and-body/blog/understanding-the-chemicals-controlling-your-mood
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elevation_(emotion)
I thought it was just me by Brene Brown.
https://www.amazon.com/Thought-Was-Just-isnt-Perfectionism/dp/B004GK3CNW/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=i+thought+it+was+just+me+brene+brown&qid=1690043536&sprefix=i+thought+it+was%2Caps%2C104&sr=8-1
Can we "influence" you to join our book army? Let's get this book into as many hands as possible. Sarah shares the very first review of her book, and we dip into Monday's episode, continuing our cult series, the topic: Emotional Control.
Puchase Sarah's book here.
https://a.co/d/haanhIC
There is a bridge between thought control and emotional control, and that bridge is mystical manipulation.
Order Sarah's book from Amazon here.
https://a.co/d/794OJuG
Sarah's apperance on Almost Awakened with Bill Reel.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nd_kNpNiDcc&list=PLq34QmiHsNjc0OsEuCziKhCIJeRL7h-Pn&index=155
Keep up with book signings, media appearances and free Daisy Girl merchandise for reviewing the book.
https://www.daisygirlcommunications.com/newsletter
Steven Hassan: The BITE model.
https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/
Recovering Agency by Luna Lindsey Corbden. Pg 126, 127, 130.
https://www.amazon.com/Recovering-Agency-Luna-Lindsey-audiobook/dp/B01M9JSIRU/ref=sr_1_1?
When someone uses an existential belief system to create a fear of loss within that system, e.g., you won't be in heaven with your family! You are going to hell! Rinse, repeat.
As our cult series hits its stride, our listenership is hitting an all-time high, copiously powered by community members like Bill Reel. We welcome all our listeners who have joined us after hearing Sarah's appearance on the Almost Awakened podcast. Come sound off on our social media channels and tell us your thoughts about the show. We always ask. How's the head? How's the heart?
Sarah's apperance on Almost Awakened with Bill Reel.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nd_kNpNiDcc&list=PLq34QmiHsNjc0OsEuCziKhCIJeRL7h-Pn&index=155
Keep up with book signings, media appearances and free Daisy Girl merchandise for reviewing the book.
https://www.daisygirlcommunications.com/newsletter
Steven Hassan: The BITE model.
https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/
Recovering Agency by Luna Lindsey Corbden. Pg 126, 127, 130.
https://www.amazon.com/Recovering-Agency-Luna-Lindsey-audiobook/dp/B01M9JSIRU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3TF4WZFLCD00I&keywords=recovering+agency&qid=1685207345&sprefix=recovering+acency%2Caps%2C103&sr=8-1
According to our pals over at the word factory Merriam Webster, the definition of mystical is "having a spiritual meaning or reality that is neither apparent to the senses nor obvious to the intelligence."
Sarah's new book. Purchase and review, please and thank you. Send us proof of purchase and we will send you fun Daisy Girl merchandise. Book signings are coming to a town near you.
https://a.co/d/1fluHVc
Luna Lindsey Corbden
https://recoveringagency.com/about/bio/
Dear listener, ordering of the book is now live, we repeat, LIVE. This is not s drill. We summon the book team to do our bidding!
https://a.co/d/dJupujR
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Sarah and Mason sometimes receive encouragement as they share their spiritual journey in this recorded form. Other times they receive challenging sentiments of anger and distress. Content warning, very salty language.
Sarah's apperance on Almost Awakened with Bill Reel.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nd_kNpNiDcc&list=PLq34QmiHsNjc0OsEuCziKhCIJeRL7h-Pn&index=154
Sarah answers the question: Should the penis be required equipment for one to be in a leadership position? Short answer. No. Long answer. Noooooo.
Continuing our cult control, we round the corner into milieu control, which is fun to say, hard to spell, but fascinating to dive into. Click the play button, dear listener, and let's go on a magic podcast ride. Heads up, this episode has salty language but lots of love and mental health discussion.
Sarah's recent apperance on the Almost Awakened podcast.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLq34QmiHsNjc0OsEuCziKhCIJeRL7h-Pn
Steven Hassan: The BITE model.
https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/
Recovering Agency by Luna Lindsey Corbden. Pg 142-156.
https://www.amazon.com/Recovering-Agency-Luna-Lindsey-audiobook/dp/B01M9JSIRU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3TF4WZFLCD00I&keywords=recovering+agency&qid=1685207345&sprefix=recovering+acency%2Caps%2C103&sr=8-1
Are we making a ton of money from our podcast? The answer may surprise you. This podcast is a service project, to bring the general public relevant information and basic mental health interventions. Click the play button, we want to share with you.
Here is a link to Sarah's recent appearance on Almost Awakened.
https://almostawakened.org/2023/07/clinical-perspective-on-spirituality-psychedelics-aa-158/
Codependency is a trauma response. It's a coping skill; a survivor tries to micro-manage or control people to feel better or safe. Let's ensure we aren't talking about toxic dependency, which is overly reliant on others; this subtle difference makes a huge difference when understanding the resulting behaviors.
Melody Beattie - Codependent No More
https://melodybeattie.com/books/codependent-no-stop-controlling-others-start-caring/
Sarah on Almost Awakened
https://almostawakened.org/2023/07/clinical-perspective-on-spirituality-psychedelics-aa-158/
Instead of telling people they should avoid certain topics or information criticizing a worldview, let's teach people how to check claims, citations, sources, and context. A good start is some of the lessons taught from scripture. Get your B.I.T.E. model worksheets ready dear listeners.
We kicked off our episode with a quick mention from Sarah about her recent appearance on Almost Awakened with Bill Reel. Sarah discusses psychedelics within therapy and spirituality.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nd_kNpNiDcc
With the risk of infringing on the schtick of our other days, let's start today's summary with a quote from this episode, attributed to Jack B. Worthy: "I hadn't even studied Mormonism, which is typical of the vast majority of Mormons..."
In Sarah's words, if the question we are asking today is, does the Mormon church use information control when dealing with its members...duh.
Steven Hassan: The BITE model.
https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/
Recovering Agency by Luna Lindsey Corbden. Pg111-113, 146.
https://www.amazon.com/Recovering-Agency-Luna-Lindsey-audiobook/dp/B01M9JSIRU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3TF4WZFLCD00I&keywords=recovering+agency&qid=1685207345&sprefix=recovering+acency%2Caps%2C103&sr=8-1
The Mormon Cult: Jack B Worthy.
https://www.amazon.com/Mormon-Cult-Missionary-Reveals-Secrets/dp/1884365442/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3LC07F07SL8WU&keywords=the+mormon+cult%2C+worthy&qid=1686320883&sprefix=the+mormon+cult%2C+worthy%2Caps%2C106&sr=8-1
Gospel Tangents podcast: Thomas Wayment episodes (May 29, 2023 and June 1st2023
Throughout human history, we can find so many stories that marry our fascination with mysticism and the need to know it all. To simultaneously feel like we are in control of our surroundings and that there are larger forces at work.
Come on down to our private Facebook group, and let's talk about the cult series; let us know how it is feeling to you so far? It's been a minute since we asked you how is the head? How is the heart?
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma/
How well does a bishop get to know his ward? How much weight should we put into advice from well meaning but unspecialized advice?
If you are curious about the "angel porn" meme that Sarah is referring to.
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100082085334776
We would love to hear how perhaps an organization you might belong to is fairing when compared to the B.I.T.E. model so far.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma/
We often dance around this question on this show; well, not so much dance around it. As we torpedo into it continuously with our bodies from a high dive into the swimming pool, that is the topic. Regardless, in this episode, we take Mormonism through the rigors of the B.I.T.E. model and try and establish if it fits the criteria for a cult, and the answer might surprise you. No, not at all. Of course, it hits the criteria for a cult; most, if not all, religions and systems can have cult-like attributes, but that doesn't mean they are all cults.
Steven Hassan: The BITE model.
https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/
Recovering Agency by Luna Lindsey Corbden. Pg 278.
https://www.amazon.com/Recovering-Agency-Luna-Lindsey-audiobook/dp/B01M9JSIRU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3TF4WZFLCD00I&keywords=recovering+agency&qid=1685207345&sprefix=recovering+acency%2Caps%2C103&sr=8-1
“Of all tyrannies, a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It would be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end for they do so with the approval of their own conscience. They may be more likely to go to Heaven yet at the same time likelier to make a Hell of earth. This very kindness stings with intolerable insult. To be "cured" against one's will and cured of states which we may not regard as disease is to be put on a level of those who have not yet reached the age of reason or those who never will; to be classed with infants, imbeciles, and domestic animals.” - C.S. Lewis
As we continue our mind-bending journey through examining the cult-like behaviors of the Mormon church, we ponder and answer; is there mention of time control or relaxation in the scriptures? The answer may surprise you.
Feb 2018, “What do Mormon Women Get?” Sherri L Dew
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xYju0uVEEyQ
Steven Hassan: The BITE model. https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/
Recovering Agency by Luna Lindsey Corbden
https://www.amazon.com/Recovering-Agency-Lifting-Mormon-Control/dp/1489595937
“The power of vulnerability” by Brene Brown
https://brenebrown.com/book/the-power-of-vulnerability/
Doctrine and Covenants 58:26-33; 123:13
Book of Mormon: Mosiah 2:21
New Testament: Matthew 6:33; 22:37
Gordon B Hinckley: What are people asking about us?
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1998/10/what-are-people-asking-about-us?lang=eng
Long-time listeners of the show know the love we show to the incredible Brene Brown. Continuing into our cult-series, next week we talk time-control, as in time commitment, not time travel. Who would make such silly jokes about time travel.
https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-anxiety-calm-over-under-functioning/
https://www.amazon.com/The-Power-of-Vulnerability-audiobook/dp/B00D1Z9RFU/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=The+Power+of+Vulnerability&qid=1687387704&s=books&sr=1-1
Two things that Sarah says. Boundaries are meant to protect the individual who sets them and attempting to control another's behavior by setting boundaries will fracture relationships. Something Brene Brown says; Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.
Now get out your note-taking devices and sit down for a quick sip of the good stuff. Hits you in the keister right when you need it most.
This one is for Rita and her herd of cats. No one is here to tell you how to donate money, but recognize certain truths about how it works and what your money is being utilized for. More than anything, this is more about financial independence. Get some classes, be wise, and be protected.
Long-time supporters of the show will remember how passionate Sarah was in the mini-series that took a deep dive into why she left the Mormon church. The tithing episode, in particular, was one of our most listened-to episodes so far. This episode here is a deeper look at it through the lens of exposing cult tactics, again with the BITE model and Sarah and Mason's anecdotal and observed experiences. Also, Sarah gives a fresh perspective on the famous tithing tire story. When did you last hear the term "hot check?".
John Dehlin. Tithing and the LDS/Mormon church.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6MkgCOcejbM
LDS Doctrine and Covenants section 64:23
Divorce rates in the US. 2020.
https://www.usnews.com/news/best-states/articles/states-with-the-highest-divorce-rates
Median income by state.
https://www.investopedia.com/median-income-by-state-5070640
My Tithing tire.
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/liahona/2005/06/latter-day-saint-voices/my-tithing-tire?lang=eng
Mormonism Live podcast #128: Gone in 60 Minutes
Financial Peace University.
https://www.ramseysolutions.com/ramseyplus/financial-peace
https://zawn.substack.com/p/please-dont-become-a-stay-at-home?utm_source=direct&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
Shout out to John Dehlin and all our allies and accomplices on this journey through time and space. Dropping on Monday, we continue our cult series and we examine financial exploitation. Watch this video, get your prep work done now and you have our permission to start the weekend early.
John Dehlin. Tithing and the LDS/Mormon church.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6MkgCOcejbM
Radical acceptance means practicing a conscious effort to acknowledge and honor difficult situations and emotions. Fully accepting things as they are, instead of ignoring, avoiding, or wishing the situation were different, can be a critical step in moving through a difficult experience to experiencing more meaning. - psychcentral.com
Every Thursday at 12:15 Central Time, we bring you a new live stream where we answer questions and all topics are welcome.
https://www.youtube.com/@daisygirlcommunications/streams
Are you influenced by the devil? Are you spirtually self-reliant? Let's talk about undue influence.
Reminder, every Thursday at 12:15 central time, you can ask Sarah questions in real-time.
https://www.youtube.com/@daisygirlcommunications/streams
So let's check in. How are you doing? Are you buckled up? Do you have your note taking materials? We are deep into cult discussion and we need to make sure you are keeping up. This week, we talk undue influence; influence by which a person is induced to act otherwise than by their own free will or without adequate attention to the consequences.
David Bednar- Mormon Moral Agency.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mmErOV9oQZ8
Book of Mormon: 1 Nephi 4:13; 2 Nephi 2:27
New Testament: Matthew 5:29
Steven Hassan: The BITE model.
https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/
Recovering Agency by Luna Lindsey Corbden.
https://www.amazon.com/Recovering-Agency-Luna-Lindsey-audiobook/dp/B01M9JSIRU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3TF4WZFLCD00I&keywords=recovering+agency&qid=1685207345&sprefix=recovering+acency%2Caps%2C103&sr=8-1
Combating cult mind control by Steven Hassan
https://www.amazon.com/Combating-Cult-Mind-Control-audiobook/dp/B07GZQMCT8/ref=sr_1_1?crid=CCL01LULLENA&keywords=combating+cult+mind+control+steven+hassan&qid=1685210084&sprefix=combating+cu%2Caps%2C116&sr=8-1
Sarah reads from her upcoming book Trauma Bonded: A True Story of Navigating Attachments Forged in Complex PTSD and shares a reason why it is important to share these traumas with you.
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Reminder, we have space-age technology down at the Unpacking Mormonism labs that allows us to zoom into the future...pick up this clip from the Monday episode and deliver it back here to you on the Friday before. It's taxing, it's dangerous, but we do it for you.
Dropping on Monday, we continue our cult identification and recognition series, and like we have told you before, buckle up because it's a wild ride and we are all learning something.
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Dear listener, just because there isn't poisonous kool-aid, or tales of a spaceship coming to pick you up if you have the right shoes, that doesn't mean it isn't a cult.
We offer you Steven Hassan's: BITE model.
https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/
Remember, we have a private Facebook group and you can always email us. Don't be afraid to ask questions, you aren't alone.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Email is DaisyGirlCommunications@gmail.com
Also, we NEED you to come over to our Throwback Thursday live series. We answer listener questions and all topics are welcome.
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How can we identify cult-like organizations? Dear listeners, we kick off our new mini-series with a lot of information. We highly suggest you take notes, you will get more out of it. Now, we warned you to buckle up, this is going to be an adventure, you might not be comfortable the whole time but you will be more educated and enlightened.
Steven Hassan: The BITE model.
https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/
Recovering Agency by Luna Lindsey Corbden.
https://www.amazon.com/Recovering-Agency-Luna-Lindsey-audiobook/dp/B01M9JSIRU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3TF4WZFLCD00I&keywords=recovering+agency&qid=1685207345&sprefix=recovering+acency%2Caps%2C103&sr=8-1
Mormon stories #1743-1744- Interview with Steven Hassan
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1v2YHO0iSCg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=enap25kycMQ&t=3s
Mormon stories #1443-1445- Interview with Luna Lindsey Corbden
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kFyVcsLK_dM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7kzVU15eKnU
Captive Hearts, Captive Minds.
https://www.amazon.com/Captive-Hearts-Minds-Recovery-Relationships/dp/0897931440/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3ROW82W5U2Z0Z&keywords=captive+hearts+captive+minds&qid=1685209967&sprefix=captive+hearts+captive+minds%2Caps%2C108&sr=8-1
Combating cult mind control by Steven Hassan
https://www.amazon.com/Combating-Cult-Mind-Control-audiobook/dp/B07GZQMCT8/ref=sr_1_1?crid=CCL01LULLENA&keywords=combating+cult+mind+control+steven+hassan&qid=1685210084&sprefix=combating+cu%2Caps%2C116&sr=8-1
Next week we start our deep dive into cults and we have brought in extra help to answer all the listener emails we know we are going to receive. Buckle up, saddle up, strap in, whatever it is you do, to get ready for a wild ride, you need to do...and none of this "well everything is a cult then" nonsense. Uh-uh, go sell that horse hockey somewhere else pal.
Also a few things top inform you of.
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Cognitive bias is a systematic thought process caused by the tendency of the human brain to simplify information processing through a filter of personal experience and preferences. The filtering process is a coping mechanism that enables the brain to prioritize and process large amounts of information quickly. ~TechTarget.com
Confirmation Bias - The tendency to interpret new evidence as
confirmation of one's existing beliefs or theories. ~Oxford Languages
Video version here.
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The greatest honor we have been given is when our listeners say things like "I finally feel like I'm understabding myself better because of your podcast..."
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Listen, we need to talk. You have to, you just HAVE to come down to the Thursday Throwbacks at 12:15 (Central Time). It's better than a shot of espresso. Cause it stimulates the brain and the body...wooo, I get a buzz just thinking about it.
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Nine months, forty episodes, over eighteen thousand plays/downloads and a few relatives annoyed along the way. What a crazy ride it has been dear listener. Sarah and Mason share where they started and where they are and what is left to come.
Tell us where you are, we'd love to hear from you down in Facebook town.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
And make sure to sign up for our newsletter and get the skinny on upcoming behind the scenes fun and special offers.
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And you gotta, you just gotta check out the Throwdown Thursday live streams. No topic is off limits.
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Season two is on the horizon, a tease of behind the scenes exclusives, a direct line to text Sarah? Adorable married flirting. We pack this clip from the future full of information...including Mason's impersonation of a gong sound...which is a 6 out of 10 at best. We love you Mason!
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And you gotta, you just gotta check out the Throwdown Thursday live streams.
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Reviewing Maslow's Hierarchy of needs. Physiological, safety, love, esteem, and self-actualization. Check out the video of the live stream from this episode here.
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Come on down to the Facebook group and hit us with questions and suggestions. No topic is off limit.
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A question for you today dear listener. Do you often, sometimes, always...think you are the smartest person in the room? It's almost never true. Why does it matter?
Why do we judge others by perceived intelligence or their vocabulary?
How does this apply to high demand religions; like Mormonism? Listen to the episode and find out.
A quote we have used before, but let's review.
Mark Twain said: "Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime."
Tomorrow's live stream would only be better if you showed up and participated. No questions off limits.
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Mason bares his soul and you really must listen. You owe it to yourself to start your week off with powerful words from a person who shares this much, in order to help us all.
This episode is dedicated to all of us learning very hard, but vital lessons as we accept the fact that we aren't right about everything, no matter how certain we are at the time.
Did you miss our most recent live stream? That's ok, here is a link.
https://www.youtube.com/live/wzWqXoNh4Bo?feature=share
We invite you, in fact we really must insist that since we have your attention, you join up with our private Facebook group and share with us how your journey is going? The head and the heart? How are they?
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Next week, for the first time ever, Mason flys the starship Unpacking Mormonism solo. Can he keep the studio from catching fire? How will he function without Sarah flirting with him to start the show? Will he refer to himself as handsome? So many questions! Here is a clip to give you a taste.
Another burning question you might have. Where can you watch these Throwback Thursday live streams that Sarah has been hosting? So glad you asked dear listener.
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Cognitive Dissonance cog-ni-tive dis-so-nance l'kägnǝdiv 'disənǝns/
noun: PSYCHOLOGY noun: cognitive dissonance the state of having inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes, especially as relating to behavioral decisions and attitude change.
Oxford Languages Online Dictionary
There are five primary types of cognitive dissonance: post-decisional dissonance, dissonance from wanting something we can't have, dissonance due to inconsistency between attitude and behavior, dissonance due to inadequate justification, and dissonance due to inconsistency between commitment and information. People invested in a given perspective shall-when confronted with contrary evidence-expend great effort to justify retaining the challenged perspective. ~Lumen Learning
Video version here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xTEksu5swyk
When healing from acute grief or matters of addiction, oftentimes the most healing occurs in groups or activities with other individuals who have experienced similar causes of deep grief.
https://drgabormate.com/book/in-the-realm-of-hungry-ghosts/
Full episode of Unpacking Mormonism here.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1LED9XhaOfSTQ0qbepet55?si=wZwFFpzhSo-CHbeG_cnmKA
Our private Facebook group here.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
The intent of this episode is to identify how we all can grow as human beings, even our host Sarah Westbrook. What better way to show that, than with a recent Facebook drama that helped Sarah see how she made life difficult for someone that she loves. Sarah also announces the release date of her book, on a very important date...hint, it involves a special group of six.
Other than bringing you one of the best psycho-education podcasts around, we also have a private Facebook group for you that is filled with dank memes, daily posts, support and encouragement. What the heck is taking you so long, get on down there and let us hear from ya.
Gabor Maté: In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts.
https://www.amazon.com/Realm-Hungry-Ghosts-Encounters-Addiction/dp/155643880X/ref=asc_df_155643880X/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312039018893&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13171491379238106120&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1020439&hvtargid=pla-454104868059&psc=1
The Mark Twain quote referenced: "Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime."
Family drama and a release date for Sarah's book, all in under nine minutes. Dear listener, click that play button and let's get this day started, the weekend starts here. Well technically at the end of the day, unless you call in "sick" and take the day off. We would never try to influence you that way...*wink wink.
If you do take the day off, come on over to the Facebook group and let's check in, have some fun, share some tears and laughs. How's that head, how's that heart?
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Better than a shot of espresso baby. From our live stream on May 11th. Sarah answers listener questions, She also talks about who we are when we are traumatized or triggered and we talk about becoming a butterfly. Let's all learn, grow and become our best selves.
Every Thursday on Facebook and YouTube 12:15 CST, 1:15 EDT, 5:15pm GMT
https://www.youtube.com/@daisygirlcommunications/streams
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Sarah recounts the healing power of bathing with others in an environment filled with women, small talk, laughter, a great sauna and lack of judgment on looks of the bodies; everyone was in a different phase in life. There was celluite, six-packs, perky parts, droopy parts and a woman trying to relax and get ready for labor.
Have you ever been to a wash house? How did you find it to be? Share with us in our private Facebook group, we want to know all about you. Yes YOU!
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"You have had a Garment placed upon you, which you were informed represents the garment given to Adam and Eve when they were found naked in the Garden of Eden, and which is called the “Garment of the Holy Priesthood.” This you were instructed to wear throughout your life. You were informed that it will be a shield and a protection to you inasmuch as you do not defile it and if you are true and faithful to your covenants." (Jerald and Sandra Tanner, Evolution of the Mormon Temple Ceremony 1842-1990 (Salt Lake City, UT: Utah Lighthouse Ministry, 2005), 110.
https://www.mrm.org/garment-protection;
General Conference of the LDS Church, April 2023: Gerritt W Gong, Ministering. ‘Swimsuit Story’. 6:12-6:51
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eLplozLahP4
Come as you are: Emily Nagoski.
https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1982165316/ref=sr_1_1?crid=38W4B1QDXXXA&keywords=come+as+you+are&qid=1682278274&sprefix=come+as+you+are%2Caps%2C136&sr=8-1
G's, the garment; next week's episode is about mind control and the magic underwear.
Have you ever heard the term "porn shoulders"? Do you judge others by the clothing they wear? Do you feel the G's are a mind f@&%?
Let's talk about it, together in our private Facebook group.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
You don't lose respect by owning your mistakes. We must recognize and own our mistakes, especially if you have hurt people. We must also learn and not repeat the same mistakes. The goal of leaders should be to work themselves out of a job. What are we talking about? Click the play button dear listeners and let's get to work.
I can't believe you haven't come down to the Facebook group yet. What are you waiting for? We have been waiting on YOU this whole time.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Let's say you slide down a banister with glee, nearly run into the wife of your commanding officer and that helps you learn about effective leadership. Now combine that with Yoda telling us that failure is one of the best teachers and what do you have...well it's this episode of Unpacking Mormonism and you gotta click the play button to understand. Get your notepads out dear listener, we are going to bring you some wisdom.
Did YOU know?! Sorry to shout but we have a private Facebook group that you just have to join up with to share with us how your journey is going. Also, how is the head? How is the heart?
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Music provided by Muza, Run to Life and Jon Worthy Music
Extreme Ownership: How US Navy Seals Lead and Win by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin.
https://www.amazon.com/Extreme-Ownership-audiobook/dp/B015TM0RM4/ref=sr_1_1?crid=395MV88DSU6K7&keywords=extreme+ownership&qid=1681075372&sprefix=extreme+ownership%2Caps%2C113&sr=8-1
Unpacking Mormonism and other religious trauma. Episode #17: Is the prophet a narcissist?
https://sites.libsyn.com/431505/017-is-the-prophet-a-narcissist
Radio Free Mormon Podcast. Episode #271: New temple endowment
https://mormondiscussionpodcast.org/2023/03/radio-free-mormon-271-new-temple-endowment-hot-takes/
Mormonism Live Podcast. Episode #69
https://mormonismlive.org/2022/03/mormonism-live-069-gaslighting-from-mormon-leadership/
Mormonism Live Podcast. Episode #73
https://mormonismlive.org/2022/04/mormonism-live-073-lying-for-the-lord/
“Why won’t you apologize?”- Harriet Lerner
https://www.amazon.com/Why-Wont-You-Apologize-audiobook/dp/B01MU5HZAW/ref=sr_1_1?crid=K1GGDMZDMBG1&keywords=why+won%27t+you+apologize&qid=1669394096&s=audible&sprefix=why+wont+you+apologiz%2Caudible%2C101&sr=1-1
What are the charateristics of a good leader? Here is just a taste of next week's episode.
Hey, did you know we did a live stream today with some breaking news.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p9ba1Cu1SD4
Mason is learning in real-time what radical acceptance means as it relates to his recent experiences with talking to his family about his spiritual journey.
Radical acceptance is letting go of the need to control, judge and wish things were different than they are.
Our private Facebook group.
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Radical Acceptance: Embracing your life with the heart of a Buddha by Tara Brach.
https://www.amazon.com/Radical-Acceptance-Embracing-Heart-Buddha/dp/0553380990
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/being-your-best-self/202203/the-healing-power-radical-acceptance
What do you do when somebody important to you, still wants to maintain a relationship, but they consistently bring toxic patterns of behavior to the table? You listen to this week's episode and then you come on down to our private Facebook and offer up your own perspective and experiences. Mason shares the journey in real-time with his family as they struggle to understand his intentions and questions, that come from a place of respect, love and curiosity. Our intention is always to avoid character attacks and instead focus on patterns and in today's show in particular, discuss radical acceptance.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Radical Acceptance: Embracing your life with the heart of a Buddha by Tara Brach.
https://www.amazon.com/Radical-Acceptance-Embracing-Heart-Buddha/dp/0553380990
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/being-your-best-self/202203/the-healing-power-radical-acceptance
Did Joseph Smith rarely mention The Book of Mormon in his sermons? As with everything, we dig into sensationalistic claims from all walks of life; the formerly religious, the currently religious and those of us figuring it out in real-time. We say "unpacking" right in the title, so you know how it goes.
Hey there you beautiful person. We NEED you in our Facebook group, slinging words and sharing stories around the metaphorical water cooler. It's just not right till you are there.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Mason clarifies a story about a bishop that has been supportive of the family with appropriate boundaries and Sarah makes an announcement about a new lunch-time learning series that will be launching on YouTube this May 11th where she will review foundational topics and answer questions from listeners.
What's that? You wonder if we have a Facebook group? We do! You gotta get down there and hang with us.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Our intent for today is to identify within yourself when you have been triggered. The recording of this episode was around the time of the LDS General Conference, which seems to have triggered some accurate, some powerful and some not very helpful chatter around how a lot of those within the Mormon community are triggered by the speeches at the conference.
So let's make sure we don't respond in a toxic way, and our reactions are representative of our true selves, our best selves, our authentic selves.
You gotta come down to the Facebook group and check in with the gang. It's not a party without you.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
The LDS General Conference
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference?lang=eng
Definition of satire.
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/satire#:~:text=%3A%20a%20literary%20work%20holding%20up,and%20discredit%20vice%20or%20folly
Next week's episode is titled "Religious Triggers" and we want to know what yours are. In this clip Sarah swears, Mason laughs and we call it a day. What do you want, for me to write out a transcript for you? Click the link and let's get to work.
Come on down to our Facebook group and sound off about those relligious triggers.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Mason explores the way he feels about the SEC fine levied against the LDS church for lying about their 32 billion with a B investment portfolio that was funded by tithing. Your tithing.
Maybe those are YOUR profits too?
We want to hear from you. How are y'all feeling? We haven't asked in a bit. How's the head? How's the heart?
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
The good news is we had a lovely time on this our second live video stream. You can check out the YouTube video here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IqIETF-Gfww The bad news is Mormon Leadership hid a 32 billion with a B investment portfolio.
https://apnews.com/article/mormonism-us-securities-and-exchange-commission-religion-business-a598c9ef9544f57e0b60d5ca80774bf7
https://www.sec.gov/litigation/admin/2023/34-96951.pdf
SEC statement Feb 21st, 2023
https://www.sec.gov/archives/edgar/data/1454984/000145498423000004/xslform13F_X02/ensignpeak221231.xml
LDS church response
https://newsroom.churchofjesuschrist.org/article/church-issues-statement-on-sec-settlement
We strive here at the Unpacking Mormonism labs to present heavy and intense subjects in a comfortable, warm and even sometimes light-hearted atmosphere. We also try to be fascinating and engaging when we can but sometimes the topics are shameful...but also super dry.
If you are an accountant or a numbers person with a taste for tales of impropriety, we are coming at you with a barrel full of content to knock you off your abacus.
Next week we present a show about:
SEC Charges The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and Its Investment Management Company for Disclosure Failures and Misstated Filings
https://www.sec.gov/news/press-release/2023-35#:~:text=To%20settle%20the%20charges%2C%20Ensign,of%20certain%20securities%20they%20manage.
"If medical providers, if people in committed relationships, if parents and children; if bishops, can sit in counsel and listen to understand the lived experience of the other person..."
We talk about coffee, cocaine, more poop and we share some love and advice.
Come on down to the Facebook group pardner. Saddle up and ride along. Yee-haw!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Welcome a beautiful human, Ian Lumgair. Current member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints and an absolute cherished family friend, eternally bonded, attached, like a brick if you will...*
Come join our Facebook group for discussion, hilarious (to us) memes and support.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
*Inside joke (click the link)
Show notes to come soon.
Next week's show is titled "A Sh*##y Show with Ian Lumgair" and we do so hope you join us.
Stay tuned for a shout out to our ever growing list of cities across the globe, joining us all on this journey to learn, grow and become our best selves.
You should come to our private Facebook group, it's not a party till you get here.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
You are not broken. Don't give your power away. We challenge the idea that churches teach and perpetuate that we are broken and need patriarchal figures of power to save us or make us happy. This is different and subtle from accepting the notion of a higher power. Learned helplessness is useless; well it's of use to a cult to hold power over you, so there is that.
Come now dear listener, there are so many of us on this journey together in our private Facebook group.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
We don't have to be broken, in fact it's better for our hearts and our minds on this journey if we are not. Dear listener we ask you in this episode to ponder how you feel about spiritual policy used in a coercive fashion; even if the intention is healing, if the group is not flexible in it's methods, is that appropriate and able to heal?
Has this ever happened to you? How do you feel about this? Listen to the episode and share your thoughts in our private Facebook group.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
All kidding aside, Sarah shares a little on the family's journey to find a better faith-based Sunday spiritual learning tradition.
Dear listener, are you also in search of a faith-based, spiritual tradition to replace something you might have left behind?
Well let's talk about this journey we are all on together down at the private Facebook group we set up. Discussion, support, dank memes.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Sarah: "We need to belong within community and my exodus out of the church threatened YOUR belonging..."
Mason: "To truly belong, I need to be authentic and be accepted as my authentic self..."
We are humbled and honored to now be over 17K downloads dear listener. Please come by the private Facebook group and join a fast growing community of support and discussion as we take this journey together, every day.
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Sarah and Mason show how an emotional conversation can be safe and respectful while at the same time be difficult and illuminating. Tissue warning, this is a beautiful and touching episode.
Please to be saying hello to us on our private Facebook group, we would love to offer conversation and support as we all are on this journey together, so let's sound off on where we are, and where we want to be.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Burnout The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle By Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/592377/burnout-by-emily-nagoski-phd-and-amelia-nagoski-dma/ “The power of vulnerability” by Brene Brown. https://www.amazon.com/The-Power-of-Vulnerability-audiobook/dp/B00D1Z9RFU/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=the+power+of+vulnerability+by+brene+brown&qid=1674405225&sprefix=the+power+of+vulner%2Caps%2C350&sr=8-1 Parenting After Trauma with Robyn Gobbel https://open.spotify.com/show/0loYF113e4TSeCxs2eFrg6 Wreck-It Ralph https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1772341/ Zootopia https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2948356/
The tricky thing about the technology that we use to travel to the future to pick these clips up and bring them to you here on the Friday before the Monday is...now I've said too much.
Ok, I will tell you...the technology also requires that we leave a cliffhanger, to give you all weekend to get excited about the show on Monday. A feedback email from a listener you say...
Join our private Facebook group for discussion, support and quite frankly, other people on a similar journey as yourself.
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Sarah: What I found interesting was when I left the church and was trying alcohol you had a paralyzing fear...
Mason: I don't think it was paralyzing, I'm not saying it didn't feel that way to you...
A gentle reminder dear listener that professional help is absolutely needed if you or someone you know is suffering from addiction. Also, as a reminder that Joseph Smith owned a bar and drank.
Non-professional support and conversation is available in our private Facebook group.
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Our intention today is to educate. Content warning - We will be discussing behaviors and issues around pornography, drugs, addiction and suicide. Our private Facebook group is ready for you. Come learn and grow with us. https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
“Unbroken Brain: A revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction” by Maia Szalavitz.
https://www.amazon.com/Unbroken-Brain-Revolutionary-Understanding-Addiction/dp/1250116449/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2OFBDMNACTNMI&keywords=unbroken+brain&qid=1676325766&sprefix=unbroken+brain%2Caps%2C531&sr=8-1
“Understanding Addiction: Know science, No Stigma” by Dr Chuck Smith and Dr Jason Hunt.
https://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Addiction-Know-Science-Stigma/dp/173723520X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2JP525YBVKRQY&keywords=understanding+addiction&qid=1676325806&sprefix=understanding+addiction%2Caps%2C156&sr=8-1
“Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing” by Matthew Perry.
https://www.amazon.com/Friends-Lovers-Big-Terrible- /dp/1250866448/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?keywords=matthew+perry+book&qid=1676326259&sprefix=matthew+%2Caps%2C200&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEyRVVLRjZBM1ZOMElGJmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwNDg0NTE5MVNCQ0RGR1FZWFNRRiZlbmNyeXB0ZWRBZElkPUEwNzMzNTQ0MlVYOTdWRTI4S1NQWSZ3aWRnZXROYW1lPXNwX2F0ZiZhY3Rpb249Y2xpY2tSZWRpcmVjdCZkb05vdExvZ0NsaWNrPXRydWU=
“Boy who was raised as a dog” by Bruce D Perry.
https://www.amazon.com/Boy-Who-Raised-Psychiatrists-Notebook-What/dp/0465094457/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=the+boy+who+was+raised+as+a+dog&qid=1676327422&sprefix=the+boy+who+was%2Caps%2C150&sr=8-1
“Go ask Alice” by Anonymous Diaries.
https://www.amazon.com/Go-Ask-Alice-Diaries/dp/1416914633/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1DOYK02GBMFPD&keywords=go+ask+alice%2C+book&qid=1676327834&s=gift-cards&sprefix=go+ask+alice%2C+book%2Cgift-cards%2C115&sr=1-1
“In the Realm of hungry Ghosts: Close encounters with addiction” by Gabor Mate.
https://www.amazon.com/Realm-Hungry-Ghosts-Encounters-Addiction/dp/155643880X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3FLNSD5LN5GRD&keywords=ghosts+of+addiction&qid=1676329556&s=gift-cards&sprefix=ghosts+of+addiction%2Cgift-cards%2C116&sr=1-1
National institute for mental health-
https://www.nimh.nih.gov/
Substance abuse and mental health services administration
https://www.samhsa.gov/
Usually when there's real addiction in someone's life, there's underlying issues going on.
Most of the world is afraid of addiction, because there is an idea of loss of control.
A gentle reminder dear listener that while we offer stories and support, we are not a replacement for therapy or your personal health provider.
Questions and guidance are available in our private Facebook group.
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Mason: "...how do I preserve that? And sometimes that's well…we need to step back or change our perspectives..."
Sarah: "I disagree it's not about what's best for us...it's about what causes the least harm."
Come join our private Facebook group for conversation and support.
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Our intention today is to understand why is it that when we know better, we don't always do better. A free piece of Daisy Girl merchandise to the listener that correctly counts all the f-bombs that are bleeped out in this episode. Make sure you listen to the end to get them all. Share your answer on our Facebook page.
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Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs
https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/c/c3/Maslow's_hierarchy_of_needs.png
Mormonism Live! Episode #27 with Spencer Wright- Apologetic Logical Fallacies
https://mormonismlive.org/2021/06/mormonism-live-027-spencer-wright-apologetic-logical-fallacies/
John D. Lee, Mormonism Unveiled, 1882.
http://www.LDSdefector.com/fact-1552/
Burnout: the Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Amelia Nagoski and Emily Nagoski
https://www.amazon.com/Burnout-Secret-Unlocking-Stress-Cycle/dp/1984818325/ref=sr_1_1?crid=KKW53153M14J&keywords=burnout+emily+nagoski&qid=1667759551&sprefix=burnout%2Caps%2C120&sr=8-1
"We got home late, I literally put it on the table, fell asleep - got up the next morning, we packed, we got on the airplane, we flew home."
As we have mentioned, we have special technology that allows us to zoom into the future by a few days, grab a clip from the show that uploads this upcoming Monday and bring it back to you on the Friday before that Monday. It's proprietary technology, but we are willing to share this and any of our shrinky voodoo magical analogy sht too.
*Reference to something in the clip, you gotta click play turkeys.
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When you recognize your amygdala is activated, deep breathing is your best bet; when possible of course, not good advice for a on-duty lifeguard or fire fighter perhaps.
Stay tuned for a new city in our growing list of listenership.
Rewire Your Anxious Brain.
https://www.newharbinger.com/9781626251137/rewire-your-anxious-brain/
Our private Facebook group.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Mason begins the show declaring himself the spare tire. At least we know he is back there, laying under a first aid kit, probably some jumper cables and a badmitton set, maybe a bag from my frisbee golf days.
Ask yourself dear listener, how often do you want to throw a tantrum?
Our private Facebook group:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
The R.A.I.D. worksheet:
https://www.daisygirlcommunications.com/handouts
Burnout The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle By Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA
https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/592377/burnout-by-emily-nagoski-phd-and-amelia-nagoski-dma/
Unlocking Us with Brené Brown
https://brenebrown.com/podcast-show/unlocking-us/
Have you ever binged eaten? Or maxed out a credit card? Sometimes we use these things as coping mechanisms but we don't have to. Stay tuned for shout outs to a new city that made our top ten list for most listens.
Enjoy this clip from our live stream premiere last week and stay tuned for an annoucement about a live show TOMORROW Feb 25th, on our FB page. https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100083214136490
How young is too young to exorcize your child?
Listen to the full episode here.
https://open.spotify.com/show/6KjeKzIAPLTzHxQIZIzHUJ
Join us for discussion, opinions, support and good people.
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Why do we mean by unpacking? Take everything out, examine it, look at it, wash the dirty clothes, decide what to keep and what you don't need for the next trip...something is in there that you didn't put in there.
Codependent no more by Melody Beattie.
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=codependent+no+more+book+by+melody+beattie&i=stripbooks&sprefix=codepen%2Cstripbooks%2C113&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_7
Mormon stories episode #1720; Why more Mormons don’t leave the Church.
https://www.mhanational.org/co-dependency
New Testament:
John 3:16-7
https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/John-3-16/
Matthew 12:36-37
https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Matthew-12-36_12-37/
Luke 6:37
https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Luke-6-37/
Book of Mormon:
Alma 12:14
https://bookofmormonstudynotes.blog/2015/06/16/we-must-come-forth-and-stand-before-him-alma-1214-15/
Mosiah 2:36-39
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/bofm/mosiah/2?lang=eng
Mosiah 3:24-25
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/bofm/mosiah/3?lang=eng
2 Nephi 28:20-23
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/bofm/2-ne/28?lang=eng
“Becoming Free indeed” by Jinger Dugger
https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Free-Indeed-Story-Disentangling/dp/B0BCBWB43T/ref=sr_1_1?crid=U2B0MEN6GAQO&keywords=jinger+duggar&qid=1675395578&sprefix=jinger+dugg%2Caps%2C617&sr=8-1
We have the technology down here at Daisy Girl Communication's HQ, that allows us to zoom to the future, retrieve a clip from our show and return back to bring it to you here in time and space. From our episode dropping Monday; Codependency on Satan.
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Our goal for today is that you can walk away, with a better understanding, of what goes on in your brain and your body when forgiveness is achieved.
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New Testament- Mark 11:25-6
https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Mark-11-25/
Doctrine and Covenants 64:9-11
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/64?lang=eng
Alma 34:32-4
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/bofm/alma/34?lang=eng
The RAID Cycle: The emotional Cycle- https://www.daisygirlcommunications.com/handouts
“Why won’t you apologize?”- Harriet Lerner https://www.amazon.com/Why-Wont-You-Apologize-audiobook/dp/B01MU5HZAW/ref=sr_1_1?crid=K1GGDMZDMBG1&keywords=why+won%27t+you+apologize&qid=1669394096&s=audible&sprefix=why+wont+you+apologiz%2Caudible%2C101&sr=1-1
“Permission to Feel” by Marc Brackett. https://www.amazon.com/Permission-to-Feel-Marc-Brackett-audiobook/dp/B07THD9LRV/ref=sr_1_1?crid=N7UHR12SI2QB&keywords=permission+to+feel&qid=1674405285&s=audible&sprefix=permission+to+feel%2Caudible%2C151&sr=1-1
Matthew 18:20-21
https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Matthew-18-20/
Content warning. Words and phrases in the realm of PTSD, sexual trauma and assault.
If you have a prolonged uncomfortable response to someone who has abused or wounded you, that is not a sin, that's a PTSD response.
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Spoiler it's almost, if not always - fear. "If I understand why my children are lying to me, if I can go ok, what are they afraid of, what's going on here, I am able to shift the environment so that I can become a safe person, that can hold and handle the truth, without creating that fear response...
Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs
https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html
For today our goal is to gain an understanding on why we struggle sometimes with dishonesty and engaging in lying behviors that do harm to ourselves and the others around us.
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Brene Brown- the Power of Vulnerability. Compassion- knowing our darkness well enough that we can sit in the dark with others, it is never a relationship between the wounded and the healed, it is a relationship between equals.
https://www.amazon.com/The-Power-of-Vulnerability-audiobook/dp/B00D1Z9RFU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=36OXY64KRQQXD&keywords=the+power+of+vulnerability+by+brene+brown&qid=1667759965&sprefix=the+power+of+vu%2Caps%2C139&sr=8-1
Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs
https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html
“In sacred loneliness” by Todd Compton.
https://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Loneliness-Plural-Wives-Joseph-ebook/dp/B019RD9ZX8/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2326GCOGF5EHS&keywords=in+sacred+loneliness&qid=1667765283&s=audible&sprefix=in+sacred+lonliness%2Caudible%2C123&sr=1-1-catcorr
Why do you lie? Why do I lie? Why do we lie? What are we all afraid of?
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"...I learned how to love without judgment, those that are less fortunate or living their life in a way that I didn't necessarily understand that I could love them and accept where they were at..."
Today we are going to talk about the good things that Mormonism has given us; it's mostly good things, you know how we roll. When it comes to most religious systems, there is almost always a mix of bad, good and everything in between.
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Jeffrey R Holland; Like a broken vessel, Liahona, November 2013
⦁ The value of hard work. Matthew 5:46 ⦁ The power of positivity. Matthew 6:18; D&C 58:26-28 ⦁ Positive change, make the world a better place. Matthew 5:14-16; 25:40; 10:39 ⦁ Strong Values ⦁ Emergency Preparedness. D&C 38:30 ⦁ Scriptural Awareness. 1 Ne 19:23 ⦁ Community
Brene Brown- the Power of Vulnerability. Compassion- knowing our darkness well enough that we can sit in the dark with others, it is never a relationship between the wounded and the healed, it is a relationship between equals.
https://www.amazon.com/The-Power-of-Vulnerability-audiobook/dp/B00D1Z9RFU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=36OXY64KRQQXD&keywords=the+power+of+vulnerability+by+brene+brown&qid=1667759965&sprefix=the+power+of+vu%2Caps%2C139&sr=8-1
"We want to see the good and bad that comes from things so that we can find a place where we can happily partake of the good without passing on the bad..."
"...this lovely man, the most lovely of us all, had to die a a vile and gruesome death on a cross to pay the price for my sins...what that did was map onto myself that their is something so vile about me that...that most violent thing had to happen. "
Why I left the LDS Church - Coach Wendi Jensen: Why I left the LDS church.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SLNAMYScGpc
Wendi Jade
https://www.facebook.com/groups/2389666891074742
EMPOWERED FORMER LDS SUPPORT GROUP
https://www.facebook.com/groups/2389666891074742/?ref=share
Remembering Wholeness-
https://www.amazon.com/Remembering-Wholeness-Handbook-Thriving-Anniversary/dp/0984402187
The healing questions guide.
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=the+healing+questions+guide+by+wendi+jensen&i=stripbooks&sprefix=the+helaing+questions%2Cstripbooks%2C157&ref=nb_sb_ss_sc_1_21
Codependent no more.
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=codependent+no+more+book+by+melody+beattie&i=stripbooks&sprefix=codepen%2Cstripbooks%2C113&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_7
“You can’t love others more than you love yourself.” The gifts of Imperfection; Brene Brown
https://www.amazon.com/Gifts-Imperfection-Anniversary-Features-brand-new/dp/1616499605/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=the+gift+of+imperfection+by+brene+brown&qid=1672260693&s=books&sprefix=the+gift+of+imp%2Cstripbooks%2C131&sr=1-1
Stephen Hassan.
https://www.amazon.com/Freedom-Mind-Helping-Controlling-Beliefs/dp/0967068843/ref=sr_1_4?crid=1DMQ9ZHC110V4&keywords=the+bite+model&qid=1672261231&s=books&sprefix=the+bite+model%2Cstripbooks%2C146&sr=1-4
https://www.amazon.com/Peculiar-Transition-Healing-Trauma-Mormon-ebook/dp/B07DKW7TMM/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=a+peculiar+transition&qid=1606773467&sr=8-1
A lot of our listeners don't want to be spiritually or emotionally stunted. You want to have opportunities to learn, grow and become your best selves; we all do friends and we are doing it now and always, together. Click that link and let's welcome Wendy Jensen, who works in the human potential and religious recovery realms. Why I left the LDS Church - Coach Wendi Jensen: Why I left the LDS church.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SLNAMYScGpc
Wendi Jade
https://www.facebook.com/groups/2389666891074742
EMPOWERED FORMER LDS SUPPORT GROUP
https://www.facebook.com/groups/2389666891074742/?ref=share
Remembering Wholeness-
https://www.amazon.com/Remembering-Wholeness-Handbook-Thriving-Anniversary/dp/0984402187
The healing questions guide.
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=the+healing+questions+guide+by+wendi+jensen&i=stripbooks&sprefix=the+helaing+questions%2Cstripbooks%2C157&ref=nb_sb_ss_sc_1_21
Codependent no more.
https://www.amazon.com/s?k=codependent+no+more+book+by+melody+beattie&i=stripbooks&sprefix=codepen%2Cstripbooks%2C113&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_7
“You can’t love others more than you love yourself.” The gifts of Imperfection; Brene Brown
https://www.amazon.com/Gifts-Imperfection-Anniversary-Features-brand-new/dp/1616499605/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=the+gift+of+imperfection+by+brene+brown&qid=1672260693&s=books&sprefix=the+gift+of+imp%2Cstripbooks%2C131&sr=1-1
Stephen Hassan.
https://www.amazon.com/Freedom-Mind-Helping-Controlling-Beliefs/dp/0967068843/ref=sr_1_4?crid=1DMQ9ZHC110V4&keywords=the+bite+model&qid=1672261231&s=books&sprefix=the+bite+model%2Cstripbooks%2C146&sr=1-4
https://www.amazon.com/Peculiar-Transition-Healing-Trauma-Mormon-ebook/dp/B07DKW7TMM/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=a+peculiar+transition&qid=1606773467&sr=8-1
"I noticed their syntax, their cadance and the vacancy in their eyes was all like they were these little automatons, because they were only allowed to observe a certain field of information and it affected their very appearance."
"We call it this light we have, but in reality it's a lack of complexity and diversity."
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"Emma, eff you. I'm gonna marry other women and you better just give me permission, otherwise the lord is going to strike you down..."
That's an abusive tactic AND it silences women. "it's over for you sweetheart..."
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Sarah was in her master's program for mental health counseling when she began to recognize how often her voice was being silenced within the LDS church. Her academic work, her research was getting notoriety but it wasn't until a peer utilized her insights to further learning for a class, that she realized just how long her voice had been muted within the Mormon community. Come join the discussion and support on our Facebook page. All opinions welcome.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma Feb 2018, “What do Mormon Women Get?” Sherri L Dew Nauvoo, Sunday, March 9th 1845- Pres B Young spoke… Relief society going to meet again—I say I will curse every man that lets his wife or daughters meet again—Until I tell them—what are relief societies for? To relieve us of our best men. They relieved us of Joseph and Hyrum. I don’t want the advice or counsel of any woman. They will lead us down to hell. When I want sisters and the wives of the members of this church to get a relief society, I will summon them to my aid, but until that time let them stay at home. And if you see females huddling together, veto the concern. And if they say Joseph started it, tell them it is a damned lie, for I know he never encouraged it.
https://youtu.be/xYju0uVEEyQ;
Mormonism Live Podcast, Episode 107
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4lEhuNwhgiY
Prophets can see around the corner. Sherri Dew.
https://speeches.byuh.edu/prophets-can-see-around-corners
Mormon Stories podcast, Episode 1692 with John Larsen
https://www.mormonstories.org/podcast/gender-discrimination-john-larsen/
Dear Mormon Man...
https://mormondom.com/letter-to-a-mormon-man-8d251aa1f062
Mormon Scripture: Doctrine and Covenants section 132
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/manual/doctrine-and-covenants-student-manual/section-132-marriage-an-eternal-covenant?lang=eng#:~:text=Those%20married%20in%20the%20temple,%E2%80%9D%20(Mormon%20Doctrine%2C%20p.
Spencer W Kimball, Role of a Righteous Woman, October 1979 General Conference.
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1979/10/the-role-of-righteous-women?lang=eng
The 4 horsemen of the apocalypse, Gottman;
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1o30Ps-_8is
"...there's a lot of effort to placate our Sisters...and there's another word I think I used completely correctly..." Come join the discussion and support on our Facebook group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
There are a multitude of reasons to start a family and almost certainly an equal amount of reasons to not start a family. How do you know when it's time? Well understand this, it almost never has to do with what a church or a culture within a church has to say about it. Especially when they do not know you, or your journey on a personal level.
What do you think dear listener? Come discuss with us on our Facebook group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
https://womenseekingchrist.org/2011/05/13/ask-a-mormon-woman-why-do-mormons-have-so-many-kids/
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/new-era/1976/02/marriage-the-proper-way?lang=eng
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2006/06/dating-versus-hanging-out?lang=eng
https://www.amazon.com/Teachings-Ezra-Taft-Benson/dp/0884946398/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3BTUQ19XED80K&keywords=the+teachings+of+ezra+taft+benson&qid=1671394654&sprefix=the+teachings+of+ezra+taft+ben%2Caps%2C1038&sr=8-1
Next week we hear about the damage that can be done when a culture creates "others" with ignorant judgments, arbitrary rules and shaming. What would you do when a respected leader chastises you in front of your neighbors and peers for not having children...as you struggle with fertility issues?
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"I couldn't see those things until my motivation was to understand someone...I used to think communication was key, until I realized comprehension was."
Full episode 019 - https://open.spotify.com/episode/5j481KAFwmAknCjmfatQG7?si=XnVUL5XNRxWWPQs5Ddxnhg
Our goal today is to identify barriers to listening to understand and also how to validate someone without agreeing to their opinion. A very important and specific skill set if you want to develop a relationship, friendship or partnership with someone who differs from you, but you seek to understand their viewpoint. “I hear you”- Michael S Sorenson
https://www.amazon.com/I-Hear-You-Michael-S-Sorensen-audiobook/dp/B074SW14S1/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3ERRLK69231NI&keywords=I+hear+you&qid=1669394062&s=audible&sprefix=i+hear+you%2Caudible%2C117&sr=1-1
LDS scripture- Bible Dictionary- Repentance
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/bd/repentance?lang=eng
Mormonism Live Podcast: Episode 105. When Mormon leaders encourage violence.
https://mormonismlive.org/2022/12/mormonism-live-105-when-mormon-leaders-encourage-violence/
Matthew 7:1
https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%207%3A1&version=NIV
Brene Brown- the Power of Vulnerability
https://www.amazon.com/The-Power-of-Vulnerability-audiobook/dp/B00D1Z9RFU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=36OXY64KRQQXD&keywords=the+power+of+vulnerability+by+brene+brown&qid=1667759965&sprefix=the+power+of+vu%2Caps%2C139&sr=8-1
The 4 horsemen of the apocalypse, Gottman; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1o30Ps-_8is
Most people who leave Mormonism are walking away quietly. Thank the universe that our host Sarah hasn't stayed silent.
When people are consistently communicating with you in a toxic way, it says more about them, than it does about you or whatever situation they blame you for. They are in their defensive brain space which means they are not thinking rationally. Take it for what is, and it isn't love or loving.
Come join our Facebook group and let's share situations and conversations we might have had over the holidays.
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"The above podcast is one of the most judgemental, unprofessional, know-it all, name calling, black and white, difinitive diatribe I have ever heard. And that was just in the intro..."
Mason and Sarah discuss the very public and very ignorant judgment from his Aunt; the quote above is from her Facebook post which she has since attempted to scrub from the Internet. We would also like to take this opportunity to thank her for our second best week ever for listens and downloads.
“7 principles for making marriage work” by John Gottman https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3LYHFCJGD8OR1&keywords=7+principles+for+making+marriage+work+gottman&qid=1669392600&sprefix=7+princ%2Caps%2C390&sr=8-1
Book of Mormon, 2 Nephi 9:28-29 https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/bofm/2-ne/9?lang=eng
A very important reminder for all of our listeners. Please join our conversations.
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Narcissism, diagnosing a narcissist, is super trendy right now. Narcissistic traits can be adaptive or maladaptive.
A lot of buzz going on right now in our Facebook group about the LDS church and the prophet and how this relates to narcissism. We need you to participate. Please join our discussion there. https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Full episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3UXYs8bdcskwHLxkb3fdU4?si=8AOPgbGFQ3-PQefS8FpP8g
Let's make sure we set some intention, we want to help you differentiate between narcissistic personality disorder and narcissistic characteristics or tendencies. Is the prophet of the Mormon church a narcissist? What do you think? Reach out on our Facebook page and let us know. https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
DSM-5-TR 2022; Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders https://www.psychiatry.org/psychiatrists/practice/dsm/educational-resources/dsm-5-tr-fact-sheets
This quote shows the narcissistic gaslighting tactics routinely employed by the leaders of the Mormon church. After citing their credentials, asserting their dominance, and shaming the audience for questioning, a bold claim that rejects the skeptical mindset is made. The audience is subsequently directed to simply “trust” those in authority. Such rhetoric is invalidating, discourages exploration and free thought, completely lacks even a shred of empathy, and is thus abusive to active, struggling, and former Mormons alike.
https://www.sltrib.com/opinion/commentary/2017/11/26/commentary-the-gaslighting-within-mormonism-must-stop/
My view is that being open about our history solves a whole lot more problems than it creates. We might not have all the answers, but if we are open (and we now have pretty remarkable transparency), then I think in the long run that will serve us well. I think in the past there was a tendency to keep a lot of the records closed or at least not give access to information. But the world has changed in the last generation — with the access to information on the Internet, we can’t continue that pattern; I think we need to continue to be more open. Stephen Snow, Church historian.
https://www.sltrib.com/opinion/commentary/2017/11/26/commentary-the-gaslighting-within-mormonism-must-stop/
A TBM (Steve Evans) addresses their concerns with ‘No Apologies’.
https://bycommonconsent.com/2015/01/28/all-apologies//
A narcissist has the ability to turn on feigned decency, compassion, generosity, assistance (or whatever will work) to groom people to their own purpose.
www.Melanietoniaevans.com
Spotify- Mormonism Live # 52, 58, 68, 69, 73, 77, 87, 102; Gaslighting ( 69, 73), Manipulation (87), Passive-aggressive (Apologists, 58, 77), Culture robbing (68), Lying (52, 73), The greatest problem of the LDS Church (As shared by an active member of the church, 102)
https://open.spotify.com/show/19LxPcTdYUeBhEqUaZNCFm
One of the things we see come out of a high demand religion is a much higher prevalence of personality disorders. Why? The mind games.
Get your pencils out friends and let's get started: Social media is not a personal relationship, a hot take on Superman movies and good advice from Sarah and Mason on how to grow to have a loving relationship with those that you truly love.
https://www.gottman.com/couples/products/
https://www.gottman.com/product/clinicians-digital-tools/
If you are utilizing criticism, contempt, stonewalling and defensiveness; you're not going to have the connection, the trust, the sense of belonging that you need to heal wounded relationships. This episode is about having difficult conversations. Mason and Sarah always bring us important lessons, but still filled with laughter and love. Come for the tools, stay for the debate on who is the boss of Mason. : ) You gotta check out our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
“7 principles for making marriage work” by John Gottman https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3LYHFCJGD8OR1&keywords=7+principles+for+making+marriage
https://www.daisygirlcommunications.com/handouts The Gottman Institute- www.gottman.com Sue Johnson- Hold Me Tight https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/B084G9QFZY/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2OOKPODDPKYKV&keywords=hold+me+tight&qid=1669396317&s=audible&sprefix=hold+me+tight%2Caudible%2C120&sr=1-1 The CES letter. Jeremy T Runnells www.cesletter.org
Not exclusive to religious conversations...this applies to all aspects of life. Let's learn how to go further than surface deep. Every week Sarah and Mason give us the tools to make sure we are accessing our frontal cortex, rather than our amygdala to have healthy conversations that foster relationship growth.
It’s great that you can listen to others; are you listening to contend or rescue? Or are you listening to understand? Check that amygdala. We would love to have you come join the dialogue on our Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
Curiosity is a gift. If you can gift curiosity to another person, another side and that leads to understanding, you are doing pretty good. One of the best parts of our show is that Sarah and Mason work out communications over difficult issues between them, in real-time for you the listeners. By the way, how is your head? How is your heart? Reach out and let us know on our Facebook group. https://www.facebook.com/groups/unpackingmormonismandotherreligioustrauma
https://bodylanguagematters.com/defensive-body-language/ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/nonverbal-communication.htm “7 principles for making marriage work” by John Gottman
https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3LYHFCJGD8OR1&&keywords=7+principles+for+making+marriage+work+gottman&&qid=1669392600&&sprefix=7+princ%2Caps%2C390&&sr=8-1 The CES letter. www.cesletter.org
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More often than not, when you set boundaries in healthy relationships, you can create space for empathy. Stay tuned for shout outs to our quickly growing global audience. We couldn't do this without you.
Welcome our guest Scott to the show. He shares a story about setting a boundary in a romantic relationship, that ultimately led to him doing the healthiest thing for both him and his partner...walking away. We also talk about how often times the pleasures of sex are still portrayed as shameful, even after marriage within a religion's rules.
Spoiler: Sex is beautiful and can be very spiritual.
Matthew 5:39, 10:37, 18:21-22
Latter-Day Saint D&C 64:7-9
Mormon stories #1660
https://mormonstories.org/podcast/why-exmormons-are-angry/
For the strength of youth, Aug 2022; Setting boundaries
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ftsoy/2022/08/05-set-relationship-boundaries?lang=eng
Hopefully you aren't reading this in line at a retail establishment, ready to go full feral to get a deal on a TV. In Sarah's words, no one wants to shop with that many active amygdalas, besides we got plenty of 1s and 0s for you here if you need some digital food.
Welcome to the grand finale of our five part series on what Sarah found antithetical to living a mentally, physically and spiritually healthy life. She shares deeply with her experiences both lived, read and researched and how they were completely opposite of what the LDS church professed to be about. These issues are massive, world reaching and beyond any borders. They were unacceptable and kept her from growing into what she felt was her best self for her family, her community both local and far beyond.
People are committing suicide. How are you helping prevent others in your community from doing the same? Silence is complacency; shaming or ignoring your children is being complicit in their suffering.
Welcome to the fourth part of our five part series on what Sarah found antithetical to living a mentally, physically and spiritually healthy life. She shares deeply with her experiences both lived, read and researched and how they were completely opposite of what the LDS church professed to be about. These issues are massive, world reaching and beyond any borders. They were unacceptable and kept her from growing into what she felt was her best self for her family, her community both local and far beyond.
https://thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/facts-about-lgbtq-youth-suicide
https://www.abc4.com/news/local-news/46-of-lesbian-gay-or-bisexual-teens-contemplated-suicide-in-2021-cdc-says/
https://www.heraldextra.com/news/opinion/2021/dec/03/guest-acceptance-key-for-reducing-suicide-among-lgbtq-in-utah/
https://www.nih.gov/news-events/news-releases/researchers-find-disparities-suicide-risk-among-lesbian-gay-bisexual-adults
https://www.kuer.org/religion/2018-07-25/can-the-lds-church-be-blamed-for-utahs-lgbt-suicides
Mormonism Live podcast #40- Symphony of LGBTQ Mis-direction
https://mormonismlive.org/2021/09/mormonism-live-040-symphony-of-lgbt-mis-direction-mr-holland-dopus/
Tell us what you think of the mini-series in our Facebook group. Welcome to the third part of our five part series on what Sarah found antithetical to living a mentally, physically and spiritually healthy life. She shares deeply with her experiences both lived, read and researched and how they were completely opposite of what the LDS church professed to be about. These issues are massive, world reaching and beyond any borders. They were unacceptable and kept her from growing into what she felt was her best self for her family, her community both local and far beyond. Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man
https://www.amazon.com/Uncomfortable-Conversations-Black-Man/dp/B08BG5QLW5/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3BIBXKLSN33JV&keywords=uncomfortable+conversations+with+a+black+man&qid=1668106607&sprefix=uncomfortabl%2Caps%2C689&sr=8-1
Mark Twain, The Innocents Abroad / Roughing It
https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/1716-travel-is-fatal-to-prejudice-bigotry-and-narrow-mindedness-and-many
Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You: A Remix of the National Book Award-winning Stamped from the Beginning
https://www.amazon.com/Stamped-Antiracism-National-Award-winning-Beginning/dp/0316453692/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2L4UXOEM4Z4GT&keywords=stamped&qid=1668114638&sprefix=stampe%2Caps%2C592&sr=8-1
In 1977, apostle Boyd K. Packer publicly stated that "[w]e've always counseled in the Church for our Mexican members to marry Mexicans, our Japanese members to marry Japanese, our Caucasians to marry Caucasians, our Polynesian members to marry Polynesians. ... The counsel has been wise." BYU speeches, Jan 14, 1977.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boyd_K._Packer
“Unlocking us” Podcast- Brene Brown and Emmanuel Acho. January 27th 2021, Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/episode/7942OGiMeHjuIqpcVpzuVV
“Unlocking Us” Podcast- Brene Brown and Ibram X. Kendi, June 3, 2020.
https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-with-ibram-x-kendi-on-how-to-be-an-antiracist/
Antiracist Baby Picture Book
https://www.amazon.com/Antiracist-Baby-Picture-Ibram-Kendi/dp/0593110501/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IDZOPMLWHKWK&keywords=antiracist+baby&qid=1668109010&sprefix=antira%2Caps%2C379&sr=8-1
The CES letter. www.cesletter.org
https://archive.org/details/ToMyWife
Mormonism Live podcast # 050- Bigfoot, Cain, and Prophetic Mormon Mythmaking
https://mormonismlive.org/2021/11/mormonism-live-050-bigfoot-cain-prophetic-mormon-mythmaking/
#65- Mormonism and the 30,000 foot view.
https://mormondiscussionpodcast.org/2022/03/mormonism-live-065-mormonism-the-30000-foot-view/
Mormon Expression podcast- John Larsen #283
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/283-how-we-know-beyond-a-shadow-of-a-doubt/id1584187206?i=1000534128486
This isn't a countdown, they aren't ranked in order of difficulty. Still, the enormity of the difference between what was taken and what was given, tell us what you think on our Facebook group.
Welcome to our second part of our five part series on what Sarah found antithetical to living a mentally, physically and spiritually healthy life. She shares deeply with her experiences both lived, read and researched and how they were completely opposite of what the LDS church professed to be about. These issues are massive, world reaching and beyond any borders. They were unacceptable and kept her from growing into what she felt was her best self for her family, her community both local and far beyond.
My tithing tire by Sarah Westbrook: The Ensign, July 2005.
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/liahona/2005/06/latter-day-saint-voices/my-tithing-tire?lang=eng#3
Welcome to a five part series on what Sarah found antithetical to living a mentally, physically and spiritually healthy life. She shares deeply with her experiences both lived, read and researched and how they were completely opposite of what the LDS church professed to be about. These issues are massive, world reaching and beyond any borders. They were unacceptable and kept her from growing into what she felt was her best self for her family, her community both local and far beyond.
This isn't a countdown, they aren't ranked in order of difficulty.
Brene Brown- the Power of Vulnerability
https://www.amazon.com/The-Power-of-Vulnerability-audiobook/dp/B00D1Z9RFU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=36OXY64KRQQXD&keywords=the+power+of+vulnerability+by+brene+brown&qid=1667759965&sprefix=the+power+of+vu%2Caps%2C139&sr=8-1
In sacred loneliness by Todd Compton.
https://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Loneliness-Plural-Wives-Joseph-ebook/dp/B019RD9ZX8/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2326GCOGF5EHS&keywords=in+sacred+loneliness&qid=1667765283&s=audible&sprefix=in+sacred+lonliness%2Caudible%2C123&sr=1-1-catcorr
Next week, a five-part daily series detailing the major reasons Sarah left the church. It's heavy stuff and not to be missed.
We invite y'all to come to our Facebook group; feedback, compliments, criticism and encouragement welcome.
By the way. How is your head? How is your heart?
You didn't do anything bad but you have a privilege that others don't.
How does this connect to our conversation on internal and external sources of influence? Maybe listen to the full episode and tell us what you think on our Facebook group.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/50M5IHVWyEX6P40YdG0AwP
https://www.facebook.com/groups/802806767818768
Hello and welcome friends. Let's today, learn together; the ways in which internal and external sources affect our lives. Come for the learning, stay for the amusing tales of the lurid dancer at the Garth Brooks concert.
D & C 76
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/76?lang=eng
General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints; Apr 2007- Julie Beck: Remembering, Repenting, and Changing.
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2007/04/remembering-repenting-and-changing?lang=eng
Brene Brown- the Power of Vulnerability
https://www.amazon.com/The-Power-of-Vulnerability-audiobook/dp/B00D1Z9RFU/ref=sr_1_1?crid=36OXY64KRQQXD&keywords=the+power+of+vulnerability+by+brene+brown&qid=1667759965&sprefix=the+power+of+vu%2Caps%2C139&sr=8-1
Happy Friday friends, we made it. Next week, we have an incredibly valuable episode. Are you aware of how internal and external sources affect our lives, our choices and our mindset? Do you want clarification on whether a source is internal or external? Tune in next week, but here is just a taste. xo
Listen, learn, grow and become your best self with us.
How is your head? How is your heart?
Demonstrate your motivation for change by asking your potential counselor or life coach - How are you going to help me?
Stay tuned for our shout-outs to cities with the most listens. Keep forwarding the show, all of our growth has been from word-of-mouth, thank you.
When picking our support, we need to do some unpacking. Time for the hard work to begin...wait, begin?
Mormon stories #1660
https://mormonstories.org/podcast/why-exmormons-are-angry/
The body keeps the score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk
https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1MNJATUO179E8&keywords=the+body+keeps+the+score&qid=1667759509&sprefix=the+body+keeps+th+%2Caps%2C271&sr=8-1
Burnout: the Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Amelia Nagoski and Emily Nagoski
https://www.amazon.com/Burnout-Secret-Unlocking-Stress-Cycle/dp/1984818325/ref=sr_1_1?crid=KKW53153M14J&keywords=burnout+emily+nagoski&qid=1667759551&sprefix=burnout%2Caps%2C120&sr=8-1
"Because what is resonating inside of me is hurt. I'm feeling hurt...wait, I don't deserve it."
Utilize the emotional state you are in to inform your actions.
Happy Friday friends, we made it.
Taking a deep look at a father, a parent, a community, and the culture that raised us is all part of the unpacking process.
Special thanks to Mason for letting us do our work through his experiences in these past few episodes.
Today, we ask you to remember that your perspective creates a reality. Reach out and let us know how your reality has shaped you and how you will shape your reality. Trippy...whoa. xo
Sister-in-law Shannon shares with Sarah (and Mason) we still need that third microphone. Now it's your turn, share something with us. It can be "spooky". There is your obligatory Halloween tiding.
“Why won’t you apologize?”-Harriet Lerner
https://www.harrietlerner.com/
Unlocking us Podcast - Brené Brown, Episode 12 with Harriet Learner
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2jxcLXMB672u5dpc9YqDu9
“I hear you” - Michael S Sorenson
https://michaelssorensen.com/
“7 principles for making marriage work” by John Gottman
https://www.gottman.com/
“Rough Stone Rolling” by Richard Bushman
Next week, the family fallout follow-up. Until then, just a taste.
Happy Friday friends, we made it. Today is a great day to share our show, or just listen, learn, grow and become. The caterpillar doesn't decide one day to be a butterfly ya know?
How are you feeling? How is that head? How is that heart? Let us know.
If you are silencing or shunning people who are important to you...that doesn't mean it's a cult. But that is something a cult does. That's a fact.
Forward this Wednesday Wisdom to a friend who needs to hear it, or maybe you need to hear it. Or both?
Reach out and let us know how you are feeling.
Mason takes the unpleasant and disrespectful reactions of his family in regard to the podcast and his spiritual journey, as an opportunity to take stock of his own perception. Already labeled an apostate by the church, Sarah helps Mason unpack a lot in this episode around expectations, reactions, and reactions to expectations.
We shall reiterate...
We don't attack a church; we don't attack someone's character. We honestly and accurately point out the things that continue to happen in religion that hurts others.
It is also worth asking again.
How is your head? How is your heart? Reach out and let us know.
We don't attack a church; we don't attack someone's character. We point out the things that can happen in religion that hurts others.
Let us know how you think we are doing. Leave a review or comment. We would love to hear from you.
Mind tricks to fabricate facts mostly manufacturing shame. Use reality based thinking like Socratic questions.
Full episode here.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/1uPVnrLP1iceqltGaDM343
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Step into a semi-time machine; when this was recorded, it was the night before the Unpacking Mormonism podcast was to launch. Sarah checks in with Mason on how study, growth and learning are being experienced in the realm of recording the podcast, as well as bringing tough questions to faith and sharing the journey with the family. *Spoiler - It sucks.
Reach out and let us know how YOU are doing. How is your head? How is your heart?
“Under the Banner of Heaven”, by Jon Krakauer
https://www.jonkrakauer.com/books/under-the-banner-of-heaven-tr
“The power of Vulnerability” by Brene Brown
https://brenebrown.com/book/the-power-of-vulnerability/
“Recovering Agency” by Luna Lindsey Corbden
https://recoveringagency.com/about/recovering-agency/
“The Socratic Method of Psychotherapy” by James Overholser
http://cup.columbia.edu/book/the-socratic-method-of-psychotherapy/9780231183291
General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints; Oct 2012, Jeffrey R Holland- The First Great Commandment.
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2012/10/the-first-great-commandment?lang=eng
Sarah shares what she thinks a crowning characteristic of love is.
Happy Friday friends, we made it. Leave us a review or comment...the weekend starts here.
Is loneliness the most challenging emotion that we face in this life? How does that pair with a trauma response of ultra independence.
Full episode here.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0vEO4i0ofgqiyTob9VYwjs?si=V5SEzJ8SQ9qL79fzXyS9CQ
Come join our Facebook group here.
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100083214136490
Meet Sarah's cherished friend Zoe; bosom buddies through various stages, evolutions and traumas...like being kidnapped by your own family and nearly burning a church down.
The Whipping Boy
http://www.sidfleischman.com/
LDS Doctrine and Covenants 19-16-19
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/19?lang=eng
Ephesians 2:8-9
https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Ephesians-2-8_2-9/
Romans 10:9-10
https://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org/Romans-10-9_10-10/
What does one do with a basket full of beer steins? Fifteen of them?
By the way, we would love for you to come join our Facebook group.
Your Wednesday Wisdom is fresh out of the oven, delivered straight to those beautiful ears of yours, wherever you happen to be reading this. Imagine that; your entire life has brought you to this moment. What could that mean?
Maybe it matters, maybe it matters not. At the end of the day, let's spend this time together now. Because that's really all we got.
Hit play. Listen, learn, grow and become your best self with us and invite others to come along too. We are ready to get started, how about you?
"You're destroying your family..."
"You won't be together in heaven..."
"I am all powerful and you are a POS..."
The Power of Vulnerability - Brene Brown
Permission to Feel - Marc Bracket
Book of Mormon: Mosiah 2:21
LDS Doctrine and Covenants: Section 101:4-5
Narcissism
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders
The Book of Job
Tested, Proved, and Polished By President Henry B. Eyring Second Counselor in the First Presidency
"You're destroying your family..."
"You won't be together in heaven..."
"I am all powerful and you are a POS..."
Episode 007 drops on Monday, October 3rd 2022 and it is a great one friends. Reach out if you think you know the story we are talking about.
Your Westbrook Wednesday Wisdom for today. Sarah breaks down the difference between the two.
Full episode 006 - Unpacking Trauma is here and we would love for you to listen, learn and grow with us.
Trigger warning. Discussions of complex, compound and community trauma.
We all need help recognizing the effects of trauma in our lives.
For those of you with therapists, If you don't feel safe or it just isn't working, please find another therapist, but don't confuse that with being uncomfortable, which is required. This isn't all puppy dogs and ice cream.
Come join us as we learn, grow and become our best selves together.
We would love to hear about how you are doing. How is your head? How is your heart?
Walden University
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders; American Psychiatric Association
Total Money Makeover- Dave Ramsey
Mormonism Live episode #89
Better Help Counseling
NCTSN- The National Child Traumatic Stress Network
For those of you with therapists, If you don't feel safe or it just isn't working, please find another therapist, but don't confuse that with being uncomfortable, which is required. This isn't all puppy dogs and ice cream.
Next week on Unpacking Mormonism we talk about trauma and we do hope you listen. Come join us as we learn, grow and become our best selves together.
Spreadsheets and finances are hard, but what we might find even harder is sticking to a budget. That being said, hardest of all might be walking away from toxic relationships with grace, which we know is better for everyone.
This is a Wednesday Wisdom clip of our recently released episode 005. Check out the full episode here.
Reach out and let us know how you are feeling. How is your head, how is your heart? daisygirlcommunications@gmail.com
Time for us to ask ourselves; are we practicing the type of self-care that leads to long-term wellness?
Reach out and let us know how you are feeling. How is your head? How is your heart? daisygirlcommunications@gmail.com
Westbrook's Pillars of Wellness: physical health, mental health, emotional health, spiritual health.
Maslow's Hiearchy of Needs
Reptilian complex: The reptilian complex (also known as the "R-complex", "reptilian brain" or "lizard brain") was the name MacLean gave to the basal ganglia, structures derived from the floor of the forebrain during development. The term derives from the idea that comparative neuroanatomists once believed that the forebrains of reptiles and birds were dominated by these structures. MacLean proposed that the reptilian complex was responsible for species-typical instinctual behaviours involved in aggression, dominance, territoriality, and ritual displays.
“Untamed”, Glennon Doyle
“On grief and grieving” by David Kessler and Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
“Total Money Makeover” by Dave Ramsey
Self-Care Wheel
This Is What ‘Self-Care’ REALLY Means, Because It’s Not All Salt Baths And Chocolate Cake
Next week on episode 005 - The Four Pillars of Wellness & Self-Care
Time for us to ask ourselves; are we practicing the type of self-care that leads to long-term wellness?
If we are going to look at self-care, let's break apart what that looks like into small pieces...
Reach out and let us know how you are feeling. How is your head? How is your heart? daisygirlcommunications@gmail.com
Content warning. This episode discusses the AP Article - Seven Years of Sex Abuse: How Mormon officials let it happen
How much training does a bishop receive about sex abuse? How much of a bishop's advice does a therapist have to undo?
Associated Press- Seven years of sex abuse: How Mormon officials let it happen.
Aug 4, 2022, Michael Rezendes
https://apnews.com/article/Mormon-church-sexual-abuse-investigation-e0e39cf9aa4fbe0d8c1442033b894660
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints newsroom. Aug 17, 2022
https://newsroom.churchofjesuschrist.org/article/church-provides-further-details-about-arizona-abuse-case
38.6.2 Abuse
General Handbook of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints
Mormonism Live #089, Manipulation, Money , and Mormon Sex Abuse.
Mormon stories episode #1638, The mormon abuse AP article and the Church’s response.
Abuse hotline of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints-
United States and Canada: 1-801-240-1911 or 1-800-453-3860, extension 2-1911
United Kingdom: 0800 970 6757
Ireland: 1800 937 546
France: 0805 710 531
Australia: 02 9841 5454 (from within the country)
New Zealand: 09 488 5592 (from within the country)
Dallin H Oaks.
1999 help for bishops responding to abuse.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=GRSTw0LwA-8 Dallin H Oaks, 2015 interview
"I know that the history of the church is not to seek apologies or to give them," Oaks said in an interview. "We sometimes look back on issues and say, 'Maybe that was counterproductive for what we wish to achieve,' but we look forward and not backward."
The church doesn't "seek apologies," he said, "and we don't give them."
https://archive.sltrib.com/article.php?id=2108746&itype=CMSID
Content warning. This is a clip of our episode 004 in which we discuss the AP Article - Seven Years of Sex Abuse: How Mormon officials let it happen.
Do not silence the victims.
Mason was given homework and he delivers some interesting insights into how feelings and emotional responses are categorized in scriptures and talks.
Let's not criminalize our emotional responses; they are not an indication of your morality. What you do as a result of your emotions is what can be damaging.
We can respond to our amygdala responsibly, our podcast will help, because you can still be in a good place, even with changes to make in your life.
We love hearing from you, drop us a line and let us know how your heart and head are doing. daisygirlcommunications@gmail.com
This episode references:
Mormon Stories episode 1338, Haley Wilson Lemmon
Holy Bible
Ephesians 4:26, 31
Colossians 3:8
Psalms 37:8 (7-9)
Proverbs 22:24-25
Ecclesiastes 7:9
3 Nephi 12:22 (Book of Mormon)/Matthew 5:22
22 But I say unto you, that whosoever is angry with his brother shall be in danger of his judgment. And whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council; and whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.
Thomas S Monson Oct 2009 General Conference, School thy feelings
LDS hymnal, #336, School thy feelings
Lynn G Robbins- April 1998 General conference. Agency and Anger
Brene Brown- Power of Vulnerability
Marc Bracket- Permission to feel
Maslow's Hierarchy of needs
We read a scripture and Sarah's amygdala sends her warning signals. How about you? Do you trust your natural instincts? Do you want to learn how to recognize your body and mind reactions responsibly and effectively? Have you ever avoided a conflict with your words?
Let's get into what the heck our brains are doing with these words. Knowing why and how by checking in with your brain is an important part of learning and growing.
We love hearing from you, drop us a line and let us know how your heart and head are doing. daisygirlcommunications@gmail.com
This episode references:
Book of Mormon: Mosiah 3:19
Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle by Amelia and Emily Nagoski
Wendi Wilcock Jensen; #wendijensen
John Gottman- 7 principles for making marriage work
Unpacking is in the title of the show and it applies to all of us; being self-aware requires us to be critical of unhelpful patterns, but we also have to give credit and forgive ourselves as well. Understanding why you did what you did, is extraordinarily helpful.
Let's meet our hosts Sarah and her husband Mason; their playful laughter and awkward pauses introduce you to their style of learning and growing together.
Sarah an ex-Mo and licensed counselor on a journey to unpack Mormonism and other religious trauma is joined by her husband Mason, a former bishop and active member of the Mormon church.
Sarah and Mason have been married for 23 years and have 7 children together. Sarah is an author, podcast personality and counsels in her private practice. Mason is a retired Army officer and registered nurse anesthetist.
We hope our show will demonstrate how to communicate with respect on difficult topics that we don't always agree about; but still take time to have a chuckle about our personal foibles and peeves. This is of supreme importance as we learn about ourselves.
Using the lessons in our podcasts, you will learn how to become your authentic self and that you can still be in a good place, even with changes to make in your life.
We love hearing from you, drop us a line and let us know how your heart and head are doing. daisygirlcommunications@gmail.com
This episode references:
Mormon stories for Natasha Helfer Parker- episodes 762-764, 1420.
Mormon stories for Marc Oslund- episodes 1423-1425, 1490
Brene Brown- the Power of Vunerability on Audible.
Mormonism Live with RFM and Bill Reel, episode 033.
Sometimes when you find a good hymn, you stop at the first verse. Let's all train our warm impulsive selves and let wisdom's voice control.
This episode references:
Thomas S Monson Oct 2009 General Conference, School thy feelings
LDS hymnal, #336, School thy feelings
First three full episodes premiere on September 5th 2022
Have you ever avoided a conflict with your words? Knowing why and how by checking in with your brain is an important part of learning and growing. First three full episodes premiere on September 5th 2022.
We read a scripture and Sarah's amygdala sends her warning signals. Do you trust your natural instincts? Do you want to learn how to recognize your body and mind reactions responsibly and effectively?
How much training does a bishop receive about sex abuse? How much of a bishop's advice does a therapist have to undo?
This episode references the AP Article: Seven years of sex abuse: How Mormon officials let it happen by Michael Rezendes.
One of the beautiful things about our podcast, there is room for an array of opinions. Here Sarah and Mason discuss the double-edged sword of exaggeration. A powerful tool and a dangerous one. This episode references Mormonism Live, Episode 033.
Being self-aware requires us to be critical of unhelpful patterns, but we also have to give credit and forgive ourselves as well. Understanding why you did, what you did is very helpful on this journey. Special 5 minute preview, full episodes releasing on September 5th 2022.
Just because you have changes to make in your life, you can still be in a good place. Unpacking is in the title of the show and it applies to all of us; so come join Sarah and Mason as we all learn, grow and become the best versions of ourselves. Full episodes releasing September 5th 2022.
What do you do when you were raised by parents with personality disorders? You might find that you need to mature, or even become someone entirely new. Knowing the anatomy of your dysfunction will help you become your authentic self.
One of the purposes of our podcast will be showing how to communicate with respect on difficult topics of supreme importance; but still take time to have a chuckle about our personal foibles and peeves.
Using the lessons in our podcasts, you will learn how to become your authentic self. Let's set our intention together to learn, grow and become.
Let's meet our host Sarah and her husband Mason; their playful laughter and awkward pauses introduce you to our guides on a journey of learning, growing and becoming our true selves.