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People usually aren't this vulnerable. 🥺

But I had the privilege to capture someone's vulnerability and hold it sacred and hold space for them when they truly want to be happy in their marriage. This question came through my DM's and for you, dear one... here is my answer. 

Get ready to take some notes!

Explore this question with me... the answer(s) is not what you expect. 

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Sure, you said your vows and never-ever thought things would get bad...

But they did.

Your spouse wants out.

They've pulled away from you in more ways than one.

What's left... divorce right?

Not in my neck of the woods. 😏

Despite BOTH of us stepping outside the marriage, debt, kids, and horrible communication skills, we made a VOW to really commit and keep true to those "for better or worse" vows.

PSA: Cheating/addiction/emotional detachment/illness/child-rearing difficulties/loss of a child/etc... ALL of these circumstances fall in the "for worse" category (and it's not limited to just those).  It's pertinent that you recognize the "for worse" - marriage is a commitment...Be married like it. 

Listen now! 

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"Once a cheater, always a cheater."

"I don't understand how someone could do this!"

"I'll never stay with a cheater."

This and more... y'all, my IG is blowingup with comments like these. So, whether or not you are in this predicament or not, it's just about jumping someone's bones other than your spouse. 

Sure, sometimes it is... but for the most part there's a deeper story here. 

There are real human emotions, insecurities, emotional trauma, and a lack of healing humans experience that can lead to adulterous acts. 

Here's our snippet--- listen if you dare to understand. 

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Talk about an open door to the marriage bedroom 😳

It's WIDE open in this episode! Hear the husband's point of view and unknowingly, his answers to a topic he had ZERO clue I was going to talk about!🤭

So, do you think his genuine heart was deceptive? 

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I did it. 😓

Then he did it. 🤬

We totally messed up by cheating on each other in our marriage, but we didn't end up divorcing.

We didn't end up resenting or staying unhappy with one another. 😌

🏽 It was these 3 critical actions that made our marriage bliss (even when we were soo emotionally disconnected). Join me AND Jeff as you hear his authentic side of the story of how we re-established our marriage relationship for the better. 

He didn't even know we were talking about this today 🤭

What do you think? Leave a comment below if you have 1, 2, all 3, or none of these aspects in your relationship. 

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Are you ready to learn why boundary-less relationships will always fail? 

In this podcast, I dive into the reasons why relationships with no boundaries are doomed to fail - from struggles with trust and communication to an inability to practice self-care. 🥺

Get ready to explore how boundaries create a foundation of respect and understanding that is essential for any healthy relationship. 

Don't miss out on this super transparent podcast that will have you rethinking your "allowable" connections and current {boundary-less} relationships. Or will you? Let us know in the comments below!

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Are you struggling to rebuild trust after a partner’s infidelity? 

Well, duh!

Join me as we explore {unconventional} strategies for recovering and healing after a betrayal like this. 

This is a  candid conversation where you’ll learn actionable advice while gaining new perspectives on rebuilding trust in your relationship. 

So if you’re ready to start the journey toward renewal and hope - just listen in!

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When he cheated on me, it sucked. But since I cheated first...

And we're baacck! 
Let's start off Season 2 with some concrete strategies to rebuild your self-confidence and feelings of worthiness after experiencing the trauma of infidelity.

It's one thing to understand the complex psychological and emotional impact that being cheated on has on your psyche, but let's not forget our body image confidence either. 

I'll give you practical techniques to help you through the healing process and give you insight into how to restore a sense of self-assurance within yourself and move forward with renewed hope in love. ❤️‍🔥

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Hear the powerful story of how one woman (me) faced her fears, accepted her truth and found the strength to forgive and heal after being betrayed by someone she loved as a last attempt before suicidal thoughts took over her spirit as a last resort. 🥺

In this final episode of the season, like nothing you've probably heard before, I walk you through the exact, intimate steps I took that finally allowed my {dead} lost heart to beat again with love, forgiveness, and wedded bliss. ❤️‍🔥 ...Even after years of infidelity...from the both of us. 

This episode does contain explicit details about how I forgave my husband, and this isn't your grandma's prayer hands we're talking about. 😳

Real and raw - I'll say it because someone really needed this today - THIS is real life, exposed and unscripted. Because if life was a fairy tale...  

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Uncover the power of purposeful action and discover why understanding your true intentions matters.

Let's take an exploration into the world of intentions and their importance in achieving our goals, shall we?

We'll uncover why it is important to understand the underlying motivations behind our actions, and how those (un)true intentions can often lead to unexpected outcomes.

It's these questions though, that is providing insightful perspectives on how your own intentions have played a role in your personal relationships. 

This episode will motivate you to evaluate your true intentions and the power of purposeful action.
Take some notes 🤓

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Learning how to feel more secure in who you are. 💯

You probably haven't heard about these strategies for setting healthy boundaries, building confidence in yourself, and learning to live a life of certainty, no matter the circumstances before.

This episode helps you to delve deep into your core and discover who you are in order to live with greater confidence. Get ready for some profound questions to ponder.
Because my self-discovery strategies set you up for how to set healthy boundaries in your life, both personally and professionally.

We'll look at what it means to be sure of oneself and how to recognize and embrace the qualities that make us unique. Through techniques such as self-reflection, reflective questioning, and more, get ready to learn to practice doubtlessness in all aspects of your life.

Isn't it about time you feel solid in who you are, living life with certainty, and setting strong boundaries so that you can live your best life!? Yeah, I thought so too. 😏

And what's this "W.AI." I keep talking about?? 😳

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... If you want to be a happy person that is. 😏

"It is NOT about neglecting yourself - it’s 100% about YOU in order to fulfill your needs to love more, give more, and suffer less for the sake of others."

The ultimate parent trap - thinking you "need" to put your kids first (even before your spouse) in order to be a good parent, have your children "like" you, or to avoid the dreaded mom-judgments... 🙄

Been there and so over that bridge, y'all. 

So, from a mom of 11... do you reallywant to forgo what I have to say about 'dis?? 😳

Protect your heart, sanity, and even your children's future relationships. ❤️‍🔥

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A lot of women struggle with low self esteem, which can manifest itself in a lot of different ways - especially when it comes to trusting and never second-guessing your choices & decisions with friends and family. 😟
Low self esteem can be really tough to deal with, and it can hold you back from achieving your goals and living your best life.🥺

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Don't worry, you're not alone. Overcoming low self esteem is possible, and I'm here to give you 3 failproof ways ( more like steps that you can do in mere minutes!)so you start feeling better about yourself & decisions and finally move on from your low self esteem struggles for good.

I assure you that you are not alone. So I'm gonna give you 3 failproof ways to overcome low self esteem (actually steps that can be done in mere minutes!) so you get back on track with your life and stop struggling with low self esteem. 😌

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Yup, I cheated on my husband. 

Story time!

If you are new here,  every fifth episode, you will get a peek and see for yourself what goes on behind closed bedroom doors in an imperfect marriage.

In this episode... find out if love plays a factor when a spouse cheats - you may not like the answer, but this is the reality... of a cheating wife.

⚠️ 1 F-bomb in this episode

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Why is that still bothering you? Aren't you 'over it by now? No, well, suck it up, Buttercup.

👆🏾 Probably NOT what you want to hear when you've had either a traumatic experience or an incident that made you so uncomfortable, that you keep overthinking the issue.

I get it. I've been in situations where I've succumbed to the whims of others in order to avoid feeling uncomfortable, a potential conflict or making them feel uncomfortable. 😮‍💨

Let's stop doing that to ourselves, shall we? I've "gotten over it", and so can you. But, not in a crass way... but rather, a gentle, heartfelt breath of freshness that renews your soul and sweeps away all the angst and feelings of giving in to others' priorities instead of yours.

Imagine how that will feel ... relief...so take a deep breath and tap with me. See below the resources mentioned in this episode so you get the maximum benefits of EFT tapping with Coach Andi. 🤗

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Tapping out the Uncomfortable - Grab your Tapping Card Here.

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You're doing this "self-love" thang all wrong.  #ISaidIt

You see, what most people don't realize is self-love isn't about accepting your body (not yet anyway).

Self-love isn't about daily affirmations (not as a foundation).

Self-love isn't about feelinggood about who you are (feelings are fleeting).

I did that thang that takes self-love to a new level... like Self-love on Steroids kind of level.

If you're ready for an upgrade, don't allow yourself to succumb to these misguided beliefs that only provide a temporary high that makes you believe you've got self-love in the bag.

Because the reality is, probably more than you like, you're missing out on FEELING loved on a daily basis, you feel anxious around certain people, and doubt is like a best friend who doesn't hold you as you ugly cry on the bathroom floor from yet another major disappointment. 😰

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Disappointment sucks. 😫

What's even worst... experiencing it nearly every day from the one you love most... your spouse.

It sucks when it's your closest friends, too. 🥺

So, how do you convey your disappointment when you feel like people aren't meeting your expectations?

I've got 3 Secrets to share with you about unmet expectations and why they keep occurring and some naked truths about what went on behind our own closed doors when Jeff decimated my expectations to NEVER consider cheating again... or so I thought. 😧

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If you think Jeff is the "typical" guy when it comes to boundaries... 🤭 Think again.

Get ready to hear his perspective on my assertive yet necessary stance on boundaries, not only with people outside my family but within my marriage! There's something that happened within both of us that led to the end of the mind-games and assumptions and led us to communication bliss with unimaginable understanding and love for one another despite our infidelity and past emotional pain & strife. 

Get to know the man behind The Skinny Mommy, father to (almost) 11, and beloved husband of Coach Andi, and what he thinks about.... boundaries.🤯

Got questions for Jeff & Coach Andi? Send an email inquiry to: TheSkinnyMommy@Gmail.com - ask us anything... we are the ones to talk about what others don't... especially, behind closed doors.

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What happens when a couple blatantly hurt each other, suffer together, and stays absolutely silent about it because of shame, guilt, and judgment?
Listen now and find out for yourself because we're goin' behind the closed doors of a marriage that almost took a turn for the worst in one of the most horrible ways a couple could hurt each other. 🥺😢

WARNING - Yeah, I drop some F-💣s.  🤫 We're not "supposed" to share things like  this anyway, so it's OK. 😏

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Since you or anyone else close to you isn't a mind-reader... 🤷🏽‍♀️

Why is it that expressing the way we need to be loved is so damn hard?! If it's not for you... then this episode you don't need.

However, if you continually feel empty, unheard, misunderstood, and feel like you are just losing touch with someone on an emotional level...

Then yes, this is the episode for you.

Lust or love?

Honest or avoidance?

Sacred or just unwilling?

Ignorant?

Whatever is holding you back... it held me back too and you aren't the only one. 🥺
Use these Love Language hacks to feel seen, loved, and emotionally SAFE to be loved.

It'll work 💯 if you do this ONE thing to make it a reality - and it's stupid easy to do!! 🙃

✨✨Bonus: Send me your "assignment" via DM @TheSkinnyMommy

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You asked and you shall receive!! 🙌

You see, there's no point creating all these episodes if I don't cover something YOU tuly need and want. So, I asked... and this Queen said ... yo, I'm feeling misunderstood and unheard.
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I got you, Sis.

This isn't for the faint at heart and we're hitting some deeper issues than someone who just doesn't "get" you. Been there, done that - so download this episode now if you can't listen right away because it's a BONUS gem, you don't want to miss!

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How exactlydo you see yourself or introduce yourself?

Actually, I don't care how you introduce yourself because if it's not how you SEE yourself, it doesn't f*k'n matter.

Are you a...
Stepmom? 2nd Wife? Bonus parent? X-wife? Mom of 3?

If you wanna stick to those labels... DON'T listen to this episode because I'll reallyupset you with some lovin-truth bombs that will say otherwise... cuz... 🤭

I'll say it. 😏

You're Welcome. ❤️‍🔥

SOS

Your turn -- - Tag me on IG @TheSkinnyMommmy with ONE of the 3 steps you're gonna take to get out of your headspace of feeling labeled. 

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Can you really "find" yourself? 

Well, lemme ask you this... what do you do on a daily basis - yup, it's that freakin' consistent, that brings you or makes you (and only you) feel like you can enjoy and LIVE out your desires, dreams, and/or happiness? 

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Don't worry... I got you! Download this episode because you're going to get another amazing homework assignment (we're always learning, right?) to implement this week AND there's a due date! 🤭

So, let's "find" yourself, shall we... 'dis will be fun 😏.

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Who the "fk" are you???Got healthy boundaries? Wondering if some boundaries are actually bad*for you? Let's dispel some myths about boundaries so that you can truly feel like a badass when it comes to setting yourself up for success AND truly know what a boundary is so you'll know 💯 if you want them in your life. 

But first... let's congratulate Coach Andi for finallydoin' an intro that matches the podcast name!! 😝

Don't forget to tag @TheSkinnyMommy when you post about the phenomenal exercise at the end that answers the question above. 

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Co-dependency is a bitch and possibly like me - you don't even realize it until it's too late.

Storytime, ya'll - here is a background story that most folks won't talk about, admit, or say openly. After all, it is a very private and personal experience, but keeping some things to ourselves doesn't help others realize that they're not alone in feeling the same way.

If this story relates to ONE person, then, yes, you're not alone in how you feel, and telling this story was worth it.

As we hit Episode 5... I'm super humbled to share with you intimate details of my life. Every 5th episode will be a ..."PSST" to you - A Personal Soul-telling Story of Truth.If you find these stories valuable, please leave a comment so I know that the next one (Episode 10 - Telling my husband that he can have his divorce - story) is one that I ought to share with you! 

Now... about that co-dependency that started at the tender age of 16....Listen now! 

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THIS is the number one thing that makes your own #SOS, Self-care On Steroids journey fail-proof.Why is it that family members are usually the ones you need to do this with!? 🙄 And why it is that they are the last ones we NEED to do this with but don't wanna? 🥺

You may want to save & download this episode for later if you are driving because there are some notes to take, an assignment you just gotta do, and a bonus that will make you feel even more super loved! 

Let's set you up for the ultimate success when it comes to your self care - your soul's and heart's true calling for yourself. ❤️‍🔥

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"Rewrite the game of self care". If you can enjoy a moment to yourself for an hour or three, why is it you still feel like you have to explain yourself, explain your decisions, or second guess your choices?

Why are you still saying "yes" to others when you don't want to?
Because you're nice and doing them a favor (on your precious time)?

Well, then, if that's the case (or perhaps you just feel obligated so you don't feel rejected) why do you feel the pressure, the anxiousness, and frustration with those you agreed to help?!?

But hey... your nails look good and the masseuse worked out some of that tension.... right?! "Selfcare" huh? 🥺

As a new mom, I endured a lot of judgment, criticism, and self-doubt from my family. When that finally caught up to me in the form of anger issues and self-depravity; it was hard for me to truly express my feelings and struggles. So I spent way too much money on things to fill in the emotional gaps of hopelessness and took out my anger on my kids. 😭

But one …day… my stubbornness kicked in (in a great way this time), and I said....NO to 'them', and YES to me.I did some true self care practices which helped tremendously--no one can bring these memories back now or manipulate me (or you) into feeling guilty if they tried because, at least inside myself, I’m content and at 100% peace about mistakes made long ago by a hurting wife and mother.

• No pedicure or 10-minute meditation is required. 😌

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I said it- a mani and pedi for "self-care" is bull-shit. Now, I'm not one to shy away from gorgeous and well-manicured toesies and nails, etc. - but I cannot lie to you and praise these kinds of practices when despite doing this for myself for over 3 years... I was STILL emotionally panic-stricken to be vulnerable with my husband and mentally exhausted with limiting beliefs about myself. 
I was STILL trying to people-please and feel accepted by my family after my affair - trying to PROVE to them I was a worthy human to still be married to a great guy. 
I was STILL hurting so bad inside about my mom anger issues that a 45-minute nail session, that I finally didn't feel guilty about doing for myself,  just didn't cut it... 

My 'self' was crumbling at its core and no one would know the difference, and I had no idea how to 'care'  and love on myself first and foremost - outside of getting my nails done. 

But I called all those pampering-type actions "self-care" until ... Now. 

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The womanhood - motherhood journey is often hard to navigate. You're not just doing this for yourself, but also for those you love most--your family! Unfortunately, it can be difficult when our identity gets wrapped up in being just a mom or wife that we forget who WE really ARE as women outside of these labels - which leads many women (like I did and many others I've worked with ) feeling lost about themselves because there's no outlet where they feel free enough explore their true selves without fear, judgment or rejection.

But thankfully, here, I've created an online space so all married women in business have access TO become better versions OFMSELF by embracing what makes them uniquely female while still keeping it REAL - I'm keeping it real and saying everything most women are thinking but rarely say out loud.