The Out-Spouse Podcast: Recent Episodes
Andi Paulin
Hi everyone, I’m andi Paulin host of the out-spouse. I created this show to build a community for those who have been through a divorce, are going through a divorce or are maybe thinking of filing for one. It’s a place to help and offer optimism through stories, truth and authenticity. Each week we sit down with inspiring friends and professionals to have real conversations about our own experiences, offering complete transparency on all things divorce. We will discuss the challenges faced, how to become empowered, adjust your perspective and create a life you love. Join my guests and me weekly, as we take a deep dive into transformation. Real people. Real stories. Real conversation. Subscribe now, wherever you listen to your podcast.
Welcome, Welcome, everyone! We have such an informative episode to share with you today. Christine Cocchiola is a licensed clinical social worker and intimate partner abuse advocate researching the topics of Coercive Control, including child maltreatment and trauma. Christine is a tenured college educator in the field of social work practices privately serving adolescents, families, and couples and is a divorce mediator. Additionally, Christine dedicates much of her time to advocating on behalf of victims of intimate partner violence.Her published work is on the impact of Coercive Control on child victims. and she was recently appointed as a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence **(NCADV).
We discuss coercive control, post-separation abuse, legal abuse, what these may look like and the effects on children. From the "Golden Child" to the "Lost/Alone Child", Christine discusses how psychological abuse prevents children from having their own sense of autonomy.
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The Mama That Said Enough shares with us what the daily impact is like on her and her childrens living in a controlled and abusive environment and the extent of that pain. She gives us glimpses into family court life And her raw truth is an example of the trauma and the loss but also the strength of not giving up.
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I chat with Randy Orr of Orr Forensic Accountants who describes the family court system as the Wild Wild West. Randy's honest take on his role in the family court divorce business is exactly that a business. His own experience from a professional perspective verifies those who are using their voices to speak out and bring awareness to the injustice, inequities and inequalities of the Family Court System targeting the Out-Spouse and the innocent children victimized by those who are supposed to protect them.
Today I welcome Tina Swithin from One Moms Battle who authored the series Divorcing a Narcissist . She is the founder of the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program and Family Court Awareness Month. Tina has been awarded honors such as the “Top 20 Professionals Under 40” and the “Top 40 Professionals Under 40” in several regional California newspapers.Tina explains to us how she chose not to close the door after her decade long battle with the Family Court System as she continues to bring awareness and use her voice to speak out for those who are silenced by the system.
Tina is Pro Healty Parent regardless of gender, and encourages survivors of domestic violence to start conversations at a community level to bring awareness to the dysfuncional Family Court System designed to be broken. She describes the fog so many of us endure while going through a divorce and provides tips on how to get through this difficult time. I hope our conversation empowers you to speak up for yourself, a family member or friend and help bring awareness to those in your communities.
I sit down with my friend, Dana, who was the InSpouse in her divorce several years ago. Dana shares honestly about the unraveling of her marriage, the defining moment of when she knew it was time to part ways and how to navigate motherhood and relationships post divorce. InSpouse or OutSpouse, divorce has its challenges, but once again, we are reminded by our guest that in the end, we all deserve to be happy.
I chat with sex, love and relationship coach, Heidi Revay, and discuss how to have the sex & intimacy you deeply desire. We discuss her journey, how she found her own self love and why it's important to deepen your sexual connection to find true confidence.
Today I chat with my friend Michelle who tells her story and shares advice after going through her own divorce. I needed this pep talk and Michelle reminded me that choosing love over fear is absolutely worth it and brighter days are ahead!
Topics in this episode include:
Lack of gender equality in family court
The stigma surrounding women and divorce
Keeping confidence and finding your roots again
Never changing who you are for anyone
My dear friend joins me today and we discuss her journey as an Out-Spouse offering truth, wisdom and advice.
I sit down with Joe Jardine who holds a Masters Degree in Clinical Psychology and works as a Performance Mindset Coach with several NFL and NCAA Division I athletes and teams. Joe gives us tips on how to know if you should stay or go, why children need five loving adults in their lives, talking truth with your children and why it's so easy to be duped into a dysfunctional relationship. He describes to us how sometimes the wrong partner looks good and the steps to take to unwind yourself from a dysfunctional (narcissistic) partner and how to sustain yourself during this difficult time.
I sit down with Kate Anthony, host of the New York Times recommended podcast, The Divorce Survival Guide, and a certified divorce coach who helps women answer the difficult question, "Should I stay or should I go?".
Kate and I discuss how and why she started The Thrive Fund, economic abuse and the shift for women to become empowered to have a safe, secure environment.
Hi Everyone, I'm Andi Paulin, host of The Out Spouse Podcast. I created this show to offer support and optimism through stories, truth and authenticity and to build a community for those going through a divorce, have been through a divorce or are maybe thinking of filing for one. Recording this podcast four years into my own divorce seems unimaginable, but honestly, it's been therapeutic. There's been highs and lows and the fear, uncertainty, and isolation and loneliness that I have experienced is like what so many of you have experienced too. I wanted to sit down with friends and professionals and keep it real about the struggles along the way, sharing stories and advice to the invisible bruises that so many of have suffered at the hands of those who seem more powerful and controlling. Being in a relationship with a difunctional spouse becomes manageable for survival but then trying to unwind yourself and possibly you children too can be emotional draining. We live in a culture where's there's a stigma about being a divorced woman and divorce inequity and inequality is just to be expected. There's this expectation is society that hinders our sexuality and empowerment. I wanted to ask the questions to understand the answers about why and how this occurs and how not to let these challenges define who we are. What I've learned is to talk, share and remain focus because ultimatley we get to design the life we love and choosing self love over fear is absolutely worth it. This first season we discuss the challenges faced, how to become empowered, adjust your perspective, allow yourself grace and create a life you love. Chatting with others and listening to their stories reminds me that we are not alone and your owe truth and reality is what matters most. Hang on for tomorrow because there will always be more good days than bad! I hope that by sharing these stories we can redefine what divorce looks like and provide support and inspiration for you or a loved one.