the Authentic Calm Podcast: Recent Episodes
Jessi Michel Agadoni
The holistic space for natural Sensitives to learn, grow, heal, and optimize. Hosted by sensitive guide Jessi Michel Agadoni the creator of the Authentic Calm Method™ and restorative practitioner at Mêrfleur Wellness.
Season 2 Episode 48
Wapping up season 2, Jessi sits down to discuss the idea of health entitlement as we head into a new chapter. With western society obsessing over the quick and easy fix, it's become common to expect or believe we are inherently deserving of perfect health without any effort or consciousness. Ironically, this perspective is often the block that prevents the very healing and health we desire. Jessi shares how to release and overcome this mindset, the power of acquiring health, and how to navigate it all without falling into overwhelm. Tune in to discover a unique and fresh perspective on this topic, Jessi’s plan for the Sensitive community, and more!
Topics Discussed:
- How and why western society has created a detrimental narrative around the process of health. [00:05:50]
- Why attaining true health is a lifelong endeavor that takes substantial effort. [00:09:30]
- Jessi shares her vision for the ACM, the podcast, and her practice as she transitions into this new chapter and Season 3 of the podcast! [00:24:30]
Quotes:
“The purpose of the spiritual, physical and emotional work we do is to return back to who we were created to be.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“There is a big difference between selflessness and self-abandonment.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“You need to spend time alone with yourself and put in real effort to come back into your authenticity before diving into rescuing, saving, and serving others.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
Links Mentioned:
The Authentic Calm Method
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Season 2 Episode 47
This week we are honored to be joined by Dr. Bianca Acevedo, a researcher at the University of California, Santa Barbara, and an editor and author of the “The Highly Sensitive Brain”. This has been a long-anticipated episode for Jessi as she has admired Bianca’s work as a global leader in the field of Sensitive research for many years. Her research experience has brought her into partnership with monumental players such as Dr. Elaine Aaron in the study of high sensitivity. Bianca helps to deepen our understanding of ourselves through scientific explanation of the highly sensitive brain. She reminds us that our need to live differently is legitimate and backed by factual evidence. What does a positive environment for an HSP look like? How is our brain wired differently than the rest of the population? Are traits of an HSP genetic? Bianca walks us through this and more during this very informative and empowering conversation!
Topics Discussed: How a highly sensitive brain interprets & reacts differently in everyday life. [00:10:00] How the traits of a highly sensitive person (HSP) & sensory processing sensitivity (SPS) differ from those on the autistic spectrum. [00:21:30] How and why our environment deeply impacts us as Sensitives. [00:46:50]
Quotes: “HSP are perceptive. We attend to subtleties, we're cautious and reflective so we make great leaders. We are in tune with what other people need to succeed and thrive. So I say, go for it, put HSP in positions of power. When we do we will likely have people that are making careful decisions that benefit the greater good of society.” - Dr. Bianca Acevedo
“HSP or those with SPS often seek out non-impulsive high sensation experiences. This means that they will book an exciting adventure but they won’t do it without first doing some research.” - Dr. Bianca Acevedo
Connect with Bianca: www.biancaacevedo.com
Resources and links Mentioned:
The Highly Sensitive Brain (Discount Code Neuro30) The Highly Sensitive Brain: An fMRI study of sensory processing sensitivity and response to others' emotions Sensory Processing Sensitivity Predicts Individual Differences in Resting Sensory Processing Sensitivity in the context of Environmental Sensitivity: A critical review and development of research agenda The Functional Highly Sensitive Brain: A review of underlying SPS and seemingly related disorders Sensory Processing Sensitivity and Childhood Quality Effects on Neural Responses to Emotional Stimuli
Further Articles on the Topics Discussed:
Psychology Today Blog The 3 Genes That Potentially Lead to High Sensitivity The Difference Between the Typical Brain & the Highly Sensitive Brain
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Going rogue from our usual Friday release routine and sharing from the heart, Jessi gives us the inner experience of the Authentic Calm Method in honor of its release on August 26th. We encourage you to hop in for the creation, intention, and experince of releasing the ACM. Full of vulnerable honesty and a clear vision for the Mêrfleur Natural Sensitive World, this is not an episode to miss!
If it feels right, find the Authentic Calm Method here.
With so much love,
Jessi & the Mêrfleur Wellness Team
Season 2 Episode 45
This week we are joined by the Founder of Simplified, Megan Golightly, to discuss the power of a peaceful orderly space. Sensitive, this is foundational. You require calm and ease in your home environment. Clutter, disorganization, and chaos can turn on your brain's alarm mode and cultivate nervous system overactivation. What does this feel like? Anxiety, overwhelm, and even depression! We all want the end results of a spacious home, but how do we get inspired, feel motivated, make the time, and maintain it? Megan is here to guide us! With a background in psychology, she focuses on the meaning behind every action or inaction. Removing shame, guilt, and avoidance, Megan takes us deep into ourselves to show us the way out, revealing our subconscious programming, identifying the emotional layers, and highlighting common blocks. Prepare for multiple reframes and fascinating clarification on the organizational process. Don't worry, perfection is not the goal. Freedom, relief and ease are Megan's passion. You will finish this episode understanding the truth of Simplified - by transforming your home you are actually transforming you.
Topics Discusses:
- Megan’s definition of clutter and why so many of us struggle to manage it. [00:07:10]
- Questions Megan asks her clients to reframe the narrative around letting go of material things. [00:13:50]
- Wisdom for Mothers and anyone sharing a home around how to create a safe and calming home environment. [00:30:00]
Quotes:
"For Sensitives, there is often an expectation of perfection that leaves us paralyzed. It’s easier for us to do nothing than to do something incorrectly and have to deal with the mistake. We can support this by asking ourselves questions that reframe this behaviour.” - Megan Golighly
“Setting an appointment with yourself dedicated to organizing helps you stay focused. Whether that means putting on music, inviting over a friend or lighting candles, setting aside the time and creating the environment helps you stay in the game.” - Megan Golighly
“Often children grieve something when they have to let it go. You can’t stop grief, it’s going to happen so the best thing to do it to allow them to feel sad. When you allow them to work through the emotions you create the opportunity for new neural pathways to form that can be used later in life when they may suffer the loss of a person or face difficulties of their own.” - Megan Golightly
Connect with Megan Golightly:
Simplified on Instagram
www.gosimplified.com
Simplified's How-To Guides
Links Mentioned:
Embracing Sensitivity at Home
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Season 2 Episode 44
A great follow-up to episode 42, Jessi is diving deeper into cultivating relationship health as Sensitives. You have a beautiful gift that allows you to expect and see what others in your life need. You provide and care for them in powerful ways they typically appreciate. When it comes time for you to receive care and comfort, it can be natural to expect these loved ones to respond in kind. Yet, this rarely occurs. This unmet expectation can be the very cause of deep frustration and bitterness. Jessi shares from a lifetime of personal experience that this doesn’t have to be the case. This episode will help you release old beliefs, view others from a place of compassionate understanding, and acquire the love and care you need and deserve in your most important relationships.
Topics Discussed:
- Why Sensitives see the world through a unique lens. [00:02:10]
- Navigating relationships with family, friends and lovers that are not as sensitive. [00:10:50]
- Why it’s important to hold space for relationships with both Sensitives and non-sensitives. [00:20:00]
Quotes:
“As Sensitives, we're here to be thought leaders. We're here to dig in, ask the big questions and sink our toes into concepts and spiritual questions that we may never have answers to. We are really good at sitting in that space of not having a solid black or white answer. We live in the grey.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“I believe empathy is a skill that can be developed, but for natural Sensitive, it's innate. It's always there. We don't have to develop it. It's just there and we never lose it. We can attempt to step into denial but it's always going to be there underneath it all.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“The reality is not everyone is going to get you. The sooner you can embrace that, the more you can release the expectation and pursue deep fulfillment with people that can provide it.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
Links Mentioned:
3 Tips for Navigating Your Unconscious Ability to Physically Merge
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Season 2 Episode 43
This week, we welcome the beautiful soul and brilliant entrepreneur, Leah Kirpalani. Leah is an innovative leader in the clean beauty and wellness space, a voice for the small beauty maker, and an all around impactful leader. As the Founder & President of Shop Good, a one-of-a-kind clean beauty shop and organic spa, her mission is to curate a safe haven and educational forum filled to the brim with the best non-toxic makeup, skin and body care. In this episode, Leah offers us a backstage pass and reveals her resilient and compassionate approach to business. Starting with her own health journey, she weaves us through her expansive story. From an impassioned young entrepreneur to motherhood to running a sizable team with care to navigating the waves of COVID as a Sensitive, her courage is obvious, her tenderness palatable, and her fortitude inspiring. You will leave this episode feeling incredibly empowered!
Topics Discussed:
- Leah’s professional and personal journey ultimately landing in the wellness and clean beauty space. [00:05:18]
- Running a business and leading a team through unexpected hurdles. [00:20:40]
- Trusting your body’s innate ability and desire to bring you back to health and restoration. [00:30:00]
- Leah's personal mantra. [00:39:00]
Quotes:
“The body and energy that we have is the most powerful tool in medicine that we have access to.” - Leah Kirpalani
“I went through decades of trying everything only to realize everything I need to heal is in my own body. It's ironic because most of us would rather pay thousands of dollars on specialists than to sit in our pain and look within.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“The intention for Shop Good was to create the space that I wished I had when I was sick. A space where I could walk in and not have to turn over every single label. I could feel safe and calm and taken care of. I could look across the counter to someone and say, I'm struggling and for that person to say, I hear you, I see you and we've got you. That's what Shop Good is.” - Leah Kirpalani
Links Mentioned: Botnia by Justine at Shop Good
Connect with Leah:
Shop Good Shop Good Spa Shop Good on Instagram Shop Good on TikTok
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The unique ability to merge with other beings is a phenomenon that many Sensitives unconsciously experience. Merging goes a step beyond feeling empathy or absorbing emotions, it’s a transfer of energy that allows us to experience firsthand what humans and animals are physically experiencing. As Jessi shares in today's episode, she was recently reminded of this ability when she was unexpectedly overwhelmed with the same bodily symptoms as that of her injured husband. As we have discussed in previous episodes, feeling others' experiences without awareness can lead to overwhelm and dis-ease. It is vital you recognize what feelings belong to you and now you can begin to differentiate the physical symptoms that are truly you verses another's body. Jessi guides us through her 3 key steps for identifying, processing, and releasing a merge. We hope this episode brings you comfort and offers a fresh understanding of the power and giftings of your sensitive body!
Topics Discussed:
- What it means to energetically and physically merge with another being and how it differs from empathy. [00:3:50]
- Becoming consciously aware of how impacted you are by others physical experience of life. [00:15:20]
- Jessi’s three steps to navigate the experience of merging with others. [00:18:15]
Quotes:
"As Sensitives, it's important to recognize that we have a responsibility to hold ourselves back and refrain from stepping into someone else’s experiences unless we are consciously invited in." - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“Just because you can bring people happiness doesn't mean that you always should. If you are doing that in every relationship you will have merged with so many people that you will no longer be a single being. You won't know who you are and you'll be exhausted. There will be no you left.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
"There is something to be said for being in the space of those that are unwell or suffering all the time. Whether you are consciously aware of it or not, you are picking up that energy. You're in that frequency. You're in that energy and you need to protect yourself from that." - Jessi Michel Agadoni
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Episode 41 Seaon 2
Jessi sits down with Astrologer and Human Design Mentor, Amy Lea to deepen our understanding and use of multiple life-changing personality & archetyping systems. From owning your own business, to cultivating coherence over hustle, to navigating the complex world of astrology, to the ins and out of human design integration, to working in synchronicity with the power of the moon, and embodying energetic alignment, there is a lot covered in this week's episode! Amy's intentional study and experiential guidance will open the door to both modern and ancient routes of self-discovery and healthy ownership. You will walk away inspired and ready to master the energetics of your life. Don't miss out on this powerful conversation!
Topics Discussed:
- Amy's journey leading her to serve others through astrology and mentorship. [00:04:25]
- The process of creating an energetically-aligned business after leaving a traditional corporate position. [00:28:00]
- Becoming conscious of the power of the moon to work in partnership with its natural rhythm. [00:45:10]
- Resources and recommendations for those interested in starting their journey with Human Design. [00:54:30].
Quotes:
"At its core, Human Design is a tool to help you bypass your mind and come into heart-body coherence so you can be guided by the innate receptivity of the body." - Amy Lea
"I genuinely believe that life wants to support you. It's about finding the way of living, working, and being in the world that works for you. No two people are the same." - Amy Lea
"I would like to affirm how important it is to honor yourself and your truth. Give yourself permission to do things differently. You're not meant to feel overwhelmed or exhausted all the time." - Amy Lea
Connect with Amy Lea:
www.amylae.com @amylea.co
Links Mentioned:
My Human Design Steven Forrest Gene Keys
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Episode 40 Season 2
You're currently in a phase of upleveling, returning to your authentic self, your original nature, and it's intense. You're stirring up a ton of emotions, both old and new, perhaps it even feels like you're taking a step backwards rather than forwards. Finding purpose, clearing the patterns of childhood, and easing into your true self can and will be possible if you remain in your body through it. Don't give up! Jessi is here to teach you how to do this with 3 simple steps in today's episode. Jump in!
Topics Discussed:
- Why moving forward can often bring back old thought patterns, emotions, and habits. [00:06:20]
- How to eliminate doubt when feelings of second-guessing resurface. [00:15:25]
- How nature can help us see clearly and return to our original selves. [00:28:12]
- Jessi shares what's coming forward with The Authentic Calm Method. [00:34:50]
Quotes:
“When we navigate big transformational seasons in life, we’re being asked to release old patterns and to step into something that represents who we want to be. This is really a return. A return back to our original selves, how we came into this world and who we are ultimately supposed to be.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“We’re supposed to live in our bodies, not our minds. Our minds are accessories while our body is our 3D reality.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“To become our authentic selves we need to be amongst nature's frequencies. I believe that modern life has cut us off from the energy presence that helps us know who we truly are. Immersing yourself in nature is a great way to regain this connection.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
Links Mentioned:
Authentic Calm Method Waitlist
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Episode 39 Season 2
Join us as Jessi sits down with CEO & Founder of Summer Solace & Board Member of Norther California Fibershed, Megan Bre Camp. A shining example of living and working with deep conscious intentionality, Megan handmakes products that are truly a work of art, rarely seen or experienced in today’s marketplace. The rare and high quality ingredients, the love, the energy and the experience infused into each piece is impeccable. Not much brings Sensitives more joy than supporting pure craftsmanship and savoring earth’s natural beauties in their everyday. Megan’s creations are just this! A heartfelt conversation that covers many topics, like the art and healing nature of tallow, the impact of regenerative farming, reconnection with the body through nutrition, running a successful business while retaining the purest sourcing, and more, this is an episode you will not soon forget!
Megan had generously offered all our listeners a special code. Use MERFLEUR10 to savor the luxuriously nourishing and beautiful Summer Solace goods!
Topics Discussed:
- Megan’s childhood, career, and food journey that has led her to the work she does today. [00:05:20]
- Why veganism & vegetarianism do not serve in the best interest of Sensitives and how to honor the animals that proved us with the nourishment we need. [00:14:20]
- Megan's process of intentionality and respect when creating her products and navigating her business. [00:25:50]
- Megan shares why living in sync with the natural seasons helps us to connect with our bodies and the world around us. [00:54:55]
Quotes:
"I am grateful that I once moved towards vegetarianism. Going through that journey allowed me to tune into my sensitivity and truly made me understand the benefits of eating local regenerative meats once I brought them back into my body." - Megan Bre Camp
"Regenerative farming is just a return to how things were done before big mass farms came forward and commercialization in an attempt to create the same food over and over again. This is when the abuse started happening to the animals. This means by returning, we can resolve the whole catastrophic experiment that we as humans created." - Jessi Michel Agadoni
"A great way to reintroduce animal products into your diet is by knowing your sources. Step into the farmer's market and meet vendors. Talk about your feelings, go through that process and tune in and know that you're supporting local ranches and happy animals." - Megan Bre Camp
Connect with Megan Bre Camp:
Instagram Summer Solace SST x Fibershed Co-Op
Links Mentioned: My Human Design Leaves and Flowers Tea Nourishing Traditions
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Episode 38 Season 2
As we approach the halfway mark of 2022 Jessi sits down to give us an honest and unfiltered update on her year thus far. She shares the shifts she is currently navigating in her business and personal life with practical advice on how to approach the emotions that have arisen as a result. It seems that everywhere we look, people are navigating big changes at the moment. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by this, you’re not alone. As Jessi shares, we are experiencing a global shift, and for many, this means changes leading to uncertainty and unpredictable emotional roller coasters. This episode offers support for moving towards a beautiful place of balance and calm within life's occasional seasons of chaos.
Topics:
- Jessi shares how she is processing the changes & resulting emotions she is currently navigating. [00:15:02]
- Jessi shares her vision for the Authentic Calm Method & how it will offer restoration & health for you as a Sensitive. [00:29:00]
- Jessi leads you through a journal prompt to ignite balance and restoration. [00:39:00]
“Whenever you can claim your power & decision making you should, but the reality of life is that everyone goes through seasons where you don’t necessarily have much control over what is happening. When we are going through this it’s important to release and find joy in the little things because those little things will turn into big things ” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“Moving back and forth between lack of awareness which includes suppression and repression to extreme awareness to the point of overwhelm is a common process among HSP. Our goal is to stop swinging back and forth and move towards that beautiful place of balance in the middle.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“I've realized that I need to start processing emotions more within my body. This is really just reconnecting, coming into, and being aware of what's going on in this physical capsule that I'm in. That's been a huge process and the foundation of what I'm bringing forward with the Authentic Calm Method.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
Links Mentioned: My Human Design
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Episode 37 Season 2
Living outside of your true nature, living inauthentically, is the cause of dis-ease and chronic blocks. Jessi breaks this down and shares from her own personal and professional experience what works and what doesn’t. You’ll also get a glimpse into the up-and-coming release of the Authentic Calm Method. You will step away with options to uncover and return to your authentic rhythm. The place where healing on all levels naturally occurs, where you can ultimately move through life with ease.
- What it means to live authenticity & what manifests when we reject our natural and true rhythm. [00:06:34]
- How we can reframe the conditioning we have received throughout life so that we can return to a place of authenticity. [00:15:06]
- Meditative prompt with Jessi to initiate your authentic rhythm. [00:43:00]
“Authenticity is the act of living as you are created to be. It's that simple. It's a continuous journey of uncovering all that you are as much as you can in this lifetime.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“Most of us move through life in a manner that matches what we've been told we should do. One of the biggest journeys we can go on is to learn and understand how we would navigate life with no conditioning.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“You have to create boundaries including intentionally choosing an inner circle of people around you that won’t influence you towards a life that's not in alignment with who you're meant to be. You can usually feel when people are a good fit or not by how they make you feel.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
Links mentioned in this episode:
- My Human Design
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Episode 36 Season 2
As Sensitives, change can be very difficult to navigate. Shifts in our environment, routine, work, relationships, emotions and more ignite symptoms of imbalance and can leave us feeling defeated, exhausted, and confused. This week, Jessi walks us through the experience of change, its impact on us as Sensitives, and how we can build resiliency. You will leave this episode empowered, able to easifully, healthfully, and authentically adapt to whatever comes your way!
Topics:
- Why change is so difficult for us as Sensitives. [00:03:35]
- What it feels like emotionally & physically to process change as a Sensitive. [00:06:52]
- The foundational pillars that support resilience through change. [00:20:25]
- Why it’s vital to our overall health that we build up our resilience. [00:27:31]
“As Sensitives, our brains work in a different manner. Our nervous systems are more tender and we feel things at a much deeper, and more potent level. This doesn't make us better or worse than anyone else. It just makes us different.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“It's important to recognize that we have a deep seated fear of being rejected. This is often an underlying fear in almost everything we experience. We want to fit in, we don’t want to make waves or be a bother, we always want to be considerate. Really it's just an act of protection. That my friend, is what's going to keep you stuck.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“If we have learned anything from the last few years it's that we don't necessarily have control of everything. We have to own what we do have control over, release what we don’t and learn to build resiliency.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
Links mentioned in this episode:
- Biomat
- Senstive Stage Fright
- Navigating Labels: Sensitive, Empath and Introvert
- The Outgoing Introvert or Social Hermit
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Episode 35 Season 2 Jessi explains that as Sensitives, we tend to jump at the chance to be of service to others. This often leads to overactivation and inauthenticity. We absorb the experiences of those around us in a way that can make us lose track of our true, authentic purpose. In this episode, Jessi helps us to understand that truly knowing who we are is a prerequisite to serving from a place of health. It is when we don't have a clear understanding of who we are that our service to others no longer supports the greater good. As Jessi explains, when our unique gifts as Sensitives are protected and used sparingly, we have a much greater impact in this world. Jessi ends this episode by leading us through a breathwork and prompt practice that can push us out of a state of overactivation and to a place of peace and authenticity.
Topics discussed:
When Sensitives need to say no to volunteering, caring for & serving others. [00:05:38]
How to navigate the experience of saying no when you feel others may benefit from your help. [00:15:30]
Why you struggle with saying no and how to let go of those thought patterns. [00:22:00]
Jessi Leads us through a reflective breath and prompt exercise. [00:41:00]
“Please know that if you are saying yes to everything, you are diluting the impact that you're meant to have. It leads to a feeling of meaningless that leads to feeling lost. The more that you focus on your true purpose, the greater impact you will have.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“Nonprofit work is a really big arena of heroin empaths and if you're in that industry you have a lot to be careful of. You need strong boundaries and a solid understanding of yourself. And that is rarely seen within that space.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“You have to say no to service opportunities. Unless the help needed falls within your unique calling and gifting, you are actually going to be in the way. So instead of always saying yes, get out of the way and focus in on why you are here and what your true purpose is.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
Links mentioned in this episode:
- My Human Design
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In episode 34 season 2 Jessi sits down with Carson Meyer. Carson is the founder of C & The Moon, a nutrition consultant, and a birth doula who has helped numerous women bring new life into this world in a way that is authentic and empowering. As Sensitives, the thought of birth often brings up fears. Carson walks us through these apprehensions and discusses how our Sensitivity is actually a beautiful gift in this process. Carson shares her recommended resources and tips for optimizing a women's experience when creating a new life. She also provides insight into the layers of transformational healing she so often sees come hand-in-hand with the preconception, pregnancy, and birth process. Carson's passion for serving others through her work is inspiring and we are so grateful to share her expert knowledge with you in this episode!
Topics discussed:
- Carson's personal journey into the role of doula. [00:05:50]
- Heightened fears & apprehensions Sensitives may have about the pregnancy & birth process and how our sensitivity can be a gift throughout the experience. [00:17:55]
- Carson shares her top recommendations when preparing for preconception and pregnancy [00:27:45]
- Working through the birth process so that you can start motherhood in a place of power and authenticity. [00:36:40]
Quotes
“At the end of the day what a baby really needs more than any gadget or material item is a well-rested and healthy mom.” - Carson Meyer
“There is no one way to birth. The only wrong way to do it is in a way that you don't feel empowered in your decisions and or in your unique body that nobody knows better than you.” - Carson Meyer
“People like to say birth is just one day, but I think it has rippling effects on mother and child forever. I hope that gives people the feeling that they have permission to take the reins of their experience and know that you don't have to do it any way but your own.” - Carson Meyer
Connect With Carson Instagram www.CarsonMeyer.com www.candthemoon.com
Links mentioned in this episode:
- Orgasmic Birth
- The Business of Being Born
- Little Honey Money
- EWG
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Episode 33 season 2 is all about sleep for Sensitives. Did you know that your unique and tender systems requires more sleep? Jessi shares the why behind our deep need for rest and its connection to the unique brain activation and processing traits of Sensitives. Sometimes it's not that we can't sleep it's that we won't unwind or rest. Jessi breaksdown what we can do to change the internal blocks that prevent us from savoring the quantity of sleep we require. You'll also walk away from this episode with Jessi's top practices for cultivating easy sleep and natural recommendations for cultivating restorative overnight rest.
Topics discussed:
- Why Sensitives need more sleep than the majority of the population. [00:01:53]
- Why we may not give ourselves permission to get the full sleep that we need. [00:13:42]
- The importance of restorative bedtime regardless of being awake. [00:23:11]
- Jessi's reccomendations for a deep and consistant sleep. [00:27:26]
Quotes: “Our brain typically restore overnight. If we're not getting enough sleep, we're really reducing our ability to be able to function in our day to day and to be able to have that stress resiliency that we're all working towards.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“As a Sensitive, getting 8 to 11 hours of sleep is the first thing that you can start working on if you feel overwhelmed with where to start on your healing journey.” Jessi Michel Agadoni
“Waking up through out the night could be tied to a cortisol spike as a result of stress, and anxiety about the day. It’s important to take all these factors into consideration. There's always the energetic piece, the emotional piece, the physical piece, and we need to consider all of them.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
Links mentioned in this episode:
- Counting to Calm Exercise
- Supplements For a Deep Sleep
- Jessi's Calm Playlist
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Season 2 Episode 32 is a twist on the usual episode as Jessi shares an excerpt from her personal Human Design reading with Alexandra Cole. This episode gives us an intimate look into the experince of receiving a human design reading for anyone that is intruiged but nervous or hesitant about what to expect.Human Design Coach, Alexandra, dives deep into the centers and gates of Jessi’s chart and discusses how these influences all aspects of her life. It's a very personal episode, but will ignite your curiosity around the nuggets your own chart offers! For those unfamiliar with the Human Design chart, refer back to episode 21 where Jessi and Alexandra sit down and explain the ins and outs of this powerful resource.
Topics discussed:
- Jessi shares possible internal blocks that cause hesitation around using a personality typing system like Human Design. [00:01:26]
- Jessi shares insight into her life as a practitioner and her journey thus far with the tool of human design. . [00:08:16]
- Alexandra guides Jessi through her Human Design chart, highlighting her open and closed centers and gates. Ultimately, clarifying how she can make authentic decisions, heal, optimize and more.[00:14:12]
Quotes:
“Although much of our time is spent in our heads, all of the answers lie in the body.” - Alexandra Cole
“As someone who is a manifestor and who does not have control over your energetic reserves, instead of jumping into catering to someone else’s needs, you first need to make sure that you're not pouring from an empty cup. This is acknowledging that you feel the pressure to do something and giving yourself permission to not act on it” - Alexandra Cole
“Anyone who's an emotional decision-maker needs to give themselves a little bit of extra time when it comes to making decisions. Emotions are like a wave and sometimes we don't know where we are on that wave so giving yourself that extra time allows you to come back down and make decisions from a cool, calm, collected place." - Alexandra Cole
Links mentioned in this episode:
- Jessi's Human Design Chart
- My Human Design
Connect With Alexandra:
- Book a Human Design Reading With Alexandra
- Follow Alexandra on Instagram
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Season 2 Episode 31 Jessi speaks to Caspar Szulc, the President and Co-Founder of Innovative Medicine, a progressive and cutting-edge clinic that uses a holistic approach to heal each patient's unique body, mind, and spirit. Caspar shares with Jessi how his unique childhood shaped his view of medicine from an early age and how this eventually led to the inspired creation of Innovative Medicine. Caspar and Jessi dive into their personal experiences as Sensitives and explain how this has influenced the way they understand and move through the healing process. Caspar shares his surprising recommendations and therapies for Sensitives, taking us back to the foundations. This episode will inspire, offer enouragement, and gift you practical tools to grow, heal, and optimize as a Sensitive!
Topics discussed:
- Caspar discusses how his childhood led him to the work he does today through Innovative Medicine. [00:03:30]
- Caspar shares how his experience as a Sensitive has influenced his work. [00:13:07]
- Jessi and Caspar discuss how hitting rock bottom can be beneficial and what to do to get back to a place of optimization. [00:27:41]
- Caspar shares his current recommendations of therapies and practices for Sensitives to return to a place of health. [00:53:13]
Quotes
“Journaling, affirmations, and visualizations are little things you could do that most of the time, people want to jump over and go straight to. What's the treatment? What's the pill? But it’s those little things that have a much bigger impact on your life than most of the advanced treatments could.” - Caspar Szulc
“As Sensitives we often reject our natural state and intuitive nature. We reject so much of what makes us unique and that is literally what causes the disease. If we return back into our body and we reconnect, we're able to self heal.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“If you go through a healing transformation that takes time, takes effort, and puts a lot of responsibility on you, then you really come out the other end and you have purpose again. You have a new outlook on life. This is where I think Sensitive people really bloom, because you don't question your authentic side anymore. You have the tools now to embrace your sensitivity and use it as a positive.” - Caspar Szulc
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Links mentioned in this episode: Victor Frankl's Book Man's Search For Meaning
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Season 2 Episode 30
This week Jessi discusses what it means to listen to your body’s unique language and shares steps you can take to begin to do so. Your body communicates with you through messages both subtle and loud. These messages are often referred to as symptoms and as Sensitives, we receive these messages at a much higher rate than the majority of the population. As Jessi explains, this is a gift that we can take advantage of to reconnect with our bodies. Jessi discusses how inner child healing can be an important step in this reconnection and is often a prerequisite to truly listening to and accepting your body’s language. She shares with us how you can create your Health Story, a detailed document of every major or minor experience in your life that has influenced your health. This document is integral to helping you or a practitioner you are working with, understand your body and its language. Jessi shares insight into what you can accept to shift for you when you begin to reconnect with your body and listen to the messages it communicates to you. Whether you are just starting your health journey or you are decades along, this is a powerful episode for anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of their body and wellbeing.
Topics Discussed:
- What is your body’s language and why are Sensitives often are more receptive to it than the majority of the population? [00:01:09]
- How do you begin to receive and interpret your body’s messages in a way that benefits your overall wellbeing? [00:07:40]
- What is your health story and how can you utilize it to reconnect with your body? [00:14:55]
- What may begins to shift for you as you start to listen to tune into your body’s language? [00:27:39]
Quotes:
"The body is a complex, intricate, magnificent being that requires more than just a pill. It requires more than just a supplement, even more than just intention, it requires many different layers of support." - Jessi Michel Agadoni
"Hold that space for your inner child, acknowledge them, speak to them ask them what it is that they need, and respect it as you start to reconnect with your body." - Jessi Michel Agadoni
"Once you start to see and identify your body's language, it will become more and more natural to you and you will be able to understand it. You won't need an external source to tell you what's going on. That's always my goal as a practitioner, is to help my clients understand their body." - Jessi Michel Agadoni
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Season 2 Episode 29
In this episode, Jessi has a conversation with empathic coach Fraya Mortensen. Fraya and Jessi discuss navigating working with Sensitives while also being Sensitives, something that they share in common. Fraya discusses her journey and what led her to the work she does today. She speaks of her childhood growing up in Canada, although she often felt like an outsider, she was always very in tune with herself and the world around her. This is a gift many Sensitives possess. Fraya shares her story of working in a correctional facility as a probation officer for over 20 years and how that work ultimately lead her to become a life coach specializing in empaths. Fraya and Jessi discuss working with clients to address inner-child trauma, intergenerational trauma, protecting your own welling as an empath, and more. Throughout Fraya’s career, she has touched the lives of so many in immeasurable ways. She has served as a non-judgmental listener for those who have had no one, a light at the end of the tunnel for those who needed it most and she now continues to serve and help people reach their full potential with her practice.
Topics Discussed:
- Fraya discusses her childhood, education, career as a correctional officer and how her journey and experiences have led her to her current work as an empathic coach. [00:02:57]
- Jessi and Fraya touch on the importance of inner child healing, intergenerational trauma, and being the chain breaker. [00:30:25]
- Fraya shares with us what her practice looks like today and how she continues to protect her peace and ensure her emotional health is doesn't suffer from serving other in her practice. [00:40:00]
Quotes:
"My energy is such a valuable commodity. How I spend it, who I give it to and who I share it with is, is really important to pay attention to ( . . . ) it's a daily mindfulness practice. From waking to going to close my eyes at the end of the night and waking up with intention. Waking up in a mindful state and checking in with my body. How are we feeling today?" - Fraya Mortensen
"Reconnecting to your childhood is really a lifelong journey. Familial trauma is passed down for generations and there can be layers and layers. It's not just like what you've experienced, it's also what your parents have experienced and their parents have experienced. Being the chain-breaker is a huge job that requires a lot of internal work" - Jessi Michel Agadoni
"Practice doesn't make perfect practice makes progress. Life is a practice. You're going to make mistakes and that's okay because that's how you make progress. If you're not making mistakes, you're staying stuck." - Fraya Mortensen
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Resources Mentioned: Wayne Dyer Abraham-Hicks Dr. Judith Orloff & The Empath Survival Guide Jon Aaron Jon Kabat Zinns
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Season 2 Episode 28 Jessi discusses amino acid therapy, a safe and effective alternative to conventional mood-stabilizing drugs. She speaks on what may lead a natural Sensitive to seek help with mood imbalances and why medication may push a Sensitive’s body beyond its natural capacity and outside of your Authentic Calm. This is often something that medical practitioners don’t take into consideration, therefore, Jessi advises us to seek out a professional that validates & respects your individual needs as well as take your health into our own hands when we are dealing with mood imbalances. She provides tools and resources to do so. Jessi gives us an overview of what amino acid therapy is, the different options available, and how to know which works best for your one-of-a-kind body. Jessi is not here to shame or look down upon anyone who takes medication for depression or anxiety, she simply wants to put the message out there for anyone that may be feeling hopeless. There are alternatives that can do wonders for you, Sensitives.
- Why do Sensitives have unique needs that are often misunderstood by health practitioners in a clinical setting? [00:01:25]
- Why Sensitives often do not react well to medication? [00:14:14]
- When is amino acid therapy beneficial and how does it work? [00:26:43]
- Identifying root causes of mood imbalances & what amino acids you and your body need? [00:31:40]
“A healthy Sensitive is someone that is fully connected to their body first and foremost & can hear the messages of their body clearly and to interpret them because they've had time and experience of tuning in and responding and seeing beneficial reactions and healing.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“Sensitives are naturally overwhelmed. So you have to live differently. I'm just going to say that from the get-go. You have to live differently in order to be healthy in this society, you cannot be 'normal'.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“We get to see what the level of neurotransmitters are currently in your system – what your body is releasing basically. We get specific & very targeted as opposed to the experimentation method where you're kind of trial by fire. We can actually go in and go, okay, this is what is deficient and this is what is in excess.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
Links Mentioned: The Mood Cure by Julia Ross
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Season 2 Episode 27
Continuing on the topic of mold, on this weeks episode Jessi sits down with Michael Rubino, a leader in the mold and remediation space. Having helped over 1000 families restore their health after mold exposure, Michael and his team at All American Restoration are leading the change in an industry that has gone unchallenged for far too long. Jessi and Michael discuss how to identify mold in your home and Michael dives into the effective way he and his company work with families to permanently eliminate mold from their homes. They discuss the ramification of taking the easy way out when it comes to dealing with exposures and why so many people are taken advantage of this within this industry. Michael shares his vision of making safe and effective mold remediation more accessible. This is a great follow up to last weeks episode, as topics are discusses more in-depth and Michael shares his invaluable knowledge and expertise after years in the industry.
Topics Discussed:
- Both Jessi and Michael share their personal experience with mold and Michael discusses what lead him into the work he does today. [00:10:02]
- What is mold and when does it become a health concern? [00:19:37]
- What are some steps you can take yourself to identify mold in your home? [00:30:39]
- How to find the right companies for both mold testing and mold remidiation? [00:47:47]
Quotes:
"After hurricane Sandy happened in the Northeast, where I'm originally from, I started seeing patterns of people getting sick and that's when I began trying to understand why this was happening and trying to wrap my head around what I can do about that." - Michael Rubino
"Knowledge is power. I think that this is going to take time and I want to be forthright about that. But as this time is taken and we all learn more, we're going to do better. And by doing better, we're going to be better. That's really what it comes down to." - Michael Rubino
"They're driving in circles, they're not getting better and they're losing hope. Those are the people that my heart breaks for and those are the people I get up every day for. Every single person that finds this information can do something with it and start getting better." - Michael Rubino
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Season 2 Episode 26
In Season 2 Epsiode 26 Jessi dives into the daunting topic of mold. She tells the story of her personal experience with mold exposure and how it has vastly affected her life from a young age. She discusses the wide range of symptoms that may manifest as a result of mold exposure and what we can do to identify them. Mold often goes unnoticed and as Sensitives, we may be the only ones who feel the physical or mental symptoms of mold exposure. Jessi discusses how to navigate this challenge as well as how to properly test and eradicate mold from both your home and your body. She touches on the importance of sourcing the right people to help with this, as the average mold removal process in American today is inaffective and could actually cause more harm then good. This episode serves as an overall introduction to the topic of mold exposure, a very important consideration when returning to your Authentic Calm.
Topics Discussed:
- What symptoms may manifest as a result of this exposure? 00:2:00
- How you can be exposed to mold in our day-to-day lifes? 00:03:06
- How to properly test for mold in your home, who to trust when going about this process and why most mold removal companies don't serve your long term best interest? 00:26:19
- How to ensure your body is rid of a mold infection after the exposure? 00:33:10
Quotes:
"The mold piece of the puzzle really I'm understanding now, has been the foundational layer to everything for me. I think it's actually what took my immune system beyond what it could handle and kind of broke down my body."
"One of the main symptoms of mold exposure is exhaustion, especially for sensitive. So if you're feeling really exhausted at home, that's a big sign that you're being exposed. The home is your number one priority & it's important to test your home."
"Mold can be pathogenic, meaning that it can take up residence inside of you and colonize and grow, but not all mold is toxic. So the specific strains that are toxic are the ones that release as mycotoxins. We want to be really be cautious of these. So when we go into the home and we test for mycotoxins, we're testing to see if those specific toxins are being released into the air and then from there you get the results and they will give you a really, really long remediation plan."
"You need to test your body. You need to see what's going on because if you're being exposed to mycotoxins there's a high chance that you're holding onto them. Cause a lot of mycotoxins do not clear naturally you actually have to push them out."
Links Mentioned: Michael Rubino , EMMA testing , ERMI testing , We Inspect , Dr. Jill , QuickSilver Scientific , Mold Finders Podcast
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Season 2 Episode 25 Jessi dives into the reasons we struggle to trust our bodies as Sensitives. She discusses why relying on an external source to interpret your body's messages isn’t in your best interest and that despite what we have been taught throughout life, your body is not something that needs to be managed or controlled but honored and respected. Jessi gives advice on how to navigate the messages that we receive from our body and ultimately regain trust and connection to the vessel that gives us life.
Topics Discussed:
- How did we arrive at a place of distrust?
- Who or what does this distrust benefit?
- Why our society's simplified approach to the body does not work, especially for Sensitives.
- How to regain your natural ability to trust and hear your body.
- How to identify where you're distrust and disconnection lies.
Quotes:
"It's like, our body is as a wild animal and we need to domesticate this animal. It's not safe. We don't know what it's going to do at any point. Turn on us. And as a result, there's this fear that's built that prevents us from trusting, from leaning into our experiences from believing that our body actually has the answers - ultimately, identifying with the concept that our body is intelligently and intentionally created in order to sustain itself that our body's always moving towards healing, always moving towards homeostasis and is always on our side."
"We are more complex. It is not a plus B equals C. It's never that simple. And then add on your sensitivity, right. Those that are sensitive cannot even live within that A plus B equals C world. We do not fit into those boxes and those interpreters have no idea what to do with us because they haven't received any training other than what fits their boxes for those that are on the lower end of the sensitivity spectrum."
"But that's always a red flag and it's a mirror back to me that I am starting to treat my body like a robot. I'm starting to treat my body like a product, not like a living, breathing biological system. We need to respect the wildness of our body. We need to respect the natural needs of our body and not see them as a hassle, not see them as something to be managed, and definitely not see it as something to domesticate."
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Season 2 Episode 24 dives into the core. Do you want to heal? Jessi does not mince words and explains why you cannot look to practitioners or tools or therapies or tonics alone. She's been there and tried it all. There is a foundational layer and vital step that is often missed. Sensitives are the most likely to avoid this practice, yet we are the ones that need it most! This is a glimpse into the core of Jessi's method and life's work.
Topics discussed:
- Why we disconnect.
- Jessi's personal discovery of the foundation of healing.
- Why we must step into this as Sensitives and what happens in our bodies when we do.
- Jessi's personal recommendations for integrating this foundation into the everyday.
- A glimpse into what shes's building for this sensitive community.
Episode Quotes
"we try out all these different therapies and tonics and You know, different tinctures and tools, just tools overall that we're trying to use to bring forward healing. I'm completely bypassing the foundational issue, which is that we are not actually registering how we feel."
"It's not on them. It's actually on you. And they're there to guide and offer you what I call remedies. Whatever they may look like to optimize, to increase, to Quicken your ability to heal. But the actual ability to heal is yours, it is not theirs it is yours. And so it's important to recognize that and to see everything as outside supports that you add on as needed."
" There's so many tools, gua sha and all of that, which are all gorgeous and beautiful ancient and, being revisited in this modern world and I love that, but you have to remember that those aren't your saviors, they are simply add ons and really what it comes down to is acknowledging and trusting the body that you've been given is meant to heal."
" They are a gift. It is a gift to be able to hear those messages so clearly most people can not hear their messages. Believe me, it's my job to help interpret."
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Season 2 Episode 23 we step into why so many of us are nice and how this is impacting us on many levels, including the biological level. Jessi shares her journey into niceness and revelas her personal opinion on the millenial generation's hang ups around niceness and the deep need for real one on one conversations, despite our many diverse viewpoints. She reviews how to healthfully hold your ground physically when in an overactivating situation, like saying no or vocalizing a need or a differing opinion. Jessi shares her observations from life, clinical practice and favorite expert and answers the question - why is it that so many nice people develop dis-ease? This is a deeply personal share and one that is foundational to the Authentic Calm Method and all of Jessi's work. It's not one you will want to miss!
Topics discussed:
- Why are we nice?
- Why are the nice humans the ones to deveop disease.
- How we can step out of niceness and live authentically and healthfully.
Episode quotes
"What does it mean to be nice and how does this impact your body? As a human, but especially as a sensitive. I'm just going to give it all to you in one sentence, maintaining your niceness is the path to disease. Let's talk about this. So first of all, why are you nice? Why is it that you feel you have to always be nice and what is nice?"
"God does not ask us to be nice. God does not ask us to repress emotions, opinions, perceptions, and experiences. God does ask us to step into other people's shoes and to be kind. But he also, and I personally connect with God as a, he as a little side note. But. God also, you know, asks us to have healthy boundaries."
"So you can be respectful. You can be kind, you can be loving, you can be giving, you can be conscientious. You can be thoughtful. You can be aware, you can be intelligent. All these things you can be without being nice. Without repressing. Now you may have many conversations that are uncomfortable because within our beautiful country here, we are quite diverse in our view set."
"I of course experienced the world differently than most people. And as a result of this experience, a lot of rejection around any sort of expression of my experience or my needs, I received the message and owned the message and absorbed the message that I was too much and that I was drama and that I was selfish."
"Why is it that the nicest piece, but people are always the ones that seem to get sick. Why is that rarely, do you see the cranky, bitchy bastardly individuals actually die young?"
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Season 2 Episode 22 - Have you ever begun a therapy, like nutrition, flower essences, acupuncture, counseling, or EMDR and found that you suddenly noticed more and felt more. Your sensitivity heightened. Believe it or not, this is a positive sign. It can feel alarming without the context, so Jessi spends this episode explaing the process of disconencting, the numbing and repression. She covers why the rerun of true sensitivity is a beautiful sign of your authenticity coming through and clarifes what it looks like to reconnect with your physical body, yes, your sensitive physical body in order to holistically heal.
Topics discussed:
- The set up that leads to numbing and how we disconnect to save ourselves.
- Holisitic healing requires connection.
- How we return. Reconnection in action.
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Season 2 Episode 21 features the lovely Alexandra Cole, a human design coach, entrepeneur, and author of The Purpose Playbook. She captured Jessi's attention with her down-to-earth explanations and integrations of the convaluted system of Human Design. What is human design? Well, have you ever wondered who you really are? What you were like or were meant to be before all the layers of education, societal pressures, and trauma molded you into your present self? Alexandra introduces us to this powerful tool that provides a detailed chart with the ability to reveal your authentic self. She covers the basics of the system, like your energy type, and progress to the nuances of identifying your personal sensitivites. Bottom line, this episode highlights a beautiful system that reveals the true attributes that make you, you. Human deisgn is a life-changing and practical resource Jessi has personally utilized for the past three years and she is thrilled to finally share a peek into its impact. This is not an episode you will soon forget!
Topics discussed:
- Alexandra's journey into the role of HD coach.
- The basics of Human Design.
- A breakdown of all 5 energy types.
- How sensitivity can be identified in your chart.
- The positives of each sensitive center in your chart.
Links mentioned in this episode:
- Follow @alexandrafcole
- Book a session with Alexandra
- Read The Purpose Playbook
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In Season 2 Episode 20 Josh and Jessi begin to share the story of their country property. A recent purchase that occurred in the middle of covid it has been a beautiful manifestation of many a prayer over the years. With the ultimate goal of restoring the microbiome of the old 1950s home and the ancient land, these two have embarked on a learning process that is keeping them humble and in a state of trust. As Sensitives, they are moving through this process with a heightened state of awareness and intention regarding the safety and health of the environment. Part one is their personal experince separate and together of finding, financing, and landing their first property. Hop in to hear about their considerations, reflections, and advice now that they've been through it! If you're interested in sourcing or curating your own healthy home, this series is for you.
Topics discussed:
- Finding and puchasing a home in the country as a coastal couple.
- Navigating the home buying process as a Sensitive couple.
- Creating a team of experts to advise and provide feedback on the health of the home.
- Post-purchase recovery and expectations.
Links mentioned in this episode:
- Josh & Jessi's Agent – Chaco Clotfelter
- Building Biologist
- Chemical-Free Home Consultations
- Non-Toxic Home Resources
- Mold/Mycotoxin-Free Home Testing & Resources
- EMF & Electrical Assessment
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Season 2 Episode 19 discusses the impact of intense stories on Sensitives. Through all forms of media we can encounter overactivating stories. How do you handle watching violence, death, pain, fear, shock or panic? Often these are the very experinces we avoid in real life and yet they can so easily find us through everyday shows and social media. How do we process the emotional highs and lows, the nervous system shifts, and the social implications of our strong responses? How do we avoid overactivation? How do we comunicate our needs without feeling like too much or a kill joy when invited to share in an experince with others. Jessi offers from her personal experience - what works, what's challenging, and what she is still learning. Read more on this over on the Mêrfleur Journal.
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Season 2 Episode 18 is out first ever attempt at an experimental book club! Join Jessi as she reads through impactful books and offers her personal call outs and take aways for you as a Sensitive. Pick up a copy of the current read - When the Body Says No or download the audible version. Together with Jessi we will move through chapters 1-8 and uncover the impact of emotion repression on our sensitive bodies. A powerful read and one of Jessi's new all time favorites, this is not one to miss. Grab a drink and curl up in a cozy chair as Jessi guides us through and motivates us all to finish this life altering read!
Resource When the Body Says No by Dr. Gabor Maté
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Season 2 Episode 17 is what you need to hear right now. Jessi shares how you may be blocking yourself from fully healing. You experience a chemical and emotional high from stressful living, the high of your body's alarm mode. How do we as Sensitives uniquely find ourselves addicted to the very lifestyle that makes us unwell? Jessi shares the kinds of stressors that will overactivate Sensitives and explains why we can be so easily impacted with an illustration of a protective pillow. She also describes the physical chemicals and societal norms that keep us returning to the drug of our alarm mode. She reviews the primal drive we have to seek approval from our guardians and how this too can keep us from jumping off the necessary cliff and doing the hard work of healing.
Jessi gets into the nitty gritty of how we as empaths deny ourselves the core needs, repress our emotions, and choose to "serve" others as an escape. A dip into family trauma and personal capacity leads us into reviewing what we are open to clearing and healing in our lifetime. She spends the second half of the talk discussing the physical impact of stress addiction. She shares the lab measurements she uses in her health practice to review and analyze stress resilience and how allopathic and functional medicine treat and approach the results. Jessi shares her personal theory around the connection between stress addiction, overactivation, and the label of ADHD.
She leaves you with steps to take if you are beginning to realize you do have an addiction to stress and casts the vision of how it will feel to be in your healing calm state. Let's together slowly step away from our society's programing and bring in more of what's good and affirming and healing into the world.
Resource When the Body Says No by Dr. Gabor Maté
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Season 2 Episode 16 is a direct and loving conversation between an introvert and extrovert, Jessi and her dear friend Anne Buehner! Long time friends, they've traveled through many life season together, navigating moments of misunderstanding, miscommunication, and straight up confusion. With raw transparency, they share their experiences and learnings, where they fall in the spectrum of introversion and extroversion, and how to honor each others differences with clear communication. Anne gives introverts helpful feedback, like how they can graciously turn down invites without overexplaining or projecting. Jessi shares her outgoing introvert/social hermit tendencies and how she's begun to release fears and embrace her unique needs with ease and grace. Together they offer a rare glimpse into a loving relationship between two sides of the energy spectrum. Ultimately, Anne and Jessi show us that however we gain energy and express ourselves in the world, we need each other. We are truly better together.
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Season 2 Episode 15 is Jessi's personal definition of herself and those who also do not fit perfectly into the extreme boxes of introvert or extrovert, social or unsocial, loud or quiet. She discusses how she embodies it all. Energy levels, capacity, environment and who is on the scene can shift her self-expression greatly. Are you also more in the middle of the spectrum? If so, this episode will be alot of yes! I'm not alone! Finally, someone gets it... Labels and boxes can be helpful up to a point, but do not discount the validity of your unique features and giftings within and around them. This episode goes out to all of Jessi's fellow social hermits!
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Season 2 Episode 14 reviews the concept of labels, why they can be helpful and when to use or not use them. Jessi goes over the difference between the term introvert and extrovert and discusses the variances between empaths and and the skill of empathy. She clarifies how she personally defines and utilizes the term sensitive in this space and explains the difference between those with innate sensitivity and those who develop sensitivities. An episode of language, definition, and understanding, listen in if you have found in the past you struggle to fit in to pre-defined boxes or have a hard time understanding those in the middle, the grey, the undefinable. You are welcome here!
Resource The Irresistable Introvert by Michaela Chung
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Season 2 Episode 13 invites on Jessi's husband of 10 years, Josh Agadoni, to casually share their experince with partnership. Both sensitives, one moderately and one highly, these two have navigated personal pain, differing values, family expectations and much more to create a unified and tender marriage. Whether you're single or partnered this peek into their story offers hope and exemplifies lessons you can tuck away for contemplation. While in no way claiming perfection, these two do have some years under their belt and have lots to share. A small toe dip into their deep pool, this episode is one of many that Josh and Jessi hope to share as they continue to naviagte and curate healthy partnership as sensitives.
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In Season 2 Episode 12 Jessi walks through her perspective on curating and building a business as a sensitive. From the start of her nutritional therapy practice to now, 3+ years later, she shares what it's like to interact with the societal norms and trends, how to navigate all the marketed formulas, and how to filter the networking aspect. With honetsy and raw examples from her own process, she demonstrates that it is possible to be a sensitive entrepeneur and find a form of success and peace within it. Jessi leaves us with a glimpse into her vision, describing what's next for Merfleur, her practice, this podcast, and more.
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Season 2 Episode 11 closes out our mini-series on embracing sensitivity in all areas of our lives. Jessi spends this episode sharing her unique background around exercise. From childhood play, to young adult sports teams, to a college eating disorder, to a deeply held punishment mentality, to the strong hold it had over her self-worth, she sets the context for sensitive-based movement recommendations. She explains why she stepped out of intense, contracting, and pain-focused forms of exercise and leaned into breath-filled, expanding rhythmic movement. A very personal episode, Jessi invites us into her own experience of healing this layer of health and shows us how to cultivate our own authentic form of movement that aligns with our sensitive nature. If you've ever felt like the exercise styles of others give you opposite results or if you feel trapped in an unhealthy mentality around movement and body image, you may find comfort and encouragement by listening in on this episode.
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Season 2 Episode 10 is chock-full of resources and specific tips for creating a safe and soothing home for the sensitive. Continuing our mini-series on embracing sensitivity in all areas of our lives, we dive into the home environment. From the non-toxic considerations like air, water, food, cooking, and storage to the visual and textural aesthetics, Jessi covers all the angles to consider when curating your restful home space. She connects and validates your needs as a sensitive in the home and clarifies why this is an area of your life that is very worthy of your time, attention, and investment. Take notes and use the resources included below to integrate and begin cultivating your authentically calm environment, one small step at a time.
Resources @yesweinspect yesweinspect.com Jessi's Non-Toxic List Thrive Market Season 2 Episode 5: Curating Frequencies as a Sensitive Season 1 Episode 10: Finding Restful Ease Amidst 5G, EMF and Modern Tech with Dr. Mindy Beck
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Season 2 Episode 9 continues the mini-series of embracing sensitivity in all areas of life by delving into a topic very near and dear to Jessi's heart - relationships. Weaving through the various levels of intimacy, she discusses potentially tender areas of confusion or misunderstanding, the spectrum of sensitivity and exemplifies styles of communication. She offers experiential wisdom around cultivating healthy partnerships with people, both those that are very different and similar to us – friendships old and new, what's normal as sensitives verse what cultural norms proclaim, and how to release unhealthy people you attract. Lastly, Jessi navigates the potentially most challenging relationships of all, family. She honestly shares with us how she personally moved through the process of establishing gentle healthy boundaries with her family. It's one of her best so far and a core talk to listen to if you're in the process of deconditioning from people pleasing, codependency, injured partnership or feeling like an odd bird.
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Season 2 Episode 8 reviews the concept of honoring your sensitivity within your work or life's focus. Jessi shares her personal journey as a holisitic practitioner and how she arrived at her ideal schedule and approach, despite a culture and multiple mentors demostrating very different paths. She helps you navigate your current work environment and assess its alignment with your unique needs and giftings as a sensitive. Jessi also encourages the discovery of your ideal type of work. Environment matters, but so does the style and intent of your career or day-to-day activity. Moving through more granual aspects of work life, she calls out where we as sensitives can find ourselves pulled in too deep, followed by wisdom to create new and healthier options. Jessi offers up the freedom and peace she has found in work as an example of what you too could curate, an opportunity you may have never know was allowed or even possible!
Resources Human Design: @erinclairejones @myhumandesign
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Season 2 Episode 7 is the start of a mini-series! Moving through specific areas, like the body, work, and relationships Jessi highlights the areas we often struggle to embrace our sensitivity, sharing her own journey as an example. This episode launches the discussion off with the subject of sensitivity in the body. She covers the challenges that present when we attempt to heal like everyone else and teaches us how to honor the unique special beings that we are through her experiential and clinical wisdom.
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Season 2 Episode 6 walks through the experience of social and vulnerability hangovers for the sensitive spirit. Jessi shares her own recent encounter and describes how she responded both in the moment and afterwards. She reviews what is normal and okay for us as a rare unique subgroup of the human population. She finishes with a powerful message for the sensitive community and our unique calling on this planet and within this age.
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Season 2 Episode 5 moves through the concept of frequencies, both natural and man-made and how they affect us as sensitive beings. Jessi shares from a gentle and open perspective, breaking down the basics, reviewing healing frequencies like flower essences, and covering toxic frequencies like unnatural EMF. She offers a fresh take on the importance of curating surroundings that will support the sensitive's authentic balance and health.
Resources Somavedic YouMatrix Jessi's Curated Non-Toxic List
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Season 2 Episode 4 is a spontaneously recorded episode. Jessi shares from the heart and offers a freshly downloaded reframe for veiwing life as a sensitive spirit with conscious choice. Releasing blame and victimhood, she encourages us to own what is in our control, to stay true to our authentic self and calling.
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Season 2 Episode 3 answers the question, am I destined to be unwell as a sensitive spirit? Jessi covers how to cultivate health within this present culture from both a place of both personal and professional wisdom. This is a great overview for setting up a balanced life as a sensitie spirit!
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Season 2 Episode 2
In this episode, we are diving into one of the greatest blocks a Sensitive may face in social settings. The dreaded loss of memory that arises at the most inopportune time. A common experience for many of us, it that can leave you feeling embarrassed, frustrated, and anxious. Jessi shares her personal experience with this phenomena over the years and explains why this happens. She also guides us on ways to recover from the experience and small steps to ease the apprehension around it happening again. This episode offers you relief and actionable wisdom.
Topics Discussed:
- What is sensitive stage fright and how it creeps into our day-to-day life. [00:02:00]
- How this alarm mode reaction affects your long-term physical health. [00:25:30]
- How to respond and pull yourself out of a moment of sensitive stage fright in the moment. [00:34:00]
Quotes:
“When you are in a high cortisol state of alarm, your body registers whatever is happening to you at a much deeper level. This makes it difficult to release and move past it afterward.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“Rhodiola Rosea is a great supporter to add to your tool kit. It’s one of my go-to adaptogens to help balance cortisol and bring you back to homeostatic.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
“You can’t avoid intense alarm moments in life but you can learn how to manage them in a healthy fashion. The goal is to soften the experience and lessen the frequency of this activation.” - Jessi Michel Agadoni
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A new focus, a new season, we are entering into a deep conversation.Life as a sensitive spirit is not easy, but it can be beautiful and healthful with intention and care. Time to dive into the vulnerability and embrace your natural giftings.
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As we continue our conversation around cultivating restful ease, true health, in the body and mind, it’s time to zero in on an everyday blocker of this pursuit – man-made frequencies. You may have heard whispers of these as non-native EMF, electromagnetic radiation or in connection to the 5G rollout. Top emitters are microwaves, wifi routers, cell phones, laptops, tablets, baby monitors, apple watches, fit bits, and more. Have any of these in your home or on your body? I know I do! But don’t panic, I’ve brought on my personal favorite authority on this topic to show us how to cultivate our state of calm amidst the chaos of this modern tech. Our guest Dr. Mindy Beck, a naturopathic physician and cofounder of the company Youmatrix, breaks down the science and explains the impact these invisible frequencies are having on our human biology and the earth. Starting with her adventure-filled journey through Europe to first-hand experiences with chronically ill patients to a health crisis of her own, Dr. Beck connects common symptoms we are all experiencing with the everyday exposure to these artificial frequencies. She also surprises us with an alternative and more effective option for restoring our earth than the current trendy solutions! Most importantly, she demonstrates a balanced approach to this potentially alarming information, teaching us how we can go beyond mitigation, shielding or blocking. She reveals how we can potentially transform these frequencies and reconnect with nature as originally intended, taking us out of our present alarm state and returning us to our calm, self-healing, state. You will leave this conversation educated, encouraged, and armed with simple tools to take back your health!
We welcome the soulful Sarah Shreves for episode 09 to guide us into a place of ease. In a season of great imbalance with high highs and low lows, stability and calm are not easy to embody, yet our beautiful guest exemplifies the very groundedness we are all seeking. She openly shares a personal journey through a painful and uncertain season that in many ways reflects what most of us are facing right now. She offers us hope and a refreshingly practical perspective on both her transformative journey and our current global pause. You’ll be entranced by her artistic endeavors and uniquely intentional approach to portrait photography that led her into deeper work with herself and clients. Wisdom is dropped, glimpses of raw human experience are revealed and pure delight is felt as we all sit together to contemplate what this unexpected season will bring forward for each one of us. An almost spiritual experience, you will not soon forget your encounter with Sarah in this powerful episode.
As we‘ve been facing the pandemic and the chaos that has ensued, I’ve felt called to record a solo episode to give you a big virtual hug. Let’s talk through cultivating authentic calm in the midst of all this! It’s a true test of our practice, but also a beautiful opportunity to try out and refine our toolkit. I get honest about my own journey and share thoughts on it as a living process. I invite you to hop in time and time again for the included breath exercise at minute 27:55! May this be a meanful resource in times of challenge. Waiting for you inside the episode with great care, dear friend.
Step into a deeply personal and encouraging conversation with the kind-hearted and wise Dr. Patti Kim. An impactful voice in the LA alternative healing community, you would never expect the kind of vulnerability she so quickly offers. You start with her journey into naturopathic and Chinese medicine but finish with a profound awareness of yourself and the simple, playful tangible ways you too can find rest in the chaos of this modern world. Acknowledging the great need for authentic partnership in the doctor patient relationship, she expertly pin points why you struggle to take the steps needed to nurture yourself and even explains the underlying reason you crave that hot cup of coffee in the morning! With thoughtful observations on human patterns and tendencies, Patti guides us through some powerful self-reflection. Drinking warm water to ease digestion, singing to activate your vagus nerve, dancing in the kitchen to incorporate play in your life, establishing consistency with whatever your unique practice may be… these are just a few of the innumerable takeaways for your physical, mental and spiritual health. Highlights of her morning and evening rituals demonstrate how she cares for herself within a potentially draining career. Healers, caretakers, and empathetic souls this episode is for you! Floating from lighthearted to soulful, she dives deep into her personal struggles and challenges, owning her imperfections with humility and courage. She invites both you and I to do the same with an openness that will put you at ease. Following her lead, I too share my current morning practices and offer further examples of cultivating rest. You will leave with the desire to cultivate your own personal rest, heighten your intuition and strengthen your ability to self-heal!
An episode of great vulnerability and depth, we dive into the topic of deep holistic rest in every season with Kirsten Incorvaia, a transformational leadership coach. She openly shares her journey, the ups and downs, the flops and victories, the risks, the fear, the courage and the confidence gained through it all. We discuss moments of great pain and pause that become the very catalyst for change and growth that pivot her entire path! Her ideal morning routine is one you’ll want to start immediately. Hone it in like her and you too will “see through walls!” Above all else, Kirsten demonstrates what it looks like to speak and live authentically from her core in all things, regardless of the response, push back or challenges that come her way. If you’re a creative soul with the desire for great impact, this is not an episode you will want to miss!
We step into our fifth episode with the lovely Janelle Nelson, a well-respected licensed therapist and kind soul. She graciously guides us through the process and impact of trauma development and speaks to unblocking both repressed and known experiences. Exposing us to the psychotherapy treatment know as EMDR, she shares how she discovered this now popular tool and the radical freedom it can provide! Her perspective around cultivating wholeness will leave you hopeful, reminding you of the many beautiful tools available to calm your mind and uncover your authentic self.
A gentle and beautiful soul, Erin invites us into her story – vulnerably sharing her powerful journey filled with painful loss, depth, growth, joy, rest and incredible expansion. We get a glimpse into her rhythmic mornings and how she intentionally cultivates authentic calm in the everyday, allowing us to glean tools and practices all along the way. You will be left with a deep craving to rise with the sun, take a thoughtful walk in nature and create moments of rest in your daily routine. With every thoughtful word of wisdom, the weight of her 20+ years as an accomplished and well-respected herbalist and naturopathic healer is felt. Closing us out with her thoughtful reflection on authentically holding space for others in healing work, this conversation will deepen your connection to your intuition and awaken your desire for an intentionally-led life.
The lovely and creative Elizabeth walks us through her romantic and adventurous life – including stories of hand-pouring beeswax candles and living on a mid-renovation sailboat. Though it sounds like perfection, she authentically shares the highs and lows of being a maker on the side of her full-time work as a holistic esthetician. Finding her unique state of calm and personal contentment amidst the seasonality of business life is her continual aspiration. She kindly shares her go-to tools and offers up her perspectives for us to soak in and try! It’s an episode that will have you daydreaming of bees, flowers, fresh honey and gently swaying to sleep on a cozy docked sailboat.
The kind and inspiring Jen Kim joins us for our second episode! Pulling from both her clinical and personal experience, Jen navigates us through the ins and outs of therapy, acknowledges our culture’s craving for continual action and emphasizes the deep value of connection. She opens up to share about the lessons, losses and liberties of her own health crisis and gives us a backstage look at the life of a therapist. Her wisdom is impactful and her journey compelling. This is not an episode to miss!
For the inaugural episode, I invite on a beautiful soul and brilliant entrepreneur to share her journey of cultivating authentic calm in the chaos of her everyday! Gina’s honesty and humor will keep you smiling at every last relatable moment in all the surprises, joys and flops of finding her unique rhythm within small business life!