The Redeemed Marriage Podcast: Recent Episodes
Rusty and Heather Bryant
Rusty and Heather Bryant discuss ways to encourage healthy marriages, strengthen wounded marriages, and begin the process of restoration to broken marriages.
Can You Affair-Proof Your Marriage?
Is it actually possible to affair-proof your marriage?
We know better than most that no marriage is completely immune to temptation or failure. After all, Adam and Eve lived in a perfect world and still found a way to mess things up. But we also believe there are things we can do to protect our marriages and make it much harder for the enemy to gain a foothold.
In this episode, we talk about some of the things we believe matter most, beginning with our individual relationships with the Lord. Heather shares honestly about what happened in her own life before the affair and how it wasn't one huge decision that suddenly took her somewhere she never expected to go. It was a series of small compromises. Little decisions that didn't seem "that bad." Moments when she heard the Holy Spirit prompting her and chose not to listen.
Over time, those small compromises became much bigger ones.
We also talk about why we believe so strongly in boundaries, including some that other people may think are extreme. For us, boundaries aren't about living scared that something might happen. They're about protecting something that is incredibly valuable to us.
And protecting your marriage is about more than avoiding an affair. We talk about communication, serving one another, physical intimacy, and continuing to build the kind of connection that makes your marriage healthy and strong.
We can't promise that following a list of rules will guarantee that your marriage will never experience betrayal. But we do believe there are things you can intentionally do to guard your heart, protect your marriage, and build the kind of relationship you both want.
We learned some of these lessons the hard way. Our hope is that maybe you won't have to.
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This week we're sharing one of the most meaningful nights of our lives.
As we celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary, we got a surprise when we walked into a room filled with the people God has used to help write our story. Some were there on our wedding day. Others came into our lives after Heather's affair fifteen years ago. All of them have played a part in reminding us that redemption was never something we were meant to walk through alone.
During the evening, we shared a comment someone recently left on our YouTube channel: “Not all heroes wear capes.” That simple sentence perfectly captured how we feel about the people in that room. They prayed for us. They challenged us. They encouraged us. They stayed when our marriage was messy. They became the hands and feet of Jesus during one of the hardest seasons of our lives.
Others in the room only know us as a redeemed couple, but they encourage us and our ministry daily. A few of them were even there because we have journeyed with them through their own marriage redemption story.
In this episode, we reflect on that unforgettable night, the incredible gift of community, and why every couple needs people who are willing to stand with them through both the celebrations and the struggles. Looking around that room, we couldn't help but realize that our anniversary wasn't just a celebration of thirty years of marriage. It was a celebration of God's faithfulness—and of the heroes He placed along the way.
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This week marks our 30th wedding anniversary, and as we look back, we realize something that still amazes us: we've now spent exactly half of our marriage before Heather's confession…and half of it after.
In this episode, we reflect on those two very different seasons of our marriage and why the last 15 years have been so different from the first. We talk about how our relationship changed when we stopped expecting each other to be the source of our happiness and learned to find our identity and security in Christ instead.
We also share what we wish we could go back and tell ourselves during those dark days in the summer of 2011, when we had no idea what was about to happen. If you're walking through a difficult season in your own marriage, our hope is that this conversation reminds you that your story isn't finished. We're incredibly grateful we chose to fight for our marriage, and we're thankful for the life God has built over these last 30 years—one that neither of us could have imagined back then.
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Last week we began a conversation about restoring intimacy after betrayal. This week we're taking it a step further by talking about one of the hardest parts of healing: the mental images, triggers, and memories that can make the marriage bed feel anything but safe.
We know this struggle because we've lived it. In this episode, we share what helped us navigate those difficult moments, why the betrayed spouse has to set the pace, and how the unfaithful spouse can respond with patience, humility, and compassion instead of pressure or frustration.
We also talk about the hope we've found through Christ. The enemy would love nothing more than to convince you that this part of your marriage can never be restored. We don't believe that's true. Healing takes time, and every couple's journey is different, but we believe God can redeem every part of your marriage, including your intimacy.
If you've ever wondered whether the marriage bed can truly be restored after betrayal, we hope this conversation gives you hope and practical encouragement for the road ahead.
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This week we’re answering a question that we’ve never addressed quite like this before, and we know it’s one that many couples quietly wrestle with after infidelity.
What happens when something that was once a normal and enjoyable part of your physical relationship suddenly becomes a reminder of betrayal? Is it possible for the marriage bed to be fully redeemed, or will certain things always feel damaged?
In this episode, we talk honestly about the guilt and shame that can linger long after an affair has ended, especially for the spouse who was unfaithful. We also discuss why healing isn't about pretending the past never happened, but about inviting God into the places where the enemy wants to keep you trapped.
We share some of our own journey of reclaiming intimacy through prayer, worship, and honest conversations, while also talking about the importance of following the pace of the betrayed spouse. Along the way, we discuss how every marriage changes over time, why it's healthy for couples to keep talking about their desires and comfort levels, and how to approach those conversations with grace instead of fear.
If you've ever wondered whether physical intimacy can truly be restored after betrayal, we hope this conversation reminds you that nothing is beyond God's ability to redeem.
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This week, we're answering a question we hear often: "What exactly do you offer, and where should I start?"
Whether your marriage is in the middle of a crisis, you're rebuilding after betrayal, or you simply want to strengthen an already healthy relationship, we've tried to create resources that meet you wherever you are. In this episode, we walk through the Resource Menu currently available on our website and explain what each part is designed to do.
We talk about the free resources that so many couples begin with, including our daily Facebook content, Instagram, YouTube, and our podcast library. Then we share how our marriage coaching, two-day intensives, and marriage retreats provide a deeper level of support for couples who need more personalized help. We also explain how you can search our entire podcast library by topic, making it easy to find conversations on trust, boundaries, communication, forgiveness, and so much more.
Finally, we share a few of our favorite resources that many people don't even know about, including our monthly mentoring community, annual Prayer Challenge, and the free downloads we make available throughout the year.
Our heart has always been simple: to provide hope, practical tools, and biblical encouragement for every season of marriage. We hope this episode helps you discover the next step that's right for you.
This week in our Summer Shorts series, we're answering a listener question that took us back to one of the hardest seasons of our lives: What were some of the small things people did that made the biggest difference while we were walking through our marriage crisis?
When everything around us felt cold and uncertain, God placed "redbirds" in our path—people who simply showed up. They didn't always have the perfect words. They didn't try to fix us. They listened, encouraged us, invited us to dinner, sat with us in church, and reminded us that we weren't alone.
Looking back, those simple acts of kindness became some of the greatest gifts God used in our healing. In this episode, we share several of those stories and talk about why you don't have to have all the answers to make a lasting impact in someone's life. Sometimes the greatest ministry is simply being present.
If you know someone walking through a difficult season, we hope this episode reminds you that a small act of love can become something they'll never forget.
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In this week’s Summer Short, we tackle a question that comes up more often than people realize after infidelity: What do we do with the things that now carry painful memories? Wedding rings, anniversaries, favorite restaurants, vacation spots, and even everyday places can suddenly feel connected to some of the hardest moments in a marriage.
We share our thoughts on whether couples should keep their original wedding rings as a symbol of a covenant that was broken and restored, or whether there are times when a new ring can represent a fresh chapter in the story. We also talk about anniversaries and how those dates can move from reminders of pain to reminders of God’s faithfulness and redemption.
Along the way, we discuss the idea of replacing painful memories with new ones and the importance of communicating openly about triggers, expectations, and what each spouse needs during the healing process. If you’ve ever wondered how to reclaim the places, traditions, and symbols that seem to have been stolen by betrayal, we hope this conversation will encourage you. Our belief is simple: the affair doesn’t get the final word. Through God’s grace, even the things that feel tainted today can become reminders of redemption tomorrow.
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This week, we're continuing our Summer Shorts series by answering one of the questions we hear most often: Should we tell our children about marital struggles, broken trust, or even infidelity?
We share our own experience of walking through those conversations with our boys after Heather's affair and how those discussions changed as they grew older. When they were young, we focused on what they needed to know. As they matured, we were able to share more of our story and help them understand not only what happened, but what God had done in the years that followed.
Every family is different, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer. But we've generally found that leaning toward honesty is healthier than carrying secrets. When children see parents acknowledge failures, take responsibility, and pursue healing, they gain a front-row seat to God's redemption at work.
In this episode, we talk about age-appropriate conversations, protecting children from adult burdens, and how sharing your story can create a culture of honesty that impacts your family for generations.
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This week, we tackle a listener question that sparked a really honest conversation in our own marriage: How do you pursue your spouse without making them feel like your pursuit is only about sex?
We share openly about the different ways we experience pursuit, the challenges that can come with mismatched desires, and how easy it is to misread each other's intentions. What one spouse sees as connection, the other may experience as pressure. What feels loving to one person may not feel loving at all to the other.
In this episode, we talk about the importance of understanding how your spouse defines pursuit, communicating expectations clearly, and learning to love your spouse in ways that make them feel seen, valued, and desired. We also discuss the role of flirting, friendship, emotional connection, and physical intimacy in building a healthy marriage.
If you've ever thought, "I don't feel pursued," or wondered why your efforts don't seem to connect with your spouse, this conversation will give you practical insights and encourage you to have an important conversation together.
Because the goal isn't simply to pursue your spouse the way you want to be pursued. The goal is to learn how to pursue them the way they need to be loved.
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This week we're celebrating a huge milestone—250 episodes of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast!
To mark the occasion, we're answering a question about one of the most practical tools we've ever shared: the Heart Talk. What do you do when you're trying to open up, but your spouse gets defensive, starts explaining themselves, or turns the conversation back to their own feelings?
In this episode, we talk about why the Heart Talk works only when both spouses honor the process. We share three big mistakes we've seen derail communication—defensiveness, fixing, and giving a quick apology just to end the conversation—and why those responses often leave your spouse feeling unseen and unheard.
We also discuss the difference between listening to understand and listening to respond. One of the most important lessons we've learned is that you don't have to agree with your spouse's feelings to acknowledge that those feelings are real.
After nearly 15 years of rebuilding and growing together, this simple tool is still one of the most valuable ways we connect. If your conversations keep going in circles or you feel like communication has stalled, this episode will encourage you to slow down, go back to the basics, and keep practicing the habits that create emotional intimacy.
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This week in our Summer Shorts series, we’re answering a hard but honest question that so many couples wrestle with after betrayal: “Once a cheater, always a cheater?”
We talk openly about the labels people place on you after failure and how easy it is to believe your worst moment will define the rest of your life. For us, this conversation isn’t just theoretical. We’ve lived through the judgment, the lost friendships, the whispers, the social media comments, and the long process of rebuilding trust one step at a time.
In this episode, we share why trust and redemption are not the same thing, how trust is rebuilt slowly through consistency and honesty, and why real change is actually possible through Christ. We also talk about the importance of surrounding yourself with people who believe in restoration instead of permanently defining people by their past.
If you’ve ever felt trapped by shame, afraid of what people think about your story, or wondered if healing is truly possible after betrayal, we hope this conversation reminds you that your sin is not your identity and your worst failure does not get the final word.
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This week’s episode is a special one for us. We just walked through one of the most meaningful weeks of our lives as we celebrated our son Luke’s wedding, and we are incredibly grateful for all of the prayers, encouragement, and kind messages so many of you have sent our family.
During the wedding weekend, someone asked us about a part of the ceremony where Rusty talked about the difference between a contract and a covenant in marriage. A contract says, “if then…” while a covenant says, “even if.” That simple distinction led to a much deeper conversation about commitment, restoration, and the generational impact of fighting for your marriage.
In this Summer Shorts episode, we reflect on some of the emotions we experienced during the wedding ceremony, remembering where our marriage once was and realizing how different our family story could have been if we had walked away years ago. We also share about the letters Luke and Kamryn gave us before the wedding and why those moments reminded us that healing in marriage doesn’t just affect two people. It impacts generations.
If your marriage feels difficult right now, we hope this episode reminds you that staying faithful to your covenant can create a legacy you may not even be able to see yet.
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In this week’s Summer Shorts episode, we answer a powerful question from one of our listeners: what would Heather have done if the roles had been reversed and Rusty had been the one who was unfaithful?
It leads to a really honest conversation about who Heather was spiritually fifteen years ago compared to who she is today, and the difference between simply knowing about God and truly depending on Him. Heather shares openly that years ago, her response likely would have been driven by bitterness, pride, and selfishness, while today she sees how God’s grace has transformed the way she views pain, forgiveness, and healing.
We also talk about the danger of believing “that could never happen to us,” why every marriage needs healthy boundaries and transparency, and how quickly isolation and pride can lead us into vulnerable places.
Whether your marriage is in a season of healing, growth, or simply needing stronger connection, we hope this conversation reminds you that none of us are above struggle, God’s grace is still enough, and redemption is always possible.
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In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, we found ourselves feeling a little nostalgic. With our oldest son’s wedding just days away and a Chicago concert on the calendar, it got us thinking back to when we first started dating and how much things have changed since the 80s and 90s.
We started remembering what dating used to look like—waiting by the phone for a call, long conversations on a corded line, making mixtapes from the radio, writing notes, and actually planning out time together. Back then, intentionality wasn’t something you had to think about…it was just part of the process. Everything took a little more effort, a little more patience, and honestly, a little more heart.
In this conversation, we talk through some of the biggest differences between dating then and now, and how the convenience we have today can sometimes crowd out the kind of pursuit that keeps a relationship strong. We laugh about some of those old memories—printed photos, handwritten notes, uninterrupted time together—but we also get honest about how easy it is now to settle for shallow connection, even though we’re more “connected” than ever.
The big takeaway for us is this: relationships haven’t changed as much as the level of intentionality has. What used to be built in, we now have to choose. And if we’re not careful, we can drift into comfort without continuing to pursue one another.
Our hope with this episode is to encourage you to bring some of that effort back into your marriage. Not in a forced or complicated way, but in simple, meaningful ways—planning time together, being fully present, and choosing connection over convenience. Because one of the greatest gifts in marriage is comfort, but the pursuit should never stop.
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We are in one of those seasons where life feels full in every possible way. From weddings and college transitions to demanding work schedules and hosting a team full of athletes for the summer, it is a lot. And if we are honest, it can feel overwhelming at times.
In this episode, we are pulling back the curtain and inviting you into the real life messiness of what we are navigating right now. Not from a place of having it all figured out, but from a place of being intentional in the middle of it.
We share what it looks like for us to fight for connection when everything around us is pulling for our attention. We talk about the importance of choosing to live unselfishly, even when we feel stretched thin, and how shifting our focus from our own frustrations to serving our spouse can change the entire tone of a season.
We also walk through what it means to truly operate as a team, especially when life feels chaotic, and why clearly communicating expectations is so much more effective than hoping our spouse just gets it.
Our hope is that this conversation helps you stop wishing away the busy seasons and instead learn how to navigate them with gratitude, intentionality, and a deeper reliance on God’s faithfulness so you can actually enjoy the journey together.
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We used to believe that if we prayed hard enough, stayed hopeful enough, and just waited long enough… our marriage would eventually get better.
But what we’ve learned—both personally and walking with other couples—is that real change doesn’t happen by accident. It happens when you’re willing to step into it.
In this episode, we talk about the tension so many couples feel: wanting something different, but feeling stuck in the same patterns. The truth is, breakthrough in your marriage often requires movement before you feel ready. It requires action before you see results.
We share how healing begins when you’re willing to let old habits die—things like defensiveness, bitterness, and unforgiveness—and how choosing something new, even in small ways, can start to rebuild connection.
We also talk about what to do when your faith feels weak, your hope feels distant, and you’re not sure you have what it takes to keep going. Sometimes, the first step is simply borrowing hope from someone who’s been there.
If you’ve been waiting for your marriage to change, this episode is your reminder: you’re not powerless. There is a next step—and it might be closer than you think.
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We open up about how that played out in our marriage—how selfishness drove decisions that caused real hurt, and how easy it would have been to stay stuck there. Heather shares honestly about what was going on beneath the surface, and Rusty talks about the temptation on the other side to hold onto pain, bitterness, and self-pity. What we’ve learned is that selfishness doesn’t just show up in big moments like infidelity or addiction. It shows up in everyday conflict, when everything starts to revolve around our needs, our expectations, and what we feel like we deserve.
At the same time, we want to be really clear about what we’re not saying. There are situations where safety matters, where boundaries are necessary, and where choosing space or help is the right step. But for most of us, most of the time, the tension in our marriage can be traced back to this quiet, ongoing battle between “me” and “us.”
Our hope in this conversation is to help you recognize where that might be showing up in your own heart, not to bring shame, but to invite something better. Because healing really begins when we stop asking, “What about me?” and start asking, “What would it look like to choose us today?”
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Resurrection is not just something we celebrate at Easter. It is something we can experience in our marriages.
We know what it feels like to be stuck. We know what it feels like for things to seem lifeless, distant, or even beyond repair. But what we have learned is that what feels impossible to us is not impossible for God. If He can roll away a stone, He can move what feels stuck in your marriage. What looks dead may not be finished. It may just be waiting on Him to breathe life back into it.
In this episode, we share five truths that have shaped our own story. We talk about inviting God into the broken places, believing that He can restore what feels too far gone, and trusting that He can turn even the hardest seasons into something meaningful and beautiful.
Most importantly, we want you to hear this. Your story is not over. An empty tomb means your marriage still has a future. No matter where you are today, there is hope.
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Sometimes we look at our marriage and feel overwhelmed by everything that needs to change.
The conversations.
The habits.
The distance.
The hurt.
And if we’re honest… it can feel like too much.
But what if you didn’t have to fix everything today?
In this episode, we share a simple shift that God has been pressing on our hearts lately: focus on the next 24 hours.
Not forever.
Not five years from now.
Just today.
Because when you wake up and choose—just for today—to love your spouse well, to be patient, to be kind, to show up differently… something begins to change. The weight lifts. The pressure eases. And suddenly, growth feels possible again.
We talk about how this “24-hour mindset” can bring clarity, reduce overwhelm, and help you become more intentional in your marriage—right where you are.
And at the end, we share a powerful God story that reminded us of something we never want you to forget:
God is in the details of your marriage.
Even the ones you think He’s missed.
Even the ones that feel small.
Even the ones that feel delayed.
This was a moment we couldn’t have planned—and it left us in awe of how personal and present God really is.
If you’re feeling stuck, tired, or unsure where to start… this episode is for you.
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In working with couples, one of the things we hear over and over again is that communication is their biggest struggle. But when we slow that down and really look at it, it’s often not just about what’s being said—it’s about what’s not being said.
In this episode, we’re talking about the conversations we tend to avoid. The ones that feel risky, uncomfortable, or easier to just keep to ourselves. Whether it’s physical intimacy, finances, or that quiet, unsettling feeling that you’re starting to drift apart, these unspoken areas can slowly create distance in a marriage.
We’ve been there ourselves, and we know how tempting it is to stay silent just to keep the peace. But what we’ve learned is that silence doesn’t protect connection—it erodes it. The longer things go unspoken, the more room there is for resentment to grow and for disconnection to take root.
We also talk about the mental gymnastics so many of us do—rehearsing conversations in our heads, assuming the worst, and carrying things our spouse doesn’t even know exist. It’s exhausting, and it keeps us stuck.
Our hope in this conversation is to give you a different way forward. We’re sharing practical ways to approach hard topics with grace, curiosity, and honesty so that those conversations can actually bring you closer instead of pushing you apart.
You don’t have to stay stuck in the silence. There is a better way to be known, to be heard, and to reconnect with your spouse.'
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This week on the Redeemed Marriage podcast, we are coming to you from our retreat home in Atlanta after spending several powerful days with couples who traveled here from across the country. Weeks like this always remind us of something that so many marriages forget in the middle of the struggle: you are not the only couple fighting this battle.
When a marriage gets hard, it is easy to feel isolated. It is easy to believe that everyone else has it figured out while your relationship feels broken, tense, or distant. But sitting around the living room with couples this week reminded us again that so many people are carrying the same fears, the same frustrations, and the same quiet questions about whether their marriage can really change.
If your marriage feels heavy right now, we want this conversation to remind you of something important. You are not alone. Your spouse is not your enemy. And no situation is beyond God’s ability to redeem. We see it every week sitting across from couples who once believed their story was over.
There is always hope for redemption, and we are honored to be fighting for marriages alongside you.
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This week we’re sitting down to talk about something that can feel absolutely suffocating — shame and guilt.
During a recent Q&A, someone asked how you move forward when it feels like you have a scarlet “A” for adultery spray-painted across your chest. And that question hit home.
Even fifteen years after Heather’s confession, the enemy still tries to whisper lies. There are moments when the weight of the past feels heavy, and the temptation to slip back into shame is real. But we’ve learned something over the years — shame is not from the Lord.
In this episode, we talk honestly about what it looks like to rebuild a marriage after infidelity and how we’ve chosen to replace that “A” with an “F” for forgiven and an “R” for redeemed.
Rusty also shares vulnerably about his own battle — the lingering narrative of not being “good enough” as the betrayed spouse. Because healing isn’t just about the one who confessed. Both people wrestle. Both people have to fight for truth.
We talk about how we’ve rebuilt our home on a biblical foundation, why we refuse to put our marriage on cruise control, and the practical ways we take our thoughts captive (2 Corinthians 10) when shame tries to creep back in.
If you’ve ever felt defined by your worst decision…
If you’ve ever believed you’re permanently marked by your past…
If you’re wondering whether true freedom is actually possible…
We want you to know this: you are not your worst day. In Christ, you are forgiven. You are redeemed. And healing is still available.
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In this episode, we’re talking about something that can make people uncomfortable pretty quickly: boundaries. Over the past few months, we’ve received a lot of questions about opposite-sex friendships, digital transparency, work relationships, and what healthy safeguards should actually look like in marriage. So we decided it was time to revisit why we believe in what some might call “extreme” boundaries.
If we’re honest, if we had these guardrails in place years ago, our story might have unfolded very differently. We’ve learned the hard way that boundaries aren’t about controlling each other — they’re about protecting the most valuable relationship we have.
We share some of the personal standards we live by now, from complete password transparency to why we don’t delete texts, avoid one-on-one lunches, or travel alone with someone of the opposite sex. We also talk about how the media we consume can slowly desensitize us to the sacredness of our covenant without us even realizing it.
This isn’t about creating a list of legalistic rules. It’s about having honest conversations and intentionally building a fortress around your marriage. Healthy boundaries don’t put walls between a husband and wife — they lock arms together and keep unnecessary risk on the outside.
If you want to protect what you love most, this conversation is for you.
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This month, we’ve had the privilege of praying for marriages every single day — reading names, lifting up stories, and standing in the gap for couples who are hurting, hoping, and hanging on. And as we’ve done that, it’s stirred something deeper in us about what prayer in marriage really is… and what it isn’t.
In this episode, we talk honestly about how easy it is to confuse worrying with praying. We think about the problem. We rehearse conversations in our heads. We stress. We analyze. But that’s not the same thing as bringing it before the Lord.
Prayer isn’t a negotiation. It’s not a way to convince God to take our side or fix our spouse. It’s not a spiritual wish list where we hope He delivers exactly what we ordered. Real prayer is alignment. It’s surrender. It’s allowing God to reshape our hearts until our desires begin to look more like His.
We share what bold faith actually looks like — the kind that asks for miracles without demanding them. The kind that believes God can restore what feels impossible, while still trusting Him if the answer comes differently than we hoped. That tension is something we’ve lived. We’ve prayed desperate prayers. We’ve asked for big miracles. And we’ve also had to surrender outcomes we couldn’t control.
If you’ve been praying for your spouse, praying for your marriage, or maybe just thinking about it more than actually talking to God about it, this conversation is for you.
Maybe the prayer that changes your marriage isn’t “Lord, fix them.”
Maybe it’s “Lord, change me.”
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After years of being asked for a way to share their story in a deeper way, Rusty and Heather Bryant are finally unveiling something that has been over six months in the making.
In this milestone episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, they announce the official release of their video testimony—a powerful, professionally produced film created in partnership with WinShape Marriage. What began as a broken marriage in 2011 has become a story of redemption, and now that story has been captured in a way that allows couples to see and feel the journey from devastation to restoration.
Rusty and Heather take listeners behind the scenes of the filming process, reflecting on what it was like to return to the very campus where their healing first began during a marriage intensive years ago. From the intentional “stained glass” studio setting to the vulnerable moments filmed inside their own home, every detail was thoughtfully designed to honor the faithfulness of God and the reality of their story.
This is more than a video release. It is a declaration that no marriage is too far gone. It is a reminder that Jesus still redeems what feels impossible. And it is an invitation for every struggling couple to believe that their story is not over.
The official testimony film is now available at theredeemedmarriage.com and on The Redeemed Marriage YouTube channel. Rusty and Heather invite you to watch, share, and let it point you back to the hope that changed everything for them.
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In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather Bryant address one of the most common sources of frustration in marriage: unmet expectations. Using Valentine’s Day as a relatable framework, they explore how unspoken hopes and “mind-reading” often lead to disappointment rather than connection. Through a candid and humorous conversation, the Bryants attempt to guess each other’s expectations—from practical needs to physical intimacy—revealing how easily couples can miss the mark when clarity is absent. They unpack the difference between a “want list” and a “reality list,” explain why disappointment is often the result of silence, and offer practical guidance for having intentional conversations before high-pressure moments. This episode helps couples see how honest communication can deepen both emotional and physical intimacy, reminding listeners that clarity is one of the greatest gifts spouses can give each other.
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In this deeply honest episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather Bryant continue the conversation around healing after infidelity by turning the focus to a perspective that is often misunderstood and rarely discussed. Heather vulnerably shares what the spouse who caused the hurt needs in order for true restoration to take place—not as a way to excuse betrayal, but as a pathway toward lasting healing for both partners.
Drawing from their own story, Heather introduces the idea of the “One Day” moments—those emotionally charged days when pain is fresh and decisions feel urgent. She gently challenges couples to resist making life-altering choices in the immediate aftermath of trauma and instead allow space for clarity, wisdom, and God’s work over time. Together, Rusty and Heather address the outside voices that often label forgiveness as weakness, reminding listeners that choosing to stay, fight, and rebuild requires immense courage and strength.
The conversation explores the tension between rebuilding trust and creating safety, reframing boundaries and transparency not as control, but as necessary protection for both spouses. Heather speaks candidly about the danger of perpetual punishment and how staying stuck in the offense can quietly sabotage the very healing both partners are longing for. By shifting the focus from the act of betrayal to the impact of the pain, they show how a marriage can move from being defined by an affair to being shaped by redemption.
Nearly thirty years into marriage and approaching fifteen years of life after infidelity, Rusty and Heather stand as living proof that God is able to redeem even the most broken chapters. This episode offers hope to couples in the middle of the wreckage and points toward a future where grace, humility, and perseverance can make the second half of marriage even more meaningful than the first.
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In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage, Rusty and Heather step into one of the most critical—and often misunderstood—moments in the healing journey: the days immediately following confession. Speaking honestly from their own story, they address what the betrayed spouse is often carrying in shock and silence, and what the unfaithful spouse must understand if real healing is going to begin.
Rather than offering quick fixes or surface-level apologies, this conversation walks through ten essential commitments that move a marriage toward safety and restoration. The focus is not just on stopping harmful behavior or choosing to stay married, but on what it actually takes to become a different person—someone capable of rebuilding trust over time. Rusty shares what he needed but didn’t yet know how to articulate in the aftermath of betrayal, while Heather reflects on the posture required to walk patiently with a wounded spouse who is learning how to respond in a reality they never asked for.
This episode speaks directly to couples living in the aftermath of broken trust, clarifying why “sorry” is only the beginning, why transparency and boundaries are non-negotiable, and why change—not just effort—is required for reconciliation. It is an honest, hope-filled conversation for anyone asking what comes next after confession, and whether a marriage can truly be rebuilt on new and safer ground.
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This week on The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather Bryant share what happens when prayer is no longer a routine—but the only place left to turn.
In this episode, they reflect on seasons when answers were unclear, circumstances felt overwhelming, and prayer became an act of surrender rather than certainty. From facing a cancer diagnosis to witnessing God’s provision in unexpected ways, Rusty and Heather point to moments where prayer was all they had left.
The conversation also introduces their February Prayer Challenge, a growing commitment in which Rusty and Heather set aside the month of February to pray daily for couples around the world. What began as a quiet act of obedience has grown into a powerful season of intercession for marriages in need of hope.
Rusty and Heather emphasize that while God is fully capable of miraculous intervention, the truest work of prayer often happens beneath the surface—reshaping trust, softening hearts, and aligning lives with God’s purposes and timing. This episode is an open invitation to anyone, regardless of where their marriage currently stands, to experience the hope that comes from being covered in prayer when there are no easy answers left.
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In this episode of the The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, we talk about a season many couples don’t expect—and few are prepared for—the frustration stage of healing after betrayal.
After confession, when the shock has worn off and the hard work has begun, couples often find themselves stuck. The repentant spouse may be doing “all the right things,” while the betrayed spouse still doesn’t feel safe. Change is happening—but safety hasn’t caught up yet.
We unpack an important distinction: behavior change matters, but safety is what heals. Early growth can actually feel unsettling, even threatening, when trust has been broken. That tension leaves both spouses exhausted—the repentant spouse wondering how long they’ll have to keep paying for the past, and the betrayed spouse fearing the pain may never fully go away.
Instead of living in score-keeping or defensiveness, we talk about what it looks like to move toward humble consistency, patience, and reassurance—and why healing cannot be forced or rushed.
Ultimately, real restoration doesn’t come from fixing each other. It comes when both spouses stop looking to their marriage for completion and allow God to be their source.
If your marriage feels stuck in the messy middle—where survival is happening but joy feels far away—this episode is for you. Healing is possible. Safety can be rebuilt. And God still writes miracles in places that feel beyond repair.
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As the new year begins, Rusty and Heather invite listeners into a conversation about goals, growth, and the role personal responsibility plays in a thriving marriage. In this first episode of the year, they do something they’ve never done publicly before—share their individual goals for 2026 with each other in real time.
Rather than focusing on fixing a spouse or creating rigid, legalistic resolutions, this conversation reframes what intentionality really looks like. Rusty and Heather reflect on how their approach to annual goals has evolved over the years, moving away from pressure and performance and toward clarity, grace, and purposeful direction. They unpack why personal growth is not selfish in marriage, but essential.
Using Luke 2:52 as a guiding framework, they explain how Jesus’ growth in wisdom, stature, and favor with God and others continues to shape how they think about goal-setting today. Along the way, they share the books they plan to read in the coming year, offer insight into what’s ahead for The Redeemed Marriage, and encourage listeners to pursue growth with intention.
This episode is an invitation to start the year differently—to stop trying to change your spouse, take ownership of your own growth, and discover how personal transformation can lead to deeper connection, freedom, and renewal in marriage in the year ahead.
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What does real healing look like after betrayal—and who walks with you when the shock wears off and the long road begins?
In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather sit down with Pennye Dees, the woman who stepped into Heather’s life just days after her confession of infidelity. Pennye shares her story, her calling, and why she believes deeply in walking with people patiently, faithfully, and over the long haul.
The conversation explores the earliest days after betrayal, what mattered most spiritually and emotionally, and why true healing requires more than quick fixes. Pennye offers wisdom for betraying spouses who want to do the right thing but feel overwhelmed, as well as for betrayed spouses who are trying to discern whether real heart change is taking place.
Listeners will gain clarity around questions many couples quietly wrestle with: What does true repentance look like beyond words? How can someone tell if a heart is genuinely turning toward Jesus rather than simply seeking relief from consequences? What signs point to lasting transformation instead of temporary behavior change?
The episode also casts vision for the often-overlooked gift of mentoring. Pennye explains why mentors are so critical during seasons of crisis and healing, what they provide that even well-meaning friends or pastors may not, and how to begin seeking that kind of support.
For couples in crisis, in recovery, or simply longing for deeper discipleship and accountability, this episode offers hope, wisdom, and a clear reminder that healing was never meant to be done alone.
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In this lighthearted and completely unscripted Christmas episode, Rusty and Heather shake things up with a game that was not planned and definitely not rehearsed. Heather presses play on a Christmas song and without warning, Rusty races to guess the title, and then—on the spot—has to turn that song into real, practical marriage advice. No notes. No preparation. Just quick thinking, honest insight, and a lot of laughter.
What unfolds is a mix of singing, playful pressure, and surprisingly meaningful moments as familiar Christmas songs spark unexpected conversations about love, connection, and what really matters in marriage. The advice isn’t polished or prepackaged—it’s raw, spontaneous, and rooted in real life.
This episode is a reminder that marriage growth doesn’t always have to be heavy to be helpful. Sometimes the best wisdom shows up when guards are down, expectations are low, and joy leads the way. If you’re looking for encouragement, laughs, and a fresh way to think about your marriage during the Christmas season, this one delivers.
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The Christmas season is full—but marriage still matters.
In this episode, Rusty and Heather take a lighter turn and talk about the importance of intentional fun, laughter, and making memories with your spouse, especially during the busy holiday season. When life feels full, connection doesn’t happen by accident—and sometimes the best thing a marriage needs is simply time to enjoy each other again.
They share why creating space for fun dates and shared experiences can strengthen a relationship and highlight their 12 Dates of Christmas resource—simple, meaningful date ideas designed to help couples be intentional and reconnect during the season.
They also introduce a playful resource called Missed Call From Santa, a fun way to surprise a spouse or children with a personalized message that brings laughter and joy into the home.
For couples feeling stretched thin this Christmas, this episode is an invitation to slow down, be intentional, and choose connection—one date, one laugh, and one memory at a time.
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In this deeply vulnerable Christmas episode, Rusty and Heather revisit their first holiday season after the affair—only four months into the most painful chapter of their marriage. While Christmas is often portrayed as magical, peaceful, and sentimental, their reality was filled with fear, shame, awkward family gatherings, and the heavy tension of trying to celebrate while still grieving what had been lost. They share what it felt like to navigate meaningful holiday moments while carrying heartbreak, and how the pressure to “hold it together for the kids” made everything even more complicated.
Yet woven through the pain is a powerful story of Emmanuel—God with us—showing up in the middle of their brokenness. Rusty and Heather describe how God began the earliest stages of healing during a season that should have felt unbearable, proving that the miracle of Jesus entering a messy world still heals marriages today. They offer encouragement for couples who are simply trying to survive the holidays, reminding listeners that they don’t have to pretend, they don’t have to hide, and they don’t have to wait for the new year to see God move. Hope, healing, and restoration can begin right in the middle of the Christmas season.
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In this follow-up conversation, Rusty and Heather continue their discussion with certified sex therapist Debby Wade as they discuss the real questions couples face when rebuilding intimacy after betrayal. Debby offers clear, compassionate guidance on navigating triggers, creating emotional safety, supporting one another in the healing process, and learning to reconnect without pressure or fear. Her insight helps couples understand what healthy intimacy looks like as trust is restored and hope begins to rise again.
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In this episode, Rusty and Heather welcome certified therapist Debby Wade for an honest and hope-filled conversation about rebuilding intimacy after betrayal. Debby offers wisdom on the questions couples often struggle to voice—navigating triggers, intrusive thoughts, emotional safety, and the slow process of reconnecting after trust has been broken. Her compassionate insight gives couples practical steps for healing and a clearer understanding of how intimacy can be restored in a healthy, honoring way.
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There’s a reason certain questions rise to the surface at 2:00 a.m.—the hour when the house is quiet and the worries feel loudest. One of the questions couples wrestle with most in those restless moments is, “When will my spouse ever change?” It’s a question born from disappointment, discouragement, and the fear that nothing will ever be different.
In this episode, Rusty and Heather gently turn that question in a new direction. Instead of focusing on what a spouse is or isn’t doing, they explore the deeper truth that genuine transformation in a marriage often begins within the heart that is willing to be changed. When a person stops trying to fix or manage their spouse’s growth and instead comes to God with humility, readiness, and expectation, something shifts. A surrendered heart becomes the doorway to peace, clarity, and spiritual growth—even if the circumstances in the marriage haven’t moved yet.
Listeners will hear how preparing one’s own heart creates space for God to work in ways frustration never could. Rusty and Heather describe the difference between waiting for a spouse to become someone new and allowing God to shape one’s own responses, attitudes, and patterns. It’s a hopeful reframe for anyone lying awake at night, exhausted from carrying the weight of change that was never theirs to hold.
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We’re continuing our discussion on the questions that keep us awake at 2 a.m.—the ones that every married couple wrestles with at some point, especially those walking through betrayal or trauma.
Last week, Heather opened up about her side of the question, “What’s wrong with me?” This week, Rusty shares his own sleepless nights—the nights filled with questions like, “Why wasn’t I enough?” and “What did I do wrong?”
In this honest conversation, Rusty talks about the haunting thoughts that come when you feel unworthy, unchosen, or powerless to fix what’s been broken. He shares how learning to recognize and replace those lies became one of the most important parts of his personal healing and the redemption of their marriage.
If you’ve ever battled feelings of not being enough—or wondered if your worth could survive what happened—this episode will remind you that shame doesn’t get the final word.
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We all have those 2 a.m. moments—the questions that swirl in our minds when everything feels quiet but our thoughts are loud. This week, Heather leads the conversation with raw honesty about a question she once wrestled with deeply: “What is wrong with me?”
Before her infidelity, she remembers lying awake wondering why she was even entertaining the idea of another life—another marriage—something “different.” She shares what she wishes she could say to you if she could sit in your thoughts during those restless nights, especially in a world where social media constantly whispers, “You deserve more.”
After betrayal, that same question turned darker: “How could I have done something so horrific?” Heather opens up about the shame, guilt, and self-condemnation that can feel crushing after failure—and how she learned to hear truth instead of lies in those moments.
If you’ve ever questioned your worth, your sanity, or your faith in the middle of the night, this episode is for you. You’re not broken beyond repair. There is hope, even at 2 a.m.
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It’s 2 a.m. and your mind won’t stop racing. The question that keeps circling is one that hurts the most: Can I ever really trust you again? In this raw and honest conversation, Rusty and Heather open up about their own sleepless nights after betrayal and the long road toward rebuilding trust.
They talk about what it felt like to question everything—each other, their reality, even God—and how over time, something new and stronger began to take shape. Theirs isn’t a story of quick fixes or easy forgiveness. It’s a story of slow, steady healing, of learning to depend on God when nothing else felt solid, and discovering that trust can grow back deeper than before.
If you’ve ever wondered whether your marriage can truly recover from broken trust, this conversation will meet you right where you are—with honesty, hope, and a reminder that redemption is always possible.
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What do you do when you’re lying awake at two in the morning, wondering if your marriage can really survive what’s happened? In this episode, Rusty and Heather Bryant open up about the fears, doubts, and late-night questions that come when trust has been broken or when a marriage feels stuck in survival mode. Drawing from their own story of restoration after betrayal, they share the honest emotions of those early, sleepless nights and the hope that grew from believing God wasn’t finished with their marriage. This is a conversation for any couple asking, “Can we really make it?”—a reminder that healing is possible, renewal is real, and your story doesn’t have to end in despair. Whether you’re navigating infidelity, emotional distance, or simply feeling disconnected, this episode will remind you that you’re not alone and that God is still in the business of redeeming marriages.
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Rusty and Heather take you behind the scenes of their recent marriage retreat in breathtaking Montana — where four couples joined for an intimate, unforgettable experience. Between hiking Glacier National Park, sharing gourmet meals, and deep sessions on teamwork, spiritual intimacy, and communication, God showed up in powerful ways.
You’ll hear how community was built through laughter, prayer, and amazing activities together. Rusty and Heather also pull back the curtain on their new book — how it began, the challenges of writing together, and the publishing process.
If you’ve ever wondered what really happens at a Redeemed Marriage Retreat, this episode is your front-row seat — and your invitation to join the next one.
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In this live episode from beautiful Montana, Rusty and Heather unpack what spiritual leadership in marriage truly looks like—and what it doesn’t. Many couples carry confusion or guilt around who should “lead” spiritually, but God’s design is richer and more personal than cultural stereotypes.
Together, Rusty and Heather share how unrealistic expectations can damage unity, how husbands and wives both play vital spiritual roles, and how understanding your unique sacred pathways—the ways you naturally connect with God—can deepen intimacy and spiritual growth in your marriage.
Whether you’ve struggled to find rhythm in prayer or felt pressure to “get it right,” this conversation will help you replace pressure with purpose and discover a more authentic way to walk with God together.
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Newly engaged or decades in? This candid conversation with Rusty and Heather unpacks one of the most practical skills for a healthy marriage: love your spouse the way they want to be loved—not just how love comes naturally to you. Using the Five Love Languages framework (words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, gifts, and physical touch), they share real-life stories of how needs shift across seasons of life—work changes, parenting, even healing after betrayal—and why sacrificial love breaks the “crazy cycle” of withholding. You’ll learn why men often experience affirmation as respect, how deficits can skew quiz results, and simple daily ways to meet each other’s needs without manipulation or keeping score. Whether you’re dating, newly married, or rebuilding trust, this episode offers clear next steps for connection, communication, and emotional intimacy. Grab a date night, take (or retake) the quiz, and use today’s practical ideas to create more safety, closeness, and fun—one loving choice at a time.
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Expectations can make or break a marriage—and they’re usually invisible until they collide. In this honest, light-hearted episode, Rusty and Heather share real stories (toilet seats, toothpaste, yard work, and yes…Downton Abbey) to show how unspoken expectations create conflict and how simple conversations create connection. Whether you’re engaged, newly married, or 29 years in, you’ll learn practical ways to name what you want, listen with grace, and renegotiate roles as life changes. Discover how family of origin shapes your assumptions, why “both” is often the healthiest answer for chores and decision-making, and how everyday choices—like going to bed at the same time—build emotional intimacy. Packed with encouragement and practical tools, this episode helps couples replace resentment with teamwork, boundaries, and clear communication. If you’re ready to stop fighting about the trash and start growing together, press play.
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This week on The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather continue their special “Before the Vows” series—an honest, hope-filled look at what every couple needs to know before (and after) saying "I do."
In this episode, they discuss the crucial topic of boundaries. While it might not feel like the most romantic subject, it’s one of the most important building blocks of a healthy, lasting marriage. Whether a couple is preparing for marriage or has been walking the journey for years, learning to establish and protect boundaries creates safety, unity, and trust.
Rusty and Heather share personal stories and practical wisdom about what it really means to leave and cleave—putting your marriage above extended family ties—and how to navigate relationships with parents and in-laws after the wedding. They also talk about the importance of healthy boundaries with friends of the opposite sex and the intentional effort it takes to protect the private space of a marriage.
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This week on The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather kick off a brand-new series called “Before the Vows.” Inspired by their son’s recent engagement, they share timeless truths that every couple—whether dating, engaged, or married for decades—needs to know.
In this episode, they open up about some of the biggest misconceptions couples carry into marriage—like expecting a spouse to “complete you” or assuming they can meet every single need. With plenty of laughter and real-life examples, Rusty and Heather unpack how God is the only one who makes us whole, and how friendships and community play a vital role in a healthy marriage. Their conversation is honest, hopeful, and practical—reminding us that these aren’t just lessons for newlyweds, but truths that continue to shape strong marriages over a lifetime.
Whether you’re preparing for marriage, raising kids who are approaching that stage, or looking for fresh reminders to strengthen your current relationship, this conversation is for you. It’s not just premarital advice—it’s marriage wisdom that applies to every season.
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In the powerful conclusion to their four-part series, Rusty and Heather share the road to redemption after the painful confession that nearly destroyed their marriage. They pick up right where the story left off, walking through the raw and honest moments that followed the revelation—when non-negotiables had to be set, boundaries had to be drawn, and a clear line in the sand was established.
They describe the moment of true brokenness that led to real repentance, and how that became the starting point of a long, difficult, but ultimately beautiful journey of healing. This episode highlights what rebuilding trust really looks like, the reality that forgiveness is both a decision and a daily choice, and the intentional work required to lay a new foundation for a marriage.
Rusty and Heather also share the practical and spiritual tools that helped them—counseling, mentorship, marriage intensives, and the balance of navigating personal healing while fighting for their relationship. They reveal how God used their deepest pain to create a ministry that now brings hope and direction to couples around the world.
For anyone who has ever wondered if a marriage can truly be redeemed after betrayal and heartbreak, this episode is living proof that with God, not only is it possible—but a stronger, more beautiful marriage can rise from the ashes.
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What happens in the critical hours and days after infidelity comes to light? In this pivotal episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather Bryant share the raw aftermath of confession—the fear, chaos, and the moment their private pain became a public reality. Rusty reveals the non-negotiable boundaries he set to give their marriage any chance of survival. Heather opens up about her journey from regret and shame to true, God-led brokenness—the turning point that made redemption possible. Together, they walk through the first, crucial steps toward trust, forgiveness, and healing. This episode is essential for anyone navigating the fragile space between betrayal and restoration.
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An affair doesn’t begin in a single moment of passion—it starts with quiet compromises and subtle shifts of the heart. In this second part of their powerful testimony series, Rusty and Heather Bryant revisit the season before the confession that forever changed their marriage. With raw vulnerability, Heather shares how seemingly harmless “what if” thoughts and a craving for affirmation outside of her marriage slowly eroded her foundation and opened the door to betrayal. Rusty offers perspective from the betrayed spouse, reminding listeners that protecting a marriage begins with guarding your own heart. Together, they reveal how pride, discontentment, and the belief that you “deserve better” can become footholds for the enemy. This episode is essential for anyone seeking to understand the anatomy of infidelity—not to assign blame, but to build stronger boundaries, restore hope, and pursue a deeper walk with God.
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In a single night, a confession of infidelity shattered their marriage—and opened the door for God to rewrite their story. On August 23, 2011, Rusty and Heather Bryant’s marriage faced its breaking point. After 15 years together, Heather confessed to an affair—a moment that devastated their relationship and set them on a path they never could have imagined. In this deeply personal episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, they invite listeners into the raw, unfiltered story of that night: the phone call that forced a confession, the hours of fear and uncertainty before the truth came out, and the immediate aftermath that left their future hanging in the balance. Both share their perspectives—Heather recounting what was happening in her heart before confession and Rusty revealing what it was like to hear the words, “I’ve been unfaithful.” More importantly, they explain how God met them in the middle of their devastation, speaking clearly and giving hope when everything felt lost. This episode isn’t about sensational details—it’s about the power of God to restore even the most broken marriages. Whether someone is facing betrayal, walking through a season of hopelessness, or simply in need of encouragement, Rusty and Heather’s story points to the truth that redemption is possible and hope is real.
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In this week’s episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather take on some classic marriage advice in a lighthearted game of “Truth or Trash.” From the famous “Never go to bed angry” to “Marriage is 50/50,” they dissect some of the most common sayings passed down through generations—sharing their personal perspectives, agreeing, disagreeing, and having a little fun along the way! They’ll dive into the real meaning behind these phrases, debunking myths, and offering fresh insights into what truly makes a marriage work. Whether you agree or disagree with their take, this episode will give you plenty to think about. Plus, there are plenty of laughs, sound effects, and a little talk about nose hair trimming! Tune in for some fun and practical marriage wisdom!
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This week on The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather celebrate their 29th wedding anniversary with honest reflections on love, redemption, and real-life struggles after infidelity. In this deeply personal episode, they share how even joyful moments like an anniversary can still stir up pain, triggers, and shame—especially when betrayal is part of your story.
Heather vulnerably opens up about battling feelings of unworthiness and being defined by others. They talk about healing, handling emotional triggers years later, and finding freedom in knowing your true identity in Christ.
Whether you’re in the middle of a marriage crisis or walking years into recovery, this episode offers hope, encouragement, and a real look at what it means to keep growing, loving, and choosing each other every single day.
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The viral 'Kiss Cam' moment has sparked countless memes and a lot of laughs, but it also opens up a much deeper conversation. For Rusty and Heather, it brings up raw emotions from their own story of walking through a painful and public mess. In this episode, they go beyond the memes to look at the destructive power of secrets, the reality of public shame, and the incredible opportunity for God to bring redemption from the rubble. They discuss what it means to have compassion, not just for the wife and family, but for everyone involved, and how a moment of public failure can become a catalyst for life-changing faith. If you’ve ever wondered how to find hope in humiliation or want to protect your own marriage from hidden dangers, this episode offers a perspective you probably won't hear anywhere else.
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This week on the Redeemed Marriage podcast, the tables are turned! After putting Heather in the hot seat last week, it's Rusty's turn to answer 10 surprising questions about what he finds romantic. If you've ever wondered what men really want when it comes to romance in marriage, this episode is a must-listen.
Join Rusty and Heather for a fun, revealing, and honest conversation that goes beyond the typical date night ideas. Discover the simple, everyday actions that make a husband feel pursued, cherished, and truly loved. From the power of playfulness and adventure to the importance of feeling wanted, Rusty's answers might surprise you and give you powerful new insights into your own relationship. Learn how to improve communication, strengthen your connection, and keep the spark alive, whether you've been married for one year or thirty. This is the practical Christian marriage advice you need to understand your spouse on a deeper level and build a more romantic, redeemed marriage.
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Do you assume you know what your spouse finds romantic? As Rusty and Heather approach their 29th wedding anniversary, they kick off a brand new series to discover if the definition of romance changes over the years. In this fun and insightful episode, Rusty puts Heather in the hot seat with 10 specific questions to uncover what romance, connection, and intimacy look like for her today. Join them for an honest conversation about planning a romantic getaway, the difference between spontaneous gestures and thoughtful preparation, and why the love languages you spoke while dating might need an update. This discussion is a perfect guide for any couple looking to improve their communication and better understand how to love their spouse well in their current season of life. You’ll be inspired to ask these same questions in your own marriage and might be surprised by what you learn.
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What does it actually mean for a wife to submit to her husband? In this episode of their Summer Shorts series, Rusty and Heather take on one of the most sensitive and misunderstood topics in Christian marriage, based on a fantastic listener question. Using Ephesians 5 as a guide, they break down the concept of biblical submission, moving beyond the idea of a simple command or hierarchy.
Discover why the context of these verses, including the call for husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church and the principle of mutual submission to one another, is absolutely essential. This isn't about blind obedience or being a doormat; it's about building a strong, unified team. Rusty shares a husband's responsibility to lead in a way that is worthy of respect, while Heather provides a wife's perspective on what it feels like to be led well. They offer practical examples from their own marriage on how they've learned to navigate this dynamic with love and respect.
If you've ever struggled with this passage of scripture or wondered how to apply it to your modern relationship, this conversation will bring clarity, encouragement, and a new perspective on leadership and respect in marriage.
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Welcome back to Summer Shorts on the Redeemed Marriage Podcast with Rusty and Heather Bryant! In this episode, they look into a deeply personal and common question submitted by a listener: "How am I supposed to forgive the other person involved in my spouse’s infidelity?"
If you're struggling with anger, resentment, and the pain of betrayal caused by your spouse's infidelity, and find it incredibly difficult to forgive the other person involved, this episode is for you. Rusty and Heather offer compassionate insights and practical steps for navigating this challenging aspect of healing after infidelity. Listeners will discover what forgiveness truly means, and importantly, what it doesn't mean, especially in the context of infidelity. They explore the crucial difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, particularly concerning the other person involved, and offer strategies for releasing them from holding power over your emotions and your healing journey. Learn how to process those infuriating thoughts and work towards emotional freedom, understanding the role of faith and God's commands in the journey of forgiveness.
Join Rusty and Heather as they explore this vital aspect of healing from the trauma of infidelity and moving forward in your marriage recovery. This discussion offers hope and guidance for anyone struggling with how to forgive when the hurt runs deep.
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Hello folks! Summer Shorts are back, and this week Rusty and Heather are tackling a really important and sensitive question about rebuilding intimacy in marriage.
If your marriage has been rocked by betrayal, broken trust, or significant emotional pain, and you're wondering how to even begin the journey back to physical intimacy, this episode is for you. Rusty and Heather share candidly from their own journey, discussing the crucial role of rebuilding trust and fostering emotional connection first. They explore how vulnerability and open communication in marriage pave the way for healing physical intimacy.
In this conversation, you'll hear about why emotional intimacy truly is the foundation, and how to overcome the hard truth that physical intimacy is often the last area to fully heal. Hear practical steps to reintroduce non-sexual touch, create a safe space for reconnection, and the importance of patience, grace, and understanding in your healing marriage. There is hope to rekindle intimacy and find a path toward a redeemed marriage, even after deep hurt.
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This Father's Day week, join Rusty and Heather Bryant on the Redeemed Marriage Podcast for a deeply personal and vulnerable conversation about true manhood. Rusty shares candidly how Heather's infidelity and betrayal profoundly impacted his identity as a man, forcing him to confront deep insecurities and redefine strength.
In this special episode, Heather asks Rusty probing questions about:
- How betrayal shakes a man's identity.
- The permission to feel weakness and grieve.
- The journey of forgiveness and modeling it.
- Confronting pride in the path to healing.
- The current meaning of manhood and how it has evolved.
- The legacy he hopes to leave for his sons regarding manhood and marriage.
- What strength truly looks like in a redeemed man.
This powerful discussion offers invaluable insights for men navigating their own identity and for women seeking to understand the complexities of the male heart, especially in the context of brokenness, faith, and redemption. Whether you're a husband, father, or simply seeking a deeper understanding of Christian manhood, this episode explores how a relationship with Christ transforms our view of ourselves and our roles. Perfect for anyone reflecting on being a husband and father and what it means to lead with a redeemed heart.
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Welcome back to the Redeemed Marriage Podcast! Rusty and Heather are reunited in the studio after a busy few weeks navigating summer schedules and individual commitments. This episode, they discuss fostering connection and communication in marriage by spontaneously answering questions from the popular book "365 Connecting Questions for Couples.”
Get ready for some raw and vulnerable moments as they tackle tough topics like money in marriage, navigating insecurities (even years after infidelity recovery), and what true romance looks like to them. From heartfelt discussions about their relationship challenges and marriage advice on forgiveness, to lighter memories of Halloween costumes and high school dates, this Q&A session offers a candid look into how they keep their bond strong. If you're looking for ways to deepen your own connection, improve marital communication, and hear honest takes on real-life marriage issues, this episode is for you!
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Feeling stuck in your marriage after betrayal, infidelity, or past mistakes? Join Rusty and Heather Bryant in this episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast as they explore the difficult journey of getting "unstuck." They discuss the impact of being trapped by past hurts, whether you're the one who was betrayed or the one who caused the pain, struggling with guilt and shame.
Discover why it's crucial to make the conscious choice to heal, forgive (yourself and your spouse), and stop replaying painful memories. Rusty and Heather share personal insights and biblical wisdom, including a powerful look at the story of the woman at the well, to illustrate how you can leave your "jar of shame" behind and allow God to rewrite your story. Learn how being stuck not only affects you but also damages your spouse and hinders the healing process for your marriage. This episode offers hope and practical steps for anyone seeking freedom, joy, and restoration in their relationship, even when moving forward seems impossible.
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This week on The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather unpack the concept of accepting your story—the good, the bad, and the parts you wish you could change. Inspired by a recent sermon from Louie Giglio (Passion City Church) about the significance of self-care and embracing our unique narratives, they explore how true healing begins when we stop fighting our past.
Whether your story includes past mistakes, regrets, trauma, infidelity in marriage, or simply a season you'd rather forget, this episode offers hope. Rusty and Heather share vulnerably from their own experiences with marital infidelity and redemption, discussing how God's grace can take even the most broken pieces and create something beautiful.
Discover why you can't alter the past, but you can allow God to write a new chapter for your future. If you're struggling with shame, past hurts, or wondering how to move forward, learn practical ways to find peace and purpose in your own story. Join Rusty and Heather for an encouraging conversation about finding hope after hurt and the power of a redeemed story.
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Welcome back to the Redeemed Marriage Podcast! In their ongoing "Marriage Killers" series, Rusty and Heather Bryant tackle a surprisingly common yet devastating issue: the slow fade of fun and laughter from a relationship. What happens when the joy, playfulness, and shared enjoyment that once defined your connection start to dwindle? Boredom can set in, routines become ruts, and the spark can dim.
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- The critical importance of intentionality in cultivating fun and shared enjoyment.
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- How a shared purpose and open communication can protect your marriage from becoming stale.
- The surprising connection between fun, intimacy, and overall marital health (wait 'til you hear about their pastor's Mother's Day sermon!).
Join Rusty and Heather as they explore how to avoid this "marriage killer" and ensure your relationship stays vibrant, connected, and full of laughter. Learn how to make fun a priority, protect your marriage from becoming routine, and rediscover the joy in your partnership.
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What happens when "me first" becomes the default setting in a relationship? Selfishness, often disguised as legitimate needs or expectations, can quietly creep in and destroy a marriage from the inside out. Join Rusty and Heather Bryant on the Redeemed Marriage Podcast for the latest episode in their "Marriage Killers" series as they tackle this common but devastating issue. They get brutally honest about the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways selfishness manifests – from unrealistic expectations and entitlement ("make me happy!") to poor communication and a lack of genuine sacrifice. Heather shares her personal struggles and vulnerability with this very issue, revealing how focusing solely on your own happiness can lead to marital breakdown and hurt. Discover why wanting your spouse to fulfill your desires isn't enough, and how this mindset can erode trust and intimacy.. Learn why shifting focus from receiving to giving, practicing true selflessness, and recognizing the importance of serving your partner are crucial steps toward building a healthier, stronger, and truly redeemed marriage, even when it feels difficult.
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Are secrets silently eroding the foundation of your marriage? In this installment of the "Marriage Killers" series, Rusty and Heather Bryant tackle the destructive power of secrecy in relationships. Discover why keeping secrets from your spouse, even seemingly small ones about finances, thoughts, or daily activities, can create distance, break trust, and ultimately kill intimacy. They explore how secrets often start small but can snowball, leading to a heavy burden of fear and the constant effort of covering tracks. Learn why full transparency and honesty are non-negotiable for a healthy, thriving marriage, especially when rebuilding after broken trust or betrayal. If you're struggling with hidden truths or want to cultivate deeper honesty and connection with your spouse, this episode offers crucial insights, personal reflections, and encouragement for bringing everything into the light. Tune in for practical marriage advice on overcoming secrecy and fostering open communication in your relationship.
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Subtle habits can slowly destroy your marriage. The biggest threats are usually a quiet drift away from what matters most. Continuing with the "Marriage Killers" series, Rusty and Heather Bryant discuss the crucial role that God plays in marital health and the dangers of letting Him slip from the center. Discover practical warning signs that you might be experiencing spiritual drift as a couple. They also discuss the importance of cultivating your own personal relationship with God, rather than relying on your spouse’s faith. Learn why acknowledging God as not just Savior, but truly as Lord of your marriage, is foundational for your relationship.
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Are you unknowingly drifting away from your spouse? This week on the Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather Bryant discuss the subtle ways marriages can deteriorate due to neglect. Discover how this "marriage killer" can slowly erode emotional connection, intimacy, and trust. They'll explore how "doing nothing" can be one of the biggest threats to your relationship, causing a drift towards disconnection. Learn practical steps to recognize and combat this "marriage drift" and rebuild a stronger, healthier marriage. If you are having relationship struggles, you won't want to miss this. Whether you're facing communication issues, intimacy problems, or just feeling disconnected, this episode offers actionable advice to reignite the spark and build a lasting, fulfilling marriage.
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What do you do when you feel like you're the only one fighting for your marriage? This week, Rusty and Heather Bryant share a deeply personal interview with a friend who is courageously navigating the aftermath of infidelity and searching for hope when her spouse isn't ready to join the journey.
Hear her candid testimony about finding strength in Jesus, learning to control her attitude and lean on prayer in intentional ways, and discovering answered prayers she never imagined. This isn't a story with a tidy "happily ever after" ending - it's a real, raw account of finding joy in the midst of pain and building a relationship with Jesus, as the first step to getting a marriage back on track.
If you're struggling with relationship issues, the painful realities of infidelity, or feel like you're walking alone, this episode is for you. Discover how radical prayer can be your secret weapon, why a broken marriage can be an opportunity for deep personal transformation, and how to find unexpected blessings even when things look their darkest. Tune in for a dose of faith, hope, and the reminder that God is working, even when you can't see the full picture.
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Silence isn't necessarily golden when it comes to your relationships. This week on the Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather Bryant take a look at the tough topic of speaking truth and having the courage to address questionable actions or patterns we see in those closest to us.
Drawing from the biblical story of Judas, they explore how subtle shifts and patterns of behavior can lead to devastation. Learn practical insights on how to approach these delicate conversations, when to speak up (even if it's uncomfortable), and how to do so with love and grace.
Is your silence protecting others, or is it enabling a dangerous path? Don't let fear hold you back from speaking life-giving truth. Tune in this week to The Redeemed Marriage Podcast and discover how you can develop the courage to confront with compassion.
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Are you struggling to establish healthy boundaries in your marriage? In this episode of the Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather Bryant explore the crucial role of boundaries in building a stronger, more trusting, and fulfilling marriage.
Learn practical tips for setting and maintaining boundaries to protect your relationship and prevent future hurts. Through insights from their own journey, you'll discover that boundaries are about protection and trust, not control, and how that foundation builds a safe emotional space for both spouses. Uncover practical strategies for boundary setting with the opposite sex in work and social settings. Discover how to protect your marriage through digital and entertainment boundaries and learn how to navigate conversations about boundaries with your spouse.
Whether you're looking to rebuild trust or want to prevent future harm to your marriage, this episode on boundaries is for every couple.
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Join Rusty and Heather Bryant on the Redeemed Marriage Podcast as they take a fun, nostalgic trip down memory lane, exploring the evolution of dating terms from the courting days of the 1920s to today's modern "situation-ships." They'll discuss everything from "going steady" to "talking," and examine how these shifting labels impact marriage, commitment, and communication.
Discover how old-fashioned dating values like exclusivity, commitment, and intentional dating can be the key to building a healthy marriage and strengthening intimacy. Is your relationship a solid "item" or just another "situation?" Listen in for actionable relationship advice to reignite your love and build a lasting bond. This episode offers a fresh perspective on relationship culture and challenges you to bring back the romance in your marriage. Learn more about how to create the best relationships one meaningful dating term at a time!
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Are you and your spouse feeling disconnected or stuck in a marriage that has lost its spark and purpose? Or are you trying to recover from betrayal and rebuild trust in your relationship? In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather share what it means to "burn your ships"—committing to a radical transformation in your marriage by leaving the past behind and embracing a future of endless possibilities and a fresh start.
Listeners will explore the empowering concept of total commitment—refusing to settle for "getting back to normal" and instead, forging a new path forward by completely removing the temptation to revert to old patterns. Whether your marriage needs a complete overhaul after infidelity or simply seeks to rekindle lost passion, this episode provides practical guidance and encouragement for creating a marriage that is not only redeemed, but better than ever before.
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Are you tired of hearing you can't fix your spouse, but wondering what it actually means to work on yourself? Rusty and Heather get real about the practical steps it takes to continually chase after God as individuals and as a couple, even in the craziness of everyday life.
Discover practical tips and insights on how to become the spouse God has called you to be. Learn how to establish a daily rhythm of faith through Bible study, prayer, mentorship, and self-help resources.
This episode is for all married couples looking to prioritize their relationship with the Lord and strengthen their marriage. Discover how to find time for spiritual growth, and how to take steps of obedience even when you might not feel like it.
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This week on The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather tackle a frequently asked question: How do they continually share the story of their past infidelity and the journey of their redeemed marriage—the pain, the shame, the ultimate transformation—without being consumed by it? How do they avoid being constantly triggered, returning to that very dark place? Listen as they reveal how sharing their story, pointing people to Christ, and embracing their role as a testament to God's redemption has become a source of strength, not a burden. Learn how they approach sharing their marriage story for healing, the mindset shifts they’ve made, and how they navigate the emotions that inevitably surface. Whether you're struggling to open up with others or simply seeking healthier communication about your journey within your marriage, this episode offers valuable insights and encouragement. Join Rusty and Heather as they share how their past has become a powerful tool for hope and healing, not just for themselves, but for others.
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Does your marriage feel like it's just "getting by"? Is it struggling to move forward, burdened by past hurts and unmet expectations? Rusty and Heather Bryant from The Redeemed Marriage podcast invite you to explore a path toward healing and restoration in this powerful episode.
If you're tired of simply "coping" and long to experience a vibrant, thriving marriage, this is for you. Discover practical insights and encouragement to not just fix what's broken, but to rebuild a relationship that is stronger than before.
Whether you're facing communication issues, betrayal, lack of trust, or other challenges, learn how to move beyond simply surviving to truly thriving. This episode offers guidance, resources, and inspiration to help you redeem your marriage and discover the profound joy of a partnership that is stronger, more resilient, and more deeply connected than ever before.
In a raw and revealing episode, Rusty and Heather confront a topic they've never fully addressed: divorce. After experiencing the devastating impact of infidelity, did they ever consider calling it quits?
Hear intimate confessions about their darkest days, the initial shock, and the defensive postures they adopted as the crisis unfolded. Listen as they honestly explore the reality of the 'D' word in their own marriage, openly discussing whether divorce felt inevitable and how they navigated such a difficult possibility.
Despite the depths of their struggle, Rusty and Heather also emphasize the unwavering hope for redemption, even in seemingly impossible situations. If you're questioning your marriage, wrestling with your future, or simply curious about their personal path to restoration, this episode is a must-listen.
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In this episode of the Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss heart transformation in the journey of marriage restoration. They share how true healing isn't just about fixing the marriage, but about personal and spiritual changes that must happen within each spouse.
Are you only focused on the details of your story, and not what God is trying to do in your heart? Listen as they discuss how they came to realize that God wanted their hearts first, and the rest, including their marriage, followed suit.
How do you move past the details of betrayal and focus on the deeper, personal change God wants to bring about in you? What does it look like to put your complete trust in Christ during marriage struggles? How do you pray effectively when it seems like your marriage is too far gone?
Learn how to look beyond your story to find freedom and healing for both you and your spouse as you walk alongside Christ. Whether you're in the middle of a crisis or seeking deeper intimacy, this episode will help you pursue heart change for a healthier, more God-honoring marriage.
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Has your marriage felt different lately? Maybe the needs you and your spouse had when you first said "I do" have changed. In this episode of the Redeemed Marriage Podcast, join Rusty and Heather Bryant as they explore how individual needs shift due to time, the changing seasons of life, and the impact of betrayal and trauma.
Your initial expectations may not align with where you and your spouse are today. Understanding that your needs can evolve is the first step towards a more intimate and fulfilling relationship. Discover how love languages like acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, and physical touch can shift and affect your marital connection. You'll also be able to see the importance of recognizing how these changes impact each other, and why you may need to lean more into certain areas to truly feel loved and connected.
Rusty and Heather share some of their own journey of navigating changing needs, giving you a peek into their real experience with how they've communicated and continued building a more meaningful marriage over the years, particularly after infidelity.
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Are you struggling with lingering pain in your marriage, even after you've done "the work?" In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather Bryant discuss the difficult topic of recurring pain in relationships, especially after experiences of betrayal, infidelity, or broken trust.
They explore the reality that while healing can occur, the pain can return and discuss why these triggers are common. Drawing from their own story of healing and working with couples, Rusty and Heather offer practical insights on:
- Why past hurts can resurface in your marriage, even after counseling or forgiveness.
- How to navigate those triggers without feeling like you're back at square one.
- How to support your partner if they are triggered and how to manage your own emotions.
- The importance of shifting your focus to gratitude and a deeper connection to God.
- Practical ways to take your thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ.
- The power of walking through recovery together and understanding the journey your spouse is on.
This episode is not only for those who have experienced the pain of infidelity but also for couples working through any kind of lingering hurt. You'll hear insights that are essential for any marriage seeking a deeper connection and true restoration. Listen and gain hope as you learn to navigate the journey of marriage together with grace, understanding, and a heart set on healing.
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Is your marriage in a place where it feels like only a miracle can save it? In this powerful episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss the topic of needing a divine intervention in your relationship. Drawing from their own miracle marriage story and from the hundreds of prayer requests they have already received for their February prayer challenge, they explore the reality that many couples are desperate for a miracle, often without even realizing it.
If you're feeling like love has faded, you're just roommates, or you are facing a marriage crisis, this episode will be helpful to you. Discover practical steps you can take when you feel lost and like your marriage is broken beyond repair. Rusty and Heather share how to recognize a genuine need for a miracle, why it's essential to seek God's intervention, and the importance of faith, readiness, willingness, and action when you’re praying for a marriage miracle. Learn how to focus on your own growth while still fervently praying for your spouse. You’ll also hear about the importance of using the resources available - books, podcasts, and mentorship - and understanding that God’s timing is always perfect even when your timing isn’t.
Whether you're dealing with infidelity, betrayal, or a general sense of disconnect, this episode provides hope that miracles still happen today and that God can truly redeem your marriage. Tune in for encouragement and real-life strategies to move toward a restored relationship.
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Start the year strong by exploring all the ways The Redeemed Marriage can help you invest in your relationship in 2025. From our weekly podcast and marriage coaching to retreats, intensives, and monthly mentoring, we’ve designed resources to support every stage of your journey. Learn about our conferences, February Prayer Challenge, free resources, and how to stay connected with us on social media. Let’s make 2025 the year of intentional growth for your marriage!
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The holidays are often called the most wonderful time of the year, but for many, this season can bring pain to the surface. Whether you're dealing with betrayal, the loss of a loved one, or unmet expectations, the Christmas season can feel anything but joyful. Rusty and Heather share from their own experience of navigating infidelity during the holidays and offer practical tips to avoid the holiday blues. Tune in for a challenging and hope-filled message as they remind you that God may be writing a powerful story through your pain.
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This week, Rusty and Heather continue their conversation with Casey and Meygan Caston from Marriage365. In Part 2, hear what Casey and Meygan wish they could go back and tell their newlywed selves and uncover the number one issue couples bring to Marriage365 for help. Plus, things heat up as the conversation shifts to the bedroom! Don't miss this lively, fun, and insightful episode!
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This week Rusty and Heather are joined by Casey and Meygan Caston, founders of Marriage365. They share the powerful story of a rocky start to their marriage, nearly leading to divorce within the first three years. After reaching out for help, they found healing and now encourage couples worldwide. Tune in to hear their inspiring journey, learn about the incredible resources Marriage365 offers, and discover their brand-new book, 365 Connecting Questions for Couples.
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We're revisiting one of our most impactful episodes on the topic of triggers. Anyone who has experienced deep hurt knows how easily certain moments, places, or conversations can stir up painful memories. In the aftermath of infidelity, these triggers can be especially frequent and intense. While time can soften their grip, they have a way of resurfacing when least expected. Join us as we share how we faced and conquered the triggers that threatened to reopen old wounds in our marriage.
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In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss the topic of control in marriage. Who should hold the reins in a healthy relationship? What happens when betrayal tips the balance? Using the backdrop of their own story of infidelity, they explore whether a temporary shift in control is necessary, how long it should last, and how to move forward to restore a healthy balance. Discover the freedom that comes with releasing control and building trust in this honest and practical conversation based on their own experience.
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In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss what it means to be a safe space for your spouse. Emotional safety is essential in marriage, allowing both partners to be vulnerable and open without fear. But what does this look like in practice? Listen in as they explore common barriers to safety; such as criticism, dismissing each other’s feelings, always needing to fix things, and defensiveness. Their discussion will unpack these behaviors and offer practical steps to become a source of love, acceptance, value, and respect for your spouse.
Does your marriage feel hopeless? Rusty and Heather use their journey through the darkest days of their marriage to share a miraculous story of healing and restoration after infidelity. Speaking directly to couples feeling hopeless, they offer insight and encouragement for those wondering if it’s possible to find hope again. Whether you're navigating deep struggles or simply need a reminder that change is possible, this message of hope is for you.
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Disappointment can become a part of even the strongest marriages, usually rooted in unmet or unrealistic expectations. In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather explore how expectations can unintentionally turn into rigid responsibilities, creating tension and resentment between spouses. Listen as they unpack the importance of serving over obligation, the pitfalls of trying to "fix" your spouse, and how to adjust your expectations for a healthier, more fulfilling marriage.
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Every couple faces differences, but how do you navigate those challenges in a way that strengthens rather than weakens your relationship? Drawing from their own incompatibilities, Rusty and Heather share insights on how couples can embrace their differences, communicate better, and use their unique strengths to grow together. Whether you're feeling misunderstood or simply different, this episode will give you hope that incompatibility doesn’t have to be the end—it's an opportunity to grow deeper in love and connection.
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Feeling alone in marriage is something many couples experience, and betrayal only deepens that sense of isolation. In this episode, Rusty and Heather open up about their journey through infidelity and how it caused them to feel alone both individually and as a couple. They discuss some practical steps they took to break free from feeling alone, including rebuilding trust, working towards emotional and physical intimacy, and seeking guidance from others. Listen for insights on healing and finding hope, even when feeling alone seems overwhelming.
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What drives someone to risk everything—marriage, family, and self-worth—for an affair? Whether you are the betrayed, the betrayer, or supporting someone who’s been affected, you likely have unanswered questions. In this powerful episode, Heather bravely opens up about her early thoughts and emotions that led her down the dangerous path to infidelity. Join us as we re-examine this raw and candid account, providing insight into the mind of the unfaithful and offering hope for healing.
Join Rusty and Heather in this special reprisal episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast. Discover the compelling narrative of their relationship—from high school sweethearts, through the devastating challenges of infidelity, to the transformative redemption that birthed a marriage ministry. Their candid storytelling offers hope and practical insights, inspiring couples to navigate their own journeys towards healing and renewed love.
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In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather offer encouragement and wisdom for those who feel like they're the only ones working on their marriage. The discussion reminds us that while we cannot fix our spouse, we can focus on becoming the person God wants us to be. Through serving, praying, and trusting that God is for your marriage, you can make a significant impact on your relationship. Tune in to find hope, strength, and practical steps to help you continue fighting for your marriage, even when it feels like you’re doing it alone.
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In this week's episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather share their incredible journey from a marriage in crisis to a ministry to other marriages. They reflect on their first experience at WinShape Marriage nearly 20 years ago, back it was still under construction and part of a dream to help broken marriages. Fast forward to 2011, after Heather’s confession of an affair, they returned to WinShape for a life-changing marriage intensive that helped save their relationship. Now, as part of the Marriage Collective, Rusty and Heather have come full circle with their latest trip to WinShape. Join them as they recount their powerful testimony of redemption and offer hope to couples in every season of marriage.
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In this week’s episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss the challenging topic of conflict, arguing, and fighting within marriage. Drawing from their own experiences with unhealthy conflict resolution, Heather opens up about the dangers of always needing to be right, while Rusty shares how damaging it can be to accept blame and avoid confrontation. Together, they explore the pitfalls of these patterns and provide practical strategies for handling conflict in healthier, more productive ways. Tune in to discover how you can keep disagreements from escalating into unhealthy fights and move toward a more peaceful marriage.
Rusty and Heather Bryant expose the enemy's relentless pursuit of marriages. Drawing from their personal experience with Heather's infidelity and the restoration that followed, they shine a light on the common lies the enemy uses to destroy marriages. Join them as they uncover the enemy's deception and share practical ways to safeguard your marriage against these attacks.
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Rusty and Heather open up about their journey in the 13 years since Heather's confession of unfaithfulness on August 23, 2011. Having recently passed another anniversary, they reflect on the reasons they initially chose to stay together and how God has honored their decision over the years. With their second and last child now off to college, they also explore how different their lives could have been had they made other choices. Listen and allow their story of redemption, commitment, and the power of faith in the midst of adversity bring hope to your marriage.
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In this week's episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss a new chapter of their marriage—empty nesting, or as they affectionately call it, their "second honeymoon." As their youngest son heads to college this week, Rusty and Heather share the intentional steps they've taken to prepare for this season, including staying connected and rediscovering their shared passions and purpose. They also open up about the challenges they anticipate, from adjusting to the quietness of an empty house to redefining new expectations surrounding intimacy.
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In this week's episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather address a question from a listener struggling with triggers while in a church setting related to past infidelity. Despite years of healing, the listener and her husband find themselves reliving painful memories whenever their pastor preaches on adultery. Rusty and Heather draw from their own journey through infidelity and share how to find peace and hope amidst recurring emotional wounds.
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In this episode of the Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather Bryant answer a Summer Shorts question from a listener in Oklahoma. They discuss practical ways couples can grow closer to God individually and together. Their candid conversation reveals how their individual and collective spiritual lives have changed post infidelity. Drawing from that personal experience, Rusty and Heather share the importance of individual spiritual growth as the foundation for growing spiritually as a couple. They offer thoughts on balancing shared spiritual practices, while supporting each other's unique spiritual journeys.
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This week a listener from Kansas asks about the complexities of celebrating a big anniversary milestone after their marriage has been marred by infidelity. Having just celebrated 28 years of marriage, Rusty and Heather discuss the importance of celebrating restoration and redemption. They share personal stories of anniversaries following their own journey through infidelity, and how their celebrations are much different now.
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In this week's episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss a listener's question from the United Kingdom regarding the impact of Heather's cancer diagnosis on their journey of reconciliation. Heather was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2016, just five years after their marriage crisis.
This episode explores how the health crisis was challenging, but also served as a catalyst for reaffirming their commitment to one another. Rusty and Heather share their personal experiences, discussing the growth that came from facing such a significant life event together. Listen in on how adversity can strengthen bonds, the importance of teamwork during tough times, and how shared struggles can lead to deeper understanding and connection. Whatever challenge you are facing, your commitment to each other can flourish even in the face of adversity. Tune in for an episode filled with hope, resilience, and practical advice for maintaining a strong marriage through life's trials.
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In this week's Summer Shorts episode, Rusty and Heather tackle two interconnected listener questions about post-affair communication challenges. They discuss the balance between healing from betrayal and moving forward in your marriage after infidelity.
They address a betrayed spouse's anxiety about discussing the affair, fearing it may cause guilt for their partner. They also examine the struggle of an unfaithful spouse dealing with frequent, painful reminders of their past actions.
Drawing from their personal experiences, Rusty and Heather offer practical advice on:
- Creating a safe space for open, honest communication
- Setting healthy boundaries for affair-related discussions
- Managing emotions and triggers during conversations
- Balancing the need for healing with the desire to move forward
- Fostering empathy and understanding between partners
This episode provides valuable guidance for couples navigating the complex journey of rebuilding trust and intimacy after infidelity, emphasizing the importance of patience, compassion, and even professional support in the healing process.
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This week's episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast continues the Summer Shorts series, addressing a question from a listener in Mississippi about the potential impact of married couples sleeping in separate beds.
Rusty and Heather discuss the potential risks associated with sleeping separately, while also providing practical tips for couples to maintain healthy sleeping habits. They also share their opinion on whether it's generally advisable for married couples to sleep apart.
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On this week's episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather tackle a challenging question from a listener in Pennsylvania: How to handle a situation where one spouse believes the marriage has significant problems and is unhappy, while the other spouse feels everything is fine.
Drawing from their personal experiences and insights, Rusty and Heather explore this common marital dilemma from both perspectives. They offer practical advice for both the dissatisfied spouse and the content spouse. They also discuss the potential benefits of seeking professional help, such as marriage counseling or coaching, to bridge the gap in perceptions and improve overall marital satisfaction.
This episode provides valuable insights and actionable steps to navigate this delicate situation, fostering better understanding and connection between spouses with differing views on their marriage's health.
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Rusty and Heather sit down with their sons, Luke and Logan, for a deeply moving and personal conversation. For the first time, Luke and Logan open up publicly about their understanding of their parents' journey through infidelity and how it impacted them as they were growing up. Hear their honest and heartfelt reflections on learning of their parents' marriage crisis, the challenges they faced as a result, and the lessons they learned along the way. This episode offers a unique perspective on the ripple effects of marital infidelity on a family and provides hope and inspiration for those navigating similar paths. Listen in on this powerful conversation about the Bryant family's journey to redemption.
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A listener from Georgia asks, "How can I best encourage and help my friend as she rebuilds her marriage after an affair?" Rusty and Heather offer practical advice and emotional support strategies for anyone walking alongside a friend in the wake of infidelity.
Rusty and Heather share emotional stories of the support they received during their journey through infidelity. Whether you're directly affected by infidelity or seeking to support someone who is, this episode offers a valuable perspective on navigating the complex and often painful process of rebuilding a marriage after betrayal. Tune in to gain deeper insights and encouragement for your own journey or that of someone you care about.
On this week's episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather tackle a sensitive topic submitted by a listener - how to handle situations where one spouse's touchy-feely behavior with the opposite sex makes the other spouse uncomfortable. The listener's scenario involves a husband who admits to touching women in a way he wouldn't touch men, causing discomfort for his wife. Rusty and Heather offer insights from their own experiences and provide practical guidance for couples navigating similar boundaries.
In this episode, Heather vulnerably shares her perspective as the formerly unfaithful spouse, emphasizing the importance of establishing clear physical and emotional boundaries within a marriage. She highlights how seemingly innocent touches or interactions can potentially lead down a slippery slope, emphasizing the need for open communication and mutual understanding between spouses.
Rusty, as the betrayed spouse, stresses the significance of respecting your spouse's comfort levels and boundaries. He emphasizes the importance of prioritizing the spouse's feelings and being willing to make adjustments to ensure both individuals feel secure and respected within the marriage.
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A listener from Mississippi asked how to stay connected to their spouse when they have young children. Maintaining an emotional and physical connection with your spouse can be challenging as your marriage goes through various seasons and transitions. In this episode, Rusty and Heather provide insightful tips and strategies to help couples maintain intimacy throughout the busy seasons of married life. Drawing from their own experiences navigating the ups and downs, they offer practical advice on prioritizing quality time, effective communication, reigniting romance, and keeping the spark alive amid the demands of work, parenthood, and other life changes.
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All couples have fights, but do you know how to fight fair? The Redeemed Marriage Podcast's Summer Shorts series continues with Rusty and Heather addressing a listener's question from Kentucky on how to stop an argument that is spiraling out of control. In this episode, Rusty and Heather share practical strategies and insights from their own experiences to help couples defuse heated arguments before they escalate further. Discover techniques for recognizing warning signs, taking a break, communicating effectively, and resolving conflicts in a healthy manner. Walk away with tools to prevent arguments from becoming destructive and damaging to your marriage.
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Rusty and Heather tackle a common challenge many couples face - differing levels of sexual desire within the marriage. A listener from North Carolina writes in asking for advice on how to handle the situation when one spouse has a higher libido than the other.
Giving insight from their own journey toward sexual fulfillment, Rusty and Heather provide a compassionate and practical perspective on this sensitive topic. They emphasize that mismatched libidos are extremely normal and almost every couple experiences this to some degree. The key is managing the differences through open communication, mutual understanding, and a willingness to serve each other in this area.
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A listener in Colorado asks, "What’s the best way to go about having couple friends while also staying guarded if you think the spouse of the other couple is attractive?"
Rusty and Heather tackle the topic of maintaining healthy boundaries in couple friendships, especially when one or both individuals find the other couple attractive. Drawing from their personal experiences, they provide practical guidance on how to approach these situations with discernment.
Heather vulnerably shares her journey of crossing inappropriate lines before her infidelity, shedding light on the slippery slope that can occur when boundaries are not firmly established. Rusty offers his perspective as the betrayed spouse, emphasizing the importance of open communication and mutual understanding between a married couple. Together, they explore strategies for setting clear boundaries while creating an environment of trust and accountability.
Whether it's limiting one-on-one interactions, being mindful of emotional connections, or prioritizing your spouse's feelings, Rusty and Heather provide insights to help couples navigate these complex dynamics with wisdom and intentionality.
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This week's question comes from a listener in Maryland: "How does a betrayed spouse process memories of times before and during the betrayal?"
If you have ever journeyed through a betrayal, you have probably found yourself wondering what to do with memories that took place before and during the betrayal. Were the happy moments real? Will I always label memories as pre-betrayal and post-betrayal? How can I process memories in a healthy way and not rob myself and others of joyful moments that took place during the betrayal?
Drawing from their own journey of healing from betrayal within their marriage, Rusty and Heather share insights and practical strategies for navigating these challenging waters. They explore the complexities of dealing with memories that once held joy but are now intertwined with pain and betrayal.
This episode can be a compassionate guide for betrayed spouses, offering validation, hope, and practical strategies for processing memories within the context of healing and restoration. Tune in to gain valuable insights and tools for your own journey towards redemption and renewal in your marriage.
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Join Rusty and Heather on this week's episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast as they kick off their exciting Summer Shorts series and unveil a thrilling contest for their listeners.
In this episode, Rusty and Heather share the details of their upcoming Summer Shorts series, where they'll be addressing listener-submitted questions about marriage, relationships, and everything in between. Listeners are invited to submit their questions through theredeemedmarriage.com for a chance to have Rusty and Heather tackle their question on air during the summer. As an added bonus, if your question is chosen, you'll receive some exclusive Redeemed Marriage SWAG
But that's not all! Stay tuned until the end of the episode for the big reveal of the grand prize contest. Rusty and Heather will share all the exciting details about how listeners can participate and win an unforgettable experience!
Tune in, submit your questions, and get ready for a summer filled with wisdom, laughter, and the chance to win!
Recognizing and addressing red flags in your marriage is a sensitive topic. It can be even more delicate when the warning signs are coming from within yourself. Rusty and Heather explore what it means to listen to that inner check in your spirit that signals there could be potential danger ahead. Gain insights from Heather's personal reflection on how she ignored the warning signs in her own life that led her down the path to infidelity.
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Join Rusty and Heather as they discuss the sensitive topic of addressing red flags in your marriage. Drawing from their own story of unfaithfulness, they offer invaluable guidance on how and when to approach your spouse when you notice warning signs that leave you feeling uneasy.
In this candid discussion, Heather shares her journey of dealing with red flags that ultimately led to infidelity. Together, they explore the dangers of both addressing and ignoring these warning signs, highlighting the importance of open communication and trust in a healthy marriage.
Tune in as Rusty and Heather provide practical advice on how to "throw the challenge flag" in your marriage, encouraging listeners to navigate difficult conversations with love, respect, and a commitment to building a stronger relationship. Whether you're facing doubts, insecurities, or suspicions, this episode offers valuable strategies for addressing concerns with your spouse.
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What are the warning signs of a potential affair? What red flags should you look for in your own life and marriage that could lead to betrayal? Rusty and Heather discuss the various paths that can lead toward crossing a dangerous line in your marriage. By sharing details of her own path to betrayal, Heather answers the question: "How did I get to a place where I was capable of being unfaithful?" Learn some of the dangerous steps, boundaries to put in place, and hear Heather's passionate plea for personal heart change.
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In this week's episode, Rusty and Heather answer a question that many couples ask: "Is there hope for my marriage?" Drawing from their personal journey of overcoming infidelity and rebuilding their relationship, Rusty and Heather share their story of the miraculous transformation that occurred.
Listen in on their reflective journey, as they relate their story of despair to the hopelessness of Good Friday. They recount the pain, brokenness, and doubts that once clouded their marriage, acknowledging the darkness that many couples battle in the face of betrayal and hardship.
But the heartbeat of this episode is a message of hope from their faith in the God of miracles. They parallel their personal resurrection story and the hope that comes from Easter.
Through their own story, Rusty and Heather extend a lifeline to listeners facing doubts and fears about the future of their marriages. Their story can serve as beacons of hope, reminding couples that even in the darkest moments, there is light and the promise of a renewed, redeemed marriage.
Tune in to discover that there is indeed hope for your marriage, and that hope can become a beautiful journey of restoration and renewal.
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Join Rusty and Heather on today's episode of the Redeemed Marriage Podcast as Heather bravely shares three profound insights she gained about her pre-infidelity self in the wake of her journey towards healing and redemption. Through vulnerability and introspection, Heather sheds light on the transformative power of self-discovery and personal growth after facing the challenges of infidelity. Tune in to gain valuable wisdom and hope for your own journey towards restoration and renewal in your marriage and personal life.
Join Rusty and Heather for a discussion filled with hope and practical advice. Drawing from their own journey of overcoming infidelity, they share five essential strategies to fight for your marriage: praying against the enemy, preparing with a solid plan to address challenges, actively performing and practicing the plan, maintaining a positive mindset amidst difficulties, and persevering through the ups and downs with unwavering determination. Tune in for heartfelt insights and actionable steps to reclaim and strengthen your marriage relationship.
Rusty and Heather discuss the unseen battles that rage within the minds of both the betrayed and the betrayer. They shed light on the demons of doubt, fear, and guilt that flood the mind after marriage trauma.
This episode explores the haunting questions that linger in the aftermath of betrayal. Rusty and Heather tackle the heart-wrenching quest for answers, the painful process of piecing together shattered trust, and the relentless struggle against triggers that threaten to reopen wounds.
Drawing from personal experiences, they offer practical strategies for overcoming the inner demons that often accompany betrayal.
Whether you find yourself on the side of the betrayed or the betrayer, this episode is a source of encouragement, understanding, and practical guidance for reclaiming the battleground of your mind.
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This week Rusty and Heather invite you to join in on their live teaching with their Monthly Marriage Mentoring Community. The topic is "Becoming An Expert On Your Spouse." You will come away with 20 questions that might help you determine how well you really know your spouse. Through the discussion, you will certainly learn more about Rusty and Heather in an "up close and personal" kind of way!
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After their journey through infidelity, Rusty and Heather could not go back to the way things were. They needed a new marriage. They have identified five areas that were completely transformed after the betrayal, and they discuss 3 of these on this episode. Some of the greatest changes happened in the areas of spiritual and physical intimacy. Learn what changed, how God made things new, and how they are having the most fun they have ever had in their marriage.
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After infidelity nearly destroyed Rusty and Heather's marriage, they knew they could not go back to the way their marriage was before the betrayal. Their marriage obviously wasn't working. The only way to survive and thrive was to create a new marriage. Their journey to a brand new marriage involved transforming 5 areas of marriage. This week they discuss the first two steps on the road to the marriage you've always wanted.
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So many disappointments and conflicts in marriage are a result of unmet expectations. Romance is not an exception. Romantic expectations are often not discussed, and they can even change throughout the years and seasons of marriage. Rusty and Heather discuss the importance of communication around the subject of romance, and they invite you into a real-time discussion about their own personal expectations surrounding romance.
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This week we are joined by Trey and Lea Morgan, authors of "10 Ways To A Stronger Marriage." They are marriage ministry trailblazers that encourage countless couples through their books, podcast, and workshops. On this episode, Trey and Lea discuss their passion for strengthening marriages, and also the top takeaways of their popular book.
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Like them or not, cell phones play an incredible role in our lives. In fact, most people cannot live without their cell phone. For all of the good that comes along with having the world in the palm of our hands, cell phones can also become a threat to our marriages. In this episode, Rusty and Heather discuss ways that cell phones can harm your marriage, but also how they can enhance your marriage. Listen in on practical advice for navigating the use of cell phones in your marriage.
If we are honest, we can all admit that our marriages need prayer. Whether your marriage is in a state of desperation, or you just desire growth in your marriage, turning to God is a great place to start. As you pray, remember that you don't have to enter the spiritual battle alone. There is no shame in asking other believers to pray for you and with you. Rusty and Heather want to intercede on your behalf. Visit theredeemedmarriage.com to sign up for their February prayer list and allow them the honor of praying specifically for your marriage during their February Prayer Challenge.
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Rusty and Heather have learned from their mistakes, particularly the ones that led to infidelity in 2011. In this episode they warn couples of the dangers of selfishness, expecting your spouse to read your mind, ignoring your spiritual growth, and no longer having fun together. These mistakes, among others, can lead to devastating problems in marriage. So, Rusty and Heather remind us to also avoid the mistake of giving up on the miracle God can do in your marriage in 2024.
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Rusty and Heather know a thing or two about making mistakes in marriage. In this episode, they discuss what they wish they could go back and tell themselves at the beginning of 2011 before an affair almost destroyed their marriage. Unsafe communication space, inattentiveness, and unrealistic expectations are just a few marriage mistakes that you should avoid in 2024.
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Rusty and Heather wrap up their popular Christmas movie series discussing "Family Man." In marriage, it's easy to look around and think "the grass is greener" somewhere else. Chances are, the life you always wanted is the life you are living. Sometimes you just need a shift in perspective.
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Much like the movie "Christmas With The Kranks," Christmas often creates chaos and stress in marriages. Rusty and Heather discuss how busyness creeps into their own marriage and share practical ways to introduce peace into your holiday season. Learn how to be a team this Christmas season in ways that will carry on throughout the next year.
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Back by popular demand is the Christmas movie series. Throughout the month of December, Rusty and Heather discuss crucial marriage lessons that they have learned from their favorite holiday movies. Unmet expectations seem to be a theme around most marriages during the holiday season, and it is certainly a theme in the classic Christmas movie "Jingle All the Way." Learn how to combat unmet expectations, and also how to have a little "adult" fun with this hilarious Christmas movie.
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It is not always easy to be thankful for your spouse and your marriage. Having an attitude of gratitude toward marriage is sometimes challenging. Rusty and Heather share some practical "do's and don'ts" of a thankful marriage. Learn how to improve your marriage by being thankful for your spouse.
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Join Rusty and Heather in this powerful episode as they discuss the initial steps of rebuilding a relationship when trust has been shattered.
In this episode, Rusty and Heather introduce the 4 S's - Stop, Sever, Secrets, and Sand - a practical guide for couples navigating the difficult journey of rebuilding trust. Discover the importance of putting a stop to harmful behaviors, severing ties with destructive patterns, fostering transparency with a commitment to no more secrets, and drawing a firm line in the sand to signify a fresh beginning.
Through a candid conversation using their personal story of infidelity as a backdrop, Rusty and Heather provide a roadmap for couples seeking to not only repair the damage but also emerge stronger and more resilient. Whether you're struggling with trust issues in your own relationship or simply looking for valuable insights into fortifying the foundation of your marriage, this episode offers a compassionate and empowering perspective.
Tune in to gain valuable tools and strategies that go beyond mere survival, guiding you and your spouse towards a new starting line filled with hope, understanding, and the potential for a renewed and thriving connection. Join Rusty and Heather in this transformative exploration of love, forgiveness, and the incredible strength found in rebuilding trust.
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In this episode, Rusty and Heather dive into a topic that's often overlooked but holds immense significance in the health of any marriage: self-care. Join them as they discuss the connection between self-care and becoming a better spouse. This episode includes ten practical suggestions that can breathe new life into your relationship. Rusty and Heather will guide you through actionable steps that promote both individual and marital growth.
Life's demands can be overwhelming, and as spouses, it's easy to lose sight of individual well-being. However, prioritizing self-care not only cultivates a healthier sense of self, but also contributes to the strength and vitality marriages. A well-cared-for heart is better equipped to love abundantly.
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The kiss is such an important part of culture. Everyone remembers their first kiss, and every marriage ceremony concludes with the kissing of the bride. Once married, kissing can certainly be a part of foreplay that leads to physical intimacy. But there are so many other benefits of kissing. Unfortunately, kissing more often seems to decline through the married years. Rusty and Heather share a fun list of 10 benefits of kissing and why couples should continue to take advantage of this intimate act.
The words "I'm sorry" can be so powerful to your spouse. Unfortunately, so many people have trouble saying those words, and some people rarely admit when they are wrong. Rusty and Heather discuss the healing power of an apology, and also 3 problems that may come along with an apology done wrong.
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Protect your marriage at all costs. After experiencing devastation in their own marriage through betrayal, Rusty and Heather learned the danger of not safeguarding their marriage. In this episode, they name some specific "demons" that you can't defeat as long as you enjoy playing with them.
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The first year after a betrayal is crucial. Rusty and Heather discuss steps that they took during the first year after the affair confession that led to a Redeemed Marriage. Even if you are beyond a year out from hurt or betrayal, working through these resources for the next year can move your marriage towards restoration.
The Road to Redemption is a long journey with lots of steps. In the second part of this series, Rusty and Heather share details of the early days after Heather's confession of infidelity. They share things they did right and also things they would have done differently. The blueprint may not be the same for every couple healing from a betrayal, but Rusty and Heather have a story of reconciliation, restoration, and redemption that others can gain insight from.
When an affair or some other betrayal happens in marriage, you find yourself asking "now what?" Very few people talk about their experience, and every situation is different, so it is hard to find a blueprint of next steps. Rusty and Heather have walked the Road to Redemption after an affair, so they at least know what worked for them. In this episode, they openly discuss the very difficult days immediately following Heather's confession of infidelity. They will share the things they got right, and also the things they might should have done differently.
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So many marriages are stuck. So many marriages are settling for mediocrity or even just being roommates. So many marriages are lifeless. Rusty and Heather pull out their list of practical ways to have a life giving marriage. Your marriage can experience a transformation, and it can begin with these steps.
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After a marriage crisis such as an affair, why do couples stay together? How does a faith background affect the decision to stay together? Why do many couples choose to stay together and then settle for a lifeless marriage? Rusty and Heather discuss these questions, and the hope of a transformed marriage.
Anyone that has been hurt knows that certain things can trigger memories associated with that pain. After a painful experience such as infidelity, triggers are usually frequent and intense for quite some time. Although the passing of time helps, triggers can resurface unexpectedly much later. Rusty and Heather battled triggers following their journey through an affair, and they learned quite a few things about fighting and defeating the triggers that threaten to open up old wounds.
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August 23, 2011 - the date of Heather's confession of her affair. On the anniversary week, Rusty and Heather reflect on the emotions that still come up each year, and also give a list of things that are different about their marriage 12 years later.
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If you have been married longer than 24 hours, you have probably asked yourself the question, "Did I marry the wrong person?" Did you grow up believing there is one "right" person for you to marry and you think you made a mistake? Rusty and Heather discuss soul mates, divorce, remarriage, and what to do if you start feeling like you married the wrong person.
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In a follow-up episode to last week's topic, Rusty and Heather discuss moving beyond the hurt after betrayal. Specifically, hear Rusty's thoughts on being able to regain physical intimacy with Heather after her affair. While every story is different, Rusty and Heather share openly about their own personal journey of moving beyond the hurt in order to give hope to broken marriages.
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Physical intimacy is such a crucial part of a marriage relationship, but it is often a difficult subject for couples. Many couples have painful baggage in this area, whether it is from pre-marital relationships, or betrayal and unfaithfulness during marriage. Rusty and Heather discuss the importance of physical intimacy, their healing in this area after infidelity, and even an incredible resource they recently discovered!
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All healthy marriages need boundaries, especially when it comes to relationships with members of the opposite sex. How extreme do those boundaries need to be, and what do you do when jealousy becomes the motivation for boundaries? After walking through an affair that started with a disregard for certain boundaries, Rusty and Heather share great insight into protecting your marriage through appropriate boundaries.
Every marriage has conflict. Should conflict take place behind closed doors, or should your children witness conflict? What if the conflict is more like a crisis...like an affair? Should you tell your children? How much should they know? Rusty and Heather share their thoughts on teachable moments through everyday conflict, and also how they made decisions about telling their kids about Heather's infidelity.
You tune in for marriage advice every week, and you are likely captivated and inspired by their story of redemption after an affair...but do you really know Rusty and Heather? They invite you into their story, and ask you to trust them, but you probably don't know who they are right now. You can go back and listen to their story of infidelity throughout the podcast, but this episode lets you know who Rusty and Heather are...today!
Difficult circumstances in life often bring pain. Unexpected challenges such as affairs, death of a family member, betrayal of a friend, sickness...each brings immense pain. Even for those of us that believe our challenges are a part of God's bigger story that ultimately leads to His glory, we still wonder when and if the pain will ever end. Rusty and Heather discuss the process of restoration, and the presence of pain through that process.
If God is good, and God is sovereign, why do bad things happen to good people? Rusty and Heather may not have all of the theological answers to that question, but they have wrestled with plenty of questions about their journey through infidelity. Where was God during that season? Why did He not stop Heather from making the choices that led to an affair? Why did He allow betrayal, pain, and destruction to a couple that professed to be followers of Him. Hear what Rusty and Heather learned about trusting God through their story of infidelity.
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Most people can identify with coming from humble beginnings in their marriage. In this episode, Rusty and Heather share some hilarious stories from their first house as newlyweds. Even after living through their "haunted" house, there are marriage lessons to be learned.
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Rusty and Heather share two more funny marriage stories, this time from the files of "in sickness and in health." When one spouse is sick, the other becomes the caregiver. Listen in on the marriage lessons learned when two stories of caregiving go from disaster to comical.
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During this new summer series, Rusty and Heather look back on some of the funniest stories from almost 27 years of marriage and the lessons they learned from those stories. In this episode, hear about an intimate moment that was interrupted by a knock on the door. Just wait until you hear the entire story and who was on the other side of the door!
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This week is all about forgiveness. How long did it take Rusty to forgive Heather's infidelity? What did Heather do to help the process of forgiveness, healing, and reconciliation? How did Heather learn to forgive herself? Don't miss the final episode of the popular "Inside The Mind Of..." series.
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After Heather's confession of adultery in 2011, Rusty's mind and thoughts went through a whirlwind of emotions. What were the initial thoughts? When did he decide to fight for their marriage? Did he ever blame himself for Heather's actions? Dive into Rusty and Heather's story as you get an inside look into the mind of the betrayed spouse.
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In the final episode of this mini-series, Heather answers more hard questions in an effort to better understand the battle of her mind during her affair. She discusses guilt, covering up sin, worldly sorrow, and how her mind eventually shifted towards running after Jesus. Her story of life change offers hope to anyone struggling in their marriage or fighting any bondage of sin.
In Part 2 of this topic, Heather opens up about what was going on inside her head as she inched closer to crossing a line into an inappropriate relationship. She shares thoughts on guilt, the overwhelming pressure to hide her sin, and how things might have been different if she had confessed early in the process. This candid discussion shares warning signs, advice on asking for help, and hope for anyone that might be living with secret sin.
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So many questions. Whether you are the betrayer, the betrayed, or just know of a marriage that has been affected by an affair, you have questions. How could someone knowingly choose to commit an act that could not only destroy their marriage, but could also destroy their life? In Part 1 of this series, Heather vulnerably opens up and shares some of the very early thoughts and actions that started her down a slippery slope that led to an affair.
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We had some technical difficulty with this episode. When the episode originally uploaded, it abruptly cut off after 21 minutes. We updated it, but some of our users had already downloaded the short version. The best part was after it cut off! So, we decided to just create a "new" episode with the full 34 minutes. Here you go!
Most relationships begin with two people being attracted to each other physically. As the years go on, the physical attraction may fade for lots of different reasons. Rusty and Heather discuss reasons why couples may lose their physical (and even emotional) attraction to each other, and ways to shift your thinking to regain the attraction you once had. Believe it or not, you can have an even richer and deeper attraction as the clock ticks on.
Most relationships begin with two people being attracted to each other physically. As the years go on, the physical attraction may fade for lots of different reasons. Rusty and Heather discuss reasons why couples may lose their physical (and even emotional) attraction to each other, and ways to shift your thinking to regain the attraction you once had. Believe it or not, you can have an even richer and deeper attraction as the clock ticks on.
Men and women are very different. God made us that way. Sometimes knowing what makes our spouse happy can be confusing. But, we also over-complicate the process. Rusty and Heather recently had their own heart to heart conversation about how to make each other happy. On this episode, they invite you into that conversation in hopes that you can learn from what they discovered.
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Rusty and Heather's marriage was dead. After an affair threatened to destroy their marriage, God resurrected what was dead and made it alive. The same resurrecting power is available to your marriage. There is hope! Listen to a powerful message of hope, and see how your marriage can move from death to life.
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Things get a little steamy as Rusty and Heather discuss the lie that sex after marriage is boring. Listen in on a vulnerable conversation about physical intimacy after an affair, God's design for sex, and how to communicate so that your sex life only gets better and more fun with age.
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Is it possible to fall out of love with your spouse? Rusty and Heather unpack the many layers of this common lie that married couples believe. Heather found herself believing this lie when she was unfaithful in 2011, but now she speaks truth and hope into the confusing feelings and emotions she felt.
"You complete me."
"You make me whole."
"I'll give 50%; you give 50%; together we give 100%."
Sorry...but all of these are lies that we often believe about marriage. Rusty and Heather discuss the truth and reality behind these common beliefs, and also give hope to those marriages where only one spouse is working to give 100%.
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If your spouse really loves you, they should know what you want and need...right? In this episode, Rusty and Heather discuss why married couples often believe this lie, and how to avoid falling into the resulting resentment that comes from believing this lie. Learn how to create better communication and understanding to combat the lie that the enemy wants you to believe.
We live in a world where we throw broken things away rather than try to fix them. We are also always looking to upgrade and improve what we already have. Rusty and Heather discuss fighting for your marriage, rather than throwing away what you think might be broken.
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February 14 has come and gone once again, but, let's be honest...most women would like to celebrate Valentine's Day throughout the year. However, do we even know what women really want for Valentine's Day? Rusty and Heather discuss a few things that women want and need throughout the year in order to feel loved.
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On the eve of Valentine's Day, Rusty and Heather discuss what men really want from their wives...not just on the special day of love, but throughout the year. From honor and respect, to flirting and sex, hear about the desires of most men, and the challenges wives face in meeting those needs. It's real and honest talk as always on The Redeemed Marriage podcast.
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Rusty and Heather have personally witnessed the power of prayer in their own lives - from the miraculous healing of their marriage after an affair, to Heather's miraculous healing of cancer. They are now committed to praying for marriages across the globe. In this episode, Rusty and Heather encourage you to cry out to God in complete and brutal honesty as you invite Him to heal, restore, redeem, or just encourage your marriage.
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Sometimes you can work and toil for your marriage without any real results. Your marriage might be missing a key ingredient. Rusty and Heather discuss practical ways to invite Jesus into your marriage, and how to allow him to transform your relationship individually and collectively.
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Everyone experiences guilt and shame at some point. Rusty and Heather discuss how it feels to wear the "scarlet letter" of adultery, and how to live in freedom from guilt and shame.
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After an affair in 2011, Rusty and Heather's marriage was on the road to recovery following a marriage intensive with WinShape Marriage in Rome, GA. On this episode, they visit with Julie Baumgardner, Senior Director of WinShape Marriage. WinShape offers a variety of marriage resources for all couples, including retreats and intensives. Julie shares a number of resources that you can use to take the "next step" in your marriage.
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Rusty and Heather never dreamed they would walk through an affair 15 years into marriage. On this episode, Heather remembers Rusty's decision to stay and fight for their marriage. Not all marriages face something as devastating as infidelity, but every couple encounters hard times. Choosing how to respond in the hard times has the potential to affect generations beyond your marriage.
There are plenty of things that you should probably never say to your spouse. Using certain words or phrases can damage your marriage. Rusty and Heather narrow the list down and discuss three things that you should avoid saying when speaking to your spouse.
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Your words have so much impact on your marriage. Your words either build up or tear down your spouse. In this episode, Rusty and Heather share three things that you should say to your spouse often.
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Tis the season for Hallmark Christmas movies. More than likely you either love them or hate them. On this episode, Rusty and Heather dig into Hallmark movies to find some positive and negative observations relating to marriage. Take advantage of the 8 observations (4 positive and 4 negative) to improve your marriage.
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Marriage is the joining of two different families. The key word is "different." Different dynamics, different cultures, different beliefs, and different traditions. Nothing brings these differences to the surface quite like the holidays. In this episode, Rusty and Heather discuss the tension that the holiday season can bring, and how to navigate the balance of putting your primary family first while honoring those who have invested in you.
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Rusty and Heather are on location at their annual getaway together. In this episode, you will be inspired to go away as a couple at least once a year, and also get some tips on how to creatively make your annual trip a reality. In addition, get a look into what Rusty and Heather have been doing on their yearly getaway.
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"If only" we could get past this season of marriage..."If only" my spouse was like him or her..."If only" we made more money. It's easy to fall into the "if only" trap in marriage. Rusty and Heather discuss the dangers of living in an "if only" marriage and how to stay away from discontentment.
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Some marriages are great, and some are in crisis mode. But, lots of marriages are just stuck. So many marriages settle for just being roommates. In this week's episode, Rusty and Heather discuss how to get your marriage out of the rut that it may be in, and move toward a marriage that is better than you thought you could have.
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Do you know what makes your spouse happy? In this Halloween inspired episode, Rusty and Heather get really honest about their list of "treats" for each other. From flirting, to changing sheets, to initiating sex, their list of "treats" will challenge you to learn what your spouse wants and needs to take your marriage to a new level of happiness.
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Most married couples will say that marriage requires hard work. But, does marriage really have to be hard? Rather than being hard work, can it instead "require attention"? Rusty and Heather discuss ways to give your marriage the daily attention that it requires and deserves in order to limit the seasons of hard work.
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Most married couples would say that they married their best friend...at least when they first got married. Somehow time seems to move married couples away from being best friends. Rusty and Heather discuss the importance of remaining best friends and ways to continue being best friends throughout marriage.
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When trust is broken in marriage by an affair, pornography, or some other wound; it is often difficult to restore intimacy. Rusty and Heather discuss their own steps to healing physical intimacy following their journey through infidelity.
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Using their own engagement story as a backdrop, Rusty and Heather discuss romance within marriage. Whether you are a former romantic couple that has lost that loving feeling, or a couple that has always struggled to incorporate romance into the relationship, this episode is for you!
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There is really no way to avoid conflict in marriage. The danger is when a couple begins to normalize conflict without discovering ways to resolve conflict before it escalates into something more devastating. No matter where you are on the spectrum of conflict, even if it has moved beyond the ordinary, you are not alone. Rusty and Heather point couples to hope through their story of redemption.
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For more information on "The Heart Talk" method of communication that was discussed in this week's episode, listen to Episode 11: Let's Have a Heart Talk.
Is it ever ok to tell a little white lie to your spouse? What are the dangers of telling those little white lies? Rusty and Heather discuss some of the little white lies that come up in marriage and also pitch some pretty hard questions to ask yourself when it comes to the subject of little white lies in marriage.
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Marriage is supposed to be the union of two individuals...two becoming one. What does that even mean? Rusty and Heather take a look at some practical ways that you and your spouse can become a "we" in all aspects of marriage.
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Do you really believe that your spouse should come first...even before your children? If so, what does that even mean and how do you accomplish that? Rusty and Heather discuss what could be a debatable topic and give insight into keeping your marriage the top priority.
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Rusty and Heather have an honest and passionate discussion about boundaries in your marriage. After walking through infidelity in 2011, this couple understands the danger zones and appropriate boundaries to put into place to protect your marriage.
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Do you ever feel like you are the only one working on your marriage? Do you ever wish you could just fix your spouse? Rusty and Heather discuss practical ways to work on your marriage alone, and how to encourage your spouse to join you in your desire for a healthy marriage.
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Why are Rusty and Heather so passionate about marriages? In this week's episode the Bryants explore the "why" behind what they do, and also define who this podcast is for and how it can help your marriage.
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Married couples often say they wish things were the way they used to be. Well..."to get what you once had you have to do what you once did." Rusty and Heather look back on a long list of things they used to do while dating as a reminder of ways to keep the sparks flying deep into marriage.
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Blessing your spouse not only improves your marriage, but it also sets an example and can leave a legacy for your children and others. Rusty and Heather discuss four practical ways that you can begin blessing your spouse today!
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Ask any couple about being an "empty nester" and you will probably get mixed responses. Whether you have already made it to this season of marriage, or you feel as though it will never come, there are unknowns and fears around every turn. However, there is also excitement and expectation as you learn to be just the two of you...again. Listen in on how Rusty and Heather are preparing for the empty nest season that is right around the corner.
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The various seasons of marriage will eventually land most couples here...the teenage years! Surely you have heard the horror stories, or maybe you are living through them right now. Regardless, raising teenagers can be a challenge to both you and your marriage. Rusty and Heather have moved one child through the teenage years and are currently in this season with their second child. Hear some great tips and reminders as Rusty and Heather discuss marriage during the teenage years.
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Rusty and Heather continue discussing the seasons of marriage with their insights into surviving the chaotic years of school age kids. Sometimes running a family during this season can feel like running a business. Learn some practical tips on growing your marriage during this season while also fulfilling your parental responsibilities.
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Having young children is challenging and often puts a strain on marriages. Rusty and Heather look back on the challenges they faced during that season of marriage, and offer advice on how to thrive and not just survive when you are doing life with infants and toddlers.
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The traditional "honeymoon" season of marriage typically takes place during the early years of marriage. There are obvious challenges throughout this season, but also crucial moments that will set the stage for the seasons that follow. In those subsequent seasons, can the honeymoon continue, and can you prepare yourself for the second honeymoon that will come later in life?
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Every season of marriage has its own challenges. Whether you have no kids, infants, young kids, teenagers, or even if you are an empty nester, changes and transitions in marriage can sometimes be difficult. Those same seasons can also be sweet times of growth and maturity as a married couple. Join Rusty and Heather as they begin a discussion on how to navigate each season of marriage.
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When any betrayal happens in marriage, there are lots of questions...who, what, where, when, why? But, how much do you really need to know? Rusty and Heather look back on the early days after Heather's confession of infidelity and give insight into the haunting questions that come with a betrayal.
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Broken bones and surgically repaired injuries often grow back even stronger than before. Injured and broken marriages sometimes need God to surgically repair the couple so that they can become a clearer picture of what a marriage is supposed to be. Rusty and Heather's broken marriage had to be surgically repaired by God after infidelity, but it has grown back stronger than before.
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Sometimes life throws unexpected challenges and battles our way. It may be a marriage crisis, medical diagnosis, financial emergency, or a number of other unexpected curveballs. Each stress point has the potential to put a strain on your marriage, or strengthen it as you learn to journey through life's battles together. Find out about Rusty and Heather's latest curveball and how past experiences have taught them how to fight life's battles together.
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The great marriage experts are always suggesting to plan and schedule things in order to improve your marriage - date nights, daily communication, even sex. Does planning make things seem forced, or can it add to the excitement and improve that area of your marriage? Is it better to plan ahead, or be spontaneous? See what Rusty and Heather have to say about when your marriage might need a plan.
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Are you in a dying marriage, or faced with another hopeless situation in your life? Rusty and Heather share from their journals in 2011 when their marriage was on the verge of death. God showed up and transformed their lives and their marriage...death to life. Discover hope in the midst of your storm.
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Most couples wonder if their marriage can really be better over time. Mix in pain, mistrust, betrayal...is it even possible to have a better marriage after heartache? Rusty and Heather explore how their marriage is better today than even their actual wedding day.
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Who are Rusty and Heather Bryant and why do they speak to marriages through a podcast each week? In this week's episode, Rusty and Heather invite you into their story on an "up close and personal" level. They recount their days as high school sweethearts, to the near destruction of their marriage from infidelity, to the redemption story that sparked a marriage ministry and podcast that helps marriages all over the world.
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If you are breathing then you have probably had communication issues in your marriage. On this episode, Rusty and Heather share 3 practical tools to add to your communication toolbox. Implementing one or all of these communication tools will put you on the path to improving communication with your spouse.
For more information on the "Heart Talk" tool, listen to Episode 11 - Let's Have a Heart Talk
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Relationships are hard...you might be thinking "tell me something I don't already know." Unfortunately, many marriages begin with unrealistic expectations, and then adjustments aren't made in the relationship when the fairytale wedding and honeymoon end. In this episode, Rusty and Heather will give 5 practical ways to combat the reality that relationships are hard.
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Do you believe that God still performs miracles today? On this week's episode, Rusty and Heather sit down with Kylie and John White to hear a miraculous story of healing. Following a devastating medical diagnosis, Kylie began a spiritual journey that finally led her to ask God for healing. Whether you are in need of physical or marital healing, Kylie's story will inspire you to trust in God for a miracle.
When trust is broken in a marriage, the couple usually asks: "How long will it take to trust again?" "Is there a timeline for healing to take place?" This week, Rusty and Heather discuss how long it could take, and also signs to look for along the way to give some encouragement that you are heading toward trust and healing in your marriage.
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Betrayal in marriage is not uncommon - affairs, pornography, addictions, financial infidelity, etc. Most marriages have experienced broken trust in some form. The question becomes "how do we rebuild trust after trust has been broken?" In this episode, Rusty and Heather discuss two of the initial steps that they took toward rebuilding trust after Heather's confession of infidelity in 2011.
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Are you a spouse that feels like you are all alone working to save your marriage? Are you the only one pursuing God in your marriage? Are your prayers for your spouse and your marriage not being answered? In this week's episode, Heather speaks from her heart as she addresses the pain surrounding so many marriages. Find out where you can receive the strength to carry on in the fight for your marriage. Also, Rusty shares stories of how God works through even the most difficult of circumstances.
Resource - "How to Save Your Marriage Alone" by Ed Wheat
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If you have been married for more than about 24 hours, you have probably struggled to adequately communicate about sex. When it comes to physical intimacy in marriage, you probably have a list of things you would like to tell your spouse. In this episode, Rusty and Heather each share a Top 10 List of things husbands and wives want their spouses to know about sex.
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Every marriage has issues, problems, and stories. Should they be shared or hidden? In this episode, Rusty and Heather discuss the importance of communicating with other people to benefit your marriage. Who should you share with and where can they be found? Stay tuned until the end of the episode for a special invitation from Rusty and Heather to help jumpstart your communication with other people.
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Relationships are so important. For those that are married, your relationship with your spouse is your most important relationship. But, where do other relationships fit into a marriage? In this episode, Rusty and Heather wrap up their four part series on growing a healthy marriage in 2022 by discussing how healthy marriages handle relationships with friends, other couples, and even the controversial topic of opposite sex relationships.
Everyone wants more intimacy in marriage. Did you know that the key to physical and emotional intimacy might actually be to become more intimate on a spiritual level? In this episode, Rusty and Heather discuss practical ways to grow together spiritually in your marriage in 2022.
It seems like everybody starts off the new year with goals to be more physically fit and healthy. But how does this area of life fit into your marriage, and how can your marriage grow as you strive for a healthy physical lifestyle together? In Part 2 of "Habits of a Healthy Marriage," Rusty and Heather discuss how "growing in stature" can strengthen your marriage and increase your intimacy in 2022.
Using Luke 2:52 as a guide, Rusty and Heather discuss some practical habits to incorporate into your marriage in 2022. In Part 1, learn 3 specific ways you can increase your knowledge of what it takes to have a healthy marriage. Be prepared to take on the challenges presented, and begin working toward a growing and healthier marriage in 2022.
If you are fighting for your marriage, or just striving for a better marriage in 2022, you are on a narrow path that many couples do not choose. In this initial episode of 2022 and Season 3, Rusty and Heather discuss why they are so passionate about helping couples journey down the narrow path towards a healthy, God-honoring marriage. No matter what season of marriage you are in, or what challenges your marriage may be facing, this podcast is for you in 2022.
Who knew that we could learn some valuable marriage lessons from Kevin McCallister in "Home Alone"? In this final episode of 2021, Rusty and Heather wrap up their special December theme of learning about marriage from their favorite Christmas movies. Find out how "Home Alone" can inspire you to fight for your marriage when the enemy attacks, and how you can prepare your marriage to be one step ahead of the enemy in 2022.
Does your marriage seem hopeless? Have you ever considered giving up on your spouse? In the Christmas movie classic, "It's A Wonderful Life," George Bailey is ready to end it all: his job, his marriage, his life. With the help of his guardian angel, he gets a glimpse of everything he would be throwing away. Rusty and Heather faced a point in their marriage where they had to decide whether to give up or fight for restoration and redemption. In this episode, find hope for your marriage this Christmas season as Rusty and Heather relate their story to that of George Bailey.
Throughout December, Rusty and Heather are discussing marriage lessons that can be learned from their favorite Christmas movies. In this episode, see what marriage advice they found in "Jingle All the Way." Walk away with practical advice on how you can grow your marriage this holiday season with the gift of being present...and a reminder to stay away from "Ted's"!
Rusty and Heather turn to one of their favorite Christmas movies, National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation, for a crucial marriage lesson. The Griswold's, the famous Christmas family from Hollywood, know a thing or two about unmet expectations. Rusty and Heather discuss how almost every conflict, argument, and tension in marriage can be traced back to unmet expectations.
In this week's episode, Rusty and Heather visit with Heather's mentor, Pennye Dees. Heather and Pennye connected out of desperation in 2011, but their relationship is now a powerful picture of mentoring. Hear how God orchestrated their initial phone call, as well as Pennye's unique perspective of Heather's life-changing moment that ultimately saved her marriage.
In Season 2 Episode 7, Rusty and Heather continue unpacking details of their marriage crisis from 2011. Some pieces of the story will never be forgotten. In this episode, Rusty and Heather pull back the curtains a little further as they shed light on some hard, painful, and life changing moments that started them down a path toward a redeemed marriage.
Forgiveness is a complex subject, but there is also a dynamic of simplicity in forgiveness. After walking through infidelity, Rusty and Heather learned that forgiveness is both a decision and a process. In this week's episode, listen in on the discussion of several myths surrounding forgiveness and also learn the Path to Forgiveness.
Every marriage faces conflict and tension. Marriages often need reconciliation. In this episode, Rusty and Heather discuss their personal Road to Reconciliation after infidelity nearly ended their marriage. Discover practical steps and advice to getting your marriage on the Road to Reconciliation.
Honesty is crucial to the health of all marriages. In Episode 4 of Season 2, Rusty and Heather discuss their belief that "You CAN Handle the Truth." This episode shares practical advice that will help every marriage establish an openness between spouses.
God is a healer. God healed Rusty and Heather's marriage 10 years ago, and God physically healed Heather 5 years ago. On the 5 year anniversary of Heather's breast cancer diagnosis, Rusty and Heather celebrate their journey together through the most difficult seasons of life.
Rusty and Heather's story of redemption really began with a confession. Their marriage changed forever on August 23, 2011, but the confession opened the door for God to intervene and begin a miraculous healing.
The Enemy is the master deceiver, and nobody knows that better than Rusty and Heather. In Part 2 of Believing the Lies of the Enemy, Heather explores several of the lies that she was believing as she began making choices that nearly destroyed their marriage in 2011.
In Season 2 of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather begin to unpack the story of their marriage crisis from 10 years ago. In this opening episode of Season 2, Heather shares some lies from the Enemy that she believed for many years leading up to her destructive choices in 2011.
Rusty and Heather Bryant are back with Season 2 of The Redeemed Marriage podcast. At the 10 year mark of their marriage crisis, Rusty and Heather will journey through their story and offer insight on warning signs, boundaries, forgiveness, honesty, steps to restoration, resources, and so much more. Follow their journey up close and personal through Season 2 of their podcast.
Last week Rusty and Heather discussed "The Husband Who Leads Well." This week, they look at the wife and her role in supporting her husband as he leads the family. Don't miss these practical examples of how a wife can help her husband lead well.
The husband is called to be the leader of the family, but what exactly does that mean? In this week's episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss the role of the husband and how he can lead his family well. The simple and practical steps discussed on this episode will begin preparing every husband to step up as the leader of the home.
Everyone loves a good comeback story. Rusty and Heather's marriage story can certainly be described as a comeback. Unfortunately, some marriages end without a comeback story. On this episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss how every circumstance can still be redeemed by God.
Everybody changes over time...and that means our marriages change! How can we embrace the changes in our marriage and use them to strengthen our journey together? Rusty and Heather discuss this topic of change on the latest episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast.
The old song says "You've Lost That Lovin' Feelin'" and it seems to be something that all marriages face at some point along the journey. In this episode, Rusty and Heather discuss some practical ways that married couples can rekindle those old flames that seem to have died out along the way.
Everyone has wounds from the past. Occasionally these wounds are opened up by "triggers." In this episode, Rusty and Heather discuss "triggers" and how to deal with them in marriage.
Everyone enters marriage with a family history. In this episode, Rusty and Heather discuss how family history can cause tension and how you can deal with conflicts such as Fights, Finances, and Feelings.
Have you ever had problems with communication in your marriage? That's a crazy question! Everyone experiences communication difficulties. In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast Rusty and Heather share a practical tool to help married couples with communication.
Do you want a list of things that husbands and wives cannot do in marriage? Rusty and Heather dig up a couple of blog posts that were instrumental in the healing of their marriage.
On this Valentine's Day episode, Rusty and Heather discuss how Redbirds can be an example to your marriage.
Heather flips the script from last week and surprises Rusty with this week's topic. See what The Redeemed Marriage podcast has to say about forgiveness in marriage.
Rusty surprises Heather with a topic that she has not prepared for, and she gives words of wisdom on the fly.
We have all heard the saying that marriage is 50/50. In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather will challenge this old saying and give a new perspective to apply to your marriage.
The new year is a great time for self inventory and evaluation. Rusty and Heather highlight the areas to focus on in 2021 to be the best version of you and your marriage.
Rusty and Heather tackle a tough question that almost every couple will face along their marriage journey..."Do I still love my spouse?"
Sometimes the hardest step is admitting that your marriage needs help. In this episode, Rusty and Heather discuss steps to take and resources to turn to when your marriage needs help.
Most marriages begin with the unrealistic expectation that things will turn out like a fairytale. In this episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather will unpack the hard truth that "Marriage Is Not a Fairytale."
In the first episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather Bryant discuss why they are so passionate about helping marriages.