Married With Benefits by FamilyLife on Oneplace.com: Recent Episodes
Brian Goins
We got married because we thought we’d be better together rather than apart. So why is it so easy to feel isolated from your life-long partner?Host, author, and fellow married pilgrim, Brian Goins, tackles the relational pitfalls, from the trivial to the tragic, that move couples towards isolation rather than experiencing the real benefits that come from saying I do.
Struggling to get a consistent date night? Not to worry. Hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn are joined by Dr. Brad Wilcox, renowned sociologist specializing in marriage and family research, as they share tips for a great marriage—even without a budget or a babysitter.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29?v=20251111
Ever notice some couples seem to have a secret language? Maybe it looks like little loving gestures saying, "I appreciate you." "I forgive you." "I want to hear what you have to say about that." Jen Goins joins hosts Brian Goins and as they discuss the 7th secret of highly happy couples!To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29?v=20251111
Not all fantasies are created equally, in fact, one kind is the leading cause of unhappiness in marriage. But how do you avoid pitfalls and pursue contentment with your spouse? Tune in as hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn continue discussing the fifth secret of highly happy couples!To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29?v=20251111
Do you manage your emotions...or do they actually manage you? Learn how deliberate emotional management can promote your happiness—both maritally and otherwise. Join special guest, Jeff Feldhahn, and hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn as they discuss secret 5 of highly happy couples!To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29?v=20251111
You've probably heard the marriage advice: don't keep score. But what if that's wrong? Learn the kind of tally it's good to track in a Christian marriage.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29?v=20251111
Go to bed angry or not: what's your advice for marriage? Listen for ideas and tips on dealing with anger and conflict in marriage — at bedtime and beyond.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29?v=20251111
Want more happy vibes in your marriage? Learn about the 'fantastic five.' We're talking small but mighty, try-these-now practices to grow happiness in your marriage.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29?v=20251111
You know what they say about making assumptions, right? But there's one kind of assumption that can dramatically improve your marriage. Hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss first secret of highly happy marriages on today's episode of Married with Benefits. Learn how one foundational mindset shift can help you move from frustration to affection and from grumpy to gracious.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29?v=20251111
"Highly happy" is possible for marriage. But how do you get there? Change—even "good" change and growth—can be uncomfortable! Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn for a roadmap for perseverance in relationship growth, towards the highly happy marriage you dream of.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29?v=20251111
Could your sex life be missing the point? Dr. Michael Sytsma talks about why we have sex…and the key to wow-level sex that changes everything.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29?v=20251111
Has your married sex coasted into the blahs? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma’s got solutions to keep you both captivated in the bedroom.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29?v=20251111
Sex can be painful in so many ways—but it doesn’t have to mean doom. Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers way to transform hurt to eventual healing.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29?v=20251111
Initiating or declining married sex: It’s tricky. Are your signals clear? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you with “not tonight” and “yes, please.”To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29?v=20251111
Wondering how to keep your married sex life sizzling—or just move around conflict or hurt? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you troubleshoot.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29?v=20251111
Who do highly happy couples attribute their happiness to? Themselves or their partners? Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn and learn the power of humility and expressing gratitude for your better half.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
True or False? One of the best ways to resolve conflict in marriage is to let go of it. Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn as they discuss the art of "conflict amnesia."To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Divorce and Christians: there are some misunderstandings around its prevalence. Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn as they set the record straight and learn how keeping God at the center does help to make highly happy couples.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Can you keep an eye on the exit and have a happy marriage? Some couples keep separate bank accounts just in case. But in this episode, Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn explore how vulnerability in relationshipsbeing "all in" with your spouseleads to greater trust and happiness.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
We can all agree that open communication is good for healthy relationships. But is there such a thing as being 'too honest'? Listen in as hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss!To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Struggling to get a consistent date night? Not to worry. Hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn are joined by Dr. Brad Wilcox, renowned sociologist specializing in marriage and family research, as they share tips for a great marriageeven without a budget or a babysitter.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Ever notice some couples seem to have a secret language? Maybe it looks like little loving gestures saying, "I appreciate you." "I forgive you." "I want to hear what you have to say about that." Jen Goins joins hosts Brian Goins and as they discuss the 7th secret of highly happy couples!To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Not all fantasies are created equally, in fact, one kind is the leading cause of unhappiness in marriage. But how do you avoid pitfalls and pursue contentment with your spouse? Tune in as hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn continue discussing the fifth secret of highly happy couples!To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Do you manage your emotions...or do they actually manage you? Learn how deliberate emotional management can promote your happinessboth maritally and otherwise. Join special guest, Jeff Feldhahn, and hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn as they discuss secret 5 of highly happy couples!To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
You've probably heard the marriage advice: don't keep score. But what if that's wrong? Learn the kind of tally it's good to track in a Christian marriage.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Go to bed angry or not: what's your advice for marriage? Listen for ideas and tips on dealing with anger and conflict in marriage at bedtime and beyond.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Want more happy vibes in your marriage? Learn about the 'fantastic five.' We're talking small but mighty, try-these-now practices to grow happiness in your marriage.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
You know what they say about making assumptions, right? But there's one kind of assumption that can dramatically improve your marriage. Hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss first secret of highly happy marriages on today's episode of Married with Benefits. Learn how one foundational mindset shift can help you move from frustration to affection and from grumpy to gracious.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
"Highly happy" is possible for marriage. But how do you get there? Changeeven "good" change and growthcan be uncomfortable! Join hosts Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn for a roadmap for perseverance in relationship growth, towards the highly happy marriage you dream of.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Is marriage worth it? If you've never wondered yourself, you may have had someone ask you that question. In this special teaser episode to Season 4 of Married with Benefits, hosts Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins are joined by Dr. Brad Wilcox, a renowned sociologist specializing in marriage and family research. Dr. Wilcox is a Professor of Sociology and Director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, as well as the Future of Freedom Fellow at the Institute for Family Studies.Join us for this conversation exploring why more and more people are doubting marriage's value and what the research actually says. You'll also learn data-backed practical advice for building a happy marriage and family -- for yourself or for a friend!To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Could your sex life be missing the point? Dr. Michael Sytsma talks about why we have sexand the key to wow-level sex that changes everything.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Has your married sex coasted into the blahs? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma’s got solutions to keep you both captivated in the bedroom.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Sex can be painful in so many waysbut it doesn’t have to mean doom. Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers way to transform hurt to eventual healing.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Initiating or declining married sex: It’s tricky. Are your signals clear? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you with not tonight and yes, please.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Wondering how to keep your married sex life sizzlingor just move around conflict or hurt? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you troubleshoot.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Does one of you want more sex than the other? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas and insight to work through differences in sexual desire.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Your sex drive brings expectation, connection, rejection, confusion. But understanding it changes everything! Sex therapist Michael Sytsma weighs in.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
When it comes to sexwhat’s normal? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma Shaunti Feldhahn discuss research about drive, initiative, and other questions.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Gathered from a live audience at FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It cruise, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn and Brian Goins answer a variety of questions from husbands--like, "Why does she ask for my opinion, then do her own thing?" "Why does she pick on my tone of voice?" "Why doesn't she say what she means?" "How can I convince her I think she looks good?" "How am I supposed to avoid fix-it mode when she talks?"To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Trying to figure out why your wife expects you to know what she's thinking? Does trying to interpret all that mystery feel frustrating, even exhausting? Brian, Shaunti, and guest Jim Mitchell explore how to uncover what's whirring beneath the surface in a way that makes your wife feel known--and significantly improve your relationship.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
In this episode, Brian, Jen, and Shaunti address the common insecurities husbands experience in conflict with their wives. At work they feel they can tackle anything, but everything changes at home when emotions enter the scene. Are you curious why late-night arguments leave you feeling outmatched? Or why you'd rather withdraw to think before processing together? Listen for the reasons behind your feelings and for some healthy conflict management tips.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Husbands all over the world struggle to understand and respond to their wife’s tears. Considering two thirds of women admit to crying for no reason, they have good reason to. Curious why women cry so much? Shaunti and Brian, joined by Brian’s wife Jen, dig into the why behind women’s tears and some helpful dos and don'ts as you move towards your wife. Also learn how God responds to our tears.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
In season #1 of Married With Benefits we explained what a wife can learn about the mind of her husband from watching ESPN. Here Brian and Shaunti explain the heart of most wives as revealed in Hallmark movies. What core question is she asking that a good love story answers? What insecurities does she carry that she's hoping you will cover? Good news: You don't need to go ice skating or build a rocking chair out of raw cedar to win her heart every day.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Does it feel like decisions are never final with your wife? Does she like to "taaaaaaaaaalk" things thru way too long? And what should you do when it feels like she's questioning a decision you've made and felt was final? Host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn explore this common experience with humor, wisdom, and insight on how to finally "lock in" her answer.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
How can a couple restore trust in the area of sexual brokenness (pornography, affairs, etc.)? Licensed sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn to instruct husbands and wives on the necessary steps to take to bring the darkness into the light and tenaciously hold on to the God of hope.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
As crazy as it sounds, it's not uncommon for trust to be broken within a marriage and the husband not even realize it. Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn are joined by FamilyLife Today co-host Ann Wilson to offer hope and wise counsel for couples needing to restore trust between them.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Have you ever wondered why, just when your mind is shutting down for the night, your wife's mind seems to be just getting started? Married with Benefits host Brian Goins, along with Harvard trained researcher Shaunti Feldhahn, discuss this and reveal a simple truth that explains so much about your wife. And they offer 3 steps you can take to navigate this late-night impasse.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Husbands, do you get tired head in conversations with your wife as she circles the airport but never lands the plane? Listen as Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn demystify this very common frustration. Understand the brain science behind these exchanges and, more importantly, learn two easy ways to start winning in these moments as the hero of her heart.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29
Your wife can't really be attracted to your "dad bod" right? A lot of guys assume they need to be workout warriors to be desiraable, but the reality is that a trip to the doctor is probably way more attractive to your wife than another tip to the gym. Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn offer husbands two tips for taking care of yourself, and one question you can ask that your wife will find irresistible.To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1659/29