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On this week's episode, we talk about financial health and how it is an essential part of self love, self care and self worth with the amazing Petra Remy. Petra is a senior wealth manager who is all about socially conscious investing and supporting women to achieve financial independence. With over 30 years experience and being the person I go to for financial advice, I thought she would be the perfect person to dive into the correlation between self love and the financial world. If you are new to financial literacy or are curious how your financial health is a part of self love, then this is the episode for you!

This episode covers:

• What is financial literacy and health?

• Who actually needs to be financially literate?

• Why financial education is self care and so important?

• Why do so many people not understand finance?

• Why financial health is a crucial part of self care and development?

• How people can start developing this part of their self care practice (how to get started)?

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On this week's episode, we talk about Apathy vs. Empathy and how they can both be good and bad, positive and negative. On this episode I dive into the importance of empathy and apathy in our everyday lives and how caring or not caring can become toxic. The episode goes into why apathy is seen as such a negative trait and how empathy such a good one, yet they both have their proper place in our lives. If you have ever struggled with caring too much or too little, then this is the episode for you!

This episode covers:

• When does caring become toxic and unhealthy?

• How apathy and empathy can be a positive and negative force in our lives?

• What is healthy empathy? How much should someone care about something?

• What is healthy apathy? When should we not care about something?

• Why is apathy seen as an inherently bad trait and empathy as a good one?

• My experience of empathy becoming toxic in social movements

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On this week's episode, we talk about how we only have one personality but so many sides of that personality that deserve to be expressed. On this episode I dive into the importance of figuring out all the different aspects of your personality and learning to accept and love them. The episode goes into how to become crystal clear on who you are and what actions you need to take to feel fully expressed and live life fully as your authentic character. If you want to feel like you are fully expressing all the different parts that make you shine, then this is the episode for you!

This episode covers:

• Why many people feel they have conflicting parts of their personality?

• How to become clear on who you are and the parts that make up your personality?

• What to do if you feel a lack of self expression in your life?

• What is The Personality Break Down exercise?

• How to channel different parts of you to use in different social situations?

• Why understanding and having acceptance for yourself will lead to self love?

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On this week's episode, we talk about all things mindfulness and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT). On this episode I dive into the importance of being a mindful person and how mindfulness practices in DBT have helped people with mild to severe mental health issues and can be used as a way to create more self compassion for oneself. The episode goes into how mindfulness is used in modern psychology and how you can practice mindfulness in every aspect of your life. If you want to be a more mindful person and add more tools to your mental toolbox to become a more present person, then this is the episode for you!

This episode covers:

• What is mindfulness?

• What is dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT)?

• What does mindfulness have to do with DBT?

• What are the 4 main strategies behind DBT?

• How to be a more mindful person?

• How to practice mindfulness?

• My personal experience with mindfulness, DBT and how it lead me to be able to meditate

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On this week's episode, we about the 5 main love languages and how they can transform your relationships. On this episode I dive into my experiences with learning my own and family members love languages and how that changed my relationships for the better and allowed me to feel truly loved by understanding how others love me. The episode goes into how different love languages don't separate us, but actually bring us closer by allowing us to understand our needs for ourselves and from others and how to communicate our love styles to others in our life.

This episode covers:

• What are the 5 main love languages?

• Who came up with the concept of love languages and the 5 main ones we discuss in modern psychology?

• Why is it important to understand our love languages and the love styles of people around us?

• How to improve your relationships through love languages?

• What to do when you have contrasting love languages to the people you love?

• My personal experience of love languages repairing and healing relationships

• Many examples of ways to express your love languages or honour your love ones love styles

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On this week's episode, we talk with Jill Rose from Jill Rose Coaching about rest, recuperation and resourcing and why it is such an important topic around self care, self worth and your overall health. On this episode we dive into our experiences or client's experiences with burnout, how to avoid it and what to do if you are burnt out already. The episode goes into how to keep up your energy and not just use sleep as a way to rest. We also talk about the importance of sleep and have some interesting sleep facts that will have you prioritizing rest from now on.

This episode covers:

• Why rest and resourcing is essential to a healthy counter balanced life?

• What happens to our bodies and mind when we slack on all forms of rest and sleep?

• What does having a healthy relationship to rest look like?

• What actually is a burnout, how can we avoid it and what to do if you are burnt out?

• What is resourcing and how you can utilize this practice to never run out of energy or feel drained?

• Many examples of good resting and resourcing practices you can adopt into your life

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On this week's episode, we talk more about owning who you are and being radically honest with ourselves about who we are not. On this episode we dive into how the easiest part of owning who we are is accepting the lighter sides of us, but in this episode we go into how to embrace the darker sides of us. The episode goes into how owning who you are completely is looking at the parts of us that are hard to accept and facing our fears, doubts and insecurities around them face on. Only when we face the darker sides of us, the hidden sides of us and bring them to the light, show them compassion and find true acceptance for them, will we be able to have authentic confidence and fully own who we are.

This episode covers:

• Owning who you are is not just accepting the easy or light stuff

• Why facing your shadows and darker parts can bring light to them

• How owning who you are might push people not meant for you away

• How to let yourself be your true authentic self even if it's a new pursuit for you

• How your desires are not shameful and they can lead you to the deepest connection with yourself and others

• How connecting and having compassion for both the light and the darkness to us is the key to truly owning who we are inside and out

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On this week's episode, we talk about owning who you are, who you are not and who you will or want to become. On this episode we dive into how to own who you are and why it is so important to understand who you are and who you are not. The episode goes into why learning this information about yourself and owning the good, the bad and the ugly is a sure way to create confidence, high self esteem and personal success in your life.

This episode covers:

• What does it mean to own who you are?

• Why you should learn who you are and who you are not?

• How owning your authentic self is a big factor in succeeding in anything you do

• How to learn who you truly are?

• How honesty with yourself will allow you to focus on what you are naturally good at

• What sort of ability do we have to create our present and future self?

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On this week's episode, we talk about all things codependency with my beautiful friend and coach Anouk Hajage. Anouk is a sex, love and relationship coach, and on our episode we dive into how people become codependent and how to heal yourself and your relationship from it if you are dealing with codependency. The episode goes into ways to tell if your relationship has a healthy level of dependency and independence and how to really work within your attachment styles to create a deep level of safety, support, love and compassion for yourself and your partner.

This episode covers:

• What is codependency?

• How and why do people become codependent?

• How to figure out if you or your partner are codependent?

• How to heal from codependency?

• How to work within your attachment style to develop deep clarity, understanding, safety and support with your partner

• Healthy boundaries to set up for yourself and your relationship to keep you both happy

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Resources from the Episode:

The Attachment Style Quiz

Getting The Love You Want Revised Edition: A Guide for Couples

From Harville Hendrix (Book)

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain Can Help You Defuse Conflicts and Spark Intimacy

From Stan Tatkin (Book)

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On this week's episode, we talk about taking leaps of faith with my dear friend Sam Hawkins. This week's episode dives into why taking positive and calculated risks is a huge factor in going after your dreams and learning to trust yourself fully. The episode goes into our small and big experiences of taking leaps of faith and how taking risks has challenged us and allowed us to grow exponentially. If you want to know what it takes to jump out of your comfort zone and into what you desire most, then this is the episode for you!

This episode covers:

• What is a leap of faith?

• What are some of our first and biggest leaps of faith?

• Why taking positive risks in important?

• How to motivate yourself to take a leap of faith?

• Some of the challenges of calculated risk taking

• The reported satisfaction of people who take risks in life and those who don't

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On this week's episode, we talk about EFT Tapping with Ann Petersen from TapWithAnn. This week's episode dives into what tapping is all about and how it can be helpful to you in your life. The episode goes into Ann's personal experience becoming an EFT Tapping, Empowerment and Conscious Dating coach and how tapping also helped me through heartbreak. If you have ever wondering what Tapping is all about or been skeptical of it all, this is the episode for you!

This episode covers:

• What is EFT Tapping and how it can help your overall well-being?

• Ann's personal experience of becoming an EFT practitioner and how Tapping helped her on her journey to self love

• How to start a Tapping practice?

• How I was introduced to Tapping and how it helped me through heartbreak

• Tips on when and where to Tap

• Information about the hundreds of studies proving the important effects tapping has on our physical and mental health

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On this week's episode, we talk about accepting change and how change is an inevitable part of life but can be approached with love and grace. This week's episode dives into the types of change and how to approach change in all aspects of your life. The episode goes into my personal experience with accepting change in the hardest and most beautiful year of my life. I also share a piece I wrote that has helped me work through the challenges of acceptance and letting go.

This episode covers:

• How everyone goes through big changes in life, loss and grief

• What can change impact and feel like in our lives? What is natural and normal?

• How to navigate change and acceptance?

• How to let go and understand why it can feel hard to do?

• Tips on how to become stronger through difficult changes in life 

• My personal experience with the hardest acceptance of change in my life

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On this week's episode, we talk about how important a practice of gratitude is on your life. This week's episode dives into the elements of gratitude and it's researched effects on your happiness and relationship with others. The episode goes into my personal eye opening experiences with my daily practice of gratitude and some things I have learned from people in my life around gratitude as well!

This episode covers:

• What having gratitude really is?

• Who can benefit from creating a practice around gratitude?

• How to start practicing gratitude on your own and with the people in your life?

• Why an attitude of gratitude is essential to having a happy and fulfilled life and the research to back up this fact

Article from Harvard Medical School Giving thanks can make you happier

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On this week's episode, we talk about the spontaneous tattoo I got last night and what lesson I learned to encourage it all. This week's episode has a different format but is all about the importance of slowing down. The episode goes into my experiences with meaningful body art and how learning to slow down has changed my life and can change yours as well!

This episode covers:

• Why I decided to get a spontaneous tattoo?

• Why is slowing down really important and why you should incorporate it into your life?

• Ideas on how to slow down every day and practice mindfulness

• How slowing down can allow you to live life to the absolute fullest

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On this week's episode, we talk about all things respect. Self-Respect is one of the most important factors to having a healthy self-esteem and teaching others how to treat you. Self-Respect also has much to do with how you interact with others around you and how the way you interact with yourself influences that. This episode breaks down the steps for you to develop self-respect and create a healthy self-esteem for yourself. If you have been lost on where to create boundaries for yourself or others, this is a great episode for you!

This episode covers:

• What is respect and self-respect?

• What does a healthy sense of respect look like for yourself and others?

• The 4 steps to creating self-respect in your life and how that will gain you respect from the people in your life.

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In this episode, the truth bomb about worthiness is out of the bag. I go into detail about my own personal experiences with feelings of unworthiness and how you can understand your own self worth. You were born worthy, you do not need to do anything to have self worth, except for learn to see your own worthiness. This episode breaks down the steps for you to practice and create the self worth that will stick with you for a lifetime.

This episode covers:

• What is self worth?

• How do I create self worth?

• My personal story and struggle with worthiness

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On this week's episode, I teach you what self-trust truly is and how you can develop it in your own life. Without a clear understanding of self-trust, you can become unhappy with your life and never feel like you are succeeding or accomplishing what you want to accomplish. This episode breaks down the steps for you to practice and create the trust within yourself that will make you the most confident person.

This episode covers:

• What is self-trust?

• How do we lose trust in ourselves?

• What do we need to do to build self-trust and become authentically confident people?

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On this week's episode, I introduce you to the concept of self-love. What self-love is and what it is not. This episode breaks down the opposite of self-love being selfishness and dives deeper into the idea of selflessness and how they all differ.

This episode covers:

• What is self-love?

• What is selfishness?

• What is selflessness?

• How these three concepts are not the same and how important it is to know the difference for your self love and self improvement journey

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