The Humans We Are: Recent Episodes
Carola
The Humans We Are is a place to understand ourselves better, why we are the way we are, why we think, feel and do, what we think, feel and do.And also to learn how to become more of who we want to be. I'm grateful that you're coming along for the ride!
In today’s episode of The Humans We Are, I’m diving into something very close to my heart: The Journey, a coaching program I’ve been running this year.
If you’re a professional woman in your forties, you’ve likely hit many of those big life milestones you set out for yourself years ago. But what happens when you achieve those goals and still feel something is missing? Or worse, what if you realize those milestones weren’t truly yours to begin with?
Join me as I explore how so many of us, having sacrificed and worked tirelessly to "make it," still find ourselves longing for something more—something real, authentic, and true to who we are. It’s time to reconnect with your true self, set your own terms for success, and make the changes you desire, with compassion and intentionality.
Whether it’s about finding your voice, redefining your career, or simply making space for yourself, this episode will guide you in taking those first steps. Ready to start your own journey? Let’s do this together.
In this episode of The Humans We Are, we’re diving into something essential yet often overlooked: the art of taking breaks.
Have you ever felt so disconnected from your body that you don’t even realize when it’s crying out for rest? You’re not alone.
Today, I’ll share simple, effective strategies to help you reconnect with your body and mind, making those much-needed daily breaks a reality—even when time feels tight.
Remember, it’s not about finding time; it’s about making it.
Join me as we explore how to prioritize your well-being, one mindful moment at a time.
In this episode we cover a topic that touches all of us: understanding what we truly want.
Do you ever find yourself unsure of your next step, or even afraid to admit what you desire? You’re not alone. Many of us struggle with the question, “What do I really want?”—and the answers are often more complex than they seem.
Join me as we explore the common reasons behind this uncertainty and how to gently uncover your true desires.
This isn’t about forcing yourself into action or making drastic changes overnight. Instead, we’ll talk about the importance of honesty with yourself and how that honesty can open doors you didn’t even realize were closed.
If you’ve ever felt stuck, or if you’re just curious about how to connect more deeply with what you really want in life, this episode is for you.
Tune in, and let’s discover together what the human you are truly wants.
In this episode, we explore the nuanced balance between self-love and self-transformation.
How do we cherish who we are at this moment while still striving for personal growth and change?
Join me as we explore the dynamic interplay of acceptance and aspiration, and unravel the myth that you must choose between loving yourself and evolving.
We'll discuss practical ways to embrace change without self-rejection, leveraging self-love as a powerful foundation for achieving your dreams.
Tune in to discover how to harmonize the love for your current self with the drive towards who you want to become—because true self-kindness includes both acceptance and ambition.
In this shorter episode, I delve into a profound mindset shift that will resonate deeply with anyone who loves capturing life's beautiful moments.
Whether it's a stunning sunset or a precious time with loved ones, technology has permeated the way we experience life... but there's a different way to appreciate these experiences.
Join me as I explore how we can fully embrace and enjoy these fleeting moments, and why sometimes, it's better to just be present.
Curious? Tune in to discover a fresh perspective that might change how you see and experience the world around you.
In this episode, I share insights from my recent visit to my mom, where I faced old family dynamics and practiced strategies for managing difficult relationships.
I share about the challenge of taking breaks when feeling tense and the discomfort of breaking the old habits of taking abuse and push through it.
I also delve into a significant realization about my dad's behavior under stress and how it helped me find compassion.
Through this journey, I learned to accept my parents' flaws and my own, leading to a more peaceful and relaxed perspective.
Tune in to hear more about these personal revelations and how they might help you in your own family relationships.
In today's episode, I'm diving into something deeply personal—my upcoming visit to my mom’s house.
Growing up, we didn't have the closest relationship, and now, as I prepare to see her, I find myself needing to be very intentional.
I'll share how I plan to navigate this visit with compassion and presence, despite our complicated past.
From accepting who she is to taking breaks when needed, this is about parenting myself through a challenging family dynamic.
If you’re in a similar situation, I hope my experience and strategies can offer some support and inspiration.
(Note: I labeled this one as "Explicit Content" because there's a brief mention of child molestation.
We receive and put out bids for connection all the time, but when we don't recognize them for what they are, we might get in trouble.
Today’s episode is about a profound realization I had on the journey to happiness.
Often, we're told to practice gratitude to feel joy, especially when our lives seem great on paper—good job, family, stability.
Yet, despite all these blessings, many still feel stressed, exhausted, and unfulfilled.
It's like having appendicitis; you can't enjoy a healthy body if you're in pain.
The same goes for life. It's not just about achievements; it's about having the mental and emotional space to appreciate them.
We need to address our inner turmoil, the 'infections,' to truly enjoy life.
Let’s explore this deeper, so we can find peace and happiness from a place of self-love and compassion, not just gratitude alone.
Today's episode tackles a common struggle many face: setting and maintaining boundaries.
Using fictional examples, we explore scenarios where boundaries are tested and compromised.
Joann, a work-from-home mom, sets clear boundaries with her children, only to find them ignored when her daughter interrupts her work.
Similarly, Lisa faces boundary challenges at work when her boss disregards her request not to take on new clients.
We delve into the three crucial components of effective boundaries: clear definition, recognition of boundary violations, and predetermined actions.
We must understand that we must enforce boundaries, even when others push back. Building resilience to tolerate discomfort is key to upholding boundaries without caving to external pressure.
In today's episode, I want to revisit a familiar topic but with a fresh perspective.
I stumbled upon a young musician named Ren, whose song "Hi Ren" struck a chord with me (please go look him up).
Watching the accompanying video reinforced the importance of acknowledging the various parts within ourselves.
Whether it's through Internal Family Systems therapy or other self-exploration methods, recognizing these internal components has been transformative for me and my clients.
We often identify with unhelpful inner voices, believing them to be our entire selves.
However, every part within us serves a purpose, aiming to protect us in its unique way.
Instead of trying to change these parts, we can learn to connect with them and assign leadership roles to more suitable aspects of ourselves.
This journey of self-discovery allows us to embrace all our parts, finding harmony between shadow and light.
In this episode, I share a simple question that very powerfully helps you see a more helpful reality.
Today we explore the concept that our perceptions of reality are heavily influenced by our internal state.
In this episode we weigh the importance of self-awareness and personal growth, considering that changing ourselves impacts how we experience life.
In this episode, join me in exploring the intricate layers of aging.
Reflecting on my journey and inviting listeners to delve into their own, we challenge societal norms and perceptions surrounding aging and appearances around aging and youthfulness.
From personal experiences to societal pressures, we unravel the complexities of feeling younger or older and invite introspection into our relationship with age.
Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that redefines the narrative of aging and celebrates the richness of life's experiences.
In this episode of "The Humans We Are," I explore a powerful Buddhist parable that offers profound insights into how we can navigate life's challenges with greater ease and resilience.
Tune in to discover how understanding this parable can help you avoid unnecessary suffering and find peace as you navigate life's storms.
In this episode, we dive into a common misconception about resilience and how it might hold you back from your dreams.
I share a client's powerful phrase that sparked this discussion and offer a new perspective on what resilience truly means.
Rather than enduring discomfort, resilience is about embracing it without letting it control you.
I explain how growing your capacity to tolerate discomfort can empower you to take action and create positive change in your life.
Plus, I share a simple practice to help you build resilience today.
Tune in for a fresh approach to facing life's challenges head-on.
After a 6-month break, I’m back to share the whirlwind of life events that kept me away.
From a tough move to coping with illness and loss, it’s been a rollercoaster ride.
But in the chaos, I'm finding clarity and a renewed sense of purpose.
Join me as I unpack the challenges, lessons, and silver linings that shaped my journey. Plus, discover what’s in store for the future of this podcast.
Whether you’re here for the ups and downs, or just a curious listener, I appreciate your presence.
Tune in to reconnect and explore what’s next on this unpredictable adventure we call life.
In this episode, we dive into a familiar dynamic: wanting the best version of our partners.
It's a journey from envisioning idealized versions to embracing who they truly are.
I share experiences, exploring how to communicate needs and desires with compassion.
It's all about accepting them without conditions while understanding our own needs.
Ultimately, we learn that real love starts with acknowledging and loving the current, unaltered version of ourselves and our partners.
Tune in to enrich your relationships and celebrate the beauty of authenticity.
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In this episode, we're delving deep into the journey of shifting from guilt-ridden self-neglect to fully embracing self-care as an act of self-love and gratitude.
I'm sharing some powerful insights and practical strategies that have been game-changers for me and my clients.
We're drawing inspiration from the analogy of the oxygen mask on an airplane, what I like and what I dislike about that example, that is so common nowadays.
By focusing on nurturing ourselves and understanding the importance of taking more than we give, we're not only ensuring our own well-being but also enhancing our capacity to support and give to others sustainably.
We'll also explore the common discomfort many of us feel when receiving, and why it's crucial to overcome this barrier.
Ultimately, my aim is to inspire you to embrace self-care with open arms and an open heart, helping you craft a life that's not just balanced but deeply fulfilling.
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In this episode, we dive into the topics of change, discomfort, and the human experience.
I want you to know that if you can dream of a different life, you can create it. Belief in its possibility is key.
It's a lifelong journey, a thrilling adventure where you're constantly evolving.
But I won't sugarcoat it; change is tough.
You may oscillate between deserving and doubting, and that's okay.
Changing is uncomfortable, messy, and not a quick fix.
You're choosing between familiar discomfort and the productive kind that leads to what you truly desire.
So, embark on this journey, embrace the productive discomfort, and craft a life you love.
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In this episdoe, we explore how we need to create safety if we want to slowi down, as childhood norms may disconnect us.
Challenge these patterns, recalibrate danger perception, and embrace a journey to slow down. Prioritize screen-free, nurturing moments for nervous system regulation.
Release the idea of earning rest and challenge fear-based stories. Reconnect with your body, emotions, and environment.
Book a free consult at www.carolafuertes.com/consult for personalized guidance on this journey.
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n this episode, I explore the complex journey of being there for loved ones who are entrenched in their pain.
"Witnessing Others' Suffering Without Fixing" delves into the struggle of wanting to help while respecting their autonomy to heal on their own terms.
I discuss how our own growth might tempt us to guide them, but genuine support lies in being present without imposing solutions.
It's about building the capacity to hold discomfort and honor their journey.
Through personal insights and practical advice, this episode guides listeners to love unconditionally, allow vulnerability, and offer assistance only when sought. Join me to learn the art of empathetic witnessing.
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In this episode we explore the importance of reattuning to your body's biological wisdom to experience a more fulfilling life.
We discuss the need to embrace both pleasant and unpleasant sensations in our bodies to break free from numbing and avoidance.
By building somatic capacity, we can navigate discomfort and become bold in pursuing our desires while enjoying the rewards.
We talk abou the concepts of "toxic positivity" and "spiritual bypassing", which hinder our connection with our bodies.
Through small steps of reconnecting with our biological impulses, we can strengthen our bond with ourselves and unlock a path to authentic joy and well-being.
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In this heartfelt episode, I bravely share personal experiences and explore the importance of reattuning to our bodies' biological wisdom.
Our modern, fast-paced lives often disconnect us from our natural signals, leading to a loss of connection with ourselves.
I encourage listeners to follow their biological impulses, like attending to thirst, hunger, and rest, to begin the process of reconnection.
By honoring these cues, we can start the journey of reconnection, embracing our body's inner guidance and rediscovering its hidden potential.
Emphasizing the importance of slowly reconnecting with our capacity to inhabit the body, I offer practical tips and insights on embracing our biological wisdom.
Join me in this transformative journey as we explore the power of reattunement to nurture authenticity and self-care.
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Hey, amazing humans! In this episode of "The Humans We Are," I'm delving deep into the world of anxiety. Ever feel constantly on edge, even when everything seems fine? I get it! I'll share why our brains act like detectives, seeking danger everywhere, and how old survival patterns can still haunt us. But don't fret! I've got some nifty tricks to break free from that anxiety and find that inner peace we all crave. It's all about rewiring and creating new capacities in our systems. So let's shake off the stress and embrace a happier, calmer life. You've got this! 🌟
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This week I noticed a common pattern among my clients that I just had to share with you.
It's all about reconnecting with our self-sufficiency and how it can free us from fear of losing our job, that can often make you stay in unpleasant circumstances and conditions.
I had clients who were feeling unsupported at work and allowing their boundaries to be crossed because they were afraid of losing their jobs.
But here's the thing, we often forget that our sufficiency doesn't solely depend on our employers or clients.
I dive into the power of remembering our own value, skills, and ability to provide for ourselves.
By reconnecting with our self-sufficiency, we can break free from fear and empower ourselves to not settle for less.
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In this episode, I dive into something that so many of us can relate to: wanting to help our loved ones who are going through tough times.
I've been there myself, wanting to share all the amazing things I've learned about personal growth and mindset.
But here's the thing, it's not always easy to get them to listen or make changes.
I share key insights on how to navigate this situation with love and compassion.
We'll explore the power of acceptance, the art of sharing without pushing, and the importance of respecting each person's journey.
Let's create positive ripples together!
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In this episode, I want to share something important with you: you don't need to find fancy hacks or tricks to be more motivated and feel good about yourself at the end of the day.
We often fall into the motivation trap, believing that we must constantly be productive to feel good about ourselves.
But what if I told you that your worth isn't tied to your accomplishments? Instead, I'll explore the power of embracing self-worth and finding fulfillment beyond external validation.
We'll uncover the freedom that comes with letting go of the need to constantly prove ourselves and discover how this mindset shift can actually fuel genuine productivity.
Get ready to break free from the motivation trap and embrace your inherent worth.
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In this episode, I share a powerful insight that came from a coaching session with a former client.
We delve into the dynamics of relationships and how we often find ourselves taking on the role of the peacekeeper, sacrificing our own emotional needs to maintain harmony.
But there comes a point when resentment starts to build, and we question whether our needs matter.
We explore the concept of Emotional Capacity and how it relates to managing discomfort in relationships.
By recognizing that we can't control our partner's emotions, we can focus on expanding our own Emotional Capacity and holding space for both ourselves and our partner.
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In this episode, I share a conversation I had with a coach friend who has been diligently planting seeds in her business, expecting them to bear fruit.
As I reflect on my own coaching company, I realize how often I find myself waiting for future outcomes and expecting that I will feel happy and fulfilled then, instead of fully appreciating the present achievements.
It's a common habit among my clients as well.
So, today I want to invite you to pause and consider where your energy is focused.
Are you constantly in seed-planting mode, overlooking the sprouted seeds and fruits you already have? Taking them for granted?
By celebrating and enjoying what you have created so far, you can break free from the cycle of constant striving and find fulfillment in the present moment.
It's time to acknowledge and cherish the results of your past efforts, recognizing how far you've come!
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In this episode, we dive into the power of asking and answering our own questions, and how it can awaken our inner guide.
Drawing inspiration from Tony Robbins' insight that "the quality of our life depends on the quality of our questions", we explore how our internal dialogue shapes our perception of ourselves and the world.
By replacing negative self-interrogation with empowering questions, we can unlock new possibilities and transform our lives.
We discuss the importance of self-affirmation and the practice of answering our own questions, reminding you that your opinions and insights are valuable.
Join me on this journey of self-discovery and learn how to awaken your inner guide through the art of questioning.
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I've been reflecting a lot on the blue pill / red pill concept from The Matrix.
You know, that choice between staying in a comfortable illusion or facing the truth, even if it's uncomfortable.
Lately, I've noticed a common thread among my coaching clients – they're being really mean to themselves in their own minds. We're talking negative self-talk, self-judgment, and all that jazz.
I want to explore these self-critical moments and invite you to choose the red pill of self-compassion.
It's not about blaming ourselves for the past, but about embracing the power of choice in how we treat ourselves.
Let's dive in and free ourselves from the suffering of self-judgment.
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In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the universal story of a client facing a dilemma at work.
Struggling with an unsupportive boss and an overwhelming workload, she fears repeating past patterns of dissatisfaction. We debunk the myth of returning to undesired situations, emphasizing that while circumstances may appear similar, we are never the same person and each experience brings growth.
By consciously seeking differences, recognizing progress, and embracing the spiral of personal growth, we can break free from fear and embrace endless possibilities. Strategies like self-awareness, curiosity, and resilience support our journey.
Let go of the illusion and join me on The Humans We Are as we embrace the spiral and keep growing.
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Today, I want to share a personal story with you. Surprisingly, I found myself in a church recently, attending a mass at my son's school. Now, if you know me, you'd be surprised because I'm not a religious person. I consider myself more spiritual, with unconventional beliefs that go beyond traditional religions. It's unexpected for those close to my husband and me to know that we send our kids to Catholic schools. But there's a reason behind it, a fortunate twist of fate.
While I was raised Catholic, my family wasn't deeply involved in the church. I went through the rituals of baptism and first communion but decided not to take the sacrament of confirmation. As I grew older, my scientific mind and the negative aspects of organized religion pushed me further away from spirituality.
However, sending our kids to Catholic school has challenged my perspectives on religion and spirituality. It's been an intriguing journey that constantly pushes me to reconsider my beliefs. Sometimes, I wish I could approach it more lightly, viewing it as a mere set of practices. But that's not the path I've chosen for this lifetime.
Today, I want to share a reflection on love. Spirituality allows me to experience incredible emotions, feel connected to all beings, and appreciate the beauty of creation. In my relationship with the Catholic Church, I realized that I had thrown out the baby with the bathwater. Attending the mass with my family brought forth overwhelming love and joy. It made me realize that we often close ourselves off to the love, abundance, and beauty available to us.
Just like my experience with nature during the pandemic, where I initially felt disconnected in my urban surroundings, I learned to open my heart and embrace the nature that was already present. Similarly, I invite you to consider where you might be blocking yourself from joy, love, and abundance due to broad, high-level decisions or unquestioned beliefs.
Take a moment to reflect on your spirituality, the love available to you, the appreciation and support from those around you, the abundance within reach, and the opportunities that may be waiting for you. Can you open your heart to receive what's there for you? I sincerely hope you will.
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As a coach, I often see people feeling emotionally and mentally drained due to their jobs or relationships.
Recently, a physician client of mine shared how she was taking on her patients' emotions, which was affecting her overall wellbeing.
This happens in many professions, especially for empathetic individuals. It's crucial to protect your mental and emotional health by setting boundaries and communicating your needs.
Don't allow others to take your energy and harm you.
Take responsibility for your wellbeing and take care of your human.
It's time to prioritize yourself and your boundaries.
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This week has been challenging for me.
I've been feeling off and not quite like myself. I've noticed that in the mornings, I've been feeling anxious and rushed, even when I'm not running late.
This has affected my interactions with my kids, making me more irritable and short-tempered with them. Even during lunch with my husband, I've been impatient and wanting him to finish quickly.
Negative thoughts have been more prevalent, making me approach my son more sternly, leading to arguments.
My driving, which is usually enjoyable, has become more stressful.
However, I've learned to give myself compassion, name my emotions, and acknowledge the facts to treat myself better and work through these feelings.
I know the lessons I learned will resonate with you too... come listen in.
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How do you treat yourself when things don't go according to plan? What is your internal dialogue like? Do you have an inner critic that's constantly telling you you're not good enough or that you can't have what you want?
It's easy to fall into the trap of believing negative thoughts about ourselves, especially when others are saying hurtful things or questioning our integrity. But it's important to remember that we are the only ones who truly know who we are, and we shouldn't let others define us.
Loving ourselves unconditionally can be difficult, especially when it feels like others don't love or accept us. But it's in those moments when we need to show ourselves the most love and kindness. Love is not just a feeling, but also an action that we can take to show ourselves that we are worthy of love and acceptance, no matter what anyone else thinks.
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Understanding how the nervous system works in general, and getting to know YOUR nervous system and how it has adapted throughout your life, how your PERSONAL Nervous System’s responses of fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, are calibrated, is probably the most important thing you can do to support yourself in your day to day, and also to move towards any goal.
The reason this is SO important is that your Nervous System determines how you react and experience your life, even before you’re able to consciously think helpful thoughts and potentially reframe a challenging situation.
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Frustration wants you to stop. Because it’s safe and familiar to not do something new.
So if you stop, Frustration wins.
Don't let it win.
In this episode, I share how I helped my daughter overcome frustration with a simply strategy that will help you too.
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If you’ve been considering changing jobs or even careers.
If you’re not sure about your relationship
If you are considering an investment that you aren’t sure about
Maybe you want to make a trip
Whatever it is…
It’s so easy to let yourself coast with the inertia of life… and sometimes, in the back of our minds, we just want to wait and let things resolve themselves. And sometimes that works.
But, if you’re not happy now if you’re not fulfilled now. Waiting comes at a cost.
So what to do?
Listen in to find out...
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If you’ve ever felt relief when someone else had a similar painful experience as you did, like for example they too, were fired, they too, were passed on for a promotion, they too were complained about, they too were accused of something they didn’t do, they too were misjudged, misrepresented, they too were cheated on, they too made a big mistake…
And if a part of you feels shame and judges you for feeling that way, this episode is for you
I'm sharing a very vulnerable experience that's currently still unfolding for me, in the hopes that it will help you too
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I was sitting on the couch in the living room, and my kids were there with me, we were all cozy with our blankets, and on the screen… one of the Minions movies.
I had decided that I wanted to spend more time with the kids. I really wanted to be more present in their day-to-day lives. Especially because over the pandemic, and since I work from home, they had gotten used to me being NI the house, but not being really THERE for them… I could see how that was confusing and frustrating to them… I was there so close physically, but I wasn’t available to them. And I wanted that to change, I really wanted to “spend more time together” and be more present with them.
If you’ve ever been in a similar position, maybe you too have decided to make this a priority and to make time for it. Which is not always easy, but we do it because it’s important.
The kids were really into it, they were loving it! Do you know how kids can be so focused sometimes when what they’re watching interests them?
At one point, they both let out a big laugh and looked at me, kind of like when you want to share the funny moment… and I hadn’t even caught it. Under my blanket, I had unlocked my phone, and I was ordering groceries online. Ok, ok, to be honest… I may have been scrolling on IG...
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This week I share with you the story of how one of my clients shifted her thinking about asking for a raise, which took her from frustrated and resentful, to empowered and in control.
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Pain is unavoidable in human life, but suffering is optional.
If like I did, you are unconsciously believing this thought, you are creating unnecessary suffering in your life.
Listen in to figure out if you do, and what to do about it!
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In this episode, I explain the framework that has been a gamechanger for my clients and for myself.
Some ways in which my life has changed, and yours could too:
- It’s given me a deeper respect and even reverence for this body, which now is way harder for me to criticize and judge harshly in any way. It makes me be grateful for this human body that partners with me, and it makes me want to take care of it, and show more respect.
- It makes me more patient and compassionate when I notice patterns of thinking or behavior that this human has automated over the years, which have served me in some ways. And if I want to change them now, that’s all fine and dandy, but that doesn’t justify or give me permission today to be a jerk to the human that I was before in the past, whether the past is 5 years, 20 years, or 5 minutes ago
- It makes me really curious, and it makes me really want to know myself as a human better. What this human likes and doesn’t like, what comes easy to her, and hard, what she thrives at, what shuts her off. It makes it more accessible to be gentle and kind to myself.
- It makes it easier to be kind when teaching myself something new, whether a new skill, behavior, or new way of thinking.
- It makes my experiences of this human life more fun. It makes me want to be more present in it.
- It makes me want to get more in touch with emotions, I want to really feel.
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Virtually none of us (or maybe very few) have been directly taught to think highly of ourselves, or how to build a great relationship with ourselves.
We didn’t have anyone model that to us either.
So now, that we are old enough we get to teach ourselves how to have that relationship.
We get to pick what we want to believe about ourselves and what is possible for us.
While it’s very exciting, it may also feel overwhelming and confusing at first.
So listen in and follow along with my suggestions to start building an amazing relationship with yourself today.
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With this guided meditation you will be able to process any uncomfortable feeling that you may experience, without stuffing it down or ignoring it.
The more you practice this simple exercise, the easier it gets.
You'll find that you get relief just from doing the meditation which will make it easier to not use your old and well-practiced coping mechanisms that you may be trying to rewire (like overeating, over-drinking, overworking, blaming, etc.)
And not only that, expanding your capacity to hold emotions will increase your resilience so your capacity to experience unpleasant emotions and not experience damage from them will increase. When your container is bigger, you can also hold more pleasant emotions, so next time something really amazing happens and you feel super happy about it, you won't start poking holes, discounting it, or waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Emotions are a real superpower when we develop the skill to really feel them instead of avoiding them!
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Everything you want in life, everything you do is because you’re either chasing a pleasant feeling or running away from an unpleasant one.
We don't really want things for the sake of having the things, not even experiences. We chase the feeling that we think is going to be triggered in us as a reaction to having the thing or living the experience.
So, if you’re always chasing a feeling, if you want to feel better or less bad, you'd better practice feeling how you want to feel in advance, because if you risk actually creating a ton of disappointment.
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How you use your time determines the quality of your life.
I believe that you chose to come here and if you spend your time unintentionally distracting yourself with TV, food, and social media, you are not honoring yourself, or the decision that your higher self made coming here.
When you are intentional about the way you use your time, It shows you that you’re way more in control of your life, than you might think you are… and that is everything, my friend. So many clients that I have the honor to coach have some area in their life where they don’t feel empowered and feel like they are at the effect of a circumstance or person.
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The first tool you should use to create your own personal version of a life well lived is this Value Alignment Check.
In this episode, I answer these three questions:
- What is a Value Alignment Check?
- Why it’s important and you should do it at the very least once in your life?
- How to do it on your own?
Listen until the end if you want to know how to get your hands on a special free gift I created for you to support you in this exercise.
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Let's talk about using your resources of time, attention, energy, and money on things that you want or need... how do you feel about it? Why?
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It’s important to have some notion of what a life well lived is to YOU, because the answer will be very personal.
Knowing what that looks like for you, will help you make decisions in the present to make sure you’re aligned with that.
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Even if you're not aware of it, it's likely you've been learning to push down your wishes and desires since a very early age.
Either because they wanted to spare us from pain if we didn't get what we wanted, or because of the scarcity of thinking that there isn't enough for everyone to get what they want, or because you associated wanting "too much" with negative personality traits... it's likely that you trained yourself out of knowing and owning that you want what you want.
Some of my clients have a hard time even answering the question "what do you want?" because they have tuned it out so much that they don't know anymore and it feels like a foreign concept.
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I've seen most of us have a misguided understanding of Unconditional Love that makes it harder for us to experience it and can even become counterproductive.
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If you set goals, and you don't hit them (even if you come close) you may be using the gap between the result you ended up with and the original goal against yourself.
In this episode, I offer a new way of viewing goals that will make them way more helpful and fun to set.
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If you've ever found yourself caught in a negative thought loop, where you can't break out of it because it's like your brain is falling down a negative spiral that you can't escape... this is for you.
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Allow me to briefly set the intentions and logistics for this show, and also introduce myself, if we haven't met yet.