The Alliyah Show: Recent Episodes
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Let’s talk confidence, empowerment and transformation from the point of view of a something Heart Attack Warrior. I’m blunt; this is real life. Things on the agenda include: Laws of Attraction, mindset, manifestation, cultural restraints and tackling them, empowerment and transformation.
Episode 21 Am I the only one that gets frustrated with piles of items that don't have a home because they need to be either recycled or good willed? That's random right for a Podcaster to say. Not really. You see when things no longer serve us purpose they get in the way and become a hinderance. When connections such as relationships no longer serve us any positive purpose they do the same. They block the amazing from coming into our lives. They become stale. And in some connections we become quite resentful and our vibe (personal frequency) turns negative which starts to impact our lives in all areas. Because what we radiate out in terms of our vibe we attract more of. In this episode I'm talking to you about why you need to remove any connections that do not serve you or your purpose (or the goal you are working towards) because excess baggage will only weigh you down. You wouldn't take clothes you are going to give away to good will (charity) on holiday with you if you needed to pay extra would you? These connections are costing you more than you can imagine. Start the declutter as soon as you listen to this episode.
You've heard of the Laws of Attraction whereby LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE.
But have you ever heard of it's bestie the Law of Detachment? No. Well my friend this could be what is blocking you from manifesting your desires into your life.
You see to manifest we must trust the Universe is bringing it in. But if we obsess over the end result our vibe becomes desperate and negative. This pushes your manifestation further out because to manifest anything positive you need to caste a positive vibe out.
In this episode allow me to introduce my friend.....The Laws of Detachment.
Happy Manifesting my Warrior friend.
Episode 24
When we go through transformational work we sometimes forget that the journey is personal and may not resonate with everyone. Not all your friends and family will get what you are doing. Not everyone is ready for growth at the same time as you. And that's fine.
It can become an issue when those that do not understand your journey try to sabotage you by influencing you in a negative way.
When you do not bow down to the influence of others you will find that some will no longer wish to interact with you. And that's fine. If someone cannot get in with your program you don't need them. Harsh but true.
Today I am talking about losing friends and how to move beyond it.
Warrior friend are you ready?
Episode 23 When I decided to ask for a divorce I felt every emotion possible. I was tackling mental health issues including depression and I knew that I was prolonging the evitable. The process was not easy; not because the legal steps were hard. It was more about fighting the stigma of divorce within my family. In this episode I talk about how it went for me. If I can do it heck you can too. Calling time on any relationship is hard. Being brown makes it a bit harder when you add in culture, stigma, honour systems and expectations placed upon us by who we are. Our colour and culture becomes our definition. It was no easy journey; but the result was I regained my freedom. Warrior are you ready to take back your empowerment in a relationship that is no longer serving any purpose to you?
Episode: 22
There's so much emphasis placed on being your happy, content glorious perfect self 365 days a year that we forget we're human. We have off days. We neglect our bodies signals that we just need a day to rest and accept that we need to charge ourselves like we charge our phones.
You are not Mary Poppins. You are not a robot. You do not need to put a mask on and pretend everything is okay when you are not okay. You need to go easy on you. You need to give yourself permission to just slob out.
Previously I never gave myself permission to have a day off when I was feeling down (or not okay). I'd push myself because I was expected to get on with it. After all I am a woman. I should just do it.
After embarking on my empowerment journey I realised the importance of being able to acknowledge those days when I was not okay. Why? Because I am human. I have the right to turn off, recharge, reflect and say hey today isn't going to be as productive as the rest of my week and that's okay.
Being a superhero is coolio; but being a superhero that knows when to rest is better.
Self love...we've all heard about it but do we understand it?
Self love isn't you having a soak in the bath whilst children are asleep. It's not eating a meal in peace and quiet. It's not doing the tasks you need to remain healthy and sane.
Its about you....but not as you know it.
In this episode I'm talking more about self love and what is really means to me. Let's get into this...after all this is the season of love.
Episode 20
Self sabotage; the enemy of self development goals everywhere.
Most of us at some point have self sabotaged our own growth in order to remain comfortable in our comfort zone. Rather than accepting that we are embarking on a new adventure and we may fail but we will always learn we start to fail before we even start.
I was far too scared when I decided I needed to put myself out there beyond audio...and I self sabotaged. After all I was a Coach. An empowerment Coach I needed to be out there. And then one day it dawned on me that my biggest hurdle wasn't what I thought I lacked; it was the unlimited negative thoughts and fears that were swamping by brain that I needed to remove.
I broke the train and thought and I tackled it. And believe me you can too.
Let's do it together.
Episode 19.
IF YOU ARE LIVING TO THE STANDARDS OF OTHERS you will never gain control of your life.
I was a damn people pleaser. I bent over backwards, did cartwheels and put everyone in front of myself and my basic needs. Why? I had a low level of self love which was at the root of my lack of self love.
As I didn't love myself or even realise my true worth I wanted others to love me. To make me feel whole. Complete. Valued. I wanted to validate my existence.
So I allowed others to treat me like a doormat and I had no healthy boundaries.
Then I had my Heart Attack. Suddenly I had to self reflect. I had to treat the disease that was making me abuse myself. And this included people pleasing.
Do you people please? Ask yourself why you do it. What is at the foundation of this self destructive behaviour.
People pleasing is you living my others standards. Not your own.
In this episode we're talking all things people pleasing and why you need to STOP; now.
The murder of Sarah Everard is installing fear in the majority of women up and down the country. But is living in fear our only option? We cannot bring back Sarah and she will always remain one of US. What we can do is unite and empower our communities and loved ones. Men! We need you too. Why? Because this is about uniting and creating an empowerment movement where we are ALL safe. Enough is enough.
You’ve set a goal and now you feel antsy. You are struggling to fit the goal into your life. You don’t know how to tackle it. You push it to one side and don’t make any plans to progress with it. But you want things to happen. Of course you do. But this is a cycle you’ve repeated for years. Fear throws you off. You ain’t chasing the dream your running from it! Let’s take back control warriors and tackle this resistance....NOW.
When we broadcast all our business onto platforms that are public we are openly providing information on ourselves that can be critiqued, bashed about and even laughed at. This can result in a knock of confidence and becoming the gossiped about person for the community. Eekk. I’m a believer that it’s fine to share information with loved ones, your biggest cheerleaders etc because they provide you with love and support. But auntie Gossip and cousin Stirrer down the road do not need to know your business. In fact let your success do the talking. You wouldn’t give them your card pin number would you? No. So don’t give them any other private information. Okay warriors....let’s go!
A lot of us are sitting around waiting for the perfect moment to end a marriage, start a new career, go travelling etc etc etc. We’re thinking the perfect moment will come along so we continue to stall. The problem is there isn’t a perfect moment. Life is for living. I kept stalling on pulling the plug on my relationship. This resulted in my withdrawing from certain family members as I didn’t want to burden them. During this time I lost a grandparent....I lost precious moments, conversations and memories we could have created together. This episode is me being real with you over how this made me feel. It’s emotionally charged and may trigger some.
Some of us are coasting in life and are literally just living on autopilot. Some of us are thriving and push the boundaries nonstop. But have you identified what mindset you are currently in? Are you simply living to die or living to THRIVE? As life is a gift (remember how I went and said hello to death after my Heart Attack but Divine sent me back to guide you all?) we need to look at this NOW. Stop putting off living for tomorrow. Tomorrow starts now...no doubt it’s tomorrow somewhere on this planet right now. WARRIORS let’s do this!
Ever sat there and wondered why you struggle to manifest things into your life when you are constantly thinking and worrying about it? Well of course you do. The real truth is we need to get control over our mindset to stop obsessing, believe in ourselves and bring in the amazing stuff we are worthy of. But until you restrain that bad boy of a muscle the brain you’ll keep hitting a brick wall because you haven’t actually planned on how to overcome it. In this episode I’m talking about it. Let’s do this warriors!!!
Today we look at why we need patience and practice when it comes to changing mindset in order to transform ourselves, our lives and beyond. Some think writing their affirmations once should yield results...but it doesn’t work that away. I’ll keep it real...let’s talk openly about this. Nothing worth having has ever been easy to obtain.
In some pockets of the brown community Mental Health doesn’t exist. I talk a bit about how it went for me when I wanted to reach out for help. I managed to get help and I doubt I’d be here today if I haven’t of had that intervention.
Opinions. Cheap. Everyone has one. We’re entitled to an opinion. But why do some allow the opinions of others to hold them hostage? WAKE UP and reclaim your self empowerment! You have the right to live to you own standards. Listen to others opinions but heck no do we allow their opinions to sabotage our happiness! NO. Ever tried to pay a bill with a persons opinion....it’ll leave you in the red. Let’s get into this. And let’s become self empowered....always remember your own opinions are enough to VALIDATE you.
Life can sometimes throw us curveballs. Today I’m talking about the idea that we only give 5 minutes to any unplanned thoughts, events or run ins with the ex and his new bird (FYI you know she’s a downgrade on you right?!). Instead of allowing such moments to potentially ruin our parade we control our thoughts and refocus on what we are manifesting.
Why is it that it’s acceptable to be careful with what we eat and drink but not what we watch, listen to or absorb in general via our brain, heart and soul? It’s crazy that we still need reminding to soviet negative content. Anything that leaves you feeling down should be avoided. In this episode we touch base on the importance of being careful and how on social media it’s always what it seems. Sponsored content is spreading so fast it’s hard to tell what’s real and what’s not. What’s clear is we need to be just as picky with our consumption of content as we are with our selfies.
Ever wondered how some people achieve their goals quickly and just the way they talked about them? Ever wondered why the average person like us has to take so many Pitt stops before reaching their goal destination? Today we are looking at how visualising the end result can get us to the goal quicker. We’re talking visualisation and laws of attraction....actually we are dipping our virtual toes in because this subject is Hugggggge! Let’s do this!
In today’s episode I’m talking about two things. 1-how important it is to break down any goal into sizeable chunks (FYI you cannot eat an elephant in one setting...not that you would want to or should...) and number 2 any every step you take in your plan is just as important to each and every other step!
In the last episode of The Alliyah Show we started talking about timing and how it’s not always a case of asking and then receiving from Divine/Source/Allah/God/Big guy upstairs/The Power....it’s about ensuring we align to what we are asking for. Because if we have say healing to do because of an ex we need to do that before we can manifest in Mr Right with the manly beard, muscles and so on. Learning to trust divine timing is a key element of growth, reflection and manifestation. So if you are blocked or feel there is resistance with your manifestation listen to this episode.
In this episode I’m talking about timing. One of the biggest questions I get asked is HOW LONG will it take me to transform my life. The truth is it takes everyone a different length in worldly time. No two people are the same; no two journeys are either. So today I want to talk about my journey with timing.
In today’s episode I start to explore what a negative Nancy persona looks like and why it’s important for our progress to remove all these vampires from our lives. Most if not all of us have encountered a NN somewhere along the line. They usually make life miserable for all those around them. They reign with fear and can be seen spilling their negativity all over every community going. Negative Nancy must be exterminated!
Right now all media outlets are heaving with stories that are heart wrenchingly cruel. Why? Because people have been mistreated based on colour, sexual orientation, religion, gender, class and beyond. I have no idea who died and left their thrown to these crazies but I want to talk about what happened to me at 15 and that was a pivotal moment in my life that started the blue print of my transformation. I warn you now; this episode contains words that maybe offensive to some. But I cannot tell the story until I explain the actual nasty and cruel experiences I had. Just remember I got through and I’m happier, stronger and pretty much unstoppable (unless the Divine has another plan for me). You hold the power within you to process events and manipulate the outcome. You are a warrior. Never ever forget that.
We talk about how I went from that Heart Attack in 2014 to making life changing decisions within months. It’s all about mindset.
Let’s talk about where my journey began. It’s not as straight forward as having a lightbulb moment. It contains blood, sweat and a Heart Attack.