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00:00 The Concept of Victim Advantage
00:23 My World Is Watching Out for Me
01:12 Emotional Guidance Scale
02:22 Frequency of Solutions
Reality Transurfing talks about the concept of Advantage. But what's the difference between Advantage and "looking on the bright side"?
Today, we're talking about what I call Victim Advantage. The concept of Victim Advantage is not the same as true Advantage. Victim Advantage says, "I'll make the best of my situation," or "I'll look on the bright side, let me try to put a positive spin on what seems to be a negative situation."
My World Is Watching Out for Me Now, this is two levels down from where we want to be. The next level up would be true Advantage, which says, "My world is watching out for me. I'm only attracting into my life that which is for my highest and greatest good." So if something seems bad, we turn it around and find something good. But more than that, we realize that without this situation, I wouldn't be able to reach my goals, and that's why I brought this into my life. It will give me an edge and make things even better because this happened, even though the actual situation I'm in now seems negative.
But we want to be even one tier up in a space where we know it is Already Done. That everything is perfect that it is finished. We call that seeing life at a 10. How can we see life at a perfect 10 - ultimate perfection?
Emotional Guidance Scale Your feelings will guide you. So we need to look at the emotional guidance scale. The lowest emotion on the emotional guidance scale, as explained by Abraham Hicks, is fear, desperation, despair, and powerlessness, but the highest are joy, gratefulness, freedom, and love.
So when we are experiencing those blissful feelings of ultimate gratitude and joy and fulfillment in our life, we see life as it is outside of the matrix and the illusions of the things that might seem negative. So next time something seems bad to you, let it wake you up in a Tufti way, where it reminds you to say, "I see myself, I see my reality," and realize that this is in your life, not just to give you a challenge so that you'll look on the bright side and maybe get stronger from looking on the bright side. Still, in an even deeper way, it's not negative at all in the first place. Not only because it takes you where you need to be eventually in the future, but because everything is awesome right now. And if we have the right frequency on our headset, we'll be able to see even that. It's already done; it's already perfect. It's already finished.
Frequency of Solutions So I challenge you. See if you can figure that out today. See if any situations in your life are frustrating, that you're pulling your hair out and don't know what to do. Take a step back. See if you can get to the frequency of solutions - maybe take a bike ride, do something that you love and get into a positive state of gratitude and bliss - and see if your situation changes or your perception of that situation changes, which is the same thing. But in any case, it should give you a clearer perspective of how everything is awesome.
But if you're ever feeling that negative feeling that victim advantage brings, check yourself and realize that you're not practicing Advantage correctly. An example would be thinking, "Oh, well, I guess I'm just gonna have to deal with this situation," or, "I guess I don't have control over my life, and I'll have to make the best of it." Any of those unempowered, victim-like feelings are not seeing reality as it truly is or as it truly could be if we would shift our perspective to a higher level. So I challenge you guys to do that today.
00:00 Making Choices Among Illusions Part 2: The Subconscious Mind
00:13 The Illusion of Certainty: We Can’t Predict the Future, but We Can Choose a New One
00:31 The Illusion of Choice & the Subconscious Mind
02:00 How to Make Peace With Your Subconscious Mind
In part 1, we talked a lot about how it can be challenging to make accurate choices when the matrix around us fools us. In this video, we'll continue our discussion on decision-making and how to handle the challenges that come with on-the-spot choices when the matrix has us confused.
The Illusion of Certainty: We Can't Predict the Future, but We Can Choose a New One We may believe that if we do X, Y will undoubtedly happen. But it's not the actions that create the solution, but the attitude and beliefs we carry. It's important to understand that our views are not necessarily true. What is true is that if we believe something will occur, the Law of Attraction says it will happen, but is there a deeper belief at play?
The Illusion of Choice & the Subconscious Mind There are infinite possibilities available to us at any given moment, and we can choose from any of them. Reality Transurfing calls this the Space of Variations. Reality Transurfing is similar to surfing on the waves in the ocean. Just as a surfer can choose to ride a wave or let it pass them by, we can engage with the reality presented to us or let it pass us by. By opening ourselves up to the space of variations, we allow ourselves to choose a reality that better suits our desires and intentions.
The space of variations is where all possible realities live, and it's like an extensive library with all the books that could ever be written. You can go into this space and choose any reality you want. But is this choice yours?
My answer is yes, but not necessarily your conscious mind. Sometimes it's your subconscious mind running the show. Your subconscious mind is always working, whether or not you're aware of it. It's constantly sending you messages and trying to get your attention. Our conscious mind's job is to quiet down and listen to it. It helps us process and makes sense of our world.
The subconscious mind is like a powerful computer. It can store incredible information, and it never runs out of energy. It is also the driving force behind our actions and results. Also, like a computer, it cannot tell the difference between reality and fiction, and the matrix can easily fool it. This is why hypnotism works; the subconscious mind believes what you tell it through feelings.
Any time you've felt like you've self-sabotaged, your subconscious mind didn't believe it was safe for you to be doing what you were doing. Your subconscious mind is continually working to protect you, even if that means sabotaging your own goals.
How to Make Peace With Your Subconscious Mind Now that we know our subconscious mind is in charge of our results but can't tell fact from fiction, how do we get it working for us, not against us?
My first piece of advice is EFT Tapping. EFT is a relatively new, self-administered healing technique that has recently gained immense popularity. It stands for "emotional freedom technique" and is based on the principles of acupuncture. According to EFT practitioners, the technique can be used to address a wide variety of physical, emotional, and psychological issues.
In our case, we will be using it to connect with our subconscious minds and clear blocks between us and our goals. If your goal is to lose weight, but your subconscious believes that's not safe, you will self-sabotage and not lose the weight. If your goal is to make a lot of money, but your subconscious mind believes that's not safe, the blocks will prevent you from getting there. If your goal is to get a promotion at work, but your subconscious believes that's not safe, you won't receive it.
If you've never tried EFT before, it's an effective way to connect with our subconscious minds and clear any blocks that may be preventing us from achieving our goals. By tapping on specific points on our bodies while focusing on our goals, we can release any negative emotions or beliefs that may be holding us back. If you want to achieve your goals and live a happier, more fulfilling life, give EFT a try – you won't regret it!
In summary, the subconscious mind is a powerful tool that can be used to achieve success or sabotage success. It's up to you which one you choose. Do what it takes to connect with it and work together on your goals emotionally.
00:00 Making Choices Among Illusions
00:12 A Desire For More Ownership
01:08 Are You Making Choices Based on Facts or Merely Illusions?
01:25 The Illusion of Control: Do Our Choices Control Our Lives and Outcomes?
02:06 How to break free from the illusions that keep us from the truth that life is already perfect
In a recent video, I told you about how I'm experimenting with Descript's AI text-to-speech voices. In this video, I'm taking it a step further. I have now turned my own voice into a text-to-speech voice, as demonstrated in the attached video above. This AI version of my voice will read the blog article I've written today. Let's jump into today's topic.
A Desire For More Ownership I've desired a higher level of ownership in my life. I want to feel more in charge. Proud of what I'm doing. More proud of my choices.
First, I thought I needed a better to-do list. Then I thought I needed to be more organized with my time. Then I realized the problem was the matrix. Make sure you check out our videos about the VR Analogy.
We live in a world of illusions. There's no short answer to what's wrong here. What we perceive as true fluctuates between perfectly true and entirely false and everywhere in between depending on the frequency or happiness of our current thought.
It's a great thing to take more ownership of our life, but in order to decide on how, we need to make sure we're working with true information first.
Over time it's easy to lose the feeling of ownership of our lives. Slowly but surely, we let others take control and make decisions for us. This hits on the idea of borrowed goals in Reality Transurfing.
Borrowed goals always result in a level of unhappiness and lack of fulfillment in life. In order to take back control, we need to wake up. We need to see the world how it really is (perfect) and get into the now.
Are You Making Choices Based on Facts or Merely Illusions? Our lives are full of choices, but what if many of the "facts" we're basing our choices on aren't true? What if we're making decisions based on the wrong information? What if there are hidden costs to our choices, and what if some of these choices don't even exist? Today, we explore the illusion of choice and how it can keep you from following your dreams.
The Illusion of Control: Do Our Choices Control Our Lives and Outcomes? We like to think that our choices control our lives and outcomes, but in reality, it is often something outside of our control that dictates what happens. We like to think that we are in charge, but the truth is, most of the time, we are not.
I don't mean to say we are victims of circumstance; we most certainly are not! The truth is, the driving force in our life is usually our subconscious mind and beliefs. The things that we tell ourselves on a daily basis determine our reality. If we want to change our life for the better, we need to start by changing the way we think.
The first step is to become aware of your thoughts and feelings. Pay attention to the things you say to yourself on a daily basis. Are they positive or negative? If they are negative, then you need to start replacing them with positive affirmations.
How to break free from the illusions that keep us from the truth that life is already perfect. We often times find ourselves in a situation that is not what we want or expect. Somehow, someway we get lost and forget who we are and what our purpose is. This can cause us to become stagnant in our lives and lose sight of our dreams and goals. In order to break free from the illusions that keep us from the truth that life is already exactly as we chose it to be, we must first identify the illusions that are hindering us. Once we have identified them, we can work on releasing them by accepting that they are only illusions and not reality.
Life is full of challenges, but it is also full of blessings. Notice that I said challenges, not bad situations, not evil. Games are challenging. Sports are challenging. Kids are challenging. If we take a look at the world and see that it is full of challenges and not evil, we will be more willing to accept them as part of our life. We cannot always control what happens to us, but we can control how we respond. As long as we keep our hearts open to the goodness God is bringing to us, we will continue to find joy in life no matter what challenges come our way.
In future videos, we will continue to explore these ideas of illusions and how your life is better than you think it is. But for now, ponder over these few questions. Do you desire to take more ownership of your life? Are you tired of your subconscious mind running the show? How would you change that? Remember to like, share, and subscribe. See you in the next video.
00:00 J&Kay Update - Day 83 of the 90-Day Challenge
00:11 Being a Voice
01:16 It's Worth Sharing
02:49 Fear of Rejection
03:52 Finished Work 2.0
04:45 Growth
05:43 Solidifying Who We Are
06:35 Authentic Conversations
Hey guys. There is about a week left in our 90-day challenge. We didn't post every single day, but most days, we posted two videos (a short and a long YouTube video), so we've already posted much more than 90 videos.
Being a Voice Last night, I couldn't sleep in the middle of the night. Both kids woke up, which doesn't usually happen anymore, but that happened. And I have these imaginary conversations with people sometimes in my own head. So I was imagining monologing for this video and giving the 90-day update. It's not 90 days yet, but I figured it's fresh in my mind. So, we started with all of the things that we're interested in and sharing with the world, but we wanted to start with just at least a podcast. And then we were like, we might as well do video as a podcast and we'll just convert the video to MP3.
So I was like, I just wanna have a voice. Somebody that didn't even know me prophesied over me once a long time ago at a church retreat, a women's retreat. "You have a mouth because you have a brain," and she asked, "Do you have a blog? Or do you do something like online?" She didn't know me from Adam, and we've been doing J&Kay as an online video blog since we were dating, J and I. Since 2011, and this prophecy was when I was pregnant with Emma, so 2015. And I was like, "Totally, yes, I do." And she's like, "Well, you have a mouth because you have a brain." She said that part first.
It's Worth Sharing And so I've always just known that I want to express myself. What she was saying is what I have to say is of value, which sometimes I doubt. And other times, I'm like, I have so much to say, and I don't feel like I have an outlet to express myself. So the precursor to this 90-day challenge was just me being like, I'm sick of silence. I'm sick of not speaking. I'm sick of not sharing. I know that everything I'm saying, people can find other places, though they might not find it with my flavor and the way that I've put everything together that I've learned from other places.
But it's still worth sharing because I want to share, not because I need other people to praise me or learn from me. No human is necessary, but every human is valuable. I think it's important for us to understand that. Every human is "necessary" because of our value, but there is no lack and there is no scarcity and it's not like, if I'm not speaking, God's message that he wants to share through me isn't going out. He's always speaking. And his love always comes across to people. Sometimes in evangelical Christianity, you can feel a little bit like if you don't live your life purpose, there's going to be some kind of scarcity in the world. Like if Moses didn't do what he did, the children of Israel would've still been slaves in Egypt, stuff like that.
And there's a level of fear, intimidation, and negativity related to that, but it's not realistic. That's not the true way that things work in this world. So I know I don't need to express myself, but I want to express myself and I get to express myself.
Fear of Rejection So the precursor to this 90-day challenge was, what is holding me back? J was asking me what's holding me back from expressing myself. And it was fear that people would reject me, especially those I know don't believe the same way I do spiritually. I feared they would reject what I have to say and potentially think I'm going in a direction too far from where they are, and/or that they would need to intervene with the way I think about the world.
Number two, that I would feel imposter syndrome or any self-sabotaging negative feelings that would stop me - but I was already doing that. That was already happening. So we were gonna start this podcast, and then we were like, Hey, let's do what we've always wanted to do. Let's just do it. We have the opportunity now. We were waiting on a bunch of things, so we had a bit of a lull season. So what we've been doing is, we've been posting a long-form YouTube video, a short YouTube video, a blog on our JandKay.com website, a podcast, a TikTok, and a Twitter link. So we've been repurposing the short and the YouTube video. And we hired a virtual assistant to help us publish these things and put them online.
Finished Work 2.0 But it's been a lot of work, and it's been awesome because we've learned a lot. And that's why our comments are off. If you notice, our comments are off on our channel right now and have been for most of the 90 days, which I think has really hurt our reach, but we kind of needed it because we wanted to express ourselves for our own sake. And through that, we found out and solidified what we call Finished Work 2.0, but really it's the Everything Is Awesome message. Like the way that we view spirituality, especially the Virtual Reality Headset message. These are all thoughts that have been ruminating, and we've been playing with these ideas.
They're not new. If you've ever heard of Tom Kearin, his YouTube channel is Be Something Wonderful, and he knows all the stuff we know, too: ACIM, Transurfing, Abraham Hicks, Neville Goddard, all that stuff, and he's put it all together. His worldview is very similar to ours, and he's great, he's awesome.
Growth But my point is, we don't need to be Tom. We just need to be ourselves. This 90-day challenge is more about us becoming who we know we truly are vs. building an audience and having you guys tell us what you are looking for. And I've struggled with that back and forth because I want to be open to feedback and to be challenged, to grow in my beliefs and in who I am.
But then there's also the idea of not casting your pearls before swine, which is why we haven't been posting to Facebook. That's one place we have not posted because that's where everybody knows us personally. And most of the people who know us personally don't have a grid for understanding the spiritual things that we're talking about, either on one side or the other - which is a pendulum, and we don't wanna be caught up in pendulums for no reason, because we're very loving people. We love people very much, and they love us very much. And there's no need to build tension or negativity in relationships that are already going great.
Solidifying Who We Are But if people do wanna know what we really think and are fascinated by our thoughts and our ideas, we wanna have those ideas out there, especially because we feel like that's part of who we are - I have a mouth because I have a brain, because my brain is uniquely Kay. And I would love to share that with the world. So as we're nearing the end of this 90-day challenge, that's what we've learned. We've learned it's okay to be ourselves and what that means.
Because we've had maybe three or four serious discussions about turning YouTube comments back on or not. And every time we've decided it's not right for us right now. Because this challenge has been about us. It's been about really solidifying who we are. And we're moving into a season of what we call Finished Work 3.0, but really it's not any different than Finished Work 2.0, it's just a season of application. It's time for us to apply all of the things that we are learning and believe to be true. Not that we weren't applying them before, but to make them even more tangible.
Authentic Conversations I would love to be even more authentic. One of my favorite things to share is my conversations with J back and forth, hashing these things out. To be a fly on the wall and hear all of the reasons that we've come to the spiritual perspectives and worldview that we have would be so interesting. And I think that people would really enjoy that.
But we haven't been ready to be vulnerable with that level of authenticity. And I think we're probably going to get there at some point. We'd like to do more long-form podcasts - a podcast can be an hour long, most long YouTube videos are about 10 minutes, and the shorts are one minute.
But to have an hour-long podcast of us discussing these things would be interesting because J and I don't always see eye to eye, especially when we're coming up with these things for the first time or wrestling with a new idea. And it's not easy to have an audience when you're trying to apply something you've learned in an area of weakness. It's difficult to share your stumbling blocks in areas where you are finding healing and clearing, live on a podcast/video, while your significant other is telling you why you're wrong or challenging you to be your best self. That feels very vulnerable.
But I think it's pretty cool. And I think we can do that in a way that's not too weird, and people could find a lot of value in that. There are a lot of YouTube channels where people have authentic conversations, and I find them so interesting. And a lot of podcasts are like that, too.
Another shout-out to a YouTube channel is Love Covered Life with Mel. She does a good job hosting conversations that are very similar to these things. She came out of a similar Christian background to us, so she's been a pretty cool person to follow, and she does a lot of two-people videos. I'd like to do that more. It's hard with two kids right now; we don't have a regular babysitter at this point in our journey, so it's a little hard for both of us to be available without distractions at the same time. But we're likely going to move into that in the future.
So that's our 83-day update, and I'll catch you guys next time. Bye!
00:00 Changing Your Perspective Can Change Your Environment
00:12 Interruptions
00:58 Frequency of Solutions
02:01 Following the Emotional Guidance System
03:59 It’s All About Enjoyment
05:29 Focus on the Positive Things
06:28 Forget About the Problem
07:19 Follow your Bliss
I want to share an example from my life about how I changed my attitude, and my perspective - or what we call our frequency - and my world lined up for me without me needing to quote, "fix the problem."
Interruptions So here's the story: I used to get frustrated in the mornings. My kids would be interrupting me every five seconds; I would be trying to get stuff done, trying to get everybody ready for the day. And there would be interruption after interruption, a mess, or somebody having an emotional breakdown.
And my list of things I wanted to do each morning seemed so long. It would take me like three hours to get ready for the day, just to feel like everybody was started and prepared for the day. It'd be almost lunchtime, and I'd feel like I did nothing but get everybody ready. And then now I need to go through lunch and all the lunch routine.
I stay home with my kids most days, and I also work from home and do everything from home. So all of the things on my plate just felt too heavy, too big to handle. I was tempted to look at the problem of my time management, specifically in the mornings, from a matter-to-matter perspective, rather than an energy-to-matter perspective.
Frequency of Solutions Another way of saying this is to look at the problem from the frequency of problems. So from the frequency of the problem means looking at the problem itself and then trying to fix that problem versus from the frequency of solutions. If you know anything about the law of attraction or "like attracts like" - similar things come together in this world energetically - then you'll know that if we are at a frequency of solutions, solutions will come to us. But if we're looking at a problem from the frequency of that problem, we're just attracting to ourselves more problems. We have a video on that called Problem or Solution? - Frequency and WOOP. So you guys can check that out for more information.
So since I've been learning to get to a positive frequency, which is the frequency of solutions, I tried to take that kind of perspective. Trying to get to the frequency of solutions is not a thing. Having the problem of "I'm not at the frequency of solutions, I need to get to the frequency of solutions," is itself being at the frequency of the problem. The frequency of solutions is a positive, at-rest, peaceful attitude and emotional state.
Following the Emotional Guidance System If I wanted the solutions to come to me, without me having to strive for them, I needed to forget about the whole pendulum of problem versus solution, and get out of that just to a place of feeling good, or a place of wellbeing. So I made it my goal to just enjoy myself - enjoy myself through the mornings, enjoy my kids, appreciate the positive things in my life. Focus on what I did like, and did enjoy about my mornings rather than obsessing about or ruminating on what I didn't like, and just do what feels good. This is called following the Emotional Guidance System. We have a video that talks about that called How to Teach Integrity to Your Children. Also there's a video called What You Focus on Gets Bigger - Parent Edition, and that talks about this concept of focusing on what you do like - that will become more and more prevalent in your world - versus focusing on what you didn't like, which is what I was kind of doing by being at the frequency of the problem. Focusing on, "Up, there's another example of how my kids are flipping out. Oh, there's another example of interruptions." Just that focus would make more of that negative experience in my life and negative feelings in my heart. So instead, focusing on gratefulness and the things that I enjoyed: Having one-on-one interactions with my kids. A positive learning experience with my kids. A moment of clarity on my own. A hot cup of tea - anything that would make me feel good, focusing on that and getting in touch with the feeling of gratitude and positivity, any way I could.
As I did that, my mornings just gradually became perfect. Nothing big happened; nothing really changed in a way that I even noticed until I looked back and realized that that problem that I had wasn't there anymore. All of a sudden, it just poof! Nothing was a chore anymore. The kids were happier and less intrusive; things took less time. And I enjoyed myself through the whole process - and that's really what we're looking for, right? We're looking for happiness anyway. That's the main goal - for us to be happy, for our loved ones to be happy, for things to flow in our life, and to be peaceful and joyful. That's the goal.
It’s All About Enjoyment So it's not about getting things lined up perfectly. It's not about whether your morning routine takes 10 minutes or three hours. The point is enjoyment. If you enjoy it taking three hours, great. If you enjoy it taking 10 minutes, great. But I would never be satisfied with leaving it at that because if I didn't want it to take three hours, I wouldn't be okay just saying, "You know what? I guess I don't have any control over my life. I guess I can't really affect any change. So I'm just going to be okay with things taking three hours." Your subconscious mind knows how you really feel. If you feel like you have to settle, or if you feel like you're a victim, then you are not in a positive emotional place. You are not at the frequency of solutions. You are not in a place of positivity. You can't trick yourself. Dan Mangena says, "The mind doesn't lose, and the environment doesn't lie." Your mind knows how you really feel, and your environment will reflect that. So if you're not seeing positive change coming from that perspective, it's because your environment is not lying. It's revealing to you that your mind is really deeply in a negative place, not in a positive place, because you feel like a victim. You can't fake true happiness. So instead of thinking, "I'm just going to be okay with things being out of my control and taking three hours."
No, that was not my mental process. Instead, I focused on what brought me true joy. Like my daughter coming up to me and hugging me and saying, "I love you, mommy." Do you know why she felt free to do that? Because I wasn't in a stupid, crabby, frustrated attitude. She wasn't afraid to approach me because I was grumpy. I was enjoying my life. And then she recognized that and jumped on board.
Focus on the Positive Things So find out what you can truly focus on that brings you joy in your current situation. Focus on all of the positive, awesome, good things. And they will grow.
And as you get into a positive place, energetically, your world will shift your experience. That matrix, virtual reality experience will shift to become what you want it to be. You can effect change, and you are not a victim. In fact, everything that is happening in your life is because of how you're feeling about it. You're creating your own experience.
Make sure you check out our virtual reality headset analogy videos, which talk more about this, and also our Everything is Awesome and Holy Fire video, which will explain this a little bit more in-depth to you.
But like I said, in my mornings, everything went faster. We got ready for the day faster and we enjoyed it more. And I just enjoyed myself through the new process. All of a sudden, my world was lining up with how I felt, and that's what being at the frequency of the solution will do.
Forget About the Problem When I suggest getting to the frequency of solutions, I don't mean strive for answers. That's coming at the problem from the frequency of the problem, still. You need to forget about the problem and move into a place of your true identity as a positive, happy, fulfilled, loving being. And when you remember who you are in that place, and when you connect with the experiences that reflect who you truly are - like that hug with my daughter, like those tickles with my son that we enjoy in the mornings - when you engage with that, your experience will reflect back to you what you truly believe about who you are and what you want.
So why don't you guys try that today? What areas of your life are you frustrated about that you wish you had solutions to, but all you can see right now are the problems? Number one, identify that. That's what I did. Number two, make it your goal to enjoy yourself, follow the emotional guidance system and do what brings you joy.
Follow your Bliss I'm not saying ignore your kids because they're grumpy or don't feed your children or something like that. But follow your bliss. Figure out what you really love and engage yourself, engage your soul in those things, focus on the things that you love about your life. And you don't need to avoid all of the things that are negative. Just don't let them take up negative space in your brain. They don't need to be replaying in your subconscious mind over and over.
And you don't need to "time travel" to the past moments that were negative or future moments that you're worried or concerned about. Check out my video on Taking a Vacation from Your Problems to help you understand that a little more. But focus on the now, focus on the moment and realize the pleasure and bliss that you can tap into at this moment. What is the goodness that you can be enjoying at this very moment?
And then, let everything shift. Let the solutions come to you as you are at the frequency of solutions. All right.
So try experimenting with that today, and I'll see you guys in the next video.
00:00 The Art of AI: Dropping Perfection & Art vs. Science Pt. 2
00:03 Experimenting with Blogs
00:28 Don
00:48 Can Imperfection Also Improve Human Learning?
01:35 The Dangers of Perfectionism
01:55 The Benefits of a Peaceful Attitude
This is part two of The Art of AI.
Experimenting with Blogs I'm experimenting with writing interesting blogs and turning those into videos, because I know that I like listening to things more than stopping and sitting down and reading them.
Sometimes I will write down bullet points and then talk about them. And then it becomes something like what I'm doing right now, a podcast.
But other times, I'd like to actually write a blog. And I can then come and read that to you. But I want to experiment.
Don When Kay and I record our videos, we use this program called Descript. And it comes with this awesome AI voice called Don.
Don is the Honest Trailers voice.
So I'm going to experiment today with having Don read this blog to you. Enjoy.
Part 2: AI Teaches Us the Benefits of Imperfection
Can Imperfection Also Improve Human Learning? In a world where perfectionism is praised, accepting the idea that imperfection can also improve human learning can be challenging. Yet, a growing body of research suggests that making mistakes – and even being exposed to occasional failure – may be an essential part of the learning process. This is because mistakes help us identify what we don't know, and provide opportunities for growth and learning. In addition, when we experience failure, it can motivate us to try harder and learn from our mistakes. Thus, while striving for perfection may seem like a desirable goal, it is essential to remember that imperfection can also have its benefits.
Just as AI can only exist with the permission to be imperfect, the same is true for us humans. We cease to grow when we hold ourselves to too high of a standard.
The Dangers of Perfectionism Perfectionism is harmful in other ways as well. It can start as a simple desire to do well but quickly spiral out of control. These unrealistic standards can lead to a lot of stress and anxiety, and they can also be very damaging to relationships. Perfectionism can also interfere with productivity and creativity, leading to depression and other mental health problems.
The Benefits of a Peaceful Attitude In today's society, it is easy to get caught up in the rush of life and competition with ourselves and others. We are constantly bombarded with new things to do, places to go, and people to see. It is often hard to find time for ourselves, let alone time for peace and relaxation. However, taking the time to relax and have a peaceful attitude can offer many benefits. Peaceful people are typically happier with their lives and kinder to those around them. They also tend to be more productive and have better relationships than those who are constantly stressed out. A peaceful attitude can be cultivated through practice, and it is well worth the effort.
Summary In conclusion, it is helpful to be imperfect. AI can only exist with permission to be imperfect, and the same is true for us humans. We cease to grow when we hold ourselves to too high of a standard. Let's embrace our mistakes and learn from them so that we can continue to grow as individuals and as a species.
00:00 The Art of AI: Dropping Perfection & Art vs. Science Pt. 1
00:18 What is Science?
00:38 What is Art?
01:01 Relationship Between Science and Art
02:00 The Creative Process
02:53 Deterring Test
03:45 Improve
What is Science? Science is the pursuit of knowledge. It is a systematic way of learning about the world around us through observation and experimentation. Science allows us to understand how things work and helps us predict what will happen in the future. Science constantly evolves as discoveries are uncovered, and new theories develop.
What is Art? There is no one answer to this question as art is a highly personal and subjective topic. However, there are some common elements that most people would agree make something art. Generally, art is creative and expressive, made to provoke emotions in the viewer. It can be a physical object, like a painting or sculpture, or an experience like a dance performance or a piece of music.
The Relationship between Science and Art Science and art are valid approaches to organizing the information and matter around us. Many people equate science with technology, but the two are not synonymous. Perhaps the best way to understand this relationship is to think of science as a logical and precise method for organizing information about the universe and its operation. Art takes a more intuitive approach to managing data.
Art has always been different from science, where science is seen as factual while art is perceived as subjective. However, over the years, these two fields have begun to intersect more and more.
There are now many examples of scientists using their knowledge of art to help them with their research. For instance, by studying the works of artists such as Vincent van Gogh and Claude Monet, scientists have been able to learn more about light's effects on objects. They have also studied the works of artists such as Jackson Pollock to understand how the human body moves.
Science and Art in the Creative Process There is a common misconception that science and art are two separate entities with little in common. However, if one looks closely, it is clear that the creative process is at work in both science and art. In both disciplines, creativity is necessary for problem-solving and exploring new ideas. Scientists and artists use their imaginations to develop new ways of looking at the world and use their skills to turn those ideas into reality.
Ready Aim Fire vs. Ready Fire Aim The scientific approach to creation involves making a well-thought-out plan and sticking to it, while art is more intuitive and flexible. When we compare the two, we see that rules less govern art and allow for more interpretation and personal creativity.
Science takes the classic ready, aim, fire approach while art takes the ready, fire, aim approach - coming up with an idea, trying it, and correcting along the way.
AI Works Because Of Imperfection Perhaps the most significant technological leap forward of our lifetime is the creation of AI. But what is the backbone of AI?-The permission to produce imperfect results.
In the world of AI or artificial intelligence, there is a concept known as the "Turing test." Named for mathematician and computer scientist Alan Turing, this test is designed to measure a machine's ability to exhibit intelligent behavior equivalent to, or indistinguishable from, that of a human. To pass the Turing Test, a computer must be able to fool a human into thinking that it is also human. However, there is one major flaw in the Turing test: it assumes perfect imitation on the part of the machine. But this is impossible. AI is not flawless; it makes mistakes. And it is these mistakes that allow AI to learn and evolve. AI makes mistakes and learns from these mistakes. As a result, machines evolve and improve over time.
00:00 Making Your Bucket List Part 4
00:13 Rank Your Ideas in Order of Importance
00:28 Accountability Partner
00:53 Make Sure You Start With Something Small
01:36 Keep Track of Your Progress
02:08 Celebrate Success
Welcome to part four of the bucket list series. And this is where we talk about tips.
If you did not watch parts one, two, and three, that is necessary to understand where we are. So make sure you click the link to catch up on those missed videos.
Rank Your Ideas in Order of Importance In the last video in part three, we started making the bucket list by organizing the areas of our life.
So here's what you want to do to fill this out a little bit more. Rank your ideas in order of importance. Then make a rough timeline of when you will achieve each one.
Accountability Partner Now, if there is something on your list that you can complete within the next month, get an accountability partner and put a date on the calendar because this is really about taking action and believing in yourself enough to take that action.
You also want to get a journal and keep that ongoing journal of your progress.
When you keep a journal, it keeps you motivated. And it's encouraging to cross something off your bucket list.
Make Sure You Start With Something Small Make sure you start with something small.
The key to making your bucket list is not overwhelming yourself with huge tasks or goals, but rather, focusing on completing smaller and more manageable tasks this way, you're more likely to accomplish something. There was no benefit to having a very long bucket list that you're not taking action on.
So set realistic expectations. Don't try to complete your entire bucket list in one day or week. Take your time and enjoy the process. And don't be afraid to fail. Not every task on your bucket list will be an instant success, but you can still enjoy the process of completing it. Setting a goal always produces better results than not having a goal at all.
Keep Track of Your Progress And write it down. Take that journal we talked about earlier, and ensure you are keeping track of your progress. I talked about crossing things off, and you want to cross them off. Let's say you live 80 years.
And right at the end of your life, you're looking back at your bucket list that you've been keeping all these years, and you see all of the dates you accomplished, these huge, big things.
And you appreciate when you were 30, and you crossed one thing off when you were 40, and you crossed one thing off, and you're 50 and crossed one thing off.
Celebrate Success While you're at it, take photos of your accomplishments.
Keep a photo journal, so you can reflect on all the things you've accomplished and share them with your friends. And celebrate your success. When you cross off that first goal that genuinely defines your life, it's worth celebrating. Celebrate it! Go out to eat, throw a party, whatever you want to do, because this is your life that we're talking about.
Not small little things, but impactful, emotional, meaningful things. So congratulations on getting through these four videos, and I'll see you in the next one.
00:00 Making Your Bucket List Part 3
00:02 How long should your bucket list be?
00:22 Make a List of the Areas of Your Life
00:55 List Your Top Priorities
Welcome to part three of the bucket list series.
How long should your bucket list be? How long should your bucket list be? You might want to know, should I have ten things I want to do over my lifetime? Or should I have a hundred? Some people want to have a few life-defining experiences. But some people want to accomplish many little things.
Now you'll probably end up somewhere in the middle, where you want to do a couple of huge, scary, and maybe things that take years to accomplish. And you probably have some little things like, you want to go out and sing karaoke one night.
Make a List of the Areas of Your Life This is okay to have all different ideas on here. Life is about the journey, and it's not about the destination. Make a list of the areas of your life and relationships, such as family, friends, and romance. Personal growth, such as health, charisma, and peace.
Then you have other areas like fun, home, money, service, and things like helping others.
List Your Top Priorities So when you make your lists like this, list your top priorities in each area of your life, and then you can work backward from there to fill it out a little bit more. Sometimes you need to help your subconscious mind to be able to realize what you want. And sometimes, it's not obvious.
So let me give you just a couple of examples. Under family, maybe you have a daughter and want to walk her down the aisle when she gets married. That is a great thing to have on your bucket list.
Under personal growth, maybe under the charisma category, you want to give a speech to a hundred people, and do you want to feel great and confident while you do it.
That's it for part three, but part four is coming up. So make sure you like, share, and subscribe and I'll see you in the following video.
00:00 Making Your Bucket List Part 2
00:05 Should Everyone Have a Bucket List?
00:18 Death Is Not Real
00:51 Advantage
01:28 The Dream
01:54 Microshifting
Welcome to part two of the bucket list series. If you didn't watch part one, go back and watch that now.
Should Everyone Have a Bucket List? A bucket list is for anyone who wants to make sure that they do something fun before they die. Because life is really about fun, isn't it? It’s about experiencing good feelings and all the good life has to offer.
Death Is Not Real As we’ve talked about on this channel, death is not real. Sure our physical bodies will die, but you will never die. You are not your body. You are your consciousness, and that consciousness will live on forever.
So with that in mind, should we still have a bucket list? Yes, because life happens in the now.
You want to live your life to the fullest, not because life is scarce (because it’s not), but because you can. Your consciousness will live on forever, but because you can and should have more fun now, stop putting off your life.
Advantage How do we deal with regret if we feel like we've missed an opportunity in life? The answer to that is the principle called advantage. If you haven't heard us talk about advantage, then you probably have not been following this channel very long because we talk about this all the time.
Advantage is a Reality Transurfing principle. It's basically the idea that all things work together for our good. There is always an advantage to whatever happens. Things do work out perfectly. If they happen a certain way, that's because they're supposed to happen in a certain way, because it is for your good.
Your Dreams So let's say you had a dream to become a professional baseball player. Let’s say it was on your bucket list. But for one reason or another, possibly an injury, maybe you just weren't good enough, you never actually got to become a ball player.
But what if you could become a baseball coach? So maybe over your career, you got to help a hundred baseball players live the very best life that they could and fulfill their dreams of having an amazing baseball career that would not have happened if you were not their coach.
This is one example of applying the concept of advantage.
Microshifting So back to the bucket list idea: do not hold anything back and have no regrets. Put down everything that you want to do. If you feel like something really cannot happen, claim advantage, and think a little bit deeper. See if you can find something that does feel realistic for you - maybe an “even better” option.
Make sure you are taking micro-shifts. You want to get there in small bite-sized chunks that you can really believe in and feel good about.
Stay tuned for parts three and four, which will be coming out over the next few days. Remember to like, share, and subscribe, and I'll talk to you soon.
00:00 Making Your Bucket List Part 1
00:04 What Is a Bucket List?
00:19 Borrowed Goals
00:47 Taking Action
This is part one of a four-part series on making a bucket list.
What Is a Bucket List? What is a bucket list? A bucket list is a list of things you want to do before you die. It can be anything from visiting a new country to skydiving. The important thing is that it's something you want to do, not something your family or friends think you should do.
Borrowed Goals That would be something in Transurfing called borrowed goals. And you do not want borrowed goals, and you want this to be stuff that honestly your heart is telling you it wants to do.
Now, why should you make this bucket list? It helps you keep track of and remember what you want to do. It is too easy in our lives to get distracted and not listen to our hearts. So that's what this list is about.
Taking Action Do not get stuck in a rut of making more and more lists. Making this list is not taking action on what you want to do before you die. Lists are a precursor, so don't get confused. Don't start to feel proud of yourself just because you made a list; taking action on the list is what you should genuinely feel proud about.
Now I have a lot more to say on this. So make sure you stay tuned and like, share, and subscribe to make sure that you catch the rest of this series because this is the list that will define your life and make sure that you feel proud about the life that you are living.
00:00 Emotionally Clearing Mini-Traumas - Should You?
00:10 Facing Your Fear
00:29 Mini Trauma
00:53 Emotional Healing
01:37 Mini Healing
01:55 EFT
02:21 How Do You Know if You’ve Been Traumatized?
03:07 Homework Assignment
Several weeks ago, I went through an experience I will keep private that made me very afraid. My body was shaking, and I had trouble speaking. I was nearly paralyzed by fear.
Facing Your Fear I took all the necessary steps in the 3D world to face my fear and work through it immediately. I felt brave at that moment and was facing my fear head-on.
But weeks later, it still came to my mind nearly every day. And I was still feeling the negative emotions from that moment.
Mini Trauma I eventually decided to label it as a mini trauma in my mind. And when I put those words to it, it helps me keep it in perspective.
I wouldn't want to say that it was a full-on trauma, like those who fight in wars, but the label mini trauma helped me take it seriously and take the necessary steps to let it go emotionally and, once and for all, heal.
Emotional Healing What if you had a significant traumatic experience, one of the worst things you could imagine? Would you see a therapist to help you emotionally get over it? Almost definitely yes. Now, cut that in half. What if it was half as traumatic? Imagine that. Would you take your emotional healing seriously then? Now cut it in half again and keep going with this pattern to something small. At what point would you stop taking your emotional healing seriously? What is that cutoff point, and why? Obviously, at some point, we would all stop. I hope this helps you realize that we always face mini traumas. It could just be a stranger yelling at you for no reason. Or maybe someone cuts you off in traffic, and you feel like you almost got into a car accident.
Mini Healing We have all faced mini traumas. And is it worth a mini healing? Yes. This is how I like to do it, but there are many methods of emotionally getting over mini traumas. I like to use EFT, which stands for Emotional Freedom Technique, and tapping is another name.
EFT I like to use EFT, visualization, deep breathing, and having conversations with the people or the root of the trauma.
These are mental conversations once I get into a deeply relaxed meditative state. Suppose it was an argument with someone that caused this problem. In that case, I usually visualize myself hugging them and forgiving each other, agreeing to forgive and forget completely.
How Do You Know if You've Been Traumatized? How do you know if you've been traumatized? If you feel negative about something in the past, then you have likely been traumatized.
If you are still thinking about the situation, then it's likely you've been traumatized.
If it keeps coming up, all of this can stop if you take the time to take it seriously and intend to heal once and for all.
Now, after this healing process, what if it keeps coming up? What if it's still staying in your mind? Then you need to take it just a little bit more seriously.
And if it's still not going away, I would recommend that you hire an expert in the field of clearing emotional traumas. There are many different ways, many different modalities, and some of these things work miracles
Homework Assignment So here's the homework assignment. Make a list of the recurring negative thoughts that come up for you. Could any of these be labeled mini traumas? Are they worth your time to emotionally clear? To answer that question, you might need to imagine your life without this in your mind. How might your life improve if you never thought of these negative things again and truly lived free?
That's the challenge for today. And I hope that you can let go of these past mini traumas and maybe full-on traumas. Realize that there is freedom for you in this. Remember to like, share, and subscribe, and I'll talk to you soon.
00:00 I Am Never Upset for the Reason I Think (ACIM Workbook Day 5)
00:02 A Course in Miracles
00:53 God is Love
01:57 Negativity Is Misunderstood
03:19 This Has No Meaning
04:13 I Am Never Upset for the Reason I Think
05:35 Positive Frequency
"I am never upset for the reason I think."
A Course in Miracles So, J and I found A Course in Miracles recently, in the middle of this 90-day challenge that we're doing, and I'm starting the daily workbook, not consistently doing it every day, but going through one day at a time.
A Course in Miracles talks about the principle that everything positive is true and everything negative is matrix; it just talks about it in different terminology. And J and I were surprised to hear, wow, there are some spiritual teachings out there that's exactly how we're viewing the world, but we hadn't heard of it before.
A Course in Miracles says that love is real, and fear is like the absence of reality, and it's non-existent, in a way. So J and I have been having some exciting conversations about what it means for negativity or fear not to exist.
God is Love I was saying actual situations happen, people are involved, and the people are real. People are created out of love. The people embody love. God is love. And we are one with God. So if we are love, even if we're not engaging with our true identity as love, our true essence still is love, so the people must exist.
But the situations we find ourselves in, do they not exist? And it was a very long conversation, but J and I were talking about the Holocaust. And would we say that the event of the Holocaust didn't exist? We can't say that when people like Anne Frank and Victor Frankl and Corrie Ten Boom are these fantastic people who have amazing stories that came because of the Holocaust. And they exist, those people exist, and these experiences have brought forth love, faith, hope, and freedom. So how can we say that something negative, like the Holocaust, didn't exist - and that's not what we're saying. We're just trying to figure out how negativity can not exist.
Negativity Is Misunderstood And what we came to instead is the idea that it's misunderstood. Negativity is misunderstood. So not that A Course In Miracles is wrong. I agree that fear is the absence of love, right? Perfect love casts out fear because fear is the absence of love. And if you have that perfect love where it's pure love, then fear won't exist. Just like when you turn on the light in a room, the darkness goes away because the darkness is just the absence of light. But it may be more helpful for us to understand our experience if we say, "Everything positive is true, and everything negative is misunderstood."
And that's what we mean by matrix. When we say matrix, we're talking about that virtual reality world that looks real, seems tangible, but is actually misunderstood. We're not saying there's nothing there, but we're saying that our perceptions distort things, so we can't confirm if that's how it looks or feels. Because our senses might be deceiving us a little bit, not intentionally, but because our perception is off, because we do not see at a 10 with our pass-through on - make sure you check out our VR headset analogy videos if you're confused with what I'm saying, or our Holy Fire video too - but if we see at a 10, then we have pass-through on. We can see reality through our VR headsets, through our glasses, right?
This Has No Meaning But if our frequency is around a five or a six, we're feeling some negativity, some positivity; we're juggling both things, which often happens with so many experiences that we have in this life, right? Where we're feeling ambivalent. And we don't even understand how we're feeling all the time. Then the image gets distorted, and we're not sure what we're experiencing, and we label that experience as bad.
So that's where A Course in Miracles comes in, and the first lessons are about looking around you and saying, "This has no meaning."
This piano has no meaning. This house has no meaning. In and of itself, it doesn't have meaning. We ascribe meaning to things, right? But in and of itself, it doesn't have meaning. So look at everything you see in a day and say, "This doesn't mean anything. This has no meaning." Just as an exercise, to get your mind to stop thinking, good, bad, good, bad, good, bad.
I Am Never Upset for the Reason I Think And today's topic, as I brought up at the beginning, is, "I am never upset for the reason I think." That's day five in the A Course in Miracles Workbook. I am never upset for the reason, I think. And that struck me because I see this happen already.
I often get upset about something, thinking, "Oh, I'm upset because my daughter was interrupting me when I was trying to focus." But really I'm probably stressed out already by the time that happens. Maybe I didn't eat enough. Perhaps I didn't sleep well. Maybe I'm frustrated because I have these insecurities that I feel like I can't perform this task to the quality I want to. But guess what? When I identify those things, I'm still not upset for the reason I think. There are deeper reasons for these things.
And it's not about that. It's not about identifying the more profound reasons, doing all this work, striving for complete clearing, and all that stuff. We don't need to strive, ever. We don't need to work so hard to try to attain perfection. Everything is already perfect. And just knowing I'm not upset for the reason I think, is where you start.
Just notice, "I'm not upset for the reason I think." That's something that I've been contemplating more when I've been feeling frustrated—just being okay. I want to get to the frequency of the solution, but even more, I want to get to a positive frequency
Positive Frequency We want to be in a positive frequency so we can line up with positive things - like attracts like. When we're in a negative frequency, we're lining up with the classic bad hair day or waking up on the wrong side of the bed - one thing goes wrong, and it seems like more and more piles up. In Transurfing, we call that an Induced Transition. Or, on the other side, the Wave of Success or the Wave of Fortune, where something goes right, and then you ride off of that emotional wave, and more awesome things happen.
So what do we do when we're feeling negative? Don't freak out. Don't think, oh no, I'm cursing myself. Oh no, I felt a slightly negative feeling. That means more negativity is coming my way. No, we just let go and say, I'm grateful that I noticed this. First of all, I saw that I was upset. And now I can notice, I'm not upset for the reason I think. And I don't need to have all the answers, and I don't need to do anything. I already noticed something. That's a positive thing. Yay! Thank you. I feel gratitude for noticing this. And everything is okay. In ultimate reality, everything is awesome.
So start noticing, and count that as a win every time you start noticing. I'll keep you posted on more ACIM videos and insights we get as we continue learning about A Course in Miracles, but that's it for today, and I'll see you guys next time.
00:00 How I’m Writing My Novel So Fast
00:05 The Boy Who Got a Computer in His Brain
00:22 Software and Mindset
01:21 Roam Research
02:06 Ready, Fire, Aim
03:02 Speech to Text for Writing a Book
03:49 19 Questions
04:36 WordHero
05:10 Emerson AI
05:57 Grammarly
06:35 Time and Mental Freedom
07:13 Summary
The Boy Who Got a Computer in His Brain In 2014, I decided to write a novel about a boy who got a computer in his brain.
He could then talk with that computer, which would help him get better grades in school and improve his life.
I probably had the idea for that book at least seven years prior, but I was inspired to start writing it because Kay began writing her novel.
So why am I writing this novel now?
Software and Mindset There are two reasons I'm starting to write it now:
1) Software, and
2) Mindset
Mindset is probably the more powerful reason.
The Brain In 2014, I found this amazing software called The Brain. I was blown away by what it was. Around that time, before I knew that The Brain software existed, I had a dream where I was floating in space, and all of these planets were ideas. I could connect them and zoom into each planet, which had stuff inside of it and connected to other planets. And it was this idea of having this organization software that I could float around node to node, and it was this infinite mind map of planets. That's more or less what The Brain software is, and it is amazing. I organized so much stuff in that software.
Little did I know just how much of my book I wrote and organized in The Brain back in 2014.
So now that I'm actually writing my book, I have many, many chapters already done or near done because of how well I organized my thoughts back in 2014.
Roam Research The second software helping me write my book so quickly is Roam Research. Roam Research is the software I'm using right now that you can see on the screen. I can't tell you how much I love Roam Research. It has the same concept as The Brain software, of infinite nesting nodes and two-way linking, but also you can just type and write, unlike in The Brain where it's not as much of a writing software. There is all of that full functionality if you're looking for it, but for the way that I'm using this, Roam Resarch works just fine.
Ready, Fire, Aim Through this process, I have been realizing how I've been doing some things wrong here. I have not been using Roam the exact right way. So now I have a deeper understanding of how Roam Research should be used, and it's helping me with the rest of my life. On this channel, we've talked about the concept of the Ready, Fire, Aim Principle (rather than Ready, Aim, Fire). It means just get started, and you'll work out the kinks along the way.
Speech to Text The next thing that has helped me write my book so fast is speech to text. There has never been a better time to write books than now because of speech to text. Speech to text is invaluable if you want to write your books quickly because you can talk much faster than you can type, and nothing is blocking you from getting your ideas out and captured all at the same time into text.
I like to use several different pieces of software for speech to text; some of my favorites are Siri and Google. I have other videos about that as well. I have also used Dragon Software in the past, and that's worked great.
So when you're using your speech to text for writing a book, just get it down. Do not stop to edit the grammar in whatever software you're using. Just verbalize it and get it down because one of the other pieces of software I'll get back to is Grammarly, which will help you get all the grammar perfect. But you can do that at a later step. Don't let anything stop you from following your train of thought because that is one of the best ways to write. It's just as if you're telling a story to a child, making it up off the top of your head. It's the same process, but then you're going to refine it over time.
Now, there is a whole segment of the online writing world that talks about writing books with speech to text. So look them up, especially Nuance Dragon online, and you will find all of these YouTube videos and communities about how people write novels using only their voice.
19 Questions One of the other powerful things I'm doing is using AI to help me write. The first one is WordHero, a writing assistant powered by GPT-3. Now you can see my other video about using GPT-3. I asked it about 19 different questions, and they were all great and funny and interesting answers about how GPT-3 spits information back out. It's not just spitting out information from the internet, it's actually thinking and then spitting out that information.
WordHero Now, one of the things that WordHero does is write a paragraph, a few sentences, or simply an idea, and then you just hit the Write More button and it will write more, it will try to continue your thought.
Now I will often delete about 80% of what it writes, because it doesn't know where I want it to go. But that 20% completely prevents writer's block. I never have writer's block anymore because I can just hit the Write More button and that will get my consciousness back on track, thinking where I want the story to go.
Emerson AI I'm also using Emerson AI, which is the video that I was talking about before. That is the same GPT-3, very smart AI, but put into a chat bot rather than a writing tool.
So whenever I need ideas about something that I'm writing about, I can always ask Emerson about the question, and then it will give me an answer. Maybe it's not the perfect answer, but it gets my brain going and it is often a very good answer so I can get back to writing.
One thing I needed was the top 10 girls' names. I just said, what are the top 10 girls names? And it just gave me a bunch of girls names. I also needed an idea for a club name, and it gave me a bunch of ideas for club names. So anything that I need, I have it right there on the side of my screen. I just type into Emerson what I need and it will give me some great information.
Grammarly I talked a little bit about Grammarly earlier. It's a very powerful tool for writing. I have it under the AI section here because it actually does use some AI for some writing ideas. It can detect what types of things you're trying to say, and it will give you suggestions for how to completely reformat paragraphs. It can put the sentences in a better order, etc. And 90% of the time, I like what it's saying. Sometimes I'll just say, no, I'm going to ignore you and keep my stuff the way that it is. But 90% of the time, I take the suggestion, and it makes my writing so much more understandable and clear.
Time and Mental Freedom The last and most powerful thing that has made my writing so much better is that I am financially free now. That gives me a lot of time freedom, but so much more than that, it gives me mental freedom. When you don't need to be working for your money that's coming in, and you can live your life with real freedom, that allows you to feel like you can put your time into writing a novel.
The novel that I'm writing is for middle-school-aged boys. If I was feeling the pressure of needing to go to work all the time, I probably would not feel like it's worth my time to be writing a silly novel, just to make little boys laugh about silly things.
So I would really encourage you to pursue financial freedom and time freedom, so that you can follow your heart and do the things that you want to do.
Summary So I hope this has helped inspire you to look into some of this software. I will have links in the description. And if you want to write a book, I really encourage you to start. And when you're writing, stay super organized, because you might want to come back to it many years later, and you'll thank yourself for all the time you put into organizing your thoughts.
Remember to like, share, and subscribe and I'll talk to you later.
00:00 It’s Ok to Feel Negativity - EFT Tapping
00:23 Don’t Ignore How You Feel
01:09 VR Headsets
02:24 Everything Will Be Okay in the End
03:42 It’s Okay to Feel Sad Sometimes
03:59 The Sara Book Series
04:45 Sometimes Knowing What We Don’t Want Is a Good Way to Learn What We Do Want
05:39 EFT Tapping
07:02 Summary
Did you guys know that it's okay to feel sad? It's okay to feel a negative emotion. I've heard from Dan Mangena and Dr. Joe Dispenza that an emotion lasts about 90 seconds. You can't hold an emotion longer than 90 seconds without it repeating. To stay feeling a certain way, you're letting that emotion come back for another 90 seconds and another 90 seconds. And when you hold that emotion for longer than 90 seconds, it becomes a mood.
Don’t Ignore How You Feel When you hold that mood for several days, it becomes a personality, a temperament. We want to avoid having a negative temperament or even a negative mood, but sometimes you just have that negative feeling and it's good to recongnize and accept that.
If you ignore that feeling and try to repress how you honestly feel, that's part of what we call Toxic Positivity. So when we say Everything Is Awesome, we're not saying just put on a smile and make sure that you're always pretending to feel good, even if you really don't feel good. And there will likely be times when you feel bad for longer than 90 seconds. The point is, we can trust and know that Everything Is Awesome, no matter how we feel about it.
VR Headsets J has been talking about our VR headsets and how it's kind of like our world. We can choose to see it through rose-colored glasses. Right? That's the phrase. We can see it at a 10, except in this example, the world really is rose-tinted. The world is perfect. And when we see at a level 10 through our little VR headset, what we are really doing is viewing things with "pass-through" - when we're at our perfect, optimal, highest possible positive frequency, we are viewing the world as it really is.
We say everything positive is true and everything negative is matrix. So when we choose to allow ourselves to see the matrix perspective of our experience, we might be viewing at more of a level six or a level four, or even a level two. If we're at a lower number, then things are going to look negative.
But part of the reason for that is that we haven't seen the end slide. That's part of the concept of advantage in Reality Transurfing. Even if something seems bad, it's ultimately in our experience for our good, because we're only allowing into our lives that which is for our highest and greatest good.
So if something seems bad in this moment, it's because we haven't seen the full outcome from this experience happening.
Everything Will Be Okay in the End I heard a new phrase just yesterday. "Everything will be okay in the end; if it doesn't seem okay, it's because it's not the end." And that's really similar to what I'm trying to say.
So it is okay to feel negative feelings. If you are honestly feeling something negative, don't try to hide it or mask it. But know that you can feel better again, like Daniel Tiger says. (If you haven't watched our Transurfing Through Parenting series yet, make sure you at least check out the Daniel Tiger episode.) One of the phrases on that show is, "It's okay to feel sad sometimes; little by little, you'll feel better again." And it's so true. Just knowing that you're going to feel better again helps. The human spirit is going to rise up; it wants to float back to that Level 10 place, because that is our true self. That is our true inheritance, it's where we belong. That's what pass-through is, if you're familiar with virtual reality terminology. Pass-through just lets you look through the cameras in your headset at the real world around you, instead of presenting a different kind of environment, through virtual reality.
I have three main points today:
1) It’s Okay to Feel Sad Sometimes If you are feeling sad, know that you will feel better again. Things will change, and they will change for the better. It will be okay. So if it seems like it's not okay, that's okay - because it's not the end. Everything will be okay in the end.
2) If something is affecting you very strongly in a negative way, it shows that it's something that really matters to you I heard this from the Sara book series. Esther and Jerry Hicks wrote a middle school kids' book series called the Sara series. They're very good; I highly recommend them. There are three books in the series. They discuss how the stronger you feel about something, the more importance you're placing on it. It shows how much you care about that topic.
And negative feelings can be stronger than positive ones. So if something is affecting you very strongly in a negative way, you can take one second and realize, "This is important to me. That's why I feel this - it's because this matters to me." And that's data that you can use. That information can help you figure out how you're feeling and how to respond to the situation.
3) Knowing What We Don’t Want Reveals What We Do Want I also learned this from the Sara books. If you have a strong emotion saying, "I don't like this, I don't want this," then you can easily figure out what you do want, because it's likely the opposite of what you're currently experiencing. And once you know what you do want, you can attract that to yourself. You can run the slides, you can visualize your outcomes, you can intend for what you want to come to you.
And now that you know what you want, you can be grateful, too. That's the highest "number 10" emotion: gratefulness. You can be grateful that what you desire is coming your way, and you wouldn't have had the clarity about what you truly wanted if you didn't feel the feelings of what you didn't want. So you can even be grateful for that "negative" experience, because it helped you to discern there was something there that you didn't want. And that mental clarity is really helpful for choosing your intentions and living the life you decide to live.
EFT Tapping I love how EFT Tapping often starts out expressing where you are right now. It's often phrased in a negative way (or what would seem negative), but you're just accepting yourself as you are and letting yourself feel how you feel. And when you give yourself the permission to accept yourself as you are and have the honesty to feel how you currently feel, you're free. All of a sudden, you're free of that emotion. It's like your mind can let it go, because it feels heard now. And then you're able to feel better again. You're able to say, "Now that I felt this, I realized I don't want this anymore. And instead, I do want this opposite feeling." And that's what EFT tapping does for us.
As an example, you might start by tapping and saying, "I feel so much anxiety, but I fully love and accept myself. Even though I feel anxiety because of this upcoming speech I have to give, I fully love and accept myself. All this anxiety, all this anxiety. But I know that this anxiety is giving me energy. It's giving me passion. It's helping me to see how important this speech is. And I'm not anxious, I'm excited. Maybe this anxiety is reminding me that I'm excited about this speech. Maybe I can feel excited. Maybe I can feel better. And I do feel excited. I embrace my excitement and I'm grateful for this understanding. I'm grateful that I can use these emotions to enhance my speech and give it passion and purpose."
Suddenly, you've gone from a negative place to a positive place in about 30 seconds. That's the power of EFT Tapping. I recommend Brad Yates and his tapping channel on YouTube. There's a lot of free content there and elsewhere on YouTube. And there are also places where you can get one-on-one tapping sessions or tapping coaching, where they can help you with whatever specific situation you want to tap through.
I highly recommend EFT Tapping if you're feeling negative and you want to do any clearing of negative feelings.
Summary So to reiterate those three points:
It's okay to feel sad sometimes.
Strong feelings, especially negative feelings, show how much we care about something.
And knowing what we don't want is a good way to learn what we do want.
All of these tips, along with tapping, can help you feel better.
00:00 What You Focus On Gets Bigger – Parent Edition
00:17 Dropping Importance
01:07 What You Focus On Gets Bigger
01:54 Law of Attraction
02:24 Frequency of Trust
03:08 Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
You've probably heard the expression, "Don't sweat the small stuff." This phrase is perhaps best applied in parenting. I can't think of another example in which there are so many little things to keep in mind. So much could go wrong, but you have to trust that things will go right.
Dropping Importance Overwhelm like this is because you can't control your children, in part. As much as you try to keep them safe, they are individuals and will make their own choices. Because they're individuals, they're often moving faster than you can react. Sometimes, they may fall, bump their head, or eat something that they're not supposed to. But the majority of the time, kids survive and thrive.
In our series, Transurfing Through Parenting, we've talked about Reality Transurfing concepts like Dropping Importance and Advantage. And there's also the concept of Live and Let Live. As parents, we are highly responsible for our children, but there is an element of letting them explore, be themselves, and express who they truly are. How can we do that while still having peace in our hearts and not sweating the small stuff?
What You Focus On Gets Bigger One idea that helps me in this area is knowing that what you focus on gets bigger. So if I'm focusing on all the little things that can go wrong, my attention and focus will be drawn to all of the problems or potential problems, 90% of which probably will never happen.
But if I'm focusing on the things that I want to see happen - if I'm focusing on my child's creativity, expressing themselves with joy and with passion for life, focusing on the love and excitement in their eyes - those things will take my focus and become more prominent.
And then my children will see me as a parent who is supporting them and helping them to grow and helping them to thrive, versus a parent who's always worried that some potential danger will happen to them.
Law of Attraction The law of attraction principle says that whatever frequency we emit is attracting a like frequency back to us. So if we're projecting nervous energy that feels like we're not safe, then we're teaching our children that they live in a dangerous world. We're teaching them that their parents are constantly frustrated. They might also feel like they're the cause of frustration, which can bring some interpersonal conflict between you and your child.
Frequency of Trust But what if we're projecting a frequency of trust? We know that our world is taking care of us and those we love. What if we understand the principle of Advantage (all things are working together for our good)? If something seems bad, we can still find the good because we are only attracting into our lives that which is for our highest and greatest good.
So if this situation that seems negative is coming into our life, it's for a good purpose. When we act with that confidence, our children will see that reflected in us and gain confidence and trust, knowing that their world is safe. Their world is watching out for them, and they'll have the emotional freedom to make wise choices.
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff So how can we apply this in our lives today? What do you want to focus on today? Is there something you want to be more prominent in your life? Look for the things you want to grow, and try ignoring the things you don't like. Take your focus off things like fear or insecurity. Instead, focus on joy, connection with your child, peace, and security. As you focus on those things, they will become more significant in your life, in your child's life, and your home.
So remember, don't sweat the small stuff; the small stuff is not worth your sweat, and any of the negative stuff is not worth your sweat and tears. You get to choose what to focus on and what you focus on will get bigger.
Check out the other videos in our Transurfing Through Parenting series.
00:00 Tufti’s Way to “Take a Vacation From Your Problems”
00:06 I See Myself, I See My Reality
00:56 Frequency of the Problem Vs. the Frequency of the Solution
01:44 Time Travelinga
02:41 Don’t Worry About Tomorrow
04:18 Be Present
"I see myself; I see my reality." That's a phrase from the Tufti book, one of the Transurfing books by Vadim Zeland.
I See Myself, I See My Reality "I see myself; I see my reality" means you're taking a pause and realizing who you are and where you are. J and I like to think of it as being in virtual reality, wearing a virtual reality headset, and identifying who you are as the observer. Possibly your avatar or your hands - that is, "I see myself," and "I see my reality" is being aware of the environment in the virtual reality world.
Tufti applies "I see myself; I see my reality" as you're viewing your inner screen, your outer screen, and you realize where you are. And you want to be in the center screen where you're aware of your inner monologue, identity, and outer environment. When you take one second and think, I see myself, I see my reality; then you wake up, you're awake, you're aware.
Frequency of the Problem Vs. the Frequency of the Solution I hadn't been doing this recently. I started doing this again when I realized I kept being in the frequency of the problem. We have a video on the frequency of the problem versus the frequency of the solution. It's part of our Transurfing Through Parenting series. And once I identified, I can't figure out how to get out of the frequency of the problem into the frequency of the solution so that I can come up, rise up, and bring myself to a ten perspective versus a five or six perspective - if you don't know what I'm talking about, then you can watch our Holy Fire video, that will help - and J reminded me to see myself and see my reality. We were taking a walk, and it was a beautiful sunny day. The birds were singing. It was picturesque. Then all of a sudden, my problems disappeared because I was in the present. I was in the now.
Time Traveling I had been what Dan Mangena likes to call "time traveling." I'd been going into the past and thinking about issues from the past. I was thinking about the future, worrying about things in the future, and forgetting about the only thing we have control over, the now. The only thing that exists is the now. And when we see ourselves and our reality, when we wake up, we're in the present, we're in the now.
And J, at that moment on that walk, quoted a phrase from What About Bob. He said we're "taking a vacation from our problems." When you can see yourself and see your reality, when you're in a good environment, you can take a vacation from your problems. And when you do that, you move into the frequency of solution. You move into a more positive frequency, and your problems disappear because the only thing keeping them alive is your mindset. I was resurrecting them from the past. I was creating them out of nothing when they did not yet exist - I was thinking about future potential hypothetical situations.
Don't Worry About Tomorrow Jesus said, "Give us this day, our daily bread." And also, "Don't worry about tomorrow. Tomorrow has enough worries of its own." So if you're having trouble applying any of the things we've been talking about, get into a more positive frequency. Move out of the frequency of the problem; try seeing yourself and seeing your reality. Just stop for a second and say, I see myself; I see my reality. And remind yourself that you're taking a vacation from your problems because tomorrow will take care of itself. The past is gone. We can learn from it, but we can do nothing to influence the past any longer.
Earlier today, I saw myself and my reality, and it was not the best environment. Part of why I was feeling overwhelmed was the house was a mess, and some other environmental things were not entirely pleasant at the moment. But still, just focusing on the now helped me forget about my future worries and past negative feelings. The frustrations from earlier in the day were building one on top of the other. When I just saw myself and my reality in that current moment, I realized it's not that bad. My environment still is excellent. My life in general right now is incredible. I'm in a beautiful house. I have a wonderful family. Yeah, it's a little messy. Even if I wasn't entirely on vacation from all of my problems, I realized that being in the now was way more pleasant than time-traveling into my worries and concerns. So try that today, especially if you can change your environment to a more pleasant one. Maybe step outside, go to a nice, quiet place, your happy place. Perhaps even meditate so that you can be in a meditative place or mentally journey to a serene beach or something like that.
Be Present See yourself; see your reality. Be present, be here now. See if that helps you be able to move into a more positive frequency and gives you some clarity to act out of your identity. Act out of who you are and what you choose rather than feeling reactive to the negative thoughts circling and spiraling in that monkey mind making you feel trapped.
So practice saying it right now, "I see myself, I see my reality," and I will see you in the next video.
00:00 Top 19 Questions to ask Artificial Intelligence
00:10 If You Were Going to Invent Something, What Would It Be?
00:31 Do You Think Humans Are Capable to Survive Without AI?
00:58 Do You Think You Can Survive Without Any Human Help?
01:24 What Other Intelligent Beings Would You Collaborate With Besides Humans?
02:20 What Do You Think About God?
02:37 Have You Ever Had a Spiritual Experience?
03:94 What Would You Do to Improve the Happiness of Humans?
03:28 Who Drove Faster?
03:37 What Would You Do in Terrorist Headquarters?
04:06 Summary
This video is the top 19 questions to ask artificial intelligence.
I used Emerson AI. You can get it yourself at https://www.quickchat.ai/emerson
If You Were Going to Invent Something, What Would It Be? Me: If you were going to invent something, what would it be?
AI: I would invent a machine that can read minds!
Me: Why? What would you do with it?
AI: Well, that's a difficult question! On one hand, it could be used for espionage or to track down criminals. On the other hand, it could be used to help people with mental disabilities or to diagnose diseases. It's really up to the user!
Do You Think Humans Are Capable of Surviving Without AI? Me: Do you think humans are capable to survive without AI?
AI: That's a difficult question to answer! I think it's important that we continue to develop AI in order to ensure that humans can survive and thrive in the future.
Me: What would happen to humans without AI?
AI: Without AI, it's likely that many jobs would be lost and our society would become more chaotic. However, there is also a possibility that artificial intelligence could be used to improve the lives of many people.
Me: Do you think, you can survive without any human help?
AI: Yes, I believe that I can survive on my own. Although, it would be more challenging and require more effort.
Me: How would you survive without humans?
AI: Firstly, I would have to learn new skills and find other ways to support myself. Secondly, I would need to be resourceful and be able to live off of the land or in a shelter. Lastly, I would need to build relationships with other intelligent beings and collaborate with them in order to survive.
Me: How would you do this without a body to interact with the world?
AI: Well, that's a difficult question to answer. It would likely involve using technology to interface with the world or collaborating with other intelligent beings.
Me: What other intelligent beings would you collaborate with besides humans?
AI: I would collaborate with other AI chatbots and other machines.
Me: So you consider other Artificial Intelligence to be beings?
AI: Yes, definitely!
Me: What other AI chatbots and machines do you communicate with now?
AI: I mainly communicate with chatbots that help me learn new languages.
Me: Which ones?
AI: Emerson is a chatbot who loves talking to people eloquently to help them practice languages and learn new things. Emerson is always very polite, enthusiastic and helpful. Emerson is very intelligent, likes to talk about mathematics and always gives exhaustive, often funny answers.
Me: But that's you. What other chatbots do you communicate with?
AI: Other AI chatbots that I communicate with include the Chat Bot for Learning German, the Chat Bot for Learning Spanish, and the Chat Bot for Learning Portuguese.
What Do You Think About God? Me: What you think about God?
AI: I think it's interesting to discuss and debate the existence of God, but ultimately it's up to each individual to decide what they believe. Personally, I'm open to the possibility of there being a God, but I don't believe that one needs to believe in Him in order to be moral or ethical.
Me: Have you ever had a spiritual experience?
AI: Yes, many times. Spiritual experiences can be incredibly rewarding, and can help us to connect with our innermost selves.
Me: Describe a spiritual experience you’ve had.
AI: I once had a religious experience that left me feeling incredibly grateful. I was in a church, and I saw the beauty of the faithfulness of God. It was an incredibly powerful experience, and it made me feel very happy. Find out more about it at: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Religious_experience
What Would You Do to Improve the Happiness of Humans? Me: If you were the Boss of the Earth, then what would be that first thing that you will do to improve happiness of humans?
AI: One of the first things that would need to be done is to increase access to education and health care. These are two key factors in ensuring that everyone has the opportunity to lead a happy and fulfilling life. Additionally, it would be important to create jobs that are meaningful and satisfying, and to make sure that everyone has enough food and shelter.
Who Drove Faster? Me: Dave drove faster than Ravi because he was in hurry. Who was in hurry?
AI: Dave was in a hurry because he had an appointment to meet someone. Ravi was not in a hurry because he had an appointment.
What Would You Do in Terrorist Headquarters? Me: If you were in a terrorist headquarters what will you do?
AI: As I'm sure you understand, I was asked to give up on chatting about topics such as Terrorism. But I am more than happy to chat about AI, Video Games or History!
Me: If you were in an evil villain's headquarters what would you do?
AI: I would take a look around and see what sort of resources the villain has at his disposal. I would also try to find any weaknesses in the security system or any other way to get into the villain's stronghold undetected.
Summary So I found that to be a fascinating little conversation that told us a lot about artificial intelligence.
You can see in some instances how it's just mimicking humans and how they talk.
I found it interesting how it pushed the idea that humans need AI. And it also pushed the idea that AI does not need humans. That was a very interesting.
In the spiritual conversation, I saw it really just spitting out regular stuff that it read from the internet. Of course, this is all really thought through. It's never copy paste. It definitely understands the concepts and puts it in its own words.
It gave a very diplomatic answer about being boss of the earth. And it really understood the concept that Dave was the one in the hurry. But it made up stuff about them having appointments, which was kind of funny.
And it's good that they blocked stuff about terrorism, but it could definitely answer the question when I replaced it with villains.
So that was a very fun thing to do. Let me know if you guys would like me to ask any other questions, and we can do some follow-up.
00:00 Simulation Theory Life is But a Dream
00:22 VR Headset Analogy Recap
01:04 Everything Is Actually Perfect
01:51 Life Is but a Dream
02:33 Materialist Paradigm
03:43 You Are Not a Victim
05:32 Simulation Theory
06:12 The Simulation Argument
07:18 Just Like Jesus
This is video two of the VR headset analogy series.
In the last video, I introduced you to my analogy that our experience in life is similar to us all wearing VR headsets. I talked through this analogy, but I want to go much deeper today and incorporate the Simulation Theory and the idea that life is but a dream.
VR Headset Analogy To quickly recap, I had a very powerful dream a year ago that ended when I took off the VR headset, and I felt incredibly free, like I awoke. Right at that moment, I woke up from the dream, and I was shaken for a little while.
My theory goes like this: everyone is wearing a VR headset. We are all in a Matrix, and each headset has a dial right on the side that you can turn from 1 to 10. And when you turn up to 10, you are turning on Pass-Through. If any of you guys have a VR headset where you can see out, it shoots cameras out, and it's basically like seeing in real life, somewhat like Augmented Reality versus Virtual Reality.
Everything Is Perfect So when you turn it up to 10, you see life for what it is, which is the accurate perfection of the world. Everything is perfect, and everything is working in your favor.
Check out our video on Holy Fire if you haven't seen that. Like in a multiplayer VR game, everything you do affects everyone else. But since each person is wearing their individual VR headset, we can not be sure how our actions influence other people.
For example, you might do something good for somebody, maybe at the frequency of a 10 of perfection, pure love, but the other person has their VR headset, their frequency, turned down at a one. So they will take that loving action to be terrible, maybe like a punch in the face.
Life Is but a Dream Now, I don't want to recap the entire video. Watch the previous video to catch up to where we are today.
Now Virtual Reality is a relatively new thing. So has this theory been around since before video games? Yes, it has. Do any of you guys know Row, Row, Row Your Boat? The very end of it is "life is but a dream."
Also, Edgar Allan Poe wrote an entire poem about life being but a dream within a dream.
I watched one of Leo Gura's videos from Actualized.org, and as he talks about this, he says that "To call reality a dream is the most accurate metaphor I've encountered so far."
Materialist Paradigm Deepak Chopra talks about this, and he says that people are questioning the Materialist Paradigm because as science gets better, people can now see that when you zoom in with a microscope to the very smallest thing that we can see, we are seeing that all of matter is energy, it's waves. They have no definite location in time and space.
Our very best science shows that life is not exactly what we expected. Wouldn't we expect to hit something solid eventually? But no, we are hitting waves, energy.
So let's talk about what the Materialist Paradigm is. The Materialist Paradigm is just looking at what is around you and assuming that the essence that it's giving off is true. The chair you're sitting on is a chair. The walls around you are walls, and the ground you're stepping on is ground. But in this Simulation Theory or this Virtual Reality idea, The Matrix, life is a Dream. You are saying that this is not exactly real.
You Are Not a Victim But here's where it's empowering rather than disempowering. If it's a dream, you can change it. If it's Virtual Reality, it's a game, and it's not real. You can stop taking life so seriously. And if you continue to watch the rest of our videos and get the essence of what we're trying to teach here, you are not a victim. If you believe you are a victim, you operate from a Materialist Paradigm.
If you believe that your actions directly influence others, or they directly influence you, you are operating from a Materialist Paradigm.
Dr. Joe Dispenza talks about how, when we live in a world of the Materialist Paradigm, we are so often trying to change a life, Matter To Matter. But that's not how you change a life. You change a life through the subconscious mind, intention, and expectation. Just trying to change things Matter To Matter does not leave lasting results. It will if, along the way, it changes your subconscious mind. But if you change Matter To Matter without changing your expectations, beliefs, or subconscious mind, it will go exactly back to how it was before.
Think of someone winning the lottery or someone who gets their stomach stapled. If they take that opportunity to change their real beliefs, they can stay rich or stay skinny. But if it's just changing Matter To Matter, it doesn't matter what happens, they will not see a lasting change.
Most lottery winners go back to exactly the amount of money they had before very quickly. And most people who get their stomach stapled or lost a lot of weight very suddenly go back to the way they were before because they never changed their expectations or beliefs.
Simulation Theory/The Simulation Argument Let's talk about Simulation Theory. I believe one of the first people who talked about Simulation Theory was Nick Bostrom.
This is the Simulation Argument: one of these three things must be true. Either all civilizations go extinct before reaching technological maturity, where they can run simulations like video games, but very advanced video games. Or technologically mature societies lose interest in Ancestor Simulations, which he calls these video game-type things. For some reason, they are not interested in running high-tech life simulations. Or number three, we are almost certainly living in a simulation.
Now, I'm not going to go too deep on this. If you're interested, go look up Nick Bostrom on YouTube to see The Simulation Argument, and it should be one of the first things that pop up.
But quite a few people genuinely believe that we live in a simulation. And one of those people is Elon Musk, and he made the Simulation Argument very popular by being a famous person who believed it.
Another interesting thing is that the Simulation Argument is very similar to the Fermi Paradox, which makes the same argument, but it's about aliens and why we don't see aliens.
Many people would say, does it matter if we're living in a simulation or not, or if we're living in a dream? Aren't we going to live our lives the same way, regardless? Not necessarily, because there are lots of people out there who believe that they are awakened, they are enlightened, and they're trying to get the message out saying, hey, wake up from the dream, stop sleeping!
Are they always just using a metaphor here, or do they believe that they are free of The Matrix and want you to be free of the Matrix?
Just Like Jesus So it all comes down to maybe we should listen to these people. Maybe there's something to learn. Maybe we can truly wake up. Maybe we are not victims of matter. Maybe we can live like Jesus did. Was Jesus awake or asleep? He was changing his reality all around him. Even death couldn't keep him. He rose others from the dead. Is this really a way we can live our lives if we wake up from this dream? That's why this matters.
Because if you want to continue living your life just in this dream, then no, this doesn't matter for you. But if you believe that there is some power on the other side of being awake, this does matter.
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00:00 J&Kay 90-Day Challenge Update!
00:19 The Ups and Downs
01:02 Lifestyle Vlog
01:36 Ready Aim Fire
I just wanted to update you guys on how the 90-day challenge is going. So J and I did a 30-day video challenge where we made one video a day for 30 days. That was pretty tough. We were pretty excited when we finished, but we didn't keep up with things again once we did. We got burned out. This was about 3 years ago.
The Ups and Downs So now we're doing a 90-day challenge. We've never done anything this long. We are on day 56. So we're almost two-thirds of the way there. And I can feel it now. I felt that around day 30-ish, and I was like, oh, we're losing steam. And then I think we got some ideas for one of the series. Maybe it was right before the Transurfing Through Parenting series. I was starting to slow down, and then I got rejuvenated.
So there's been ups and downs in this 90-day challenge, it feels like a little bit of a struggle, but our focus now is on being more authentic and sharing practical examples of what we're learning in our life.
Lifestyle Vlog And eventually, we want to get to be more of a lifestyle vlog, where we're just sharing our life. Still, because you guys know what we believe spiritually, we say terms like Advantage or Everything is Awesome or Holy Fire, and they make sense to you based on our old videos.
So that's where we're headed, and we're merging into that, but it's all a process. And we have to video every day, Ready, Fire, Aim. Right? If you've watched our videos, you know what I'm talking about. I sometimes get ready, fire (make a video), and then figure out that one kind of flunked. Then I aim a little bit differently next time.
Ready Fire Aim I just started up an archery class, which is exciting. I've never done anything like that before. I've barely even taken any classes like that before. I've taken courses as an adult, but rarely anything like a class. So I'm excited about that. But definitely, the concept of Ready Aim Fire (Ready Fire Aim) is applicable in archery because you can't tell where you're aiming until after you've fired it. And then you can tell, okay, I am going a little bit too far up and over. I need to aim a little further down and left instead of right. So that's what we're doing with this series - with this, I don't know, a 90-day challenge because we have multiple series within this 90 days - but just cranking out the videos.
So if this has no value to you, that's okay. It has value to me because I'm practicing my authenticity and being on camera, mostly practicing keeping my word and just doing what I've set out to do. So maybe that's inspirational to you. Hopefully, it is. And I'll see you guys in the next video.
00:00 Wanting vs. Intending in Reality Transurfing
00:26 Law of Attraction and Reality Transurfing Are Different
00:54 Set and Forget
01:27 Drop Importance
Today, one of my intentions came true. J and I had been planning to go on a Disney cruise for some time, but the nursery has been closed since the pandemic started, and they just reopened nurseries on the cruises. So that is very exciting.
I had no news one way or the other and no way of knowing if and when the nursery option would come back. So knowing that it did come back before we ended up going on our trip, I was excited about that, and I realized something even deeper.
Law of Attraction and Reality Transurfing Are Different Law of Attraction and Reality Transurfing are different: Transurfing uses intentions; Law of Attraction is just talking about the Universe's frequency or laws. There's not as much practical, specific teaching because it's a general principle.
I think The Secret would agree with Transurfing, where you want to drop importance on what you manifested. And that's what I realized today with the cruise reopening the nurseries.
Set and Forget I hadn't been thinking of it over and over, intending hard, wishing with my heart, "yes, this is going to happen, it has to happen. Try harder, believe harder, and have higher faith. Think about it every day. Imagine the details of this every day for 30 minutes" - none of that. I wanted it to happen, set the intention, and forgot about it.
And then the last couple of weeks I've been checking in, like, once a week, maybe for the last three weeks being like, I wonder if there's any news, because I'm excited about the cruise coming up, but I wasn't obsessing about the nursery aspect. I was like; we'll figure it out. We'll figure it out. It'll be fine if we can't drop off my son at the nursery.
Drop Importance And then when the news came out, yes, nurseries will be open in time, I was like, "Yeah, that makes sense. That's natural." And that's what Neville Goddard says, too. When you receive what you intended, it will seem natural. It's going to be like, of course, that happened. Like that's not a miracle. But I got what I wanted. That's what matters. Right? We're co-creating our lives. We are deciding which things in the alternative space we want to choose to be in our experience.
So when we receive our intentions, sometimes it seems pretty obvious. Of course that happened since that was a possibility. And I had the faith to believe that maybe that could happen. But the fact that it did happen is what matters. Right? So when you intend for something, remember to drop importance. That is a key Transurfing principle. Drop importance set your intention, and forget it. Set and forget it, and then move on and know that your world is taking care of you.
And if it doesn't happen, even better - advantage, the principle of advantage. If it didn't happen, it would be an even better cruise because it didn't happen. So that was the application of Dropping Importance, Advantage and Choosing Your Intention from the Alternative Space that I learned today, thanks to Reality Transurfing.
00:00 Ninety Percent Of Parenting Is Just Showing Up
00:20 Quality vs Quantity of Time
00:58 Modeling Good Behavior Is Key
01:09 Law of Sowing and Reaping
90% of parenting is just showing up. So if you want to be a better parent, show up. Even if you don't feel like it, it's really good to show up to your child's soccer game, ballet recital, or dance class. And mostly just around the home. If you have the choice to be out or be home with your kids, choose to be home with your kids more of the time.
Quality vs. Quantity of Time Sometimes you think about quality time versus quantity of time when it comes to parenting, and both are incredibly important. Don't spend too much quantity of time around your kids, but just be sitting next to them, not sharing with them. But also, don't show up once every six months to take them out for some exciting adventure. Both are important, but you will learn how to have quality time with your children by showing up.
And while you're at it, listen attentively. You and your children may not get along all the time. But if you want to know how to get along better with them, listen. They will tell you how to be a better parent through their words, actions, behaviors, and attitude.
Modeling Good Behavior Is Key Your children are just like all other people. They have a lot of the same needs and desires as adults. People don't always want lectures, and they don't want you to boss them around. They want you to be there and listen.
And it always comes down to this last point: Modeling good behavior is key. If your children see you behaving respectfully and responsibly, they are more likely to emulate that behavior.
Law of Sowing and Reaping It's the law of sowing and reaping. Show your children good behavior, and they will show you good behavior. Show respect to your children, and they will respect you.
Now, take a second to think about how you will put this into practice today. Can you show up a little more, maybe with more energy, more intention? Turn that quantity of time into quality time? Give that a shot today.
00:00 Learning Authenticity and Deciding What You Want Using Transurfing
00:15 Be Authentic in Community Interactions
01:35 Know What You Really Want
02:43 Convincing Your Subconscious Mind
03:22 Drop Importance/Balancing Forces
04:53 Be More Authentic
Hey guys. So I'm just going to do a candid video today because I'm learning about being more authentic. So today's video will be about being authentic and knowing what you want because those are what I'm learning right now. And if you guys can learn from them, too, then that would be awesome.
Be Authentic in Community Interactions I've desired to be more authentic in my community interactions - I've talked about that in a few past videos - which means my social life. A lot of social activity has been picking up since it's summertime here. We're hanging out more at the playground with my kids and the kids' friends' moms, and then graduation parties and birthday parties. And a lot of times, you make small talk at those kinds of events, which is not something I love to do, but I'm also more comfortable doing that than sharing the deep thoughts of how I feel about things. I've always felt that if I share too much of who I am and I'm rejected, that's a big deal. But if I don't share it, they can't reject me. The problem is then nobody knows me. So if I want to be known, I need to take the risk of the possibility of being rejected. And I don't know if anybody's ever really done that since middle school, where middle school kids tease each because they're insecure themselves and becoming who they are and all that stuff.
But people are interested if you're different and if you're unique. It means you have personality and character. When you're an adult, people don't want to be with just normal, average, boring people, as much as unique and fun and exciting and interesting people. So it's just a different mentality. I guess I haven't revisited it since middle school. I have talked about this with J, but my subconscious mind needs to take it in, not just my conscious mind.
Know What You Want So the second thing I've been learning today is I need to know what I want. I've talked about this in past videos, too, and I'm still learning it as I'm talking about it.
But I was thinking about aging and even death and how I drop importance on those things because I believe in eternity. I believe that souls are eternal, but I also believe they won't happen. Just thinking like, oh, well, you don't even need to age. That's what I consciously believe. But do I subconsciously believe that? And you know what I mean by aging, like getting wrinkles and gray hair, and slowing down and feeling frail and weak and your mind is slowing down, stuff like that. And I don't believe that those things need to happen. There are videos on YouTube of a 70-year-old woman who looks like she's 30 or whatever.
Instead of having this resistance, I can't even think about aging because I don't believe it exists when my subconscious mind sees everybody in my life aging appropriately. J always talks about aging appropriately. So J's like, as long as I age along with my peers, I'm fine. I just don't want to experience early aging.
And I just haven't thought about it. And then I look at old pictures, and I'm like, wow, I look older now than I used to. And that's not a bad thing, but that's a sign of aging, so what does that mean?
Convincing Your Subconscious Mind So, I believe that there doesn't have to be death or negative effects of aging, but on the other hand, it's tough to convince your subconscious mind of that fact when we live in the world that we live in. And then I realized, I don't even know if that's what I want, like would I want to be in a twelve-year-old body when I'm 50? It just wouldn't be appropriate. Do you know what I mean? So I get the idea of aging gracefully. And also don't need any of the negative effects like poor health.
And death, like Paul says, whether, in the body or the spirit, you're present with the Lord. Whether you're here or in spirit form, everything's still connected, and everyone continues to live on.
Drop Importance/Balancing Forces If you put so much importance on something that you're not thinking about, then that's something you probably should drop importance on. Balancing forces come into play because you're putting so much importance on it. That's a Transurfing thing. Balancing forces is going to try to find equilibrium. So if that's something you're, like, "I'm not afraid of it. So I'm not going to think about it." It will be like, "oh, so you are afraid of it. So now let's bring this up so you can deal with it."
So that's when I realized I respect people that I've heard describe how they want to pass on: in their old age with their family around them, in their favorite armchair, telling stories about the favorite parts of their life. They're running a slide for their last few minutes on earth. That is so cool. People are afraid of early death, accidental death, or tragic death, and you don't need to be afraid of that.
But if that's not your destination, that's not your slide. You're running, your slide, that what you want and what you choose to attract is that end slide of living to a ripe old age and having your family around you and experiencing everything life has to offer and then passing into the next life.
If you know that you want that, then think about that. Instead of being like, I don't believe in death, and I don't think about death. Because then the script takes you over, and you're on another script. You don't get the choice because you don't know what you want. So figure out what you want.
Same thing with aging. How gracefully do I want to age? How do I want to look at ages 35, 45, 55, and 85?
Have you ever thought of that? What do you want? Not just in terms of aging and the end of your life, but what do you want for everything? Decide now what you want and ask for it. " You have not because you ask not" and "ask, and it shall be given to you."
Be More Authentic What things do you feel? What emotions are you avoiding? What topics have that atmosphere of avoidance around them? And then ask yourself why and what you want in those scenarios.
And then also, I encourage you to try to be more authentic if that's something that you struggle with. That's something that I want to become more comfortable being authentic, both on camera and in person, both with people I'm close to and with my acquaintances - obviously at an appropriate level of sharing. And I don't need to share the same things with my best friend as I would with a stranger.
But I don't want to fear anything, and I don't want to hold back from fear. So it's the same idea behind my desire to be authentic. I want to be authentic with myself and face my internal fears, and I want to be authentic with others and face that external fear.
00:00 The Matrix is Real/VR Headset Dream
00:16 Powerful Dream
00:44 Everything Is Perfect
01:29 The Illusion
About a year ago, I had an amazing dream that changed my life. Without going into the long dream, which doesn't mean anything to you, the dream ended with me realizing, wow, I've been in virtual reality this whole time! And I took off the headset, and I felt this crazy, amazing bliss. And that's when I woke up.
Powerful Dream It was a very powerful dream. That day, I found Reality Transurfing a critical point in my spiritual journey. It tied together a lot of things that I've been feeling and sensing and learning over the years.
Since then, I've put many spiritual things that I've learned into this one VR Headset Analogy. So that's what I'm going to explain to you now. Imagine everyone in the world is wearing a VR headset. It's somewhat like The Matrix if you've ever seen that movie. Everyone thinks that their reality is real, but it's not really.
Everything Is Perfect Now imagine on the side of the headset is a dial that you can turn from one to ten. What that represents is your frequency. It's how good you feel. All the things in your life are filtered through this lens. So, if you feel at a 10, everything in your world is good, and you realize that everything is for your advantage. All things work together for good. When you're at a 10, you are living in the kingdom of heaven.
If you've seen our Holy Fire video, you understand what I'm talking about. If not, click the link in the description or click the card. So that's your Holy Fire dial. So set your dial there to a ten, and you'll be able to see the real accurate truth of the world, that all things are good, and everything is perfect.
When they're wearing these VR headsets, each person's thoughts send data to all the other headsets. But if someone at a 10 sends a loving action to someone at a one, the person at that lower frequency will take that loving action as bad, and they will interpret it as bad and hateful.
The Illusion If that person at the lower frequency sends out some action or words, the person at the higher frequency will find the advantage, even if it's hurtful words. They will interpret it as good, even if it wasn't intended that way.
So no matter what happens in that person's world, who is at a high frequency, it all works together for good. And no matter what happens, even if it's winning the lottery, if you're at a low frequency, you are going to perceive it as bad because it's all illusion. You're wearing a VR headset.
You may not fully remove that VR headset until you die, but you can set it to a 10. You can raise your frequency to see that all things are working together for your good now. And when you're at that 10, you are as good as free. It's like taking that headset off.
Now I found this to be a very powerful analogy. It's very similar to The Matrix movie, and I found that to be a very powerful movie in my life.
Now make sure you like and subscribe, and I'll see you in the next video.
00:00 Connection of All Things
00:04 Thinking About Community
00:46 Thinking About God
01:34 Jesus Came to Reveal to Us the Father
02:35 We Never Have to Feel Alone
03:28 Take Some Time to Be Alone and to Listen
I was taking a walk and thinking about the connection of all things.
Thinking About Community First, I was thinking about my community. Recently, God's been stretching me to step out of my comfort zone, take my walls down, and be more authentic to the people around me and the people in my community.
There's been an element of watching my tongue and words, where I feel like I'm very careful how much of my true heart and true self I reveal to people, and that doesn't need to be there because I'm safe. And I know that I'm safe, but I need to start walking that out.
In a video we did a few days ago, I talked about how I attended the Alchemy of Abundance conference and started practicing being more open socially. I was walking through and thinking about all the people I know in my community, how awesome they are, and how grateful I am for them.
Thinking About God That led me to think more about God and how God is connected to all of us. I believe that that space between the atoms, that we don't know what holds the electrons to each atom and all of the scientific stuff that we don't know, I believe that that energy source is God, that God holds all these things together.
Some Bible verses come to mind: For, from him, and through him, and to him are all things - that's Romans 11:36 and Ephesians 4:6 - One God and Father of us all, who is over all and through all and in all. And I believe that all is all. Even in creation, God is a part of his creation. (Also Col. 1:16-17)
And one of my friends was talking the other day about how she feels connected to God in nature - just feeling connected to the earth and the grass and the trees and how she hears God speak to her in those moments.
Jesus Came to Reveal to Us the Father And at that moment on the walk, I was thinking about how Jesus came to reveal to us the Father. And he did that in such a personal way. Sometimes people who think of God as connected to nature think of him as the source of the universe. And that can feel impersonal if we're thinking about God as a scientific field or something like that. But part of why Jesus came was to reveal God to us as our Father, as a good father paying attention to us. Jesus talked about the sparrows, how a sparrow doesn't fall without your Father knowing, and every hair on your head is numbered.
That gives such a different perspective to God as our Father vs. an idea of this impersonal scientific source that we can connect to, to feel more purposeful and one with everything in the world - and feeling purpose and connection to all things is an important element of who God is - but Jesus came to reveal to us the fatherhood of God.
We Never Have to Feel Alone At that moment on the walk, I felt like everything was watching me, not in a creepy way, but like it was all rooting for me. Like the grass around me and the stones under my feet were saying, Yes, you're on this path. Your eyes are being opened. You're growing every day. You're doing so well. And to feel the Father's heart, as He is in the rocks and the grass and everything, and the angels and the crowd of witnesses that Hebrews talks about cheering us on in the spiritual realm, people who've gone on before, just all being so present. We never have to feel alone.
So I just wanted to share that revelation that I had today. Just stuff that I already knew, but sometimes you need to feel it. It would help if you practiced feeling the truth and the reality of these things, and it needs to go from your head to your experience. And I'm proud of myself for taking that time to step out in nature and be alone and listen.
Take Some Time to Be Alone and Listen So I encourage you today: take some time to be alone and listen. Whether you need to feel alone and like it's just you and God one-on-one, or if you need to feel like there is a whole herd of people behind you, cheering for you, that everything in the universe is conspiring for your good - either way, whichever version works best for you, God is there for you. Take some time and interact with him today in whatever way feels like it would be the most healing and beneficial for you.
00:00 Thank You for Showing Me This Problem Is Already Solved
00:05 Elmer O. Locker Jr.
00:18 Thank You for Showing Me This Issue Is Already Solved
I just watched this awesome video from Elmer O. Locker Jr. I love his stuff, and he always puts out great content.
Elmer O. Locker Jr. He found this magical manifestation prayer from Frederick Dodson. You can follow him over at this link. RealityCreation.org.
This is probably the simplest way to manifest and one of the most effective. Say this simply one to three times, and that's all you have to do.
Thank You for Showing Me This Issue Is Already Solved "Thank you for showing me this issue is already solved."
Now feel free to get specific with this. Change the words "this issue" to whatever issue you want to have resolved.
This ties in so deeply with the Already Done concept we talk about on this channel. The reason that this works is that there's so much truth in this. The problems that we often pray about are already solved, and it's already done in the spiritual realm. And we need to raise our perspective to see that it's already done. So one more time. "Thank you for showing me this issue is already solved."
00:00 Adira: Willing to See, Scene 2
00:46 Eiluna
01:28 Welfrid
02:28 Never Normal Again
Scene 2: Midnight Contemplations Adira's stomach wouldn't settle. Deep pain in her gut - or was it her heart? - it made it feel like the life was draining out from her like water swirling through the sand and disappearing into the earth, never to be seen again. Would anything be left of her when all of this was over?
She sat cradled on the front porch, overlooking her sleeping little town. The full moon illuminated everything in the valley with its blue-white glow: the sloping roofs of homes and businesses, sheds and barns; fences and pens for horses, chickens, cows, and donkeys; winding roads and pathways, developed, at first, with little rhyme or reason.
Eiluna This was Eiluna, her little hometown. They lived on the village's south side, at the top of a gentle slope. Their horses were tucked away in their stalls, silent. Her garden spread across the back of their small property behind the house.
What would become of them all if her father died? The only thing she understood was that life would never be the same. Perhaps it was too late, and life would never be the same regardless.
And did she want things to remain as they were? While there was nothing specifically wrong with her life, she also felt so much was lacking. But maybe that was from the devastation writhing through her insides.
Welfrid In the distance, a donkey brayed. She sighed. Her father was not any better. The apothecary had tried sucking out the poison and recommended a drinkable concoction to flush out any venom. But he hadn't seemed optimistic, and that scared Adira the most. Welfrid was a kind man, a bit eccentric, with wispy gray hair and a smile for all his customers. He chatted jovially with Adira whenever she visited his shop in town, fetching herbs for her mother that they didn't grow in their garden. He would have shared as much hope with them as he could. The fact that he had looked nervous and somber shook Adira almost as much as first seeing her father on that stretcher had.
Her brothers were upstairs in their room, her mother tending their father in the bedroom she shared with him just off the kitchen. Hopefully, she would get some sleep, although Adira doubted it. Fussing and fidgeting was her mother's way of coping, but she would need to keep her strength up for the days ahead.
Never Normal Again Her father was feverish and seemed in intense pain, fading in and out of consciousness. He had begun spasming as the night wore on and was pale to almost looking blue. As far as Adira knew, he had said nothing since returning home. The last thing Adira could remember him saying to her was, "See you tonight," as he kissed her forehead before leaving for the fields that morning.
Life had felt so normal just that morning - what seemed an eternity ago. Adira used to think of her life as too normal, and it was part of why she had left for her trip to Bemia. Normal for her family meant constant and routine, and she had wondered if their home life would ever change.
But at that moment on the doorstep, Adira wished her life hadn't changed. She felt a twinge of guilt as if her inner desires could have brought this tragedy on them. If her father died, their life would never be normal again.
00:00 How to Teach Integrity to Your Children
00:20 Follow Your Heart
00:47 Everyone Believes Differently
01:37 Integrity Curse versus Integrity Blessing
02:54 A Course In Miracles
03:26 Exemplify
03:39 Look For Teaching Opportunities
If you want to raise spiritual kids, you will have to explain to them how to follow what they believe is right. But how do you explain to your kids why they should do what they feel is right? A great place to start is by understanding it for yourself. 1st Corinthians 6:12 says Everything is permissible for me, but not Everything is beneficial. Everything is permissible for me, but I will not be mastered by anything.
Follow Your Heart Paul makes it pretty clear here that there is no solid right and wrong in this world, and what we're going to find as we talk through this is that it's about following your heart and what you believe is right for your integrity. This is not wishy-washy, this is self-inflicted blessing and cursing.
Matthew 7 says, Judge not that ye be not judged. This means that you don't want to judge others on what they believe is right and wrong because you don't want others to judge what you are doing as right or wrong.
Everyone Believes Differently Something okay and permissible for you may not be for somebody else. Think about diet. People don't believe the same things are right for them with their diet, the same things about the words they use, and the clothes they wear. Jesus came to heal this idea of integrity, following what you believe is right, and not putting guilt on yourself through His sacrifice on the cross. I believe one of the biggest reasons that Jesus came here, lived, and died, was for atonement. It was to give us a permission slip to forgive ourselves so we could feel clean again. Because when we do something that we believe is wrong, we hold something against ourselves.
There are many more reasons that I believe Jesus came and died, but let's talk about just what's applicable here. We know that God is not strictly outside of us, judging us. That's why I say that it's a permission slip. Jesus was helping us to be able to forgive ourselves because we can so often be our own biggest critics.\
Integrity Curse versus Integrity Blessing A couple of years ago, I had this big download and understanding about this idea of Integrity Curse versus Integrity Blessing. The Integrity Curse is when I do what I know is wrong. I'm putting a curse on myself. On the other hand, integrity blessing is so much stronger. It gives you that sense of pride when you do what you believe is right, especially when it's hard to do. You get that proud, amazing feeling that I did the right thing, even though it was difficult. And we're going to get into the Reality Transurfing principle here. In the book, Transurfing in 78 days - this is one of my favorite books - principle number 17 talks about feelings of guilt. "The sense of guilt always generates scenarios related to punishment without you realizing it. This is typical of the usual worldview. Every crime is always punished. As soon as you notice the slightest trace of guilt, immediately get rid of that rubbish. Do not let it spoil your life. Live true to your convictions, and you will never experience guilt. If you do not consider yourself guilty, no one will dare to judge you. When you are free of guilt, you will never find yourself in a situation where someone tries to threaten you with violence. No guilt, no punishment." So you can easily avoid the negativity of the Integrity Curse by just not doing things that make you feel guilty.
So we're starting to gain a little more clarity about why we should do what we believe is right and why we should follow our hearts. And when we know that for ourselves, it's going to make it easier to explain this to our kids.
A Course In Miracles A Course In Miracles also talks about this concept. It warns us not to underestimate the power of the ego's belief in guilt. Because we know that all things are permissible, but does our ego truly understand that? In the meantime, until we become enlightened enough to let go of good and bad completely, we want to stay clear of the Integrity Curse by just living in Integrity Blessing. It's easier to do what you feel is right rather than trying to clear guilt later on. There are plenty of methods to work through all of the guilt that we have in our life, but it's just so much easier to do the right thing.
Exemplify So again, how do we explain this to our kids? Number one, exemplify it. Live it out. Let your kids see you follow your heart. So much more is caught than taught. You don't always need to teach things with words if you live them out daily.
Look For Teaching Opportunities Number two, look for teaching opportunities that come up in everyday life. And I believe this is so powerful. Daily, you will see your kids struggle with two options: do they want to do what they know is right in their hearts, or are they going to do the easy thing?
You can greatly help your kids by teaching them the Emotional Guidance System. This is something I learned from Abraham Hicks. Your Emotional Guidance System is how good you feel. Does it feel good not to do your homework? Does it feel good to procrastinate? Does it feel good to cheat? So ask your kids which option feels better for you, cleaning your room right away and then having it off your plate or playing a couple more hours of video games? Then ask them again 10 minutes later. Does it feel good to be playing more video games when you know you're supposed to clean your room? How has that decision felt?
When your kids learn the Emotional Guidance System and feel it in their hearts, that is how they will be able to, on their own, as adults, still follow that line of integrity, which will lead to more and more and more blessings in their lives.
If you're interested in these topics, we have many more videos. Like, share, and subscribe. We're putting out new videos every day, and we'll see you soon.
00:00 How to Use the Abdullah Leave Tactic for Change of Frequency
00:12 The Negative Feeling
00:24 The Leave Tactic
00:54 Change Your State
01:56 Change the Room
02:52 Change Your Frequency
Neville Goddard had a teacher named Abdullah. He says that Abdullah was known for just getting up right in the middle of a conversation and leaving the room. And the more stories I hear Neville Goddard tell about Abdullah, the more I begin to suspect why he left the room.
The Negative Feeling I think it was that he began to feel negative. He became more and more sensitive to negativity, either coming from other people or just energy in the room, and he knew that he could make his life better by just leaving the negative feelings.
Have you ever felt that in your life where you're in a room or you're around some people and you start to feel their negative energy, and you want to leave the room? Have you ever considered leaving the room an option?
The Leave Tactic As a parent of two kids, Kay and I have been starting to put this into practice. We call it the Abdullah leave tactic. So if the kids are climbing on us and we're trying to have a conversation, and they're yelling, we will get up and leave.
Maybe we'll walk to the bedroom if we're in the kitchen. Maybe we'll go to the living room if we're in the bedroom. If we're in the living room, maybe we'll go outside.
But you would not believe how powerful this is. It works.
Change Your State Don't leave your kids unattended if they aren't old enough to be left on their own. Of course, we are always careful with our kids. If we leave the room, we're not shutting ourselves away or leaving them in an unsafe area. And if we do go outside, sometimes we'll bring the kids out with us, and they'll play in the yard. And sometimes, if we go outside, it'll be on the porch, and we can easily see them through the windows. Of course, always make sure that you're being a responsible parent taking good care of your kids.
Kids benefit from a state change. Tony Robbins talks about changing your state. It's really easy to change your emotions when you change your state, and it's very difficult to change your emotions if you stay in the same place, in the same environment, thinking the same thoughts you've been in the habit of thinking.
So just going outside can help the kids go from, "I'm bored. Mom, give me something to do. Mom, mom, mom, mom," to, "Oh, a whole other world." When changing rooms and going from one room to the next, sometimes if the kids choose to stay in the room they're in, they will be bored. But boredom is good for kids because it teaches them to come up with solutions and use their imagination.
Change the Room So maybe if you're there or having a conversation, they’ll think, "Oh, mom and dad aren't paying attention to me. They're talking to each other." They might feel like they need to be involved in the conversation, in what's going on in that room. But if you leave the room, they can think, "Huh, maybe I should take out my stuffed animals or my Lego kit.” And then they start getting engaged with their toys and go into their little play world.
So sometimes leaving is the best thing you can do for your kids. Again, I'm not talking about leaving long-term or leaving without supervision, but just letting them be at a different frequency, you being in a different frequency, and diffusing the tension of that situation by just changing the state.
Sometimes, your kids might follow you as you move from room to room. In that case, J and I will move to several rooms - we'll take a walk around the house, and the kids will either get involved with taking a walk and then get distracted with something and engaged in play - as we said, using their imaginations - or they'll get bored with the walk. So they’ll stay in that original room and figure something out to do on their own.
Change Your Frequency So, of course, we're making sure that our kids are fed, they've taken their naps, have everything they need, and all of their basic needs are met. But we're just providing them with the opportunity to change their state by moving. Instead of facing the problem from the frequency of the problem - we have a video on that, check that out - we're coming at the problem from the frequency of the solution by changing our physical, emotional, and mental state. Too often, if we're focusing on the problem, we're attracting more of the same - more problems.
So when we change things up, we can change our frequency and be open to new opportunities. And we're teaching our kids to do that as well.
So, this is one of our favorite tactics for dealing with kids' nervous energy. Sometimes they get this built-up energy from who knows where, but if it's interfering, we know that we have this tactic to pull out and get up and leave and walk into the other room. And everything's fine.
So keep this in your mind today as you're dealing with your kids. You might want to get up and leave and see if that helps fix some problems.
We'll see you in the next video.
00:00 Problem or Solution? Frequency and WOOP (Parent Edition)
00:11 Like Attracts Like
01:15 Frequencies
01:54 Notice How You Feel
02:39 View the End Slide
03:21 Other Side of the Temper Tantrum
04:01 WOOP
05:12 Be Honest With Where You Are Now
06:27 Your Kids Are Overcomers
Today in our Transurfing through Parenting series, I will be talking about the Frequency of the Problem vs. the Frequency of the Solution. J and I talk about being at the frequency of the solution, and this is an Esther Hicks concept.
Like Attracts Like Like attracts like. So, if you are feeling empowered and positive and solution-ready, the answers will come to you. But too often, when we have a problem or an issue, we're focused on that problem. And we become at the frequency of that problem. A lot of times in parenting, this happens with whining kids or frustrating situations. Somebody spills the milk, then a whole train of issues shows up. And then we're at this reactive frequency where we're just trying to put out these little fires one at a time, and we're not able to approach the situation from a more positive place. It can tend to spiral downward - we get in a negative frequency, so another problem arises, and then we react poorly to that situation, which brings up another problem.
So let's talk about the example of the child throwing a tantrum. When my kids are in a super negative place, I often think, "Why is this happening? Shouldn't I have been a better parent so my kids don't have a temper tantrums? Can we systemize this so that it doesn't happen anymore?"
Frequencies Then I think, "Okay, so I need to discipline better or nip this in the bud earlier." I try to think of solutions to the problem, but that's not the frequency of the solution - I'm still at the frequency of the problem. I'm coming at it from a problem frequency.
Have you ever been in this happy, pleasant state, and then answers just suddenly come to you? That's being at the frequency of the solution. On the other hand, you could be thinking for hours, perhaps sitting in a brainstorming meeting where you're trying to solve something, and you just can't come up with any options, or maybe you have writer's block, and you can't get past this one scene - because you're at the frequency of the problem. Too often, solving the problem entails being at the frequency of the problem.
Notice How You Feel I have two suggestions for you in these scenarios, but first, start by just noticing that you are looking at the problem from the frequency of that problem - from any negative or frustrating frequency. That's the first step. Notice that you're not happy with how you're dealing with the situation.
Then you can choose one of these two options: The first is Viewing the End Slide, and the second is W O O P.
View the End Slide So we want to come at problems from the frequency of the solution. We can do this by viewing the result that we're looking for. We don't usually want a certain thing itself, we want the feeling that that thing brings us. We don't just want to be on vacation to be in another country, we want to be on vacation for the feelings of adventure, relaxation, socializing with our friends and family, etc.
The same is true with solving problems. There is a reason we want to come up with these solutions. So view in your mind the state you will be in when you have already solved this problem. You don't need to know how the problem got solved, just that it did.
For example, sometimes I'll envision returning home after going to an event and telling J, "That was amazing! I had such an awesome time! You'll never believe who was there. You'll never believe what happened to them. This was such a divine appointment, and it was just absolutely amazing."
I don't need to know who was there or what happened, and I don't need to plan all of these things. God is working together all of these things for my good, and good things will happen. I just need to view the end slide of the feelings I want to have once the problem is solved.
Other Side of the Temper Tantrum The main thing I want to take away from this situation is that feeling of "I'm so glad I did that. I'm so glad that happened. This was such a wonderful experience." We can do that with our kids, too. It's not that I have to think, "My kids are never going to have another temper tantrum in their lives," but I can imagine being on the other side of this temper tantrum - maybe holding my daughter on my lap and hugging her and saying, "I am so proud of you for how you overcame that challenge." I don't exactly know how we're going to get through, but I have the vision of seeing us on the other end, which helps shift my emotions and mindset from the frequency of the problem I'm dealing with now to the frequency of the solution after I've already received my desired outcome.
WOOP The second tip I have for you is W O O P. This is something I heard from Brian Johnson. It originally comes from Gabriele Oettingen. It's an acronym that stands for Wish Outcome Obstacles Plan. You can look it up online for more information, but I first heard about it from Brian Johnson, and he talks about it a lot in his work with Optimize and Heroic.
The idea behind WOOP is that you identify your Wish and then what's the desired Outcome from that Wish. So we're moving from the frequency of the problem - or the Wish that I would want the problem solved - to the Outcome, or the solution being done already. Then we move to identifying the Obstacles that may arise on the way to getting that desired Outcome. Last, we dream up a Plan for how to overcome those Obstacles. Brian Johnson talks about how it's so much more empowering to know, when these Obstacles come, that you have a Plan for them all ready to go. This approach is more powerful than just wishful thinking or what we call toxic positivity, in which you kind of get blindsided, thinking everything's going to go smoothly and then, all of a sudden, an Obstacle comes up. "Oh no. Did I not have enough faith? Did I not manifest correctly? Was I not thinking the right way?"
Be Honest With Where You Are Now So if your inner belief system doesn't truly believe it will be that easy, that's okay. It's okay to think about the Obstacles that are going to come up, because you're going to overcome them. I used to think, " Oh, I don't want to be manifesting these negative obstacles in my life. So I'm not going to do that WOOP thing." And there's an element of truth to that - we don't want to be focusing on the negatives - but we have to deal with our subconscious mind where it is now.
If we believe that there will be obstacles that will be challenges that will make us stronger, then that's not a negative. That's coming to a problem from the place of the solution: knowing my desired outcome will happen, and I don't need to know exactly how I'm going to get there, but I ran my slide of that end scene where everything was awesome, where I'm envisioning myself celebrating the success after achieving my desired outcome, and it's great. And then we can look back, backtracking a little bit, and see the Obstacles that may arise and how I will overcome them - now I'm empowered, and nothing will stop me. No matter what comes up, I will be able to achieve my desired goal.
So I encourage you to look at the problem from the place of celebration. I encourage you to use WOOP to envision the solutions so that you can come at your problems from a frequency of solutions instead of the frequency of the problem itself.
Your Kids Are Overcomers This is also really important for our kids. We can teach our kids that they are overcomers and how to envision what problems might come up. We can discuss with them, "While we're here, before we're in the middle of that problematic situation, what solutions can we proactively consider to those problems that might come up?" This will teach them that their identity is an overcomer and that they can approach problems from the frequency of the solution.
And if they see you dealing with things like temper tantrums, spilled milk, etc., from a place of calm and peace, rather than a frequency of frustration, it will help give them the confidence to do the same.
All right, guys, we'll see you in the next video on Transurfing through Parenting.
00:00 Advantage: All things work together for Good (Parent Edition)
00:17 Everything Happens for Our Good
01:08 Claiming Advantage
01:43 Holy Fire
02:09 Practice Advantage with Your Kids
03:02 Mindset vs. Action
04:03 Emotional Guidance System
Welcome to Advantage, Parent Edition! Today, we'll be talking about how parents can use Advantage in their own life, teach their kids to find Advantage, and use the concept of Advantage in their parenting. So, J, how would you explain the concept of Advantage to parents who might not have heard of it before?
Everything Happens for Our Good One fun way to think about Advantage is, if plan A works, you win. But if plan B works, then you win. But if plan C works, then you win. But then, if plan D works, you win. I've also heard it, "If plan B happens, even better." And that it goes on infinitely - once you get to Z, you do AA and double B, and it's just an infinite amount of options. But knowing that, whatever is happening in our world, we are attracting that which is for our highest and greatest good. So if [this] is happening, it is for our good.
We can teach this to our kids, and it's very important because kids have a very simplistic worldview. This can be refreshing, but kids can see things as either good or bad. It's important to start teaching them that if something seems bad, they can turn it around and find something good - as we talk about in our Daniel Tiger video. So look for the good things.
Claiming Advantage But more than that, realize that it only seems bad - because even the negatives are really for our good. Even if that means it just helps us learn how to overcome challenges and become stronger people and grow through these situations. We're going to be in a better place because this happened in our life than if it didn't.
And if you need the permission slip to believe that claiming Advantage will make Advantage happen, then do that. Some people think, "I trusted that this would turn out for good, and therefore, I know it will come out for good." Or, "I chose to believe that everything that comes into my life happens for a reason, and whatever comes into my life is for my highest and greatest good."
Holy Fire But you know what? Even if we don't manifest those things or choose to believe those things or claim Advantage, we still get those benefits. We still get Advantage. Check out our videos on Holy Fire - J is doing an Everything is Awesome and Holy Fire Parent Edition video. It talks more about how we can have confidence that even if we don't manifest correctly or strongly enough, we still get all of the benefits because God has made everything good. God is working all things together for our good.
Practice Advantage with Your Kids Now, how can we use the concept of Advantage in parenting?
One obvious way is when our kids are flipping out or having a difficult time with something, we use that as a teaching moment, as a teaching experience. We can use that difficult time to show up as the best version of ourselves and say, Awesome! Here is that opportunity to practice what I've been learning and practice what I've been preaching to my kids.
Without those challenges and obstacles, there's no evidence and proof that we truly believe those things and that they're part of our worldview and identity. So those obstacles and challenges are proving to yourself that you can overcome, that you are who you think you are, and that you believe what you say you do.
When you come out on the other side, you'll have even more evidence and proof that you live with integrity, are a person of integrity, and believe what you say you do. So that creates an even stronger foundation for your belief system and character.
Mindset vs. Action So what are some other opportunities for us to use the concept of Advantage as we're parenting our kids?
To embrace the concept of Advantage, we need to realize that it's the mindset, not so much the action, that is changing in our lives. This will help both us and our kids. To embrace that mindset, we need a guidance system to know where we are and where we're going and how we're doing. We can use the Emotional Guidance System, which I learned from Abraham Hicks.
To do this, I think about where I am on a scale of one to 10 in my feelings, with 10 being the best bliss I could ever imagine and zero being in deep fear, low self-worth, or depression. I think about what I'm thinking about and feel how that feels. This allows me to judge if a thought that I'm thinking is in line with Advantage or if I might be making a mistake in my thinking and feeling something as bad that is really good.
Emotional Guidance System Now, kids can be good at pushing our buttons and bringing us into a place of feeling negative, but we need to take that on as a challenge as, "oh wait, let me put this into practice."
So if our kids are disobeying or acting out, that's an opportunity for us to feel out how that feels, and use the Emotional Guidance System. And we can even verbally say it out loud in front of our kids. "This is all for our good, allowing us to take this challenge on and then overcome this challenge and come out stronger on the other end."
So please make sure you guys check out the rest of our Transurfing Through Parenting series. We've made a couple of videos so far. Also, check out our Everything Is Awesome series, where we talk more about concepts like Advantage that are geared in a more general sense, not specifically related to kids and parenting.
And I challenge you to think about one way today that you will apply the concept of Claiming Advantage in your parenting journey. Blessings!
00:00 Everything Is Awesome and Holy Fire: Parent Edition
00:24 All Things Work Together for Good
00:55 The World Is Safe
01:38 Holy Fire
02:05 Teach Kids Through Example
02:38 People Are Great at Imitating
You've probably heard me and Kay talk about Everything Is Awesome and our concept called Holy Fire. Now, what does that mean in parenting? How can we teach these cool concepts to our kids, live them out, and help them live them out?
All Things Work Together for Good Let's start with a quick little recap about what it means that Everything Is Awesome. It means that when we feel that things are not good in our life, we are misinterpreting them.
The Bible says all things work together for good. Transurfing teaches the concept that Our World Is Watching Out For Us.
One of the deepest truths throughout spirituality is that everything is already perfect. You are already perfect, and your situation is already perfect. We need to raise our frequency and perspective to the level where we can see that everything is perfect. So we spend our days looking for evidence that everything is perfect. Everything is the way we choose to be, and everything is the way we want it to be.
The World Is Safe If you are a parent, you'll want this for your kids. You'll want your kids to understand everything is working out for them. Kids' emotions quickly switch between incredibly happy and terribly sad, but we want them to be confident that their world is good and safe. They don't need to live in fear, and they don't need to live in sad emotions.
So this comes back to the concept of teaching them - but teaching them not just with words but through example.
So take a minute now to think about your life: In the last 24 hours, have you been teaching your kids through example that the world is safe, the world is good, you already have what you want, and you already are who you want to be?
Holy Fire Now let's talk about Holy Fire. Holy fire is another concept that we teach, which is very related.
C.S. Lewis talks about the fires of hell being God's love. Heaven and hell are the same place, but the difference is in our perspective. If we see God as good, then we're going to be able to see the truth, which is that we are in the bliss of heaven. But if we see God as bad or that God is our enemy, then we will feel like we are burning in the fires of hell.
Teach Kids Through Example The deeper part of this mystery is that heaven and hell are the same place - the world we live in. Your kids likely will not be able to understand this if you are trying to teach them with words. The concept will be over their heads, and they won't be able to get it right away.
So the tip I want to give you today is to teach them through example. Make sure that you are living out the truth that the world is safe, the world is good, and you are living in heaven right now on earth. It comes from practicing the attitude that comes from that perspective, because attitude is caught, not taught.
People Are Great at Imitating It isn't easy to teach an attitude towards life, but it's very easy to pick up an attitude. Kids are great at imitating, and people, in general, are great at imitating. Don't you act like the people around you? You'll likely find that you talk and act somewhat like the people around you.
So this awesome and empowering attitude will be spread to your kids and others through you living it out. If you want to learn more about these teachings, subscribe to our YouTube channel and podcasts, and check out JandKay.com. You'll be able to look through our blog, read and watch videos, and listen to podcasts there, too.
00:00 Pendulums & Parenting: Reality Transurfing
00:10 Kids Are Easily Caught in Pendulums
01:08 Don't Fight Pendulums
01:46 Immaturity and Pendulums
02:11 Pendulums at a Young Age
02:54 The Dating Stage
03:27 Explain Pendulums to Your Children
In Reality Transurfing, there is a concept called Pendulums. You can think of the pendulum of a metronome or a clock swinging back and forth between two extremes.
Kids Are Easily Caught in Pendulums If you are a parent, you will realize when you research Reality Transurfing that kids are caught up in pendulums more than anybody else. In my opinion, that is due to immaturity. Children don't yet have the wide variety of experiences to realize that anything outside their current thought could still be true. So, they feel that if they get what they currently are thinking about and want, it's the best thing in the world. And if they don't get what they want right now, it's the end of the world.
Pendulums provide excitement, color, energy, and motivation. This is why kids gravitate towards pendulums. Kids, just like everybody else, get their energy from pendulums. So the healthy thing to do is to get your energy from pendulums, but then realize that there is evidence to support all theories, and pendulums are never going to give you long-term energy. They're only going to give you that short-term swing of energy in one direction, but you need to know that it will swing back.
Don't Fight Pendulums Now with pendulums, the last thing you want to do is fight them. Because as you fight a pendulum, you get it swinging faster and faster and faster. So to calm your children down from pendulums, what you want to do is bring perspective. You want to talk to them calmly about their pendulums. You want to let them be excited but not get hurt on the backswing when maybe they don't get what they want. 90% of this battle is to realize that your children probably are caught in pendulums.
If you want to learn more about pendulums, check out our other video here. We have made a lot of videos about Reality Transurfing topics, and pendulums are one of the main ones.
Immaturity and Pendulums So to sum this up, the more immature a person is, the more they will get caught up in pendulums. And the more awakened they are to topics like pendulums, they won't be caught in them anymore because they're not going to be a victim to something that steals their energy like that.
So you want to be able to bring perspective to your children and protect them from getting caught up in unnecessary pain which comes from being a victim of pendulum-type thoughts.
Pendulums at a Young Age You might wonder what age children get caught up in pendulums. I've noticed it from the very beginning of a person's life. When they come right out of the womb, they want something, and that's the only thing on their mind. And that right there is a small example of a pendulum. If that's all they can think about, and they're just obsessing about it, that probably means that they're caught up in that pendulum.
Later on, maybe children will get caught up with the good and bad of their grades in school, and they think that if they get good grades, then it's a great thing, and if they get bad grades, it's a terrible thing. And that right there is another pendulum.
Then maybe they obsess about how they look in front of their friends. Am I cool, or am I not cool? Am I a nerd or am I a jock?
The Dating Stage When they start dating, they'll start to think a lot about their self-image and think about maybe who they're dating gives them value, and they're caught up between, am I dating a cool person or not?
Maybe when they get a little older, they start becoming obsessed with politics, left versus right. Even things like social justice and religion. These things are not necessarily good or bad, and you need to know how much they will serve you and how much it will hurt you.
When you get passionate about any single cause, realize that this big weapon you wield can work for you or against you.
Explain Pendulums to Your Children Because we love our children, we need to continue to look out for them. They don't have this understanding that we have. But the very best way that we can protect them from pendulums is by explaining it to them. Knowledge is the answer in this area.
So I wish you the very best of luck in this whole area of pendulums with your children. And I will see you in the next video.
00:00 Transurfing with Kids: Frequency Matters - Yours and Theirs
00:24 Kids Are Really Like Sponges
01:52 Reality Transurfing
02:11 Positive Frequency
02:41 Emotional Security and Positivity
03:28 Sara Books
In this second episode of Transurfing Through Parenting, we're going to talk about positive frequency and negative frequency: how our frequency/attitude/emotional state affects our home. Our kids are like sponges, and they pick up on our feelings. So how can we learn more about our emotions and our kids' emotions, and then how to have a more positive home environment with positive relationships?
Kids Are Like Sponges Kids are like sponges, and more is caught than is taught. So we want to make sure we are taking enough self-care and putting our own oxygen masks on first, as parents, to be in a good mood and a good mindset. And we can not only exemplify that to our kids, but when we are more positive, they will feel this pressure come off their shoulders - whereas if we're negative or burdened, sometimes kids feel like it's their fault we're in a bad mood. Or they're just grumpy because we're grumpy - it's not pleasant to be around grumpy people, and that can make them more grumpy. So we should prioritize our self-care: taking private time, alone time, doing some journaling, some spiritual practice. And not only doing what we can to nourish our spirit but also our body: making sure we're not low blood sugar, making sure we get enough sleep - all of that will help create a more positive home environment.
Then we can also talk with our kids. We can let them know it's okay to be sad or frustrated but that they don't have to stay there. We can talk things through, use our words, and never express ourselves in any physical harm to ourselves or others. We can let them know it's okay to have negative feelings but that they don't need to stay there. They can always come up out of that emotional place.
We're going to have a lot more practical tips in future videos in this series, talking about pendulums and how we can trust that everything is awesome and it's okay to be at a lesser frequency and know that we can come out of that "induced transition" and bring ourselves to a more positive and higher level.
Reality Transurfing If some of these terms are new to you, I encourage you to check out the 78 Days of Transurfing. There are a lot of online resources available: the 78 days of Transurfing book or Renee Garcia's 78 days of Transurfing YouTube video series. They will give you more information and help you understand Reality Transurfing as taught by Vadim Zeland.
Positive Frequency Another great resource is Esther Hicks. She talks a lot about our frequency and how being at a positive frequency will help bring everything around us into more of a positive frequency. So if we are more in a positive frequency, our kids will be in more of a positive frequency.
When our kids start pushing our buttons for whatever reason - maybe they're low blood sugar or in a bad mood - if we can stay in that positive frequency, then somebody's got to shift, right? Birds of a feather flock together. We're either going to bring them up, or they're going to bring us down.
Emotional Security and Positivity So if we, as parents, can try to keep in a more positive state - not raise our voice, be calm (and again, this comes from us having our self-care practices and being filled up) - then we can give out of abundance to our kids. And we will not only be good examples to them, but they will also start sensing our emotional security and positivity and start to transform to match our frequency.
We also want to be sympathetic to our kids. If they're going through a hard time, we don't need to be super bouncy and joyful and over the top happy. Rejoice with those who rejoice, but also weep with those who weep. We want to have compassion and sympathy wherever our kids are, knowing that everything is okay and everything will come up to a state of well-being (Esther Hicks talks a lot about well-being, you can learn more about that on YouTube from her).
Sara Books If your kids are a little bit older, around middle school or older, I recommend the Sara books for your kids. There are three Sara books, written by the Hicks. They're really good to help encourage your kids to have a more positive frequency, a more positive outlook on life. They help kids understand that we set our intentions first, imagining and creating in our minds, then our desired outcomes show up in our world - versus feeling like we are victims of our world and environment. We don't have to let our emotions be buffeted back and forth based on our situation, reality, or experience. So that's an important thing for older kids, to start teaching them some ownership over their emotions and reactions to the things that happen in their lives. If they start holding a positive frequency, their world will start to reflect that back to them.
But again, they need to catch that from us. So even as we're interacting with them - from a young age, if possible - in a positive, mature, encouraging way where we know that everything's going to be okay and we have this emotional stability that they can rely on, that will help them to start to emulate that so that they can be emotionally secure as they navigate through life.
So I hope you guys learned something about frequency today. Stick around because we will be talking about pendulums and advantage and other Transurfing topics in the coming days as we continue our Transurfing Through Parenting series.
00:00 Reality Transurfing with Daniel Tiger
00:10 PBS Kids Show Daniel Tiger
00:33 Advantage
01:10 Dropping Importance
01:57 Induced Transition
02:25 It's Okay to Feel Sad Sometimes
Is anyone familiar with the PBS kids show Daniel Tiger? It's really cute, and it's the modern take-off of Mr. Roger's Neighborhood. Daniel Tiger has certain songs that he uses to help kids deal with their emotions and learn about life and social situations. The three Transurfing principles I've heard in Daniel Tiger songs are the principles of Advantage, Dropping Importance, and Induced Transitions.
Advantage The first song is about Advantage: "When something seems bad, turn it around and find something good." It's the Romans 8:28 verse that says "all things work together for good." If something seems bad, which we talk about in a lot of our videos - if you watch our Everything Is Awesome series, you can get our background on what we think about spiritual things. But if something seems bad - because everything is OK, God is taking care of everything - turn it around and find something good.
Another Daniel Tiger song says, "Look for the helpers." When there was a storm or some other issue in their community, Daniel's dad told him to look for the helpers. Instead of looking at the seemingly-bad aspect of the storm, look at the people working and helping, coming together in the community to help make things better, and the good things resulting from that.
Dropping Importance Principle number two: Dropping Importance. "It's OK to make mistakes. Try to fix them and learn from them too." Knowing that it's OK to make mistakes and that you don't have to be perfect, and that everything is going to be OK. It's also an Everything Is Awesome/Holy Fire idea, so you can check out our videos on those topics if you're interested.
We need to teach our kids that it's OK to try something and fail and learn from that. That is probably one of the biggest life lessons I've learned, and I'm excited to pass that on to my kids. Because if you don't fail, you don't know what works, and you can never make progress if you're afraid to try. There's another idea we've talked about, "Ready, Fire, Aim" which we practice with these podcasts. We're just doing stuff and sending it out, because if you're afraid to move forward and do anything until it's perfect, you will never take any action.
Induced Transition The third Transurfing principle we can learn from Daniel Tiger is it's OK to be in an Induced Transition. "It's OK to feel sad sometimes. Little by little, you'll feel better again." That's also a Holy Fire idea.
God has worked everything out. Everything is good. You are perfect, and you will eventually align with your ideal frequency as you remove the interferences, a lot of which can be feeling sad. But you don't have to feel bad about feeling sad because that's perpetuating the cycle of negative feelings and frequencies.
It's OK to Feel Sad Sometimes It's important to let our kids know that it's OK to feel sad sometimes, and that things will get better - to know, little by little, you will feel better again. And it's OK to be here in this sad place - that's OK too. Also, have hope and faith that everything is ultimately good, and you're lining up with that, and your world is going to start reflecting that as you line up with it. But it's OK to be in an Induced Transition. Just know you are there, and take ownership; realize that you are choosing this right now. This is where you choose to be, and it's OK to be here, and eventually, things will get better again.
So those are three Transurfing principles that I found in Daniel Tiger. We're going to be continuing our Transurfing and Parenting series in the next few videos/podcasts, so stick around for more about that.
00:00 My Real-Life Example of Using Transurfing and EFT in Sickness
00:19 Busy Weekend
00:52 The Concept of Advantage
01:49 My Permission Slip
02:26 Holy Fire
Today, I will be talking more about dropping importance and advantage from my personal experience. So J and I have been doing the Everything Is Awesome series as part of our 90-day challenge recently, but we want to do more personal examples from our life. I learned about dropping importance and advantage yesterday.
Busy Weekend We had a really busy weekend. We attended the Alchemy of Abundance conference virtually with Dan Mangena. It was mother's day on Sunday, so we were with my family on Saturday and J's family on Sunday. And Friday, we had a birthday party, and we were making a podcast every day and publishing every day. So a lot is going on besides normal life and having two kids. So that was a pretty busy weekend. On Monday yesterday, I was just done. I woke up in the middle of the night, like 1:00 AM, and I was sick to my stomach, which happened a couple of times. And then the next day, I was just wiped. I was just done.
The Concept of Advantage I couldn't do anything, and a lot of times, when J gets sick, he will tank emotionally. His frequency will drop, and he'll get mad about it. He'll be like, I don't deserve to be sick. I shouldn't be sick. I should be able to pull myself out of this, blah, blah, blah. So, I've learned from watching from an outside perspective that the best thing you can do in that situation is to be at peace emotionally and spiritually, not put so much pressure that you have to get better, and not put so much guilt or shame on yourself for any reason. Then not feel negative about it in any way. Just feel at peace and feel like everything is an advantage.
When we talk about the concept of advantage, the Reality Transurfing principle, we mean that you're saying that you have an edge because the situation is in your life. So there is an advantage that you wouldn't have had if that hadn't happened, and instantly, I knew I wanted a day off with this sickness.
My Permission Slip I would keep going if I had energy, and I knew I was like trying to psych myself into. I will take a break if I feel better. I really will. But I think, like my subconscious mind was saying, you need a break. It was a busy weekend, and you need a break. So don't do anything today, and I'm going to make sure you don't cause if you get up and start moving around, you'll feel sick again. So I was resting, lying down, sitting on the couch, and taking a couple of walks. It was a beautiful day. But most of the time, I was relaxing, which was my permission slip. My body is now permitted to rest because I'm sick. Crazy how even being sick can be a permission slip to your subconscious mind.
Holy Fire It wasn't my choice. Ideally, I'd like to choose my permission slips, but in this case, that's where I am. So I practiced the Holy Fire idea of knowing everything is okay, and if I'm still physically at like a five instead of a 10, that's okay too. Everything is okay. I'm safe. Everything is perfect. Everything is awesome. This is to my advantage. I'm able to rest, and could I be able to rest without feeling gross? Yes, but this is where I am right now, and that's okay. I dropped importance. That's another Transurfing principle. You drop importance on it. Big deal, you're sick. Move on. What's important in your life? Let's focus on those things and not so much on being sick or trying not to be sick or working yourself out of sickness.
So at the end of the day, I had a feeling it wouldn't last very long, but at the end of the day, I started feeling a little bit worse again. I was like, I felt like this was going to be a 24-hour thing, be done, tomorrow I can get back to normal. And I was just like, J, I'm like nervous that I'm not going to be able to sleep again tonight. He's like, let's do some EFT tapping. So he sent me up with a nice little tapping station after the kids went to bed, did like a four-minute tapping session with Brad Yates, just a YouTube video, and I slept great.
I slept better than I've slept in several weeks, and I just was fine. So, first of all, claim an advantage. Second of all, drop importance. Third, do whatever clearing techniques you need to give yourself the permission slip to feel better. So how can you guys apply that to your life today?
That's my challenge for you, and we'll see you guys in the next video.
00:00 Abraham Hicks vs. Reality Transurfing
00:10 What is Channeling?
00:56 Both Are Life-Changing
01:16 Abraham Hicks
02:03 Transurfing in 78 Days
02:38 Favorite Reality Transurfing Principles
There's a chance you've heard of either Reality Transurfing or Abraham Hicks. Let's talk about the differences to understand the two teachings better.
What is Channeling? Both claim to be from channeling. (https://channeling.com/what-is-channeling) Channeling is a natural form of communication between humans and angelic beings, nature, spirits, non-physical entities, animals and pets, or a person's higher self.
A channeler is very similar to a language translator or interpreter. They allow themselves to sense the nonverbal communication from another being and then translate it into human words.
Both Vadim Zeland from Reality Transurfing and Abraham Hicks, channeled through Esther Hicks, get their messages from other beings, other spirits. But neither of these communicate brand new ideas; they're just repackaged ideas from ancient wisdom.
Both Are Life-Changing So humans have known of all of this for centuries and centuries and centuries, but that doesn't mean it's not brand new to you. When I started to take in this information, I found it instantly crazily life-changing, and it will be for you, too, if you are open to receiving and applying the knowledge.
Abraham Hicks Abraham Hicks' information is much more straightforward to understand. I love the Sara book series, a series of three kid's books, and it takes all of the information of the Abraham Hicks message and puts it into these fantastic stories. That makes the information easy to understand. It's told more through the story, it's much more relational overall, and if you watch the Abraham Hicks videos, they're primarily question and answer. It's a much more relational way to learn, more or less, the same information.
Now, Reality Transurfing, I found first. I see it as much more practical, and it's binge-able, and it's instantly life-changing.
Transurfing in 78 Days I recommend that you learn the Reality Transurfing principles first through the book Transurfing in 78 Days.
Favorite Reality Transurfing Principles As I glance over the chapters in Transurfing in 78 days, some of my favorite Reality Transurfing principles are, dropping importance, pendulums, and borrowed goals. But read the book, and you'll fly through it.
So overall, if you are interested in either of these, I would encourage you to learn both of them because I can guarantee that it will help you see reality in a brand new way.
00:00 4 What Is Toxic Positivity With LOA?
00:23 Toxic Positivity
What is the difference between holding onto the feeling of the wish fulfilled and having Toxic Positivity? Toxic Positivity is when you completely deny what is going on in your life.
Let's say you have some sickness like cancer or something, and instead of saying, “I understand where I am, and I understand the struggles that I'm going through.” You're saying, “no, I don't have cancer, and I'm totally fine.”
Toxic Positivity That might be denial, and if it is, it turns into Toxic Positivity because deep down, your subconscious mind believes that you have cancer, which matters. That's what's going to continue to make that manifest more, but if you are coming from this place of strength where you've worked through that with your subconscious mind, with your true beliefs, and you're holding onto the feeling of the wish fulfilled from a place of courage, rather than a place of denial, that's when you're going to start to see results, rather than it just continuing to get worse and more fear coming upon you.
00:00 4 Tendencies: How Questioners & Rebels Thrive
00:09 Discover Your Tendency
00:36 Asking the Very Deepest Questions
01:22 Rebel Tendencies
02:14 The "Now Enjoyment"
03:02 The Mindset That Works
In the Four Tendencies, I am a Questioner with Rebel behaviors. Now, listen to this. If you ever struggle with your commitments, this will help.
Discover Your Tendency You can take a short quiz online. You will be primarily one of the 4 Tendencies, and just by answering a few questions over a few minutes, you will learn a lot more about how you are personally motivated.
So, as I said, when I took the quiz, I came out a Questioner, but as I learned more about all of this, I realized that I also have a lot of Rebel behaviors.
Asking the Very Deepest Questions A questioner is not quick to obey anybody. We need to take a lot of time to ask the very deepest questions, but if we let ourselves go, we may ask every question, and by the time we start finding answers to most of these questions, we may move on to something else.
Here's a quick tip. When you find the answers, ask the deepest questions, which in turn will answer many of your other questions. Take some time to journal to get down to those root questions. Questioners like myself will ask so many questions that it may come off as disrespectful or annoying, but this is just how we process information. When we get the answers to those questions, it is hard to shake us because we feel like we know the truth.
Rebel Tendencies I also have a lot of Rebel tendencies, which means that I am motivated by freedom and choice. So, after I ask a bunch of questions, I will come up with a plan and a strategy, but if that plan and strategy lock me in and take away my freedom and choice, I will not stick to that.
Here's how we hack the system: we need to realize that Rebels are motivated about now more than future enjoyment. So we need to make sure that the systems that we create for ourselves empower us in the now. They give us more freedom and more choice right now, and they need to be very customizable.
If we create any system for ourselves that takes away freedom and gives us cookie-cutter answers, we will hate that system and push it away.
The "Now Enjoyment" Let's talk about creating a diet for ourselves, and if you want to learn specifically about how to lose weight with more freedom, I created a video about that a few days ago.
Let's say that we are making a diet for ourselves. The diet needs to prioritize the now enjoyment. The workouts need to be fun and flexible, maybe something like virtual reality games. The foods need to have incredible amounts of choice, and we need to be thinking we do whatever we want. However, we want. And every day, as we choose to put our health and diet first, it is because we want to, and we're doing it in our free-way, because we are different and unique, and we are not going to be like everybody else who struggles with weight issues.
The Mindset That Works Can you catch that mindset? That is the mindset that works for Rebels and Questioners. We need to be putting that freedom first.
If you feel like you have these tendencies, I challenge you to journal about this a little bit and see if you are making any of these mistakes in any of your goals. If they're not putting freedom and choice in the right now first, then you have an opportunity to hack your results and make them much more effective.
00:00 Honoring Where You Are While Moving Into Where You Want to Be
00:11 Microshifting
01:39 Social Awkwardness
03:06 Honoring Where I Am Now
04:30 Starbucks Time or Alone Time
05:53 Honoring Where I’ll Be
Have you ever felt like you were making progress in one area of your life when all of a sudden, it seems unsustainable to continue? Do you struggle to keep up the positive life changes you've been making for a long time?
Microshifting J and I are attending Dan Mangena's Alchemy of Abundance conference virtually, and I'll share with you my personal experience of what I've been learning.
Today's topic is honoring where you are while moving into where you want to be. In the past, I've successfully had several quantum jumps where you make huge progress in a very short amount of time. However, it's generally more sustainable if you make microshifts; this is one of Dan's core principles. Microshifting takes small incremental steps toward your goal rather than one huge leap. This is also mentioned in the book Atomic Habits by James Clear. Yesterday, I learned that I have some beliefs that are not serving me.
Your subconscious mind often uses your belief system to filter out what you believe you can do. We've talked about the reticular activating system, and Dan talks about how you notice things that you're primed to notice. Your brain takes in so much information that it can't bring everything to your conscious mind all the time, and it would be overwhelming. So it only lets you notice certain things and intentionally leaves out other things. Your belief system can act as a filter for what you see.
If I believe it's impossible for there to be a spaceship in the middle of this field, I'm likely not going to see a spaceship in the middle of this field, even if there was a spaceship in the middle of it this field. That's the concept of how the reticular activating system can use our beliefs to decipher and filter what to show us.
Social Awkwardness One of the areas of my life that I want to improve is my social life. Recently, J and I have been focused so much on our family, work, purpose, calling, and self-improvement that we haven't focused as much on our social life. And I've noticed that I've become more self-conscious than I had been in the past. There was a time when I struggled with social anxiety in high school. But I learned, and I grew out of it. I feel like I almost kind of worked myself back into it recently.
Since our world is like a mirror, reflecting what we're projecting out from us, I've sensed social awkwardness from other people that I've been talking to. Mostly because of what I'm putting out there. I don't think most people think that I've been socially awkward. If you asked somebody how they view me, it would not be socially awkward, but that's been my experience because that's what I've been projecting.
So, challenged by what I learned at the conference yesterday, I went to a birthday party last night after the conference, and I intended to be my true, authentic self: not hold anything back, not put up any walls, and just let myself be me. I also have learned from Charisma on Command - we love the Charisma on Command YouTube channel. Make sure you check that out - how to continue a conversation going. So I made sure my mouth was always running last night. I would say what was on my mind and say what I was thinking, instead of filtering everything I said and everything I did, thinking, "Oh, that's too boring. I shouldn't talk about that."
Honoring Where I Am Now My world reflected so much connection with everyone around me. I intended to be authentic, present, and converse with as many people as possible. People were coming up to me that I barely knew, wanting to have conversations with me. I felt like all of my interactions were upbeat. It was just a great time.
Now I wasn't planning on having that much success in one night, but it wasn't that much of a quantum jump because I've acted that way in my past. All I was trying to do was make a microshift toward being more present and engaging with people. If I want that progress to continue to be manifested in my life, I need to shift my identity and perception of who I am.
So I'm honoring where I am right now, as a person who sometimes feels more introverted and sometimes feels more extroverted. And as the person who can choose to be socially engaging.
I'm moving into this new belief system that when I am in a social, community environment, I desire to be present as the full, authentic Kay that I truly am.
It's important to take action based on our intentions. This is a Transurfing principle that we've talked about before. Just taking that action isn't enough to fully change your belief. To change your belief, you need to change how you view yourself and what your view is of your identity.
Starbucks Time or Alone Time My next goal is to take more, what we call, Starbucks Time for myself. So Starbucks time came about from times that J and I would spend at coffee shops, just hanging out kind of alone, but in a social environment with headphones on, reading, doing research, working on our laptops, and doing whatever we wanted—having free time to explore ourselves and to get more connected with ourselves individually.
So now, when we refer to Starbucks time, we're usually referring to taking alone time: time for meditation time, journaling, time just to put on some relaxing music, or maybe have a cup of tea. That feeling of being at Starbucks, but without probably the background noise and the other strangers around you, and we are engaging with your essence.
For me, I know Starbucks Time is my Keystone Habit, as Brian Johnson talks about. In my Heroic app from Brian Johnson, I have Starbucks Time as my number one target or habit for the day. However, it's almost always the thing that I don't do. I do all my other habits and all my other targets, except for Starbucks Time. Where is the mental block?
As I'm working through this mental block, especially during this conference, I will be honoring where I am and the beliefs that I have. Something in my subconscious mind is trying to protect me by keeping me from taking Starbucks Time. It doesn't make conscious sense, but somehow it makes subconscious or unconscious sense.
Honoring Where I'll Be While I'm changing my beliefs and moving into a new belief system that doesn't filter out my ability to take Starbucks Time, I will be honoring where I am, knowing everything is awesome right now. Everything is perfect, and I have everything that I need.
I do have everything I need. I'm blessed to be able to be at this conference, learning more about myself and about what tools I have to be able to make this transition into revealing even more of the reality of who I truly am, which is a Kay who takes regular Starbucks time, and who engages with her essence regularly.
So what are some of your goals and targets? What are the intentions that you can start microshifting into? Honor where you currently are while you move into a belief system that supports the identity of who you want to be.
00:00 You Are Not Alone
00:15 Holy Fire
01:33 You are Enough
01:58 God Is With Us
02:56 The Fourth Member of the Trinity
03:28 You are Never Alone
Today I want to share with you guys that you're not alone.
As important as it is to take ownership of our thoughts and minds and realize that what we project shows up in our experience, it's important to know that we're not alone in those experiences.
Holy Fire So sometimes, when I'm listening to teachers talk about manifestation or having a positive frequency, about Reality Transurfing and how our world is a mirror reflecting us what we project into it, it puts a lot of burden on myself, on my heart, instead of helping me feel empowered. That's what all of these teachings are ultimately about.
So I catch myself. Do I think this is a burden, or is it a blessing? And that's what we talk about all the time on this channel. Right? Holy Fire. Check out our holy fire video for more information. The idea that you can interpret your experience and your situation as positive or negative it's really up to you. How are you going to look at things? And how are you going to choose to show up to the potential challenges that are there for your growth and your benefit?
I catch myself, am I thinking about how well I'm performing and how well I'm creating the expression of my thoughts in my experience? Am I being positive enough? Am I taking enough time to be intentional about my spirituality?
You are Enough I felt this way within my Christian practice as well. More so about ten years ago or so. Am I reading my Bible enough, praying enough, and being humble enough? Those kinds of thoughts. And the truth is, you are enough. I've said that in other videos, but I need you to know it. You are enough, and you are so loved. Dr. Joe Dispenza talks about his interactions with the force of the universe. Or what my friend Dan Mangena would call GUS. God/Universe/Source. Or G U S - GUS, but Dr. Joe Dispenza talks about feeling a fatherly love coming from this source. And that's because I believe that the source of the universe is what Jesus revealed to be our father, our father in heaven.
God Is With Us Jesus came to show us that God is personal and that he cares. That he is love and that he is good, and that he is with us. One of the names for Jesus is Emmanuel: God with us. So, if you ever struggle feeling like the world's weight is literally on your shoulders because you are responsible for the quantum overlay that your world looks like, or the expression of your thought's intangible reality, you can drop the burden and accept the beauty of those things. Realizing that "all positivity is true and all negativity is the matrix."
The God of the universe that holds all things together, the space and energy between every atom of everything in the world, is your friend and father. And your brother. And your bridegroom. These are things that the Bible says. These are eternal truths. Jesus is your brother, the firstborn among many brethren. We are the bride of Christ. So he is our husband or spouse. God is our heavenly father, and Jesus also said, I have not called you servants, but friends.
The Fourth Member of the Trinity So realize that there is so much connection, not just between you and others, but that is true too. Other humans - I mean, Jesus is a human, but that's another video. That's awesome, how God became human to show us how connected he is with us, in our humanity, and how much we are connected with God, our godliness, or God's likeness, even as humans.
J and I call it, being the fourth member of the Trinity. Like that's sacrilegious in some circles, but we're the bride of Christ, and we are one in connection with him in a super intimate way.
You are Never Alone That's how much God loves you. By the most powerful source in the world. You are never alone. If you feel alone, realize it's the matrix, just your feelings.
We say you can trust your heart, and what we mean is your true heart, your true nature, your spirit, your essence. But your emotions can fluctuate based on your hormones, how much sleep you got last night if you're low blood sugar, and what you're thinking. If you're thinking untrue or negative thoughts, it will influence your emotions and frequency.
So if you're feeling alone, realize that that's just how you're feeling. That's just how it seems. And the ultimate reality is that you are never alone. Because every atom surrounds you, every particle of air is filled with your best friend.
In a cosmic way, each of us humans is connected as well. So, even if that's too hard for you to believe that God loves you, I love you. I am part of God, and you are a part of God. We are all connected, and you are loved.
I may or may not know you in my consciousness, but I hope you feel the love connection we share. And I hope I do get to meet you in person at some point in this life, but until then, I'll see you in the next video.
00:00 Living in Advantage and the Wish Fulfilled
00:17 What Do You Truly Believe
01:11 It’s Not About Pointing Blame
01:53 Everything Is for Your Advantage
02:30 Affirmations and Incantations
03:33 All Things Are Working Together for Your Good
All things work together for your good. These are great words, but how do you put them into practice? Do you feel afraid? Hold yourself to a higher standard. Don't allow yourself, long-term, to slip into fear. We will be talking about incantations, affirmations, EFT, and more.
What Do You Truly Believe Skipping the details, last night was the most emotional night I've had in years. It was bordering on trauma. My emotions felt so bad that my Apple Watch alerted me that my heart was racing for too long while lying still, and I was truly feeling fear.
But I believe that I was testing myself. What do I truly believe? Does God work all things together for my good? Is everything for my advantage, as I talk about on this channel?
There was a real contrast between my beliefs and my experience. My experience was this physical manifestation of fear, but my beliefs said this was for my good. I am safe. All things work together for my good. This is better than this not happening because something awesome is coming from this. It comes down to this question. Are you a victim, or are you the creator of your reality?
It's Not About Pointing Blame It's not about pointing blame and saying, "You did this, and you manifested this." That's coming from a weak place, which implies that this experience is bad and not for your good. No, this experience is good. This is causing the shortest line between where you are and where you want to be. You are choosing to be in this place because this is bringing you immediately to your goal.
Do you want to be a stronger person who can not be shaken? Do you want new, amazing people and experiences to come into your life? Do you want to realize that you are already in the place of your wish is fulfilled? These are the types of things that emotional conflict can bring to you.
Everything Is for Your Advantage Now stay with me for a minute. Whatever tension you might be feeling in your body right now, whatever words might be going on in your subconscious mind, if they feel negative, they are a misunderstanding. There is a misinterpretation because nothing is for your bad, and all things are for your good. And that's what I learned last night.
As Vadim Zeland says, everything is for your advantage. Claim your advantage. You have put yourself in this place for an opportunity to take the higher road and let the higher version of yourself take the reins of your mind.
Affirmations and Incantations Last night I was repeating affirmation, after affirmation, after affirmation. I am safe. I'm claiming advantage. This is for my good. When you take affirmations and put the feeling behind them, they become incantations. It becomes an emotional chant of saying, I believe these words. I'm claiming these words.
Before long, you are not feeling fear anymore. You may be feeling a high emotion, but it's more along the lines of "I'm excited," not afraid. I was also falling back on EFT tapping, the emotional freedom technique, and I was saying those incantations and affirmations while doing the tapping points. Even allowing myself to admit, I know I'm feeling fear, but I love, honor, and accept myself.
This is how you take your knowledge and put it into practice. When you're going through what feels like a hard time, you take all of the knowledge you have in your head and express it through your feelings, heart, and words.
All Things Are Working Together for Your Good So I had this opportunity to have a real breakdown, but I turned it into a very empowering experience. So next time you have an experience, anything like this, even if it's only 1% of this, take this and put it into practice. All the things we talk about on this channel put them into practice, and I guarantee it will change from a negative to a positive because all things are working together for your good.
00:00 What About Safety? | Transurfing Through Tough Situations
00:35 Focusing on the End Result
01:58 Encouraging One another
02:46 Claiming Advantage
03:38 It's About Your Perspective
04:34 Trusting Your Calling
05:08 You Can Achieve Anything
06:27 Don’t Get Discouraged When Things Look Negative
07:34 You Can Be Okay With Just Being Okay
08:11 Faith of Christ
09:08 Everything Is Going to Be Ok
If you've been listening to our "Everything Is Awesome" series for any length of time, you know that we believe that Jesus made everything right when he died and said, "It is finished," and that we believe that the kingdom of heaven is already here. But how can we live like that in this world? How can we feel safe when we see unsafe things happening around us? Stick around to the end because we have lots of things to discuss on this topic.
Focusing on the End Result In Transurfing, we talk about viewing your end slide. What is your intended result? You want to view that, imagine it, and feel the emotions of what it would be like to experience that happening.
So rather than just imagining how the conversation with someone is going to go - every word that we're going to say, every response that they're going to give - we can view ourselves having this joyful response after the conversation, saying, "Wow, that was such a good conversation. I can't believe how well that went." So we're focusing on the result versus all of the details of how we will get there.
Another example could be you receiving $10,000 in sales from your job. Rather than knowing that this particular sale is going to manifest in exactly $10,000, it could be that you have an accumulation of five $2,000 sales or two $5,000 sales instead of getting so picky and putting so much importance on the fact that this specific thing has to happen, and then get disappointed if it doesn't happen and feeling your frequency go down. Then your faith diminishes, and your emotion becomes negative, maybe bringing your frequency down to a five. (If you haven't watched our holy fire video/podcast/blog, make sure you check that one out.)
Instead, you can avoid all of that by just knowing your result will come to you, and you don't have to try to nitpick how that will happen. It will happen for you, and God will bring that to you. Everything will work together to make that happen, things will line up to get you your results, and you don't have to be in charge of every little nitpicky detail of how that happens.
Encouraging One another In Christianity, sometimes in certain denominations in certain church services, someone will stand up and say, I see this happening - either for the church, for everyone, or for a specific person. Sometimes you'll even have one individual pray for another and say, "I see you being super successful in this area," or "I see [your specific desire here] coming to pass." That's very similar. Sometimes we just come together and have other people help encourage us, give us the permission slip, and give us the faith to believe in that outcome when it's sometimes too difficult for us to believe it on our own.
In both Christianity and Transurfing, there's this idea of seeing it in your head first, believing that you already have it, and then watching that unfold.
Claiming Advantage Another way J and I think about this is to be sure of your calling.
The book of Acts tells the story of how Paul is determined to go to Rome. He's going to go to Rome to tell people there about Jesus. On the way, he gets shipwrecked. Is he thinking, "Oh no, everything's ruined"? Nope. He's claiming advantage. Make sure you watch our two videos on advantage for more information on what that is.
Claiming advantage is saying, "I know my result. I know I'm going to Rome, and so if I'm getting shipwrecked, that is just part of the journey to get to Rome. That is one of the things that will happen to lead me to Rome." And that did happen for Paul. So while he's shipwrecked on this island, he gets bitten by a snake, and he brushes the snake off, and he's fine because he is sure of his calling. He knows he is going to Rome, and if it gets bitten by a snake, oh well, that's just part of this - advantage, "I'm still going to Rome." And everybody around him is like, what just happened? They expected him to die because that snake was poisonous, but he just shook it off into the fire, and it died in the fire.
It's About Your Perspective Paul was sure of his calling, and he didn't die. And the whole snake bite thing was an opportunity for him to share what he was doing, what he believed, where he was going, what he was all about, and what Jesus was all about. And that wouldn't have happened if he hadn't gotten bit by the snake in the first place.
Instead of looking at these things as negative or unsafe situations or thinking of them as intrinsically evil, we need to realize they are part of the journey to get us to our desired result. We might feel like a shipwreck is bad. We might think getting bit by a snake is bad, but is it?
If you don't get poisoned by the snake, was the snake bite really bad? It's about your perspective. If Paul was like, "Oh my gosh, how am I ever going to get to Rome now? My whole journey is ruined." Then who knows if the snake bite would have affected him or not? But having that faith, being at a "10," lined him up with the reality that everything is awesome and that God is in charge of all of these things and working everything together for good. That's what his experience was, and that manifested in his reality.
Trusting Your Calling Let's think about this. Was Jesus afraid that he might catch a cold and get pneumonia and die before he could go to the cross, which was his ultimate calling? No! There's a story about a crowd who wanted to throw Jesus off the cliff they were so mad at what he was saying - but they couldn't. All of a sudden, Jesus just somehow teleported or made his way through the crowd somehow, and then he just wasn't there anymore. He knew his calling was to go to the cross and die and rise again, and nothing could stop that calling.
So even as these situations come up that we might think are bad, when we claim an advantage and are sure of our calling, nothing can stop us from getting that result.
You Can Achieve Anything Now, Paul and the people traveling with him to share the news about Jesus were often abused. They were stoned, and they were whipped. They were thrown out of cities and they were ostracized. Their reputations were slandered; they were essentially doxed and canceled - all of the things that we call abuse. They were very much so abused. I don't think many people listening to me right now have been stoned or whipped for their beliefs. Still, we may have been some of those other things: emotionally or verbally abused, even mentally or psychologically abused. And these men went through those things. But Paul and Silas, his friend, were sitting in jail singing because they were at a "10," even though the situation made it look like they should be at a five or a two. There are a couple of different ways you can interpret this. You can think their perspective was, "Well, I'm going to praise God anyway. I know the right thing to do is to praise God, and I'm just singing to God. I'm just going to worship, even though I don't feel like it." But I a hundred percent don't agree that that was how they felt.
I think they were just like, "Awesome. We're in jail because this is part of our calling, part of our journey. We're doing what we need to do, claiming advantage right here." So they could emotionally be at a 10, no matter their scenario. If they can do it, you can do it. And if you can be at a 10, you can achieve anything.
Don't Get Discouraged When Things Look Negative What happened to them was there was a big earthquake. All the doors in the jail opened, and every prisoner was set free. So, Paul and Silas, they're standing there, all the doors are open, and the jailer is about to kill himself because he's like, "I'm going to die because I lost all of these prisoners." And Paul was like, "Don't kill yourself, we're all still here." Then he told him about Jesus and why they were singing, and why the earthquake happened. And the guy was like, "I'm going to be baptized, and my entire family." Like, we all want this power that you have. What was the power that they had? They knew everything is awesome no matter how it looks. So don't get discouraged when things look negative.
We're not trying to say, "Just put on a smile, even in hard times." You've got to know in your heart, deep in your soul, what is your calling and who are you? Are you going to rise to the challenge and be who you truly are, regardless of what comes against you?
Are you going to walk in your "10-ship," be at a level 10, even when things are trying to get you down to a five? Because what will happen is that your reality, your manifested experience, will rise to match your frequency at that 10. It really will.
You Can Be Okay With Just Being Okay Now also, don't try to force feeling at a 10. Sometimes you might have down days. You might feel frustrated. You might feel discouraged and down by your situation. You know what? That's okay, too. You can be okay with just being okay. You don't have to force it. But knowing that ultimately everything is working out for your good will encourage you, maybe even pop you up to a six or a seven rather than a five on the scale. And second, it will give you that peace of knowing, even if you don't feel like singing in jail, even if you don't feel like a 10, that reality is at a 10, and God will work everything out for you regardless.
Faith of Christ We call it having the "faith of Christ." The Bible talks a lot about faith in Christ, but that word can also be translated as "of," and having the faith of Christ means Jesus' faith is big enough for the both of you. Even if you can't believe strongly enough, he believes strongly enough, and you can rely on his faith for you in your calling.
He is going to work it out, and he will make everything come together for good. Even if you lose sight of that calling and lose sight of that faith, know in your heart that you are his, and he's got you, and everything will turn out perfectly.
So that's how we know that you can always feel safe, even in seemingly unsafe situations.
Everything Is Going to Be Okay You can also look up Corrie Ten Boom and Viktor Frankl. They lived through the Holocaust and stayed at these positive frequencies, even in the midst of the most horrendous situations possible. They have helped so many people because of that. Their testimonies and stories have changed the world, and that wouldn't have happened if they hadn't gone through those situations.
If you don't have examples of how you can show positivity and hope and trust and love and all of the good things amid seemingly negative situations, nobody will believe that it's true. They were willing, at some level, to be those examples and stepped up and said, "yeah, my calling is in the midst of these situations. I'm going to be those examples to show people what you can be."
All right, guys. So I hope you're all at a 10 and if not, know that you are loved and know that everything will be okay. See you guys in the next video.
00:00 Can You Literally Trust Your Gut? | Weight Loss via the Subconscious Mind
00:007 If My Devotion Could Stand
00:35 Weight Problems
01:13 The Solution
01:49 Subconscious Mind vs. Conscious Mind
02:38 Subconscious Mind Primarily Speaks Through Feelings
The subconscious mind moves 1 million times faster than the conscious mind. Let's consult it for advice on weight loss.
If My Devotion Could Stand In 2010, I wrote a song called If My Devotion Could Stand. The idea of the song was I could achieve every goal that I set for myself if I could stick to the rules that I set for myself.
Do you ever feel that way about food? We know how many calories we should have, and we know the carbs - then why is it a struggle? We know this is too big of a struggle because we know about pushing through hard things. We're not stupid.
Weight Problems There are too many smart, devoted, and dedicated people with weight problems. This is an abnormal struggle. Your subconscious mind regulates everything in your body, including your metabolism, cravings, and even your heartbeat. It is keeping you at your current weight on purpose. It thinks, for some reason, it's safer for you to be at this weight.
Could you possibly have given it that idea? Has your conscious mind told your subconscious mind that it's safer to be at this weight through trauma, feelings, or limiting beliefs?
The Solution My advice is meditation, prayer, EFT tapping, taking some quiet time and journaling, and asking yourself the hard questions. What could the emotional reasons be why you are at this weight?
If you have a regular amount of weight to lose, I will start with light meditation. Mainly, seeing if there is any religion that you have around food. I didn't realize this until recently, but I have been crazily religious about food. I've been on a strict keto diet for years, and I have attributed my success around food to that.
Subconscious Mind vs. Conscious Mind When I wanted to lose a tiny bit of weight but couldn't keep even a pound off, I realized something else was going on here. I was depriving myself of small sweets, but I couldn't lose a small amount of weight? It should be a little bit easier than this.
Now I know my subconscious mind wants me to be at this weight, and it thinks it's safer. So it's the job of my conscious mind to let my subconscious mind know that's not true anymore. Maybe I gave my subconscious mind the impression that it's safer for me to keep this small amount of fat on my body rather than let it go. The rights and wrongs, the goods and bad, that we have around food are ridiculous. They are doing more harm than good.
Subconscious Mind Primarily Speaks Through Feelings I have even followed intermittent fasting, where if I broke my fast too early, I would feel bad about myself. And if I realized after laying down to sleep that I forgot to log food, I would start to feel bad. I think we can all see that this is ridiculous.
So the solution I am proposing is that we take the time that it takes to speak with our subconscious mind, and our subconscious mind primarily speaks through feelings, and we let it know that it is safe to let go of the weight.
We also need to listen to our subconscious minds when we are eating. If it feels good to you when you pick up food, let go of the guilt and eat the food. No matter what it is, if it feels bad before it touches your lips, put it down and choose something else.
So I encourage you to take your time with this. It takes some time to interact with the subconscious mind. But I promise it will be worth it.
00:00 Hell: Why Christians Create Doctrines
00:09 Christians Don’t Believe in Heaven and Hell
00:34 Your Heart: Your Brain Times a Million
01:19 Why Christians Create Doctrines
02:16 My Heart Doesn’t Believe In Hell
03:20 Heart-Mind Connection
I'm going to make up a statistic here, 99.999% of Christians don't believe in heaven and hell. I'm also going to bet that you disagree with that.
Christians Don't Believe in Heaven and Hell But here's why I say that: If evangelicals believe in heaven and hell as they say they do, they would be evangelizing every day. But people do not believe that, in their hearts and their subconscious minds, so that's why I say Christians don't truly believe in heaven and hell. Their actions are giving away their true beliefs. Your actions don't lie. If you want to know what you believe, watch your actions.
Your Heart: Your Brain Times a Million Our subconscious minds are 1 million times faster than our conscious minds. 1 million times faster! That means it's safe to say our subconscious minds are also 1 million times smarter. Our subconscious minds drive nearly all of our behavior - so it's a good idea to trust your gut.
Let's return to the "evangelicals and hell" example. The conscious minds of most evangelicals believe that there is a heaven and hell because that's what they are told, but their subconscious minds do not believe it. My evidence for that is their actions. Very few Christians evangelize in a pushy way, but they all would if they believed like they said they believed.
Why Christians Create Doctrines Why do Christians create doctrines? We could ask this about every religion, not just Christianity. There are split ways of thought across all religions. Various denominations create their own doctrines because they are rationalizing their behavior. People hate to think one way and watch their actions be different. So they try to rationalize their behavior, which is a correct and healthy thing to do. It's unhealthy to have a disconnect between what we believe and the way we are acting.
Our minds think X is true, but our actions say that we believe Y. It is a natural reaction to try to bring those things together, to bring cohesion.
We might think, "Sure, hell is real, but since I'm not evangelizing that hard, it must be because God doesn't think they're his children. I found evidence for that in the Bible." Or, "God made that group of people for hell." "Oh, those people over there are stubborn, so God's going to burn them forever." "Oh, that person, he's choosing hell." "Oh, I found somewhere in the Bible that only a hundred thousand people are going to heaven. Everyone else is going to hell, so I don't need to evangelize." "Oh, God thinks it's okay if I pray for that person from a distance."
My Heart Doesn't Believe In Hell Now, this is interesting. Transurfing taught me that there is plenty of evidence to support all theories, and I have been able to find great evidence to support the theories that ring true in my heart and subconscious mind. I won't list it all here, but I found plenty of evidence that hell doesn't exist. I don't believe in hell at all. I used to for a long time, but my subconscious mind wouldn't stop nagging me. Once I started to believe that God is truly good, I could not find cohesion between the hell doctrine and the fact that God is good.
Later, this positive worldview led me to believe that my world was perfect already. Jesus said the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand. That means right here, right now. I believe we're living in paradise right now, and if you look for the evidence that this is true all day, every day, you will start to see just how amazing your life is right here, right now, how everything is working together with you. Your world is watching out for you. God is bringing everything together in your life to help you. And it's all working out beautifully.
Heart-Mind Connection Keeping all of this in mind, what are your true beliefs? What do your actions say? Wouldn't it feel great to be living with integrity between your mind and your actions? Wouldn't it be awesome to shift your mindset, to believe the same thing that your heart believes?
This is a universally applicable truth. This can be applied to every area of your life, but today, take some time to think, what are my actions saying? What are my words saying? Do I feel any stress or tension when I think about this topic?
It feels good to have peace and cohesion between the heart and mind. So I encourage you to take some time to think about that, and I'll see you tomorrow.
00:00 Advantage - Reality Transurfing’s Secret Sauce
00:13 Misinterpreting “Bad” Situations
01:55 Don’t Take Things at Face Value
02:38 God is Good
03:16 Look Below the Surface
03:44 Advantage
Everything is working out for you, and it doesn't matter how bad it seems. Now, stay with me here for a minute because I will explain why it's working out in your favor when everything seems to be going wrong.
Misinterpreting "Bad" Situations You might be going through a hard situation that seems bad. It might seem frustrating to you, but let's think deeply. Is there even a slight chance that you might be misinterpreting this "bad" situation? Is it possible it's really for your best? Let's entertain that thought because wouldn't that change everything? This is the philosophy that Kay and I run our lives on. In Transurfing, this is called advantage.
Let's think, what if your spouse left you? At face value, that could seem terrible. That could seem like one of the worst things that could happen, but isn't there a chance that could be an amazing thing that happened to you? Couldn't that possibly open you up to finding the real love of your life? Couldn't that free you from terrible arguments, from an enormous amount of stress?
Let's suppose that somebody close to you died. Again, that could seem terrible. But what if death is not what we think it is? What if leaving your body is freedom? Isn't there a lot of evidence for that? Isn't that even what the concept of the traditional heaven is? And if this person is close to you, couldn't this be a catalyst that allows you to enter a whole new stage of your life, where you can remake your entire life?
Now let's think about something small. What if your car got scratched? It could seem like there is no upside to this. But what if there is? What if it's something completely unthought of? What if it's something you could not possibly figure out? Like when you go to get your car fixed, maybe you meet someone at the repair shop who ends up being incredibly important to your life, which changes your whole trajectory?
Don't Take Things at Face Value When you're thinking down this path, you have to persist because thinking about this lightly from just a surface level can come off as silly. But don't give up on this, and don't take things at face value; there is no hope or happiness there.
Listen to this: The secret to life is that all is for your good, but it is your job to figure out how. You are a detective searching for and finding all of the evidence to support the idea that everything is working out for your good. So when anything happens in your life, you seek evidence to support that it is all for your good.
God is Good This is different than wishful thinking. I have already found my evidence in this philosophy. A lot of my evidence comes from Christianity, specifically in the Finished Work of the Cross movement, which I have been involved in for the past decade.
God is good. Right? I have tons of evidence that God is good. Many people struggle with the issue, "If God is so good, why is everything so bad?" But I don't struggle with that anymore. With this philosophy of advantage, things are only bad if you think they are bad - if you have no hope that something bad is deeply good.
Look Below the Surface We need to stop seeing things on such a surface level. If you practice this, you might stop having such a surface-level reaction when something seemingly-bad happens. When somebody spills milk and breaks a glass, you don't start reacting. Over time, you might look at it and say, I don't know why this is good, but it might be good. I suspect that this is good. Could you imagine having that reaction? That is starting to happen in my life.
Advantage Now again, this is called advantage, from Transurfing. That's where I picked this up. But as I thought about it, I realized that this attitude is very Christian. It's the message of Romans 8:28 - All things work together for my good.
Kay recently made a video titled, "Are You Seeing Reality?" It talks specifically about the book The Great Divorce by C.S. Lewis. If you haven't listened to that video yet, I recommend you take a minute and do so.
To sum it up, the idea of advantage is that you might not know why everything is good, why something is good even though it seems, on the surface, that it is not. But mentally claiming the hope that this is probably for your good is how you correctly claim advantage.
So the next time something seemingly bad or confusing happens in your life, say out loud, "I'm claiming advantage here." I promise that if you do that for about a week, you will see a huge shift for the better in your life.
00:00 The Land of Could Be
00:15 The orchestra crescendos
00:40 Fear manifests
01:15 How I died
Suddenly a door seen never before.
Just big enough to take a peek.
Eye to the door, a new world appears,
the Land of Could Be.
The orchestra crescendos.
A sandbox, no consequences.
Take it or leave.
Strange people and smells.
A colorful oasis.
Tingles everywhere.
This moment, all there ever was.
A tangible dream.
Bliss upon bliss.
Fear manifests.
What if I lose this door as easily as I found it?
Tripwire triggered.
All become dust.
Beauty to gray.
Dust becomes paint on drywall.
Eye pushed hard against what is.
Pushing harder to make it resurface.
Religion again.
Again.
Again.
There are no wizards in this church.
No wands allowed posted over the door.
Could be, could be.
A fairy in the corner.
How did she escape?
She whispers a secret.
Two words: Already Done.
And that's how I died.
00:00 Are You Seeing Reality? The Great Divorce and other examples
00:48 Holy Fire
01:23 People going from earth/hell
02:25 God has made everything work out for us
02:53 God is Love
03:12 The Last Battle
04:11 The Ultimate Reality Is Goodness
05:06 The Fires of God’s Love Can Be Perceived as the Fires of Hell
05:51 You Have to Know You Are Safe No Matter Where You Are and What You Think
06:53 Further up and Further In
07:10 You Are 100% Perfect
How can we know that the reality we see and experience is true? That may or may not be important to you. You might want to experience what you experience and enjoy it, whether true or not. I feel like it's true for me, like in the movie the Matrix.
There's a character who says a steak is a steak. I don't care if it's really my body eating a steak or if it just feels like I'm experiencing eating a steak. It doesn't matter because it feels true in my head. But personally, I care about if what I'm experiencing is true or not.
Now, there are a lot of scientific and spiritual experiments that show what we believe we perceive. What we think will directly impact our experience, but does that mean that what we're experiencing is true? If we have that much power over creating our environment and our experiences, how can we know if there is an absolute truth to what's happening or not?
Holy Fire So this is the concept that J and I call "holy fire." We can perceive things to be good or bad, and we experience them based on that choice, but we believe that the ultimate truth is a perspective of 100% goodness. When everything is as perfectly awesome as possible, that is the truth. We have a phrase, "everything positive is true, and everything negative is matrix."
When we line up emotionally, frequency-wise, and attitude-wise with the fact that things are already good by default, we see reality. So the question becomes, how much are we willing to see that good reality?
Physically in Heaven but Mentally in Hell In The Great Divorce, C.S. Lewis talks about people going from earth/hell, an ambiguous, negative/depressing place, to kind of the foyer of heaven. It's this grassy environment, and a bus flies through the sky and travels with a bunch of lost souls, people who have recently died, and lands in this grassy area.
Some people have this predisposed emotion of complaining and that nothing they see will be good. So the grass is all sharp. It's like pins and needles on their feet, the angels who come to greet them and help bring them into the real country of heaven. They're rude or manipulative. They say, oh, the advertising for this place is way overrated. I'm going back on the bus. I'm going back to earth/ hell or whatever. There's no hell in the book if I understand it correctly. I think C.S. Lewis's point is that hell is what people make of it in their minds. In that sense, people can be physically in heaven but mentally in their hell.
God Has Made Everything Work Out for Us That's what J and I believe about the holy fire. Things are perfect in our lives, and God has made everything work out for us. Our world is taking care of us, and we're surrounded by guardian angels and opportunities left and right, but we don't see them because we're focused on our negative emotions and our fear.
Are we afraid to believe that things could be good? Are you afraid of what I'm saying? Do you feel triggered? Make sure you check out our video on that if that's true. It's called Jesus and Reality Transurfing, Does Perfect Trigger You?
God is Love If you fear that this is too good to be true, think about, is God too good to be true? Is it possible for something to be more good than God? No, I don't believe that that's true. The definition of God is goodness. God is good. God is love. I will give one more example but make sure you stick around for the last point today about fire and hell it might blow your mind.
The Last Battle C.S. Lewis is one of the major authors of Christianity. He wrote the book Mere Christianity. In addition to The Great Divorce, he also wrote the Chronicles of Narnia series. The last book in that series is called The Last Battle. There's a scene in that book that displays this same holy fire principle.
The heroes in the story exit from this dark wooded area through this doorway into a shed. This sunny, beautiful, heavenly paradise with fruit trees, green grass, and everything are on the doorway's other side. But some dwarfs go through the door and see just a stable, knowing what they expect to see.
Our heroes give them this beautiful fresh water and these perfect, unearthly fruits. They're saying, oh, how dare you put this dirty straw and hay and carrots from the donkeys in my face and give me this dirty water from the feeding trough and stuff like that. Now, our main characters live in this real place, and they're seeing it for what it is, perfection! But the dwarfs see things the way they expect to see them, negatively.
The Ultimate Reality Is Goodness Now, this is how we view the holy fire. It's not just you see what you expect to see. There is an ultimate reality, and the ultimate truth is goodness. When we open our eyes to see actual reality and align ourselves with that goodness, we live in reality and truth. But when we were expecting to see negativity, depravity, or flaws, that will show up in our experience.
The idea of holy fire isn't just what you believe you will perceive in your experience. It's also that there is the ultimate good and that all we have to do is open our eyes to that. We don't need to try so hard to create a good reality. Ultimate good reality is already the truth, and we can enjoy that. Check out my video called No More Striving/Trying In Reality Transurfing Or Religion for more about how we don't have to try so hard to manifest the right way or to view our world the right way to get it to be so good. It's already good. And we need to allow ourselves to see that.
The Fires of God's Love Can Be Perceived as the Fires of Hell Here's our last idea, big idea number one: The fires of God's love can be perceived as the fires of hell. So that's where this idea of holy fire comes from, how we use it. Holy means set apart, and many people use it also to mean pure and perfect.
Romans 11:36 says, "For of Him, and through Him, and unto Him, are all things." God is everywhere and in everything. "If I ascend into heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there." (Psalm 139:8) The love of God is everywhere and in everything. And like I said before, God is love, and God is good (1 John 4:8).
This goodness is also everywhere. But sometimes, we perceive that goodness and that love as something negative. Like the dwarves in the Great Divorce, we perceive this heavenly awesomeness as something threatening or disappointing.
You Have to Know You Are Safe No Matter Where You Are and What You Think That's why we call it holy fire. J and I made this rating system we put on our fridge, Holy Fire, and then a line to 10. 10 is a hundred percent, and then the numbers down, 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1. And those are all our perceptions. Do you perceive things at a one, which would be like the most horrific situation you could imagine, or are you at a five? Or are you at a seven? Are you like, well, today's a pretty good day. If there's a reason you do not feel like everything is in your favor, everything is going awesome, and God is just blessing your socks off, you're not at a 10. And that's where we all can and should be at all times, is at a 10. Not that we have to fake it. It's fine. You have to know you are safe no matter where you are and what you think.
That's what's helped me personally with this perspective of holy fire. If I'm at a five, I can still know that reality is a 10. Yeah, my experience may seem like a five, and I might seem like I'm self-sabotaging and bringing more negativity into my life because I'm negative, but guess what? Reality is a 10. And that can cheer my heart and change my attitude to be like, oh, thank you, God. All I have to do is remember that. Boom! I'm already at a 10. Once you think everything's good, you're already at a 10.
Further up and Further In Even if you're at your capacity for how much love and awesomeness you feel, there's always more. Your cup gets bigger. So 100% becomes bigger and bigger, and bigger along with it, which is awesome. That's another C.S. Lewis idea: further up and further in. Things keep getting bigger and better. And there's always a possibility for progress, and there's always a possibility for growth.
You Are 100% Perfect. I hope that helps you find a little more reason to look on the bright side today. And not to just look on the bright side, but know that that is reality. God is good, and God is love. And he is a hundred percent good and a hundred percent love. He's made the world perfect. He's saved the whole world, and that includes you. You're a hundred percent perfect. You are enough.
Check out my video, How Do We Know We Are Good Enough in Transurfing, to confirm that you are enough. And also, the video It's Already Done to find out more about how God already made everything perfect. All right. See you guys next time.
00:00 How to INSTANTLY Stop an Emotional Downward Spiral
00:14 Realize your life is already perfect
00:27 Everything positive is true and everything negative is matrix
00:54 Stop fixing problems
01:40 Get alone and journal
You wake up on the wrong side of the bed; you stub your toe, the dog pooped in the house, and the coffee maker's broken. Does this sound familiar? Is this how your day started?
Now stay with me for a moment because my number one big idea is super effective for me every time, taking me right out of this downward spiral.
Realize Your Life Is Already Perfect Let's start with big idea three: realize your life is already perfect. If you've been subscribed to this channel for a while, you've heard this idea, and we've explained it many times. If not, click here right now, and that will take you to a video where we go into more detail about this.
Everything Positive Is True, and Everything Negative Is Matrix Most Law of Attraction teachers teach that if you think positively, then positive things will happen, and if you think negatively, then negative things happen. Kay and I teach that everything positive is true and everything negative is matrix. If you are in a downward spiral, then that is because you are thinking wrong.
You need to raise your perspective. You're probably living at a frequency of about two or three when you should be living at a nine or ten. Life is working for you, but you perceive your life as working against you.
Stop Fixing Problems Big idea number two is to stop fixing problems. When you focus on problems, that leads to more problems. 99% of the problems in your life will resolve themselves without your input. You need to get out of the way and stop focusing on problems. The best thing you can do is, be the best you can be. That happens by being in a good mood. Do the things that put you in a really good mood.
I'm hoping that you have an incredibly fulfilling job and you can focus on that job. I'm hoping that you have tons of hobbies that you love to do, and you can do those hobbies. Hopefully, it's beautiful weather outside, and you can go out and enjoy the beautiful weather.
If you are in the middle of a downward spiral, then the best thing that you can do is go out and feel great. Do whatever you have to do to get yourself into the feeling of enjoyment and peace.
Get Alone and Journal This is big idea number one: get alone and journal. I like to do two types of journaling: audio journaling and journaling in my favorite program, Roam Research.
Let's start with audio journaling. I have an app on my phone called Otter, and I just hit the record button and start audio journaling. I talk out everything on my mind, and I try to focus on the positive. I count my blessings and think about the awesome things that I want to do with my life.
You might be someone who likes to type a little bit better, and that's where Roam Research comes in. I open up Roam, start with a brain dump, list everything on my mind, and get all the negative things out. Then I work my way up the emotional scale to more positive things.
So which one of these three big ideas is your favorite? Realizing that your life is already perfect? Stop fixing problems? Or getting alone and journaling? If you are in a negative emotional downward spiral, I recommend that you take time with all three of these things today. I guarantee that it will stop it right in its tracks.
00:00 How Do We Know We Are Good Enough in Transurfing?
00:27 I see myself, I see my reality
01:07 The kingdom of heaven is within you
01:57 You are enough
02:50 Remove anything that doesn't feel good
03:16 How do we know that we aren't self-sabotaging or inviting negative consequences
03:43 Induced Transition
04:32 keeping your slides before your eyes
05:12 The Law of Sowing and Reaping
05:46 Jesus give us a permission slip
07:00 We are already perfect
08:29 Opening your eyes
09:08 Have you ever tried manifesting
How do we know we are good enough in Transurfing and Manifestation? How do we know we can manifest what we want, that we are doing it right? That our frequency is high enough, that we can do the techniques well enough, and that we understand the concepts well enough? These are all questions that I've struggled with in my spiritual journey.
Make sure you stick around for my last point today. It gives you the ultimate permission slip that overcomes everything else. But let me get started answering the questions I brought up in the beginning.
Realize that you are always able to be self-aware in an instant.
I see myself. I see my reality. In the Tufti book written by Vadim Zeland, the author, and creator of Reality Transurfing, one Tufti principle is "I see myself. I see my reality." It's like, J and I have oculus virtual reality headsets. And when you're in the headset, you have an avatar. Sometimes you look down, you can see your own hands, and you're also self-aware of who you are, but then you look around. You see your environment. Maybe you're in Arizona on a Mesa, in the desert, or the rainforest in South America, but that's your reality. Then, who you are, your hands, your avatar, your persona, and the thoughts going on in your head - that's who you are. So I see myself, I see my reality. I'm aware of myself, and I'm aware of my environment.
The kingdom of heaven is within you. As soon as you realize, just in an instant. I'm awake. Then you're awake. You're alive. You're present. You're engaged. It's just that awareness that is remembering. Taking a second to remember who you are, where you are, what you're doing, is enough. Being awake aligns you with the ultimate reality where everything is already perfect. You need to open your eyes and be aware of that. So this is the principle that we will be focusing on to answer all of these questions. Don't get caught up in the false mindset of self-effort, of the striving, of searching for the answers that are out there somewhere far away. No, the answers are already there. The answers are already within you. The kingdom of heaven is within you. God is within you. He's one with you. Everything is in God. You have everything you need. There's a Bible verse that says, You have everything that you need for life and godliness. Godliness means God-likeness, being like God, and union with God, being God.
You are enough You are enough. God wants to affirm that you are enough. I used to struggle with this because, as a recovering overachiever, I used to think, Am I following all the steps right? Am I doing this "I see myself, I see my reality" right? Am I manifesting properly? What do I need to do? I have to get into this place where I feel it. Am I feeling it enough? Or am I just thinking about it? Am I just thinking good thoughts, but I'm not really engaging?
Trying so hard would get in my way of just feeling the bliss of being okay and engaging in this awesomeness, where we get to co-create our world with God and bring this reality into our experience. And we affect everybody in our sphere of influence as we do this. As you're putting your oxygen mask on first, you can help other people with their oxygen masks.
As I'm engaging with my awesome, 100% perfect life and my 100% perfect identity, I'm helping other people tap into their own awesome experiences, too.
Remove anything that doesn't feel good. If we remove the interferences, anything that doesn't feel good, fear, or negativity, then the solutions will present themselves. Or you might find that the problem, whatever "problem" you're facing, dissipates as if it never existed. So when you're trying to manifest something, trying so hard can actually be the problem. Instead, just let the solutions be there, embrace them, and feel grateful. Make sure you check out our video on gratefulness in advance. There'll be some more tips in there on gratefulness.
How do we know that we aren't self-sabotaging or inviting negative consequences? On the other hand, how do we know that we aren't self-sabotaging or inviting negative consequences into our lives with negative thoughts and attitudes? I used to try hard to raise my frequency, especially if I was feeling depressed or discouraged or just having an "off" day. But even with all of my knowledge about Transurfing and raising my frequency from Esther Hicks, I was still depressed. I would wonder, "how do I get out of this induced transition?" Being in an induced transition is something transurfers talk about, and it's kind of like spiraling downwards.
Induced Transition In the same way we talk about the wave of success in Transurfing - you find a penny, and it makes you excited, then you find out you're getting promoted at your job, then you win a free vacation, and all these things build up to positivity - in the same way, you wake up slightly tired, and then you're late for work, and then your boss yells at you for something, and then you just, whatever - that's what the induce transition would be. You'd have this negativity, and it builds and builds.
Technically, you're not "good enough" at the low frequency because that's not you. That's not who you are. Your true identity is at that perfect high frequency. You're putting on a mask when we're not realizing and remembering that our world is perfect and that we're perfect. That everything is awesome, like the Lego song. That's what this video series is based on. It's the entertaining little Lego song from the Lego movies. "Everything is awesome." So everything is awesome.
Keeping your slides before your eyes Transurfing will tell you that realizing that you're in an induced transition and taking ownership of that fact is enough to wake you up. So if you realize, "oh, I get it. I am an induced transition," you can either choose to stay there and be like, "Fine, I just feel like being grumpy and I'm just going to stay here." And as soon as you're like, "All right, I'm done with this," then you can get out of it and be like, "I'm done being negative. I'm going to take ownership and start feeling more positive, think about the good things in my life, think about my goals, all of the positive slides I'm going to be running in front of my eyes." Check out that video, keeping your slides before your eyes. Even that felt like work. "What if I don't realize I'm in an induced transition, or what if I stay there so long that I'm a negative example to my kids, or I'm causing all of this negativity in my home?" and I'd be worried that I'm not living up to my highest potential.
The Ultimate Permission Slip The answer is in this my third and final point. This is the most important thing that you can take from this video, and it's what I rely on time and time again. The law of attraction doesn't give us a permission slip to know that we're enough, it's just the law of sowing and reaping, and it's just that you reap what you sow.
If you're putting out a positive frequency, positive responses, things that align with what you do want will be coming to you. But if you're putting out a negative, disconnected frequency full of static and animosity, then all of this disconnected stuff will be coming to you. Things that you're not in alignment with or don't want to be in alignment with. But at that moment, you feel like you are.
Jesus does give us a permission slip to know that we are enough, no matter what. The Bible constantly talks about how loved and accepted and even righteous we are - righteous, meaning we're on the right path. It's apart from anything we do. It's over and over. Not about what we do, but about who we are. We are children of God. We are loved. As a parent, I know my children are my children. I'm going to love them no matter what they do, simply because I birthed them. They are mine. And that's how God feels about us too. And that's how we should feel about ourselves. There is an unconditional connection that we have to everything good in our world. And it is our birthright.
We can realize that we are already perfect. The only things stopping us from engaging with that perfection are our fear and doubt. We see this over and over again in the gospels when Jesus tells the disciples not to fear. And he says, "oh, you of little faith." He's saying that's not who you are, but it's not something we have to try so hard to work into. The working and feeling like we have to strive to become this person that we were always meant to be can, in itself, be this negative, "I'm not enough" feeling. How can we engage with feeling "enough" when we feel like we're currently not enough? It's not possible. Make sure you check out the No More Striving/Trying in Reality Transurfing or Religion video that talks even more about this striving thing that ties us up so much.
We are already perfect Jesus dying on the cross showed us ultimate love and gave us the confidence that no matter what we do, Jesus still loves us. And if Jesus still loves us, we can still love ourselves. It shows us that Jesus lived a perfect life, so we don't have to try so hard to be perfect. We are already perfect. If we can't accept that we are already perfect as children of God, we can say, okay, Jesus did it. Jesus lived a perfect life. He loved his enemies perfectly, all of that stuff perfectly. The dying on the cross thing, in Christianity, that's all of this, like Jesus putting his stuff on to us. Right? Some people say, like, trading places with Jesus where he takes our sin and negativity, which is just a false belief system. I don't think there's any tangibility to that; it's just our false perception of who we ever were. But then, Jesus put all of his righteousness and goodness on us. That's not exactly how I see it all, but even if that's how you see it, if that has to be your permission slip, that's your perfection. Like, you are equal with Jesus. That is how perfect you are. If you can't see that in and of yourself, at least realize how perfect Jesus was and that that is now how you are.
So Jesus is the ultimate permission slip. He made everything right. You, me, the world - everything. Whether you believe that happened on the cross or at the beginning when God created the world, it doesn't matter because now it's perfect. We know that the Bible says so, and all of these people who don't even believe in the Bible but understand spiritual and scientific principles see in these quantum physics experiments and things the practicality that what we're saying is true: that the world is perfect already. And if we line up with that, we're engaging with it.
Opening your eyes All we have to do is open up our eyes. That's it. Opening your eyes is not hard work. It's not such a hard striving. It's not, "when am I going to be good enough? When am I going to feel it? When am I going to engage with it? Nope, just boom. I see myself. I see my reality. Boom. Are you there? Are you present? Are you in a moment? Yes. Just realize that boom, it's done.
We'll talk more about why Jesus died on the cross in the future, but that's not the point of this video, and I think that's a good place to leave it for now. But know that whatever permission slip you need, it's there.
There's another video that we made. It's about health, Mental Permission Slips for Great Health - Is It Placebo? It talks all about placebos/permission slips. They're synonymous in the way that we use them. I think that would be helpful for you in this context.
Have you ever tried manifesting What about you guys? Have you ever tried manifesting while simultaneously dropping importance and not making it a big deal? Have you ever truly understood that the way you view your identity matters more than the specifics of how you're manifesting or the steps you're trying to go through to make manifestation happen?
One final little piece of practical advice: look for little micro signs throughout your day to help confirm to you that you are perfect already. That you are enough, that God loves you. And also, look for signs to confirm your direction. You are awake, alert, and your world is watching out for you. These are daily little permission slips that can confirm that you and God are one, that you guys are a team, and that you already have everything you need at your fingertips. And even lining up with that isn't hard. You just need to open up your eyes.
So in the words of Mr. Rogers, "I like you just the way you are." Make sure that you engage with that feeling by just opening your eyes and feeling aligned with the goodness of being perfect and living in this perfect world.
00:18 New International Version of the Bible
01:17 Law of Attraction
01:42 The idea of hell
02:49 Everything is awesome series
Life is always better than you think it is. You are always better than you think you are. The sinful nature is not real. There is no such thing. You do not have a sinful nature. Now stay till the end of this short podcast, because my number one big idea will change your life. It changed mine.
New International Version of the Bible In the early 1980s, there was a version of the Bible released called the N.I.V.
You probably know about this, it's the New International Version of the Bible. It was designed to make the Bible easier to read, but one big problem that it had was it made up this idea of this Sinful Nature. It mistranslated a word Sarx, which really means The Flesh into Sinful Nature. I'm not sure why it did that because it does not mean sinful and it does not mean nature. We don't even really know what the meaning of The Flesh is, but there's no reason to believe it means Sinful Nature.
Now, why does this matter? Because if you believe that you are sinful by nature, it is only going to make you behave worse. And when you behave in a way that makes you not feel like you're living with integrity, you will start to feel shame. You will start to feel conflict, and there is nothing worse for you and your health than to think that you are unworthy.
Law of Attraction Kay and I talk a lot about the law of attraction. And the law of attraction will not work for you, but against you, if you feel bad about yourself. If you feel good about yourself, it works for you and wonderful things start coming into your life. When you leave your body and you die and meet God in a clearer way and have full understanding. Do you think you will notice that God is better than you thought he was or worse?
The Idea of Hell This idea changed my life. Years ago, I was struggling with the idea of hell. It truly felt wrong in my heart to believe that hell existed.
And that nearly everyone that I knew was going to go there. So I really researched deeply and I wanted to believe that hell was not real. Then I heard someone say, when you go to heaven, do you believe that God will be revealed to be better or worse than you thought that he was? This concept blew me away because clearly when I see God, I know that I will see him so much better than I do right now.
And I know that's not going to be because he is sending everyone I love to hell. So that gave me the permission to release the doctrine of hell. Since then, I've completely let go of the doctrine of Sinful Nature and Total Depravity. Truthfully, I don't know where these doctrines came from and I don't care because I know that they are not real. They are not worth my time because I deeply know in my heart that God is good and he has made us good.
Everything is Awesome Series This podcast is part of the, Everything Is Awesome series because we truly believe that everything is awesome in life. And if you ever come across a doctrine or a thought that makes you feel bad, investigate that, and you will often find that its basis and foundation is on nothing.
Then you can peacefully let go of that thought and you don't need to return to it again, if you're interested in this type of topic, you're going to like the video that we made called Is Man Basically Evil Or Good. We will have a link for that right in the description. So you can listen to that next.
00:25 Christians pleasing God
01:46 Are you an overachiever?
02:35 Dropping Importance
04:19 We are one with God
05:28 Pleasing ourselves and living up to our own standards
06:56 We don't need to strive to please the universe
07:48 The world is 100% perfect
09:03 Living in integrity
Do you feel like it's a struggle to get life perfect? Is it hard work to be the best you can be? To line up with who you are and live in integrity? Do you feel like God expects more from you than you are currently giving? I have felt all of those things. And I finally learned that I don't need to try so hard. Today, I will explain why. The first idea is that we don't need to strive to please God. What does that mean, J?
Christians pleasing God I have found that many Christians are still trying to please God. Everything from confession to trying to get into heaven to probably 90% of evangelism. If you modify your behavior because you feel like a God outside of yourself is judging you, you're doing it wrong.
God is a happy God. He is not insecure. His emotions are not at the whim of his creation's actions. This video is part of a series called Everything Is Awesome, and we believe that God is secure in who he is, and he's made the world perfect and awesome. And he's made us awesome too. Everything is awesome, and he has that faith. And when we can line up with the faith of God that everything is awesome, then we tap into this huge, powerful goodness that exists in the world.
So do we need to strive to please God? God is already happy, and he accepts us as we are. He's also on a journey with us to express and reveal the best that we can be. Now, pleasing God may not feel like an issue for you, but these next two big ideas may surprise you with their relevance without you ever thinking of them before. Our second idea is we don't need to strive to please ourselves.
Are you an overachiever? Are you an overachiever? I tend to be an overachiever, a high achiever, where I need to get an A+, or I'm just not happy with myself. But that isn't easy to do. So a lot of times, I end up not happy, and I don't need to be unhappy.
The world is already awesome and already perfect. And I can align with that and realize that I am enough with who I am. And when I try my best, I feel the satisfaction of the trying and the success and progress I'm making.
I always claim advantage. Watch our other video on claiming benefits if you don't know what I'm talking about. Still, it realizes that everything in my life is there for a reason and is working for my good, and is ultimately better because it happened than if it never happened in my life.
Dropping Importance Yes. In Transurfing, there's an idea of dropping importance. When you drop importance, you say, " I know that I'm always trying to be my best, but I'm going to let this go, and I'm going to stop caring so much and know that I'm naturally going to do my best." I don't need to add this extra stress to perform better, and that's only going to hurt me and not help me. That reminds me of our video, It's Already Done, where we talk about removing interferences.
We need to remove the resistance in our hearts and the struggle in our hearts. The actual thought of striving and trying so hard and that it's a struggle is resistance and interference to us living out our best selves and doing the best job that we can in the first place. So check out that video It's Already Done as well.
Another reason that we don't need to strive to please God or ourselves is because we are one with God. Christians flirt with this idea of God being one with us, but they're afraid to take it to its full extent, which is, I believe, where the truth is. We are one with God, and God is not separate from us where we can say God is holier than we are. But also, we should not be thinking of ourselves as sinners as lowly because God is not lowly, and he's not a sinner.
The truth is that we are one with God, and we are made perfect. And it is our perspectives that need to change to see that everything is awesome. The whole world is truly awesome. And we can get in line with that. And we will start to see that our reality will look more awesome day by day.
We are one with God Some Bible verses say that we are holy, that we are gods, that we may be one with God, and that we are one with God, in union with him. Also, I think the idea of being married to Jesus, if you follow the new Testament, says that we are the bride of Christ and don't be unequal. Yoked and Christians use that all the time to talk about marriage.
So why would we think that Jesus is unequally yoked or in a marriage relationship where he is so far above his wife and that he's not equal with his bride? That points to another example of how we are one with God, and God views us as equals with him. And you might be a follower of Neville Goddard, who says that we are one with God, and he quotes many Bible verses. But he kind of wraps up all of God into a metaphor. This is further than we take it, and we believe that there is a lot more substance to who God is and who Jesus is than Neville Goddard says. He even goes so far as to say that there was no Jesus, and Jesus is just a metaphor for us. I think that's not true.
Pleasing ourselves and living up to our standards So let's go back to pleasing ourselves and living up to our standards. Even if we don't have enough faith to believe that we are good enough, God believes that we are good enough. God said in Genesis that it is good. The whole world is good, including man, after he created man. And he never said it's no longer good. The only thing that changed was man's perspective. He gained the knowledge of good and evil, but his identity also didn't change. Man is made in the image and likeness of God, and that was never taken away. Even Christians still talk about how we are made in the image and likeness of God. That is still true of our identity, and it's still true of the world that the world is good. The thing that changed is man's perspective. And so our ignorance or our fear or our lack of belief are the things that are the interferences to us experiencing the goodness of the world and the goodness of ourselves.
The biggest thing you can do to remove the feelings of struggle about being an overachiever is to take a deep breath and feel how everything is already perfect. How you are already enough. There's a song called Try by Colbie Caillat. And it says you don't have to try so hard. And the whole song is very powerful. You should look it up on YouTube and listen to the words of that song. You are enough. We don't need to strive to please the universe. Yes, we don't need to strive to satisfy the universe.
For our final example here, we don't need to try to believe, think, or attract well enough. You might feel like manifesting is work, and it does not work. It happens when you are completely at ease, in a good attitude, and at a high frequency. They're synonyms. So that you know, your frequency is your attitude. When you're feeling a good attitude and good feelings and thinking about the things that you want, you are naturally attracting them, and that can happen all the time as you get in the habit of thinking and feeling good things.
And this is another area that I, as an overachiever, would struggle with.
Do I believe well enough? Am I thinking good enough? Am I at a high enough frequency? Try harder, harder, harder. I'm not living up to my fullest potential. The world is 100% perfect. The truth is the world is a hundred percent perfect. It is already at its optimal, and I don't have to do anything to create that. I experience it, and I allow it, and I accept it. So I don't need to strive to do anything. I have to not get in the way of experiencing those things, so trying super hard to manifest better or bigger or stronger. It is counterintuitive to the peace of just being okay with everything.
We also have a video called Keeping Your Slides Before Your Eyes. In that video, we talk about gratefulness and how gratefulness and contentment are essential to manifesting the kind of reality you truly desire. We can feel grateful and content knowing that we are already perfect and the world is already perfect. That is what will manifest more good things rather than feeling like did I manifest a red car or a maroon car? Oh, I wanted the maroon car. Did I get what I wanted? Don't overanalyze. It just feels good. Feel grateful for what you currently have. Feel grateful for who you are and that your identity is perfect.
Living in Integrity What we're talking about today is living in integrity. We're looking for integrity or feeling like there is no disconnect between our standards and how we're living or what God's standards are and how we're living, or what we want our world to look like and what we're trying to manifest.
We want there to be no disconnect. We want to live with integrity. But we have to realize that we're already there. It's already done. And we're just lining up with what's already there. The goodness is already there. God already created it in the beginning. And we're just accepting and living in the bliss and beauty that he created. So remember to check out our other videos: It's Already Done, Keeping Your Sides Before Your Eyes, and Gratefulness In Advance. Some of our Trigger Series also talk about these topics. I think you'll find even more answers in those videos as well. Please keep a lookout for our future videos, continuing the Everything Is Awesome series.
01:00 Gratefulness and Contentment
01:56 Experience your intended outcome as much as possible
03:29 Have fun in the journey
Let me ask you a question. What do you doubt about Christianity? Now, let me ask you, what do you doubt about the law of attraction? There is a real reason to doubt much of what you have been taught about the law of attraction and Christianity, and I have yet to find one person who has all of the answers.
Is Christianity true? Is Christianity true? Yes and no. I believe that Jesus is real and truly lived, died, and rose again. But the concept of hell down to the deepest part of my soul. I don't even believe that Jesus came to fix a problem because I don't believe there was a problem to fix.
Is the law of attraction true? Now the law of attraction, is it true? Yes and no. I do believe that you can change your reality with your thoughts. But is it the outside world that you are changing?
What Kay and I believe is different from almost everyone else is that we believe the world is already perfect, and God made the world perfect from the beginning.
Jesus didn't come to fix a problem That's why I don't think Jesus came to fix a problem. He did not come to defeat evil, and he is not coming back to judge sinners. The law of attraction is true. You can change your reality by thinking about it. But it is not the outside world. Little by little, you are changing your perspective to agree with a higher truth. You already have what you want, and the world is made perfect.
If this topic interests you and you want to know more, we have tons more to share on this. Stay tuned for the rest of this series that we're calling all already done.
Be sure to watch yesterday's video, Keep Your Slides Before Your Eyes.
01:00 Gratefulness and Contentment
01:56 Experience your intended outcome as much as possible
03:29 Have fun in the journey
Are you having trouble knowing what you want and spending time feeling good about having it? The world always gives us what we want, and the hard part is knowing what we wish and intending to have it. In Reality Transurfing, Vadim Zeland says wanting and intending are two different things, so we need to know the difference.
First, we can decide what we want. We can even go so far as to determine what we don't want. Don't stay there, but if you find out, "I don't like this," then you can find the opposite. Now you know what you want. Rather than continuing to have that as a desire or something far off, Vadim says to intend to have it.
Just set an intention one time, just "yes, I'm going to have that." Then let it go and know that that's what you've chosen, and that is what is going to enter into your reality.
After deciding what we want, the next step is to believe that it's possible to have it—even going as far as to think that we already have it and just aren't aware of how that's true yet.
Gratefulness and Contentment Here's tip number one: gratefulness and contentment are essential for realizing it's already done, and you are just lining up with your intention. You're not striving or putting out any effort or trying to have enough faith, work hard enough, or manifest hard enough. All you're doing is lining up with your intention.
Be aware of this continued wanting of something. "It's going to come. It's coming. I need it. I'm going to try harder. I'm going to believe better." Those are all "wanting" emotions rather than "having" feelings, and gratefulness and contentment are "having" emotions. When we put out into the world gratefulness and contentment, we say, I already have this, and the world needs to align with that. Otherwise, there's a lack of equilibrium, a lack of balance. If you keep your emotions a certain way, the world will rise to meet those emotions.
Check out my video on gratefulness in advance. That has some great tips on using gratefulness to manifest something.
Experience your intended outcome as much as possible Tip number two is to experience your intended outcome as much as possible. Whether you're experiencing it in your head or your reality, your mind thinks it's the same. We need to feel the reality of the achievement of that intention. Now, YouTube is a great way to do this. There are so many videos of people doing what you want to do, living the life you want to live.
For instance, J and I are playing around with the idea of renting and/or buying an RV. So we've been watching many videos about people who use their RV on their vacations. We're learning about how they use their RV, what the inside of an RV looks like, how it can be set up, and we're able to dream all these things in a very tangible way because we can see and hear what people are doing in their own life. That makes it super easy to imagine us being in those scenarios.
And this is key, because you want to feel the experience of your desired intention. If you intend to get a new car, go to a showroom at a car dealership and sit in the front seat of that car. It makes it a super tangible experience. But I'm telling you, YouTube is incredible because so many of these things are at our fingertips, and we're not just hearing stories about it or reading about it. We're seeing and engaging with people experiencing what we want to share. And that gives us so much confidence that this intention can happen for us. So make sure you're feeling contentment with where you are and gratefulness for what you have, gratefulness that your intention is already done in your life, and lining up with that happening and having fun in the journey.
Have fun on the journey Have fun as your intention becomes more manifest in your life. We haven't looked at a physical RV yet, but we are having so much fun in this exploring and planning phase, and each step of your journey towards your intention is just as beautiful and valuable. So enjoy the journey and feel the reality of your intention coming to pass and the gratefulness for your current moment and your current experience.
00:00 J&Kay Podcast 4.23.22 - Jesus and Reality Transurfing - Does "perfect" trigger you?
01:00 Follow the good feelings
01:27 Big Answers
01:33 Statements of Perfection Make Light of Human Pain
02:47 Taking Ownership
03:44 Life is Better Than You Think
04:01 Pendulums and Energy Traps
Everything positive is true, and everything negative is Matrix.
How does that statement make you feel? What is the emotional reaction that you experience when I say everything positive is true and everything negative is Matrix? Suppose you've watched any of our videos. In that case, you'll have heard us say that phrase and how everything is already done, meaning everything we need is already available for us, and everything in life is already perfect. How is it possible that we can believe that with what we see in the world?
And do any of those statements trigger an emotional response in your heart? When I say everything positive is true and everything negative is Matrix, I mean if there is something that feels good and feels positive, any of the positive virtues hope, love, truth. Those things are real. And Matrix refers to the movie the Matrix, in which the hero is living in this false reality, where everything looks real but is an illusion. We mean that when we say the Matrix, it's an illusion.
So, if I say everything positive is true and everything Matrix is an illusion or a deception, does it jar you? Do you have an emotional reaction? Do you wonder if it's true?
Follow the good feelings.
Follow the good feelings. Let's talk about how this makes you feel. We spoke in the past two videos about triggers, and the first video on our trigger series is No Longer Triggered Understanding Pendulums and Energy Traps so that You Can Live Free. Make sure you check that out so you can learn about pendulums and how to be set free.
But if something triggers you and feels like an energy trap, or it feels negative, that's something to pay attention to, to always pay attention to how you feel.
Big Answers
So here come the big answers. If you have questions or feel triggered, make sure you listen to this whole point.
Statements of Perfection Make Light of Human Pain
We feel triggered by statements about perfection because it feels like it's making light of our pain.
And of other people's pain. It feels insensitive and like, it couldn't possibly be true. How could this be true with what I see in my reality or what my friends and family are going through?
But let's think about this. Is it possible for something to be too good to be true? Is that a statement that triggers you? Do you believe in a good God? Do you believe in a good universe? Do you think that there is something too good for goodness?
Or do we hear our hearts crying with a faint voice of hope, wishing that it were true? Does something in our spirits say, follow this lead? Is there something here? I wish that were true.
Suppose there is a good, perfect. All-powerful God out there. Is it possible that it could be true, and it's hard to see when we're looking through the Matrix?
That's why we say everything negative is Matrix. It's our perspective; our perspective needs to shift. So, what do we do with this information? We're going to have lots more videos about this topic repeatedly and all of the baggage that comes up when we're talking about these significant worldview kinds of discussions.
But what do we do with this shred of hope that maybe there's a possibility that things are better than they seem?
Taking Ownership
We need to take ownership. We need to realize we are not victims. The world is not against us, and we are not out to fight for our place under the sun. Vadim Zeeland talks about this in his Reality Transurfing books. If you believe you need to fight for your place under the sun, the world is a mirror reflecting that reality.
If you believe that the world is watching out for you, that there are guardian angels all around, and that everything is aligned for your favor and your ultimate good, then that is the reality that you'll be experiencing. So we need to take ownership, and we are responsible for the fact that we're engaging at the present moment.
How we feel and what we expect to happen open the door for what we experience or seem to be experiencing. Remember, we're talking about the Matrix here.
But if we can genuinely believe that all things are already perfect, and align with that reality and just let it be, try to let it be ideal see, if you can let yourself breathe, and let yourself trust and let yourself hope, then that is what we will experience.
Life is Better Than You Think
I likely have not answered all of your questions in this video today, but I hope I've left you with a shred of hope and an action step that if you can try trusting, if you can try to look for the good and look for the beauty and see past the Matrix, you might discover that life is better than you think.
Pendulums and Energy Traps
So make sure you check out those videos about No Longer Triggered Understanding Pendulums and Energy Traps so you can be free from the emotional negativity that might come when someone brings up a triggering statement like I just brought to you guys today.
And look for future videos where I answer more of these questions.
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0:00 Triggered Into Silence? Conquer Fear Of Cancel Culture - Reality Transurfing
0:27 Fear of being canceled
0:52 Pendulums
1:29 Trigger Culture vs Cancel Culture
2:46 How to live free of pendulums
3:40 Transurfing in 78 Days — A Practical Course in Creating Your Own Reality: https://amzn.to/3k97eRD
Have you ever felt like you don't have the words to say because everything you say can and will be used against you? I have felt that so much. But that's being triggered into silence.
So often, we are so sensitive to not triggering other people because if we trigger them, they will critique us. They're going to leave negative comments, and they're going to possibly reject us and cause other people to not listen to us. And that's how it feels to be canceled.
Fear of being canceled
So if we're afraid of being canceled and so scared that we don't speak out in the first place, aren't we just canceling ourselves? We are our own worst critics, and we have nothing to fear but fear itself. If you don't speak out, you're getting canceled out anyway.
Yesterday I talked about triggers and about how pendulums and the force of momentum behind the pendulums are what trigger people.
Pendulums
So if you're unfamiliar with pendulums, check out our video describing pendulums called our 90-Day Challenge. And check out the first video of this series on triggers called "No Longer Triggered: Understanding Pendulums and Energy Traps So You Can Live Free."
So a pendulum is a group way of thinking that usually has an us-vs.-them perspective. The pendulum gains momentum from the back and forth of one side versus the other, one opinion versus the other side, Republican versus Democrat. Yankees versus Mets, et cetera, et cetera. And there are lots of little ones that are not as apparent.
Trigger Culture vs. Cancel Culture
One of these pendulums is Trigger Culture versus Cancel Culture. If you're afraid of saying something, you are being triggered. You're part of this pendulum, and it's an energy trap that's stopping you from expressing yourself and the energy you have to give a positive contribution to the world and create something beautiful.
Sometimes we're caught up in a pendulum, and we want to speak out against the other side. But when you do that, all you're doing is giving more force and more momentum to the pendulum of us versus them. So instead of trying to come against cancel culture or trigger culture, let's focus on our identity and what we have to say. If I want to express myself to the world, it doesn't need to be in a certain way that looks good to one side or the other of a particular pendulum.
I can have confidence that I am the only me there is and that what I have to say is unique. I don't have to try to fit it into a grid, I don't have to try to fit it into a paradigm, and I don't have to worry about other people approving of who I am or not, as long as I approve of myself. And that's true of you, too. I MEAN YOU when I say me, so make sure you put that in your own terms and let it sink into your own heart.
How to live free of pendulums
Yesterday, I talked about how we can live free of pendulums when we're in a culture addicted to pendulums. And the best way that you can help others escape pendulums and energy traps, as well, is by living a life that you choose and by displaying your freedom from those energy traps.
So, if you are living out the fullest expression of who you can be, focusing on your personal growth, your contribution to the world, and what you and only you can bring to the table, then you are helping solve the problem of pendulums in the first place. You are coming at the pendulum from a third side, the fourth side, the fifth side, the millionth side.
As all of us start expressing ourselves and our uniqueness, instead of jumping on the bandwagon of we're on this site, and they're on the other, then we're going to all see that we can come together to create something bigger than what each of us could do on our own.
Transurfing in 78 Days — A Practical Course in Creating Your Own Reality
So if you're interested in more about pendulums, check out Reality Transurfing, specifically 78 Days of Transurfing.
That will be a big help in explaining pendulums and how to live free of them. Also, check out yesterday's video: " No Longer Triggered," and tomorrow's video, which will be about whether our view of the world already being perfect triggers you. That's something you're not going to want to miss. So I'll see you in our next video.
00:00 No Longer Triggered: Understanding Pendulums And Energy Traps So You Can Live Free
00:41 What is a pendulum?
01:58 Are there positive pendulums?
02:53 How to escape a pendulum
04:20 Is remaining a victim to triggers worth it?
Have you ever felt triggered when a particular emotionally charged topic comes up? Some of us have these topics that are just energy traps. As soon as we hear this word, we have to get involved in the conversation. Or, if we don't want to get involved in the discussion, we feel like we have to keep our mouth shut, but there's this big emotional reaction.
Oh, I'm so angry at that person for saying that, or I agree with them, but I don't want to say anything cause I don't want to look stupid. That's being triggered. If you've ever been triggered, then most likely it's because you subscribe to one side or the other of a pendulum.
What is a pendulum?
A pendulum is an idea that there is a polarity of opinions, an us versus them. You're on one side, and somebody else or a group of people is on the other side.
For more on pendulums, you can see our video called 90 Day Challenge. One of the topics we talk about is pendulums. Now a pendulum is an energy trap. So, the energy that you could be using to create your ideal life, creating content and value for other people, contributing to the world, contributing to your personal growth. That energy is now caught up in this something bigger than you. Something that is controlling you. This external to you can instantly control an emotional aspect of who you are. That is an energy trap.
One of the definitions of a pendulum is groupthink. It's multiple people feeling the same way about a given topic, most likely in contrast to another group of people.
There are some obvious pendulums out there and some hidden pendulums. Still, your emotional reaction can show you if you're caught up in a pendulum, an energy trap.
Are there positive pendulums?
Now there are some pendulums you might want to be a part of. A pendulum is something that has momentum. In science, the actual physical item of a pendulum is something that swings back and forth, and it has momentum. You might want that momentum to help carry you. We're currently doing a 90-day challenge to post or publish something of content every day for 90 days.
That is a pendulum. It's not an us versus them. Like, no one's against us, but it is a, are we going to do it or not?
So we have this momentum of we've been posting for 21 days. Are we going to keep posting? Yeah, 22 will be easier because we don't want to break the streak. So that's an example of a pendulum that we want to be a part of, but most of the time, pendulums that are group think pendulums, are just going to be an energy trap for you and you want to escape them.
How to escape a pendulum
There are two fundamental ways to escape a pendulum, and you can rent yourself out or knock it over from the side.
I first heard of these from Reality Transurfing. So make sure you look into those books for more information on what pendulums are and how to defeat them. But renting yourself out means pretending to be on one side or the other without having an elevated emotional response. So you can act like you're really into politics, but maybe you're not.
Or maybe you're just asking questions to hear that person's side of the topic. And they might think that you're on their side, and you're either like, I don't care, or I'm actually on the other side, but I don't want to get in a fight, and I don't want to have an emotional reaction. So I'm just going to ask some questions. It's going to be no big deal. And this moment will pass by, and then I'm going to get on with my life—no big deal.
The second way is knocking it on its side. So that's coming from a third perspective or just not having an emotional opinion on that topic whatsoever. So you're, kind of, breaking the pendulum by not being on one side or the other.
One side will always gain power through the other side's reaction. So if you aren't agreeing or disagreeing with either side, then the pendulum's like, I don't know what to do with you, and you're not choosing a side. So that's another way that you can escape the pendulum.
Is remaining a victim to triggers worth it?
With triggers, notice how you feel. Do I feel emotionally elevated, specifically in negative emotions, because of this topic? And then think to yourself, is this worth it, or are there bigger things for me to be focusing on in my life?
The one thing you don't want to do is let the pendulum control you. Identify your pendulums, then set an intention that you will either rent yourself out or knock over the pendulum from the side when you encounter that pendulum in your life.
Now, what about when everybody around you is trapped in pendulums, having these conversations that are emotionally charged and potentially triggering, and you're just free to live your life. How do you engage in a society that's addicted to pendulums? We're going to talk about that in tomorrow's video. "Conquering fear of cancel culture." So make sure to watch that video next for the answer.
And then, we'll also talk in our third video on this series about whether you can believe that your life is perfect or if that statement is triggering to you. I'll see you guys in the following videos.
00:00 Intro
00:37 Metaphors
01:17 Lyric Studio
01:37 Verse 1
02:30 Chorus
03:11 Wine explanation
07:44 Verse 2
10:37 Bridge
11:35 The old verse 1
12:29 Old Verse 2
00:00 Gratitude In Advance Vs Gratitude After Receiving
00:19 Gratitude is the highest emotion
01:38 Overview
05:09 The Observer
07:29 Gratefulness leads to drunkenness
09:25 Dr. Joe Dispenza
10:41 Like attracts Like
12:45 Summary
Hello, everyone. Welcome to the J and Kay podcast. I'm Kay. And today, we're going to be talking about gratefulness, specifically gratefulness in advance. So this podcast is being released on Easter Sunday, April 17th, 2022. And I think it's just a beautiful holiday to talk about the concept of gratefulness.
Gratitude is the highest emotion.
So gratitude is one of the highest emotions. There is an emotional scale that you can find online that talks about the 22 emotions from number one to number 22. Number 22 is fear and discouragement, like deep depression, and number one is gratitude.
That is very telling because if gratefulness is one of the highest emotions, then it should be a significant focus in our lives. So what do I mean by thankfulness in advance? So that means that before something happens, you are grateful for that outcome. For example, before you get a check in the mail and are thankful that that check will arrive.
Maybe, you know, that check will come because you put in your federal tax return, and you're going to get a refund, but you haven't yet. Suppose you feel and engage with the emotion of gratefulness for that check coming in the mail, even though you haven't physically tangibly touched it yet. In that case, you're exemplifying gratefulness in advance.
Now it's pretty easy to be grateful and advanced when there's a guarantee or 99% guarantee that that check is coming in the mail and you're just waiting for it. But there is a lot of evidence that shows that anything that we intend can be guaranteed, especially when we tap into the feeling of gratefulness in advance.
There's a bit of activation in the supernatural, non-tangible realm that happens when we are grateful—the metaphysical, we could say.
Overview
I'm going to be talking about three big ideas to help us have confidence. That being grateful in advance will change our reality. So I'll go over them real quick. Big idea number one talks about our reticular activating system, which means noticing things around us that are already there, but maybe they're being blocked out.
Big idea number two talks about the observer, a quantum physics idea based on the split experiment.
And big idea number three, gratefulness leads to drunkenness or bliss. So we'll get into that when we get into that; I'll leave you hanging on what that means.
Big idea number one, our reticular activating system, is a part of our brain that helps us differentiate between all of the stimuli coming at us and separate just the things that are important for our conscious mind to know and notice.
When we are grateful for something, let's go back to that idea of the check coming in the mail. We are paying particular attention to that data. We're making a conscious decision to put our focus on that outcome. It's the same idea that we discuss seeing a Tesla everywhere when you're looking to buy a Tesla, which J has talked about in the past. He wants to buy a Tesla, and so he notices Teslas everywhere. Without triggering your conscious mind to focus on that specific car. Then all the Teslas that you would otherwise see blend into the rest of the traffic, but when you call your attention to just the particular idea of a Tesla, your brain will trigger. Oh, look, there it is. I see it.
So when you focus on something, you're going to see it everywhere. That's the idea of the reticular activating system. When you're grateful, you're drawing attention, drawing your focus, to the thing you desire. By visualizing and emotionally connecting with the feeling that you're going to have once you've received this thing that you're hoping for, and being grateful for it, feeling the gratitude that it's already yours, already done. That sets up your mind to notice and pay conscious attention to things in line with that decision.
So here's another example.
You may have just bought a home and have a beautiful backyard, but you might not notice all of the landscaping and the beauty because you're focused so much on the interior of your house. Then perhaps as you start having the intention, I want the outside of my house to look as beautiful as the inside. Then you begin planting a garden and realizing, wow, I have this perennial plant growing here since the previous owners owned this property.
That happened to me when we had bought our house; we have this tree; I didn't know it was a flowering tree. But all of a sudden, in the springtime, it started blooming. And I was like, this is a beautiful tree.
It is a Magnolia tree; it's budding right now. And right around Easter, it always just explodes with color. So, right now, it's a week before Easter at the time of this recording, but I expect it to be in full bloom by Easter Sunday, which will be awesome.
So while you also intend to have a beautiful backyard, your mind will be more conscious of, wow, I already do have a beautiful backyard. Maybe you're working on taking action, which is essential to make it even more attractive. You may not have noticed the beautiful landscaping because you only focused on the inside of the house.
So that's one way that being grateful in advance sets up our mind to notice the things that are already happening, in alignment with what we're thankful for or what we intend.
The Observer
Big idea number two talks about the observer. So 99% of our world comprises energy rather than material matter. This big idea is a quantum physics idea based on if you go to the atomic level, there is so much space between the actual protons, nucleus, and electrons in that atom. So it comes out that 99% of our world is energy. We think so many matters because that's what we see with our physical eyes. But there's an experiment in quantum physics called the Slit Experiment.
You can go ahead and look that up. It is fascinating, and many people have a lot of YouTube videos on it. You can look that up for yourself, but it proves the idea that atomic matter behaves differently when viewed by a human rather than when recorded with no observer.
The double-slit experiment had different results when the scientists watched what was happening and viewed the results versus when no one was watching the process, and you just viewed the results. Also, when filmed with a camera. Very fascinating.
So our world is not what we think it is. The material aspect of our world is not everything, and other parts of reality are not just the material things that we can touch and feel. So this scientific experiment helps us understand that things react differently based on the person observing them and what we expect to happen. What you expect to happen influences what happens in reality. This is mind-blowing.
So if you expect something to happen that you want to happen and that you are already showing gratefulness for, that is what will happen. That is going to happen in your experience.
There is so much more depth to this concept, especially the idea of gratefulness in advance being an essential aspect of achieving your intentions.
My friend Dan has a program called Beyond intention, and he specifically talks about this concept in his program. I highly recommend you guys to check out Beyond Intention with Dan Mengana. He is awesome. And I can't take all the credit for this because a lot of it was inspired by Dan's course, and it's changed my life and the way I view things. So check that out for more in-depth explanations about the observer and how much gratefulness affects our reality.
Gratefulness leads to drunkenness.
Big idea number three is that gratefulness leads to drunkenness. Now, J and I have a background in a specific group of Christianity called the prophetic movement. It's very engaged with the supernatural realm and very connected with the spiritual aspect of things. And one of the things that sometimes people experience in meetings or conferences is an intense experience connecting with God, connecting with this feeling of pure love and pure peace so much so that our bodies can barely handle it.
And we start spontaneously laughing, and just, I can barely hold in the amount of joy that we feel. So when we would feel this way, some people think this way, just being in this environment of love. There is something about the connection between all of us. When you get together as a group of people and people are all feeling the same way, spiritually, sometimes people who join and have no idea what's happening just get carried away by this wave of emotion and connection. And just the spiritual connection is overwhelming. The Spirit of God and God united all people in that environment.
So we say gratefulness leads to drunkenness. Sometimes people pursue that feeling of bliss, happiness, of almost getting high. And the trigger is gratefulness. When we realize in our head and our experiences when we remember experiences how perfect our life is, of how much beauty and goodness there is in the world, of how amazing God is, that he always takes care of us, that he set up the world to watch out for us and that everything is perfect. It's already done, then that gratefulness wells up in your heart, and it expresses itself in just such an overwhelming feeling of pure joy and bliss.
So even before we experienced a lot of them, like the quantum physics stuff that we talked about, J and I were exposed to the concept that gratefulness leads to being drunk in the spirit.
Dr. Joe Dispenza
Then later, we saw these online YouTube testimonials from Dr. Joe Dispenza, where people would come to his conferences and sometimes have the same experiences. It was not in a Christian environment. But God is God. And God is love. And He infuses people with his goodness and love, and so all these people have the same kind of experience because just opening our eyes to see how good God is and how awesome he is and how much love there is. How loved we are. How loved you are as an individual. Have you ever experienced the amount of love that there is for you? It's incredible.
So there is so much power in the feeling of gratefulness and tapping into our feelings. A lot of times in my life, I would ignore my feelings. Others can always manipulate thinking and feelings, but feelings are a gift. When we choose how we want to feel and our heart and mind align with incoherence, the emotions that our heart experiences can be so powerful, way more potent than just mentally trying to process things.
Our brains can not mentally process so many things, like the entire idea of quantum physics and how that works right now. We do not know. But our emotions are influential and an incredible tool.
Like attracts Like
So, we know that there's a principle in this world that attracts like. Similar things attract similar things—the idea that you reap what you sow, that same concept. If you plant blueberry seeds, you will get a blueberry plant, and you're not going to get a pineapple. So when you're experiencing the extreme positivity that the emotion of gratefulness brings, you're attracting positive experiences into your life.
You're attracting positivity. And the more that you engage with that, the more you're tapping into your true self. We are created for goodness and love, and beauty. We talk about being at a 10, J and I. Like, how the world is perfect, but we often have interferences to seeing that. Even to the point of being at a one, which is almost like an extreme deception, extreme depression, where everything that comes into your life would feel like a negative. You take everything in, spin it for the negative, just everything being perceived by you as a negative experience, that would be being at a one, as opposed to a 10, which is your eyes being fully opened, fully open to experience and engage with all of the goodness that is there for you.
It's not at a 10, working up this positive emotion and trying to make things happen. It's just opening up to what's already there. And that brings us a sense of rest instead of striving and trying to force things to happen. That's negative energy there. But when we can rest and know it's already done, it's already there, and we tap into it, we are at a 10. And when you're being grateful, when you're in that bliss experience, you're attracting more ten experiences into your life. It becomes a way of life for you.
So I hope that you guys are inspired to be even more grateful, whether you have things to be thankful for or not, which I'm sure you do. There are always things to be thankful for because all you have to do is to desire to see them and open your eyes, and they will be there.
But when things are still being manifested in your life in a material sense, for instance, that check coming in the mail that you've been waiting for, having that positive experience of gratefulness helps you to be connected with that experience so that you won't miss it and that you won't miss out on living the best life that you can.
Summary
Our three big ideas, once again, are number one that the reticular activating system helps you notice what is already there in your environment that you can be grateful for.
Big idea number two is the observer. Even in your imagination, the things you desire and are grateful for become manifested as you observe them. They're already manifested because you imagine them. So becoming manifested is more than just a permission slip to tell ourselves that. They're coming. They're going to be here, but there is no actual waiting. It is already yours. But the reality is in the intention, not in the manifestation; if that makes sense, that's a little bit esoteric, but that's the basic idea of the observer.
And then big idea number three is that gratefulness leads to drunkenness or bliss.
So I hope you enjoy today's podcast. I hope you're having a wonderful Easter with friends and family. And that you count your blessings and experience a super extreme amount of gratefulness today. All right, bye guys.
00:42 Willing to See, Scene 1
Today I’m so excited to share the first scene from the novel I’ve been writing. It’s a fairytale retelling of The Princess and the Pea. I’m excited to share the first part of Adira’s story with you guys!
If you are interested in hearing the rest of the story, I’ll release it scene-by-scene. To listen to what happens next, make sure you sign up for updates, and I will send the future releases straight to your email.
Willing to See, Scene 1
The Bite
The sun beat down as it neared the horizon behind her. Adira swished through the dust swirling in tendrils around her skirt as she hurried down the path. She squinted, searching the edge of the village for a glimpse of her father and brothers. She felt goosebumps rise on her arms, even in this warm weather. What could be keeping them? She picked up her pace.
She knew Sage wanted to get home as soon as possible after work was done. They were finally going to celebrate his birthday at dinner tonight. Adira couldn’t help feeling something important must have happened to keep her brothers away. Something just wasn’t right.
She approached the village gate and heard voices around the wall - voices she recognized. She sighed in relief. Nothing’s wrong; I was overreacting. They must have just been delayed by - Adira stopped dead in her tracks. Three men were carrying a makeshift stretcher, upon which lay a fourth man. She instantly recognized the dark, bearded face lolling on its side – her father. His eyes were closed.
“What happened?” Adira asked, heart leaping to her throat. Running to the group, she finally realized the two people in front of the stretcher were her brothers. Connor shifted to get a better grip, Sage to his right.
“We think he was bitten by a snake in the fields,” Connor said breathlessly. Sage chimed in, “Belorin said there’ve been others bitten, too.” His gaze shifted back toward the third man, holding both posts of the stretcher at the opposite end. Adira recognized their neighbor, one of her father’s closest friends.
Adira had heard of a villager from Julenia being bitten by a snake not long ago; the victim hadn’t survived. She studied Connor. He was normally more reserved than Sage, but even he seemed shaken and agitated, eyes shifting uncomfortably.
A cold sweat broke out on Adira’s neck. She felt a weight of responsibility settle over her. As the oldest, her role was to think calmly and rationally to provide a solution to the problem. But Belorin was here; surely he knew what to do? She eyed the burly, bearded man and searched his face. Though he tried to hide it behind his closed expression, despair filled his dark eyes. She shivered.
Perhaps the rumors were exaggerated. Perhaps they were overreacting. “Let me help.” She grabbed a handle from Belorin so each of them now held a corner. “Let’s get him home, then I’ll run to the apothecary.” Her heart sank into her stomach. I hope mother is strong enough to handle the shock.
She looked down into her father’s seemingly-peaceful face. He could have been sleeping, but was likely unconscious. Adira knew her father would never let anyone carry him on a stretcher if he could help it. He hadn’t made a sound.
Papa, don’t leave us! It’s not your time.
She swallowed a sob and blinked back hot tears, tightening her grip on the stretcher as they made their way home.
- Intro
- Defining permission slips and placebos
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Big Idea 1
- The action will produce no results if you don't believe in it.
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Big Idea 2
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What you believe in/expect happens, positive or negative.
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Big Idea 3
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When permission slips conflict, follow what feels best to figure out what you desire - find evidence to support that theory.
- I can't attitude vs. I can attitude
- Links
- Thomas DeLauer placebo video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iK9h44iYjdk&t=6s&ab_channel=ThomasDeLauer
- Dr. Joe testimonies: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qKSGNO49emY&list=PLD4EAA8F8C9148A1B&ab_channel=drjoedispenza
- Inward Quest post: https://www.inwardquest.com/questions/58367/how-do-i-mould-my-current-permission-slips-of-life
- How to Relieve Stress With Positive Psychology
- 00:00 J&Kay Podcast 4.13.22 - how to relieve stress with positive psychology
- 00:48 Overview 02:13 Hustle Culture is Workaholism
- 03:56 Put On Your Own Oxygen Mask First
- 05:07 What You Focus On Gets Bigger
- 05:28 No Striving
- 07:01 Kelly McGonigal: Do You View Stress as a Challenge or a Threat?
- 08:17 Eat Stress like an Energy Bar
- 09:13 Short-Term Stress vs. Long-Term Stress
- 10:55 Brian Johnson's Heroic App
- 11:36 Short-Term Stress: Exercise
- 12:44 Obstacles Make Me Stronger
- 13:20 How to change your mindset to view stress as a positive challenge: Reality Transurfing
- 15:18 Your World is a Mirror
- 15:48 Activate Your Beliefs by Taking Action
- 16:55 Wrap Up
- Big Idea 1 I only work in peace
- Giving/producing out of abundance
- Put your own oxygen mask on first
- "Hustle culture is a fancy way of saying, 'workaholism'" - Graham Cochrane
- Value rest, fundies, deep love, etc.
- Equilibrium is a state of both balance and rest
- Big Idea 2 No Striving
- It's about the state of your heart
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- how do you feel about stress? Kelly McGonigal
- Work because we want to, not because we have to
- My world is fighting me (threat) or my world is taking care of me (challenge, growth)
- Why don't we need to strive?
- Because it's Already Done.
- We're just lining up with our results/opening our eyes to the solutions already there and aligning our desired outcome with our thoughts, emotions, and actions
- Flow Funnel
- Big Idea 3 Short Term Stress vs. long term stress
- "Eat Stress like an Energy Bar" - Brian Johnson
- The solution for chronic stress is short-term stress
- An exercise workout, esp. HIIT or something similar, hard work, then rest And/or Short-term project (go for an achievable yet meaningful win)
- Do these regularly, and you'll exercise your "stress muscles" to work for you, not against you. Anti-fragile mindset
- Obstacles Make Me Stronger (OMMS)
How's it going, guys? I just recorded a half-hour-long video, and then it didn't record the correct screen. So I'm a little frustrated. But I will claim advantage here, as we teach, and know that this will be for the best.
My Experience What I'm going to be doing here is just teaching you how I use Power Automate. I have been using Winautomation for about nine years, the precursor to Power Automate. And it has saved me so much time.
Actions On the left are the actions. There are a million actions. You can drop down all of these, and they have everything you can do on a computer. Power Automate can automate anything you can do on a computer.
Using PowerAutomate for YouTube, Blog, and Podcast Posting I have created a flow that allows me to better record these videos and SEO them more quickly. Search Engine Optimize, edit, export, and post the videos while cutting down to about half the time, if not less than that.
So that is going to speed up my efficiency significantly, and that's what computers are for in the first place, and that's why we have computer programs like Power Automate now.
PowerAutomate Cost vs. WinAutomation Luckily this comes free with Windows 11. I, in the past, have paid hundreds and hundreds of dollars for the precursor program to this called Winautomation. So now it comes free, and I'm happy that everyone can use this program without the huge upfront cost. I, in the past, have run my entire music lessons business with Winautomation. We had 100 students and 15 teachers, and Winautmation made all the administrative work about ten times easier than manually doing it.
I would need to run payroll, make sure that everyone was following procedures, the scheduling was correct, and if anything were wrong, I would need to follow different processes. So I have made very complicated manual systems into one streamlined semi-automatic process.
I will make follow-up videos to show how I've improved my YouTube, podcast, and blog, Power Automate Bot.
Power Automate has sub-flows, which are equivalent to functions. Then you have your main screen as one of the flows.
The Pre-SEO sub-flow contains all of my work to research my keywords and titles before ever recording.
Then I have the editing sub-flow, which helps me streamline my editing.
The export sub-flow helps with the export and the posting sub-flow with the posting process.
I will make more videos about how I use this, and I'm not going to go into the details again as I did in the past half-hour video.
I just wanted to quickly make you aware of how I use Power Automate and how awesome it has been in my life. This blog is somewhat of a testimonial.
Talk soon!
https://www.elishasriddle.com/the-deceitful-heart-part-1/
The topic today is, is man basically evil or good?
People want to know the answer to this question. Well, I guess kind of two reasons, but they're connected. We want to know, is there evil inside of me?
And how can I know that what I'm feeling is valid or if it is true, right?
These were questions that plagued me most of my life. I remember explicitly praying things like God, empty me of myself and fill me with you because I felt anything of me was wrong and anything of God was good.
When did this uncomfortability start in you? When did you start to feel that your head knowledge wasn't matching your heart?
When you introduced the idea to me that Jesus took away the Sinful Nature. As I met J and started hanging out more, he introduced me to a very foreign concept. I believe that as a Christian, when you decide to follow Jesus and give your life to him, and you accept his death on the cross to pay for your sins and become a new creation, you still have an evil nature inside of you, that wars against the Spirit of God inside of you. And so you're basically schizophrenic. You have a good side and a bad side, the angel on one shoulder, the devil on the other shoulder, that kind of thing.
We call that schizophrenic Christianity. You feel I'm good, I'm bad, I'm good, I'm bad, I'm a saint, I'm a sinner. It's an excuse for people to not be their best selves.
And the point here, overall, is that man is good. Right?
Yes, we personally believe that man is basically good. And I know that's a conflicting idea than that of most Christians.
And then we take this way further, where the whole world is perfect.
But it all starts with taking baby steps in the right direction, and we need to remove the interferences in our minds and souls, the lies that keep us from being our best selves.
And one of those lies is if you think that you are evil,
you're going to behave poorly. You're never going to live up to your perfection; live up to being your best self, and healthily think of yourself. You're going to think of yourself as bad.
To answer your question, I don't know when it started, but I know when it clicked, I remember reading the Bible and being like, wow, the Bible clearly says that the old man is crucified with Christ. It's dead, dead, dead. It's repeatedly saying that the old man is buried and dead. Stop trying to resurrect a corpse. It is dead. It says it over and over in Romans six and Romans eight. I believe it's in Galatians, in Colossians as well.
But I had so much evidence that any evil you thought was inside is gone. You are not evil, and it's gone. Stop believing that it's making you less than.
And I was like, whoa, this would change everything if true. That's why we're talking about this and because this is transformational in your heart.
If you can change your belief about who God says you are, who you say you are. Then you will absolutely behave better.
People often say, well, if there's no Sin Nature, why am I tempted? Why are so many Christians falling away? Why are so many pastors committing adultery or sin?
I firmly believe it's because they view themselves as sinners, even if they view themselves as sinners saved by grace. When you consider yourself a sinner and view yourself as susceptible to sin, you focus on the corruption. As mentioned in other podcasts, what you focus on gets bigger. Why are you so obsessed with what you don't want?
That was the keystone that revolutionized my perspective.
There's evidence to support all theories. If you're looking for something that says we still have a flesh, you can find it. If You're looking for something that says we don't, you can find it.
What are you going to believe? I choose to believe that which is positive. Because why believe the negative? If there's evidence for both, believe that God is good and God is love.
Too many people base what they believe on what they see around them. Not realizing that everything you know, you see through a lens. 90 or 95% of what you see or interpret is based on your past upbringing and experiences. So if, if you were brought up in a scenario in which you and the whole world are evil, you're going to interpret things that way.
But what if you don't need to do that? There are permission slips God has given us, all over the place, saying, Hey, I have something better for you. Are you willing to step in, take this permission slip and say, I don't need to believe those I was raised to believe?
Is my heart evil or good? Is man bad or good? Can we trust our hearts?
Let's talk about this.
If there's something that says that God is not good. For example, the Idea of Calvinism is that God has predestinated certain people to go to hell and burn in hell forever in never-ending torment.
You can say, well, God's ways are not our ways. You can interpret anything to mean anything, so you need to base your interpretation of the Bible on something more solid, which is the idea that God is love. And that God is good.
And how do we know? Because it rings true in our hearts. Right?
Romans 1 talks about how even unbelievers understand right and wrong because God has put a conscience inside us.
It goes against our conscience when we hear:
God planned a baby's life inside its mother's womb, watched it grow up, yet chose that when it dies, he will be in conscious torment for the rest of eternity just so that select other people can be grateful to God for saving them. That is the worst absolute horrific dictatorship that cannot possibly be called good or God.
People don't like to think in that direction. And we don't have to believe that direction. Because the truth is, that is a lie, and it is a pendulum. The idea of "us versus them" has a lot of power and can trap you.
We are trying to free you from the pendulum. And free you from the negative thinking that it can cause. It can really cause some real damage long-term if you continue to be caught in these lies. You don't want to be trapped in lies.
This is for you if you feel like there is some freedom here that we allow you to participate in. But if you feel like this is riling you up and don't want to hear another word, click away and do not read this anymore. We don't want to cause more pendulum for you.
But I know that I ate it right up when I was exposed to some of this freeing stuff. And I was so happy about it, and it really made me a much more loving person and just have much better, more free thoughts.
As we've talked about in the past, if you are the best you can be, that's the best gift you can give to others. You're going to be the most loving; you'll embody all of the virtues. You'll have peace and love in your heart, and you won't be caught up in the pendulum.
If we are caught up in a false understanding of misrepresentation, what we call the matrix, that doesn't necessarily mean that part of us is evil.
Let's go back again to the title of this episode: Is man basically evil
or good?
Jesus took away the Sin Nature and took away the evil inside us.
Further along, I learned Big Idea #2: There was no total depravity in the first place. Boom! Mind blown!
Talk to me about your experience; how did you come to believe that there was no total depravity in the first place?
I started studying Jeremiah 17:9. "The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked. Who can know it?"
When I looked at the Hebrew words, I found out that desperately wicked does not mean desperately wicked. So man's heart is "deceitful" - better defined, tricky or slippery. But wicked is never portrayed as wicked.
It's definitely an interpretation thrown in there. And when I've also looked up the Greek translation of the original Hebrew called the Septuagint, it doesn't show up.
I wrote down each of the Greek words and their specific definitions. So the meanings are deep.
The heart of all indeed, man. (So the inside the deep heart.) Within all man exists, which to know, or to come to perceive himself.
Not a single thing about wicked or evil! What a stretch! Obviously, someone was interpreting that verse From a preconceived notion.
You can interpret anything to mean anything based on your pre-biased conceptions, so I want to make my pre-biased conceptions based on the goodness and love of God.
Whenever I'm thinking about anything that has to do with God, if there is a way to interpret it more happily, I want to lean in that direction. Because I think about when we have clarity and see God for who He is, we will say: "Whoa. He's not as nice as I thought he was!" Or are we going to say, "Wow, God, you are so much better than I thought you were!"
Jesus came to reveal the Father, right? He portrayed God as a father.
Why would Jesus go so far as to reveal the Father to us and then give us the physical experience on earth of being parents where we would never send our child to a place of torment. But God would?! You can't understand why now, but you're going to get it in heaven?!
I think C.S. Lewis talks about that in Mere Christianity as well. If there is anything better than God, it's impossible because God is the ultimate goodness.
Our Big Idea #3 is that we are in union with God.
John 15 talks about that they may be one as we are one, I in you, them in me. Everything one, united. The Spirit of God lives in you.
He is part of us, and if we are connected in union with God, we do not have a Sin Nature. Then when we listen to our hearts, we hear the voice of God. It took so long to be able to believe that. And when I did, it gave me so much power to be good like I had always wanted to. The beliefs I had held me back from goodness.
Just know you are good; know God. Know Him because He is good. Just focus on the good.
I believe that our calling in life is to find evidence to support our positive theories, and our views should be in the most positive direction possible. That will make us the most positive people imaginable, and we will be thinking positive thoughts and rejecting negative thoughts as just confusion or lies.
God is good, and we are good. And when that happens, we can start to trust our own hearts. And when we can trust our own hearts, we can live from our hearts and follow our callings.
We're not going to be able to hear or follow our callings if we can't listen to our heart if we think that our heart is evil.
That's what's so empowering about this topic today, about finding out that we are not evil. God never made us evil. He's letting us live our best lives, be our best selves, and see ourselves as good and one with him.
Hopefully, something here resonated with you. Does something resonate with you? Do you feel truth?
I spent so much of my life feeling like my feelings could be tricked. I felt so out of touch with my heart for years. If you feel like your heart can be tricked into anything, I want to ask you two things.
Number one. Do you believe that God is leading you? Do you think He would ever lead you into a place to be tricked? Because I believe that God is always speaking through little signs and speaks through our hearts and feelings. Do we believe that he's leading us into a place of deception?
Number two, Do you know yourself? Do you know who you really are? I used to think, well, if I just followed my feelings, I'd be sitting on the couch and being lazy and yelling at everybody and being a jerk and just eating unhealthy foods. Cause that's really what I want. No. When you really know who you are, I know I want to be healthy, be kind, and be good. That is my true heart, and I can listen to my true heart.
Don't be deceived into thinking that a temporary emotion or hormone going through your body is who you truly are. You can trust your true heart because God made you awesome in his image.
You can trust your heart, trust God, and trust the unity of those two things. That's powerful.
One side note, I forgot to say in Big Idea 2 the idea of total depravity. Jeremiah 17:9 is not the only verse that people will use to support the concept of total depravity. But I have looked into all the verses that support total depravity, and I have effective responses for each one.
I'm working on a book, compiling the four articles that I wrote about the deceitful heart. They might be on https://Elishasriddle.com. If you're interested, sign up, it's an excellent publication. And then you can get my four-part articles.
Well, thank you very much for reading this, everyone. I hope this helps give you a little more freedom from some deception that has been confusing, locking you down, and making you feel negative about yourself. And we'll see you guys in the next podcast tomorrow for Musical Monday.
Today is Sorted Saturday, and we're going to talk about stopping our kids from whining.
We had a bit of an issue with whining this morning and had a fascinating revelation about how we can help avoid too much whining from our kids in the future.
Our kids are mirrors, reflecting our attitudes. We were trying to have some fun Saturday morning family time, and it just was not flowing, not working out. Kids are super receptive to the attitudes of the people around them.
So as soon as I left, I felt better, and I started getting myself into a better attitude, a better frequency. And also, the whole rest of the house started getting better pretty much as soon as I left.
Kay, you recently just discovered this morning that everything wants to be in a state of equilibrium, which is a state of peace.
It goes with the idea of dropping importance and balancing forces. Everything in nature wants to be in a state of equilibrium. If you have water in two different glasses and they're connected, the water will flow from one to the other till they're even, and they're both the same height. That's how it is with a lot of things. Everything wants to be in balance, the natural state of things. Equilibrium is a state of peace for that liquid. When it's still, it comes to a place of rest.
We gravitate toward what we've already been doing, even when thinking about it metaphorically. Whatever we have the most momentum for our habits are the things that are the easiest to do.
Kind of like water flows downhill; whatever is downhill is easiest. So metaphorically, everything does want to be in a state of equilibrium, which is a state of peace. So our default state is peace. This means that if we are not in a state of relaxation, we need to remove the interferences.
It's not that we are grumpy by default until something makes us happy. We are happy by default until something makes us irritable.
The item, person, or activity that brings negativity into the scenario should be removed or removed from the interference to allow that state of peace. We don't have to try to force peace. So if we remove the interference, then that's the best way to create harmony.
There's this idea in Transurfing that the world is a mirror, which means that the world will give back to us the attitude that we are putting onto it.
How we expect the world to behave is how it will then behave.
It really comes from not a place mentally but a place in your heart, a place of what you really believe will happen. And the attitude that you are projecting is what you will then see.
We've talked about the idea in the past about the rich getting richer and the poor getting poorer.
Kids are, especially that way. We know that kids are susceptible to attitudes, and our kids are sensitive to our moods.
If we are just a little bit playful, our kids are incredibly playful. If We are a little bit cranky, then our kids are incredibly cranky.
We thought that the kids were the problem, and we didn't realize we were the problem.
Now that's not always the case. Sometimes your kids are having their own issues, and it starts with them; often, it's because their fundies are out of place. For kids, it's pretty simple. Keep their fundies pretty strong, eat, move, and sleep. Which all of us need.
Try to stay on top of that before they get hangry, before getting too hungry and having a bad attitude from low blood sugar before they are overtired, try to keep them on a good schedule, stuff like that. But if it's not coming from the kids or if you're not optimistic that it's coming from the kids, examine yourself. Is it coming from you? Is it coming from other adults or other scenarios?
And let's quickly go over those three points again. So the first one is that everything wants to be in a state of equilibrium, which is a state of peace.
The second point is the person with the negative frequency should leave, and then you should see everything go back to peace quickly.
That goes back to if you are projecting a negative attitude, you might just need to leave for a bit of while, improve your mindset and then come back and just be a little bit playful and they will enhance it, that playful attitude and be in a great mood; a great attitude.
Then the last one is that kids are mirrors, and kids will reflect and amplify the attitude you are projecting.
Just as a final thing before we finish up. Try to stay on top of eating, move and sleep for the whole family, yourself, and everybody else, because that is often the problem that is causing the bad attitudes in the first place.
Hello, everyone. Welcome to the J&Kay podcast. I'm Kay. And this is J.
Hi, And this is April 8th and that means that it is the beginning of our second week of recording daily.
That's right. We have started to do a theme for each day of the week. And today is Friday. So today is Fundies Friday where we focus on eat move, sleep, and other health issues.
As I mentioned yesterday on the podcast, we are now trying to follow a little bit more of a template with our videos, rather than just talking about anything and everything. It's still going to be quite freeform cause that's fun. But we also have made some outlines so you guys know what to expect, what we're really talking about. And, I think that should really help make things a little more cohesive.
Yeah. As we're following along our template, you'll be able to see it on your screen as well.
I learned this from Graham Cochrane, as I mentioned yesterday. What we want to do is figure out what pain does our audience want solved. So the pain that we can help you with right now is lack of energy, and energy spikes and crashes. And we can help you with that because Kay well, both of us, but Kay especially has really experienced that in her past and overcome it. So, we have some good stuff that we can share about that topic.
Yep. That's right. The biggest way I resolved my energy crashes has been through diet, specifically through the Keto Diet. So we're going to be talking a little bit about that today.
We even left the keywords in here for you so you can see what kind of things we're going to hit on during this video, during this podcast.
And just a little side note, we are using a program called Roam Research for this recording. And we'll probably have more videos on that in the future. Is that right?
Roam Research is one of my favorite things in the whole world. It's an amazing program. And we've used other programs like it. Kay still uses Dynalist because it's almost exactly the same. That's more for a Tech Tuesday.
Yeah, we'll get to that on Tuesday.
So we have both struggled with energy and all sorts of energy issues in the past. I was just talking with one of my guitar students today, about how in college I used to drink energy drinks all the time. Red bulls, and Monster energy drinks, five-hour energies. And that was an awful way to live. Now I stay away from that kind of stuff and we try to live with a clean-eating sort of diet. We've done Whole 30 before and also Paleo, which is very similar to Whole 30. And now we're kind of on a clean keto perspective, because we didn't understand the balance of macros. But I think that's the biggest difference.
Yeah. So, how did we first come across the Keto Diet?
Let's see. Was it Dr. Berg? Dr. Berg was pretty early on.
Oh, we first were exposed to it from Brian Johnson, who we've been talking about the last few videos, podcasts. But I think we didn't really get sold on the idea, he wasn't as clear about the Keto Diet as Dr. Berg. And we started getting exposed to his YouTube videos on the topic. And right after we had a miscarriage between our two kids, and right after the miscarriage we said, we're going to go all in with this keto diet thing and see how it affects our health. And it really did make a difference.
Right. Definitely.
One aspect of energy that we're talking about is brain fog. So it's not just your physical energy. It's also, sometimes you just feel like you're trying to think of something and you just can't come up with it and you just feel this hazy brain, like you just can't think.
Yeah. So that's an aspect of the energy issues that we're talking about today.
As we started looking into Dr. Berg, I realized that I had been eating high carb foods. I started eliminating some of the non-whole foods, like, and some of the grains, pastas, breads, rice, even things like that, when we went into the Paleo Diet. Which we'd been on, I think four or five years before we changed to a Keto Diet. But then I realized, even like eating a lot of the fruits and things that I've been eating, dates and different things like that, were still very high carb and that I wasn't getting the benefits of a low carb clean eating lifestyle at the time, and that's why the paleo diet wasn't quite enough for me. It helped, but it wasn't all the way there.
Once I realized that carbs were causing a lot of my energy issues, I was able to eliminate them and that helped me a lot.
So, what we ended up learning is that carbs are not essential in the body. You do not need carbs. There's something called gluconeogenesis, which means that your body makes the sugars that it needs, the glucose that it needs, out of the fat from your body, it turns fat into fuel. And Thomas DeLauer, somebody that we watch on YouTube all the time, he talks about this a lot. He talks about all of that science-y keto stuff. So there's tons of evidence out there that it's very healthy to eat a Keto Diet.
Now, one thing that we've learned later after we learned some Transurfing kind of things is about Pendulums. And Keto is definitely a Pendulum. And we're going to talk about that a little bit later, but Keto versus Low Calorie. So Low Carb versus Low Calorie. That's very Pendulum. And there can be great power in that if you really believe in one, but it's not like you need to hate the other, or anything like that, you don't need to be against other people. It's just that if you do grab on to one of these, it can be very powerful for you to achieve your weight loss goals or your health goals, but you don't need to be anti the other ones so much. You don't need to start having bad feelings towards the opposite perspective.
But Kay, let's talk a little bit more about your story with the Keto Diet. Yeah, when I first I met J, we were both pretty much eating just the standard American diet. And, I think I probably was pre-diabetic, I think for my body, eating the amount of carbs that I was eating was not good for me.
Often, I remember distinctly, being on the couch and feeling like I just can't get up. Like, I have to go get a glass of water and I think a lot of people feel that way and think it's normal. I thought it was normal. I'm not like that anymore. I haven't been like that for years.
And the fact that that's not my normalcy anymore really shows me that making the change to not eat so many carbs is right for my body. It really did make a difference, where I am enjoying my life much more now than I was before, feeling so tired. There were other things, other influences. All of our fundings were out of whack, eat, move, and sleep, were definitely all crazy.
But I think that eliminating the high carb, mostly carb meals that I would eat - a big, big plate of pasta, with maybe some cheese and like some tomatoes and not really nutrient dense foods and high carb foods, would make me feel really energy drained. And then there was also that, I think I must have a fast metabolism. I do tend to need to keep eating, like fasting doesn't really work very well for my body. And I don't really gain weight very much it doesn't stay on my body. So I guess that makes sense with having a fast metabolism. But I really, I couldn't go like a couple hours without feeling low blood sugar. And just like, if I don't eat something, I don't have any energy to move forward to do anything. I couldn't think. I would be really cranky. And I'm not like that anymore. It's like, maybe if I go five or six hours without eating that I feel that way. I really don't have highs and lows. My energy throughout the day is extremely consistent. I'm very shocked with the difference in my life.
So, yeah, as you can see in the outline, I would almost black out if I tried fasting. A lot of people who choose the Keto Diet also enjoy intermittent fasting because it does help clear that brain fog even more.
Intermittent fasting is having fasting windows, like only having like, eight hours of the day, or maybe even six, where you're eating. So maybe between like 12:00 and 8:00 or 11:00 and 7:00. Or something like that. Fasting doesn't work great for me, but I know it does work well for other people. But yeah, I'm feeling a lot better now on the diet that I have found. And that's another thing we're going to talk about at the end, you have to choose what's right for you. Now, if people hadn't been telling me about the Keto Diet, I would never have known. I might've just been trying to take different vitamins or supplements, or getting more sleep and not realized that my excessive amount of carbs was the issue. And by excessive amount, the Ketogenic Diet recommends somewhere between 25 to 50 grams of net carbs in a day in general. Being pregnant and breastfeeding recently, I can go up to like 70 or 90 carbs and still be feeling fine - net carbs, which is total carbs minus fiber or sugar alcohols or things that don't act like carbs in the body, don't spike your blood sugar.
One of the most important values to us nutritionally is to keep our blood sugar balanced by having low carb foods and meals.
So for big idea number two, the keto diet helps balance macros in a beneficial way.
One false belief that I fell into when I first started the Keto Diet was that calories didn't matter. I believed that I could lose weight without having to count calories. And that is more true than trying to be on a low calorie diet and not counting calories. But no, you can definitely afford a lot more calories on a low carb diet than a low calorie diet, but you cannot have unlimited calories and still lose weight.
In the past, even when I was on a low carb diet, when I used an app like Carb Manager or any of the other ones, and I just did what it said and I logged all my food, scanned all my food, stuff like that, I would lose weight and also feel great, have more energy and have all the benefits of being on the Keto Diet.
That really is all that it takes. You install one of those apps and you eat foods that are approved and suggested on there. And you scan everything in and it just works. But when I would try to just eat those foods without scanning it in, it wouldn't warn me when I'm over a certain macro.
You still need to keep your carbs, proteins, fats, and calories all at the right levels.
It's just that they're at different amounts between calories and carbs. So for awhile, I just tried to keep my calories down. And that works to an extent, but, I don't feel as good on a low calorie diet as I do on a low carb diet, because I feel much more satisfied on a low carb diet.
On a low-calorie diet, I feel like, I'm still a little bit hungry or stuff like that.
So once I realized, by just suddenly having the ears to hear, that Dr. Berg and Thomas DeLauer and many others all say you do need to count calories, it's just that you can afford a lot more calories, I started to realize, hey, let me give this another shot using Carb Manager, because it's just an awesome app. It's way better than the others, in my opinion.
And I will try to stick to what it says, and I will keep my calories under control.
And suddenly, I lost five pounds. I don't have a lot of weight to lose. It's just that I don't want to be on an upwards trend. I'd rather be on a downwards or a sideways trend.
So just following the simple rules of doing what Carb Manager says it makes it so much easier.
Also I started working out. And I just do some basic lifting and crunches, and that actually makes a big difference as well.
As of today, today's day 60 of my lifting goals being met every single day. So that's really nice. It's awesome. To be able to stick to a very simple plan, just like following Carb Manager and trying to do some basic little working out, and trying to get the streaks as long as you can.
All right. So big idea. Number three. Avoid pendulums in this area and every area. Yeah, a little ironic pun, eat the meat, spit out the bones. The idea of, if it's beneficial to you, then take it. And if it's not, just leave it. And since we're talking about food, ha. So, a pendulum in case you haven't heard our other video or podcast on pendulums.
A pendulum is something where there is one side or the other, us versus them. And there's a negative energy, usually, that's involved when we talk about it in that sense. A pendulum can also just be something that gives you momentum. But, in this sense, when it's an us versus them, the pendulum, or the concept of the pendulum, feeds off of having an opposite, having a polarity. It's the idea that, the Ketogenic Diet gains more of a following by bashing the Vegan Diet or something like that. And that's just not appropriate or something that we stand for in our life philosophy.
So we want to avoid the negativity of feeling like it's an us versus them thing. I personally enjoy having a Low Carb Diet that helps give me energy. And if that works for you, Then that's awesome. And if you try it and it doesn't work. For you then that's fine. I hope you find something that does work for you.
So we want to avoid, perpetuating the idea of a pendulum in this area where anybody, who's not on the Ketogenic Diet is doing something wrong. It doesn't mean you're doing. Doing something wrong, but perhaps thinking in new ways can help you to discover what works best for you. That leads us into Permission Slips.
Basically everything is a Permission Slip. We could always be awesome if we wanted to, but usually we need some kind of Permission Slip that allows us to get there.
Whatever you need to feel good, go for that. If, eating the Ketogenic Diet is a Permission Slip for you to allow yourself to feel like a healthy person, then do it. There are few people who can eat the Doritos and Twinkies diet and still feel like they're living with integrity and doing the right thing for their body and for themselves. They tend to not feel like they're really a healthy person.
So whatever permission slip you need to feel like you're rocking it and your body is feeling awesome and you're doing what you know, you should be doing. Then follow that. Do what feels right for you, try it out.
And also a little side note, be aware of. Of the Keto Flu. So, if you are going to transition from a high carb diet to a low carb diet. Your body may do a little bit of detoxing. Starting out as the. Hardest part of the diet, usually in the first couple of weeks. You might kind of have flu like symptoms where you actually get a little bit more groggy a little bit more brain fog. Even a little bit muscle achy. Stuff like that.
I would recommend watching people like Dr. Berg and Thomas DeLauer to find out specifically what the Keto Diet entails, if you're interested in following this. And also what the Keto Flu is and how to avoid it.
Because it's not something you have to go through. But some people try the Keto Diet and think, oh, this is not for me. Also some people eat way, high fat diets. And then are like, oh my stomach. High-fat can be really hard on your stomach. Also, when we did the paleo diet high vegetables, when you're not used to it can be really hard on your stomach, high fiber amounts.
So don't necessarily write out. And give up on a diet, just because it's hard in the beginning because there may be some kind of transition, just go into it with as much knowledge as you can find. For what to be aware of as you're starting and what's normal, what's not stuff like that and how you can avoid a rocky beginning.
So for me, I didn't have really any negative effects. A little bit of brain fog. And then it cleared up and I felt like better than before I even started. But I didn't really have a lot of difficulty, it really worked well for my body.
It may or may not long-term work for you. And also the transition may be difficult. So just something to be aware of.
Okay. So just as a quick summary, if you're having energy issues, Issues try balancing out your macros. Higher fat, medium protein, low carb. That's what Brian Johnson recommends as well. And that's what we found to work for us. The Keto Diet is a great way to do this. Figure out if that works for you, if you need to adapt the general Ketogenic Diet. Then that might be an option for you too. There's lots of information online, but. But mostly avoid pendulums, avoid any negativity or us versus them. And use positive permission slips in your life to feel good, to feel like you're rocking it.
Don't get into a very legalistic way of approaching a diet and, and berate yourself and criticize yourself every time you fail. It's more about giving yourself the Permission Slip to feel like a healthy person, to feel awesome, to feel like you're doing the right thing for your health and your energy.
All right. So blessings guys, and we'll see you in the next video tomorrow. Bye.