QUEERLY: Recent Episodes
Jenny + Mary
Hello, Dope Souls! We are Mary + Jenny and we came into our identities in our 30s. As QPOC, we’re here to share our experiences and add our voices to the narrative. Join us for laughs, tears, and joys of our journey as we navigate our worlds and newfound identities in our community.
Play, people, growth, gratitude…what brings YOU joy? Today, we really wanted to celebrate black joy and asian joy, so this episode is all about what makes us happy, fulfilled, excited, and just downright joyful. When was the last time you had a belly laugh? Felt awe in exploring something new? Or had deep gratitude for beauty in the simple things? Take time to acknowledge what brings a smile to your face and also…it’s ok to take a moment to play!
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack!
For this episode, we dive into what happening around us in the LGBTQ communities, nationally and globally. A lot of this is being driven by politics. We talk about some of the bans being passed in various states in the US as well as in some countries in Africa including Uganda’s AHB23. We also celebrate some wins! Follow along as we share.
P.S. Apologies for the audio recording reverb, we’re still learning here 😂. Thanks for y’all’s patience!
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
On March 31st every year, we honor Transgender Day of Visibility (TDOV) to raise awareness about transgender and non-binary people. We shine light on some trans historical figures, the significance + history of TDOV, and give shout outs to a few folx we follow and are learning from. Let’s continue to protect our trans youth and celebrate trans joy!
P.S. Apologies for the audio recording reverb, we’re still learning here haha. Thanks for y’all’s patience!
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
We are so grateful for content creators, especially during the pandemic when we were coming into our identities. Since the world was sheltering in place, it was difficult to meet and connect with queer folx to fully explore our newly-discovered selves. We didn’t even have each other to lean on because we didn’t know this part about each other. We both turned to the internet for our exploration and came across these incredible content creators who truly helped and guided us on our individual journeys. This episode is to show love to some of our faves!
Podcasts: We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle, Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life, Bad Queers
TikTok: @iamkimdaily
YouTube: Jade Fox, Ezee x Natalie
Instagram: @edenxjay, @jamieissuh, @queerasiansocialclub, @asianmentalhealthproject
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
Much as a stereotype may have truth to it, it’s not the whole story. We dive into an article written by Camryn Mahnken, titled “A History of Queer Fashion: How the LGBTQ+ Community Uses Fashion as a Signal '' and talk about our own individual styles as we were stepping into our identities. Whether you agree with stereotypes or not, a takeaway we agreed with from the article is that, “fashion is a way of communicating, without even speaking.”
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
We never intended to record this episode, but Mary was super fired up after listening in on a twitter space that was discussing homosexuality in Uganda. In the past couple of months, there has been a lot of misinformation and disinformation by the religious leaders and political leaders about the queer community fueled heavily by the media. In this episode, we reflect on what transpired in that twitter space and what that means for us and for the LGBTQIA+ community. As you listen to this episode, send comfort and love to all sexual minorities in East Africa as they are under attack and their lives are endangered. We love all our queer dope souls!
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
As we were researching the difference between sexual and romantic attraction, we stumbled upon “squish” and “zucchini” as terms of endearment for queerplatonic relationships. Our favorite quote that we resonated with from our very limited research was “language will never suffice to describe the human experience because it's much too vast, but the more words we have to choose from, the more likely we are to find something that fits." Listen in to our real-time learning of the asexual and aromantic spectrum.
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
The journey that it took us to get this episode recorded was emotionally challenging, but this topic truly means a lot to us. Our conversation navigates the relationship we each have with grief, touches on the difference between grief and grieving, and weaves through the 8 different types of grief. Please be gentle with us as we process through this deep vulnerability.
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
Hello Dope Souls, weeeee’re baaaaack! Whether it’s seasons of the year or seasons in your life, change is a constant. In our first episode of 2023, we talk about different types of seasons (birthday, weather, astrological, life) and new years (Lunar New Year). And we spend time reflecting on highlights and learnings from the past season and our intention for this next season.
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
A few days to the end of 2022 and here we are–reflecting on what a season it has been. In this episode, we share our joys: Britney Griner’s release, the Respect for Marriage Act, and Mauna Loa’s powerful eruption. Amidst the full moon in Gemini, we also dive a little bit into mundane astrology and how we are moving into a new era as a collective. As we wind down the year, we are grateful for you all and send you so much love wherever you may be. We’ll be taking a creative rest after this episode…and will be back in February 2023. Love y’all!
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
When we decided to learn more about rest, we didn’t realize there was a whole range of different kinds of rest. In this episode, we talk about the different kinds and how these can be built into our every day to day life. Mary also pays homage to Tricia Hersey who has written a book - Rest is Resistance: A Manifesto.
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
In this episode, we explore the current atmosphere in the world regarding LGBTQ affairs. We add a spin of our feelings and opinions to some of the news pieces we explore like Britney Griner’s 9 year sentence. It’s not all doom and gloom, we also highlight some groundbreaking good news.
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
We get on a deeper level as we learn more about our family upbringings. For us, revisiting our childhood and the memories that may have caused trauma is a path to having more fulfilling relationships and experiences through healing. Love on yourself hard, give grace to your family, and have healthy boundaries to heal your inner child.
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
Wow, we made it to 10 episodes! For this episode, we check in with each other about how it’s going, the feedback we’ve received, and what we’ve learned so far on our podcast journey. Thank you all for continuing on this journey with us and for those who have listened, given us feedback, and supported us–we have so much fun doing this! Love y’all!
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
A continuation from the previous episode, we talk movies and docu-series–not just any movies, but those with queer representation, what we like about them, and the themes that speak to us through the characters. Listen in and share some of your top queer movies with us.
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
For this episode, we explore some of the TV shows and movies that were instrumental in our journey to self discovery. We also touch on the joy of seeing queer representation in the media. Join us as we reminisce through the TV world.
PS: We have questions about The L Word.
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
In this episode, we explore the origin of the word “queer” and how it came to be what it represents today. We dive a little bit into the history of the word and how it has evolved in today’s usage. Join us as we learn about Queer Nation who spearheaded the movement and beyond!
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
Coming into one’s identity can be a process for some and for others it is instantaneous. As ‘baby gays’ or in this case ‘baby queers’ we had so many questions and it wasn’t always easy to ask them or even to find the answers. How do you let them know you are interested? Am I gay for real? Do I really need to come out? Join us as we reflect on that part of our journey. (PS. we get really candid in this conversation.)
QUEER•LY co-hosts: Mary Sebunya @marysebz Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you: Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
With Part 2, Mary gets real about how it was difficult to reconcile her christian faith with her sexual orientation. The frustration that comes with internalized homophobia and how therapy was key in processing her intersectionality.
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
We bring intersectionality to the table as QPOC in this episode. We explore how intersectionality as a term evolved and where we see ourselves in the world. Jenny shares about navigating the world as a child of immigrants and gets real about the anti-Blackness in the Asian community.
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
In this episode we get real about how we navigate the world. Which labels are ours and which ones are not? We talk through the various identities we have to navigate especially as Queer Women of Color. Also – what the heck is the alphabet mafia? Listen in and let us know what you think of identity... and labels. We still love you!
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
Besides being queer, we are intrigued by human behavior and usually dive into various techniques to understand others better. In this episode, we share our love for astrology as a tool that enables us to understand each other better. We also throw big words around like the sun, moon and rising. Laugh and learn with us as we build our Qmunity.
PS: Mary talks about the difference between the highest paid NBA player and the highest paid WNBA player as a million dollars but it’s actually millions of dollars! That's some real gender pay gap -- for sure!
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
In previous episodes, we talk a lot about our healing journey and we can’t process the healing journey without discussing mental health and self-care. Listen as we navigate through our process and understanding of when we needed help when we felt at our lowest. There is a stigma around therapy in both of our cultures, but we want to normalize conversations around the importance of therapy. Taking care of our mental health creates space for more love; and when you feel abundant with love, anything is possible.
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Shoutout to Tiff Perez (@tiffytomtom) for the soundtrack and audio edits!
In part 2 of last week’s episode, we continue to talk about being late to coming out and how it seems like a catch-up game. We get deep with our Queerly noted takeaways this time around. Join our Qmunity and let’s love hard on each other!
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
Shoutout to @JadeFox’s YouTube channel and @iamkimdaily’s TikTok. These queer content creators and others were so helpful and integral for the both of us during the pandemmy and even to this day. We love y’all!
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Join us on part 1 of episode 2 as we talk about how we met and what happened ‘after we came out’. As we reflect on our journeys and how we really knew – we also share a little bit about how we gave birth to QUEER•LY. Seriously though…is there even a time when you really know?
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
Check out Mary’s t-shirt brand: www.wuvgear.com
Who are we?!
In this first episode, get introduced to us with our joys this week, learn a bit about our coming out/in stories, and hear our Queerly Noted takeaways. We haven’t even scratched the surface yet–join us on our journey and let’s explore more together!
QUEER•LY co-hosts:
Mary Sebunya @marysebz
Jenny Pham @jennwhyfer
We’d love to hear from you:
Email us at hi.queerly@gmail.com
Follow us on Instagram @QueerlyQmunity
We are Mary + Jenny and we came into our identities in our 30s. Join us for laughs, tears, and joys of our journey as we navigate our worlds and newfound identities in our community.
Even if it has really been great to see LGBTQIA+ representation grow in the media and all around us, there's always room for MORE! As queer people of color, we are here to share our experiences and add our voices to the narrative.
Jenny is Vietnamese-American and Mary is all the way from Uganda. We are worlds apart, but the universe has brought us together through our shared love for Community.
We are queer and we are here to take up space. Love y'all!