Want To Want It with Jamelyn Stephan: Recent Episodes
Jamelyn Stephan
A podcast for women of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints who are ready to ignite not only their sexual desire, but all of their desires to create a more fulfilling life and marriage.
The title says it all.
I've been called away from coaching and podcasting, at least for a time.
Please allow me to thank you and to say good-bye.
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On this episode I have my most special guest ever - my husband, Jarad Stephan. He is really good at going after what he wants. Our conversation explores topics like setting goals, the challenges of navigating life's unexpected paths, and the importance of aligning one's desires with God's will. Jarad also shares insights on manifesting dreams, the role of sacrifice, and the process of trusting God's plan. We also discuss societal expectations and the different messages men and women receive about their desires.
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Our brains are really good at being judgy and so many people who state a desire find that their brain has a lot of judgments about what they want.
"You're so selfish."
"You can't do that."
"Your priorities aren't right."
"You're so greedy."
Listen to this episode to find out why our brains do this and how to override our judgemental self.
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I hear this all the time. So, I am diving deep into:
- why we care what other people think.
- why it's normal to care.
- and how to get out of the clutches of it.
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In this episode I interview my long-time friend and poet, Siobhan Westrop. Together we discuss Siobhan's creative journey, her passion for writing, and the inspiration behind her poetry. Siobhan also shares insights into the process of publishing her chapbooks and treats listeners with readings from them. Siobhan's stories and insights will inspire you to tap into your own creative potential and pursue your own passions.
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So many of us take our most precious feelings about ourselves and place them in the hands of the least capable person we know. The person who struggles managing their own feelings. The person who doesn't have our best interests at heart. But then we get angry with them when they hurt us. On this episode I will help you take back your sense of self and teach you what to do next.
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"Women need women." I will never forget when my dear friend Jennifer Smith first shared this idea with me and I have seen evidence of it ever since. On this episode Jennifer shares more about:
- why women need women.
- ways to gather women together.
- how to drop the judgements that keep women apart.
- and the power that comes when women are connected and supported by one another.
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Do you want a great tool to help you develop new habits? A tool that helps you focus on consistency more than perfection? Try making a ceiling and a floor for each habit.
The 'ceiling' represents the ideal scenario, while the 'floor' is the bare minimum required to maintain the habit. Some days you will hit the ceiling. Other days you will congratulate yourself for hitting the floor. Listen in the learn more.
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Advocating for oneself is a skill very few of us have been taught but Samantha Nielsen discusses the importance of advocating for oneself with grace and compassion. She shares personal experiences and strategies for effectively asserting one's needs and desires in relationships to foster understanding and collaboration. She also emphasizes the significance of self-respect, vulnerability, and clear communication as you advocates for yourself. She even gives some go-to techniques to help as you learn the skill of self-advocacy.
Website: (go here to find her Advocate Like An Expert course)
Modern Day Divorce
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A few years back I started on an unintentional faith journey. Well, actually, it was a journey to understand better what faith really is. Along the way I collected many quotes about faith. I want to share a few with you.
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Denita is back and this time she is sharing why and how we should connect with ourselves, emphasizing the importance of consciously connecting with oneself and exploring the reasons behind not feeling good. She also includes honouring our desires as essential in self-connection. She explains how to process emotions through using sensations as well as other practical methods such as visual meditations and journaling as ways to connect with oneself.
Before becoming a fulfilled Life & Trauma Coach, Denita Bremer led a miserable life with a hot husband and three very healthy kids as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the suburbs of Denver, Colorado. She has learned a holistic approach to healing and success, which she shares on her podcast, If I’m So Blessed, Why Can’t I Feel Good? She meditates and does yoga next to her bed because her office is too messy.
Denita's Website:
https://denitabremer.com
Denita's Podcast - If I'm So Blessed Why Can't I Feel Good?https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/if-im-so-blessed-why-cant-i-feel-good/id1733936159
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This episode explores the concept of 'hiding behind gratitude' and its implications on personal growth and relationships. I delve into the danger of using gratitude as a means to avoid addressing real issues, utilizing a metaphor of a hole in the roof to illustrate how neglecting problems, while being superficially grateful, can be detrimental. I share examples from marital conflicts to demonstrate how deflecting issues with gratitude can invalidate feelings and hinder resolution. I also emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and working through problems, even while maintaining gratitude, to foster healthier relationships and personal well-being.
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On this episode Candice Toone, Master Certified Life Coach, and I explore the idea that anger is a natural emotion rooted in unmet needs or boundary violations Candice emphasizes the importance of acknowledging anger and using it as a cue to advocate for one's values. We also discuss the spectrum of consent and the role of choice in addressing anger and desire within relationships.
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https://candicetoone.com/
Candice's Podcast - The Enjoy Your Marriage Podcast
https://candicetoone.com/podcast/
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On this episode I discuss the importance of paying attention in relationships and life. I highlight how distractions, especially smartphones, can hinder meaningful connections and I emphasize the impact of attentive listening on mental health. Each of us has the need for genuine human connections in a world dominated by virtual interactions. That is why I encourage people to practice attentiveness to build stronger relationships and foster more connection with others.
Still Face Experiment
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On this episode I discuss indulgent emotions like confusion, doubt, worry, overwhelm, anger, and victimization emphasizing how these emotions can keep individuals stuck and hinder personal progress. I share personal experiences and insights on how to identify, understand, and overcome indulgent emotions by changing thought patterns.
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Rhonda Farr is a certified life coach who works specifically with high achieving men who want more intimacy in their marriages.
Listen in as we explore:
- the challenges faced by both higher and lower desire partners.
- the need to express personal desires.
- and the importance of owning and sharing individual needs and emotions within a relationship.
If you want a little insight into the mind of your spouse, you'll definitely want to listen in.Rhonda's Website:
https://rhondafarr.com/
Rhonda's Podcast - The Intimacy Podcast For the Million Dollar Manhttps://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/rhonda-farr
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On this episode I share the story of Eve (from Adam and Eve), emphasizing Eve's courageous choice to follow her calling by leaving the Garden of Eden and the subsequent challenges she faced in the lone and dreary world. Drawing parallels to modern-day experiences and difficulties people face while pursuing their missions, I encourage listeners to embrace difficulties, trust the journey, and acknowledge that even in challenging times, there is room for growth and positive impact.
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John Ripley joins me to discuss his mission to help men of faith live up to their full potential. Our discussion focuses mostly on healthy masculinity, the obstacles men face in developing it, and how woman can help their husband's and son's embrace it.
Podcast Abraham's Sons 52
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We all claim we want to know what our spouse desires until we find out what it is. Then we wish we didn't know because it feels like an expectation we have to take care of. On this episode I emphasize the importance of acknowledging personal choice and responding to desires from a place of love rather than pressure so you can know your spouse's desires without feeling controlled by them.
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I am joined by Lisa Helton, host of The Trusted Friend Podcast. Together we discuss the power of sharing women's stories to inspire, connect, and uplift each other. Lisa highlights the important impact of listening and learning from diverse narratives and she also emphasizes the importance of being a safe space for others to share their experiences.
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Trust me when I tell you there is a difference between taking care of someone and caring for someone, especially in a marriage. "Taking care of" implies managing someone. "Caring for" implies loving and cherishing someone. If you want a more intimate, healthy, strong marriage, it's good to get clear on which you do more of; "taking care of" or "caring for".
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It's not bad to enjoy the validation other people give us but at some point we have to learn to start validating ourselves. This can be hard, uncomfortable work. So, instead of doing the work of learning to self-validate, more often than not, we double down on seeking outside validation instead. That's when we get greedy. On this episode I talk about validation greed, how most of us get caught in it, and why we may want to cut it out.
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Our personal experiences and pain can be valuable for others. When we share these experiences we can help others avoid making the same mistakes we made or fast-track their own growth in all areas of life. For us, learning from others and their experiences helps us avoid unnecessary suffering and achieve personal growth.
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It's not strange to worry sometimes, but can it be taken to an extreme? I think so. On this episode I talk about:
- why we worry.
- how other's offer us worry and add to our existing worry.
- why worrying isn't loving.
- how worry can become habitual.
- and how to decrease how much you worry.
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Collaboration is when you work together, sometimes in separate roles, to create a common goal or outcome. This is what most of us want to do in our marriages but too often competitiveness and costly accommodations work against us. Whereas, when we can collaborate and work together we can build a life that benefits both of us.
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To cherish someone is to hold them dear. It's to protect and care for someone lovingly. It's to show affection for someone. It's to nurture, value, treasure, and adore someone.
In this episode we discuss:
- the meaning of cherishing.
- the importance of cherishing.
- different values that are apart of cherishing.
- and ways to cherish your spouse.
CHERISHING IS DEEPEST KIND OF LOVE, MUST BE CULTIVATED AND RENEWED DAILY
https://www.deseret.com/1992/10/18/19011172/cherishing-is-deepest-kind-of-love-must-be-cultivated-and-renewed-daily#:~:text=Cherishing is first of all,person can have for another.
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Do you ever feel like you just care too much about what other people think of you? I get it. We all desire to be liked and accepted by others. But what would it be like if you decided that it's okay for people to be wrong about you? I promise, you want to learn how to do this. It's life changing.
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I really believe it is important to be kind, but this can be hard in difficult situations or when others may be unkind to me. On this episode I share some personal experiences and observations to emphasize the need for conscious effort in choosing kindness, even when faced with adversity. I also suggest various strategies for cultivating kindness in our interactions with others.
Feeling Kind episode:
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As I sat down to set some goals this year a strange thing happened. I had no idea what goals I wanted to set. My desire to set a goal was gone and I felt totally thrown off. I took my struggle to my life coach who helped me realize I was trying to set goals to prove I was worthy of self-love. I knew I no longer wanted to set goals to prove my worth so I decided to focus on choosing something to create this year. In so doing I knew my "goals" would naturally come.
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In this episode I explore the concept of exposure and its benefits in personal growth and development. I share personal anecdotes and examples of how exposure to new experiences can make us more capable, flexible, and confident in facing life's uncertainties.
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Is there something you don't currently desire but want to desire? Maybe it's regular exercise, or a mediation practice, or more sex. In this episode I dive into things we want to desire but currently don't desire and I provide tips on how to cultivate that desire.
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It's the beginning of 2024 and so I have to ask: What do you want to create this year? Whether you know it or not, you are always creating something, good or bad, positive or negative. And your greatest creative powers come from your brain. That's why this episode is about focusing deliberately on what you want in order to create more of it in your life. Because, as Jen Sincero says, "What you focus on you create more of."
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Lexie Hill is an expert in helping people deal with overthinking. Lexie shares her personal journey to coaching, the effects of overthinking on individuals, and gives multiple strategies to cope with overthinking such as setting aside worry time, journaling, maintaining self-compassion, focusing on controllable elements, and practicing the 5 4 3 2 1 grounding technique. Lexie also covers the importance of self-care and the role of coaching in helping individuals to navigate challenges related to overthinking.
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"Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” I heard this on a podcast and it hit me with such force. I knew I wasn't great at that kind of generosity, but I wanted to be. This started me on a whole exploration about generosity and how overcoming scarcity mindset and developing an abundance mentality is key to increasing generosity.
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With Christmas just around the corner, anticipation is high. On this episode I discusses the importance and power of anticipation in various aspects of life, including personal growth, milestones, and even sexual desire. I explore both positive anticipation and anticipatory anxiety, and suggest ways to deliberately increase anticipation in one's life to boost joy and motivation, and decrease stress.
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An ADHD diagnosis as an adult is life changing - and possibly a little relieving. Now things make way more sense and you can start to learn tools that can help you in so many areas of your life. Including your intimate relationship. Today I talk with Kamden Hainsworth, an ADHD Life Coach who helps people live fully and confidently with ADHD. We talk about some of the challenges of ADHD, especially on intimacy. She also shares some practical tips to help you increase the intimacy in your marriage, despite your ADHD.
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My oldest brother Jason is the philosopher of our family. He's thought a lot about why we all need to stop saying sorry and what we need to start saying instead.
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Many people have a bucket list, a list of experiences they want to have before they die. For some, the idea of a bucket list seems daunting or unappealing. On this episode I try to give a new perspective on bucket lists as well as introduce you to the idea of a 100 List that I think many of you will find more appealing.
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We all have feelings about our past. Happiness, regret, hurt, fondness, and even gratitude. At least for the good parts. But what about the hard parts? Do we have gratitude for those parts of our past? On this episode I discuss not only how to be grateful for ALL your past, but why it will benefit you to feel it.
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Have you ever considered being grateful for something that hasn't happened yet or for something you haven't received yet? This is a really powerful practice. It's a faith practice. Listen in to find out exactly how to do this and why you might want to give it a try.
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When we avoid making any decision at all, our brain keeps nagging at us to make a decision. That takes energy from us but we have nothing to show for it. We are then in energy debt, or decision debt.
When we have to make a lot of decisions we can become tired of making decisions. This is called decision fatigue. Decision fatigue can make us resist making more decisions which puts us back into decisions debt. Trust me, this all makes sense. Listen to find out what I mean.
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We recently de-junked and sold some paintball guns and totally delighted the man who bought them from us. So, this episode is all about the goodness we can put into the world when we give away things we don't need anymore. Listen in if you want some great de-junking inspiration.
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We often say the words "my path" or "their path" as we describe our journey though life. Today I want to give you a little different way to think about these paths we are all on in hopes it can bring you some peace and some determination to keep going.
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In the book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey teaches Habit #5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood. On this episode of Want to Want It I focus my attention on the first half of that habit. Seek first to understand.
I've been listening to a lot of couples coaching as part of my continuing education and one of the key pieces of marital advice that comes up over and over again is to seek first to understand.
Seeking first to understand is not the same as other listening skills taught in therapy so listen in today to find out what I mean and to learn how to do it well.
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Ceri Payne, certified executive life and business coach, teaches us her tips and tricks for scheduling and time management. It starts by figuring out our true priorities and using that information to create a schedule that motivates and inspires us.
Ceri's Free Gift - 24 Simple Ways to Save 24 Hours Each Month
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I want to share some of the wisdom from that book."The Gap and The Gain" by Dan Sullivan and Benjamin Hardy. Listen in if you want to change the way you look at progress and achieving goals.
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Have you ever sat at a stop light and the car next to you starts to inch forward but you don't see it that way? You actually feel like you are rolling backwards. It's because sometimes our brain lies to us. Not to be malicious but to keep us safe. The problem is that we believe the lies and they tend to not serve us very well. Listen as I talk about ways your brain may be lying to you and what to do about it.
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I recently went to a restaurant where they served me a burnt grilled cheese sandwich. I'm not sure why they thought I would want to pay for and eat burnt toast, but it ended up in front of me on the table. Needless to say, I sent it back and they made me a new one. But it made me think, how often do we try to serve the people around burnt toast? How often are we dishing out our worst behaviour and hoping everyone around us will swallow it?
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Ben Pugh loves working with parents of teens! As a teen he struggled with confidence, anxiety and overwhelm, and making good decisions. When he was 13 he accidentally lit a bus on fire with rubber cement. This and other experiences have driven him to help parents of teens become the parents they've always wanted to be. On this episode of the podcast he shares some of his best strategies to help you achieve that goal as well.
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Ben's Podcast: Impact - Parenting With Perspective
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From the time we are babies we are always seeking for outside validation. The hope though, is that as we grow up and mature, we will seek less outside validation and more self-validation. But nobody teaches us exactly how to do that and so we often find ourselves still wanting validation from others as we ageBut people around us aren't great at validating us all the time and so we can start to put pressure on them to give us the validation we want. And that's where things start to go badly. Listen in to find out more.
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Loss and the ensuing grief are inevitable parts of our mortal experience. It can be the loss of a loved one or the loss of a dream, they all bring us grief. I invited Certified Life Coach Tricia Zody to talk about this sensitive topic. In 2017 Tricia's husband of 30 years tragically died, leaving her in despair. But God reached in and told her she could have another amazing life. Now she runs Another Amazing Life Coaching and uses her story to help others. Listen to learn about loss, grieving, healing, and still living an amazing life along the way.
Tricia Zody's Website:
https://www.triciazody.com
Tricia's Podcast - Another Amazing Life:
https://www.triciazody.com/podcast
Tricia's Social Media:
https://www.instagram.com/triciazody/
https://www.facebook.com/tricia.zody/
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Self-confrontation is when you look within yourself and examine your own attitudes and behaviours to see where you have shortcomings so that you can make needed changes. It’s about taking an honest look at yourself and finding your own flaws so you can correct them.
This isn't easy work to do.
But it's powerful work that will change your relationship with yourself and your relationship with others.
Listen to find out how to do it.
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Listen in on this conversation with Daelene Byam, a certified life coach who works with teenagers and young adults who struggle with anxiety. On this episode we will discuss:
- how to know if your child is experiencing normal, human anxiety or if it something that they need help with.
- how to normalize anxiety.
- 4 things parents can do to help their kids with anxiety.
Daelene's Website:
https://www.daelenebyam.com/
Daelene's Facebook Page:
https://www.facebook.com/daelenetheanxietycoach
Daelene's Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/anxietycoachdaelene/
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When we are always complying to the requests and demands of others we can suddenly find ourselves leaving compliance and swinging way over to defiance. Listen to find out the difference between compliance that brings goodness versus compliance that is detrimental to us. Also, find out why detrimental compliance will always push us to defiance. Lastly, learn how to stop the compliance/defiance cycle in your life.
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Just like our world is made up of ecosystems, so are our relationships. Whether at home, at school, or at work, humans are really good at creating patterns of living together that are comfortable. But just like nature's ecosystems, there are things that disrupt our relationship's ecosystems. A new baby, a divorce, a new teacher, a new boss, a rebellious teenager. Listen today to learn how, even though it can be uncomfortable, having your ecosystem disrupted can be so beneficial.
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I believe what you think really matters because what you think in your mind creates the life you end up with. I believe this so deeply and that's why I help people learn how to believe new things. I want to help them create their lives more intentionally. On this episode I teach you how to learn to believe something new. (And I promise it's not about using mantras.)
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Some of us claim to love our spouse but often what we really love is them loving us; we love them doing the things we want them to do for us so we can think good things about ourselves. If you're not sure exactly what I mean by this or if you aren't sure if you do this, this episode is for you.
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We all have felt regret before - that feeling of sadness or disappointment over something that has happened or that we've done. It's not a positive emotion but it can be used to teach us lessons - often the lesson of how we will do it differently next time. But what happens when instead of taking the lesson and moving on, we hold onto the regret? Then it becomes a tormentor as we are filled with shame and judgment about ourselves.
On this episode of the podcast I talk about:
- why we hold onto regret.
- how to make regret a teacher instead of a tormentor.
- why regret is a choice (and one you don't have to choose).
- how regret gets in the way of desire.
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It is easy to let our negative emotions drive the car of our lives. But they often take us places we really don't want to be. And they are really terrible drivers. So, how can we let the negative emotions be in the car without being in the driver's seat? Listen in to find out.
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Every time a person's name crosses your lips you are selling them to the people around you. On this episode I discuss why this is, why it's important to understand, and how to sell people well instead of selling them short.
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I don't claim to be a parenting expert but having 7 children (who currently range from 11 to 24 years of age) has taught me a thing or two. On this episode I share 8 things I've learned that have helped me as I parent my children - and as I allow my husband to parent them as well.
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We have all been taught how to act with kindness, even towards those we would say are "hard to be kind to". But what if no one is actually hard to be kind to? I learned a life-changing lesson about the importance of feeling kind, not just being kind, that I want to share with you.
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On the previous episode I talked about unnecessary suffering and how we choose it. On this episode I want to clarify that not all the suffering we choose is unnecessary. Some of the suffering we choose is actually meaningful because it gets us closer to what we really want in our life. When we want something, when really desire it, we have to willing to suffer sometimes to get it and when we understand that our suffering has meaning, it can make all the difference.
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Life has inevitable pain - sometimes physical, sometimes emotional. What isn't inevitable is the unnecessary suffering we add onto our normal human pain.
Here is how we do this:
- we resist what is.- we believe that there is better than here.
- we think we are supposed to suffer.
- we focus on worst case scenario.
- we think that things are going to be hard.
On this episode I dive into each of the ways we add unnecessary suffering into our lives and give you some tools to help you stop.
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Some of us think respect is something we can just expect, or even demand from others. In other words, we feel really entitled to be respected. But guess what? We can't make anyone respect us. And often, when we try to make someone respect us, we end up disrespecting them. This episode talks about feeling entitled to being respected, what respect really is, and how to foster more respect for yourself and others.
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Confusion is an emotion that many of us indulge in so we don't have to take action. We don't do it on purpose but our subconscious does it because it feels safe. You see, when you are confused you don't have to do anything uncomfortable and you don't have to make a decision you might regret. The problem is, when you stay confused you also never get to create the opportunities and the life that you really want.
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Just like a camera can zoom in and zoom out, so can the focus of our lives.
Sometimes the circumstances of our lives require us to zoom in so we can take care of something that requires immediate, intense attention.
At other times we have more freedom to zoom out. Freedom to look at the big picture of our lives and create a vision for our future.
On this episode I discuss when to zoom in and why we sometimes avoid it. I also talk about when to zoom out and why sometimes we don't zoom out far enough.
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There are three types of business.
God's business.
Their business.
And your business.
Too often we want to spend our time focused on God's business and other people's business. But, if you want a life that feels free and more in your control you need to spend your time worrying about your own business, not God's and not their's.
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Newton's Third Law states that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. In other words, there is opposition in all things. Even within ourselves. For example, perhaps you choose not to exercise today. Your brain starts to tell you how lazy you are and how inconsistent you are. The next day you exercise. This time your brain tells you that exercise hurts too much and is too hard. No matter what you do, your brain is going to offer you opposition to it.
Listen for more examples of ways this opposition may show up in your life. On this episode I teach you to expect it and I teach you how to handle it.
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Did you know the average person complains 15 to 30 times a day? Did you also know that complaining actually makes you feel terrible? Of course you did. So why do you keep doing it? Listen to find out why we are addicted to complaining and how to stop.
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I know you've heard a lot about gratitude but on this episode I am sharing with you Kevin Clayson's FLIP formula for gratitude. Once you learn this it is going to blow your mind and change your ability to feel gratitude forever.
Kevin Clayson's Website:
https://kevinclayson.com/home
Flip The Gratitude Switch:
https://flipthegratitudeswitch.com/book
President Nelson "The Healing Power of Gratitude"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i51gcWCs-Ho
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Some emotions are negative and they feel bad in our bodies, like anxiety.
Some emotions feel good but are negative because they lead us to do things that bring bad into our lives, like pride.
Some emotions are positive and they feel good in our bodies, like glee.
Some emotions feel bad but are positive because they lead us to do things that bring goodness into our lives, like courage, patience, and discomfort. Listen in to find out what I mean.
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Human’s want to feel good all the time. We like dopamine. So, when we are faced with a negative emotion our instinct is to get away from it and one way we do this is by buffering.
Buffering is when we use something outside of us to decrease the negative emotion we are feeling inside. But this isn't really a good idea because when we buffer we use a false pleasure to distract us from our negative emotion. But that negative emotion doesn't really go away. We just become less aware of it for a time. Once the false pleasure from the buffer wears off, we often feel more negative than we did before.
On this episode I teach you:- why you may be buffering.
- common buffers (some may surprise you).
- how to choose real pleasure over false pleasure.
- and why you want to stop buffering.
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Denita is a trauma coach for Latter-day Saints and she's on the podcast talking about how trauma affects intimacy. Specifically she talks about:
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what trauma is.
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how your body reacts to trauma.
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your nervous system's window of tolerance.
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and how this affects your ability to be intimate.
Website:
https://denitabremer.com/
(this is where to find her free Trauma Assessment)
Podcast:
Trauma Coaching for Latter-day Saints.
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Do you ever feel like you just can't get yourself to do the thing you know you want to do? You just can't get yourself to start taking care of an item on your to-do list, a new skill or habit you want to create, or a goal you want to achieve. On this episode I will teach you why you feel so stuck and it all has to do with your desire to avoid discomfort. But what if the reality is you're going to feel discomfort now or discomfort later?
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Do you ever feel like it's hard to show up as your "best self"? I know that certain situations and certain people seem to bring out the worst in me. That's why I started to ask myself this simple question: "Who do I want to be?"
Listen as I talk about the power this question can have in your life and in the life of others.
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Many of us find ourselves in situations that feel really uncomfortable and painful for a variety of reasons. We can find ourselves feeling stuck in this pain because we can't see a way out. But the reason we often can't see a solution is because we are looking for a way out that isn’t painful. We want a solution to our problem that is easy and comfortable and good for everyone and feels amazing. But this is not always possible. Sometimes the solution to our problem is also painful and that can be the best thing to understand because then we stop trying to find a painless solution. We actually start looking for the best solution and accept that it may still be painful.
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I know the River of Misery sounds terrible and unappealing but it's actually so good. Too often we sit in the Pond of Discontent, unable to change our lives to what we want it to be because we are too afraid to step into the River of Misery. But, to get what we want, we have to leave the pond and cross the river. Because on the other side of that river is what we really want in our lives. Let me teach you how to get brave enough to get out of the pond and into the river.
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The beginning of February is when most people quit on their New Year's Resolutions. But there are many reasons we don't end up achieving the goals we set. One of the biggest reasons is because we don't anticipate the obstacles that will get in our way and therefore we don't have strategies in place to overcome them. On this episode I teach you a tool that will help increase your chances of getting your goal. First, you have to identify the possible obstacles to your goal and then you have to create a strategy to overcome that obstacle when it presents itself. This tool will change your goal setting process forever and dramatically improve your ability to achieve your goals.
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Many people tell me they need to find their purpose or want to find a new purpose or tell me how they've lost their purpose. But what if your purpose can't be lost or found? What if it just needs to be chosen and created?
On this episode I offer you a new way to look at purpose and help you with some practical ideas of how to create it on your own.
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It's January and I just don't feel like myself. I feel really blah. Maybe you can relate. If so, listen in to find out the tools I am using to gently take myself through this down time and to take care of myself along the way.
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Sometimes after we have stepped away from our "real life" (gone on a vacation or had a school holiday) we can feel a lot of anxiety about re-entering reality.
On this episode I discuss why this happens and offer help on how to both deal with the anxiety and over-come it.
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Did you know you have the power to either turn yourself on or turn yourself off? So much of it comes down to what you are thinking about yourself, your spouse, and sex in general.
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ReDonna Byam is a certified life coach who helps people take care of their physical and mental clutter realistically and authentically. And she's super good at it.
Listen to learn:
- Why you have clutter and what you make it mean about you.
- What obstacles make it difficult to dejunk and how to overcome them.
- What to do about other people's clutter (like hubby and the kids).She also offers some great practical tips and tricks to help you start decluttering your life, including her 6 questions:
1. Where does clutter accumulate in my house?
2. Who does the clutter belong to?
3. What is it they are putting there?
4. When are they putting it there?
5. Why are they putting it there?
6. How could I solve this problem?
If you want personalized help from her reach out to redonnabyam@gmail.com.
Find her Facebook group It's Just Clutter and join for support and tools to help you.
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Do you have a whole list of books you really want to read but just can't get too? I get it. That's why I recorded this episode of Want to Want It.I read the book Essentialism, by Greg McKeown, and decided to take my favourite parts and share them with you.
Here is what you will find out as you listen today:
- how to focus on less but better.
- the origin of the word 'priorities'.
- the core mindset of an Essentialist.
- why trade-offs are actually a great part of life.
- the value of thinking time.
- and how to get things done.I found this book inspiring and helpful. I hope my little synopsis does the same for you.
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We have all been told that it is better to give than it is to receive. But what if we're wrong about that?
Today I explore:
1. Why it is hard for some of us to receive.
2. Why you should start to be more open to receiving.
3. And some ways to help you actually receive the goodness others are trying to give you.
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Are you someone who struggles saying no to the requests of others? Do feel resentful of all that people require of you? Listen here to learn:
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Why you don't say no when you want to.
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Why you should start to say no, at least sometimes.
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When you should say yes.
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And how to actually say no when you want to.
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I invited my coach, Laura Dry, to teach us about self-confidence and how it impacts our desire. Laura found herself feeling miserable even though she was living the life she always wanted. She couldn't figure out what the problem was until she found some of the tools she shares in this episode.
She also explains the three parts necessary for true self-confidence.
And at the end we talk about how self-confidence is key to seeking your desires and increasing your desire in the bedroom.
Website: https://lauradrycoaching.com
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Find her podcast The Confident Moms Podcast wherever you stream your podcasts.
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The holiday season can be the best of times or it can be the worst of times. Especially when you have a lot of expectations you put on yourself, on others, or on the season in general. Not to mention the expectations other people put on you as well. On this episode I'm arming you with a tool box that will help you enjoy this "most wonderful time of the year."
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Did you know you can try on new thoughts like you try on new clothes? On this episode I'm offering you 25 new thoughts to try on. You don't have to try them all but pick one or two to walk around with for a few days. See if you like how they feel. See if you like the results they give you in your life.
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Do you want to increase your sexual desire but you're not sure how to do it? Or does it feel like everything you try seems to fail? That's because most of the time we are trying to do something that will increase our desire instead of think something to increase our desire.
On this episode of Want To Want It I explore the thoughts you may be having that are keeping your sexual desire at bay.
Your thoughts about sex in general.
Your thoughts about your spouse.
Your thoughts about yourself.
And, at the end, I offer you a few practical tips to help as well.
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On this episode I talk about the difference between love and desire. Too often we think they are the same thing but they aren't. Love is stable and certain. It feels peaceful and safe. Desire on the other hand is more expansive and novel. It is yearning and passion. Love wants to belong. Desire wants autonomy.
Esther Perel says, “From the moment we are born, we straddle two sets of contradicting needs: the need for security and the need for freedom.”
And we experience this in our marriages as well. We want to belong and we want to be free.
Listen to learn more about the differences between love and desire and to see how necessary both are for a thriving, happy marriage.
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Do you find yourself wishing you and your spouse could be on the same page more often? On this episode I talk about:
1. What we really mean when we tell our spouse "we need to get on the same page."
2. Why we want to be on the same page (and it's not always for the good of our marriage).
3. How being on the same page can be overrated AND how it can be really valuable.
4. How to get on the same page without a big fight.
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Our beliefs about money will determine how we feel about it and how much of it we have.
On this episode I invited my sister, Breian Elliott, to talk to us about money. Breian is a certified life coach who helps women with their business finances.
Listen in to learn about:
- Common limiting beliefs many people have about money.
- Money scarcity.
- Money and marriage.
- Judgments about money.
- Money and desire.
- And how to neutralize money if it feels very emotional for you.
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Have you ever stopped to consider the difference between using judgment and being judgemental? I think it's a pretty important distinction. I think too often we are so worried about being seen as judgmental that we stop using judgment. Judgment is focused on you and asks questions such as, "What is good for me? What do I want to do when I look at all the options before me? What opinion do I want to have?" Whereas, being judgemental is focused on others and asking questions such as, "Why would they do that?" And making statements like, "They are doing that all wrong."
Listen to this episode to find out:
- why we judge and why we should keep doing it.
- why disagreeing with someone does not always mean you are judgmental.
- why we are afraid of being seen as judgmental.
- why it's so easy to be judgmental.
- and what to do if you find yourself being judgemental a lot.
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The Psychology Dictionary defines self-confrontation as "examining our own behaviours and attitudes to make a change we may need to make." So, to successfully self-confront means that you are willing to examine your attitudes, behaviours, and shortcomings and are willing to change. In this episode I examine why we don't really want to self-confront, what we do instead of self-confronting, why self-confrontation is a game changer for your relationships (especially your marriage), and how to start self-confronting.
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Your future is 5 minutes from now, or 5 years from now, or 50 years from now and it's yours for the making. As a kid I'm sure you loved to dream about the future. Going to your first day of school. Getting your driver's licence. Having a career. Getting married. Having a baby. But often future dreams stop there. Almost like you thought the best of your life was all going to happen before you were 40. But you have so many years ahead of you and you have the power to make them as amazing as you want.
On this episode learn why it's a bad idea to look to the past to determine how your future will go and how to deliberately create the future you want.
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Sometimes it may feel like your past is always haunting you and your future is always worrying you.
Or maybe you feel like the best days have already been or you won't be happy until some future event takes place.
But the world is beginning to encourage more and more of us to live in the present and learn how to be more present in the present.
On this podcast I'll give you some practical tips on how to bring yourself back into the present moment and how to live IN the present without living only FOR the present.
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Our past is what happened to us 10 seconds ago or 10 years ago. And it can have such a strong hold on us. But our past is really just what we think about it and is completely optional. If you feel like you are still at the effect of your past listen to find out how to gain power over your history and create a different future.
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The way we feel about other people has nothing to do with them and everything to do with what we think about them. Listen to find out why this is the best news and the power for good this will have for your relationships with others and your relationship with yourself.
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It can be so easy to want to make the other person in your relationship change so you can be happy but it's impossible to make someone else change. So, if you want to make changes in any relationship, especially in your marriage, focus on yourself.
On this episode I will explain why you should work to change yourself first and how to do it if you want to make lasting improvements to your most precious (and sometimes most difficult) relationships.
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Do you schedule your life? Do you make time for all the pressing matters, all the kids lessons, all the meetings? Do you ever plan time for your desires?
Listen in today as I share my process for planning my weeks and how to make time for your desires.
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For those of you who may find it hard to really love yourself or to be able to see your strengths, this episode is for you. You are the child of the most loving, creative Being in the universe and He created you. On this episode I am going to give you an assignment that will increase your appreciation of you without feeling arrogant or prideful. Instead you get to be so grateful for how you were created.
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Most of our relationships don't require boundaries. But every once in a while we may find ourselves in relationship with someone we feel the need to create a boundary with because they are coming into our emotional or physical space without our permission.
On this episode I will teach you how to clearly know when a boundary is required, why you should set one, and the best way to do it. My method differs from others but I think you'll discover it's more loving and easier to enforce.
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Our brains think being critical of ourselves is very useful but often it just leaves us feeling badly about ourselves. Listen in to find out how to turn down the volume of your critical mind and how speak in a way that will encourage change without beating yourself up.
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Have you ever experienced the joy of being wrong? Does that sound crazy to you? On this episode I discuss the idea of intellectual humility and why you want to learn to be ok with being wrong.
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Our three basic human motivations are to seek ease, seek pleasure, and avoid pain. Thanks to these motivational forces our world is full of amazing tools and inventions. But if we want to progress we can't stay stuck in these lower motivations. Listen now to find out why we these are our three basic motivations and how to overcome them to create the life you really want.
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All or nothing thinking is a thought pattern that makes us more prone to negative thoughts or negative conclusions. It's very polarizing. Everything is either good or bad, right or wrong, success or failure, perfect or terrible.
When we give into this type of thinking we are essentially saying that there's really only two options for everything or everyone. Success or failure, good or bad, right or wrong. But in reality most of us spend our time in between those two extremes.
On this episode I'll help you recognize what all or nothing thinking looks like, why it is so hard on us, and how to overcome it.
Dr. Paul Jenkins is a professional psychologist and a personal development coach who's been practicing for over 20 years. He is a positivity expert and the author of the book, Pathological Positivity. He also is a talented public speaker and he hosts the podcast Live On Purpose Radio. He also has a YouTube channel called Live On Purpose TV, where you can find hundreds of videos for navigating parenting and life.
On this episode Dr. Paul shares his Positivity Model with us and teaches us how to become more aware of how we are viewing the world so as to enable us to feel more positive more of the time.
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A key to our desires being realized is opportunity. Meaning, the more ideal the time is or the set of circumstances are, the more likely we are to follow through on going after what we desire. On this episode of the podcast I talk about how to increase opportunity, when it's better to decrease opportunity, and what really increases our desire.
A belief is a thought you think over and over. So, you don't just wake up one day believing in yourself. You actually have to choose to believe in you. On this episode I'm going to teach you how to practice new thoughts about yourself over and over until you believe them.
Many of us really struggle making decisions. We can feel unsure of what the right decision is and get worried about making the wrong decision. Our fear and lack of confidence in our decisions keeps us totally stuck in indecision. Becoming a good decision maker is a skill and on this episode I give you a few ideas of how to become a better decision maker.
All of us have times when we feel like we are a victim, but are we at risk of developing a victim mentality? A victim mentality is a learned way of being, a trait that we develop, whether consciously or unconsciously. Those caught in victim mentality feel like everything is happening to them and that they have no ability to change that. Listen here to learn more about how to deal with someone who may have a victim mentality, what makes someone hold onto their victim stories, and how to get yourself out of it if you are in the victim mentality trap.
Perfectionism is really a desire killer. On this episode I talk about what a perfectionist is, why so many of us become perfectionists, how perfectionists behave, ways to get out of the perfectionist trap, and why perfection keeps you from desiring.
When people find out I'm a life coach, I often get asked, "what's the difference between therapy and coaching?" On todays episode I want to shed a little bit of light on this and explain why therapy is a better choice for some people and why coaching is better for others.
Do you ever find yourself getting mad because your husband is mad? Or anxious and worried because your child is anxious and worried? This is called Mirroring Emotions and on today's episode I'm going to teach you how to be less at the effect of other people's emotions and more in control of your own.
Some thoughts obviously create a negative feeling in our body but other thoughts are sneaky; they sound so lovely, so pretty, so nice, but in reality they feel terrible. Today I'm going to reveal some sneaky little thoughts you may have and tell you what to do with them.
Self-care is a big buzz word and gets a lot of attention in our world as we strive to increase our emotional health. On today's episode I want to share with you what I actually think self-care is (it might surprise you) and give you some ideas of how to take better care of yourself.
It is really easy to know what we DON'T want. But when we focus on what we don't want, it doesn't actually guarantee us getting what we DO want. In this episode I share with you the power of deciding what you do want and putting your energy into creating what you want to have instead of what you want to avoid.
We've all been given marriage advice over the years but what makes something "good" advice or "bad" advice? I asked people to share some of the marriage advice they were given over the years and I share it here.
Today you will learn the difference between being an emotional child and an emotional adult. Listen up to discover how your personal emotional maturity powerfully impacts your marriage and other relationships for the better.
Most of us, whether we know it or not, have written manuals for the other people in our lives. It’s an instruction guide we have for someone describing how that person should behave in whatever role they play in our life. These manuals can be so straining on any relationship because we tie all of our emotional life to whether or not the other person follows it. These manuals also kill desire because they limit our feeling of freedom.
Do you find yourself pushing down or trying to get away from your emotions? I can relate. Today I'm going to share with you how allowing yourself to feel your feelings will change your life forever - and for good.
We often think the circumstances or people around us are the reason we feel the way we do. But what if that's not true? Come along with me while I teach you what actually creates your feelings and how to deliberately choose the ones you want.
If you've never considered that you are worth celebrating or tried to celebrate yourself, listen to learn how celebration can help you cultivate more natural desire and motivation.
As a recovering people pleaser I want to offer you a few reasons you may want to consider leaving your people pleasing ways behind you to become a more authentic, happy version of yourself.
Words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch are the 5 Love Languages as taught by Gary Chapman. I'm going to explore how these love languages are often used against your marriage instead of for it. Then I'll give you a tip to help you use the love languages to actually strengthen your marriage as they were intended to do.
When it comes to sexual desire, the key is to figure out what is holding you back from sex (your sexual brakes) and what could get you moving towards sex (your sexual accelerators).
So many women believe there is something wrong with their sexual desire. In this episode I explain how, when it comes to sex and sexual desire, there really is no normal - therefore, you are normal.
On this episode I want to convince you why you should cultivate more desire in your life. There are so many reasons you may have stopped yourself from desiring or wanting things. I want to tell you why you want to want something. Desire is essential to a fantastic life, including a fantastic sex life. It is vital to your progress, your happiness, and your ability to be your very best self.
Hi, I'm Jamelyn Stephan. In this first episode I want to introduce myself, tell you a little about the life experiences that have led me to this point, and share some of my own journey with desire.