Happily Ever After Again: Recent Episodes
Sharilee Swaity
Welcome to the Happily Ever After Again Podcast, where we talk about marriage and relationships for struggling couples. We will explore healing, connection, forgiveness, blended families and faith through research, stories and strategies. Remarriage, divorce, marriage, healing, forgiveness and connection.
In this episode, I talk about my upcoming course: the Marriage Reset Group Coaching Course. This course will focus on helping couples reset their marriage after a time of struggle. This course will run first starting July 14, 2021, until September 8th. The second run of the course will begin at the end of September 2021.
To register for the course, go to https://gracedaily.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1099279.
To view a presentation about the course itself, go to https://gracedaily.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1098100
The movie mentioned in this episode was Why Did I Get Married, Too?
The scripture mentioned in this episode is Psalm 133;1.
If you're a stepmom, what role do you play on Father's Day? Do you make gifts and get the kids to make homemade gift for Dad?
Are you married to your opposite? Do you sometimes wonder if you and your spouse are incompatible? If so, this episode will help you through the pain of being very different than your partner. How do you deal with it? Is it possible to make it when you seem so different? Discover seven steps for being married to your opposite.
Mentioned in this article:
Sponsor of the show: Grace Daily Coaching
Article of our "opposites" story: My Husband and I are Opposites
Marriage Media mention: Kosher Lust
This episode is especially for stepmoms. We talk about why Mother's Day can be difficult for stepmother and five ways to make it easier.
Article mentioned: Mother's Day For Those Without Mothers
Marriage Media: The Stepmom Club Podcast
Scripture: Psalm 25:1-2
This is the second episode in the series, Journey to Healing. In this episode, I talk about the first step in healing: acknowledging and releasing hurts from previous relationships. I go over seven tools for helping you release those often hidden feelings:
- Journaling
- Prayer
- Nature
- Exercise
- Art
- Sharing your story/feelings
- Sharing your story/feelings with a professional
This week, in Marriage Media, I recommend the movie, We Bought a Zoo.
Our Scripture for this week is Psalm 116:1.
Also mentioned in this episode:
Happily Ever After Again: Hope, Healing & Love for Second Marriages
Other episodes in the Journey to Healing series:
https://secondmarriage.xyz/journey-to-healing-introduction/
Are you a stepmom needing a little bit of encouragement? Do you sometimes feel like you’re in a no-win situation? Do you maybe even wonder if you might have made a mistake? Being a stepmother is one of the hardest roles you can take on. You “play the part” of being a mother: doing the work, and putting in the time but you are rarely if ever, recognized for what you are doing.
So, what can you do? How do you bridge the gap with these strangers who are now living in your home? How do you build connection, family, and togetherness when there are so many obstacles in your way? My book, 16 Gifts from a Stepmom: Encouragement for the Blended Family Journey, talks about how to do this. The book gives sixteen ways to connect with the new kids in your life, from encouragement to “Daddy Time” to fun.
In today’s podcast, I talk about my book, “16 Gifts from a Stepmom: Encouragement for the Blended Family Journey.” I go over the chapters of the book and then read the last chapter, called “You are Building a Legacy.” I also talk about the first Happily Ever After Again Podcast Contest.
Find out more about the contest here: https://secondmarriage.xyz/10th-episode-contest/
Mentioned in this episode: The Courage to Be a Stepmom
Episode About Stepmoms and Authenticity: https://secondmarriage.xyz/overcoming-imposter-syndrome-as-a-stepmom/
In the first interview for the podcast, I talk with Jed and Jen Jurchenko about stepfamily life, connection, and communication. We talk about why conversation so important for couples. Be inspired by Jed and Jen's passion for helping couples.
Find Jed and Jen at:
https://www.blog.ithrive320.com/
Find their books at: https://www.amazon.com/Jed-Jurchenko/
My book: https://www.amazon.com/Second-Marriage-Insiders-Guide-Healing-ebook/dp/B071V9DXR5
In this episode, I share how my thoughts on Valentine's Day have changed over the last twelve years of marriage. This holiday tends to bring up a lot of pressure for people, whether single, dating or married. Married people, especially men, can feel a lot of pressure to get this holiday "right."
The first way my thinking has changed is that I have realized that I can make plans for Valentine's Day. I don't have to put pressure on my husband to do it all, and make my day perfect! I am more of a planner, so it makes sense that I may do more of it.
The second change in my thinking is realizing that having a good time should be a joint venture -- not the job of one person. Finally, for me, I believe that "less is more" when it comes to Valentine's Day gifts.
Mentioned in this episode:
Blog Post Mentioned: https://secondmarriage.xyz/take-charge-valentines-day/
Connection Ideas: https://secondmarriage.xyz/connection-ideas/
Book: https://amzn.to/3jPdxJf
Movies Mentioned:
The Proposal
We Bought a Zoo
The Pursuit of Happyness
The Inevitable Defeat of Mister and Pete
Up in the Air
In this episode, the first in the series, "Journey to Healing," I talk about the journey to overcoming hurt from past relationships. What are signs that you still need healing? Bitterness, jealousy, and defeat. Also, we ask, why is healing so difficult? Grief, trauma, childhood hurts and marriage itself are things that make it hard. Finally, I introduce the 4-part healing process: acknowledging, feeling and releasing your feelings, taking responsibility, forgiveness, and changing your thinking.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Happily Ever After Again Workbook: Happily Ever After Again Workbook
- The Mystery of Marriage, by Mike Mason.
- Psalm 34:18
- Grace of Monaco Movie
2020 was probably the hardest year of our life for many people. Here are 20 lessons I learned during this challenging year, from marriage lessons to how to play some new games. This is a random collection of life lessons, some serious and some fun.
Mentioned in this episode:
Show sponsor: the book, Happily Ever After Again: Hope, Healing & Love for Second Marriages.
Marriage Media: The Woman in White
Online games:Skribbl.io and Code Word
Today, we are going to discuss the ten gifts you give your spouse that don't cost any money. So, first of all, Merry Christmas everyone. This has got to the strangest Christmas in memory for most of us. Our world is kind of upside down right and I think many of us are looking forward to our traditions, our special ways, that we practice at Christmas. Even if things are strange, we can do our best to celebrate something that means so much to us. Christmas got me thinking about the concept of gifts in a relationship and what kind of gifts we give each other, as husband and wife. What do we "offer" each other that is far more valuable than a sweater or a favourite tool? And this is what I came up with. Ten gifts that you give your spouse, that don't cost money but are far more valuable than what money can buy. These are gifts we give our spouses and they are also things that our spouses give us, that we can be grateful for. 1. The gift of your body. 2. The gift of your ear. 3. The gift of your service. 4. The gift of your acceptance. 5. The gift of your kindness. 6. The gift of your humour. 7. The gift of your intelligence. 8. The gift of your growth. 9. The gift of your happiness. 10. The gift of your faith.
Mentioned in Marriage Media: Family Man Movie Review from Common Sense Media: https://www.commonsensemedia.org/movie-reviews/the-family-man The lesson I learned we can learn from this movie about marriage is how the main character started to see the value of relationships. Today's Scripture verse is Luke 2:11: For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord.
The very definition of stepmom is "a woman who is married to someone's father but is not their "real" mother. So, it's no wonder that stepmothers struggle with understanding their role and with feeling inauthentic. Learn five strategies for feeling more "real" as a stepmom in today's episode.
Mentioned in this episode:
My Book: 16 Gifts Book
Ron Deal's Book: The Smart Stepfamily
Are you in a super-busy season of life? Do you find it hard to find time for quality time with your partner? Does the idea of a weekly date sound like a far-flung fantasy. If so, tune in for awesome ideas for mini-dates with your spouse, all of which take 15 minutes or less.
Mentioned in this episode:
Mini-Date Ideas: https://secondmarriage.xyz/happily-ever-after-again-book-free-resource-package/
My book: https://amzn.to/2HJKyYQ
The Invisible Woman Book: https://amzn.to/3mcBtXv
Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/smhope/?source_id=1030194673768570
This is the second episode of the Happily Ever After Again podcast! I am so excited to share this show with you.
Have you ever gone through a period when you felt irrationally jealous and insecure? Did you find it was based on something in your past, rather than legitimate concerns about your current partner? If you have, you will l find this episode interesting. Trust is so important for building any kind of intimacy. When we have been been betrayed we often lose the ability to trust. Trust is important for everything we do in life, whether driving a car or buying food from the grocery store.
In this second episode of the Happily Ever After Again podcast, we dive deep into the idea of trust in relationships. We explore how mistrust feels and how wonderful it feels when we do experience the emotion of trust. Lack of trust is the number one obstacle to couples trying to find their "happily ever after again." According to the book, I Love But I Can't Trust You, 90% of couples have a "crisis of trust" sometime in their relationship. Mistrust can come from childhood events, from previous romantic events, from your spouse's romantic past, and from things that happened in your current relationship.
A person who finds herself constantly dealing with mistrust may want to consider counselling. Journaling and prayer are also powerful tools for healing. In this episode, I share my story of mistrust and one simple strategy that helped me forward. The strategy involves remembering who your spouse actually is, making a decision to trust, and writing it down. Then, you talk to your spouse about your commitment. I have a very useful handout for remembering the amazing qualities about your spouse included in the Happily Ever After Again Resource Package, which you can grab today.
Mentioned in this episode: Eight Things I Like About You
My Book: Happily Ever After Again: Hope, Healing & Love for Second Marriages
Book Mentioned: I Love You But I Don't Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship
Bible Verse: Song of Solomon 8:6
An introduction to the Happily Ever After Again Podcast, and the host. Hear the story behind the mike. Remarriage. Marriage transformation. Healing.
In this episode, you will hear the host's story of marriage transformation. After the worst day in their marriage, Sharilee and her husband decided to go for marriage counselling, a decision which made all the difference in transforming their marriage.
Mentioned in this episode: Victoria tv series.
Bible Scripture: Romans 8:28
