When it comes to developing a Rule of Life, its to structure your life in such a way, by Gods grace, that the love of Jesus comes before all else. And that everything else flows from that.
It's about keeping God at the centre of your life, so you’re paying attention to him and watching what’s in your heart, so that you’re constantly living in the mercy and grace of God.
By learning to love well you’ll enjoy your life more. You’ll find yourself losing interest in judging other people. You’ll find yourself losing interest in power plays and conflict. You stop worrying so much because some things don’t matter anymore. You’ll begin to let go and let things happen rather than always trying to control everything. You will have frequent overwhelming episodes of appreciation for people and for life and a new sense of connectedness to people.
You have a lot of ‘say’ in how much of the activity of God takes place in your life.
God will never force you into anything, not even a lifesaving relationship with him. He has given you freedom and choice. So, you have an enormous say in how far and by how much you will surrender your life to him.
So many people today are caught up in the rat race of life, always in a hurry, always busy, so many things to do and places to be – people can’t even fit a church service in on a regular basis, never mind spend time with God – with all the demands its hard not to get swallowed up by the culture in which we live.
But if we genuinely and seriously want to have a richer life in Christ, how do we change things?
What do we need to do, to learn those unforced rhythms of grace?
God’s invitation to us through times of grief and loss is to detach from trying to control everything, to begin to hear the voice of the one who loves us who came to give us life.
When we hit a wall, we question God, we question ourselves, we question the church and everybody else around us who calls themselves Christians. And we always have more questions than answers.
No one emerges from a family without some wounds or scars or a mind map of the world you live in. When we come to Jesus Christ, when we become a Christian, the bible says we are born again. We are born into God’s family – He is our father, we have new brothers and sisters, a new name – CHRISTIAN – a new inheritance. We are in a new family, the family of God in Jesus Christ.
When you are yourself, and you know God, breakthrough comes. Because the guidance of the Holy Spirit becomes clearer, and you live your life out of the uniqueness that is who God made you to be. And so, everyone around you gets blessed.
But if you live your life, in a way that is not you, that is not unique to who God made you to be; you remain in a difficult place, and you can hurt yourself and other people because you’re not the real you.
Jesus invites us to leave behind those things that are not life giving, the ways of life that can be a burden, a heavy load, especially the ‘religious’ and ‘sinful’ stuff, and to take on his way of living. It’s a way of gentleness and lowliness, a way of learning but also a way of rest to our souls. It’s a way of inner transformation.