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Alan Vukas & Michelle Wadleigh
A weekly livestream with Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh, providing spiritual, mental & emotional tools to live your authentic life today! Visit our website at http://www.livingoutloud.show.
In this final episode of the month (and “season” - see below), hosts Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh have an enlightening conversation around passion, purpose, and living authentically.
Key Points:
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How to recognize what you're truly passionate about in life? Passion is often found in activities where you lose track of time because you're so engaged and fulfilled.
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The importance of untangling passion from profit and progress. Passion has an innate purpose even if it's not financially profitable.
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Embracing your passion allows you to give others permission to be bold and pursue their interests too.
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Overcoming limitations, fears, and the "glass ceiling" that holds many people back from fully living their purpose. The only true limits are the ones we place on ourselves.
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Valuable teachings from Emerson on expressing your convictions and living boldly. Our authentic self is waiting to be expressed.
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The role of spiritual practices in building self-love and compassion to move beyond suffering. Suffering becomes unnecessary when you believe in yourself.
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Seizing each day and making space for your interests and curiosity. Life is about navigating distractions to live passionately.
We all have more potential waiting to be unlocked. The world needs your unique gifts and talents.
Dear Listeners & Friends,
This episode of the Living Out Loud Show is our final show, at least for now.
Michelle and I want to take a moment to express our deepest gratitude for your support and engagement over the past several months. It has been a privilege and joy to connect with you each week, diving into conversations that are close to our hearts.
Your participation and insights not only enriched our conversations but also inspired us in many ways. We hope that you've found as much value in these episodes as we had in creating them. This may be our final episode, but it's certainly not the end of our journey together.
While we take a brief hiatus from this show to recharge and plan for what's next, and upcoming, we encourage you to continue exploring your passions and unlocking your potential.
Be sure to follow us on social media (our links below) for updates on future episodes, projects, and other exciting ventures that are emerging from us exploring our passions and living out loud.
Until then, thank you for being an essential part of our community. We look forward to connecting with you again soon.
With love and gratitude,
Alan & Michelle
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Michelle Wadleigh:Planned Happiness InstituteCenter for Spiritual Living North JerseyFacebook: RevJerseyGirlAlan Vukas:New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and ReflectionsConcordia Center for Spiritual LivingFacebook: Rev. Alan VukasOther Resources:Centers for Spiritual LivingScience of Mind magazine
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In this episode, Alan and Michelle share highlights and takeaways from their spiritual retreat at Soar 2023 at Asilomar, the summer retreat for Centers for Spiritual Living (Aug. 8-11.) There discuss ways in which it supported them in being renewed, while connecting with their own passions and purpose.
Join Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh every Wednesdays at 12PM Eastern for conversations about practical spirituality on our Facebook Livestream
Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Other Resources:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
In this final episode of July, Alan and Michelle discuss some of their highlights this month.
1. Introduction and Invitation to SOAR Conference (0:00:02)
- Discussion about the upcoming Centers for Spiritual Living SOAR conference and its significance
- Introduction to the "Renewal Roadmap"
2. Embracing Risk and the Power of Pushing Boundaries (0:07:18)- Personal experiences and the transformative impact of pushing past self-imposed limitations
- Announcement of a retreat in Massachusetts
3. Living in Right Relationship and the Power of Words (0:16:56)
- Exploration of the concept of living in right relationship with oneself and the world
- Discussion on the impact of our words and thoughts on our lives
4. Normalizing Emotional Expression and Exploring Emotions (0:30:35)
- Discussion on the importance of naming and identifying emotions
- Reflection on the rising trend of emotional maturity in popular culture
5. Power of Hope, Faith, and Conviction (0:47:13)
- Exploration of the profound power of hope, faith, and conviction
- Discussion on the miracles that can occur when we remain open to possibilities.
Join Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh every Wednesdays at 12PM Eastern for conversations about practical spirituality on our Facebook Livestream
Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Other Resources:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
(0:00:03) - Exploring Practical Spirituality
We discuss speaking truth to circumstance, Don Miguel Ruiz's four agreements, and the power of domestication.
(0:10:16) - Contemplating Power and Unlimited Potential
Neuroplasticity, hypnosis, and rewiring emotions are discussed to empower and create new expectations.
(0:24:41) - The Illusion of Conditions and Language
We debate language's power to create barriers and explore how denying an illusory condition can be freeing.
(0:29:52) - Questioning Diagnoses, Embracing Personal Power
We examine perception, questioning external authority, and nature's laws to understand our being.
(0:46:57) - Social Media's Impact on Society
We examine corporate marketing's impact on attention, dopamine hits, mindfulness practice, and reclaiming power.
(1:02:07) - Empowering Words and Bold Living
Speaking truth, reclaiming attention, and using perception as a superpower are discussed.
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Join Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh every Wednesdays at 12PM Eastern for conversations about practical spirituality on our Facebook Livestream
Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Other Resources:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
In this episode, Alan and Michelle continue discussing this month's theme of "Speaking Truth to Circumstances."
Join Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh every Wednesdays at 12PM Eastern for conversations about practical spirituality on our Facebook Livestream
Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Other Resources:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
In this weeks episode, Michelle speaks with Rev. David Robinson about this month’s topic of “Speaking Truth to Circumstances.”
Rev. David, a passionate spiritual leader, serves as Senior Minister at CSL Olympia, co-chairs the Global Themes Team for Centers for Spiritual Living, and inspires through talks, workshops, and retreats. He is the author of this month's theme, "Speaking Truth to Circumstances." Books Mentioned
What's in the Way Is the Way: A Practical Guide for Waking Up to Life (Amazon link)
Join Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh every Wednesdays at 12PM Eastern for conversations about practical spirituality on our Facebook Livestream
Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Other Resources:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
It's a new month, a new topic for the month! In this episode, Alan and Michelle begin discussing this month's theme of "Speaking Truth to Circumstances," a different perspective and take on "Speaking Truth to Power."
Join Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh every Wednesdays at 12PM Eastern for conversations about practical spirituality on our Facebook Livestream
Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Other Resources:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
When we identify ourselves with our Highest Self, our Divine Essence, it brings a whole new perspective to Self-care. In this episode, Alan and Michelle wrap up this month's discussion of Embracing Self-Care and it necessity in order for us to live life out loud.
Join Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh every Wednesdays at 12PM Eastern for conversations about practical spirituality on our Facebook Livestream
Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Other Resources:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
In this episode, Alan and Michelle, invite special guest Ellen Suazo, RScP to continue the discussion of this month's topic, Embracing Self-Care. Ellen shares wisdom from her personal experience and journey into self-care while caring for her mother through Alzheimer's.
The conversation moves into the universal human experience of grief and the necessity of practicing self-care in order for us to move through challenging times.
About Todays' Guest: Ellen Suazo, RScP
On this episode of the Living Out Loud Show, Ellen Suazo as our special guest. Ellen is a transformative figure, empowering holistic entrepreneurs to unlock their inner power and create a life filled with joy and purpose. With a background as a Community Advocate and Counselor, Ellen brings a wealth of experience in guiding individuals through challenging times. As the Founder of Mindshifting International, she combines her expertise in holistic entrepreneurship, coaching, and inspirational speaking to support others in achieving their fullest potential.
email: consciouslivinglink@gmail.com
websites: https://www.Ellensuazo.com
https://www.holisticentrepreneuronline.com
https://www.liveyourdesiredlifenow.com/
Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Join us each week for conversations about practical spirituality where Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh
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Other Resources:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
In this episode, Alan and Michelle begin their discussion of this month's topic, Embracing Self-Care. The concept of self-care has evolved, has our thinking about it caught up to support us through our own evolution?
Quotes:
“Self-care is not self-indulgence; it is self-preservation.” ~ Audre Lorde, A Burst of Light and Other Essays, page 130, Library Genesis
"I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul." - From The Invitation, a poem by Oriah Mountain Dreamer
Points Discussed This Week:
- Explanation of self-care from a medical perspective in the 1950s.
- Discuss the development and transformation of self-care to the present day.
- Alan and Michelle discuss how thoughts and self-perception impact self-care.
- They explain the importance of controlling your thoughts, removing negativity, and improving mental freedom.
- Importance of self-awareness, recognizing one's spiritual perfection, and how this fosters self-love and self-care.
- Suggestions for daily practices: meditation, stress management techniques, healthy eating habits, engaging in fun activities, and spending time with loved ones.
Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Join us each week for conversations about practical spirituality where Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh
Join our weekly Facebook Livestream Wednesdays at 12PM Eastern:
Other Resources:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
In this episode, Alan and Michelle wrap up this month's discussion of the Light Within the Shadows by discussing the importance of showing up and engaging authentically and honestly. As we let our light shine we invite others to play on stage with us by sharing their light.
Points Discussed This Week:
A. Taking Center Stage
- Shadows and isolation contribution to loneliness - how one can lead to another.
- Shakespeare - all the world is a stage!
- Personal growth and authenticity when we take center stage in our lives by choosing to face a personal fear or choosing to pursue a long-held passion despite the risks.
- Growth through dark experiences of personal failures or rejections being turned into sources of strength and resilience.
B. Letting Your Light Shine
- Impact of societal expectations that dampen our light.
- Unique gifts each person brings to the world.
C. The Great Turning and Ripe for Change
- Current societal changes and how individuals doing their inner work are bringing this change.
- Importance of taking action and engaging in the world to bring about change.
To find out more and connect with:
Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Join us each week for conversations about practical spirituality where Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh
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Other Resources mentioned in this episode:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
In this episode, Alan and Michelle continue their conversation about the "light within the shadows," our topic for the month of May 2023. After "unlearning fear of the darkness," and with courage and bravery, they discuss some of dark skies or hallways that are waiting for us to discover our light.
Some Points Discussed During Podcast:
- Every shade of color makes up the rainbow, even gray - those gray areas in us are part of the rainbow that is us.
- Fireworks are seen against the backdrop of a night sky - what are our personal fireworks - parts of our self to celebrate - we can see more clearly because of the darkness.
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Some of our "night skies"..and practices we apply to witness our own starlight (triggers, practice, greater self-awareness:
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Strong Feeling
- Upset with others
- Recurring Patterns - round and round
- Unexplained Discomfort - beyond empathic, sensitivity
- Self-Sabotage
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Dreams and Nightmares
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What are you going to do this week to see yourself in full-spectrum - the full rainbow of yourself?
- Witness this week the fireworks of your brilliance!
Quotes:
"Twinkle, twinkle, little star, Show me parts that seem so far. Hidden in the depths of night, Reveal the shadows, bring them to light.
Up above my conscious mind, Lies a realm that's hard to find. Like the star, both near and far, Shadow's presence shapes who we are.
*Twinkle, twinkle, little star, Guide me on this journey far. Exploring shadows, we can grow, To find the light within, we'll know." - ChatGPT4
“Only in the darkness can you see the stars.” Martin Luther King, Jr.*
"I have seen too many stars to let the darkness overwhelm me.” Macrina Wiederkehr, Seven Sacred Pauses
To find out more and connect with:
**Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:**Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Join us each week for conversations about practical spirituality where Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh
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Other Resources mentioned in this episode:Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
In this episode, Alan and Michelle continue their conversation about the "light within the shadows," our topic for the month of May 2023. They talk about how fear keeps us from examining aspects of our inner selves that we may be uncomfortable acknowledging or facing.
Some Points Discussed During Podcast:
- Darkness as a metaphor for inner shadows
- What are shadows?
- Some of the "dark places" we tend to avoid:
- Trauma
- Repressed emotions
- Negative Beliefs
- Regrets
- Denial of harmful behavior and addictions
- Prejudices and Biases
- Many shadows from early childhood experiences
- Avoiding those space from fear of chaos, it can come out sideways.
- Develop reverence for the mystery - turn fear into reverence
- A dark space can be a safe place! There may be part of us that are needing that safety…waiting to be explored…
- Our eyes adjust to dark - as we explore our inner vision will "see more clearly"
Quotes
“Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light”, Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection, (p. 6).
“Leave the door open for the unknown, the door into the dark. That’s where the most important things come from, where you yourself came from, and where you will go.” Rebecca Solnit, A Field Guide to Getting Lost, (p. 4).
“Sitting in the shadow we may not really believe that there is any sunshine. But the sun would be there all the time ... It is there but we must awaken to it.” Ernest Holmes, The Science of Mind, (p. 411).
To find out more and connect with:
Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Join us each week for conversations about practical spirituality where Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh
Join our weekly Facebook Livestream Wednesdays at 12PM Eastern:
Other Resources mentioned in this episode:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
This month’s topic is “Light Within the Shadows…” and Alan and Michelle welcome special guest, Rev. Dr. Sunshine Michelle Coleman to this episode to share her insights on this powerful topic.
As we venture through life, we often encounter both light and dark moments. These seemingly opposite forces actually work together in harmony, each providing their unique gifts and lessons. When we embrace both light and dark, we discover the balance and growth they BOTH bring to our lives. 🌓✨
Reverend Sunshine Michelle Coleman serves as the Spiritual Director and Senior Minister at the Oakland Center for Spiritual Living and is the founding force behind the Authenticity Journey of Renewal 🌱. She has a passion for authentic self-expression and convening sacred circles. This is her fourth year serving on the CSL Global Themes Team.
Her latest article in the Science of Mind Magazine 📖 beautifully illustrates the interplay between light and darkness. She emphasizes their coexistence and mutual support, highlighting their unique characteristics and their harmonious relationship within the spectrum.
Some Points Discussed During Podcast:
- There is an inherent need to embrace these dark spaces in our journey of living out loud
- The light and dark co-exist and support each other.
- Practices to help us get acquainted with these inner part
- The importance of support
- Sunshine Michelle shares a practice from her experience, “inviting all the parts to the table”
- Our individual shifts and inner work in required for there to be a societal and outer shift.
Books Mentioned”
The Dark Side of the Light Chasers : Reclaiming Your Power, Creativity, Brilliance, and Dreams by Debbie Ford
The Shadow Effect: Illuminating the Hidden Power of Your True Self by Debbie Ford
To find out more and connect with:
Sunshine Michelle Coleman:
Websites
oaklandcsl.org
drsunshinemichelle.com
authenticityjourney.org
Social Media
Facebook: sunshine.m.coleman
Instagram: @drsunshinemichelle
Your Co-Hosts:
Michelle Wadleigh:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
Alan Vukas:
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Join us each week for conversations about practical spirituality where Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh
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Other Resources mentioned in this episode:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
In this episode Alan and Michelle begin discussing this month’s topic the “Light Within the Shadows…”
As we venture through life, we often encounter both light and dark moments. These seemingly opposite forces actually work together in harmony, each providing their unique gifts and lessons. When we embrace both light and dark, we discover the balance and growth they BOTH bring to our lives. 🌓✨
“God is an infinite Presence and an indwelling reality. The silent whisperings of this inner Presence come to each as a divine revelation, an inner communion of the individual spirit with the Over-Soul …” Ernest Holmes, This Thing Called Life (p. 108).
Some Points Discussed During Podcast:
- What do we mean by shadows?
- What causes us to avoid our shadows? What does avoiding it look and feel?
- Discussion around loneliness and importance of connection/community. (Link about advisory from US Surgeon General)
- Light and dark are two sides of the same coin. They are both necessary for a balanced and complete life.
- Michelle reads: Never Again! - A declaration of self-empowerment.(Get your copy.)
“In the stillness of the quiet, if we listen, we can hear the whisper of the heart giving strength to weakness, courage to fear, hope to despair.” Howard Thurman (reference unknown).
Next Week’s Special Guest:
Next week’s special guest is Rev. Dr. Sunshine Michelle Coleman. Contributor to this month’s Science of Mind magazine, “Light Within the Shadows” and the Spiritual Director and Senior Minister of Oakland Center for Spiritual Living. She is also the Founding Community Leader of Authenticity Journey of Renewal, a CSL Focus Ministry.
Books Mentioned”
Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself, by Lissa Rankin, MD
Other Resources mentioned in this episode:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
Join us each week for conversations about practical spirituality where Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh welcome a cast of spiritual teachers and authors to discuss spiritual, mental and emotional tools to live your authentic life out loud.
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Don't miss out on this exceptional conversation about vulnerability, self-love, and the power of embracing our true selves as Alan and Michelle welcome Catherine Duca, LCSW, as our special guest to wrap up this month's series of conversations about the power of vulnerability.
Catherine Duca is a renowned Self-Esteem Expert, Author, Speaker, Trainer, and Psychotherapist, passionately dedicated to helping her clients and audiences find love – the kind they most need to give to themselves.
You might also know her as the author of the empowering book, "UNMASKED: Discover the Hidden Power of Your True Self."
Catherine is passionate about helping her clients step away from living a life in the shadows to living from a place of greater wholeness and self-acceptance.
With her guidance, empathy and humor, her clients begin to let go of the masks they wear to hide their perceived flaws, failures or vulnerabilities and embrace instead that which is waiting beneath: their authenticity, self-mastery and deeper connection with Spirit.
Catherine earned her MSW from Rutgers University and was on the faculty of the Institute for Accelerated Empathic Therapy where she trained other therapists in transformational healing modalities.
She lives in northern NJ with her spouse Dawn, and their Morkie, Gabriella.
Her Website:
www.CatherineDuca.com
Facebook: CatherineDuca
Instagram: @Catherine.Duca
Other Resources mentioned in this episode:
Planned Happiness Institute
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
Join us each week for conversations about practical spirituality where Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh welcome a cast of spiritual teachers and authors to discuss spiritual, mental and emotional tools to live your authentic life out loud.
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Ready to embrace vulnerability and transform your life? In this episode, Alan and Michelle discuss the power of vulnerability and share tips on self-awareness, being present, and cultivating a growth mindset.
Possible barriers:
- Fear - reasonable and created
- Uncertainty
- Comparison
- Unworthiness
- Perfectionism
- Self protection
Letting go of those barriers and the inner work. It is a continuous journey that requires practice, patience, and persistence.
Vulnerability on an Individual Level
- No one can do it for us…it is an inside job
- Quote from Ernest Holmes on finding our individual connection with the Universal Spirit
“Every person is an inlet and outlet to God. The flow of creative life is from an invisible center outward, and those who follow their individual stream back to its source have found an ocean of life in which they are immersed. This Universal Spirit is where they live, move, and have their being. - Holmes”**Practical Tips for Letting Go and Letting In:
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Practice self-awareness - Self-inquiry**
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Meditation
- Journaling, contemplative practices
- Conversations with a trusted someone
Recognizing and letting go of emotions and thoughts that don't serve us
2. Being present in the moment
- Focusing on the present
- Withdrawing energy from negative thoughts and emotions
- Mindfulness
3. Cultivating a growth mindset
- Being open to new experiences
- Embracing challenges as opportunities
- Being willing to take risks and step out of our comfort zones
The Continuous Journey of Letting Go and Letting In
- The importance of practice, patience, and persistence
- The rewards of embracing vulnerability
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
Join us each week for conversations about practical spirituality where Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh welcome a cast of spiritual teachers and authors to discuss spiritual, mental and emotional tools to live your authentic life out loud.
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In this episode, our hosts, Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh, explore blocks and barriers to vulnerability, share personal stories, and provide practical tips for embracing vulnerability in your own life.
Episode Show Notes"There is something within you beyond all doubt and fear, something which has never been limited by your acts or destroyed by your feeling. This is the only something that can make you whole" (Ernest Holmes, This Thing Called You, pg. 4).
I. The importance of authenticity and the birthplace of vulnerability within us"Vulnerability is a state of emotional exposure that comes with a certain degree of uncertainty. It involves a person's willingness to accept the emotional risk that comes from being open and willing to love and be loved." (Brene Brown)
II. Barriers to Vulnerability
- Fear - fear of opinions, rejection, not being good enough
- Uncertainty - Our love for certainty and hamper our vulnerability
- Comparison - Comparing ourselves to others may cause us to hold back or "play small"
- Other examples of barriers to vulnerability:
- Perfectionism - “don’t let them see you sweat”
- Lack of trust: Trust is essential for vulnerability. Past betrayals
- Cultural/Society “norms”
- Low self-esteem/Unworthiness
“Come to the edge," he said.
“We can't, we're afraid!" they responded.
“Come to the edge," he said.
“We can't, We will fall!" they responded.
"Come to the edge," he said.
And so they came.
And he pushed them.
And they flew.”― Guillaume Apollinaire
Be gentle with yourself, especially where it is not physically safe or your vulnerable self hasn’t been earned!
III. Courage and Bravery - turning inward and speaking our truth out loud
"Bravery doesn't ask us to abandon who we are. It means living from the inside out. Brave means, in every uncertain moment, turning inward, feeling for the Knowing, and speaking it out loud. Since the Knowing is specific, personal, and ever-changing, so is bravery. Whether you are brave or not cannot be judged by people on the outside. Sometimes being brave requires letting the crowd think you're a coward. Sometimes being brave means letting everyone down but yourself." - Glennon Doyle
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Forgiving the Shadow - Beta Class with Michelle - Beginning Saturday, April 15
Center for Spiritual Living North Jersey
New Thought, New Life - Alan's Writing and Reflections
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
Join us each week for conversations about practical spirituality where Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh welcome a cast of spiritual teachers and authors to discuss spiritual, mental and emotional tools to live your authentic life out loud.
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In today's episode, we are exploring "The Power of Vulnerability" and how embracing vulnerability can lead to a more authentic and fulfilling life, with special guest, Ryan Alexander.
Rev. Ryan Alexander is the co-director and co-founder of Soul Evolution Collaborative, a Centers for Spiritual Living Teaching Center. Ryan brings both a spiritual and psychological understanding to our topic topic. Their clinical work has encompassed trauma informed care, grief therapy and end of life care in both the individual and group setting. Their passion for the Science of Mind philosophy and its continued evolution has informed both their clinical practice and ministry.
Weekly Show Notes:
Brene Brown on Vulnerability: "a state of emotional exposure that comes with a certain degree of uncertainty. It involves a person's willingness to accept the emotional risk that comes from being open and willing to love and be loved." Topics Discussed:
- What are some practical ways individuals can cultivate self-awareness and foster vulnerability in their daily lives?
- Is there a point where being too vulnerable could be detrimental to our well-being or personal relationships?
- The need to create safe spaces and communities that nurture vulnerability and authenticity
- Navigating those places where vulnerability is not welcomed or appreciated, while still embracing our authentic selves.
- In relationships where trust has been broken or compromised, how do we create a safe place to be vulnerable?
- Embracing our own vulnerability, creates a supportive and inclusive for others.
- What initiatives and program does Soul Evolution Collaborative offer that can help individuals and communities embrace vulnerability and authenticity?
To learn more about Ryan Alexander and the Soul Evolution Collaborative visit their website. Be sure to check out their upcoming events, workshops, and other resources to support your spiritual journey.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
New Thought, New Life - Blog by Alan
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
Weekly Reading: Living the Science of Mind, "Why Talk So Much about God?, The Discovery of God is Personal, The Silent One Within Us, The Presence is Peace, Joy, and Beauty" - Pages 107-115 (ISBN 0-87516-627-X)
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In this week’s episode, while Michelle is away, Alan offers some thoughts about another barrier to our authentic living: shame and unworthiness.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
New Thought, New Life - Blog by Alan
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
Weekly Reading: Living the Science of Mind, "What We Believe (continued)" - Pages 98-106 (ISBN 0-87516-627-X)
Weekly Show Notes:
“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” (The Gifts of Imperfection, Brene Brown, Pg. 50)
The Story of the Swan: The swan grew up amongst a flock of ducks, feeling different and unworthy, until it saw its reflection in a lake and realized its inherent worthiness. (adapted from "The Ugly Duckling" by Hans Christian Andersen) - We are all SWANS!
Brene Brown's definition of shame: "Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging." (The Gifts of Imperfection, Pg. 39)
Shame or unworthiness can prevent us from living authentically:
- Fear of expressing true emotions
- Struggling with self-care
- Seeking validation from others
- Perfectionism!
Some actions to take to release shame and unworthiness and embrace our authentic selves:
- Create an inventory of your triggers: Awareness is the first step in transforming these feelings and reclaiming your power. Recognizing and understanding what triggers feelings of shame and unworthiness within you can help you face them head-on.
- Share your story with a trusted person: "Shame needs three things to grow out of control in our lives: secrecy, silence, and judgment… We need to share our experience; shame loses power when it is spoken." (The Gifts of Imperfection, Pg. 40)
- Affirm your worthiness: Regularly remind yourself of your inherent worth through affirmations, such as "I am worthy. I am loved. I am enough."
Ernest Holmes: ”You belong to the universe in which you live, you are one with the Creative Genius back of this vast array of ceaseless motion, this original flow of life" (This Thing Called You, Pg. 3).
Our worthiness is our birthright, and it is not dependent on external factors or the approval of others.
Next weeks special guest - Rev. Ryan Alexander - as we dive in April into THE POWER OF VULNERABILITY!!!
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In this episode, Alan flys solo while Michelle is traveling on vacation. Be a part of this week's conversation about how, "Boundaries Build Bridges."
Setting healthy boundaries is essential for building and maintaining authentic and fulfilling relationships. When we set boundaries, we are communicating our needs and values to others, which allows for a deeper level of understanding and respect.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Book: Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free: The Ultimate Guide to Telling the Truth, Creating Connection, and Finding Freedom by Nancy Levin
Concordia Center for Spiritual Living
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
Weekly Reading: Living the Science of Mind, "What We Believe (continued)" - Pages 91-98 (ISBN 0-87516-627-X)
Weekly Show Notes:
“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” (The Gifts of Imperfection, Brene Brown, Pg. 50)
Clarifying our boundaries can lead to more authentic and fulfilling relationships:
- Builds Trust
- Honors Authenticity
- Reduces Resentment
- Encourages Mutual Respect
Boundaries are not about building walls or shutting people out, but rather about creating a safe space where both parties can feel respected and heard.
Its not possible to have compassion without boundaries and accountability!
There are several different types of boundaries, including emotional, physical, and time boundaries.
Each of us already have boundaries! It is up to us to discover and uncover them. Ask yourself:
- What am I feeling? (Emotionally and physically)
- What do I need/want in this situation, at this time?
- What is important? What do I value in this situation for myself/all?
You can easily begin where you feel irritated, frustrated - a boundary has been crossed.
Clarifying/setting boundaries can sometimes be difficult, but it is necessary for our own well-being and for the health of our relationships.
Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.” - Brené Brown, Daring Greatly
Considerations when setting and communicating boundaries:
- Be clear and concise
- Use "I" statements.
- Be willing to negotiate.
- Stick to your boundaries.
- Practice self-care.
Setting boundaries is an act of self-love and can lead to more authentic and fulfilling relationships.
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In this episode, Alan and Michelle talk about "masks." While we may wear masks in celebration, for fun, and to be safe. Masks that we wear for our hearts may keep us safe until they don’t. Vulnerability empowers us to drop the mask and let our light shine.
“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” (The Gifts of Imperfection, Brene Brown, Pg. 50)
Triggers to Mask Up:
1.Fear of rejection
2.External pressures
3.Lack of self-awareness
4.Self-doubt
5.Internalized messages
Dropping the Masks and Bushels
-Spiritual living is one of subtraction
-Masks are worn for different reasons, physical and otherwise
-Hiding our true selves can become the norm and prevent us from expressing ourselves fully. They can become our identity which is NOT our authentic self.
-Hiding our light keeps us stuck in the past and from experiencing connection and intimacy
Examples of Masks We May Wear:
- Hiding our true feelings and emotions – presenting a false front to the world and stuffing our anger or sadness so others don’t see it. I’m OK when I’m not OK.
- Pretending to be someone you're not.
- Avoiding conflict - Avoiding any disagreements or uncomfortable situations. Staying quiet when someone is mistreating you of not speaking up when you disagree
- People-pleasing - prioritize the needs and desires of others over their own. Saying Yes when you don’t want to or sacrificing yourself to be accommodating
- Keeping secrets - People often keep secrets from others, whether it's because they're ashamed of something or because they fear being judged. When we are not fully honest and transparent with others, it can lead to feelings of guilt and disconnection.
Means to Dropping the Masks
-Vulnerability is the path!
Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.” - Brené Brown, Daring Greatly
- Courageously allowing hidden parts of ourselves to be seen
-Feeling our feelings and clarifying our boundaries
-Practicing being vulnerable and becoming less sensitive to the opinions of others
Affirmation: "I have the courage to be vulnerable and let my light shine"
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Links mentioned:
Book: A Fearless Heart: How the Courage to Be Compassionate Can Transform Our Lives, by Thupten Jinpa
Book: Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof You Can Heal Yourself
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
Weekly Reading: Living the Science of Mind, "What We Believe" - Pages 83-91 (ISBN 0-87516-627-X)
In this week's episode, Alan and Michelle continue their discussion around this month's practice for living out loud...Cultivating Authenticity. Listen as they discuss things that can hold us back from expressing ourselves authentically, and mindsets to adopt to support us to let our light shine.
“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” (The Gifts of Imperfection, Brene Brown, Pg. 50)
Possible Barriers to living authentically:
- Fear of rejection: Fear of being rejected by others can prevent individuals from expressing their true selves, especially if their beliefs and values differ from those around them.
- External pressures: External pressures from family, friends, or society can also inhibit us. This can be especially true for individuals from marginalized communities who may face discrimination or stigma for expressing their authentic identities.
- Lack of self-awareness: Without self-awareness, individuals may engage in behaviors or make choices that are not in line with their true selves.
- Self-doubt: Self-doubt can lead individuals to settle for less than what they want or to avoid opportunities that could lead to personal growth and fulfillment.
- Internalized messages: Internalized messages, such as negative self-talk or messages from past experiences, can also prevent individuals from living authentically.
Movie Mentioned: Creed III
Audiobook Mentioned: A Course in Miracles Made Easy by Alan Cohen
Steps to Embracing Yourself:
- Cultivate Awareness of Who We Are
Your soul belongs to the universe. Your mind is an outlet through which the Creative Intelligence of the universe seeks fulfillment.” Ernest Holmes, This Thing Called You, Pg. 4.2
- Domestication and meeting expectations
- Self-inquiry and spiritual practices
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Daily Authenticity Checklist
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Cultivate Compassion for Self
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Develop Self-Compassion...
- Practicing gratitude and acceptance to embrace all parts
Book Mentioned: A Fearless Heart: How the Courage to Be Compassionate Can Transform Our Lives, by Thupten Jinpa
- Cultivate Courage - Deciding to Be Vulnerable
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Weekly Reading: Living the Science of Mind, "Religious Science, A Science of Religion and a Religion of Science" - Pages 69-82 (ISBN 0-87516-627-X)
In this show, Alan and Michelle begin discussing this month's practice for living out loud...Cultivating Authenticity. They discuss ideas from Alan's article in the March issue of the Science of Mind magazine. (Cultivating Authenticity From Beneath the Clay, March 2023, Pg. 104-107)
“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” (The Gifts of Imperfection, Brene Brown, Pg. 50)
- What is authenticity? Its a broad topic with room to discuss.
- What does it cost to be inauthentic?
- The story of the Golden Buddha as a metaphor for authenticity
- Know Thyself...Tools for self-inquiry, such as meditation and therapy
- Self-inquiry practice of asking oneself:
- What am I feeling?
- What do I need or truly desire?
- What is important?"
Daily Authenticity Checklist - Subscribe at www.livingoutloud.show
Join us each week for conversations about practical spirituality where Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh welcome a cast of spiritual teachers and authors to discuss spiritual, mental and emotional tools to live your authentic life out loud.
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Links mentioned:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
Weekly Reading: Living the Science of Mind, "The New Thought Movement" - Pages 64-68 (ISBN 0-87516-627-X)
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In this show, Alan and Michelle discuss how curiosity can help us uncover the "pearls" that life's irritations are offering to us. They discuss various practices and questions we can ask ourselves that can help us when the instinct may be to run.
Weekly Reading: Living the Science of Mind, "A Brief History of New Thought" - Pages 58-63 (ISBN 0-87516-627-X)
Links mentioned:
Centers for Spiritual Living
Science of Mind magazine
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In our first weekly episode, we welcome Rev. Soni Cantrell-Smith as our first guest.
Reverend Soni Cantrell-Smith is the founding Minister of Ahava Center for Spiritual Living, Lexington, Kentucky. She is steeped in the principles of Science of Mind and is a lifelong student of the philosophy.
Rev. Soni is often heard saying, "anytime we think we have all the answers, we are not asking the right questions." Curiosity has been the driver in Rev. Soni’s life. Sometimes to a greater understanding of herself and the world and sometimes to her detriment.
She currently resides in Lexington with her wife Louise, two onery cats and a border collie that doesn’t like sheep. She can be reached by email: ministercantrell@gmail.com
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Science of Mind magazine
Join us each week for conversations about practical spirituality where Alan Vukas and Michelle Wadleigh welcome a cast of spiritual teachers and authors to discuss spiritual, mental and emotional tools to live your authentic life out loud.
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In this first episode - "Episode:0," we make our introductions: who are we, what this show is about, and what you can expect in future episode.
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