Tools for the Modern Man: Recent Episodes
Pete Beskas, Certified Life Coach
Welcome to the Tools for the Modern Man Podcast!This is the place where modern men learn the tools that they’ll need to overcome modern life’s unique obstacles. If you’re challenged with balancing your work, life, parenting, relationships, growth, and all sorts of issues unique to the modern man you are in the right place.
I spent my formative years working in restaurants and I believe that a lot of who I am today was formed during that time. If you are someone who has worked in the "industry" this episode will resonate with you. And if you are not, listen anyways because you could learn a few things that may clear up.
Each stage of my development from dish pig to manger taught me valuable lessons that I use every single day. This episode dives into those lessons.
These include:
- Why it's important to soak your dishes.
- Keeping your knives sharp and working on a line.
- Dealing with difficult customers.
- The differences between being a bartender and a server.
I hope you enjoy listening to this as much as I did going down memory lane.
Pete
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**"Meeting half way results in a bad deal for both parties" - Chris Voss**
I've been waiting a while to do a podcast on this book, I just love it, Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss.
Chris Voss was a celebrated FBI hostage negotiator who become a master in negotiations. So many of the lessons I've learned through coaching was solidified by reading this book.
Chris does a masterful job, teaching each of his concepts with a field example and how it worked in real life. Concepts such as:
- Tactical Empathy
- Labelling
- Mirroring
- Why No is a good thing in negotiations
- Deadlines
- The "F" word - Fair
- Creating the illusion of control
I highly recommend this book, you will be sucked in from page one and you will learn a new way to communicate and get what you want.
Pete
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This week on the podcast I ask the question "Are you ready to be a manager?"
This is something that I've observed over my career where people grasp to move up through an organization only to be completely unprepared with the challenges and skills needed to lead people.
I share some of my own personal experiences and challenges when faced with leading and managing.
Pete
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The stoic writer Ryan Holiday wrote the book "Ego is the Enemy", which is the perfect way to sum up the role that Ego plays in leadership.
Ego does nothing to cultivate leadership qualities and in fact holds you back from achieving true success. Today I talk about things to be mindful of when addressing pride vs arrogance, and how your ego is behind it all.
It was written that "Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall."
Well that "haughty spirit" is your ego, and the sooner you face it and check it, the sooner you will accomplish that for which you are working towards.
This is another one of podcast series "The qualities of leadership", also check out "Why having standards matters", and "How to build Resilience"
If you want to learn more about leadership or how to become a better leader reach out to me to find out more.
Pete
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Today I wrap up my series on how to find your next opportunity by sharing a personal story of resilience. What I learned from being unemployed, how I set myself up to overcome adversity and how I'm always creating new opportunities for myself.
Pete
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So you've finally got the interview, now what?
Well my guest today Frank and I have got you covered!
Frank Burgoyne is an interview success coach and has decades of experience helping people prepare and successful showcase their skills and value in interviews so that they can get the jobs they want.
Frank and I talk about the importance of how to show up in interviews, what questions to ask, and how to position yourself as the only one for the job.
If you are interested in following Frank, I've including the links to website and social media profiles below:
linkedin.com/in/frankburgoyne
yourinterviewsuccess.com (Company)
instagram.com/frankthecoach/ (Personal)
And if you are struggling in any of the various phases of you career reach out for you own career strategy session HERE.
Pete
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It's been said that your network is your NET WORTH, and it's a fact.
That's why I brought in Cindy Arcuri, Cindy has spent over 25 years working for Fortune 500 companies to develop their leaders.
Cindy and I talk about the importance of your network and the value of constantly cultivating and meeting new people. We also go over how NOT TO network, how to make it easier, and more comfortable.
I really enjoyed this conversation.
If you want to learn more about networking effectively, I'd love to chat with you.
Curiosity Call
Pete
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The first step in any job hunt is updating your resume, but most people's resumes SUCK! I know because mine used to suck as well, and so many that I've read over my long career have as well.
This makes perfect sense, we aren't trained to write resumes, or promote ourselves in many cases. That is why I brought in a resume writing expert... Amanda Traugutt from Elevated Resumes.
Amanda and her business partner Allison have been doing this work for over 10 years and she has a very unique way of approaching resumes that aligns 100% with what I have seen works in the real world.
We go over all the things you need to improve your resume and make the biggest impact.
It's a great conversation that you don't want to miss out on.
Thanks again Amanda for joining me on Tools for the Modern Man.
Pete
Today I'm kicking off my series of episodes dedicated to you the W2/T4 career professional. There comes a time in every man's career when you want to make a change. Sometimes those are small pivots, sometimes they are drastic, and sometimes you don't get to choose at all.
Over the last 6 months I've been diving deep into this and been having a lot of conversations with people looking to pivot and experts who focus specifically on that.
This week however I want us to slide into thinking more about what it is we want, how are we going to get there, and then implement the skills.
Over the next few weeks I'm going to be interviewing amazing guests on the topics of Resumes, Linkedin Profiles, Networking, Interviews, and more.
So dust off some of those old skills, review your CORE VALUES & strengths assessment, and join us on this journey.
This is going to be fun
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"The standard is the standard" - Mike Tomlin
Coach Tomlin's phrase is one that I love, the standard IS the standard. But seriously, what does that mean and why is it important?
I'm a big believer is having personal and professional standards. These standards guide your path and ultimately determine your success. People see how you operate, and will choose to follow or leave based on what they see.
The biggest trick however is setting YOUR standard, are you going to set it high? Medium? Low?
As I dive further into leadership topics and traits I want to start with a review of why standards matter and help you to identify your own.
New leadership styles need to create a new environment where people are striving towards something bigger than themselves, a standard higher than they've used before.
Maybe that's why a flag is also known as a "Standard"?
Pete
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My guest today is a one of my coauthor's from Volume 10 of Cracking the Rich Code, a public speaker, a public servant with over 45 years of experience in public affairs and troubleshooting communications for the government.
His story is unique in that John has always put himself in positions to be challenged and followed his passions at every turn.
From starting off as an Electrical engineering student turned Journalist major, to 15 years in the Navy running TV/Radio/Print/Media/Training and much more. He then took these communication and leadership skills to the government where he served in the Maryland Department of the Environment, the Maryland Department of Natural Resources, as well as the Chief of Media and Community Relations for the Department of Homeland Security.
John has a lot to share in this episode, we chat about how to deal with a hostile crowd, ways to handle messaging of unpopular information and what qualities a leader needs in order to communicate effectively.
I learned a lot from John and I find that I'll be applying a lot of what he shared with me in the very near future.
You can find him at John Verrico – Share Your Fire, Leadership & Communications Life Coach & Trainer
Website: https://www.johnverrico.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnverrico/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/johnverricospeaks\
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnverrico/
The Site formerly known as Twitter: https://twitter.com/jverrico
SoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/johnverrico
It was great having him on the show.
Pete
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My guest this week is Lou Vickery, over his 80+ years on this planet Lou has had 5 distinct careers and has no intention of stopping. We have a very entertaining conversation that covers resilience, lessons learned from baseball, what it takes to change careers so many times, and the all important skill of "forgetory".
Lou's journey is amazing and started at a young age, after graduating from high school, he signed a professional baseball contract with the St. Louis Cardinals. Over a ten-year career, Lou also played for the New York Yankees organization, alongside greats like Mickey Mantle, and coached in the Cincinnati Reds organization.
Lou went back to school at 28 and received his B.S. degree from Troy State University (AL). Lou moved into the training and development field with Pat Ryan and Associates of Chicago, Ill. in l974. After 1980, he did contract training for numerous national organizations and over a thirty (30) year period worked with over 2,800 companies in 44 states and two foreign countries. Lou has spoken in every city in the USA with a population of over 150,000 people.
Lou followed up his training career by hosting a nationally syndicated radio show "Lou in the morning" for the next 17 years. All the while he's been churning out books his entire life. As a self published author of over 21 books and counting Lou continues to share his wisdom, life lessons, and stories with everyone he comes into contact with.
I highly recommend picking up Lou's book "Winning the Head Game" and stay tuned for his newest book "Hello,Let's Talk" which can be found at his website:
Lou Vickery Books
I hope that you enjoy this episode as much as I enjoyed it.
Pete
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ATOMIC HABITS by James Clear
This book continues to be a #1 Bestseller year after year and there is a reason why, it's frickin' awesome! I have listen to and read this book multiple times and every time I'm gearing up for a new challenge or trying to implement a new protocol I revisit Atomic Habits.
In this episode I do a deep dive on the book, it's main lessons and tactics.
- Four essential steps for establishing a habit:
- cue,
- craving,
- response, and
- reward,
- Awareness as the initial step in the habit-building process.
- Habit stacking, temptation building, the 2 minute rule
- The 4 tactics for establishing positive habits
- obvious,
- attractive,
- easy, and
- satisfying
- The 4 tactics for establishing positive habits
- invisible,
- unattractive,
- difficult, and
- unsatisfying
- The importance of tracking & accountability
- The "Goldilocks" zone
If you are starting a New Year's resolution and you haven't read this book, get it.
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As December is in full swing and we are all feeling the pressure of expectations, let's not forget to reset often, daily even, to be grateful.
This is something that can't be practiced enough, gratitude doesn't come naturally to most of us, and I see it everywhere. It starts with children, parents, and ultimately ourselves.
My friend quoted this;
"What if tomorrow you only had the things you were grateful for today?"
Would this change your mind about gratitude, if you didn't take 5 minutes every day to appreciate your health, your spouse, your job, your children, your house - those things would be taken from you tomorrow. How would you cherish the moment if that were the case?
I know that we all put an enormous amount of pressure on ourselves to deliver on all the wishes, but you are doing enough just by appreciating what you have, because who knows what tomorrow might bring.
Stay safe and grateful this holiday season.
Pete
I'm excited to release this podcast with my guest Dr. Keyvan Eghbali, Keyvan is a chiropractor and health coach focused on men's health, nutrition, and weight loss. He helps people improve their health through lifestyle changes rather than medication.
Kevin and I dive deep into the value of nutrition, especially as we get older, the difference between life span and
Here are some KEY TAKEAWAYS from our discussion:
- Processed and ultra-processed foods are very damaging and should be avoided. Focus on whole, natural foods.
- Added sugars are hidden in many foods under different names.
- Alcohol is very damaging as it kills healthy gut bacteria.
- Losing just 5-10 lbs can have big impacts on health markers like blood pressure and cholesterol.
- Make small, gradual changes in diet and lifestyle. Don't try to overhaul everything at once.
- Have a "big why" for making changes - a vision for your future health and longevity.
- Focus on progress, not perfection. If you take 1 step back but 2 steps forward, you're still making progress.
In addition, Keyvan gave us some tips for the Holiday's.
- Don't wait until January to start changes. Start now, so holidays are just a small blip.
- Be aware of what you're eating and make small swaps. You don't have to be perfect.
If you want to learn more follow Keyvan on Instagram, LinkedIn, or linktree.
Pete
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My guest today is Patrick Fox, he works with guys who've had enough of their lives revolving around alcohol through his program the Alcohol ReThink Project.
We dive deep into Patrick's journey from how a year long sobriety challenge changed his entire relationship with alcohol and started his movement.
We dive into the drivers of why we drink, the pressures put on us by the society that we live in to keep us tied to drinking , and how to be intentional with our drinking during the holidays.
This is a fantastic conversation and timely given that the next 6 weeks should be packed with opportunities to overindulge.
I hope you all enjoy this conversation as much as I did, if you want to find out more about Patrick I've included links to his website and podcast below:
Alcohol Rethink website
Alcohol ReThink Facebook Page
Alcohol ReThink Podcast
Have a safe and happy thanksgiving!
Pete
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In our latest episode of the Tools for the Modern Man podcast, we had the privilege of hosting Jonathan DeYoe, renowned author of "Mindful Investing" and host of the Mindful Wealth Podcast. Together, we delved into the world of mindful wealth creation, uncovering valuable insights that promise to reshape your approach to finances.
Here's a brief breakdown of the key takeaways:
1. Jonathan's Journey:
- From humble beginnings to a four-decade-long career in investing and wealth creation.
- Co-author of "Cracking the Rich Code" series, sparked by a shared passion for accessible wealth knowledge.
2. Shifting Focus to Education:
- Choosing financial education and planning over market-driven practices.
- Overcoming legal constraints to prioritize client education and planning.
3. The Pitfalls of Financial Messaging:
- Mainstream publications often focus on short-term investment advice.
- Advocacy for shifting the narrative from market trends to personal goals and values.
4. Prioritizing Well-Being:
- Identifying health and relationships as foundational elements of wealth.
- Daily practices for holistic well-being: exercise, mental health, gratitude, generosity, and meaningful work.
5. Building vs. Preserving Wealth:
- Building wealth tied to a holistic life approach, not just chasing money.
- Happiness as a byproduct of a well-lived life, not an isolated goal.
6. Challenges in Deferring Gratification:
- Cultural rush for immediate success and the importance of embracing patience.
- Making decisions for the long term in a world focused on instant results.
7. The Advisor's Role:
- Advisors as guides who say "no" when necessary.
- Emphasizing the power of a third-party perspective in minimizing conflicts and impulsive decisions.
8. The Power of Meditation:
- Recommending daily meditation for better decision-making.
- Scientific benefits: reducing the amygdala response and enhancing the frontal cortex.
9. Universal Applicability of Mindfulness:
- Encouraging mindfulness in all aspects of life, beyond finances.
- Positive impacts on reactivity and thoughtfulness in various life domains.
If you haven't listened yet, catch the full episode for an enriching conversation with Jonathan DeYoe.
Mindful Money
Mindful Money Podcast
"This is Water" Video
Feel free to share these valuable insights with your network and let's collectively embrace a mindful approach to wealth creation.
Pete
Welcome to today's podcast, this episode is a bit unique because it's a recording of one of my Strategy Sessions.
What are strategy sessions? These are my specialty, I take someone's problem and we break down what's getting in their way.
It's a pretty powerful session, some of the topics we cover:
- Getting "unstuck"
- Thinking out various ideas/opportunities
- Prioritization of opportunities
- Splitting attention
- Utilizing your skills for maximum impact
- Time auditing and optimization
- Self sabotage
- Identifying what skills are missing
"Don't follow your passion, bring passion to what you are doing"
If you have never had a strategy session this is a great example of what value you can get from spending time being guided and having someone asking the right questions.
The best part of strategy sessions is that you get CLARITY around what you want to work on and it gets you FOCUSED on what you need to do. The best part are the results, from this session alone Devin scored a sponsor for his Yerba Power Podcast.
If you are feeling unstuck or just want to learn more about getting your own strategy session use the link below to book a time to chat with me.
Strategy Session
I look forward to your strategy session.
Pete
My guest today is Steve Anderson, he was the director of the Minnesota Boys to Men Mentoring for 10 years, he's a husband and step-father to two teenage sons and in this episode he's sharing with us what he's learned on how to connect with your teenage sons, how to navigate successfully the challenges of being a step father and also the amazing rewards that come with being a positive role model and mentor in a young boys life.
We talk about what it is that teenage boys are really looking for from their male role models, how to create safety within the relationship, and what the #1 skill to learn is to deal with teens.
I hope you enjoy this episode and if you want to follow Steve and his work you can find him on Facebook at The Best Dad Project.
Pete Beskas
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I recently spent 3 days at the Dads Edge Alliance (DEA) Mastermind Summit in St. Louis, MO. This is a group of over 800 men that choose to work together to improve themselves every day as fathers, husbands, and leaders in their communities.
I was floored by the impact that such an event can have and this week's episode is a summary of all the valuable lessons, insights, and takeaways from the event.
I hope you enjoy it and if you are interested in learning more about the DEA use the link below:
https://thedadedge.com/
If you would like to speak to me about how you can uplevel your life by surrounding yourself with a coach or thought leader, use my link below:
petebeskas.com
Are you ready to kick fear in the face and unlock your full potential? 🚀
In our latest podcast episode, Pete Beskas takes us on a thrilling journey through the complex maze of "Men's Fear of Failure." Brace yourself for a rollercoaster of emotions as we explore how this fear can manifest in various ways, including the paralyzing fear of not being able to provide for one's family. But don't worry; it's not all doom and gloom!
Pete reveals how these fears can give rise to negative thought patterns like guilt, shame, and judgment. It's time to break free from the chains of insecurity and defensiveness and start living your life to the fullest.
But that's not all! Pete offers some powerful advice on how to short-circuit these self-destructive patterns, ensuring you don't spend years in misery. We're talking about fast-tracking your journey to self-improvement and conquering those fears that have held you back for far too long.
Our podcast isn't just about dwelling on fears; it's about recognizing them, understanding their impact on your life, and then taking charge. It's about building a fearless mindset and confidently pursuing your goals.
Join us on this exciting adventure as we conquer fear, embrace our true selves, and unlock the doors to a brighter future. Your journey towards personal growth and empowerment starts here!
Don't let fear hold you back any longer. Embrace it, understand it, and let it propel you toward your dreams.
Here's to a life filled with confidence, courage, and endless possibilities!
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This is a question that all the women in our life are always asking, but to tell the truth most of us don't actually know what drives us.
What are our basic needs?
It's not keeping us fed, it's not lot's of $ex, although those things are fantastic.
In this episode I discuss the three psychological needs of men:
- belonging,
- confidence,
- and freedom.
It is critically important to recognize and fulfil these needs to live a happy and satisfied life.
A lack of confidence can lead to self-destructive behavior and how being part of a group can help build confidence. Lastly, the need for freedom and autonomy in men's lives and how a lack of it can lead to feeling trapped and resentful.
So what can you do to satisfy your needs?
- Actively seek out and join a group or community to fulfill the need for belonging.
- Reflect on areas of life where freedom and autonomy may be lacking and find ways to regain control.
- Identify and take pride in a skill or area of expertise to boost confidence and self-esteem.
- Continuously strive to balance the three psychological needs for a happier and more fulfilling life.
If you want to learn more or dive deeper into how your needs are being fulfilled, schedule a call with me HERE.
See you all next week
Pete
www.petebeskas.com
Today I come back from a brief weed hiatus to muse about the last three months of the year. It's just me and my thoughts this week on the Tools for the Modern Man podcast.
Topics I chat about this week; Leaving gas in the tank, what does the perfect day look like, which season are you in?
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My guest today is a fellow coach and mentor of mine, Dex Randall.
Dex specializes in burnout recovery and today we dive into all things burnout related.
Dex shares the story of how a fit 55yr old, clean living guy had a near-fatal heart attack running on the beach all on account of burnout. He share's his steps to recovery and how he teaches others to do the same.
Dex runs his own Burnout to Leadership program, where he show's you how to get back on track with just 6 simple steps. And he guarantee's that if you follow these steps, you will see an improvement in your mood within 4 weeks. WOW now that's fast.
Thanks you Dex for joining me today!
Pete
Burnout Quiz
burn·out
/ˈbərnˌout/
- physical or mental collapse caused by overwork or stress.
- "high levels of professionalism that may result in burnout"
Burnout affects all of us at some or multiple points of our lives.
Today I share my experience with burnout, the factors that led to it, the symptoms and the final straw, my cancer diagnosis.
I talk about how it sneaks up on us, what I felt when I was completely wiped, and all the symptoms and side effects that are a result of this ever prevalent condition.
If you or a loved one feel like you may be burnt-out I created a quick 5-min quiz to help you determine if you are.
https://www.petebeskas.com/burnoutquiz
If you need help with burnout you can set up a time to talk with me at
petebeskas.com
"Retired - Enjoying life"
Why are so many of us waiting for retirement before we can allow ourselves to enjoy life? I think it's because we don't spend enough time on ourselves during the "working" years.
We love to take on more and more responsibility, commit to too many things, and carry the entire burden on our shoulders.
The term "filling your cup" is used a lot in self help and personal development and you may even use the term yourself but have you actually thought about it at length.
After a fascinating conversation I had in my men's group this topic was bounced around at length and I wanted to share my thoughts with all of you about what it means to truly fill your cup and why it's important.
So go out today and create a little joy in your life.
Pete
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After getting back from a 2 week vacation I was looking for some motivation to get back to my daily routine. The problem is that the only motivation that exists is my bodies base programming.
This base programming is known as the motivational triad and it governs everything our brain wants us to do:
- Avoid Pain
- Seek Pleasure
- Reduce Effort
This three things are the only thing we as humans are "motivated" to do.
We aren't motivated to work out, eat healthy, or work harder. So STOP 🛑 looking for motivation!
Instead I share how I deal with a lack of motivation to do the things that are good for me in this week's episode.
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This week I am sharing with all of you my guest spot on my good friend Craig Spear's podcast The Man in the Arena.
Craig was a guest on my podcast where he spit fire 🔥 on goal setting and getting together with him again to shoot the sh!t was so much fun and engaging.
Listen to us riff on my philosophy of coaching, my tools for coaching, and just a good conversation about growth with another amazing coach.
CoreValues Worksheet
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This week I share my experience with a failed High-end product, my interaction with the company, and my thoughts on what it means to create real value.
This episode will really interest anyone who is building a business, trying to find customers or clients, and in general anyone who values long term relationships.
Do you know what its costs you to acquire a new costumer?
What is the lifetime value of your client?
What is it worth to you to alienate your superfans?
Are you playing the pump and dump game in your life and business or do you have a view to the long game?
Enjoy and buyer beware!
Pete
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This week on the Tools for the Modern Man podcast I review one of my favorite books:
The Infinite Game - by Simon Sinek
I love this book! It does such a great job of highlighting what playing the infinite game is and why we should want to organize our businesses this way. But what I love best is how applicable it is to the parts in our lives that are not business focused.
How can you play the infinite game in your marriage? Parenting?
So, in the podcast I attempt to do just to this great book that I recommend everyone read.
Top themes include:
- What differentiates finite vs infinite games.
- How important creating a Just Cause is to playing the infinite game.
- What building a trusting team actually means.
- The importance of finding worthy rivals.
- The ability to be flexible and pivot when faced with a crisis.
- Do you have the courage to lead?
Read the book, share the podcast, and start the conversation.
Pete
Have you ever felt like you were exceptional?
What if I told you that you're average?
This week's episode is all about the bell curve and identifying where you are on it.
Are you in the 1% of earners?
Are you smack in the middle of weight?
Do you have a plan to separate yourself from the herd?
Pete
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I have been obsessed with this concept lately and I think it is greatly overlooked in our own personal growth and development cycle. If you look closely enough every major stage of you life follows the elements of the hero's journey.
This week I dive into my hero's journey and how I use that knowledge to encourage myself to keep going. Knowing these 12 phases will help you to see where you are and what you need to do to achieve success in your goals.
There is no quick fix solution to growth and goals, but the journey is what we have to experience in order to go from a whiny farm boy to a Jedi Knight.
If you want to learn more about the Hero's journey I recommend the book "The Hero with a Thousand Faces" by Joseph Campbell.
If you want talk about your Hero's journey reach out to me to set up a call.
Hero's Chat
Pete
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"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way" - Victor Frankl
I'm recording this podcast on The 4th of July, American Independence day and I have my own thoughts on what freedom means to me.
Freedom is not a free-for-all where you get to do whatever you want, whenever you want. That thinking is for children.
Freedom is choice.
The freedom to choose your actions/reactions to circumstances around you. Don't confuse "rights" with "freedom". Rights can be taken from you, just as easily as they were given.
Freedom is always yours.
So go an celebrate independence today and make choices that allow you to be free!
Pete
Today's guest Tim Wagner is a professional pointer & certified transformational breathwork coach.
Tim uses deep breathwork to help his clients release trauma so they can create space to create the life they want.
This episode was so much fun to record because Tim and I riff on everything from mid-life resets, the events that changed our lives, the importance of a guide, my experience with deep breathwork, and so much more.
Tim discusses how to use breathwork to change your state and how to link it to personal growth.
BONUS TOOL:
Tim walks us through a Box Breathing exercise that you can use every day to reduce your stress and improve your focus.
Below you will find all the links to Tim's monthly breathwork sessions, or just to follow him for more of his breath hacks.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/professionalpointer/
https://professionalpointer.com/
My guest today is the founder and owner of Super Human Fathers, Kyle Carnohan.
Kyle is a master motivator and his life experience of working as a firefighter, father of 5, a husband of over 20 years and full life transformation is a story worth listening to.
Kyle talks about his life as a firefighter, what got him into coaching, and how he gets men to transform their lives.
The superhuman father motto is "We do the most, we need the least".
What makes up a Super Human Father:
- Character
- Integrity
- Discipline
- Nutrition
- Fitness
- Being a warrior monk
Follow him on LinkedIn or schedule a time to talk with Kyle.
https://www.superhumanfathers.com/shf-interview
https://www.instagram.com/superhumanfathers
Can you pin point one thing that you want to change?
Did you know that you just have to make one small change and watch how the domino effect changes everything around you?
Changing the big things is a matter of changing one thing at a time.
What is going to be your first domino?
If you need help with this set up a call with me at
petebeskas.com
Pete
What is BrainBS and what do we need to learn to overcome it? In today's episode of the podcast I have THE BrainBS coach Maureen Kafkis.
Maureen Kafkis is the host of the Brain BS Podcast.
She blends together thought work, emotional intelligence, Human Design and Universal Law to empower humans to master their brain BS (aka. subconscious programming) for success and create a nervous system to support it.
Maureen is a doctor of occupational therapy, a certified life coach, and an expert on brain BS. Her mission is to motivate humans to learn how to live consciously and manage their minds on purpose so they can create a fulfilling life free of needless suffering.
I know you are just going to love listening to this episode as much as I enjoyed recording it.
Website link
https://www.thebrainbs.com/
The Brain BS Podcast Community on FB
https://www.facebook.com/groups/651943403024186
"You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you'll find, you get what you need" - Mick Jagger
Today I talk about how getting caught up in wants and desires can derail us from truly getting what we need to be happy in our lives.
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On today's episode we have Tommy Geary.
He's a certified life coach, father of two, husband, and all around amazing guy. Today we discuss what it takes for a relationship to thrive after big life changes.
- Infertility
- Adoption
- Working for your spouse
- Building a business together
If you want to learn more about Tommy reach out to him at https://www.tommygcoaching.com/ or listen to him on his podcast
The Durable Dad
Ice baths and cold exposure has been popularized by leading scientists Dr. Susanna Søberg and Andrew Huberman. The topic has even been tackled by Chris Hemsworth in his Disney Series Limitless.
Today's guest, Kevin Connelly, is a cold exposure and deep breathing practitioner and coach and he details how ice bath treatments helped him overcome depression and anxiety.
Kevin goes over how someone can get started with cold exposure, things to consider if you are starting and why the treatment is so effective at treating mental, physical, and even sexual performance.
Some quick tips that Kevin highlights if you are thinking about using cold exposure treatment:
- Aim to achieve a minimum of 10-12min of cold exposure per week
- Water temp should be between 2 - 5 deg Celsius
- Do it with a friend, it helps with accountability and bonding
- Document it! Share it with your social network and encourage others to try it.
If you are interested in working with Kevin directly or learning more from him.(www.kevinpconnelly.com)
If you're looking to get an ice bath setup at home I've included a link to an ice bath that Kevin is creating for home use. (www.avocadoicebath.com)
And if you are in Playa Del Carmen pop into his facility and enjoy a beachside ice bath treatment. (https://www.reconnect.mx/)
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you feel like you're constantly judging and criticizing yourself? You're not alone. We all have an inner critic, that little voice in our head that tells us we're not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough. But what happens when that inner critic becomes our worst enemy?
The truth is, we are often our own worst critics. We hold ourselves to impossibly high standards, compare ourselves to others, and beat ourselves up when we fall short. This constant self-criticism can take a toll on our mental health, self-esteem, and overall well-being.
So, how do we overcome self-criticism and become our own best cheerleader?
That's what I dive into this week on the podcast.
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This episode is brought to you by LIFE.
How do you react when all your plans blow up?
Well, today’s episode is me telling you how I handled it.
Not everything you do will be an A, and that’s ok.
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Today we will dive into Part 2 of Mike's journey to the top of Mt. Everest.
This is where the culmination of 6 years of work finally comes to fruition.
From the uncertainty of acclimatizing to Everest's altitude and climate, to making a fateful choice that led to a once in a lifetime opportunity, and the afterglow following the descent.
Mike and I also talk about the ripples effects of such an accomplishment, what was learned on the backend, and what's in store for the future.
Wow, what a story!
Thanks again to Mike for graciously telling it.
At a height of 29,029ft Mt. Everest is the tallest mountain on the planet. To many it is seen at the pinnacle of individual achievement. Man's quest to overcome the great of challenges.
The weather is harsh and unpredictable, high winds, freezing temperatures, and sudden storms are the norm here. Steep ice walls, exposed ridges and treacherous crevasses also add to the challenge of conquering this mountain.
In order to be successful you have to master every part of yourself mentally and physically, not to mention have a bit of luck on your side.
As of July 2022, there have been approximately 11,346 summit ascents by 6,098 people.
Today on the Tools for thee Modern Man Podcast I am fortunate enough to have one of those rare individuals on the show.
My friend Mike Mulrooney.
I've known Mike for over 20 years and I when we first met back in 2001 there is no way I would predict that this man would achieve something most people never dare to even dream about.
I hope you enjoy listening to Mike's story from sitting on his couch watching a show that sparked an idea which led him on a 6 year journey to summit the earth's highest peak.
"If something can go wrong it will" - Murphy's Law
Every plan encounters obstacles and that's true of any goal or challenge.
The bigger the goals the bigger the obstacles.
Today I share my views on all the obstacles, different ways to approach them, and finally what to do that works best for you.
If you are struggling with a new goal or need a new plan download my planning guide HERE.
Don't forget to order the 10th edition of Cracking the Rich Code, which will help you with all things to create wealth in your life.
In this episode I summarize and give my thoughts on the book "The 12 Week Year" by Brian Moran and Michael Lennington.
"The 12 Week Year" is a New York Times bestseller and develops great ideas and tactics on how to execute your goals using a 12 week system. Some of the ideas that I go over are:
- Redefining the year
- Intentionality and intentional imbalance
- The 3 Principles
- The 5 Disciplines
- The 5 Stages of Change
- Strategic vs To-do's
This book is a great resource and I highly recommend it.
Here's a link to their site The 12 Week Year Book
I also have a resource that you can use to create your own 12 week year that you can get HERE
What makes up a good plan?
Is it a SWOT analysis? Knowing which strategies to use? Is it using the 7 principles?
I'm going to show you how it's all of these things and none of them.
Planning can be hard, but it doesn't have to be.
A plan really boils down to these 3 things:
- A goal worth chasing.
- A timeline in which to achieve it.
- Measurable actions with which to track your progress.
That's it, clean and simple.
If you are really interested in learning more, Pre-Order my new book Cracking the Rich code and get my chapter "The Man with a Plan" as a pdf ahead of the book release!
www.petebeskas.com/mybook
Welcome to Spring! 🌼
This episode is setting up a month of planning.
It doesn't matter what you want to accomplish having a plan is a critical step in the process.
I'm laying the foundations for future episodes where we will roll up our sleeves and execute our plans to achieve our goals!
I also want to announce the pre-release of my NEW book Cracking the Rich Code.
I'm proud of being a collaborator with 19 other authors to share our knowledge, life lessons, and strategies on how to create a rich life.
Pre-order your copy now!
Cracking the Rich Code
On this episode of the Tools for the Modern Man Podcast I have a very special guest, Craig Spear.
Craig is a veteran of the Canadian Football League, a record holding alumni of Queen's University, an entrepreneur, and a fitness coach.
Craig uses his Spear Method to help men over 40 who want to improve their health and fitness so that they can perform better in all the facets of their lives.
In today's episode we discuss:
- How goal setting helped Craig to achieve success in college and the CFL as a professional athlete.
- How goal setting changed as he left the sport to pursue he next phase of life.
- How he uses goal setting with his clients
- Lessons he's learned along the way that has given him new insights to how to achieve goals in your life.
Listen through to the end to hear Craig's story of his "Escape from Alcatraz" triathlon experience as well as some insightful discussion on what makes a goal truly effective.
You can learn more about Craig at his website https://www.thespearmethod.com.
Listen to his new podcast Man in the Arena https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/man-in-the-arena-with-craig-spear/id1674190576
Or follow him on Instagram @ https://www.instagram.com/thespearmethod/ or on LinkedIn @ https://www.linkedin.com/in/craigspear/
In today's episode I talk about goals and goal setting.
- Why are goals important?
- How to figure out my goals?
- What makes a good goal?
If you want to find out more go to https://www.petebeskas.com
"He who has a WHY to live for can bear with almost any how." - Nietzsche
In today's episode I'm talking a bit about your why, your purpose.
How is your why, your hero's journey.
How does knowing your purpose bring all the other fundamentals together.
Why it's hard to be true to your other values if you don't have a why.
If you want to learn more join our mailing list at www.petebeskas.com
Building on last weeks episode on strengths, this week I bring in an expert in the field of Strengths and how to use them to increase your effectiveness in work and life.
My guest this week is Dr. Lee Koles!
She is THE career strategist for ambitious people who are ready for what's next.
Her expertise includes:
- Ph.D. in Industrial/Organizational Psychology
- Certified Life Coach
- Gallup Certified Clifton Strengths Coach
- Over 20 years of experience in interview design, employee recruitment and selection processes at independent, private and government organizations
Lee is also the host of her own podcast Career Sequel, where she tackles all sorts of issues that face people in the workplace.
In this episode I get treated to an assessment of my top 5 Strengths and how they work to enhance my work and life. Lee dives deep into how my strengths show up in my work and things that I need to be aware of that could be preventing me from using these tools to their fullest potential.
I hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as I did recording it.
If you are interested in having your own strength assessment done by Dr. Lee go to her website HERE
You can get started by taking the High5Test, this is a free test that will give you your top 5 strengths.
High5 Strengths Test
(I am not affiliated in any way with High5)
If you are curious and want to get your complete strengths assessment, I've attached a link to the Clifton Strengths site.
Clifton Strengths Assessment
(I am not affiliated in any way with Gallop or Clifton Strengths)
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This week I dive into another fundamental tool you need in your toolbox - Strengths.
In this episode I discuss:
- the importance of identifying you strengths,
- the positive and negative aspects, and
- how awareness of these strengths can amplify your success
I'll also attach a link to the Clifton Strengths assessment that I use and will give you the most robust analysis of your unique strength fingerprint.
https://store.gallup.com/p/en-us/10003/cliftonstrengths-34
(I am not affiliated in any way with Gallop or Clifton Strengths)
If you are looking for a free alternative try High5Test, this will give you the top 5 strengths where you can get started right away.
https://high5test.com/cliftonstrengths-free/
(I am not affiliated in any way with High5 either)
Don't forget to join my mailing list to stay in the loop on future pod's and events.
In today's episode I go over the importance of Vision in creating your life and a simple exercise on how to do it.
In this episode I'm delighted to have Dr. Nick Sotelo as my guest to talk about Core Values.
Nick specializes in:
- Helping men overcome destructive anger
- Helping mental health clinicians build thriving private practices
- Guiding men and women develop the mindset, focus, and daily actions required to reach their goals
If you want to take Nick up on his offer to audit your core values use this link: https://www.nicksotelo.com/corevalues
And if you're looking to take the core values exercise, I've included a link to my core values exercise: https://www.petebeskas.com/corevalues
This is a must for everyone who's at the beginning of their self discovery.
CORE VALUES
You don't know where you're going, what decisions are good for you, or if you have alignment without them.
Use the link below to download my CORE VALUES worksheet and define yours.
https://www.petebeskas.com/corevalues
In my inaugural episode I want to go over why we need to learn new tools for our lives. What does it mean to plateau and what can we do to reach the next level.
Welcome to the Tools for the Modern Man Podcast.
I can't wait to share with you all the lessons, tools, and insights that I've learned over my life as an engineer, manager, entrepreneur, life coach, husband, and father.
Most of us never learn what's really important for success growing up, and we definitely were never taught them in school.
This podcast with help you with that! I will share what I've learned as well as have experts on to dive deeper into all the important areas of our lives so that you are armed with the tools to enjoy the life you have created.