Dating Without Drama: Recent Episodes

Lisa Shield

Listen, as love coach and heart-opening expert, Lisa Shield, shares the revolutionary approach she gives her successful female clients to attract an amazing partner who is on their level and wants to enjoy everything life has to offer with them. Lisa and her husband, Benjamin Shield Ph.D., have been passionately in love for 19 years. Every Tuesday DWD offers Getting Inside the RIGHT Male Mind, where the two of them bust common dating myths, give you a window into their unconditionally loving relationship, and show you how to attract a Guardian of Your Soul for the rest of your life. Thursday episodes, Lisa explores topics, and answers those burning q's from listeners longing to become emotionally naked daters! Book a Call With Lisa - Www.Lisashield.com/apply

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

Fear of vulnerability and its impact on connection
The need to let your guard down and show your true self to attract emotionally available partners
Unrealistic expectations in searching for a partner
The tendency to look for stereotypes rather than real, authentic individuals
The drawbacks of finding a partner who fits stereotypes and lacks authenticity
The glorification of busyness and its impact on making time for a relationship
Overanalyzing and creating unnecessary problems
Magnifying small issues and creating unnecessary hurdles in the relationship
Avoiding conflict and the consequences
The fear of conflict and the reluctance to address important questions or conversations
The impact of suppressing feelings and avoiding crucial discussions on building closeness

Key quotes:

"A lot of women aren’t looking for a real man. They’re looking for a stereotype or an archetype that doesn't really exist." — Lisa Shield

"Being busy is not necessarily a good thing. If your calendar is so packed that you don't have time for a relationship, then you're not going to be able to make room for a man in your life." — Lisa Shield

"I see this so often with our clients. We literally beg them to have conversations with the men that they're seeing she they can get clear on where the relationship is going. Unfortunately, because the guy is continuing to make dates with them, they wind up going along with the guys and wasting precious time because they don't want to rock the boat." — Lisa Shield

"Playfulness is a form of vulnerability. To be playful, you cannot be self-conscious and second-guessing yourself. You need to be in the moment and at ease." — Lisa Shield

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In this special Valentine’s Day episode, Lisa Shield speaks directly to anyone who feels lonely, discouraged, or uncertain about love during a holiday centered around romance. She shares a compassionate and empowering perspective on how to transform Valentine’s Day into a meaningful experience, even if you are single.

Lisa introduces the idea that your future partner, the “guardian of your soul,” may already exist and that both of your lives are moving toward alignment. Drawing from her own love story, she explains how personal growth, timing, and readiness must come together for love to unfold.

She offers practical ways to spend Valentine’s Day intentionally, including:

Visualizing your future partner and the life you will share
Writing a heartfelt love letter to the guardian of your soul
Creating rituals that open your heart and clarify what you truly want
Releasing self doubt and allowing yourself to ask for the love you desire
Strengthening belief, intention, and emotional readiness for partnership

Lisa also reminds listeners that love can be found again after loss, heartbreak, or years of searching. With hope, conviction, and personal growth, meaningful partnership is possible.

If you’ve ever struggled with Valentine’s Day as a single woman, this episode offers a new way to experience the day with purpose, imagination, and emotional connection to the love that is still ahead.

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Men need romantic energy, not just good conversation, to feel connection.
Many “great” first dates fail because no spark is created.
Playfulness opens attraction without requiring sex.
Female embodiment begins with confidence and being present in your body.
The “bell jar” effect creates deep emotional connection by focusing fully on each other.
Men are often afraid of rejection and shame, so they wait for women to signal openness.
Touching your own body, hair, or leaning in subtly invites masculine energy.
Playfulness comes from the heart. Flirting can feel strategic or manipulative.
Sensuality is different from overt sexuality.
A good man understands that playfulness does not equal instant sex.
You always have the power to say no while staying warm and playful.
Boundaries work best when delivered with softness and humor.
Learn the difference between the short game (fast sex) and long game (emotional foundation).
High caliber women naturally inspire men to play the long game.
If a man pushes too far, playful boundary phrases preserve attraction.
Real intimacy grows from friendship, trust, safety, and shared experience.
Playfulness mirrors a man’s masculinity back to him and builds emotional investment.

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“We need to talk” triggers stress, shame, and emotional withdrawal in men.
Men are sensitive to shame; women are sensitive to fear and disconnection.
Connection matters more than conversation.
Being “right” often costs intimacy.
Men process internally and need space before opening up.
Try softer openings like:
“I’d love your help with something.”
“Can I share something with you when you’re ready?”
Avoid language that feels critical or disappointing.
Benjamin’s 4 steps for conflict:
Take a breath
Remember the whole relationship
Find perspective or humor
Choose words that bring you closer

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In this episode, you’ll explore:

Why core values are fundamentally different from preferences—and why they matter so much in intimate relationships
How cultural, religious, and societal pressures can deeply influence romantic compatibility
Why avoiding difficult conversations around values creates emotional distance, even in otherwise “good” relationships
What it truly means to be a Guardian of Your Soul—and why mutual alignment is essential
How love does not require bending, silencing, or betraying your deepest beliefs
Why trying to “make it work” with misaligned core values often leads to resentment or emotional disconnection
The empowering truth that choosing alignment is not rejection—it’s self-respect
How clarity around your values helps you date with purpose and avoid wasting precious time
Why standing for what you believe in creates stronger polarity, deeper intimacy, and lasting connection

Key takeaway:
You don’t have to compromise who you are to be loved. The right relationship allows you to stand fully in your values while walking through life side by side—looking in the same direction.

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Episode Title: Never Rush Into a Relationship
Podcast: Getting Inside the Right Male Mind
Hosts: Lisa Shield & Benjamin Shield

What This Episode Covers:In this episode, Lisa and Benjamin explain why intense chemistry is not a reliable indicator of long-term compatibility—and why so many people confuse emotional fireworks with real love.

They explore:

🔹 Why People Rush Into Relationships* Romantic movies, media, and cultural myths teach us that love should be instant and dramatic. * Loneliness and fear of missing out push people to “lock it in” too fast. * Men may rush to “seal the deal” out of fear of losing a woman. * Women may rush because of time pressure, biological concerns, or emotional longing.

🔹 The Hidden Cost of Rushing* Repeating old relationship patterns without understanding why. * Wasting years with emotionally unavailable or mismatched partners. * Financial loss through divorce, breakups, and starting over. * Emotional burnout from anxious-avoidant cycles. * Lost opportunities for true intimacy and growth. * Impact on children when unhealthy relationships collapse.

🔹 What Real Love Is Built OnLisa and Benjamin emphasize that lasting relationships are built on:

Emotional safety
Trust
Shared experiences
Shared values
Emotional availability
Consistency between words and actions
Mutual generosity and effort

Not chemistry alone.

🔹 Why Time Is Your Most Precious ResourceThey explain how time—not attraction—is what reveals someone’s true character:

How they treat others
How they handle stress
How they show up consistently
Whether they make space for you in their life

🔹 How to Date Consciously Instead of DesperatelyThey discuss practical ways to slow down:

Dating multiple people instead of fixating on one
Not rushing into exclusivity
Waiting before becoming sexual
Doing background checks
Listening to your gut
Watching for inconsistencies
Not ignoring red or yellow flags

🔹 What It Means to Find the “Guardian of Your Soul”This episode introduces the concept of choosing a partner not based on fantasy—but based on emotional maturity, safety, and alignment.

A guardian of your soul is someone who:

Protects your emotional well-being
Respects your boundaries
Grows with you
Sees you
Chooses you consistently

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Why men often talk too much or too little on dates
How nervousness, insecurity, and fear of silence affect male communication
The difference between monologuing and relational conversation
Why many men don’t ask questions—and what that actually means
When excessive talking is about anxiety, not narcissism
Why quiet men may be introverted, inexperienced, or emotionally guarded
How shaming shuts men down emotionally
Simple ways to respond when a man dominates the conversation
Why activity-based dates help quieter men open up
How emotional safety and engaged listening create real connection

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Men form strong first impressions visually—and those impressions are hard to undo

Overdressing can signal:

High maintenance expectations
Insecurity or compensation
Emotional distance or self-absorption

Underdressing can signal:

Low interest or effort
Ambivalence about the date
Lack of consideration for the man or occasion

Men subconsciously ask:

“Can I relax with her?”
“Would I feel proud introducing her to my world?”

Clothing that feels like a costume blocks authentic connection

Too much makeup, jewelry, fake lashes, extreme heels, or overly sexualized outfits are common turn-offs

Showing too much skin can create mixed signals and embarrassment rather than attraction

Comfort in one’s body is one of the biggest turn-ons for men

Classic, understated, well-fitted clothing is often the safest and most attractive choice

A crisp white button-down, flattering jeans, and comfortable boots are suggested as a reliable first-date outfit

Dating is about approachability, warmth, and emotional availability—not dazzling or performing

Authenticity allows a man to imagine a future, not just admire an image

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Why a man’s inability to commit often has nothing to do with the woman
The crucial difference between emotional avoidance and emotional incapacity
How lack of emotional modeling shapes adult relationships
Why sexual chemistry can mask emotional disconnection
The danger of “persona dating” and performative intimacy
How rushing intimacy sabotages long-term connection
Signs you’re waiting for emotional depth that may never come
Why you can’t change someone who hasn’t done their inner work
What emotionally available love actually looks like
How slowing down creates space for real connection and trust

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What This Episode Covers Why the “Where is this going?” conversation often feels logical to women—but threatening to men * How men show commitment through consistency, protection, and integration rather than labels * The difference between relationship progression and relationship pressure* * Why anxiety (even when unspoken) undermines attraction and emotional safety * How timing and delivery determine whether a commitment conversation brings a man closer—or pushes him away

Key Insights Men often interpret direct commitment questions as a sign they’ve already failed to meet expectations * A man who is progressing naturally may feel there is “nothing more he can do” when pressed for certainty * Emotional safety—not verbal assurance—is what allows men to open up and move forward * Praise, appreciation, and acknowledgment of what is* working create more clarity than interrogation * Actions over time provide more reliable information than verbal promises

Practical Takeaways* Start commitment conversations from appreciation, not concern * Replace direct demands for definition with open-ended invitations to share * Give men time to process emotional questions instead of requiring immediate answers * Observe behavior patterns rather than relying on verbal reassurance * Treat dating like a skill set—timing, tone, and awareness matter

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In this heartfelt and timely conversation, Lisa and Benjamin address the rising fear, frustration, and confusion many women feel around dating today. With reproductive rights rolling back, misogynistic voices getting louder, and gender tensions increasing, it’s natural to question whether emotionally secure, equality-minded men still exist.

Inside this episode, they explore:

Why today’s political and cultural climate is impacting women’s trust in men
How insecurity drives controlling or misogynistic behavior
Why extreme male influencers gain traction—and why they’re not the norm
How women can date with both softness and boundaries
Practical ways to evaluate a man’s character over time
Why slowing down is essential for emotional safety
How to hold onto hope without being naïve
The kind of partnership both men and women are truly longing for

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In this episode, Lisa and Benjamin explore:

🔹 The Hidden Cost of Survival ModeHow stress, overthinking, and constantly being “on” create invisible emotional armor

Why most accomplished women don’t realize they’re broadcasting tension

How burnout leads to protection mode, emotional walls, and shutdown

🔹 What Men Actually Feel Around a Woman in Survival ModeBenjamin breaks down:

Why men physically feel your tension in their bodies

How survival mode reads as rejection, dismissal, or “I don’t need you”

Why men feel unsure, anxious, or useless when you’re overwhelmed

How this energy kills playfulness, chemistry, and romantic momentum

🔹 The Dating DisconnectWhat happens when women confuse venting with vulnerability

How oversharing, rapid-fire questions, or emotional dumping shuts men down

Why many women walk away saying, “No chemistry,” when it’s really survival mode blocking connection

How men interpret disconnection, busyness, or rushing from one task to the next

🔹 Playfulness: The Missing IngredientWhy playfulness is essential for attraction — especially for masculine men

How survival mode narrows your perception and eliminates play

What presence feels like to a man, and why it instantly creates chemistry

The difference between being independent vs. emotionally inaccessible

🔹 Simple Shifts to Get Out of Survival Mode (Even On a Date)Lisa and Benjamin share practical tools:

A single deep breath that resets the energy instantly

How to acknowledge stress without dumping

How to communicate authentically when you’re not at your best

Small rituals that bring you back into your body before a date

A pattern interrupt technique to reset the tone mid-date

🔹 What Men Do When They Are in Survival ModeWhy men may default to short-term relationships when overwhelmed

How masculine men pull themselves out of the dating pool

How stressed men may be drawn to stressed women for the wrong reasons

🔹 The Path Back to ConnectionHow presence, softness, and playfulness draw in high-caliber men

How vulnerability (not oversharing) opens the door to real intimacy

Why partnership allows women to finally rest, soften, and feel supported

Why being in a safe relationship creates space for authenticity, emotions, and ease

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How do men know when a woman is “the one” — and what makes them decide to commit for the long term? In this revealing conversation, Lisa and Benjamin Shield unpack one of the biggest mysteries in dating: how men truly evaluate compatibility, emotional safety, and respect.

You’ll discover:

-The subtle signals men look for when deciding if a woman is long-term material
-Why emotional safety and respect matter more than chemistry or shared goals
-The difference between liking a woman and seeing a future with her
-How to express vulnerability in a way that draws a man closer — not pushes him away
-What successful, self-aware women unknowingly do that can make high-quality men pull back

This episode offers a rare look inside the real decision-making process of emotionally available men — and shows how to meet them at that level with authenticity and confidence.

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In this episode, Lisa and Benjamin Shield explore:

-The three biggest fears men face in relationships — losing independence, disappointing a woman, and emotional vulnerability.
-Why even strong, loving men can feel trapped or judged — and how that impacts their ability to commit.
-The emotional difference between “disappointing” and “shaming” a man (and why one word can shut him down).
-How to create emotional safety that makes men want to open up, instead of withdraw.
-The art of communicating boundaries and appreciation without losing your authenticity or feminine power.

Key Takeaway:
Understanding what drives men emotionally doesn’t mean shrinking yourself to fit their needs — it means mastering the dynamics that allow two powerful people to thrive together.

Tune in for an eye-opening dialogue that helps successful women elevate love with the same intelligence and self-awareness they bring to every other part of their lives.

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In this quick but powerful episode, Lisa Shield shares four down-and-dirty tips every woman should know about what makes her unforgettable in the eyes of a man. With her signature warmth and insight, Lisa breaks down the essential traits that men are secretly craving in their dream woman. If you're ready to stop guessing and start attracting a high-quality man, this episode is your wake-up call.

Key Highlights:

Playfulness

A light-hearted, spontaneous attitude is incredibly attractive.
Playful teasing, laughter, and having fun together deepen the connection.
You don’t need to be a flirt—just be open to having fun and being in the moment.

Sensuality

Embrace your senses—sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell.
It’s not about being overtly sexual—it’s about being grounded and fully alive.
Let yourself be present and expressive, and men will be drawn to your feminine energy.

Warmth

Genuine warmth makes a man feel safe, seen, and emotionally connected.
Show empathy and emotional availability—especially when he's vulnerable.
Small gestures, like a gentle touch or holding space for him, go a long way.

Self-Sufficiency

Men want women who are whole and happy on their own.
Self-sufficiency means you can enjoy your life even when he's not around.
Avoid appearing overly needy—be secure and confident in yourself.

Memorable Quote:
"Be the woman who makes him laugh, dream, and admire—not because you need him, but because you choose him."

Want More?
Ready to dive deeper into your romantic journey? Visit LisaShield.com to watch the free presentation and apply for Lisa’s Emotionally Naked Dating Course—a life-changing 4-month experience that teaches you how to attract the Guardian of Your Soul.

Resources:

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Finding the Guardian of Your Soul with Lisa Shield
Episode Title: “Is Your Success Intimidating Men… or Is It Something Else?”

Welcome to Finding the Guardian of Your Soul! I'm your host, Lisa Shield, and I’m thrilled to have you here. Please share this episode with your single girlfriends, guy friends, and anyone navigating the dating world. What we discuss here is something you won’t hear from other coaches—I bring a unique lens to the challenges smart, successful women face in modern dating.

In this episode, we’re diving deep into a common and frustrating narrative: “Men find me too intimidating.”
You’ve worked hard, climbed the ladder, built a life you’re proud of—so why does it feel like your success is working against you in dating?

I’ll share powerful insights from nearly 25 years of experience, including:

Why it’s not your success that’s turning men away—but how you're presenting it
The difference between being confident vs. coming across as masculine
How to embrace your femininity without “dumbing yourself down”
Why men do want strong, successful women—and how to let them in
The importance of learning to receive, not reject, a man's gestures

You don’t need to be less of who you are—you just need to learn how to show up in your full, feminine power.

Whether you're getting lots of first dates but no meaningful connections—or you're just tired of hearing that you're “too much”—this episode is for YOU.

Resources:

- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page

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The SPECIFIC Dating Challenges Successful Women Face (and how to overcome them)

In this episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' Lisa Shield, a love coach for over two decades, discusses the unique dating challenges successful women face and provides practical solutions to overcome them. Lisa covers key topics, including time management, dealing with intimidating men, and emotional availability. She shares actionable steps to fit dating into a busy schedule, the importance of embracing feminine energy, and becoming emotionally open with potential partners. Tune in for valuable insights and tips on finding your guardian of your soul.

Highlights:

Time Management Challenges
Intimidating Men
Emotional Availability
Solutions and Closing

Resources:

- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page

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In this episode, Lisa and Benjamin Shields discuss the complex emotions and pitfalls surrounding the question, 'Can we still be friends?' after a romantic relationship ends. They delve into the reasons why people might hold on to these 'friendships,' the emotional distress and false hopes it creates, and offer advice on how to move forward in a healthy manner.

Highlights:

The Real Reasons Behind 'Can We Still Be Friends?'
Consequences of Staying 'Friends'
Personal Anecdotes and Observations
The False Hope Cycle
When to Cut Ties
Case Study: A Year-Long Obsession
Compartmentalization and Friends With Benefits
Impact on Self-Esteem and Mental Health

Resources:

- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page

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Lisa Shield delves into the crucial distinction between love bombing and real love. She shares her own experiences and insights on how to identify a love bomber, highlighting red flags such as over-the-top affection, constant communication, lavish gifts, and pressing for quick commitment. Lisa contrasts this with the slow, steady development of real love, emphasizing the importance of boundaries, consistency, and mutual respect. She offers practical advice on protecting your heart, setting and reinforcing boundaries, and listening to your intuition. Lisa passionately encourages taking time to truly get to know a partner and underscores the value of emotional nakedness and vulnerability in fostering genuine connections. Tune in to learn how to safeguard yourself against love bombers and open the door to lasting, meaningful relationships.

Highlights:

Understanding Love Bombers

Love bombers overwhelm you with attention, affection, and gifts to quickly win your trust.
They often exhibit narcissistic traits and may have avoidant personality disorders.

Characteristics of Love Bombers

Over-the-top affection too soon.
Constant attention and intense communication.
Lavishing gifts and grand gestures.
Putting pressure to commit quickly.

Characteristics of Real Love

Develops gradually with mutual respect and understanding.
Establishing a foundation of friendship first.
Consistency, reliability, and genuine interest in each other's goals.
Willingness to have difficult conversations and respect for boundaries.

Protecting Yourself from Love Bombers

Slow down and honor your own pace.
Set and reinforce clear boundaries.
Stay connected with friends and family who can offer objective perspectives.
Look for consistent actions over grand promises.
Listen to your intuition and trust your gut feelings.

Key Takeaway

Authentic relationships build over time with open communication, mutual respect, and emotional vulnerability. Avoid rushing into commitments and prioritize finding a partner who truly values and respects you.

Resources:

- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page

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Unlock the Secret: How to Attract High-Quality Men

In this episode, Lisa Shield delves into the intricacies of attracting high-quality men and the concept of Emotionally Naked Dating. She shares her personal journey, offers insights into shifting perspectives, and discusses the importance of genuine emotional vulnerability. Lisa provides practical advice on how women can embrace their femininity, build emotional connections, and approach dating with authenticity and confidence.

Highlights

The Struggle of Attracting High-Quality Men
Importance of Shifting Perspectives
Steps to Real Confidence and Authenticity
What is Emotionally Naked Dating?
Interactive Visualization Exercise
Meeting High-Quality Men
Self-Compassion and Emotional Vulnerability

Resources:

- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page

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In this episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul," host Lisa Shield delves into the often overlooked and taxing endeavor of trying to fix or change men in relationships. Lisa, a relationship expert, shares her personal journey and the important lessons she’s learned along the way about recognizing and overcoming codependency in relationships.

Highlights:

Personal Reflection on Past Relationships: Lisa discusses her first marriage and how persistent financial disagreements highlighted deeper issues of codependency and unmet expectations.
The Codependency Trap: Explains how codependency is a form of people addiction, where both partners rely on each other to fill emotional voids, leading to stagnation and mutual unhappiness.
Impact on Men: Discusses how efforts to fix or change a man can feel emasculating and create an unhealthy power imbalance, ultimately damaging the relationship.
Steps to Break Free: Emphasizes the importance of self-improvement and taking personal responsibility as crucial steps towards attracting a partner who is a true equal and not a project.
Final Five Concept: Introduces the concept of the "Final Five," a list of non-negotiable attributes that one must look for in a partner to avoid settling for less than they deserve. Lisa concludes by inviting listeners to visit her website, join the Facebook group "Finding The Guardian of Your Soul," and consider her emotionally naked dating course for deeper relationship transformation.

Resources:

- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page

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Women Under Fire and Why Misogyny Is So Prevalent Today, Part 2

In this episode of 'Women Under Fire and Why Misogyny Is So Prevalent Today, Part 2,' Lisa and Benjamin Shield discuss the alarming rise of misogyny, its roots, and how it affects women and men today. They touch on historical and cultural factors contributing to misogyny, the impact on dating and relationships, and steps both genders can take to foster mutual respect and equality.

Highlights:

Impacts on Women's Rights
Historical Context and Current Events
Men's Perspective on Women's Issues
Deep Dive into Misogyny
Societal Pressures on Men
Toxic Masculinity in Culture
Challenges in Dating
Personal Growth and Empathy
Hope for Future Generations

The episode concludes with a call to action for mutual respect and kindness, emphasizing the importance of programs like Lisa's in helping women find respectful, loving partners. They invite listeners to explore Lisa's program for creating fulfilling relationships and navigating the challenges posed by modern-day misogyny.

Resources:

- Free 45-minute presentation: https://www.lisashieldlove.com/registration-page-final-page

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- Website: https://www.lisashield.com/podcast/
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Women Under Fire and Why Misogyny Is So Prevalent Today, Part 1

In this episode of 'Getting Inside the Right Male Mind,' hosts Lisa and Benjamin Shield tackle the significant and distressing topic of misogyny and its rise in today's society. The discussion focuses on understanding the reasons behind this increase, the impact on women, and the urgent need for male allies to stand up for women's rights and freedoms.

Highlights:

Men's Fear of Change
Double Standards in Politics and Society
Subjugation and Fear of Women's Power
Threat of Obsolescence for Men
Societal Messages Reinforcing Masculine Dominance
Impact on Women's Mental and Physical Health
Role of Social Media
Advice for Men Struggling with Powerful Women
Therapy and Personal Growth

Resources:

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In this episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' Lisa Shield discusses how strong, smart, successful women can make every date more meaningful. She emphasizes the importance of spiritual growth, intentionality, and emotional vulnerability in dating. Lisa shares personal insights and experiences, offering practical tips and thought-provoking questions to help listeners connect on a deeper level with their dates and themselves.

Key Highlights:

Spiritual Approach to Dating:

Encourages viewing dating as an opportunity for growth and learning.
Stresses the importance of showing up intentionally on dates.

Authenticity and Vulnerability:

Discusses the importance of being emotionally naked and connecting from the heart.
Emphasizes that genuine connections come from being unguarded and vulnerable.

Confronting Dating Myths:

Challenges common dating myths and highlights the need for women to discard the notion that the right relationship will just happen without effort.
Encourages taking responsibility and doing the work required to attract a meaningful relationship.

Practical Advice:

Suggests setting an intention to make every date meaningful, even if the match doesn’t seem perfect at first glance.
Offers practical tips such as connecting with the essence of the person across from you and focusing on their unique qualities.

Personal Stories:

Lisa shares her own dating journey and the growth that led her to meet her husband, Benjamin, whom she describes as the "guardian of her soul."

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In this episode, Lisa Shield, a pioneering love coach with over two decades of experience, delves into the true reasons why many individuals struggle to connect on dates. She shares her philosophy that finding the right connection is more crucial than merely finding the right man. Lisa encourages personal growth alongside dating and teaches listeners how to uncover and address their blind spots that might be holding them back.

Lisa also introduces her emotionally naked dating approach, which prioritizes authentic personal development over tactical dating strategies. She provides practical advice derived from Dale Carnegie’s classic book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People," tailored specifically for dating contexts. Listeners will learn how to engage in meaningful conversations, make their dates feel valued, and genuinely connect on a deeper level.

Key Takeaways:

Connecting, Not Impressing: Shift the focus from self-promotion to genuine interest in your date.
Personal Growth: Work on yourself to be ready for a meaningful relationship.
Active Listening: Engage fully and encourage your date to share more about themselves.
Genuine Compliments: Sincerely acknowledge and appreciate your date’s unique qualities.
Overcome Fears: Confront dating-related insecurities to build true self-worth and confidence.

Highlights:

Focus on Connection, Not Finding the Right Man
Addressing Dating Challenges
Hidden Agendas and Expectations
Self-Worth and Confidence
Engaging Communication Techniques
Personal Growth and Transformation

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The World Is Changing Fast… You Don’t Have to Face It Alone

In this poignant episode, Lisa Shield discusses the evolving landscape of our rapidly changing world and the importance of having a supportive partner by your side. Lisa reflects on the impact of the pandemic, the current state of global affairs, and emphasizes why now, more than ever, it is crucial for women to seek the 'Guardian of Your Soul.' She shares her insights on the emotional resilience offered by true partnership, recounting personal stories and client experiences that highlight the transformative power of unconditional love and support.

Highlights you don't want to miss:

The Importance of Emotional Resilience
Why True Partnership Matters More Than Ever
Client Stories and Real-Life Examples
Concluding Thoughts and Invitation

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The Real Reason Men Pull Away & How to Handle It With Grace

Lisa Shield, founder and CEO of Emotionally Naked dating, explains why men sometimes pull away and how women can handle this situation with dignity and grace. She discusses the importance of self-reflection, maintaining personal boundaries, and not giving away one's power. Lisa also provides strategies to avoid common mistakes, embrace personal growth, and navigate dating with confidence.

Highlights:

Common Reasons for Pulling Away:

Narcissistic, avoidant, or love-bombing men.
Situation where you're too invested too soon, pushing the man away.

Staying Grounded:

Reflect on whether you're projecting qualities onto men prematurely.
Understand the importance of giving a relationship time to develop naturally.

Responding Gracefully:

Maintain your boundaries and don’t chase after the man.
Stay busy and continue dating other men until you're sure about one.
Reflect on any repeating patterns in your dating history.

Personal Growth through Dating:

Use dating as an opportunity for personal growth and self-improvement.
Learn to value yourself and walk away from relationships that don’t serve you.

This episode is packed with insights on maintaining self-worth and composure when navigating modern relationships. Listen in for more wisdom from Lisa Shield!

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Lisa and Benjamin Shield discuss what it means for a man to be spiritually mature, exploring various traits and principles that exemplify true spiritual depth in a man's everyday behavior. From kindness and honesty to the values rooted in strong moral foundations, the episode delves into recognizing genuine spirituality beyond superficial acts.

Key Highlights from "How to Recognize a Spiritually Mature Man" Podcast:

Understanding Male Spirituality:
Discover how spirituality manifests in men's lives beyond traditional symbols like yoga mats and meditation cushions.
Real-life Exemplars:
Learn from Benjamin Shield, a man who embodies spiritual principles without the external trappings.
Authenticity and Depth:

-Explore the qualities that make a man genuinely kind, compassionate, and principled.

Hear personal insights on how deep values and strong boundaries coexist beautifully.
Dating and Spirituality
Insightful discussion on navigating spirituality in relationships and dating with integrity and compassion.
The significance of being present and generous in relationships.
Practical Wisdom:
Tips for women on identifying men with true emotional and spiritual maturity.
The difference between kindness and niceness, and why it matters.
Inspiration for Women:
Encouraging words for women searching for a soulful partnership.
The importance of looking beyond the surface to appreciate genuine character.

Join Lisa and Benjamin Shield as they delve into the heart of what makes a man spiritually mature and how you can recognize these profound qualities in your partner.

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In this episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' Lisa Shield explores the transformative power of ChatGPT and how it can revolutionize your dating life. Lisa explains how artificial intelligence can enhance personal growth and dating experiences by providing tailored responses and insights. She shares how she uses ChatGPT in her coaching to help women find soulful, meaningful connections. Listen in to discover the unique aspects that set Lisa's coaching approach apart from others.

Here are just a few Highlights you won’t want to miss:

Encouraging authenticity over manipulative tactics.
Emphasizing personal growth and self-awareness to build genuine connections.
Marrying spirituality with actionable, real-world advice.
Focusing on finding not just any relationship, but a Guardian of Your Soul.

Here are just a few notes you won’t want to miss:

Introducing ChatGPT
Discussion on ChatGPT as one of the coolest tools and greatest inventions, entering the age of AI.
Practical Uses of ChatGPT
How ChatGPT can help with crafting text responses.
Using ChatGPT for fun and engaging dating app opening lines and responses.
Authenticity and Repetition
Addressing concerns about authenticity when using AI to generate responses and emphasizing the efficiency of good opening lines.
Personal Experience with ChatGPT
Sharing personal experience of using ChatGPT for business and hiring processes.
ChatGPT's Insights on Lisa's Coaching
Lisa's interaction with ChatGPT regarding her coaching approach and its unique aspects.
Detailed feedback from ChatGPT on the uniqueness of Lisa's emotionally naked dating approach.

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In this enlightening episode, Lisa Shield, a seasoned love coach with over two decades of experience, helps you determine if your relationship or the person you're dating is right for you. Drawing from her extensive experience and personal anecdotes, Lisa offers her expert insights and reveals five essential questions that can save you time and heartache in the dating world.

Here are just a few highlights you won’t want to miss: Five Key Questions to Assess Your Relationship

Lisa discusses the importance of asking the right questions to determine if a relationship is worth your time and effort.
Question 1: Do I Feel Seen and Valued?
Recognize the significance of feeling seen and appreciated by your partner. Lisa emphasizes that a partner who dismisses your feelings isn't the right one.
Question 2: Are We Building a Connection or Chasing a Fantasy?
Understand the difference between building a real connection and projecting fantasies onto a person. Lisa advises against falling in love with potential rather than the actual person.
Question 3: Am I Giving More Than I'm Getting?
Evaluate whether you are over-investing in the relationship. Lisa highlights the importance of mutual effort and not compromising your self-worth by doing all the work.
Question 4: Do I Feel Like My Best Self with This Person?
Lisa explains that the right relationship should raise your self-esteem and make you feel confident, not doubtful or insecure.
Question 5: Is This Person Emotionally and Practically Available for a Relationship?
Assess the emotional and practical availability of your partner. Lisa talks about the need for both partners to be ready and open to building a future together.

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Summary:

In this episode, Lisa Shield addresses the fundamental fears that hold people back from finding true love. She emphasizes the importance of facing these fears head-on rather than running from them. Lisa draws from her own experiences and provides practical suggestions and tools, including her "emotionally naked dating" approach, to help listeners work through their fears and gain confidence in their dating lives. She also discusses how fear can manifest in various ways, such as fear of rejection, fear of intimacy, and not feeling good enough, and offers ways to reframe these fears as opportunities for growth.

Highlights:

Personal Reflection:

Lisa shares a personal story about dealing with her anxiety and fears while her husband was away.
Emphasizes the importance of sitting with one's feelings and working through them.

Impact of Fear in Personal Lives:

Discusses how fears like rejection, intimacy, and being truly seen can impact relationships.
Stresses that running from fear keeps one stuck, while facing it moves one forward.

Practical Steps to Face Fear:

Lisa shares stories from her life, including her divorce, to illustrate how facing fears is essential for growth.
Suggests the importance of naming one’s fears as the first step to take control.

Emotionally Naked Dating Approach:

Advocates for vulnerability and being real as foundations of connection.
Discusses how fear in dating shows up as perfectionism, playing it cool, or hiding parts of oneself.

Building Confidence:

Lisa describes how addressing her weight helped her gain confidence and how small, brave steps can lead to significant changes.
Encourages listeners to tackle one area of dissatisfaction in their lives to build confidence.

Handling Fear of Rejection:

Offers tips on navigating online dating and dealing with fear of rejection by engaging proactively.
Reframes rejection as an opportunity for learning and growth.

Final Advice:

Lisa urges listeners to think about one fear they have been avoiding and take a brave step to face it.
Highlights the importance of becoming ready for a genuine relationship through personal growth.

Call to Action:

Invites listeners to visit her website to watch a free presentation on emotionally naked dating.
Encourages booking a call with her team for those ready to transform their love lives.
Promotes her broadcast with her husband, "Getting Inside the Right Male Mind", for male perspectives on dating.

Here are just a few highlights you won’t want to miss:

What’s really on a man’s relationship checklist.
Why kindness, empathy, and positivity matter more than you think.
How respect can mean more to a man than love—and how to show it.
The powerful role of femininity in attracting the right man.
How to acknowledge a man’s efforts and create positive, lasting connections.

This conversation is packed with insights that can transform how you approach dating and relationships. Whether you’re single and searching or looking to deepen your current relationship, this episode is full of valuable perspectives and actionable advice.

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In this episode of 'Getting Inside the Right Male Mind,' hosts Lisa and Benjamin Shield dive into the concept of checklists that both men and women have when looking for a partner. They explore why understanding a man's checklist is crucial for a successful relationship. Key topics include the importance of kindness, empathy, confidence, femininity, positivity, and respect in a woman. They also discuss how negative behaviors like drama, entitlement, and rudeness can be turn-offs. The Shields share personal anecdotes and offer actionable advice for women looking to find meaningful, lasting relationships.

Here are just a few highlights you won’t want to miss:

What’s really on a man’s relationship checklist.
Why kindness, empathy, and positivity matter more than you think.
How respect can mean more to a man than love—and how to show it.
The powerful role of femininity in attracting the right man.
How to acknowledge a man’s efforts and create positive, lasting connections.

This conversation is packed with insights that can transform how you approach dating and relationships. Whether you’re single and searching or looking to deepen your current relationship, this episode is full of valuable perspectives and actionable advice.

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Title: Love Takes Flight: How Cindy, a Pilot, Soared to Happiness at 57

Hosted by: Lisa Shield

Guest: Cindy Weichert (she/her)

Synopsis:

In this episode of Finding the Guardian of Your Soul, I’m thrilled to welcome the amazing Cindy Weichert, who has an incredibly inspiring love story to share. Imagine finding the love of your life in your mid-50s—well, Cindy did just that! After overcoming her own doubts and taking a fresh approach to dating, she met and married Tom at 57. Cindy’s journey is a beautiful testament to what’s possible when you embrace structured dating, lean on a supportive community, and stay open to love. Her story is full of hope, transformation, and a few surprises along the way—you won’t want to miss it!

Key Highlights:

Cindy's Background:
Divorced in 2014, Cindy was initially distrustful of men and focused on self-healing.
Encountered Lisa Shield on YouTube, inspiring a major shift in perspective towards dating and openness.
Transformation Through Coaching:
Undertook a comprehensive dating program that included relationship inventory, learning online dating strategies, and community engagement.
Cindy overcame her fear and financial concerns to commit fully to the process, resulting in a transformative personal journey.
Importance of Community and Support:
Valued the network of like-minded women and the camaraderie fostered through the dating course.
Emphasized the significance of structured plans and guidance to achieve major life changes.
Dating Journey:
Created a specific online dating profile, refined with expert advice, to attract a compatible partner.
Re-entered the dating scene post-breakup, leading to a meaningful connection with Tom through Elite Singles.
Developed a long-distance relationship with Tom, who was still in the army, solidifying their bond before meeting in person.
Successful Relationship:
Cindy appreciated the practical dating tips such as choosing a photographer, dressing for dates, and enjoying the process.
The program helped her realize that not all dating failures were her fault and encouraged her to keep multiple options open.
Credits the dating course for her successful marriage and personal growth, which she believes would not have been achieved alone.
Wedding Details:
Cindy's wedding was a meaningful ceremony combined with Tom's retirement from the military, held at the National Infantry Museum's WWII chapel.
This unique and perfect event signified the culmination of her journey towards finding her soulmate.
Final Thoughts:
Cindy emphasizes the value of full commitment to personal development and the direct, forward-looking nature of coaching over traditional therapy.
Lisa and Cindy conclude with gratitude and personal greetings, highlighting Cindy’s happiness and alignment with Tom.

This episode is a testament to the power of persistence, structured guidance, and the willingness to embrace change in the pursuit of love and fulfillment. Tune in to hear Cindy's inspiring journey and the profound impact of finding the Guardian of her Soul.

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Introduction:

Welcome to another enlightening episode of Getting Inside the RIGHT Male Mind, hosted by Lisa Shield and Benjamin Shield. Today, we dive deep into the emotional quagmire of breadcrumbing in relationships—a toxic dynamic where one person gives minimal effort, keeping the other clinging to the hope of something more meaningful. In this episode titled "Why We Breadcrumb and How It’s Holding You Back from Real Love," Lisa and Benjamin explore the intricate power imbalances and emotional manipulation inherent in breadcrumbing, highlighting its damaging effects on both individuals involved.

We'll discuss the pervasive patterns of mixed signals, avoidance of deep conversations, and last-minute plans, which often leave the breadcrumbed individual feeling undervalued and frustrated. Through personal anecdotes, client stories, and psychological insights, our hosts emphasize the critical importance of self-love, self-compassion, and the courage to walk away from unhealthy relational patterns.

Tune in as Lisa and Benjamin guide you through recognizing these harmful behaviors, breaking the addictive cycle of false hope, and embarking on a journey toward genuine connections. Remember to visit lisashield.com for more resources and to share this episode with anyone who might benefit from this crucial conversation. This is your chance to learn, heal, and find the true guardian of your soul.

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🎙️ Exciting Episode Alert! 🌟

I had the pleasure of sitting down with Kristina Dedekian for the latest episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul ®" titled Dedekian. This episode is packed with insightful reflections and transformative experiences from Kristina's journey in the emotionally naked dating program.

Discover how Kristina leveraged lessons from the program to overcome past relationship challenges and navigate towards a more fulfilling, supportive partnership with her current boyfriend, Jesse. It's a heartwarming story of personal growth and the quest for extraordinary love. 💖

Key Takeaways:

Group Support & Diversity:

Kristina found immense value in the collective support and diverse perspectives of the women she met through the course, which helped her feel uplifted and understood.

Profile Refinement:

Professional photography and thoughtful profile responses played critical roles in attracting higher caliber men, teaching Kristina the importance of first impressions.

Perspective Shift & Personal Growth:

Understanding that some partners won't change allowed Kristina to embrace those who would offer genuine affection and support. This shift, coupled with coaching insights, helped her critically evaluate potential partners and her own dating patterns.

Tune into this inspiring episode to learn how investing in self-growth can pave the way to finding and appreciating true love. 🌟❤️

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We'll discuss how personal development and emotional maturity play pivotal roles in creating fulfilling partnerships and why it's important to let go of past baggage to experience genuine, unconditional love. Lisa will also introduce her transformative program, Emotionally Naked Dating, designed to help you find a lasting, meaningful connection.

Adding a twist to traditional views, we'll delve into the joy of keeping a relationship playful and fun, rather than seeing it as constant work. With anecdotes from their own lives, Lisa and Benjamin emphasize loving actions, conscious choices, and the profound connection that comes from truly seeing each other's souls. Plus, stay tuned till the end for an opportunity to book a call with Lisa’s team and learn more about her insightful course.

We’re grateful to have you with us today and eager to share insights that can transform your approach to love and relationships. Don’t forget to submit your ideas for future topics at podcast@lisashield.com. Let's begin!

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Join us as Lisa shares transformative insights from her six-month emotionally naked dating course, and hear real-life stories, including a woman who found love by embodying these principles on her first date. Discover how playfulness, humor, and deep conversations without excessive seriousness can strengthen bonds, and learn why supporting each other's dreams is critical—even those that might seem unreachable.

Benjamin opens up about the importance of giving men space to decompress and how women and men process stress differently. We also tackle common pitfalls like emotional volatility and the fine line between being supportive and overly independent, which can lead to feelings of resentment in a relationship.

Stay tuned as we offer a deeper understanding of the male mind and what men truly seek in a future partner. With practical advice and heartwarming personal anecdotes, this episode promises to provide valuable tools to enrich and elevate your relationships. Don't miss out, and remember to visit lisashield.com for more resources and to book a call with Lisa’s team for personalized guidance. Let’s dive in!

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Listen in as Benjamin defines ambivalence and explains how it leads to overthinking, resistance to new relationships, and dismissing well-suited matches based on a rigid checklist. Lisa opens up about the challenges faced by high-achieving women in their program, including fears related to personal imbalances and complex life circumstances, from medical conditions to navigating parental roles.

Today on 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' Lisa and Benjamin Shield delve into the complex world of ambivalence in romantic relationships. In this episode, titled "Ambivalence.MP3," Lisa and Benjamin explore the simultaneous positive and negative emotions that can halt women seeking love in their tracks.

Listen in as Benjamin defines ambivalence and explains how it leads to overthinking, resistance to new relationships, and dismissing well-suited matches based on a rigid checklist. Lisa opens up about the challenges faced by high-achieving women in their program, including fears related to personal imbalances and complex life circumstances, from medical conditions to navigating parental roles.

Discover how the Shields emphasize creating a vivid vision of an ideal relationship to combat worst-case scenarios, with unique examples like living apart or maintaining separate households. Moreover, learn why they believe successful relationships require work and the importance of vulnerability and seeing one's partner's internal beauty.

Lisa shares personal insights and exercises, like "a day in the life" visualization or vision boards, to help you manifest your ideal partner. She also encourages listeners to seek connection and inspiration through programs like theirs. Tune in for this heartfelt episode filled with real success stories, practical advice, and an invitation to reimagine your love life. Visit lisashield.com for a free 45-minute presentation and schedule your breakthrough call today. Join us as we navigate the highs and lows of love and explore the true path to finding your guardian of the soul.

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Welcome to another enlightening episode of Finding the Guardian of Your Soul ®! Join hosts Lisa and Benjamin Shield as they dive into the heart of relationship dynamics in this episode, titled "Bridging the Communication Divide." Today, we’ll unravel the complexities of how men and women communicate differently. While women seek verbal validation and expressions of feelings, men often demonstrate love through actions rather than words.

Lisa and Benjamin will discuss how societal expectations and a lack of role models make it challenging for men to express their emotions. You’ll learn practical tips on how to better understand each other’s communication styles and meet in the middle for a more harmonious relationship. From the need for women to communicate their needs without shaming men, to appreciating the value men place on silence and companionship over constant conversation, this episode offers a roadmap to deepen your connection.

We’ll also explore how men appreciate direct, concise communication and how women can offer feedback in a non-shaming manner. Plus, stay tuned as Lisa and Benjamin share insights into their own positive and grateful relationship, and don’t forget to hear about their special six-month emotionally naked dating course. For more details, visit lisashield.com. So, get ready to bridge the communication divide and strengthen your relationship, right here on Finding the Guardian of Your Soul.

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Welcome back to another enlightening episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul." I'm Lisa Shield, joined by my wonderful co-host, Benjamin Shield. Today, we tackle a critical issue that often plagues even the most successful and intelligent women: self-sabotage in relationships. We'll explore why smart women, despite being ready and eager to find their soulmates, often unintentionally put up walls and push away potential partners. We'll dive into the deep-seated fears, ambivalence, and past baggage that contribute to this self-sabotaging behavior and discuss practical strategies to overcome it. Join us as we unravel the complexities of the frenemy mind and share insights to help you embrace vulnerability and open up to love. If you're ready to stop the cycle of self-sabotage and find the guardian of your soul, this episode is a must-listen. Let's get started!

From misunderstanding simple gestures to resurrecting baggage from past relationships, Lisa and Benjamin dissect the self-protective mechanisms that can hinder meaningful connections. They share compelling stories from their transformative Emotionally Naked Dating course, including clients who nearly missed out on incredible partners due to self-doubt and misguided assumptions.

Discover practical strategies to identify and overcome self-sabotage, the importance of seeking grounded advice, and how honest communication can transform budding relationships. Hear how many of their clients, initially on the brink of giving up on good matches, found lasting love through guided introspection and vulnerability. Don't miss this invaluable episode for any woman seeking to unlock the path to her soul's guardian. Tune in to learn how to stop your frenemy mind and start embracing the love you truly deserve.

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Welcome to another enlightening episode of "Finding the Guardian of Your Soul." Today, your hosts Lisa and Benjamin Shield dive into the topic of what a quality man looks for in a life partner. In this episode, we explore the essential ingredients of a relationship from the male perspective. Benjamin shares insightful details about the desires for kindness, playfulness, and a genuine connection. He stresses the importance of not just being nice, but being kind—highlighting how this creates a nurturing environment for both partners.

Lisa discusses the power of supporting a partner's dreams and how essential it is for creating a deep bond. She underscores the significance of making a man feel appreciated and valued, pointing out that independence in a relationship should be balanced with interdependence to avoid making the man feel unnecessary.

We'll also hear personal anecdotes from the hosts and a success story from their mastermind program, emphasizing the benefits of kindness, compassion, and emotional support from early dating experiences to more established relationships.

Join Lisa and Benjamin as they unravel the curiosities of masculine desires and preferences, offering guidance and insights designed to help you build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship. And don't forget, Lisa invites all listeners to learn more about her emotionally naked dating course available at lisashield.com. Stay tuned for a heartfelt discussion on how to be the partner a quality man seeks.

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In today's thought-provoking episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' we unravel the provocative wonders behind the age-old belief: Do men really crave the pursuit of love? Our host, Lisa Shield, embarks on a deeply introspective quest to dissect the "chase" and its place in modern romance. To spark this illuminating discussion, Lisa taps into her wisdom derived from guiding a mastermind group of 15 women steadfast in their mission to discover lasting love.

Lisa dismantles common dating myths that cloud the path to true connection, by embracing authenticity over game-playing. She provides an enlightening commentary on the nuanced personalities of men, the complexities of communication between sexes, and the magnetic power of women taking the feminine lead. Learn why Lisa argues that a concoction of clarity, genuine interest, and a dash of patience are the true elixirs for a soulmate bond.

In the absence of a special guest, Lisa takes center stage and shares a personal narrative reflecting on her husband's inclinations, revealing that even in the sanctuary of marriage, learning the art of togetherness remains key. Embark on this journey with Lisa as she dissects the dynamics of the chase, explores the proactive roles women can assume in kindling romance, and provides an antidote to the pitfalls of manipulative dating strategies. This episode holds up a mirror to the quest for companionship, urging listeners to foster connections that are organically grown and mutually nourished. Tune in for a session brimming with impactful stories, vital revelations, and Lisa's trademark debunking of relationship myths—all leading to the elusive guardian of your soul.

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Lisa dives into the core principles of what makes a partner truly compatible, sharing her personal narrative of how aligning with someone who cherishes similar fundamental values can set the course for a profound and harmonious union. She intricately maps out the importance of respect, kindness, and commitment, inviting us to observe the subtle nuances of how a man treats those around him as a reflection of his character.

In a world where actions speak louder than words, Lisa offers a passage through her own life lessons, including the revelation of an ex-husband's deceitful tendencies, teaching us to recognize and interpret patterns in behavior. From deeply insightful anecdotes to the poignant moment where vulnerability intertwines with soul-guardianship, this episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for any woman navigating the quest for true love and companionship.

Join us in exploring the delicate dance of mutual care and support, where the right partner not only sees but honors the entirety of your being. It's a call to arms for every woman seeking to embrace her worth beyond professional achievements, to attain success in the arts of love and womanhood. Tune in to discover the four definitive ways to tell if he's the Guardian of Your Soul.

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Witness the poignant narrative of one couple navigating the delicate balance of support without words, where silent companionship speaks volumes. Learn about the weight of the phrase "we need to talk" and its wildly different receptions—where women see an opening for heartfelt dialogue, men may sense an impending storm.

We wrap our hands around the concept of 'taking it slow'—a term laden with disparate hopes and fears for men and women alike. Whether it's fostering an emotional sanctuary or cautiously stepping closer, our guests bear their souls in seeking clarity in commitment.

Bond with us as we dissect the subtleties of serious relationships, from meeting families to planning futures, and the courage required to voice one's deepest needs and intentions.

Don't miss the opportunity to unlock the code of cross-gender communication in dating—where every word counts, every silence is heavy with meaning, and every heart seeks its refuge. Join us for an episode rich in understanding and empathy, as we translate the language of the heart on 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul.'

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Lisa and Benjamin delve deep into the nuances of comedy in courtship, from the pitfalls of misused humor to the magnetic allure of kindness-infused jests. They share their own adventures, where chuckles have built bridges and forged lasting bonds – and even recount an enchanting vacation episode that touched the heart of a stranger amidst a personal storm.

In today's emotional dance, these love connoisseurs teach us how mirth and play are much more than mere acts of joy; they're threads that weave intimacy and trust in the fabric of togetherness. Learn how to sprinkle wit on serious moments, and why mirroring iconic spirits like Julia Child in living fun can be a breakthrough in love’s quest.

Lisa, in her ever-illuminating wisdom, offers a precious gift – the chance to access a transformative 45-minute presentation, along with a six-month journey designed to remodel lives.

For every soul seeking love out loud, for anyone yearning to attract delightful companionship, this is your clarion call to infuse playfulness into every romantic whisper. So pump up the volume and prepare to laugh your way to love's embrace with 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul.'

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Key Takeaways:

Establishing Friendship and Building Trust: Benjamin and I prioritized getting to know each other before rushing into anything, taking the time to build trust and a sense of safety within the relationship.
Nurturing Dreams and Personal Freedom: Supporting each other's individual journeys has been foundational to our relationship. This includes providing space, respecting personal ambitions, and not living someone else's dream.
Reflecting Masculinity and Femininity: Understanding the importance of mirroring each other's masculine and feminine energies has been a cornerstone of our lasting romance, promoting growth, gratitude, and deep appreciation.

Listen to the full episode for an in-depth exploration into understanding, connecting, and finding the guardian of your soul. Stay tuned for more episodes as we continue to share valuable insights and experiences. #Podcast #Relationships #Love #Commitment #FindingTheGuardianOfYourSoul

The Art of Giving Space in Relationships: "I gave you space. And the space wasn't just a physical distance. I don't crowd you emotionally. I don't pull on you emotionally, and I give you space."— Lisa Shield

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In this episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' host Lisa Shield delves into the important topic of breaking down emotional walls in relationships. Lisa shares her personal journey and the transformative experience of opening up to her husband, Benjamin, and how this vulnerability brought healing and deep connection to their relationship.

She highlights the importance of being authentic and emotionally naked in relationships, providing valuable insights into recognizing emotional unavailability and finding the courage to be genuine in love. Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of the power of vulnerability and transparency in creating meaningful and loving connections.

Tune in to learn how to take down your own walls and attract the Guardian of Your Soul™

Primary Topic: Understanding Emotional Walls

How emotional walls manifest in relationships
The impact of past hurt and disappointment on building walls
The role of gender stereotypes in managing emotions in relationships
Challenges of opening up to men and being vulnerable
Recognizing self-limiting beliefs and internal dialogue

Primary Topic: The Process of Breaking Down Walls

The need for conscious effort to break down emotional walls
Taking small steps towards vulnerability and openness
Overcoming fear of vulnerability and emotional unavailability
Recognizing and addressing patterns in attracting emotionally unavailable partners
Understanding male vulnerability in relationships

Primary Topic: Self-Reflection and Personal Growth

Examining personal experiences and upbringing influencing emotional walls
Recognizing the impact of past experiences on present relationships
Taking personal responsibility for emotional barriers
The healing power of transparency and acceptance
Challenging self-judgment and building self-acceptance

Primary Topic: Authenticity and Genuine Connection

Differentiating between facade and genuine vulnerability
Connecting with inner softness and sweetness
Encouraging genuine interactions over competitive banter
Inviting emotional openness and connection in relationships
Recognizing the qualities that foster lasting connections

Primary Topic: Seeking Support and Growth Opportunities

Recommending resources for understanding emotional availability
Encouraging self-reflection and personal development
Highlighting the benefits of seeking professional guidance
Opportunities for personal growth and support
Inviting audience feedback and topic suggestions

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In today's episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' Lisa Shield explores the intricate balance between commitment and freedom that challenges many modern relationships. Decoding the behaviors of men who might seem to avoid commitment, Lisa clarifies that not all men who appear avoidant are averse to intimacy. With personal anecdotes and two decades of expertise, she delves into the diverse motivations that steer men away from long-term attachments—be it the pursuit of a career, valuing their freedom, or complex family dynamics rooted in their childhood.

Lisa discusses why some men maintain a push-pull dynamic, toggling between attraction and the desire for space, and how their partners can take this behavior the wrong way. she also sheds light on the male need for respect and autonomy.

This episode offers actionable steps for women seeking to get closer to understanding the men in their lives. Lisa serves as a beacon of hope, asserting that selecting a compatible partner isn't a fantasy. It is a realistic goal for any woman ready to invest in herself.

"Oxytocin makes a woman feel bonded to a man, especially when we are having repeated orgasms with him. We start to feel like, “Oh, my God, if I'm feeling this way, he must be feeling this way. If I want to bond with him and I'm feeling emotionally connected to him, he must be feeling the same way because we were both in that bedroom together, and we both had the same experience.” And yet, it's not the same for a man as it is for us. Men can compartmentalize sex. They can get turned on and excited, but those feelings do not necessarily translate into wanting a relationship with a certain woman."

— Lisa Shield

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Lisa explains that both men and women find the dating process challenging and that men today may feel hesitant to approach women because of a fear of being rejected or because of the Me Too Movement. She offers a personal and detailed account of her experiences dealing with narcissistic individuals and provides professional insights drawing from her own struggles.

Lisa shares how a willingness to face the worst parts of herself led her to a fulfilling and enduring 21-year marriage. To illustrate how facing adversity can lead to our biggest breakthroughs, she shares about being humiliated by and standing up to her mentor while getting her Master’s degree.

Quotes:

"I am so disheartened when I read all of the reports out there about how many people are giving up on finding love and resigning themselves to staying single."

— Lisa Shield

"If we see life as a school and all of the experiences we're having as life lessons, we are able to move forward in a better way towards our goals and dreams."

— Lisa Shield

"They've actually done studies, and they've shown that when it comes to romantic signaling, women actually send the first message, not the man. So the woman signals to the man that it is safe for him to approach her."

— Lisa Shield

"You've got to send men the signals. You've got to smile. You've got to run your fingers through your hair and flirt a bit, or men won't approach you in public."

— Lisa Shield

"Narcissists can tell which women will be harder from the ones that will be easier to manipulate.

— Lisa Shield

"You don't want a man who offers you false flattery to win your favor, which is what narcissists often do."

— Lisa Shield

"Surrendering to this process means acknowledging that you have blind spots and things you don't know, you don't know. And that you start to reach out to coaches and mentors and people like me who can actually help you see your patterns and show you how to break them."

— Lisa Shield

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This master class is a life-changing journey for anyone seeking to find true connection and emotional intimacy. Lisa unveils the art of constructing authentic, positive online dating profiles that stand out while stressing the value of steering clear of negativity. Her unique approach goes beyond surface-level tips; it's about transformative personal growth and the proactive pursuit of love.

Listeners will gain wisdom on breaking free from past patterns, reinventing personal dating dynamics, and the subtle communication techniques that foster a profound bond with prospective partners. Lisa's emphasis on authenticity, understanding the male psyche, and harmonizing feminine and masculine energies promises a fresh perspective on attracting a partner who is truly on your level.

We invite you to tune in as Lisa guides us through her methodology, including enlightening exercises and the delicate balance between strength and femininity in dating. This episode is a must-hear for anyone ready to invest in themselves, change their love paradigm, and discover the soulful, lasting relationship they deserve.

Embracing Personal Growth in Dating: "We approach dating as a spiritual path of personal growth and transformation, not as just a means to an end."

— Lisa Shield [00:03:50 → 00:03:59]

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Challenges faced when dating as a widow
Balancing the program's time commitment with personal life
The value of investing in personal growth and dating success
Feelings of loneliness and lack of control in the dating process
Finding confidence and determination to pursue love again
Learning from past relationships through the program
Overcoming grief and reevaluating life priorities after loss
Embracing femininity and letting go of anxious attachment styles
Open communication and shared commitments establishing a strong connection
The "final five" approach and focusing on compatibility
The non-linear approach of the program and its advantages over traditional therapy
Success in finding a fulfilling relationship with a previously divorced man

Key Quotes:The Power of Spontaneity: "And I was actually surprised because I don't do spontaneous things typically. I always make long and hard decisions and I do all the analysis and think about. But I guess we just clicked and I made that spontaneous decision at the end of our call, which was supposed to be an hour and a half."

— Elaine

Understanding Grief Cycles in Retirement: "Because I was also having grief cycles from the retirement, which I didn't have the first or second year after I lost my husband."

— Elaine

Reflecting on Past Relationships: "I think the piece that resonates with me the most is the exercise where you go back and do an analysis of your past relationship, from your parents to people you dated, to people you were married. And it's a group, but it's individual. And I was scared to death to do it on my late husband. Right. And I talked to Rebecca, my coach, and, you know, this one worries me, because I try to think of all of the positives, and you have to come up with positives and negatives. I haven't tried to think backwards, well, this could have been better, and that could have been better because he passed and he had a good marriage. Well, I did the exercise, and it shocked me because he had a lot of the traits that all of my past relationships had."

— Elaine

Embracing Femininity and Overcoming Attachment Styles: "And being able to step back and let the guy be the guy and be playful, that was hard for me, being playful. But you gave all the tips and the tricks and the samples and the other women that we can talk to all the time, we all kind of come up with little things that we could do."

— Elaine

Exploring Modern Dating: "Because what I wanted to do was get comfortable with the whole process, tap into my naked data, and be curious and open minded."

— Elaine

Dating Priorities and Compatibility: "Even if he had the money, he'd be uncomfortable, and so I would use that as my. Instead of just, oh, he doesn't make enough money to do what I want to do because, I don't know, maybe he's got millions, but does he like to travel the way? Does he like to eat out the places I like to eat? Does he like to do the things I like to do?"

— Elaine

The Power of Vulnerability in New Relationships: "I went in this with, I'm going to just be open and vulnerable because I don't have time, right? I could be dead tomorrow, so I want to make sure this is the right fit."

— Elaine

Finding Love in the Digital Age: "And that's what started our connection, because I had also gone through a journey where I lost a bunch of weight, too. So we had that in common."

— Elaine

Personal Development Courses: "And it makes you feel so good after you take it that you actually start looking forward to it."

— Elaine

Investing in Personal Growth: "Who better to invest in is me. What I didn't know is how much value I would get out of it until I started down the process. And to me, I got every dollar out of it and to justify it."

— Elaine

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

The paradox of choice and fear of choosing the wrong partner
Waiting for perfection
Fear of losing freedom and concerns over reduced time for personal interests and social circles
Anxiety about committing to one partner and losing the excitement of multiple intimacies
The desire for mental and emotional space within a relationship
The impact of childhood and parental relationship models
How past relationship traumas can influence views on commitment
The difficulty of opening up emotionally after being deeply hurt
The challenge of overcoming feelings of failure from previous relationships
The struggle with emotional openness and vulnerability
The importance of communication skills in fostering a healthy relationship
Mirroring masculinity, being playful, and supportive in relationships
Adapting a forgiving, drama-free, and patient approach
Issues related to timing, career aspirations, and personal growth
The feeling of being diminished in the presence of a highly successful partner

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Brief background on Elena being a past client and Heath's personal growth journey
Heath's desire to positively impact someone's life
The notion of their relationship being easy and fulfilling
Mutual acknowledgment and appreciation of each other's effort
The age factor and defying common perceptions
Elena's perspective on how counseling helped her and their relationship
Heath's insight on not settling and clarity in relationship intentions
Elena's transformative experience with Lisa's course
Elena's realization of her blind spots in understanding healthy relationships
Elena's proactive approach to dating: over 90 dates, improved profile, professional photos
The value of Q&A calls with other women during the course
The influence of Lisa and Benjamin's relationship model

Key quotes:

"You attract certain characteristics maybe because of childhood. For example, daughters of alcoholics attract alcoholics, and they're attractive to them because that's what they know. So you have to really work on yourself to change that pattern and to work on yourself and be attracted to other types of men or situations." — Elena

"The course was the best thing I bought for me out of anything. It doesn't compare to any clothing, jewelry, furniture, car, anything, because that's an investment in me." — Elena

“It seems like she goes out of her way to recognize the effort I put into the relationship. And again, that's just something that I wasn't accustomed to. And I try to do the same thing again…we both got lucky in that we both try to compliment, thank, and appreciate the other person. I think that goes a tremendous distance in making a relationship healthy." — Heath

“I'm empowering my female clients with tools and insight into male behavior so that we can shift ourselves because that's where our power lies. We're not going to change men. The way we're going to change our relationship with men is by changing the way we relate to them." — Lisa Shield

"I learned a great amount of information, and I enjoyed dating so much more after the class because before it was frustrating, it's scary, it's anxious, and it was a very different experience." — Elena

“What you always were saying, Lisa: wonderful men are out there. It's just something we need to see in our mind and change our mind." — Elena

"I think many women come into relationships, and they figure, look, he's the giver, I'm the receiver, and it's all about me and me getting my needs met. And that often men don't often get their needs met, and women may think that they are. But we really teach the women in our course how to be great partners." — Lisa Shield

"I'm more attracted to the person that Elena is than what she looks like. She's beautiful, but I'm more attracted to parts of her that I have seen through our interactions." — Heath

"To be so in love, to meet somebody at this age, to find somebody who will accept your children…The hundred miles or so that you were apart. None of that mattered in the end." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

How control can affect a man’s sense of personal freedom and push him away
The dynamic where women try to control the narrative
The devastating effects of holding mistakes over a man
Emphasizing the value of space and growth in partnerships
Benjamin’s account of a past relationship and the importance of aligning on key life choices
Lisa’s insights on honesty, awareness, and the toxicity of control
The significance of forgiveness and overcoming control to avoid resentment
How facing challenges, including affairs, can enhance emotional intimacy
Exploring the idea of moving past a binary view of right and wrong in relationships
Rumi's philosophy on transcending conflict for relationship enhancement
Explaining the concept of baiting and switching in relationships
Avoiding the urge to pressure partners into life-changing decisions
The effect of dominance on the respect and balance in a relationship
Considerations of how past experiences inform current relationship behavior
Strategies for fostering communication and support to combat controlling dynamics
Identifying harmful behaviors, such as nagging and passive-aggressiveness
Understanding the outcomes of disrespecting a partner’s capabilities or desires

Key quotes:

“We all carry these behaviors into relationships because we have a history of being wounded, damaged, hurt, manipulated, lied to." — Lisa Shield

"And I would just see some men get smaller and smaller and smaller, they become children again, and the wife becomes the mother." — Benjamin Shield

“Growing up as a child, it was humiliating for me to see my father belittled." — Benjamin Shield

"I think it's because we love each other so much and we're able to have fun and play and trust each other and have a lot of space." — Lisa Shield

"Let's say that a man makes a mistake. Let's say that he gets drunk one night, he's on a business trip, he sleeps with a woman one time, and he goes and tells his wife because he wants to be clear. She could hold that over him for decades. Decades. And so there's this hierarchy where he's feeling controlled by his mistake." — Benjamin Shield

"One of the most controlling behaviors is when anyone makes a mistake in a relationship, and his partner cannot move into a place of forgiveness...holding it over your partner is one of the worst forms of control." — Lisa Shield

“[The silent treatment] is so controlling because you can't talk about it. And so you just sit, and you don't even know sometimes what it's about…And it's just like suddenly someone just is silent and turns away, and horrible – horrible! There's no resolving it, and the person is in complete control when the relationship starts going out." — Benjamin Shield

"If you're a woman, you may be in a relationship with a man who's controlling, who's doing some of the same things. control in relationships doesn't work. There is a better way." — Lisa Shield

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Personal anecdotes to support holiday socializing as a means to find love
Advantages of seeking love through dating platforms during the holidays
Maintaining a positive self-talk and mindset while online dating
The importance of taking initiative in dating
The journey to self-appreciation and learning to value men
Practice and the necessity of cultivating skills for emotional connection at social events
The transformative experience of practicing emotional connectivity at a party
Moving away from analytical thinking to emotional presence
Expanding one's personal limits to prepare for potential relationships

Key quotes:

"It's so important to remember that this can be one of the most social times of the year and one of the best times to get out and meet people, especially to meet new people." — Lisa Shield
"It's all how you choose to look at it. You can go into this holiday season feeling sad and feeling badly about being without a partner, or you can choose to see it as an opportunity, right?" — Lisa Shield
"I can't change things in the past, but I can change my mindset. I can change my perspective. I can change the story I'm telling myself." — Lisa Shield
"An emotional connection is when two people get emotionally naked with one another, and they talk about the kinds of things that a man and a woman would only share with each other in an intimate way." — Lisa Shield
"I was trying so hard to be interesting that I wasn't really interested in other people. So the game I would play with myself over the holidays was to go to parties and practice making an emotional connection with men." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

Impact of Lisa’s father's absence and behavior on personal relationships
Her realization about the impact of blaming parents for relationship struggles
Deciding to transform and not be defined by the past
Transitioning from blaming to taking responsibility for one’s own happiness
Lisa’s experience of rejection and fear originating from the father-daughter relationship
Her decision to seek and attract qualities in a partner that were lacking in the father
Meeting the right partner after personal growth and emotional healing
Letting go of past baggage and emotional wounds from previous relationships

Key quotes:

"I’d meet somebody and tell them my story. Then I meet someone else, and I tell them my story. Eventually, I started to see how inane and boring it is to keep retelling your story as if that's who you are." — Lisa Shield

“It hit me that carrying all of this blame and this old story that it was my father's fault that I couldn't have a healthy relationship with a man was getting in my way." — Lisa Shield

"I decided that if I couldn't heal my relationship with my own father, that I could still heal my relationships with men." — Lisa Shield

"I went on 96 1st dates. The 96th date was my husband Benjamin. The whole time I was putting myself out there, as I was sitting across from a man on a date, I often felt like being rejected by my father all over again. Those fears would come up, and I would have to deal with them. I would sit with my feelings, I would love myself, and I would talk myself off the ledge." — Lisa Shield

"Instead of using my relationship with my father as an excuse for why I couldn't have the kind of relationship I wanted, I used it as the reason why I had to go out and find the kind of guy I wanted…I knew I had the power to walk forward, to acknowledge that my relationship with my father was never going to be what I wanted, but that I could get out there and do the work and face my fears and learn how to separate the good men from the not so good men and find a Guardian of My Soul." — Lisa Shield

"I had to learn how to love myself. No matter what was going on around me, no matter whether a guy wrote back to me or asked me on a second date or not, I knew that I had to keep moving forward, healing my heart, and loving myself." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

Caroline's past concern for approval and fear of abandonment
Her decision to take a dating course to improve her approach to relationships
Matt’s frustration with the non-committal nature of dating apps
Valuing communication and shared values in relationships
The two meeting through Tinder and developing a strong connection
Matt's appreciation for Caroline's directness and clarity
Caroline and Matt's decision to consider premarital counseling
Caroline's focus on career and personal growth before seeking a partner
Both guests highlighting communication as a key element in their relationship
How Lisa’s course facilitated their mutual understanding
The importance of making lifelong connections and identifying relationship needs
Learning to be emotionally vulnerable and its impact on relationships

Key quotes:

"I realized that I needed some help, some different type of help that I wasn't getting anywhere else in the dating world." — Caroline

"I would have rather been liked for something I wasn't than disliked for something I was. I was just more concerned with the approval." — Caroline

“So it took just enough heartbreaks for me, honestly, to realize that, yes, I was doing like reading books on dating and love and how to improve myself, and I was going to therapy on and off, but it still was not producing anything different. I wasn't doing enough differently, so I had to do something." — Caroline

"But the older I've gotten, I've learned a lot through [past] relationships of really what I want and being able to communicate with somebody on a totally different level. [...] It's really refreshing, I guess you could say, to find somebody that you can really just talk to and not really be judged or anything like that." — Matt

"I wouldn't have met Matt if I waited, because there was just a type of guy I was going for. I had this image of what I wanted him to look like, what kind of work I wanted him to do, where I wanted him to live. I had this whole image of what I thought I wanted. And after taking your course, I was like, dude…What are the five qualities I need, absolutely need, in somebody that I could not live without? And those five qualities are beyond a job title. They are beyond what city a person lives in. They're beyond somebody's height." — Caroline

"We have values that we share together as far as being truthful and speaking our mind with each other. We're very direct with each other…sometimes one of us might have our feelings hurt for a little bit when we are direct that way, but I think it's for the best because if you don't have these tough conversations, then you're going to be at this level but never achieve something greater." — Matt

“The lifelong friendships and connections I've made in your program, like the quality of the other women, the quality of you, Lisa–I have a lifetime connection with all of you. I'd say that's one thing that you do…Just having such good quality people I respect and I admire and I look up to and I learn from in my corner." — Caroline

"We talked about some of our core values that we had as far as what we want in a partner and just the communication that we were able to have just in such a short period of time…" — Matt [00:17:25 → 00:17:39]

“She invested in herself to want something better in her life and to know exactly what she wants. And I very much respect it that she said, hey, look, this is a problem in my life…Let me figure this out. I'll do a program, and really figure it out and of what I really want." — Matt

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

The role of receptivity in fostering healthy relationships between men and women
The connection between a woman's openness and bringing out the best in men
The story of Lisa’s initial reservations about her now-husband
The positive outcomes of being receptive to someone who didn't meet her list of standards
How continuous busyness and lack of time affect women's ability to be open to men
The fear of vulnerability and admitting a need for partnership
Men's experiences, fears, and sensitivities often neglected
The influence of parental relationships on men's attitudes
The necessity for kind, thoughtful communication that is free from shaming
Identifying blind spots that might impede relationship progress
Importance of effective communication through different life stages
Examples of displaying openness and warmth on dates
Encourages seeking help to recognize and overcome dating challenges
Guidance on being emotionally naked, letting go of baggage for connection
The role of receptivity in fostering healthy relationships between men and women
Managing fear of rejection and learning from past relationships

Key quotes:

"Many of you pride yourself on going, doing, and keeping yourself busy every second of every day. And it's like a badge of honor for you to be incredibly busy. You don't know how to relax and stop running and rushing through life." — Lisa Shield

“He's not looking to just fit into your life. You both will have to fit into each other's lives and make room for each other. " — Lisa Shield

"So many of us have been burned by men, and when that happens, you don't just get over it. Even going to therapy and sitting and processing, it doesn't mean that when you're in the moment with a man that you really like, you're just able to push all of your hurts and all of your years of disappointment aside and suddenly open up to him. We carry those past experiences into each date." — Lisa Shield

"You're not going to attract the kind of man you truly want unless you can make space and room in your life and heart for him." — Lisa Shield

"You have the most beautiful hearts, and you're capable of loving in extraordinary ways, and you're longing to attract a Guardian of Your Soul. And the problem is that there's all these little blind spots that you don't even know you have." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

-Building a financially responsible partnership

Combining finances and removing barriers
Supporting partner during times of uncertainty and income loss
Success in dating doesn't require external qualities or wealth
Approaching relationships with spiritual principles
Foundation of kindness, gratitude, forgiveness, compassion, patience, and personal responsibility
Acknowledging past anxiety rooted in fear
Evaluating partner's principles, treatment of others, and level of consciousness
Relationships guided by authenticity, not predetermined scripts
Deciding to trust partner based on demonstrated qualities
Sharing financial responsibilities as true partners
Support during career transitions and financial assistance
Partner's role in supporting and encouraging personal and professional growth
Sharing the financial burden and acting as a guardian of the partner’s soul

Key quotes:

"Benjamin and I both contribute financially to this marriage, being true partners." — Lisa Shield
"Benjamin doesn’t tell me how to run my business or make more money, but by believing in my power to do those things, to figure them out on my own and creating a container for me to do that." — Lisa Shield
"In terms of finances, it wasn't about asking a series of questions. It was about looking at this man's principles and observing who he is how he moved through the world, and how he treated me." — Lisa Shield

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Jessica’s experience utilizing tools and knowledge from coaching to navigate dating experiences

-Jessica’s experience with Lisa’s program as particularly helpful

Using OkCupid and Bumble for dating
Not taking things personally and avoiding overanalysis
Empowering women to ask for what they want
Jessica’s experience being a single mother and struggling during COVID
Her desire for a partner and modeling healthy relationships for her child
Tools and knowledge acquired for handling rejection and inappropriate behavior
Creating a list of criteria for potential partners

Key quotes:

"It was really important to me that I modeled [for my daughter] a healthy relationship and a healthy marriage for her so that hopefully she would have that when she's older." — Jessica
"By not taking anything personally, it was just very freeing." — Jessica
“If I had not worked with you and I met with challenges dating online,, I would have been so upset, I would have been freaked out. Like, screw men, screw dating, cancel all my accounts on the apps. Like, I'm done with this, right?" — Jessica
"Our program works the way it's written, and people just have to follow the process if they're going to get the most out of it." — Lisa Shield
"Thinking you know how wat you want and how to choose a healthy partner and and putting it into practice are very different things." — Lisa Shield
"I've talked to some friends about your program and everything, and they're like, ‘Why would you spend that much money on that?’ And I said, ‘Well, look at what I've gotten for it. I met a great man that I wouldn't have known how to meet otherwise. Now I have a partner, now my daughter has a father figure.’" — Jessica

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Importance of making dating a priority
Toxic optimism and not acknowledging the challenges of conceiving after 35
Understanding the timeline and planning accordingly
Settling and rushing the process
Relying on chemistry as the main indicator of compatibility
Rushing into relationships due to anxiety about starting a family
Neglecting personal growth and self-reflection
Recognizing past mistakes and learning from them
Seeking professional help to gain clarity and work through insecurities
Generic self-help methods vs. targeted advice on dating and relationships
Importance of learning about men and effective communication strategies

Key quotes:

"What can happen for many women who want kids is they don't make it a priority and they leave it to chance until they wake up and realize it’s too late." — Lisa Shield

"Neglecting your personal growth...is a terrible mistake." — Lisa Shield

"I thought I'd look needy or desperate or insecure if I was open to a man – if I was receptive, if I asked a man for what I wanted and needed." — Lisa Shield

"It's a three month course. That's all we need is three months of your time, and we will give you a PhD level education in getting this solved." — Lisa Shield

“We will show you how we can help you find the Guardian of Your Soul faster than you ever thought possible." — Lisa Shield

"The only missing piece for so many of you is that guy. Let us show you how to find him." — Lisa Shield

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Partners feeling uncomfortable when not in control and sabotaging relationships
Self-reflection and confronting the darker side
Dating as an opportunity to work through these behaviors
Emotional availability vs. moving at a different pace
The significance of the spiritual component in relationships
Learning to give unconditional love to receive it
Finding a partner to respect, admire, and accept
Letting go of perfectionism and inner critic
Creating a safe space for failure

Key quotes:

"Some women hold themselves to impossibly high standards. And then, when they get into relationships which are unpredictable and unknown territory, it triggers a lot of insecurities and brings certain unattractive behaviors to the surface.” – Lisa Shield

“Some women are not only hard on men when they don't get what they want, but they’re also hard on themselves when they have to look at their own dark side." — Lisa Shield

"I have seen women let their corporate, high-achiever mentality spill over into their love lives. This can be a turn-off for men who don't want that in their relationships with women." — Lisa Shield

"Some women take it personally when a man isn't moving at their pace and saying and doing the things they feel he should be by a certain time. Their arbitrary timelines can cause them to sabotage relationships with good men who just need time to catch up to them." — Lisa Shield

"One of the mistakes I see many people make with personal growth work is that they get it intellectually, they get it conceptually, but they don't out it into practice." — Lisa Shield

"We all have to look at how to accept ourselves. To do that, we have to accept that we’re human and fallible and learn to love ourselves even with all of our imperfections." — Lisa Shield

“To be a loving, emotionally intelligent adult in a relationship, starts with letting go of the need to be perfect." — Lisa Shield

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Zia discovering burlesque and being captivated by its freedom and openness
Struggling with embracing sensuality, sexuality, and femininity
Therapy, self-work, and self-love to deconstruct upbringing in a religion
Her journey defining success based on personal truth and self-acceptance
Societal expectations and the patriarchy's influence on women's self-worth
Stripping industry stigma and mistreatment, advocating for better protection and acceptance
Zia's admiration for strippers' sales skills and work ethic
Prioritizing performance over seeking male attention
Embracing and appreciating sensuality and beauty through burlesque
The importance of self-love, sensuality, and personal exploration

Key quotes:

"In the process of pursuing what I love, it brings a satisfaction and joy of life that I never thought I could have." — Zia Sandía

“When you start learning how to trust yourself, you can take another person’s point of view and think about it, but not let it hurt you." — Zia Sandía

"It sounds like as a woman, it can be incredibly empowering to feel your beauty, your sensuality, instead of feeling that there's something wrong with it. That is an issue for women today…they find their power in their work and their corporate jobs and in all these other things, and they lose sight of who they are as women." — Lisa Shield

"To excite the audience, to pull out sensuality and lure them in on a mass scale was something that was such a challenge to me, like something I didn't ever think I could do." — Zia Sandía

"You have to find the sensuality and the beauty within yourself in order to invoke that to others." — Zia Sandía

"It would be nice if [sex work] were more accepted and if it were more protected... the women could be more protected." — Lisa Shield

'We are taught as women that we are a threat and we need to stay in line. And if we are going to be seen as worth it or worthy to a man, we better learn our place. And that teaches women that they need to offer something more than what they just are to be good enough.'" — Zia Sandía

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Exploring the idea that men enjoy the chase in relationships
Examination of why nice men may not pursue women they perceive as difficult or complicated
Addressing the misconception that men are mind-readers and the importance of clear communication
Recognizing that men, like women, have different personalities and preferences
Discussion of a woman's miscommunication with a man and his slower approach
Acknowledging that some men may be introverted or uncertain about signals
Recognizing the cryptic and tentative signals often sent by women
Highlighting the need for effective communication and understanding between men and women
Critique of the concept of men chasing women and its promotion of game playing and manipulation
Cautionary note about men using deceptive tactics and the need for personal reflection
Importance of taking responsibility for one's actions in attracting and understanding men
Emphasis on the gradual development of relationships and the importance of authenticity

Key quotes:

"One reason why this whole idea that men should chase women is wrong is because just the very sound of it promotes game playing. The idea that a man should chase a woman can encourage manipulative behavior like playing hard to get." — Lisa Shield

"Great guys who are building fabulous careers and have money want women who are easy to get along with, women who are transparent, women who are upfront, who know how to talk to a man." — Lisa Shield

"And all of our clients who have found the Guardians of Their Souls will say, ‘This is not the kind of guy I thought I would be with. It started off very slow and it just kept progressing and getting better and better and better as we got to know each other.’" — Lisa Shield

"You may think you're being very clear about how you feel, you may think you're being obvious. But some women, most women, can be extremely cryptic in the way that they send signals to men." — Lisa Shield

"The idea that men like to chase women sets up a cat and mouse game, and that is not a good basis for the beginning of a relationship or a good way to gain male attention and interest." — Lisa Shield

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Fear of vulnerability and its impact on connection
The need to let your guard down and show your true self to attract emotionally available partners
Unrealistic expectations in searching for a partner
The tendency to look for stereotypes rather than real, authentic individuals
The drawbacks of finding a partner who fits stereotypes and lacks authenticity
The glorification of busyness and its impact on making time for a relationship
Overanalyzing and creating unnecessary problems
Magnifying small issues and creating unnecessary hurdles in the relationship
Avoiding conflict and the consequences
The fear of conflict and the reluctance to address important questions or conversations
The impact of suppressing feelings and avoiding crucial discussions on building closeness

Key quotes:

"A lot of women aren’t looking for a real man. They’re looking for a stereotype or an archetype that doesn't really exist." — Lisa Shield

"Being busy is not necessarily a good thing. If your calendar is so packed that you don't have time for a relationship, then you're not going to be able to make room for a man in your life." — Lisa Shield

"I see this so often with our clients. We literally beg them to have conversations with the men that they're seeing she they can get clear on where the relationship is going. Unfortunately, because the guy is continuing to make dates with them, they wind up going along with the guys and wasting precious time because they don't want to rock the boat." — Lisa Shield

"Playfulness is a form of vulnerability. To be playful, you cannot be self-conscious and second-guessing yourself. You need to be in the moment and at ease." — Lisa Shield

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About Aaron’s areas of expertise, including divorce, custody, child support, and pre- and postnuptial agreements
The importance of setting clear financial terms during engagement reduces marital issues
Fairer prenups lead to happier marriages
Discussing what couples want to achieve with the agreement instead of using the term "prenup"
Addressing the negative connotations and stereotypes associated with prenuptial agreements
Meeting legal requirements such as signing the prenup at least a week ahead and having an opportunity to meet with an attorney
Using prenuptial agreements to achieve transparency in relationships

-- Negative consequences of financial surprises during a relationship, such as hidden debt

Regular meetings to discuss finances, similar to shareholders' meetings
Communal assets and their potential complications in divorce, such as owning a house or making mortgage payments before marriage
The potential loss of pre-marital assets in divorce settlements
The benefits of having joint and separate accounts or an allowance system
The tendency for people to be more comfortable being physically naked than financially open
Lack of transparency in finances negatively affecting other areas of a relationship
Being open about finances showing vulnerability and strengthening the overall relationship
Not all family law attorneys are knowledgeable about prenuptial or postnuptial agreements
The trade-offs involved in prenuptial agreements and the importance of making an intentional choice

Key quotes:

"My wife and I have regular checkpoints, whether it's annually or quarterly or even monthly, for us to sit down and talk about the finances." — Aaron Thomas

"A couple can be married for 10, 15, 20 years, and then a divorce happens and all of a sudden the wife is like, ‘What do you mean he wants half of the house that I paid for for 20 years? What do you mean he wants half of my retirement when he sat on the couch when I was out there busting my rear end to earn this money?’ She didn’t realize that when she got married, the default rule is that everything the couple earned over the course of the marriage is considered marital property." — Aaron Thomas

"Setting clear financial terms during engagement reduces marital issues, and fair prenups lead to happier marriages." — Lisa Shield

"Without a prenup, a lot of people lose what they built up even before the marriage." — Aaron Thomas

"Most couples find it best to have, like I said, three buckets, a joint bucket and then two separate buckets so you still have autonomy over the money in your separate funds." — Aaron Thomas

"It's one of the biggest issues about relationships in general…people fall in love and they're under the illusion that whatever they're feeling in the initial stages is going to go on for the rest of the relationship." — Lisa Shield

"People today...have an easier time getting physically naked than they do getting fiscally naked." — Aaron Thomas

"What you are saying is that having a prenup isn’t just about preparing for what will happen in the case of a divorce. When you write a prenup, you're also looking at how you're going to handle your finances throughout the marriage. That's a very important distinction that you're making there." — Lisa Shield

"And I would actually say that one of the sexiest things my husband ever did was on our fifth date, he sat down and he literally said, these are my finances. He told me. And for me, I felt so taken care of because he was being completely transparent. It spoke volumes about who he is, who he would be as a partner, and what our future would look like together. A lot of couples are afraid to talk about those things, but for me, it was sexy." — Lisa Shield

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Fears of engulfment and abandonment
Concerns about compromising and sacrificing in a relationship
Influences from personal preferences, societal pressure, and family/friends' expectations
Exploring men's fears in relationships
Women's desire for traditional dynamics despite independence
Importance of being whole and complete before entering a relationship
Avoiding agendas and milestones in relationships
Potential mismatches and challenges in relationships
Fully committing to a soulful relationship
Honoring and seeing the goodness in each other
Supporting each other's soul's journey

Key quotes:

"To be in a Guardian of Your Soul relationship, you can't have an agenda…You have to be whole and complete in yourself so you can drop your agenda." — Lisa Shield
"Some women really find themselves quickly at the finish line, and they're waiting for their partner to catch up." — Benjamin Shield
"I think that one of a man's fears is that [by] getting into a relationship, a committed relationship, like engagement, marriage, his life is going to be smaller." — Benjamin Shield
"I don't think two people should get married unless they're fully committed to what we call a Guardian of Your Soul relationship, where both people so honor each other and see the goodness.'" — Benjamin Shield
"If you want to find the Guardian of Your Soul, they are out there." — Lisa Shield

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The concept of being "insulated" from one's body and its impact on connecting with others
Embracing the senses and the enjoyment of being alive
The importance of being present in one's senses
Femininity and the power of sensual expression
The importance of women exploring the world with all five senses
Finding a partner who lives life fully in their senses
Daily routine involving touch and physical contact
A client story highlighting non-sexual emotional intimacy
Women embracing their bodies and finding their natural frequency
Creating memorable dates through connection and playfulness
The concept of bell jarring and its impact on memory
Challenging societal pressures on women's physical appearance, & what truly attracts a good partner
Sensuality and connection as core elements of romance

Key quotes:

"A sensual woman experiences the world with her senses, but she also has a certain confidence of being who she is. She is in her natural frequency and not trying to be someone else." — Benjamin Shield
"We see how our clients come alive, and it's the grace, it's their inner beauty that emerges as they become more sensual, more comfortable in their bodies." — Lisa Shield
"When a woman is in her senses and she's savoring her food, she's enjoying the sense of nature or the food she’s eating... It both mesmerizes and magnetizes a man, because women offer something that men don't have." — Benjamin Shield
“True love is absolute emotional nakedness. It’s not hiding anything from each other or feeling that there's anything to hide. That's just so beautiful. I don't know how many people actually get to this level of emotional nakedness. I think it's what everybody wants. But you have to first find the right partner to do this with." — Lisa Shield
“There's a difference between deep sensuality and overt sexuality. They’re very different. When a woman is in her sensuality, a man sees her as being whole and complete." — Benjamin Shield

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Communication differences surrounding certain phrases, such as “I need time alone” and "we need to talk"
Clarifying the meaning of commitment with each partner
Asking specific questions to understand expectations and intentions
Regular communication and clarification to avoid misunderstandings
Importance of discussing expectations and desires for building a deeper connection
Addressing potential issues and clarifying intentions early on
Recognizing signs of a potential mismatch in commitment levels
Importance of addressing concerns and desires to avoid future hurt and disappointment
Men also need space for personal growth and processing, similar to women
Seriousness for men may involve consistency and integrating each other into daily routines, not necessarily long-term plans
Differences in views on moving in together
Importance of open communication and taking time to be sure before making such big decisions
Highlighting the need for communication and understanding differing perspectives in a relationship

Key quotes:

"When most women tell a man they want to ‘take it slowly,’ they are saying they want to build a strong emotional foundation before having sex. They want deep meaningful conversations and to build the emotional intimacy first. For men, taking it slowly often means NOT having intimate talks that go too deep." – Lisa Shield
“When a woman hears the phrase 'I need some space,' it can trigger catastrophic thinking and tap into her insecurities, causing her to question the stability of the relationship. On the other hand, for some men, being in a serious relationship may simply mean integrating each other into their daily routines and getting to know each other better, without necessarily signaling long-term plans or commitments." — Lisa Shield
“It is good to have a conversation to clarify what you mean by certain phrases. You can say, ‘Hey, ________, I know that we said we're in a committed relationship, and I also know that being in a committed relationship, that word can have different meanings for different people. I would love to hear what it means for you.’” — Lisa Shield

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Dr. Fan's background, experiences, and achievements in the field of plastic surgery.
Factors to consider when deciding to undergo a procedure, such as personal concerns and desires
The importance of safety and understanding potential risks associated with surgery, especially for older individuals
Recovery process and common side effects of procedures
The significance of realistic expectations and maturity when considering cosmetic surgery, especially for young individuals
The importance of discussing motivations with parents and potentially seeking psychological evaluation
Encouragement for individuals to wait until they are older and more confident before making decisions about procedures
The limits and effectiveness of non-surgical treatments like Botox and fillers
The belief in the importance of inner beauty and improving overall well-being in addition to outer appearance
Lisa’s work on helping women find love and partnership and the transformative effects on their appearance through the Finding the Guardian of Your Soul program

Key quotes:

"And I encourage people to wait until they're old enough, mature enough, to really know, to have their own identity, to know what's important to themselves, so that when they're making any choices, it is from a place of empowerment, a place of certainty, a place of confidence, a place of making a long term decision." — Dr. Larry Fan
"Even in an era where we are so modernized and women have so many opportunities, the emphasis on looks is awful for so many of us." — Lisa Shield
"What I tell people is, number one, if you have a problem that you're not happy with and it bothers you enough to be willing to get help, that's probably an appropriate time to get help, provided you understand, okay, what does the help involve and what kind of results can be expected?" — Dr. Larry Fan
The best results are cases where people clearly look much, much better, but they also look very natural and very appealing, where there isn't any obvious sign it doesn't look like they've had surgery. That's the highest level of surgery when people look better, but it's actually undetectable." — Dr. Larry Fan
"And I call my course my work the world's Cheapest facelift because these women start blossoming and coming back to life and this dark cloud of being single and feeling stigmatized and finally finding their power with men. And they literally look ten to 15 years younger at the end of twelve weeks." — Lisa Shield
"I think there's a very big opportunity to not just improve our outer appearance, what I call our outer beauty, but also to improve our inner beauty." — Dr. Larry Fan

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The symbiotic relationship between masculinity and femininity, and how they bring out the best in each other
The misconception that simply dressing up and waiting for the "right guy" is enough to feel feminine
Learning how to make a man's world bigger by supporting his dreams and aspirations
The tendency to build walls and become less open with age and negative experiences
The shifting of focus from masculine or feminine behavior to attractive behavior
The dangers of relying on seducers and players to bring out femininity
The need for self-reflection and understanding one's role in attracting certain types of individuals
The importance of both partners doing their part in maintaining a healthy relationship

Key quotes:

"Because I had these thick walls up and I was so afraid of being vulnerable and feminine I never could find a man who treated me the way I wanted to be treated. Most men didn't feel like there was an opportunity for them to do that with me." — Lisa Shield
"One way of making a man's world bigger is listening to, asking about, and supporting his dreams." — Lisa Shield
"If you want to have a healthy relationship and you want to have a really beautiful, masculine, feminine dynamic, then it starts with learning about masculinity. Not just learning how you can become more feminine, but learning what draws out a man's masculine side. So you need to do your part just as much as he needs to do his part." — Lisa Shield
"And it's not just about sitting and waiting for a man to bring your femininity out, but it's also about you knowing how to draw out his masculinity. And as you do that, your femininity will start to emerge in the process." — Lisa Shield

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The use of AI in online dating and its impact on profile verification and safety measures
The need for background checks and spotting inconsistencies in online profiles
The excitement and fear surrounding the use of AI in dating
Difficulty in distinguishing between AI-generated and human-created content
The prevalence and dangers of scammers using AI to create fake profiles
Possibility of AI relationship coaching and virtual chat rooms for communication
Concerns about deep fakes and the difficulty in verifying authenticity in online interactions
Recommendations for prioritizing in-person meetings and avoiding long-distance relationships

Key quotes:

"There is, on one hand, all the wonderful things that AI is going to do, and then on the other hand, there is a tremendous amount of fear around who's going to be using the AI and will it bring the end of mankind.'" — Lisa Shield
“You can have your own AI-powered chat bot filter out unsuitable matches and communicate on your behalf. It's like having a personal assistant for your love life!" — Lisa Shield
“AI-powered applications could offer personalized coaching relationships...there's no reason in the world you shouldn't have dating coaches that are AI powered.” — Lisa Shield
"If you really want to verify and authenticate if somebody is real, one step in that process is to get off the platform and get on to Zoom or do it on FaceTime on your phone... Scammers can now do what are called deep fakes where they can take a few seconds of you talking and then replicate your voice from it." — Lisa Shield
"Do a background check on anybody and everybody you're dating. Look for inconsistencies. If the profile is too perfect, something could be wrong." — Lisa Shield

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About Lisa Y, a divorced mom and lawyer who is used to taking care of her kids and had rarely invested in herself before Lisa Shield’s program.
About her desire for change and not wanting to have regrets in the future
How she prioritized coaching calls in a commitment to invest time, finances, hopes and dreams into the program
How she met Steve, what she found in him, and what he found in her
Her moments of feeling discouraged but encouraged by Steve to keep going
Her acknowledging the challenges of the journey and the importance of support
Her learning to value personal relationships and experiences over work accomplishments
Her exploring the lessons learned from recommended readings and the Four Agreements
Her recognizing patterns in dating and relationships

Key quotes:

"I recognized myself. I recognized other people. I recognized how I date, but I also recognized my other relationships... That book was really life changing." — Lisa Y.
"For these set of weeks, I am committed to that, and work will always be there... But I needed to invest in myself, and you really did impress that upon me." — Lisa Y.
"The idea of slowing down and enjoying who you're with in that moment, that rings true in all aspects of my life, because I don't want everything to be said and done. And the only thing I had to show for it was work. That's not good. That's not where I want to be." — Lisa Y.
“This is hard to keep up. And I can see why people throw in the towel. But you encouraged me keep going, keep going and keep doing the work. And it made all the difference because I want this guy to travel with and to cut the birthday cake with." — Lisa Y.
”No relationship lasted longer than three months. It seems like that was a magic point where the real truth comes out and breaks loose. I was trying to slow things down and really make sure I was picking the right person to begin with and giving that more thought than just falling into things, trying to be more deliberate." — Steve
"Drama in relationships, where someone instigates conflicts for the thrill of breaking up and making up, is sheer madness. Personally, I've been in such situations before, and I can't tolerate it. Genuine disagreement is one thing, but intentionally causing drama for emotional rollercoasters is something I refuse to engage in." — Steve
"Two people can be passionately in love and not fight." — Lisa Shield

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Discussion of attachment theory and its influence on partner choice
Highlighting the volatility and toxicity of relationships with anxious-avoidant attachments
Realization that chemical attraction isn't the best foundation for a relationship
Understanding the need to find different ways to connect with potential partners
Exploration of managing one's own anxiety and building secure attachments
Importance of taking time to get to know each other in building a strong relationship
Emphasizing the need to observe how a person responds in difficult situations
Encouraging enjoyment of the dating journey and taking the time to get to know each other
Importance of finding a partner who respects boundaries and desires for a slower pace
Identification of avoidant behaviors early on, particularly in men
Differentiation between confident pacing and overwhelming love bombing
Desire for calm and peace in relationships, especially in the early stages

Key quotes:

"When I finally started to unravel this in my late 30s, early forties, and I started to look at all of the bad relationships I'd had, it made me start to realize that chemical attraction wasn't really a good thing." — Lisa Shield
"What's really hard for many people to wrap their brains around is the idea of a relationship that doesn't have those extreme highs and those extreme lows, but still is connected." — Lisa Shield
"It doesn't matter how beautiful you are or how educated or successful or whatever, your anxiety will sabotage everything." — Lisa Shield
"One of the things that I started to do was instead of just jumping in and fixating on one guy I liked, I realized that it would be much healthier for me to date several men at once." — Lisa Shield
"Relationships take time...You have to sit back and wait and watch and listen and learn before you just give your heart to anybody." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

Challenging Beauty Standards: Lisa shares her experiences and observations in the fashion industry and how beauty can be both a blessing and a curse.
The Importance of Personality: Benjamin and Lisa empahsize the significance of developing one's personality and engaging with others in a healthy way, rather than relying solely on physical appearance.
Beyond Superficiality: The episode delves into the belief that true beauty and meaningful relationships go beyond superficial appearances.
Lisa’s Relationship Journey: The podcast host reflects on her own personal journey in finding and maintaining a fulfilling relationship, highlighting the importance of teamwork and emotional vulnerability.
The Role of Kindness and Emotional Availability: The speakers discuss the qualities that make someone attractive to them, including kindness, emotional availability, and consistency between words and actions.
True Attraction: The episode concludes with the idea that while beauty may attract attention, real and lasting love requires something deeper than just physical appearance - it requires a genuine connection and compatibility.

Key quotes:

"Beauty will always attract attention, but to have true and lasting love, a woman has to offer something more." — Lisa Shield
"When a woman has confidence in herself, her confidence can overshadow her appearance and make a woman shine. That is incredibly attractive." — Benjamin Shield
"The difference between being rich and being wealthy is being rich means having a lot of money, but being wealthy means being happy with what you have." — Benjamin Shield
"If I'm sitting across from this gorgeous woman who's not emotionally vulnerable, it's like being in a museum. You could appreciate the beauty, but there's no real connection. And with you, I knew that our connection would grow because of the emotional vulnerability. The availability that you had brought up mine." — Benjamin Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

How men are not mind readers, and communication is key.
Why women should express their needs and desires to their partners, despite conflicting messages
The importance of expressing appreciation and guiding each other to be a partners in each others’ life
How to let a partner know their importance and suggest ways they can contribute
Personal experiences and the importance of expressing needs for a fulfilling partnership
The importance of balancing positive and negative feedback in relationships:
Gottman's research, and the 5:1 ratio rule

Key quotes:

“Having this conversation in the right way and at the right time is an invitation to deeper intimacy. It is an invitation for a man to come closer to you." — Lisa Shield
“One of the issues of asking for what a person needs is to be able to have that conversation that either moves the relationship forward or she has to know that this isn't working for her for what she ultimately wants." — Benjamin Shield
“Women need to ask for what they want in a loving, kind, compassionate, non-shaming, non-emasculating way; in a way that is positive and inviting and allows the right men to come closer to her." — Lisa Shield
“If he has this discussion just before in his bedtime, he's going to be up, he's going to be ruminating." — Benjamin Shield
"The single most important thing we can do with our time is be looking for love." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

AI technology is revolutionizing online dating by enhancing user safety and security, detecting fraudulent profiles, and improving overall user experience.
The rise of AI-generated fake profiles and content highlights the importance of AI technology in helping users identify and avoid scams online.
Advancements in AI technology on dating sites, such as chatbots and voice assistants, will facilitate seamless communication and language translation, catering to diverse user needs.
Data privacy concerns regarding the collection and ethical use of user data for AI algorithms need to be addressed by dating apps to ensure user trust and protection.
AI features like personalized prompts and icebreakers simplify and enhance the conversation and connection process for users, reducing swipe burnout.

Key quotes:

"We really encourage all of our clients to do a background check on anyone they're dating, no matter how legitimate they think that person is, because you'd be surprised what you can uncover." — Lisa Shield
"AI technology can also provide a more seamless and convenient user experience on dating sites, including chatbots, chat bots, voice assistance, and language translation services." — Lisa Shield
"You can actually feed the AI past email responses to similar kinds of questions, and the AI will learn your tone, how you would respond, and then do in a matter of minutes what it would take you hours to do or take an assistant hours to do for you." — Lisa Shield

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

What does it really mean to be “emotionally naked”?
In the same way we get physically naked, we don’t get emotionally naked at all once. It should come off slowly, and piece by piece.
Being fearlessly authentic doesn’t mean dumping on the person, nor does it mean too much too soon.
Fearlessly authentic means being fearless and not oversharing.
There’s a sense of responsibility and emotional maturity that goes along with being fearlessly authentic.
Why it’s important to let someone know what your boundaries are, and why it can be cruel not to.
Lisa and Benjamin model an example of fearless authenticity on a date.
What things foster vs. kill communication?
It’s also not just the words we say, but the way we say those words.
Your needs and boundaries may change from moment to moment, and that’s okay.
Words can bring us closer together, or words can be a weapon. And, it’s also the way we say those words that matter.

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Quotes:

Words can bring us closer together, or words can be a weapon.” - Benjamin
“I think it’s the willingness to share all of us, but perhaps not all at once.” Benjamin
“With any great communication, you have to take into account the person sitting across from you and be conscious of their bandwidth.” - Lisa
“Fearless authenticity means being fearless and not oversharing. There’s a sense of responsibility and emotional maturity that goes along with it.” - Lisa
“Being emotionally naked just doesn’t mean being emotional.” - Benjamin
“It’s the presence of two people sitting there where nothing else exists.” - Benjamin
“It’s not just the words, it’s the way people say the words.” - Lisa

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

Men are just as sensitive as women and have needs like women.
The more we can understand each other, the better our relationships will be.
Would a man rather feel alone and unloved or respected? The answer may surprise you.
Most men equate respect with love, so when they feel disrespected, they feel unloved.
Respect is the single most important thing a woman can give a man.
Are you creating a safe, loving, and respectful space for a man to open up to you?
A man will not open up to you if you are exuding masculine energy.
What do women say or do that make men feel disrespected?
How can you tell that a man feels disrespected?
Ways you can demonstrate respect for men in your life.
You do not have to agree with a man to treat them with respect.
Examples of how you can communicate with a man respectfully.
Great men will share their hearts with you, and you will have your choice of extraordinary men.

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Quotes:

"Most men equate respect with love, so when they feel disrespected, they feel unloved." - Lisa
"Respect is the single most important thing a woman can give a man." - Lisa
"Are you creating a safe, loving, and respectful space for a man to open up to you?" - Lisa
"You do not have to agree with a man to treat them with respect." - Lisa
"Women require unconditional love in the same way that men require unconditional respect." - Lisa

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

Building a lasting relationship requires establishing an authentic and emotional connection with a man.
What happens when you rush in and push the love part without first establishing a deep friendship?
Great sex alone will not deepen the emotional connection with a man; it is the emotional bond that leads to better intimacy.
Rushing into a physical relationship without a solid foundation of friendship leaves no basis for a lasting connection.
How Lisa and Benjamin built a foundation of trust, compassion, and respect, allowing them to be the Guardians of Each Other's Souls.
It's crucial to prioritize emotional compatibility over immediate physical intimacy and invest time in discovering true emotional connection.
Slowing down allows you to recognize the absence of an emotional connection and make informed decisions.
Emphasizing the significance of taking time, building a genuine connection, and understanding intentions and compatibility before engaging in physical intimacy promotes self-discovery, boundary-setting, and the establishment of respect and admiration.
Working with Lisa can help you understand what you really want and bring that to a beautiful relationship.

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Quotes:

"Sex won't lead to an emotional connection. The emotional connection may lead to better sex, but great sex will not lead to a deeper emotional connection with a man." - Lisa
When you become lovers before you're even friends, there's no foundation for lasting love." - Lisa
"If you really want to have a truly intimate, loving, lasting relationship, you're going to have to wade through those very uncomfortable dates." - Lisa
"It's about not having sex or jumping into bed, but really finding out if you are emotionally compatible first." - Lisa

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

The importance of being present and genuine on a date, especially the first one.
Men love when a woman can foster a lighthearted and playful atmosphere to create a comfortable space for both individuals.
How to build trust and establish a sense of safety through humor and playfulness.
Men look for the green flag of a woman who enhances and enriches a man's life.
Men that are looking for a deep emotional connection find it a green flag when they can freely share their personal thoughts and feelings with a woman.
A man seeks validation of his masculinity from his partner, a unique quality that only a woman can provide.
Embrace and practice unconditional acceptance of your partner.
Avoid taking things too personally and be open to growth and healing from past relationships.
How working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you adopt these green flags and become the best version of yourself while finding a guardian of your soul relationship.

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

Both men and women struggle to understand each other in the dating world, but integrating knowledge about male-female differences can hep you bring more compassion to your dates and make deeper emotional connections.
Double Standards in breakups, appearance, and expectations regarding who pays for what.
Understanding why men are the way they are can be a game changer.
The different reactions to setting boundaries. What can empower women can often come across as controlling for men.
Men often feel confused and tentative now about making the first move.
The double standards that both Lisa and Rebecca have seen in their professional and personal experiences.
A listener question: is sharing the same interests in your relationship essential?
The book Why Men Are The Way They Are was a game changer for Lisa.

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Quotes:

"I think it becomes a beautiful dance when you're able to start meeting each other in the places and showing interest about who that person genuinely is." - Rebecca
"It's hard for both sexes. It's really tough for both men and women to understand one another.n We all feel misunderstood by the opposite sex." - Lisa
"(The course) changed the way I showed up on dates. It also really was a place where I was able to soften. And in that softening, and really being open to understanding what it was like for men, it created a lot of connection." - Rebecca
"When we see men having it easy and we make ourselves into victims, it's tough to open our hearts and be vulnerable to get emotionally naked and connect with men." - Lisa
"Once you get past all of the stories we tell and all of the mythology that surrounds this, men are truly fascinating creatures." - Lisa

Why Men Are the Way They Are

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

At 63, Meranda reminds us that age should never hinder a rewarding relationship.
If a busy woman like Meranda can attend the discovery call on her birthday. You can find time too!
Meranda's advice for making the most significant investment in yourself and finally committing yourself without wavering back and forth.
What changed in dating once she began to work with Lisa?
How Meranda met her current partner, Eric, and the natural progression of them dating exclusively and now cohabitating.
Meranda took things slow and didn't rush with Eric, making their connection more natural.
Eric is a patient and steadfast man, as evidenced by his caring for and supporting her when she recently dealt with a severe illness.
Meranda's advice for women pushing off their love life.
The staggering statistics of loneliness and isolation.
Why should someone invest money just for dating?

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Quotes:

"I like to take chances. I'm a businesswoman. You gotta take the risk." - Meranda
"If things don't go well, you have to stir the wave and keep it moving." - Meranda
"I know my mistakes, and I know what to give." - Meranda
"It's never too old to start a relationship, as long as it's a rewarding relationship." - Meranda
"There's a lot of benefit to it, and my money is well spent." - Meranda

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

What are the two main reasons that we tend to self-sabotage?
Rejection is sometimes painful and scary, so how do we move forward and put ourselves out there?
What about if you're scared to get what you want and that you'll mess it up?
What to do if the men you desire aren't attracted back to you, and that is a consistent pattern.
The importance of who you surround yourself with and not partaking in validating the nightmare dating stories out there.
Would you be ready for the man of your dreams?
There are quality men out there, and quality women attract quality men.
The mistakes women tend to make on dating apps and when setting up their profiles.
The Final Five qualities that are important are different for every woman. What's right for you is not necessarily important to someone else.

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Quotes:

"At the very core of the very essence of why we are afraid, it's like we are grabbing for love, and we're reaching for it with one hand and pushing it away with another." - Lisa
"Surround yourself with people who are successful, supportive, optimistic, positive and will encourage you instead of discouraging you in this part of your life." - Lisa
"It's hard sometimes to be sitting face to face with a man that you think, wow, you know, this is a really great guy, this is the kind of guy I think I'm looking for, and to have that person turn around, and not feel that you're a match." - Lisa
"We're angry because men aren't doing these things for us, but we're not creating that space for them to do it." - Lisa
"You have to start to see those patterns, and then it is up to you to consciously break them and make new choices." - Lisa
"We fail many times before we succeed at something we're trying to learn or something new that we are learning. So it's essential not to beat yourself up, but to ask yourself how you can do it differently." - Lisa

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

Avoid a checklist-like approach when observing a man's emotional availability.
Consider these questions as a loose guideline, rather than a mission to interview or interrogate the man.
Men sometimes need a little longer to think and process, so allow time for reflection when asking deeper questions.
You can also tell by the quality of the answer if he's processing or deflecting.
When you share something vulnerable on your end, does he show empathy, and is he listening, or does he seem to brush off your emotions?
Consider using "think" instead of "feel" when discussing emotions with men.
Inquire what he learned from past relationships, but respect if he doesn't want to go into full detail.
Shared core values and principles are important for a successful relationship.
If money wasn't a factor, what would be his dream job? Explore what he says; it can tell a lot about his values, goals, and dreams.
Benjamin shares why a guy would most likely love to be asked about a film that deeply affected him.

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Quotes:

"It's better to ask a man what he thinks about something rather than how he feels about it." - Lisa
"Especially when you're asking a man deeper questions, you have to pause and give a man an opportunity to think." - Lisa
"We wouldn't have had the marriage we have had for these 20+ years if we hadn't had these difficult relationships. We learned from them, and we grew from them." - Benjamin
"For two people to have a successful relationship, they need to share their core values and core principles." - Benjamin

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

Remember, there's no right or wrong. There's just what feels good to you.
One big issue for men is the value they place on their independence and freedom. If a woman pays for everything and brags about her big, rich life, he may think he will be living her life.
Setting a precedent early on that you are willing to pay for everything will set the tone for the relationship moving forward.
Women feel more aligned and comfortable in their own skin when they come from that more feminine part of themselves.
What about when a man offers to pay for everything for you?
Lisa shares some recent breakthroughs that her clients have had around dating men with different incomes.
Why tone is so important to a man, and how to improve yours so you communicate from a true place of connection and power.

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Quotes:

"As women, we feel more aligned and comfortable in our skin when coming from that more feminine part of ourselves. It's just who we are." - 13:24
"These men are so hungry for feminine women, not takers. You don't need to pay for things. You need to be appreciative." - 16:06
"He doesn't need your money, and he doesn't need you to pay for things. He needs you to be a great playmate, fun, and up for adventure. And also, to be willing to sit on the sofa and do nothing if that's what he feels like doing." - 17:48
"At the deepest level, my tone of voice shifted because I made this deep internal shift to being kinder and more compassionate and not needing to be right with men. I didn't have to be defensive, make a point, or talk down to men." - 28:05

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

Nice guys are the opposite of love bombers, but they still may not be great - why is that?
Why are nice guys constantly walking on eggshells?
How nice guys are different from other guys.
The ways nice guys can be calculating and manipulative.
How do you know if a man is truly compassionate and kind, or if it's an act?
Spending time with secure and grounded men can often feel boring because there isn't that surge of hormones that you feel with love bombers and men who play games.
Benjamin talks about his experience as a recovering nice guy.
Underneath the nice guy syndrome, there can be a lot of victimization and manipulation.

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Quotes:

"It's good to give nicer men a chance, but not every nice man is a good potential candidate for a relationship." - Lisa 2:52
"Either just because he's nice, doesn't mean that he's a great guy, or that he's a good fit." - Lisa 3:01
"Very often, nice guys turn out to be anything but nice. They can swing back and forth from being giving to being angry an resentful, like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde." - Benjamin 4:26
"The hallmark of these nice guys is that they're giving to get. And when they don't get what they want, they're a completely different person underneath. - Lisa 11:14
"A healthy woman wants a real man who can kindly ask for what he wants, and he needs to communicate that in a way that is loving and clear, and in the present time." - Benjamin 26:55
Nurturing is healthy, but caretaking in the relationship becomes unequal." - Benjamin 32:13

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

What motivates people to stay in relationships? One thing is that the fear of being alone can cause some people to remain in a relationship, even if it's not fulfilling.
Others may not realize their negative or critical behavior hurts the relationship and may think they're offering constructive criticism.
Discover how to communicate with men in a way that promotes a safe and open dialogue.
Lisa and Benjamin model positive feedback in their own communication with one another.
Learning to give positive feedback is crucial for any healthy relationship.
It's essential to seek a partner who values kindness, thoughtfulness, and positivity.
Remember to set boundaries and don't tolerate disrespectful behavior from men.

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Quotes:

"Convenience is a big reason why people stay in relationships." - Lisa
"There's a loving, kind, and considerate way to give someone feedback, and there is a very destructive, mean, and cutting way of giving feedback." - Lisa
"Do not let people abuse you, even if what they are saying is true." - Lisa
"In the same way that you clean up your house, we keep our relationship clean." - Lisa

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

Lisa used the one phrase that caught Patricia's attention like nothing else.
Patricia had done a ton of inner work, but she was feeling frustrated that despite how hard she worked on herself, none of that "work" translated to luck in dating, a familiar feeling for many successful and intelligent women Lisa coaches.
Patricia gives insight into the significant breakthrough she had where she fully understood that she could get exactly what her heart desired.
What made Patricia fall in love with Lindon, and did it matter that he was 10 years younger and had different cultural backgrounds?
What is newlywed life like for Patricia and Lindon?
Lindon first felt Patricia was out of his league but was willing to constantly elevate himself and put in the work.

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Quotes:

"When I watch our clients fall in love, they actually look younger and happier. It's a remarkable thing to witness." - Lisa
"The course allowed me to be bold and brave and to open up my heart and not judge." - Patricia
"Meeting Patricia brought about a transformation in my life. I must say thanks to you and her for shaping my inner world." - Lindon
"The course helped me to see that you might not have everything you want right now, but be willing to invest. Be willing to investigate and be willing to say, let me give this a chance." - Patricia
"I don't think we have enough time for me to share all the breakthroughs I received in the course." - Patricia
"Love to me doesn't mean age. It's just a number. Right? Love is from the inside really radiating on the outside." - Lindon

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

There's a reason why the men consistently that you're into aren't interested in pursuing something with you.
Many of the successful women Lisa coaches are incredibly confident and should be. They sometimes need to be more intelligent about men.
We need to be able to attract the men we want to attract, engage those men, and have the skills to engage those men so that we can have fun and get up close and personal.
Lisa shares a story of a woman where it wasn't the dating sites that were off, but she realized she was the common denominator.
Through working with Lisa and Benjamin, they give you a script you can use to ask these great men for feedback. Lisa talks about the feedback she got from a man who told her that he could tell she wasn't really ready and how that led her to end up meeting Benjamin, the true Guardian of Her Soul.
How to show a great man that you have space and time for him, even if you have a successful and busy life.

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Quotes:

"It was really a bitter pill to swallow to look at the men I was attracting and realize those weren't the guys I wanted." -Lisa
"Learn to use the dating journey as a path to enlightenment." - Lisa
"Many of the successful women I coach are extremely confident and should be. They just aren't always smart about men." - Lisa
"We need to be able to attract the men that we want to attract, be able to engage those men, and have the skills to engage those men so that we can have fun and get up close and personal." - Lisa

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

The world of difference between how Stella felt before joining Lisa’s coaching program vs. how she is now.
Ways Stella is becoming more curious in her dating life, and how that helps her connect with men on an even deeper level.
For many of Lisa’s clients, who they end up with is even better than they could have imagined.
How the Final Five exercise affected Stella on a profound level.
Stella talks about letting go of desperate and anxious energy and letting things go that aren’t right for her.
Stella is no longer “bending the universe’s hand,” but surrendering and focusing on her personal growth.

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Quotes:

“It’s about emotional growth and emotional development for me, and for a lot of the women I’ve seen.” - Stella
“Throughout this process, you discover more of who you are, and what's aligned with you and what isn't.” - Stella
“There’s no desperation at this point. There’s no specific timeline. There is a lot more curiosity and just a willingness to meet people.” - Stella
“Now, if something doesn't work out, I just let it go, knowing there's something better waiting for me on the other side.” - Stella
“We don’t really know what we need, so we make up ideas about what we think will be good for us.” - Stella

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

How Lisa went from being uncomfortable and awkward around men to being a space for the guardian of her soul to open up and tell her everything.
Why do women default to masculine energy, now more than ever?
You don’t have to be the youngest, fittest, or most beautiful woman in the world to find a man who is going to appreciate you.
How to have high standards without coming across as entitled.
What makes the wind go out of a man’s sails on a date?
Being open doesn’t mean you put up with crap with jerks. In fact, you know how to spot them and move on quicker without even having to lecture them!
It’s about learning how to communicate and ask for what you want but in a feminine way.

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

The art of William’s transformation from anxious to secure attachment.
How William has learned to set boundaries for what he needs in relationships.
What dating was like for William as a shy guy in his 20s and beyond.
How is William dating two women at once. Do they know about each other?
With so much toxic masculinity out there, how did William learn to date with communication and honesty at the forefront instead of playing games?
The relationship that got William into therapy.
How William forces himself to go out there to mingle, even if he’s not feeling it.
Why the financial piece of a breakup hurt William so badly, and why respect is of utmost importance to a man.
How William stays honest with the women he dates that he is seeing others.
How William navigates children and having kids with people that he is dating.

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People on Dating

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

What are core values, and why is it so important to share them?
A man who values you will treat you with respect and kindness. Sometimes it's not the huge gestures but the little ways he follows through on his promises and commitments to you that matter most.
You need to learn to ask for what you want and then sit back and see if he will honor your requests.
Does he make room for you? How to know if he's genuinely carving out time in a way that shows he's right for you?
How the Emotionally Naked 12-Week Program can help you learn to tune into your gut and attract a wonderful man.
How he treats people matters. Notice how he talks to people at restaurants, at work, and out in the world.
Lisa knew she needed to do the work on herself first to be fully ready for a man like Benjamin.
Your partners are a direct reflection and a mirror of your self-love, self-esteem, and what you feel you deserve or don't deserve.

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

What does it mean to “seal the deal” in a relationship?
How to focus less on the outcome and more on all the beautiful nuances in getting to know someone and letting that someone get to know you.
When we talk about men loving the chase, it doesn’t mean they want a woman who plays hard to get or who manipulates him.
Why is it so crucial for a man to make his own decisions?
How women might miss the man who is sitting in front of them when they are hell-bent on checking off boxes or treating a date like it’s a negotiation.
Letting go and surrendering are not the same as doing nothing.
Benjamin explains what it feels like from a man’s perspective when a man can sense a woman is anxious and trying to seal the deal.
But what if you want to be married…like…yesterday?
Won’t a call relationship go nowhere if you don’t take charge and seal the deal?

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

How do women compete with men in a way that may make them think she’s great, but not a fit for them to move forward?
Two of the biggest qualities that good men are looking for, and aren’t money or career status.
Don’t men want a woman they can rescue?
What happens when women push away love and the most beautiful part of life?
What does a man mean when he says “I don’t want any drama”?
Lisa shares the transformation of a young woman in their mastermind course.
What is one of a man’s biggest fears in getting into a relationship?
Guardian of each other’s souls makes their life bigger, not smaller.
How you can still live a big and beautiful life by letting him know that there is plenty of room for him in it.

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

How women can inadvertently make a man feel as though there's not enough space for him in her life, or that he's just going to be the plus one.
How Benjamin's profile made it clear to Lisa from the beginning that he was willing to integrate a woman into his life.
What are some of the reasons that men tend to compartmentalize their relationships?
When it's the guardian of your soul, you'll work together to lift each other up and help your partner's dreams come true.
How working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you create a bio that will make a man feel invited to step into your world.
How a man's past relationships or family history can make him hesitant to integrate a woman into his life.
What is the problem with the whole "I don't need a man" attitude?

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

What is an insatiable curiosity and why is it critical to creating a connection?
What if you can’t think of anything to ask?
A listener question: What if the man isn’t asking any questions at all?
Curiosity should seem like a natural flow rather than a detailed investigation.
Being curious brings passion to the conversation, and that’s what people are looking for.
How we can bring our questions around to create a shared connection and fun future date ideas.
Research-based evidence that being playfully curious even makes you more attractive!

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

What led Natalie to sign up for the breakthrough call?
Natalie's dating struggles before meeting Alex.
Alex also was in a spot in life where he was skeptical that he would meet the guardian of his soul.
The importance of giving a man the same curiosity and respect you would expect from him.
How Natalie learned to feel the difference between secure and avoidant men.
Natalie and Alex walked us through their charming first date, where neither of them wanted to say goodbye!

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

How the "Must Have" list when it comes to dating often isn't what we end up with - and that's a good thing!
Lisa shares her example of things she had on her list, such as spirituality and business savvy, and how Benjamin possesses those things in a way she couldn't have imagined.
Why does having a rigid "must have" list lock you out of potentially great opportunities in the dating world?
Working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you create the right list to find the Guardian of Your Soul.
What are the Final Five?
If you have a list that's too detailed and exclusionary, you'll cut out some very great men.

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

Lisa and Benjamin discuss core values and how they are similar and different to preferences.
When you find the Guardian Of Your Soul, it will be a relationship where you help each other grow and become the best version of yourself.
Lisa and Benjamin talk about how the Emotionally Naked Dating Program helps many women clarify what they want and narrow it down in the Final Five.
A listener questions how we can talk to our partners about their appearance lovingly and positively.
Why sparks aren't always the best sign of a long lasting relationship.
Examples of clients who have opened up their mind and ended up with wonderful men.
Remember: the goal in relationships isn't about compromising or settling but how you can make each other's lives bigger.
How many of us have unreasonable expectations that things will happen instantly in romantic relationships.
The importance of self-improvement in relationships.
The biggest obstacles of internet dating and a few of Benjamin and Lisa's favorite sites to find great men.
Advice for the serial daters that seem to find something wrong with everyone.

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How you can fit in a meditative exercise to the future Guardian of Your Soul even if you have other plans this V-Day or have no dates at all.
For two people to find each other, their worlds must align.
How Lisa went from feeling lonely and sad many Valentine’s Days ago to grateful for the thoughtful and very romantic Benjamin.
Other holidays like birthdays, Thanksgiving, and Christmas can also feel very lonely.
How can you write a powerful love letter to the future Guardian of Your Soul?
The more powerful your message is, the faster it will happen.
How the 12-week Emotionally Naked Dating Program works even for women finding new love who have lost someone.
The more powerful your message is, the faster this will happen.

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

How Vanessa found Lisa through another friend who had taken the course and why she decided to invest in herself.
How is her new relationship different from all the others?
What were some of Vanessa's favorite parts about the 12 Week program?
Fine isn't good enough when you want to find love, even as a successful and busy woman!
Vanessa is busy and a Type A, and she poured that energy into Lisa's coaching.
Vanessa opened up about her dating requirements yet also got more strategic about the type of man she was looking for.
Working with Lisa changed Vanessa's romantic relationships and profoundly impacted her relationship with her mom, career, and location.
How embodying what she was looking for led her to find love.
Acting like the "too cool" or chill girl that doesn't care isn't going to find you what you ultimately desire.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

Lisa shares how she learned to open up and truly get emotionally naked.
When we open up and share something, we wait to see how it's responded to and how it's received.
How working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you share your emotions in a vulnerable way that doesn't make the man want to back out the door and run away.
Being emotionally naked can be light and playful, but it doesn't have to mean you are fake or acting like everything is fine and dandy when it isn't.
The phrase "share your head before you share your bed" is essential because if you share your bed first, it's hard to go back and build that foundation of friendship.
Emoting isn't bad, but it's the dumping on another person and using them as an emotional dumping ground where the problem comes in.
It's so important to see a doctor and get the help you can for hormone issues that make you feel extra stressed, anxious, and irritable.
What is the Magic Minute?
Some concrete tips for relaxing your body and mind on a date.

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

Janet had already done a lot of inner work, behavioral change, and meditation, but Lisa and Benjamin's course was different.
How did Janet overcome the initial resistance to signing up and investing in the course?
How working with Lisa and Benjamin helped Janet unravel her early relationships and let go of the stories she was telling herself.
Janet built more trust in men for the first time and learned to be a safe space for the men in her life.
How Janet's relationship with John profoundly changed and was quite literally saved.
The significant changes Janet sees in her relationship with herself and the outside world.
How much Janet appreciated both the practical and the spiritual nature of working with Lisa and Benjamin.

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What was happening in Lisa’s love life when she decided to work with Lisa and Benjamin?
Lisa talks about what stood out about Lisa and Benjamin’s message from the beginning and what was the deciding factor to invest in herself and commit to the program.
If you are a busy woman with a demanding job, you aren’t alone. Instead of letting these things be obstacles, Lisa overcame them and finally felt understood.
Time moves fast, and if you don’t take action, you may be in the same place without any forward momentum or growth.
Lisa shares about the first month of the course and how she loved going through the process of revamping her profile and having professional pictures taken.
Lisa also loved the part in the first month about taking a look at her relationships.
Lisa talks about not taking things so personally and how she met the lovely gentleman she’s now dating.
Finally, Lisa addresses those women who might be on the fence about investing in working with Lisa and Benjamin and how it was the best thing she ever did for herself.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Everyone gets rejected, even McSteamy.
Being a “masculine man” is not about being impervious to emotions.
Men are just as terrified of rejection as women are.
How being afraid of rejection often keeps a man from approaching a woman, and what you can do to welcome the right type of man to court you.
What Benjamin really thought of Lisa’s joke to him about “making the first cut” when they first met!
When a guy gets rejected, he feels like he has failed.
Most men are not only afraid of rejection, but they really want to be seen.
How the 12 week program with Lisa and Benjamin can help you learn to put up a boundary with a man in a gentle yet firm way.
How divorce makes a man feel like a failure, even if it ended for multiple reasons.

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Mentioned:

Quotes:

“As a man, if a woman is trying to be mysterious, aloof or even bitchy, that’s not inviting.” - Benjamin
When a guy gets rejected, he feels like he has failed. - Benjamin
“Most men are not only afraid of rejection, but they really want to be seen.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What are the signs that the man you are involved with or just met may have a porn addiction?
How is porn addiction different from other addictions?
Why people can’t “just stop” their addiction, especially one to porn.
Why men tend to have porn addictions, how it affects their rewards system and dopamine levels, and how it disrupts their whole life.
How a man’s porn addiction isn’t about your flaws or shortcomings in any way, and how to seek treatment for yourself if you are involved with a porn addict.
Why addicts and codependents seem to be attracted to one another.
Warning signs your partner is addicted to porn.
Is there any hope for dating a porn addict, or should you just cut your losses and leave?

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Mentioned:

Center for Healthy Sex

Al-Anon

CoDa

Quotes:

“For men that are addicted to porn, it’s everywhere, they can’t get away with it.”
“People use their addictions to escape their feelings and almost everyone has an addiction of some kind.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

The natural progression that occurs when a man is into you, instead of things feeling chaotic and frenetic.
When a man really likes you, things will feel more relaxed and open than secretive and mysterious.
How throughout their courtship, Benjamin always made sure Lisa felt safe, listened to, and really seen.
When you are the Guardian of someone’s Soul, you are looking for ways to make their journey easier.
How a man will make physical and emotional space for you if he’s really into you.
The ways that Benjamin and Lisa’s Emotionally Naked Dating course helps you weed out the men that aren’t into you, even from the dating profile they help you create.
What to do if you’re left wondering how he feels about you.

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Mentions:

Quotes:

“If I told you I was going to do something, I made certain that I did.” - Benjamin
“There’s so much openness, we don’t have anything hidden from each other. Except you don’t know what I got you from Christmas!” - Lisa
“I wanted you to know that I supported you, and I supported your soul’s journey.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

A few of the tell tale signs that you may have a fear of commitment.
Almost half of all Americans don’t have a significant other, possibly even more in recent years.
But what if I commit and get let down AGAIN?
What about the notion that as soon as you commit, you’ll lose your independence?
How being in a good relationship with a man that is respectful and your equal can actually help your finances, not drain them.
How the company you keep can have a big impact on your decision to jump in and commit with both feet.
You’ll learn why fireworks and moonbeams aren’t what you’re looking for, and that’s rarely how the Guardian of Your Soul shows up.

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Pew Research Center

Quotes:

“We can’t always see our own blind spots.”
“You actually will gain MORE with the right partner.”
“We have to look at ourselves and not undervalue what we are bringing to a relationship.”
“There are wonderful men who want women who are loving and kind and nurturing.”
“Looking for fireworks, moonbeams, and shooting stars and sky rockets is not the way to gauge whether or not somebody is really a good partner.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What does it look like to be someone’s back up girl?
But if I bring up what I need, won’t that make me sound desperate or pushy?
How staying as someone’s option is a sign of low self-esteem.
Do men actually know what’s happening when they put a woman on the backburner?
Sometimes women confuse drama with love.
Why you should never go beyond six months before saying what you want.
How to spot the signs of a non-committal relationship.
How to listen to your gut instinct and speak up for what you’re really seeking in a relationship.
Signs that a man is not integrating you into his life.
The importance of getting Emotionally Naked, seeing if someone can meet you there, and how Lisa and Benjamin can help you.

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Mentioned:

Mr. Unavailable and The Fallback Girl

Quotes:

“There is a feeling that a woman gets when she feels safe and secure in a relationship and when she feels that a man has both feet in.” - Lisa
“You really do want to make sure that you get out of these relationships and start learning how to do this intelligently so that you don't waste time.” - Lisa
“I had to find self esteem and be willing to walk away from those relationships to find the guardian of my soul.” - Lisa
“Sometimes drama gets confused with love.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why do we hold on to relationships and people, even if they weren’t that great?
Can you really let go of a relationship that you’ve invested so much in?
What about the fear that you’ll never find someone like that again?
A few of the many ways holding on tight to an old relationship costs you.
How working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you press the reset button and get REAL clarity on what you are looking for and how to embody the best version of yourself quickly.
How to stop beating yourself up for picking the wrong people and start focusing on the right ones.
Yes, you can learn to see the light and not waste time on imposters.

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Quotes:

“One of the reasons we hold on is because it’s very, very hard to admit that it’s not going to work and that you may not be a good fit.”
“And a lot of you are thinking, ‘but I need to go to therapy, I need to spend time healing, I need to process and figure out what went wrong’.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What does it mean to be ambivalent?
Why do many women make everything else besides finding a partner a priority, when in actuality they deeply crave finding a partner.
What’s so good about having a partner to go through life with anyway?
How judging men and being closed off to connections with good men is really a sign you’re ambivalent.
How being afraid to receive can be a sign of ambivalence.
The most extraordinary journey is to actually go out and consciously search for a partner.
Sex will only get you so far, you’re going to have to learn how to get Emotionally Naked.
Is the fear of ending up in another horrible relationship holding you back?
Why feeling unlovable is also at the root of many ambivalent feelings.

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Quotes:

“Children are wonderful… parents, friends, all of those things are beautiful. But there is something about finding love and true partnership that is extraordinary.” - Lisa
“Stop over-giving and just sit still.” - Lisa
“I think the greatest gift in life is having a loving partner to share it with you.” - Lisa
“So many of us women have so many walls up. We judge men, and we’re hard on them, and we find something wrong with almost every man we meet, and it’s heartbreaking.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Love doesn’t have to be an either/or experience. In fact, good relationships should help you in every aspect of your life including career and spirituality.
Isn’t a relationship all about compromise?
The FIREWORKS myth, and why it’s okay if you don’t feel crazy sparks on the first date (or even the third!).
A few listener questions and statements including one woman who is restructuring her love life, and another wondering where all the emotionally available men are.
Think love is getting in the way of your relationship with a higher power? Actually, the ultimate spiritual thing you can do is find love.
How is the time table of finding love and starting a family different for men vs women?
If you’re single for now, enjoy it! But do the RIGHT work so it’s possible to call in the Guardian of Your Soul, IF that is what you truly desire.
It’s important to look into the future, and see what you want it to look like.
Other people are going to project their ideas of how life SHOULD be onto you. The restrictions and limiting beliefs are quite often because they are trying to protect you. But, that doesn’t mean you live for them.
How working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you get crystal clear on what you want, including spiritual wisdom.

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Quotes:

“It doesn’t have to be about compromise. I’ve never felt like I’ve compromised.” - Benjamin
“Love is synonymous with God.” - Benjamin
“The ultimate spiritual thing you can do is find love.” - Lisa
“In almost every spiritual practice, the end goal is love.” - Benjamin
“As we lift ourselves with mutual love, it lifts us up to God.” - Benjamin
“I made a decision that I wanted to get more open as I got older. I wanted the road to get wider, not narrower.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Wei talks about his journey coming out of a marriage and seeking therapy to get clarity and support on his parenting. This led him to feel ready to get out there and take the next step.
The best relationships don’t always start out as huge fireworks. They build from a foundation of friendship over time.
Leanne talks about how Wei makes her feel heard and taken care of. He is so thoughtful and truly looks out for her in a protective yet gentle way.
What was it like for Leanne and Wei to come from a Chinese culture when it came to looking for love and embracing their role in a relationship?
Leanne talks about how the financial and time investment of working with Lisa was SO worth it, and she wishes she did it when she was younger.
Having a difficult conversation with Wei in a loving and kind way was a milestone to Leanne.
Even if you haven’t found your “Wei” yet, you can learn from how Leanne dove in to do the RIGHT work on herself.

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Quotes:

“I did my reflection and came out of it, and was ready to move forward to the next chapter.” - Wei
“Emotionally Naked is the key. It’s the foundation to bring two souls together.” - Leanne
“He gave the space for me to voice myself, any way I can.” - Leanne
“Having a relationship with a guy, we want to make him feel like his world is getting bigger, not smaller.” - Leanne
“I had to address myself before I moved on to the next stage. Make yourself ready before you start something new.” - Wei

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How first date fashion can get in the way of making a connection with a man.
What you or your girlfriends may think is cool and sexy may be overwhelming for a man, especially at first.
What does a man think when he sees a woman that is overdressed?
When a woman is dressed like a movie character or Halloween costume, men don’t see the real “her”, but instead an image or facade.
How to embrace dressing with comfort and ease, but still look classic and classy.
Okay, but what if you have a strong sense of style and want to show it off?
Does how you dress really impact a man deciding to go on a second date with you?
It’s a sign of good self esteem to dress with taste and be understated.
Lisa and Benjamin’s Emotionally Naked 12 Week Course is all about authenticity and a step by step process of learning how to put your true self out there in every way, from your profile pictures to how you show up.
But wait, he’s putting in little to no effort in how HE shows up? That’s not fair!
A man wants a woman to be comfortable in her body. That’s a huge turn on.
Benjamin shares the biggest turn ONs and OFFs when it comes to makeup, shoes, and showing some sexy skin.

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Mentioned:

Quotes:

“If a man can’t get through that layer, he’s not going to call back for the second date because there is not that connection.” - Benjamin
“It’s become more clear to me how important clothing and image is, and how that can completely draw someone in or turn someone completely off.” - Lisa
“Some women so badly want to make an impression that they hide behind the fashion and they’re afraid to show their real selves.” - Lisa
“We don’t necessarily want fireworks in the beginning, we want something to build from a foundation of friendship, trust, and safety.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

First, let’s define anxiety.
What if you don’t really feel anxious in general, but just when it comes to dating and relationships?
How anxiety can show up in everything from our thoughts, body feelings, or unprocessed emotions.
The real cost of not dealing with your anxiety.
Why do powerful and successful women still struggle with so much dating our self confidence?
If the brain’s job is to protect you, why does it flood us with fear and anxiety?
Lisa wouldn’t have found Benjamin if she didn’t face her anxiety. And if she can, so can you!

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Quotes:

“Women who are capable and independent and don't like asking for help or feeling out of control are going to do everything they can to subconsciously avoid having to face this part of life.”
“Once I got out there, and I put myself online, I started to see how much anxiety I really had in this part of life.”
“I stopped and decided that I had to face this part of life and do something about it.”
“To actually face it head on meant that I came right up against a wall of anxiety that I didn’t even know existed.”

Why it’s essential to learn about attachment theory.
What does it look like when someone is either anxiously attached or avoidant?
Why do women tend to be more anxious in relationships?
How do you know which one you are, and can you be a mix of them?
What are protest behaviors?
How Lisa observed a love bomber and got herself out of it with a clear conscience.
What is Lisa’s “One Conversation Rule” for seeing if the person you are dating is equipped to handle the tough conversations in life?
Why are avoidants / anxious attachers attracted to one another, and how to break free of codependency to become more secure.
How to finally solve this issue to become an Emotionally Naked Dater!

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Mentioned:

Attached

Men Who Can’t Love

Quotes:

“Our parents have a huge influence over who we choose as partners, and how we show up in our relationships.”

“What's exciting is having both feet in a relationship, and being willing to take that kind of leap, that kind of risk, and then seeing what happens.”

“When we're anxious, we tend to attract the wrong men, so anxious and avoidant people are attracted to each other.”

Original Airdate: October 14, 2021

Ep 23, re-edited for this RePlay

How to get into a positive mindset even before you arrive on the date.
Dating can feel like an adventure, it doesn’t always have to feel like you’re on a treadmill!
Do you really need a dating coach? How can it help get you out of your rut?
What does Lisa mean by taking the “feminine lead”?
Why are you repeating patterns or stuck in the past when you feel ready to move forward in love?
Sometimes moving forward can also look like stopping to take a break and reassess.
How to encourage men to pursue you.

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Mentioned:

Quotes:

“You cannot move forward until you make sense of the past.”

“Get into your heart, be vulnerable and embrace the feminine.”

“Having a beautiful deep understanding of what men go through is going to open up your heart to men.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How to create vulnerability in the context of trust and safety, without sharing every detail of your life.
Some specific examples of what you could share on a date that is vulnerable and will help a man feel closer to you while still leaving some room for subtlety.
Instead of interviewing your date, we learn to receive and reciprocate.
The art of playfulness takes away anxiety and brings a lighter mood to both you and your date.
Humor creates an instant connection.
Why insatiable curiosity is not only a turn on for men, but something they crave in their day to day life.
Date isn’t asking a lot of questions? Don’t discard him yet!
Two strangers can be genuinely curious about each other and have a magical evening and go their separate ways, so even if your date isn’t your soulmate, you can still learn something and practice these techniques.
We remember how people make us feel, so make sure you are in the bell jar and present with who is in front of you.

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Mentioned:

Healers on Healing

Anatomy of an Illness

Quotes:

"It requires a certain confidence to be playful." - Lisa

"Laughter washes away anxiety." - Benjamin

"There is something magical about the art of presence and being in the moment." - Lisa

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What does over-strategizing look like? How does it show up in ways you may not have thought about or noticed?
Dating feels so stressful! How can I have fun and actually enjoy myself?
How to make your texting more friendly and less urgent and needy.
The less you strategize, the better you can weed out the avoidants and only put energy into those who match your interest and values.
What does it feel like to a man when women over-strategize?
Why is dating multiple people so important before deciding to go exclusive with a man?
Yes, men can truly feel both authentic trust, safety, and friendship. AND they can feel when you are overthinking and trying to control/steer the ship.

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Mentioned:

The Rules

Quotes:

“We create these stories just out of thin air, and you know, it’s crazy making.” - Benjamin
“I think a lot of women are looking for a picture to put into a picture frame, rather than seeing the person.” - Benjamin
“One of the concerns that a guy has in dating is that they’re going to be controlled, so their radar is up.” - Benjamin
“It takes a lot of personal risk and a willingness to fully open yourself up to another person and to really surrender to the process.” - Lisa
“What we found is that by combining our lives, we've actually gained greater autonomy and a greater sense of ourselves in doing so, because we're reflected back by the other person. By combining our lives, we've actually gained.” - Benjamin
“Dating multiple people is so important because you begin to see who shows up.” - Benjamin
“I stopped trying to get a guy to like me. I just wanted to feel good about myself and I showed up in those situations feeling proud that I had portrayed the best example of me.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Is your version of how your man “should be” holding you back from meeting a really great guy?

Why you should broaden your view of what a successful, spiritual, and wealthy man looks like.

Benjamin is Lisa’s greatest teacher and the man who walks the talk the most of any man she’s ever met, but she had to do the inner work on herself to fully be ready for someone like him to show up.

How does the 12 week Emotionally Naked Dating Program help women come up with the five non-negotiables? Why does it matter to get clear on your Final Five?

Your life will change when you treat dating as a spiritual journey, and you let go of your grip on what things should look like.

Instead of having a checklist of things that you are looking for, see if you can go on dates and simply appreciate the man sitting in front of you.

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Mentioned:

Werner Erhard

Quotes:

“We are meaning making machines.” - Werner Erhard

“I was really happy that I hadn't limited myself and that I got outside of my own box. I was willing to see success in a much broader sense and not have this very narrow view.” - Lisa

“I just started to expand my view of what I thought success looked like, and I started to redefine that.” - Lisa

“He is my greatest spiritual teacher. Of all the great teachers I’ve worked with, I’ve never met anyone who walks the talk the way Benjamin does. He lives a life of kindness, gratitude, generosity, passion and compassion.” - Lisa

“There's a better way to date. There's a newer way, a way that comes from the heart from real love and compassion, where we can all appreciate one another.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How does an avoidant man’s behavior shift from the beginning of dates to when things get a little more comfortable?
What makes an avoidant man want to get in a relationship in the first place?
Women rationalize this behavior more when he’s “nice”.
These nice avoidants seem to have every piece except for the consistent interest and commitment, keeping a woman sticking around and hoping he will change.
In the Emotionally Naked Dating course, you’ll hearn how to ask the right questions to move things forward for a future together, or if they’re going to bolt.
Movies and TV shows give us false ideals by showing super avoidant men magically changing their whole lifestyle if/when the right woman walks by. That isn’t real.
Just because things are better than your last relationship, doesn’t mean it’s the best option for you. Are you settling for less than what you deserve?
How coaching can help you look for consistency, healthy progression of the relationship, and words and actions that match.
When a man shuts down, it’s important to remember it has nothing to do with you.

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Mentioned:

Crazy, Stupid, Love. (2011, film)

Quotes:

“When you are a woman who has done some work, you can see ‘oh, this man is avoidant. Things have changed.’ ” - Cassie
“It’s almost like they have one foot in– but they’re not really in.” - Lisa
“It takes work on the man’s part, not just the right woman walking past.” - Lisa
“One of the things we work on in the course is actually encouraging our women to ask questions and push things forward to see if this is just monogamous dating, or if there's really a future there.” - Lisa
“The most important thing to look for is consistency and behavior over time, progression of the relationship, and that words and actions match.” - Lisa
“When the man shuts down or to the extent that he shuts down, it's important to remember it has nothing to do with you.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Okay, so where can you really meet people out in the real world?
How can you and your other single friends help set each other up? What about your friends already in a relationship?
Working from home? Lisa provides some ideas to get you out of your home office and into a great setting to meet men.
Before you give up on online dating, Lisa talks about some simple yet powerful ways to tune up your profile.
The top 10% of men in looks are getting 80% of the reponses - how can you use this to your advantage?
Lisa talks about how not to let rejection hold you back or keep you down.
Why just waiting and “leaning back” is not a winning strategy.

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Mentioned:

Modern Love

MeetUp

Eventbrite

Match

SilverSingles

Quotes

“Proximity and frequency are two of the big indicating factors of what causes a match.”
“He’s out there and searching for you right now.”
“If I were single, I would be taking my pup to the park as often as possible.”
“You will get way more dates online then offline.”

None

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How do you even know if you’re settling? What does it look / feel like?
Why do men settle, and how is it different from the reasons women settle?
How settling sets us up for a feedback loop of losing self confidence and self-esteem.
Why staying in a relationship hoping the other person will change is a dead end street!
Benjamin and Lisa talk about a client who settled for more than 30 years and was finally able to see the light and leave.
What does it mean to “marry beneath you” financially, physically, etc.
Lisa opens up about using her financial stability to attract men and then resenting them for not making a living, and how she turned it around to learn how to raise her own self-esteem and ultimately, her own self-worth.

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Mentioned:

Quotes:

“They can tell that the person isn’t really emotionally available, but they keep settling in the relationship. They keep staying anyway.” - Lisa
“Often, people will stay in a relationship or a feeling hoping that the person will change, or they can change the other person. It seldom happens.” - Benjamin
“We can feel when suddenly we’ve set aside our dreams and aspirations to just get through the day.” - Benjamin
“When you're with the wrong person, you can't be with the right person, or you can't go out and find the right person, it takes a toll on our self esteem.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How having a roadmap can help lead you to answer the age old question, “where are all the good men at?!”
Most people are like teenagers when it comes to dating.
Why being accomplished, attractive, and available isn’t enough for finding love, based in respect and friendship.
Lisa talks about how she gained the emotional maturity she needed in order to find the mature love she wanted.
What is the cost of not having a roadmap to love?
Why just learning information and watching YouTube videos on finding love isn’t enough.
When you have a roadmap, you aren’t wasting your time going after men presenting red flags, or in relationships that are solely chemistry based.
Finding the Guardian of Your Soul is going to feel very ordinary - and that’s a good thing!

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Mentioned:

Quotes:

“Having a roadmap means having a step by step plan that puts all of the pieces of this puzzle together, the pieces you already have, and the pieces you have yet to learn. So you can stop wasting precious time and find true love now.” - Lisa
“Finding the guardian of your soul, in some ways, is going to feel very ordinary.” - Lisa
“Unless we learn other ways we'll just default back to the same things we did in junior high school.”- Benjamin
“If you really know what to look for in a man, you can find many of them. But most people are not always valuing the right things, or looking for the right things.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why shame is one of the worst things a man can feel.
Men want to be a woman’s hero, and when it’s mirrored back to them that it’s not happening, they feel like total failures.
Why shame for men and fear for women can be such big driving emotions.
From breathing to posture, how does a man shut down when asked to process?
How working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you get to more connection, compassion, and empathy in your relationship.
Real life examples of couples that processed the right way, and they fell even more deeply in love.
What stonewalling is and why it’s so detrimental to your relationship.

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Mentioned:

Gottman

Quotes

“Understanding the problem is not a solution for the problem.” - Lisa
“Emotionally naked can show you the right way to sit down and talk with the man you love in a way that will bring you closer together rather than further apart.” - Lisa
“The opposite of love isn’t necessarily hate. It’s resentment, indifference, and it turns into stonewalling.” - Benjamin
“The goal of processing is connection, compassion, seeing the other person's point of view, and fear and shame can get in the way.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why are men on the market so quickly after losing a partner?
What is toxic masculinity and is it showing up in my relationships and dating?
What do I do if I think the guy I’m seeing is using me as a crutch/rebound?
But won’t he love me more if I’m there to help him deal with his trauma?
Should I invest in a man straight off a divorce, going through a divorce, or someone who’s newly widowed?
How can our dating profile and photos help attract men who are truly available and ready for a deep, connected relationship?
How do you keep your heart open and not allow heartbreak to sideline you?
How did Lisa know Benjamin was a “hell yes!”???

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Mentioned:

J Date

Quotes:

“You’ve got to enter a relationship consciously.” -Lisa
“You have to start to learn how not to take things personally.” -Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Feeling chemistry is great, but that doesn’t mean it’s the foundation for a healthy relationship or partnership.
Lisa and Benjamin both give examples of times they rushed into relationships and the lessons it taught them.
If you are a woman of child bearing years that doesn’t want to waste your time, finding a top notch coach like Lisa and Benjamin will literally change your life.
Why do men tend to rush into relationships, and how is that different from why women jump in too quickly?
How can you tell if he’s emotionally available so you can stop wasting your time and precious energy?
Going on a few dates is not comparable to navigating the ups and downs of life together. You may feel like you know each other, but you don’t.
When you rush things, you may jump too fast and too far before knowing just how much your person is willing to integrate you into their life.

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Mentioned:

Marianne Williamson

Quotes

“We remind the women in our course again and again when they think they found the guy early on, we remind them that you really don’t know that person yet.” - Benjamin
“I don’t care if every cell in your body is lit up every which way to Sunday, it doesn’t matter. You can not trust your chemistry. You’ve got to slow it down.” - Lisa
“The process is amazing. What women learn and who they become in a span of three short months is astounding.” - Lisa
“It's one thing to have fun for a while and enjoy each other's company. But is this person willing to integrate you into his life?” - Lisa
“I used to be a judge of character, and now, I realized I was just judging people. Now, I'm a really good read of someone's character.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Lisa talks about the difference in how she used to receive criticism, and the way she receives it today.
How you can become more confident with your stronger qualities, and the things you struggle with as well.
Nobody is perfect, and that should make you feel better about embracing who you are as an authentic, flawed, but beautiful human.
Lisa talks about seeing the qualities from her father in herself, and the challenge to make an intentional effort to be her highest self, instead.
Before you find the Guardian of Your Soul, you need to really grow up and be honest with yourself.

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Mentioned:

Yogananda Paramahansa

"The Law of Success"

Eckhart Tolle

Quotes

“There was so much I had to look at about myself and really take ownership for.” - Lisa
“I'm an earthy person. And I really am grounded, you know, that's one of my qualities.” - Lisa
“It forced me to really grow up, to be honest with myself in a way that I had never been honest before, to rip off band aids.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What does a Dating Coach say when guys ask them what line of work they’re in?
How does Cassie’s job differ now then when she was in charge of a classroom as a teacher?
Men are so afraid of being rejected and… so are women!
Why it’s so important to stop making up stories about attractive people. They truly are just like everybody else.
One response can either draw a man closer or push him away.
What are the ways we shame a man that we may not even be conscious of?
Cassie talks about her decision of going alcohol free in her dating and social life.
How has Cassie’s own confidence and poise grown in every aspect of her life since working with Lisa?

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Mentioned:

Henry Cavill

Quotes

“I just own it now.” - Cassie
“I don't attach my self worth to whether or not the guy likes me.” - Cassie
“If you want a phone call, express it. And I would say get on a phone call as quickly as possible to really avoid allowing a fake relationship to be created through just texting.” - Cassie
“So we're all just going out frustrated, thinking that the apps are the only way to meet. And then that can be a nightmare in and of itself, without honest, vulnerable communication.” - Cassie
“It didn't just happen overnight that I became this competent and comfortable with who I am, and confident and comfortable with being a non drinker.” - Cassie
“I know how appreciative men will be when they know we make an effort.” - Cassie

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

The most popular dating app is Tinder. But can you really find love on it?
How do you determine which dating app is right for you?
Some ways to make the most of your experience, no matter what app you are on.
The importance of not telling yourself a story about one site being “good” and the others being “bad”.
The app experience can be very different depending on what city or part of the country you live in.
Some tips for staying safe and not getting catfished, including a reverse photo search and proper look up of their information.
Success stories from Benjamin working on creating a profile for women that caught the interest of the right guys.
Sites like Silver Singles that are good for those 50+.
The real story behind exclusive dating sites that are harder to get into, such as Raya.

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“When your energy is open, your heart is open, and you're not rushing through your life and staring at your phone, when your eyes are open and you really are in the moment, that's when you're going to meet these guys.” - Lisa
“Don't make up a story about this site is better than that site.” - Lisa
“You can meet people anywhere, and you can meet a guy on any site.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Rules are somewhat arbitrary and they often come from our head, rather than our soul.
Rules can be separating and repel people. They can be black and white, while a boundary is about communicating what matters to you in a way that gives someone the choice to respect it.
Lisa gives an example of how Benjamin asked Lisa (nicely!) if she could change her tone, and how that was an example of him setting his own boundary.
Lisa and Benjamin give some real world examples of rules that almost resulted in missed connections and confusion to both the man and the woman.
The “rules” and all these strategies and games for dating may work to get a date, or even a ring, but they aren’t building toward a solid foundation because they aren’t based on emotional nakedness, trust, or vulnerability.
Being the Guardian of someone’s Soul isn’t about following rules. It’s about seeing the path that the soul needs to go on, and supporting it in every way possible.

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Mentioned:

Dating Rules

Getting To I Do

Quotes

“It's about finding that middle ground. It's about being able to say, ‘look, this is what works for me. This is what my truth is, and can you meet me there’?” - Lisa
“Rules are somewhat arbitrary, and they often come not from our soul, but from our head.” - Benjamin
“Rules are about control where boundaries are about emotional vulnerability.” - Benjamin
“Anytime you are setting a boundary, it’s about making a request and inviting and saying to a man ‘Could you? Would you? I would love to know your thoughts.’ It’s not one person dictating how it is.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Part of being an empowered and powerful woman is looking for what we can do to create a space for men to feel safe.
Lisa explains how the labels we put on men as constantly being emotionally unavailable actually give our power away.
We have a tremendous capacity and a gift for being able to draw out the best in men.
How do we create that safe space for a man?
If you tell him to be honest, you must be ready for what his true honest answers are. Yelling at him after will make him feel that he actually can’t tell you the truth!
Male vulnerability and female vulnerability look and sound very different. From a young age, men can be bullied and made fun of for expressing their emotions.
Lisa talks about how she realized that being in a relationship meant she had to make room for the man, and things couldn’t always be exactly how she wanted them.

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Mentioned: lisashield.com

Quotes

“When women are being vulnerable, it sounds very different than when a man is being vulnerable.”
“Whenever we blame men or we label them as being emotionally unavailable, or whatever labels we put on them, we give our power away.”
“We as women have a tremendous capacity and gift of being able to draw out the best in men.”
“We have the ability to open up a space for men, where they can actually feel safe coming to us and sharing their innermost thoughts and dreams with us.”
“Being an adult for me in a relationship meant that I had to learn how to make room for the man, and that it couldn't always be my way.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Our core values are what make up the matrix of our being. They are deeper than just thoughts or opinions, and our core values typically don’t change with the wind.
It takes effort, but it is possible to navigate to the goodness of the person and see that both people are usually trying to do what they think is good for the world.
Yes, it is very, very difficult for two people who have diverging core values to be in an intimate relationship.
Lisa and Benjamin talk about their shared core values- one being that neither wanted children. But what would it look like if someone changed their mind?
Opposites don’t always attract. Sometimes being on the same page is the best way to be when it comes down to these very big, personal, and divisive issues.
Being the Guardian of someone’s Soul doesn’t mean you give up your life to live theirs.
What should you do when the differing opinions are so big that it just seems unfixable?

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Quotes

“I think the difference is that in a lot of dating books, they say to get the ring and the relationship will follow. And it's just the opposite. It's having that relationship and getting the ring.” - Benjamin
“Core values are really what make up the matrix of our being.” - Benjamin
“I think it's always possible to navigate to the goodness of the other person and to have the idea that both people, even on either end of the spectrum, have the same goal. Which is to do good in the world, and hopefully leave it a better place.” - Benjamin
“It would be very, very difficult for two people who have diverging core values to be in an intimate relationship.” - Benjamin
“Being the guardian of someone's soul also means that the other person deeply wants to be the Guardian of Your Soul. So it's that mutual connection, we never want to live someone else's dream.” - Lisa
“I don't think that opposites attract. I think having two people that have both feet in the world and are on the same page is the best combination of all.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What is a boundary, and how do you know what your boundaries are?
What to do when someone keeps testing or not respecting your boundary.
Boundaries are not a one size fits all thing, and we have to learn how to communicate what ours are in a relationship.
Men don’t like being told what to do (especially from women) so how do you tell him your boundary in a firm but loving manner?
Don’t forget! Boundaries can change over time.
What should you do when you want to connect on the phone but he wants to text?

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Mentioned:

don Miguel Ruiz

John Gottman

Attached

Quotes

“Anytime you have a limit, a line that you need to draw between you and another person, that's creating a boundary.” - Lisa
“You need to let other people know where your boundaries are. You cannot expect that they are using the same playbook in life as you.” - Lisa
“Boundaries are not one size fits all.” - Lisa
“Men don’t like to be told what to do. Especially from a woman.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Annette talks about what held her back from originally signing up with Lisa, and why she decided to go all in.
What made working with Lisa and Benjamin different for Annette compared to all the other self growth programs she has done?
The characteristics and qualities we expect from a man, we have to embody first.
What made sharing within the group of other strong, badass women so powerful for Annette?
Annette talks about how she opened up her heart and forgave herself for poor past decisions and her part in unhealthy relationships.
The work Annette did has also positively affected her career and the way she shows up in the world.

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Quotes

“I can't expect my Guardian of my Soul to give me everything on my wish list. If I'm not willing to be the wish list myself.” - Annette
“I’m not going to settle until I feel home.” - Annette
“The guy is going to come. I know he’s coming.” - Annette
“You guys coach from your soul and your heart.” - Annette
“How lucky is my life that I just need the right guy?” - Annette

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Laurie watched Lunch with Lisa for a few months - what made her decide to take action and sign up for coaching, and what are the ways it paid off?
Laurie’s training as a therapist allowed her to be fully aware and conscious through the process, making her a quick and agile learner.
How did Laurie’s profile stand out to Jim and what set her apart from other women?
Jim talks about the year-long break he took from dating to work on himself, and how it mirrors the inner work Laurie was doing on herself that made them really click once they came together.
As the Guardian of Jim’s Soul, Laurie makes space for him to be himself, and in turn, Jim deeply appreciates and does the same for her.
Jim describes how Laurie’s general energy and the way she communicated gave him that “old school” feeling he’s always been yearning for.
Laurie talks about how she let Jim know in a light way that she appreciated consistency, and how him showing up and being there for her is such a turn on.

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Quotes

“I never in a million years imagined it could be this good.” - Laurie
“Not only was I looking for the Guardian of My Soul, but I wanted to be the Guardian of somebody else’s Soul.” - Laurie
“We were very comfortable with each other, we could just be ourselves and let it flow. I hate to say it, but it was so easy.” - Jim
“I didn't know that a relationship could be this wonderful.” - Laurie
“I am creating a space for him to feel really safe, and to let him know all the time how much I love him. And we both do that all the time.” - Laurie
“A lot of women just don't know how to make space for a man.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Find out the two different types of exclusive relationships: monogamous and progressive dating.
How working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you focus on getting into a progressive relationship and find a partner who is ready to get Emotionally Naked with you.
What are the consequences of being in a monogamous relationship for someone with an anxious attachment style?
How can you tell if the person you're dating is ready for forward movement, or if they’re just making excuses and stringing you (and the relationship) along?
Benjamin explains his desire to take things slow when first meeting Lisa, and how that allowed them to co-create a relationship built on trust, friendship, and vulnerability.
Invested time and shared experiences do not equal deep emotional vulnerability.
In a progressive relationship, both partners make conscious choices to integrate their daily lives and they find time to be together.

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Mentioned:

Quotes:

“Distance can seem like a very viable excuse, but in the end, for two people to bring their lives together, they are going to have to find a way to work with it.” -Lisa
“There has to be a willingness on both sides to work together to figure it out.”
Lisa
“Often, people mistake the time invested with deepening emotional vulnerability.” - Benjamin
“In a monogamous relationship, someone settles for less than what they are looking for. It’s easy to settle into a routine and not have it go anywhere. Not planning for the future, getting vulnerable, or integrating into each other’s life.”
Lisa
“In an anxious-avoidant dynamic, they think there is a connection when the passion and intensity is really fear and desperation.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What is your “frenemy” voice, and how is it holding you back?
How to silence your inner critic and turn down that critical, judgemental voice.
It takes time to integrate new behaviors that align yourself with your joy, but ooh boy, is it worth it!
When we're hard on ourselves, we also tend to be hard on others.
Men can pick up on if we are radiating joy and happiness, and can also sense when we feel insecure and need constant reassurance.
What does it look like to learn from joy rather than from pain?
How a coach (and especially Lisa’s Emotionally Naked Dating course) can help you learn to find your place of joy.

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Mentioned:

Marianne Williamson

Quotes

“It's not up to you what you learn, but only whether you learn through joy, or through pain.” - Marianne Williamson
“I think if you're not really authentically radiating joy, and happiness and positivity and self-acceptance, they're going to pick up on that.”
“I started learning through joy. I started being more loving and more self-accepting and more patient with myself. I knew that it would take time to integrate these new behaviors, but I also knew that with time and with awareness, I could start to do it differently.”
“It's very, very difficult for us to see ourselves the same way other people see us because we're not objective.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What does it look like from the male perspective when you’re constantly seeking reassurance?
The more he feels like he’s walking on eggshells around you, the less he feels like he is the man who can truly make you happy and that is the kiss of death for any relationship.
Men resent feeling manipulated or controlled by a woman.
The more you need reassurance, the more he will feel like he’s doing something bad or wrong, even when he’s not.
How to seek out healthy reassurance from him instead.
Being kind and compassionate is important, but it also doesn’t mean you are a doormat.
Men are truly one-track-minded, and they may really like you but still forget your birthday or send that good morning text.
Lisa talks about how she used every opportunity she could to show Benjamin she was a different kind of woman, the ideal version of her highest self.

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Mentioned:

Eckhart Tolle

Quotes

“I think it's in the nature of a man not to want to do something out of obligation.” - Lisa
“Many, many, many men resent feeling manipulated or controlled by a woman.” - Lisa
“It's so important for women to really think about the fact that men are truly one-track minded.” - Lisa
“Part of those things that a man needs, particularly as the relationship settles in, are time and space to himself.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Embracing our sexuality and sensuality at any age is beautiful and powerful.
Who is Dawn Cartwright, and why does Lisa love her so much?
Dawn talks about Tantra, and how it can be a way to explore our own sensuality with ourselves and our partner(s).
What does it really look and feel like for a woman to be in her body?
Lisa shares how she starts to notice when she’s living too much in her head and disconnected from the rest of her body.
Men and women want the same thing…and it’s not just sex.
Dawn shares her thoughts on how long we should wait before sleeping with a man from a Tantric perspective.
Okay, how do you learn to pleasure yourself?
A facial, but for your yoni? Yes. It’s a beautiful thing, and Dawn does it.
How can learning about your own body and showing up in a state to receive pleasure translate to meeting a great man and possibly the Guardian of Your Soul?

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Mentioned:

Dawn Cartwright | Chandra Bindu Tantra Institute

Quotes

“We can always open our hearts more, reveal ourselves more. And sex is such a powerful place to do that.” - Dawn
“Actually men and women, we want the same thing, and that thing is union. We all want it.” - Dawn
“I don't think people realize that depth in the richness and the potential when you have that level, that safety and trust, when you build that right from the beginning, and you don't rush in.” - Lisa
“Learning my body and learning to open to myself made it possible for me to open to a man who wants to commit.” - Dawn
“Men are human beings and sex is emotional for them too. But it just happens in a different way.” - Dawn

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

As a go-getter, Diane plays big and at the highest level in everything she does. How did she know that working with Lisa and Benjamin was a match?
How did Lisa’s program differ from the (very expensive) matchmaking programs she did before?
Working on yourself is an investment of time, energy, and money. Diane explains why it’s worth it and how it’s trickled over to making her a better version of herself in every aspect of life.
Diane opens up about her decision to keep dating and working on herself even through a difficult cancer diagnosis.
Benjamin’s profile writing was a game changer for Diane, and the man deserves a Pulitzer Prize for profile writing if there ever was one!
Now Diane is showing up expecting to enjoy herself and has a deep compassion and understanding of men.

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“It’s a miracle that I found you.” - Diane
“In my whole life, in corporate America and anything I’ve done with my health, I find the best that there is. I find a mentor or a coach.” - Diane
“I’m not looking for any guy, I'm looking for the guy.” - Diane
“I'm so glad I didn't find a mentor to get me just online. because that would have gotten me only so far.” - Diane
“The number one goal in my life is to have a quality relationship forever.” - Diane

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Ghosting happens, even to the best of us. However, it’s important to remember that you are still in control of your reactions and how you handle it.
Even though getting ghosted can feel super disappointing, a lot of men disappear because they are afraid the relationship is moving too fast and they don’t want to anger or upset a woman by telling her that he doesn’t see it moving forward.
Why do men sit on 3+ hour dates that seem to be wonderful, never to call again?
Other people may ghost, but it’s important for you to live in your integrity and always end things kindly.
When we have a conclusion, there’s understanding and maybe even an eventual forgiveness. When we ghost, you leave the other person to be confused and in the dark about what they did, and what went wrong.
The same way that you may have a long list of turn offs that may make you reconsider a second date with a man, chances are that he has them too!
Men may have a quick timeline for sex, but women have a quick timeline for commitment. Men often ghost when they feel like the relationship is a train speeding down the tracks, with no end or stop in sight.

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“We often encourage people, men and women, not to leave dead bodies in their path.” Benjamin
“Always end things kindly.” - Benjamin
“We give a lot of our power away to men and then set ourselves up as victims when we do that.” - Lisa
“Men may have a quick timeline for sex, but women have a quick timeline for commitment.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Is respect really that important to a man? Why?
Women crave love and being cherished, while men crave being respected and admired.
What if he’s not the perfect male specimen? How can I compliment his looks?
Society makes it seem like men don’t need admiration or praise when it couldn’t be further from the truth.
What happens when a man doesn’t feel respected in a relationship?
If you mirror back to him that he’s protecting you and that you feel safe, that will ramp up his desire to do so even more.

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Mentioned:

The Male Brain

Aretha Franklin “Respect”

Quotes

“She has to find something that she can respect or he’s going to feel inadequate and emasculated.” - Benjamin
“One of the things that a woman needs, in addition to feeling love and cherished, is feeling protected, and one of the passions a man has in life is to be able to protect a woman.” - Benjamin
“A woman needs love, a man needs respect.” - Benjamin

The Male Brain: A Breakthrough Understanding of How Men and Boys Think

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How did Cassie and Rebecca find Lisa and how did they get to work with her?
You’ll hear straight from the source - what is it really like to work with Lisa?
How does individual coaching differ from group coaching?
How has working with Lisa changed Cassie and Rebecca’s outlook on love, dating, and their own self-confidence?
Cassie and Rebecca talk about the shift they’ve both had to take the feminine lead and do their own work to show up as the highest version of themselves.
Cassie has a whole different mindset on dating than she had in the past, and revels in how much calmer she feels.
These two friendly women love talking with current and prospective clients all day long! It really does feel like a family.

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“I never thought I would meet someone and have such a loving, fulfilling, incredible relationship.” - Rebecca
“It's not about finding flaws, but just knowing what exactly are the qualities in the men that will work for me.” - Cassie
“It's so much fun. I feel like I'm chatting with girlfriends about dating. I'm helping them!” - Cassie
“I think it’s good for them to see that someone was in their similar position and that there’s a way through it. They don’t have to stay stuck in that thought process or position in life.” - Rebecca

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why is emotional availability so important in finding the Guardian of Your Soul?
What does it look like when a man is emotionally available?
He ghosted you and/or pulled way back! Does that mean he is emotionally unavailable?
Learn how to quickly pick up on if he is emotionally available, and recognize the red flags when he’s not.
What if you’re not the one who is emotionally available in a relationship?
Why a man who seems super interested at first may actually end up being emotionally unavailable in the long run. What’s the difference between this and a healthy build up to a relationship?
We don’t want to take everything personally, but also it’s important to take note of the patterns that keep recurring over and over to see if there is a lesson we need to learn.
How working with Lisa in her 12-week Emotionally Naked Dating course can help you get a handle on your own avoidant or anxious attachment style, and help you find a man who truly is emotionally available.

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Mentioned:

don Miguel Ruiz

Quotes

“If a man does not have emotional availability, you can’t have a connection.”
“Before you give your heart to somebody, you have to learn how to assess whether or not someone is emotionally available.”
“Men who are emotionally unavailable, ironically, in the very beginning seem incredibly interested.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Wait - you mean women just don’t get to sit back and let a man do all the work in dating?
There’s a difference between giving a man space and allowing a man to open up.
Why is being accessible so important to a man, and what does that look like?
A date isn’t about how to get a man to like you. It’s about each person opening up, connecting, and seeing if there is a connection of romance or even friendship that is worth your time.
If a man isn’t asking you rapid fire questions on a date, it does not mean he doesn’t like you or doesn’t care about getting to know you.
Lisa defines accessibility and how it creates a safe and loving space for both partners.
Lisa shares the beautiful shifts that happened when she started to take the responsibility for herself in every single interaction, and how it showed her the kind of woman she was.

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Mentioned:

Quotes:

“There's a difference between giving a man space and allowing a man to open up and perhaps in a way that he's never opened up on any other date.” - Benjamin
“Ultimately, a date isn't about how to get a man to pick you. The date is really two people that are ultimately, in the best of all possibilities, each looking for the Guardian of Your Soul.” - Benjamin
“When I think about accessibility, I think about creating a safe and loving space for two people to be human with one another.” - Lisa
“It doesn't automatically mean that a man doesn't want to get to know you if he's not asking questions.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How did Lisa’s upbringing shape her opinion of herself and the world around her?
Lisa talks about the inner work she did on herself to be ready for the type of man that Benjamin is.
Yes, if you are feeling insecure and co-dependent, there is hope and help for you.
How do you know if working with a love coach is right for you?
Lisa opens up about a marriage where she lost time, money, and her own self esteem, and the steps she took to find herself and rise up to become an even better woman than she imagined.
What steps are you doing that may be pushing men away, where you may not even be realizing it?
Stop taking everything personally!
Are you hearing the same message over and over again? It may be time you listen to the feedback.

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Mentioned:

Principles of Success

don Miguel Ruiz

The Power of Now

Quotes

“It’s taken years of personal growth work. I’ve worked with great mentors and teachers and I have been devoted and committed to learning how to become a woman who can love unconditionally.” - Lisa
“With true love, kindness, and compassion, there’s no strategy. There’s no game and there’s no technique to get there.” - Lisa
“If you've been hearing a particular message over and over and over again, it's something you need to look at.” - Lisa
“Life is a story we are telling ourselves. We’re making up all these agreements about the way life is, and we’re making all of these stories up.” - Lisa

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Being sexual is a state of mind, while sensuality is a state of being.
How can you become more sensual just by embracing your senses?
While we can turn the sexual mind on and off, our sensuality is always there.
You don’t have to have a “perfect” body or looks to be sensual.
Men need a woman to remind them of their own sensuality, and help them embrace it.
How did Lisa learn to embrace her sensuality and learn to become emotionally naked with men?
Sensual doesn’t mean exploiting yourself sexually or being overtly sexual.
There's a difference between a woman selling herself and a woman and valuing herself.
Men were taught not to experience our own sensuality. They need a woman to bring that out and raise it to that level.

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Mentioned:

Helen Mirren

Marilyn Monroe

James Joyce

Quotes

“There's a difference between a woman selling herself and a woman and valuing herself.” - Benjamin
“I feel so much more in tune with life.” - Lisa
“A man is deeply attracted to a woman who embraces gratitude.” - Benjamin
“So we're taught not to experience our own sensuality. We need a woman to bring that out to raise it to that level.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

We are often disappointed when the people we are dating don’t meet our expectations, but we have to surrender to the process and realize we are not entitled to have them follow our unwritten rules.
Lisa sees many parallels with the 12 Step Program and the dating process.
What does it mean to surrender to the process? Knowing that we can’t control every aspect or outcome, incompatibility does not equal failure, and resistance is counterintuitive.
Trusting the process can be scary, but there is no other way to gain wisdom and experience without going through it.
We can’t let the voice of insecurity or pride write our stories; our attitude and our reactions can change the entire outcome.
It’s important to remember the dating process is a journey. Have you thought about why you are dating?
Our best version of ourselves will attract the best people; acting with authenticity and genuinely from the heart is the only approach.
Every single person can benefit from the perspective of a third party mentor or coach to help them grow.
Investing in dating will pay out in dividends in so many facets of life from adding years to your lifespan, increasing your income level, and more.

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Mentioned:

Serenity Prayer

Watch Lisa’s Presentation

Quotes

“The opposite of surrender is not to let go of control. It’s to let go of resistance.”
“Surrendering to the process does not mean giving up.”
“What surrender means in a spiritual sense is that you stop fighting the process and you start to flow with it.”
“As you surrender to the process, the beauty of this is you’re letting this process teach you.”
“The dating process is actually a journey.”
“Every date is a stepping stone to love.”
“You’re not finding the right man, you're becoming the woman that you need to be to attract the man you’ve been dreaming of.”
“There’s nothing in our lives that will give us the return on investment that dating will.”
“We don’t have control over when, where, or how this happens. All we can do is keep opening our hearts and be ready.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Benjamin came up with the phrase “guardian of the soul’ when co-writing Handbook for the Heart, which Lisa coincidentally read before meeting Benjamin!
When you are the guardian of someone’s soul, you love them through their whole journey, even if that means you don’t always end up together. You give them nourishment, encouragement, and support.
Lisa and Benjamin share how they each feel loved and nurtured in a way that their soul calls for.
A Guardian of Your Soul relationship is expansive, not constricting.
Are you thinking about how You could be the guardian of someone’s soul? That is where your focus should be, and not just getting one of your own.
When looking for a coach, find someone who has what you want and is living that life authentically.

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Mentioned:

Handbook for the Heart

Quotes

“You set the example for what it means to be a man and in every sense of the word.” - Lisa
“We would not be the people we are today without each other and without the type of relationship that we fostered and nourished.” - Benjamin
“Everything about who I am is because of how you have loved and nurtured all the best parts of me in this relationship.” - Lisa

“Everything we do is for each other. Everything. This is the most sacred gift we've been given in this lifetime.” - Lisa

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Tara describes her breakthrough call with Lisa and what made her ultimately commit to the course.
Tara had never had a serious relationship before and was wondering if she would be alone forever. The pandemic gave her a break to pause and ponder why she was choosing to stay single.
What did Roy first think of Tara’s profile (written by Benjamin!), and how did it draw him in?
Tara and Roy talk about their relationship dynamic and how they communicate with one another.
What are some of the old dating patterns Tara worked through while on her journey with Roy?

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Mentioned:

OkCupid

Quotes

“She really is like my best friend and my companion. I'm never too busy because she's my priority.” - Roy
“Don't keep secrets. Just be honest with each other.” - Tara
“People need each other and we're designed to be with people. It's real, and you can find it too.” - Tara
“A real man wants a real woman who knows how to make him feel like a man.” - Lisa
This is a two-way street. A man needs to get his needs met just as much as we need to get our needs met, they may be different, but you have to know how to give him the things that he really needs.” - Lisa
“To me, she's perfect.” - Roy
“I'm going to make her happy. She's on my side.” - Roy
“It is the best investment I've ever made in my life.” - Tara

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What are ways our anger pushes men away and turns them cold and distant?
What are better ways to show you are disappointed and let down?
When a man is scared of getting in trouble or being shamed, he will either do something out of obligation, or he just won’t do it.
What causes good men to seek comfort in an external relationship, and what does it have to do with anger?
Managing your anger does not mean suppressing it, pushing it away, or denying your feelings. It’s not the anger itself, it’s how we express that anger.
How do most women use anger as the main emotion?
Women don’t often even realize how harsh they are being, and how it can come out in the most subtle ways through a call or text.
How does biology set men and women up to react differently to anger?

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Mentioned:

John Gottman

Quotes

“Guys don't like conflict, especially if it's directed towards them.” - Benjamin
“Everything starts with a breath, just a breath. And sometimes, it's hard to remember to do that the most basic thing - to take a breath.” - Benjamin
“Real men really want to make women happy.” - Benjamin
“Anger creates separation.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What exactly are bioidentical hormones?
Dr. Prudence shares examples of clients who got back their life (and libido!) from getting their hormones checked and taking action.
Dr. Prudence sees women whose hormones start changing, as early as their mid-30s.
What are some symptoms of perimenopause and menopause?
Dr. Prudence describes how birth control affects our hormones.
Lisa talks about her decision to take bioidentical hormones and how they have helped her out in almost every department.
Getting our hormones in balance is the key to embracing our feminine energy.
Dr. Prudence walks us through what the typical process looks like when a patient comes to see her.
Getting your hormones checked and partnering with a hormone specialist is a form of self-care.

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Mentioned:

The Hall Center

Radiance Again and Forever

Estrogen Matters

Quotes

“Menopause is not just a loss of ovarian hormones, but a loss of all hormones.” - Dr. Prudence
“Subtle hormone changes or deficiencies can affect every aspect of our life.” - Dr. Prudence
“I’m 60 years old and I look and feel better at 60 than I did at 45 or 50!” - Lisa
“It’s not just the mind and the emotions. It’s really the wisdom of the bodies. The sway, the movement, the waves that come from feminine wealth.” - Dr. Prudence

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why would Lisa do away with the therapeutic model of dating?
What does it mean to take 100% personal responsibility in your relationship?
Taking personal responsibility does NOT mean enduring any type of abuse.
Lisa and Benjamin talk about the ways they “process” without the long and draining hours of actual processing in their relationship, and how it makes things feel lighter, adding to their level of connection rather than adding blame or shame.
What is the first step to taking personal responsibility?
Most people’s actions are usually about them, rather than about us. How can we take responsibility for ourselves by having empathy for others?
Taking 100% responsibility means just that! Not 80%, 50%, or anything in between.
Lisa and Benjamin walk us through what it looks like to be nonreactive to what comes our way and instead observe how we feel and diffuse the situation.
Sometimes it takes just ONE person to change the entire dynamic of a relationship.
Even in what seems like an impossible relationship, it may not take much to turn it around once people start to feel heard and seen.

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Mentioned:

don Miguel Ruiz

The Mastery of Love

How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

Quotes

“If we can see underneath those levels of irritation and bad behavior and see an innocence of what people are really asking for, that helps to keep us in the present moment and really see our partner.” - Benjamin
“So instead of being the victim, we can be in charge of our thoughts, feelings, actions, words, and our relationship.” - Benjamin
“Blaming and complaining aren’t clean forms of communication.” - Benjamin
“Even in what seems like an impossible relationship, it may not take much to turn it around.” - Benjamin

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship (Toltec Wisdom Book)

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

We want to be optimistic and tell ourselves that we are growth-minded, but if we don’t have the right tools, we will keep needing to learn the same lessons over and over.
Putting in work is great, but it has to be the right kind of work that gets the results you are looking for.
What happens when you’re stuck in a loop, thinking that whatever guy you’re with now, is the best one for you?
What is “toxic positivity”? And what are some signs that you are positive in a way that’s actually hindering your chance at finding love?
How can you really get to know a great guy that fosters a relationship of vulnerability and trust?

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Mentioned:

Toxic Positivity

The Power Of Now

Don Miguel

Quotes

“We don’t make radical changes in our life without taking those parts of our life seriously.”
“There is no latest guy or greatest guy that is going to turn out to be the right one without you doing the right work.”
“We want to be optimistic and tell ourselves that we are growth-minded and that every relationship is a learning experience, but if you don’t have the right tools, you’re going to keep having the same learning experiences.”
“Both my career and my personal life have been leading me to master the art of loving and being loved.”

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

Toxic Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How do we maintain our autonomy in a relationship?
What does it look like to lose yourself and your identity in a relationship, and how do hormones and anxiety play a role?
Lisa and Benjamin describe a few typical scenarios that occur when the intimate bond starts prematurely.
Once we become sexually or chemically bonded, we can start to lose ourselves.
In a relationship where you guard each other's souls, you are able to surrender completely.
A good coach can help you identify what you have to offer that a man can’t get anywhere else. Working with Lisa and Benjamin, their clients learn to mirror a man’s masculinity back to him, which in turn makes her irresistible.
Why are people afraid to ask for the space they need?

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Mentioned:

Carl Rogers

Lynn Andrews

Attached.

Quotes:

“A man is attracted to a woman because a woman is his teacher.” - Benjamin
“A woman can offer a man things that a man can’t get from anywhere.” - Benjamin
“If a woman is in her femininity then a man can be in his masculinity.” - Benjamin
“You want to start to allow your reactivity to come up, and then you want to start doing some self-processing work.” - Lisa
“Confidence is sexy, and it is super attractive to be in control not of the other person, but of your own reactivity and emotions.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What are some of the top excuses women give for not finding the right man?
How do you know if YOU are emotionally and spiritually ready to call in The Guardian of YOUR Soul?
We get back what we put out. Lisa talks about how to shine your light from the inside out and become a woman that attracts quality men.
Why it may be time to throw that long list of things your dream man will have, or at least alter it.
Lisa talks about her experience where she didn’t feel fully connected to the men she was dating, and will give you the blueprint to how she changed it and became a man magnet.

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Mentioned:

Ted Talk Fashion Model Insecurity

Quotes

“We have an idea of what we are striving for, but we are not emotionally or energetically ready to have that relationship.”
“What we are putting out is what we are attracting to us.”
“I can TRULY be myself.”
“You can look at the woman you want to be, and design that.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

When we look at most relationships, we don’t see the kind of love that TV and the movies have told us we deserve.
How does the fantasy of love leave people disappointed, when in actuality it’s the deep connection and friendship that is really what should be sought after?
Working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you get out of the fantasy world and into the right steps that you need to attract the Guardian of Your Soul.
Disney movies and romantic comedies show couples declaring their undying love together, but not what love looks like 15 or 20 days, or even years, down the road!
Real love offers you a space to be all of yourself. You don’t have to put up walls or pretenses and both of you bring your full selves to the relationship.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“Most of us never really learn how to go on a date and connect with a man consciously.”
“If you really want to get love right now in this day and age, it requires something more than just luck or karma.”
“The reality is that you are the common denominator in your love life.”
“You don't hear about this in the movies, you don't see this kind of love, devotion, this kind of openness. In Hollywood and Disney, we have princes with glass slippers and fairy tales, but not this.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What are the ways we self-sabotage our own success, whether it’s in a career, or finding and keeping a good man.
How can you get past self-sabotage?
Why do we even self-sabotage ourselves in the first place?
We want these great love affairs and dream of the perfect man, but if you aren’t ready for it, you’ll push him away without even realizing it.
Lisa talks about seeking support for her body image and eating issues, and how it brought her confidence and freedom.
We can take our shame and we can turn it into vulnerability.
Unless you really tackle your negative habits and beliefs, you will repeat the same issue over and over.
We gain self esteem by doing esteemable things.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Atomic Habits

Quotes

“We want these great love affairs and are dreaming of the perfect man. We tell ourselves we deserve it, but we self sabotage, overanalyze, and let the voice in our head get the best of us.”
“You're pushing men away good men and not even realizing it, and you're getting caught up in the fantasies and the dreams.”
“You have to have a deep inquiry into the belief that is causing you to self sabotage.”
“There's real love in the world. There's unconditional love, and it's available to every single one of you, you just have to open your heart to it.”
“One of the ways that I gained self confidence was by facing the single biggest issue in my life, my weight.”
“The way we build self esteem is by doing esteemable acts.”
“I had to love myself from the inside out and redefine beauty.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

From The Four Agreements, not taking anything personally and not making assumptions are such powerful habits for dating.
Why women find it so difficult to date multiple men at once in the early stages, and a reminder that you aren’t doing anything wrong if you haven’t had the exclusivity agreement yet.
Do you need to tell all the guys you are dating that you are also seeing others?
How to stay organized with the men you are dating and keep track of their details.
What happens when we just jump in with the first person?
Three main benefits of dating multiple men: it helps mitigate anxiety, prevents you from moving too quickly, and saves you precious time.
When is it time to just date one man?

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Mentioned:

The Four Agreements

Quotes

“As you learn how to navigate the dating world and not take things personally, it is massively freeing.”
“When women get anxious, one of the things we start to do is we don't just overthink, but we also put up a lot of rules. We don't just put up walls, but we actually start to have a lot of rules.”
“If you're out dating and you're really trying to grow, and you're not wanting to jump into anything with anyone and see what’s available to you, then you want to get out there.”
“Dating multiple people prevents you from moving too quickly and putting too much pressure on the guy.
“Basically, if he wants you to stop dating other men, then he's got to commit to a relationship with you. He has to commit to not seeing other women and to dating only you, and then he has to be open to the idea of exploring a potential relationship.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

When looking for a coach or mentor, be sure to choose someone who has something you want, who can model how they got there and they do it in a style that speaks to you.
Lisa talks about a client who needed to realize that being in a relationship was going to add way more to her life than be a burden to her.
What is the problem with the therapeutic model of relationships?
Are you really doing the evolved work to bring in the Guardian of Your Soul, or are you wasting your own time and energy?
Even the Guardian of Your Soul can’t heal all your wounds. It’s up to you to take 100% responsibility for our own triggers and also for your healing.
How does working with Lisa and Benjamin help you walk your own conscious path that leads to a profound transformation?

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Lagoon of 7 Colors

Compulsive Eaters Anonymous

Don Miguel

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

Quotes

“There is nobody better in the universe to guide you to a certain place in life than the people who have what you want.” - Lisa
“In order to really put the pieces of my own life together, I had to start to be a grown up and show up for myself so that I could have what I wanted.” - Lisa
“We all have to take 100% responsibility for our own triggers and wounds. Nobody knows where your triggers are, and nobody can heal your wounds but you.” - Lisa

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Instead of realizing that it is their pattern and their doing, avoidant men will often lead women to believe it’s their fault.
The cycle of a man leaving when he feels claustrophobic then running back to their ex, then back and forth again, is maddening! What can you do about it?
How this behavior can also be a way of self-sabotage and proving that there is no one to love or love them.
What are some tools to further understand avoidant relationships?
What’s underneath an avoidant man?
It’s not Playboy or Disney. The unfolding of a true relationship can often seem steady and well… kinda boring.
It’s crucial for men to have support, friendships, and mentors in their life.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Men Who Can’t Love

The Good Men Project

Quotes:

“We cannot solve the problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” - Albert Einstein
“You're not just doing this because you're mean-spirited or you want to hurt women, but you're hurting women by not looking at the wounds that are underneath all of this and being honest with yourselves. And, about what's driving this, and that it's you.” - Lisa
“There's nothing sexy about being a playboy. Nothing. It’s painful, it hurts women, and it's something that you need to take responsibility for.” - Lisa

This week, Lisa welcomes Debbie, a shining example of what happens when you follow the steps in Lisa’s 12-week Emotionally Naked Dating coaching program and put in the work. You find the Guardian of Your Soul, like Debbie did in Marc! Debbie talks about what made her choose Lisa as a coach, and how she was successful in business, took care of her life and seemed to have it all, except a real, true, loving partner to share life with. Marc details what in Debbie’s profile drew him in right away and let him know that she was special! You’ll love hearing these two talk about their adventurous life together, along with sage advice for those still looking for love!

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Debbie shares what made her choose to work with Lisa and turn it all around.
How did Debbie and Marc meet, and what stage were they both at in their lives that made them ready for each other on every level?
What were Marc’s first impressions of Debbie?
Debbie talks about the internal process for taking accountability for her love life and how she knew she needed to make some changes.
You don’t have to settle!
How did dating change for Debbie once she started to learn how to approach dating with intention?
How does Marc feel about dating an older woman?

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

No More Mr. Nice Guy

Quotes

“I had to dig deep and go internal. I had to figure out what was Debbie doing wrong?” - Debbie
“Know your value as a woman.” - Debbie
“When I decide to do something I give it 100%. I don't do half things halfway. It's not my nature. So once I was in the course, I was in the course”. - Debbie
“I wish there was a Lisa Shield for men!” - Marc
“You have to be willing to find yourself and really admit who you are to yourself and what you're not going to settle for. Don't settle, girls, whatever you do, do not settle.” - Debbie

No More Mr Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Can a man really feel the subtle energies of masculine and feminine on a date?
A dream date that lasted for hours, yet he never called! What’s up with that?
What is bell jarring, and how can it create the most special and unique feelings for you and your date?
If you start to feel that things are going too far, you always have the power to say no.
Playfulness comes from the heart. It is not a calculated strategy or a game.
Clever and sincere ways to let him know you are there for the long game, not the short game!
How can you maintain that playful energy and have compassion for a man as the relationship progresses?

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Mentioned:

Quotes:

“Shame can be the most negative and potent emotion a man can feel.” - Benjamin
“The first thing of female embodiment is confidence.” - Lisa
“It’s not what people say on the date, it’s how they feel on the date and afterwards.” - Benjamin
“When these behaviors come from the right place and have the right intention behind them, it feels genuine.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

The first woman showed signs of an emotional bypass. What exactly is that?
Acknowledging your feelings doesn’t mean you have to spiral into a dark place. It just means that you allow yourself to feel what’s really going on in this particular part of your life.
What about the money part? What if the money for coaching and investing in yourself seems too much or out of reach?
Won’t having a partner take me away from living my best life, and accomplishing my personal hopes and dreams?
Ultimately, what were the core differences between the first and second woman? It wasn’t about being worthy of love, as they both are.
How did Lisa’s life shifted when she opened her heart and learned how to get emotionally naked with a man?

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“We're lying by not admitting to what we're missing out on by not having a partner or a man in our lives.”
“You think it’s a financial decision, but it’s really an emotional decision.”
“Money isn't the important thing, what's really important is that people have to make a decision that they no longer want to suffer in this part of their lives.”
“If you don't allow a man into your life and into your heart, you will never be able to fully express who you are as a woman.”
“There's a whole part of who we are as women that just can never be expressed without a partner.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Yes, it’s possible to have a full life with hobbies, family, and friends, but the Guardian of Your Soul will desire a relationship as a priority.
How does your inability to fit a man into your life trigger his fear of giving up his freedom?
Lisa and Benjamin decode what it really means if you keep hearing you are intimidating men.
What if it’s your man that doesn’t seem to want to blend his life with yours?
Lisa and Benjamin help their clients recognize what they are looking for, so they can encompass the values and characteristics that truly are a match.

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Mentioned:

Finding ‘Funny Girl’. Finally - New York Times

Quotes:

“The creation of our relationship is the best part of life.” - Lisa
“That's all I wanted to do, was create a life that was uniquely ours. - Lisa
“By making the relationship a top priority, it helps our careers. We feel more secure, supported, and that there’s someone who has our backs.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Yes, it really does matter why you broke up when determining if you should still be friends with your ex.
The clear boundaries to set when staying friends - not friends with benefits!
Why it’s so important for exes that co-parent to try and be as amiable as possible.
Being friends will not work if one person is secretly hoping for something more!
How did Lisa get herself out of a very toxic relationship? What did she learn that could help you too?
If an ex is abusive, narcissistic or draining - leave and never look back.

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“I think it’s extremely, extremely important to have a healthy friendship with an ex so that you can co-parent.” - Lisa
“It is my greatest recommendation that when you are out in the dating world, you really are on a mission and a journey to find the guardian of your soul and true lasting love. I think it’s very important to keep that path clean and clear.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why has this book and movement struck a chord in so many people?
Lisa and Benjamin break down the 5 Love Languages: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and receiving gifts.
Benjamin explains his additional love languages: silence and physical space! Lisa shares how she honors those for him.
What are some other huge love languages for men?
We need to understand what our partner is capable of, and how some things are easier for them to give than others.
Lisa talks about taking accountability for her own well being and happiness, and deciding to come into the relationship with Benjamin as a whole and happy person.
What if your partner isn’t giving you the love language you crave?
How can working with Lisa and Benjamin help you learn to have a deep, beautiful appreciation for men that comes from the heart, rather than a strategy?

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Mentioned:

The 5 Love Languages

The 5 Love Languages

Quotes:

“The truth is that there is no real watered down simple solution for unconditional love. The truth is, the only way we can create lasting love is through genuine emotional nakedness.” - Lisa
“We need to understand what our partner is capable of, even though they may love us up and down in every which way, there may be some things that just aren’t in their wheelhouse.” - Benjamin
“Speaking as a man, we would rather have someone say ‘I respect you then I love you’ sometimes.” - Benjamin
“Silence is the universal language of shamans.” - Benjamin
“Gratitude and appreciation can be the quintessential love language of them all.” - Benjamin

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Is your version of how your man “should be” holding you back from meeting a really great guy?
Why you should broaden your view of what a successful, spiritual, and wealthy man looks like.
Benjamin is Lisa’s greatest teacher and the man who walks the talk the most of any man she’s ever met, but she had to do the inner work on herself to fully be ready for someone like him to show up.
How does the 12 week Emotionally Naked Dating Program help women come up with the five non-negotiables? Why does it matter to get clear on your Final Five?
Your life will change when you treat dating as a spiritual journey, and you let go of your grip on what things should look like.
Instead of having a checklist of things that you are looking for, see if you can go on dates and simply appreciate the man sitting in front of you.

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Mentioned:

Werner Erhard

Quotes

“We are meaning making machines.” - Werner Erhard
“I was really happy that I hadn't limited myself and that I got outside of my own box. I was willing to see success in a much broader sense and not have this very narrow view.” - Lisa
“I just started to expand my view of what I thought success looked like, and I started to redefine that.” - Lisa
“He is my greatest spiritual teacher. Of all the great teachers I’ve worked with, I’ve never met anyone who walks the talk the way Benjamin does. He lives a life of kindness, gratitude, generosity, passion and compassion.” - Lisa
“There's a better way to date. There's a newer way, a way that comes from the heart from real love and compassion, where we can all appreciate one another.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What does over-strategizing look like? How does it show up in ways you may not have thought about or noticed?
Dating feels so stressful! How can I have fun and actually enjoy myself?
How to make your texting more friendly and less urgent and needy.
The less you strategize, the better you can weed out the avoidants and only put energy into those who match your interest and values.
What does it feel like to a man when women over-strategize?
Why is dating multiple people so important before deciding to go exclusive with a man?
Yes, men can truly feel both authentic trust, safety, and friendship. AND they can feel when you are overthinking and trying to control/steer the ship.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

The Rules

Quotes:

“We create these stories just out of thin air, and you know, it’s crazy making.” - Benjamin
“I think a lot of women are looking for a picture to put into a picture frame, rather than seeing the person.” - Benjamin
“One of the concerns that a guy has in dating is that they’re going to be controlled, so their radar is up.” - Benjamin
“It takes a lot of personal risk and a willingness to fully open yourself up to another person and to really surrender to the process.” - Lisa
“What we found is that by combining our lives, we've actually gained greater autonomy and a greater sense of ourselves in doing so, because we're reflected back by the other person. By combining our lives, we've actually gained.” - Benjamin
“Dating multiple people is so important because you begin to see who shows up.” - Benjamin
“I stopped trying to get a guy to like me. I just wanted to feel good about myself and I showed up in those situations feeling proud that I had portrayed the best example of me.” - Lisa

The Rules (TM): Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Okay, so where can you really meet people out in the real world?
How can you and your other single friends help set each other up? What about your friends already in a relationship?
Working from home? Lisa provides some ideas to get you out of your home office and into a great setting to meet men.
Before you give up on online dating, Lisa talks about some simple yet powerful ways to tune up your profile.
The top 10% of men in looks are getting 80% of the reponses - how can you use this to your advantage?
Lisa talks about how not to let rejection hold you back or keep you down.
Why just waiting and “leaning back” is not a winning strategy.

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Mentioned:

Modern Love

MeetUp

Eventbrite

Match

SilverSingles

Quotes

“Proximity and frequency are two of the big indicating factors of what causes a match.”
“He’s out there and searching for you right now.”
“If I were single, I would be taking my pup to the park as often as possible.”
“You will get way more dates online then offline.”

None

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why “working on yourself” doesn’t always guarantee that the work will translate over to your relationship.
What most people have wrong about “doing the work” and why they are spinning their wheels with little to no results.
How do Lisa and Benjamin help their clients become the best version of themselves so they can step out and find an equal partner?
Why is it important to do the work? What happens if you don’t?
What if you don’t have a love partner just yet - shouldn’t you just wait and do the work once you’re both together?
Once you find the Guardian of Your Soul, do you still have to do the work?
What does “doing the work” mean to Benjamin and Lisa, even after all these years together?
It’s one skill set to commit to individual growth, and another to do it with a partner.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

don Miguel Ruiz

Quotes:

“Sometimes the work we do to understand ourselves is to get a better sense of who we are in the world, but it can become a bit insular.” - Benjamin
“We have to learn how to find a balance and middle ground between man and woman, and learn how to merge.” - Lisa
“One of the dangers of spiritual growth is that we develop an identity of what spirituality is, and if someone doesn’t fit into that model, then they’re not spiritual.” - Benjamin
“We can have all this growth and understanding and all of these things, but to be emotionally naked with another person - that's another skill set.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Instead of denying the aging process, how can you embrace it?
What has Lisa learned in her 60 years that she wishes she could tell her younger self?
Ask yourself - what do you want to do with your remaining years? How can you make the most of every day, week, and month?
Lisa talks about the pivotal moment where she hired a business coach, and how it turned everything around and transformed her own life.
The more confident you are about all your features and even the “flaws”, the more attractive you become to not only men but all of the outside world.
How can we overcome our fear that as we open ourselves up to beauty, we also open ourselves up to sorrow?
The more you love yourself, the more you live with grace and ease.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“I wanted to see what I could accomplish if I really put my mind to it and had a real plan, not just sitting in my office doing one on one calls.” - Lisa
“I think I'm just loving this all so much. It just seems to be getting better and better and better and richer and deeper.” - Lisa
“Never think that you're too old to bring love in or to bring a Guardian of Your Soul into your life, because you can.” - Lisa
“The more you love yourself, the more you live with grace and ease.” - Lisa
“With age comes more confidence, and the attitude of wearing life like a loose garment.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How can a man and woman truly support one another in a way that makes the other feel free yet taken care of?
What does it mean when a man feels that his life is going to be more expansive, and how can you give him that gift?
What does it feel like to a man when they feel as though their personal freedom is being taken away? How do you not limit a man or take away his freedom?
How does a man look to a woman to be his teacher?
What needs to be established during the trust and safety phase to really grow in the longer term?
What made Benjamin go home and cancel his dating app subscription after just a couple dates with Lisa?
How can working with a coach help you become the woman that makes him excited to commit?

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“Men want to commit, but they want to commit with the right person and the right conditions.” - Benjamin
“Men look to women to be their teachers.” - Benjamin
“A man’s biggest fear is giving up his personal freedom.” - Lisa
“We wouldn't be the same people we are today without the relationship we've had, supporting each other, and seeing what each other can be.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How did her work with Lisa help Lynnie keep momentum after getting scammed by a man?
How did the Emotionally Naked Dating program lay the framework for Lynnie to continue with the Mastermind? What did she like about the process?
Lynnie loves connecting with great women all around the world, and is now part of a true sisterhood.
What is different about Lisa and Benjamin than other dating coaches Lynnie has worked with?
How did seeing Lisa and Benjamin model the tools and techniques firsthand at a retreat give Lynnie even more inspiration about finding the Guardian of HER Soul?

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Mentioned:

Lynnie Marks on Instagram

Quotes

“You advanced humans are, to me, the guru’s of love and relationships.” - Lynnie
“I don’t hold anything to the outcome. I don’t live in the outcome, I live in the process.” - Lynnie
“We look to our relationship to guide you from. That’s really our guide.” - Lisa
“It’s a sacred relationship that we all share in that group, and I think it’s fun we are all growing together.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What does “lean back” really mean in dating, and how does it make a man feel?
If you text first, does that mean you’re chasing him?
What exactly is the feminine lead, and how can you bring it into your dating?
How taking the feminine lead will make a man feel revved up and secure in his masculinity.
What are some exact things and phrases women can do and say when taking the feminine lead?
How does taking the feminine lead filter out the narcissist and love bombers and create a path for the Guardian of Your Soul?
There’s a SPECIFIC way Lisa and Benjamin teach their coaching clients about the feminine lead that encourages the man to want honest feedback about how to make the woman happy.
Why is The Rules book antiquated and not a method to gain a real relationship?
How does the feminine lead differ from how men lead?

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

The Rules

Quotes

“When I went on a date with you, I went home feeling like more of a man.” - Benjamin
“What a man is looking for is a woman that he’s going to have fun with.” - Benjamin
“The best word is gratitude and the worst word is entitlement.” - Benjamin
“We don’t lead like a man would lead, it’s a different way of leading.” - Lisa
“The female lead is all about encouraging the man to take the lead.” - Lisa

The Rules (TM): Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What is the “optimism bias” anyway + shocking stats!
What areas could you benefit from taking practical realistic action?
How do you begin to put energy and devotion into the RIGHT way to date?
If I’m beautiful and successful enough, won’t the men just come find me?
Lisa explains why more career success often means even less luck in dating. How unfair! What can you do about it?
Does getting rid of the “optimism bias” mean you will be a negative thinker? Isn’t positive thinking healthy?
What are some practical steps you can take towards being more of a realist?
How does our optimism bias actually make men run for the hills and feed anxiety?

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Mentioned:

The Four Agreements

The Optimism Bias | Tali Sharot

Quotes

“We lack realism when it comes to finding love.”
“I realized that the journey to find love is really the ultimate spiritual path.”
“Love with a partner is the most spiritual thing we do in life.”
“For women, it's the exact opposite of men. We have less of a chance of being able to find a true partner as we go up the corporate ladder or the ladder of success, whereas men have a much higher chance of finding a partner.” - Lisa

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

From a man’s point of view - what is fun about the conquest?
What are some of the different ways men and women view sex?
Almost any lasting and trusting relationship is built on a foundation of friendship.
When you rush right to sex you are skipping the best part- building momentum, excitement, and suspense.
Once you do put a stop to casual sex, then you have to ask yourself what kind of relationship you want, and how can you start to create that with a man?
Part of getting the skills of creating a conscious relationship can be through coaching.
Why did Lisa and Benjamin decide to take it slowly and create a foundation of friendship and connection first?
Okay, what is the man really thinking the next morning? Benjamin gives us the male perspective.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Frank Sinatra - “Nice and Easy”

Quotes

“Almost any lasting, trusting relationship is built on a foundation of friendship.” - Benjamin
“One of the most sexually exciting parts of a relationship is before the sexual intimacy where you are building.” - Benjamin
“It’s so much easier getting to know someone when there is not the pretense of being lovers.” - Benjamin
“We didn’t rush this process. We gave it the love and nurturing and attention it needed to build a connection that is unbreakable.” - Lisa
“When there is initial sex, the woman bonds more to the man than they may bond to the woman.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Lisa has so much fun doing this podcast and connecting with the brilliant and accomplished women that she coaches.
How did Cassie and Kari Lee become part of Lisa and Benjamin’s team?
What made Lisa decide to start a podcast?
What sets Lisa and her coaching apart from other relationship and dating coaches?
Lisa won’t take a client on without feeling a real connection. What else does she look for?
Is the dating world trending towards a certain direction? How can we best be prepared?
Cassie is on the hunt for her very own cowboy. Yee-haw!
Are you into true crime podcasts too? If so, you and Kari Lee have a lot to talk about.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Executive Web Design

Kari Lee on insta: @justalittleklc

Quotes

“My calls feel like dates! When people do a breakthrough call with me, it does feel like a date.” - Lisa
“I’m reaching my target audience which is evolved women who have done a lot of work on themselves and want love.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why does dating trigger our deepest wounds and rejections?
What is it like for a man to be on the receiving end of an anxious woman?
How can you make your anxiety a GOOD thing so it pulls you and your man even closer together?
Can a man really feel our anxiety in the way we text?
How to shift your focus from “do they like me” to “is this something I want?”
Reframing your anxiety into excitement!
Why a mentor or coach can be so powerful in helping you observe your patterns and give you real time feedback.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“You don’t get to know a person when they are highly anxious, you just know their anxiety.” - Benjamin
“One has to be in their heart to be truly vulnerable.” - Lisa
“What a man and woman wants is to be with someone to have fun with.” - Benjamin
“Anxiety pulls people away from the present, where excitement brings someone forward.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Men want to make us happy. If a man is really into you, he will be listening for cues and ways to help you get what you want, which will make him feel like a hero.
What does it mean to be truly emotionally naked, and how can it help you get what you truly desire?
Stop saying that you don’t WANT or NEED a man, and say this instead!
How can you communicate in a way that is not demeaning or smothering, but compassionate and kind?
What are the biggest mistakes women make which actually causes the opposite of them getting what they want?
What can we learn about a man’s relationship with his mother?
Before you ask a man for something or set up any expectations, you need to get really, really clear on what it is you want.
As much as we may wish he was, a man isn’t a mindreader!

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“You’ve got to start to learn how to get emotionally naked and admit that there are things you not only want from a man, but need from a man.” - Lisa
“Men want and need to know what makes you happy, or they can’t give it to you.” - Lisa
“You’ve got to let somebody come into the relationship and see who they are to see if it’s somebody you can be with.” - Lisa
“You’re going to have to learn how to ask for what you want and need but in a romantic, loving, and respectful way.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What type of conversation sends a man right to his heart on a date and makes him feel like you are truly interested in his life?
Are you going on a fact finding mission and making him feel interrogated? Learn how to show that you are truly curious and impressed with who he is, and how you would love to fit into his world.
What you wear matters. There are pitfalls to being over-stylized! Lisa and Benjamin give pointers for showing your style in a way that is tasteful, elegant, comfortable, and classic.
How to tactfully bring up to a man that he is rambling and how to insert yourself into the conversation without shaming him.
How to have a relatable and two-way conversation, rather than a man feeling like he is caught up in a dramatic episode of a soap opera!

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Dos Equis Man

Carrie Bradshaw

Audrey Hepburn

Quotes

“You are aiming for his heart with your questions, not his head.” - Lisa
“No man feels comfortable on a date sitting across from someone whose life seems like a constant soap opera.” - Benjamin
“A man would love for a woman to be really interested, and more than just asking superficial questions.” - Benjamin
“That’s why we need a woman in our lives, because they touch us emotionally in a way that we don’t get from anything else.” - Benjamin
“If a woman is overly stylized, many men are going to see it as a costume rather than an expression of individuality.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why is it important to have a positive inner dialogue?
Are your intentions set to make a TRUE romantic connection with a phenomenal man?
To text or not to text? That is the question.
How do you put in the time and face your fears after what seems like so much rejection?
Why should we think about dating as a skill that takes patience and practice, and not just expect to be naturally perfect at it.
What should you look for besides just amazing chemistry with a man on a date?
Are you so focused on the end game that you are missing all the opportunities in front of you in the present moment?

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Zen Story

Quotes

“You will find that you are less anxious if you walk through your fears. If you keep going forward, you’ll find yourself showing up on dates and somehow you’ll just feel more confident.”
“You shouldn’t have to play games to get a man to chase you. You should be your fabulous self and the right man is going to chase you.”
“You're preparing yourself for that moment when the Guardian of Your Soul sits down, when the two of you are across from each other, and you have that beautiful moment where your souls connect, and you know that this is the one.”
“So many of us are focused on the goal and the end game of meeting our guy that we are not really seeing the opportunities in front of us.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

You don’t need to put on heirs about being confident and having a perfect life. A woman can just naturally have a full and happy life, AND show the man there is room for him to fit too.
It’s about sharing the things together that you both love - not just the man coming along for the ride for all your interests.
How can you ask a man about his life in a manner that makes him actually want to share and feel connected to you, rather than feeling like he’s on a talk show being grilled?
What are the WORST and BEST things a woman can say on a date to a man?
It’s not bad to show vulnerability. In fact, securely attached people need each other to get through life’s challenges.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

The Five Love Languages Book

Quotes

“Trying to act overly secure is an act of insecurity.” - Lisa/Benjamin together!
“A man wants to make a woman happy and he wants to be able to provide for her and protect her.” - Benjamin
“One of the most important things I think most women miss is not just wanting to share a life with me, but also I’m going to share his life.” - Lisa
“It is so important to open up your heart and make this other person feel safe and welcome.”. - Lisa

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why do New Year’s resolutions tend to fall apart after just a month or two?
If love is supposed to be so fun and magical, why do we need a step by step roadmap to getting it? Won’t that take the spark out?
How can you stay accountable to your goals while including your friends and having some fun?
What does it mean to have a contract or agreement with yourself?
This year how do you really LEARN from every single encounter, especially the not so nice ones?
Getting ghosted, no second date, etc. Why do the same things keep happening to you over and over again? Is this doomed to be your cycle forever?
How can working with Lisa help you from perpetually spinning your wheels and wasting your time? She’s teach you how to open up your energy to really find love!

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

The Four Agreements

Malcolm Gladwell

Quotes

“Fail to plan, plan to fail.”
“Every single encounter along the way is mirroring and reflecting back to you places where you need to grow.”
“If you truly want to find love, you are going to have to have a plan.”

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

You have to have your idea of what you want, and then hold it very lightly.
How was Benjamin different from Lisa’s list of qualities she looked for in a man, and why did that end up being such a pleasant surprise?
You have to be willing to check in with yourself and allow room for things to appear differently than you expect them to!
Lisa’s clients share a few of their deal breakers, from family relationships to alcohol abuse to a lack of warmth and affection.
Are you the type of woman that the man you are looking for will be deeply attracted to? Do you hold yourself to the same standards?
Great questions to get to know someone better as you date online.
You can find good men anywhere on a dating site, but you’ve got to be working on yourself.
What are your true deal-breakers - Your “Final 5” qualities you must have in a partner?

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Benjamin Shield

JDate

Quotes

“Benjamin doesn't have to sit around and talk about being spiritual. He just is.”
“You have to have your idea of what you want, and then hold it very lightly.”
“I would be very careful that you don't have fixed ideas that are so fixed in your mind that you don't sit down across from a wonderful man who really isn't somebody you can put in a box, and miss what's really in front of you.”

“You’ve got to be working on yourself. You have to be doing the work on

You

, so that you can become a more attractive partner.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How to navigate the inevitable “are you seeing anyone?” questions.
If you are looking for a partner, ask them if they know anyone they can set you up with!
A few great word-for-word responses you can use to maintain healthy boundaries and keep this from being a huge downer!
How to gently turn the conversation to a topic that you enjoy talking about.
How to handle the other relatives who are snarky or pushy about your single situation.
Whether you are heartbroken or single by choice, there’s always more to learn and grow from. If you are single, enjoy yourself. Celebrate every stage of life.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Bosque del Apache

Jackson Ranch Steakhouse

Quotes

“We get to tell the story of our lives.”
“You get to shape the narrative. You get to communicate your story.”
“If you are single, enjoy yourself. Celebrate every stage of life.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why is it so important for men to feel like they’re winning and making their woman happy?
What do you say to a man when he tells you that he feels he can’t make you happy? Is he always right?
How do you tell a man that what he’s doing isn’t exactly what you want? Is it even worth telling him?
How can you thank your man for a loving gesture in a way that really lights him up?
How can you still find your happiness when your man is trying to provide you with something but it’s not exactly what you want?
Lisa shares how she turned a local honeymoon into the vacation of her dreams.
Why is a man saying that he can’t make you happy really the kiss of death in a relationship?

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

La Perla

Victoria Secret

Ventana Big Sur

Quotes

“If we want our partner to keep doing lovely romantic gestures, we have to think about how we receive those things and how we give feedback when we don't like something.”
“You’ve got to learn how to find your own happiness and make a choice to be happy.”
“A happy person chooses to be happy.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Randy talks about his three marriages and divorces, and what happened on his end with each of them. What did he learn? What can we learn from his experience?
What was it like for Randy as a single dad, trying to provide the best opportunities and love for his son?
Why did Randy feel like a failure after each divorce, and feel like he was “broken goods” after his third marriage ended?
Randy gushes about his wonderful girlfriend Cynthia, talks about how they met and why their relationship feels different from the rest.
Would Randy consider marriage again, if it was important for Cynthia?
Lisa shares how she became intentional about understanding men.
A lot of women want successful men with big careers, but then get upset when men spend a lot of their time and energy working on that career. How can we strike up a balance?

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Mentioned:

Randy Rogel: Twitter | LinkedIn | IMDB

West Point

Groundhog Day

Cynthia Ferrer

Quotes

“I started doing some real deep introspection on myself. I was like, ‘who are you, and what is it that you really want out of life?’ ” - Randy
“The only reason we’re together is that we want to be. There’s nothing that makes us have to be together.” - Randy
“To love a man, you have to understand a man.” - Lisa
“As adults, there comes a point where we have to stop blaming our parents for our lives, and for what happened. To let go of those stories and move on and create the life we want.” - Lisa
“A lot of women want successful men who have fantastic careers. But, what they don’t realize is those men who are driven and have those fantastic careers are working their butt off.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Whether you know it or not, men are checking you out! All the time.
Yes, sometimes men are fixated on your super attractive friend, but here’s what to do so it never throws you off your positive vibe.
Why is it so hard for men to hit on us?
How to tell if you are being playful enough, and a funny story of a woman who got a man’s attention by tossing some trash his way!
The power of slowing things down to not only show a man you’re in touch with yourself and your body, but to remind yourself too!
What things push male attention away that you may not be aware of?
What can we learn from the “flirty friend” that seems to garner male attention everywhere she goes?
If you feel like your flicker has gone out, what are some easy gestures you can begin to do that will let a man know you're interested and that you're a sensual woman?

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Dawn Cartwright

Marilyn Monroe

Quotes

“One of the most beautiful things a woman can have is the quality of playfulness.”
“One of the sexiest things you can possibly do is slow down.”
“If you're going to have a truly healthy relationship with a man, you're going to have to learn how to be secure and really open your heart and make it safe for a man to get close to you.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Lisa and Benjamin get real about mistakes they’ve made in prior relationships and what they learned so it wouldn’t become a part of their marriage.
How do Lisa and Benjamin process their emotions and solve disagreements quickly?
How to be less defensive and more compassionate to both yourself and your partner.
The two things women cherish the most, and how we can take the feminine lead and invite your man to give them to you.
How to embrace your feminine side and mirror your man’s masculine nature in a way he’s never felt before.
Lisa and Benjamin talk about supporting each other in their careers and dreams, and how they ended up on the great adventure of picking up everything and moving to New Mexico.

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Mentioned:

The Four Agreements

John Gottman

Healers on Healing

Quotes

“You don’t take things personally. And that has been a miracle.” - Benjamin
“You never want to hurt me, make me wrong, or diminish me in any way.” - Lisa
“It’s knowing about how to love yourself and another person.” - Benjamin
“I wouldn’t be the woman or coach I am today if you weren’t the Guardian of My Soul.” - Lisa
“It’s about choice, and we made a choice that it will be easy.” - Benjamin

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why do you need to let go of instant gratification syndrome? Why is it holding you back?
What was the decision made when she was 39 that turned her life around?
What is it that makes a man really fall in love?
Why is the outcome so powerful when we make the decision to stick with something and really go for it?

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“I look back from where I am today, and I realized that that one choice brought me to where I am now.”
“I am the woman I am today and living the life that I always wanted to live because of a single choice that I made in my life.”
“I told myself that quitting wasn't an option and I couldn’t start and stop, but had to get and stay on the path.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Benjamin shares a male perspective of what it’s like for men in the dating world who know they most likely don’t want kids, but the women they’re dating do.
If there's an accidental or unintentional pregnancy, then a man can feel trapped. So he could be very wary of dating, particularly someone who is hearing the biological clock and the ticking getting louder.
Lisa was clear from the beginning that she didn’t want a child, but that is rare. How can women be up front and honest if they are interested in having children?
Biology is so powerful that a woman may not even know that she is looking for the future father of her kids rather than a life partner.
What are some of the reasons that men want to have kids, along with reasons why they would choose to not have them?
How can men avoid wasting a woman’s childbearing years if he is certain that kids aren’t in the cards for him?
Should you wait a certain amount of time to bring up the “do you want children” talk, or should you lay it out right away?
How do you talk about having kids in a way that sounds inviting to man, rather than overwhelming?

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Game of Thrones

Marianne Williamson

Quotes

“If it is really important to have a life that feels fulfilled to have kids, then it needs to be brought up early.” - Benjamin
“What brought Benjamin and me together was this very clear truth for both of us that we didn't want kids. And so that may have eliminated some very good people, but we were willing to do that because this was so important for us.” - Lisa
“It’s about sharing a dream, rather than a checklist.” - Benjamin
“Biology is so powerful that a woman may not even know that she is looking for the future father of her kids rather than a life partner.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

If men say they love successful and powerful women, why does it seem like they go for the exact opposite?
Why would a man see a successful woman as a threat?
It is true that some men are going to be intimidated by successful women, but that doesn’t mean you should go out into the dating world with a chip on your shoulder. There are plenty of men out there who are confident and successful who would love to meet a wonderful, confident, educated, successful woman. And you only need one!
One of the reasons why men are not interested in successful women is not just because you're smart and successful. It's because women who focus on their careers often lose their femininity or their feminine edge.
The feminine lead is one of the most empowering, beautiful, magical things a woman can do. How do you take the feminine lead and make him feel confident AND excited to ask you out?
It’s not always because your success intimidates men. The truth is that you may also be too masculine, in your heart and not in your heart, and he feels like he’s on a job interview rather than a date.
Men are often less concerned with your job and how much money you can make, and more interested in if you have an emotional connection with each other, and if you are playful and reflecting his masculinity back to him.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Singles in America

University of Buffalo Study

don Miguel Ruiz

Quotes

“Scientific research also has shown that as a man's academic motivation rises, so does his desire for a smart partner.” - Lisa
“My mother told me: be independent, be successful, and make your own money so that you never find yourself in a situation like I did.” - Lisa
“People won't remember what you say, but they'll remember how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou
“This is why so many of these men are not turned on by you. It's not because your success intimidates them. It's because you're too masculine.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

The truth is, your girlfriends that are getting male attention are probably signaling to the man that they are open and available for them to be approached!
What is romantic signaling? When one person signals to another that he or she is interested.
The more attracted to a woman, the more shy a man may become. All it can take is just the tiniest invitation to get him to feel the confidence to walk over and start a conversation with you.
The men may say it’s different, but research says that 90% of the time, it’s the woman who sends the signal first.
Lisa shares examples of how she showed up lighter and more present in the world, and the men who certainly took notice!

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Landmark Forum

North By Northwest 24:32-26:00

Paulina Porizkova

Karl Lagerfeld

Quotes

“The female lead means letting a man know that you are interested and that you are approachable, and that if he would approach you, you would say yes.” - Lisa
“The man may feel seen, because all of your senses are open, active, and alive. And as men, we don’t really feel seen at work or at home, or ever.” - Benjamin
“It just takes someone to open the door, and that someone almost always needs to be a woman.” - Benjamin
“You don't have to be a supermodel. Just open up that door, send those signals, let men know you're interested and that you're available.” - Lisa
“Give them that wide opening to walk into, and you'll be surprised at how many men will approach you out and about in the real world.” - Lisa

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How to get into a positive mindset even before you arrive on the date.
Dating can feel like an adventure, it doesn’t always have to feel like you’re on a treadmill!
Do you really need a dating coach? How can it help get you out of your rut?
What does Lisa mean by taking the “feminine lead”?
Why are you repeating patterns or stuck in the past when you feel ready to move forward in love?
Sometimes moving forward can also look like stopping to take a break and reassess.
How to encourage men to pursue you.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“You cannot move forward until you make sense of the past.”
“Get into your heart, be vulnerable and embrace the feminine.”
“Having a beautiful deep understanding of what men go through is going to open up your heart to men.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Women’s goal is to connect emotionally, but what do we typically do that ends up getting us the opposite results?
What makes a man feel like he is being interviewed?
How do we accidentally shame a man, and what are ways we can keep it playful and lighthearted instead?
What does a man really think when we go off topic, monologue, or lecture?
Instead of focusing on being “on”, focus on creating a safe space for him to unwind and really be himself.
Why you should embrace the moments of silence on a date, not panic and try to fill space.
Dating should not feel like you are seeing a therapist.
If a man is interrupted enough times, he just begins to shut down. Are you cutting him off without knowing?

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Dave Barry

Course in Miracles

Quotes

“When a woman goes too much off-topic, the man begins his own internal dialogue.” - Benjamin
“What the man is looking for is a way to relate to a woman in a way that he can’t relate to other men.” - Benjamin
“Women should ask, am I really creating a safe space for a man to open up to me?” - Lisa
“Two people that aren’t present, it’s almost like two holograms rather than two people becoming fulfilled.” - Lisa
“Both people feel they need to be “on” and it can lead to things that aren’t a real conversation.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What avoidant attachment is, and how it shows up?
Why does it seem like you go around in circles with an avoidant?
Why do avoidants and anxiously attached people seem to trigger each other so deeply?
Can you make someone less avoidant?
I’m an anxious attachment type, but stable relationships almost seem boring to me. Why is that?
My avoidant came back and said he wants to take things slow. What should I do? Is slower always better?
What should you do if your man keeps apologizing for everything?
How do you keep the fire lit in a secure relationship when you are used to drama?

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Landmark Forum

Quotes

“You make them wrong and you kill them off.” - Landmark Forum
“You have to think about the quality of the love you want to be able to give your partner.”
“One of the great mistakes we all make when we are dating is thinking we know right away who someone is.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What is playfulness and why is it important to be playful in our romantic relationships?
Playfulness can start by having a profile that represents you but also feels lighthearted and fun.
How does playfulness help us get to know the other person better and build trust and safety?
If we are playful, won’t we miss out on connecting over the more serious things?
Is being playful also being flirty?

Continue On Your Journey

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Quotes

“You have this natural ability to be playful.” - Lisa
“You don’t have to be a comedian to be playful.” - Lisa
“By having a hard boundary, you are being hard to get.” - Lisa
“Even driving to meet someone on a date, you can begin to smile. You can begin to think of happy things so by the time you are already sitting down at the table you are already feeling playful.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What does it mean to be generous of spirit?
How does this generosity differ from the typical way we view giving?
Lisa shares how Benjamin laid it all out when they were first getting close, showing true vulnerability and how it made them closer.
We spend so much time thinking about how we want our partner’s job, car, and looks to be, but are we putting the same effort into our self-growth?
Mirroring a man’s masculinity back to him helps him continue to feel relevant and important, just as we want our guy to tell us we look beautiful.
Client question: how to handle uncomfortable physical touch in the early stages of a relationship?

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“It’s important to be able to mirror a man’s masculinity back to him and help him continue to feel relevant and important, just as we want our guy to tell us we look beautiful.”
“Spiritually, there has to be room in this relationship for both of you to get your needs met.”
“We want to mirror back to each other the things we know are important to hear.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

There is no definite answer on how to navigate the current dating climate, but having respect and creating safety for one another is paramount.
What makes men pull back on their desire for a woman?
How can you help your man feel more secure in his masculinity?
What are some ways we can have even better intimacy with our partner over time?
What are the three key elements of a lasting and thriving relationship?
In this post “Me Too Movement” era, how can men make their move and pursue women in a respectful and safe manner?
It’s important to make time for intimacy.
How can you and your man transform shame and vulnerability into intimacy?

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

The English Patient

Quotes

“Men have become so sensitized that we hold back and reserve, and it’s not even about crossing a line, there is no line. If there were a line, we could figure it out.” - Benjamin
“The most important thing for a man to feel sexual is to feel respected.” - Lisa
“Shame can turn into vulnerability, and vulnerability can transform into intimacy. Not only for individuals but for relationships.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How not to waste time thinking you did something wrong when a man pulls away. Sometimes it’s just them.
Lisa shares an example of when she knew it was time to end a relationship and not get entangled in a man’s attempt to assassinate her character.
When a man pulls away after pursuing you, he may be avoidant and not know what to do when he gets what he wants.
What are the other reasons men typically go silent if they love a woman but need some space?
Men don’t want you to be their therapist! They want to show up strong, capable, and at their peak. When they can’t do that, it’s not a good time for you to start and establish a relationship together.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Men Who Can’t Love

Quotes

“I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone that doesn’t like me. Why would I do that?” - Lisa
“So many women are afraid to just ask for what they want, so their anxiety comes out and their men can feel it.” - Lisa

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Playfulness equals sexiness and confidence!
With a single choice, you can set the tone.
Why did Lisa decide to explore playfulness, and how did it change the course of her entire life?
What does playfulness look like on a date or in a relationship?
If we are playful, won’t that mean our relationship is just trivial and too silly?
Your playful nature can start even before you meet, with a fun and exciting online profile.
If you’re playful, it will set you apart! Most men equate relationships with work and heaviness.
Being playful means being present at the moment, not taking things personally, and not making assumptions about people’s actions or behavior.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

The Four Agreements

Don Miguel Ruiz

Dalai Lama

Quotes

“Playfulness and ease go together.” - Lisa
“We create safety with play and with critical feedback. You can keep your relationship clean and clear so you can play without unresolved issues.” - Lisa
“I don’t want to make you my therapist or my girlfriend. That’s not sexy!” - Lisa
“We don’t have to browbeat to make a point, we just have to say something lightly.” - Benjamin
“It’s not up to you what you learn, but only whether you learn through joy or pain.” - Marianne Williamson

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What if you don’t live in a city or a place that seems to have a great big pool of available men?
The cold harsh truth - if the men that you want to respond to you are not responding to you, then you still have work to do. Because they're responding to someone. It's just not you.
Are you a love magnet, or are you actually pushing love away?
If you want a happy future, you’ve got to let the stories about the past go, and not let other people’s bad behavior define who you are and how you show up.
The beauty of silence and the power of giving a man space and time to breathe.
What is one of the real reasons men date younger women?

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Quotes

“The real reason you're not finding quality men to date is because you still have work to do on yourself to attract the right man.”
“Everybody has ghosts that they are moving past.”
“Love is the most attractive force in the universe. So a loving, beautiful open hearted woman is going to attract love into her life. Love is magnetic.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

The Rules was a classic dating guide for many years, but what harm has it caused and how has it actually held you back from finding The Guardian of Your Soul?
There is a lot of hypocrisy out there in the dating world, so make sure you take advice from a trusted source who is in a stable, loving relationship.
The Rules may show you how to get into a relationship by playing games and using manipulation techniques, but not how to stay in one.
The kind of love people are longing for is in the heart, not in games or strategies.
While the rules may be to ignore a man’s text or rarely return them, Benjamin explains why that may be the last thing you want to do.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

The Rules

The Rules for Marriage

Dawn Cartwright

Quotes

“The rules to follow are the rules of the human heart.” - Benjamin
“You’ve got to do the work on yourself so you can be a true partner to a man.” - Lisa
“Rules that extend into relationships are roadblocks to fun.” - Benjamin
“Rules seem like a closed fist. Living life from your core values, spontaneity and humor, are like an open hand. - Benjamin

The Rules (TM): Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why it’s essential to learn about attachment theory.
What does it look like when someone is either anxiously attached or avoidant?
Why do women tend to be more anxious in relationships?
How do you know which one you are, and can you be a mix of them?
What are protest behaviors?
How Lisa observed a love bomber and got herself out of it with a clear conscience.
What is Lisa’s “One Conversation Rule” for seeing if the person you are dating is equipped to handle the tough conversations in life?
Why are avoidants / anxious attachers attracted to one another, and how to break free of codependency to become more secure.
How to finally solve this issue to become an Emotionally Naked Dater!

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Attached

Men Who Can’t Love

Quotes:

“Our parents have a huge influence over who we choose as partners, and how we show up in our relationships.”
“What's exciting is having both feet in a relationship, and being willing to take that kind of leap, that kind of risk, and then seeing what happens.”
“When we're anxious, we tend to attract the wrong men, so anxious and avoidant people are attracted to each other.”

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Dr. Warren gives the inside scoop on how men REALLY feel and what they’re thinking, from his experience in starting over 300 men’s groups.
What are the top vulnerabilities men have that women tend to be oblivious to?
What do men wish women in their life understood about sexual attraction and intimacy?
Women say they want men to be emotionally available, then get turned off when they are!
The more a man loves a woman, the more he is fearful of being completely honest with her for fear of actually losing her love.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Dr. Warren Farrell | Why Men Are the Way They Are | @drwarrenfarrell

Quotes:

“The effort that it takes to become successful is often inversely related to the effort that it takes to be successful in love.” - Warren
“You are solving the problem by listening. That is at least solution number one.” - Warren
“Men read self help books too. They are called business books.”
“The more a man loves a woman, the more he is fearful of being completely honest with her because the more he is fearful of losing her love.”
“So much of male behavior, being the jerk, comes from trying to not be rejected by you.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Who should pay for dinner during the courting period? Should it still be the man, even though at least 33% of women (35 and younger) are now out-earning their partners?
What are some red flags that pop up about money in your early dating period that you should keep an eye on?
Are your expectations too high around a man and his money?
Lisa shares how she shifted her mindset around feeling obligated to go further than she wanted to after a man paid. If a man is willing to take you to dinner, you have the obligation to be generous and kind, but not much more!
Whether you combine everything together as a couple or decide to keep things separate, kindness and generosity are of utmost importance.
How can you navigate having standards and boundaries with your partner without setting your expectations so high that you end up feeling disappointed and resentful?
Why Lisa and Benjamin decided to combine everything together and go all-in with their finances and assets.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Quotes:

“Should a man pay for dinner? It’s lovely when he does.”
“Money says a lot about generosity of spirit.”
“What makes a relationship super sexy and hot is the friction between masculine and feminine.”
“ If a man is willing to take you to dinner, you have the obligation to be generous and kind, but not much more.”
“There is no his and mine, there is just ours.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How do men and women process differently, and how can we use this knowledge to our advantage?
How can a man and woman support each other while processing?
Sometimes a woman doesn’t need it to be fixed. She just wants a safe space in which to be heard!
Men are often internal processors, while women tend to work through things externally with other women friends, family, etc.
Ready to talk with a man about a deep subject or the future or your relationship? A few things you’ve got to know first!
How can over-processing in dating and relationships hinder us and cause such high expectations that lead to disappointment?
When a man opens up to you, he may need some breathing room.
Why you shouldn’t disregard the whole conversation if it seems to be taking your man a long time to get back to you with an answer on his feelings.

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Complete Guide to Guys

Quotes:

“Overthinking leads to tripping over oneself.” - Benjamin
“Men need breathing room.” - Benjamin
“Every solution has a problem!” - Benjamin

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What lessons surprised Lisa from attending a Tantric Workshop with Benjamin?
What you can expect from working with Lisa, everything from the initial Breakthrough Call to setting up your dating profile to attract the RIGHT type of man.
How can you learn from your relationship past RIGHT NOW and move confidently into your relationship future?
Lisa’s client Julene shares how she made it past some imposters and found the true Guardian of Her Soul in Andy!
Andy shocks Lisa with what were “typical experiences” he had with many women before he met Julene!
Julene’s coaching helped her lead with curiosity and an open heart. She was willing to accept not only Andy but his two young daughters into her life and is forever grateful that she did so.
What can you learn from Julene and Andy’s situation in your own life?
The kiss that almost ruined it all for Julene and Andy!

Continue On Your Journey

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Mentioned:

Hello Gorgeous!

The Love Languages

Tantra Workshop - Dawn Cartwright

Quotes:

“We can process our issues and problems from now until forever, or we can stop, be in the present moment, and look out into the future.” - Lisa
“I’m looking for the type of client who is ready to get out there and find true love.” - Lisa
“When we talk about something and come to our conclusion, it’s done.” - Julene[2][3]

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

A good man, and most men, are preoccupied with making a woman happy, even at their own expense.
Why can’t men connect with each other the way women do?
The #1 fear of most men isn’t public speaking or flying, it’s feeling shame. How can you be a big factor in helping them not only avoid shame but feel pride?
When you ask him how you look in that dress, a good man will be truthful but tactful.
Is honesty always the best policy when it comes to talking with men?
Why you may want to rethink the typical “How was your day at work?” inquiry.
How do you create space for a man to share his feelings?
Sometimes the men with the most bravado are actually the most insecure.
The biggest thing a man has to offer is to be a provider and protector. How do women cut men down without even realizing it?
What is the difference between an unacceptable behavior and just “boys being boys?”

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Penelope Cruz

Quotes:

“A man has to be truthful for a woman to truly trust him when it’s important.”- Benjamin
“I didn’t feel like my rare and tender feelings were being trampled on.” - Benjamin
“The best thing a woman can do for a man is to meet him at the frequency he is at.” - Benjamin
“I really listen to what you need from me.” - Lisa
“Pride is a cover for shame.” - Benjamin
“A lot of pride is bravado, and it covers up shame.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why are men on the market so quickly after losing a partner?
What is toxic masculinity and is it showing up in my relationships and dating?
What do I do if I think the guy I’m seeing is using me as a crutch / rebound?
But won’t he love me more if I’m there to help him deal with his trauma?
Will I just be taking on more baggage if I invest in a man straight off a divorce, going through a divorce, or a newly widowed man?
Run, Ladies, if he says he’s on the brink of getting divorced!
How can our dating profile and photos help attract men who are truly available and ready for a deep, connected relationship?
How do you keep your heart open and not allow heartbreak to sideline you?
How did Lisa meet Benjamin and know that he was a “hell yes?!”

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Mentioned:

J Date

Quotes:

“You’ve got to enter a relationship consciously.”
“You have to start to learn how not to take things personally.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How can a man show up in his masculine and a woman in her feminine?
How can women be the strong, capable goddesses we are without shrinking?
How can we allow men to make us feel good and safe in their masculinity?
What are some classic feminine qualities we can embody to hold up our end of the polarity in a relationship?
What does it mean to be comfortable in your body?
A woman needs to be protected and cherished, and a man needs his masculinity mirrored back to him.
Why do women reject being feminine?
It’s important for a woman to attract and for men to pursue.
Ways for women to create polarity in the relationship.
How to have faith and trust even when you’ve been hurt and disappointed before.
A good relationship doesn’t mean it’s boring. It means you can show up fully.

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Mad Men

Quotes:

“You mirror back my masculine. You allow my masculinity.” - Benjamin
“The secret to our relationship is that you don’t take things personally.” - Benjamin
“Women are empathetic and compassionate. Those are qualities that men come to us for.” - Lisa
“A man goes to a woman to have his masculinity mirrored back in him.” - Benjamin
“We keep our relationship clean. There is no mess in this relationship.” - Lisa
“We are not just mirrors for each other, but we are magnifying mirrors for each other.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Why it’s so important that we act as a safe space for our man.
Shaming our partner can run very deep and many times we don’t even know that we’re doing it. Have you normalized this behavior within yourself?
Examples of what shaming your partner sounds or feels like.
Feeling shame is a physical response that triggers our “fight” or “flight” reaction. When a woman says “we need to talk” he can’t logically communicate!
Instead of focusing on what the relationship is lacking, focus on the positive and the RIGHT man will make it his mission to put in the work for an outcome you’ll love!
Talking about the relationship won’t work 99% of the time, so what does?
Have Lisa and Benjamin really never pointed out each other’s flaws or nitpick in almost two decades of marriage? Yes! And here’s why!
If the man does not want to meet your needs, there may be someone out there better suited for you.
Advice about dating a recently divorced man. Is it worth it?

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Mentioned:

John Gottman

No More Mr. Nice Guy

Quotes:

“A man who truly adores you wants to make you happy. He is listening for cues.” - Lisa
“When a guy that is really into you, you don’t have to nag.” - Lisa

No More Mr Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Rejection is never about us, even if it feels very personal.
You’ve been rejected - now what? How to take the high road, even if someone else has gone low.
The amount of rejection we feel is in direct proportion to the amount of power we give others and external circumstances to affect our self worth.
Why does rejection hurt so hard and open up so many wounds?
Yes, rejection does hurt and there is no way around it! Accept it, feel the feelings, and move on with grace and self love.
Lisa shares a story of seeing rejection as the “nature of the bridge”. It’s going to shake but if you want to get across, you have to move forward.
Rejection is a healthy part of growth, personal evolution, and self actualization.
Learn from themanwho purposefully got rejected for more than 100 days in a row.
Did Lisa get rejected on the 96 first dates she went on before meeting Benjamin? You bet! If she can do it, so can you!
No ghosting, here! How to reject another person with grace and empathy.
You don’t want to be with a person that ghosts! Let them go!

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Mentioned:

Rejection Therapy

Quotes:

When someone rejects you, even if they make it about you, it’s about them” - Lisa
“You can’t run away from rejection.” - Lisa
“Every day is a stepping stone to love.” - Benjamin
“Facing rejection is an intrinsic part of us learning to love ourselves.” - Lisa
“You don’t grow when you don’t face things.” - Lisa
“It’s always your next move.” - Napoleon Hill

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Is it worth dating online during a pandemic?
How can I stop taking rejection, ghosting, and other dating woes not so personally?
Lisa shares how she overcame her fear of being in group situations to not only be immersed in groups but lead them, working with successful and intelligent women like yourself.
Once you are armed with the right tools in dating such as self-confidence + the right online profile, you will be going on dates more confidently and with less anxiety.
When it comes to dating, especially during a pandemic, it’s about progress and not perfection.
Are you pumping the gas too hard on love, or playing it too aloof? Find out what it means to take the “feminine lead.”
Date several men at once. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket when you don’t know if he’s the one.
The right profile and pictures make a world of difference!
Secure men are looking for women that they can feel ultimately safe with.
One of the best gifts you can give your partner is you taking responsibility for your own happiness and health.

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Mentioned:

The Four Agreements

Quotes:

“The way we become good at something is by facing our fears, having the right tools and doing it repeatedly.” - Lisa
“Dating is the best forum for practicing self-growth.” - Lisa
“The one thing you don’t have is time to waste.” - Lisa

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Chocolates, oysters, and romantic hot tub nights are fun - but RESPECT is the real aphrodisiac for men.
We’ve all heard the “men love bitches” trope, but wait until you see how the RIGHT men feel about kindness.
Taking care of yourself and maintaining a healthy body is important, but what holds a man’s attention is NOT just about your looks.
What you can do on a first date to leave a lasting impression on him and make him feel intoxicated and wanting more.
Learn how to be the kind of woman who sees a man not for who he is now, but who he can be.
Forget a bad hair day, what do Benjamin and Lisa say the BIGGEST turn off is for men?
What is the difference between sensuality vs. sexuality, and which one are you harnessing?
How do Lisa and Benjamin continue to stay VERY turned on by each other after 19 years of marriage?

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Mentioned:

Men Love Bitches

Quotes:

“More people will notice the table of people having fun than a guy with a knockout.” - Benjamin
“Trying too hard doesn’t turn a man on.” - Lisa
“Respect is one of the greatest aphrodisiacs.” - Benjamin

Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl―A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What does negative inner dialogue sound like, and why do we talk this way to ourselves?
How do we become our own best friend and positive spin doctor?
Nothing positive comes from a negative state of mind.
What are some quick strategies to go from feeling down in the dumps to badass, strong, and powerful?
It’s not just okay to unplug and turn off the news every now and then, but it’s necessary!
Why do we push the good men away and get butterflies for the ones not right for us?
A community question: can a man really change?

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Mentioned:

Quotes:

“Nothing positive will come from a negative mindset.” - Lisa
“You have to get used to having men treat you well.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Are you conveying the powerful and amazing woman you are in your profile, or does it fall short?
What are the biggest mistakes women tend to make on their dating profiles?
The idea of your dating profile is not only to attract people but to filter people out.
Instead of listing what you want as an order, the right profile creates an invitation and shows the man how beautiful your life would be together.
How do we as women demonstrate that we are busy, but still available for love?
The right phrases to use such as “easy on the eyes” and “classy” that really grab a man’s attention.
How to speak directly to the heart level of a man and get to what they desire at their core.
How to titillate ALL the senses with your description.
The best titles that will illustrate the type of man you want, and who should just keep scrolling.
Have some trusted men in your life read your profile and ask for honest feedback!

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Mentioned:

Quotes:

“It’s about telling who you are, but also who you are not.” - Benjamin
“It takes courage, faith, and a well-written profile.” - Benjamin
“We all want to be with someone who leaves the situation better than they found it.” - Benjamin
“A woman will stand out not only for who she is, but how she is able to express how she isn’t.” - Benjamin

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

The number one quality you should be looking for in your partner.
Why is this quality so overlooked and misunderstood?
We see men that have it as being weak, when really it’s a sign that they are thoughtful, strong, and special.
It’s a choice to treat people with respect and to be thoughtful BUT it doesn’t mean there are no boundaries.
Women can exploit nice men, but not kind men. You miss out on the best man in your life when you take a man’s authentic kindness for weakness.
Lisa shares how she knew Benjamin was the kindest man upon their first meeting.
Is a kind man boring, aka a snooze fest?
Are you cultivating inside of yourself what you are asking for in others?
What is the number one quality that a man is looking for in a woman?
Why sarcasm may not necessarily be the best thing.
My date lied about their age on their online profile - is this a dealbreaker?

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Mentioned:

No More Mr. Nice Guy

John Gottman

Quotes:

“Kind men are kind by choice.” - Lisa
“Women can exploit nice men, but not kind men.” - Lisa
“When you are in a relationship with someone who is kind, it’s emotionally safe.” - Lisa

No More Mr Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

What a guardian of our soul is, and what it’s not.
Lisa shares the mind-blowing story of how she read Benjamin’s work just a month before their first date.
The difference between a guardian of our soul and a soulmate.
It’s about making someone else’s life bigger, not smaller and providing safety, support and love to let their soul flourish.
Does a guardian of a soul relationship mean they always stay together?
Take time to explore your own desire first, and to get clear on what it really means to you to have someone come in as a guardian to your soul.
As you mold yourself into the best version of yourself, it’s very healing and supportive to have a community around you.
Lisa and Benjamin share the work they both did on their own emotional intelligence as individuals to come together with a steady foundation.
Having a guardian of the soul is a choice. You don’t have to be in a relationship just because everyone else is if it’s not your vision.

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Mentioned:

Handbook for the Heart

Quotes:

“Being on this planet every moment knowing I’m being supported, loved, guided. It’s like having a protective blanket.” - Benjamin
“One person can change two people.” - Benjamin
“Without the work that we had done prior to meeting, we wouldn’t have had the good foundation to build on.” - Benjamin
[1]“By being the guardian of my soul, you saw my soul’s purpose.” - Lisa
“We see each other’s limitations without fixing or changing it.” - Lisa
“Soulmate is a Noun, Guardian is a Verb.” - Benjamin

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What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Renee shares her story of losing her husband, and the doubt that filled her mind when thinking of getting out there on the dating scene again. She talks about why she decided to join Lisa’s Coaching Program.
When you show up unapologetically as yourself, you give yourself a greater shot at establishing authentic connections.
Are you bringing to the table what you are asking for in a partner?
We often need to work on ourselves before the universe gives us what we want.
Moving forward after loss doesn’t mean you are denying the grief you have or the love you still feel in your heart for your loved one.
Renee talks about meeting her boyfriend online, and how she knew he was a quality man.
Wish the “Almost Maybe’s” well on their journey, but send them on their way!
Boundaries are important. Don’t keep giving when there is no reciprocity.
Even if you are a boss babe at work, you can still let the man lead.

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Mentioned:

Attached[4][5][6]

Quotes:

“I want the baker, I don’t want the breadcrumbs.” - Renee
“When you are asking the universe for what you want, don't think small, think big.” - Renee
“Keep your options open and purposeful.” - Renee
“There’s only one man in the relationship and I want it to be him and not me.” - Renee

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind?and Keep?Love

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

When you deny your emotions, they build up inside and your energy stays stuck.
It’s okay to cry it out, scream into a pillow, etc! When you feel the emotions, they process through you more quickly and you can free up energy.
When you’re triggered, you are no longer in the present moment. You abandon yourself and who you really are.
It’s okay to have moments where you feel helpless and hopeless. It’s important to have support, such as trusted friends and/or a coach.
Allow yourself time to grow and heal. It’s a process and doesn’t have to be done overnight.
A few tips for dealing with emotion: meditate, talk to your future self, write it out, and find a community of like-minded women who can support you.

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Mentioned:

Quotes:

“Reach out to friends, especially friends who have what you want.”
“You need to give yourself permission to feel lousy sometimes.”
“If you push the emotions away and try to deny them, they are just going to build up and sabotage you.”
“It’s okay to spend a night with Ben and Jerry’s. But there does come a time when you have to put your big girl panties on and keep going.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Yes, Lisa went on 96 first dates in the two years before she met Benjamin. She didn’t give up, but at times did feel exhausted and disappointed.
There’s no such thing as a straight line when moving towards your goal. For every step forward, there can be a step back and it’s important to know that is just part of the process.
How to tune into the voice of love and become a positive spin doctor.
It’s okay to shift your focus and take a break when you are feeling down and exhausted when dating.
A good coach can make a world of a difference and help you from getting burnt out! In Lisa’s course, just one month in and her clients are working on developing a deep self-love and replacing negative patterns with healthier ones that move them towards love.
Resourceful people pivot and don’t let external circumstances stop them.
Why we should seek unconditional love in ourselves and our partners rather than just someone to fill a void.
What does Lisa mean by the concept of the “guardian of your soul?”

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Mentioned:

Dale Carnegie

The Power of Now

Attached

Quotes:

“The voice of love knows the way to love.”
“Our thoughts create our reality.”
“Finding love takes courage and commitment.”

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind?and Keep?Love

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

You don’t get to decide when your partner appears.
When you do meet the love of your life, you want to be the type of person that attracts them and keeps them around! Oftentimes, when we haven’t met our person yet, it is because we just aren’t fully that person.
One of the reasons that rejection is so hard is that it feels like we are being told we are not good enough. Instead, we can learn to grow from our experience and become even better, which will help us attract the person of our dreams.

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Mentioned:

Quotes:

“When we are ready, things come to us and we attract them into our life.” - Lisa

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

How to create vulnerability in the context of trust and safety, without sharing every detail of your life.
Some specific examples of what you could share on a date that is vulnerable and will help a man feel closer to you while still leaving some room for subtlety.
Instead of interviewing your date, we learn to receive and reciprocate.
The art of playfulness takes away anxiety and brings a lighter mood to both you and your date.
Humour creates an instant connection.
Why insatiable curiosity is not only a turn on for men, but something they crave in their day to day life.
Date isn’t asking a lot of questions? Don’t discard him yet!
Two strangers can be genuinely curious about each other and have a magical evening and go their separate ways, so even if your date isn’t your soulmate, you can still learn something and practice these techniques.
We remember how people make us feel, so make sure you are in the bell jar and present with who is in front of you.

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Mentioned:

Healers on Healing

Anatomy of an Illness

Quotes:

It requires a certain confidence to be playful. - Lisa
Laughter washes away anxiety. - Benjamin
There is something magical about the art of presence and being in the moment. - Lisa

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Anatomy of an Illness as Perceived by the Patient: Reflections on Healing and Regeneration

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

You aren’t swimming alone! There are coaches and experts (you are in the right place already) to help you shave years off your dating life.
You do not have to swim against the tide, in fact sometimes it’s smarter to just go with the flow.

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Lisa Shield | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram

Mentioned:

Quotes:

“My Guardian angel is adorable.”

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

A few of the reasons why constantly searching for fireworks in love can be a problem.
A powerful exercise to see how much your love interest is similar to your parent or parental figure.
What are a few of the foundational qualities for relationships that don’t blow up and disappear?
Lisa’s advice for couples and individuals looking to go to therapy.
The 4 Horseman in a relationship that can lead to toxic feelings and behavior, and the warning signs to look out for.
If chemistry is not a conscious thing, how do we begin to create conscious love?
What is the difference between limerence vs. true love?

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Mentioned:

The Gottman Institute

Quotes:

“If you are going to do the work, you need to go to therapy yourself.”
“Love is something that grows. It’s like a seed that gets planted.”

Love coach and heart-opening expert, Lisa Shield, shares her unique and spiritual approach with successful women who have put their careers first but are missing what they want most in their lives... a loving relationship with a high-quality partner. Listen as Lisa helps her clients shift out of their dating rut to cut through the games, stop settling, and finally find the guardian of their souls.