Single and not Settling: Recent Episodes

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A note from Vanessa Maree...

"This is absolutely a dream come true. I was so nervous throughout this interview as I could have pinched myself, achieving this goal of mine. You see in 2020 after I was ghosted and the world shut down, I found a podcast by Dr Karin. Her advice on dating and relationships gave me hope, taught me so much of what I know today but also helped me dive deeper into why I was choosing the wrong men, it all began to make sense!! On this platform I created, I saw it as an opportunity to personally thank Dr Karin for having such an impact on my life, where I am today and where I continue to grow.

Dr Karin is such a genuine person, so kind and has the best sense of humour!

I am so proud of myself and proud of this episode.

I hope you gain value from Dr Karin as much as I have throughout the years."

In this exciting episode of "Single and NOT Settling," Vanessa Maree sits down with Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell, a psychologist, author, and captivating speaker.

Dr. Karin opens up about her own experience as a "runaway bride" and so much more! Tune in to discover:

• The struggle of walking away from a relationship that seems "good enough."
• Dealing with the guilt that follows once you've left that relationship behind, and how Dr. Karin finally let go of that guilt.
• Insights into ghosting and navigating the world of dating apps.
• The importance of understanding your values and finding someone who shares those same values.
• High-status dating: What it entails and the impact when women take the lead in dating.
• Exploring Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and how it can transform negative thoughts into positive outlooks, especially on your dating journey.

Don't miss out on this empowering conversation packed with valuable insights for your dating journey!

For a copy of Dr Karin's Empowered Dating Playbook, click here

I'd love to connect with you on Instagram! Head over to ⁠⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman

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On this episode of Single and Not Settling, Vanessa Maree shares in a conversation with Rachel Smith, a feminine embodied coach about the things you wish you knew before you go on a dating app!

Are you swiping left and right with expectations to find your future partner? This expectant energy is what Rachel believes is blocking you from meeting a potential match.

Listen to hear how a simple tweak can shift this for you as well as:

• "Bees to honey" how you can magnetise the masculine energy by just being.
• Why the high achieving female will struggle to find their partner.
• How an online business can create the space in your life for dating.
• Being honest with yourself and dating from a place of intentionality.
• Why dating as an awakened women can bring forward more challenges and require patience to find your ideal partner.

Connect with Vanessa Maree on Instagram and share what you loved most about this episode ⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwomanIf you feel called to work with Rachel in her 1:1 feminine embodied coaching container, you can connect with her on Instagram @sensingher

Until next time!

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On this episode of Single and Not Settling, we welcome Amy Louise Cash as our guest.

Amy is a woman's coach and mentor who I had the privilege of connecting with through a masterclass about nervous system regulation and setting healthy standards.

Many of us are experiencing some form of stress and anxiety and I felt it was important to bring awareness to this on the podcast and Amy speaks in to this so clearly and passionately.

Amy offers candid insights in this episode, diving into nervous system regulation and real-life experiences #realtalk

Listen as we explore:

• The pivotal role of the nervous system in emotional healing.

• Understanding the mechanisms triggered by our nervous system during moments of stress.

• Distinguishing between the survival brain and the learning brain.

• Practical techniques available to everyone for daily nervous system regulation.

• Shedding light on commonly suppressed thoughts and emotions.

• Establishing healthy standards to set energetic boundaries in various facets of life – be it business, relationships, or friendships.

Below is the link to the online self paced course mentioned in our episode if you would like to further support in establishing your standards:

https://www.themanmenu.com/

I'd love to hear with you learnt most from this episode, connect with me on Instagram!

⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman

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I'm thrilled to announce that I'M BACK with a brand newepisode!

In this episode, I'm joined by Nikii Syme, formerrelationship coach, retreat facilitator and 6 -figure online entrepreneur who bravely shares her journey from a "good" relationship, becoming a single mother and ultimately finding herself and new love.

Nikii openly recounts her experience of navigating the complexities of realizing when a relationship isn't right, staying for the sake of children and ultimately choosing self-love and taking bold action to pursue the life she truly desires.

We also call out a catfish!

Nikii's experience perfectly aligns with the themes of“Single and not Settling” and I'm certain that her story will resonate with many of the listeners.

Tune in to be inspired by her journey of courage andself-discovery!

Connect with Vanessa Maree

⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman

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Happy Valentine’s Day, my loves!

This day is usually about being “lovey dovey” with your significant other, but what happens when that is not your current reality and has not happened for you yet?

In this episode, your wingwoman, Vanessa Maree has your back and talks about Self Love!

Your host shares:

• The real life "expectation v reality" people in relationships may face on Valentine’s Day.
• A story from a past relationship that has me feeling grateful I am not spending V Day with the wrong man!
• Using this day to go within and show yourself love and set you on the path of self  love.

AND A LITTLE SOMETHING SPECIAL...

I have included a guided self love meditation for you! I hope this will help you on your journey through self love. You may come back to this meditation at any time you feel the need to remind yourself how amazing your truly are.

Connect with Vanessa Maree

@vanessamaree_wingwoman

I have created a “Single girl tunes” playlist for you! Check it out below

Single Girl Tunes on Spotify

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Make 2023 your year!!

In today’s episode, Vanessa Maree shares a juicy conversation with the Manifesting QUEEN, Chloe!

The intention of this episode is to empower single women to create magic in their lives using the power of manifestation!

Check out the episode to hear:

• We have the power to create our own reality through our thoughts and beliefs. How you can manifest and where to start!
• Create your vision and dream BIG! Nothing is too big for the universe, get clear and be specific!
• Can we really manifest our dream guy/relationship (listen out for the story of when we both manifested a guy and forgot to add one thing on the list...lots of LOLS!!!)
• What blocks us from receiving what we want to manifest and an in-depth chat about shadow work.
• Masturbating, manifesting and orgasms – (yes please!!)
• The greatest thing Chloe has manifested (the answer may surprise you)
• A free flowing discussion about self love, getting a clear vision of what you want in dating and creating boundaries to have a better dating experience to get you closer to your desired relationship!

Connect with Vanessa Maree, your wingwoman on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman

Connect with Chloe:

Website: https://www.chloecorcoran.com/

Instagram: @the.manifesting.queen.chlo

Grabovoi Cheat Codes: https://mindsetopia.com/grabovoi-codes/

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It is Christmas time and for some of us, this may bring about feelings that we are missing out on that relationship that didn’t happen for us during the year and we have to put up with the questions from our family over Christmas dinner about our relationship status!

In this episode, I wanted to share some tips on how to get through this time of the year:

• Shift your focus to your achievements in all the other areas of your life where you have kicked ass!
• When a negative or low vibrational thought arises, ask yourself this question to shift your mindset and have you feeling inspired instead!
• My “go to” response when you may be asked “Why are you still single?”
• If you find yourself alone at Christmas, I share some ideas to help you connect with others.....*hugs

Connect with me on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman

Merry Christmas!!!

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Have you ever wondered if someone is interested in you after a date or thought to yourself, should I text him or said "no, he should text me first!"

The phrase "If they wanted to, they would" is circulating around the dating world at the moment and I felt I needed to share my thoughts on this.  Listen to hear:

• How this phrase can be used and made relevant in other aspects of our lives, would it change the meaning of it?
• Ways someone can show you their commitment and investment in spending time with you.
• Tips on ways to calm your thoughts after a date with someone (other thinkers, this one is for you.  I got you!)
• Know your values!  Do their values align with yours?

Connect with me on Instagram vanessamaree_wingwoman

Here is the link to find out your values:

https://drdemartini.com/values/

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Whether you know it or not, you have probably connected with a Karmic Soulmate and on this episode, I talk about what a Karmic Soulmate is and ways you can identify them. I also share:

• My personal experiences with two Karmic Soulmates (like one isn't enough!!) that came into my life to shake things up and help me learn some soul lessons. I also go deep to share what revelations these "shake ups" brought into my awareness from my childhood that helped me heal mother wounds.
• How a psychic reading helped uncover what was standing in my way of welcoming a new relationship into my life and what I asked the universe to bring forward to me to heal and allow space for something (or someone) new to come into my life.
• A FWB relationship that became a toxic cycle that I was unable to recognize.
• Finding closure through forgiveness, mediations and gratitude for the lessons your soul needed to learn in this lifetime #feelittohealit

Journal Prompts:

1. What was the worst thing that has happened that ended up being a learning opportunity or a lesson in disguise?

2. Thinking back on a toxic relationship/cycle, why did it serve you to stay in that cycle and what boundaries do you have that will stop you from going back into the same cycle?

Links to meditations:

Clear sexual energy attachments

Cord cutting meditation - Release unhealthy attachments and call back your power

Connect with me on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman to share with me your thoughts on this episode and for more dating tips and advice!

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“Your body is a representation of your unconscious mind” – Emma Zia

Sit down with a journal and a cup of tea for this one!

In this episode. I share in a mind blowing conversation with Emma Zia who specialises in Feminine Energetics. We are in complete flow during our conversation and the information that intuitively dropped in, is shared. Listen to hear:

• How underlying emotions and thoughts manifest as physical ailments and how holding on to trauma and rejection has an affect on our reproductive organs and what you can do to begin healing.
• How messy spiritual awakenings can awaken the feminine inside of you.
• Unlocking the flow of energy through your 7 chakras through an Energy Orgasm (yes, please!)
• Surrendering in to the Dark Night of the Soul to cultivate deep self discovery.
• How feminine blocks have an impact on fertility.
• Those bad dates you keep going on, what need is it really serving?

And so much more!

Journal prompts (featured throughout this episode)

• Thinking of a situation where you have felt triggered and emotions are rising:
• What part of me is creating this?
• What part of me is this serving?
• What needs are being met indirectly?
• What growth opportunity is here for me to learn?

Connect with Emma Zia

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emmazia__/

Website: https://www.emmazia.com/

Deep Power workshop: https://buy.stripe.com/14keYf71i8B1aGY4gk

Connect with Vanessa Maree

Connect with me on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman for more on dating and share with me how this episode resonated with you!

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I'm back with a solo episode with lots of dating goodness to share!

How can you spot a scam on a dating app? Dating apps are a prime target for scammers and I share some easy tell tale signs on how you can spot them (hello, Tinder Swindler) and I share when it happened to me (literally just happened before I recorded this episode!)

The radio segment I was hooked on where the radio hosts broke up a couple to save them has finished and I discuss the results and why I think they should not have got back together (ooh, controversial).

The exciting news that Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck got married and what we can learn from their romance over the years!

I have added journal prompts to the episode to encourage you to find a quiet space to go within and re-connect to your soul (tea and chocolate are totally called for here)

Journal prompts

• In the past, has there been times when you didn't trust your intuition, what was the outcome?

• Reflecting back on your dating experience, what behaviors did you accept because you didn't have standards in place?

Connect with your wingwoman on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman I'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode or about a date you have been on recently.

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Do you sometimes struggle in your single hood? Do you need some inspiration and motivation to live an incredible life as a single woman?

Well, if you do, this episode is for you!

On this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Leslie Kaz, Life Coach and author of Single Girl Bliss.

In our conversation, we spoke about how good being single can actually be and ways we are changing the narrative that society has placed on being single!

Listen to hear:

• Advice to single women currently struggling on their dating journey.

• Reframing those limiting beliefs that we can succumb to while we are single and tips on how to shift your mindset.

• Changing the narrative that single women need to be "fixed" and there is something wrong with us if we are single for a long time.

• Redefining "happily ever after" and why we only assumed the princess in the fairytales had a picture perfect life.

• The best things about being single!

• Our listener question about being saddened by being the 3rd or 5th wheel and when friends start having children or getting married. Leslie and I share our stories when this happened to us and how we changed our mindset to not feel less than again!

Connect with Leslie Kaz

Instagram @lesliekaz_singlegirlbliss

Get your FREE 3 day roadmap - How to be happy alone https://www.lesliekaz.com/freeroadmap/

20 answers to the question “why are you single” – FREE download https://mailchi.mp/lesliekaz/5tcu0y1xhp

Website - https://www.lesliekaz.com/

I'd love to support you through your dating journey!

Connect with your Wingwoman, Vanessa Maree @vanessamaree_wingwoman

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Today, I welcome my first guest to Single and Not Settling! Karin Gambaracci is a Dating Coach working with single woman to embrace their feminine energy to help them attract their partner and live authentically to be truly happy.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What is feminine energy?
• The difference between wounded feminine energy and healthy feminine energy.
• How childhood traumas can contribute to wounded feminine energy.
• The importance of trusting in yourself first to be able to place trust in others (including men!).
• Using your innate intuition in dating.
• Communicating from a high value feminine energy and ways to embody your feminine energy on a date.
• Healthy masculine energy vs wounded masculine energy.

Karin has put together a special offer for listeners of Single and Not Settling! Listen to the end to find out Karin's generous gift to you!

Connect with Karin Gambaracci

Website: Karin Gambaracci - Dating coach for strong women

Instagram: @karingambaracci

I would love to know what your biggest takeaway from this episode was! Connect with me on Instagram and send me a message to let me know! @vanessamaree_wingwoman

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How has dating changed for me since I’ve released a podcast?  How are men on dates reacting when I say in my spare time I record podcast episodes about modern dating?  Listen to this episode to find out!  

I also share:

•  A special acknowledgement to the women who have walked away from relationships where they were not treated right and know they   deserve better!  #singleandnotsettling

•  A social experiment I am hooked on that breaks up a couple to save them, will it work and what it now means when a guy says he is looking    “to see what is out there”

•  What it means to show up as your authentic self on dates and if you feel you are not, what you can do to truly align with your authentic self      and find the right man for you!

Connect with me on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman for more on dating and share with me your dating experiences!

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This episode of Single and NOT Settling is dedicated to a dear friend, Kate who was taken away from us too soon.

On today’s episode, Vanessa Maree vents about what NOT to say to single women, questions and statements like:

•Why are you still single??

•Advice such as “you’ll meet someone when you least expect it!”

•That eye roll comment "I’m so glad I didn’t have to go on dating apps to meet my husband!”

•AND the worst one of all...."maybe you are too picky!"

Vanessa Maree says everything that you are thinking but are maybe too scared to say in this unfiltered episode!

If you resonate with this or have other annoying questions asked as a single woman, please send me a DM on Instagram and let me know.

Connect with me on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman for more on dating and check out my What does that even Mean Wednesday posts!

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Welcome back to another episode of Single and NOT Settling.  What does settling mean in a relationship and how do you know if you have? 

On this episode, your Wingwoman talks about:

•What settling means when it comes to dating and relationships.

•The differences between Standards vs Expectations and 2 lists you can create to have a better dating experience.

•A personal experience when I stepped away from a superficial expectation and met an incredible guy!

•Some reasons why women settle and the bravery it takes to admit when it happens.

•What you can do in the moment when you feel your season of being single sucks and what you can do about it!

•Rediscovering the love you have for yourself and going within.

Connect with me on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman for more on dating and check out my What does that even Mean Wednesday posts!

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Welcome to my first episode!

This is such a surreal moment and I am so grateful for all of the things that have led to the creation of this podcast and my FIRST episode!

In this episode I share: 

• My “why” and why I decided to be the self-proclaimed WINGWOMAN!

• What does that even mean Wednesday – why hearing what men think can help us in dating!

• How 2020 was the year that HAD to happen and why I am grateful and found a positive out of a very BIG negative.

• The time when I was in a comfortable long term relationship and why I stayed there too long.

• I talk about forgiveness and how I forgave those (aka men) who hurt me and how I forgave myself.

• Why you should not wait until you are in a relationship to do the things YOU want do to and live your best single life NOW!

Connect with me on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman for more on dating and check out What does that even Mean Wednesdays

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…And it SUCKED big time!  

On this episode I get vulnerable and reflect about the time I was ghosted.

• I discuss how closure does not exist when you have been ghosted.

• How Christmas Eve will hold a heartbreaking memory that I have turned into a positive.

• The red flags I ignored.

• I share the story behind the infamous green dress I was told “not to wear again”

• The “ghosters” who still window shop on your social media stories.

• My message to anyone who has been ghosted *hugs

Connect with me on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman for more on dating and check out What does that even Mean Wednesdays

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Dating apps!  (enough said, right?!)

Why have dating apps become so tedious and hard?! Should I be the one to text first, why hasn’t he responded to my message?!  So many questions…

In this episode, I discuss:

• Differences between the “big 3” dating apps (Tinder, Bumble and Hinge).

• How to spot a scam or a catfish!!

• How dating apps have evolved and have changed the face of dating – good or bad?

• My 24 hour rule!  What is it and why?!

• I offer advice on questions to ask to make sure you have matched with someone who aligns with that you are looking for.

• A challenge to everyone to “look up”!

….and lots more!

Connect with me on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman for more on dating and check out What does that even Mean Wednesdays

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There was SO much more to say which is why I had to do Part 2 of my discussion about dating apps!

• I share tips on ways women can stay safe while dating (heads up, one tip is not drinking alcohol on a first date – eeekkk!)

• How COVID changed the way we date.

• Pet peeves on dating profiles!  Guys, put your tongues away it is NOT attractive!

• Setting boundaries and sticking to them.

• I share a love story from a book I was reading to give us all hope that love it out there.

Connect with me on Instagram @vanessamaree_wingwoman for more on dating and check out What does that even Mean Wednesdays