MotherLoad Podcast: Recent Episodes
Lindsay Roselle
MotherLoad speaks to the massive, multi-facetted load that ambitious women are under managing the feelings of simultaneously wanting to succeed in their work and also be devoted mothers. It requires an intentional increase and great management of their mental, emotional, and physical capacity, a big task for anyone, let alone a busy mama.This podcast explores the tried and true practices, structures, and secrets of doing both things with excellence. We cover topics like inner work, mindset calibration, business strategy, conscious communication, personal wellbeing, and more, in an effort to help ambitious mamas feel like they can do ALL of their roles well. Join us weekly for solo episodes with host Lindsay Roselle and guest interviews with an array of high-achieving leaders discussing their relationship with motherhood and how it’s impacted their success. Each week you’ll walk away with inspirational stories, actionable insights, and impactful practices to incorporate into your life that will increase your capacity to manage the load of entrepreneurial ambition and devotion to motherhood.
In this episode, we talk about:
How money mindset specifically impacts women in business.
Rethinking goals and boundaries after becoming a mom.
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How has becoming a mother impacted your goals, ambitions and what balance looks like for you? In this candid conversation, I’m joined by Nicole D’Andrea as we talk about the intricate balance of entrepreneurship, achieving success in business, and motherhood. We both don’t hold back as we talk about being mothers, breadwinners, and how our goals have evolved through different seasons. As a successful studio owner and business strategist, Nicole shares why it’s so important for female entrepreneurs specifically to work on their money mindset and boundaries, plus how her own boundaries and ambitions have been fueled and changed by motherhood.
05:30 Navigating entrepreneurship, business success, and motherhood.
12:45 Burnout and conditioning in entrepreneurship.
16:30 What role does self belief play in overcoming obstacles?
19:45 Why is it so important that women work on their money mindset?
26:15 How do you work through the feeling of needing to be perfect in business and motherhood?
29:00 The power of presence in business and motherhood.
32:30 How has motherhood impacted your goals and ambitions?
40:00 Balancing breadwinning and motherhood.
In this episode, we talk about:
How Danielle’s childhood growing up with a single mother shaped her mindset around scarcity.
What work-life balance looks like in different seasons.
Why it’s important to have open conversations with your partner about your business (especially about your needs through different seasons.)
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Being raised by a single mom, Danielle shares how that shaped her mindset as a kid around time and money. Having to reframe scarcity mindset, Danielle built a successful business, and is now in a season of redefining financial goals, success and balance. Through different seasons of motherhood you will have different goals. Beware of using revenue as a badge of honor and think about what you need and the needs of your business in this current season.
03:30 How growing up with a single mom that worked multiple jobs shaped Danielle’s mindset around time and money.
07:00 How did having your baby impact how you thought about work-life balance?
10:30 Navigating challenges in business while taking care of your own wellbeing.
13:45 What are key steps people should take to take care of themselves and their businesses?
17:00 What is your relationship to scarcity and the multiple ways it impacts your life?
24:00 How to alleviate burnout and get back into alignment.
28:15 Don’t be a martyr mother.
32:15 When did everyone start using revenue as a badge of honor?
36:00 Being an ambitious mother and resetting how you measure self worth.
43:00 How have you communicated needs and redefined your role in your relationship during different seasons?
46:15 Advice for having open communication about your business with your partner.
In this episode, we talk about:
Navigating postpartum confusion especially after an emergency c-section.
Mental and physical needs during postpartum + the resources you may not know you needed
How long postpartum typically lasts.
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Was your postpartum experience what you expected? Did you have the support and education you needed? In this episode, I’m excited to share my conversation with Nurse Practitioner and Co-Founder of NAPS (Newborn and Parenting Support), Emily Silver. Emily and I talk about historically what support women typically had postpartum vs the common experience women are having today, and the resources available to make sure more women are supported by a village of support, education and community during such an important transition in their lives. There is such a focus on babies in the childbirth and postpartum era, it’s time to make sure you have what you need to lighten your motherload.
02:10 Meet Emily Silver!
07:30 Postpartum confusion and recovering from an emergency c-section.
09:45 How did you start NAPS?
14:15 What did support historically look like throughout the childbirth process?
23:00 The need for support for women while they have babies and follow their ambitions in their work.
26:00 How does the tactical education you do support the identity shift of postpartum?
32:15 The importance of community and having a safe space for mothers.
35:00 Why do we need to normalize conflicting emotions?
40:30 How important is it to balance education with listening to your intuition?
44:00 Who is on your list of trusted people?
49:45 How long does the traditional postpartum period last?
In this episode, we talk about:
Are you letting joy guide you in decision making?
The less you do, the more free you are!
Work life balance is a myth, it’s a give and take.
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Why is it so hard to wrap our minds around how doing less can create more?? Mother’s are so conditioned to give all they have and work until burn out. This can stem from a scarcity mindset and pressures placed on us by society. It is possible to let go a little and do less in order to create more but it takes relearning and being intentional. Today we are talking with Suzy Olivier: business coach, serial entrepreneur, mom of 3 and military wife. She shares with us the amazing business she has built, how motherhood plays a huge role in her business creations and the incredible boundaries she upholds in her home/business life. She is the perfect example of creating your own success while not burning yourself out and having nothing left to give to your family. Suzy is very intentional with how she goes about her days and she shares with us her many lessons and realizations!
02:30 How does motherhood fit into Suzi’s entrepreneurial journey?
08:00 Suzy has her moments of imposter syndrome just like many of us!
15:10 How much does intuition guide mothers and entrepreneurs?
18:40 Let joy be your compass!
23:20 People buy from people.
29:15 Work life balance is a myth, it’s a give and take.
35:00 You get to design your own success!
39:20 How does Suzy handle the mindset of “achieving it all” in her coaching?
45:30 You don’t have to be the burnt out martyr of motherhood.
50:00 You are enough just as you are!
In this episode, we talk about:
Create sustainable systems and processes to balance your business and family commitments!
If you make sure you are taken care of everything else will be as well.
There is no way out but through, build your resilience muscle!
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Meet Krista! She is the CEO to a 7 figure digital marketing business, and mamma to 2 littles with another on the way! Krista shares with us how she balances being an entrepreneur with motherhood and the system's/boundaries that she has in place to help her. We discuss how balance can look different for everyone and as long as you are taken care of everything else will be as well. Krista shares how she handled a tough situation in her business at the beginning of this pregnancy and how she shows up for her team in a raw, honest manner. If you are an entrepreneur/ mom wanting to create more balance in your life, this is an amazing episode full of nuggets of advice and peace of mind! You are capable of having both a business and being a mother.
02:15 Meet Krista, CEO of a 7 figure business and mamma to 2 littles with one on the way!
07:00 How did Krista create boundaries between her business and family scheduling?
13:00 Krista’s goal is to have a healthy balance of being a CEO and a mother.
16:10 Is Krista comfortable with her balance with another baby on the way?
18:45 Keep your commitments to yourself!
22:00 Balance in life looks different for everyone, do what works for you.
28:30 How did Krista handle a huge transition in the business at the beginning of her pregnancy?
34:00 Resilience includes taking the time to show up for yourself.
37:50 There is no way out but through, build that resilience muscle!
42:00 Motherhood transforms and strengthens women in incredible ways!
46:10 How to get in touch with Krista?
In this episode, we talk about:
Motherhood comes with many layers that we have to journey through.
It’s ok to grieve who you were before becoming a mother.
Don’t focus on what your body looks like, focus on loving it for all that it has done for you and having positive self-talk.
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Connect with Mel Wells | @iammellwells | melwells.com
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Motherhood is such a deep experience filled with joy, grief, love, and learning! Today we talk with a dear friend, Mel Wells. She shares her journey into motherhood and how that has changed who she is now. We talk about how the grief of losing who we were before motherhood is a normal transition to experience. We discuss her son’s stay in the NICU, how she coped with that and how that affects the way she shows up as a mother today. Mel shares with us how she overcame an eating disorder and learned to love her body before becoming a mom and how that played such a positive role in her journey. We also talk about how social media, and other people's expectations take a toll on us. Let’s be more kind and accepting of each other as mother’s by creating a safe space for bonding and support. We are all just doing the next best we can. Join us for a real, raw discussion about some of the most sensitive topics in motherhood.
02:50 Mel’s journey into entrepreneurship is connected to her journey of becoming a mother.
05:30 How did Mel’s healing journey spark her desire to become a coach?
08:20 Your relationship with yourself and your body are more important after birth than looks.
12:00 Mel’s traumatic birth story and how she overcame it.
17:30 How has this experience changed the way she thought things would be?
23:00 Trust yourself mamma, you are doing the best you can!
26:40 What was the transition into motherhood like for Mel?
30:30 It’s ok to feel grief for the pre motherhood version of ourselves.
35:00 Does Mel feel physically and existentially safe as a mother in America?
42:00 God designed us to protect our babies, it’s a primal instinct!
48:10 How did Mel and her partner handle coming into parenthood in such a traumatic way?
53:00 Your relationship is a model for your babies.
55:00 Children remember how their parents made them feel, not how clean the house was.
In this episode, we talk about:
The beautiful journey from foster care to adoption!
Juggling being a parent and running multiple businesses.
Self regulation as a parent and child is life changing.
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Connect with Mary Beth | marybethlarue.com
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Mother…A word used whether you gave birth to your baby or adopted them and love them as your own. Mothers are strong, brave, fierce and loving. We will do anything for our children and one does not have to be the biological mom to feel the deep connection, love and unwavering loyalty to their children. Mary I’m excited to share this episode with friend, yoga teacher, coach, writer and remarkable mama, Mary Beth. She has aspired to create a life with a slower rhythm that aligns with her and her family's needs. She shares with us the roller coaster that is her beautiful adoption story of her son and how she handles the trauma they both experienced.
01:50 Meet my friend Mary Beth!
03:00 How did Mary Beth put herself out there and go after her aspirations?
07:10 Mary Beth’s journey from fostering to adopting
13:20 The call that changed it all!
18:50 How did Mary Beth manage the uncertainty of foster care?
20:40 You don’t have to be a biological parent to feel that deep bond and protection instincts.
26:30 How does Mary Beth handle the trauma from the adoption of her son?
30:40 Parenting hurdles change from generation to generation, how does one navigate that?
34:30 An emotionally regulated parent is a safe space for a child to ask questions and learn.
40:35 What does a normal day look like for Mary Beth while juggling being a parent and running businesses?
44:00 Mama’s, Allow yourself time to process the mental load and recharge.
49:00 Teaching children to self-regulate is so important for resilience.
In this episode, we talk about:
Being a new mother and an ambitious entrepreneur!
How to create a healthy work/family balance.
Having a scarcity mindset and imposter syndrome AND doing it anyways!
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You know that feeling in your gut that you’re meant for more? That gut KNOWING has driven Erika Auckland to build a successful network marketing business, and create the wealth and time freedom she’s dreamed about since she was a child. Motherhood came in a delightfully unexpected way for Erika and was one of the few things in her life that was not planned. Erika is here to share the lessons she learned from taking six months away from work to be with her son and they are lessons every business owner can embrace regardless of the season you’re in! We dive into scarcity and money mindset, identity shifts, and the nervous system overload moms are feeling everywhere. Whether you’re a new mom figuring out what you need to show up as mom and run your business, or you’re navigating taking the leap to your next level in life & businesses, this episode is a must!
01:45 Erika’s journey into entrepreneurship!
05:40 Her networking marketing business has given her more freedom in life and allows her to focus more on her family as she ventures into this season of motherhood.
09:20 How does Erika balance her new role as a mother and being an entrepreneur?
12:00 Becoming a mother has taught Erika how to slow down and be more present in her life.
15:00 What did postpartum life look like for Erika?
18:30 The many identity shifts of motherhood!
24:20 How does Erika handle scarcity around money?
27:30 Erika struggles with imposter syndrome just like many others but it doesn’t stop her!
30:30 Ask for help, it’s essential to our success as mothers!
38:00 What does Erika implement into her life to care for herself?
47:30 Mothers everywhere are dealing with nervous system overload.
49:30 Existential safety as a mother in 2023.
56:00 It is ok to disagree with other mothers. We all ultimately want what's best for your children.
In this episode, we talk about:
- Are you in alignment? When you are in alignment your business, relationships and life will be too.
- After motherhood your priorities may change and that’s ok!
- It is possible to create a work/life balance after motherhood, you just need the right systems.
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I am so excited to bring you in on an incredible conversation with an ambitious multi-business woman and mama, Natalie Ellis. Natalie shares with us how she left a dysfunctional home at the young age of 13 and started her first business building websites! From that moment on she has created business after business, success after success! Today we discuss how motherhood can change the order of your priorities, but it is still possible to be both an amazing mother and a successful business woman. Natalie gets vulnerable and honest with us about her journey through new motherhood. She shares her struggle through anxiety and depression and how it led to her yearning to create a supportive community for moms who are also entrepreneurs. This meant she had to take a risk and stop working on a portion of her business in order to better align it with her new journey. This is how CEO Mama was born! Natalie also shares with us the systems she uses to maintain a healthy work/ life balance and the steps she needed to take in order to create that. If you are a mom or a mom/entrepreneur you are not going to want to miss this episode and all the amazing nuggets of advice Natalie shares with us!
01:00 Meet Natalie Ellis-The founder of CEO Mama and co-founder of Boss Babe!
02:35 How has ambition inspired Natalies life?
05:20 Becoming a mother can make you rethink the order of your priorities.
13:40 What fears or doubts came up when Natalie realized she needed to change the path of her business after becoming a mother?
19:30 After becoming a mom Natalie found new meaning in her business.
26:00 What systems does Natalie use to maintain work/life balance?
30:20 Batching and open communication is a game changer for creating a rhythm and balance.
33:30 How does Natalie handle the mental load of motherhood?
40:00 There is a biological difference between the mom and dad brain.
45:10 How was CEO Mama born?
51:00 A glimpse of a day in the life of Natalie Ellis.
Today I’m bringing back the one and only Jacki Carr, a dear friend of mine, goal coach, writer, speaker, and most importantly, a mother of 3 beautiful daughters.
We talk about Jacki’s recent decision to leave Instagram (along with the impact it has had on her business), the bold and crazy moves that her family are about to make, the evolution of parenting, and how she's navigating change and the motherload.
I always love chatting with Jacki - she always has so much wisdom to offer and I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- Why Jacki had a “full body” decision to leave Instagram after experiencing stagnance in her creativity, plus, the mental preparation it took and new frameworks she hopes to incorporate that better align with her values
- How social media burnout led Jacki to take an energetic audit to see where her time was being spent
- Jacki’s new Substack, which has become a space of authenticity and a more potent container for her love of long-form writing
- The bold, brave, and beautiful decision behind Jacki’s upcoming move from Colorado to the coast of Maine
- How comfort can actually lead us down a path of misalignment
Resources & LinksConnect with Jacki on her website or she invites you to call or text her at 281-935-8737. Subscribe to her Optional Optimism newsletter, which features her post, 33 Reasons I Left Instagram Today…
Tune in to hear Jacki’s first appearance on the MotherLoad Podcast, Navigating the Chaos of Motherhood.
Other resources mentioned in this episode: Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna Lembke and Home Body by Rupi Kaur (see page 175 for the poem Jacki references).
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Today’s conversation is going really deep into mindset, confidence, and authenticity and how finding certainty in our lives really requires us to be confident in who we are.
Being ambitious and driven is in Lindsey Mango’s blood. As a life and business coach, mindset expert, and mama to her 1-year old daughter, she talks about her journey from leaving corporate to creating a successful life coaching business, and all the ups and downs she's had along the way - from feeling safe in her online identity, to Mom guilt and navigating fear and uncertainty.
We also talk about one of my favorite topics - money, and how it factors into the motherload. Lindsey also gets into the nitty gritty of a self-imposed challenge she ran in her business to make $100,000 in 30 days. Not only did she achieve her goal, but she exceeded it, and will break it all down for us. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- How working with a life coach blew Lindsey’s mind at a point in her life when a lot of areas (relationship, career, etc.) were stagnant. This inspired her to launch her own coaching business, where she replaced her full time income in just 6 months!
- Dealing with comparison, losing clients to other coaches, and the plateau Lindsey faced in her business early on, especially after having her daughter
- The moment Lindsey committed to doing as many uncomfortable things as possible, including pushing herself to make $100K in 30 days
- How to get over the fear of being judged. You may feel “unsafe” in your identity when stepping more into your authenticity, but it will help you build a community around you
- Lindsey takes us through a typical day in the life, including when she stops and starts her work day so she can be more present with her daughter (plus, how she manages “transitions” and “Mom Guilt”)
Resources & LinksLearn more about Lindsey’s coaching services on her website and follow her on Instagram at @lindseymango_.
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Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
I love to speak. And I love being in front of groups of women who are in various stages of their self-discovery journey to talk about inner alignment and how it matches up to the influence, impact, and income you want to have in the world.
So you can imagine my excitement when my friend Jenna Klopfenstein asked me to speak on stage at her Next Level You Live event.
In this minisode, you’ll get to hear a preview of what I spoke about - including my own experience getting to inner alignment, putting myself first, not “burning all the boats” in my business, and why it’s okay for things to not be okay. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- The inner resistance I was questioning before going on stage and how I leaned in to “telling the truth” rather than being a “hype person” (which isn’t me)
- The realization I had back in 2020 where I recognized my priorities were completely out of order
- Why reprioritizing our lives can feel so hard (and why my businesses are actually my 4th layer of priorities)
- Asking yourself the question “what do I want?” and knowing that once the true answer is discovered, success gets easier and easier
- Being in the room and feeling the energy and motivation at live events - fight through any resistance you’re feeling and go!
Resources & Links
Learn more about Jenna’s Next Level You Live event and check out her episode on the MotherLoad Podcast, Building Risk Tolerance + Making Bold Moves as a High-Achiever.
Did this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly via DM or at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
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Spoiler alert: we all have a personal brand, but are you truly harnessing yours with confidence?
Today’s conversation is a juicy one. Marina Middleton is the founder and CEO of Empowered Confidence, a personal branding agency that teaches current and future female leaders how to leverage their life story and their authenticity and turn that into a powerful personal brand.
Marina was very young when she became pregnant with her little boy Sebastian, and it was disruptive to her life. But she said, “I'm gonna figure it out!” And she went on to have a successful corporate career before transitioning into entrepreneurship.
We go deep into redefining your personal brand as a mother, how confidence translates into influence, and why we need to treat social media as a marketing tool. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- Marina’s unexpected pregnancy journey at age 23, and how she navigated a toxic relationship and growing up in a conservative family
- How self-worth is at the root of most women’s lack of confidence. We all have amazing ambitions and dreams and desires, but negative talk and fear of judgment can hold us back
- The boundaries Marina implements on social media, how she leverages feedback as “data”, and why she unfollows people (even her friends!) if they subconsciously influence her creativity and content
- Marina describes what life looks like as a mom to her 7-year old son, from her morning rituals, to her “themed” days (Mondays = content creation, Fridays = admin), and the importance of finding time for herself every day
- We all have a personal brand - but WE get to control the narrative around it and what we are known for
Resources & Links
Connect with Marina on her website to learn more about her signature course and retreat, or on her podcast, She Did It Anyway. You can also follow Marina on Instagram.
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You can't burn all the boats when you're a mother.
But for so many years, I lived in that mindset. Today I’m going to share exactly what this metaphor means and why it can be more challenging to adopt as a mother and entrepreneur.
People say you have to be ALL IN on an idea - there’s no turning back. But there’s such a delicate balance between ambition, devotion, and motherhood. Sometimes it makes sense to safely retreat to another boat in the harbor rather than pursuing and persevering towards one thing.
Today I’m sharing how I’m processing this metaphor, especially as it relates to MotherLoad and the $100K in 100 Days challenge, and why I am currently in a season of not feeling comfortable or motivated to burn boats. I would like to have several boats in the harbor! In this episode you’ll hear about:
- The sentiment behind “burning the boats” and how I interpret it
- Why we don’t actually need to succumb to one idea and go all in on it - because if that one thing starts to feel out of alignment, it can create strain and depletion
- The importance of being aware of our personal capacity, desires, excitement and stress levels
- The pressure and challenges I’m facing in birthing MotherLoad into something bigger, when I could more easily spin up $50K, $80K, and $100K months doing consulting
- How I’m bringing more money in through the $100K in 100 Days challenge by dropping “rigid compliance” and allowing money to flow through other sources beyond just MotherLoad
Resources & LinksDid this episode resonate with you? Lindsay is always interested in hearing how people internalize these metaphors and these mindsets. Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly via DM or at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
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It’s okay to not love aspects of motherhood.
Even the parts that you’re “supposed” to love – the baby years, for instance. Some of us had glorious experiences when our children were born. Others suffered postpartum depression, breastfeeding difficulties, or traumatic childbirths.
There’s pressure for us to say to one another, you’re going to miss it, or, you can’t get this time back, but I think it’s essential to talk about the light AND the shadows – which brings me to today’s guest, Meghan Scott Molin, a mother and author (whose career has also featured equestrianism, architecture, and photography!).
Here, we talk in detail about Meghan’s traumatic entrance into motherhood – which involved nearly losing her son – and how fixating on wanting a different journey did her no good. She had to accept that this was her reality in order to get where she is today – loving her career and her life as a mom. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- Meghan’s journey into motherhood, from her difficult pregnancy and terrifying ultrasound at 31 weeks to her son’s birth and survival
- “Superwomaning” in motherhood – and the realization that she needed to be less obsessive and roll her partner in or else they’d crash and burn
- Information vs. ignorance; wanting data and control for things to go our way vs. letting go of control and just letting things be
- Seeing ourselves as shepherds to our kids, and realizing that our kids are not reflections of us – instead, we are guides on their journeys
- Destigmatizing therapy and the importance of feeling safe to express to a partner the lack of joy in parenthood or the need for more help
- Monetizing hobbies (pros and cons) and developing the entrepreneurial spirit as children (for Meghan, it involved a $15 stuffed cat)
Resources & LinksBe sure to check out Meghan Scott Molin’s fun series about a woman comic book writer who solves crimes with the help of the LAPD and her drag queen best friend and follow her on Instagram!
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It’s finally spring! And for me, that means getting back into alignment.
This winter, there were lots of gray days. There was a lot of snow and a lot of illness. (In fact, I’m fighting off illness as I record this!) In the new season, I want to make some shifts to feel better again.
When things aren’t in alignment, I don’t feel as energized. I don’t feel as social. I don’t feel as connected to RT or as patient with my kids. So, in this mini-episode, I’m looking at places to make these shifts, paying close attention to physical health, time blocking, and money.
These things are all connected. Physical health impacts mental health, which not only affects our productivity, but also how we show up in our lives. I hope this helps you look at your own alignment as we head into this new season.
In this episode you’ll hear about:
- Reimplementing daily morning walks outside, which raises my energy and acts as a transition out of “kid mode” and into “work mode”
- Analyzing my supplements (including peptide supplements, which I’ll talk more about in a future episode), sleep hygiene, and daily movement
- Time-blocking and being intentional about how I schedule meetings so that I can run my days in a more focused way with less context switching
- Saving one day a week where I don’t have meetings or calls so I have the option to not work OR make it a creative/dream day
- My weekly “money date” to look at bookkeeping so that I can stay on top of expenses, projections, budgeting, etc.
- The mindset of trust/abundance vs. the mindset of avoidance – and making sure there’s true separation between these two things
Resources & LinksDid this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
Today I am celebrating the MotherLoad Podcast’s 50th episode! To produce a consistent, high-quality podcast is HARD.
I’ve come to learn that it’s rare people get this far and are as consistent as I’ve been with a podcast. I want to celebrate this milestone by reviewing what I’ve learned – about podcasting, the motherload, and myself – since launching seven months ago.
Do you love your life right now? Ultimately that’s the core question I’m trying to get at with MotherLoad: to help mothers love their lives. The way I’m doing it is by being real and honest, which, I’ve learned, is what people want.
I love this podcast, this medium, speaking into this microphone, and the feedback I get from listeners. I feel so called to do this work, and more excited about this mission than I’ve ever been. Thank you for being here. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- The system I use to manage the podcast and how I’ve made it as easy and automated as possible so that I continue to love doing it
- Things I’ve learned about podcasting (the benefits of a good editor, that not EVERYONE has a great podcast interview, the power of boldness)
- How metrics matter – but ultimately, only to the extent that you’re passionate about what you’re doing
- The myth that the motherload is mostly task-based – there are also more potent feelings at work regarding grief, safety, and freedom
- How common it is that mothers suffer in communicating with their partners, and how so many women hold on to their motherloads on purpose
- My thoughts on excellence (trying your hardest, being bold, taking risks) vs. perfection (safe, boring, doing things the way other people are doing it)
Resources & LinksIf you've been a longtime listener, I have a favor to ask very openly and humbly: please leave a review for MotherLoad on your favorite podcast listening platform. Reviews help grow the podcast and bring it to new audiences. Thank you for listening to all of these episodes. Did this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
Fast-forward to twenty years from now. Imagine you have the chance to go back in time to RIGHT NOW.
What would you come back to do over? Would you focus your time on rushing your kids to school so you can build your business? Or would you take a moment and appreciate them at this age right now? It’s one of the questions our guest Allie Bjerk proposes in today’s episode.
Allie is an expert on passive income and has built a multiple 7-figure business – all while being a mother of three and maintaining “white space” for time with family. So many people think you need a huge sum of money before passive income investments kick back, but Allie is proof it can start with one small thing at a time.
Allie and I talk in-depth about balancing the motherload with a successful business, which at times, means being BRUTAL about how we spend our time in terms of return on investment – and remembering what’s ACTUALLY most precious at this moment. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- How Allie’s business started with social media/ads/website design, and how launching a $27 product changed everything, eventually generating $1 million
- How we spend our time in terms of R.O.I. and M.V.P. (minimal viable product) – what’s the least amount of work that needs to be done for something to sell?
- Making the decision to NOT do things that take up too much time and don’t generate a lot of revenue
- The importance of a morning ritual for Allie, which involves journaling and exercise
- Being intentional about the time she spends with her kids; Allie was never at a point where she wasn’t seeing her kids at all and working 80-hour weeks
- How Allie constantly reevaluates the structure of her days and her business to have the flexibility and “white space” to live the life she wants
Resources & LinksBe sure to check out Allie’s podcast, The Decision Maker Show. Find her on Instagram and her website.
Did this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
Do mothers feel safe to express their mental load?
The reason I ask is that I’d venture that most of us DON’T feel safe expressing our mental loads to the people closest to us.
When I say “feel safe,” what I mean is that mothers feel like they can be HONEST with their partners, family members or on social media without being gaslighted, questioned, disagreed with, or made to feel stupid for speaking their truth.
Many of us are afraid to say this is hard due to getting pushback or comments like well, you chose this. You chose to have kids. You chose this partner. But just because we chose something, doesn’t mean it’s not hard.
So that’s today’s episode – do you feel safe expressing your truth? If not, why? What is at the root of your hesitation? In this episode you’ll hear about:
- How expressing our truths is NOT an invalidation of someone else’s truth – it’s about being SEEN in the context of the village
- That fear for speaking our truths could also be a cultural phenomenon; we’re afraid of being different or expressing our need for more support
- The shared experience that results when we create more opportunities for mothers to express truths without feeling judged/shamed/wrong/ungrateful
- Questions to ask yourself if you DON’T feel safe expressing your motherload: what would make you feel safe? What are you scared of?
- How it went when I told my partner I wanted him to turn his phone off when he came home to be more present for the kids (hint: it went well)
- The value in looking at these questions regularly, which can illuminate areas of our inner worlds we might not be aware of
Resources & LinksDid this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
Do you regularly “get quiet” to figure out your next step?
I’m always surprised how many people don’t do this and instead go outward, getting advice from others and trying to solve all their problems externally. In my opinion, there are some things you’re only going to solve by going within.
In those moments of panic or defeat, it takes resilience to go within and trust that this setback doesn’t have to mean anything about us. This is a circumstance we’re in, but there IS a way forward. This is one of the big subjects in today’s episode with Emily Potter, a functional diagnostic nutrition practitioner, entrepreneur, and mother of two.
Listen in as we discuss this and other major topics regarding the motherload, including taking care of ourselves, pivoting in hard times, and modeling the behavior we want to see in our kids. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- How Emily started her business and had her first baby in 2013, and how she pivoted when her family moved from Southern California to Idaho to Montana
- Techniques to find another way when something fails, including looking inward, brain dumping (my personal favorite), and using the “wide angle lens”
- The importance of using intuition in motherhood, and the things that can pull us out of it, from noise to external opinions
- How Emily uses time blocking to manage parenting and all her businesses, being very specific on what she’s doing when
- Modeling the behavior we want to see in our kids, from taking the time to eat breakfast to creating the life and career we desire
- How little decisions make a huge difference in our well-being, and how to increase your motherload capacity (i.e., become stronger or lighten your load)
Resources & LinksBe sure to check out Emily’s businesses and projects including NourishMint Wellness (both its Instagram and website) and her awesome project with Dr. Aluson Bonville called the Ignite Life Project (its Instagram and website), a three-month program for women struggling with burnout.
Did this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
My goal this spring is to make 100K in 100 days.
To be honest, I feel vulnerable talking about it. I’ve run successful businesses in which a thousand dollars a day was doable, but my life was different then. To do it with something I only recently started monetizing without a team feels intimidating.
Money is a big deal to the motherload. The proof? The responses I received on my social media poll regarding the role money plays in the weight mothers carry. One hundred percent of people said it was a huge factor.
I encourage you to join our challenge, regardless of whether or not you’re a mother or entrepreneur. My guess is that at least 95 percent of us have some negativity in our relationships with money. My goal? To become more intimate and find peace in my OWN relationship with it – and to encourage others to do the same. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- The backstory of this challenge – my friend Lindsay Mango wanted to make 100K in 30 days, which I found so inspiring (she hit this goal, and then some)
- The self-doubt I’m feeling about this challenge, my block this fall, and how this challenge forces me to address my OWN money mindset issues
- Inner work regarding money – why do I still have issues with it at age 40? Where does the discomfort come from?
- Questions for the listener: who do you talk to about money? Peers? Your partner? Your business or coworkers?
- The logistics of the challenge: it starts today, March 23, and spans through June 30; also, anyone can join with their own personal goals!
- How I’ll show up for this challenge: every day I will be honest about what I’m feeling, where I’m at, the results I’m getting, and more
Resources & LinksYou can join this challenge inside our private community!
Did this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
Do you ever have a hard time only MEETING expectations instead of exceeding them?
I’m guilty of it, and I’m sure many listeners are, too. It’s a classic overachiever trait that hits on an important topic in today’s conversation with Melissa Henault: how are you spending your time? Would this energy EXCEEDING expectations at work be better directed somewhere else?
Melissa is a LinkedIn expert, host of the podcast Burnout to All Out, and mom of 3. In this episode, we discuss how overachievement played out in her corporate career and led to burnout – which, in turn, led her to starting her own thing.
Melissa talks about running her seven-figure business while remaining a present and devoted mom, and about mindfully spending money, which allows her to stay in her zone of genius and grow a team that helps her company thrive. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- How Melissa “burned the midnight oil” getting her business off the ground for this future vision of her life with more time for herself and her family
- Using LinkedIn to scale her first business online around her 9-to-5 and exceeding her corporate income within a year and a half
- Learning to MEET expectations instead of exceed expectations – and how taking this step back can free you to spend this energy on something else
- The importance of not attaching success to love when it comes to our kids, and pointing their interests in positive, healthy directions
- Time management, the impact of hiring people with specific expertise, and compensating your employees strategically
- Melissa’s pitch for LinkedIn: its high SEO ranking; its highest revenue ever this year; content is more likely to be seen here than Instagram or Facebook
Resources & LinksYou can find Melissa Henault on LinkedIn, on Instagram, and her website; be sure to also check out her podcast! Also, here’s the book that changed Melissa’s life: The Four-Hour Work Weekby Tim Ferris.
Did this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
Do mothers feel safe to express their mental load?
The reason I ask is that I’d venture that most of us DON’T feel safe expressing our mental loads to the people closest to us.
When I say “feel safe,” what I mean is that mothers feel like they can be HONEST with their partners, family members or on social media without being gaslighted, questioned, disagreed with, or made to feel stupid for speaking their truth.
Many of us are afraid to say this is hard due to getting pushback or comments like well, you chose this. You chose to have kids. You chose this partner. But just because we chose something, doesn’t mean it’s not hard.
So that’s today’s episode – do you feel safe expressing your truth? If not, why? What is at the root of your hesitation? In this episode you’ll hear about:
- How expressing our truths is NOT an invalidation of someone else’s truth – it’s about being SEEN in the context of the village
- That fear for speaking our truths could also be a cultural phenomenon; we’re afraid of being different or expressing our need for more support
- The shared experience that results when we create more opportunities for mothers to express truths without feeling judged/shamed/wrong/ungrateful
- Questions to ask yourself if you DON’T feel safe expressing your motherload: what would make you feel safe? What are you scared of?
- How it went when I told my partner I wanted him to turn his phone off when he came home to be more present for the kids (hint: it went well)
- The value in looking at these questions regularly, which can illuminate areas of our inner worlds we might not be aware of
Resources & LinksDid this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
Childhood trauma can really impact how we show up as mothers.
Even if you’ve done a lot of work on it, the memory and wound is there. Part of the motherload includes combating these unconscious behaviors, patterns, and beliefs that play out in our lives — some of which we’re aware of, some not.
Today I’m with my friend Jaymie Gerena, a transformational strategist, master NLP practitioner, and mother of three children. She’s a survivor of child abuse and sexual and physical abuse and has been featured in many publications for her work helping women heal trauma and grow soul-aligned businesses.
In this episode, Jaymie and I discuss finding identity after abuse – for her it involved consciously approaching life and motherhood with a sense of building safety instead of hypervigilance – and approaching controversial topics within our families.
This conversation is so important because when we’re rooted in our identities as mothers, it’s easier to hold space for uncomfortable conversations and be confident in our beliefs – which consequently makes us better versions of ourselves, too. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- Jaymie’s background: her traumatic childhood; losing her father and brother due to drugs and gang violence, respectively; and becoming a mom at age 20
- How Tony Robbins and personal development changed her life – and how that ultimately affected how she parented, too
- Jaymie’s advice: make a list of where you want to be and where you are now; then, figure out how to fill the gaps to get to that version of your future self
- Being the victor instead of the victim and CHOOSING what to take forward, what to leave behind; what matters is how we move forward
- Taking audits of our days and relying on intuition in our choices as parents vs. researching different points of view against what we innately feel
- Practicing being uncomfortable and holding safe places to have hard conversations with other mothers, whether they agree with you or not
Resources & LinksDid this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
The book that “changed the game” for Jaymie: On Fire: the 7 Choices to Ignite a Radically-Inspired Lifeby John O’Leary. She also mentioned enjoying meditation by Dr. Joe Dispenza on YouTube. Be sure to follow Jaymie on Instagram and check out her website.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
I feel distracted. Everything feels rushed. There’s never enough time to get everything done.I hear this from moms all the time. And of course, these points are valid. But are there ways we can better manage our time so it’s more structured? So we’re not moving between every section of our day feeling like the thing we transitioned out of didn’t get done well?
In today’s episode, I want to focus on two ideas: transitions and context switching. I get that some distractions are unavoidable, but I believe there are things we can do to make this better. Losing time to context switching or rushing between transitions only makes the motherload feel even heavier.
Want to go deeper into these conversations? Join the MotherLoad Collective or DM me if you have any questions or want to share anything from today’s episode! In this episode you’ll hear about:
- Transitions – the ritual or practice you implement that moves you from one section of the day to the next (for example, “Mom mode” to “work mode”)
- Rituals that work for me in my transitions, including closing the door to my office, turning on non-lyric music, and drinking coffee
- Context switching – our brains “switching between tabs,” which is extremely ineffective and lowers our ability to produce high-quality thoughts
- Bad digital hygiene, and how to reduce the amount of context switching in our day – namely, removing notifications on phones and laptops
- How building more detail in your to-do list can cut down on recovery time when context switching happens
- Completing a few tasks till the end vs. only getting halfway done a number of things, and why the latter creates more stress
Resources & LinksDid this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
Does your partner know your big vision? Do your kids? Do your mentors?
Today I’m with my friend Jenna Klopfenstein, who for years checked ALL the boxes of adult achievement: wonderful family, a great job, a beautiful home, but something was missing. In 2022, she left her job, and today, she’s going all-in on her entrepreneurial endeavors, starting with organizing a major event this spring, Next Level You Live.
If you know my story, then you know I hit rock bottom to get where I am today – but in today’s conversation, we discuss how you don’t NEED to hit rock bottom before making a big change.
The other big topic in today’s episode? OPEN CONVERSATION with both partners and kids, which Jenna says has been key in her listening to this inner voice and going from a “risk-averse” person to embracing the wild discomfort being bold in search for something better. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- How as we grow and evolve, our dreams naturally upgrade themselves. The dreams we had then might not be the ones we have now
- The bravery it takes to walk away from something “good” – and how making ourselves uncomfortable is the only way we can really grow
- How the idea of motherhood and retirement has shifted in the last several years, with more living for the “now” instead of planning to “live” in retirement
- Techniques Jenna used to grow fast since leaving her job, from “crazy networking” to manifesting elements from her vision
- Jenna’s event – Next Level You Live – this spring, which features a line of amazing speakers (including me!)
- The importance of open communication, with partners and with kids – about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and what we need in this season
Resources & LinksYou can find Jenna on Instagram, on her website, which also has all the details about her upcoming event, Next Level You Live, and on her podcast, Girl, Let’s Be Real.
Did this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
Would you feel like your motherload was lighter if you had more money?
I asked this question recently on social media and got more engagement on it than anything I’ve shared in quite awhile.
I think it’s an important question because, as high-achieving mothers, we’re often measuring the impact work has on mothering, and for a lot of us, money is at the core of that relationship. Our own family is reliant on me making money. Yes, I love to work, but I also NEED that money. That’s part of our lifestyle.
Things get complicated when we start looking at the amount of time it takes us to make money. Is your answer different if time DOESN’T factor so tightly into the equation? Where do you fall on the spectrum? In this episode you’ll hear about:
- How money COULD help with acquiring more help around the house – but also add more problems or take more time away from family
- My own money mindset: where it comes from, how it impacts my ambition, and wanting to be a mom vs. the pressure of being a breadwinner
- Effort vs. alignment – do you actually have to spend more hours away from your children to make more money? Or is it our own belief systems?
- My programming to believe that to make more money, there needs to be MORE time/effort/strategy – and the proof around me that this isn’t always true
- What could we do differently in our businesses to create more opportunities for revenue growth that don’t require more time?
- No matter our work status – entrepreneurs, nine-to-fivers, stay-at-home moms or some combination – the money aspect of our identity is real for all of us
Resources & LinksDid this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
One of my personal goals is to help women alchemize what’s inside of them and turn it into magic and creativity.
It’s the idea behind a new business I’m co-building – Inner Alchemy – with my friend Rachel Pastor. The intent of the company is to demystify microdosing and plant medicine and educate people on how to use it, with a combination of inner work to live the lives they’ve always dreamt of.
Rachel has an amazing story of overcoming drug addiction and finding herself again, which we discuss in this episode, in addition to the importance of self-worth; the lens of motherhood; and the effects of microdosing, which has been known to help with anxiety, depression, and ADHD.
It’s important to note we live in Colorado where microdosing has been decriminalized. We are not doctors, but we can speak from our own experiences. Our goal? To help people take agency over their lives, whether that be through inner work or through microdosing.
Be sure to follow us on @inneralchemyco!
In this episode you’ll hear about:
- Rachel’s journey to here: being a teenage heroin addict; becoming homeless; losing her boyfriend to overdose; to having children and rebuilding herself
- Working for Chris and Heidi Powell on Extreme Weight Loss on ABC – and her realization that she’d been living for external experiences
- Her new mission in life, which is to help people “come out of the matrix” through inner work and personal exploration
- How motherhood and be the lens in which we see our pain, shame, and fears, and the darkness it can bring up for someone who’s been outwardly focused
- Inner Alchemy, the reasons people microdose, and what protocol-based microdosing actually IS – like going to the gym with a workout plan
- Microdosing misconceptions and its possible positive effects – for example, helping people feeling more present, creative, open-minded and optimistic
Resources & LinksDid this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Be sure to follow Rachel on Instagram and tune into our work with Inner Alchemy!
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
What do you want out of life? How do you want to live, feel, and be each day?
This episode is about core values, which I think is such a fundamental part of inner work. Defining our core values helps us know ourselves better, and consequently, approach and manage our mental load.
Until 2020, my “core values” had been more surface level and performative, matching my business purpose or what I wanted to portray externally. They aren’t THAT different from the ones I have today, but they were more outwardly focused.
Ultimately, the purpose of creating this list is to give you an anchoring into what’s most important to you. Then, when you’re looking at the big decisions in your life, you have a rubric that will help you make the decisions that keep you in alignment. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- How I came up with my core values – for example, my top three are “warmth, authenticity, and devotion” - and what they mean to me
- The process of defining these core values (you can find a worksheet on Google or DM me for one) by narrowing them down, then prioritizing them
- Being very intentional about what words you use and what they mean to you
- Defining how you want to BE in those core values; for example, in my “devotion,” I want to be present with my children
- Reviewing your values and going through this process regularly to see whether the words still fit or the priorities need to shift
- How to use these values when you’re faced with a decision, feeling overwhelmed, or feeling out of alignment
Resources & Links
Do you need a template to assess your core values? Reach out to me via DM on my Instagram page.
Did this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
In today’s episode, we’re talking about sex.
I’m with my friend, Stephanie Rae Johnson, an embodiment coach and somatic experiencing practitioner who’s also the single mother of two pre-teen boys. We met at the retreat center lobby in Peru, right after I’d done Ayahuasca for the first time, and I’ve been following her ever since.
I feel like I’m pretty in touch with my sexuality, but even I know sometimes these ideas can feel confronting, and I have to let go of my cognitive brain to let them in. One thing we talk about in today’s episode that feels extremely manageable: How can you add one percent more pleasure throughout your day?Our conversation covers all things embodiment, from sensuality and sexuality, to their hindrances, like shame and trauma. I think there’s a narration that sex isn’t as good after motherhood, which is a lie.
The truth? It’s just different. Our bodies are different, but WE are different, too. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- Stephanie’s background growing up in a conservative Mormon household, and how disassociated she felt from her body until her first yoga class
- Negative effects trauma, purity culture, shaming, bad experiences, and body image culture have on women enjoying sex and receiving pleasure
- Adding pleasure into your life starting with the one percent, whether that be enjoying your first sip of coffee or wearing comfortable clothes
- Making ourselves feel safe in our bodies, our nervous systems, and our environments, so we can be vulnerable enough to feel pleasure
- Continuing to do the things that light us up, which is the real way to show up best in motherhood
- Asking ourselves, what makes us feel whole?
Resources & LinksDid this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Be sure to check out Stephanie’s website and follow her on Instagram!
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services, including the newly launched MotherLoad Collective at https://www.lindsayroselle.com. Follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
This January, I took time to think about the podcast – to record solo episodes, quality interviews, and to pour my energy into the programming component of MotherLoad.
My main love is the podcast. I love the interviews we get to do here. I love the conversations we’ve been having. My goal, every episode, is to put words to a feeling other moms might have had, and to be real about the things I never heard people talk about when I first became a mom.
But I’ve been thinking: what kinds of programs might compliment it? I’m not a parenting expert – by nature, I’m a growth and performance coach. I like helping people feel better and improve their lives. I’ve been this way ever since I was a teenager, browsing the self-help books at Barnes & Noble.
Today, I’m breaking down the new facets of the MotherLoad Company, but I also want to thank you for being a listener and being part of this amazing community. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- The core MotherLoad programs – MotherLoad Collective (for any ambitious woman) and MotherLoad Mastermind (for moms growing their businesses), which you can learn more about on my website
- The make-up of these programs, which will be deeply rooted in inner work, performance, growth, self-actualization, mindfulness, alignment, etc.
- Trainings and what’s included with each program (monthly phone calls, group coaching calls, one-on-ones, time management/organizational resources, etc.)
- Two retreats I’m hosting in my mountain house here in Colorado, “Replenish,” which will take place Summer Solstice weekend and Fall Equinox weekend
- The special guests who will be part of these programs and speak on ambition, identity, inner work, business, entrepreneurship, and motherhood
- What we have planned for the podcast in the year ahead, which will start rolling out Mondays and Thursdays
Resources & LinksDid this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about the MotherLoad Collective and the MotherLoad Mastermind on my website!
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
Today's mini episode is about a huge topic: scarcity. RT and I have talked a lot about our philosophy regarding gift-giving during the holidays. Gifts on Christmas morning, writing a long letter to Santa – how do we want to intentionally bring those things into our family? Or not?
Last year, we went on a trip, and this year, we’re doing it again. We told our kids this is our family Christmas present. When we return home on Christmas day, each will have one thing from Santa under the tree.
But recently I’ve been second-guessing myself because of some core memories that popped up from my childhood. Am I going to create scarcity in my children if they don’t wake up on Christmas morning to a bunch of presents under the tree?
My gut says no. But all this is to say, gift-giving during the holidays is a big part of the mental load. How much is too much? Will an experience mean more than getting something tangible? Is there any way to know which of these decisions is best?
Resources & LinksDo you need a template to assess your core values? Reach out to me via DM on my Instagram page.
Did this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
Has becoming a mother ever made your role at work feel irrelevant? Have you ever sat at your desk, and asked yourself, WHY? What is the point of this?
In the millennial generation, I think there’s this huge existential question about motherhood. As kids, ambition was baked into us – with nothing about how our ambitions are aligned with our identities and values.
This episode features Part 2 of my conversation with Amber Lilyestrom – a business mentor, branding expert, author, speaker, and mom to two miracle babies. She is also my personal mentor and full of wisdom and honesty about her big and bittersweet moments in motherhood and business. (Check out Part 1 of our conversation, too!)
The buzzword in today’s episode: HONESTY. As Amber points out, it takes so much courage to be honest about what you desire and what you want to create for your life. In this episode you’ll hear about:
- The ups, downs and bittersweet moments Amber had in the process of adopting her son Alex
- How to stop associating our self-worth with the output of our work – and where we still have to go regarding this issue
- The bigger existential questions and evolutions about motherhood in our culture – and how to stand up for ourselves in the ambition culture
- The reasons that martyrdom exists in motherhood and in work – and how we can do things differently for ourselves and our kids
- Why “straight-line strategizing” doesn’t work for moms (it’s a curvy-lined world for us!), and why it’s so hard (we never saw it exceptionally modeled!)
- How there is no “correct” ratio of work and time at home that will promise fulfillment; what’s important is to navigate what feels right NOW
Resources & LinksFollow Amber on Instagram and check out her website and her podcast for more of her wisdom. Make sure you also check out Part 1 of my conversation with Amber if you haven’t already!
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Can we really do it all?I’ve thought a lot about this motherload question. It’s a big, existential question – but it can also feel like a loaded question. Sometimes it seems to imply that, to do it all, you have to do it ALL, with no help from anyone else.
And if that’s the question – can you do it all with no help – I think the answer is no.
But what if we took a step back and looked at that question as a broader life design question. Is it possible to love your life fully? Is it possible for you to have everything you want: the career; the partnership; the relationship with your children?
If that’s what that means, then I think the answer is yes. I do think it’s possible.
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If you want to go more in-depth in organizational leadership, be sure to check out Rocket Fuel by Gino Wickman and Mark C. Winters.
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Some of the greatest things we are meant to do in life will happen through some kicking, screaming, and resisting.
But at the end of the day, when we surrender to it, it feels like a homecoming.
This nugget of wisdom is courtesy of Amber Lilyestrom – my personal mentor who has seen me through some of my major motherhood transitions. As such, I’ve been looking forward to this episode for a really long time.
Amber is a business mentor, branding expert, author, speaker, and mom to two miracle babies. I found her through a podcast interview she did about motherhood, entrepreneurship, and ambition that really spoke to me.
We had such an amazing conversation that we had to split it into two episodes! In this segment (Part 1), Amber and I delve into the importance of trusting the wisdom of our bodies; if we listen, they’ll tell us when to pause, when to move forward, and more importantly, how to move forward in our career and motherhood journeys.
Resources & LinksFollow Amber on Instagram and check out her website for more of her wisdom, and be sure to check out the second part of this interview coming soon!
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We had a rough go with the flu in my household over the Thanksgiving holiday.
I tend to pride myself on being well and putting myself first in terms of my own well-being, so not only was I surprised to go down so hard with this bug, it also made me mad at myself.
As I say a lot in this show, when I hit rock bottom in my life, it was because I’d been putting myself at the end of my priority list. I was not listening to what I mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually needed.
If I am not well, then nothing else in my life works, and my foundation was so bad that everything else fell apart.
So today I want to talk about prioritization – specifically, prioritizing your physical well-being – so that when the flu or COVID, or whatever it is, comes around to your home, you can be resilient. Resources & Links
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Today, we dig deep into mom guilt.
Mom guilt is a huge part of this work, and anytime more women talk about it, the more there is to uncover.
In this episode, I talk with Emily Gorrie, the host of the Project: Mom Podcast, which explores a lot of similar topics to the MotherLoad Podcast – one of the reasons I’ve been really excited for this conversation.
Before recording, both of us had sick kids – a massive part of the mental load, not only because it often means we have to reschedule our days, but it often means WE end up getting sick. All at once, we have to help our kids heal, get everything done, while also taking care of OURSELVES.
Which, inevitably, can make us feel guilty. Should we rest? Or just power through?
In our conversation, we tackle the impact of ALLOWING ourselves to question these feelings of guilt instead of avoiding them; the importance of talking about the hard parts of motherhood; and the power of validating each others’ experiences.
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Check out the Project: Mom Podcast and follow Emily on Instagram.
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Some helpful advice if you want to offload household or parenting responsibilities to your partner: Don’t put a bow on it.
As today’s guest Elizabeth Pearson points out, if we start putting bows on things BEFORE we offload them, we’ll never truly be free of them. Yes, it might be Lord of the Flies every once and awhile, but the kids’ teeth will be cleaned. The groceries will be purchased. The tasks will get done by somebody other than you.
Elizabeth is an executive coach, bestselling author of Career Confinement: How to Free Yourself, Find Your Guides, and Seize the Fire of Inspired Work, and most importantly, the mother of two little girls.
In this episode, Elizabeth and I discuss what the “final frontier” looks like for women in the workplace; how to TRULY offload your parenting and household tasks; and the importance of just letting the chips fall as they may sometimes.
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Be sure to check out Elizabeth’s website and Instagram page; I read everything she posts, and I think there’s so much wisdom in them.
The books mentioned in this episode you should check out: Career Confinement: How to Free Yourself, Find Your Guides, and Seize the Fire of Inspired Workby Elizabeth Pearson; Find Your Unicorn Spaceby Eve Rodsky; and Fair Playby Eve Rodsky.
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When I hit rock bottom in 2020, it felt like the basement of my soul was full. What do I mean by that?
If our souls take the form of homes, and these homes have basements, then mine was filled with junk.
I never opened my basement door, but occasionally, I’d peek through the door crack. Then I’d close it quickly, not wanting to deal with that right now. My basement was a dark, scary place to be.
But as I hit rock bottom, and RT and I separated for a period, I couldn’t NOT ignore that door any longer. My basement was bursting at the seams, and I was confronted with this opportunity to begin my inner work in earnest. It was time to start digging myself out.
My “opening the basement door” metaphor is one I use a lot in coaching. Every time I hear this metaphor, it resonates with me on so many levels, which is why I’m sharing it with you today.
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I talk a lot about capacity, and why we feel so overloaded.
But as my friend Anna Cosic points out in this episode, one of our greatest obstacles isn’t necessarily carrying the load itself – it’s managing OURSELVES.
Oftentimes, it’s not a capacity issue – it’s an accountability issue.
I believe we CAN be wildly successful in our careers AND be devoted mothers. It’s why this podcast exists – to create a community to help women figure out the push and pull of work and motherhood.
Anna is someone I’ve known for several years from mastermind programs. She's a former media and tech executive turned career and leadership coach, and a mom to an almost-six-year-old.
I’ve been waiting for this conversation for a long time. Anna and I message each other almost everyday due to the fact that we have kids the same age, and that we’re going through a lot of the same things in regards to the motherload.
Today, Anna and I talk about the issue that started her business, the shock of becoming a stay-at-home mom after a corporate career, and some of the most common mental blocks among women she coaches. Resources & Links
You can find Anna on Instagram and LinkedIn and her website.
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Today I’m going to tell you about the power of a brain dump.
A few episodes ago, I talked about feeling overwhelmed. Yes, I have two young kids, and yes, I have a lot to do, but usually I’m pretty on top of it. Even when I’m not, I’m not usually this overwhelmed.
My feeling of overwhelm coincided with the rollout of the MotherLoad company this November, and I felt this urge to get it all out of my mind. I realized I hadn’t done one of those global, everything-on-my-mind brain dumps in a long time.
Getting everything out of my head and onto paper feels like this metaphorical cleanse, where I’m able to reset the pressure and add back the items I need to take action on and prioritize.
Here’s how I do my “brain dumps,” plus some tips on how to use them to help manage the ever-growing motherload.
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Even with all my inner work, I still often feel disconnected from my body and what I want the rhythm of my life to look like.
Today’s guest, Margaret James, is a friend and someone I’ve been working with to help me become more in tune with that: what is my body trying to tell me on a deeper level? And how can I nourish it so that I feel more connected to it?
Margaret is an Ayurvedic health counselor, herbalist, writer, facilitator, and the founder of a natural skincare line called Wild & Radiant Botanicals.
She’s a guide onto the path of embodiment – a self-belonging and feminine form of healing – and was instrumental in helping me prepare for Ayahuasca, the plant medicine journey that had a huge impact on the way I view motherhood, feminine embodiment, and feminine energy.
In this episode, Margaret and I discuss her amazing products, energy, nourishment, and the importance of listening to the rhythms of our bodies.
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You can find Margaret James on Instagram and on her website, where you can also find the Wild & Radiant products.
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Every morning starts with my Dark Hour.
I coined the name a couple years ago with a mentor and frequently document my Dark Hour on social media. During that time, I often meditate, read, journal, and incorporate some kind of movement component.
Today I’m going to walk you through each part of this practice and offer some tips on how you might start your own. It’s important to note that this is not prescriptive – your Dark Hour doesn’t have to look just like mine. It doesn’t have to be at 5 a.m., or an hour-long, or include what mine does.
But it is something I often recommend to clients. It has helped me tremendously with my inner work practice and the management of my motherload.
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To my fellow moms: get on your rocketship.
Today’s guest is Chris Harder, one of my mentors. He’s a mastermind leader, podcast host, investor, entrepreneur, philanthropist, and he’s well-known for this phrase I love:
"When good people make good money, they can do great things."
I was excited to have Chris on the show to offer some insight on mindset, money, and meaning. He’s been a huge influence in RT’s and my beliefs in our abilities to make money and why we want to.
Today, he gives some great perspective on microeconomics, abundance, generosity, and getting on that rocketship.
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You can find Chris on Instagram. He also sends out a morning money mantra each day; to be added to this list, text the word “daily” to 310-421-0416.
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My first son was born via c-section, and afterward, I could barely walk or sit up.
People had to hand me my 10-pound baby because I couldn’t lift anything 10 pounds or heavier. And yet, when people began texting to send me food, I felt weird about it – like if I accepted this food, I’d owe them something in return.
I think a lot of women in this millennial generation were raised to believe women can do anything, but sometimes, that translates to, we should be doing EVERYTHING.
Today’s guest, Danielle Merlino, is the founder of a very cool organization called Wellpartum, which is a virtual resource center and community with expert information on post-baby brains and bodies.
In our conversation, Danielle and I talk about her journey to creating Wellpartum, parental burnout, maternal mental health, and reimagining what community looks like to mothers today.
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Check out Wellpartum, which is $19 a month for all the videos and guides, and follow them on Instagram.
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Today I want to talk about microdosing – specifically, psilocybin mushroom microdosing – which I’ve hinted about here and there on social media and other episodes.
I never did mushrooms or LSD before stepping into this plant medicine mastermind, and I understand it’s considered illegal in most states; here in Colorado, they’re in the process of decriminalizing it as of this election season. My opinion is that there are a lot of things in our country that are “illegal” and don’t make a lot of sense, and that this is one of them.
I’m also launching a program with a collaborator this fall that will include microdosing, so today, I want to be candid about my use and experience with it – what brought me to it, and how I apply it in my life.
No matter what you believe, I hope you’re open-minded about hearing my experience, and that this episode demystifies microdosing for you.
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In today’s episode, I’m with my unapologetic friend Dom Farnan: a mom, conscious leader, and founder and CEO of DotConnect, a talent recruiting company that was recently named to the Inc. 5000.
Like me, Dom’s been on an inner work journey. We met in 2020 at a mastermind retreat and Dom was near me in Peru during my experience with the Ayahuasca ceremonies.
(If you haven’t listened yet, I recommend checking out the episode about my Ayahuasca experience before this one.)
Dom is also the author of a memoir coming out later this year, which chronicles her burnout, breakdown, and what she’s been learning (and unlearning!) throughout this journey.
Our conversation delves into all this, and the turning points that led Dom to where she is now, including rediscovering her spirituality, the Ayahuasca experience, and learning to be more unapologetic about putting herself and family first.
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Find Dom on Instagram and learn about her company via its website and Instagram page.
Be sure to check out The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, which had a huge impact on Dom’s inner work journey, and her OWN book, which is set to be released late December or January.
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I’m feeling a little overwhelmed.
A few weeks ago, I was at a plant medicine retreat. I was off the map that entire week, which means I didn’t get to email and didn’t get to DMs. I was out of contact with everything.
RT had a trip spanning the two weeks after my return, so since then, it’s been a lot of solo parenting. While he was gone, both of my kids got sick, and one of my boys stuck a LEGO up his nose.
On top of that, I’m getting ready to launch a couple of new things. The podcast is picking up speed. I’m trying to put more effort, time, and focus on business again, after a year of being more focused on motherhood, but it feels like everything is crunching down on me.
Of course, that’s the motherload. That’s what this whole thing is about. We go through these seasons in our lives where the load can feel heavier and more overwhelming than normal. I coach people on how to handle the motherload, but I’m still in the thick of it and have to utilize my own tools constantly.
We will never truly “master” the motherload, but today I’m going to share a few techniques I use to feel more in control and less paralysis from the feeling of overwhelm.
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Chronic burnout. We’ve all felt it.
It feels like the space around us is getting smaller, causing constriction and stress and an overwhelming sense of limitation.
Today I’m here with my friend Shannon Salentine, an executive leadership coach, facilitator, and global development consultant. Four years ago, she left her job to start her own company, Lead For Good, which offers coaching for leaders, changemakers and their companies.
Shannon is the mom of two older kids – a 12-year-old daughter and 10-year-old son – which is always fun for me, to hear about what I have ahead in my motherhood journey with my two little boys!
In this episode, Shannon and I talk about our changing identities as our kids grow older; about how work and leadership skills CAN translate to parenting; and how allowing more room for margin lets us be more conscious to make decisions that lead us toward our values and keep us present, curious and open to learning.
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You can follow Shannon on her Instagram and check out her website to learn more about Lead For Good.
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Sometimes, being around grieving people can be uncomfortable.
For many of us, the instinct is to avoid the topic and walk on eggshells so as not to upset anyone. But as today’s guest Lauryn Laszczak reminds us, the emotions around grief are so vital. Confusion, frustration, doubt, sadness, anger and discomfort are all necessary experiences because with them comes WISDOM.
Lauryn is a somatic business coach, three-time female founder, wife, mama of three, and the host of the Loss and Light podcast, which is named for her newest company, inspired by the loss of her stillborn son, Ben.
My friend Lauryn has a beautiful perspective on ambition, internal purpose and allowing ourselves to feel and talk about those things that make us (and others) uncomfortable – if we do, we may find we’re able to achelmize those feelings into something beautiful and meaningful.
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Learn more about Lauryn on her website and follow her on Instagram and check out her podcast, Loss & Light. You can also learn more about Lauryn's upcoming retreats on Instagram at @retreattoreclaim.
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Teaching yoga and being in this motherhood space, I hear a lot of talk about pelvic floor therapy.
Initially I was resistant to this therapy because I’d always heard it was for women who had vaginal births. For both my sons, I had C-sections.
But a lot of pelvic floor dysfunction – especially for mothers – is not related directly to birth. Much of it derives from a weak core and weak glutes, which could be there before you even become pregnant! Pregnancy hormones and the weight we carry while pregnant compounds any dysfunction that may have been there to begin with.
I only recently started pelvic floor therapy and in only four sessions, it’s already made a REVOLUTIONARY difference in my body.
I thought I knew a lot about the pelvic floor because I’d taught yoga for so long, but turns out, there was a LOT I was unaware of.
Today my goal is to demystify pelvic floor therapy, sharing my experience and what I’ve learned, so that other women might feel better about trying it themselves.
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Growing up, what did you imagine starting a family would entail?
A peaceful partnership or marriage? Help around the house? Easygoing children? Maybe even a white picket fence?
For many of us, the lives we’re living as mothers are not the ones we imagined, and it can be so hard to let go of that original story. Which brings us to the question: how do we rewrite our narratives so they feel true, and honest and good?
This episode features a conversation with my friend, Amanda Cunningham, who I met years ago at a yoga teacher training. She’s head of development for the nonprofit Her Future Coalition and the Yoga Medicine Seva Foundation and mother to her four-year-old son, Boone.
Amanda is also a single parent whose first years of motherhood involved being plunged in national politics. Today she speaks with exemplary grace and candor about what the experience was like – and is still like.
For the single moms listening – this one’s for you – but I think women in partnerships can also learn from Amanda’s story, and discover how they too might rewrite their motherhood narratives. Resources & Links
Amanda is a beautiful writer. You can find some of her writing on Instagram. She also wrote a beautiful essay about her marriage story, which I strongly recommend.
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Recently, while scrolling through Instagram, I found a meme that spoke to me. It went like this:
All my plans for the future involve me waking up tomorrow with a sudden sense of discipline and adherence to routine that I have never displayed even once in my life.
I thought, that’s EXACTLY how my future goals and visions feel sometimes – that the person at the end of the journey isn’t anything like the person I am now. It made me think about how self-transformation actually works.
Sometimes goals can feel very motivating, and sometimes they feel so far away from where we sit today. I often find myself on opposite ends of the spectrum.
Either I’m disappointed in myself for not doing a single thing toward that goal today, or I’m so fired up I want to wake up at 4 a.m. and change everything about my life to support this long-term vision. Neither is ideal.
Today, I want to talk about that middle zone, which is all about discipline and consistency. How do we go about setting goals? What do we need to do day-to-day to meet them? Most importantly – how do we BECOME that disciplined person fulfilling that long-term goal?
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Be sure to check out Lindsay’s “Habits vs. Practices” episode!
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Have you ever declined help from a friend because you didn’t want to feel in debt?
I’ve talked about this fear of reciprocity with many women, and in today’s conversation with Laura Munkholm, we go in depth to why it’s a thing – and how to get past it to live our best lives.
Laura and I have been on similar journeys. We attended high school together and reconnected via Facebook in 2015 over our shared experiences as yoga studio owners, consultants for MINDBODY software, entrepreneurs and mothers.
Today she is a speaker, mother of two, and the president and co-founder of Walla, a comprehensive software company that's taking on the health and wellness space.
In this episode, Laura and I talk about her motherhood and entrepreneurial journey, getting past this “fear of reciprocity” to accept help, and why sharing our ambitions with our children is so important.
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To learn more about Walla, visit their website and read about them in recent articles from Fitt Insiderand News Athletech.
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The last few weeks, I’ve been dealing with my first exposure to school politics.
In short, a handful of moms took all the volunteer spots in my son’s classroom, fewer than five parents signing up for eight to twelve slots each. On the surface, it might not seem like a big deal, but underneath are some serious questions I’m pondering.
Questions like, are we showing up to help the school and our kids? Or are we showing up to fill some unmet need of our own?
In this episode, I tell the story in detail and the lessons I’ve taken away from it. It’s one aspect of my mental load, and I hope it resonates with you, and that you can take something away from it for your future school politics run-ins.
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What are your thoughts on astrology, human design, and Gene Keys?
Maybe you’re a believer. Maybe you’re a skeptic. Or, maybe you’re a little undecided. No matter your feelings, I urge you to listen to today’s episode, which features my friend Kelly Kasle, who I met during the One Infinity mastermind program.
(I spoke in detail about the One Infinity program in the episode, “How Ayahuasca Changed Motherhood for Me,” which I recommend listening to for context.)
Kelly is a teacher and astrologer, and she has such a unique perspective on the collective consciousness of motherhood in the world today and where it’s all heading.
I hope you’ll join us and, if you haven’t already, give astrology a chance, because as a mother, I’ve found Kelly’s wisdom around these topics incredibly valuable, helping me better understand my children, myself, and what gives purpose to my life.
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Follow Kelly on Instagram, TikTok, and visit her website for more information on who she is, what she does and her services. Currently, she offers readings and is putting together courses on how to start using astrology and gene keys in your daily life.
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Today’s conversation is about a topic I go into quite a lot offline: habits vs. practices.
Habits and practices get thrown around a lot and used interchangeably, but after going through my own inner work journey, I realized they’re actually wildly different. (Hint: one requires far more focus, time, and presence). The way that you form and stop habits is so different than how you approach the rituals and mastery involved in developing a practice.
**I hope this episode inspires you to think about the habits and practices you want to have in your own life.
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Today, I’m excited to introduce you to a person who played an ENORMOUS role in inspiring the MotherLoad podcast.
Meet Adam Roa, my incredible coach, mentor, and the poet behind the viral YouTube poem, “You Are Who You’ve Been Looking For.” He’s a filmmaker, speaker, creator, and he runs the One Infinity Mastermind program.
I spoke in great detail about my participation in the One Infinity program in my third episode, “How Ayahuasca Changed Motherhood for Me,” which I strongly recommend listening to before this one. At the end of this program, on the train from Cusco to Machu Picchu, Adam and I discussed what I’d make of my Ayahuasca journey.
So much of my experience involved grappling with my identity as a mother, but I didn’t want my future project to be about mothering.
His response: Why not? Everyone has a mother. It is a universal truth.
The rest, of course, is history.
In this episode, Adam and I discussed a number of topics – pacing, trauma, relationships, personal journeys, learning to love life – and, per usual, our conversation went very deep very quickly. Resources & Links
For more information on my friend Adam Roa, visit his website and follow him on Instagram, Facebook or Twitter. He also runs a weekly newsletter, two podcasts (The Deep Dive with Adam Roa & You’re Too Much, which is with Taylor Simpson)
Did this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
This week, my older son, Sawyer, started “big kid school” – half-time Kindergarten.
I knew this would be an important moment as a parent, but I was kind of surprised by the things that stuck out to me on Back-to-School Night, or as I’m calling it, “Back to School Night for the Soul.”
It’s messy, complicated, beautiful, and chaotic to witness our children take these monumental steps, but as I discovered, these moments also involve opportunities to reflect back to our own childhoods, look to the future, and realize the things we want most for our children.
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I was having a conversation with a friend a couple weeks ago and she made an offhand comment like, “Instagram makes me a terrible mother.”
(By the way, this woman is an AMAZING mother by all definitions of motherhood).
At first I wanted to blindly agree, and say, “Yeah, Instagram sucks,” but I didn’t – and I realize now it’s because I don’t really believe that.
So today I’m going to share what I know is an unpopular opinion:
Social media has made me a better mother.
Motherhood involves an existential journey in our culture, and it’s having a positive trajectory in terms of awareness of what motherhood actually entails. Social media enables women to share this experience with each other, and, if used right, can provide tools that help with parenting and inner work.
So today I will present an argument – and I think it’s a good one! – about how social media really can positively impact our experiences as mothers.
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Today's interview is with the one and only Jackie Carr, a dear friend of mine, goal coach, writer, speaker, and most importantly, a mother of 3 beautiful daughters.
Jacki works one on one with clients to help them find alignment and inspiration around their core values, mission and goals, and has worked with major brands like Lululemon, Patagonia, and Mindbody. Jacki also has an entire community and book club centered around learning and connection.
If you've followed me for any amount of time, you've heard me mentioned Jacki countless times and the impact she's had on my life. And Jacki just arrived home from a wildly fun cross country road trip in an RV with her family.
Together, we'll dive into a seriously juicy conversation about the motherload.
Today’s episode is quick and actionable and will inspire you to think differently about the mental load of motherhood. The mental load is probably a LOT more than you might think and I’ve broken it out into these 5 buckets:
- Parenting
- Relationships
- Work (including household work!)
- Personal Well Being
- Meaning and Purpose
Come ready to listen with a pen and paper so you can make a list of what’s taking up space in your own mental load. What can you do to lighten your load or grow your capacity in a different space?
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Did this episode resonate with you? Share your takeaways with Lindsay directly at hello@lindsayroselle.com.
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
Today I’m going to talk about something that completely changed my life.
This year, I went on an Ayahuasca mastermind retreat in the Peruvian Amazon, an intense 12-day experience with three Ayahuasca ceremonies. There were blessings, plant medicine, psychedelic experiences, and very real epiphanies about motherhood. It completely shook up my perspective of the past and future.
It’s a big moment for me to sit here and talk about it, and to be on this path with my business and podcast. Three months ago, I wouldn’t have thought ambitious, high-achieving women would be interested in talking about motherhood. They’d want to instead focus on business.
The thing is, you cannot not be a mother once you are one. At a scale that no one else understands, it changes who you are.
And it doesn’t mean you can’t continue to succeed – in fact, it means you can go on to do incredible things, because if you can become a mother, you’ve proved you can do anything. It’s the most radical shift there is.
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Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
My relationship with my partner, RT, is the foundation of my motherload.
Keeping our relationship strong is how I manage my business, the kids, and every little detail these enormous loads entail. To keep our relationship strong, we regularly discuss our partnership.
For a long time, we didn’t know how to talk to each other about the big stuff – and consequently, it caused us to separate in 2020.
So in today’s show, I am joined by the one and only RT. We’ll tell you a little bit about ourselves, how we got through our rough patch, and what you can expect in future episodes.
We hope this can become a place of open conversation, not only between the two of us, but between us and our listeners. We are far from perfect, but we’ve had those difficult conversations, and we can share what’s worked for us and what might work for you, too. Resources & Links
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
Welcome to the MotherLoad Podcast, a podcast for ambitious entrepreneurial mothers who are navigating the relationship between their desire to succeed and their devotion to motherhood. I’m Lindsay, a serial entrepreneur, growth and performance coach, and boy mama of two.
Each week I’ll bring solo episodes, engaging interviews and candid conversations that I hope will help others expand their capacities to do both things well, to feel less alone, and bring a little levity to what otherwise can feel like a very heavy load.
Today I’m going to tell you my story: from becoming an entrepreneur and a mother, to the year that changed EVERYTHING.
In 2020, I lost so much. My yoga studio. My coaching and consulting business. My partner RT’s mother passed away. My father was diagnosed with stage four cancer. Then, RT and I separated.
Now? I feel more grounded and successful than ever – but also more challenged by the load I’m under. These days, the most important thing to me is regulating the space between work and parenting, which is what this podcast is all about. Throughout it all, I promise to be real and raw and vulnerable, because, ultimately, I think that’s how we help one another – by sharing our stories. Resources & Links
Learn more about Lindsay’s coaching and consulting services at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow along on Instagram at @lindsayroselle and @motherload.pod.
MotherLoad speaks to the massive, multi-faceted load that ambitious women are under managing the feelings of simultaneously wanting to succeed in their work and also be devoted mothers. It requires an intentional increase and great management of their mental, emotional, and physical capacity, a big task for anyone, let alone a busy mama.
This podcast explores the tried and true practices, structures, and secrets of doing both things with excellence. We cover topics like inner work, mindset calibration, business strategy, conscious communication, personal wellbeing, and more, in an effort to help ambitious mamas feel like they can do ALL of their roles well.
Join us weekly for solo episodes with host Lindsay Roselle and guest interviews with an array of high-achieving leaders discussing their relationship with motherhood and how it’s impacted their success.
Each week you’ll walk away with inspirational stories, actionable insights, and impactful practices to incorporate into your life that will increase your capacity to manage the load of entrepreneurial ambition and devotion to motherhood.
Learn more about Lindsay at https://www.lindsayroselle.com or follow @lindsayroselle on Instagram.