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Clare Deacon
Want to live a happier life? On this show you will get proven approaches to help you achieve the life you deserve. To feel happy and fulfilled. To believe in yourself, to feel confident and energised, ready to take on your next challenge. Want to find a balance between your own needs and those of others? To let go of what is not helping you live your best life. To free yourself from overwhelm and inner critic telling you “You aren’t good enough”? Your host, Clare Deacon, is a qualified positive psychology coach and therapist and founder of Happya. With a passion for helping people like you transform from being frustrated and unhappy, hindered by past experiences, into being confident, energised, and focused, ready to fulfil your potential. Her expertise provides the benefits of both coaching and therapy, removing self-limiting beliefs, creating a path to future success, supporting you to achieve your goals.
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You thought that when the children left and the space arrived, you'd naturally start prioritising yourself. You'd have the time. You'd use it.
And then the space came. And you're still putting yourself last.
Not because anyone is asking you to. But because somewhere in the years of intensive caregiving, putting yourself last became automatic. A default so deep it doesn't respond to the reason for it disappearing.
In this episode, Clare explores why this happens and why it's not as simple as just deciding to do things differently. What the habit is actually made of. Why the empty nest stage can feel like a loss of identity as much as a gain of freedom. And what the shift looks like for women who genuinely make it.
Because this stage has something real to offer. But it requires more than space. It requires understanding what's been keeping you in the background of your own life.
A Cuppa and Chat is a free conversation with Clare. No pressure, no agenda. Find out more at happya.co.uk or search The Happya Life podcast wherever you listen.
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Most people have a picture of what grief is supposed to look like. And when it doesn't match, when it includes anger, numbness, relief, anxiety, confusion, or waves that arrive at the most ordinary moments, it's easy to wonder if you're doing it wrong.
You're not.
In this episode, Clare explores what grief actually is in its full and honest range. Not the sanitised version. The real one. The one that changes you, that makes you feel unfamiliar to yourself, that asks a question about who you are now that takes a long time to answer.
This episode is held gently, because grief deserves that. And because having the full picture of what grief is, and why it feels the way it does, is one of the most genuinely useful things you can offer yourself or someone you love.
If you're in grief, you don't have to carry this alone. A Cuppa and Chat is a free conversation with Clare. Find out more at happya.co.uk or search The Happya Life podcast wherever you listen.
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You built a successful career. You worked hard for it. To anyone looking in, it's a success story.
And it doesn't feel like you anymore.
This is one of the loneliest and least-discussed professional experiences. The growing awareness that the career that defined you, the one you built deliberately and carefully, is no longer a fit for the person you've become.
In this episode, Clare explores what's actually happening when this occurs. Why career-based identity is particularly vulnerable to this kind of drift. What it's actually costing you to stay inside a career that no longer fits. And what becomes possible when you stop performing it and start genuinely looking at what's underneath.
Because the discomfort is not a sign that you made wrong choices. It's a sign that you've grown beyond them. Those are not the same thing.
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The relationship is over. Nothing is happening. And you're more exhausted than you've ever been.
This is one of the most commonly misunderstood experiences in the aftermath of a difficult relationship. The depletion that doesn't respond to rest. The persistent low-level bracing. The body that seems to be using energy for something, with nothing to show for it.
In this episode, Clare explains what's actually happening when you feel drained even when nothing is going on. What your nervous system learned during the relationship. Why it doesn't switch off automatically when the relationship ends. And what genuine recovery from this actually looks and feels like.
Because understanding why you're tired is the beginning of resting in the way you actually need.
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The going from calm to overwhelmed in a moment. The snapping at people you love over things that would never have touched you before. The reactions that feel disproportionate and unlike you.
And underneath all of it, the shame of not recognising yourself.
In this episode, Clare explores what's actually driving the loss of patience during menopause. Not just the hormonal shift, although that's real and significant, but what the hormonal shift is revealing. Because the things breaking through now were always there. Your system was absorbing them. And now, with less capacity to absorb, they're coming through.
The lower tolerance in menopause is not a personality change. It's a boundary signal. And understanding what it's pointing to is where something genuinely useful can begin.
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You're functioning. Life looks fine. There's nothing you could point to that would justify feeling this way.
And yet the overwhelm is there. Persistent, low-level, wearing. A pressure without obvious cause. A glass that's been filling slowly for a long time and nobody has noticed because you keep finding ways to hold the water in.
In this episode, Clare talks honestly about what's really driving the overwhelm when everything looks fine from the outside. Not the crisis kind. The cumulative kind. The kind made of invisible labour, emotional load and a nervous system that hasn't been given a proper rest in a very long time.
Because this kind of overwhelm almost never comes from today. It comes from the accumulation. And understanding what it's actually made of is where something starts to shift.
A Cuppa and Chat is a free conversation with Clare. No pressure, no agenda. Find out more at happya.co.uk or search The Happya Life podcast wherever you listen.
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Nobody warns you about the specific quality of the quiet when the house empties.
Not the peaceful quiet. The other kind. The kind that surfaces something you were not expecting, and that you cannot quite name, and that is harder to sit with than you thought it would be.
The empty nest stage gets talked about in terms of your children. What almost never gets discussed is what it is asking of you, not as a parent, but as a person.
In this episode, Clare explores what is really happening in the empty nest stage beyond the practical shift in household. Why the space can feel uncomfortable even when you wanted it. What your nervous system is doing when the structure changes. And why the discomfort of this stage might be the most important invitation you have had in years.
Because the women who use this stage well do not just wait for it to feel better. They engage with what it is asking. And what it is asking is not a small question.
A Cuppa and Chat is a free conversation to find out whether working with Clare is the right fit. happyacoach.com/chat. You do not have to decide today. But if the quiet has been surfacing something, do not ignore it.
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Grief is talked about in terms of sadness and loss and stages. What almost never gets discussed is what it does to your sense of who you are.
When you lose someone central to your life, you do not just lose them. You lose the version of yourself that existed in relationship to them. Who you were as a daughter, a partner, a friend. How your days were organised. What gave your identity its shape.
And when that is gone, the question underneath the grief, who am I now, does not always get asked. Which is why so many women come through bereavement and still feel like they do not quite fit their own lives, even when the sharpest grief has softened.
In this episode, Clare explores the identity dimension of bereavement that nobody talks about. Gently, without rushing. Because this is not easy territory, and it deserves real attention.
This is for you if you have been feeling unfamiliar to yourself in grief, and you are not sure whether that is normal, or how long it is supposed to last.
A Cuppa and Chat is a free conversation to find out whether working with Clare is the right fit. happyacoach.com/chat. You do not have to decide today. But if this has named something you have been carrying, do not ignore that.
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There is a particular kind of work exhaustion that rest does not touch. It is there on Monday morning and still there after a week away. It is not about how much you are doing. It is about how much of who you are is in what you are doing.
In this episode, Clare explores what is really happening when work drains you more than it used to, even when you cannot point to a specific reason why. Why this kind of depletion is almost always about misalignment rather than workload. What it is costing you beyond the professional. And what becomes possible when you finally ask the question most people avoid: is this still the right work for who I am now?
This is for you if you are functioning and delivering and getting it done, but running on empty somewhere underneath all of that.
Book a free Cuppa and Chat to find out whether working with Clare is the right fit. happyacoach.com/chat. You do not have to decide today. But do not dismiss what your body is already telling you.
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When a relationship ends and you know it was right, the expectation is that letting go should follow. Logic says so. Everyone around you says so.
But your body does not work on logic.
In this episode, Clare explores what is really happening when you cannot let go even when you know you should. Why the pull back is not weakness or a sign you made the wrong decision. Why your nervous system stays attached long after your mind has moved on. And why the hardest part is often not losing the person, but losing the version of yourself that existed inside the relationship.
Because the women who come out of this most whole are not the ones who forced themselves to move on. They are the ones who understood what they were actually grieving, and did that work properly.
This is for you if you are tired of cycling. Tired of returning to it. Tired of knowing something is right and still not feeling free.
A Cuppa and Chat is a low-risk conversation to find out whether working with Clare is the right fit. Book at happyacoach.com/chat. You do not have to decide today. But do not ignore this either.
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Nobody prepares you for what menopause does to how you feel about yourself.
The physical symptoms get talked about, occasionally. But the emotional shifts, the loss of your old patience, the going from calm to overwhelmed in moments, the reactions that do not feel like you, that part gets largely skipped over.
And because it gets skipped over, you can end up going through one of the most significant hormonal and neurological transitions of your life, wondering if something is wrong with you.
In this episode, Clare explores what is actually happening when your emotional experience feels out of control during menopause. Not to dismiss it as "just hormones," but to help you understand what your nervous system is doing, what it is trying to tell you, and why the signals underneath the dysregulation are worth listening to.
Because understanding what is driving how you feel is the beginning of something changing. And the question underneath all of it, not just "what is happening to me?" but "who am I becoming?", is one worth asking.
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There is a version of this that so many women quietly live with. Life, on the surface, looks fine. You are functioning, getting things done, showing up. But underneath that, something is not sitting right. And the harder you try to identify it, the more it slips away from you.
That quiet mismatch is one of the most disorienting places to be, because when nothing is obviously wrong, you have no permission slip to feel the way you do. So you push it down. You carry on. You wonder if something is wrong with you.
In this episode, Clare explores what is really happening when your sense of who you are begins to quietly drift. Not as a crisis to solve, but as something worth understanding.
Because when you understand that what you are feeling is identity drift, not a character flaw or ingratitude, the question "who am I now" stops feeling like a threat. And something that has felt frightening starts to feel like an invitation.
If you have been building a life where being needed has quietly become your identity, this episode is for you.
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What does “ever after” really mean after the death of a partner?
In this final episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon reflects on what it means to live forward after loss not with fairytale endings or forced positivity, but with honesty, compassion, and choice.
This episode brings together the heart of the series: how to carry love without being trapped in pain, how to honour what has been lost without freezing your life at the moment of loss, and how to give yourself permission to choose a life that works now.
This conversation is for you if you’re navigating life after loss and wondering how to move forward without letting go of love, memory, or meaning.
In this episode, Clare explores:
- What “ever after” really means after grief
- How to carry love forward without staying trapped in suffering
- Why pain is not proof of love
- How to live in a way that honours both grief and life
- Permission to choose a life that fits who you are now
This is not about closure or happy endings.
It’s about living forward with integrity, adaptability, and self-trust.
You are allowed to live.
You are allowed to choose what works now.
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After the death of a partner, life can lose its sense of direction.
In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores what it means to find meaning after loss without confusing meaning with happiness, positivity, or moving on.
This episode is for those who feel disoriented, unsure of their purpose, or quietly wondering how to build a life that still feels true after such a profound change.
Clare gently explores:
- The difference between meaning and happiness after loss
- Why meaning is not about finding a reason for what happened
- How purpose can emerge quietly after grief
- What it means to create a life that fits who you are now
- Why meaning after loss evolves over time and cannot be forced
This is not an episode about erasing grief or replacing what was lost.
It’s about allowing life to re-orient in a way that honours both love and loss.
You don’t need to feel happy to live a meaningful life.
And you don’t need to have it all figured out.
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Post-traumatic growth is often misunderstood especially after grief.
In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores what post-traumatic growth actually means after loss, and what it very much does not. This is not about silver linings, forced meaning, or turning pain into something positive.
Instead, this episode offers a grounded, honest look at how growth can happen alongside grief not beyond it.
This episode is for you if the idea of growth after loss has ever felt uncomfortable, invalidating, or like pressure to be okay. It’s also for you if you’ve noticed subtle changes in yourself and wondered what they mean.
Clare explores:
- What post-traumatic growth really means in the context of grief
- Why growth does not justify or redeem loss
- The difference between growing around grief and trying to move beyond it
- Why growth is not a requirement or a goal
- How this concept differs from toxic positivity
This episode is not about finding meaning in loss.
It’s about understanding how people sometimes change while continuing to live with grief.
You don’t need to grow for your grief to be valid.
And you don’t need to make sense of this today.
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There often comes a point after loss when simply surviving is no longer enough.
In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores the moment when coping mechanisms begin to collapse not because you’re failing, but because survival was never meant to carry you forever.
This is the phase that can feel frightening and confusing: when what once kept you going no longer works, when exhaustion sets in, and when pushing through starts to cost more than it gives.
If you’ve ever thought “I was coping… and now I’m not”, this episode is for you.
Clare gently explores:
- The moment coping mechanisms stop working after grief
- Why this isn’t failure or regression
- How survival mode protects you and why it has limits
- Why this phase often signals a turning point rather than a breakdown
- How to recognise when life is asking for something more sustainable
This episode isn’t about forcing change or “doing grief better”.
It’s about understanding this shift with compassion and recognising it as part of the grief journey.
You are not falling apart.
You are reaching the edge of survival and that matters.
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Therapy is often suggested quickly after loss but it doesn’t always help in the way people expect.
In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores therapy after loss honestly and compassionately, looking at when therapy can be genuinely helpful, when it can be unhelpful, and why some people feel worse before they feel better.
This episode is for you if you’ve tried therapy and felt disappointed, overwhelmed, or unsure whether it was right for you or if you’re wondering whether therapy might help, but feel cautious or conflicted.
Clare explores:
- When therapy is useful after loss and when it isn’t
- Why timing and readiness matter in grief support
- Different therapeutic approaches and why fit is essential
- Why some people feel worse before they feel better in therapy
- Why therapy not helping does not mean you’re failing
This is not an episode about promoting therapy as the only path forward.
It’s about choice, consent, and understanding what support actually looks like after grief.
You are not broken if therapy hasn’t helped.
You are allowed to choose what support works for you.
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Grief doesn’t just hurt it is often judged.
In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores the comparison and judgement that so many people face after loss, particularly widows navigating life in the aftermath of losing a partner.
This episode speaks to the invisible rules that seem to appear around grief: expectations about how long you should grieve, how visibly you should suffer, and when you should begin to “move on”. Rules that are rarely spoken aloud, yet deeply felt.
If you’ve ever felt watched, measured, or quietly assessed for how you’re grieving this episode is for you.
Clare gently unpacks:
- The unspoken social rules placed on widows
- The damaging impact of “too soon”, “too much”, and “not enough”
- How comparison with others or with yourself can distort the grief process
- Why there is no correct timeline for grief
- How to reclaim your right to grieve and live at your own pace
This is not an episode about doing grief better.
It’s about stepping out of judgement, releasing comparison, and giving yourself permission to follow your own timeline.
Your grief does not need to be explained.
Your pace does not need to be justified.
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One of the most painful parts of grief is often not the loss itself but how other people respond to it.
In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores the impact of other people’s reactions to grief, and why navigating relationships after loss can feel unexpectedly difficult, isolating, and exhausting.
This conversation is for you if you’ve felt hurt, confused, or alone because of how others have shown up or failed to show up since your loss. When people avoid the topic, say the wrong thing, disappear, or expect you to be “better” by now, it can add a second layer of pain to an already heavy experience.
In this episode, Clare gently explores:
- Why people often withdraw or say unhelpful things after loss
- The impact of platitudes, silence, and avoidance
- Why wanting your loved one to be remembered makes sense
- How unspoken expectations about grief can create pressure
- Why protecting yourself and setting boundaries is not unkind
This is not about blaming others or judging relationships.
It’s about understanding why this happens, reducing self-doubt, and giving yourself permission to grieve honestly.
You are not too sensitive.
You are responding to something that matters.
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After the death of a partner, grief doesn’t just affect how you feel it can change how you experience yourself.
In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores the often-unspoken impact of loss on identity, and why so many people find themselves asking the question: Who am I now?
This is for you if you feel unfamiliar to yourself, unsure where you fit, or disconnected from the roles, labels, and sense of self you once held. When the life you shared ends, it can feel as though a version of you has ended too and that can be deeply unsettling.
In this episode, Clare gently explores:
- Why identity shifts after the death of a partner
- The loss of shared roles, future plans, and being reflected by another
- Why not recognising yourself doesn’t mean you’re lost
- Why identity after loss is something that unfolds, not something you decide
This episode isn’t about reinvention or “finding yourself” quickly.
It’s about understanding why identity feels uncertain after grief and allowing yourself to be in transition without judgement.
You are not broken.
You are becoming.
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Feeling stuck after grief can be deeply unsettling especially when you’re no longer in crisis, but life still isn’t moving forward.
In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores why so many people feel stuck after loss, and why this experience is often misunderstood both by others and by the person living it.
This is the phase where survival has eased, but direction hasn’t yet returned. Where motivation feels low, the future feels unclear, and you may be quietly wondering why you can’t seem to “get going” again.
This episode is for you if:
- You’re functioning, but feel emotionally flat or directionless
- You know you don’t want to stay as you are, but don’t know what comes next
- You feel pressure to move on, but something inside is holding back
- You’re judging yourself for not coping “better” by now
Clare gently explains the difference between being stuck and stabilising, why this pause can be a necessary part of grief, and how your nervous system and sense of meaning are recalibrating after loss.
This is not an episode about pushing forward or forcing change.
It’s about understanding this in-between phase with compassion and releasing the belief that something has gone wrong.
You are not failing.
You are adapting.
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If you’ve been feeling constantly on edge, exhausted, numb, foggy, or unable to switch off after loss, this episode is for you.
In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explains what grief actually does to your nervous system and why so many people struggle long after the immediate shock has passed.
This conversation is for those who are surviving life after loss but wondering why their body hasn’t settled, even when time has moved on. When anxiety, shutdown, exhaustion, or emotional numbness persist, it’s easy to assume something is wrong with you.
It isn’t.
Clare explores:
- How grief affects the nervous system and sense of safety
- Why time alone doesn’t always calm the body after loss
- The difference between being emotionally “over it” and feeling regulated
- Why willpower and positive thinking don’t work at this level
- How understanding your nervous system can reduce shame and self-judgement
This episode isn’t about fixing yourself or forcing calm.
It’s about understanding what your body has been doing to protect you and why that response makes sense.
You are not broken.
Your nervous system isn’t failing.
It has been keeping you safe.
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Guilt after loss can be confusing especially when it appears just as life begins to feel slightly lighter.
In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores the often-unspoken guilt that arises after the death of a partner, particularly when moments of relief, joy, or hope begin to return.
This is the guilt that shows up when you laugh and then feel a pang.
When you enjoy something and immediately question yourself.
When wanting more from life feels like a betrayal of the person you lost.
If you’ve ever wondered whether feeling okay means you’re forgetting, moving on too quickly, or loving them less, this episode is for you.
Clare gently unpacks:
- Why guilt after bereavement is so common
- How guilt can be linked to love, loyalty, and attachment
- Why wanting more from life does not mean leaving your loved one behind
- How guilt can become a nervous system response rather than a moral truth
This episode isn’t about forcing positivity or rushing grief.
It’s about understanding guilt with compassion, reducing self-judgement, and allowing grief and growth to coexist.
There is no right or wrong way to experience guilt after loss.
And you are not doing grief wrong.
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What happens when you’ve changed internally… but the world still expects the old version of you?
In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon explores the emotional and psychological tension that arises when you begin to outgrow an identity that once kept you safe, successful, and accepted.
This is the stage of growth that many people don’t anticipate. You’ve done the internal work. You’ve rebuilt self-trust. You no longer want to over-function, over-explain, or shrink yourself to keep the peace.
But relationships, workplaces, and family systems may still relate to you as who you used to be.
And that creates friction.
In this episode, Clare explores:
- Why outgrowing an identity can feel lonely rather than empowering
- The nervous system response to changing relational dynamics
- The tension between authenticity and belonging
- Why guilt often appears when you stop being the “reliable” or “strong” one
- How identity shifts create social consequences
- The difference between outgrowing people and outgrowing patterns
- Why discomfort doesn’t mean you’ve made a mistake
Grounded in positive psychology and nervous system science, this conversation helps you understand why this stage of growth feels so destabilising and why it’s often a sign of integration rather than regression.
If you feel like you no longer fit the version of yourself the world is comfortable with, this episode will help you make sense of what’s happening.
Explore identity and self-trust resources here:
👉 https://happyacoach.com/explore/self
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Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk
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Loneliness after losing a partner is not always about being alone.
In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores the specific and often misunderstood loneliness that follows the death of a partner the kind that can exist even when you’re surrounded by people, support, and conversation.
This is the loneliness of missing shared life.
Of losing the person who witnessed your everyday moments.
Of no longer being deeply known in the same way.
If you’ve found yourself feeling isolated despite not being physically alone, or confused by why social connection doesn’t ease the ache, this episode is for you.
Clare gently unpacks why loneliness after the death of a partner feels so different from other forms of loneliness, how attachment and the nervous system respond to bereavement, and why this experience is not something to fix or rush.
This episode is not about replacing your partner, filling the gap, or forcing connection.
It’s about naming what’s real, reducing self-judgement, and allowing yourself to grieve a bond that mattered deeply.
There is no right or wrong way to experience loneliness after loss.
Your response makes sense.
Explore the Happya Ever After hub:
https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after
Free guide – Life After Loss: Finding a Way Forward:
https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss
Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support
Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk
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After the initial shock of grief fades, something else often begins.
The world carries on.
Support quietens.
And you’re left standing in the aftermath surviving, functioning, but feeling unseen, forgotten, or unsure why it still feels so hard.
In this episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon explores the often-unspoken phase of grief that comes after the crisis. The stage where life after loss begins, not with clarity or hope, but with confusion, loneliness, and a deep sense of disconnection as the world moves on.
This episode is for you if:
- You’ve lost a partner and feel abandoned now the practical support has faded
- You’re coping on the outside but struggling internally
- You feel pressure to “be okay” when you’re anything but
- You’re wondering if this numb, unsettled phase is normal
Clare gently explains why this stage of grief can feel so destabilising, what’s happening in your nervous system, and why struggling here does not mean you’re failing or doing grief wrong.
This is not an episode about moving on, fixing grief, or forcing positivity.
It’s about being heard, normalising your experience, and meeting yourself with compassion as you begin to navigate life after loss.
You don’t need answers.
You don’t need a plan.
You’re not behind.
🔗 Explore all Happya Ever After resources:
https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after
📘 Download the free guide: Life After Loss – Finding a Way Forward:
https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss
Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support
Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk
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What happens after the roles loosen, the old ways of coping fall away, and you realise you can’t go back but you also don’t know what comes next?
In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon explores what it really means to rebuild a sense of self when you feel unanchored, unsure, or disconnected from who you are without turning it into another project to fix or optimise.
This is a grounded, psychologically informed conversation for intelligent, capable people who are used to coping, performing, and holding things together and who now find themselves in an unfamiliar in-between space.
In this episode, Clare explores:
- Why rebuilding yourself doesn’t start with clarity or answers
- What it means to feel “lost” after long periods of responsibility or survival
- How the nervous system responds when old roles fall away
- Why uncertainty is part of identity reorganisation, not a sign of failure
- The difference between rebuilding, reinvention, and self-improvement
- How positive psychology understands self-trust, autonomy, and psychological flexibility
This episode is not about finding a new identity or deciding who to be next. It’s about learning how to listen to yourself again gently, honestly, and without pressure.
If you’re in a place where you know something needs to change but don’t know where to start, this conversation will help you understand why that makes sense and why you’re not behind.
Explore related resources around identity, self-worth, and rebuilding from the inside out here:
👉 https://happyacoach.com/explore/self
Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support
Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk
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In this opening episode of Happya Ever After, Clare Deacon shares her personal story of life after the sudden death of her husband not by retelling the traumatic event, but by speaking honestly about what came after.
This episode is about the early shock, the long middle where survival stopped working, and the quiet, difficult process of finding a way forward when the future you planned no longer exists.
Clare speaks openly about:
- The numbness and disorientation of early grief
- Functioning on the outside while falling apart inside
- The pressure to “perform” grief for others
- The moment survival stopped being enough
- Why this experience led to the creation of Happya Ever After
This is not a story of fixing grief or moving on.
It’s a story of living through loss, finding agency again, and choosing a different narrative one that allows grief and hope to exist side by side.
This episode anchors the heart of the series and explains who Happya Ever After is for: those who have survived loss and are quietly wondering if there is another way to live.
Explore the Happya Ever After hub: https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after
Free guide – Life After Loss: Finding a Way Forward:
https://happyacoach.com/happya-ever-after/life-after-loss
Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support
Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk
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If you’ve ever felt disconnected, irritated, or quietly resistant to mainstream wellness culture, this episode is for you.
In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon explores what wellbeing really means once you strip away the noise, pressure, and performance of the wellness industry.
This is a grounded, psychologically informed conversation about why so many intelligent, capable women feel alienated by wellness trends and why that reaction makes sense.
Clare unpacks:
- Why the wellness industry often increases pressure rather than reducing it
- How wellbeing has been turned into another form of self-optimisation
- The difference between wellbeing, performance, and coping
- Why “doing more” isn’t the answer for a tired nervous system
- How positive psychology and nervous system science define wellbeing differently
- What wellbeing looks like after long periods of survival and responsibility
This episode is not about rejecting wellbeing it’s about reclaiming it.
If you’ve tried the routines, read the books, and still feel like something doesn’t fit, you’re not failing. You’re likely ready for a more honest, sustainable conversation about wellbeing that respects your life, your nervous system, and your intelligence.
For further resources around identity, self-worth, and wellbeing beyond survival, visit:
👉 https://happyacoach.com/explore/self
Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support
Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk
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What happens when the role you’ve always played the strong one, the reliable one, the one who always copes starts to feel too heavy?
In this episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist and positive psychology coach, unpacks the quiet identity shift that so many women go through when they begin loosening the roles that once kept them safe.
We explore:
- Why high-functioning isn’t always high-fulfilling
- How roles we play for survival eventually become identities
- What it means to feel flat, numb, or lost even when everything looks “fine”
- Why stepping out of old patterns can feel like risk, not relief
- How to navigate the in-between without rushing to redefine yourself
If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Who am I without the version of me everyone expects?” this is a gentle, grounded conversation to meet you in that space.
🎧 Listen now, and let’s explore this together.
Resources mentioned: https://happyacoach.com/explore/self
Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support
Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk
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If you’re the one who’s always coped, always stayed strong, always kept things running this episode is for you.
In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon explores the hidden psychological and nervous system cost of always holding it all together. Not the obvious exhaustion, but the quieter toll it takes on identity, emotional range, and long-term wellbeing.
This conversation is grounded in positive psychology and nervous system science, and speaks directly to intelligent, capable people who have spent years being reliable, resilient, and emotionally contained.
In this episode, Clare explores:
- Why functioning well is not the same as being well
- How long-term coping creates nervous system strain
- The difference between containment and regulation
- Why “being strong” can slowly disconnect you from yourself
- How identity, responsibility, and loyalty keep people stuck
- The link between emotional flatness and nervous system fatigue
This is not about burnout clichés or surface-level self-care. It’s about understanding what happens when strength becomes a role rather than a choice and why your system might now be asking for something different.
If you’ve ever thought:
- “I don’t feel stressed, just exhausted”
- “I’m coping, but I don’t feel like myself anymore”
- “I can’t remember the last time I felt fully alive”
This episode will help you understand why and why nothing has gone wrong.
For further resources around identity, self-worth, and how you show up in your life, visit: 👉 https://happyacoach.com/explore/self
Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support
Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk
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Do you feel like you’re functioning well on the outside, but something inside you is quietly pushing back?
In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon explores why so many intelligent, capable people feel like they’re waiting for permission to choose themselves even after years of success, responsibility, and resilience.
This conversation goes beyond surface-level self-care or motivation. Clare unpacks what’s really happening from a nervous system and positive psychology perspective, explaining why long-term coping, high responsibility, and emotional competence can eventually lead to friction, misalignment, and quiet exhaustion.
You’ll hear about:
· Why “coping” is not the same as thriving
· How the nervous system prioritises predictability over fulfilment
· Why choosing yourself can feel destabilising rather than empowering
· The role of identity, loyalty, and self-respect in personal change
· How self-choice is a pattern shift, not a dramatic decision
This episode is for you if:
· You’ve held it together for a long time
· You’re successful but feel subtly disconnected from yourself
· You’re tired of over-explaining, adjusting, or minimising your needs
· You sense it’s time for change, but don’t know how to begin
This is not about blowing your life up or making bold declarations. It’s about understanding what your body and mind have been signalling and why nothing is “wrong” with you for feeling this way.
🎧 Listen now and explore what it really means to choose yourself, without guilt, drama, or self-betrayal.
For related resources around identity, self-worth, and how you show up in your life, visit:
👉 https://happyacoach.com/explore/self
Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support
Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk
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As the year draws to a close, many women find themselves caught between two worlds:
the life they survived… and the life they’re quietly longing to step into.
In this gentle, reflective episode of The Happya Life, trauma‑informed therapist and positive psychology coach Clare Deacon invites you into a softer end‑of‑year conversation. One that doesn’t ask for resolutions, reinvention, or “new year, new me” energy but simply meets you where you are.
This episode is for you if you’re feeling:
- Emotionally tender, reflective, or numb
- Proud of surviving, but craving more than just coping
- Grieving parts of yourself you lost along the way
- Quietly hopeful, even if you’re not sure what comes next
Inside this episode, Clare explores:
- Why survival is sacred but not your final destination
- What it really means to move beyond survival, gently and intentionally
- How identity, nervous system healing, and self‑worth intertwine
- End‑of‑year reflection questions that don’t overwhelm or pressure
- How hope begins softly, honestly, without forcing change
This is not an episode about becoming someone new.
It’s about remembering who you are.
✨ You are not behind.
✨ You are not failing.
✨ You are becoming.
Support mentioned in this episode:
🌱 Free guide: Where Did YOU Go? A Self‑Reconnection Map
💬 Complimentary, pressure‑free chat with Clare
Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support
Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk
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It’s Christmas Eve and while the world sparkles with joy, for many women it’s a day filled with emotional overload. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, lonely, numb, or like you're slipping into old family roles you’ve worked hard to outgrow, this episode is for you.
I’m Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist and founder of Happya, and in this powerful holiday edition of The Happya Life, we explore the emotional weight women carry at this time of year. We talk about:
- Why family gatherings often reactivate old survival patterns
- The real reason you feel emotionally drained or invisible during the holidays
- How to navigate grief, loneliness, people-pleasing, and overstimulation
- Tiny regulation tools to anchor your nervous system in the moment
- What it actually means to stay connected to yourself even when the world feels loud
You are not broken. You are not too sensitive. And you are absolutely not alone. This episode offers a moment of calm, clarity, and compassion in the middle of holiday chaos.
🎁 Need extra support?
Download the free Emotional Overload guide: happyacoach.com/emotions
Book a free, no-pressure support chat: happyacoach.com/chat
Let this episode be your permission slip to honour yourself this Christmas.
Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support
Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk
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The festive season is meant to feel magical but for many women, it feels more like emotional overload. If December leaves you feeling anxious, overstimulated, exhausted or like you’re performing joy instead of feeling it, this episode is for you.
Join Clare Deacon. trauma-informed therapist, positive psychology coach, and founder of Happya, as she shares practical, science-backed nervous system tools to help you navigate the emotional weight of the holidays. You'll explore why this time of year activates trauma responses, how to calm your system in real time, and how to set gentle boundaries without guilt.
Inside:
• Why your nervous system doesn’t care that it’s Christmas
• What really causes festive overwhelm (it’s not you being “too sensitive”)
• Real-life grounding practices that fit your busy life
• How to honour your emotional needs while still showing up with love
• Permission to do less, need more, and reclaim your peace
🎁 Plus, learn about the free guide “Why You Feel So Much” to help you better understand your emotional intensity and support your healing journey.
This is not about perfection, it’s about protection. Emotional protection, nervous system regulation, and reclaiming your calm in the chaos.
→ Free Guide: happyacoach.com/emotions
→ Book a Complimentary Chat: happyacoach.com/chat
Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support
Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk
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“Rock bottom isn’t a collapse, it’s clarity.”
In this raw and soul-nourishing episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist and founder of Happya, holds sacred space for the woman who’s quietly unraveling beneath the weight of her life.
If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t recognise myself anymore,” this one’s for you.
💔 Maybe your rock bottom came after a breakup, burnout, or a body that finally said no.
💔 Maybe it’s quieter, a slow ache, a silent disconnection, a life that no longer fits.
💔 Maybe you’re still showing up, still coping, still functioning but something inside you is done performing.
This isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about helping you meet the woman beneath the roles, perfection, people-pleasing, and survival mode.
Inside this episode, Clare gently guides you through:
The real meaning of rock bottom (it’s not failure, it’s identity collapse)
Why post-traumatic growth begins when we stop performing and start feeling
How to begin rising again slowly, gently, honestly after everything falls apart
Nervous system wisdom, personal stories, and compassionate support
Whether you’re in the ashes or just beginning to rise, you are not broken.
You are breaking open.
🎧 Listen now and begin rising differently.
Free Resources & Support:
💬 Complimentary chat → https://happyacoach.com/chat
🗺️ Free Self Reflection Map: Where Did YOU Go? → https://happyacoach.com/self
Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support
Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk
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Why does imposter syndrome feel so much stronger for women who’ve lived through trauma, loss, chronic stress, or years of performing roles that weren’t truly theirs?
In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, trauma-informed therapist and positive psychology coach Clare Deacon reveals the truth most people never talk about: imposter syndrome isn’t a confidence problem, it’s a safety problem.
You’ll learn:
- How trauma rewires your nervous system and identity
- Why belonging wounds make success feel unsafe
- Why stepping into visibility triggers panic, fear, or self-doubt
- How childhood roles like “the helper,” “the strong one,” or “the peacekeeper” shape adult imposter patterns
- Why achievements don’t land in your body (and feel like accidents)
- The link between survival mode and feeling like you’re “acting” your way through life
- Three gentle steps to rebuild safety, self-trust, and internal permission to take up space
Clare shares deeply personal reflections, client stories, and trauma-informed science to help you understand why you feel like a fraud even when you’re capable, qualified, and rebuilding your life courageously.
💛 If you’ve ever whispered, “Who am I to be doing this?” this episode will help you see yourself more clearly: not as an imposter, but as a survivor who is rising.
Free Resources Mentioned:🌿 The Self Reflection Map → https://happyacoach.com/self
💬 Book Your Complimentary Chat → https://happyacoach.com/chat
Let’s Stay Connected: Your Journey Deserves Support
Email Clare Directly: clare@happya.co.uk
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Why does something as simple as saying “no” feel so unbearably hard? Why does guilt creep in even when you know you're doing what’s right for you?
In this episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon breaks down the nervous system science and emotional truth behind guilt after boundaries and why that guilt doesn’t mean you’re wrong. It means you’re healing.
You’ll learn:
- Why guilt isn’t a moral compass, it’s a trauma-informed response
- How your early conditioning around “being good” shapes your reactions now
- The real reason boundaries feel emotionally loaded
- What a “boundary hangover” is and how to move through it with compassion
- Somatic signals your body sends when you abandon yourself
- Why Boundaries Reset isn’t about learning what to say — it’s about building internal permission to say it
This episode is for the women learning to choose themselves — not selfishly, but sacredly.
🔗 Mentioned:
Free guide: Why You Keep Saying Yes When You Mean No → happyacoach.com/boundaries
Explore boundaries resources → happyacoach.com/explore/boundaries
Complimentary chat with Clare → happyacoach.com/chat
🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support
➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore
➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach
➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat
➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
👉 happyacoach.com/newsletter
➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
happyacoach.com
💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com
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Do you feel like you live in your head and your heart, all the time?
That your thoughts won’t switch off, and your emotions feel louder than everyone else’s?
This episode is for the woman who feels like she’s spiralling. Who replays conversations, second-guesses herself, and can’t quite land. The one who’s told she’s “too sensitive” but knows deep down, she’s simply overwhelmed.
In this episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist, positive psychology coach, and founder of Happya unpacks the real reason so many women are stuck in patterns of overthinking and overfeeling.
You’ll learn:
· Why your nervous system clings to spirals (and how trauma trains your brain to over-prepare)
· The neuroscience behind emotional flooding and hypervigilance
· Practical nervous system tools to regulate thought and feeling
· How to interrupt spirals gently, not with logic, but with presence
· A nurturing, body-based practice to shift from chaos to calm
· How to stop making your spirals mean something about your worth
This isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about understanding what your system needs and giving it safety, not shame.
Clare shares powerful clinical insights, a client story, and gentle reflections that meet you where you are, whether you’re mid-spiral, emotionally overstimulated, or simply exhausted from carrying too much.
You are not too much.
You are just carrying too much.
And you don’t have to carry it alone.
🎧 Tune in now and learn how to gently return to clarity, calm, and connection, without abandoning your depth or sensitivity.
👉 Feeling overwhelmed daily? Reach out via Instagram or the website, Clare will signpost you to the right support for where you are now.
🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support
➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore
➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach
➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat
➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
👉 happyacoach.com/newsletter
➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
happyacoach.com
💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com
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Why can’t I relax, even when I finally have the time?
If you’ve ever asked yourself this question, you’re not alone and you’re not broken.
In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, trauma-informed therapist and positive psychology coach Clare Deacon unpacks why rest can feel unsafe when you’re stuck in survival mode, and what your nervous system is really trying to protect you from.
We explore the difference between hyperarousal (fight-or-flight) and hypoarousal (freeze and shutdown), why traditional self-care tools often fall short, and how to begin building safety in the body — even if you’ve spent years feeling “on” all the time.
You’ll learn:
- Why your nervous system resists stillness and how to respond with compassion
- The role of the vagus nerve and why “just relax” doesn’t work
- Gentle regulation tools you can use today (no apps, no pressure)
- How to work with your body, not against it, for real emotional healing
- A simple reflection to help you reconnect to presence, even in the chaos
This episode is your permission slip to stop blaming yourself for being burnt out and start learning how to feel safe enough to soften.
If you’re tired of surviving and ready to feel more grounded in your own skin, this episode is for you.
👉 Need personalised support? Message Clare via Instagram or through the website and she’ll help guide you to the right next step.
🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support
➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore
➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach
➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat
➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
👉 happyacoach.com/newsletter
➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
happyacoach.com
💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com
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You’re not the same after what you’ve lived through, but what if that’s not a setback? What if it’s the beginning of becoming?
In this transformative episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist, positive psychology coach, and founder of Happya, explores the powerful concept of Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG) and why healing isn’t about going back to who you were, but about rising differently.
Whether your life was disrupted by grief, burnout, a relationship breakdown, a career shift, or something that doesn’t “seem big enough” to name as trauma, if you’ve felt changed by it, this episode is for you.
We cover:
- What post-traumatic growth really is and how it’s different from toxic positivity
- How trauma (big or small) reshapes your identity and your nervous system
- The signs you may already be in a phase of growth and don’t even realise it
- The difference between PTG and learned helplessness
- What makes PTG possible and the practical, emotional shifts to look for
- A grounding practice and reflection prompt to help you anchor into the growth already happening in you
Clare shares openly about how the death of her husband shifted everything, not only her grief, but her strength, courage, and authenticity. And how Happya was born from the belief that survival isn’t enough.
If you’re wondering whether this season of hardship might also be the soil for something more meaningful, this episode will leave you feeling seen, softened, and supported.
You are not broken. You are becoming. And that becoming deserves to be honoured.
👉 Want to explore post-traumatic growth with Clare? Send a message on Instagram or reach out through the website, she’ll guide you towards the right support for where you are now.
🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support
➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore
➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach
➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat
➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
👉 happyacoach.com/newsletter
➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
happyacoach.com
💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com
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You’ve been everything for everyone, the mum, the leader, the caretaker, the high achiever.
But now something’s shifted.
And you’re left wondering... who am I, really?
This episode is for the woman quietly realising she no longer recognises herself and doesn’t know how to begin again. Whether it’s your kids growing up, your career changing, a relationship ending, or a subtle sense that the roles you’ve played no longer fit, this isn’t failure. It’s an awakening.
In this powerful, grounding episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon explores what it means to lose yourself and how to gently, compassionately rebuild who you really are.
✨ Inside this episode:
The real reason identity loss is so common in midlife (and why it’s not just trauma)
How role changes: motherhood, career shifts, relationship breakdowns, can make you feel invisible
Why survival mode leads to self-forgetting
How to start reconnecting with your true self in small, doable ways
What nervous system regulation has to do with identity rebuilding
How to grieve old roles while creating space for something new
If you’ve ever said “I don’t know who I am anymore,” this is your invitation to come home to yourself, gently, honestly, without rushing.
📩 Reach out to Clare on Instagram or through the website if this speaks to you. Whether you need support, coaching, or just permission to begin, you don’t have to do it alone.
You’re not broken. You’re becoming.
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You say you’re protecting your peace…
But are you really protecting yourself from discomfort?
This episode is for the women who’ve said “I’m setting boundaries” but deep down suspect they might just be pulling away. If you’ve ever avoided messages, cancelled plans, or shut someone out and called it self-care, this conversation will help you gently unpack what’s really going on underneath.
In this episode, Clare shares how to tell the difference between healthy boundaries and protective avoidance and why your nervous system often confuses the two.
✨ What you’ll hear:
The key difference between a true boundary and an avoidant response
How trauma and people-pleasing shape the way we disconnect
Why avoidance isn’t bad, but it isn’t always honest
How to set boundaries from a place of self-worth, not fear
Real-world signs you might be avoiding under the label of “boundaried”
What to do when your nervous system shuts down instead of speaking up
Whether you’re constantly retreating or unsure how to hold your ground with compassion, this episode will help you come back to clarity, connection, and choice.
📩 Feeling stuck in the blur between avoidance and boundaries? DM Clare on Instagram or get in touch via email, you don’t have to figure it out alone.
Boundaries should bring you closer to yourself, not push you further away.
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Do you find yourself snapping, shutting down, or spiralling and then wondering, why did I react like that?
You’re not overreacting. You’re overtriggered.
And your nervous system is doing exactly what it was trained to do, protect you.
In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon unpacks how trauma, high-functioning anxiety, and survival mode create emotional reactivity that feels impossible to control. You’ll learn how to create space between trigger and response, and gently rewire the way your body and brain handle stress.
✨ In this episode:
- Why reactions happen before you even realise you’re triggered
- The science behind emotional hijacking and the trauma response
- How to spot the story your nervous system is telling you
- Three trauma-informed tools to create a pause and respond calmly
- Why emotional regulation isn’t about suppressing feelings, it’s about safety
You’ll also hear real-life insights from Clare’s journey and her work with women who felt like they were “too much” and discover how to shift from shame to self-trust.
📩 Ready to stop reacting from pain and start responding from presence? Clare invites you to reach out via Instagram or the website. Whether it’s coaching, tools, or just a reminder that you’re not alone, this is your space to begin again.
You don’t have to get it perfect. You just have to get present.
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Does your mind race even when nothing’s wrong?
Do you feel wired but exhausted, unable to fully relax, yet desperate to slow down?
You’re not alone. And more importantly, you’re not broken.
In this episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist and positive psychology coach, unpacks what it really means to be stuck in nervous system overdrive. She shares how trauma, people-pleasing, and constant high-functioning pressure can leave your body in a state of chronic anxiety and how to gently bring yourself back into regulation.
✨ You’ll learn:
- What “anxious in overdrive” actually feels like in your body
- How survival mode becomes your default without you realising it
- The science of the vagus nerve and why breathwork really works
- Clare’s signature Five-Minute Reset, a grounding tool you can use anywhere
- Why reaching out before you hit rock bottom might be the wisest choice you’ll ever make
If your nervous system feels stuck in high alert…
If rest feels unsafe…
If you're exhausted from being “on” all the time…
This is your invitation to pause, breathe, and return to yourself.
📩 Clare invites you to reach out DM her on Instagram (@thehappyacoach) or send an email to be gently signposted to the right support, whether that’s coaching, tools, or simply a reminder that you’re not alone.
You don’t have to earn rest. You don’t have to break to begin.
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The Burnout You Didn’t See Coming (Until It Knocked You Flat)
Are you high-functioning, holding it all together on the outside but quietly falling apart inside?
In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon unpacks the subtle signs of emotional burnout that most women miss until it’s too late. From constant fatigue and emotional numbness to decision paralysis and people-pleasing, burnout often hides in plain sight, especially in the lives of high-achieving women stuck in survival mode.
Clare blends science-backed nervous system insights with her own deeply personal story of loss, grief, and recovery, showing you how burnout isn’t a personal failure, but a sign that your body and mind need care, not criticism.
You’ll learn:
Why burnout isn’t just “stress”, it’s a nervous system pattern
How chronic overwhelm rewires your brain and body
The real reason rest doesn’t feel restful
Small but powerful ways to start restoring energy and self-worth
Why reaching out for help is not weakness, it’s wisdom
Whether you’re feeling “just tired” or completely depleted, this episode is a compassionate call to pause, reflect, and honour your needs.
👉 If this episode resonates, don’t wait for burnout to knock you flat. Reach out to Clare on Instagram (@thehappyacoach) or via her website for gentle support and next steps.
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Have you ever told yourself, “This time will be different” only to slip back into old patterns? Maybe you swore you’d rest more, stop people-pleasing, or set firmer boundaries… but life got messy, and you broke your own promise. And then came the shame: “See? I can’t even trust myself.”
In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach and trauma-informed therapist, explores how to rebuild self-trust, even after years of self-abandonment.
Self-trust doesn’t come from perfection. It comes from repair. From small, repeated acts of self-respect that tell your nervous system: I can count on me.
✨ In this conversation you’ll discover:
- Why self-trust is built in the body, not just the mind
- How survival mode and people-pleasing make promises hard to keep
- Why shame keeps you stuck and how compassion breaks the cycle
- A grounding practice to begin reconnecting with yourself today
Because you’re not broken. You’re not weak. You’re worthy of trust, even from yourself.
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Next week: The Burnout You Didn’t See Coming (Until It Knocked You Flat).
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Are you feeling constantly overwhelmed, even when your day looks “normal” on paper? Do you find yourself snapping at the people you love, forgetting simple things, or feeling like you’re never truly rested, no matter how much sleep you get?
In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach and trauma-informed therapist, unpacks the invisible mental and emotional load so many high-functioning women are silently carrying. From emotional labour and executive dysfunction to survival mode conditioning and nervous system dysregulation, this episode dives deep into why you're exhausted... and what to do about it.
You’ll hear science-backed insight, deeply compassionate truths, and a guided nervous system reset that will help you come home to yourself, gently and powerfully.
If you’re constantly holding it all together for everyone else, this episode is your permission slip to finally put something down.
🎧 In this episode:
- What the “invisible load” really is (and why it’s not all in your head)
- Why executive dysfunction and emotional labour are not personality flaws
- The hidden cost of being the “capable one” in every room
- How survival mode rewires your brain and body, and how to unlearn it
- A guided grounding moment to help regulate your nervous system in real time
- One simple practice to begin reclaiming your energy, your voice, and your joy
✨ Plus: A sneak peek at next week’s episode, “Trusting Yourself Again: Even After You’ve Broken Your Own Promises”
If this episode resonates, be sure to subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a review, it helps us get this healing work to more women who need it.
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Boundaries That Don’t Backfire: Protecting Yourself With Heart
Have you ever set a boundary, only to feel guilty, misunderstood, or like you caused more conflict than peace?
In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach and trauma-informed therapist, explores why boundaries often backfire, and how to create ones that protect your energy without pushing love away.
Boundaries aren’t walls, ultimatums, or punishments. They’re living, breathing choices that evolve with you. Sometimes they mean saying “not right now,” sometimes they mean opening more space for connection. When led with heart, boundaries can become a source of safety, clarity, and self-trust, not fear.
🎧 Listen in and discover:
- Why boundaries feel so hard for women wired for care and survival mode
- The difference between flexible boundaries and being exploited
- How to protect your peace while staying open to love and support
- A guided grounding moment to help you embody your boundaries with calm
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In this powerful episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon explores what it really means to break free from chronic survival mode and begin building a life that supports nervous system safety, emotional regulation, and true thriving.
If you’ve ever felt constantly on edge, emotionally flat, burned out, or stuck in autopilot, this episode will help you name it, understand it, and start changing it. Clare breaks down the science behind stress responses, explains how survival mode gets wired into the nervous system, and guides you through practical, trauma-informed ways to begin unlearning the patterns that no longer serve you.
You’ll learn:
- How to recognise survival mode in everyday behaviours
- What sympathetic and dorsal vagal states actually feel like
- Why rest often doesn’t feel restful
- How neuroplasticity supports healing
- What it looks like to choose regulation over reaction in real time
This is not about mindset hacks or quick fixes. It’s about coming home to yourself in a way that feels sustainable, embodied, and safe.
Whether you’re deep in your healing journey or just beginning to wonder if “coping” is all there is, this episode offers the clarity, language, and compassion you’ve been searching for.
If this episode resonates, share it with someone you love and explore Clare’s next-level support inside Blooming Happya or her 1:1 spaces.
You’re not broken. You’re becoming.
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Are you the strong one? The dependable one? The one who’s always holding it all together… even when you’re falling apart inside?
This episode is for the women who do it all and feel like they’ve lost themselves in the process.
Trauma-informed coach Clare unpacks the emotional weight of being everything to everyone, the silent burnout of emotional labour, and why your nervous system is crying out for boundaries, not burnout.
Expect truth, science, soul, and radical permission to stop abandoning yourself. You’ll learn:
- Why “pushing through” keeps you stuck in survival mode
- The neuroscience behind burnout and boundary collapse
- How emotional labour rewires your brain (and how to undo it)
- What interoception is and why it’s the missing link in your healing
- How to begin reclaiming your needs, your energy, and your self-worth
You don’t have to be everything to everyone.
You’re allowed to be you.
🌸 Tune in and take the first breath back to yourself.
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Have you ever felt like your trauma has become your whole identity? Like the pain, the grief, the chaos it’s all shaped who you are so deeply that you can’t remember who you were before it?
In this deeply affirming episode, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach, trauma-informed therapist, and founder of Happya, explores how trauma shapes, but does not define us. We dive into the misunderstood psychology of post-traumatic growth, why healing isn’t a straight line, and how you can begin to gently reclaim your identity, purpose, and future.
You’ll learn:
- Why trauma isn't the event, but the impact
- How identity becomes entangled with survival
- What post-traumatic growth (PTG) really looks like (and why it matters)
- How to rewrite the story you tell yourself with compassion, truth, and choice
- What to do when you're scared to change (or afraid you're not allowed to)
This episode is your permission slip to grow. To evolve. To hope again without bypassing the pain. It’s a reminder that you’re not broken, you’re becoming. And you are allowed to step into the next version of you, powerful, present, and free.
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You’re Allowed to Change: Letting Go of Old Versions of You
Why does growth feel so uncomfortable, even when we want it? In this powerful episode of The Happya Life, positive psychology coach and trauma-informed therapist Clare Deacon explores the emotional weight of personal evolution, the grief of outgrowing old identities, and how to move forward without guilt.
Whether you're navigating change by choice or because life has forced your hand, like becoming an empty nester, facing a career pivot, or reevaluating your relationship roles, this episode will help you understand why fear shows up, why resistance is natural, and why you're not broken for struggling with transition.
You’ll learn:
- Why growth can feel like grief (and why that’s normal)
- How trauma conditioning makes change feel unsafe
- What to do when people around you don’t understand your evolution
- How to honour past versions of yourself without staying stuck
- Practical steps to soften into your next chapter with compassion
If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t know who I am anymore,” or worried that healing might mean leaving people behind this conversation is for you.
You are not here to stay the same. You’re here to become.
Let this be your permission slip to grow, in your time, in your way.
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Is your healing journey making you feel like you're doing it wrong? In this powerful episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach, trauma-informed therapist, and founder of Happya, debunks the five most damaging myths about trauma recovery that are keeping so many of us stuck, overwhelmed, and full of shame.
If you’ve ever felt like you should be over it by now, like getting triggered means you’ve failed, or that your trauma doesn’t “count”, this is the episode you need. Clare gently walks you through why healing isn’t linear, why time alone doesn’t heal all wounds, and how to reframe setbacks as part of the process instead of evidence that you’re broken.
Learn how to approach your recovery with more compassion, clarity, and self-trust. Whether you’re just beginning your journey or finding yourself spiralling again, you’ll leave this episode with practical insights, emotional validation, and hope that you can keep going, one imperfect, powerful step at a time.
✨ In this episode:
- Why trauma recovery doesn’t follow a straight path
- The truth about triggers, setbacks, and integration
- How to start healing even if you haven’t hit rock bottom
- What to do when time hasn’t “fixed” the pain
- Clare’s personal stories of grief, shame, and real-life recovery
This isn’t just a podcast. It’s a reminder that you’re not alone and you’re not doing it wrong.
🎧 Subscribe now and join the Happya community of women healing in real time, with real tools, and real talk.
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Have you ever felt like you’re functioning on the outside but disconnected on the inside? Like life is carrying on around you, but you’re not quite in it?
That’s the freeze response a powerful, protective state triggered by overwhelm, trauma, or prolonged stress. And if you’re there right now, you’re not alone. In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach and trauma-informed therapist, shares her personal experience of moving through freeze, and offers gentle, actionable steps to help you begin thawing.
Tune in to learn:
- What the freeze response really is (and why it’s not your fault)
- How trauma impacts your nervous system and shuts down decision-making
- Why micro-movements and nervous system regulation are the first step toward healing
- How to re-engage with life without pushing or performing
- How to feel safe, resourced, and present again, at your own pace
Whether you’re frozen by grief, burnout, anxiety, or overwhelm, this episode will help you feel seen, soothed, and supported. You’ll leave with compassionate tools to take your next small, powerful step forward.
🧠 Grounded in neuroscience. 💛 Held in warmth and honesty.
🎧 Listen now.
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If you've ever rolled your eyes at the idea of "manifesting your dream life," you're not alone. When you’ve been stuck in survival mode, worn out from giving everything to everyone, and quietly wondering if this is all life has to offer, the concept of manifestation can feel, well, unreachable.
But in this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon, positive psychology coach, trauma-informed therapist, and founder of Happya, brings a fresh, science-backed, emotionally intelligent take on what it really means to consciously create your future.
This isn’t about glittery affirmations or toxic positivity. It’s about understanding your nervous system, working with your mind and body, and using intentional, aligned action to move toward a life that genuinely feels like yours. No fluff, no hustle, just honest, grounded guidance for women who want more without burning out to get there.
Clare shares the powerful story behind writing her book, from childhood limiting beliefs to post-it note dreams and invites you to take one small, real-world step that begins the shift from coping to creating.
💛 This episode is for you if you’ve ever felt disconnected, dismissed your dreams, or doubted your potential. Join the Happya community and discover how manifesting your future is less about magic and more about moving with intention.
Key takeaways:
- Why manifestation is neuroscience, not nonsense.
- The real reason survival mode keeps you stuck.
- How to use positive psychology for grounded growth.
- The difference between healthy discomfort and nervous system overload.
- A personal story of turning a “never” into a published book.
Join the Happya community and take your next step with support, tools, and real talk. Because you deserve a life that’s more than just functioning.
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No one tells you how lonely healing can feel.
When you’re growing, setting boundaries, and finally honouring your truth… sometimes the phone stops ringing. The invitations dry up. And suddenly you’re standing in the in-between, no longer the old you, but not yet sure where you belong.
In Episode 50 of The Happya Life Podcast, trauma-informed therapist and positive psychology coach Clare Deacon talks about the emotional (and physiological) reality of healing loneliness. Because it’s not just in your head, your nervous system craves connection. And when you start showing up differently in the world, it can feel like you’re wandering alone before you find your new people.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
- Why healing can feel isolating (even when it’s exactly what you need)
- The neuroscience of co-regulation and why your body needs safe connection
- How to stop settling for surface-level relationships and find real, meaningful community
- Practical ways to meet the right people without abandoning yourself to fit in
- Why joining the right community can change everything (and how to do it gently)
If you’ve been wondering, “Where do I belong now?” this episode will remind you you’re not alone. And you don’t have to heal in isolation.
🎧 Hit play on Episode 50 “The Loneliness of Healing: How to Find the Right People” now.
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You’re functioning, but it doesn’t feel like living.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re white-knuckling your way through life, barely catching your breath between one emotional loop and the next… this episode is for you.
In Episode 49 of The Happya Life Podcast, trauma-informed therapist and positive psychology coach Clare Deacon pulls back the curtain on what it really means to be stuck in survival mode and why so many successful, capable women find themselves there without even realising it.
Whether you’ve been feeling constantly exhausted, numb, overwhelmed, or like your life looks fine from the outside but feels empty inside, this is your invitation to stop surviving and start reclaiming your calm.
Clare shares:
- The science behind why your nervous system is stuck on high alert
- How survival mode becomes your default without you noticing
- The hidden thoughts you’re probably whispering to yourself behind closed doors
- Small but powerful practices to begin grounding your body and mind
- The truth about why surface-level “self-care” isn’t enough to create real change
- What it takes to shift from surviving to thriving and how the Blooming Happya helps you get there
This episode isn’t about quick fixes or fluffy advice. It’s a grounded, compassionate conversation rooted in neuroscience, lived experience, and emotional truth. Because you deserve a life that feels calm, clear, and Happya, not one you’re just getting through.
If you’re ready to breathe again, for real, start here.
🎧 Hit play on Episode 49 “Why You’re Stuck in Survival Mode (And How to Break Free)”
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Struggling to trust again after betrayal, heartbreak, or grief? This episode is your permission slip to heal on your terms.
Whether you’ve been widowed, divorced, ghosted, or simply stretched thin by years of emotional caretaking, love after trauma is complicated. In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, trauma-informed therapist and positive psychology coach Clare Deacon unpacks how to build trust with yourself before you rebuild it with anyone else.
Clare shares deeply human insights on why connection feels unsafe after relational trauma, how the nervous system responds to intimacy post-betrayal, and what it really means to show up in relationships without self-abandoning.
We explore:
- Why love feels risky after loss or separation
- How trauma changes your brain’s relationship to intimacy
- The truth about self-trust, co-regulation, and safety
- Why you might push away healthy love and how to gently let it in
With compassion and clarity, Clare speaks to the intelligent, successful women who feel stuck between longing and fear offering validation, guidance, and a reminder that love doesn’t have to hurt to be real.
Listen if you’re ready to…
💛 Rebuild trust after emotional pain
💛 Set boundaries without guilt
💛 Attract relationships rooted in truth, not trauma
🎧 Hit play on Episode 48 Love After Trauma: Healing, Trust, and Relationships and begin reconnecting with the most important relationship of all: the one you have with yourself.
✨ New here? Get free tools, weekly letters & updates from Clare at happyacoach
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In this heartfelt episode of The Happya Life Podcast, trauma-informed positive psychology coach and therapist Clare Deacon gets real about the impossible juggling act of healing from trauma while still keeping life moving. Whether you're a working parent, a caregiver, or simply someone who feels stretched too thin, this episode is for you.
Clare shares powerful personal insights and practical trauma-informed strategies to help you manage post-traumatic growth amidst chaos, anxiety, and exhaustion. Discover how healing can happen in micro-moments, why messy emotions are a sign of progress, and how to stop measuring your recovery by how “together” your life looks.
🌪 In the eye of the storm? Clare’s got grounding tools to help you feel safe and seen.
🌈 In the aftermath? Learn how to balance grief, guilt, and growth.
🚀 Ready to thrive? This episode offers small, empowering steps to rebuild your life from the inside out.
If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How can I heal when I have no time to breathe?” tune in. You’re not behind. You’re rebuilding. And you’re not doing it alone.
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In this soul-soothing episode of The Happya Life Podcast, trauma-informed positive psychology coach and therapist Clare Deacon invites you to rethink everything you’ve been told about rest, productivity, and worth.
If you’ve ever felt guilty for slowing down, or wondered why rest feels so uncomfortable, you’re not alone. Clare unpacks how our culture’s obsession with busyness and overachievement is often rooted in trauma, anxiety, and the need to prove our value.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why rest isn’t a reward, it’s a requirement
✨ How overworking can be a trauma response
✨ The neuroscience of rest and its link to creativity, healing, and performance
✨ Simple, trauma-informed ways to embrace ease without guilt
✨ Why your worth is not tied to how much you do
Whether you’re listening between meetings, during the school run, or miraculously, while taking an actual rest, this episode offers both compassion and practical guidance for finding balance beyond burnout.
💛 Ready to redefine what it means to be productive and well? Let rest be your revolution.
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In this powerful episode of The Happya Life Podcast, trauma-informed therapist and positive psychology coach Clare Deacon goes beyond surface-level affirmations and into the real, messy journey of building authentic self-belief.
If you’ve ever said all the affirmations, worn the confident smile, and still felt like an imposter inside, this episode is for you.
Clare unpacks the roots of self-doubt, why high-functioning women often feel like they're winging it, and how past trauma can quietly fuel a cycle of perfectionism and people-pleasing. She explores what it really takes to move from performing confidence to feeling it, and offers practical, trauma-informed tools to begin rebuilding trust in yourself from the inside out.
🌱 You’ll learn:
- Why confidence isn't a trait, it’s a practice
- How the nervous system plays a role in chronic self-doubt
- Gentle steps to shift from fear to inner safety
- How to anchor into your truth, even when the fear is loud
💛 If you're tired of shrinking yourself to be acceptable or staying silent to stay safe, this episode will remind you: you were never broken, just brilliantly wired for survival.
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In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, I’m speaking directly to the givers, the ones who say yes, who show up, who keep the peace even when it costs them their own wellbeing.
If you’ve ever felt guilty for putting yourself first, this one’s for you.
We’re diving deep into the roots of people-pleasing, not as a flaw, but as a survival pattern. We’ll explore how over-giving often starts in childhood, how guilt is not a sign you’re selfish but a signal you’re doing something new, and how to begin setting boundaries without betraying your kindness.
This isn’t about swinging from selfless to selfish. It’s about learning to choose you without losing what makes you caring and connected.
You’ll hear:
- Why people-pleasing becomes identity
- How to pause before a yes and sit with discomfort
- Small steps to reclaim your voice and values
- Why boundaries are an act of self-respect, not rejection
If you’re tired of disappearing in your own life, and ready to stop editing yourself to keep everyone else comfortable, this episode is your gentle call home.
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Ever feel like relationships are meant to feel safe, but somehow they always feel exhausting? You’re not alone... and you’re not broken.
In this soulful episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon unpacks why relationships often leave us feeling drained, even when we deeply care, and how to shift from surviving connection to thriving within it.
Drawing from trauma-informed psychology, attachment theory, and nervous system wisdom, Clare explores:
✨ Why many of us are wired to overgive and under-receive
✨ The connection between childhood roles and adult relationship patterns
✨ What co-regulation is and why your nervous system longs for it
✨ How to build healthy, reciprocal relationships without betraying yourself
✨ Scripts and strategies for navigating discomfort, honesty, and repair
This isn’t about fixing people. It’s about honouring your needs, creating safe containers for connection, and learning to trust that you don’t have to shrink to be loved.
Whether you're navigating family dynamics, friendships, or romantic relationships, this episode will help you stop managing and start relating, from a place of clarity, safety, and self-trust.
🔁 You don’t have to earn love by disappearing into someone else’s needs.
📩 Loved this conversation? Ready to explore the relationships in your life with support and clarity? Book a free, no-pressure chat at https://happyacoach.com/chat your safe space to be heard without performance or pressure.
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Ever feel guilty for saying no? Like setting a boundary makes you a bad person? You’re not alone and you’re definitely not broken.
In this powerful, heart-led episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon dives deep into the real reason boundaries feel so hard, especially if you’ve experienced trauma, chronic people-pleasing, or were taught that love had to be earned.
You’ll discover:
- 🌪 Why your nervous system resists saying no (hint: it’s not about willpower)
- 🧠 The brain science behind why boundaries trigger guilt
- 💛 How to rewire your response and create safe, sustainable boundaries
- 💬 Scripts you can actually use without sounding defensive or rude
- 🔁 What to do when people push back against the “new” you
With a warm cuppa and a whole lot of compassion, Clare reminds you that setting boundaries isn’t selfish, it’s sacred. This isn’t just self-care; it’s nervous system repair.
✨ Whether you’re just starting out or you’ve been on this healing journey a while, this episode will help you stop abandoning yourself and start choosing peace over performance.
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Are you feeling flat, emotionally drained, or stuck in a fog of fatigue, even though you want to move forward?
In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon, positive psychology expert and trauma-informed coach, unpacks the real reason motivation disappears during mental exhaustion, and how to gently reconnect with your drive without pressure, guilt, or hustle.
You’ll learn:
- Why burnout and low motivation are signs of a depleted nervous system (not laziness)
- How to regulate before you take action and why that matters neurologically
- Why shrinking your goals activates long-term motivation
- How to use the Four Pillars of the Happya Survival Kit to restore energy and clarity
✨ This is not about forcing productivity. It’s about understanding the science behind burnout, honouring your body’s signals, and learning how to move forward in ways that feel safe, supportive, and sustainable.
🎧 Listen now and take your first small step, no pressure, just possibility.
🔗 Explore the Happya Survival Kit: https://happya.coach/survivalkit
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You’ve survived the storm… now what?
In this episode, Clare gets real about what healing actually looks like once the chaos calms. If you’ve done the therapy, filled the journals, and ticked all the self-care boxes but still feel flat, like someone dimmed the lights inside, this conversation is for you.
Clare explores why long-term healing isn’t about chasing perfection or waiting for a finish line. It’s about ongoing maintenance, nervous system literacy, and creating a lifestyle that supports your wellbeing; emotionally, mentally, physically, and socially.
You’ll learn:
- Why the “in-between” is the hardest (and most honest) part of healing
- How to build your personal maintenance manual
- What the four pillars of wellbeing really mean
- Why regulating before acting changes everything
- The difference between routines and rituals (and why one helps you thrive)
Plus, Clare introduces the Happya Survival Kit, a foundational tool for managing your wellbeing when life gets unpredictable.
✨ This episode is your permission slip to stop pushing, start maintaining, and reconnect with the version of you that knows how to grow, gently, intelligently, and for the long haul.
📩 Got thoughts or aha moments? Clare wants to hear from you. Send a message, share what landed, or explore the Survival Kit https://happyacoach.com/survivalkit.
You’re not broken. You’re blooming. 🌱
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You’ve made it through the hard part. The breakdown, the burnout, the heartbreak, the grief. The dust is starting to settle but instead of relief, you’re left with a quiet, disorienting question: What now?
This episode of The Happya Life Podcast is for anyone standing in the uncertain space between surviving and truly living again. If you’ve felt numb, stuck, or unsure of who you are beyond the struggle, you are not alone.
In this powerful conversation, Clare explores:
✨ Why life after survival feels more confusing than expected.
✨ How to rebuild your identity and direction without rushing into reinvention.
✨ Gentle, practical steps to begin reclaiming your future on your terms.
You’ll learn how to move from coping to creating, from reacting to rebuilding, and how to anchor into a life that actually feels like yours.
This is not about pretending everything is fine. It’s about learning how to begin again with clarity, courage, and compassion.
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Feeling overwhelmed and wondering how to prioritise self-care amidst the chaos? In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, host Clare, a seasoned positive psychology coach and therapist, delves into the real challenges of self-care for those constantly supporting others.
What You'll Learn:
- Why self-care often feels unattainable when you need it most
- Debunking common self-care myths that keep you stuck
- Practical, compassionate steps to begin your self-care journey
Discover the concept of the "self-care battery" understanding the physical, emotional, mental, and social pillars of wellbeing and how neglecting any can leave you drained. Clare introduces the Happya Survival Kit, a trauma-informed course designed to help you recharge and thrive.
Special Easter Offer: Enroll in the Happya Survival Kit for just £98.50 (regularly £197) using code HappyaEaster. Offer valid until Easter Monday 21st April 2025.
Start your journey from surviving to thriving today.
🔗 Learn more and enroll
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Have you ever felt like you’re playing a role in your own life... saying the right things, doing what’s expected, blending in to avoid judgment... but quietly wondering, what about me?
In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, we’re digging into what it really means to stay true to yourself in a world that constantly nudges (or shoves) you to conform. Whether it’s societal pressure, family expectations, or the fear of being “too much,” it’s easy to lose touch with who you really are.
We’re unpacking:
✨ Why authenticity can feel so hard and what it actually means in real life (no buzzwords, just truth).
✨ How constantly performing for others chips away at your confidence and self-worth.
✨ Why abandoning your values to keep the peace never works and what it costs you in the long run.
✨ What it really takes to live more boldly, more honestly, and more you—even if that ruffles a few feathers.
This is a call to stop shape-shifting for acceptance and start standing tall in your own story.
If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Who am I, really?” or felt like you’ve been playing small just to keep others comfortable this conversation is your invitation to take off the mask and start coming home to yourself.
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Who Are You Now? Reclaiming Your Identity After Trauma
Have you ever found yourself looking in the mirror and thinking, “Where did I go?”
Maybe it followed a life-altering experience; loss, burnout, heartbreak, or a season that cracked you open. Suddenly, the version of you that once felt confident and grounded feels… out of reach.
In this episode, we explore how trauma and major life transitions can shift your identity and how to begin the journey of rediscovery. You’ll learn why this isn’t about “getting back to the old you,” but about becoming someone even more grounded, intentional, and aligned.
Inside:
• Why identity shifts after trauma or change
• How to stop grieving the “old you” and start embracing who you are now
• Steps to reconnect with your values, passions, and authentic self
• How masking and people-pleasing disconnect you from your truth
• Permission to evolve and to thrive in a life that actually fits
If you’re feeling lost, this episode will help you find your way back to yourself, gently, compassionately, and with real tools for growth.
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Do you feel like you're always "on"? Like you're editing yourself to fit in, avoid conflict, or be accepted? That’s not just being adaptable, it’s called masking, and it comes at a cost.
In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, we dive into the psychology behind masking your true self, why so many of us do it without even realising, and how it affects your mental health, identity, and emotional well-being.
If you’ve ever felt:
- Disconnected from who you really are
- Drained by social situations
- Like you're performing more than you're living...
…you’re not alone. And this episode is for you.
What we cover:
✔️ What masking is and where it comes from
✔️ The link between masking, anxiety, and burnout
✔️ How trauma, childhood roles, and people-pleasing patterns play into it
✔️ Real ways to start unmasking and reconnecting with your authentic self
This is for the high-functioning, heart-led, overthinking souls who are ready to stop performing and start being real.
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We’ve been sold the idea that thriving means having your life perfectly together flawless routines, effortless success, and unwavering confidence. But what if thriving actually has nothing to do with perfection?
In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, we’re busting the myth that thriving means always feeling good, achieving your goals without struggle, or having everything figured out. The truth? Thriving is messy. It’s about resilience, self-trust, and learning to navigate challenges not eliminating them.
Inside this episode, we’ll explore:
✔️ The biggest misconceptions about thriving (and why they hold you back).
✔️ Why perfectionism keeps you stuck in survival mode.
✔️ How positive psychology defines true success beyond “having it all together.”
✔️ The small mindset shifts that will help you step into real growth.
✔️ Practical ways to build resilience and start thriving on your terms.
If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll thrive when I have my life sorted,” this episode is your permission slip to stop waiting. Thriving isn’t a destination, it’s how you live right now, imperfections and all.
Need deeper support? Book a free chat with me at happyacoach.com/chat or email me at clare@happyacoach.com.
🎧 Hit play now and start redefining thriving on your own terms!
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Why You Feel Guilty for Being Happy (And How to Let That Go) | The Happya Life Podcast
Ever felt guilty for feeling happy? Maybe you’ve been through grief, heartbreak, or tough times, and when joy finally sneaks in you feel like you’re betraying what you’ve been through. Or maybe life is going well, but instead of embracing it, you find yourself second-guessing: Do I really deserve this? What if it all goes wrong? What about the people who aren’t as lucky?
This is called happiness guilt, and you are not alone.
In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, we’re unpacking:
✅ Why we feel guilty for being happy even when we’ve worked hard for it.
✅ The link between survivor’s guilt, past trauma, and our nervous system.
✅ How cultural conditioning and comparison fuel the fear of embracing joy.
✅ Steps to release happiness guilt so you can feel good without apology.
Happiness is not something you have to earn. It’s not selfish. It’s not a reward for suffering. It’s a fundamental part of being alive. And in this episode, I’ll guide you through how to break free from guilt, rewire your mindset, and own your joy without fear.
🎧 Listen now and take the first step toward embracing happiness fully.
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Have you ever felt like no matter how much you do, how many people reassure you, or how much self-work you put in, you still don’t feel enough?
Maybe it sneaks in when you’re about to try something new. Maybe it stops you before you even start. Maybe it’s been there for so long, you don’t even question it anymore it just feels like truth.
But here’s what I need you to hear: You are not broken. You are not failing. You are not missing a secret piece of the puzzle.
In this episode, we dive into:
✔ Why the “I’m not enough” belief is wired into your brain (and how to undo it)
✔ How childhood conditioning, perfectionism, and past experiences shape self-worth
✔ The science of self-worth and why mindset work alone isn’t enough
✔ How to start rewiring your self-worth in a way that actually sticks
You were never meant to spend your life proving yourself. It’s time to rewrite the story because feeling “not enough” isn’t the truth, it’s a habit. And habits? They can be unlearned.
🎧 Listen now and start reclaiming your self-worth.
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Do you constantly second-guess yourself? Feel like you’ve lost trust in your own decisions? Maybe you've made mistakes in the past, ignored your gut, or been told your feelings weren’t valid so now, self-doubt is running the show.
In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, we're diving into:
✔️ Why we stop trusting ourselves (hint: it’s not just "lack of confidence")
✔️ How childhood conditioning, past experiences & fear of failure play a role
✔️ Why outsourcing decisions to others keeps us stuck in self-doubt
✔️ Practical, science-backed ways to rebuild self-trust & confidence
✔️ Simple, daily steps to start trusting your inner voice again
Rebuilding self-trust isn’t about never making mistakes it’s about knowing you can handle whatever happens. You can trust yourself again.
Need extra support? Book a free discovery call at https://happyacoach.com/discovery-call or drop me an email at clare@happyacoach.com for resources.
💬 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. You never know who might be struggling in silence.
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Why do we hold ourselves back from the things we say we want? Why do we procrastinate, overthink, or push away opportunities only to regret it later? If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in self-sabotaging cycles, this episode is for you.
Self-sabotage isn’t about being lazy or lacking discipline, it’s about deep-rooted fears, limiting beliefs, and protective mechanisms that no longer serve us. In this episode, we’ll explore:
🔹 Why self-sabotage happens and how it’s wired into our brains
🔹 The real reasons behind procrastination, perfectionism, and avoidance
🔹 How childhood conditioning and past experiences shape our patterns
🔹 The role of imposter syndrome and why it's often misunderstood
🔹 Practical, science-backed strategies to stop self-sabotaging and move forward
If you’ve ever struggled with fear of failure, fear of success, or not feeling “good enough,” you’re not alone. But you can break the cycle.
🎧 Listen now on your favourite podcast platform!
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Feeling emotionally overwhelmed? You’re not alone. In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, we dive deep into why overwhelm happens, what it does to your brain and body, and how to break free from the cycle of stress and emotional overload.
I’ll walk you through practical, science-backed techniques to calm your nervous system, regain control, and shift that inner narrative from “I can’t do this” to “I’ve got this.” Whether you’re dealing with stress, anxiety, decision fatigue, or burnout, this episode will help you take the first steps toward mental clarity, emotional resilience, and balance.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re drowning in responsibilities, struggling with overthinking, or constantly running on empty, this episode is for you. Tune in now and discover how to move from survival mode to thriving, one step at a time.
🎧 Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts!
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Welcome to the final episode of our special Blooming Happya Anniversary Series! Over the past week, we’ve explored the six Happya principles helping you move from survival to thriving. Today, we’re celebrating just how far you’ve come and looking ahead to the next exciting chapter in your journey.
Taking bold steps toward the life you deserve isn’t easy, but you don’t have to do it alone. In this episode, we’ll reflect on everything you’ve learned so far, explore what comes next, and I’ll introduce you to the Blooming Happya VIP Coaching Programme a transformative opportunity designed to provide you with the support, clarity, and confidence you need to keep moving forward.
We’ll dive into:
✨ How to build on the progress you’ve made so far.
✨The power of ongoing support in achieving your dreams.
✨How the Blooming Happya VIP Coaching Programme can help you take that next step with ease and confidence.
And as a special thank you for being part of this journey, I’m offering an exclusive £100 off your monthly payment when you sign up before 28th February, plus additional bonuses if you choose to pay in full!
Your next chapter starts here!
Blooming Happya Grow, Flourish and Thrive Beyond Survival is your ultimate guide to stepping beyond survival and into a thriving life. Grab your copy today on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1399974475.
Ready to take action? The Blooming Happya Bonus Workbooks provide practical tools to help you implement these powerful principles. Get yours delivered straight to your inbox here: https://www.happyacoach.com/bloomingbonus, or order a physical copy on Amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/0dFhC2u.
And if you're truly ready to move beyond survival and into thriving, I’d love to invite you to the Blooming Happya VIP Coaching Programme a transformational experience designed to support you every step of the way. Early bird pricing with £100pmth off is available until 28th February! Secure your spot now at: https://www.happyacoach.com/bloomingvip.
Want to see if it’s the right fit? Let’s chat! Book your free call here: https://www.happyacoach.com/discovery-call.
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You’ve done the inner work, now it’s time to take action. In today’s episode of The Happya Life Podcast, we’re diving into the final principle of the Blooming Happya framework: Activate Your Life. It’s all about turning your dreams into reality, taking small, intentional steps that align with your goals and values.
If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in overthinking or waiting for the perfect moment, this episode is for you. I’ll be sharing practical strategies to help you overcome fear, build momentum, and create a life that truly reflects who you are. Plus, I’ll walk you through exercises from the Blooming Happya Bonus Workbooks, designed to give you the clarity and confidence you need to move forward.
Whether it’s defining your next step, pushing through doubt, or embracing new opportunities, you’ll learn how to take bold action in a way that feels safe and achievable.
🎧 Tune in now and discover how to activate your life because your dreams are waiting.
Ready to start your Happya journey?Begin with Blooming Happya Grow, Flourish and Thrive Beyond Survival your essential guide to moving beyond survival and into thriving. Available now on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1399974475.
Want to dive deeper? The Blooming Happya Bonus Workbooks offer practical exercises to help you start implementing the principles in your daily life. Get yours delivered straight to your inbox here: https://www.happyacoach.com/bloomingbonus, or purchase a physical copy on Amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/0dFhC2u.
If you're ready to take the next step and explore how I can support you one-on-one, let’s chat! Book your free call here: https://www.happyacoach.com/discovery-call.
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Have you ever felt like your dreams are just out of reach, buried under responsibilities, self-doubt, and the daily hustle? You’re not alone. In today’s episode of The Happya Life Podcast, we’re diving into what it really means to say YES to your dreams and how you can start envisioning the life you truly deserve.
I know firsthand how easy it is to put your dreams on the back burner, telling yourself that now’s not the right time or that you're not "ready enough." But here’s the thing your dreams aren’t frivolous; they’re a reflection of who you are at your core. Whether it’s changing careers, prioritising your well-being, or chasing a long-lost passion, it all starts with one small but powerful decision: saying YES to yourself.
In this episode, we’ll explore:
✨ Why so many of us struggle to dream big and how to break free from limiting beliefs.
✨ How to gain clarity on what you truly want (without the pressure of having it all figured out).
✨ Practical tools from the Blooming Happya Bonus Workbooks to help you map out your dreams, overcome fears, and take inspired action.
✨ A step-by-step process to move from dreaming to doing without feeling overwhelmed.
It’s time to stop waiting for the "perfect moment" and start creating the life you deserve. Tune in now and take that first step toward your Happya life.
Ready to start your Happya journey?Begin with Blooming Happya Grow, Flourish and Thrive Beyond Survival your essential guide to moving beyond survival and into thriving. Available now on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1399974475.
Want to dive deeper? The Blooming Happya Bonus Workbooks offer practical exercises to help you start implementing the principles in your daily life. Get yours delivered straight to your inbox here: https://www.happyacoach.com/bloomingbonus, or purchase a physical copy on Amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/0dFhC2u.
If you're ready to take the next step and explore how I can support you one-on-one, let’s chat! Book your free call here: https://www.happyacoach.com/discovery-call.
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Letting go, it sounds simple, right? But if you've ever tried to release something that's been weighing you down, you know it's anything but easy. Whether it’s an old belief, a toxic relationship, or self-doubt that whispers in the background, letting go is a process that requires patience, self-compassion, and a willingness to sit with what’s uncomfortable.
In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, we’ll explore how to process and release what no longer serves you, creating space for growth and joy. We’ll walk through:
✨ Identifying limiting beliefs that are holding you back.
✨ Practicing forgiveness and compassion to free yourself emotionally.
✨ Managing overwhelm with practical steps to move forward.
✨ Embracing your authentic self and stepping into your true potential.
If you've been carrying emotional baggage for too long, this episode is your invitation to begin releasing it, one gentle step at a time.
🎧 Tune in now and start making room for the life you truly deserve!
Ready to start your Happya journey?Begin with Blooming Happya Grow, Flourish and Thrive Beyond Survival your essential guide to moving beyond survival and into thriving. Available now on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1399974475.
Want to dive deeper? The Blooming Happya Bonus Workbooks offer practical exercises to help you start implementing the principles in your daily life. Get yours delivered straight to your inbox here: https://www.happyacoach.com/bloomingbonus, or purchase a physical copy on Amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/0dFhC2u.
If you're ready to take the next step and explore how I can support you one-on-one, let’s chat! Book your free call here: https://www.happyacoach.com/discovery-call.
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Boundaries, something we all know we need, but often struggle to set. In today’s episode of The Happya Life Podcast, we’re diving into the powerful principle of Preserve Your Space, exploring how setting healthy boundaries can transform your well-being and create space for what truly matters.
I’ll share my own journey with boundaries (and let’s be honest, the guilt that comes with them), and we’ll break down practical steps to help you define, communicate, and enforce boundaries in a way that feels empowering, not overwhelming.
You’ll discover how to:
✨ Identify where boundaries are needed most in your life.
✨ Express your needs with confidence and clarity.
✨ Overcome the guilt and fear that often come with setting limits.
If you’ve been feeling stretched too thin, this episode is for you. Take that first step toward preserving your space and thriving on your terms.
Tune in now and start creating the space you deserve!
Ready to start your Happya journey?Begin with Blooming Happya Grow, Flourish and Thrive Beyond Survival your essential guide to moving beyond survival and into thriving. Available now on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1399974475.
Want to dive deeper? The Blooming Happya Bonus Workbooks offer practical exercises to help you start implementing the principles in your daily life. Get yours delivered straight to your inbox here: https://www.happyacoach.com/bloomingbonus, or purchase a physical copy on Amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/0dFhC2u.
If you're ready to take the next step and explore how I can support you one-on-one, let’s chat! Book your free call here: https://www.happyacoach.com/discovery-call.
🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support
➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore
➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach
➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat
➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
👉 happyacoach.com/newsletter
➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
happyacoach.com
💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com
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Welcome back to The Happya Life Podcast and our special Blooming Happya Anniversary Series! Today, we’re diving into the second Happya principle: Acknowledge Your Emotions – Embracing Your Inner Voice.
It’s easy to push our emotions aside and tell ourselves we’ll deal with them later. But when we don’t acknowledge our feelings, they don’t just disappear they show up in unexpected ways, often as behaviours that don’t serve us. In this episode, we’ll explore how to create space for your emotions with compassion and without judgment.
Here’s what we’ll cover:
✨ The importance of naming your emotions to bring clarity and self-awareness.
✨ How mindfulness meditation can help you sit with emotions without feeling overwhelmed.
✨ The role of gratitude in shifting your perspective and creating emotional resilience.
✨ How positive affirmations can help you foster self-compassion and trust.
Your challenge for today: Choose one of these practices and spend five minutes connecting with your emotions in a way that feels safe and empowering.
Want to take this work further? Grab your copy of the Blooming Happya Bonus Workbooks packed with practical exercises to guide you through your emotional journey. Get yours via the link in the notes below.
Thank you for tuning in today. If this episode resonated with you, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend. Tomorrow, we’ll be exploring the next principle: Preserve Your Space – Building Boundaries That Heal.
Ready to start your Happya journey?Begin with Blooming Happya Grow, Flourish and Thrive Beyond Survival your essential guide to moving beyond survival and into thriving. Available now on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1399974475.
Want to dive deeper? The Blooming Happya Bonus Workbooks offer practical exercises to help you start implementing the principles in your daily life. Get yours delivered straight to your inbox here: https://www.happyacoach.com/bloomingbonus, or purchase a physical copy on Amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/0dFhC2u.
If you're ready to take the next step and explore how I can support you one-on-one, let’s chat! Book your free call here: https://www.happyacoach.com/discovery-call.
🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support
➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore
➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach
➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat
➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
👉 happyacoach.com/newsletter
➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
happyacoach.com
💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com
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Episode 2: Harmonise Your Authenticity – Aligning with Your True Self 🌟
Welcome back to The Happya Life Podcast and our special Blooming Happya Anniversary Series! In this episode, Clare Deacon dives deep into the first Happya principle: Harmonise Your Authenticity.
Authenticity can feel elusive, between juggling responsibilities, meeting expectations, and navigating life’s twists and turns, we often lose touch with who we truly are. Clare shares her personal journey of rediscovery and introduces practical tools to help you peel back the layers, let go of self-doubt, and reconnect with your authentic self without apology.
In this episode, you’ll discover:✨ How to uncover your true self amidst life's noise.
✨ The power of the Mirror Reflection exercise to reconnect with yourself.
✨ How to recognise and quiet your inner critic.
✨ Steps to challenge inherited beliefs and create a life aligned with your values.
Don't forget! Download your free Blooming Happya Bonus Workbook to take this journey even deeper. Available as a digital download or in print on Amazon.
Remember: Harmonising your authenticity isn’t about perfection it’s about taking small, intentional steps to be more you.
Listen now and take your first step towards embracing your true self!
Subscribe, share, and leave a review to support your Happya journey.
Ready to start your Happya journey? ✨Begin with Blooming Happya Grow, Flourish and Thrive Beyond Survival your essential guide to moving beyond survival and into thriving. Available now on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1399974475.
Want to dive deeper? The Blooming Happya Bonus Workbooks offer practical exercises to help you start implementing the principles in your daily life. Get yours delivered straight to your inbox here: https://www.happyacoach.com/bloomingbonus, or purchase a physical copy on Amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/0dFhC2u.
If you're ready to take the next step and explore how I can support you one-on-one, let’s chat! Book your free call here: https://www.happyacoach.com/discovery-call.
🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support
➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore
➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach
➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat
➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
👉 happyacoach.com/newsletter
➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
happyacoach.com
💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com
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Celebrating One Year of Blooming Happya: From Survival to Thriving
Welcome to a very special anniversary episode of The Happya Life Podcast! Join Clare Deacon as she celebrates one year since the launch of her Amazon #1 best-selling book, Blooming Happya: Grow, Flourish, Thrive – Beyond Survival.
In this heartfelt episode, Clare reflects on her transformative journey, from a simple heart-shaped post-it note dream to becoming a two-time bestselling author. Discover the six Happya principles: Harmonise Your Authenticity, Acknowledge Your Emotions, Preserve Your Space, Process and Release, Yes to Your Dreams, and Activate Your Life and how they can help you move beyond survival into a life of alignment, joy, and purpose.
Tune in to:
✨ Explore the powerful lessons behind the Happya philosophy.
✨ Learn how small steps can lead to big transformations.
✨ Discover actionable insights for embracing your true self.
Whether you’re feeling stuck in the Eye of the Storm, ready to rebuild in the Aftermath, or thriving beyond it, this episode will inspire you to take the next step toward your Happya life.
👉 Don’t forget to subscribe, share with a friend, and join Clare tomorrow as she dives into the first principle: Harmonising Your Authenticity.
Ready to start your Happya journey?Begin with Blooming Happya Grow, Flourish and Thrive Beyond Survival your essential guide to moving beyond survival and into thriving. Available now on Amazon: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1399974475.
Want to dive deeper? The Blooming Happya Bonus Workbooks offer practical exercises to help you start implementing the principles in your daily life. Get yours delivered straight to your inbox here: https://www.happyacoach.com/bloomingbonus, or purchase a physical copy on Amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/0dFhC2u.
If you're ready to take the next step and explore how I can support you one-on-one, let’s chat! Book your free discovery call here: https://www.happyacoach.com/discovery-call.
🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support
➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore
➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach
➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat
➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
👉 happyacoach.com/newsletter
➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
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💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com
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Episode 28: Small Steps, Big Shifts - Focus on Gentle Progress
Are you tired of feeling overwhelmed by big goals and resolutions that never seem to stick? In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, we’re diving into a gentler, more sustainable approach to change one that’s rooted in small, meaningful steps that create lasting shifts.
If you've ever felt stuck, frustrated, or unsure where to start, this episode is for you. Together, we’ll explore how to move away from the pressure of "all or nothing" thinking and embrace progress in a way that feels achievable and kind. You’ll learn why nervous system regulation is the first step, not the last, and how to build momentum without burnout.
We’ll also be celebrating the upcoming Blooming Happya Anniversary Special, where I’ll be guiding you through a week of daily episodes packed with practical tools and insights to support your well-being so consider this your gentle warm-up.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
✨ Why small steps are the key to sustainable growth (and the neuroscience behind it).
✨ How to break free from self-sabotage and overwhelm.
✨ Practical ways to take gentle steps toward your goals, without guilt or burnout.
✨ Real-life stories of transformation through small, intentional actions.
✨ A sneak peek into the Blooming Happya Anniversary Special and how you can get involved!
Whether you're looking to improve your well-being, set healthier boundaries, or simply show up for yourself in a more compassionate way, this episode will remind you that gentle progress is still progress.
Are you ready to take one small step today? Press play and let’s get started.
Don’t forget to connect with me on Instagram @happyacoach and share your biggest takeaway from today’s episode. I’d love to hear from you!
👉 If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to leave a review and share it with a friend who might need this gentle reminder.
🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support
➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore
➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach
➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat
➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
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➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
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💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com
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In a world that glorifies hustle and productivity, when was the last time you gave yourself permission to pause? In this episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon dives deep into the true meaning of self-care, beyond the bubble baths and candles. She explores how self-care is not a luxury, but a lifeline that keeps you grounded in the storm of life’s demands.
Whether you’re in survival mode, just trying to keep your head above water, or feeling ready to step into growth, this episode will help you redefine self-care to meet your needs. Clare shares practical tips for recognising burnout, grounding yourself, and replenishing your energy using her Happya Survival Kit framework, a tool designed to recharge the four key batteries of your well-being: physical, emotional, mental, and social.
👉 In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why self-care isn’t a reward it’s a requirement.
- The signs of being stuck in survival mode and how to stabilise yourself.
- How to recharge your energy with small, intentional actions.
- Why you need to let go of the myth of “holding it all together.”
💬 Clare’s grounding techniques and recharge rituals will help you:
- Break free from burnout.
- Prioritise your well-being without guilt.
- Create a self-care routine that evolves with your life.
If you’re feeling drained, stuck, or overwhelmed, this episode is your permission to pause, recharge, and reconnect.
✨ Ready to go deeper? Learn more about The Happya Survival Kit course, a personalised, evolving well-being toolkit at https://happyacoach.com/survivalkit.
🎧 Listen now and start giving yourself the care you need to thrive.
🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support
➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore
➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach
➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat
➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
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➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
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💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com
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In this heartfelt episode of The Happya Life Podcast, Clare Deacon shares a compassionate reminder for those feeling overwhelmed by life’s demands, especially at the start of a new year. While the world shouts, "New Year, New You!" and encourages relentless goal-chasing, Clare invites listeners to pause and reflect on a gentler approach.
Drawing from her personal experiences with grief and recovery, Clare introduces the concept of survival mode, when life’s storms feel relentless, and self-care seems out of reach. She explains how grounding techniques and a shift in perspective can help you find your footing, calm the chaos, and rebuild with resilience. This episode is a soothing antidote to hustle culture, offering practical steps to rest, reset, and regain balance.
Whether you’re feeling stuck under the weight of unachievable expectations or ready to take on new challenges but unsure of your foundation, this episode will resonate. Learn how to stabilise your well-being, reconnect with yourself, and take small, intentional steps towards a thriving life beyond survival.
Key Takeaways: 🌪 Understanding survival mode and its impact on your mind and body.
🌱 Grounding practices to calm your nervous system and regain clarity.
☕ Practical tips to reset and recharge after the holiday overwhelm.
🌈 Building a Happya Survival Kit to sustain your growth journey.
Join Clare on this empowering journey as she helps you move through the storm and into a calmer, more intentional way of living. Let’s leave the hustle behind and focus on what truly matters, YOU.
GET YOUR FREE GUIDE: Discover Your Happya: Reclaim Your Well-being Through Self-Care. Download https://happyacoach.com/selfcare
DISCOVER: Happya Survival Kit: Loving Yourself Beyond Survival. https://happyacoach.com/survivalkit
🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support
➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore
➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach
➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat
➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
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➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
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💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com
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As we step into 2025, it is the perfect time to reflect on the highs and lows of 2024, reset your focus, and thrive with intentional growth. In this episode, I guide you through the power of reflection, showing how to look back with curiosity and compassion to learn from your journey.
We explore why New Year’s resolutions often fail and how to set meaningful, values-driven intentions that inspire sustainable and lasting change. Along the way, I share practical tools, relatable stories, and insights from positive psychology to help you manage your emotions, overcome fear, and show up for yourself throughout the year ahead.
To help you take action, here are some of the questions we cover:
- What moments in 2024 made me feel proud?
- What drained my energy, and how can I protect myself from it?
- What am I ready to let go of, and what habits do I want to nurture?
- How can I set intentions that align with my values, like connection, growth, or balance?
- What is one small step I can take today to honour my needs and move forward?
Whether your focus is balance, connection, or growth, this episode is your guide to crafting a purposeful and Happya life in 2025.
Connect with Clare:
✨ Follow me on Instagram: @happyacoach
✨ Learn more at happyacoach.com
🌸 Let’s Stay Connected: Your Healing Journey Deserves Support
➤ Read Clare’s Book: Blooming Happya
Discover the story, tools, and transformation that started it all.
👉 happyacoach.com/bookstore
➤ 📲 Follow Clare on Instagram (Daily Truths + Real Talk):
@happyacoach
➤ 🎙️ Book a Free Clarity Call:
Need guidance, grounding, or space to speak? Let's talk.
👉 happyacoach.com/chat
➤ 📩 Join the Happya® Newsletter (Tools + Notes from Clare):
Weekly soul-checks, real-life insights, and practical tools.
👉 happyacoach.com/newsletter
➤ 🌐 Explore More at:
happyacoach.com
💌 Email Clare Directly: clare@happyacoach.com
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Welcome back, lovely listeners, to another episode of the Happya Life Podcast. I’m Clare Deacon, your host and guide on this journey to living a happier, more fulfilling life. Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s essential for anyone feeling lost or seeking direction: finding your life’s purpose. If you’ve ever felt directionless and wondered how to discover your “why,” this episode is for you.
In this episode, I’ll share personal stories, exercises, and a whole lot of encouragement to help you uncover your life’s purpose. We’ll explore what life’s purpose is, its impact on our well-being, and practical strategies to embark on a journey of self-discovery. Join me as we uncover how to embrace a fulfilling and directed life by finding your purpose.
Key Segments:
- Understanding Life’s Purpose: Discover what life’s purpose is and why it’s crucial for leading a fulfilling life.
- The Impact of Feeling Lost: Learn about the emotional and mental effects of feeling lost and directionless.
- Exercises for Self-Discovery: Explore various exercises such as journaling, meditation, and vision boards to help you discover your life’s purpose.
- Inspiring Stories: Hear stories of individuals who successfully found their purpose and transformed their lives.
- Actionable Tips for Discovering Life’s Purpose: Get specific strategies to help you find your purpose, including identifying passions, exploring interests, and seeking feedback.
To discover more about how you can find your life’s purpose, checkout the resources on our website or dm the word PURPOSE. It’s a great resource to help you get started and deepen your self-discovery practice. Visit our website to learn more and join the Happya community for support and resources. Remember, you have the power to discover your life’s purpose and create a fulfilling, directed life. Take care and be well!
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Welcome back, lovely listeners, to another episode of the Happya Life Podcast. I’m Clare Deacon, your host and guide on this journey to living a happier, more fulfilling life. Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s often difficult to discuss but incredibly important: overcoming guilt and shame to heal emotional wounds. If you’ve ever struggled with feelings of guilt and shame and wondered how to foster self-compassion, this episode is for you.
In this episode, I’ll share personal stories and therapeutic techniques to help you heal and embrace self-compassion. We’ll explore what guilt and shame are, their impact on our health and well-being, and practical strategies to overcome these emotions. Join me as we uncover how to embrace a life filled with self-compassion and healing.
Key Segments:
- Understanding Guilt and Shame: Discover what guilt and shame are, how they differ, and why it’s crucial to address these emotions.
- The Effects of Guilt and Shame: Learn about the long-term effects of unresolved guilt and shame on mental and physical health, self-esteem, and relationships.
- Healing Emotional Wounds: Explore therapeutic techniques such as cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT), mindfulness, and self-compassion exercises, and learn how to integrate them into daily life.
- Fostering Self-Compassion: Get practical steps to develop self-compassion, including practicing self-kindness, recognising common humanity, and mindfulness.
- Actionable Tips for Overcoming Guilt and Shame: Find out specific strategies to manage and overcome guilt and shame, such as journaling, seeking professional help, and joining support groups.
To discover more about how you can overcome guilt and shame, sign up for support groups or therapy sessions available on our website. These resources can provide additional support and help you on your journey to healing. Visit our website to learn more and join the Happya community for support and resources. Remember, you have the power to overcome guilt and shame and create a life filled with self-compassion and healing. Take care and be well!
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Welcome back, lovely listeners, to another episode of the Happya Life Podcast. I’m Clare Deacon, your host and guide on this journey to living a happier, more fulfilling life. Today, we’re diving into the transformative power of mindfulness and how to integrate it into your daily life. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by stress and sought a way to increase your calm and present-moment awareness, this episode is for you.
In this episode, I’ll share personal stories and actionable tips to help you integrate mindfulness into your daily routine. We’ll explore what mindfulness is, its impact on our health and well-being, and practical strategies to develop a mindfulness practice. Join me as we uncover how to embrace a calm and present life through mindfulness.
Key Segments:
- Understanding Mindfulness: Discover what mindfulness is, how it manifests, and why it’s crucial for reducing stress and enhancing present-moment awareness.
- Benefits of Mindfulness: Learn about the short-term and long-term benefits of practicing mindfulness on mental and physical health, relationships, and overall well-being.
- Techniques for Mindfulness: Explore various mindfulness techniques such as meditation, mindful breathing, and mindful living, and learn how to integrate them into daily life.
- Mindfulness in Daily Life: Get practical steps to incorporate mindfulness into everyday activities like eating, walking, and listening.
- Actionable Tips for Mindfulness Practice: Find out specific strategies to enhance mindfulness practice, including setting aside time for meditation, using mindfulness apps, and joining mindfulness groups.
To discover more about how you can integrate mindfulness into your daily life get in touch for a guided meditation delivered to your inbox. Visit our website to learn more and join the Happya community for support and resources. Remember, you have the power to create a calm and present life. Take care and be well!
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Welcome back, lovely listeners, to another episode of the Happya Life Podcast. I’m Clare Deacon, your host and guide on this journey to living a happier, more fulfilling life. Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s incredibly important: building resilience and finding strength in adversity. If you’ve ever faced continuous challenges and wondered how to develop a resilient mindset, this episode is for you.
In this episode, I’ll share personal stories and actionable tips to help you build resilience and thrive despite adversity. We’ll explore what resilience is, its impact on our health and well-being, and practical strategies to develop a resilient mindset. Join me as we uncover how to embrace a flourishing life by building resilience and overcoming challenges.
Key Segments:
- Understanding Resilience: Discover what resilience is, how it manifests, and why it’s crucial for overcoming challenges.
- The Impact of Adversity: Learn about the long-term effects of facing continuous challenges on mental and physical health, relationships, and overall well-being.
- Developing a Resilient Mindset: Find out how to shift from a fixed mindset to a resilient mindset and view challenges as opportunities for growth.
- Building Resilience: Explore actionable steps to develop resilience, including self-care, goal setting, and embracing flexibility.
- Actionable Tips to Strengthen Resilience: Get practical strategies to develop and strengthen resilience, such as maintaining a positive outlook, finding purpose in adversity, and seeking professional help.
To discover more about how you can build resilience, check out my book, "Blooming Happya." It’s filled with practical advice, inspiring stories, and strategies to help you thrive. Visit our website to learn more and join the Happya community for support and resources. Remember, you have the power to build resilience and create a thriving, fulfilling life. Take care and be well!
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Welcome back, lovely listeners, to another episode of the Happya Life Podcast. I’m Clare Deacon, your host and guide on this journey to living a happier, more fulfilling life. Today, we’re exploring the incredible power of positive psychology and how it can provide us with practical tools to enhance our well-being and overall happiness. If you’re seeking personal growth and a way to move beyond mere survival, this episode is for you.
In this episode, I’ll introduce you to the core principles of positive psychology and explain why it’s foundational to the Happya philosophy. We’ll discuss how positive psychology helps us avoid the “trauma swamp” by focusing on our strengths and resources, enabling us to move beyond mere survival to thriving and flourishing. You’ll learn about the benefits of positive psychology, supported by research, and discover practical tools and techniques you can start using today to improve your mental and emotional well-being.
Key Segments:
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Understanding Positive Psychology: Learn what positive psychology is, its core principles, and how it differs from traditional psychology by focusing on strengths and well-being.
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Benefits of Positive Psychology: Discover the numerous benefits of positive psychology, including increased happiness, improved mental health, and greater life satisfaction.
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Practical Tools and Techniques: Get introduced to powerful tools such as gratitude practice, strengths identification, positive affirmations, mindfulness, and acts of kindness, and learn how to integrate them into your daily life.
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Real-Life Applications and Stories: Hear real-life examples and stories of individuals who have transformed their lives by applying positive psychology principles and understand how these tools can make a real difference.
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Incorporating Positive Psychology into Daily Life: Find out how to set realistic goals, create a positive environment, and make continuous learning a part of your journey to happiness and well-being.
I encourage you to explore these concepts further in my book, "Blooming Happya." It’s filled with practical advice, inspiring stories, and exercises to help you embrace positive psychology and create a flourishing life. Visit our website to learn more and join the Happya community for additional resources and support. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with your friends and family. Remember, you have the power to create a happya, flourishing life. Take care and be well!
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Welcome back, to another episode of the Happya Life Podcast. I’m Clare Deacon, your host and guide on this journey to living a happier, more fulfilling life. Today, we’re diving into a topic that affects us all at some point: navigating life’s transitions and coping with change. Whether you’re dealing with a career transition, a relationship change, or a personal loss, this episode is for you.
In this episode, I’ll offer strategies to cope with significant life changes, sharing personal stories and expert advice to provide comfort and practical steps. We’ll explore what life transitions are, the common emotional and psychological impacts they bring, and how to embrace these changes as opportunities for growth and self-discovery. You’ll learn practical tools to manage stress, build resilience, and create a sense of stability and direction during times of change.
Key Segments:
- Understanding Life Transitions: Discover what life transitions are and their impact on our emotional and psychological well-being.
- Coping Strategies for Life Transitions: Learn practical strategies for coping with change, including acceptance, self-care, seeking support, mindfulness, and goal setting.
- Personal Stories and Expert Advice: Hear personal anecdotes and expert insights on successfully navigating life transitions, highlighting the importance of resilience and adaptability.
- Practical Steps to Implement Coping Strategies: Get actionable steps to implement coping strategies, such as journaling, creating routines, connecting with others, and embracing learning and growth.
- The Benefits of Navigating Transitions Successfully: Understand the long-term benefits of successfully navigating transitions, including increased resilience, personal growth, and improved well-being.
I encourage you to explore these concepts further in my book, "Blooming Happya." It’s filled with practical advice, inspiring stories, and exercises to help you navigate life’s transitions with confidence and grace. Visit our website to read the related blog post with additional tips and resources. Join the Happya community for support and resources as you embrace change and move forward with confidence. Remember, you have the strength to navigate any transition and the power to create a fulfilling life. Take care and be well!
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Welcome back, to another episode of the Happya Life Podcast. I’m Clare Deacon, your host and guide on this journey to living a happier, more fulfilling life. Today, we’re diving into a topic that is incredibly close to my heart: the power of authenticity and how embracing your true self can lead to a more fulfilling life. If you’ve ever struggled with self-acceptance or felt like you’re not living your true self, this episode is for you.
In this episode, I’ll share personal stories, positive psychology principles, and insights from the Happya philosophy to help you embrace your authenticity and feel confident in who you are. We’ll explore what authenticity means, its importance, and practical steps to harmonise your outer life with your inner truth. You’ll learn how to overcome societal expectations, practice self-compassion, and pursue your passions, all of which can transform your life into one that is deeply fulfilling and true to yourself.
Key Segments:
- Understanding Authenticity: Discover what authenticity really means and how living in alignment with your true self can bring inner peace and fulfilment.
- The Importance of Self-Acceptance: Learn about the barriers to self-acceptance and techniques to foster it, such as writing a letter to yourself to acknowledge your strengths and achievements.
- The Power of Authenticity: Explore the profound impact of living authentically, including improved mental well-being, stronger relationships, and greater life satisfaction.
- Happya Philosophy - Harmonising Your Authenticity: Understand the first principle of the Happya philosophy, "Harmonising Your Authenticity," and practical ways to implement it in daily life.
- The Benefits of Living Authentically: Discuss the long-term benefits of authenticity, including reduced stress, increased resilience, and a deeper sense of purpose.
I encourage you to explore these concepts further in my book, "Blooming Happya." It’s filled with practical advice, inspiring stories, and exercises to help you embrace your true self with confidence. Visit our website to learn more. Remember, you are beautiful, you are worthy, and you are enough. Take care and be well!
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Welcome back, lovely listeners, to another episode of the Happya Life Podcast. I’m Clare Deacon, your host and guide on this journey to living a happier, more fulfilling life. Today, we’re diving into a topic that I’m deeply passionate about: breaking free from survival mode and learning how to thrive. If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or just plain exhausted, this episode is for you.
In this episode, I’ll share personal stories and actionable tips to help you transition from merely surviving to truly thriving. We’ll explore what survival mode is, its impact on our health and well-being, and the real possibility of growth after trauma, known as post-traumatic growth. You’ll learn how to shift your mindset, build resilience, and implement practical strategies to create a more empowered and motivated version of yourself. Join me as we uncover how to embrace a flourishing life beyond survival.
Key Segments:
· Understanding Survival Mode: Discover what survival mode is, how it manifests, and why it doesn’t have to be a permanent state.
· The Impact of Survival Mode: Learn about the long-term effects of survival mode on mental and physical health, relationships, and overall well-being.
· The Mindset Shift: Find out how to shift from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset and view challenges as opportunities for growth.
· Building Resilience: Explore actionable steps to develop resilience, including self-care, goal setting, and embracing flexibility.
· Actionable Tips to Thrive: Get practical strategies to transition from surviving to thriving, such as setting clear goals, establishing routines, and celebrating small wins.
Call to Action: To discover more about how you can move on from survival, check out my book, "Blooming Happya." It’s filled with practical advice, inspiring stories, and strategies to help you thrive. Visit our website to learn more and join the Happya community for support and resources. Remember, you have the power to break free from survival mode and create a thriving, fulfilling life. Take care and be well!
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Welcome to another episode of the Happya Life podcast. I'm your host Clare Deacon, and today, we're diving deep into the topic of anxiety and exploring strategies for finding inner peace. As Mental Health Awareness Week continues, it's essential to shine a light on the state of mental health in the UK, especially amidst the challenges brought about by the pandemic. We'll discuss the significance of positive psychology in navigating anxiety, share personal experiences, and provide actionable steps you can take to soothe your anxiety and reclaim your well-being. So, whether you're looking to manage your own anxiety or support a loved one, stay tuned for valuable insights and inspiration. Let's dive in!.
Over the past few years, we've witnessed a concerning trend of deteriorating mental health among individuals in the UK. The pressures of modern life, coupled with the challenges brought about by the pandemic, have taken a significant toll on our well-being. The traditional mental health system often approaches mental health from an illness ideology, focusing solely on treating symptoms rather than addressing underlying causes which simply offer short-term relief only before issues come back more intensively.
At Happya, we believe in a different approach. We're dedicated to providing
resources and support to help you combat the effects of anxiety and other
mental health challenges so that you can live a healthier, happier life. Our
goal is to empower you to take control of your mental well-being and thrive,
not just survive. Our approach is grounded in positive psychology, which
focuses on building strengths and fostering resilience rather than just
treating symptoms.
Positive psychology offers a unique lens through which we can view mental health and well-being. Instead of dwelling on past traumas or problems, positive psychology encourages us to focus on our strengths, values, and aspirations. It's about moving forward, not getting stuck in the past.
I understand firsthand the limitations of traditional therapy approaches when it comes to trauma. When I was going through my own process of recovery from trauma, I found myself continually swimming in my own swamp of trauma. I didn't want to spend sessions going over old wounds, reliving painful memories, but I did need to acknowledge them and let go in order to allow them to heal. That's where positive psychology made all the difference.
Our trauma-informed approach at Happya acknowledges the impact of past traumas while also focusing on building resilience and fostering healing. It's about creating a safe space where you can explore your experiences without retraumatising yourself. We don't ignore the past, but we also don't let it define your future.
I've seen countless individuals give up on therapy because they felt like it wasn't working or because they believed they were too broken to change. But the truth is, healing is possible, and positive psychology offers a pathway forward. It's about empowering individuals to reclaim their lives, to find joy and purpose even in the face of adversity. It isn’t them who have failed it is the system.
No matter your starting point there are always going to be steps you will need to take to not only maintain but improve your wellbeing and during mental health awareness we are focusing on anxiety.
Let's dive into our discussion about anxiety. Anxiety is a natural response to stress and can manifest in various ways, from persistent worry to physical symptoms like rapid heartbeat and muscle tension. While occasional anxiety is normal, chronic, or excessive anxiety can interfere
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Discover the transformative insights from the latest Mental State of the World Report in 'The UK's Wellbeing Wake-Up Call and the Happya Solution' podcast episode.
Unveiled findings show the UK near the bottom in global mental wellbeing rankings, highlighting the urgent need for change. This episode delves into the root causes of the UK's mental health challenges, from smartphone dependency to the breakdown of family units, and introduces the pioneering Happya philosophy as a vital remedy.
Join me as we explore how adopting principles of positive psychology can rebuild our mental landscape, offering practical steps for individuals and society to flourish.
Tune in to embark on a journey towards a happier, more fulfilling life with Happya.
Ref: The Mental State of the World in 2023, Global Mind Project, March 4, 2024
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Welcome to an exclusive conversation with me, Clare, the proud author of the No.1 bestselling book 'Blooming Happya'.
Join me as I sit down with Odette Mould, the incredible founder of Harry's Rainbow, in anticipation of our upcoming Blooming Happya Charity Book Launch Party. This event is not just about celebrating the launch of my book; it's a heartfelt journey of resilience, inspiration, and giving back.
As we delve into our personal stories of triumph over adversity and the profound impact of community support, we invite you to be part of this transformative experience.
Our goal? To spread joy, inspire hope, and raise vital funds for Harry's Rainbow, a cause close to our hearts.
Save the date: February 29, 2024, at Sultans Restaurant, Milton Keynes. Visit https://www.happyacoach.com/event to secure your tickets and join us in this unforgettable celebration of life, love, and Blooming Happya!
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Well hello and welcome back so in today’s episode I’ve decided to do something a little different and wanted to share with you a meditation to help you free your mind from anxiety and worry.
It’s a little different from our usual episode but hopefully something you will find beneficial.
This mediation has been designed to release the feelings and thoughts that are no longer serving you. We are often held back from taking action, from allowing ourselves to be who we really are or to take a step towards our goals because of some hidden beliefs we are holding onto. We hold onto these beliefs through fear in the false belief that it will keep us safe. Now it’s time to let go.
So, before we begin, I want you to make sure you won’t be disturbed, turn off your notifications and make yourself comfortable. This is your time.
This meditation should only be played when it is safe to do so, it should not be played when driving or undertaking any other activity.
I’d highly recommend listening to the mediation through headphones to enhance your experience but whatever is most comfortable for you.
So, if you are ready, make yourself comfortable, and begin to concentrate on your breathing.
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In this episode, we will be exploring the power of self-love, what it is and why it is important, the barriers to self-love and I will then be sharing some expert tips for building self-love a foundation for happiness. So, whether you are a seasoned practitioner of self-love or looking to improve the relationship you have with yourself I hope you find this episode helpful and inspiring.
Self- Love is a critical component of our psychological wellbeing and a key factor in our ability to live a happy and fulfilling life. It’s about embracing our unique qualities, acceptance of our flaws, forgiveness of our mistakes and holding ourselves in positive regards, holding value in ourselves, and acknowledging our worth.
10 ideas for improving your self love.
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Practice self care
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Manage the self talk
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Self reflect with journalling
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Express gratitude
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Spend time in nature
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Treat yourself
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Surround yourself with positive people
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Learn something new
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Set goals towards your dream
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Engage in acts of kindness.
Remember self-love and happiness are a journey, not a destination. It takes time to build a positive relationship with yourself, but with effort and dedication, you can find self-love and live a fulfilling life.
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Whether it’s losing weight, quitting smoking, saving money, changing career, we all know the struggle of turning our good intentions into lasting change. It’s not just about having the willpower, it’s about understanding the science behind habit formation and learning from our past failures. In this episode I will be sharing with you how best to ensure you can change your habits and achieve your goals. So, whether you’re just setting out on your resolution journey or you’re feeling a little stuck, this podcast is here to help you make this year the year you finally achieve your goals.
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Welcome back to another episode of the happy life podcast, this week I want to talk about the feelings of anxiety, stress and overwhelm especially at this time of year.
I have been working with clients this week and catching up with my peers in business and am already seeing the impact this is having on people’s wellbeing.
The demands of everyday life, with the worries of all that is going on in the world on top of the demands and expectations of the season are a lot to bear.
In this episode of the Happya Life I am going to be talking to you about festive anxiety, why it happens, what it looks like and how you can support yourself, so you don’t arrive at Christmas day feeling drained.
So, for those times when the anxiety is becoming too much here are 3 ways in which you attempt to reduce its impact on you.
The first is a breathing technique, yes I want you to breathe and you will be surprised at how bad we are at something we do all day everyday!
So. Get comfortable. Place one hand on your stomach and the other on your chest. Breathe in through your nose for the count of 4, deeply enough that the hand on your stomach rises. Hold the breath for a count of 4, and then exhale slowly through your mouth for the count of 6 as though you are breathing through a straw. Do this practice for a few minutes and you should feel the symptoms reduce.
An alternative is to use muscle relaxation. Take yourself through process of tensing and releasing your muscles throughout the body. This is a technique I use in hypnotherapy. Using this technique will enable you to recognise feelings of anxiety by noticing where in your body your muscles feel really tense. Understanding your body’s signals means you can respond to them earlier and mastering these techniques will enable you to release the tension that much quicker.
A third technique is to Challenge the irrational thinking
This is a technique used in therapy when you have a triggering thought you explore that thought against your rationale logic. Ask yourself is my thinking based on fact or feeling? How likely is it that my fear will happen? What is most likely to happen? If my fear did come true, how would I handle it? By using a rational thought process, it can assist in gaining perspective and a sense of control.
Hopefully these will help you in managing those symptoms and enable you to find some release.
Top tips
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When these feelings arise – acknowledge them, understand what they are telling you so you can provide the reassurance you need.
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Increase your self-care at this time of year, we all need a little more love and attention.
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Decide what is important to you this festive season and establish your boundaries accordingly.
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Be prepared for situations where you are aware you may be triggered.
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Prioritise your schedule so you avoid overwhelm and burnout.
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Reach out for support, delegate, and importantly accept help!
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Give yourself permission to say NO!
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It can be so difficult to get motivated and gain momentum especially when you feel like there is a mountain ahead of you or perhaps you can’t even see the mountain because you are surrounded by a fog. The past few years have been a huge energy drain for many of us. It has left a lot of us feeling sluggish and to be honest the near future looks like its going to continue to be challenging for many. It’s a time when we want to go into hiding to succumb to our fears and wait for the storm to pass.
But this isn’t the time for inaction this is the time when we need take steps to look after our mental wellbeing. Never has it been more important.
So here are five steps and they are all simple steps so no excuses for getting started, no need to challenge them just get started.
Firstly, I want you to consider your commitment to your wellbeing and taking care of you. How do you want to think, feel, and show up for life? What investment are you prepared to make in supporting yourself – this doesn’t have to be financial it may mean committing as little as 10 minutes a day to taking action to improve your wellbeing.
Tune into the episode to find out more...
Finally, I want you to start a gratitude jar where each day you write down at least 3 things you are grateful for, put them in the jar and on days when things just seem hard, and you are finding yourself lost you can take out some of the papers and read what you have to be grateful for.
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Sometimes we invite people to offer their opinion on a decision we are making, other times people offer their unsolicited opinions either indirectly or directly.
You are a free and independent person who is capable of determining how you want to live, of living a life that is best for you. Sometimes you will find people who will try and tell you how you should live, what you should do and we may not want to disappoint them but we need to stand strong. This is not their life. They have a different set of values, a different set of goals, a different view of the world.
So this week instead of taking onboard the opinions and values of others I want you to think about how you feel about your life, how you want to live, what your instinct is telling you about what you want to do. Do you feel calm? Do you feel energised by what you are doing? Are you being kind? If you can answer yes to these questions, you can be assured that even if others have a different view, it doesn’t matter, as long as you are enjoying your life and being kind, you are on the right path.
You may have spent a lifetime trying to please others, to live up to their standard but it never works, it doesn’t make you or them happy. It doesn’t allow you or them to grow. So, make a decision to live a life that makes you feel good. Even though others may have opinions – let them go.
Love. Accept. Respect. Trust yourself in the decisions you are making and if at any point you make a wrong decision you learn from it and you forgive yourself.
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So what is it that holds us back?
Simply making the commitment to make the change is not enough, wanting it is not enough. You have to truly believe that you can make it happen and on a surface level you may think you have this box ticked you may hold a believe that you can do this but what you wont be conscious of are those hidden beliefs you hold.
The decluttering process allows you to unlock those beliefs you are holding onto of which you may or may not be aware of so you can get closer to what you truly want.
Letting go of your self-limiting beliefs enables you to close the gap between what you believe you can or should do (watch out for the should)! And what you actually want to achieve. Closing the gap enables you to continue on your journey towards success without having to rely on willpower to enable you to leap over the gap. If you do attempt to override the system, the likelihood is you will fall through the gap.
So how do we close the gap? How can we do that decluttering process?
Here are 3 steps you can take in the decluttering process; these steps will help close the gap in the path so you can continue your journey.
These steps are an ongoing process you will constantly discover new beliefs you weren’t aware you have and as you grow and move forward to the next level you will find yourself needing to go through the stages again.
Step 1 Uncover what those limiting beliefs are – pull out the boxes and see what they contain
Step 2 Send the contents away make the conscious decision to let go of them.
Step 3 Fill the boxes with the contents – the belief system that is going to support you in achieving your goals.
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In today’s episode I really want to explore something that I hear so often. It seems commonplace to get to a point in one’s life where we become a little bit lost and disconnected from who we are. I often ask clients ,whatever reason has brought them to come and see me, I ask them what they want. And for some this can be a huge barrier, one which sometimes we are not even be aware of and it can be quite uncomfortable to realise that, for some this will ignite the defence mechanism we have engineered whilst others may feel a little stuck and we have to work at uncovering what it is for them.
Obviously, there are those that come to me for coaching and are looking for accountability towards achieving their goals and they often have more clarity over what they want but even so we usually uncover something where they’re not quite sure why they want it, and it turns out its more of a should statement.
It’s inevitable really that overtime we become conditioned to our environment and the expectations of society and our local community. The people we surround ourselves by help shape our views but with each of the inputs coming into our world means we compromise our thoughts and even our emotions are no longer pure and we can loose sight of what is truly our own wants, needs, desires, and feelings. For those of you who are empaths you will be susceptible to taking on board other peoples feelings and emotions to a much greater depth than others. If you spend time with enthusiastic and energised people you will feel that too in a way that makes it difficult to distinguish the difference between what is their energy and what is your own. Which can certainly have its benefits but there’s also a consequence where you may take on feelings of stress and overwhelm that aren’t yours, you may feel angry and not sure why because it isn’t your anger to be felt it is someone else’s so its really important to be aware of what you take on board from others.
So, on our life journey there are many twists and turns and we enter into different relationships and we may become parents or work in different environments and different cultures and experience different things, all that shapes the way we think and inevitably we find ourselves compromising to fit in, to be part of the community. Social media is obviously another really strong influence in our lives these days but before painting it as the devil we need to remember that we have always had these external influences whether it was television or gaming or radio, and newspapers. Any form of media will shape our views and not only is it important that we are aware of the source of this information and how that shapes the messages being given but we also need to be conscious of our own identity and our own beliefs. There is only so much information that can be held in the conscious part of our brains, so every piece of information needs to be assessed as to whether it gets taken on board and our brain very quickly files it!
So, anything considered not of value is forgotten, anything not considered an immediate need is put into a store and the information is blended into what is already exists.
Stop shoulding all over yourself!
Forget what you should do. If it comes with a should then perhaps you shouldn’t!
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This week saw mental health hitting the headlines with World Mental Health Day the aim of the day is to try and normalise discussions about mental health and wellbeing and to remove the shame and stigma that exists.
So, in recognition of World Mental Health day and those individuals who held a space of non judgement I wanted to explore the judgement around mental health today.
The importance of mental health is something I champion. From my own experience I spent decades holding onto my emotions, hiding from them, squashing them down and building layer upon layer of personality traits to distort from the true version of myself. I employed defence mechanisms that I thought were keeping me safe but were really just keeping the damage on the inside until it had taken hold and would then result in me struggling to cope, retreating or displaying irrational behaviours which then added to those feelings of not being good enough.
I was aware I needed help, but it was never my priority. I would set out with all good intentions especially around a new year / new me mantra, but nothing really changed because I wasn’t committed to the action I needed to take. I wasn’t willing to do the hard work. Whilst I continued to hide I thought I was safe, that if I hid from the reality then somehow it just wouldn’t be true. I thought I was being strong for holding on. I thought that if I let go everything would just crumble and I wouldn’t be able to get back again. The reality of course is that by letting go the things that were not supporting me, the things that were doing the damage were released and sent away and the true me, all my positive traits, my strength, my true character were able to breathe, they were able to grow.
If we truly want to change how people perceive mental health and investment in our psychological wellbeing, we all have a responsibility to change our perceptions and what it means to be undertaking the work to exercise our minds. We need to replace those feelings of not being good enough, feelings of shame and vulnerability with feelings of pride, empowerment, of drive and motivation, to be happier, to be bold and brave and strong.
So, if you feel brave enough and safe enough perhaps you can take a moment to hit your social media with a post that says how important it is to work on your own wellbeing and share how you look after your own mental health. What do you do in terms of your own self-care? If you tag me into your post and send me a dm and I will happily send you a something free that will support you on your journey.
There isn’t a top athlete that doesn’t have a psychologist that they work with continuously. Without undertaking that work, without investing their time and money into their mental health they would not be able to reach their physical goals.
Attitude, mindset, and mental wellbeing are a fundamental part of the mind body system, if either are not fully fit it is impossible to reach that no.1 position.
Working on your mental health isn’t only useful when you are in a state of stress, when you have hit a block or are in crisis, it enables us to improve our wellbeing so we can live happier more fulfilling lives, it enables us to grow and to reach our potential.
If you are looking for some support with your own mental health reach out, email me clare@happyacoach.com or dm me @happyacoach check out my website www.happyacoach.com to find free resources
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In this podcast episode we explore the feelings of not being good enough and on occasion maybe we are even a bit too much. Find out how you can be holding yourself back from living your best life.
So if you want to improve your self-esteem and feelings of being good enough, take time to acknowledge your story, understand the source of those beliefs, challenge the judgements you hold and ensure you have appropriate boundaries in place. Then start listening to your needs and stop playing small – its time to take action and live your best life.
For those who want to explore further a number of the topics I have discussed in this podcast episode form part of the reconnect programme, if this is something you would like understand more about, get in touch. I will shortly be opening up a few more spaces where we explore all those feelings of self-doubt and help you reconnect with your inner power so you can identify your true passions and get yourself ready for the life you want to live. If you want to know more contact me on Insta @happyacoach or email clare@happyacoach.com
In this episode I am going to give you an overview of the podcast and what you can expect as well as some insight into my personal journey and what has inspired me towards living a happya life.
So, whether you fear judgement or rejection.
- Are feeling alone and just want to feel heard.
- If you want to believe you are worth more, you want to find a balance between your needs and those of others, to find balance between work and living.
- If you want to find time to care for yourself.
- To gain clarity and focus to set out and achieve your goals.
- To set the right boundaries to protect yourself and prioritise your needs and wants so you are not always compromising for others.
- If you want to change your mindset to acknowledge the positives in your life and let go of the negativity from the past that is holding you back.
- If you want to truly connect with yourself, your passions and gain a sense of meaning and purpose then let this podcast and the happya resources guide you to living your best life.
- Don’t let the overwhelm and anxiety take over, release yourself from things that do not support you in the life you want for yourself.
So, who am I and what makes me qualified to do all that?
I am a positive psychology coach and therapist an entrepreneur and the proud owner of Happya. In recovering from trauma and playing small, conforming to others’ expectations I set out on a journey to change my life and I have never looked back. The journey wasn’t easy, but it’s one that led me to living authentically, with a passion for what I do. Feeling more energised, confident, and aligned to my life. I honour my emotions and feel empowered to keep taking bold action and continue my journey towards success. I hope it is one which will inspire you to embrace your superpowers and fuel your desire and take action.
Welcome to the happya life podcast, I’m Clare Deacon a positive psychology coach and therapist, founder of the happya life wellbeing programme, a no.1 best selling author, entrepreneur, mum, and thriver. After experiencing tragedy, I knew a life of just surviving wasn’t going to be enough, so I set out on a journey to transform my life. A life where I can thrive, not just for me but for my family.
And now I’m on a mission to help others flourish encouraging you to take a positive proactive approach to your mental health and wellbeing, to feel good and live your best life. After all you only get one chance at this and with all the challenges we face in the world a life worth living is worth living well.
In this podcast I will challenge you to take action, to release yourself from what is holding you back. Transport yourself from a life of procrastination, fear and overwhelm to a life where you are empowered.
Check out www.happyacoach.com for further resources and how I can help you.