Wednesday Wisdom: Recent Episodes
Jessica Ophus
Uncover the woman you were born to be in these short talks with Jess. Everything from mom-guilt to burnout, to time management, setting boundaries to female hormones. Every episode is designed to help you learn how to give your family the best of you, not just what's left of you! Disclaimer: I do not prescribe or diagnose anything. This show is informational entertainment and not to be used as medical advice or a replacement for your licensed practitioner.
Holding onto that anger and frustration can be debilitating... but even deeper than that, your anger and frustration may be misguided. I know that's hard to hear, lets talk about it this week!
We are prepared for all kinds of emergencies, so we can avoid a crisis. Fire extinguishers in the kitchen, to prevent the house from burning down. A spare tire in your vehicle to avoid being stranded miles from home. Snacks in your purse to help avoid a Hangry toddler while you're out and about... but what do you do to prevent crisis in YOUR life?
How well do you know yourself? Are you maybe feeling a little disconnected and unsure of who you really are anymore? I get it, I've been there. Let's talk about it today.
Did you know that you are biologically designed to take care of your unborn baby until your body physically cannot anymore? From stealing minerals to help baby develop to creating increased blood cells to support their circulation, as long as mom is healthy, baby will be protected too. Now that your children are earthside, what are you doing to stay well?
We've all heard the phrase feed your soul, but what on earth are you supposed to feed it? Vegetables? Miracle Gro? I'm not sure, let's talk about it a little bit today.
Once you start on a self-development journey, it becomes something you're always doing. Working to be better and evolve. But sometimes we forget that we cannot grow in the midst of chaos, that is when we maintain. Let's talk about it today.
Essential Oils have many wonderful uses! Here are five of my favorites for stress relief.
Sometimes in the hustle and bustle of the day, we forget the most important things. I'm here to remind you today, and every day if that is what it takes.
Infertility affects one in four women, but every woman has a cycle. Half the battle in getting pregnant is knowing when your body is capable of conceiving and when it is not. Let's talk about it this week as we honor infertility warriors.
You have such a good heart, you are willing to do anything for anyone; all they have to do is ask. You will really want to hear this wise advice from one of my favorite TV shows.
We cannot control other people's actions. We cannot pull them out of their storms, but we can stand tall and show them the way. Let's talk about it this week!
Hearing about burnout, exhaustion, and the frustrations of "adulting" is fairly common. However, being able to recognize burnout is something we are not as well versed in. Learn all about the symptoms in today's episode.
Which version of you does this season of life require? Sometimes the season requires a new version of us, one that may need a little stretching and growth. Listen in, I'll explain it all!
Sometimes self-care feels selfish, but it is truly a necessity! If you want to give your family the best of you, you need a full cup!
Balance is that tricky thing everyone keeps trying to accomplish. Maybe it is real, maybe it is just a myth, but I know for sure you won't ever get close if you don't have your priorities straight. Let's talk about it today.
I'll share a story with you today that shows you just how easy it is to give away your power when someone disagrees with your thoughts, opinions, or decisions. Let's work to support one another instead of cutting each other down!
How often do you start a sentence with "I'm sorry but..." More often than not, there is no need to apologize. Let me explain in today's episode.
Are you the kind of person that replays a conversation in your head for days or even weeks after it's happened? Instead of beating yourself up over the could have/should haves, take a minute to learn from those moments. Let every moment bring you closer to Purely You.
We hear a lot about people looking for ways to relieve stress. Stress relief is important, not just for your mental well-being, but your physical health as well. Let's talk about it this week!
We are so quick to beat ourselves up for the one-off decisions we make that are less than the best for our kiddos. What if you could serve your family better by changing a few things you use daily? Small shifts make the biggest change. Let's talk about it today!
Often the thought patterns that tear us down are old and outdated. Unlike clothes that come back into style every few years, those belief systems are not ever going to serve you. Let's work on identifying them, and then releasing them.
So often you go to bed at night with that overwhelming feeling that there is still more that needs to be done. It causes stress, guilt, and frustration! Here's my strategy to avoid this feeling, even as a mom of a newborn!
You know that feeling when you cannot possibly eat one more bite? You're so full you're miserable! We recognize that discomfort and stop eating. But what happens when your schedule is so full you're miserable? Do you stop adding things to it? Or do you live every day at max capacity?
It's a popular sentiment, but I don't love it. Where does one find the newest model of human beings? I don't think they're at Target...
Wednesday Wisdom with Jess has completed season 1! Let's review the top 10 downloaded episodes of 2022.
As the days go by, your priorities and goals are accomplished by what you decide to do. What you choose. If you don't have plans, someone else's plans often become your priority. Going into the new year, what do you choose?
Every New Year, many resolutions are made to "lose weight" or limit calories to be healthier. While I don't usually support number-based weight goals (pounds, calories, pant size, etc), I do support wanting to find physical health while staying well in the mind and soul. Let's talk about one of my favorite strategies to do just that today.
You've heard it said that there is room for everyone in the garden of life. This isn't about that, it's about giving grace to those people in our life who are meant to bloom in a different season.
Sometimes the way we show up in the world is less than desirable. Sometimes we attribute unbecoming traits on the way we were raised or the people we surround ourselves with. The truth is, you get to choose how you show up in the world.
Sometimes the way we show up in the world is less than desirable. Sometimes we attribute unbecoming traits on the way we were raised or the people we surround ourselves with. The truth is, you get to choose how you show up in the world.
Women have always been strong, but the way we show our strength has changed as society has evolved. Take the journey with me today.
Sometimes the epiphanies I help my clients come to provide life lessons for me too. It's one of my favorite things. I share one of those moments with you this week. An epiphany all about the choices people make and how they affect each of us. Give it a listen!
Did you ever lose your parent in the store as a child? That immediate feeling of dread and unease is unforgettable. However, as adults, we may interpret that feeling of unease as anxiety and stress. How do you resolve that feeling? You reconnect with what is lost, in this case, you reconnect with yourself.
When we are faced with two choices, it is common to look at what we would gain from either choice. However, sometimes the real question needs to be, what do you lose if you choose one or the other? Let's chat about it today!
Growth and evolution may require you to question some of your old thought patterns and belief systems. You might have to face some hard truths about the things you believed growing up, and what you believe now. That is okay, in fact, in some cases it is great. It is a sign that you are being fluid in your growth, instead of a stick in the mud. Let's talk about it today!
Have you ever considered how many different varieties of plants and decor are in any of the botanical gardens around the world? Each plant, shrub, vine, and piece of decor is placed in such a way that the garden is in perfect harmony. Each is unique in shape, color, bloom, and purpose, but that uniqueness is what creates such beauty. Which plant are you in the garden of life? One that blooms all year or one that grows fast and tall, or one that provides shade? Each has a purpose and each one is appreciated.
We hear so much criticism in our society, it is often the easiest thought to come to in our own lives. From the way we think about others to our own internal dialogue, criticism comes much easier than compassion. Just because it is easier to criticise does not mean it is better for anyone. Let's talk about it today.
We know our kids are sponges. They hear more than we give them credit for, and they see far more than we are aware of. Your behavior, insecurities, and negative self-talk are not beyond them. I'll share a story with you that is a concrete example of why we must do the work to heal, so our children don't have to.
Today's lifestyle has us addicted to instant gratification. We want things better now, not six months from now. However, there is something to be said for actually getting to the root cause and creating a lasting solution.
Much like a tension headache, or even those hunger pains we get close to lunchtime, pelvic pain has its own purpose. Tune into your body, reflect on what it's telling you, and watch your life change as you learn to work with it, instead of against it. Learning this lesson helped to change my journey with endometriosis, how can it impact your life?
So often we accept something that is common, as something that is normal. That is a slippery slope though. It's one of those, "if all your friends jumped off a cliff, would you too?" situations. Let me explain in today's episode!
I'm so blessed to guide my clients through this journey called life, but what they don't know is often they are guiding me too. This week I share with you the five biggest lessons I have learned while working with my clients.
As the saying goes, if you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always got. Sometimes we use "that's just how I am" as an excuse for not wanting to put in the effort to become better, yet we have a desire to become a better version of ourselves. I'll break it down for you today.
So often we repeat the response, "I'm busy but good" to anyone who asks how we are. Life shouldn't be that way. We have come to glorify busy and forgotten that it is okay to be a human that just is, instead of a human that always does. Let's talk about it this week!
Burnout is a bit of a buzzword lately, but how do you know if you have fallen victim to it? Isn't being tired, stressed, and short-tempered just a part of "adulting?" Maybe not, listen to these examples to know if you need to seek some guidance in recovering from burnout!
Life is about changing and most of the time that is a good thing (without change we'd all still be on horseback!), but just because it is good doesn't mean it is easy. When I moved into a new home with my family I was reminded of all the little things that matter most in the phases of big transition. Whether it's a move, a job change, a new life or new life circumstance, or any other moment of transition, this episode is for you!
Have you ever seen a stagnant pool of water? Notice how it gets cloudy and smelly? Especially compared to water that is flowing! In all that you do, you want to stay flowing instead of stagnant; fresh and clear instead of smelly and murky. If you've been feeling stuck and stagnant for awhile, this one is for you!
Patience is one of those life skills everyone needs and very few people have actually mastered. To be patient is not always easy, but life sure does have a way of giving us many opportunities to figure it out anyway. Perhaps the difficulty comes from our instant gratification society, or maybe it is because to be patient requires so much more of us than to learn how to just wait.
Societal norms may have us believe that after we have checked all the boxes, our growth and development comes to a halt. That is so far from true though! Let's talk about it today.
Working with a coach one-on-one is helpful for so many reasons. Today we talk about the challenge I get to provide you. Having that accountability and someone in your corner who keeps fighting for you all while not allowing you to stay stuck, lie to yourself, or settle back into old habits is a part of what creates that lasting change.
So often we "allow" ourselves to be treated in ways that do no respect our time or our boundaries. It starts small and then all of a sudden we're wondering why certain people think it is okay to take advantage of us. The truth is it is not, we just offered a discount on our worth once or twice and now it's hard to ask full price. Take a listen to help you understand what I mean, and when you're ready to work on defining your worth, book a call with me at www.purelyyouhealing.com
You are a multi-faceted human being, so the practitioners in your life should include a multitude of modalities as well. Keeping yourself well in body, mind, and soul requires experts in each space to be fully well.
We all get the same 24 hours in a day. If you feel like you don't have time to accomplish everything on your to-do list, it might be time for a change of strategy. You can always make more money, but you can never make more time.
Who is Purely You and why do you need to discover her?
Because you want to show up in the world as the best version of yourself that you can be. Not the version of you at school drop off, not the version of you on social media. But the best version of you, the one you're proud of, the one that shows up for your family in a way that makes your heart happy and brings peace to your soul.
Have you ever heard the expression, "stop shoulding on yourself"?
I absolutely love this play on words. Partially because I think it's clever, but also because it is so very very true! Why are we so keen to judge ourselves based on a "should"?
Chasing perfect is a great way to keep you from living your best life. Embracing your strengths and weaknesses will bring you more happiness, peace, and timeless memories.
Early in my nursing career, I allowed myself to become a "yes girl." It quickly lead to burnout early in my career. When I finally learned to say no, I began to realize just how much better I could feel. If you struggle with this, check out this guide:
www.purelyyouhealing.com/sayno
If you've ever seen someone, "get in with the wrong crowd" and begin making poor decisions, you understand how quickly those we spend time with can impact our lives. This episode includes some hard truths about the people we surround ourself with.
Research shows us that our children's brains actually grow bigger and they become more resilient adults when they grow up being shown love. If love changes the way our kids develop, can you imagine the kind of changes it can make in your life too?
Self-care doesn't have to be a weekend spa trip or even require you to spend any money. Here are 30 ways you can take care of yourself at home without spending a lot of money!
So much of what happens in our life is out of our control, but sometimes that is hard to handle. Often, when we feel in over our heads, we tend to micromanage and try to control everything. Today, I'll offer you some perspective on how beneficial it is to let go of that control.
It's Story Time! How did I Become Purely You? We'll go back a few years and talk all about how I got started in this healing space. Fun fact: I wrote a reflection in one of my college classes that said everything I do now, wasn't for me then. Certainly, a lot has changed since then!
There is just something about spring that encourages us to brush those cobwebs out of the corners, wash the windows and say goodbye to those dust bunnies. Have you ever considered how clean the products are that you're using to clean your home? Are you replacing dust with toxins?
As a general rule, we respect other people's property. We respect the boundaries set by a business. We offer other people the respect they ask of us. The question is, how much respect do you demand? What boundaries do you set in your life?
I have heard the phrase from more than one client over the years, "I am broken." Sometimes it's a broken heart, sometimes it's feeling incapable. No matter the cause for the sentiment, I know it to be false. If you've ever uttered these words, this one is for you.
We have seen women have the hard conversations and fight the hard fights in our country since its birth. Even if you're not actively involved in any kind of "movement" we can continue to raise strong women who will have the hard talks and create change. That starts with the things that are a normal part of life. I have some resources that can help you, check it out at www.purelyyouhealing.com/store
As women, we are notorious for putting everyone else before ourselves. Here's the thing sweet girl, if you have ever supported someone or something that encourages peace, happiness, love, and positivity in the world, you need to know that you deserve the same. And you deserve it right now.
March is Endometriosis Awareness Month. I am 1 in 10 people who live with endo, this is how I learned to maintain balance, change my diet, and explore alternative treatments to find pain relief and peace, despite the diagnosis.
Being in relationships brings a set of struggles that only exist between two people who are trying to get along. Often we forget that each person is still an individual. That means they may be growing, evolving, and managing each situation in their own way. A little ebb and flow between the two of you is normal, no matter what kind of relationship it is.
Today we compare goals to relationships. You'll appreciate the analogy and a little check-in with the goals you set for yourself this year! Are you staying committed to them?
Hello... you there? Your body is probably asking you the same thing. Let's talk about being aware of the signals your body is sending you so you can honor it every day!
Preventing illness has been front of mind for everyone lately. Sometimes in all the excitement, we forget the basics. Let's come back to the simple things that are in our control to help prevent all illnesses in our household.
Grounded, sometimes called earthing, is allowing your energy to connect to the frequency of the earth. Research has shown it can help prevent anxiety, lower blood pressure and help you sleep better at night! You can totally learn how to do this today! I've got you covered!
Purely You isn't the highlight reel you post to social media and it likely isn't the mask you wear when you're at that big meeting at work. Purely You is who you are at the core of your being. Let's explore that today.
As women, we tend to carry the weight of the world on our shoulders. We want everyone to be happy and vow to ourselves to take care of everything. This leads to burnout and can cause undue stress in our lives. Let's talk about it.
Keeping up with society's demands can be exhausting! It is so easy to fall into the trap of comparison these days, not just with the neighbors but with people we've never met before. Let's break it all down this week.
How do you know the difference between a gut feeling and your mind playing tricks on you? It can certainly be difficult to distinguish between the two. I share some tips to help you learn how to tell the difference today!
This week we explore energy. Not the kind your toddler has, but the subtle energies of our world. Understanding the role of energy in your wellness makes a huge difference in how you feel every day.
Have you ever been around someone who just sucks the life out of you? This is a negative exchange of energy and you can prevent it from happening! I'll teach you how in this episode!
Your truama doesn't define you. You don't have to carry around emotions, thoughts, and feelings that don't bring you peace and joy. It is okay to let it go, and I'm going to tell you how to do that!
I am is one of the most powerful statements in our language. The problem becomes when those words are followed by words of negativitiy instead of positivity and power. Listen in and feel how quickly changing that statement can change your life.
I used to hate drinking water. It was actually my husband who helped me learn the ways of the wise, with a flower delivery... I'll share the whole story and my favorite tips and tricks for staying hydrated in this episode.