The Growth Project with Michelle Quaid: Recent Episodes
Michelle
The podcast based on the journey to find inner peace and happiness from a down to earth and real perspective. A place of contentment most of us aspire to achieve although life can throw curveballs, teach us lessons from which to grow and learn. This podcast dives in to topics and lessons we all may encounter offering support, inspiration and motivation to those on or wish to seek out this journey. I share my experiences involving humour and despair. Also snippets of advice and expertise from myself and our guests. Welcome to the Growth Project where we are in it together. Love and Light. 💕💫
Change is a fundamental part of life, if we don't adapt and change in life we can stay the same. Â If we are caught up in the past, we are blocking ourselves from our future - or happy fulfilled future. Â Â How many of us know or have been the person who always steers a conversation back to an event or situation which caused us pain or suffering, an ex or loss of some sort; blaming, shaming the other person and becoming resentful they took away the life they thought they deserved or resentful about what had happened. Â They end up carrying this around in to relationships, chapters, more often changing parts of their life, instant gratification - quick fixes to fill a void and ultimately feel better, yet always coming back to 'that event' - the repeated patterns and cycles as we tend to be attracted to whats familiar. Â This happens until the lightbulb goes off, Â then we realise we need to change ourselves, not other people, jobs or situations. Â It starts with us, knowing, trusting and loving ourselves is the first, most important step and becoming aware and willing is when the magic happens, releasing the past and embracing the change, your future. Â Â Â Â You can't change anyone else, YOU CAN change yourself!Â
Love & Light,
Michelle x
My Birthday Edition (so more of a chat)
Love and Trust is essential to develop healthy relationships and when you lack self love or clear boundaries, you can fall in to a situation where people can treat you poorly, without respect or take advantage of these blurred lines. We sometimes learn the biggest lessons at our darkest moments. During this podcast I discussed how when I was faced with life threatening situations, I was truly let down the most by those I loved and trusted, I was devastated. During this time I realised how much I needed to make changes within myself for anything to change, to practice self love (which isn't selfish) - create a vision and follow a path true to my aligned values, not be led or influenced by others, this was when I learned to walk alone and not be afraid.
I was accused of various failings, shamed, humiliated and disregarded because I remained true to myself and walked away from anything sent to destroy my peace! We are in control of how we think, act & speak, we can send out positive vibes through focusing on changes right here.
When you face adversity, this time can be a test of character and mindset shift to believe whats happening is for you not to you. If you face fear head on, prove to yourself you have everything you need within and become the better version of yourself, focus on self growth and your higher purpose. Practice self love, create boundaries, back yourself and align with your values and be TRUE to yourself thats where we find true happiness, some people find that place with ease and some directing.
Don't accept less than you deserve.
Take aways:
'Everything happens for you, not to you'
'Actions speak louder than words, people can only pretend for so long'
"Live aligned with your personal values, if live on a high average basis you're doing ok, no ones perfect'
' Before you speak Is it true, kind or necessary?'
"Whats meant for you won't pass you by'
The world needs love and compassion right now and it starts with you.
Love and light,
Michelle x
Unfortunately there was some slight disruption for the recording today, this will also be available on you tube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrTWFcop7-8Tqxq59v3Eifw
Within this Episode Navee Sparkles - Love and Dating Coach jones to talk about Love and finding a worthy partner for you. We have both experienced abusive relationships and agree to first step is to focus on yourself, loving yourself as you attract where you are and the energy you give out at the time. We discussed our thoughts on 50/50 during dating, what are your thoughts on this?
We also discuss how you need to be whole, if you are needy, unhappy and bring baggage in to a relationship this will make it difficult to connect to a new partner, it's important to let everything go to be able to open yourself up for a loving trusting relationship which EVERYONE deserves.
There may not be a man on a while horse yet there is someone for everyone and if you are seeking a long lasting love, taking your time to get to know them is key, it's a marathon - not a sprint (I learnt this the hard way) and the right person will show patience, consistency and curiosity towards you.
If you would like to discuss anything covered within this episode get in touch with Navee or me, here to help, inspire and motivate.
Remember 'I can be changed by what happened to me but I refuse to be reduced by it' Maya Angelou
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Love and light,
Michelle @ Rain and Shine Coaching @ The Growth Project Podcast
Fear affects us on a daily basis and causes us to react and make decisions which can impact on our lives direction even steering us away from our true path.  Fear really is there when we genuinely have to protect ourselves. It’s a vital response to physical and emotional danger, and LIFE OR DEATH back in the day, which was how it was in ancient times, people faced ACTUAL threats. We have evolved from this yet still experience FEAR; change, success, failure & abandonment which cause responses such as fight, flight of freeze.   These fears can arise from being taken out of your comfort zone, public speaking, flying , spiders and CHANGE.   Within this I discuss how I encountered fear which held me back from decision and triggered self saboteur behaviours, this ultimately is sabotaging yourself and leading you away from your dreams.  These reactions can lead to shame and regret and then cause your fears to become worse through expecting this painful outcome, this can turn in to a pattern and the only way to overcome this is to recognise and face HEAD ON.   WE explore 10 ways to overcome fears and maintain calmness.   If you don't change anything, nothing changes.   I hope this is useful.
Within this episode we explore how we react and develop unhelpful habits; these can show up in the form of self saboteur behaviour, lead us into toxic situations and vicious cycles. The first step is to recognise the ‘why’ and making steps to change thoughts, actions and behaviour. We discuss examples of habits, when we become triggered, the subconscious and knee jerk reactions can take hold of you, recognising and overcoming these habits involves healing from your past, leading us to a healthier happier life not getting in our own way!
A Hot Topic; being able to let go involves making peace with your past. This journey is essential in order for you to reach a place of acceptance and forgiveness to you and others, allowing you to move forward in a healthy happy way. Within this healing process, making peace, it’s essential we let go of any blame, resentment, shame or unhelpful emotions and have faith in the process. Making peace with ourselves, the world and anything/one who no longer serves us on our path is growth, relinquishing attachments and ties provides freedom, facing our fears and listening to our intuition. Appreciating what we have and recognising where we need to heal leads us to a place of calm and peace.
This episode covers the importance of letting go and healing. Whatever has been thrown at you in life is an opportunity to grow and learn. Letting go of attachment of a person and circumstance/outcome provides you with the freedom to fulfil you without the power to destroy you. This is not an easy journey and takes much effort, hard work and resilience. It’s definitely worth while as when you release any unhelpful feelings you’re able to see the beauty of the moment, opportunities as they present themselves without holding on to the baggage of your past.
Within this episode I explore trauma and rejection, how I’ve dealt with situations sent to test or try me personally and how difficult they can be if they aren’t handled with intention at the time. We can develop unhelpful habits and coping mechanisms. Through working on your mindset, dealing with these emotions as they arise, recognising how they can show up and how best to overcome trauma, rejection, & self saboteur behaviours, focusing on self love and healing leading us towards the life of peace and harmony!
Part one; (first edit disappeared) Within this episode I touch on grief and loss which I’ve encountered throughout my journey. The emotions we feel can be utterly heart wrenching and the healing process long, yet totally necessary to embark on this journey of life and unavoidable. Within this podcast I share some lessons on how I handled grief and channeled my energy to form a healthy relationship with grief learning to treat it as a lesson and chance to grow. I discuss the emotions which follow such as; 1) grief and death are a teacher 2) accepting life will never be the same and that’s not always a bad thing. 3) Letting go of attachments 4) 90 Second rule - feel the emotion and let it go without reacting, numbing or letting it control you. Within this I cover the cycle of emotions; pain-guilt, anger-bargaining, depression-loneliness-reflection, acceptance and hope. Remember through the pain you have the strength within you to handle anything and this too will pass. Love, Michelle x
A Straight talking, honest, relaxed podcast with humour focusing on our journey to inner peace and happiness, a place we all aspire to be which involves inner growth and honest reflection. After life shattering events I realised this was a journey I had to take, my spiritual awakening, the point I had to tackle many hurdles and found my true self and calling taking me away from the life I had become familiar with. This podcast will share and discuss with guests the difficult topics and experiences hopefully motivating, encouraging and hopefully inspire others to take this journey if they haven’t already! Love and light
An introduction to my life, It was never going to be easy, yet I didn’t understand how bad things would get. My journey living in security flying high in London, living an independent life to rock bottom which involved a sudden realisation of how people can behave; the emotions; disappointments, domestic abuse, fear, grief, shame, regret, betrayal and deceit. People you’ve known all your life who aren’t as they seem. I found myself, my voice and my calling. Within this podcast I cover the 3 biggest lessons I learnt at Rock Bottom. There is a light when you look within and a happy ending if you keep persevering!