Oversharing: Recent Episodes
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Oversharing from Betches Media is all about the challenges we face in all kinds of relationships; from friendships to family, long term partnerships or even dealing with the customer service rep that makes you want to scream into a pillow. Betches co-founder and relationship enthusiast Jordana Abraham has teamed up with her big sister, licensed clinical therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein, to answer your questions and try to get to the bottom of the things that bother us most. Think of Jordana and Dr. Naomi as your BFF and your therapist, sitting side-by-side at the brunch table trying to help you get through your problems. Each week they’re responding to listener emails, tackling difficult ethical questions, playing games, and so much more. Because sometimes we really need advice from people with no skin in the game. And let’s face it, your friends can’t stand to hear that story one more time.
It’s almost Jordana’s birthday and Dr. Naomi helps her reflect on the pressure of meeting timelines and milestones as you get older. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not you should expect your significant other to post about you on social media. What does it say about your relationship if your boyfriend won’t share your relationship online, and does it imply he has something to hide? The Betchicist question comes from an emailer whose husband suddenly decided to cut his father out of his life. Are you obligated to support your partner’s life decisions, even if they require you to make a sacrifice? This week’s Intentions email, presented by The Knot Vendor Marketplace, involves a listener who feels an unshakable sense of urgency to get engaged, and Dr. Naomi gives her some tips to stop overthinking timelines. They close things with some Triggered scenarios about relationship judgment, and curly hair-shaming. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor! Find vendors for every wedding on The Knot Vendor Marketplace by visiting theknot.com/oversharing Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our series of guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana is back from vacation and Dr. Naomi tells her about an eye-opening form of therapy (called neurodynamic breathwork) that she was excited to try. They offer advice to a listener who is feeling confused now that the person she’s seeing suddenly became distant over text. Is it okay to demand a phone call from a guy to see where your relationship stands? The Betchicist question comes from an emailer who was invited to the wedding of a not-so-close friend. How obligated should you feel to attend a costly wedding, and when are you required to send a gift? The Intentions email of the week, presented by The Knot Vendor Marketplace, comes from a recently engaged bride-to-be that has no desire to plan an actual wedding. Finally, they end the show by rating some Triggered scenarios about a height-based slight, and an unsolicited piece of advice from a therapist. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor! Find vendors for every wedding on The Knot Vendor Marketplace by visiting theknot.com/oversharing Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our series of guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We’re all tired… thankfully this week’s episode features sleep expert and clinical psychologist Dr. Wendy Troxel, who shares some real-world tips for better sleep. Jordana and Dr. Naomi tell us about their own experience with lack-of-sleep, and how their quality of sleep is impacted by sharing a bed with a partner. Dr. Troxel explains why some couples are turning to the concept of ‘sleep divorce’ and what her research has taught her about how couples can improve their co-sleeping. They respond to an email from a listener who is experiencing anxiety at the thought of all the sleep she’ll lose out on after her boyfriend moves in. What’s the secret to not letting sleep frustrations affect your relationship? Then Jordana and Naomi tackle this week’s Intentions email, presented by The Knot Vendor Marketplace, regarding an overbearing mother during the pre-wedding process. How do you keep the pressure of planning a wedding from ruining the experience altogether? They close things with some Triggered scenarios about splitting wedding gifts and a toilet mishap. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor! Find vendors for every wedding on The Knot Vendor Marketplace by visiting theknot.com/oversharing Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana just moved into a new house and tells Dr. Naomi all about the lessons she learned from the experience – is decorating your home actually a skill? The Overshare email comes from a listener who is experiencing a quarter-life crisis and wants to know if she’s missing out on a fuller life by not moving to a big city. The Betchicist question is all about continuing to have your location tracked by your parents on your phone even when you’re living independently as an adult. What does it say about your boundaries with your parents if they’re still tracking you? They offer some intentions to a listener who constantly feels medical anxiety throughout the week. Is there a secret to letting go of health fears? They close things with some Triggered scenarios about a fizzle text that arrived two weeks after the date took place, and a pair of in-laws who stop by unannounced. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dr. Naomi is about to embark on a challenging new phase of life – the family is getting a second dog – so she tells Jordana about her plan to avoid taking care of a puppy all by herself. They offer advice to an emailer who says she is ready to settle down, but she can’t shake the feeling that her relationship could end in divorce. The Betchicist submission comes from a listener who moved in next door to her in-laws and now wants a bit more space. Next, they offer some intentions to a listener whose brother eloped and chose to invite his friends instead of his own family. Then Jordana and Naomi are joined by friend-of-the-pod Jared Freid to talk about his brand new Netflix comedy special 37 & Single (out now) and to help rate some Triggered submissions. Jared asks for some tips for staying grounded on what may be the biggest day of his life. He also shares a Triggered scenario from his recent red-eye flight, before weighing in a pair of submissions about obnoxious break room commentary, and an ex’s beach towel. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dr. Naomi is back from her recent outdoors-y vacation and tells Jordana all about the sense of awe she experienced. Then they respond to a voicemail from a listener who has a pattern of freezing up when someone yells at her. What are the best strategies to deal with a tense situation, and how can you learn to respond differently? The Betchicist question comes from a listener who is caught in between her sister and a friend after they had a falling out over a guy. Are you obligated to hold a grudge on behalf of your sister even if you think she’s taking it too far? They give their honest take on an intentions email from a listener who often finds herself developing a crush on men who aren’t her husband. Is it okay to let yourself fantasize about others even if you’re in a committed relationship? They close things out with a pair of Triggered scenarios about annoying grief memes, and a suburban snob. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We need a nap. Jordana and Dr. Naomi start with a chat about the misery of losing sleep when and how frustrating it can be when you can’t figure out why. They also talk about the new Golden Bachelor and share why they’re so excited to see this version of the show. Then a listener writes in to ask if she’ll ever be able to move forward with her partner after he admitted to having an affair (and told her on vacation, of all places). Dr. Naomi gives some insights into how couples can heal after cheating takes place, and why it can sometimes be a turning point in a lasting relationship. The “Betch-assist” question comes from a listener whose partner chooses to offer financial support for his sister. Is it okay to ask him to stop giving her money after the couple gets married and their finances merge? They respond to a request for intentions from an emailer who doesn’t like giving her boyfriend space when he’s in a bad mood. Finally, they rate some Triggered scenarios about stolen leftover pizza and a MIL’s unwanted home design comments. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana and Dr. Naomi start the week with a conversation about the recent heat waves sweeping the country, and why learning to be uncomfortable can actually help you live longer. Plus, Jordana tells us which online distraction she’s giving up for the sake of her own mental health. Next, a listener writes in to ask how to get out of a sh*t-talking loop she fell into with her mother-in-law. How do you break a cycle of negativity when it’s the source of your strongest bond with someone? Then they answer a Betchicist question about rumors circulating regarding a close friend’s boyfriend and his drunk behavior. Are you obligated to address the situation, and is it considered disloyal to the friend if you don’t bring it to her attention immediately? The intentions for the week are all about resisting the urge to stalk your ex’s social media after a recent breakup. Been there. Finally, they rate a Triggered scenario about calling your brief relationship “a something” and weigh in on a voicemail from a listener whose therapist canceled at the last minute. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
We get it, you want to start meditating. But everything you’ve tried is too serious, too boring, and totally unrelatable. If lavender candles, an Enya playlist, and endless sun salutations simply aren’t doing the trick, this podcast from Betches Media might finally be the thing to help you breathe. (Literally.) In a series of guided meditations, sisters Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein will support you through many of life's biggest challenges with some much-needed serenity — and, of course, a bit of laughter. Calm TF Down is the same Oversharing podcast you love listening to every week, but with an added dose of zen to help you get through life’s challenges. Become a subscriber to receive ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only guided meditations every month. To sign up and calm TF down today, subscribe in the Apple Podcast app or head to: subscribe.betches.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana and Dr. Naomi are excited to tell us all about the brand new premium version of the podcast: Calm TF Down is available now wherever you’re listening. Naomi tells us how she uses guided meditations in her own practice, and they give us a peek behind the scenes of recording Calm TF Down together. Then a listener writes in to ask what she should do now that her traditional Indian parents announced that they disapprove of her moving in with her white boyfriend. The Betchicist question comes from a listener who is struggling with insecurity about her boyfriend viewing her cousin’s IG stories, even after she went on his phone and muted her account. Was it an honest mistake or a betrayal of trust? And more importantly, do you have the right to monitor what your partner looks at on the internet? The intentions for this week are all about finding new ways to feel good about your body after an injury prevents you from working out. Finally, they score some Triggered submissions about an unexpected birthday trip cancellation, and a hairdresser heavily editing a client’s facial features for an Instagram post. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana starts the show with an account of the unconventional massage therapist she visited, and Dr. Naomi helps her break down what her response really means. Then a listener calls into the Oversharing hotline with a voicemail about how to deal with guys who don’t text back. The Betchicist submission comes from an emailer who knows her coworker had an affair and doesn’t know how to broach the subject. Should you come clean or keep the secret to yourself and pretend you don’t know? The intention-setting exercise is for someone whose life is going well for a change, but she can’t seem to let herself enjoy it. Finally, they weigh in on a pair of Triggered submissions about a pricey bridesmaid’s dress, and a combative grandfather. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On this Fourth Of July holiday, Jordana and Dr. Naomi start with a chat about how holidays help us reflect on our career choices. Plus, Naomi joined a gym and shares the valuable lessons she learned about the nature of jealousy. Then a listener calls in with a voicemail about growing up without a close relationship to your father, and how we come to terms with this in adulthood. The Betchicist question comes from a listener whose mom started dating a younger man and is making her uncomfortable. Is it okay to ask your mom not to have her new guy sleep over even though you’re living in her house? The intentions for this week are all about fertility struggles and changing your mindset about the all-too-relatable “fertility window” stress. Finally, they score some Triggered submissions about a reclaimed gift, and a snide comment about someone’s religion. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Why are our most ambivalent relationships often the ones that cause us the most agitation? Jordana and Dr. Naomi analyze a recent article on the topic of frenemies and why they take up so much more headspace than our real adversaries. Then a listener (and fellow therapist) writes in to ask whether or not she should feel bad for making an offhand remark about her supervisor. Why do we spend so much time focusing on the smallest of comments? The Betchicist question comes from an emailer who feels like a bad feminist for wanting to get botox and other injectables to fight the signs of aging. This week’s intention setting exercise is all about finding a way to bounce back after getting a series of disappointing replies to your destination-wedding invites. Finally, they score some Triggered submissions involving a forgotten name and a surprise marriage announcement. Link to the Op-Ed discussed on today’s episode: Your Most Ambivalent Relationships Are the Most Toxic Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What makes for a good apology? Jordana shares a story about offering an insincere apology, leading to some practical tips from Dr. Naomi for how to craft an apology that counts. An emailer writes in to ask if she should confront a coworker after feeling humiliated by his thoughtless gift-exchange present. Hot off the heels of the Vanderpump Rules three-part reunion, they answer a Betchicist question about the level of vitriol directed at the perpetrators of the Scandoval affair. Why do we react so passionately after someone cheats? And to what degree can you speak up on behalf of a friend who was cheated on? A listener asks for help with setting intentions to deal with a neighbor who is constantly playing music. Finally, they rate a pair of Triggered submissions involving an annoying texter, and a group chat gone-rogue. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dr. Naomi had second thoughts about last week’s Triggered scenario, so she and Jordana revisit their positions on “the moaning yogi.” A listener writes in with an Overshare email about how she feels after her husband stopped engaging in sex during her recent pregnancy. Should you be offended if your partner’s attraction ebbs and flows? Next, the Betchicist question comes from a listener who is planning to meet up with her ex’s new girlfriend. Is it ethical to compare notes about an ex, and how much can you disclose about what it was like to date them? They respond to a request for intentions from an emailer who often finds herself looking to “jump ship” even when things are going well. Finally, this week’s Triggered scenarios include a technical-difficulties dig, and a copycat MIL. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Did you wait all day for Taylor Swift tickets, only to have your dreams dashed? Same. Jordana and Naomi talk about the Taylor Swift presale fiasco and tell us why it’s okay to feel frustration and disappointment about something as trivial as concert tickets. Then a previous emailer writes in with an update about clearing the air with her future sisters-in-law over feelings of exclusion. Communication is key, as they say. Another emailer writes in to ask how to deal with feelings of disappointment after getting rejected from a dream job. How do you move past rejection when everyone around you knows how much you wanted it? The Betchicist question comes from a listener who can’t help but overshare her story of growing up with an alcoholic father whenever the subject comes up. Is it better to let the floodgates of honesty stay open even though it may make people uncomfortable, or shut it down at the risk of returning to a place of secrecy? Next, they respond to an Intentions email from someone who is learning to trust their own decision-making. Finally, the Triggered scenarios involve the desire to “own” your anniversary weekend, and a brother-in-law who doesn’t even know your name.
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Dr. Naomi is back from the top bunk at sleep-away camp and Jordana finds out how it went (the white noise machine in the moms cabin was working overtime). Then a listener calls into the Oversharing hotline with a voicemail about setting boundaries with her boyfriend’s mom now that they’re living in the same town. What should you do when you suddenly get stuck answering all the tough questions on behalf of your partner? An emailer asks what to do about her husband declaring his intent to quit his corporate job and become a teacher. How does she come to terms with the lifestyle change that will coincide with his pursuit of a fulfilling career? Next, it’s time for some intention-setting: a listener writes in asking for guidance on properly setting intentions, including how to let the little comments go and shift your thoughts when you start to think the worst is going to happen. Finally, they dig into some Triggered scenarios involving disparaging work-from-home comments and an insensitive roommate in your time of need. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
It’s only been a week and Jordana’s social media break is over, leading to a conversation about feeling triggered by other people’s IG posts. Then they dive into an email from a listener who regrets her life choices from the past decade and feels like her chance at happiness is already over by her mid-30’s. How do we rewrite our own story and take control of our destiny without getting discouraged? Next, the Betchicist email is all about reaching back out to someone you have wronged. When is it okay to be the ex who pops back in with an apology? Finally, they tackle some Triggered questions about an airline seat dispute, a mother who won’t listen, and a tardy engagement gift. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
When is it time to take a break from social media? Jordana found herself deleting the Instagram app from her phone this weekend (just taking a break, don’t worry) and Naomi tells us why it’s okay to take a step away depending on your headspace. Then a listener calls into the Oversharing hotline with a question about fearing that she’ll become the “default parent” once she and her husband start having kids. How do you set expectations that you won’t end up shouldering too much of the parenting mental load? Plus, Naomi tells us why teaching someone “how to struggle” may be the secret to raising a successful child. Next, the Betchicist question is all about differing philosophies for how to throw a party. Is it okay to expect your guests to respect your traditions, even if they feel uncomfortable doing things your way? They finish things up with some Triggered scenarios including a forgotten birthday, an unsolicited plastic surgery offer, and getting called “sweetie” at work.
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How do people actually find a therapist they like? Is everyone just sticking with the first therapist they find, or is it better to hunt around until someone sticks? Jordana and Naomi start with a convo about intention-setting and the challenge of searching for a good match in therapy. Then a listener writes in with an Overshare email all about flaky friends and the struggle to find meaningful friendships. What do you do if you’re feeling lonely and struggling to make friends you can rely on? Next, they answer a Betchicist email from a kosher bride whose in-laws insist on serving bacon at her after-wedding brunch. Do you have the right to dictate the menu at an event you’re not paying for? They close the show with a trio of Triggered scenarios including a forgotten birthday, an unsolicited plastic surgery offer, and getting called “sweetie” at work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How do you stop yourself from spiraling? This week, Jordana and Naomi start with an email from a listener who is convinced her boyfriend might break up with her. Jordana opens up about what helped her overcome her own struggles with attachment and change her attachment style. Is the key to strengthening relationships to remind yourself you’ll be able to take care of yourself no matter what? Next, they read a Betchicist email from a listener who is worried her friend might be in a toxic relationship. How do you provide space for others to share their true emotions without passing judgment? Finally, they answer a trio of Triggered submissions about a possible wedding crasher, a future Grandpa, and a boyfriend’s wandering eye. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein are back for another special crossover episode of Betches Moms and the Oversharing podcast. This week they’re talking about parents who struggle to split the “mental load” equally and what to do when there’s an imbalance. They share examples of splitting duties with your partner, as well as examples of the unseen emotional weight that one parent often takes on. Plus, they offer some practical tips for finding balance in the division of labor and sharing the mental load. Finally, they read a listener-submitted No Mom Guilt all about taking a moment away from your kids to look out for yourself. Are children better off if they learn to spend time away from their parents? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What’s the deal with psychedelics and psychotherapy? Jordana and Naomi are joined by Dr. Michelle Weiner to talk all about cannabis and ketamine-assisted psychotherapy. They start with a convo about Naomi and Dr. Weiner’s close friendship as teenagers, and what it’s like to reconnect after so many years apart. Then Dr. Weiner walks us through the process of drug-assisted therapy, including why it’s helpful (gotta drop that ego somehow), how she administers treatment safely, and when it’s the right option for a patient. Plus, they talk about other psychedelic therapy treatments, and what people are looking to get out of these therapy sessions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this special crossover episode with Betches Moms and Oversharing, hosts Jordana Abraham and Dr Naomi Bernstein talk all about parenthood, changing social dynamics, and how long we should wait before exposing kids to social media. From TikTok to Instagram (and everything in between) Naomi shares her experience with setting boundaries, and they explore whether or not it’s a losing battle for parents. They also talk about how things have changed since this generation of parents were kids, and what the equivalent of social media used to be. Finally, they read a listener’s No Mom Guilt email all about putting your kids in organized sports. Are we living vicariously through our kids, or just trying to give them a chance to have the same experiences we had? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana is still on island time –sorry the Hawaii vacation is over– and Naomi welcomes her back with a debrief of the latest U Up? With Benefits episode she caught. Then a listener calls in to the Oversharing hotline with a question about venting to your friends and family about your relationship. How much can you air your dirty laundry before it becomes something you’ll regret? They debate the pros and cons of sharing your relationship frustrations when it may be difficult to walk back your comments later on. Plus, they discuss the danger of coming off as insincere if you fail to disclose enough about relationship struggles. Then they dive into a Betchicist question about trying to recover from an experience of emotional betrayal with a partner. A listener writes in with a story about her husband’s nicotine addiction having a traumatic impact on her birth experience, and why she can’t seem to get over it. Finally, they tackle a trio of Triggered scenarios about a boyfriend talking in his sleep, a bride-to-be’s mom making a rude joke, and a boyfriend who charges rent. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week, both Naomi and Jordana share about their recent relaxing getaways. However, Jordana explains how she had a hard time sleeping over the weekend and how she became frustrated when implementing sleep meditation didn’t seem to help. Naomi explains that meditation isn’t a way to manipulate your reality, but a tool to embrace it. This week’s Oversharing email, comes from a listener who wants to know if her partner’s anger management issues should be a marriage deal breaker. Both Jordana and Naomi remind the listener that all “positive” qualities come with equally “negative” qualities. Which ones are you willing to tolerate forever? Next, they read a Betchicist email where a listener’s friend group can’t stop gossiping. Is there a way to resist the temptation to gossip? She worries that if the “exciting” parts of their chats are taken away, their conversations will become stale and boring. They close with a few Triggered scenarios about forgetful in-laws, unsupportive friends, and therapist deal breakers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week, Naomi was inspired to stop covering her gray hair which sparks the conversation about accepting yourself for who you truly are. The Oversharing email of the week is from a listener who is weighing her options for how to juggle spending Christmas with her and her husband’s family. Both Naomi and Jordana agree that she will have to focus on finding the best compromise rather than fighting to keep her childhood traditions alive. They move on to a Betchicist submission where a listener asks - can you tell your boyfriend that it bothers you he doesn’t pay for more things? How can you go about it without sounding “old fashioned"? They end on some Triggered scenarios around others discouraging your weight-loss journey, feeling left out, and nosy geriatric patients. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week, Jordana gives updates on giving the cold shower assignment a shot. Naomi then explains that when you give yourself the option to resist something you will, so practicing an “Acceptance Mindset” is great protection against resistance. This week’s Oversharing Voicemail is from a listener who’s having fertility struggles. They help her break down the intrusive thoughts that can accompany infertility. Next, they read a Betchicist email from a listener who is figuring out how to tell her best friend she hates their partner. They end on some Triggered submissions about having an estranged father-daughter relationship, being called “old” by a Gen-Zer, and a father-of-the-bride speech gone wrong. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Did Jordana complete her cold shower assignment from last week? Maybe not, but she did learn a valuable lesson from the experience anyway. Naomi explains how our ability to vocalize discomfort reflects our level of assertiveness. In this week’s Overshare, a listener is feeling obligated to maintain friendships and if she should be the fist one to “crack the pack”. They bring on the show’s very first guests, Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik of Almost 30. Naomi is eager to talk about finding a sacredness in being single. Can we as a society find happiness in our individual accomplishments? Or will we always think our happiness is weighted in our relationships? They end on Triggered submissions about a mom’s unnecessary facebook comment, a flakey friend, and a sh*t talking sister-in-law. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How do you strike the right balance between assertiveness and complacency? Jordana and Naomi start the show with a conversation about becoming more or less aggressive in daily interactions, along with some tips for getting outside your comfort zone. The essie Overshare email of the week comes from a listener whose close friend suddenly withdrew from the relationship back in college, leaving her feeling left out. Now that she’s back in close proximity, should she reach out and find closure, or leave things in the past? Next, they debate a challenging Betchicist question: is it okay to be disappointed by your partner’s plan for your milestone birthday, even if you hijacked their idea and paid for it yourself? How do we find satisfaction in our relationships and stop focusing on the negative? Finally, the Triggered scenarios involve a Tennis match betrayal, a disappointing breakup, and an overreach in couples therapy. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Has the rise of social media left everyone feeling lonelier than ever? Jordana and Naomi tackle this challenging question and try to figure out why we often feel less connected, even when our online interactions are on the rise. Naomi offers some lessons from the group therapy sessions she leads, and they talk about the way the pandemic has affected introverts. They also discuss the way friends are made and maintained early in life compared to when you hit your 30’s and 40’s. Why is it so hard to make new friends as you get older, and how do you even meet new people anyway? Jordana shares her experience with traveling and breaking outside of her comfort zone. Finally, they offer some tips for spending quality time and finding your “friendship pickup line” at the salon. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Naomi and Jordana begin the week with a conversation about the transition from relying on your childhood family to starting a family of your own. Then they read the essie Overshare email of the week from a listener who is still texting an ex more than a year after the breakup. Is she really missing the ex, or is the loneliness she’s feeling driving her to miss the attachment? Naomi walks us through a visualization exercise for comforting your child-self (and healing our childhood attachment issues) along with a strategy for enlisting a friend to help resist the urge to reach out. This week’s Betchicist email comes from a single 30-something year-old woman who’s fed up with the societal pressure to get married and have kids. Naomi and Jordana wish there was an equal focus on celebrating partnership and other life accomplishments like success at work. They close things with a trio of Triggered submissions about an embarrassing Facebook pic, wedding photo drama, and a ring shopping insult. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
It’s back to school season so Jordana and Naomi start the show with a conversation about whether or not having kids really makes you happy (the answer: yes and no). The essie Overshare email of the week comes from a listener who needs help with a long term friendship that’s on the rocks because of distance. Is a simple phone call all it takes to repair tension in a meaningful relationship? And should we stop relying on a text to say all that we need to say? The Betchicist email involves a soon-to-be-married couple that wants to adopt three children… but can they afford the expense? Jordana and Naomi debate whether or not it’s your place as a sister to offer an opinion on the decision to adopt. Then they finish the week with some Triggered scenarios, including body comments at the gym, inconsiderate parents, and a thoughtless friend. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On today’s Oversharing, Naomi tells Jordana a story about her recent massage experience with a masseuse who went MIA for a little too long. Turns out a therapist off duty is still a therapist—the masseuse was going through it. Then it’s time for the essie Overshare email of the week, which comes from a listener who is feeling lonely and disconnected from family members even when she’s visiting her childhood home. How do you reconnect with loved ones when you’ve begun to drift apart? In this week’s Betchicist, a listener asks what to do about her mother’s pattern of being the “other woman.” How do you navigate a relationship with a family member whose choices you don’t agree with? They close with a game of Triggered, including parents who won’t go the extra mile, a mother-in-law who wants to be called ‘mom,’ and a listener whose husband wants a framed photo of him and his ex-wife in her home. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In an Oversharing first, Jordana and Naomi record the show in-studio together. They start off with a conversation about being half-siblings and their complicated family tree. Next, they respond to an email from a listener who can’t help but feel like she wasted two years of her life in a relationship. Will she ever get over it? They talk about the therapeutic value of writing an angry letter to an ex—but never sending it—and why it helps you to reflect on what went wrong. For the Betchcist email, a writer asks if she can control who her kid is friends with. Naomi knows this feeling all too well—she suggests a psychological technique called “motivational interviewing” where the kid highlights the negatives of the relationship and comes to a realization about it themselves. Finally, this week’s triggered submissions include being called the wrong name, a vow renewal soon after a wedding, and judgements about how you raise your kids. Check out the Hung Up podcast here: Hung Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana and Naomi start the week with an email from a listener who feels like she can’t approach her partner with open communication because he gets too defensive. How do you navigate conflict with someone who escalates quickly and can’t deal with criticism? Plus, they talk about fights that arise from being on your phone too much, and how we often fight differently than our partner. For the Betchicist email, a listener writes in about a family feud and her complicated feelings about reconnecting with family members she hasn’t seen in years—would that be disloyal to her immediate family? Finally, the Triggered scenarios include an over-tired daughter, a friend who wants to call “dibs” on a guy she likes, and a couple who needs a new solution to a repeat argument. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week’s Oversharing starts with a listener email about an all-too-common source of anxiety these days: mass shootings and the safety of our loved ones. A listener writes in with a question about how to cope with a child going off to school for the first time during a time where shootings are constantly in the news, igniting feelings of fear and anxiety. How much caution do we need to exercise, and how much should we limit our exposure to anxiety-inducing information? Then Jordana and Naomi read this week’s Betchicist submission from a listener who got iced out by her sister after serving as her de facto nanny for years. How do you set new boundaries when a family member becomes too demanding? And how do you weigh your own needs for validation and autonomy against the needs of young children? Finally, they close with some Triggered scenarios about family members following an ex, animals after a breakup, and a lazy member of the group chat. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Naomi and Jordana respond to FAQs in their DMs with an in-depth conversation about getting into therapy. Jordana shares her personal experience with trying therapy for the first time in her 20’s, and makes some suggestions for how to get into it yourself. Pro-tip: your therapist should address it if you’re late. Naomi discusses the importance of chemistry between therapist and client, and provides insight about the importance of self-care as a therapist. Then Naomi and Jordana discuss their therapy guidelines—Is it okay for your friends or family to see the same therapist as you? What is and isn’t a conflict of interest? Next, they respond to a listener who worries she’s settling down too early with her long-term boyfriend. Anyone else love date night? Drawing from their personal lives, Naomi and Jordana share how they keep things exciting with their own partners. Then, the Betchicist email sparks a conversation about verbalizing boundaries in relationships and the definition of monogamy. Finally, the Triggered submissions include a discussion of how to react when someone makes a rude comment, sharing news of an engagement with an ex, and projecting insecurities onto a date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana and Naomi are doing things a little differently today: instead of their usual convo, Naomi leads Jordana and listeners through a guided meditation (feel free to follow along). They discuss different kinds of meditation, and the best approach for listeners on the go. Naomi defines some key terms frequently thrown around (like ‘mindfulness’ and ‘mantra’) before sharing some tips and tricks for being mindful in your everyday life. Jordana uses her personal experience to provide insight into using meditation practices (yes, counting sheep is a thing) and relaxing her mind before bed. Then a listener writes in about getting fired from her job, and they give advice on how to move forward. Finally, this week’s Triggered covers the frustration of wanting to be invited to the events you don’t even want to go to. Stay tuned for next week where they’ll discuss tips for finding the right therapist. Check out the Hung Up podcast here: Hung Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana and Naomi start the week with some tips for allowing yourself to feel your feelings and stop avoiding them with distractions. Naomi offers a great explanation of why it’s okay to lean into the physical feelings of emotion (painful as they may be). Then a listener writes in to ask how to cope with a recent failed relationship and find a sense of hope for the future. They examine a list of “qualities we want to find in a relationship” that she received from her therapist. Should we all examine our list of qualities that we’re looking for in a partner, or is it better to let things come naturally? Then another listener emails with a challenging Betchicist question: at what point is it okay to ask your future spouse to start therapy before getting married? In this case, is it fair to ask her boyfriend to confront his complicated feelings toward his mother? Finally, they close with a game of Triggered featuring a trio of tense situations resulting in anxiety, embarrassment, and a little jealousy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Before getting into the heavy stuff, Jordana and Naomi begin the episode a convo about meditation. Naomi tells us about the importance of regular practice, while Jordana reflects on the difficulty of keeping it up. Then they dive into a discussion on cheating in relationships, and Naomi shares her thoughts on the age-old adage: “once a cheater, always a cheater.” They talk about reactions to cheating on both sides, and the importance of therapy in dealing with those emotions. This week’s Overshare comes from a listener who recently found out her serious boyfriend has cheated on all of his exes. About to enter a period of long-distance due to work, she questions whether her anxiety about his infidelity is valid, and how she can overcome it. The Betchicist email comes from a listener who is concerned her best friend’s boyfriend may be cheating. Should she bring it up, or let the situation unfold on its own? Finally, this week’s Triggered submissions address an airplane close encounter, nasty comments about an ex post-breakup, and being told you’re “punching above your looks.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana starts the show with a story about having a positive customer service interaction (thanks to some great advice from the listeners). Then they dive into a conversation about setting the scene for a difficult conversation, and Naomi tells us what “doorknob comments” are in therapy. A listener calls in with an advice question about a toxic family dynamic involving her brother-in-law, and asks how to approach the relationship with her sister going forward. How do you share your true feelings without alienating a loved one? The Betchicist email of the week comes from a listener who has a family reunion planned but now feels pressured to miss it for a work obligation. Finally, the Triggered submissions include a know-it-all friend, a thoughtless boyfriend, and some relationship envy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana starts off this week by sharing about her recent work in becoming more grounded, and Naomi reveals how slowing down can actually help in preventing the urge to overshare. Then they respond to a listener voicemail all about how the urge to mention her relationship history too early has backfired. Why do we often feel the need to divulge too much, too early? Next they read a Betchicist email from a listener who is feeling pressure from her sister to express outraged on social media about social justice movements. Lastly, they end on a game of Triggered covering how to respond when someone else comments on your body image, being the “learning experience” child, and how to feel when you’re not invited to your own parent’s party. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Naomi starts the week with a confession about falling into a social media spiral after starting the podcast, and Jordana shares her own experience with seeking approval in the podcast review page. Then a listener writes in about a friendship that turned tense after becoming roommates. How do you go about repairing a damaged relationship, especially when you live together? Plus, they talk about the challenge of airing your dirty laundry to mutual friends when it could come back to bite you. Next, they debate the Betchicist email of the week from a listener who found out a friend cheated on an exam. Is it your duty to turn a friend in, or are you obligated to keep their transgression a secret? Finally, they close things with a game of Triggered featuring a jealous spouse, an ever-present sibling, and a slighted co-worker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week starts with an audience response to Naomi and Jordana’s previous conversation about customer service, including some practical tips for how to make sure the interaction goes smoothly. Then they dive into the difficult topic of trying to maintain a meaningful relationship with a friend when they begin to have kids (and you don’t). The Overshare email of the week comes from a listener who feels left behind by a friend who recently had her first baby. Is it okay to feel resentful of the change? Then a listener sends in a challenging Betchicist question: should you call out a friend who is the “other woman” in a relationship, especially if you’ve been cheated on in the past. To close the show, they play a round of Triggered about backhanded compliments and feeling drained after work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana and Naomi start today’s Oversharing with a convo about allowing a friendship to be the primary relationship in your life (and how to reconnect when you begin to grow apart). Then they dive into the Overshare email of the week, all about comparing yourself to others and questioning your life decisions. Is there a trick to not falling into a spiral of envy? Then another listener writes in with a difficult Betchicist question: should you call out a friend for verbally abusing their romantic partner, or is it always better to keep it to yourself. Finally, they tackle a Triggered scenario about dating someone who is constantly negging you in subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This week, Jordana and Naomi start by telling us why it’s so hard to take feedback sometimes (and how to tell your therapist what they could be doing differently). Then the Overshare email of the week comes from a listener whose fiancé has a family that feels like she’s stealing him away. Should she discuss the conflict directly with his family or let him handle it himself? Another emailer asks how to respond when her husband comments negatively about her body during pregnancy. Finally, they finish things out with another game of Triggered, including a check-grabbing opportunist, a mid-wedding proposal, and some awkward doggy-talk. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jordana and Naomi are back for week two of the podcast and start things off with a convo about one of the most common sources of aggravation we all share: customer service. Why does the person on the other end of the phone get under our skin so often? Then they tackle the equally relatable topic of self sabotage. The (long af) Overshare email of the week involves a listener who ended things with a guy that was giving her f*ckboy vibes, but now she’s wondering if her past relationship problems caused her to sabotage the whole thing. When should you trust your gut, and when should you ignore your own misgivings? Next, they discuss a “Betchicist” ethical question about listening to a roommate’s therapy session through the walls (and what to do when they’re the ones you’re talking about). Finally, the show closes with another round of Triggered featuring bad kissers, backhanded compliments, and inconvenient truths. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In the first ever episode of Oversharing, sisters Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein kick things off with a conversation about why they wanted to host a podcast together, and where their shared love of therapy comes from. Plus, they tell us who gives the better advice. Then they dive into the Overshare email of the week, all about going through a difficult friend breakup. What’s the best way to approach a close friend about why you’ve lost touch? Next, they discuss a fascinating article from Esther Perel about the idea of “unconditional love” and why it’s not always practical. Is the conventional wisdom about going to be bed angry always useful? Finally, they play a round of Triggered, featuring a trio of touchy subjects to unpack. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oversharing with Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein premiers Tuesday, May 3rd, 2022! Follow us now on Spotify or Apple Podcasts to be the first to hear it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices