Monarch for Love: Recent Episodes

Michelle Hays

Do you know what it means to truly love your partner? Are you curious to find out? Welcome to Monarch for love. I'm Michelle Hays and I'm a relationship coach who believes that love is the most important aspect of our lives. I fully and truly believe love is life's greatest gift. I do now more than ever. I have bounced back from the pain of failed relationships and each time have grown stronger in my faith that choosing love is always the path to true happiness, a fuller life, and a passionate partnership.

Love is a decision! It's a decision we must make every day. Love is meant to be cultivated yet it is too often dismissed and ultimately destroyed because we lack the skills and knowledge to nourish it. We are here to change all that. Join me as we learn how to create loving, lasting relationships and open ourselves, our pasts, our hearts, and our dreams, and discover what it is we are all truly looking for…love.

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In today’s hyper-connected world, emotional boundaries can blur fast—especially online. In this episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays dives into the subtle yet damaging world of micro-cheating, social media habits, and how small digital missteps can slowly erode trust and intimacy in your marriage. Learn how to spot the warning signs of “digital drift,” set healthy boundaries, and create a relationship culture rooted in transparency, connection, and mutual respect. Because every message, like, or follow has the power to move you closer—or farther—from the one you love. Let’s choose connection over distraction, and intention over impulse.

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Trust is the foundation of every thriving relationship—but what does it really look like in day-to-day married life? In this episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays explores how trust shapes emotional security, deepens connection, and lays the groundwork for lasting love. Whether you’re rebuilding trust after hurt or simply want to strengthen your bond, you’ll walk away with fresh insight and practical inspiration. Because while love brings passion, trust brings peace—and your marriage deserves both.

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In this deeply compassionate episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays is joined by Dr. Mariana Martinasevic, a physiatrist with over 25 years of experience, to explore how anxiety, depression, and mental health challenges impact our relationships—and what we can do about it.Together, they unpack how emotional struggles, the signs of anxiety and or depression and when you may consider medication. Whether you or your partner are struggling silently or openly, this conversation reminds you: you’re not alone, and healing is possible. Because love isn’t just a feeling—it’s a decision. And caring for your mental health is one of the most loving choices you can make.

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In this inspiring episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays reminds us that great marriages don’t just happen—they’re built with intention, one choice at a time. From cultivating gratitude to practicing healthy communication and committing to personal growth, Michelle shares how to create a mindset that nurtures lasting love.If you’ve been craving a deeper, more supportive bond with your spouse, this episode will help you get back to the basics—and fall in love with the process of becoming better together.

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Do you find yourself pulling away or clinging tightly in relationships? In this eye-opening episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays explores how your attachment style might be shaping your connection with your spouse—and what you can do about it. The good news? You can move from insecure to secure, and the transformation ripples through your marriage, family, and friendships.If you've ever felt stuck in patterns of fear, anxiety, or avoidance in love, this episode offers hope, clarity, and the first steps toward emotional security.

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If you're caught in a cycle of blame, you're not alone—and there's a way out. In this heartfelt solo episode of Monarch for Love, Michelle Hays invites you to lay down the burden of blame and pick up the tools of healing. With compassion and clarity, she shares how choosing curiosity over criticism and connection over control can shift the atmosphere of your relationship. This episode is your reminder that knowing better is the first step to loving better. Let’s stop blaming and start building, together.

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In this powerful episode, Michelle Hays sits down with attorney and author Richard Stevens to discuss how the way we speak—especially in emotionally charged moments—can either protect or damage our most important relationships. Drawing from his legal expertise, Richard shares how investigation defense applies not only to law but to love—teaching couples how to communicate in ways that won’t come back to bite them later.

If you've ever said something in the heat of the moment that you wish you could take back, this episode is for you. Learn how to choose your words wisely, preserve trust, and create emotional safety in your marriage.

Connect with Richard Stevens:

  • LinkedIn
  • Investigation Defense (Book on Amazon)

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In this week’s episode, I’m joined by Kelli Butterfly, social media coach and host of the Daily Dose of Positivity podcast. Together, we tackle the age-old question: Is a happy wife enough, or should both partners prioritize each other’s happiness? What about happy spouse, happy house? If you’re ready to deepen your connection and find harmony in your marriage, this episode will offer practical insights on achieving happiness together. Tune in now to discover how balanced happiness leads to lasting love!

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In this heartfelt episode, we’re diving into practical ways to love your husband in a way that truly resonates with him. When you understand his unique needs and show love intentionally, you create a deeper bond and lasting connection. Learn how to speak love in a way he understands and appreciates. Whether you’re looking to rekindle the spark or strengthen your bond, this episode will give you actionable insights to love your husband in ways that matter most. Tune in now and start creating a marriage where love thrives!

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This week we’re exploring a surprising truth — conflict doesn't have to tear your marriage apart. In fact, when handled with intention and care, conflict can be a powerful tool for building deeper connection, trust, intimacy, and understanding. Tune in now and discover how choosing love — even in the midst of conflict — can transform your relationship.

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In this powerful episode of Monarch for Love, I’m joined by Michele Rose Fortin — TEDx speaker, author, and founder of the Quest 4 Recovery Network. Together, we dive deep into the impact of addiction on marriage, uncovering the emotional, mental, and relational toll it takes on both partners. Michele shares her expert insights on navigating the complexities of addiction within a marriage and offers hope for couples seeking healing and restoration. Whether you're walking this journey or supporting someone who is, this conversation will empower you to take the next steps toward transformation.

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Jealousy can often feel like a dark cloud hovering over us in our mariages. In this week's episode, we delve into the often-taboo topic of jealousy in marriage and how it can be transformed into a powerful catalyst for connection. Join us as we explore the root causes of jealousy, share personal stories, and provide actionable strategies for couples to navigate these complex emotions. Listeners will learn how to communicate openly about their feelings, foster trust, and ultimately strengthen their bond. Tune in and discover how to transform jealousy into a tool for love and understanding!

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In this week's episode, we are diving into one of the most stigmatized yet universal aspects of human sexuality. We will explore some of the cultural perceptions surrounding masturbation, breaking down barriers and challenging misconceptions. You'll hear thought-provoking ideas and perceptions that aim to destigmatize this natural behavior. Whether you’re curious, confused, or simply seeking to understand, this podcast invites you to join the conversation and embrace the often-taboo topic of self-pleasure. Tune in as we unravel the myths and truths of masturbation.

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This week we are discussing the complexities of love that go beyond the storybook endings. Join us as we explore the unrealistic beliefs embedded into us as young boys and girls about love and marriage. Love is both messy and filled with true joy. This podcast will inspire you to embrace the reality of love and marriage with all its imperfections. Tune in and discover that true love is more than a fairy tale; it’s a shared adventure filled with growth, understanding, and resilience.

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In this insightful episode, we delve into the complex emotions and patterns that stem from growing up in a broken home. We explore the statistics, the psychological impacts, and the coping mechanisms that often arise from such experiences. Tune in to discover whether these early familial influences set a precedent for our adult relationships and how we can work toward healthier marriages regardless of our pasts. Join us for a thought-provoking conversation that may just change the way you think about love and divorce.

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In this week's episode, I am thrilled to be joined by my husband, Brian Hays and we are tackling the often-contentious topic of money and marriage. Join us as we uncover the root causes of money-related conflicts and share practical strategies to transform those disagreements into meaningful conversations. Discover how to align your financial goals as a couple, foster open communication, and ultimately strengthen your bond. Stop fighting and start connecting!

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So many of us don't feel comfortable talking about Sex and yet communication is the key to having more satisfying sex. In this episode, I am honored to be joined by Kelli Butterfly, the Founder and Host of the Daily Dose of Positivity Podcast. Kelli is also a Positive Growth and SocialMedia Engagement Coach.Together we dive deep into the essential but often overlooked aspects of Sex—communication, timing, and desires. Join us as we explore how open dialogue can enhance your sexual experiences and build stronger connections with your partner. We’ll discuss the art of timing, the significance of spontaneity, and the joy that keeps the spark alive amidst our busy lives. Whether you’re looking to reignite passion or simply improve your connection, this episode of "Let’s Talk About Sex" is packed with practical tips, thoughtful reflections, and a dash of humor. Tune in and get ready to elevate your bedroom basics!

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In this week's episode, we delve into the essential practices that can keep your marriage thriving. Join us as we discuss the seven things you should never stop doing in your relationship, from effective communication and expressing appreciation to prioritizing quality time and maintaining intimacy.Tune in now to hear real-stories and actionable tips that can keep love alive and well in your marriage!

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Do you find yourself arguing with your partner over scattered clothes or dirty dishes? Have you ever considered whether your partner feels comfortable in their own home? In this episode, I am joined by my husband, Brian Hays and we are delving into the age-old dilemma of comfort versus cleanliness in our living spaces. Join us as we explore what it truly means to create a home that feels inviting and lived-in, while also maintaining a sense of order and cleanliness. You'll here our personal journey of finding that "sweet spot" between cozy clutter and minimalist tidiness. Discover practical tips to harmonize your home environment, ensuring it reflects your personalities without losing the peaceful ambiance you desire in your home.

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Have you ever wondered why we fall out of love? In this thought-provoking episode, we dive deep into the complex journey of love and the subtle, yet powerful, choices that can lead to falling out of it. How often do we consider the impact of our daily decisions on our relationships? Join us as we explore the small habits, misunderstandings, and emotional disconnects that can accumulate over time. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that might just change the way you think about love and relationships!

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In this week's episode, I am honored to be joined by Kelli Butterfly, the founder and host of the Daily Dose of Positivity podcast. Kelli is also a Positive Growth and Social Media Engagement Coach. Together, we delve into the transformative impact of positive thinking on our relationships. Join us as we explore how cultivating a positive mindset can strengthen the bonds of marriage.We'll share practical tips, personal stories, and expert insights to help you unlock the power of positivity in your marriage!

Here's how you can connect with Kelli: https://www.instagram.com/kelli.butterflyofficial/?hl=en https://open.spotify.com/show/6oDy7QtWqW4lMbdGhVn5mF?si=2bef07e247f74518

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In this week's episode, we explore practical strategies to foster a supportive and uplifting environment in your marriage. Join us as we discuss relatable anecdotes, and tips on how to nurture each other's strengths and navigate challenges together, ultimately building a deeper and more fulfilling partnership. Tune in to learn how to bring out the best in each other and your marriage.

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Do you ever feel like you and your partner just aren't compatible anymore? In this week's episode, we dive deep into the essential ingredients for fostering compatibility in marriages. Join us as we explore practical strategies that you can use to strengthen your compatibility. Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, tune in now and discover how to build a more compatible and fulfilling relationship! Choose love.

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Did you know that you can transform your relationship by dancing together? In this week's episode, we are exploring the transformative power of dance in building and deepening relationships. I am honored to be joined by Personal Dance Coaches James and D'Leene DeBoer.Join us as we dive into an engaging conversation with experts who will share their insights on how movement can bridge emotional gaps, enhance communication, and foster genuine connections in our relationships and marriages.

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As the new year unfolds, it’s the perfect time to reflect on your relationship and marriage. In this week's episode, we’ll share a new perspective on love and marriage. Whether you're looking to rekindle your romance or strengthen your bond, this episode will inspire you to approach your relationship with renewed energy and optimism and perhaps see things in a dffierent light.Tune in and get ready to embark on a year of love, growth, and heartfelt connection!

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In today's episode, we explore the essential ingredients for cultivating love and positivity in your marriage. I am honored to be joined by Positive Impact Coach, Kelli Reekie us as we delve into practical strategies to strengthen your emotional connection, enhance communication, and foster a supportive atmosphere at home. We’ll share inspiring stories, expert insights, and actionable tips that can help you navigate challenges while celebrating the joys of love and marriage, Tune in and discover how small daily gestures can make a big impact on your marital bliss!

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Join us in this insightful podcast as we explore effective strategies to manage stress in your marriage. Discover practical tips, expert advice, and real-life stories that will help you strengthen your bond. Learn how to communicate better, support each other, and create a nurturing environment to thrive together.

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In this heartfelt episode, we explore the true essence of the holiday season. While we often focus on creating special moments and grand gestures, we must pause to reflect on the impact of our choices on ourselves, our spouses and our children. Tune in for a warm conversation about celebrating the holidays with intention and ways to ensure that love shines through in everything we do.

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In this week's episode, we're diving into how to prioritize your marriage during the holiday season. With all the hustle and bustle, it's easy to lose sight of what truly matters. Join us as we explore meaningful ways to connect with your partner and nurture your relationship amidst the festivities. Tune in for inspiring tips on keeping love at the forefront this holiday season! Don't miss it!

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In this week's episode, we discuss the importance of regularly expressing love and gratitude to our partners to keep the relationship strong. Tune in now to discover nine ways you can show love and appreciation to your spouse. Happy Thanksgiving to those celebrating! Choose love.

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Can you imagine being married for 50 years or longer? In this week's episode, we discuss timeless love and the inspiration drawn from couples whose marriages withstand the test of time.e being married for 50 years or more? In this week's episode, we discuss timeless love and the inspirations from couples whose marriages withstand the test of time.

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Do you feel drained? Could it be that you are giving too much? In this week's episode, we are discussing a hot topic that many of us can resonate with! Giving too much can be harmful to our marriages. Tune in now to discover why we do too much, why it drains us, what we can do to create a healthier balance, and how doing less can make us feel more connected to our partners. Choose love and start your journey to a healthier relationship today.

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Do you and your partner often find yourselves at odds during football season? This week's episode is packed with actionable advice on how to manage the unique challenges of this time, helping you to maintain a strong connection. Tune in and learn how to love with intention and keep your heart in the game!

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When we enter into our first marriage, it's a time of immense love and hope, with divorce being the furthest thing from our minds. In this week's episode, I am thrilled to be joined by my sister, Denise Georgakis. Together, we are sharing our deeply personal love stories, the reasons behind our marriages' endings, and the profound lessons we've learned about love and marriage.

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Have you ever considered getting divorced? Have you ever considered all the ramifications of that choice? In this week's episode, I will be sharing the realities of divorce. I have been divorced. Twice. I am acutely aware what it is like to get divorced. I am now remarried for the third time and I have learned that love is a decision. I am not better than you, just better than I used to be. Having realistic expectations of love and marriage can help us all avoid disillusionment and divorce. Love is a choice. Choose love.

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When our marriages are not going as well as we had expected it can be draining. Are you tired, feeling depressed or trapped? You may be experiencing marriage burnout. In this week's episode, you will learn what marriage burn out is, what it feels like and how to avoid it.

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In this week's episode, I have the honor of sharing a story filled with hope and a whole lot of love. I am joined by Reanna Montaro who has been fostering "Little One" for nearly five years and is now in the process of adoption. It's been a long journey filled with joy and tears. We are also joined by Reanna's mom, Karen Ferritto who has been a constant source of love and support along the way. Join us as we share from our hearts the ultimate choice....unconditional love. This is an episode you won't want to miss!

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Is married sex really boring? Are good marriages really conflict free? There are so many misconceptions about marriage. In this week's episode, we are diving into some of the most common myths about marriage, and why holding those beliefs can prevent us from doing what is necessary to create happy, fulfilling marriages. What marriage myths do you believe in?

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Can't wait to retire? Did you know that retirement can be very stressful on our marriages if we don't prepare? In this week's episode, Karen Ferritto and I are discussing how retirement affects marriages, the "Gray Divorce," how to not drive each other crazy during retirement and much, much more....

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Marriage is not easy. There will always be challenges. In this week's episode, we are exploring the complexities of staying committed to our spouses, the power of a commitment statement, and the action steps we need to take to strengthen the commitment we made when we said "I do!" Remember love is a decision. Choose love.

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Do you feel emotionally safe in your marriage? In this week's episode, you'll learn what it takes to create emotional safety in your marriage. You will also hear what emotional safety is NOT! Emotional safety is essential for the well being of our marriages don't settle for anything less!

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Does your faith ever get shaken? Mine does! In this week's episode, I'd like to welcome my cousin, Kathryn Ferritto back to the show! Today we are discussing faith, commitment, conflict, what God wants for us in our marriages, and much, much more! Discover why love can challenge us, heal us and how we can see our spouse's quirks as an opportunity to serve and love them unconditionally.

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We all get triggered by our spouses! In this weeks episode, we are discussing the involuntary response to the things that happen in our past that cause us to be triggered by our partners. Being emotionally reactive is detrimental to our marriages. Listen now to learn what to do when you feel triggered, how you can manage and even overcome your triggers and why our triggers can actually be a gift.

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Have you ever wondered why so marriages fail? Do you ever feel like giving up on your marriage. In this weeks episode, we are discussing why love is so challenging and why so many marriages fail. You will learn how to turn towards your spouse and what you need to avoid so that you don't become part of the startling divorce statistics. Love is a decsion and it takes two people to create something long-lasting and fulfilling. Choose your spouse. Don't give up on each other.

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Are you a good listener? Listening isn't always easy. In this weeks episode, we are sharing 7 tips that you can use to elevate your listening skills so that you can avoid misunderstandings and disconnection. Love is embracing the idea that we can create a stronger deeper connection by actively listening. Choose love.

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Have you ever felt invalidated by your spouse? In this weeks episode, we are discussing why learning to validate our partners is the cornerstone of emotional safety and connection in our marriages. Listen now to discover how we can communicate effectively so that our partners feel important, understood and validated! Love is a choice to learn the skills required to validate our partners. Choose love.

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An emotional affair can be even more detrimental to a marriage than a physical affair! In this weeks episode, you will learn how to set necessary boundaries, how to address keeping in touch with exes and how you and your partner can avoid emotional affairs. You won't want to miss this episode! Consider sharing this episode with your spouse.

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Divorce statistics are unnerving! What are your chances of staying married? In this week's episode, we are talking about the habits that increase our chances of staying happily married for a lifetime. Our golden years together can be the most wonderful!

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Conflict is ineveitable. However, many conflicts can be avoided if we keep an open mind and are willing to learn how to avoid conflict when unnecessary. In this week's episode, we are providing proven strategies for avoiding conflicts in our marriages. Listen now to learn the #1 reason conflicts arise!

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Do you ever feel like you and your spouse have time for everything and everyone else but each other? You are not alone. In this week's episode, we discuss the importance of intentionally making time for our spouses and what we can do to ensure we spend enough quality time together to sustain our connections. Love is a choice. Choose love.

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When we get married we are full of love and a lot of hope. We aim to be amazing spouses and then through the years things somehow shift. We become less "eager" to put in the effort to be an amazing partner. In this week's episode, we are reviewing some of the qualities that make a spouse amazing. Remember, it is never too late to love with intention!

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In this week's episode, we are diving right into the things that we need to know before we get married. Married? This episode can be eye opening for you as well! Learning to manage our expectations of love and marriage is one of the keys to having a happy marriage!

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Ever wonder why some wives are smiling and happy and you feel miserable? This week's episode is jam packed with tips and ideas on how you can be a happier, more loving wife! Love is a skill that can be learned and practiced so that we may create the marriages we want and deserve! Choose love.

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How well do you travel with your spouse? In this week's episode, my sister, Denise Georgakis, and I dive into some tips to help you make the most of traveling with your partner. You'll hear why I was crying when Brian went scuba diving on the Great Barrier Reef, Denise will share her experience with a tiger in Thailand and much much more....

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When your husband says he needs some "guy time," how does it make you feel? In this week's episode, we are exploring the reasons why men need to have guy time and what benefits it can bring to our relationships.

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In this week's episode, I am honored to be joined by Award-winning Authors, TEDx Speakers and Mindset Guides, Mariah and Byron Edgington. They are dedicated to lifting people up! Together we are bringing awarness to Neurodivergence in relationships. You will learn what neurodivergence is, how it can impact relationships, why neurodiversity is a gift, where to access their free resources and much, much more!

Byron LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/byronedgington/

Mariah LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariahedgington/

TEDx Video April 2023: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Gdk7xvBW0s

Amazon author page: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Byron-Edgington/author/B00DLATV6K

Amazon Journey Well series: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Journey+Well+You+are+more+than+enough&i=digital-text&ref=nb_sb_noss

Mandate To Elevate: www.mandatetoelevate.com

Mental Health Television Network (MHTN.org) appearance April 22nd: https://mhtn.org/celebrating-24-years-strong-a-couples-guide-to-lasting-love/

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In this week's episode, you will learn the three C's of a strong and healthy marriage. We all want to have strong, loving relationships but we can't just go along for the ride! We must be active participants! Listen now to learn about the three C's and how you can begin creating the kind of marriage you want and deserve today!

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Interested in hearing a man's perspective? In this week's episode, I am honored to be joined by Dorian Duff who has been married to his wife, Jillian, for five years. Together we are exploring the complexities of love and marriage. Listen now to hear about fate, kids, siblings, families, expecations, teamwork, boundaries, autonomy and much, much more...

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In this week's episode, you will learn something that can entirely change your marriage. Listen with an open heart and an open mind because when we change our thoughts, we can change our marriages and lives.

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Is the grass really greener with a different partner? In this weeks episode, I am sharing my story, challenging your mindset and revealing why the grass is not greener. All marriages have challenges. You will just encounter "different" challenges with a new partner. If divorce has ever crossed your mind you won't want to miss this episode!

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How is your ability to be vulnerable? In this week's episode, we are diving into the importance of vulnerabilty in our marriages. Listen now to discover how you can be more vulnerable. I also reveal how my own vulnerabilty created something deeper for me and my husband Brian. Choose love.

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Do you treat your dog better than your spouse? In this weeks episode, my sister, Denise (who is a pet sitter) joins me and we are diving into the positive and negative aspects of pet ownership as a couple. Listen now for a few laughs, a few tips and much more!

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So many of us feel like our needs aren't being met in our marriages. This is an episode that you won't want to miss! In this week's episode, you will learn the difference between a need and a want, you will learn why knowing what your needs are is an essential part of getting your needs met, and the five questions you need to ask yourself that will help you understand what it truly is that you need.

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We all want to have a happy marriage but as we all know marriage is not always easy. In this week's episode, we are discussing 25 habits of happy couples. This is a great opportunity for you to see how many of this habits are part of your marriage!

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Is your marriage so different now than when you first got married? In this week's episode, we are talking about the inevitable changes of marriage. You will learn why marriage changes and why it is crucial to know what to expect of love and marriage.

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Did you know that couples who compliment each other are happier? Do you compliment your spouse? In this week's episode, we are discussing the importance of compliments in our marriages, the one thing that you need to do if you are uncomfortable receiving compliments and how to implement compliments that will strengthen your relationship!

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Did you know that couples who compliment each other are happier? Do you compliment your spouse? In this week's episode, we are discussing the importance of compliments in our marriages, the one thing that you need to do if you are uncomfortable receiving compliments and how to implement compliments that will strengthen your relationship!

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Great marriages are definitely possible. In this week's episode, my sister-in-law, Sharon Hays, joins me to discuss love, marriage, commitment and the joy of grandkids. Great marriages have ups and downs but the difference is that couples like Sharon and Quay never give up on each other. Great marriages are created!

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Feeling disconnected lately? Even strong happy marriages experience disconnection from time to time. In this weeks episode, I am offering valuable insights on how to restablish and maintain connection with your spouse. Love is a skill that we can all learn and practice! Learning to love is a choice. Listen now to discover how you can reconnect with your partner today.

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In this week's episode, I am joined by Artist, Poet, Reiki Healer, and Aromatherapist Laura Phillips. Laura has been married for 21 years and today Laura is sharing her marriage tips and strategies that can help you maintain a happy, long-lasting marriage. Remember, when we know better, we do better. Choose love.

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Anyone can fall in love but not everyone can sustain love. In this week's episode, I am sharing a new perspective on why consistantly expressing love and affection is a key component of love, the power of small gestures, and how to keep love alive.

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True love goes beyond emotions. In this week's episode, I am honored to collaborate with my friend and fellow Relationship Coach, Sonali Kukreja! We will discuss the things we do for love, the sacrifices we make for love and what it means, how the "me" culture affects our relationships, and much more! Whether you have been married for many years or are newly married, you will gain valuable insights into why we all do what we do for love. Thank you, Sonali, for joining me today.

Please visit Sonali on Instagram @lovelifecoachxo and her website www.lovelifecoachxo.com

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Falling in love is easy. However, what happens when we start to wonder if we are falling out of love? In this week's episode, we are exploring why our expectations of love lead to disappointment and very often divorce. Listen now to learn why falling out of love has a way of creeping up on us and what you can do to reconnect and consider another perspective. Love is a decsion. Choose wisely.

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Do you know how to navigate conflict in a loving way? Do you find yourself constantly complaining? In this week's episode, we are offering tips and strategies that will elevate your communication skills so that you can deepen your connection. We are also sharing a powerful phrase that you can use when you feel frustrated with the way your partner is speaking to you. (It is a game changer!) Remember, when we know better we can do better. Choose love.

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Did you know that suppressing your emotions is detrimental to your marriage? Most of us do it because we don't know what else to do and because we simply want to avoid confrontation. In this week's episode, we are discussing how to eliminate the emotions that no longer serve you and why expressing your emotions can improve your emotional and physical well being, and your relationship! Don't miss out on giving your partner the chance to show you they care! Learn how to express yourself.

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Long-term marriages are rare. In this weeks episode, I am honored to be joined by Susan Rosser, the Publisher and Creative Director of Point Publishing. Susan has been married to her husband, Richard, for 27 years and today she is sharing their secrets to a happy marriage. You'll hear Susan's stories, tips and how a conversation with her sister changed her perspective on a subject many women can relate to. Listen now to learn how you can implement some of these strategies in your own marriage. Choose love.

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https://www.instagram.com/lighthousepointmagazine?igsh=OWRldTI4anl1cDdv

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Have you ever considered what your relationship would be like this time next year if you implemented a few changes in 2024? In this week's episode, I am sharing three ways that you can deepen your connection and improve your marriage. Love is a decsion and it all starts with you! May your heart and mind be open to something more in 2024! Happy New Year!

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There is no shortage of marriage advice! In this week's episode, I am sharing some of the marriage advice that you have heard of and WHY you don't want to take that advice. You will be surprised at how detrimental some marriage advice can be!

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Did you know that LOVE is considered to be the most precious gift in the world? In this week's episode, you will discover what it takes to increase intimacy, connection and fulfillment. May your holidays be filled with everything that makes you feel happiest and very loved!

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If you are feeling lonely in your marriage, you won't want to miss this episode! In this week's episode, you will learn a new way of thinking about loneliness. Are you curious to know what actions can you take when you are feeling lonely? Listen now and find out!

Email: MichelleHays@monarchforlove.com

IG: https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

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It's easy to start feeling disconnected from our spouses during the holiday season. In this week's episode, I will be sharing 5 ways that you can stay connected despite all the hustle and bustle of the season. Love intentionally.

Email: MichelleHays@monarchforlove.com

IG: https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

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In this week's episode, we are discussing twelve things that can be damaging to your marriage. Some of them may surprise you! Listen now to hear what they are and to make sure that you are not allowing any these "don'ts" undermine your relationship! Remember when you know better you can do better! Choose love.

Email: MichelleHays@monarchforlove.com

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It is so easy to get caught up in everything we aren't getting from our partners. Has it been a while since you focused on the good things and expressed gratitude to your spouse? In this week's episode, you'll discover how expressing gratitude can expand your love and what you can do to avoid a "dangerous habit" that can lead to divorce. You will also learn how to think about gratitude from a different perspective. You don't want to miss this episode! Thank you for listening! I appreciate you! Happy Thanksgiving!

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What mask do you wear in your relationship? In this week's episode, you will learn what masking is, the types of masks people wear and why masking is detrimental to your relationship. You'll also discover what you need to do to remove your mask and why revealing your authentic self to your partner can create a deeper connection. Remember, you are lovable just as you are! Believe it!

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Knowing we are loved and "feeling" loved are two very different things. In this week's episode, you'll learn seven ways to express love so that your partner will "feel" loved. Love expands when we choose to love intentionally. Choose love.

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Ever wonder what a man really wants? My husband, Brian Hays, is my guest host this week ! In this episode, you'll hear a man's take on what men want from their wives and why being mindful of their needs can be a key factor in getting the connection you crave.

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Nobody gets married thinking they will get divorced. Most of us are good people who believe we just married the "wrong" person. In this week's episode, I share what I learned about love after being divorced. (Not only once but twice.) I have turned my life around and so can you. My husband, Brian and I are happily married for almost twelve years and counting! Listen now to discover the importance of self awareness , why we tend to blame our spouse for our unhappiness and the midset you need to avoid divorce and keep your family together.

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When we get married we have hopes of having incredible relationships. Yet, somewhere along the way, we become disillusioned. In this week's episode, you'll discover what it truly means to grow in your relationship and what mindset you'll need to create the relationship you want and deserve.

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Are you busy making everyone else happy? In this week's episode, we are discussing the simple things you can do to regain your sense of self. Find our why limiting beliefs can be detrimental to your relationship and the questions you need to ask yourself to unleash more love!

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Do you and your partner have challenges sleeping in the same bed? Insomnia, Snoring and watching TV can interfere with a good nights sleep! In this week's episode, we are dicussing the term "Sleep Divorce." Listen now to discover what a sleep divorce is, what your options are and why it might not be the best choice for your marriage.

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Do you understand your partner? This week's episode discusses the importance of being a lifelong learner in your relationship. Listen now to hear how your marriage can benefit from seeking the understanding of your spouse. Stephen and Alex Kendrick are the authors of The Love Dare, one of my "go-to" books. I enjoy sharing some of their ideas and use many of them in my marriage. Many of us tend to react and get defensive rather than seek to understand why our partner is upset. Understanding our partners is one of the most essential components of a successful marriage. Listen now to hear how you can deepen your connection and avoid repetitive conflict by seeking understanding.

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Sharing a bathroom with your partner isn't easy. In this week's episode, I share what I believe is the secret to bathroom bliss! You'll be surprised to hear how often couples argue over the state of the bathroom and you'll find out what you can do to ease your frustrations.

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Is your relationship starving for attention? In this episode you will hear a funny story from the book, Chicken Soup for the Couples Soul, you'll learn about "The Second Shift" and I will be sharing a powerful phrase about love that I learned from a wonderful husband who had Alzheimer's disease.

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Would you fight for your spouse and family? Affairs happen and they are devastating. In this episode, my special guests Robbin and Bob Bates are sharing their very emotional journey back to each other after an affair tore them apart. Listen now to hear how they overcame one of the most devastating things that can happen to a couple. Thank you Robbin and Bob for your vulnerability and the powerful lesson about love and marriage that you teach us in this episode.

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Have you been feeling overwhelmed or unappreciated lately? Who doesn't! In this episode, you will learn how to ask for what you want, so you get it! Stop complaining. Stop feeling guilty about putting yourself first! Burn out isn't good for anyone. Your needs matter! Know your worth and learn to ask for what you want!

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Remember when you couldn't get enough of eachother? Now several years have passed and well, maybe you aren't as motivated? Maybe you would rather watch a movie on Netflix? In this weeks episode, we talk about spontanous desire vs. responsive desire, and what you can do to have more sex!

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All marriages have challenges. However, there are several things that may slowly be destroying your marriage. In this week's episode, we are discussing negative behaviors that can create distance and hurt your marriage. Self awareness is a powerful tool. Listen now to see if any of your actions are on this list and why you'll want to avoid them. Love is a choice. Choose love.

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Good marriages don't just happen. In this week's episode, we are discussing ten things that are good for your marriage and why you must take the time to implement them into your life.

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Life can unexpectedly change in a split second. In this week's episode I share a somewhat scary story. You'll hear what happened and why we should never take our lives or our spouses for granted.

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We all know that the ocean is unpredictable and sometimes even destructive. In this week's episode, we are discussing our expectations of love. Shakespeare said, Expectation is the root cause of heartache. What are your expectations of love? This episode will challenge you to explore a new way of thinking about love and marriage.

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Being independent in your marriage is vital for your relationship. This week's episode is about independence. Sometimes we get so focused on making our partner happy that it can seem like we have somehow lost ourselves. Listen now to hear why independence can foster closeness and why you need a sense of freedom in your marriage.

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In this week's episoded, my dear friend James DeMars joins me to talk about marriage, truth and love. You will learn the four types of love and why understanding each of them can improve your marriage. The most important type of love in any marriage is agape love, which is described as selfless, unconditional love. Loving each other, flaws and all. Just like God loves us! God is love!

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Have your conversations with your spouse become routine? In this week's episode, I am sharing five questions that you may want to consider asking your spouse to deepen your connection. You'll hear the answers I received from my husband, Brian when I asked him some of these questions. I will even reveal one of my "quirks" that irritates Brian. Rediscover your spouse! Ask more questions! Remember good fulfilling marriages are created! Choose Love!

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How is your sex life? In this week's episode, we are talking about sex. Most of us are not very comfotable when it comes to talking about sex. So many couples report not having much sex or being unsatisfied with the sex they are having. So how can you improve your sex life? How often are other couples having sex? What can you do to have more sex? Do you have a high sex drive or a low sex drive? Do you express your needs and desires? Listen now for the the answers to these questions and more.....

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A life-changing illness can be devastating to a marriage. What do couples do to get through it? My special guest on this week's show is Leah Sullivan. Leah lost her husband, John, to dementia over two years ago, and today Leah is sharing their love story. You will hear about the loving choices and sacrifices Leah made to care for the man she loved until the end of his life. You will also learn some of Leah's tips for creating the kind of love we all hope to have—special thanks to Leah (and John) for your inspiration.

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It is normal to want to vent to our friends and family when our spouse does something frustrating or hurtful. In this week's episode we are talking about the ramifications of oversharing. You will learn why venting can cause more problems and what you can do instead. Remember when we know better we can do better! Choose Love!

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Do you celebrate your wedding anniversary? Remember how happy you were that day? You were so in love! In this episode, you'll learn the reasons why celebrating your anniversary is a must! You will hear what Brian and I wrote to each other in our anniversary cards this year and how celebrating can bring back those fabulous memories. If you celebrate your anniversary you will love it and if you don't celebrate your anniversary this episode is a must! Choose love.

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Loss is a part of every life. So, what do you say to someone who has lost a loved one or spouse? In this week's episode, I am honored to be joined by Yarona Boster, an Advanced Life Coach in Parenting, Loss, Trauma, and Infertility. Yarona Boster is also an accomplished TEDx Speaker, Certified Speaker Coach, and Author! Together we are discussing loss and love. You will learn what and what "not" to say to someone who has experienced a loss. You will discover what foundational losses are, the truth about broken hearts, how to support your spouse during the loss of their parent, the importance of an advanced directive and so much more.

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All marriages have downtimes. The fact is that there will be times in our marriages when we may feel lonely, frustrated, angry, neglected and yes, even unloved. In this week's episode, we are discussing ways that you can get out of a rut! You will discover why your needs are just as important as your spouses and how looking at your marriage from a different perspective may be just the thing that will have you and your spouse on the rise again. Love is a choice. Choose love.

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How Carefully Do You Choose Your Words? In this week's episode, I am sharing some powerful phrases that may transform how your partner responds to you. Learning what to say can make all the difference! Do you want to express your needs? Talk about sex? Or be forgiven? When you know what to say, you can build the emotional intimacy you desire! Listen now to find out what to say to perk up your spouse's ears!    Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

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In this week's episode, we are discussing ways to improve your marriage! Discover some essential tips and consider opening your mind to a different way of thinking! Learn about the one thing that will keep you and your spouse connected! Remember, avoidance does not create a happy marriage! Choose Love! 

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Do you ever wonder why your spouse pulls away when you want to be closest to them? In this week's episode, we discuss John Gray's book; Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. The truth is that men and women have different needs, and when we are aware of and accept our differences, we can be more successful in our relationships.  Listen now to learn why men go into their caves, why women are like waves, and what you can do to improve your relationship. Plus, the importance of asking for what you need, what your husband needs most, what you may be doing that pushes him away, and more......

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Let's face it; we are all very busy. Trying to juggle schedules can seem daunting. In this week's episode, my husband, Brian, and I discuss the importance of checking in with your spouse weekly. Listen now to hear how you can avoid schedule conflicts and the pact you can make with your spouse that can change your perspective.

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Do you know the five stages married couples go through? In this week's episode, we are discussing the five stages of marriage. Listen now and see if you can recognize which stage you and your partner are in. There is one particular stage when most couples decide to quit on each other. Don't let that be you! Love is a Decision! When we know better, we can do better! Choose love! 

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No marriage is perfect. We all make mistakes, but sometimes it is difficult owning up to hurting our partners. In this week's episode, you will learn some simple steps to make apologizing to your spouse more effective. Listen now to discover why apologies support good mental health and how you can get busy apologizing and reconnecting!

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All marriages have challenges. How are you handling the challenges in your marriage? Have you ever considered seeing a marriage therapist? This week, I am honored to be joined by Daniel W. Houmes, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. In this episode, you will learn some of the time-tested tools and methods Dan has successfully taught couples for the past 43 years! Listen now to discover words and phrases that can help you communicate more effectively with your spouse and why discipline creates desire. You will also hear why expectations can be relationship killers, the difference between internal and external processors, a word of caution to couples from Dan, and so much more! 

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In this week's episode, you will hear how Larry Savarese, who served as a combat marine, won the heart of his lovely ballerina Julia Savarese. My husband, Brian Hays, also joins us in the conversation as we all share our ideas on different conflict styles, expressing anger, how to listen, and the power of an apology. Be sure to listen for "Larry's Tip," which is a great tool for women to use before venting to their husbands. Plus, do you ever think you are having a bad day? You'll think again when you hear Larry's take on "a bad day." It can change how you think about your problems and your marriage. 

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Has your husband been emotionally distant lately? Are you feeling lonely and unloved? The truth is that most husbands will become emotionally distant sometimes. That is normal, but when he remains emotionally distant for longer periods of time, that becomes a red flag! In this week's episode, you will hear the number one reason why your husband becomes emotionally distant, discover what he may be thinking, and learn what you can do to reconnect with him as soon as possible! 

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Money is the second leading cause of divorce, and the odds are that you have argued about money with your spouse at some point during your marriage. In this week's episode, Personal Finance Coach and host of the "Where's My Money?" podcast, Jason Rash, joins me to discuss money and marriage. We will discuss the importance of trust, why it is essential to be a team, and money habits and beliefs. You'll also hear about the money feedback loop and learn about "The $500 Fix," which can quickly cure frivolous spending and much more! 

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Most likely, you have heard about the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. In this week's episode, you will hear a description of each of the five love languages. You'll learn why knowing your partner's love language is essential for your relationship. You will also learn the difference between a request and a demand and discover what you can say if your partner isn't treating you as well as they should!    To learn more about Gary Chapman and The Five Love Languages, go to 5lovelanguages.com   Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

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I am honored to speak with Rev. David M Anderson, The Wedding Chaplain, in this week's episode. Whether you are newly married, married for quite some time, or remarried, this is an episode you will not want to miss! David and I are discussing the goal of every relationship, why couples must have a plan for their marriage, the "Right Person Myth," plus the one simple question that creates "magic" in a marriage, and so much more....

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Many of us have very high expectations regarding love, romance, and marriage. I get it. My expectations were unrealistic also. In this episode, you'll learn what you can do to reconnect with your spouse, the decision that true love requires, and why your friendships can influence you and your marriage. Plus, reminders that can bring a little romance back into your relationship in preparation for Valentine's Day, which is coming up fast!

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I can't tell you how often I hear divorced people say, "I would never get married again." Yet, after a few years, some of us unexpectedly say "I do" again. Myself included! In this week's episode, Best Selling Author and Business Coach Wendi Blum and Social Entrepreneur and founder of Woman United for Change Loren Robin discuss getting remarried, dating, and much more! 

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We all have challenging relatives. You know, the "But We  Are Family" relatives. This week, my husband Brian joins me and we are discussing how to cope with challenging relatives. Sometimes it's "easier said than done" but if you are prepared, and you know how to deal with them, you may actually enjoy your family get togethers!  In this week's episode, you will not only learn how your thoughts and actions can make all the difference, but you will also discover a few simple comebacks that will diffuse any nosey aunt (or anyone for that matter) and also, how you can keep the upper hand in any family situation. We can't change our relatives but we certainly can do our best to accept them and change how we deal with them. Choose love!

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When was the last time you felt romanced? Have you romanced your partner lately? If you want romance to be a part of your marriage, you must "intentionally" and "consistently" create romance! It is easier than you think! In this week's episode, we are providing you with plenty of ideas to help you add romance to your relationship! Listen now to learn how to sprinkle a little romance into your marriage today! 

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It’s a new year! You can make better choices when it comes to your life and your relationship. Listen now to hear the New Year’s resolution you want to make that will make you and your partner happier in 2023! Wishing you the best year yet! Happy New Year!

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Divorce is a traumatic experience. It takes a huge toll on you, your family and your children. In this week's episode, Jamie Levine, the founder of Team Esteem and the host of the Mom Esteem podcast joins me to discuss divorce, therapy, and moving forward. Listen now to learn one of the most import things you can do for your children and some of the challenges of being divorced that you may not have considered. Thank you Jamie for joining me this week! You are awesome!

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Do you know the difference between a need and a want? Are you frequently neglecting your own needs? What are your beliefs about yourself and your partner? This episode is jam-packed with everything you want to know about expressing your needs clearly, and lovingly! You will also discover why self-awareness is a powerful tool for getting your needs met and why learning about each other is the key to meeting your partner's needs and having your own needs met! Listen now to learn how you can create love in your relationship now! We are all on a journey toward peace, hope, and love. Remember, love is the greatest gift of all! Happy Holidays! 

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So you are married for several years, and things are not as exciting as they once were. Things may even be, well, let's say, not so great. It happens to the best of us. We tend to get very familiar with our partners and inadvertently stop putting in the effort necessary to create and maintain our love for each other. In this episode, I am sharing the five telltale signs that you have become too relaxed in your relationship. Can you relate to any of them? I also highlight the small changes you can make that will start creating that loving feeling again. It's never too late if you just become a little more mindful and attentive. You have the power to rekindle the feelings you are missing. It all starts with you. Listen now to learn how!

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In this episode, we are talking about the art of gift-giving and the importance of thoughtfulness. I also share a story about a gift I received that I will never forget! It made me cry. This is a magical time of year. Learn what it takes to make a significant impact with your gift this year!    Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

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In this week's episode, we address one of the most frequent complaints couples face; Lack of emotional intimacy. Relationships cannot succeed without emotional connection. Do you desire a more profound sense of connection? Do you want your marriage to thrive? To do that, you must know how to create emotional intimacy because it is essential. Emotional intimacy can also be scary, but I can tell you from experience your efforts will be worth it! Listen now to learn how to take your relationship to the next level and intentionally create the emotional intimacy you desire.

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Welcome back, and thank you for listening! In this week's episode, we explore the power of gratitude. Being grateful at Thanksgiving time is not enough! Do you habitually focus on the negative in your relationship most of the year? You are not alone!   Listen now to learn how you can increase your happiness immediately, what your brain is trained to do and how you can retrain it. Also, discover what happens when you intentionally let your partner know you appreciate them!    May your heart be filled with love and gratitude this Thanksgiving   Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

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Being vulnerable can be challenging. However, vulnerability is a vital part of any meaningful relationship. My special guest today is Marcy Kammerman. In this week's episode, Marcy and I discuss the importance of vulnerability, self-love, learning to be comfortable in your own skin, one technique that can eliminate misunderstandings between you and your partner, and so much more!

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Feeling disconnected? Want more connection? You are not alone! Every marriage has times when spouses feel disengaged. So how do you reconnect or, better yet, deepen your connection? In this week's episode, I share five tips to increase connection in your marriage. Connecting can be easier than you think! These tips will almost immediately change the dynamics between you and your partner. One tip requires a little bravery, but the rewards are worth it! Connection is essential to the well-being of your marriage! Listen now, you'll want to hear this!

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Nowadays, it is not uncommon for adult children to live with their parents. The dynamics between you and your spouse change significantly, especially if they are stepchildren. In this week's episode, my sister, Denise Georgakis, joins me to discuss the ups and downs of living with adult children. Got messy kids? Are you thinking, this is my house, and I have the right to clean your room?  Listen now to find out the simple solution we highly recommend to avoid invading our children's privacy while keeping our sanity, the importance of boundaries, respect, and much more! 

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Conflicts in relationships are unavoidable. Do you try to avoid conflict in your marriage? Why not learn how to resolve conflicts for a win-win solution? My special guest this week is Sandi Antush. In this episode, Sandi and I discuss some beneficial tools you can adopt in your relationship that can change how you resolve conflicts in your marriage. Listen now to learn how conflicts can be a source of connection, the importance of the "Pause," and Sandi's secret conflict strategy that may surprise you!

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Wouldn't it be fantastic if you could wave a magic wand and "poof!" you could have the kind of relationship you want? Sounds great, but relationships don't work that way. You have more power than you think! Love is a process.  In this episode, you will discover three significant ways to improve your relationship faster than you believe possible. Don't delay; listen today!

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When you feel stressed, it's easy to take it out on your partner! Maybe they are taking their stress out on you?

In this week's episode, my husband, Brian, and I talk about stress, expectations, and the pressures of society. 

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Life happens! How would you and your spouse adapt if one of you were suddenly unable to walk? In this episode, my husband, Brian, joins me as we share how a day out on the boat with our family turned into a race to shore and how we continued to navigate this unexpected accident. Listen now to hear about the frustrations, attitude changes, and opportunities we had to grow through adversity. I want to dedicate this episode to Melissa Hopkins; I will never forget Melissa's love and support.

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I am willing to bet that thinking about your wedding day brings back some blissful memories!  In this week's episode, my special guest is Abi Allen, and she shares the excitement and anticipation of her upcoming wedding day!  Hear how Abi's romantic fiance, John, proposed to her and how they plan to manage their conflicts. Also, do you know that you are supposed to love your spouse the least on your wedding day? Listen now to find out more!

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This week's episode is jam-packed with thought-provoking ideas! Get ready as I take you for a short stroll down memory lane, address some of the frustrations and beliefs holding you back from the marriage you desire, and consider the "thing" about dogs. Keep listening to experience a unique invitation that will touch your heart! You will also find out how you can reconnect with your partner in a few simple ways. Remember, have an open mind and choose love!

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Listening is not always easy. We have all experienced conversations with our spouses when they were waiting to respond and were not listening. My husband, Brian Hays, is my special guest on this week's episode. Listen now to learn how to improve your listening skills. Learn how conflict can be a source of connection and about the "Six-Month Theory" that can enhance the quality of your marriage.

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Is it possible that you are contributing to your unhappiness? Do you believe that love is a "feeling"?  In this week's episode, we are debunking what most people believe about love. Listen now to learn how a little self-awareness and one decision can transform your marriage.

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In this episode, Karen Ferritto and I discuss some of the essential ingredients needed to create a strong, loving marriage. 

You will learn why there is no such thing as a perfect partner and how simple choices can connect you to your spouse.

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This week listen to hear about a bipolar relationship. When it was good it was incredible but when it was bad it was abusive. You will also learn about red flags, and the dangers of the things we don’t say in order to keep the peace.

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Your greatest desire is to be loved. Do you think you can go through the motions with little effort? Think about that for a moment. In this episode, you'll hear a story about an extraordinary woman who chose to love despite her husband's deteriorating diagnosis. How do you envision the future of your marriage? Is your marriage everything you hoped it to be? If not, listen to learn about the small mindset changes that can help you to cultivate the love you hoped for when you said: "I do." 

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Let's face it, being a stepparent is not easy! It can be downright frustrating and can potentially put a strain on your marriage. So why are stepfamilies so challenging? Most of the time, it's because stepparents and stepchildren have a weak bond due to a lack of history and emotional bond. 

So how do you connect with your stepchildren? In this week's episode, my husband, Brian Hays, joins me, and we are discussing his role as a stepparent. Brian has experienced being a stepchild firsthand, and he shares that experience and how it has influenced his role as a stepdad. Listen for the tips and strategies that can help you build a positive relationship with your stepchildren and bond you with your spouse in a profound way.

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It is easy to get complacent in relationships. However, if you want a more fulfilling relationship, growth is essential.Growth brings excitement to a relationship! Growth can reconnect you and your partner!Are you a people pleaser? Are you scared to be vulnerable? Isn't it time to choose growth? Choose love.This week's episode discusses the importance of self-awareness, growth, and change.

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Today, we welcome back our special guest, Karen Ferritto who has been married for 33 years! 

In this episode, we discuss:

  • The influence of In-Laws

  • Why understanding and forgiveness are important to you

  • Why childhood wounds and trauma can connect you and your partner

  • The essential ingredient to creating a thriving relationship

  • How an important choice can help you see love in a different way

  • When "Dan" Houmes, LMFT challenges Michelle 

  • How you can make better choices when it comes to your pet peeves

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Are the words and phrases you are using disconnecting you and your partner?The words you use are potent. They can deliver a message of love, appreciation, and respect.On the other hand, your words also have the power to hurt, offend, and cause disconnection. 

In this week's episode, you will learn how to use simple yet powerful words and phrases that can transform your relationship and help you to create the connection you crave! You'll also discover three factors that affect your communication and why sharing triggers from your past can actually be an opportunity for you to heal.

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Toxic behaviors drain us. Maybe some toxic behaviors have creeped into your marriage?  Listen in to learn what the good characteristics of a marriage are and how to include them in your marriage. Find out what Gandhi has to say and why genuine interest in what your partner has to say is important.   

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Step Families can be down right challenging. Do you feel like you are always walking on egg shells? Are you frustrated and confused? The good news is you're-normal! Most step families experience tension and resistance.

This week I welcome my special guest, Karen Ferritto. Karen and her husband, Tony, and their four children have been living the step life for 33 years! 

In this episode, we'll share what we learned about step families, how we handle "the exes", the pain of failed marriages and one of the most important things you could do for your children/stepchildren.

You'll discover how setting boundaries, relinquishing control, and choosing love can create the kind of step-family you and your family deserve.

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The Four Horseman of the Apocalypse is a metaphor depicting the end of times. Dr. John Gottman uses this same metaphor to describe toxic behaviors that can predict a relationship's ending.  This week we are exploring those toxic behaviors and how to avoid them in your relationship.  Remember when you know better you can do better.   Choose Love.

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Most of us tend hold our tongues when it comes to conflict. Is that choice really making our relationships better? In this week’s episode, my husband, Brian Hays, joins me to discuss how our pasts affect our relationships, "The Pact" we recommend for all couples and how conflict can unexpectedly connect you and your partner.    Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/monarchforlove/

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Did you know that when we complain or nag there is actually an underlying DESIRE? How does your partner respond to your complaints or nagging? You repeat yourself because you believe they are not listening! I hear this from my clients all the time! It's not your message. It's your METHOD. As humans, we tend to complain. Nobody wants to hear us complaining. So we stop listening. Join me to find out how to communicate with your partner so they begin listening......again.

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There are times when the thought of divorce may cross your mind. In this episode we discuss the decision to get divorced, what that may look like and how the decision to love can empower you. Thank you to Laverne Gay, my mom, for her love and support.

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Surrounding ourselves with friends who have successful marriages and relationships is essential. Friends who can empathize and share rather than judge and criticize.  

Today my friend Sally Palmer joins me to share our tips on self-care, the healing power of walking, seeking understanding, cranky days and much more! Thank you Sally

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Do you have a fixed mindset? Are you stuck in a belief that things cannot change in your relationship?

How would your relationship change if you opened up your heart and mind to the possibility of change?

Let's find out how having a growth mindset is an important aspect of change!

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Have you been saying the same things over and over in your relationship? 

Let's shake up how we think about communicating with our partners. 

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Here's the story of two people who fell in love and gave up on each other.

There was plenty of love but definitely not enough communicating. 

Are you feeling unheard, unappreciated and ultimately unloved?

The reality is we all just get lost.  Let's find our way back to love.

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A  sneak peek at what's ahead on MFL...