Self-Care for Survivors of Trauma: Recent Episodes
Erin Hearts
Self-Care for Survivors of Trauma is a community of honest, open-minded survivors of all types of trauma, big and small. Each week, host Erin Hearts will discuss an aspect of self-care- emotional, physical, spiritual, etc.- and share how she navigates life's challenges by doing special things for herself and making time for herself each day. Erin believes that learning how to take care of ourselves is the key to healthy relationships with others, and she's devoted the past six years to studying and practicing how to better love and support herself and her loved ones. Erin is a mom, teacher, artist, and highly sensitive person. Leave Erin a voicemail at: 1-951-502-0505 Instagram: @iheartserin
Do you think you're controlling? Most people don't. We generally think of a angry, domestically violent-type person who takes their partners phone and stops them from seeing their friends.
But what if I showed you that being controlling is actually a very covert form of manipulation that you might be doing in relationships without even meaning to?!
Today I give three uncommon signs that you might have an issue with control, which is actually a sign of codepenency.
If you're willing to listen to this, then YOU are DOING THE WORK! Congratulations on your self-awareness!!!
Healing is possible!
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Have you noticed the critical voice inside your head? If you are in recovery or are interested in learning more about self-love and self care, this episode is for you. I know there was a time in my life when I was in such denial about my mental health that I didn't even notice the horrid things my critical voice was constantly shouting at me. Those messages had become such commonplace occurences that I had ignored them. But they were still there, behind the scenes, adding to my self-hatred and low self-esteem.
Today I will show you how to identify that critical voice, sometimes called our "critical parent." Where do these voices come from? Are they from childhood?
I will also give you the tools to combat that critical voice and start setting boundaries for more self-love and acceptance within your own body!
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Today I share a short poem I wrote that summarizes my journey from self-loathing to self-love. I hope it inspires you to follow your creativity! Spending our time in creative mode activates the pump that gushes self-love and acceptance!
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Our energy sets our boundaries! This means that boundaries are mostly an inside job. You might not need to even tell the other person with words that you are setting a boundary! We've all been around people who have strong boundaries. They hold the truth inside of them and we know even before talking to them that they won't put up with BS! We can become that type of person if we take the time to sit, listen to our resentments and feelings, and tease out the exact thing that's bugging us. If we do that, the truth emerges and we are able to then proceed with the boundary a lot more smoothly. We also can take time to talk with a neutral friend about the boundary and practice saying as few words as possible to convey our message. We don't need to explain the boundary if we know our own truth within and can validate it for ourselves. Good luck boundary setting with grace! Let me know how it goes.
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I share an exercise you can do for free with a pen and a piece of paper to tap into the wisdom of your intuition/inner child. One time I got an amazingly intuitive hit with this exercise and it helped me understand the truth about my abusive partner.
I mention Martha Beck. Here's one of her wonderful podcasts that you might enjoy: https://omny.fm/shows/the-gathering-pod/the-magical-corner-of-intention-and-invention
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Pure. Fucking. Magic. PFM. What was happening in your life when you experienced it? I liken it to the feeling of the universe delivering in such a way that you could have never planned or expected. It's pure magic.
I share two examples of recent PFM in my life, but there are so many! When have you witnessed PFM? DM me on Instagram @iheartserin
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Do you stay quiet when injustices occur? Or do you voice your concerns in a graceful manner?
Today I share a story about how I stood up for my values by writing an email to my son's school. A shocking thing occured while my son was having freetime, and I wanted to make sure it didn't happen again. I know I can't solve the problems of the world, but maybe I can make better the little corner of the city I live in... maybe I can protect one other child from being porn-exposed at a young age.
I recorded this podcast before I had heard a response from the teachers I emailed. I wanted to be sure that my feelings were raw and real as I recorded it. I had so many fears before I clicked that "send" button and stuck my neck out! I was so fearful of being judged, blamed, or just ignored! Luckily, I can tell you now, I was listened to and action was taken to stop this from happening again! My little email caused a GREAT DEAL of change. I alerted the school about problems I don't think they even knew existed at the elementary level. Grace + Boundaries works! Keep an even keel to break that cycle!!
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Have you ever wondered if you were a narcissist? I sure have. When I started learning about Narcissism and Codependency back in 2015, I was confused about the difference between these two ideas. It seemed they overlapped in places that made me scared- could I be just as bad as the person I was pointing fingers at?
The short answer is: NO. Narcissism is intense and serious. It is not the same thing as being a jerk, or being self-centered. All humans are celf-centered a lot of the time, but that doesn't make us narcissistic. True narcissism is when a person has no sense of self and has to deflect all blame towards others because they are unable to self-reflecft or feel empathy. Let's start reclamining the severity of the true word narcissism and stop using synonymously with all negative character traits. Public Service Soap-box announcement! ;-)
Thanks for listening! I hope it helps you on your journey!
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Do you ever gaslight yourself when you think of the narcissistic person in your life?
Do you wonder if it's your fault, if they're right, if everyone else is more sane than you because you see the bad behavior and they don't?
I've been dealing with real gaslighting from narcissists and people in my life for many years. But I've recently realized how I was doing it to myself!
This week I had a lot of anger and after consulting with a friend, decided to do a meditation to help release some of it. I came across this wonderful meditation by Amy Lowery on Insight Timer: https://insig.ht/wSLC3oMRpHb
I share about what helped me release my anger. Then, when the veil of anger was lifted, what I found behind it was a truth that I know deep in my bones. This will help you if you've ever suffered from narcissistic abuse.
My favorite expert on narcissism: Dr. Ramani Durvasula with a book ("It's Not You") and a podcast ("Navigating Narcissism"), both INCREDIBLE.
I also read a book recently by a therapist about narcissistic abuse recovery: Ingrid Clayton's "Believing Me." https://www.amazon.com/Believing-Me-Healing-Narcissistic-Complex/dp/B0BCSCYRLB/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.PJDSHzhZ8WZbjLV12WtrttisvMiVRXpfyI7hs-eoQZuIvpnytQos3s9XEKVXul5qIpml0fcO2jd6sBxg9mdGj6L6E56NqOtX0uM3wUwP6oqAuCxQREXt9to8ltLeNuLgGfDMuNOZX6KvbrYvwP9y8g.z8SXIRvLY905d-O4t2WaARadWfPr7b4an9sTVSRWkks&qid=1708668278&sr=8-1
I hope these help you on your journey while you navigate intergenerational trauma!
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I listened to a popular male podcaster recently say that we should never mention our ex or our trauma when dating.
I disagree. What do you think?
While I think the idea of trying to have a fun, light, time while dating is a good rule of thumb, I disagree that I should stop myself from sharing anything serious. My goal in dating is not just to have fun. It's to be my authentic self so that I can tell quickly if the person I'm with actually likes me for ME rather than just the absolute shiniest version of myself.
I discuss why I think it's important to stay honest, even on a first date. A brief mentioning of tiny pieces of our past, especially if asked, is not going to make or break a date with the right person.
I also share about why I'm proud of overcoming my past and that trying to not mention something purposefully feels shaming to me. Anyone who I would want to be with and who would end up loving me is going to be someone who can handle truth and wants to seek out truth. Truth doesn't need to go as far as creating a trauma-bond. It's essential to a healthy, loving relationship, even from the first moments of meeting.
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Rewind from 2022 that I thought you might enjoy! I hope it keeps you from making the mistakes I made!
How do we know when we are feeling desperate and should take extra precautions while we date? How can we tell if we have low self-worth? Sometimes it's hard to see these things until they're in the rearview.
I share three ways you can tell if you're a little desperate or have low self-esteem when dating. I tell a story of a dating relationship I had in 2020 during the pandemic. I was a leetle more desperate for attention and affection than I knew back then.
All relationships are here to help us learn and grow. That's why I'm sharing these honest stories with you all. Maybe hearing my experience can help others say no and start to react when they are treated less than they deserve.
I mention the helpful book The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. I recommend. https://www.amazon.com/Verbally-Abusive-Relationship-Expanded-Third/dp/1440504636
Thank you for listening!
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Rewind: I'm re-releasing this episode from 2022 because I hope others can learn from my bad mistakes.
Trigger Warning!
I mildly discuss a date-rape situation in this episode. No major details, just feelings and thoughts about the situation.
My third installment in the "Dating Deathtrap" series is about my second relationship after my divorce, which is more than super-cringy. What happened with this man I dated was what plunged me into truly taking therapy and my immediate need for healing seriously. It led me to finding a new therapist who specializes in EMDR.
Jumping to conclusions about someone we're dating is a "deathtrap" because on the positive side or the negative side, we're not living in reality. This causes problems and it's a recipe for a dating disaster. I learned from this relationship that even if someone seems like a great person and checks a bunch of boxes on my list of qualities I want in a partner, I need to take my time and pay attention. He could still be a psycho-boundary violator. It's in those more subtle moments that we get to know another person, not necessarily in the big things.
Thank you for listening!
What's a dating deathtrap for you?
Episode 41: Dating Deathtrap #1: Believing Words Over Actions: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-boundaries-navigating-intergenerational-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000578487781
Episode 67: Dating Deathtrap #7: Clamming Up: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-boundaries-navigating-intergenerational-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000603234643
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How has Intergenerational Trauma affected your dating life?
I share five ways that facing my intergenerational trauma has affected mine. I share a little of my story that pushed me to become aware of these patterns and what we can do to move forward towards becoming a healthy partner that attracts someone great!
Have a wonderful Valentine's Day- do something nice for yourself! I will be treating myself to a massage, chocolate, and yoga. ;-)
Please go back and listen to episodes #40-48, which deal with dating as a dipstick to recovery and numerate my many dating mistakes so that you don't have to relive them! :-) -Erin
Episode 41: Dating Deathtrap #1: Believing Words Over Actions: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-boundaries-navigating-intergenerational-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000578487781
Episode 67: Dating Deathtrap #7: Clamming Up: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-boundaries-navigating-intergenerational-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000603234643
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Erin Vandermore, Licenced Therapist, Wellness Coach, and Author, wants us to take our healing seriously! She says that if the body says it's trauma, it's trauma! We don't have to waste time defining what that exactly means. (Big T Trauma? Little t trauma?)
Erin and I talk about creating boundaries between work life, creative life, and home life. We also dicsuss boundaries with our children- is it okay to say no to playing Fortnite?
Erin is developing an app that will help increase our mental health with bilateral stimulation and positive affirmations. She sees EMDR as a way to "jump-start" the good juju in our nervous system.
You can find Erin's journals and books on Amazon.com.
Website: https://ageofuncertaintycoaching.com/
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As a single parent, have you ever felt like you're seen as a reject, or as if you're wearing a scarlet letter? Shoshana Alexandra is here today to help reframe that outdated stigma that I have felt as a single parent, and maybe you have, too.
Shoshana Alexandra wrote a book called "In Praise of Single Parents: Mothers and Fathers Embracing the Challenge." It's become a place of refuge for me as I learn how to feel connected in a society that still professes the need for the nuclear family model (which is actually very unnatural according to anthropological research!) What we do need is to "expand the family!" Shoshana created a rich community surrounding her son, who had 13 Godparents that helped raise him! They are still in his life to support and guide him when he needs it.
Shoshana and I discuss the dysfunction in our relationships that led to us becoming single parents, the idea of "double parenting," how to vet and find a supportive community, and how to embrace the joy that is already present in your parenting- albeit alone or with many supportive friends and chosen family. Shoshana truly reframes what it means to be a single parents. Aren't we so lucky to have these wonderful beings in our lives? I know I am.
http://shoshanaalexander.com
Shoshana's "Answer the Call" workshop: https://www.shoshanaalexander.com/answer-the-call/
Shoshana Alexander, MA, is an author, teacher, developmental editor, playwright, actor, and mother, and has in all these ways tried to make a positive difference for the Earth. She lives on the unceded territory of the Takelma, Latgawa, and Shasta people. She is the author of several books, including In Praise of Single Parents and Women’s Ventures/Women’s Visions, and is co-author of Awakening Joy with James Baraz. Shoshana has guided numerous books into print in the areas of Buddhism, psychology, and spirituality, includingThe Findhorn Garden, Radical Acceptance (Tara Brach), Faith and LovingKindness (Sharon Salzberg), and Bouncing Back (Linda Graham). She has a master’s degree in psychology and theatre, and has taught high school and university courses in the humanities. She has led support groups for those grieving loss and facilitated longterm writing groups for those developing the craft of writing books. Her creative endeavors in live performance include spoken-word poetry with music, and writing and acting in a full-length play, “Taking Our Life,” exploring suicide, ecocide and humanity’s imperative to choose life. She stood with Earth Protectors at Standing Rock, and her many decades of participation in self-development and spiritual disciplines have included extensive mindfulness meditation practices, and she has been authorized as a dharma teacher. Her work arises from a passion to understand life, honor the Earth, and engage the magic and power of wisdom, words and music to heal and transform. shoshanaalexander.com
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Today is part 2 of a 2 part discussion surrounding breathwork and intergenerational trauma that starts in the womb!
Susan Tuttle, author and breathwork practitioner with 30 years of codependency recovery, is back! Her first Episode, "How do we Learn to Love Our Bodies?" #66, is one of my most-downloaded episodes ever.
We start off by discussing how our birth stories and birth trauma have shaped our lives. Our first moments of life trained our brains to use some of the coping mechanisms that helped us survive, but are now stopping us from embodying the healthy lifestyle that we crave.
Susan shares a miraculous story about her time last summer being trained as a breathwork practitioner in Costa Rica. She believes that breathwork allows for the waves to part and the truth to come to the surface. This leads to the ability to forgive and better understand our beginnings here on this Earth.
Want a free consultation with Susan? Her website is: https://www.susanmtuttle.com/
or, you can email her directly at info@susanmtuttle.com
Susan's book can be found on Amazon.com or bn.com: https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Dreamworld-Andrea-Cooper-Journey/dp/B0CK9ZFR2P/ref=sr_1_1?crid=31CMZLJ6270QO&keywords=susan+m+tuttle&qid=1704597256&sprefix=susan+m+%2Caps%2C771&sr=8-1
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Susan Tuttle, author and breathwork practitioner with 30 years of codependency recovery, is back! The first time she was on the podcast (#66) was one of my most-downloaded episodes ever.
Today is part 1 of a 2 part discussion surrounding intergernational trauma.
We discuss how generational trauma manifests in our lives- what does it look like? How does it show up? How can we recognize our need for codependency recovery or take seriously how many substances we are putting into our bodies?
Susan tells a portion of a story of her own life when she realized "I have to stop pointing fingers at others. I need to look at myself. " What a great message for the new year! Enjoy!
Want a free consultation with Susan? Her website is: https://www.susanmtuttle.com/
or, you can email her directly at info@susanmtuttle.com
Susan's book can be found on Amazon.com or bn.com: https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Dreamworld-Andrea-Cooper-Journey/dp/B0CK9ZFR2P/ref=sr_1_1?crid=31CMZLJ6270QO&keywords=susan+m+tuttle&qid=1704597256&sprefix=susan+m+%2Caps%2C771&sr=8-1
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How are you at setting boundaries? What is the practice that you follow? The questions that you check yourself with before you make the call?
I share my process today of boundary setting. I tell a story about a boundary conversation I had with my dad this week, which was unconfortable, but it taught me something important. I'm staying curious and keeping an open heart towards learning how to be a great communicator in those relationships where emotional intimacy is possible. It's not possible with everyone, so if you get to be part of it, boundary setting can become relationship GOLD!
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Do you allow others to be hot and cold with you in relationships? I've noticed that I'm attracted to that energy, since it mirrors my treatment in my family of origin. I share a story about how I overcame that attraction by observing my own ambivalence.
I also share a Christmas miracle about setting boundaries with family that you won't want to miss! I hope it inspires you to keep on truckin' on your own boundary=setting journey!
I reference the Mark Groves Podcast "How to Show Up, Even if You're Afraid" https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mark-groves-podcast/id1282044290?i=1000639852713
and an episode of this podcast where i talk about the healing work I did surrounding my relationship with my mom. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-boundaries-navigating-intergenerational-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000634539057
and the Mother Wound: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-boundaries-navigating-intergenerational-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000621561533
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Our culture and media markets that behavior change is direct. For example, if you want to lose weight, then you should diet to eat less. As many of us know from trying this multiple times in our lives, IT DOESN'T WORK for lasting behavior change! Behavior change is actually INDIRECT. The only way out of these patterns is deep, internal work. I give an example of what my therapist taught me about this topic and how I'm practicing these new skills to use in everyday life.
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I sometimes feel shamed by others for my desire for a loving partnership. Do you ever feel this stigma around town? Has anyone ever pointedly asking you WHY you want a romantic relationship, as if there's sometihng wrong with you for wanting love?
I share some examples of when it's felt like people have thrown shade my way for wanting a romanric relationship. I wholeheartedly disagree because "Karma is my boyfriend!" (TS)
There's nothing wrong with my desire to love and be loved! This is such a deeply human yearning. Heck my cats even want to curl up next to me when they sleep- we see this craving for warmth all over the animal kingdom.
I share a quote from The Holistic Psychologist on Instagram about healthy, loving marriages.
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Have you ever pondered the word "unmanageable" as a description of the type of life you lead? It's rich food for thought and that's what I'm telling a story about today. I also give a list of signs you are experiencing unmanageability and need to slow down for some self-care.
Let me know what you think! <3
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Have you ever heard that money is linked to childhood trauma? This is true ! My guest, Nadine Zumot, specializes in helping clients heal their money wounds on the daily! We discuss how money wounds manifest in our lives, how to know if we have money trauma, and what to do about it if we need help.
You can find Nadine at https://www.saveamillioncents.com/
She hosts the podcast The Money Healing Podcast and you can find her on Instagram @nadinezumot
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Jana Wilson is an emotional healing educator who teaches meditation and hypnotherapy as part of her Emotional Healing System. She just published her first book, a perscriptive memoir called, Wise Little One: Learning to Love and Listen to my Inner Child this past July.
Jana and I discuss all things trauma- lives of parents, life as a little one, date rape, divorce, CPTSD, among lots of other wise tidbits of healing.
Jana believes that "awareness is the greatest agent of change,"
She discusses the idea that we attract ourselves in romantic relationships and that we can't get what we are not yet- financially responsible, emotionally intelligent, etc. It has to come within ourselves first to be able to attract that from another.
You can find Jana on her website: https://www.janawilson.com/
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Mark Wolynn told me, "The Partner is the Mother," and it's one of the most profound sentences I've heard this year. Does this assertion track for you in your significant relationship? It sure does for me when I look back at my past partners. It was difficult to pinpoint at first, but now I see the similarities between the two and I know I have a large mother wound that I'm seeking to heal.
Today I discuss more about that quote and what it means in my life. I share what Mark Wolynn advised me to do to heal the wound, and my reaction to his words. I share a poignant meditation I did recently that revealed a shocking symbolic image that I'm still unpacking. It's embarassing, but I'm hoping someone out there can relate! Textbook codependency. (It's how I coped with my emotional neglect as a child, so I don't blame myself!)
Finally, I top off the deep chat with a new practice I've been trying out that I learned from none other than one of my favorite memoirists, Elizabeth Gilbert, of Eat, Pray, Love fame. If you haven't read that one, go get it now! You're in for a whilrwind romance with a book and a soulful goddess.
You can find Mark Wolynn at: https://markwolynn.com/
and Liz Gilbert at: https://elizabethgilbert.substack.com/
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When is the right time in childhood to bring up the topic of sex? The answer is pretty much from when they can talk! Listening to Amy Lang's podcast "Just Say This" has taught me so much about how to be open with my son about his body, his feelings, and his sexual health. It's helped me learn how to take the shame out of sexuality so that I can keep the lines of communication open with him as he grows up. We discuss sexual abuse prevention, pornography exposure, why it's important to teach your kids the scientific names for their parts, and she shares some great books that can help kids learn more.
Just Say This" Podcast Link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talking-with-neurodiverse-kids-about-masturbation-and/id1440215158?i=1000631727283
Amy Lang is a sexual health educator who has 25 years of experience helping individuals, families, and PTA's move forward in the discussion surrounding sex education. She offers many trainings on her website including a sexual abuse prevention training and a free script sharing "7 Great Tips" for sex talks with kids. https://birdsandbeesandkids.com/free-tips/
Studies suggest that at least one-third of child sexual abuse is perpetrated by other children and young people, often against a younger child (Allardyce and Yates, 2018, cited in Yates and Allardyce, 2021). (Google)
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Re-Release: My first episode describing Emotional Self-Care
(New episodes starting next week!)
Many of you have probably listened to this episode, because it's the most downloaded, being my first and all. My podcast started as "Self-Care for Survivors of Trauma" in November, 2021. Since then I've shared a lot about what self-care means to me. I take breaks at work to take deep breaths in the sun. I eat as healthy as I can. I get exercise, and monitor my water intake. Mostly, I take time to journal, feel my feelings, and listen to those parts of me that have a lot things to say! I used to ignore them, but now I know they are screaming to be heard.
Let me know what you think. Thanks for listening!
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Re-Release: This is my rawest, most truthful episode. I have contemplated deleting it a few times, but I feel it's an important validation for others going through this similar, taboo, subject. Listen if you are someone who has a difficult relationship with your mom. Let me know what you think.
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Re-Release! My most-dowloaded episode!Enjoy!
Have you experienced emotional abuse? I sure have, and it can be really tricky to detect. It took me a lot of reading, rewiring my brain with therapy, and coming out of denial to be able to recognize emotional abuse. I share a story today about a time I felt icky in my love relationship. I unpack what went on there and validate what was being said and done invisibly.
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Re-Release! My first, and most-downloaded interview!
I'm proud to share with you this conversation between me and my wise friend, Susan Tuttle, who just published her first book in October, 2023! (Link below)
Susan is a life coach and teacher of all things recovery. She shares valuable advice about her journey to find balance in her life and to learn how to stop self-abandoning. We speak about breathwork, body image, and how to respect and acknowledge our bodies for the miraculous systems that they are.
If you'd like to get in contact with Susan or have her as your life coach, DM me and I will get you two connected.
Thank you for listening!
Susan's book link: The Secret Dreamworld of Andrea Cooper: A Woman's Journey Home to Her Heart: Tuttle, Susan M.: 9798989078219: Amazon.com: Books
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~Re-released popular episode from 2022~
Do you believe that the emotional injuries you suffered in childhood stick with you until they are processed? Or do you think we can just "keep them in the past" and deny they exist?
I know from experience that I'm not able to sweep what happened to me as a child under the rug.
I've been suffering from a lot of insomnia related to my perfectionism and workaholism. My brain wants to wake up in the middle of the night and fight fires. The "fires" are my brain's perception of mistakes I've made throughout the day and things I should do better next time. This stems from a deep fear I have of messing up and then getting yelled at or shamed for how I'm never good enough. I unconsciously believe that if I'm not perfect, I will get in trouble with authority figures, or maybe, die. It's that serious in my body. This is directly connected to the verbal abuse my parents inflicted on me in my childhood.
So, how do I deal with that now?
I share a pathway I've found- using EMDR and Family Systems therapy. I discuss how to comfort that inner child who's so worried she's not doing it right. I hope to reintegrate that fearful part of me into my adult self so that I can (literally) sleep better at night!
Thank you for listening!
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I have three interviews schedule for the month of October- a memoirist, a trauma-informed money coach, and a sex therapist that can help us navigate difficult conversations with our children surrounding sex and our bodies. Those interviews will be coming soon! Please rate and review my podcast to help me know you are listening and enjoying it!
Here are some past episodes that you might enjoy:
What's emotional self-care? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-boundaries-navigating-intergenerational-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000543252887
Emotional Abuse Validation: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-boundaries-navigating-intergenerational-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000544672391
Dating Deathtrap https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-boundaries-navigating-intergenerational-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000579278484
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I'm celebrating my 100th episode this week!!!!!!! I thought long and hard about how to make it extra special. I decided to invite someone I look up to, someone who is always curious and interested in new things... someone who loves me... my DAD!
We philosiphize about two of my dad's favorite things: football and mathematics.
Listen to hear why learning math is important for every person, how punishments have shifted since my dad was a boy in 1950's Wisconsin, and why football is a metaphor for life. Then, you might even want to stay for the two corny math jokes at the end. Even if you roll your eyes, it will bring back memories of your favorite high school teacher that had passion for his subject.
I hope you enjoy it.
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What do we do after we put our foot in our mouth, or overreact to something someone says? Do we bury our heads in the sand and pretend it never happened? Do we just wish it away and lie to ourselves that it was really no big deal? No! We REPAIR.
I love this concept of repair being part of intimacy in relationships. We are flawed humans, so we will always do things to hurt others unintentionally in relationships.
I share two stories about how my friends and I repaired after some poor communication.
Here's Dr. Becky Kennedy's podcast on repair with Cheryl Strayed!
https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-one-with-cheryl-strayed-on-repair/id1561689671?i=1000627558864
TED talk on Repair with Dr. Becky: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PHpPtdk9rco
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Did you have an abuser from your childhood that you haven't seen in many years? I did, and I ran into them a few weeks ago.
NOT a fun experience.
I went into a fawning response and took their lead, acting like everything was cool. Inside, I was wanting to gag or yell out in anger, or shake them like, how can you act like this is normal for us to be talking right now?!?!?
I share my thoughts about how to deal with abusers from the past, and make the connection between what happened to me then and how it has impacted my life today.
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Do you have the belief that following your dreams, making more money, or getting that dream house/car/job you have always wanted will be extremely difficult to accomplish? I used to, as well. I'm here to tell you today that you can prime your brain for abundance by creating a morning routine for yourself and changing your thought patterns. I've trained my brain to move from those negative, defeating thoughts, towards recognizing when I'm having them and hitting the reset button. This has made a huge difference in the amout of synchronicity that shows up in my life today. So many things have changed for the better ever since I've opened up to the endless, unfathomable possibilities the universe has to offer ever one of us. Listen to these three resources to help you move forward towards reaching your desires. Best of luck!
Here's an Insight Time meditation to remind you that "Things Can Be Easy."
https://insig.ht/4As33wZTPCb
Here's an interview that rocked my world with Joe Dispenza and Lewis Howes:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-school-of-greatness/id596047499?i=1000626666518
Here's an episode of the Cathy Heller Show- choose one that speaks to you, or this one was good (so many are great!)https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dont-keep-your-day-job/id1191831035?i=1000530016349
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"Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into."
-Dr. Wayne Dyer
Do you have an abundance mindset? Are you open to receiving... Love? Energy? Time? Attention? Money?
At times I've been too much of a giver to the point where eventually, it made me resentful. The other bad part about giving codependently is that it closes us off to receiving gifts from others. We actually feel UNCOMFORTABLE receiving recognition, praise, gifts, attention, etc. Have you ever felt that way?
I share a story today about how I opened up myself to receive what others were offering, and how much richer and fuller my summer vacation became when I was willing to put down my fear and take that leap of faith into receiving from the universe. It feels so good. I want that for you, too!
Thanks for listening!
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MY FAVORITE EPISODE YET!!! I think you'll really love this one, if you're fascinated by intergenerational trauma!
I'm super pumped to share my interview with author and breathwork practicioner Melissa Pennel of "Questions You'll Wish You Asked Yourself."
After losing her parents and grandparents at a young age and getting sober before college, Melissa walked a path of recovery and self-reflection that led her to study psychology and to write a series of interactive journals that started with "Questions You'll Wish you Asked: A Time Capsule Journal for Mothers and Daughters." (Link below)
Melissa and I share a deep conversation about how things that happened in the past impact our lives today. "Our issues are in our tissues," as they say!
We discuss the mother/daughter/grandmother relationship at length, and Melissa delicately verbalizes how excatly to ask uncomfortable questions and glean answers that will allow us to live our best lives in the present.
Melissa's website: https://www.followyourfirecoaching.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/followingfire/
Link to Melissa's book: https://www.amazon.com/Questions-Youll-Wish-You-Asked/dp/1736009508/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1QQMTO7Q9BVMJ&keywords=Questions+you%27ll+wish+you+asked+mom&qid=1692561328&s=books&sprefix=questions+you%27ll+wish+you+asked+mom%2Cstripbooks%2C184&sr=1-1
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Have you found a great therapist for your child? For me, it was a long rode to find a trauma informed therapist that understood my son and I. It was tricky to figure out what exactly my son needed and what I needed to feel safe, heard, and understood.
One therapist unexpectedly gave me some amazing advice that I share with you today.
I also share a parenting win that demonstrates how all the work you're doing by educating yourself on intergenerational trauma can positively affecting your children and posterity!
Thanks for listening! Let me know what you think of the podcast. Rate and review so I can hear what you enjoy and bring you more of it.
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Have you been listening to that little voice inside you that wants you to follow your deepest desires? If you have- you're awesome, keep at it!
If you have had trouble following through on your bucket-list goals or even smaller self-care goals like me, then I have the perfect opportunity for you!
I'm hosting a FREE monthly GOAL- SETTING WORKSHOP for any women who want to tackle their personal goals, big or small. I want to continue on my path of following my self-care and creative goals right along with you.
August's Zoom workshop will be held on August 9th at 4pm PST. DM me for the zoom code @iheartserin or join my Facebook group Survivors of Trauma Unite where the zoom code will be.
Monthly workshops in the future will be the FIRST WEDNESDAY of the month at 4pm PST.
If you would prefer a weekend meet-up time because the weekday meet doesnt work in your schedule, let me know and I'll consider trying that out in the future. Thanks!
Take Care!!! :-)
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Today's guest, Jen Towns, has a PhD in Clinical Social Work and recently published a book that gives advice for queer lovers navigating trauma. The book is called "Our Deepest Roots: Navigating Past Trauma to Build Healtheir Queer Relationships."
https://www.amazon.com/Our-Deepest-Roots-Navigating-Relationships/dp/B0C6R9CCZD/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1691354079&sr=8-1
Jen and I discuss how being queer brings its own set of lived trauma to our love relationships and how we can show up to support our partners, and ourselves, when there is relational conflict.
Jen teaches and believes that trauma doesn't happen just in the brain, it happens in the body, and she uses different modalities to treat her clients including EMDR, Internal Family Systems, and DBT, among others.
Jen answers my deepest question of, how do I fit in being bisexual? and Do I need to be healed to be part of a healthy relationship?
You can find Jen on Instagram/Tiktok@ https://www.instagram.com/your.queer.therapist/
Website: https://www.yourqueertherapist.net/
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You can join my free monthly Ambitious Women's Goal seeting group for support and encouragement towards whatever life goals you're reaching. Find me on Instagram or DM me to learn the details.
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You you have to have ten good reasons to buy something, or is the reason "because I like it" enough? I have a tendency to be cheap. In life this has helped me stay out of debt and probably lessened my carbon footprint, but it has also stopped me from listening to my intuition and feeling joy! Because I supress my desires at times, I've decided I can be "dysfunctionally frugal."
I'm learning how to stop being dysfunctionally frugal. Today I share three ways I've embraced my desires this summer in going places and buying things that make me happy for no other reason than "becuase I want to" or "because I like it." To me, it feels like leveling up towards becoming the woman I want to be- who enjoys life and follows her dreams. Ready to join me? Thanks for listening!
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You can join my free monthly Ambitious Women's Goal seeting group for support and encouragement towards whatever life goals you're reaching. Find me on Instagram or DM me to learn the details.
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Erin Tagan is an ontological life coach, which means she often ponders the question, "Who do you want to be?" (Emphasis on BE-ing)
Erin and I discuss how to go about creating the life you've always wanted and what roadblocks you might encounter along the way.
Erin Tagan is offering any Grace + Boundaries podcast listeners a COMPLIMENTARY coaching session to help you get out of your comfort zone and start living the life you've always wanted! You can find her at https://themagicverb.com/ or Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themagicverb/
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Find a way to heal! It's possible!
You can join my free monthly Ambitious Women's Goal seeting group for support and encouragement towards whatever life goals you're reaching. Find me on Instagram or DM me to learn the details.
I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/
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Do you have mother wounds? According to Mark Wolynn, 85% of us do. I am definitely one of that statistic. Today I share about how I've changed and grown in terms of my relationship with my mother, and how I realize now that it has very little to do with her anymore. Now it is up to me to do the healing work on my own, to heal my own heart so I can share grace and love wherever I go.
I give you a practical guide of what to do each night and what to say to relieve your suffering surrounding resentments and wounds with your mother, or others. Good luck with this practice! I hope it reieves you of worry, guilt, and suffering. Let me know how it goes!
Mark Wolynn's Website: https://markwolynn.com/ and book https://www.amazon.com/It-Didnt-Start-with-You-audiobook/dp/B01ELP3ACY/ref=sr_1_2?crid=1V7N2E85J48AI&keywords=mark+wolynn&qid=1689710629&sprefix=mark+wolynn%2Caps%2C348&sr=8-2
I mention the book Alcoholics Anonymous: https://www.amazon.com/Alcoholics-Fourth-Official-Book-Alcoholic/dp/B08TT4DTLY/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1XQV6NL8ID06W&keywords=alcoholics+anonymous&qid=1689710701&s=audible&sprefix=alcoholics+anonymous%2Caudible%2C177&sr=1-1
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You can join my free monthly Ambitious Women's Goal seeting group for support and encouragement towards whatever life goals you're reaching. Find me on Instagram or DM me to learn the details.
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I'm excited to share with you an interview with the captivating Gloria Zhang!
Gloria Zhang (based out of Canada) is a renowned relationship coach, entrepreneur, and former psychotherapist known for her signature style of translating esoteric ideas into everyday wisdom. Gloria hosts the global sensation, 'The Inner Child Podcast,' a self-help series which has captivated audiences across the globe, accumulating over 1.2 million downloads. Gloria enjoys a quiet life with her life partner, taking pleasure in the simple joys of coffee and anime.
Check out Gloria's podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-inner-child-podcast/id1556545696
Join Gloria's Soulmate Program Here: https://bygloriazhang.com/
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Welcome to the first episode of my re-titled podcast!
This podcast, formerly known as Self-Care for Survivors of Trauma, has been RENAMED Grace + Boundaries: Navigating Intergenerational Trauma!
I'm fascinated by studying Intergenerational trauma and I wanted to share with you all why it's been the key to me learning how to be more graceful in all my relationships.
On today's episode, I share the two big mindshifs I've experienced over the past few months that have led me to feeling like a newer, better, more emotionally regulated, version of myself. Firstly, I made strides in setting healthy boundaries to protect my creative energy. Secondly, I had a miraculous shift in my viewpoint about others who have hurt or abused me in the past and how to navigate my relationships with them in the future.
It all comes down to holding my boundaries in place with GRACE.
Thank you for trying something new and listening! Let me know what you think of the new title and artwork. I love you all! --Erin.
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My renamed podcast is coming soon! On Sunday I will drop new episodes for my reimagined podcast. Self-Care for Survivors of Trauma has now become "Grace + Boundaries: Navigating Intergenerational Trauma with Erin Hearts."
I've grown so much in the past two years that I was ready to rename and move forward into being more graceful as I navigate relationships with family and loved ones.
What do you think of the new artwork? Let me know! @ihearserin
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I'm changing the podcast title and artwork, coming soon! This will be my final episode of the podcast under the name of Self-Care for Survivors of Trauma.
My updated version will also be about trauma, through another lense, so stay tunned!
Today I share what it's been like to join Hinge, the dating app, for my first time. I tried it out Friday-Sunday this weekend, and learned a lot about myself and the dating world. I find online dating confusing and challenging in a lot of ways, but it can be a little bit of fun if I don't take it too seriously.
How has online dating been going for you? Share your story with me on Instagram! I'd love to hear from you.
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" Start before you're ready" can be great advice if you're trying to make progress on life's bucket list.
I share about what it means to me to start before I'm ready. I give examples of how you can break down your goals into hourlong tasks to put into your calendar each week. I also share a story about me starting dating before I was ready, and what happened with that crazy advice from a therapist.
Thanks for listening!
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I've struggled with binge eating most of my life. I don't have a severe eating disorder, but food issues have been a part of the coping mechanisms I developed during my childhood traumas of sexual abuse and emotional neglect. Binge eating, because I'm of an average weight and it's a taboo topic, is not something I've talked about with many friendsBut this past weekend, I mentioned it to someone close to me and felt some freedom slip in.
I did a meditation that night about my abandonment wounds. This led me to realizing that there is a deep connection for me between my abandonment feelings, dissociation, and binge eating. I explain this connection in the podcast today.
I'm grateful for you! Thank you for listening.
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What does it take to leave a narcissitic relationship?
I believe it took me lots of education, enough anger to keep on going, a lot of planning, and... faith that a better future was possible for me and my son! I'm so grateful for my journey towards freedom. It took me about seven years to finally feel free.
I share my story of leaving a narcissistic+codependent relationship and how hard it is to leave, even when you know you are being abused.
Some of my favorite podcasts about narcissism:
"Break Down to Break Through" (Lisa A. Romano)
" Narcissistic Abuse and Trauma Recovery Podcast" (Caroline Strawson)
"The Covert Narcissism Podcast"
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Are you in a victim's story or a hero's journey?
My spiritual leader friend and guest, Terra Jennings, shares with us how to enhance our self-talk towards EMPOWERMENT.
Through years of self-discovery and practice, Terra has faced religious trauma and bodily pain to become "divinely awesome."
I think you will enjoy this enlightening discussion we had about opening up our minds towards accepting that we may be spiritual beings having a human experiences.
Terra mentions the program "Leap to Success," and a workshop called "Leap to confidence," which taught her empowering language that has changed her daily existence from one of strife to one of faith, love, and compassion.
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Are you in a victim's story or a hero's journey?
My spiritual leader friend and guest, Terra Jennings, shares with us how to enhance our self-talk towards EMPOWERMENT.
Through years of self-discovery and practice, Terra has faced religious trauma and bodily pain to become "divinely awesome."
I think you will enjoy this enlightening discussion we had about opening up our minds towards accepting that we may be spiritual beings having a human experiences.
Terra mentions the program "Leap to Success," and a workshop called "Leap to confidence," which taught her empowering language that has changed her daily existence from one of strife to one of faith, love, and compassion.
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I signed a pledge to myself in December, 2023, and it's helped me clarify what I might look for when I start to date again.
I share about a program I've been part of this year by Gloria Zhang, and I, of course, share my #1 dating tip! Hint: it has to do with personal boundaries!
Thanks for listening!
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How do we grow spiritually, allow for authenticity, and practice presence? My guest today, Diana Lockett, has been on a 25-year quest do learn just that. With radical self-love and following the call to freedom, she believes we can "turn our pain into love."
Diana Lockett is a 6 x International Bestselling Author and International Speaker who uses her superpower of vulnerable storytelling to allow her audience to soften in their own loving presence. Her recently released memoir is called, "The Call to Freedom: Heal Your Pain, Awaken your Loving Presence." You can find it here: https://a.co/d/cv0L2P2
Diana is a visionary Conscious Communication Leadership consultant and spiritual mentor. She creates safe spaces that invite leaders, teams, and educators to Re-Align and Thrive (TM) to transform their corporate teams and classrooms by accessing inspired wisdom and inspired action.
Diana's website: https://www.dianalockett.com/book
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Do you have a sense of over-responsibility? Does it come out as unrealistic expectations for yourself and for others around you?
These could be a response to trauma, or conditioning, from your childhood.
I discuss three places in my life that I am battling my unrealistic expectations. When I can acknowledge them and accept that I might be expecting too much from myself or others, it helps me to calm down and be more in the present.
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Today's guest hosts the podcast Foreign-Born Mamas. She hopes to help immigrant moms listen to their bodies, learn how to self-care and grow to become their authentic selves in this new country they call home.
Nurzhan shares about growing up impoverished physically and emotionally before immigrating to the United States as an adult. The trauma she faced as a young person was not discussed or acknowledged much at all in her family. She hadn't confronted her past until a year ago when she started having debilitating body spasms. These physical symptoms led her to becoming educated about what trauma she has been through, and started her on her journey to understanding her nervous system and self-care rituals that work for her.
We get deep in this episode- discussing the promises made to immigrants and the allure and "hamster-wheel" of the capitalistic United States.
Our intention is to validate trauma survivors to ackowledge the invisible traumas they have been through and to encourage others to open these conversations amongts themselves.
Here's Nurzhan's podcast and her interview with me: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/foreign-born-mama-childhood-trauma-healing-motherhood/id1636357248?i=1000594063320
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List your top three priorities... Go! Can you name them with certainty? How do you feel about them; is it honestly how you devote your energy? Would the people closest to you agree?
Today I share my top three priorities and how they have changed in the past years. I discuss how I might want to alter them in the future.
I was inspired for this topic by Lewis Howes and Jay Shetty in their recent interview on The School of Greatness, if you want to listen to two open-hearted men discuss this topic: http://www.lewishowes.com/1417
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Sean Bloch, host of the podcast Happy Brain, is my guest today. Sean is a corporate trainer, facilitator, and storyteller focused on mental wellness. We discuss tips and tools to ameliorate our mental health and how podcasting has helped express creativity and lead to all types of relationships.
We mention Sean's documentary, Presenting Lisa: A Journey to Athenticity that you can watch here: https://vimeo.com/155754626?utm_campaign=5250933&utm_source=affiliate&utm_channel=affiliate&cjevent=8dd7a9aedcd211ed80d901300a1eba22&clickid=8dd7a9aedcd211ed80d901300a1eba22
I was a guest on Happy Brain in Februrary, discussing how to keep our energy up while dating. You can listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/swipe-right-the-art-of-dating-while-maintaining/id1555659782?i=1000599458225
You can find Sean on Instagram: https://linktr.ee/seanstevebloch
We also dicsuss Lewis Howes and his podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-school-of-greatness/id596047499
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Have you ever had a therapist that was dismissive, insensitive, uneducated, or just plain rude? I sure have. My intention is to share my experiences with bad therapy so that it might empower you to speak up or leave a therapy situation in the future if it's not the right fit for you.
I share about many experiences I've had on the path to finding the right, kind, knowledgeable, golden therapists that I have for my son and myself today. It was a long journey!
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Have you heard of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)? There is a 10-question test to see how much trauma you endured as a child. This test is a great start towards building more awareness around mental health in our world, but for me, a survivor of invisible abuse (emotional neglect/abuse), it falls very short in encompassing the vast ways trauma can be inflicted on a human.
I discuss ACEs and what's missing for that test. I share how individuals who have grandparents who were alcoholics/addicts are severely affected by this family progression. Intergenerational trauma has a reach of up to seven generations, some experts say.
Here are some resources to learn more about these topics:
ACEs: https://www.preventchildabusenc.org/resource-hub/aces-study/
10-Question Test:https://experiencelife.lifetime.life/article/how-childhood-adversity-creates-toxic-stress/
Breaking the Cycle of Intergenerational Trauma: https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2023/03/23/intergenerational-trauma-mental-health/
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Do you journal as one of your tools in your coping-with-emotions tool box?
Journaling is an excellent practice to take care of ourselves!
Today's guest, Becca Rae Eagle, is the host of the Joyful Journaling Podcast.
https://thejoyfuljournalingpodcast.buzzsprout.com
We discuss how journaling as enriched, soothed, and even saved Becca's life.
If you'd like to contact Becca Rae here are her details:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourwritingdoula2day/IG:https://www.instagram.com/yourwritingdoula2day/Join Becca's private Facebook Podcast Community, Joyful Journaling w/Becca Rae at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/631814974994724
Her book may be purchased at: https://tinyurl.com/embodyingjoyaheartjournal
We mention Julia Cameron's The Artist's Way https://www.theartistswaybook.com/
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Are you emotionally mature? If so, how emotionally mature are you? We've all heard of emotional intelligence, but is emotional matuirty something you've ever thought about before? I sure hadn't pondered the concept prior to the start of my spiritual journey ten years ago.
Emotional maturity is a huge marker for me in my life these days. I can look back and see how far I've grown in this area. I can also look forward and see how far I have to go in some aspects.
I give you a three-question quiz to identify where you are on the scale of emotional maturity. Ready to test the waters? Here we go!
Let me know what you liked about the episode and if you want to discuss this topic more!
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Have you ever noticed your body reacting to media? I'm talking about scenes in a movie making you cover your eyes, or videos that you happened to glimpse that you wish you could un-see. Or, maybe you've even read some sensationalized news that made you nauseous or evoked rage.
I share some experiences I've had lately with the affects of media on me and my son, two highly sensitive people. I showed my son a couple PG-13 movies that made an impact on him (arguably too much) where I learned he's not ready to see any more truth of life at that depth.
A show I watched recently had a very provocative birth scene where there was bodily abuse by the doctor towards the mother. I share about how watching this scene made me cry for a couple minutes and also helped me possibly release some intergenerational trauma leftover from my own birth.
How does media affect you?
Do you think of media consumption as a CHOICE?
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Media I mention:
Book: My Year of Rest and Relaxation
https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/3276202.Ottessa_Moshfegh
Movie: Weird: The Al Yankovic Story
https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/weird_the_al_yankovic_story
Movie: The Pursuit of Happyness
https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/pursuit_of_happyness
TV: Fleishman is in Trouble https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fleishman_Is_in_Trouble
News I enjoy: The Skimm daily newsletter and The New York Times App
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Why could "clamming up" be a red flag in a relationship?
I share details of a past relationship and unpack the signs that showed I had been uncomfortable way before I ended things months later.
Do you have an idea for a dating deathtrap? Let me know @iheartserin!
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My first interview! I'm proud to share with you this conversation between me and my wise friend, Susan T.
Susan is a life coach and teacher of all things recovery. She shares valuable advice about her journey to find balance in her life and to learn how to stop self-abandoning. We speak about breathwork, body image, and how to respect and acknowledge our bodies for the miraculous systems that they are.
If you'd like to get in contact with Susan or have her as your life coach, DM me and I will get you two connected.
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If you've experienced thoughts of suicide, then you've had "suicidal ideation." These thoughts can be active or passive. I share some information about these thoughts today on the podcast because someone close to me has been feeling this way. I can relate, because I experienced passive suicidal thoughts while being in an emotionally abusive relationship. I take passive suicidal thoughts seriously. To mean it means we may not actively be pursuing completion, but we desperately need help for our mental state. Reaching out to others is the first smart step.
Please make a call if you're experiencing thoughts such as these. In the USA you can dial 988 for mental health help, or simply 911.
I got some of my information from: https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/suicidal-ideation
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Happy Valentine's Day! I have a special episode to share with you.
If you're single, do you celebrate Valentine's Day? I sure do! Besides giving gifts and cards to my son and my family, I do some little things for myself. I've always wanted flowers, chocolate, and a beautifully written card from partners of mine, but never have dated anyone that cared about V-Day. So, now I buy those things for myself!
SPECIAL EPISODE: I was a guest on the podcast Happy Brain with Sean Bloch and I'm excited for you to listen to this episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happy-brain/id1555659782?i=1000599458225
If you want to listen to my Dating Deathtrap series, here are the links to the episodes below! I hope they make you a savvy dater (way savvier than me!)
Dating as a Dipstick of recovery: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000577756854
Dating Deathtrap #1: Believing Words Above Actions
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000578487781
Dating Deathtrap #2: Jumping to Conclusions
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000579278484
Dating Deathtrap #3: Desperation and Low-Self-Esteem
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000580021508
Dating Deathtrap #4: Dating Down and Re-Dating
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000580748391
Dating Deathtrap #5: Living in Fantasy
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000583905066
Dating Deathtrap #6: Dating with the Wrong Intentions
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-care-for-survivors-of-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000586903087
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Trigger Alert! This episode contains discussion of sexual abuse
I felt compelled to share a story from my 8th grade year in jr. high school, circa 1993.
I had a serious EMDR session last weekend with my therapist, where we unpacked some behaviors that have been ailing me. I've had some insomnia due to a hypervigillent part of me that needs to be perfect to avoid public humiliation. There's also some body dysmorphia leftover from messages I received about how my stomach looked as a young child and beyond. Those are elements of trauma recovery that I discuss in today's episode, along with a deep, humiliating, loss of innocence that I experienced in a room full of 13-year-old girls.
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Have you "leveled-up" lately? How are your New Year's resolution's going? I share what lelveling up spiritually means for me and how it happened.
Have you ever heard of "parts" therapy? I do some IFS- Internal Family Systems-therapy and I'm talking about a part of me that I met recently. She is my loving, vulnerable part, and she's been exiled for years; probably blamed by my other parts for getting us in to an abusive relationship. What does she have to tell me?
What adventures occur on this twisty-turney journey of life!
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Have you ever experienced a panic attack? They can be so scary. I share some details about why panic attacks form in our bodies and what they are trying to tell us.
I mention The Body Keeps the Score: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18693771-the-body-keeps-the-score
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“The moment that you feel, just possibly, you are walking down the street naked, exposing too much of your heart and your mind, and what exists on the inside, showing too much of yourself...That is the moment, you might be starting to get it right.” -- Neil Gaiman
Today I share about creating art and the sobering truth it takes to do so.
I mention a movie I saw this weekend and loved, "The Fabelman's" https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/the_fabelmans
and The War of Art https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1319.The_War_of_Art
Happy creating!!
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I start the episode sharing my tribulations about my son not wanting to go to bed. He had a "bad" day today, according to him, and I am learning to accept that his emotions are different from mine. I can't change his world view from pessimism to optimism, but I can listen, validate, and try to understand.
I talk about my two best friends and how they have taught me, through their beautiful and loving actions, how to love and support a friend. It's been a slow process becoming close to new friends and letting go of others. But I've learned that friendship has an ebb and a flow, and now I know how to show up for those ones that mean the world to me.
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Survivors, get out your journals! I lead you through a reflection exercise to process and celebrate your big and little wins in 2022.
I mention The Inner Child Podcast and the host, Gloria Zhang: https://bygloriazhang.com/
Happy New Year!
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I've had a wacky Christmas this year! None of my normal family traditions have been followed and I even ended up alone on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day! I did get invited a couple places, and I chose to say no to those invitations. I actually like spending time with myself in place of just having SOMEWHERE to go.
I share what I did to turn my non-traditional Christmas this year into a Self-Care Christmas for my health.
Happy Holidays!
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Being able to share my feelilngs of gratitude for my parents has been a long process for me. I was 36 years old when I lifted the veil of denial and realized that my childhood wasn't as perfect as my parents had told me it was. After realizing I'd suffered a lot of emotional neglect that led to other abuse, I had a lot of anger towards my parents, especially my mom. It's taken seven years of consistent work for me to come to this place of acceptance, fortiveness, and now, gratitude.
I mention the Rich Roll Podcast with Whitney Cummings: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/whitney-cummings-is-doing-the-work/id582272991?i=1000586920278
Take Care, Survivors! Thank you for listening!
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Do you monitor your expectations before buying and giving gifts?
I do, and I think it's definitely part of my personal self-care.
I discuss gift giving and the strings that can be attached when it comes to the family gift exchange and even gifts for coworkers.
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I've felt rejected a couple times recently in the dating world. This lead me yesterday, on a sad morning, to questioning, am I desperate? Is that why these men have not shown interest in me?
I share my feelings and the answer to the question above that I came to after a day of self-care. I discuss what exactly I did to get myself out of my depressed mood.
What tools do you use to get you back to center?
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What types of substances do you use to fill that void inside your soul? Some call it our God-shaped hole. Or maybe it just feels to you like an aching or a yearning, tugging you towards that glass of wine or the bag of Hershey's Kisses.
For many years, I unconsciously used alcohol, compulsive exercise, sugar, and romantic crushes to fill that need inside of me. Luckily I've now learned where that impulse to use substances comes from. For me, it comes from lack of connection.
How do we gain connection? I do it through connecting with others who love and care about me, calling them, spending time with them, sharing detatils about our days. I connect with the universe/God through my morning prayers and meditation. I also connect to source through gratitude. There's something about listing items I'm grateful for that pulls me closer to contentedness.
Making connections with other like-minded people is a way to keep our mental health strong. Do you need a place to connect? I'm starting a weekly support group Tuesday nights from 8-8:30pm Pacific time in November and December 2022.
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How are your intentions surrounding dating? Are you aware of the reasons that you're seeking companionship? If it's to sooth your emotions or fill in that existential "hole" in your soul, then you probably aren't going to find something healthy nor lasting.
I share a story about how I dated someone with some subconscious wrong intentions. Now with my 20/20 hindsight, I can see clearly that I wanted this man to be there for me to help cover up some other dysfunctional behaviors I was experiencing.
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Do you enjoy traveling? How about traveling to relative's houses for the holidays? Does it bring up some challenges for you? It sure does for me. Traveling is a time I have to focus on my own self-care because it's ultra-stimulating! I get very anxious before taking trips as a single parent and as a single person because it's a lot of responsibility to take on.
I discuss how to relax the fear of traveling and how to cope when you're "stuck" at someone else's house for a longer period of time than you feel comfortable being there.
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Are you going to vote on Tuesday? How do you feel about Roe vs. Wade having been overturned last summer? Those are two topics that are discussed in today's episode. I share my thoughts about casting my ballot for what I believe in, and I share a roundtable discussion that I had in July with six intelligent, thoughtful women who are involved in the podcasting world.
Some featured voices include:
Tiphany Kane: Radical Audacity in Love and Life
Hilary Russo: HiLististically Speaking
Emily Palacios: Cycle Chats
Plus, ME, Erin Hearts. I share around the 48:00 mark.
I hope you enjoy the episode.
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I met a woman today who was dealing with painful custody issues surrounding her divorce from a difficult person. I used the term "narcissist" in the title because I wanted to succinctly point you towards they type of difficult person I'm talking about in this episode. But, I also don't love using that term because it gets thrown around way too often. I use the word in the sense that is truest to me: a person who is extremely manipulative and dangerously retaliatory, especially in a situation such as divorce and child custody. If you have ever been a part of a relationship with someone who has narcissistic tendencies, or even actual NPD, then you'll know that this is someone who will take anything and everything he/she/they can when they find a tiny nugget of power. It's awful and the court systems and legal systems can't really help us suffering from emotional abuse because unless there has been physcial violence, it is very hard to prove anything is amiss in a relationship.
I discuss how to get through these situations: working on yourself and your own maturity, and getting out your feelings in a place separate from the space you share with the difficult one. I had to train myself to be mature in triggering situations where bad behavior was rampant and so unfair. But stooping to a difficult person's level is crazy-making and an endless journey to nowhereland.
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Could you be using fantasy as a coping mechanism to distract from feelings?
Well, I sure have for a lot of my life.
I'm finally noticing exactly how and when it happens and how I can stop that compulsive behavior. It hurts me and it hurts the objects of my affection. It also derails me on my path towards being part of a healthy, loving partnership.
I share three reasons why living in fantasy is detrimental to my goals (and maybe yours, too!) Living in fantasy and unrequitted love is not living. I want more.
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How do you treat your body?
I was 11 when I started dieting and trying to change my size to fit into society. I didn't treat my body well for decades.
Now I care about respecting my body and treating it with the love I feel for myself. What does that look like? For me it means eating healthy with less, poisonous refined sugar, building muscle at the gym, and doing yoga with a teacher that cherishes herself and spreads that love around.
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I mention Rodney Yee's Yoga: https://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=rodney+yee+yoga&view=detail&mid=BD0CEE063F443617E2C9BD0CEE063F443617E2C9&FORM=VIRE
When does culturally appropriate "politeness" border on phoniness? That was a question I started pondering recently. Is it really polite if we act one way in front of people but rip them to shreds behind their backs? I myself am wrestling with how I can stay polite, yet authentic. That's the balance I want so I can be true to myself.
I tell a story of my reckoning over trying to curb my people-pleasing behaviors in order to be more true to myself. It's hard for me to be authentic, but I have to get more to that side or else I end up with resentments. You might hear a little anger here in this episode. I'm human and I'm working on it.
Thanks for listening, Survivors.
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Do you believe that the emotional injuries you suffered in childhood stick with you until they are processed? Or do you think we can just "keep them in the past" and deny they exist?
I know from experience that I'm not able to sweep what happened to me as a child under the rug.
I've been suffering from a lot of insomnia related to my perfectionism and workaholism. My brain wants to wake up in the middle of the night and fight fires. The "fires" are my brain's perception of mistakes I've made throughout the day and things I should do better next time. This stems from a deep fear I have of messing up and then getting yelled at or shamed for how I'm never good enough. I unconsciously believe that if I'm not perfect, I will get in trouble with authority figures, or maybe, die. It's that serious in my body. This is directly connected to the verbal abuse my parents inflicted on me in my childhood.
So, how do I deal with that now?
I share a pathway I've found- using EMDR and Family Systems therapy. I discuss how to comfort that inner child who's so worried she's not doing it right. I hope to reintegrate that fearful part of me into my adult self so that I can (literally) sleep better at night!
Do you ever date someone who is out of your league in a negative way? I sure have. Partly it's been out of my desire to not hurt people's feelings, give people a chance, and be kind. But there's also another part of dating down that a codependent can get stuck in- dating someone "less than" so that I (unconsciously) can feel like I have control and the upper-hand in the relationship. It's not a conscious decision, but my instinct pulls those matches to me since I operate a lot in the dating world out of fear.
What are your thoughts on re-dating the same person? I'll tell you why I think it's a no-no.
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How do we know when we are feeling desperate and should take extra precautions while we date? How can we tell if we have low self-worth? Sometimes it's hard to see these things until they're in the rearview.
I share three ways you can tell if you're a little desperate or have low self-esteem when dating. I tell a story of a dating relationship I had in 2020 during the pandemic. I was a leetle more desperate for attention and affection than I knew back then.
All relationships are here to help us learn and grow. That's why I'm sharing these honest stories with you all. Maybe hearing my experience can help others say no and start to react when they are treated less than they deserve.
I mention the helpful book The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. I recommend. https://www.amazon.com/Verbally-Abusive-Relationship-Expanded-Third/dp/1440504636
You can find me @iheartserin. How do you like these episodes about dating? How has the dating world been for you?
Trigger Warning!
I mildly discuss a date-rape situation in this episode. No major details, just feelings and thoughts about the situation.
My third installment in the "Dating Deathtrap" series is about my second relationship after my divorce, which is more than super-cringy. What happened with this man I dated was what plunged me into truly taking therapy and my immediate need for healing seriously. It led me to finding a new therapist who specializes in EMDR.
Jumping to conclusions about someone we're dating is a "deathtrap" because on the positive side or the negative side, we're not living in reality. This causes problems and it's a recipe for a dating disaster. I learned from this relationship that even if someone seems like a great person and checks a bunch of boxes on my list of qualities I want in a partner, I need to take my time and pay attention. He could still be a psycho-boundary violator. It's in those more subtle moments that we get to know another person, not necessarily in the big things.
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I'm in a series about dating after divorce. Back when I was leaving my ex-husband, I was still in victim-mentality. Sadly, I was an easy target for someone to take advantage of in the dating world. I tell the story today about my first time joining a dating app and how that turned out. Let me giv you the Cliff's Notes version: not good. It's a cautionary tale to myself and hopefully for others out there who have experienced emotional manipulation in the dating world.
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Today I start my series about Dating After Trauma. I share three things that skewed my percetion towards developing a healthy and loving relationship with a significant other.
I'm still on my journey, but today's episode is a happy stop along the way. I can look back and see how far I have come, even though along the human trudge, we will never fully arrive.
What act of kindness and connection have you done lately? Have you left a positive reivew for a business or service you like, have you brought a treat to a suffering friend?
It takes me effort to push myself out of my comfort zone to help someone else. It take vulnerabiltiy to make connections.
I share a couple stories of connections I've recently made. Then I discuss how gratitude is a learned skill that can lead to many benefits if it feels honest and healing to you.
As I start the new school year as a teacher, I feel it necessary to revamp my self-care routine. What do I want to add to my days and weeks to make myself stronger, happier, and more energized? I share five self-care activities that I am adding to my life this fall and one extra tip to help with anxiety when I'm future-tripping about all the problems that may occur.
I mention Liz Josefsburg's Target 100 program. https://www.lizjosefsberg.com/target-100
It's a first for our podcast- we have a voicemail from a listener named Eugenia. I share her voicemail and tie it in to an expansive experience I had this week connecting with an old high school friend. This high school friend and I knew each other when we were going through so much trauma, but we have both chosen a pathway of healing. He demonstrated to me how healing plus compassion and forgiveness can lead to breaking that cycle of intergenerational trauma. Let's get healing and forgiving!
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Have you had Covid-19 Brain Fog and Depression? It lasted way longer than I thought it would.
I share my experience with Covid depression and how getting my first mammogram was typical, yet felt a little traumatic. I gained some empathy and compassion for myself and others through these experiences.
I'm grateful today for you who are listening to my podcast, because I love making it! Thank you! I'm also grateful for my post-covid good health. I wish you health and wellness, Survivor!
"The basis of all neurosis is the avoidance of legitimate suffering." -Carl Jung
We all want to heal pain from our past, but how?
Healing takes acceptance of heartbreak and willingness to sit through the acknowledgement of pain.
Today I share the vulnerable story about how and why I quit drinking over five years ago.
I love myself and my son more than I love wine.
Thank you, God.
Have you ever been in a friendship that's enmeshed?
Being enmeshed means that you are overly involved in another person's life to the extent that you may be sacrificing your own needs and emotions, or expecting them to cater to your needs/emotions. Most likely you and the friend violate each others' boundaries and this can cause trauma.
Recognizing enmeshment is important because it can give us insight into our own intentions and behaviors. If we have curiosity about our behavior in a relationship, we can be more self-aware. And THAT is self-care for us survivors of trauma!
I'm telling the story today about when I met Oprah. Okay. We only locked eyes for a number of seconds, but it was very significant to me on my spiritual and creative journey. I share the story and the advice Oprah gave to me that day, which will hopefully inspire you towards your next creative endeavour.
I mention Oprah's Super Soul Sunday, Super Soul Sessions, and her podcast, Super Soul.
I mention the creative work of Julia Cameron, who's book, The Artist's Way, is a creative program I love and follow.
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Do you have a practice of meditating daily? Well, according to some of the most spiritual educators out there, it's the best routine to start you on the path to contentedness in life.
I share some of my favorite places to find free guided meditations, and then I share a story about my loving kindness meditation this morning.
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Marianne Williamson's prayers: https://www.amazon.com/Illuminated-Prayers-Marianne-Williamson/dp/156852580X
Manifest By Jess https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6ashd-m9GHYP6wozPCoC8A
Insight Timer App (free)
Cathy Heller interviews poet Yung Pueblo about Meditation: https://youtu.be/WJMqG_a6qDQ
I describe my lonely and guilty feelings as a divorced parent with her child gone for an extended period of time. Then I share about my recent sound healing session and how it brought me freedom and closure surrounding my fear of not being a good enough mom.
Interested in a sound healing session? You can go to http://heal.me and search for what you need.
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It is possible that your family has some dysfunctional patterns and you don't know it?
Unfortunately, it sure is.
I will talk about the covert dysfunction that cropped up in my life when I was a teenager, which I minimized most of my life. Then I will list markers of dysfunction that ourselves and family members might unconsciously demonstrate. The goal is to identify our patterns so that we can educate ourselves and hopefully become cylce-breakers that stop perpetuating the dysfunction and instead, share healthy behaviors with the world.
It's a bold statement, but my inner child feels it deeply. Love in a dysfucntional or enmeshed family is not love, it's codependency and control.
What is love? What is the kind of love that we want to show our children and others? We all might have different definitions, but the question is universally human.
I share my definition of what love feels like to me. I tell a story about being triggered by my mom recently and how I'm trying my best to learn how to love to break the cycle of disconnection in my family.
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Thank you for listening!
Being sick triggers feelings of guilt for me. I feel guilty taking time off work when I know it will be a burden on others. I feel guilty not being the peppy mom to my son on the weekends when I need to rest. Going to the doctor even usually makes me feel worse because they are always so rushed and jaded.
Do you take time off work when you're sick? If so, good for you! That's the way it should be in a healthier society, right?
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Take care, survivors!
Do you notice the constant ebb and flow of parenting? Sometimes it feels like I'm rocking it, then five minutes later I'm rubbing my forehead with weariness.
I discuss my "peak" on Friday going on my son's field trip, then the "pit" Saturday morning when I had to complete a messy art project that was in danger of staining my whole house.
I tell the story of our weekend and how I chose to put my need for rest first, even in light of my son's whininess about not getting to have friends to play with (they were sick.)
How do you put your self-care needs above those of your family members at times?
It's a hard decision, but I know it's better for everyone if I choose NOT to be the martyr.
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Do you know what AFGO is?
Maybe it will help you the next time you feel stressed out or shameful.
I discuss my son's obsession with bad words and how I had a difficult weekend where I labeled what I was going through as AFGO to make myself laugh.
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Do you believe in the concept of the inner child?
It feels woo-woo to me, but I like woo-woo. Also, it's undeniable to me that I have connected with parts of me that are younger ages and been able to see that part as a child in my mind's eye.
I discuss how my therapist has introduced me to different ages of myself through my "parts" (Internal Family Systems Therapy). Giving these misbehaving parts a voice is what we need to do to reintegrate that part into our system. I give an example of how this is done.
At the end I suggest using nondominant handwriting as a way to give your inner child a voice when they are upset and leading you down unhealthy pathways.
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Thanks for listening!
What does having healthy priorities mean to you? For me it means allowing myself to put my self-care and my son before my work. I used to live to work and now I work to live.
I share what unhealthy priorities looked like for me in the past and I tell a story about me making better decisions and learning how to live by my values and priorities for a happier life.
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I've had so many people ask me, what is codependence?
It's difficult term to define, but I take a stab at in in this episode. I read some indicators of codependency from Melody Beattie's famous book Codependent No More and share a couple personal stories about how I first knew I might be codependent and the codependent slip-up I went through this week.
Here's my favorite list of codependent patterns to help you better understand and identify these unhealthy behaviors. This list also includes opposite, healthy behaviors: http://www.coda-tulsa.org/pdf/recoverypatterns.pdf?msclkid=ec2b1fe6c44e11ecb1a874677f065a85
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Codependent No More https://melodybeattie.com/?msclkid=bab11cccc44e11eca84a31107e6f6823
Codependents Anonymous Blue Book https://www.corepublications.org/?msclkid=7ef57d9bc44e11ec87a7dd8bd38eb5ea
Codependents Anonymous https://coda.org/
Does criticism from other feel like deep pain for you?
I'm sensitive to criticism and sometimes it still makes me cry, even though I've done a lot of work around healing those hurt parts of me leftover from childhood.
I share a story of being criticized by a stranger yesterday. Instead of breaking me down towards further shame and sorrow, I was able to use this new knowledge about my pain points to get to know myself even better and comfort that inner child, still needing her voice to be heard.
I share an article from O Quarterly magazine with Oprah and Brene Brown.
I mention EMFT (tapping), Family Systems therapy, and EMDR therapy.
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Have you said no lately? Let's practice.
I had to say no this week to someone important: my mom. It was difficult, but it brought me so much freedom. I strive to be my most authentic self, and saying no is part of that.
I share the gifts that can come from saying no, and I read a passage from a daily reader that discusses choosing to have a separate identity than those in our family of origin.
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Book: Strengthening My Recovery: https://www.amazon.com/Strengthening-My-Recovery-ACA-WSO/dp/0996504907
Are you attracted to emotionally unavailable people? I sadly have been for a lot of my life.
Today I talk about why that happens and what we can do to change it.
I discuss emotional availability and what that looks like to me today.
I end with a story about a best-friendship I had in my 20's and how it masqueraded as deeply emotional, but was probably just a trauma-bond, which of course painfully ended.
I mentioned The Artist's Way, a writing program for creatives that helped me learn how to journal: https://www.theartistswaybook.com/?msclkid=649c36ebb45011ecb80347e2332b7046
Relationship coach Tracy McMillan: https://www.tracymcmillan.com/?msclkid=71a0a49db45011ec906d4e75e38699ab
Quick- what are three things you love about being a parent?
Let's revel for a moment in the joy children bring into our lives.
I'm not denying that parenting is the hardest job in the world, but the paradox is that it is also the most joyful, free-spirited fun out there on the planet.
I love being a mom.
Today I talk about the fun my son had during a sleepover, and how I was able to sit back and enjoy the show. Then, I share a story about my son not wanting to go to bed and the (possibly manipulative) words he chose to try to pump me for more time and attention. I discuss how I've learned to set that bedtime boundary with him. I've taught myself that I need that boundary to be sane and civil. Taking care of me makes me a WAAY better mom.
Enjoy!
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What comes to mind when you hear the word humility?
To me, it's a strikingly beautiful concept and I see it in the natural world that surrounds me.
I discuss a situation I went through recently where I had to stick-up for myself on a large-scale. To get through that terrifying time, I relied on my humility, my ability to surrender the outcome of the situation, and belief that if I become the leaf in the stream, all water flow to greater freedom and serenity.
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Were you a compliant child who did everything your caregivers asked of you to stay in the bounds of their conditional love?
I sure was.
I was praised for being quiet and following the rules.
I was deathly afraid of my own voice, which had the power to get me criticized, mocked, shamed, or rejected.
I lost my authenticity and became a sponge to other people's blame.
The compliant child gets praised in our society. I was raised to follow that pattern, but I'm working on stopping it by teaching my son how to disagree respectfully and appropriately.
What is the problem with raising compliant children?
In this episode, I share the negative effects of my childhood compliance in my adulthood. It has kept me immature, not knowing myself, and very codependent in my adult relationships with significant others.
Through therapy and a lot of reading, I have learned that I am not responsible for another person's actions, feelings, or choices. But living that assertion and voicing my opinions in love relationships, especially when sex is involved, is a work in progress.
How has compliance affected your love relationships? What has been the fallout for you?
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I was a guest for the first time on another podcast! Listen to me tell how I became a podcaster at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mastering-the-podcaster-mindset/id1594794535?i=1000554321703
Podcast: Mastering the Podcaster Mindset with Tiphany Kane and David Sais
One day in 2015 I Googled the words "Emotional Abuse" and I couldn't believe my eyes! My life was there in black and white. Everything I read lead me back to one word: narcissism. But it wasn't the overt narcissist that I was dealing with. It took me a while longer to learn there is more than one type.
We've all heard the word "narcissism" overused, but have you heard of the covert narcissist? These individuals are extra tricky to discover, and usually we only discover them when we are in a very close relationship with one. Even after using the label to help me protect myself from these types of people in my life, I still question myself at times because they can present as such do-gooders in certain areas of their lives.
Listen to hear the one golden nugget from my therapist about the true effect of being in a relationship with a covert narcissist.
If you think you might be in a relationship with a narcissist, start learning and seek help. Here are some resources that helped me:
https://www.choosingtherapy.com/covert-narcissist-signs/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/emotional-abuse
Book: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/37660370-the-covert-passive-aggressive-narcissist
Book: 30 Covert Emotional Manipulation Tactics by AB Admin
Book: Dodging Energy Vampires By: Christiane Northrup, M. D.
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Sleeplessness, or insomnia, is one way that my body tells me I have some inner needs that need tending. Using substances or sleep-aids block me from seeking the care my body and soul need to move forward.
I've experienced a lot of sleeplessness in the years leading up to my divorce and the six years afterwards. As I walk forward in my recovery from an abusive marriage and codependency, I still have pockets of time where I fall asleep at night but then wake up at 2am unable to go back to sleep. I believe now that it's caused by anxiety.
This week I will share about how my sleeplessness is caused by anxiety, and the new connection I made about how my anxiety is caused by my deep shame of never feeling good enough.
I discuss my recent EMDR session with my therapist where we worked on my shame in regard to feeling like I "should" be a superstar at my job, though it's my first year in the position.
Do you experience sleeplessnes? Do you think it's connected to anxiety and/or shame? DM me on instagram, I'd love to hear from you: @iheartserin
Three years ago, I had the awe-inspiring experience of having the Martha Beck as my life coach. These three sessions were written about in the September, October, and November issues of the O (Oprah) Magazine.
Today I share what life-altering advice Martha gave me during those sessions, and how it helped me take my childhood abuse seriously. I discuss the sexual trauma I went through, and how it was preceded by severe emotional neglect in my family of origin.
I share my largest take-aways from my life-coaching sessions, and how now, three years after that experience, I'm still reeling from and taking steps towards healing what I learned in those talks. https://marthabeck.com/ https://marthabeck.com/podcasts/
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Have you ever been emotionally triggered at work?
Of course you have, and so have I!
Work is a microcosm that demonstrates our internal landscape. It's a mirror to our emotional inner-needs, just as all relationships with others can be.
As a survivor of trauma, I feel that my lower self-esteem and reliance on approval of others gets triggered often. Now that I am aware of these psychological occurrences, I can take the time to sooth myself when these things happen.
I discuss how a traumatic experience from my childhood got recreated with my bosses at work, how workaholism lead me to burn-out, and how today I stop and regroup when I'm overwhelmed.
I take the time to validate myself and practice becoming that loving parent that takes emotion care of me the way I deserve.
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YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you.
In my Delectable Delights series, I discuss five things that make life worth living for me at this moment: a show, music, book, podcast, and food.
Today I discuss:
1. The movie The Lost Daughter: http://netflix.com
http://news.yahoo.com/olivia-colman-maggie-gyllenhaal-dig-133052109.html
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Author: Elena Ferrante (Italian author) http://elenaferrante.com/
The Lying Life of Adults
My Brilliant Friend3. Podcast: Unapologetically Sensitive with Patricia Young: http://unapologeticallysensitive.com/ -
Food: Heavenly Hunks Oatmeal Chocolate Chip bites: https://Amazon.com
No-bake Energy Bites Recipe: http://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/239969/no-bake-energy-bites/ -
Music: Tori Amos http://www.toriamos.com
Winter, Crucify, A Sorta Fairytale, God, and on and on...
http://www.spotify.com to try them out
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YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you.
Today I discuss how I use the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), sometimes called "tapping," to help me feel my feelings and get to that place of cry. EFT helps repave our brains towards healthier connections. Neuroplasticity is amazing!!! It's helping me heal my trauma.
I share a story about how I recently gave up coffee and how that led me to overeating and angry, inflammatory acne. Giving up a drug revealed a new layer of emotion/negative thought pattern that had been suppressed inside of me from formative years.
I also share a listener review and discuss how following out intuition is an adventure worth taking! We never know what's around the next corner when we try tiny new things. A one degree turn can change a life's trajectory! I've witnessed this many times now and it's marvelous!
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YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you.
As a child, I learned many compliant and people-pleasing behaviors so I could hide from anger and ridicule. These codependent behaviors kept me safer as a child, but they are detrimental to me as a parent and in my adult relationships. As a parent, controlling my environment looks like me dominating and bossing my son around, which, at times, is inappropriate and disrespectful towards him.
I share a story of when I realized I was repeating the cycle of verbal abuse and criticism onto my child and what I've done to change my behaviors since then.
I give an example of how I've learned to set limits as a parent so I can create time and space for myself to be the most loving parent possible.
I share a parenting book I read last summer that I loved.
You can send me a message on Instagram @iheartserin. I'd love to hear from you!
The Me, Me, Me Epidemic: A Step-By-Step Guide to Raising Capable, Grateful Kids in an Over-Entitled World by Amy McCready. https://amymccready.com/
Another of my favorite parenting authors of all time: Shefali Tsabary video: https://www.drshefali.com/videos-portfolio/
How big is your spirituality? Do you allow yourself the freedom to believe what you feel comfortable believing and leave out the rest?
Today I discuss the evolution of my spirituality and religious beliefs over the years and how it changed after I realized I am part of the LGBTQ+ community.
I discuss my decision to take my son to church, and how I've chosen to revel in the parts of church I love and let go of the rest.
You can find my colorful posts on Instagram @iheartserin
MLK Speech Transcript: https://www.npr.org/2010/01/18/122701268/i-have-a-dream-speech-in-its-entirety
Marianne Williams: https://marianne.com/
Brandan Robertson "Tic Toc Pastor" https://www.brandanrobertson.com/
Nadia Bolz-Weber "Shameless" memoir: https://nadiabolzweber.com/
A story of synchronicity.
When I was able to let go as a parent, a miracle beyond my own imagination occured. Isn't that amazing? I love it.
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Should I stay or should I go? This is one of the hardest choices to make in a relationship be it a love relationship, a friendship, or even relationships with family.
Staying or going might be an even harder decision for survivors of trauma, since we may have had less examples growing up of what a healthy relationship and healthy conflict looks and acts like.
Today I'm going to discuss the book Should I Stay or Should I Go? A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can- and Should- Be Saved and how it helped me decipher my way out of my eight-year marriage. I give some top signs that led me to my decision to leave, and I share some of the best advice from the book on how to tell if you're in a relationship that can handle growth, or if you're stuck in a dead-end cycle.
Book to purchase: Should I Stay or Should I Go?: A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can--and Should--be Saved: Bancroft, Lundy, Patrissi, JAC: 8601234577928: Amazon.com: Books
Author websites:
Lundy Bancroft: https://lundybancroft.com/
Jac Patrissi: https://growinganewheart.org/
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Are you a Highly Sensitive Person? One out of five humans (and animals!) are innately more sensitive than the rest of the world. Identifying these traits helps me accept and validate the times that I have felt different when I have been slower or more emotive than the others around me. Being highly sensitive is not celebrated in American culture, and can lead people like me to have felt less-than or different in the past. Reading about HSP's helps me learn more about myself and realize the positive qualities I have with this increased sensibility. HSP's are artistic, creative, and deep thinkers. We might notice things in our world that others miss. We might appreciate art and music to a greater extent than non-HSP's.
Here's the book I read by Dr. Elaine Aron: The Highly Sensitive Person (hsperson.com)
Here are some works of art from Picasso's Blue Period: Abstract Picasso Blue Period - Bing images
Enjoy!
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Have you noticed that music can sooth your mood and help you feel more connected?
Singing and using our voice calms our nervous system. It's scientifically proven!
Today I'll talk about the ways that we can use music as a powerful tool for our healing. I'll discuss my history playing music and how I've incorporated the love of music into my home and shared it with my son.
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YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you.
For further reading:
7 Ways Combining Tech and Music can help you Heal: https://www.forbes.com/sites/mnewlands/2017/10/23/7-ways-combining-tech-and-music-can-help-you-heal/?sh=5aca419f6482
The Holistic Psychologist: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/
How to Do The Work: https://www.amazon.com/How-Do-Work-Recognize-Patterns/dp/006301209X
I share my top five Delectable Delights of the moment:
a food,
a show,
music,
a book,
a podcast.
Today I even add on a 6th, Bonus delight!
What are your top five delectable delights of the month? Share them with me!
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YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you.
My delectable delights:
Mint M&M's M&m's Holiday Mint Chocolate Candies - 9.2oz : Target
Jingle Jangle: A Christmas Journey Jingle Jangle: A Christmas Journey (2020) - IMDb
Harry Styles Treat People with Kindness Treat People With Kindness - Bing video
Jenny Lewis Head Underwater - Bing video
Somebody's Daughter Ashley C. Ford WRITING — Ashley C. Ford (ashleycford.net)
We can do Hard Things Glennon Doyle We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle on Apple Podcasts
Emotional abuse is severly damaging and can cause long-term health problems including anxiety, depression, low self-worth, and suicidal ideation. Today I discuss how to identify emotional abuse. I give many examples from my own experience in a dysfunctional marriage, and I share how I sought help to grow in emotional maturity so I could find my way out of the unhealthy relationships in my life.
Discussing examples of emotional/mental/psychological abuse is self-care for me today. It helps me validate my experience as a survivor of this invisible sort of trauma. Many people in my life, including therapists, didn't understand what I was going through back then and still I feel gaslit by society about this issue today. I hope my sharing of these experiences helps you feel validated towards taking yourself and your situation seriously.
Thanks for listening!
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YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you.
Read more about emotional abuse: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/emotional-abuse
What does forgiveness mean to you?
I've spent years avoiding the concept.
But today I see that I need to forgive those most difficult ones in my life so that I can have peace and speak with impecability.
I discuss forgiveness as a spiritual practice to bring more freedom into my life.
Thanks for listening!
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YOU can be the one you've always wanted to take care of you.
Are you a survivor of trauma big or small? Does your past make navagation of daily life just that much harder? Do you ever feel like an outsider when you see everyone else walking around acting like life is easy, when it doesn't feel easy to you?
This podcast is the supportive, loving environment you're looking for. Each week I will discuss self-care through a different lense. We will examine how to comfort ourselves in small and big ways through routines and through connection with others.
Come along for this journey! I can't wait to share ideas and to honestly, openly, share life experiences together.
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Self-care for me means EMOTIONAL self-care for all the invisible stuff going on in my body and mind.
I share about my non-religious spirituality and the top six things I do daily to take care of myself to keep as even-keeled as possible. I want to show up for my students and for my son with the love and presence they deserve.
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References:
Marianne Williamson Illuminata https://marianne.com/Mark Nepo: The Book of Awakening https://marknepo.com/